Families Cardiff & Vale Magazine (May/June 2019)

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Where little acorns grow...

It has been 30 years since we opened our very first Nursery in Oakfield Street. At Acorns Nurseries Limited we have watched proudly as some of our very first ‘Little Acorns’ have grown. In fact, some of the children who started with us in the early years have returned to us as Nursery Nurses and even have their own children at Acorns.

Qualified and experienced Nursery Nurses and Early Years Teachers prepare children for a lifetime of learning. Chefs provide healthy and nutritious meals, prepared and cooked daily on site. Housekeepers, Gardeners and Maintenance staff all work together within our team to ensure each of our nurseries is an environment where your children feel safe, secure and most of all happy.

Each nursery offers large playrooms with designated areas for rest and active play as well as a wealth of the highest quality equipment for adventure and learning.

Children enjoy the benefits of outdoor play whatever the weather and we are fortunate to have some beautiful secure gardens with covered play areas. Acorns children enjoy our Forest School sessions, making mini beast mansions, wood cookies and learning about their natural environment.

Our open-door policy means that as a parent you can call in at any time to see Acorns life in action. You will be made to feel most welcome and our Managers will be happy to show you around and answer any questions you may have.

Acorns Nurseries Limited have 12 nurseries located in South Wales and Bristol.

Caring for babies and children from 6 weeks to 5 years old.

We are open from 7.30am to 6.00pm Monday to Friday, closing only on Bank Holidays.

Contact Us T: 02920 382 009 F: 02920 221 044 Becca.Rees@acornsnurseries.co.uk

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From the editor

Managing editor Rebecca Lewis editor@familiescardiff.co.uk 07813 955290

We did it! Getting our first issue into print has been a bit like raising a child – equal parts terrifying and wonderful, tiring and rewarding!

We’d like to say a huge thank you to the Cardiff and Vale businesses and individuals who’ve supported our launch, and an even bigger one to you for picking up this copy and having a read!

We’ve packed this first issue with ideas and information we hope will inspire you to live family life to the full this spring and summer. We’d absolutely love to hear from you, so please do send us your feedback.

Until next time!

Head of sales Natasha Gudgeon natasha.gudgeon@familiespublishing.co.uk 07767 893807 Design: Sarah Harmer Contributors: Andrew Campbell, Hannah Garcia, Donna Loring, Miranda Webb.

Rebecca Lewis

Next issue: July/August 2019 Booking deadline: 1 June 2019

A huge thank you to the following people for their support and encouragement throughout our launch phase: Ian Lewis, Rob and Laura Foakes, Margaret Lewis, Gabrielle Lawrence, Christine Parks, Lauren Fear, Laura Thomas, Olivia Mackinder, Linda Stone, Jen Brammer and Natasha Gudgeon.

Distribution: we distribute our magazine via nurseries, primary schools, libraries, leisure centres and attractions, coffee shops and retail outlets, and at family events throughout Cardiff and the Vale of Glamorgan.

We have an annual readership of over 230,000 parents.

Contents

Managing Editor

In every issue 4-5 What’s on The best family outings of the season.

14 My Family Life Broadcaster Lucy Owen opens up.

Features

6 News and views Stay in the loop on local family life.

8-9 Summer camps A school holiday they’ll remember.

10 Ask the expert Can you become a less ‘shouty’ parent?

11 Growing a greener family Fresh inspiration for eco-living.

13 Little book worms Raising children who love to read.

12 Directory Clubs, classes and events near you.

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Our gorgeous cover image was captured during a family shoot in The Wenallt, just outside Cardiff. For around three weeks from late April, these ancient woodlands are carpeted in bluebells. ‘It’s quite a difficult environment to shoot in because the trees make it dark and the sunlight dappled, which isn’t flattering. It’s about knowing how the light works and finding the right time to encourage children into those spots, while giving them free reign to explore.’ says Donna Loring of Sweet Whimsy Photography. For tips on what to wear and to book your bluebell shoot, visit www.sweetwhimsyphotography.co.uk

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IN OUR LAUNCH ISSUE

What’s on: events not to miss Becoming a less ‘shouty’ parent BBC’s Lucy Owen on family life

Issue 1 May/June 2019

email: editor@familiescardiff.co.uk

familiesonline.co.uk

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MAKING MONEY Design A Coin, Royal Mint Every day in May/Jun ongoing Complete your Royal Mint tour with a workshop in coin design, where the little ones will learn what goes into making their pocket money, and design their very own coin to take home. Free with any Experience ticket.

MAYDAY MAYDAY! RNLI Family Fun Day, Barry Island 12 May, 11am–5pm All the fun of the nearby fair, with entertainment in the form of a live lifeboat sea rescue from the RNLI Flood Rescue Unit. There’s also games, competitions, displays, model boats, pop up shops, food and music.

WILD IN THE CITY Cardiff Wildlife Detectives, 19 May, 10am–12pm Wellies and macs on for a fun morning of pond-dipping and bug-hunting around Llanishen Park. £1 per child, or £9 for an annual detective pass. Every third Sunday of the month in various Cardiff parks.

www.royalmint.com

www.visitthevale.com

www.forestfarm.org.uk

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HAY DAYS Hay Festival, Hay-on-Wye 23 May–2 Jun The iconic Hay Festival isn’t just a celebration of literature. Kids can enjoy workshops on subjects as diverse as spotting fake news and foraging for natural materials to make paint.

Prices vary, suitable for 4+.

MESSY PLAY Parent Child Throwing Sessions 25 May Roll up your sleeves and make something to treasure at Cardiff Pottery Workshops.

Safe in the knowledge you won’t be the one mopping up afterwards. Last Saturday of every month. £30 per session. Suitable for 3+.

EAT, PLAY, WOVE Cowbridge Food & Drink Festival 26–27 May, 9.30am–5pm This Vale family favourite is back at Old Hall Gardens with a menu to please even the pickiest eaters. Combine tasting sessions with face painting and even weaving classes. Wet wipes essential. £5 day. £8 weekend. Under 12s free.

www.hayfestival.com

www.cardiffpotteryworkshops.com

www.cowbridgefoodanddrink.org

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HEAR THEM ROAR! Fantastic Beasts, Margam Park 27 May, 10am–5pm Join Captain Voyage as he explores Honopopo Island and its amazing, theatrical beasts. Also on this weekend and providing a colourful backdrop: the International Kite Festival. Adults £9, over 2s £7, family 2+2 £30.

FAIRYTALE CASTLE Summer Of Stories, Castell Coch 27 May, 11am–4pm It’s hard to imagine a more wonderful location for a celebration of storytelling.

Drop in and cosy up to hear myths and legends that will send little imaginations soaring. 30-minute sessions free with entrance to castle.

CRAFTY IN THE CASTLE Crafternoons, Caerphilly Castle 28–31 May, 2–4pm Combine culture and art on a half term day out by exploring Caerphilly Castle then settling down to a craft session, making amazing stuff in this fantastic historical setting. Craft sessions free with castle ticket.

www.margamcountrypark.co.uk

www.cadw.gov.wales

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We strive to make sure all information is up to date, but things can change at the last minute.

To avoid disappointment, please check with the organisers before you set off.

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A MODEL SHOW Wallace & Gromit, St David’s Hall 1 Jun, from 12pm Model your own Gromit under the watchful eye of Aardman Studio experts, before heading into theatre to watch Wallace and his canine companion perform a musical masterpiece.

Tickets from £16. Suitable for 7+.

BEHIND THE BADGE Open Day, Gwent Police 2 Jun, 9.30am–4.30pm Watch a riot in action, meet the legendary canine heroes and see a firearms display at this action-packed day celebrating the incredible work of our emergency services. There’s a kids’ zone too with inflatables, music and ice cream.

LIFE’S A BEACH Beach Academy Family Fest, Rest Bay 8 Jun, 2–5pm Pop to Porthcawl and celebrate World Oceans Day with bushcraft, wildlife discovery, nature art and beach sports on the sands. If all that sea air doesn’t tire them out, nothing will. £10 per person.

Under 18-mths free.

www.stdavidshallcardiff.co.uk

www.gwent.police.uk

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A SWEET TREAT Homebake, Cake & Sugarcraft Show 15 Jun, 10am–4pm Nelson’s answer to the Great British Bake Off is paradise for sweet tooths. Local food and drink providers will descend on Nelson’s Llancaiach Fawr Manor for a wonderful day of competitive baking.

Adults £5, children go free.

CARDIFF’S BIG WEEKEND Tafwyl, Cardiff Castle 22–23 Jun, 11am–10pm The annual Welsh language arts and culture festival Tafwyl, is back and bigger than even before, with a lively mix of music, literature, drama, comedy, art, sport, food and drink. Everyone is welcome — Welsh speaker or not.

STREET PARTY Rhiwbina Summer Festival 29 Jun The theme for this year’s colourful village fete is the periodic table, currently celebrating its 150th anniversary.

So between all the ice creams, hot dogs and donkey rides, the kids might just learn something too.

www.llancaiachfawr.co.uk

www.tafwyl.org

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WATER LOT OF FUN! Aqua Park, Cardiff Bay 29 Jun–8 Sep A giant inflatable water park, featuring trampolines, blast bags, slides, climbing walls and monkey bars is set to land on the barrage and it looks awesome!

Tickets £20. Wetsuits provided.

Suitable for 6+.

MAGIC AND MAYHEM Ben & Holly Live, New Theatre 6–7 July, times vary If your tot isn’t already obsessed with Ben & Holly, they will be after seeing the live musical. From the makers of Peppa Pig, expect lots of laughs as the elf and fairy princess plan a surprise party for the king.

From £11. 18months+.

CLASSIC DAY OUT Family Prom, St David’s Hall 21 Jul, 3pm This year’s weather-themed family prom sees Cardiff Philharmonic Orchestra take the stage by storm with a fabulous introduction to classical music for young people. Adults £12.50, under 16s £7.50, under 5s free.

www.aquaparkgroup.co.uk/cardiff

www.newtheatrecardiff.co.uk

www.stdavidshallcardiff.co.uk

Images: Hay Festival: Elisabeth Broekaert. Cowbridge Food & Drink: Picjumbo. Castell Coch: 2019 CADW. Crafternoons: Kelly Sikkema/Unsplash.

Homebake Show: Brian Chan/Unsplash. Tafwyl: Kristina Banholzer. Rhiwbina: Chris Lawton/Unsplash. www.familiesonline.co.uk

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NEWS AND VIEWS news in brief

Ditching the car for the school run During National Walk To School Week (20–24 May), UK families are encouraged to experience the big differences that come from small steps: from healthier and happier children, to fewer cars outside the school gates. Classroom packs are available containing wallcharts, stickers and diaries. www.livingstreets.org.uk/wtsw

Christ College Brecon pupils ditch mobile phones Pupils at one of Wales’ leading independent schools are going phonefree on Fridays, following an assembly on the impact of phone dependency on emotional development and wellbeing.

As a result of the address by Christ College Brecon’s Deputy Head, 90% of pupils from each house have chosen to hand in their phones and take a break from tech.

Deputy Head Simon Hill said: ‘The phone-free Friday initiative provides pupils with a choice and I am delighted with the positive feedback they are giving me. We

have all seen the benefits of the reduced time they have spent on their phones. Pupils’ interactions

Readers prefer Families Mags to the Internet!

Families Magazines’ latest UK-wide survey found that 79% of readers use their local magazine to research ideas for family activities, and classes and clubs for children.

Many of you also told us that you find it easier to plan family activities and entertainment using Families Magazine than using

the internet, with a common complaint being the ‘endless trawling’ that digital research involves. More than 70% of our readers also say they’re highly likely to respond to advertising in our magazines. Fabulous news for advertisers and readers because it means we can carry on making the magazine better and better.

Protection for returning mums

To take part in our reader forum, email info@familiesmagazine.co.uk with your name, phone number and post code.

New parents returning to work could receive greater protection from redundancy.

Government proposals suggest returners be protected from redundancy for a minimum of six months. One in nine women are fired or made redundant after returning to work, or are treated so badly they feel forced out of their jobs.

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Putting climate change on the curriculum Teachers in Wales are invited to become the first climate change educators accredited by the UN. The programme will use innovative learning technology so teachers can train on the go, to share the latest climate change news with their students. If you work in a school or want to get your child’s school involved visit www.unccteacheracademy.com 6 Families Cardiff & Vale May/June 2019

increase markedly during lunch and after school on phone-free Fridays.’

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Caerphilly’s Big Cheese is back, and this year’s festival has a contemporary new look and layout.

There’ll be street food vendors, a live music lounge bar, chill out beach zone, three huge food halls stuffed with local fare, and live demonstrations from a celebrity chef. As well as the star attraction — the cheese market featuring local and regional producers.

Caerphilly Council’s Events Officer, Stacy Francis, says: ‘The Big Cheese has always been about the food, but this year we’re taking it up a level.

We have over 25 exciting new vendors with show cooking, from paella to Mexican hot food.

There’s a feast to be had!’

Caerphilly Castle plays host with free entry all weekend. There’ll be medieval re-enactments within the castle grounds, live music and a packed programme in The Great Hall. 26–28 July 2019. bigcheesecaerphilly.co.uk

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SCHOOL’S OUT

Benefits of Summer Camps

By Andrew Campbell

‘Even timid children are soon concocting crazy reactions and testing forces with new friends. It’s a great opportunity for kids to socialise in a safe, inclusive environment, honing new skills away from a setting focussed on progression and attainment.’

Rhys, Operations Manager, Mad Science

Summer camps provide huge peace of mind for working parents, but they’re amazing for kids too.

Time to get moving!

Much of a child’s time at school is spent sitting behind a desk, so spending the day running around, swimming, hiking or playing sport gives children a great chance to burn off energy, and induce all those feel-good hormones exercise unleashes.

Develop new talents & confidence At some camps, children may be given the opportunity to learn skills and take part in activities they’ve never encountered before. Learning archery, watercolour painting or lacrosse may help children discover talents and interests they didn’t know they had. Discovering new talents and skills will, in turn, help children to grow in confidence and self-esteem.

Get social And no, we’re not talking about Facebook! Camps encourage children to step away from screen time and engage with others from different schools, areas and backgrounds.

It’s a great enabler for new friendships and developing longterm social skills.

Will I be able to use Childcare Vouchers or claim Tax Credits?

You may be able to claim tax credits to help pay for your child’s summer activities.

If the provider is registered and regulated then you can claim as you would for an after-school club or childminder Parents enrolled in the Childcare Voucher scheme can also use their vouchers to subsidise the cost of summer childcare options including camps and courses.

However, the provider must be registered and be prepared to accept vouchers.

More at www.gov.uk/childcarecalculator

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‘Holiday schemes are a great way to explore a variety of new activities and to learn new skills as well as immersing in existing favourites.

Children are stimulated mentally and physically and end up making life-long friendships. We aim to create holidays to remember!’

Kay, Manager, Action Pak

Develop independence Giving children the freedom to make decisions and plan their own time, away from Mum, Dad and the normal way of life, is a fantastic way for them to learn to be independent.

Enjoy the outdoors As much as we all love the thought of our kids running free, climbing trees and building camps in the great outdoors, modern life doesn’t always allow for this to be the norm. Summer camps are a great way to ensure your child enjoys outdoor adventures this school holiday.

Role models and mentors Often the instructors on summer camps provide a rare opportunity

for a child to interact with an adult who is not part of the family unit or a teacher. Their leader should be trained to care for them, offer them support and advice when needed, and always be there for them throughout their attendance.

Play time!

At summer camps children have the chance to just be children, away from the pressures of school, social media and the commercial world.

SUMMER CAMPS NOT TO MISS

Action Pak

Our summer holiday scheme provides a fun, stimulating break from school.

Age appropriate timetables balance creativity and fitness with a huge array of activities, including cooking, arts and crafts, field and table sports, swimming and much more.

Specialist instructors teach drama, archery, dance and climbing, while regular daytrips provide many more adventures. Based at Whitchurch High School, we offer summer care for children aged 4-14, at £36 per day with siblings discounted at £31. www.action-pak.co.uk

Mad Science Join Mad Science as we blast off with an action-packed programme of awesome experiments and dramatic demos!

Enter our world of science wonderment, sign up today and join the UKs most loved summer programmes. From rip roaring rocketeering, to going crazy for

chemical reactions…we have it all, packaged into a bustling camp schedule. No two days are the same.

Camps guarantee to entertain the kids for the whole summer. Having so much fun they forget they’re learning! www.madsciencecamps.co.uk www.familiesonline.co.uk

ASK THE EXPERT

How do I become

a less ‘shouty’ parent?

Welsh government figures show that 69% of mums and dads resort to shouting in response to challenging behaviour.* If you’re the Mum or Dad who keeps ‘losing it’ with the kids, know it’s normal, and that it can change, says Cardiff-based parent educator, Miranda Webb.

As I tucked my son into bed, I promised I wouldn’t be a ‘Shouty Mummy’ tomorrow.

He shrugged, unconvinced. Downstairs, I wallowed in the guilt and shame of another day where all my good intentions flew out the window, of battles and shouting that highlighted how I didn’t want to parent.

Compounding my guilt and shame was the knowledge that I knew better — I’d studied child psychology, and I supported new parents as a career. Yet here I was, struggling.

A lot of time, reading and reflecting later, I saw that if I wanted to have a positive effect on my child’s behaviour, I needed to start with myself. By identifying those behaviours that pushed my buttons and made me see red, I was able to parent from a more effective place.

Behaviour is communication When a child is misbehaving, the reality is often that they’re having a problem, rather than being a problem. If there’s a tantrum every time you pick up the phone to make a call, perhaps your child is feeling disconnected, missing your attention. Think back to some behaviours that got you shouting. What was your child really ‘asking’ for in that moment?

A hug? Independence? Acknowledge the need to find a better response that doesn’t involve shouting. In the phone call example, this might be, ‘You feel left out? Come and sit next to me while I chat’. If the need can’t be met instantly, the acknowledgement of it can help you cope.

Exploring your sore spots A study found that parents are more likely to resort to smacking if their child’s behaviour 10 Families Cardiff & Vale May/June 2019

is perceived as embarrassing, out of control or dangerous.* That’s revealing, because our response — whether it’s smacking or shouting — is often a reaction to how we’re viewing our child’s behaviour.

Recognise that your ‘buttons’ are sore spots to do with the beliefs you were brought up with, coupled with your present environment.

For example, if you were raised to eat everything on your plate, you may react badly when your child ‘wastes’ food, rather than connecting with them over their appetite and tastes. You needn’t necessarily change your values around food. By simply asking ‘Oh, looks like you’re not hungry/don’t like the peas – is that right?’ your child will feel heard.

We often make assumptions about what older children ‘should’ be able to do. Check your assumptions. Ask your child what’s getting in the way of them doing something, then problem solve together.

What’s taking up brain space?

If your brain is full you can’t think effectively.

Write down everything that’s taking up mind space, then allot time for planning those meals or setting up that direct debit to free yourself up from thinking about it. Right

now, you might be thinking, ‘That’s all well and good, but what about when my child is hitting his brother or swearing at me in the supermarket? WHAT THEN?’ Think back to the point about the behaviour as communication.

Address the feeling your child is acting on. In a serious situation where your child or someone else might come to harm, you need to make it safe: ‘I can see you’re furious, I’m taking you outside because your hitting is not ok and hurts’. When calmer you can address what was going on and find other ways to deal with it.

Finding forgiveness It’s great you recognise that losing it with your child isn’t helpful. Forgive yourself. You’re a container for your child’s ‘big feelings’, but yours need to be acknowledged too. Find an outlet – physical exercise or a supportive ear.

It’s also important to tell your child that you’re sorry. There is great healing power in doing this. Sometimes we get it wrong and that’s ok.

It’s how we learn from it that counts. *The Attitudes of Parents towards Managing Young Children’s Behaviour (published 2018).

Miranda Webb Miranda has trained with parenting coach Bonnie Harris to deliver a ‘buttons’ course to help parents build better connections with their child, from toddler to teen, with group and one-to-one mentoring options available. www.mirandawebb.co.uk @thelessshoutymum

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MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Growing a green family Wales already has the third highest recycling rate in the world for household waste. But filling our green sacks is just one part of the picture. From the fabulous team at Green Squirrel, read on for fresh inspiration for a greener family life.

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Choose to refuse

Straws and coffee cups stay in soil and sea for hundreds of years, killing wildlife and contributing to climate breakdown. Saying ‘no’ is a small habit with a big impact.

Make up a little bag with reusable cups and cutlery and keep it somewhere easy to grab as you head out.

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Cloth nappies have come a long way – no soaking, boiling or safety-pinning required! In the UK, we use 8 million nappies each day. Switching to reusable just one day a week will save 24 stinky bin bags over a child’s life in nappies. Pre-loved cloth bamboo or cotton nappies can save you money too.

They can have a devastating impact on farm animals, birds and sea creatures. For your next celebration or fundraiser switch to paper pompoms, reusable bunting, candles or treeplanting, and encourage your school to do same.

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Clean up your community

Group litter picks help kids make the connection between consumption and environmental harm, while showing them that acting together makes a difference.

Keep an eye on Keepwalestidy. cymru and Facebook.com/ ValeCoastalCleanup for events near you.

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RSPB, Beach Academy Wales and Growing Street Talk run outdoor events for young people and families. Pugh’s Garden Centres’ workshops teach gardening skills through exploration, craft and games. Find out what’s on at your local city farm or community garden too.

Images: Boy in yellow coat: RSPB. Recycling container: WRAP.

Repair, borrow and swap

Take your broken things to repair cafes where amazing volunteers will try to fix them for free. Sign up to Benthyg. org, Cardiff’s library of things, to borrow tools, camping gear, baby stuff and loads more.

Boost your recycling

Residents in Rhiwbina have set up a scheme to recycle crisp packets, beauty and cleaning packaging, contact lens blister packs, coffee pods, toothbrushes and more.

Visit TerraCycle.co.uk to create a recycling drop point in your area.

Love your little rotters

Compost bins can be bought cheaply from your local council, making composting possible in even tiny gardens.

Kids will love observing creepy-crawlies turn leftovers into valuable plant food.

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Albany Road, Cardiff has its own zero waste store! Ripple Living offers over 120 loose products, helping you save money and packaging. Take along some empty containers and get the kids involved in scooping and weighing.

Speak up

Your family’s voice is powerful. Tweet or email companies asking what actions they’re taking to make their products more sustainable, sharing what you learn with friends and family.

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Read to get inspired

Storytime is perfect for getting kids excited by the role they play in protecting their world.

Preschoolers will enjoy Bee and Me by Alison Jay and Duffy’s Lucky Escape by Ellie Jackson. One World

by Michael Foreman and World Without Fish By Mark Kurlansky are beautiful books for key stage one and two respectively.

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Connect with nature

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Directory CLASSES & CLUBS Forte School Of Music (Llandaff) Immersing little people in music has proven intellectual benefits. Best of all, it’s loads of fun!

Introduce babies to new sounds; encourage tots to explore music; develop your older child’s instrumental abilities with small classes or solo tuition. Adult lessons available. Book your free taster class. t: 029 2063 1340 e: fortecardiff@fortemusic.co.uk

SWIMMING Cwac Cwac’s Our bilingual classes provide a fun and safe swimming experience for your little one, while also offering an introduction to the Welsh language through song and play. We offer classes for each stage of the swimming journey: Baby Ducklings (0-2 years) is a lovely bonding experience for parent and child; Little Ducklings (2-3 years) promotes independence and confidence in the water; Mighty Ducks (3-4 years) teaches enhanced swimming and safety skills. Our Sun-Fri timetable of over 50 classes takes place at the Holiday Inn, Cardiff North, CF15 7LH. Puddle Ducks Swimming facilitates development of crucial higher brain functions, core muscles and coordination. We provide fabulous, child-led baby and preschool lessons from 0–4 years. Join any time; no need to wait for start of a term. Our highly trained and qualified teachers are experts at identifying children’s levels of ability and adapting activities to the individual, nurturing confidence and encouraging natural ability. Lessons at Novotel Cardiff CF10 (Mon&Fri); Maes Ebbw School NP20 (Wed); DW Fitness NP20 (Sat); Mercure Cardiff Holland House CF24 (Sun); Llanhennock Lodge NP18 (Sun).

Call 07852 475906 or email southeastwales@puddleducks.com More info at www.puddleducks.com/cardiff

SCHOOL OPEN DAYS Situated within the Brecon Beacons National Park, Christ College is an independent co-educational boarding and day school, founded in 1541. In 2018, Christ College pupils excelled in the new linear GCSEs, achieving an overall 94% pass rate. These outstanding results follow an ‘excellent’ Estyn inspection of Christ College, in which the school achieved the highest score possible in all five areas of judgement. Today, the college welcomes 385 pupils aged 7-18.

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Our next open day takes place on 21st September 2019.

To register please contact the admissions registrar, Mrs Margaret Stephens, on 01874615440, or via email on admissions@ christcollegebrecon.com

PARTIES Superbowl UK Cardiff We’re the ultimate party venue, offering birthday packages for all ages to suit every budget. Keep things fun with bowling or laser quest. We can provide invitations, party pizza platters, face painting, party games and a dedicated host. Book online, in centre or over phone.

Prices from £11.50 per child. Weekday discounts available. Located in Stadium Plaza, Wood Street, CF10 1LA. 02922 331 333. cardiff@superbowluk.co.uk. www.superbowluk.co.uk/cardiff/

PREGNANCY AND POSTNATAL National Childbirth Trust (NCT) Local services www.nct.org.uk/branches/Cardiff NCT Yoga for pregnancy drop-in: Every Monday 7–8.30pm, Ararat Centre, Plas Treoda, Whitchurch, CF14 1PT. NCT Antenatal Courses: Courses available in Newport, Caerphilly, Canton, Whitchurch, Llanishen, Roath, Penarth, Cowbridge.

NCT Breastfeeding weekly drop-in support: Every Thursday 1–3pm, Ararat Centre, Plas Treoda, Whitchurch, CF14 1PT. NCT ‘Early Days’ – Postnatal course for new mums Whitchurch and Canton venues.

NCT Baby Massage courses Llanishen and Penarth.

NCT Bumps & Babies group facebook.com/NCTCardiff/ Maes Y Coed Community Centre, CF14 Llanhilleth Miners Institute, Abertillery NCT Prams in the park facebook.com/NCTCardiff/ Every Thursday, Terra Nova Café, Roath Park NCT Red Cross baby first aid facebook.com/NCTCardiff/

The Nest The Nest Birth and Baby Studio in Llanishen is a safe and judgement-free zone for new mums, and home to The Daisy Foundation’s baby massage and yoga classes, run by fully-qualified and accredited perinatal supporter Laura Livingstone.

Mon 11am: baby yoga 4-8 mths; 12.20pm: baby massage/postnatal support for 0-5 mths; 1.30-3.30pm: informal drop-in coffee afternoon for mums and babies up to 2 years, £3.

Tues 1pm: baby massage.

Thurs: Coffee and chat with perinatal specialists; £6.

1pm: baby sensory play, story, rhyme for 8-18 mths). Book at thedaisyfoundation.com/ teacher/laura-livingstone/.

The Pregnancy Studio Cardiff’s first pop up pregnancy event holds regular socials where you can meet other mums-to-be, and hear from expert speakers who’ll guide you through pregnancy and the early days of motherhood.

Find us on Facebook and Instagram @thepregnancylounge.

Blog coming soon: www.thepregnancyandbabylounge.co.uk

BUY AND SELL MARKETS Kidsmarkets Nearly New Sales Buy and sell a huge selection of great quality pre-loved children’s toys, clothes and baby equipment. Stock up for summer at a fraction of the usual price! We’ll have thousands of items for boys and girls from 0-7 years, from woollies & wellies to buggies, cots and every type of toy imaginable! Please bring babies in carriers/sling if at all possible to avoid congestion at the venue.

Secondhand Stalls £18, £1.50 entry adults, kids free!

Sun 12 May, 11am–12.30pm, Cowbridge Comprehensive School, Aberthin Road, Cowbridge, CF71 7EN Sat 22 Jun, 11am–12.30pm, Howells School Sports Hall, Llandaff, CF5 2YD. www.kidsmarkets.co.uk

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LITTLE BOOK WORMS

Older children love read-aloud time too

Expand your grown-up bookshelves and boost your child’s future IQ. Teens who grow up in a home filled with books perform higher in literacy and numeracy tests. The library of mum and dad needs a minimum 80 books to be effective, according to the study by the Australian National University.

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Books to inspire the next generation

The number of children being read to from birth has increased by almost 50% over the last five years, but new research shows read-aloud time drops off dramatically at age 6. Studies by Scholastic conclude that children who are read to develop stronger vocabularies, increased attention spans and higher emotional intelligence. Older children also love the closeness of snuggling up with a book, with 85% of children aged 6–14 saying they love having this special time together.

Percentage of parents who read aloud to their child 5-7 days a week Age 0-2: Age 3-5:

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Picture book challenges gender norms While riding the New York subway with his grandmother, Julian can’t take his eyes off three beautifully dressed women. Back home, he designs his own fabulous mermaid costume. Smashing through gender stereotypes (author and illustrator Love was inspired by the lack of books for gendernonconforming children), this tender tale, shortlisted for the Waterstones Children’s Prize, teaches valuable lessons about

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To celebrate the Hay Festival’s 32nd birthday — and the role literature plays in inspiring the next generation of world changers — organisers of the Welsh book festival are attempting to draw up a list of the 32 most inspirational reading recommendations for young people. The list will draw on public nominations, and can include all genres, fiction and non-fiction, old and new publications, with the final list revealed in late May.

BOOK OF THE MONTH

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MY FAMILY LIFE

Lucy Owen The broadcaster and children’s author lives in the Vale of Glamorgan with her husband,11-year-old son Gabriel, and their cavapoo.

Home is...

Cowbridge. I love the sense of community here.

What’s your wake-up call?

Around 7am. That probably sounds quite civilised but I find it a struggle. I work late shifts and get this adrenaline rush late at night, so by the time I drive home from Llandaff and try to relax, bed is quite late.

Favourite book to read aloud?

A short picture story called Not Now, Bernard by David McKee, which I’ve been reading Gabe since he was really young.

Bernard tries telling his parents that there’s a monster in the garden but they’re too busy to notice. It’s funny, but also quite a sobering lesson for preoccupied parents.

Last family day out?

The beautiful St Quentin’s Castle [pictured above] on the way to Llanblethian is somewhere we love going for a walk with the dog and some fresh air. Even though it’s right on top of Cowbridge.

It’s kind of a hidden gem.

Retail therapy?

I love the local independent shops on Cowbridge High Street, [pictured below] so full of character. It’s hard for our high streets right now so we support local whenever we can.

Eating out?

My son has a bit of a taste for the wood-fired pizzas that are going on locally at the minute.

Best parenting advice you’ve ever been given?

I remember angsting over something once and someone turned around and said “But is your son happy?” As parents we get so caught up in doing the best we can and the kids doing brilliantly at school, but really what matters is that they’re enjoying life.

Last time your child surprised you?

We were walking through Cardiff recently, and Gabe was genuinely moved and upset to see homeless people. I was surprised how affected he was, but pleased that he has that sense of injustice and concern for others.

What’s a good day?

I’ve been broadcasting on television for more than 25 years and feel so lucky to be in people’s living rooms on a regular basis.

And writing creatively is a really lovely contrast to working as a journalist and dealing in hard facts. Having time with my son is what really makes a good day though. At the moment we’re reading the latest David Walliams book together, and Gabe’s teaching me how to play Fortnite and do the dances.

What would you do if invisible for a day?

I’d go to school with Gabe and have fun in his class, throwing pencils and drawing on the white board and generally being naughty.

Best local date night?

Honestly can’t remember the last time we had a date night!

Bedtimes are...

Usually a bit chaotic and always later than planned. Gabe knows exactly how to play us - he’ll get chatting about something to delay bedtime. But we always cwtch up for a book. Those are my favourite times.

To do list?

I’ve written another story and I’m waiting to hear whether it’s any good or not!

Work/life balance is...

Always a juggle. I never feel I get

The Sea House by Lucy Owen, illustrated by Rebecca Harry is published by Firefly Press. See page 13 to find out how to win a signed copy.

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Lucy’s first picture book for children, Boo-A-Bog In The Park, is published by Pont Press. Images. St Quentin’s Castle: CADW 2019. Cowbridge High Street: Visit Vale.

it quite right but I’m learning to be less hard on myself. As Gabe gets older I hope he’s quietly proud of what I do and likes the fact I work hard to provide and have a fulfilling career. I hope he understands why I’m not always there. It doesn’t mean I don’t feel the guilt though!

Family mealtimes are...

Rare! I love the idea of screens off and everyone around the table, and we try to do a Sunday roast, but apart from that mealtimes tend to be the better cook trying to rustle up something. I try, but I do have regular kitchen disasters!

Ready... set... bowl!

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ime to put your bowling skills to the test at Superbowl UK Cardiff - there are 12 state-of-the-art bowling lanes. It doesn’t matter how experienced you are, everyone’s welcome! Plus, with bumps and ramps to help - everyone’s got a chance.

The only tricky bit is deciding what to do first! The firm favourite amongst kids (7+) has to be their laser quest experience. Play hide and seek, explore the fog-filled laser arena and score points by zapping your opponents. It’s a low impact sci-fi experience designed to have hearts pumping.

But that’s not all!

Superbowl UK Cardiff also has a

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fun-filled SEGA Amusement Prize Zone with video games, arcades and slot machine to play with. To top it all off you can even book birthday parties for an activity-packed day of fun.

Treat yourself to one of its tasty meals and refreshing drinks at superb low prices. Options include all day breakfasts, sandwiches, basket meals, pizzas, baguettes, jacket potatoes, sharing platters, and a range of burgers.

Adults can enjoy the lounge bar area.

The fully licensed Basement Bar is a terrific location to meet up with friends, work colleagues, or to spend some good-quality family time. There’s a vast range of spirits and mixers, as well as all the soft and hot drinks in addition

to your favourite ice-cold beer, lager and ciders.

Superbowl UK Cardiff is open 9am until late Monday to Sunday, including Bank Holidays. For more information on exclusive offers and to start booking in some family fun, visit the website.

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