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month, we are featuring Old Salem on our cover. If you’ve been a resident of Winston-Salem for five minutes or 50 years, I’m positive you are familiar with this historic staple in our community. People travel from all over to witness the history of this place. On February 11th, 1935, my grandfather was born on Salt Street in Old Salem! How cool is that? I grew up hearing countless stories about Old Salem from my Papaw, and I know I’ll always treasure them. Today, I live close enough that I drive by Old Salem multiple times a day. The beautiful Moravian stars hung up on the bridge are a view that never gets old. You can read all about the Old Salem and the Magic of a Moravian Christmas beginning on page 24.
Speaking of the holiday season…they say, “to give is better than to receive” and I couldn’t agree more! If you are looking for ways to give back over the holidays, check out the article on page 16. Elisa gives us five incredible “giving back” opportunities ranging from the Winston-Salem Jaycees’ to Senior Services. We know this time of year also calls for a little shopping. If you need some local gift ideas, check out the expansive holiday gift guide in our sister magazine, Forsyth Woman! We’ve got something for everyone on your list! Another article in this issue that you don’t want to miss: Bullying and How We Can All Help Stop It. I’m sure we all know of someone who has been negatively affected by bullying at some point in their life. The good news is that bullying is preventable and Renee provides us with a list of tactics that we can all put to use. Head to page 52 to learn more. If you want to stay connected to Forsyth Magazines all month long, be sure to head to our website (forsythfamilymagazine.com) and subscribe to our monthly newsletter! Additionally, you can give us a follow on social media (@forsythmags) and tune into the Forsyth Magazines podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify and all major streaming platforms. From the entire team at Forsyth Mags, we’re wishing you and yours a joyful holiday season!
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Celebrate Christmas With Us! Friday and Saturday Evenings December 1, 2, 8, 9, 15, 16 6:00 pm–8:30 pm Joy of Christmas Evening Tours Includes visits to the Tavern Museum, Vogler House,and Boy’s School. Advance reservations required. See oldsalem.org/holidays. Each tour lasts 1 hour. Salem Saturday at Christmas December 2nd 10:00 am–4:00 pm Wachovia Historical Society Moravian Market on the Square. Free and open to the public Salem Saturday at Christmas December 9th 10:00 am–4:00 pm Celebrating the Joy of Christmas Through the Eyes of a Child Treats, games & activities for our young visitors, Santa’s Toy Shop featuring Santa himself 11:00 am–3:00 pm
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Salem Saturday at Christmas December 16th 10:00 am–4:00 pm Moravian Music Foundation Christmas Fest Free & open to the public. Old Salem visitors will enjoy a variety of local musical performances throughout the day 10:00 am – 8:00 pm Salem Saturday at Christmas December 23rd 10:00 am–4:00 pm • Celebrating the Joy of Christmas Through the Eyes of a Child Treats, games & activities for our young visitors, Musical performances in the Single Brothers House and the Boy School • Santa’s Toy Shop featuring Santa himself 11:00 am–3:00 pm • Children’s Christmas Caroling Parade 1:00 pm–2:00 pm Salem Saturday at Christmas December 30th 10:00 am–4:00 pm Celebrating the Joy of Christmas as we close out the holiday season and prepare for the New Year.
Did you know you can enjoy Old Salem year-round for just a few dollars more than a single ticket? See our Membership Drive table at the Visitors Center December 2nd and 16th for more information!
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Features
10 People of Prominence: Regina Burcham
16 Giving Back During the Holdiay Season
20 Santa Claus Around the World 30 A Carolina Christmas
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36 Child Safety Series: Toy & Gift Safety 40 Derailing the Drama Triangle 44 Preparing Your Home to Host Senior Loved Ones for the Holidays
52 Bullying: How We Can All Help Stop It 54 Imprints Cares
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Every Issue Reflections of a Southern Yankee The Fancy Fork For the Love of BBQ The View from My Section: A Father’s Perspective Dining Guide Triad Moms on Main It’s a Grand Life
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Miss Kiea Mastrianni of Milk Glass Pie, a small batch pie bakery based on her and her husband’s family farm in Shelby, North Carolina. Keia’s slogan is “love is pie,” and you can truly taste it in every single thing she makes. I’m constantly inspired by what she is making and doing, and I’ve learned so much about regional baking from reading her newsletters and following along on her baking journey. And, lastly, my local hero and the woman who has had the biggest impact on my baking journey as well as my personal growth journey is Dana Moody, former owner of West End Coffee House here in WinstonSalem. To me, Miss Dana is HOME. She is COMFORT. She is GRACE, in every sense of the word. When I was feeling defeated, she always encouraged me to keep my head up and not let things dim my light and bring me down. She has truly impacted my life more than she will ever know, and I couldn’t be more grateful to her for helping me become who I am now. What was the catalyst for starting your business? I started Elderflour because I wanted the freedom to make whatever I wanted and support causes that matter the most to me. I was tired of making the same things every day. I wanted to be able to explore anything and everything that interested me while also being able to grow and foster a community that I was proud of which to be a part. What matters to you? Feeding people and invoking feelings of comfort matter most to me. I want everything I make to elicit a comforting memory or experience. I like to say that I want the things I make to remind you of being in your grandma’s kitchen on a Sunday afternoon. What has been your biggest hurdle as an entrepreneur? Where are you from? I’m from Yadkin County, North Carolina, an area known primarily for its fields, farms and vineyards. Growing up in a town surrounded by agriculture, I’ve always had a deep love for food and the community that surrounds it. Have you always had a love for baking? Yes! I’ve loved baking and being in the kitchen for as long as I can remember. From a young age, I was always in the kitchen with my grandma nibbling on whatever she was making and asking questions. The older I got, the more that love grew. Although I considered other avenues, I always came back to baking. Being a baker gives me access to some of the most special intimate moments of people’s lives, and I love that. Do you personally have any culinary heroes? I have three specifically. Miss Cheryl Day, owner of Back In The Day Bakery in Savannah, Georgia. She is a renowned legacy baker and cookbook author in the south, and I hope to have half the influence that she does. I had the chance to meet her and have a one-on-one conversation with her this past summer when visiting her shop, and I told her “I want to be just like you when I grow up,” and I meant every word of it.
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My biggest hurdle has honestly been being a one-woman show. The baking part comes naturally to me, but now that I’m actually running a business, it’s been a little challenging to manage the emails, the ordering of supplies and ingredients, the scheduling of events and the pop-ups. October of 2023 marked one year of Elderflour being a full-fledged business, and I couldn’t be more proud of the way I’ve grown as a businesswoman and a baker. What has surprised you the most? Honestly, I was most surprised by the support of the community; the way people have really opened their hearts to me. The long lines at Cobblestone Farmers Market, the social media comments and story shares, the kind words said amongst each other, Winston-Salem has made me truly feel loved, wanted and accepted in a way that I’ve never experienced before. Where can people order your product? People can order in a few different ways. Via my Instagram DM’s @elderflourbakingco for general inquiries or on my website at elderflourbakingcompany.com. They can also find me at the Cobblestone Farmers Market in the spring, summer and fall seasons. Who would you nominate as a person of prominence? I would nominate Megan Thompson Aston, the owner of Kin & Cottage, a woman-owned and operated candle shop here in downtown WinstonSalem! Meg is a kind, warm, welcoming soul who stands firm in her beliefs. Kin & Cottage makes several donations a year to progressive organizations. She is making a difference one candle at a time, and I couldn’t be more proud to know and love her.
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From
humble beginnings as an effort to address Forsyth County’s ever-growing public high school dropout rate, to the area’s only alternative educational option that targets at-risk students, the WinstonSalem Street School has come a long way in 20 years. In 2004, Founder David Morgan recognized that Forsyth County had a serious problem and felt that an alternative high school, with smaller class sizes and an emphasis on individualized attention for students who needed a second chance, might be able to make a difference. Now, 20 years and 310 graduates later, he was right, and the Street School is serving more students than ever before.
For those unfamiliar with the program, the Street School is a private, tuition-free high school that is also a 501(c)3 nonprofit. Most students are referred to the program by the public school system, even though the Street School is not statefunded like public schools. For operating resources, the program depends on the generosity of individual donors, businesses, the faith community and private foundations. Volunteers also play a key role in the success of the school providing lunch, tutoring services and mentoring to students who need extra support. Nearly 80% of Street School students live at or below the county’s poverty
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level, most come from a single-parent home and the majority work part-time jobs to help make ends meet. Add in additional challenges like mental health issues, lack of transportation and little-to-no foundation or accountability in their personal lives, and you have a young person who is forced to be resilient or not succeed. Whether it is a high school student or individual in the Street School’s adult online program, the obstacles and barriers are real. But, that is where the Street School steps in. The program is designed to meet students where they are in their journeys. Some make the decision to come to the Street School straight from the 8th grade, others might just need a different environment to complete three or four credits and a number of young adults come back to finish what they once started. The goal and mission for the Street School is simple…provide students with the necessary tools and support to succeed in the classroom and, ultimately, in life. The road to get there looks different for everyone. Earning an accredited diploma at the Street School is the first step, but making sure each student has a plan in place for life after high school, whether it is to continue their education, better their potential in the workforce or make the decision to serve their country in the military, is the piece that completes the puzzle. To learn more about the WinstonSalem Street School, see how you can support or become involved, or just discover some amazing stories of transformation in our community, visit wsstreetschool.org.
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Successful Tips for College Students by HALLEIGH MILLESON
Around four years ago, I felt overwhelmed, stressed and scared about the unknown. It was my first day of college. I felt like a small fish in an extremely large pond as a freshman. During my time in college, I have learned many helpful tips on how to manage time, study effectively, manage stress and communicate well. Now, as a senior at High Point University, I can confidently say that these four tips are crucial to having academic success in college. Being able to learn and understand these helpful tips early on in college will only benefit you and help you succeed as an upperclassman who is taking higher level classes.
Time Management Knowing how to properly manage your time in college can be challenging. I would suggest using a daily planner only for your non-academic activities. By non-academic activities, I mean things like spending time with friends, running errands, working out and attending school events. By only having these activities in your daily planner, you will feel less overwhelmed versus having your school assignments in this planner as well. I would suggest waking up each day and writing in your planner what activities you have planned for that day. Then, you can easily identify times that you do not have anything planned to utilize for schoolwork time. Furthermore, I suggest using a Google Doc to list out all of your schoolwork or assignments left to do. Typically, I will write out my classes on a Google Doc and then list all of my upcoming assignments for that class with the due dates. Once I have finished the assignment, I delete it from my list. This way, I only have one place where I keep all of my schoolwork assignments listed. If you are ever unsure about a due date or assignment, then I would highly suggest reading the syllabus for your class.
Study Skills You may have heard this before, but I do not recommend waiting until the night before a test to study or to complete a major assignment. If you have an upcoming test, start studying
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a little bit each day for a few days before the test. You are much more likely to remember the information if you start studying multiple days before the test versus studying the night before. Also, I suggest going to the library on campus to study or complete assignments. Most college campus libraries are large, comfortable and quiet. Libraries are a wonderful, quiet place to concentrate and get schoolwork done.
Managing Stress While academics are important, it is also important to take care of yourself! This means going to bed at a reasonable hour, eating healthy, exercising, drinking plenty of water and having a healthy social life. If you do not take care of yourself, then succeeding in school will become more difficult. Go to bed early the night before a test. Go out to eat with your friends for dinner one night after a long day of classes. Go for a walk or run around campus during the day. Go to the cafeteria and choose healthy foods to eat, but do not forget to grab a cookie to enjoy!
Learning to Communicate: Being able to speak up in class and talk to your professor is crucial to success in college. Many professors want you to participate in class discussions and will even have a participation grade for you. In your syllabus, professors will list their office hours. Office hours are when you can go visit your professor to ask him or her questions about the class, an assignment, your grade, etc. If you go to office hours, then you may receive helpful information that you would have never received otherwise. Also, do not be afraid to ask your professors questions after class. Being able to speak up and be confident within your classes will help you be a successful student. If you are a college student, I hope that you find these tips helpful and supportive. Some days will be great and some days will be challenging. Keep going and know that I am here to encourage you as you embark on this amazing journey!
LLA
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the holiday season in full swing, many of us are busy with making sure our “Holiday To-Do List” is complete. Trips to buy Christmas trees, decorating the house, baking delicious holiday treats, attending events with family and friends and, of course, shopping are a few of the enjoyable activities many of us happily bide our time doing. This is the one time of year where there are countless opportunities to surround yourself with your loved ones and enjoy quality time together. As Andy Williams belts out, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” For many, this is the least wonderful time of the year. The holiday season is hardest on those who are suffering mentally, physically and/ or emotionally. For those in pain, this season is absolutely the most daunting. As many of us rush around, we may not realize how many may not have family, friends and a warm home in which to enjoy this season. The good news is that our area has plenty of opportunities to give back to the community throughout the month. Curious about how you can brighten the day of someone in pain? Read on for five excellent opportunities to help spread kindness as well as holiday cheer.
Giving Back Opportunity #1: Salvation Army’s “Angel Tree” – What began in 1979 is one of the ministry’s highest profile Christmas projects today. This effort first asks children to write down what they wish for on cards, many of which featured angels on them. The cards then hang on a tree in the center of the mall, where shoppers can pick up a card and buy an item for a child in need. After COVID, the organization has decided to make the Angel Tree project a virtual one, where participants can go online and adopt three angels to support. For further information, contact Salvation Army at 336.723.6366, or visit their website for more information on the various projects this organization does. Giving Back Opportunity #2: The Winston-Salem Jaycees’ “Christmas Cheer Project” – For the past 32 years, the Winston-Salem Jaycees have been giving back to the community through various fundraising events. According to their website, the organization works with the Salvation Army to “benefit economically disadvantaged children.” On a specific day in December (call to find out), the organization will meet at a local Target to shop for needed items. Their goal is to raise $8,000 for the event. For further information, contact the Christmas Cheer co-chairs with any questions at christmascheer@wsjaycees.org. Giving Back Opportunity #3: City with Dwellings’ Winter Food Preparation – City with Dwellings is a unique community-first initiative that works to end homelessness in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County. According to their website, “we are cultivating a community of care so that people can move with dignity from trauma and homelessness to healing and housing stability.” The program provides a unique platform for volunteers and organizations across the community to connect and build relationships with individuals who are experiencing homelessness. Every holiday season, the organization needs volunteers for food preparation for their Winter Shelter. While in-person meal preparation and delivery are a wonderful option for families who want to give back, donations of goods are appreciated, and a current list of needs can be found on the website. Giving Back Opportunity #4: Forsyth Humane Society’s “Lights of Hope” – Thanks to the Forsyth Humane Society, 30,000+ pets have been saved through their care since 2017. This awe-inspiring statistic is thanks to the challenging work of the organization. Every evening, from 5:00 pm to 11:00 pm, visitors can drive through the parking lot of the society, tune into 88.1 to listen to holiday music and view the symbolic “Lights of Hope.” Each holiday light represents the 30,000+ pets the organization has been able to help. However, the lights also represent other pets which have impacted residents. Lights cost $10 and are available for purchase on their website. Funds will be used to continue the work of supporting shelter pets throughout the Winston-Salem community. For more information, call 336.721.1303, or visit the website at forsythhumane.org. Giving Back Opportunity #5: Senior Services’ “Remember in December” – Sadly, many seniors are alone, hungry and laboring to meet basic needs. For people who find themselves in this situation, the simple task of obtaining basics such as soap, toothpaste, paper towels and other household, hygiene and health necessities are often incredibly daunting. Beginning on November 30th, individuals can drop off contributions and donations at Senior Services, 2895 Shorefair Drive, Monday through Friday, between 9:00 am and 4:00 pm, or at any Forsyth County Piedmont Federal Savings Bank branch. A wishlist is available on their website for review.
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Focused on Life-Changing Communication Many patients have already noticed tension in business meetings (the embarrassment of asking a colleague to repeat a detail), anxiety in social situations and a tendency to withdraw from attending sporting events or other gatherings where you’ll be meeting new people. Allowing your hearing loss to keep you from learning a new hobby that might increase your mental capacity should also be considered, as maintaining mental sharpness is a must for overall longevity. “There is a 30% increase in risk for depression and anxiety for those with even mild hearing loss, and as much as a 60% increase in risk for those with moderate to severe hearing loss,” says Anna. “Plus, we know these things alone are strongly linked to dementia and eventual overall health decline.”
Those are statistics that can’t be ignored! Without a doubt, support from friends and family is crucial.
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every age, connecting with other human beings is one of the most essential elements of life – and that level of communicating one’s needs and feelings can be easily diminished with even the slightest loss of proper hearing. Yet, with all the other adjustments we are willing to make in our lives to achieve better overall health, there is still a stigma attached to hearing loss.
“We always recommend a spouse attend an initial hearing evaluation with their partner,” Anna explains. “Hearing loss not only affects those with the condition, but also their family and, specifically, their spouse or significant other, who they may communicate with most of all. Frustration can occur on both sides, so we discuss coping strategies for both and explain the level of hearing loss in detail.” Some daily tactics for success might include not trying to talk from room-to-room, tactile cues such as touching someone’s shoulder before beginning to speak, choosing restaurants with low background noise and even turning the TV off before beginning a conversation.
Focused on individualized care, the Nichols Hearing & Audiology team does a full evaluation, using technology to fit hearing aids that are specific to a patient’s needs. That “ Hearing loss has always been associated with aging, but in the includes using a microphone placed into the patient’s ears to last 10 years, we have realized it’s correlated to more common calibrate and adjust the hearing aid, frequency by frequency. disorders such as diabetes, cardiovascular disease and kidney Anna shares they also have a four-week trial, so they can disease,” explains Dr. Anna Nichols. Her Winston-Salem see a patient back during that time for adjustments – and practice – Nichols Hearing & Audiology – has also been seeing ensuring the hearing aids were a successful match! While patients at a much earlier age due to more frequent discussion 48 million people in the United States have some amount involving dementia and cognitive decline being associated with of hearing loss, no two cases are identical. An evaluation at untreated hearing difficulties. Nichols Hearing & Audiology includes gathering your case history, visualization of your external ear canal “ The key is prevention and early detection of hearing loss,” she and a hearing test in the practice’s modern sound adds. “So much new technology has also made it much easier to booth, using state-of-the-art equipment.
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While hearing loss makes it more difficult to interact with family, friends and business associates on a daily basis, it can also lead to isolation, depression and anxiety. Even a mild hearing loss can put you at risk, so settling for only hearing “half” of what’s going on around you can be detrimental. What you’re missing can be life changing!
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Eager to help you hear what you’re missing, broaden your horizons and nurture your personal relationships, at any age, Nichols Hearing & Audiology is located at 3640 Westgate Center Circle, Suite B in Winston-Salem, 336.842.3437 and online at HearWellLiveWellNC.com. Follow them on Facebook at Nichols Hearing & Audiology, and on Instagram @nicholshearingandaudiology.
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Santa Claus Around the World by KAREN COOPER
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For
many children, Santa Claus is a largerthan-life figure; a special, magical man who flies through the world on Christmas Eve in his sleigh pulled by eight reindeer and delivers their heart’s delight under the Christmas tree. As parents, we often go to great lengths to preserve the magic…reading stories, leaving out cookies and milk, pretending to look for the reindeer flying over the house or listening for the jingle bells. Christmas is magical for those who believe. The Santa we are familiar with came from traditions relating to three historical figures: Saint Nicholas of Myra, 16th Century Britain’s Father Christmas and the ancient Germanic God Woden or Odin. Each offers varying amounts of influence to modern day Santa Claus, but knowing their stories can help us understand Santa’s around-the-world flight schedule, his changing appearance and how he ended up with such an interesting mode of transportation.
Saint Nicholas of Myra The name Santa Claus is a phonetic translation of the Dutch name Sinterklass, a Santa-like character based on the historical figure of Saint Nicholas of Myra. Saint Nicholas was a fourth-century Christian bishop who lived in what is now Turkey. He was known for giving generous gifts to the poor. In the Middle Ages, Saint Nicholas was commemorated when gifts were given out to children on the sixth of December, which was the date of his death in 343 A.D. However, during the Reformation, opposition to the honoring of saints led Martin Luther, the seminal figure of the Protestant Reformation, to suggest Christmas as an alternative day for gift-giving.
Father Christmas By the time of Henry VIII’s reign during the 16th century, St. Nicholas day was no longer celebrated in England. Alternatively, Father Christmas – a man in green or crimson robes lined with fur – became the symbol of good cheer who was responsible for spreading joy on Christmas day. His physique was different from how we see our modern Santa Claus, as he was shown to be quite slender in the illustration of John Leech’s “Ghost of Christmas Present” which appeared in Charles Dickens’ classic novel “A Christmas Carol.”
Woden (Odin) Certainly Odin, a god of Norse mythology, has also influenced Christmas. As a bearded, cloaked man who traveled through the winter night sky, Odin bears similarities to Santa Claus, which creates speculation that he was an early pagan influence on the modernday Santa. Odin was said to deliver toys and candy to children who would fill their boots with straw and set them by the hearth for Sleipnir, Odin’s eight-legged horse. Odin slipped down chimneys and fire holes, leaving his gifts behind. Santa Claus has a different name in practically every country he visits. But, no matter what he’s called, his
arrival is eagerly anticipated by children all over the world. Although the representations and actions of Santa Claus differ from country to country, some parts of the story stay the same. Here is a list of some of the names Santa goes by in other countries that share his legend.
Russia – Ded Moroz Ded Moroz translates to “Grandfather Frost,” a man known for dressing carefully and protecting himself from the elements. His tall valenki (leather boots) keep his toes safe from frostbite, and his long, Russian-style coat keeps him warm in the frigid temperatures. Ded Moroz typically delivers gifts on New Year’s Eve, with the aid of his three powerful horses.
Brazil – Papai Noel Christmas falls during the summertime in Brazil, so Papai Noel, or “Father Noel” must discard some of his layers as he moves into the Southern Hemisphere. Instead of a heavy winter costume, his classic-red and white look is silk, so that he can stay cool while making deliveries. On Christmas Day, he places his gifts under brightly shining trees, created entirely from electric lights.
Central Europe – Mikulas In many countries in Central Europe including Czech Republic, Hungary, Slovenia, Romania, Poland and Slovakia, Szent Miklos or Mikulas is celebrated as a historical figure like Saint Nicholas. The legend of Mikulas originated in Hungary and spread to other Central European countries. According to folklore, Mikulas, along with his assistants, visits homes on December 5th every year where good children are given gifts and candy, and children who have been naughty receive a wooden spoon, pieces of raw potatoes or lumps of coal from Mikulas’ mean assistant, Krampus.
Japan – Hoteiosho Like Santa, he is an old man who carries a big sack over his back. However, unlike Santa, he has eyes in the back of his head which he uses to know when children are naughty or nice.
Netherlands – Sinterklaas The Feast of Sinterklaas is observed in the Netherlands on December 6th but begins on December 5th during St. Nicholas’ Eve where people give out gifts, especially to the children. According to the local legend in the Netherlands, Sinterklaas is an aged man with a full white beard who rides on a white horse known as Amerigo moving from house to house, rewarding children for good behavior with gifts.
France – Père Noël Like his American counterpart, he offers presents to children who were well-behaved during the year. His associate is Pere Fouettard who helps keep track of who has been naughty and who has been nice. DECEMBER 2023 / 21
If
you walk through the produce section in the grocery store this winter, you will see all your normal fruits and vegetables. Are you making a salad and want cucumbers or bell peppers? You can purchase them! Do you want a fresh tomato to go on a sandwich? You can purchase it, too! However, just because all produce is available in the grocery store this winter doesn’t mean it is grown locally. Have you thought about where your produce is coming from, and have you really paid attention to the taste? Maybe I’m the only one that thinks so, but locally grown produce just seems to taste better. A fresh, locally grown tomato in the summer months tastes very different from a tomato purchased in the grocery store in the winter. In addition to a great taste, seasonal produce will also cost less. So, what produce is being grown around here this winter? When you’re creating your side dishes at dinner, think of these vegetables: beets, bok choy, cabbage, carrots, collards, kale, mustard greens, spinach, onions, sweet potatoes, butternut squash, Brussels sprouts and turnip greens. For a fresh fruit grown in North Carolina, apples are going to be your go-to choice! There are so many different types of apples. You can experiment with the varieties to see which flavor you prefer this winter. In North Carolina, the major apple varieties include red delicious, golden delicious, rome beauty and galas, but there are many more! You can also find oranges, pecans and peanuts during the winter season. If you’ve never eaten some of the produce listed above, check out new recipes and experiment with a new option. Here are a couple of recipes to try this winter!
WINTER SALAD
ROASTED CARROTS
4 cups spinach
1 pound carrots, peeled and cut, then halved into two-inch segments
Serves 4
½ red onion, sliced 1/2 cup mandarin oranges 1 red delicious apple, thinly sliced 1 cup pecans ½ cup gorgonzola cheese, crumbled 1 garlic clove, minced ¼ cup apple cider vinegar ¼ cup olive oil 1 teaspoon fresh thyme 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 teaspoon honey Sprinkle of salt 1. In a small bowl, whisk together garlic clove, vinegar, olive oil, thyme, mustard, honey and salt. Set aside to use as the dressing. 2. In a large bowl, add spinach, apple, red onion, oranges, pecans and gorgonzola cheese. 3. When ready to serve the salad, drizzle dressing over and gently toss to coat. 4. Serve immediately and enjoy!
Serves 4
2 tablespoons olive oil ½ teaspoon oregano 1 teaspoon fresh thyme, finely chopped 2 tablespoons flat-leaf parsley, finely chopped Sprinkles of salt and pepper 1. Heat oven to 400 degrees F. 2. Place carrots in a large bowl. Mix with olive oil, thyme, oregano and salt and pepper. 3. Spread onto a baking pan and cover with foil. 4. Cook in oven for 20 minutes. 5. Remove foil from covering the carrots and toss. Cook for another 10 minutes or until carrots have become tender. 6. Once tender, remove from oven and sprinkle fresh parsley over the top. 7. Enjoy! NOTE: Roasting is a great way to enjoy most vegetables. Follow the same steps with different vegetables to roast them. You can experiment with different seasonings!
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Old Salem
The Magic of a Moravian Christmas
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by MARTIE EMORY
For
Moravians living in 1800s Salem, Christmas was – without a doubt – the most wonderful time of the year! It was the celebration of the birth of the savior, Jesus Christ, illustrated by beautiful illuminations placed around their homes and in windows throughout the entire community, telling children the story of Christ’s birth. As the Old Salem magic continues today with the delicious sights, sounds and smells of an earlier time, creating joy in the hearts of children is still the main inspiration. It’s a promise that immersing your family in holiday celebrations that join the early Moravians’ German customs with beloved American traditions will be a true joy!
“ Old Salem is such a magical place at Christmas, and kids are really the lens we want to view Christmas through,” explains Tara Logue, Director of Education for Old Salem Museums and Gardens. One of the best-loved offerings – the Joy of Christmas Evening Tours – will take place this year on Fridays and Saturdays, December 1st, 2nd, 8th, 9th, 15th and 16th, featuring guided tours and a hands-on, interactive experience for the entire family. While strolling through the district carrying traditional lanterns, guests will focus on the Vogler House, Old Salem’s Tavern Museum and the Boys’ School, observing the blend of German and English traditions that helped form the new landscape for an Old Salem Christmas. Old Salem also delights in hosting Salem Saturdays at Christmas, held every Saturday in December, spotlighting a different theme for each weekend. On December 2nd, come enjoy music and shopping as Old Salem teams up with the Wachovia Historical Society for their Moravian Market in Salem Square. That same day, a Membership Drive table in the Visitors’ Center will allow you to purchase, for just a few dollars more than a regular ticket, a membership for unlimited visits to Old Salem year-round. Saturday, December 9th’s program, entitled Christmas from a Child’s Perspective, will feature a variety of activities for kids plus photo opportunities with St. Nick at the Hat Shop! The Membership Drive table will be set up in the Visitors’ Center once again. On December 16th, enjoy the Moravian Music Foundation Christmas Fest at the Archie K. Davis Center which will feature crafts, vendors and delightful music at every turn! As Christmas Day nears, Old Salem will be open on December 23rd with activities again geared towards children and families. And, if you still have out-of-town family members visiting, Old Salem will be open December 27th through the 30th for tours and glimpses of a beautiful Moravian Christmas.
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WHERE TRADITIONS WERE BORN One of the true delights of visiting Old Salem is the authenticity of every detail, including demonstrations of life in the early community, depicted in these photos by the amazing Sister Deborah – a beloved member of the Old Salem community for the past 15 years. We’re told that dear Sister Deborah knows the Winkler Bakery inside and out, including the family’s history and the building itself – along with the history of every delicious baked good!
“As we like to say: Good sights and good smells,” adds Tara. “The Winkler Bakery is open Wednesday through Saturday from 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m., and the second floor of the bakery is also a gift shop! The Tavern Museum is once again officially open, and the Doctor’s House will be open for the Christmas season as well, featuring its apothecary shop reflecting life in the 1820s and 1830s.”
As always, the traditional Candle Tea will be held December 1st through December 9th at the Single Brothers’ House and is hosted by the Home Moravian Church to highlight Moravian traditions with the community. Costumed volunteers welcome you with an introduction to the history of the Moravians in Salem followed by traditional carols and the enjoyment of coffee and sugar cake. Although it was not created until the early 20th century, the Home Moravian Church Candle Tea in Old Salem has become one of the most beloved Christmas traditions in Winston-Salem.
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For a true glimpse of early Salem, what traditions were at the heart of the Moravian Christmas celebration? The nativity scene – or putz – was always a symbol of Christ at the center of their community. A heartfelt Germanic tradition the Moravians brought with them to America, the verb “putzen” means to clean or decorate. The Moravian Star (which had its beginnings as a geometry project at the Boys’ School in Germany) was quickly adopted by the Moravian church as a symbol of the birth of Christ and the star of Bethlehem. While traditional Moravian stars you are most familiar with have 26 points, some have as few as six and others have as many as 110!
Gift Giving in the early years of Salem was likely to center around fruit, nuts and anything considered to be a special treat – perhaps an illustrated scripture or a painting. By the 1820s, toys became more common gifts, as woodworkers and potters produced toys with a religious theme, such as a wooden Noah’s Ark. Baked goods were a true luxury, and families began stocking up on spices for their holiday baking as early as the summer months. Rich in history and love, the Moravian Christmas experience is meant to be shared with all! For more information and tickets for the Candle Tea, visit Homemoravian.org, and for advance tickets (highly recommended as they sell out every year) for the Joy of Christmas Evening Tours, visit Oldsalem.org. Old Salem Museums and Gardens is located at 900 Old Salem Road, Winston-Salem, NC, 336.721.7350. Follow them on Instagram @oldsaleminc for updates on all holiday events.
“The Moravian Star is really a point of local pride,” explains Tara, as are the familiar beeswax candles tied with red ribbons. Assembling those traditional candles is a favorite activity for children experiencing an Old Salem Christmas, as is rolling cookie dough for ornaments or making corn husk angels and paper snowflakes. The Children’s Christmas Eve Love Feast was especially magical in early Salem – a service the Moravians are still known for today. During the singing of hymns, the congregation is served something to eat and drink, most often a bun and coffee. Moravians held love feasts for all kinds of celebrations, but by far the most elaborate love feasts were held on Christmas Eve. Moravian Christmas décor has always been tied to their religion and their landscape, and those elements are prominently featured in the events that fill today’s Old Salem holiday calendar. They adorned homes with natural greenery, rose hips and dried apples, and before the appearance of Christmas trees, they utilized a Christmas pyramid – with the “putz” on one shelf, most often surrounded by fresh greenery, moss, candles and fruit. John Lewis Krimmel’s 1815 sketch is often credited as the earliest depiction of a Christmas tree in America – and his sketchbook image was thought to illustrate a Moravian household in Pennsylvania. However, the tree depicted appears to be more of a holly tree than a fir tree. DECEMBER 2023 / 27
Triad Area Events in December December offers a variety of interesting and exciting events for families to experience in and around the Triad. Here are some of the top offerings: Disney On Ice Greensboro Coliseum Complex Nov. 30-Dec. 3, various times Tickets $20-$90 Take a magical journey with Mickey, Minnie and friends through the timeless stories of “Cinderella,” “Aladdin,” “Toy Story” and “Cars” along with today’s favorites. Christmas With C.S. Lewis Odeon Theatre at Greensboro Coliseum Dec. 1-3, various times Tickets $32-$64 In 1962, C.S. Lewis, the famous British author, is hosting a group of American writers at his home. The Americans have come to hear about the significant people and the events that shaped his life. Lewis reflects on how he views this festive season. Holiday Market Sawtooth School for Visual Art Dec. 2, 11 a.m.-7 p.m. Free Sawtooth’s holiday market will feature local vendors, artists and craftspeople. There will also be art-making activities led by Sawtooth instructors. Family First: Holiday Card and Gift Tag Workshop Reynolda House Museum of American Art, Winston-Salem Dec. 3, 2-4 p.m. Tickets $15 During this holiday workshop for families with children in grades 1-6, participants will ink the leaves of evergreens to create paper prints using a printing press. There will also be a chance to create stamped and collaged cards and tags. Holiday Pops: Home for the Holidays! Piedmont Wind Symphony at Centenary United Methodist Church Dec. 5, 7:30 p.m. Tickets $10-$30 Feel the holiday cheer with the Piedmont Wind Symphony featuring a chorus and vocal soloists. Nutcracker UNC School of the Arts at Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Dec. 7-10, various times Tickets $31-$91 Performed annually since 1966, the ballet features hundreds of UNCSA students who are dancers, musicians, theater designers and technicians.
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Annie Warbucks Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance Dec. 8-17, various times Tickets $19-$21 The world’s favorite orphan appears in the sequel to the international smash hit. Child welfare informs Daddy Warbucks that he must marry within 60 days so that the newly adopted Annie can have a proper mother. UNCSA Cantata Singers Holiday Concert Home Moravian Church, Old Salem Dec. 10, 2 p.m. Free Embrace the holiday season with beautiful music in this annual concert. The Cantata Singers are a dynamic vocal ensemble made up of students studying voice and opera. Elf in Concert Presented by Greensboro Symphony Orchestra Steven Tanger Center, Greensboro Dec. 15-16, various times Tickets $21-$71 The warm holiday classic movie is shown on a giant screen. Buddy was accidentally transported to the North Pole as a toddler and raised among Santa’s elves. Every note of John Debney’s score is played live. In the Christmas Mood with the Glenn Miller Orchestra Ovens Auditorium at Bojangles Entertainment Complex, Charlotte Dec. 17, 3 p.m. Tickets start at $81 In a spectacular new holiday show, the “Glenn Miller Orchestra” rolls out their timeless hits and puts a twist on other holiday favorites. A Magical Cirque Christmas Ovens Auditorium at Bojangles Entertainment Complex, Charlotte Dec. 27-28, 7:30 p.m. Tickets start at $30 Immerse yourself in a world of wonder as the holiday season comes alive with breathtaking performances and dazzling feats.
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A Carolina Christmas by MEGAN TAYLOR
Christmas
is a special time of year. Surrounding us are the traditions we love and cherish; traditions that we can’t go without. These celebrations come in all shapes and sizes. They can be individually special for families, communities and towns. Within North Carolina, there are several annual, not-to-be-missed events in our towns that signify the holidays. These traditions have been around for years and are a valuable part of what makes up a Carolina Christmas.
• Christmas at Biltmore – This tradition is one of the most well known. Located in Asheville, the Biltmore Estate is famously known for their lavish Christmas celebrations. Running November through January, the 250-room estate is decked wall to wall with holiday decor and a Christmas tree in just about every room. This festive tradition is one every true North Carolinian should see at least once. • The National Gingerbread Competition at the Omni Grove Park Inn – After visiting Christmas at Biltmore, head over to the Omni Grove Park Inn, also in Asheville, to take a look at the extravagant gingerbread houses, created by professionals throughout the world. The competition is held in November, but the houses will be on display throughout the holidays. In fact, prizes total to more than $40,000! • Festival of Lights at Tanglewood Park – Another popular event is the Festival of Lights at Tanglewood Park in Clemmons. This festivity is in our own backyard and is full of holiday cheer. Visitors drive through more than 80 light displays which brightly create scenes of the season. There is also a holiday gift store along with hot cocoa and s’mores. • All Things Moravian – From Moravian cookies to Moravian stars, candle teas and Christmas Eve lovefeasts, the Moravian culture is alive and well during Christmastime. These are just a handful of the Moravian traditions that are located in Winston-Salem and throughout our state. • Flotillas – Where there is water, there is most likely a flotilla. A parade of festive boats with Christmas lights and displays are shown from Wrightsville Beach to Lake Norman, and everywhere in between. The North Carolina Holiday Flotilla at Wrightsville Beach is celebrating its 40th year this holiday season.
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• Visit Our State’s Own Christmas Town U.S.A. – Since 1996, the town of McAdenville, located near Charlotte and Gastonia, has been deemed “Christmas Town U.S.A.” From December 1st-25th, McAdenville is lit up in holiday colors and scenes. Two can’t-miss events in the town are the Tree Lighting Ceremony on December 1st and the Yule Log Ceremony on December 14th. • Santa on the Chimney – It is not the same chimney you are thinking about; it is Chimney Rock. On December 2nd and 9th, onlookers can watch Santa Claus scale down Chimney Rock. During those two Saturdays, Santa will rappel down the 315-foot Chimney as well as visit with children throughout the park. Mrs. Claus will also be present, but she won’t be rappelling with Santa; just visiting. • The Night Parade in Kannapolis – Full of cheer and joy, the Night Parade in Kannapolis consists of the Kannapolis Singing Bears who perform every hour, from 6 to 9 p.m. during the month of December. Talk about bringing the sounds of the season to life! • An Outer Banks’ Old Christmas – Located on Hatteras Island, the community of Rodanthe actually celebrates two Christmases – the traditional Christmas on December 25th and Old Christmas on the first Saturday after the Epiphany. In 1752, the British Empire in colonial America changed from the Julian calendar to the Gregorian calendar. Eleven days had to be dropped from the year, moving Christmas to the time we know today. Celebrations include waking up to fife and drum music, oyster roasts and awaiting the arrival of Old Buck, a.k.a. a live bull, who is led into the town to welcome the visitors. Christmas in North Carolina is a special time. New and old traditions come together and fill the air with magic which is exactly what everyone needs during the holiday season.
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Supporting Parents Through Perinatal Loss
Feelings about your body, medical care, relationships, family planning, etc. that might feel very different than how you felt before. Finding a place of support to process these emotions is crucial in caring for your overall wellness.
TYPES OF SUPPORT There are multiple types of support out there; you might find that different types of support are better at certain times in your grief journey. There are hotlines, in-person or online support groups, online forums, local events, books, podcasts, social media accounts, etc. Different support types ask for varying levels of energy, engagement and vulnerability from you.
Pregnancy and infant loss
(perinatal loss) is a unique and difficult-to-navigate type of grief. For the parents affected, there are often many questions about how to grieve or find support. Our society is often unsure of how to respond to this type of loss.
YOU’RE NOT ALONE One in four pregnancies ends in loss. This statistic may show that this is a common experience, but it does not mean that it is not a significant loss. Many parents report feeling alone and isolated when going through this type of grief. Feeling unable to share due to stigma, guilt and lack of understanding from others can all impact the ability to grieve.
INVALIDATION CAN BE HURTFUL Unfortunately, many people do not know how to respond to a perinatal loss. Feeling uncomfortable or unsure of how to respond will often lead unintentionally to a response that feels more hurtful and dismissive. It can be very frustrating and upsetting when others say hurtful things or do not know how to best support you. Pointing family and friends to educational resources can be helpful. Connecting with others who understand or have had similar experiences can be reassuring that you’re not alone.
GRIEF IS MORE THAN SADNESS Often grief is represented with sadness, yet the grief experience holds many more emotions that can seem opposite to sadness. There can be anger, resentment, anxiety, worry, shock, guilt, loss of control, confusion, loneliness, etc. Many will report a perinatal loss as a life-changing event; it might feel like who you were before the loss and who you are after are a completely different person.
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RTZ Hope, Star Legacy Foundation and Postpartum Support International are great resources for virtual support groups, workshops, peer companions or support lines. Local organizations, such as Trellis, offer individual counseling and group counseling for perinatal loss. There are multiple podcasts, books and social media accounts for perinatal loss, all with their own flavor. I’d encourage you to seek out some level of support at any point; this is a strong protective factor against the risk of developing posttraumatic stress disorder or other perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
EXPRESSIONS OF GRIEF When the loss of a pregnancy or infant has occurred, the mourning and expressing of grief can feel challenging. Our typical grieving rituals may not be an option, or the parents/family may feel differently about what is helpful or not. There are jewelry pieces that can be made, a personalized ornament, a special stuffed animal, planting a tree in their memory, a tattoo to honor them, planning a service, etc. There is no one right way to remember them. This is an important step in the healing process as you work through what it looks like to tell your story and connect with your baby.
MOVING WITH GRIEF Experiencing a significant loss such as this is often life-changing. We typically want to fight the change that grief has abruptly forced us into. However, attempts to control the grief often result in suffering and frustration. Learning to move with the grief can be a lifelong process. There are resources out there, people who understand and can support you when you need it the most. If you’ve experienced this loss, I hope that you will connect with helpful resources and find community wherever that may be. Remember, you’re not alone, and healing is possible.
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by DAMIAN DESMOND
GHOSTS OF CHRISTMAS PAST As
I approach my 51st Christmas, I can’t help but reminisce.
All of the trees that were put up and
decorated have long since returned to the earth. The once brightly colored
crumpled up remains of wrapping paper are occupying a landfill somewhere. The gifts given and received throughout the
years are mostly gone, or sit somewhere, likely forgotten or unused. The echoes
of parties and get-togethers have faded away. It is only the memories, or as I like to call them, the ghosts of Christmas past, that truly remain.
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I can see the ghosts of my grandparents. They are taking a small, brown-haired, chestnut-eyed little boy to see Santa. They try their hardest to give the child the best Christmas that they can, despite the fact that his own parents decided to have nothing to do with him. On Christmas Eve, while the boy sleeps, lake effect snow from Lake Erie accumulates outside. In the living room, the elderly couple, who chose to raise their grandson, places gifts under the tree that stands in front of the large picture window. Early the next morning, the excited little boy runs down the hallway, turns the corner and smiles the biggest of smiles as he takes in the wonderful scene before him. For the rest of the morning, the youngster plays with his new toys while his grandfather snacks on an assortment of Christmas nuts while watching TV, and his grandmother prepares an Italian meal to be enjoyed later when cousins, aunts and uncles join them. These are the ghosts of my Christmas past. As the ghosts of my grandparents fade away, they are replaced by new ghosts – my adoptive parents and the adoptive grandparents who came with them enter the picture. Christmases have now gone from a cold and snowy upstate New York to a cozy home in the mountains of Virginia. There, Christmas can be sunny and 65 degrees, or it can be bone chillingly cold. But, no matter the weather, the young boy and his father can be seen dragging the freshly cut tree through the woods toward their home. On Christmas Eve, the young family attends church which is filled with greenery, flickering candles and the singing of hymns. Every year
or so, another “ghost” would be added to the mix – first a sister then a brother and so on and so forth until there were eight children in total. Needless to say, Christmases went from quiet to crazy. Now the big brother, Christmas is less about that little boy and more about his younger siblings. These are the ghosts of my Christmas past. With bags packed and gifts wrapped, the family piles into the van. They are headed to the Eastern Shore of Virginia where the now teenaged boy’s adoptive grandparents are living in an old farmhouse close to the Chesapeake Bay. Several hours later, the red and white van turns onto the long dirt driveway that leads to the white farmhouse. The van stops and the side door is thrown open as excited children jump out and run to the awaiting hugs and kisses from their grandparents. There is a chill in the air but a warmth in their hearts. Opening the door to the sunroom off the kitchen unleashes the aroma of my grandfather’s cooking. The smells of ham, turkey, cooking sherry and oyster stuffing tease their noses. The sounds of laughter and chatter fill the air. These are the ghosts of my Christmas past. There are many more ghosts of my Christmas past that come to mind. Individuals who have drifted both into and out of my life. I have even watched my own two sons accumulate memories and ghosts of their own Christmases. As I approach my 51st Christmas, I can’t help but feel some sadness for the loved ones who were there on Christmas morning and are now gone but never forgotten. I cherish the memories that will stay with me and even haunt me – but in a good way. They are the moments and memories that I carry in my heart. They are the ghosts of my Christmas past.
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Encouraging Appropriate Gift Choices with Friends & Family
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Gift giving is such a special way to show love and appreciation, and often friends and family pick things out they think our little ones will enjoy. It can seem uncouth to suggest specific items for gifts or make an assumption that someone is gifting something at all. If your child has sensory issues, special needs or if there are any specific items you don’t want your child to play with such as screen devices, toy weapons, loud noise makers, etc., it’s okay to kindly let someone know if they ask for gift ideas. As a parent or guardian of a child, consider sharing a link to an Amazon wishlist with gift items you know your child would love and would be safe.
The holidays are here and with them comes the joy of seeing the youngest members of our friends and family light up as they open presents! In honor of National Safe Toys & Celebrations Month, we’re sharing everything you need to know to keep the children in your life happy and safe. The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) has established testing requirements around the world that help enforce limits on lead and phthalates in toys, as well as stopping dangerous toy parts from ever reaching the marketplace. While these efforts should absolutely help American families feel confident about the toys they purchase, it’s crucial that they have their own independent steps to follow to ensure additional safety precautions to avoid injuries. Understanding the Risks of Specific Toys and Gifts It’s crucial to be mindful of age-appropriate safety risks when choosing toys and children’s gifts. For children younger than age three, avoid toys with small parts that could become choking hazards. When considering scooters and other riding toys, safety is paramount. These toys can go fast, and falls could be potentially deadly if proper safety gear isn’t worn. When gifting ride-on toys, helmets that are sized to fit as well as knee and elbow pads are recommended for young children. Toys that contain magnets can pose significant risks (especially if swallowed) and are often included in building and play sets, so be sure all pieces are safe for the age of the gift recipient. Arts and craft-related gifts need to be “non-toxic” for children and are best given with the understanding that adult supervision may be required. Be aware to keep toys meant for older children away from their younger siblings, as well! Remember that you know your child best. Despite what appropriate age is listed, always trust your gut on what toys your specific child is ready to play with safely, and wait longer if needed.
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Ensuring Safe Gift Opening Experiences Something easily overlooked is the risk of gift wrapping materials. Gift bags, bows and other decorative packaging can be cause for concern when left accessible to infants and children. Be sure to immediately discard all packaging materials such as bubble wrap, plastic bags or ribbons. Store away any materials you wish to save such as gift bags or bows right away, so they aren’t mistaken for fun play items. If a gift comes with batteries, make sure your child can’t get to them, especially “button” lithium ion batteries which can cause life-threatening injuries if swallowed. Store away adapters and chargers as well to reduce any risk of thermal burns. Taking Action When an Incident Occurs Always check to make sure toys have not been recalled and there are no active safety alerts for specific toys or brands when shopping. If your child receives a gift that isn’t age appropriate, consider exchanging it for something else or putting it away for later when they reach the right age. If a gift is well loved but begins to pose a risk due to your child’s use of the item or another threat to safety, always remove the toy immediately. If an incident or injury occurs, call your pediatrician or visit your local emergency room depending on the severity of the incident. Always contact and notify the toy’s brand manufacturer if there is a safety issue caused by the toy or item, so they can keep track of and use these findings in the event a recall is necessary to help other families stay safe. Helpful Resources to Learn More • Consumer Product Safety Commission
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The Persecutor – “It’s all your fault” The Persecutor (aka the Villain) is the trouble causer. He or she is often dominating, blaming others or tearing them down. Persecutors feel superior and desire to have a sense of power and control. They seek rescue by pinpointing problems and directing others as the primary cause of those problems. The validation of their beliefs comes from seeking a victim to hold accountable for their problems and manipulating them into working their way.
The Victim – “This is happening to me” The Victim has kind of a “poor me” attitude, and they feel picked on by the Persecutor. He/she feels helpless and powerless and has trouble solving problems or making decisions – and looks to the Rescuer to save them.
The Rescuer – “I need to save others”
DERAILING
the Drama Triangle by LESLIE SPEAS
Do
you have drama in your workplace? Apparently, most of us do. Research shows that the average employee spends two hours and 26 minutes per day on drama and emotional waste (Cy Wakeman). Unfortunately, increased drama in your business is more than just a leadership headache – it directly impacts your bottom line. The more your team engages in drama, the less they are focused on your customers and their performance. As much as we don’t want to admit it, we may often play a part in escalating drama based on the role(s) that we slip into. Have you ever heard of the Drama Triangle? It was developed by Psychiatrist Steven Karpman in the early 1970s. It is a social model of human interaction that maps a type of destructive interaction that can occur among people when things get stressful or dysfunctional – which, let’s face it, happens a lot! There are three roles that we often play in drama – the Persecutor, the Victim and the Rescuer.
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The Rescuer (aka the Hero) intervenes for the victim. Rescuers may even see themselves as a hero, solving everyones’ problems. The Rescuer is the go-to person, the sponge for all things needing to be done. If they become aware of a Victim, they may respond with something like, “Poor thing, don’t worry. I will help to fix this situation for you.” Their motivation is to feel wanted and valued. It may even be to really help, but in doing so, they derail the Victim by constantly jumping in to solve their problems.
Most of us slip into all of these roles from time to time but tend to favor one over the others. It’s a vicious cycle, and it goes round and round, creating massive problems and dysfunctional behaviors. Transforming the Drama Triangle The first step is to begin to recognize when the Drama Triangle is coming into play and adjust your behavior to break the pattern. Here is how you can transition to be more effective and end the drama cycle. ersecutor to Challenger. If you find yourself moving toward the P Persecutor role, try to shift into the Challenger role. This involves initiating change and healthy conflict in a more positive, less intimidating way. ictim to Creator. If you start to shift into the Victim role, move V yourself into the Creator role. Creators initiate positive change in the organization. To be effective in this role, you must learn how to communicate what you need and take healthy action yourself. It may take a little coaching to get there, but you can do it! escuer to Coach. If you tend to be a Rescuer like me, coach the R Victim to solve their own problems. As the Coach, you will provide support, without fixing the problem yourself. You will need to encourage Creators as they often lack confidence and aren’t used to doing things on their own. And, you will have to resist the urge to fix everything. Drama takes time and energy away from your organization and the bottom line. Now that you understand it, you can derail the Drama Triangle to stop the cycle!
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Welcome
back to the Fancy Fork – your seasonal produce insight and farmstyle recipes that are made to satisfy. The month of December brings so much joy, festivities and the ultimate comfort foods! We’re sure you are full of sweet nostalgic baked goods, so we’ve got a slowcooked dinner that is hearty, packed with nutrition and an easy make-ahead meal.
Recipe developed by LAUREN SEPHTON (@BRIGHTMOMENTCO)
GREEK-STYLE STIFADO STEW PREP. TIME: 15 MINUTES | COOK TIME: 4 HOURS TOTAL TIME: 4 HOURS, 15 MINUTES | SERVES: 6-8
This month’s recipe will be highlighting the super underrated onion – shallots. You may notice shallots have a “bite” in terms of their flavor profile, which is a big sign of nutritional content. This pungent flavor has been known as a heart-healthy food with similar benefits to fresh garlic. Studies have shown that shallots may improve circulation and lower diseasecausing inflammation. Shallots are also a high source of antioxidants, have been shown to have a strong link with cancer fighting agents and may help prevent or treat allergies.
INGREDIENTS
Other winter produce you’ll find in abundance this month are broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, celery, garlic, kale, leeks, onions, parsnips, potatoes, pumpkins, rutabagas, sweet potatoes and winter squashes. Winter fruits that are in season include apples, bananas, dates, citrus, pears, persimmons and pomegranates.
6-8 small Shallots, peeled
2 Bay Leaves
2 l arge Carrots, peeled and chopped
2 Fresh Oregano Stems
1 - 1 1/2 lbs. Quality Chuck Roast, cut into portions
1/2 cup Red Wine
2 t sp. EACH: Salt & Black Pepper
3 cups Beef or Vegetable Broth
4 T Olive Oil 1 Yellow Onion, chopped 3G arlic Cloves, minced or sliced
3 T Apple Cider Vinegar Pinch of Nutmeg 1/2 tsp. Ground All Spice 1/2 tsp. Red Pepper Flakes 2 Cinnamon Sticks
1/4 cup Fresh Parsley, chopped
2 T Tomato Paste
INSTRUCTIONS 1. H eat up the olive oil in a large dutch oven over medium-high heat. 2. S eason the cut chuck roast with salt and black pepper. Add in a single layer to the hot skillet to sear 3-4 minutes untouched on each side until browned along the edges. 3. R emove the seared chuck roast. 4. A dd the chopped yellow onion, garlic, carrots and shallots. Sauce for 4-5 minutes until onions are tender and slightly caramelized. 5. S tir in the tomato paste. 6. S tir in the red wine, apple cider vinegar, broth, nutmeg and red pepper flakes. 7. A dd the seared chuck roast back into the dutch oven, and stir until all ingredients are well combined. Make sure the chuck roast pieces are underneath the liquids. 8. A dd the cinnamon sticks, bay leaves and fresh parsley. Stir just to combine. 9. B ring the mixture to a boil, then simmer on LOW for 3-4 hours until beef is very tender and liquid has reduced. Enjoy!
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Preparing Your Home to Host Senior Loved Ones for the Holidays by DEBBIE LINVILLE
There’s
no place like home for the holidays and while wrapped gifts beneath the tree are nice, for aging family members the most cherished gift is not the one with wrapping paper and bows. The very best gift is being in the presence of family. Inviting seniors (or anyone with a physical disability) into the home requires careful consideration and some advanced planning to ensure their safety, independence, and wellbeing. Thinking through potential issues and making temporary modifications can help guarantee everyone has a wonderful time... making memories to last a lifetime.
For more than 50 years, Forsyth Medical Supply has been NC’s most trusted supplier of high-quality medical supplies, assistive furniture, and equipment. The well trained and knowledgeable staff understands the unique challenges families face when seniors are brought home for the holidays and can provide recommendations to make the preparations easy and affordable. As Manager Brenna Chandler shares, “It is less stressful on the elderly (and concerned family members) if minor changes are made to the home prior to arrival time.” Her family-owned team is eager to share helpful tips and beneficial products to ensure Christmas with senior family members is stress free and extra special! Five Tips for a Safe and Enjoyable Holiday with Seniors 1. Plan Activities - Don’t let mobility issues prevent your loved one from enjoying holiday activities with the family. A lightweight wheelchair or travel friendly scooter is the perfect solution for transporting seniors so they can enjoy a Christmas play, light displays, or holiday shopping with the family. These products can be rented or purchased ahead of time. 2. One “Comfy” Spot - Lift Chair Recliners can easily create a comfortable, safe place in the main area of the home for seniors to enjoy holiday traditions with the family. The power lifting system gives the ability to get up and back down without additional pain or strife with the push of a button. Lift chairs can be rented or purchased and delivered to your home before the holiday. 3. Create a Safe Sleeping Environment - For homes with bedrooms on the second level, a hospital bed set up on the main level can eliminate the hazard of climbing stairs. Versatile and comfortable hospital beds are easily adjustable to accommodate every need and are equipped with modern safety features, including railings for ultimate peace of mind. Beds can be purchased or rented. 4. Bathroom Safety - According to the CDC, more than 200,000 seniors are treated in emergency rooms each year for bathroom-related injuries. A few products to consider purchasing for the holidays include a toilet riser and safety rails, a shower chair, and a non-slip bath mat. Disposable personal hygiene aids such as no rinse shampoo caps and bathing wipes help eliminate the need for a daily shower, making it a convenient option for seniors. 5. Be ready for accidents - Bladder leakage can be embarrassing for seniors. Having an extra pack of adult disposable briefs or underwear and absorbent pads for the bed can give peace of mind for your loved one. Forsyth Medical Supply stocks a wide variety of sizes and styles. Our knowledgeable staff can help with correct sizing to eliminate leaks. Forsyth Medical Supply is honored to serve clients throughout Winston-Salem, Clemmons, Kernersville, Statesville, Mooresville, Mount Airy, Pilot Mountain, Oak Ridge, and Summerfield, NC. Trust them to keep you and your family safe at home with the proper medical equipment, unmatched customer service, and valued expertise. Visit the showroom at 3033 Trenwest Drive, Winston-Salem, 336-768-5512, and online at Forsythmedicalsupply.com. Hours are Monday through Friday 9:00 a.m. – 5:30 p.m.
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Individuals and families that buy before December 31 will lock in up to $100 in savings on an annual membership that can fill their loved ones’ New Year with more learning and fun than ever before. The reimagined experiential learning museum will have a Grand Opening on Saturday, February 17, at the 120 W 3rd Street location, and will have members only days on February 15 and 16. Admission prices will increase from $10 to $15 per person to better align with other
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North Carolina museums. Prices on memberships will also increase in early January; for example, the most popular membership — the Super — will increase from $150 to $250. Kaleideum is operating throughout December at the Kaleideum North location, 400 W Hanes Mills Road. The museum will also hold its last Festive Family Friday event at Kaleideum North on Friday, December 8, and its last day of operation will be for the Noon Year’s Eve event on Sunday, December 31. Everyone who is a member on December 31 will receive a two-month extension of membership to account for the time that Kaleideum will be closed to move to the new location. “ The end of the year brings some sadness as we wind down operations at Kaleideum North, but we are also excited as we prepare to open the new location,” said Elizabeth Dampier, Kaleideum Chief Executive Officer. “Barring any unforeseen circumstances, we will be able to have some soft opening programs in early February and open to the public by the middle of the month!” With its mission to inspire wonder, curiosity, and lifelong learning in all ages, the reimagined Kaleideum offers a captivating blend of hands-on exhibits, interactive displays, and educational programs that fuse science, technology, engineering, arts, and mathematics (STEAM) disciplines. The building concept is grounded in the idea of experiencing various perspectives and is inspired by geometric forms and the triangulated shapes captured in a kaleidoscope, the instrument of art and science upon which the Museum’s name is based. Inside Kaleideum, guests can practice kaleidoscopic thinking as they innovate and iterate within environments that allow for diverse types of engagement and appeal to visitors of varying ages and development. These exciting areas encompass the By Design, In Motion, Storytelling, Our Nature, Wonders of Water, Little Learners, and Rooftop Adventure exhibitions, along with a Digital Dome and a Try It! Studio. Throughout the museum, multifaceted, openended experiences prompt visitors to test theories, seek answers to questions, think critically, shift perspectives, and explore at their own pace. “ Museums are catalysts for thriving communities,” Dampier said, “and after many years of planning and hard work, we are excited to open as a place where individuals of all ages can challenge themselves, push boundaries, and engage with their surroundings.” New Membership Pricing • Single (one person) $125 • Double (two people) $150 • Triple (three people) $175 • Quadruple (four people) $200 • Super (up to 10 people) $250 • Super Plus (up to 10 people, validated parking, and annual fund donation) $500 About Kaleideum Kaleideum is an experiential learning museum in Winston-Salem, NC, with a mission to “inspire wonder, curiosity, and lifelong learning in our children and community through interactive play and discovery.” For more information, visit kaleideum.org. DECEMBER 2023 / 47
Christmas Tree Cake Balls
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Prep Time: 20 minutes | Freezer Time: 10 minutes Yields: 15-20 cake balls This recipe is very simple, and your kids are going to love it! I took two boxes of Little Debbie Christmas tree cakes and put them in my Kitchenaid mixer. The icing inside the cakes will act as your binder. When it is all mixed up, roll the cakes into small balls, and put them on a baking sheet in the freezer for five minutes. While that is in the freezer, grab your melting chocolate and melt that down. Add red food coloring to get your desired color, and dip the cake balls in the chocolate. Back in the freezer for five minutes, and you have a delicious twist on a classic snack cake.
Pit Master Tip: You can substitute the melting chocolate bars and use whatever food coloring you want. This is a Christmas favorite, so we opted for red. You can also add the green and red sugar on top if you would like.
Here’s what you’ll need: 2 Boxes of Little Debbie Christmas Tree Cakes 2 Bars of melting white chocolate
by BRIAN JARED Instagram handle @Winstonsalem_nc_bbq Perfect twist on a classic Little Debbie cake.
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The View from My Section – A Father’s Perspective
Just the Good Ones by A. KEITH TILLEY
The
holidays are the most special time of year. It’s the one time that can evoke ambivalent reams of happy memories that go along with some of the saddest moments we’ve experienced in life. Fun celebrations with family and friends coupled with the memories of those who are no longer with us. Add in a dash of the usual unfortunate moments, be it family squabbles or simple misfortune that occurs to us or those around us, and they all merge together into some half-full/halfempty combination of thoughts converging on one another on this most unique and precious occasion. Though this can be unsettling, let me pass along some advice I was reminded of as I watched a recent rerun of one of my favorite sitcoms. In one very touching scene in “Everybody Loves Raymond,” Ray gives a very eloquent toast at his brother Robert’s wedding as he fondly remembers his and (his wife) Debra’s special day. In the speech, he talks about the secret to what could essentially be applied to holiday events and gatherings as much as its real target being one’s wedding. This secret according to Ray is all in the “editing.” Those moments we choose to hang on to in our memories, while others, we just let fade slowly in the distance. An abridged portion of the speech goes as follows. “I remember my wedding day as the day I got to kiss the most beautiful girl in the world. I think she remembers it, at least I hope she does, as a good day. The start of a lot of good memories. We completely blotted out the part where Mom was hanging onto my pants yelling, ‘Don’t go! Don’t go!’ We didn’t save those pictures. Just the good ones. Just the good ones. Here’s to my brother, Robert, and my new sister, Amy. You’ll keep the good ones.” In this digital age, we all have lots of pictures on our smartphones, and because it’s digital, we often neglect to delete the bad ones we take. Choosing instead, to let them build up over time and take up valuable space for future good pictures. Perhaps the same can be said for some of our personal memories at this time of year. We hang on to some that we know we should let go of and others that we could learn from and move forward, leaving those times behind much like faded photographs in an old scrapbook that we don’t look at any longer.
“ Some memories never leave your bones, like salt in the sea; they become part of you, and you carry them.” (Quote from TheMindsJournal.com.) As Ray so wisely proclaims, it’s all in the editing. The act of creating new memories that we can cherish for the rest of our lives and letting go of those entanglements that merely dampen our spirit or lessen our joy in this season. Knowing all families have this in one form or another, we can alter the future of how those moments will be recalled by using this very simple technique, editing. Good editing leads to stronger bonds, more cooperation, greater empathy and understanding, and the removal of moments of conflicting perspectives, opinions or beliefs. Say what you will, but life is all about good editing. Seniors are well aware of the power of this tool in recalling their most successful times in life, and even those challenging ones, as it’s skillfully used to assemble only the pieces of the story that display us in our best light. Some are better at this than others. Regardless, we all do this to some degree, in one way or another. As Mark Twain once said, “When I was younger, I could remember anything, whether it happened or not; but I am getting old, and soon I shall remember only the latter.” Those particularly adept at this technique can adjust in real-time their actions during these special occasions in their lives. In doing so, they may contribute a greater sense of happiness, well-being, generosity and sincere courtesy in these moments, fittingly making them some of the best they will ever remember. Who would have thought that some of the sagest advice for this time of year would come from the main character in a comedy sitcom? Then again, he was a writer. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all our readers. In the New Year, let us remember the immortal words of Anne Frank, “What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven’t even happened yet.” And now, for my musical selection of the month, enjoy – Celtic Woman performs Auld Lang Syne from “Home for Christmas” (Live At The Helix In Dublin, Ireland/2013)
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BULLYING Many,
by RENEE SKUDRA
How We Can All Help STOP It
many years later, I still remember the pain and anguish of being bullied as a very young child of seven. The immediacy of the hurt is still here, chiseled into my imagination like the furrows of stone on a monument. My early memories are of classmates making cruel comments about your “greenhorn parents with their stupid accents and ugly clothes” and being told that they “should go back to their own countries.” No one commented about the beauty of being in a home where six languages were spoken fluently and effortlessly or the cultural gifts that devolved upon me by being raised in a truly diverse environment. By third grade, highly comfortable in speaking English, I was also able to converse in German and French as well as to move around linguistically in Spanish, but my peers never appreciated that, instead constantly mocking me for my parents’ immigrant status. On at least two occasions, I was shoved forcefully against a school wall and told “you’re not even an American” – though I was born in upstate New York to parents who proudly became citizens before my birth. In my 30s, I saw my son, born with a developmental disability, be bullied as well. Even after he had earned two Masters’ degrees from the University of North Carolina Greensboro, the bullying behaviors had not entirely abated as people made critical comments about special needs people “not being normal” and consequently unwelcome in work environments or public places. What is this bullying that is so pervasive? The dictionary defines it as the use of force, coercion or hurtful teasing which is manifested by threats to abuse, intimidate or aggressively dominate. Common types of bullying are physical (such as hitting or kicking), verbal (name calling, teasing), relational/social (such as spreading rumors and intentionally leaving individuals out of group settings) as well as damaging a victim’s property. Bullies may make fun of others for such things as appearance, behavior, race, religion, social status and sexual identity. In a word, bullying is psychological violence. As Pamela
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Imprints Cares,
named for the imprint it makes on a child’s formative years and the caring relationships built with families, is transforming the lives of children and their families in Forsyth County. Having served the community over the last 54 years, their framework of services is centered on family systems and addresses health and educational inequities. Their evidence-based programming provides a holistic, multigenerational approach that promotes positive parenting, improves social determinants of health, and enhances opportunities for children and their families to break the cycle of poverty. Ready for School programming serves families with children from before birth to age 5. The cornerstone program, Parents as Teachers (PAT) is an international evidence-based curriculum that walks alongside families through intensive home visits, and helps parents prepare their children for school. “A parent is a child’s first best teacher, and we support them in achieving goals with their children,” said Executive Director Claudia Barrett. Recently, the Forsyth Futures Data Sharing Project found that students who participated in the PAT program statistically performed one year higher than their peers in literacy, language, math, social-emotional skills and problem-solving abilities. Expanded Learning provides before and after-school care and a summer enrichment camp for students pre-k through middle school. Imprints Cares employed more than 400 part-time staff through this programming this past school year. More than 2,500 families benefited from these programs as well as more than 1,000 local employers. The economic benefit to the community is substantial.
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In addition, they provide onsite programming for students with exceptional needs. Kerri Sigler, a local domestic violence attorney, has a son who has attended the program for years. “I could not do what I do for domestic violence victims, If Imprints didn’t do what it does for special needs kids.”
Center for Thriving Families Imprints Cares is entering into its first capital campaign to renovate its new location to create the Center for Thriving Families. This education hub is revitalizing part of our community and will increase the impact in addressing the need for out-of-school care for exceptional students. Through this center, Imprints Cares will be able to serve 100 students every day, who otherwise would not have anywhere else to go. The Center for Thriving Families is crucial for Imprints Cares to continue addressing unmet educational needs in Forsyth County through early intervention and providing a safe, nurturing learning environment for children and their families. Just last year, Imprints Cares served 11,612 children in Forsyth County. Perhaps the best person to convey the impact of Imprints Cares is one of the thousands of children it has helped. Kelsey Camarena, director of development and marketing, was talking to an elementary school student and asked what Imprints Cares meant to her. The girl talked about learning math and reading, then looked directly at Camarena and said, “It makes me feel good, it makes me feel safe and it makes me feel like family.” To learn more or support Imprints Cares Center for Thriving Families and programs, visit ImprintsCares.org or call 336.722.6296.
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As
the year comes to a close, we love to look back at all the fabulous, delicious bites we have enjoyed through the Dining Guide. This area has no shortage of great cafés, restaurants and coffee shops, so it is always hard to narrow down our favorites. In case you missed one or two along the way, here is a recap of our Dining Guide list from 2023. Healthy Made Simple The year started off with a great way to take off those extra holiday pounds or simply start the new year off right with healthier at-home cooking. When Pam Baker wanted to start something new, she decided that helping others with the daily chore of cooking in a positive way was the right fit. “Healthy Made Simple creates convenient, nutritious, calorie-conscious meals for clients with all dietary needs without compromising taste. Customers are able to choose from various cuisines, with Mexican enchiladas winning one of the most requested meals among clients. Customers can order for themselves, or even order family style meals that serve up to four to six people.” Brasstown Craft Chocolate After a health-conscious dinner, what better time is there for a little sweet treat? Award-winning Brasstown Craft Chocolate is the brainchild of Owners Barbara Price and Rom Still. “Brasstown offers an Art of the Bean class that provides participants with various Brasstown bars for tasting, guides on chocolate tasting techniques and tips for discerning the various ingredients listed in product labels. Additionally, Brasstown offers factory tours and a variety of other small group, chocolate making classes that teach participants how to make their own chocolate bars and bon bons.” Ruby G’s Buttercreme Sensations Husband-and-wife-team Eric and Wyomie Watson have been serving their delectable creations since 2019. With delicious seasonal favorites like pink lemonade cakes, lemon blueberry pound cake and strawberry crunch cake, Ruby G’s has something for everyone, sweet tooth or not. “Customers drool over RubyG’s popular banana pudding layer cake, the delicious 7-Up pound cake and the shop’s alcohol-topped cakes for customers 21 and older.” Baked Just SO Though sadly no longer in business, Baked Just SO was a truly unique, wonderful shop boasting award-winning cinnamon buns. Owner Stacey Milner also offered delicious coffee
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concoctions, croissants, house-made tiramisu and Guinness chocolate mousse. Hakkachow A favorite for all the foodie’s in the area, Hakkachow satisfies every taste bud with a perfect fusion of Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai and Indian cuisine all on one menu. The Hakkachow menu is thoroughly authentic and has become an established local favorite in the Winston-Salem area since its opening in 2014. While you’re perusing the menu, there’s always a spotlight on long-time customer favorites such as Crab Wontons, Kimchi Cheese Fries, Curry Coconut Soup, General Tso Chicken, Mongolian Beef, Kobe Beef Dumplings and Hakkachow’s Fried Rice entrée (topped with chicken, veggies, shrimp, beef or pork).” Twin City Sweets There’s no better way to spend a summer afternoon than enjoying an ice cream sundae on the outdoor patio of Twin City Sweets. With one-of-a-kind treats like the “Old Salem” sundae complete with Moravian cookies and gold sprinkles, this is a sweet treat like no other. “Aside from creative sundaes and ample outdoor seating for enjoying warm weather, what sets Twin City Sweets apart from other ice cream shops in the area is its sundae theme weeks. Theme weeks have included Harry Potter-themed sundaes, namely the ‘Volde-S’mores’ sundae with graham crackers, chocolate and a Voldemort cupcake topper. Additionally, video game lovers enjoyed May’s Princess Peach Sundae for a springtime flavor sporting an alltime favorite Super Mario Bros. character. The creativity that goes into naming and designing the sundaes never ceases to impress loyal Twin City Sweets lovers month by month.” Be Kind Coffee Co. There is no better way to start off the day than with a truly great cup of coffee, no matter how you take it. Be Kind Coffee Co. offers even more by serving up coffee, lattes, teas and housebaked pastries with a culture of giving back. “What makes Be Kind Coffee Co. stand apart from other coffee shops and cafés in the Triad is its emphasis on philanthropy and helping those in need. Mother-daughter duo and co-owners Amanda and Natalie Gogolak ensure that customers’ cups runneth over with coffee beans from Charlotte-based roaster Haerfest Coffee Roasting Co. Year-round in Be Kind Coffee Co., customers are able to donate to the shop’s Giving Tree, which showcases nonprofit organizations in need of donations and volunteers.”
Dewey’s Bakery has been around since 1930, founded in downtown Winston-Salem during the Great Depression. If you’re a lifelong Winston-Salem resident, you’ve probably marked many occasions with incredible cakes and cupcakes, created by Dewey’s talented pastry chefs and cake decorators. True Dewey’s connoisseurs can’t get enough of their Pink Lemonade cake squares – which have been around since 1976! Since the beginning, Dewey’s has been baking their fluffy, buttery Moravian Sugar Cake with yeast-raised dough, cinnamon, butter and molasses. This unforgettable coffee cake is a favorite for all and such a staple in the Winston-Salem community – all year long, but especially during the holidays!
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10 Things Every Mom Needs to Remember by TRIAD MOMS ON MAIN CO-MANAGER SANDY HARPER
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moms, we give and give. We give our time, love, help, support and, most of all, grace. Yet, we rarely give ourselves grace. This got me thinking about things I need to remember for myself. If I need to remind myself of these, I figured most moms needed a reminder, too. And no, these are not the types of things you need to remember as part of your to-do list!
So, here are 10 things to remember: 1. Taking time for yourself is different for every mother. We are all told we need to take time for ourselves, yet this looks different for everyone. Some moms can take that girls’ weekend. Other moms just want a solo hike in the mountains. While moms in a season of babies are good with just getting a quiet moment with coffee and a book. This time for yourself will evolve as your seasons of life change. Don’t get hung up on thinking time for yourself has to look a certain way because of someone else. 2. If you don’t think you are good enough Mom, then you are. When you worry you haven’t done or given enough, stop! 99.9% of the time you have gone above and beyond what you needed to do. Also, never underestimate how much your kids adore you. No matter their attitude and whining, they know you are their safe haven. 3. Do not compare yourself to others on Instagram or anywhere else. Oh, this is a big one! Sadly, we all know not to do this, but it almost seems instinctive to allow these thoughts to creep into our minds. Honestly, the best way to stop these comparative thoughts is stepping away from whatever is causing them. This could be social media, toxic relationships or TV shows (hello HGTV). A hiatus from these and focusing on your own life can help you gain perspective. 4. Tomorrow is another chance to start over or try again. How many times do we try something new, write a to-do list or plans change and we feel like we’ve failed at the end of the day? Just because what you had tried to do didn’t happen or come out like you wanted, doesn’t mean you can’t try again! Waking up in the morning means we have a chance at it all over again.
6. No, you do not owe your child (name of something they really want). With three kids of my own, this one gets me often. They certainly can play on our emotions. Now, obviously, I am not talking about life necessities like shelter, food, education and love. I speak of the latest trend, toy or outing. We are all born with a wanting desire, and it is extremely strong in our kids thanks to the help of many outside sources. Typically, I remind them that they can wait for a holiday or special occasion. Or, best of all, they can earn what they want through chores or jobs. 7. Take time to eat more than your kid’s leftovers. Seriously Mama, make yourself a plate and sit down! I was horrible at making something for the kids, especially breakfast and lunch, and then forgetting to make something for myself to eat. Sometimes, I just munched on what they didn’t eat or chose a quick, unhealthy option. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from tasks to do something as important as eating a nutritious meal. 8. Following a dream, hobby or career is not selfish. On the contrary, it is beneficial for your children to see you following a personal passion or goal. They get to see you fail, win, work hard, grow, learn, improve and deal with frustration. Most of all, they get to see you happy doing something you love. 9. Slow down. It seems nowadays that being busy is a badge of honor. However, it is only making motherhood that much harder. You do not have to be at all the PTA meetings, contribute to every bake sale or join all the clubs. Saying “no” is okay! And, quite freeing. Take time off to just be, and enjoy this moment in life with the family in front of you. 10. Give yourself grace! Do I even need to expand on this one? You are an amazing mom, but you are only human. So, give yourself the same kindness and benefit of the doubt that you give your children, husband, friends and even strangers.
5. You’re beautiful. We are all unique moms and have so many different talents. Movie star looks are not what makes us beautiful. You can exude beauty every day with just two things – pure confidence in yourself and sharing a smile with all you meet.
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It’s a Grand Grand Life Where Did the Year Go? by SUSAN WOODALL
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always thought that, as you aged, life would slow down. I remember thinking how old my grandparents were when I was a teenager, now realizing they were younger than I am now. Looking back, life seemed to move at a slower pace when I was growing up. My parents, like most back then, didn’t sign my sister and I up for a slew of after-school activities. I took ballet/tap one day a week. I also had piano lessons, but the teacher came to our house. In fifth grade, I took violin lessons, but amazingly, they were given at school. We actually had an orchestra there. We were probably terrible, but our parents acted like we could perform at Carnegie Hall. When our eldest daughter was five, she started taking dance lessons. It was doable as it was once a week and her two-year-old sister didn’t mind going along. As the years passed and we were now a family of five, life got a bit more hectic as afternoon activities started adding up. All three girls were in dance classes, but never at the same time. Different sports practices for each of them always started at different times, and my car seemed to be on the road more than it was at home. Well, that is a bit of an exaggeration, but it felt that way at the time.
Now, I watch as my daughters seem to be keeping the roads hot driving their children around to all their events. I was worn out just listening to our eldest daughter’s afternoon of picking up two children and getting each of them somewhere before time to get another one somewhere else. Unfortunately, they live in Charlotte, so I can’t help her out. Fortunately for her, she is very organized and always makes it work. Her husband owns his own company, so he comes to her aid when occasionally she needs to be in two places at once. Living close to our other daughters’ families, I love when they ask if I, sometimes we, can stay with their children. They always preface it by saying, “I have a big favor to ask you.” It bothers me that they think it’s a favor, but I understand that they don’t want to assume I can help. The truth is, one of the reasons we moved here was to be close to them if, or when, they needed us. I love being needed and am not ready to slow down – it keeps me young! I decided to look back at the 2023 calendar to see what made the year seem to fly by. What I discovered was something that I should have known all along. The months filled with family comings and goings were not only the quickest, but also the most cherished. It was the blank space days that were slow. This year has given me so many wonderful memories on which to reflect. It also made me realize that the slow days were of my own making. It is up to me to decide whether I need a lazy day to regroup or a day that has me on the go. I already know this last month of the year is going to keep me busy. It is a continuation of November and, as I loved Thanksgiving, I look forward to what each day will bring leading up to Christmas. It will start with our annual reverse advent calendar shopping with a couple of the grandchildren. They love picking out the food items and delivering them to the food bank before Christmas. Whatever your traditions, I hope this time of the year brings you memories to last a lifetime, filled with peace, faith, love and joy. I am looking forward to a year filled with the same!
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Article continued from page 52. Rutledge wrote in a September 2023 article in Psychology Today, “Bullying carries the implicit message that aggression and violence are acceptable solutions to problems when they are not. Most bullies have a downwardly spiraling course through life as their aggressive behavior interferes with learning, holding a job and establishing and maintaining intimate relationships.” People bully as a way of establishing social dominance, but the reality is that they are often troubled themselves, not simply mean. The importance of stopping bullies cannot be emphasized heartily enough. Children who are bullied often show physical or emotional signs resulting in fear of attending school, reluctance to go out in public and both real and psychosomatic bodily complaints.
Bullying can result in distress which activates self-harm and even suicide or its attempts. The risk for depression, anxiety, sleep difficulties, lower academic achievement and dropping out of school are significantly increased. The issue of bullying is serious enough that anti-bullying laws have been enacted in 23 states in the U.S. with a particular focus of making bullying in schools illegal. The stakes become even greater for disabled people (who constitute one out of every 10 folks in our country) being disproportionately affected by bullying because, in many cases, they lack the knowledge or ability to interpret social cues to comprehend that they are targets of abuse. A particular form of bullying known as cyberbullying which occurs through electronic technology (think: the internet) is especially heinous since it is easy to post commentary anywhere on the web. My son, for example, who is a Civil War historian, received a deluge of hateful and bullying rhetoric on his Facebook page, calling him a racist, for having images of himself dressed in both Union and Confederate uniforms with accompanying historical commentary. He responded to the hatred by stating that being a Civil War historian necessarily means studying both sides of the conflict and the social and political milieus giving rise to it. Nevertheless, one woman at his college made disparaging remarks that he was “a Confederate sympathizer” and she would make sure everyone in cyberspace knew that. The student’s acrimonious and misrepresentative remarks were ultimately removed by Facebook editors but not before emotional damage was done to my highly well-meaning and erudite boy. The good news is that bullying is preventable. What can you personally do? The following is a list of tactics that I used to nip it in the bud, as well as advice from therapy professionals:
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Tell a trusted adult in a position of authority about the offending behavior. This could be a parent, teacher or coach. Authority figures can play an important role in setting clear boundaries, communicating seriously that bullying behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Talk about bullying episodes to friends, family members and/or a therapist. Give the issue of bullying the critical importance it deserves. Keep everyone’s eye on that bullying ball.
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Be someone’s hero. If you see bullying behavior, intervene. As President Theodore Roosevelt once said “Knowing what’s right doesn’t mean much unless you do what’s right.” Take a stand against bullying where you see it. Be an “upstander,” not a bystander.
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Teach children that they have an important role to play in stopping bullying. If you find that you cannot teach anti-bullying skills yourself, ask psychology professionals, teachers or others who are trained in those abilities to take on the responsibility and educate bullies on replacing bad behaviors with empathy and kindness. Make sure the party who is bullied knows it is NOT his or her fault, that bullying is never okay and he/she has the right to be safe.
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Report instances of bullying immediately to a school. Keep records and written information if your child is a target of bullying. Make sure that there is a follow-up process and know who will be getting back to you. Check your state’s bullying laws, as well. If action is not taken, consider contacting The Office of Civil Rights and the Department of Justice whose policies say that bullying may be considered harassment when it is based on a student’s race, color, national origin, sex, disability or religion. Important to note: parents have legal rights when their child with a disability is the target of bullying or disability harassment.
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According to the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, in their September 2023 report, it was noted that one in five high school students reported being bullied at school in the last year. It seems that, sadly, bullying is everywhere. Each of us deserves to be treated with respect, courtesy and compassion. A historic figure from long ago named St. Ambrose wisely stated that “No one heals himself by wounding another.” Bullies are individuals with their own unquestionable wounds who are clearly emotionally and intellectually compromised. When you stand up to bullying, you are effectively working for the healing and betterment of both the person who is bullied and the bully. Our former First Lady, Michelle Obama, had her own incisive take on bullying about not stooping to the bully’s level: “When they go low, you go high.” There is no time like the present to do just that.
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IT’S BEGINNING TO SOUND A LOT LIKE CHRISTMAS...
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SATURDAYS THROUGH DECEMBER COBBLESTONE FARMERS MARKET
ARTISANS CELEBRATE THE HOLIDAYS 12-7pm, College Park Baptist Church. Area crafters, makers and artists offer a variety of handmade items ready for everyone on your gift list! Triad Craft & Art Guild are hosts of this two-day annual event featuring dozens of vendors. Food trucks available both days.
NOW - DECEMBER 11 (MONDAYS)
CHRISTMAS WRAPPED IN BRASS 7:30-9pm, Hanes
8:30am-12pm, 1007 Marshall Street in W-S. Welcome to your weekly outdoor grocer. Shop local, sustainable farmers and producers onsite with live music.
CHARACTERS TAKE THE STAGE: MYTHICAL CREATURES
5:30-7:30pm, The Little Theatre of WinstonSalem. For Students in grades 3-5. A fun introduction to the fundamental building blocks of drama (body, voice, mind and imagination). Using a variety of myths as a jumping-off point to spark and support the creative process, the characters will fly off the page as students participate in movement exercises, story reenactments, theatre games, improvisation, role-playing, music, dance and visual arts. Cost $225/person.
NOW - JANUARY 6 (TUESDAY-SUNDAY) A VICTORIAN CHRISTMAS AT KÖRNER’S FOLLY 10am-4pm, Körner’s Folly. Körner’s
Folly will be transformed into a Christmastime wonderland. Join us for an unforgettable holiday tour! Every year, volunteer decorators transform Körner’s Folly into a magical holiday experience by decorating each of the home’s 22 rooms from floor to ceiling with Victorianinspired trees, wreaths, garlands, ornaments, lights and more! The decorating theme for 2023 is Flights of Fancy, featuring fantastical designs from soaring imaginations! Self-guided tours take approximately one hour. Tickets are available on our website or can purchased onsite at the Gift Shop at Aunt Dealy’s Cottage.
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10TH ANNUAL TROUBADOURS’ CHRISTMAS CONCERT 7-9pm, The Carolina
Theatre. Now in its 10th year, The Troubadours’ Christmas Concert is an eclectic celebration of the wonders of Christmastide. It’s made possible by area churches and local businesses. The Concert is a fundraiser to benefit the work of Room at The Inn. Select Seats will be reserved for Concert Patrons and Sponsors. All other seats will be General Admission, on a first-come, first-served basis. Free parking is available at the Greene Street Parking Deck, across from the Theatre.
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Auditorium (Salem College), Robert E. Elberson Fine Arts Center on December 1st; 3pm, UNCG Auditorium, 408 Tate Street in Greensboro on December 2nd. The North Carolina Brass Band celebrates the Christmas season with a performance of holiday favorites! Christmas music in a variety of styles, a concert for folks of all ages. The NCBB will get you into the spirit of the holidays! Ring in the season with the festive sounds of brass! Cost: $20/adult, $5/student. More information at ncbrassband.org.
DECEMBER 2
CHRISTMAS TREASURES SALE 8am-12pm, Clemmons Moravian Church. All gently used holiday related items including ornaments, lights and many other decorations. Proceeds will be donated to the Clemmons Food Pantry. Call 336.941.3062 to donate items. CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE 9am-5pm, The Dogwood Boutique & The Dogwood in Lewisville. Both shops will host our Christmas Open House. Join us for refreshments and specials throughout both shops. Special guest appearance, too CHRISTMAS BY CANDLELIGHT AT KÖRNER’S FOLLY 5-9pm,
Körner’s Folly. Christmas by Candlelight, an exclusive evening event, is sure to spark a feeling of enchantment as spectacular Victorian-inspired decorations shine and the house glows from within. Costumed guides from Kernersville Little Theater will be stationed throughout the house to receive company, as well to sing carols and read from Clement C. Moore’s poem, “A Visit from St. Nicholas.” Visitors will enjoy a self-guided tour of all 22 rooms in the house, filled from floor to ceiling with seasonal displays. Due to limited availability, tickets are nonrefundable and nontransferable for Candlelight tours.
DECEMBER 3
THE NUTCRACKER PERFORMED BY NEW YORK BALLET FOR YOUNG AUDIENCES 3-5pm, The Andy Griffith Playhouse. The classic story of Clara, a young girl on the brink of womanhood, whose dreams are both childlike and tinged with romance, comes to life. Surry Arts Council dance students perform with professional dancers in selected scenes in this popular, one-of-akind production. Performed by New York Ballet for young audiences.
DECEMBER 3 COMMUNITY CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL 5-7pm, WinMock at
Kinderton. Come join the whole community at the beautiful, historic WinMock barn to start off the advent season with a fun night of fellowship! We will have plenty of vendors selling community crafts and goods, some Christmas singers and musical performances, and a short kids’ program. In addition, we will have a food truck selling meals, a bounce house for children, a family photo area and some carnival games. All ages are welcome, and there is no cost for admission.
DECEMBER 4 THE MARCH & THE BUS 6pm, a/perture cinema. James Blue’s The March, entered into the National Film Registry in 2008, is a moving and visually stunning documentary on the hope and camaraderie embodied by the March on Washington. In the acclaimed vérité documentary The Bus, American Society of Cinematographers Lifetime Achievement Award-winner filmmaker Haskell Wexler (Medium Cool) brings a sociological sample of the sea of humanity at the March into sharp focus, capturing the impressions of a diverse group of individuals as they travel to stand in the shadow of the Washington Monument to demand equality for African Americans.
DECEMBER 7 FREE VEIN CONSULTATION 12-4pm, Novant Health Vein
Specialists, 2827 Lyndhurst Avenue, Suite 206 in W-S. Attention Winston-Salem residents! Novant Health Vein Specialists is holding a FREE vein consultation event. If you’re experiencing any of the following symptoms – leg pain, swelling, varicose veins, heaviness, itching, burning sensations, restless leg syndrome, leg cramping, muscle spasms, skin discoloration or ulcerations, our expert providers are ready to help you diagnose the level of your vein health. Our Winston-Salem clinic utilizes the latest technology, is in a comfortable setting and conveniently located, making it easy for you to take the first step towards healthier, more comfortable legs. Don’t let vein problems hold you back any longer. Get out and enjoy life again. RSVP today to secure your spot and take advantage of this incredible opportunity. salemveins.com/schedule-screening
GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…Mulberry Table (connected to
Fiddle & Fig), 395 West End Boulevard in W-S. Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a muchneeded Girls’ Night Out! As always, each attendee receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings!
DECEMBER 7 & 9 A CHRISTMAS CAROL 7:30-10pm (7th); 2-4pm (9th), Reynolds Place Theatre. Join us for fun, food, giveaways, demonstrations, discounts and much more! Visit RestorationMedSpa.com for more information.
DECEMBER 8 ALAMANCE/BURLINGTON HOLIDAY CONCERT WITH THE GREENSBORO SYMPHONY 7pm, Williams High
School Auditorium in Burlington. Celebrate the holiday season with the Greensboro Symphony Orchestra featuring Miss North Carolina 2023, Taylor Loyd, soprano, and beautiful holiday music with sing-alongs. Admission is free with the donation of non-perishable food items for the Salvation Army of Alamance County. Please, three of more and no expired items. For more information, please call 336.227.5529.
DECEMBER 9
GREENSBORO HOLIDAY CONCERT 7pm, Westover Church. Celebrate the holiday season with the Greensboro Symphony Orchestra featuring Miss North Carolina 2023, Taylor Loyd, soprano, and beautiful holiday music with sing-alongs at Westover Church in Greensboro! Admission is FREE with the donation of non-perishable food items for the benefit of the Greensboro Urban Ministry. Registration is required. greensborosymphony.org/event/greensboroholiday-concert
DECEMBER 12
HANDEL’S MESSIAH WITH THE WINSTONSALEM SYMPHONY 7:30-9:30pm, R.J. Reynolds
Auditorium. If you listen to 1970s pop music, you’ve undoubtedly heard these guys play, but do you know their names? This documentary highlights five talented men – Danny, Leland, Rus, Waddy and Steve – who shunned the spotlight for themselves yet enjoyed decades of success as session musicians on iconic tracks. IMMEDIATE FAMILY 8pm, a/perture cinema. If you listen to 1970s pop music, you’ve undoubtedly heard these guys play, but do you know their names? This documentary highlights five talented men – Danny, Leland, Rus, Waddy and Steve – who shunned the spotlight for themselves yet enjoyed decades of success as session musicians on iconic tracks.
DECEMBER 15
“ELF” IN CONCERT 7:30pm, Steven Tanger Center for the Performing Arts. Experience “Elf” on the big screen with the Greensboro Symphony as Buddy travels to New York this holiday season!
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J JEJ Photos............................................... 53 Jodie Brim Creative.................................. 4
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Fleet Feet Sports..................................... 29 Forsyth Country Day School.................. 37 Forsyth Family Kid’s Morning Out......... 35 Forsyth Medical Supply.......................... 45
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