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Phoenix General’s Kenny Barrett and Joshua Hahn.

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NEWS 8 Editor’s Note 12 News Briefs 14 Datebook

COMMUNITY 40 42 44 46 48 50 52 54

Without Reservations At the Box Office Opening Nights Recordings Between the Covers Talking Bodies Not That You Asked We The People

OUT & ABOUT 16 Jocks in Drag 18 New Year’s Eve at Stacy’s 28 Greater Phoenix Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce Luncheon 36 New Year’s Eve at Charlie’s 57 Ms./Mr. Phoenix Leather 62 Hustle at Kobalt 64 New Year’s Eve at Bunkhouse

ON THE COVER Joshua Hahn and Kenny Barrett of Phoenix General.

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Generally Speaking Business owners and life partners Kenny Barrett and Joshua Hahn offer a look at both of their worlds.

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Arizona became a state on Valentine’s Day, 1912. Writer Jeffrey Kronenfeld shines a spotlight on some historical groundbreakers who helped inspire change. echomag.com/gender-pioneers-2019

The Relationship Issue!

Keeping life strong and spicy, from the bedroom to the boardroom LGBTQ NEWS, VIEWS AND ENTERTAINMENT | VOL. 30, #5 | ISSUE 713 | FEBRUARY 2019 | COMPLIMENTARY

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Creative Trespassing Tania Katan’s new book offers ways to rekindle the flickering fires in work and life.

BDSM and Polyamory Practitioners discuss their relationships in these lifestyles . There’s a handy resource guide, too!

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Beneath the Hood Photo by Jill Richards Photography.

The Ever-Evolving Self Post transition, 63-year-old Kristina Bachman finds inner peace. echomag.com/kristinabachman-2019

Area auto shop owner and mechanic Bogi Lateiner isn’t just a fixer, she’s a teacher, too. Learn how to have a healthy relationship with your automobile.

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EDITOR’S NOTE

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elationships. They tend to fall under the microscope in February because, like it or not, it’s when we are inundated with all things Valentine’s Day. A special menu here, a bundle of roses there — it’s on many minds. Here at Echo, we thought it would be a great time to roll out The Relationship Issue. Not limited to romantic encounters, we present a few different takes on the benefits — and sometimes complexities — of interconnection.

Our cover story (page 21) has a romantic side. Tamara Juarez takes us inside the desert-inspired boutique, Phoenix General, owned by Kenny Barrett and Joshua Hahn. The two chat about life as both business and life partners, the latter for more than a decade.

On page 24, Tom Reardon talks to author Tania Katan about her new book, Creative Trespassing: How to Put the Spark and Joy Back Into Your Work and Life. If you feel like your relationship with your job is going

south, this book offers innovative ways to reimagine your position and reignite those sparks. Speaking of reimagining, check out Tom’s creative perspectives on some classic albums as they relate to relationships, on page 46.

Michelle Talsma Everson’s piece, BDSM and Polyamory (page 26) examines those lifestyle practices with firsthand accounts from practitioners. Our final feature on page 30 has Ashley Naftule showcasing local mechanic Bogi Lateiner’s passion for auto-related fixing, building, and educating.

If you happen to need a Valentine’s Day gift, Mikey Rox’s gift guide on page 34 has a slew of cool items. Enjoy!

We’ll be back next month with Echo Eats – a delectable food-themed issue.

Amy Young is the managing editor of Echo Magazine. A longtime journalist, her work has appeared numerous publications, regional to international. Please contact her at editor@echomag.com.

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NEWS BRIEFS

Despite the Efforts of Anti-LGBTQ Extremists, ‘Drag Queen Story Time’ Will Go On citizens.” As their suit was being litigated, the library reached an agreement with the court to “stand down” on planning the event, and introduced the form requiring library patrons to disassociate themselves from Drag Queen Story Time.

These baseless and offensive claims would be laughable if they didn’t inflict such real harm on society and on the rights of vulnerable kids and communities in desperate need of acceptance and support.

The Constitution protects all people’s right to practice whatever religion they wish, or none at all. If the Warriors for Christ wanted to organize a meeting to denounce libraries and books, the ACLU would defend their right to do so.

However, contrary to the Warriors for Christ’s rhetoric, gender identity is not a religion and we won’t let them use the legal system to advance their radical brand of intolerance.

From left to right: Drag Queen Storyteller Santana Pilar Andrews, with ACLU of Louisiana clients Amber Robinson and Matthew Humphrey. Photo courtesy of ACLU.

Recently, in response to a lawsuit filed by the ACLU of Louisiana, the Lafayette Public Library agreed to lift its unconstitutional ban on patrons organizing events called Drag Queen Story Time.

This was welcome news for our clients, the LGBTQ community, and everyone in Lafayette who will once again be able to use library space without being unfairly interrogated or censored by library officials.

Drag Queen Story Time was designed by Lafayette residents to give young people diverse, positive role models and to combat harmful gender stereotypes. The goal of the program was to provide children with constructive lessons in inclusion and diversity, while also having a positive impact on literacy.

But when Matthew Humphrey and other Lafayette residents tried to organize the event at the Lafayette Public Library, they were stymied by library officials who refused to allow them to use the space for any event related to Drag Queen Story Time.

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residents that they could be sued if they used the library for that purpose.

The new library policy stemmed from a frivolous lawsuit filed by an antiLGBTQ group called Warriors for Christ, which was trying to block the library from hosting Drag Queen Story Time.

The library’s response to the lawsuit was not only to hold off on any official sponsorship of the event, but to prohibit their patrons from doing so as well.

Recently, the ACLU of Louisiana filed suit, challenging the ban on Drag Queen Story Time as a violation of the First Amendment right to free speech. As the ACLU explained in our suit, it’s a fundamental principle of our democracy that the government can’t discriminate against people — or silence them — based on the content of their speech.

By banning people from using public library meeting rooms for the purpose of organizing a Drag Queen Story Time, library officials were engaging in targeted, viewpoint-based discrimination in violation of the First Amendment.

Adding insult to injury, library officials allowed extremists to usurp the public library to advance their intolerant agenda. The Warriors for Christ argued in their court filings that allowing Drag Queen Story Time would mean “endorsing transgenderism” as a religious ideology and “relegating Christians to second class

But what the Constitution does not give the “Warriors” the right to do is discriminate against, harm, or silence people on the basis of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Nor does it give them the right to banish LGBTQ people from public spaces, as we’ve seen in attempts to do here in Louisiana and across the country.

Last week, it seemed that the library realized the unconstitutionality of their actions and agreed to stop using the form. This was a big victory for the LGBTQ community.

“Too many LGBTQ youth are suffering in communities where they feel they were made wrong. They have to know it gets better,” said the ACLU’s Matthew Humphrey. “Kids who are different have to know it’s okay, and kids who aren’t different have to know it’s okay for other kids to be different. That’s what Drag Queen Story Time is about.”

The Lafayette library and parish have an obligation to protect the rights of everyone they serve. Drag Queen Story Time is a show that must go on. Thankfully, it seems as though the Lafayette Public Library finally recognized that.

Source: ACLU. For nearly 100 years, the ACLU has been our nation’s guardian of liberty, working in courts, legislatures, and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties that the Constitution and the laws of the United States guarantee everyone in this country. news

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The Official Women’s March 2019. Join other advocates to flood the streets and fight for women’s rights. Gather at the Arizona State Capitol, 1700 W. Washington St. in Phoenix. womensmarch.com

Jan. 26

Furry friends unite! Bring your dog(s) to Steele Indian School Park for the Phoenix Doggie Street Festival 2019. This puptastic celebration features vendors, music, speakers, and an art area for kids. The dog party happens from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at 300 E. Indian School Road in Phoenix. phoenix.gov

Jan. 26

Support HIV programs and services at the RipplePHX Winter Carnival.

This inaugural event features games, prizes, and sideshows in a festive carnival setting. Food, entertainment, and amusements are part of the night’s offerings. Did we mention it’s free? Party from 7 p.m. -2 a.m. at Stacy’s @ Melrose, 4343 N. Seventh Ave. in Phoenix.

Jan. 20

That’s SO Gay Comedy Show. LGBTQA comics from around the state gather to make you laugh. The funny event is hosted by Afeelya Bunz. Performers include Gene Moore and Ernesto Ortiz.

Proceeds benefit comedian Danielle Williams who is fighting cancer. Tickets are $10. The hilarity happens at 7 p.m. at The Stir Crazy Comedy Club, 6751 N. Sunset Blvd., Suite E-206, in Glendale. stircrazycomedyclub.com

Phoenix Pride has a scholarship program and Fans to Favorites is an event that benefits that endeavor. At this charitable shindig, local drag fans turn into their favorite local drag performers and entertain the crowd. Find out how they do from 8-10 p.m. on January 31 at The Rock, 4129 N. Seventh Ave. in Phoenix.

Feb. 10

The one*n*ten Fresh Brunch is a great reason to get up early. The morning event unites Phoenix’s LGBTQ and straight alliance communities. It’s also a time to celebrate achievements and talk about what’s in store for the next year. Join from 9:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. at the Phoenician Resort, 6000 E. Camelback Road in Phoenix. onenten.org/fresh 14

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Jan. 31

Are you fierce? Find out at the Fierce Friends Night Out Mixer. This rooftop dance party will also give you the opportunity to sign up for Aunt Rita’s AIDS Walk 2019. Hit the dance floor with members of the Imperial Court of Arizona from 7-10 p.m. at the Clarendon Hotel, 401 W. Clarendon in Phoenix. facebook.com/groups/fiercefriendsofphoenix

Lasso up — it’s time for the 34th Annual Arizona Gay Rodeo. Enjoy a variety of traditional rodeo events, including roping, bucking broncs, and chute dogging. Don’t miss out on the Wild Drag Race and performances by special guests from RuPaul’s Drag Race. Tickets are $15 and it happens at the Corona Ranch and Rodeo Grounds, 7611 S. 29th Ave. in Laveen.

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It’s a new date and time for the 2019 AIDS Walk Arizona & 5K Run. This is the largest gathering in the state to support people living with HIV and to raise community awareness. Bring your dog and join Paws for the Cause — a dog-friendly portion of the event.

Visit the website to register. The Walk happens from 3-8 p.m. at Tempe Beach Park at Tempe Town Lake, 265 W. Rio Salado Parkway in Tempe. auntritas.org

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New Year’s Eve

Dec. 31 at Stacy’s @ Melrose, Phoenix.

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Generally Speaking: Kenny Barrett and Joshua Hahn Boutique owners and life partners discuss work/life balance

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unning a small business is no easy task. It requires a lot of attention, patience, and love — much like a child. The parallels between the two is not lost on Kenny Barrett and his partner Joshua Hahn, owners of Phoenix General, a stylish boutique that specializes in selling locally sourced goods that invoke a desert aesthetic.

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“You’re constantly taking care of it, thinking about it, and you can’t really forget about it,” says Hahn. “It’s our baby.”

This year, the store will be celebrating its third anniversary since its grand opening in June 2016 while Barrett and Hanh celebrate 11 years of partnership both in business and in life.

“Sure, sometimes it can be a little too much, but it’s really nice to be able to share this experience,” Hahn explained. Starting a business together felt like a natural progression for the pair, and the challenge of building something from the ground up has strengthened their relationship in more ways than one.

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Phoenix General incorporates many of their favorite things, which is evident upon entering the store. Showcasing a variety of home and lifestyle gifts, handcrafted jewelry, and diverse fashion, the small boutique reflects a sense of artistry inspired by Phoenix’s iconic desert metropolis.

When deciding on a concept for the store, Barrett ensured that the store stayed true to each of their passions: art, sustainability and community service.

Before moving to Phoenix in 2006, Barrett took a year off to study contemporary arts in Barcelona, where he found inspiration and a renewed love for the arts that drives his current vision for Phoenix General and its place within the local arts community.

“I went to business school and I was basically fried after that, because I am a creative person,” he said. “I got really in touch with that part of myself while in Spain, but when I came back to Phoenix,

I had a bit of culture shock, because Phoenix wasn’t so vibrant back in 2006.

There just wasn’t a lot going on.”

In addition to selling quality goods, Barrett and Hahn hope to build cultural vibrancy in Phoenix by building bridges between small businesses and the arts district here in Phoenix.

Past the register at the back of the boutique, visitors can enter Shortcut Gallery, where the couple highlight the art of local and national artists, such as Carrie Marrill and the Fortoul Brothers, whom they are currently collaborating with to create limited editions products and a unisex clothing line that exhibits that artists’ unique and bold designs.

“There is so much talent here in Phoenix, and it ties in with the store’s desert lifestyle concept,” said Hahn, who love fashion and retail.

“We want to sell the things that we love,” Barrett added, “so we sprinkle

“Working together has really helped with our communication and accountability. We keep each other on the same page and enjoy doing something that we are passionate about,” said Hahn.

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part in more collaborative projects with local artists. However, each goal takes time, and the couple believes in ensuring the quality of products by taking things “nice and steady” as they face new goals and business endeavors.

However, they are both confident in their ability to maintain a successful business and relationship.

“We both have different strengths, which is what I think allows us to go home and still have stuff to talk about,” said Hahn. “Even though we are together during the day, we work independently, and that keeps things interesting.

It makes it feel like we both bring something to the table.”

This is not the first time the two have worked together. Before establishing Phoenix General, Barrett and Hahn operated Roosevelt Growhouse and GROWop Boutique for six years in downtown Phoenix, where it had become a staple of Roosevelt Row. “We’ve worked out all the kinks of the roles we each play,” said Barrett.

“Hahn has learned my strengths and weaknesses, and I have learned his.

We have stepped on each other’s toes enough where we now know how to dance together. When we opened Phoenix General it was much more fluid.”

The key is learning how to give each other space while also being able to prove unconditional support when needed, Hahn explained. “We do try to separate our work and personal life, and making those separations are very important, but at the same time, working together makes things easier — to be able to share that workload — so when one of us is feeling burned out, the other can take over and carry the weight.”

things into our store that are exotic and may not be found anywhere else.

Everything that we do is with intention and with quality focus.”

However, the couple shares a passion for environmentally friendly products, and have a strict buying policy for the products sold at their boutique.

“At Phoenix General, we look at bringing in products that have minimal impact on the environment, minimal social impact, are really ethical and super stylish,” said Barrett, who with his partner hand selects locally made items that are ethically created and sustainably sourced.

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“Nowadays, people ask questions — they want to know the products they buy,” he said. “They want ethical goods, because it’s important.”

Ideally, the couple wants customers to trust and depend on Phoenix General to carry quality goods that are organic, sustainable, ethical and fashionable.

As the store reaches its third year in business, Hahn and Barrett look forward to expanding the selection of products, start their own clothing line, and take

So far, their partnership has been a success, and they each look forward to the years ahead.

Phoenix General, named the 2016 “Best New Boutique” in the Valley by Phoenix New Times, is located in The Colony, a mixed-use development just a few miles north of Roosevelt Row, where the couple’s story first began.

Tamara Juarez s a student at Arizona State University’s Walter Cronkite School of Journalism and Mass Communication. During her spare time she loves to read, hike and make bad puns.

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Tania Katan’s new book offers innovative ways to approach your job By Tom Reardon

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e’ve all been there before.

The clock on the wall seems to be going in the wrong direction and whatever time your shift is scheduled to end seems to be getting farther away, rather than closer by the minute. If there was only some way to make the time go by faster, and even better yet, enjoy the remaining minutes or hours while being productive and doing something that actually makes you look good to your boss. This is a job for “Creative Trespassing” and Tania Katan, who may very well be the human equivalent of an everlasting pyrotechnics display, can show you how to do it.

For the unenlightened, Katan is most certainly explosive and something of a national treasure. In her late 40s, she is both survivor and disruptor, a writer, an ambassador for technology, a lesbian, a playwright, and possibly one of the most inspiring people you could hope to meet.

There is a fitting a line in “A To Z” from British pop band ABC’s 1985 album, How To Be A Zillionaire album where their bass player, David Yarritu sings, “I may be tiny, but I’m strong.”

Katan is both tiny and strong, surviving two bouts with breast cancer, and in the past decade becoming a soughtafter public speaker with a TEDx Talk under her belt, as well as being one of the masterminds behind the #ItWasNeverADress campaign for her former employer, Axosoft.

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To say Katan is busy is an understatement, but after speaking with her it is easy to see why she prefers to keep moving all the time and quite possibly wears a cape: There is work to be done!

As she discusses throughout her new book, Creative Trespassing: How to Put the Spark and Joy Back Into Your Work and Life (Currency), which makes its debut in mid-February, there most certainly is work to be done and the best person to do that work is you. Luckily for us, Katan is there to guide us along the way, sharing her successes and failures, as well as a fair amount of input from her friends, colleagues, and mentors, but this is not your typical “how-to” book.

Creative Trespassing offers the reader something more and feels as if you are receiving a gift from the author in each chapter.

Perhaps this is because Katan grew up feeling like an outsider, which may explain why her book feels more inclusive than other way-to-success tomes. “I thought I was just kind of destined to be an outsider never to fit in. And I didn’t realize that that was actually, that those were the best places to be,” shares Katan. The depth in her writing makes it feel like a shared experience — as if she’s shoulder to shoulder with the reader.

For many outsiders, there is often crippling doubt or fear that creeps in when there is an opportunity to step beyond the comfort zone into a new

job or relationship. Katan teaches us to embrace our fears and doubts in Creative Trespassing by “turning into them” rather than avoiding them, much in the way drivers are taught to turn into a skid. In her eyes, there is often an opportunity to be wildly successful in areas where you may not have been able to see yourself succeeding because of attitude and willingness to think outside of the box. She talks with affection about her time honing her creative trespassing skills while working with the Scottsdale Museum Of Contemporary Art (SMOCA).

“When I first arrived (at SMOCA), I hadn’t worked in a large organization that was pretty corporate in its structure and its roles. And so, one thing they were saying, they were telling me about this thing called ‘employee of the month’ and I’m like, ‘Well, how do I win it?’ Then they were like, ‘You don’t win employee of the month, you earn it.’ And I’m like, ‘Well then I’m going to earn your votes and win.’ And so, I launched a full-scale campaign to, you know, like a political campaign to win employee of the month,” says Katan, who used her campaign to get to know her co-workers.

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she was spreading the word about SMOCA to the community at large.

The term “Creative Trespassing” itself is something Katan coined as she was trying to figure out how to accurately describe exactly what she does for a living. To be able to give that often elusive “elevator pitch,” one must be able to quickly and concisely define their professional skill set without making the listener want to run away.

“I literally sat down several years ago and I’m like, okay, what do I do? And I made a list of words, ‘Am I creative?

Imaginative?’ And I’m like, ‘Well what do I do with them?’ I bring them into places where they don’t belong. ‘Well, what’s that called?’ It’s called a barrier to entry. And then I found trespassing and I’m like, ‘Huh.’ And you know, I took one word from column a, one from column b and it became creative trespassing. I was really happy to work that out and discover those two words together equaled what a lot of people do in the world.”

The book is written in Katan’s distinctive voice which is full of energy, empathy, and wit. This may be jarring, initially, to a reader unfamiliar with Katan’s work and style as many of us are not used to having someone speak to us in this way. She is direct and to the point, but also completely engaging as she takes us through the relationship between creativity and our professional lives.

For example, in chapter 11, which is called “Outgrow Adulting,” Katan talks about the importance of finding your power amulet. It could be that lucky fifty cent piece your grandfather gave you or a favorite pair of socks, but having that extra confidence that comes from having your power amulet (or socks) on your person when you are doing something big is a great way of tapping into your creativity and ruling the day with a little help from your imagination. Katan wrote, “For a long time, my power amulet was a specific pair of socks that I would literally wash every night after a performance, so I could wear them again. That’s how much power those suckers brought to me. Then it was a pair of sneakers.”

(And full disclosure, you’ll never see your author performing music without something green on, even if that article of clothing is not exposed to the audience.)

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For Katan, who has lived in the Phoenix area off and on throughout large portions of her life, this work presented the best kind of challenge as she realized there were two audiences she was writing for as she got further into her writing process.

“One is for, you know, people who do not consider themselves creative, who are working the sort of quote unquote typical jobs and would just like to infuse more joy and imagination into their work. Because this is where we spend sometimes over 40 percent of our lives and then for people who fancy themselves as creatives

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because they will understand that there are more options and places for their creativity to go into,” says Katan.

As we were talking on the phone, Katan posed the question: “What’s the point of writing something that isn’t challenging both to the author and the audience?”

To those who struggle with creativity, the book will be a challenge, but Katan has anticipated these challenges eloquently by adding multiple “Productive Disruption” opportunities throughout the book. These activities are designed to help both creatives and non-creatives alike think outside the box and explore both their working environment and their beliefs about

the way work can be done. The first of these activities involves taking a selfguided tour of your company (or your company’s website) and encourages the reader to truly look for the “tension between the company’s promises (quotes, mission statement, vision, etc.) and the on-the-ground realities.” Once the observations have been made, Katan then challenges you to figure out how to bring the “promises” and “reality” into alignment.

After graduating from Arizona State University (ASU), Katan spent many years living in California, both in the San Francisco Bay area and in Los Angeles. But when her wife, artist Angela Ellsworth was offered a position at ASU, the couple moved back to the Valley in 2005, which was just in time to see Phoenix undergoing a bit of creative trespassing itself.

“And then, you know, Arizona started living up to its promise. (The) Phoenix Metro area started to see art galleries pop up, Roosevelt row started to happen … I would say that it’s interesting because Arizona, Phoenix Metro, is in a moment where they have many choices as to whether or not they want to creatively trespass or whether they want to a go by the way of many cities who haven’t figured out a bridge between creativity and commerce, not a real bridge. And then that equals, you know, displaced artists and human beings,” says Katan, before concluding: “And so, I think it’s a real opportunity we have a lot of cool tech companies that sprung up from Arizona. You have WebPT, you have Tuft and Needle and others. I think that they are actively trying to find tissue or connective tissue between the arts and these companies. I think that the companies that aren’t trying to creatively trespass, unfortunately, are either going to go away or they might find themselves devoid of the very messaging and branding that they’re putting out there.”

Tom Reardon loves to write about people who are doing something to contribute to our community in a positive way. He also loves his family and family of friends, his pets, music, skateboarding, movies, good (and bad) tv, and working with children to build a better world. Tom’s favorite movie is Jaws, his favorite food is lasagna, and he loves to play music with his friends. He’s a busy guy, but never too busy to listen to what you have to say so tell him a story.

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BDSM and Polyamory Firsthand looks at these lifestyle practices

By Michelle Talsma Everson

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riting a story about polyamory and BDSM is like putting together a puzzle without the box top to tell you what it’s supposed to look like. People in both local communities are welcoming and open — excited to share their stories and viewpoints — but mainly under the promise of anonymity. In most cases, it’s not that they’re ashamed, it’s that there are often consequences that can come with being out.

sexual freedom and privacy rights for all adults who engage in safe, sane and consensual behavior. This often means educating professionals such as doctors, lawyers and the like about consensual kink practices. Recently, the organization has seen an uptick in people needing their help. Wright says much of that can be credited to discriminatory language that is now part of popular vernacular due to the current political climate.

“We don’t have a general population survey about kink and BDSM because people are afraid of discrimination and persecution,” explains Susan Wright, a spokesperson for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF). “Just like the LGBTQ+ community, many people who are into kink may be closeted from their family, co-workers, and sometimes even their primary partner.”

BDSM is an umbrella term for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. It encompasses a variety of lifestyles, personal experiences and interpersonal dynamics — from those who keep it to the bedroom to those who are active in local BDSM groups. Polyamory is a relationship/lifestyle choice where you are romantically involved with more than one person at the same time. Both lifestyles are based on the concept of

The NCSF is a national organization whose mission is to fight for the

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consent of all parties involved.

“It might surprise people, but consent is our main focus,” Wright says. “I think if people listen to us, we have a bigger message for society about the importance of consent.”

While it’s hard to have tangible numbers for two lifestyle groups who choose to remain anonymous, FetLife. com, the leading social media website for kinksters, has more than 7 million members worldwide. More than 31,000 people on the website claim to live in the metro Phoenix area. With polyamory it’s also difficult to count numbers, but experts believe millions across the U.S. are in some form of a non-monogamous relationship.

Rather than a BDSM or Polyamory 101, we wanted to hear from those who live their lives in both of these worlds. What follows are honest answers from those who practice either BDSM, polyamory

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— or in many cases — both. All of those we interviewed for this article opted to not share their full names for privacy concerns. Like all forms of personal expression, there are a variety of terms in both the BDSM and polyamory realms that have different meanings.

In this article we use “kink” and “BDSM” interchangeably, but in many cases, they are not. The leather community is also mentioned but is an entirely different subculture on its own. In addition, polyamory is not the only way to have a non-monogamous relationship. This article is but a brief overview of a very intricate topic.

when I was able to date multiple people on my own that I identified as poly.”

Beginning Their Journeys

“The scene” can refer to a variety of things, but often refers to where BDSM activities and gatherings take place in the community. We asked those we interviewed what they would want the average person who is not involved in BDSM to know about the local scene.

How BDSM practitioners and those who consider themselves polyamorous find themselves involved in both lifestyles varies.

Don is a gay man (well, 80-90 percent gay, he says) who says he has “been kinky since the late 1970s, when I started tying myself up at age 12.” “I moved to Phoenix in 1993 after meeting my first long-term gay partner [we were together from 1993 to 2009] and discovered APEX [Arizona Power Exchange] in 1995 through a local publication called The Beat which used to be available in newspaper kiosks around town. Ahh, the pre-internet days of kink.”

Minkari, who describes herself as bisexual and “owned and collared in a poly household,” learned through books and personal experiences. “I read the Beauty books by Anne Rice and discovered BDSM through those. Poly is something I’ve always identified as, even before I knew there was a name for it. I identify equally poly, slave and primal.”

“Geek,” who considers themselves asexual, agendered, and prefers they/ them pronouns, found out through a past relationship. “I was introduced to kink first through a man I was dating.

He was the one that got me onto FetLife and through there I found the local dungeon,” they said. “I have always been non-monogamous. It was only after entering the kink community that I learned and started practicing a more ethical non-monogamy lifestyle. For me the two are equally important for me.”

Katrina discovered kink and poly through the local community. “I was interested in kink at a young age and through trying to explore and understand my interests, I ended up going to a local event. I’ve been involved in the BDSM community ever since,” she says. “I learned about poly after I got involved in the BDSM community. A lot of couples were interested in adding me to their relationship as a triad. It was only FEATURE STORY

Some, like Chris C., who runs a local polyamory Meetup.com group with his wife Maria C., found polyamory by pure luck. “In our case, we fell into polyamory very much by chance,” he says. “Unlike most people, we did not seek out the lifestyle, but we have lived it for almost 20 of the 34 years of our married life. I believe we would be a happy monogamous couple today if we hadn’t stumbled into this lifestyle, but I am tremendously grateful that we did.”

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“MD” identifies as an alternative lifestyler who is in a polyamorous authority transfer relationship with two slaves. “’The scene’ is just average people playing with sexual practices as a vanilla person might play at golf or working with the PTA,” he says. “A few live an alternative lifestyle with a very different idea of relationships, loving, and how to function in society. They are not trying to overthrow the norm, only exist in their own norm.”

“We’re regular people,” Katrina shares. “Not everyone is a high-powered businessman, leggy dominatrix, or meek submissive. Not everyone is in it for sex; some people are not looking for sex at all. It would be very easy to paint anyone who is kinky as a sex lunatic who pays someone to do depraved things, but that simply isn’t going to be the case for 99% of the people involved in BDSM.” “No community is perfect,” shares Geek. “There are problematic people in vanilla life and in the scene. So, trust, but verify. Other community members are your best resources for vetting another person or event in the area. Find a few people whose opinion you trust and check in with them regularly.”

In metro Phoenix, there are often differences between scenes, such as the gay leather scene and the pansexual kinkster scene. Don notes that bars like Anvil, Nutowne and Bunkhouse are BDSM/leather friendly. The leather community within itself is a whole different animal, with groups like the Phoenix Boys of Leather and other local organizations leading the charge. Places like Arizona Power Exchange (APEX) and groups like the GAP can be found on FetLife.com and host regular events for BDSM practitioners.

BDSM and Polyamory Resources There are several local and national resources for BDSM and polyamory. Below are just a few starting points. (This is not a full, comprehensive list as resources are always evolving and being added.)

• FetLife.com: A social network for BDSM and other alternative lifestyles • The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom: www.ncsfreedom.org • Polyamory events on Meetup: www.meetup.com/Arizona-PolyEvents • Arizona Power Exchange: www.arizonapowerexchange.net, the Phoenix metro area dungeon • The Anvil Bar: www.anvilbaraz.com, hosts regular kink/leather/fetish events • Pat O’s Bunkhouse Saloon: www.bunkhousesaloonphx.com, hosts regular kink/leather/fetish events • Phoenix boys of Leather: www.phoenixboysofleather.com • Arizona Men of Leather: www.arizonamenofleather.com • The GAP Arizona: www.thegapaz.com • The Next Generation Arizona: Search for “TNG Arizona” on FetLife.com What about those who practice polyamory without BDSM? In the Valley, groups like “Arizona Polyamory Events” on Meetup.com host regular events.

“We have been operating it [the Meetup. com group] for almost seven years and we have about 1,800 members,” says Chris C. “We have two, three or four events each week, all hosted by members who volunteer. Our events are very diverse. We provide events for education, emotional support, social connection and the opportunity to find relationships. We believe the success of our group is due to the emphasis on creating a real-life community as opposed to an online virtual community” Please visit echomag.com/poly-bdsmfeb-2019 for a complete version of this article, including how to navigate and succeed in these communities.

Michelle Talsma Everson is a freelance writer, editor and PR pro. A graduate of NAU, she’s been writing for Valley publications for more than a decade. You can find out more at mteverson.com.

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Beneath the Hood: 180 Degrees Automotive’s Bogi Lateiner Local mechanic promotes vehicular knowledge

By Ashley Naftule working hard to challenge that preconception.

Real life Rosies aren’t so fortunate.

“I’ve been a technician for 20 years, on national TV, owned my own shop for 12-years,” Sarah “Bogi” Lateiner sighs, “and people still walk up to me and grab my hand to inspect it and say, ‘Do you really work on cars or do you just act on TV’? It’s amazing to me how much I still get that.”

The notion that technical trades are “men’s work” is so deeply ingrained in our culture that even watching Bogi expertly dismantle and restore cars on Velocity TV’s All Girls Garage isn’t enough to convince some men that she’s the real deal. But the Phoenix-based Lateiner is 30

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The name stuck. “My parents even call me Bogi now,” Lateiner says. “Sarah doesn’t even register with me as a name anymore; I don’t respond to it when people say it.”

Bogi graduated from Oberlin College with a double major in Law & Society and Women’s Studies, with a minor in Political Science. But her heart wasn’t in theory— It was in tinkering. Bogi made the fateful decision to move west, planting roots in the Valley to attend the Universal Technical Institute.

“UTI provided me with a great education and helped me get my foot in the door in the industry,” Lateiner says. Bogi didn’t know much about the school; she let other impulses drive her decision to move to Arizona.

“The other schools were in places that were too cold. I had come to Arizona when I was 12 with my parents

Photos courtesy of 180 Degrees Automotive.

H

ow hard were Rosie the Riveter’s hands? Look at that famous symbol, and you’ll see a clenched fist, a curled arm, and fingers rolling up her sleeve — a badass maker, ready to get her hands dirty. But you don’t get to see her finger tips, the hardened skin on the palms, the telltale worn skin of someone who makes their bread working with metal and fire and grease. Rosie must have had powerful hands, working hands, like any good mechanic. Rosie got off lucky: She never had to deal with flesh and blood men demanding to see how “soft” her hands really were.

Born in Flushing, Queens, Bogi is an accomplished mechanic with impressive academic credentials.

Growing up in New Jersey under the care of “hippie parents,” Bogi got her nickname while studying in Hungary. “Bogi is the name of a bug in Hungary,” she says with a laugh. “It’s funny, all the girls I was friends with there were named after bugs. Like my best friend in Hungary — her name meant ‘Snail.’”

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to hike the Grand Canyon. It was so beautiful out here.”

Bogi got lucky with her choice of school, but she admits that it could have gone differently. “Even when I took shop class in high school, it was never presented to me as a potential career path,” she says. “We were never given any information like, ‘Hey, if you want to continue with this, here are some schools that are better choices for you.’”

After becoming a mechanic, Bogi used both her technical skills and her background in social sciences to become an impassioned advocate for women joining the automotive industry. She would go on to open her own shop, 180 Degrees Automotive in Central Phoenix, which is staffed primarily by female mechanics. She also teaches basic classes in car repair and maintenance, showing women important motorist skills like checking air pressure, and how to change tires and air filters.

Bogi is part of a growing awareness

that women have long been pioneers and innovators in technical fields.

Documentaries about the impact that “Powder Puff Derby” women had in NASA and the aviation industry are helping rewrite history books that are dominated by images of daredevil male pilots. Claire Evans, from the band Yacht, authored 2018’s Broad Band, a book that reveals that most of the computer programming and hardware that makes modern civilization came from female scientists and engineers who dominated the field before men took over (and took all the credit). Bogi points out that this dynamic holds true in the automotive industry — while female mechanics may have always been in the minority, women were once heavily enmeshed in the automotive manufacturing industry.

“When men were at war, they basically had to get women to do these jobs,” Bogi explains. “That’s where Rosie the Riveter comes from. And when the men came home from war, they needed those jobs back. So there became this concerted marketing scheme to tell women that they were supposed to be at home to get them out of the workforce, so they could open those jobs up for the men who were coming back.”

Trying to get women to reclaim those jobs, in Bogi’s view, is a question of exposure.

“We don’t think about teaching our little girls how to work with their hands.

I know a lot of women who aren’t in the automobile industry or do any kind of trade but have always wanted to learn; they just never had an opportunity. I had somebody say to me once, ‘you know, maybe there’s not as many women mechanics because women just aren’t interested in doing this work.’ And my reaction to that is, you don’t know you’re interested in something if you’ve never been exposed to it. I don’t know if I like escargot because I’ve never had the opportunity to try it.”

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And while exposure is an important first step, Bogi thinks a big reason why so many people are intimidated by automotive work is the perception that the work itself is too inscrutable and hard to learn.

“There’s also a lot of mystique that people put on technical work,” she says.

“I’m not saying it’s not complicated or difficult, but it can be learnt. A lot of it is just changing your perception. Look at your air filter like you look at the filter in your house or your vacuum cleaner or air purifier. You know when an air filter is dirty, but for some reason when it comes to cars we go, ‘Oh crap, it’s a car!

It’s big and scary, and I don’t understand it.’ So, we stop applying things that we do know. And a lot of things about cars really are applicable to other things in life. When your tire is out of balance, it’s about the same thing as when your dryer is out of balance. That horrible noise the dryer makes when it starts to shake and rock all over the place — it’s the same thing with cars. The weight is out of proportion. Things aren’t in the right place. And when people make that connection, it stops being so scary.”

Last year, Bogi showed off the mechanical prowess of women by building a ‘57 Chevy pickup. She plans to kick off another build this year. And she continues to work tirelessly as a mentor and booster for women who want to get their hands dirty too. It makes her chosen name even more fitting: She has the determination and work ethic of a bug. But while other bugs build webs and hills and honeycombs, she’s busy building cars.

Ashley Naftule is a writer and theater artist from Phoenix, AZ. His work has been published in Pitchfork, Vice, Bandcamp, Phoenix New Times, Popula, Longreads, The Outline, SYFY Wire, AZCentral, and Java Magazine. He’s a resident playwright and artistic director at Space55 Theatre. You can find him at @Emperor_norton on Twitter.

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Jan. 4 at the Bluewater Grill, Phoenix.

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Heart On: A Valentine’s Gift Guide for LGBTQ Lovers Show the love for your someone special with these affordable gifts that go straight for the feels

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Four Films In Theaters This Month

By Tuesday Mahrle

Cold Pursuit

In theaters February 8 | Not yet rated | Action, Thriller

Cold Pursuit is a remake of a Norwegian film titled In Order of Disappearance. Quiet family man and hard-working snowplow driver Nels (Liam Neeson) is the local star of a high-end resort town in the Rocky Mountains because he keeps the winter roads clear. He and his wife must leave their small town to claim the body of their son. While coroners declare his son died of an overdose, Nels goes after the drug lords who may have murdered him. With nothing to lose, Nels shakes up a turf war between rival gangs while seeking vengeance for his son’s death.

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In theaters February 8 | R | Horror, Thriller

In theaters February 13 | PG- 13 | Comedy, Romance

After her son Miles starts exhibiting disturbing behavior, Sarah (Taylor Schilling) seeks the help of a therapist.

With an evil, supernatural force possibly possessing him, Sarah must choose between her love for Miles and protecting the rest of her family. Jackson Robert Scott, the breakout star from Stephen King’s film adaption of the novel It, plays young Miles.

Jaded Natalie (Rebel Wilson), an architect living in New York, is disenchanted with love and rom-coms. She’s barely noticed at work and even less when she’s around men. While the lifelong cynic encounters a mugger, Natalie is rendered unconscious, waking to discover she is in the middle of her worst nightmare — a romantic comedy.

Even worse, Natalie is the leading lady with beautiful men in a PG-13 filter.

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Walking the Journey with Connor and Benji

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onnor Wince began his professional theatre career in 2006 as Chip in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast at Broadway Palm Dinner Theatre in Mesa, AZ. “At the time, I was truly on top of the world thinking about being paid each week to be in a show!”

Now, he is touring the country with Betty Buckley in Hello, Dolly! Visiting his parents over the Christmas holiday with his partner, Broadway dancer Benjamin Rivera, Connor opened up to Echo about his life in the theatre and his relationship with his family and “Benji.”

Wince: I graduated from Arizona State University with my degree in Journalism and Mass Communication. After that I moved to New York City to attend Pace University and study musical theatre. I only stayed at Pace for one school year before I felt my calling in

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He appeared in the world premiere and pre-Broadway run of Moulin Rouge the Musical! and was recently featured in Rent Live on Fox TV. This June, he will open on Broadway in Moulin Rouge!]

Benjamin Rivera. Photos courtesy of Connor Wince and Benjamin Rivera.

the professional world and left to start working.

Echo: What are the highlights of your professional career?

Wince: My first job after leaving Pace was at Sacramento Music Circus. This past summer, I was able to be a part of the pre-Broadway run of Moulin Rouge the Musical. Hello, Dolly! has to be the biggest pride of my career. I love sharing this story with people across the country. It often feels like such a gift to be paid to see incredible cities. On top of that, the show is such a story of joy.

My favorite line in the show is, “Isn’t the world full of wonderful things?”

Echo: Speaking of wonderful things, tell us about your partner Benji.

[Benji appeared in National Tours of Anything Goes, Elf the Musical, Dirty Dancing, and The Bodyguard before making his Broadway debut in Aladdin.

Wince: Benji and I have been together for eight months and met at our audition for Moulin Rouge. We were in auditions for that show what seemed like every other day and were also rehearsing for the Broadway Cares Easter Bonnet fundraiser that happens in New York every spring. We ended up spending so much time together over those few weeks we decided to go on a date afterward and then just never stopped spending our time together. Since then, we have gotten to travel to Boston together for Moulin Rouge and he comes to see me as much as he can on the road.

Echo: Benji, how has being in a relationship changed your life?

Rivera: I am 26 years old and I think I have a spent a lot of my time after college only focusing on my career.

Always focusing on the next job and what it takes to get there, So, meeting Connor and being in a relationship has totally switched my dreams and goals for my life. I see a future with him and I see both of us chasing our dreams together and building each other up the entire way. Basically, I have found my life teammate and my priorities are now him first, and that feels like I spend more time slowing down and being a human first and a performer second. I absolutely love how that feels!

Echo: Connor, how supportive have your parents been of your career and your relationship with Benji?

Wince: My parents have always been extremely supportive of my career. My Mom [Stacy] listens to my phone calls after just about every audition and never gets tired of hearing how it went.

And trust me, there have been a lot of auditions.

My parents have always strived to be understanding of my personal life. I think our relationship has come leaps and bounds since I was 18 and came out to the world. That isn’t to say we have not had our disagreements and times of strife because of my personal life. I try to never judge anyone and expect the same thing from my parents.

Connor Wince. Photos courtesy of Connor Wince and Benjamin Rivera.

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Today, my Mom is my therapist when it comes to relationships. And she was the first one to tell me to pursue Benji, so I think I will forever be thankful of that advice. I also can’t thank them enough for how they love Benji. He has really become one of the family, and that is the greatest gift to me. After all, all I want is for him and I to be part of the family, just the same as my brother and sister-in-law.

Connor Wince. Photos courtesy of Connor Wince and Benjamin Rivera.

Echo: Stacy, what advice would you give parents of LGBTQ children?

Stacy: Oh gosh, this is a hard one to answer but I do hope that our story and our life journey provides insight into a road less traveled. Connor and I have talked about writing a book together about our journey. Understand that your LGBTQ child, like any child, is growing up and processing a lot of thoughts and feelings and trying to figure out who they are and the person they were made to be.

So, listen with open arms and a heart; tell them that you love them and are proud of who they are even though you yourself are processing a lot of data.

I encourage parents to just have open transparent conversation about how they are feeling and that even though you don’t necessary understand how their child is feeling, you are willing and want to walk the journey with them.

Would that all LGBTQ men and women had the charmed journey of Connor Wince and Benjamin Rivera!

M. Seth Reines is an award-winning theater buff who has directed more than 500 productions nationally for stage and television, and formerly served as head of Roosevelt University’s musical theatre program.

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RECORDINGS

By Tom Reardon

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elationships and records go together — all too well sometimes.

For this month’s relationship-themed issue, I paired some album favorites with the different stages in a relationship. They may not be new songs but they’re timeless when it comes to matters of the heart.

Album to listen to when things are going well: Ben Kweller — Sha Sha

Being a sucker for an alternative-pop masterpiece is never a bad thing. Sha Sha (2002) by Ben Kweller is the type of record you put on and play over and over.

It’s like the honeymoon period when you first meet that special someone you just can’t get enough of; you just keep going back for more and more and more. The opening piano riff on “How It Should B (Sha Sha)” hooks you from the get-go and I defy anyone to not grin and tap their toes while listening to the song.

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Kweller sings: “Why am I dealing with this feeling?/I’m maxed out like a credit card/I’ll continue to be my worst enemy/ It’s easy, but it seems so hard/You’re near, but you seem so far” as he talks about that special someone who seems like a good idea when you’re feeling no pain. While there are many super sweet moments on this record, lyrically, there are also some pretty poignant moments as well. When Kweller sings, “If I was in your shoes, I wouldn’t walk all over you so please don’t walk all over me,” during the chorus of “Walk On Me” it could be a giant bummer but matched with his incredibly infectious and quirky pop sensibility, you still sing along with a sappy smile on your face.

Album to listen to when things are going bad: Sebadoh — Harmacy No one writes a better song while being all fucked up on love gone wrong better than the boys (well, nowadays they would probably like to be called “men”) in Sebadoh. Lou Barlow, the band’s bespectacled main dude and his bandmate, Jason Loewenstein, who is a savant when it comes to creating the dark, dirge-y riffs that make you rock while crying, are simply masters at delivering the mood you need when love’s gone wrong. Harmacy (Sub Pop, 1996) is

a great album for when you feel bummed about your love life because Barlow and Loewenstein’s words echo just about any sentiment you are probably feeling. It’s easy to get lost in their words because we’ve all felt all of them at one point or another. When Loewenstein sings in “Nothing Like You” the following lyrics, “If we play your games/Won’t have time to play my games” it is almost impossible to not look inwardly at all the times we’ve felt exactly the same way. “Willing To Wait” is a Barlow song that captures how the end of a relationship truly feels.

There is hope in its sadness as Barlow sings, “When you see him again, tell him everything that you told me/We’re more than friends, and maybe we should start again/We’ll start again, and maybe you could love me again.”

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To say I was a confused teenage boy was an understatement and this record was just the tonic to let me know that no matter who you are or what you feel about life, sex, identity, etc., there is someone out there that not only understands, but definitely has had a much tougher row to hoe. Bronski Beat’s primary message on The Age Of Consent is that love will triumph over all, despite what anyone else thinks, and the road will be brutal at times to get to where you want to go. As you listen, though, it becomes clear that if you persevere, you will feel and experience love. Lead vocalist Jimmy Sommerville infectious falsetto beautifully evokes the full prism of emotion on this 1984 classic, hitting notes that most of us only dream of being able to hit.

There is bouncy, dance music on The Age Of Consent, and dark, broody, pop explorations as well. “Screaming” and “No More War” will tug at your heart strings, but they are sandwiched by the more well-known “Why” and “Smalltown Boy,” the latter of which still can make the small hairs on the nape of my neck stand at attention. While it turned out that my own confusion about who and how I should love was not exactly the same as the blokes in Bronski Beat, this record helped me understand that someone worth loving was also worth feeling the pain that comes when your heart truly begins to grow. End note: Finishing this emotional rollercoaster with “I Feel Love” was nothing short of brilliant and I recommend you listen to it today.

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BETWEEN THE COVERS

By Terri Schlichenmeyer

Closer to home, Reynolds writes about Barney Frank, his “first political battle” for civil rights in Mississippi, and the “undercelebrated” woman who inspired him.

Reynolds recalls the beginning of the AIDS crisis, and what it was like to be active in politics then. He writes of trans politicians Sarah McBride and Danica Roem, and the fierce but highly ironic story of Pauli Murray, whose great-aunt’s land donation helped build a university that ultimately denied bathroom access to trans individuals.

If you see The Children of Harvey Milk on a shelf somewhere, you may be confused by the title. No, author Andrew Reynolds isn’t referring to small humans; his title instead refers to babes in political office, world-wide, who happen to be gay.

The Children of Harvey Milk: How LGBTQ Politicians Changed the World

by Andrew Reynolds c.2019, Oxford University Press $34.95 / higher in Canada / 354 pages

Your eyes are on 2020.

One election is past, and thoughts are on the next one: votes equal change, and you’re ready for it. You’ll be the next in a long line of changers, as you’ll see in the new book The Children of Harvey Milk by Andrew Reynolds.

In the latter part of June 1978, Harvey Milk, the “Mayor of Castro Street,” called former Army nurse and Castro Street fixture Gilbert Baker and asked him to make something special for the upcoming Gay Freedom parade. At that time, the rainbow flag was “a rebel flag,” but Baker subsumed it into a symbol of pride.

For some readers, that could present problems: fully half of Reynolds’ book is about politics overseas, and some of it won’t make sense unless you’ve got basic knowledge of how other governments work. Without it, you may not fully appreciate the significance of what you’ll read — and if that makes you feel a tinge of regretful isolationism, know that, happily, Reynolds is a good teacher. Here, readers will easily learn, and what they learn is absolutely inspiring.

For political animals, this book is an easy choice. For the slightly clueless, it’s a know-your-history book that doesn’t dwell strictly domestically. For a casual reader, it may be challenging but, in the end, The Children of Harvey Milk could be the most informative book you’ll lay eyes on.

Here, Reynolds tells their stories, and others, world-wide.

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In the early years of the Obama administration, after the repeal of DADT and after three states made samesex marriage legal, Robertson began volunteering at her local LGBT Resource Center, specifically, in the basement teen hang-out called Spectrum. She was working on research and she hoped, over time, to interview Spectrum’s teen clientele but she was nervous: as a cisgender straight woman, what would the kids tell her?

Plenty, as it turned out.

While there were gay, lesbian, and transgender teens at Spectrum, the majority of the youth Robertson studied called themselves “queer,” a wider sexuality- and gender-encompassing identity specifically separate from “gay” or “lesbian.” As one young man indicated, identifying as queer was easier than repeatedly resetting his self-identity as he learned more about himself and the people he might be attracted to.

Many of her interviewees told Robertson that they knew early in their lives that they were not heteronormal.

Many teens told stories of recognizing their own interest in same-sex actors and performers when they were young, and of precocious self-acknowledgment of same-sex leanings. One claimed innocence that compelled him to ask for clarification on slurs, thus learning negativity about his feelings long before he knew his feelings “had a name.”

Robertson says that suicide rates for LGBTQ students are inflated, but she also notes that today’s queer teens have access to an abundance of support: her subjects often noted family attitudes that have shifted with the times, and there seems to be more acceptance from peers. Gay-Straight Alliances weren’t widely known in high schools until the 1990s but today, most larger schools have a GSA and nearly every state in the U.S. has at least one LGBT center. For her queer subjects, this is good news, says Robertson.

By the end of that year, Milk was dead and rainbow flags were still “rare and exotic,” as were openly gay politicians. Just a handful of “LGB” people were in office around the world at that time; it would be years before the first openly trans individual would be elected.

He begins with a battle in New Zealand’s Parliament that was narrowlywon, followed four years later by marriage equality victory in nearby Australia . He writes of two gay politicians who squared off in Great Britain , noting that laws against buggery were still on the books when they did battle. He tells of a Dutch politician who, by mere months, preceded Harvey Milk as the world’s first openly gay man to serve in office. And he shares a story of politics in Ireland , “the first country in the world to pass gay marriage by popular referendum.”

and facing adulthood, it’s enough to have endured it once. But for kids who are “different” on top of all that, there’s hope, as Mary Robertson says in Growing Up Queer.

On the future, she says, “This is what gives it so much promise.”

Growing Up Queer by Mary Robertson c.2019, NYU Press $26.00 / higher in Canada 224 pages

Growing up is hard.

Most sentient adults would agree and decline a chance to ‘teen again; between changing bodies, Mean Girls, bullies,

As eye-opening and reassuring as it is, this book may be a challenge.

Terri Schlichenmeyer, The Bookworm, lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 13,000 books.

She’s been reading since age 3 and, to this day, she never goes anywhere without a book.

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TALKING BODIES

Your Relationship with Diet and Exercise How healthy is it?

By Tia Norris

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et’s face it: although everyone wants to have the perfect diet and exercise program, most people are either under-eating, under-exercising, or overeating, or over-exercising. It is a difficult balance to strike, as the human body is a constantly moving target.

back to your Total Daily Estimated Expenditure (TDEE) over time. Keep in mind this is the hardest move in my playbook. But, this is most likely the biggest thing holding people back from getting the body they want.

Everyone falls prey to one of the following imbalances at some point.

It’s worth noting that there may be a psychological well of deep-seated motivations underneath each of these imbalances, that will require more than just figuratively flipping a switch to effect change. Keep that in mind. Read on to learn more about your blind spots and how to shine a light on what’s keeping you in the dark.

Under-exercising

Under-eating It surprises most people, but about 90% or more of my new clients fall into this category. Now, to achieve long-term physique change, eating more while still sitting on your ass, of course, will not work. That said, let’s assume you’re moving more and eating more — the increased calories will fuel better workouts, which will build more muscle and increase your metabolic rate, which is everything you want!

Why it’s so bad: Chronically starving your body of base nutrition, necessary for basic functioning, eventually is going to be very, very, bad. Chronic malnutrition will manifest at some point, often resulting in endocrine disorders, chronic injuries, sleep deficits, and cognitive deficits, to name a handful.

Your body has basic nutritional needs for a reason — it needs those calories!

How to fix it: First, start tracking your food on a free app like MyFitnessPal. It helps to maintain an awareness of what you’re doing. Next, do not listen to the caloric recommendations it’s going to set for you — these are way too low! Third, I highly recommend consulting with a nutrition professional to figure out a plan to incrementally raise your calories 50

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At a minimum, people should be moderately active 3x30 minutes per week, being at least mildly active every single day.

Why it’s so bad: It should be common sense that being sedentary has an overwhelmingly long, frightening list of consequences. Your body is arguably the most priceless possession that you have. Ask someone who no longer has full vitality how valuable good health is. If you don’t use it, I can guarantee you will lose it. Invest now, or pay the consequences eventually — it’s a certainty.

How to fix it: Find something that you like. If you don’t like the gym, then don’t go. If you don’t like cardio, then don’t do it! Do something that gets your heart rate up, that incorporates resistance training of some kind, that you at least most of the time enjoy. And sorry, sex doesn’t count, and I don’t care how vigorously you think you’re doing it. And also, unless you’re somehow limited, simple walking probably won’t cut it either. Sorry, I’m not sorry.

Over-eating Why it’s so bad: Eating more than what you burn each day (a caloric surplus) leads to weight gain; and while some weight gain is acceptable, excessive weight gain is essentially digging your own early grave, without exaggeration.

Obesity has been linked to virtually every major health problem in our current times, including heart disease, diabetes, cancer, Alzheimer’s, and more. There is not a single fathomable benefit to chronic, excessive, over-eating.

How to fix it: Perhaps of all the imbalances on diet and exercise, over-eating may have the deepest psychological entanglements. Often, simply “eating less” is not as easy as it may seem. Of course, in the presence of an otherwise mentally healthy individual, and a lot of willpower, simply “eating less” works well. Assess yourself and your patterns/history with over-eating to decide if you can start the process on your own, or if you should work with a team of professionals (trainer, counselor, nutritionist to start) to start your journey.

Over-exercising Type-A adrenaline junkies are very prone to overdoing it. High caliber athletes are also prone to over-training, in attempts to improve — this tends to happen often.

Why it’s so bad: Over-training has some serious long-term consequences.

Athletes who over-do it will fry their adrenaline systems, will not recover as well, will experience chronic injuries, and may notice major disturbances in sleep, mood, daily functioning, relationships, and more. It’s serious!

How to fix it: This one also may have deep psychological roots tied to body image, using stress as a tool of avoidance, or lack of sense of self. The first step here, I’d say, is to hire a coach who can objectively say whether you’re doing enough or too much. Also, realizing that if by you doing more exercise that your body still isn’t changing the way you want it to, that the answer to your physique questions likely lies elsewhere.

Rule #1: Know thyself.

Rule #2: Do something about it.

Realize where you’re undershooting or overshooting the marks and start your changes now before a health condition otherwise forces you to take action.

Tia Norris is the president and head trainer at FitPro, LLC, a local fitness company. Find out more at fitprollc.com.

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NOT THAT YOU ASKED

Boycott This Column, But With Good Reason

By Buddy Early

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made it through 2018 without any major crises to speak of — no deaths in the family; no loss of employment; no waking up to find a picture circulating the internet, one showing me chowing down on a half-pound of buffalo wings with the hashtag #leavesomefortherestofus. And then the end of the year brought a scare. I almost had to boycott the Oscars.

For the 48 hours that comedian Kevin Hart was slated to host the 2019 awards fest, there was a very good chance that I would, indeed, have to boycott.

It would’ve been a huge sacrifice, since I haven’t missed a single ceremony since Hart was in diapers and before he even knew what a gay slur was. I’m an Oscarphile, if that’s such a word.

Furthermore, I’ve always thought Hart was kind of charming, if not necessarily a stellar comedian.

But there I was, faced with the reality of boycotting one of the few nights each year on which I allow myself emotions.

In case you missed it, a quick internet search will turn up the series of Hart’s decade-old tweets that resurfaced after his hire. They included the mention of breaking a doll house over his son’s head if he tried to play with it, because “that’s gay;” saying someone’s profile picture “look like a gay billboard for AIDS;” and alleging that “real men don’t (sweat) lmao ps fag.”

There are more.

Hart’s initial attempt at an apology was to say that he’s “moved on” since those tweets and basically that he is not the same man. A day later he tried to save face by releasing the statement,

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“I sincerely apologize to the LGBTQ community for my insensitive words from my past.” No mention of how damaging his words were, or how wrong.

It was pretty much the old “I’m sorry if my words have offended you.”

Hart apologists — and Hart himself — pointed out that the comedian had, in fact, covered this before. They refer to a 2015 Rolling Stone interview, where Hart merely stated he would not say those things in the present day because people are more sensitive. Again, no mention of how wrong, distasteful and harmful the remarks were, or any acknowledgment that his words reach millions and can have a huge influence. Nope, just an admission that the tweets were illadvised.

Last summer I wrote in this column about the unusual phenomenon where LGBT people often accept things they would not tolerate if the target was another minority group. (The “If businesses don’t want to sell to gay people, that’s their right” argument.)

LGBT folks’ acceptance of Hart’s tweets and non-apologies falls into that category, if you ask me. If the Academy had hired a host who was known for making anti-black, anti-woman, or anti-Jewish tweets (and offered no sincere apology), LGBT people would be among the first to stand up and say, “No way!” At the risk of plagiarizing myself, I implore everyone reading this to advocate for yourself in the same manner you’d advocate for other marginalized groups.

Here’s the thing about boycotts: if you’re not actually sacrificing something,

you’re not really boycotting. I’m not necessarily boycotting Fox News, Chickfil-A or vaginas; it just so happens I don’t like what any of those things have to offer. Boycotting takes a sacrifice. If you pick and choose what you will boycott based on how important something is to you, then I’d say that’s a question of your integrity.

This is not to suggest that you have to boycott anything at all. Maybe you don’t believe boycotts are effective. Maybe you think they’re stupid. Or maybe you just can’t keep tabs on every single boycott and have decided to give up on all of them. (Let’s be honest about that last one — It’s almost impossible to be informed about everything I’m supposed to be boycotting; you really need a parttime assistant.) Whatever the case, don’t insult the rest of us by arguing that your non-boycott is actually the right thing to do.

I couldn’t bring myself to watch the Oscars with Kevin Hart as host, sacrificing one of the things that is incredibly important to me. Thankfully, that’s a sacrifice I won’t have to make. I know a lot of people think I’m ridiculous on this matter, but I can look at myself in the mirror and know that I stand by my principles. So, whatever you choose to not boycott, please don’t try to “explain it away” to make yourself feel better. My guess is it doesn’t work anyway.

Buddy Early grew up in Tempe and has been involved in various communities across the Valley since. He is a former managing editor of both Echo Magazine and Compete Magazine.

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In addition to promoting an antiscience agenda, the “No Promo Homo” provisions, even though they are limited to HIV/AIDS-related instruction, undoubtedly discourage teachers and staff from talking about same-sex relationships in other contexts. They shouldn’t. Teachers and staff can talk about same-sex relationships in any situation other than HIV/AIDS instruction without violating this law, which could be challenged in the courts like Utah’s version.

Setting the Record Straight on Arizona’s “No Promo Homo” Law

By Steve Kilar

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he Arizona Legislature is back in session and one thing our elected officials need to do as soon as possible is get rid of Arizona’s “No Promo Homo” law. Every day this law persists, students are stigmatized, teachers and other school staff are confused about what they can say to students, and Arizona perpetuates its reputation as a prejudiced, backward place.

Arizona is one of only seven states that still has a “No Promo Homo” law, according to GLSEN, an organization that aims to make all schools accepting of LGBTQ students. The other states in this shameful group are Texas, Oklahoma, Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama, and South Carolina. Utah repealed its version in 2017, but only after Equality Utah and the National Center for Lesbian Rights sued to block the law’s enforcement, arguing it violated the U.S. Constitution and federal education law.

These laws are largely a product of the early years of the HIV/AIDS crisis, a 1980s and early-1990s effort to institutionalize bigotry against gay and bisexual men. The goal was to prevent people who teach sex education from talking about same-sex intimacy.

“Many people today still believe that homosexuality is not a positive, or even an alternative, lifestyle,” The Arizona Daily Star quoted Rep. Karen Mills, a Republican from Glendale, saying in June 1991. Mills, according to the newspaper, offered the “No Promo Homo” language as an amendment to a bill allowing schools to teach young people about HIV/AIDS. The “No Promo Homo” provisions were one of four amendments from conservative Republicans 54

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vehemently opposed to having children learn about HIV and AIDS. Arizona’s “No Promo Homo” provisions are specific to public school curriculum about HIV and AIDS. They prohibit all public school districts in Arizona from including in their HIV/AIDS instruction any information that “promotes a homosexual life-style, portrays homosexuality as a positive alternative life-style, [or] suggests that some methods of sex are safe methods of homosexual sex.”

These provisions discriminatorily single out a subset of the population based upon sexual orientation. They are designed to make LGB people feel ashamed. They also inhibit complete, fact-based HIV/AIDS instruction. Young people of all sexual orientations should learn during sex education that the likelihood of HIV transmission can be drastically reduced by using condoms, taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), getting tested, and talking honestly with sex partners, among other strategies.

Other parts of Arizona’s HIV/AIDS education law require curriculum to “be medically accurate” and “dispel myths regarding transmission of the human immunodeficiency virus.” How can educators be expected to provide factbased HIV/AIDS instruction if they also must pretend that there’s no way for two people of the same sex to have safe sex?

The best defense against the spread of any infection is a well-informed populace. The “No Promo Homo” provisions, though, encourage educators to withhold critical health information and thereby increase the chance of infection.

If a teacher is reprimanded for breaching the “No Promo Homo” provisions, whether during sex-related instruction or some other context, they should report it to the ACLU of Arizona, the National Center for Lesbian Rights, Lambda Legal, or another legal organization that specializes in the rights of LGBTQ people. No teacher should be told, no matter the context, that they cannot respectfully discuss same-sex relationships.

Nevertheless, Arizona’s “No Promo Homo” law is used to harass school districts that attempt to provide inclusive and comprehensive sex education. In May, Liberty Counsel, a Florida-based legal organization that has been designated as an anti-LGBTQ hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center, sent a threatening letter to the Sunnyside Unified School District in Tucson. Liberty Counsel claimed Sunnyside violated the “No Promo Homo” provisions simply by defining straight, lesbian, gay and bisexual in its sex-ed curriculum.

There have been several attempts in recent years to eliminate the “No Promo Homo” provisions, but they’ve stalled quickly in the Arizona Legislature, which unfortunately still has a number of members who would prefer queer people remain marginalized. But after the 2018 mid-term election, we’re closer to having majorities in both chambers that could vote to eliminate this discriminatory law, which makes LGBTQ people feel bad, encourages educators to provide inaccurate information about HIV transmission, and puts people at risk.

Arizona has let nearly three decades pass with this harmful and misleading law on the books. Let’s get rid of it this year. There’s no good argument to keep it. Anyone who says otherwise only wants to perpetuate discrimination.

Steve Kilar, is the communications director at the American Civil Liberties Union of Arizona (acluaz. org). If you have questions about your rights that you would like addressed in a future issue, write him at skilar@acluaz.org.

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DRAG CALENDAR JANUARY Jan 18

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

Barbra Seville Girlie Show hosted by Barbra Seville

Jan 19

5:00 PM

THE ROCK

Miss Gay Copper City America Pageant

Jan 20

6:00 PM

CRUISIN' 7TH

Jan 20

9:00 PM

THE ROCK

Dahl Haus hosted by Dahli & Astrud

Jan 21

6:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Pussy LeHoot's MLK Day Show hosted by Pussy LeHoot

Jan 23

9:00 AM

KOBALT

Jan 24

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

CHARMEDSchool hosted by Coco St James

Jan 24

10:30 PM

CLUB VOLT

Face Lift V hosted by Savannah Stevens & Whitney Stevens The Finale

Jan 24

10:30 PM

KARAMBA

Noche de Gloria: Gloria Trevi Tribute Show hosted by Aubrey Ghalichi

Jan 25

8:00 PM

CLUB CONGRESS

Jan 25

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

Lady Christian's Trailer Trash Revue

Jan 27

2:00 PM

THE ROCK

Southern Fried Sunday's hosted by The Southern Belles

Jan 27

9:00 PM

THE ROCK

Late Nite Snax hosted by Benaddiction

Jan 30

10:30 PM

KARAMBA

Vivi Cavali Birthday Show hosted by Karime Lizaldi

Jan 31

9:00 PM

THE ROCK

ArizonaDrag.com presents FANS to FAVORITES: A Fundraiser for Phoenix Pride

Feb 6

9:00 PM

KOBALT

The Garden Variety Revue hosted by Olivia Gardens

Feb 7

9:00 PM

SKY BAR

Nail Polish hosted by Allona Dee

Feb 8

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

Barbra Seville’s Girlie Show hosted by Barbra Seville

Feb 3

9:00 PM

THE ROCK

Beatdown hosted by Rubye Moore

Feb 3

9:00 PM

BRODIE'S TAVERN

Feb 7

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

RuPaul's Drag Race All Star 4 Manila Luzon

Feb 10

9:00 PM

THE ROCK

Late Nite Snax hosted by Benaddiction

Feb 13

10:00 PM

KOBALT

Barbra's Big Break hosted by Barbra Seville

Feb 14

9:00 PM

STACY’S @ MELROSE

Boyz are Back in Town hosted by Blake Riley

Feb 14

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

MUGGED hosted by Doja Stevens & Brii St James

Feb 15

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

Barbra Seville’s Girlie Show hosted by Barbra Seville

Feb 16

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

RuPaul's Drag Race Superstars Jessica Wild & Lineysha Sparx

Feb 17

7:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

RuPaul's Drag Race Superstars Jessica Wild & Lineysha Sparx

Feb 20

9:00 PM

KOBALT

2Girls, 1Cup hosted by Celia Putty

Feb 21

9:00 PM

SKY BAR

NailPolish hosted by Allona Dee

Feb 21

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

Miss Cruisin' 7th Pride Preliminary Honoring Lisa St. Laurent

M.O.D hosted by Doja Stevens

Super Gay Party Machine hosted by Tempest DuJour

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Adriana Galliano Show

Bar Guide

EVERY MONDAY 9:00 PM

KOBALT

Naughty or Nice Bingo hosted by Olivia Gardens

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

The Strip Factor hosted by Claudia B & Piper M'Shay

9:00 PM

STACY'S @ MELROSE

The Queer Agenda featuring Carnita Asada, Dahli, Rubye Moore and Benaddiction

9:00 PM

BS WEST

A Star is Born Talent Showcase hosted by Coco Iman starting February 5, 2019

EVERY TUESDAY

EVERY WEDNESDAY 8:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

La Loteria hosted by Susan Martell & Juan

9:00 PM

BRODIE'S TAVERN

Naughty Drag Bingo hosted by Jessica Michaels

10:00 PM

IBT'S

Viva la Diva hosted by Diva

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Diamond en Fuego hosted by Diamond Dallas

10:30 PM

KARAMBA

The Karime Lizaldi Show hosted by Karime Lizaldi

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EVERY THURSDAY 7:00 PM

THE CASH

Truth or Dare Drag Bingo hosted by Freddy Prinze Charming

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Pipin’ Hot Thursdays hosted by Piper M'Shay

10:00 PM

KARAMBA

Urban Thursdays hosted by Aubrey Ghalichi

9:00 PM

PLAZMA

Freaky Fridays hosted by Celia Putty

9:00 PM

IBT'S

Flawless Fridays hosted by China Collins

10:00 PM

CLUB VOLT

4Some Revue hosted by Luna, Gigi, Joey & Toothpick

10:30 PM

CRUISIN' 7TH

Thank Grande It's Friday hosted by Espressa Grande

10:30 PM

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EVERY SATURDAY 7:00 PM

BOYCOTT BAR

Glamourhood: Drag! Live Music! Dance! Comedy!

9:00 PM

IBT'S

Saturday Night Starletts hosted by Janee Starr

9:30 PM

AQUA NITECLUB

Susana Martell Siluetas Travesty Show

10:00 PM

THE ROCK

The Barbra Seville Show hosted by Barbra Seville

10:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Saturday Night Under the Stars hosted by Claudia B

10:00 PM

CLUB VOLT

Locker Room hosted by The 4Some Revue featuring the Freshman Revue

10:30 PM

CRUISIN' 7TH

Lady & The Tramps hosted by Lady Christian

7:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Pussy LeHoot & Friends

7:00 PM

STACY'S @ MELROSE

Stacy's Follies featuring special guests

10:30 PM

KARAMBA

The Ruby Reynolds Show hosted by Ruby Reynolds

11:00 PM

CHARLIE'S

Latin Explosion hosted by "The Latin Dynamite" Adriana Galliano

11:30 PM

AQUA NITECLUB

Susana Martell Siluetas Travesty Show

EVERY SUNDAY

Bar Guide

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ANVIL

2424 E. Thomas Road

602-334-1462

M, D, L

2

AQUA NIGHT CLUB

1730 E. McDowell Road

602-253-0682

F, D, E, N

3

BAR 1

3702 N. Sixteenth St.

602-266-9001

M, E, N

4

BLISS/ReBAR

901 N. Fourth St.

602-795-1792

MF, N, R

5

BOYCOTT BAR

4301 N. Seventh Ave.

602-515-3667

MF, D, E

6

BS WEST

7125 E. Fifth Ave., Scottsdale

480-945-9028

MF, D, E

7

BUNKHOUSE

4428 N. Seventh Ave.

602-200-9154

M, L, N

8

CARAVAN TAP ROOM

4835 N. Fifteenth Ave.

602-592-9386

MF, E, N

9

CHARLIE’S

727 W. Camelback Road

602-265-0224

M, E, D

10

CLUB VOLT

3108 E. McDowell Road

602-244-1465

MF, D, E

11

CRUISIN’ 7TH

3702 N. Seventh St.

602-212-9888

M, E, N

12 2

DICK’S CABARET

3432 E. Illini St.

602-274-3425

M

13

FEZ

105 W. Portland St.

602-287-8700

MF, R

14

FLEX SPAS PHOENIX

1517 S. Black Canyon Highway

602-271-9011

M, A

15

KARAMBA NIGHTCLUB

1724 E. McDowell Road

602-254-0231

D, E

16

KOBALT

3110 N. Central Ave., Ste. 175

602-264-5307

MF, E, N

17

LOS DIABLOS

1028 E. Indian School Road

602-795-7881

MF, N, R

18

NU TOWNE SALOON

5002 E. Van Buren St.

602-267-9959

M, L, N

19

OFF CHUTE TOO

4115 N. Seventh Ave.

602-274-1429

MF, A

20

OZ BAR

1804 W. Bethany Home Road

602-242-5114

MF, N

21

PLAZMA

1560 E. Osborn Road

602-266-0477

MF, E, N

22

ROYAL VILLA INN

4312 N. Twelfth St.

602-266-6883

M, A

23

STACY’S @ MELROSE

4343 N. Seventh Ave.

602-264-1700

MF, D, N

24

THE CASH NIGHTCLUB & LOUNGE

2140 E. McDowell Road

602-244-9943

F, D

25

THE CHUTE

1440 E. Indian School Road

602-234-1654

M, A

26

THE LOUIE

605 W. Osborn Rd.

602-698-3445

MF, E, N, R

27

THE ROCK

4129 N. Seventh Ave.

602-248-8559

MF, E, N

28

2601 ON CENTRAL

2601 N. Central Ave.

602-466-2074

MF, E, R

MAP CODES: M F MF

Mostly Males Mostly Females Mixed Male/Female

A Adult Retail & Accomodations D Dance Club E Entertainment (Karaoke, Drag)

L N R

Leather/Bears Neighborhood Bar Restaurant

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BAR SPECIALS

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BUNKHOUSE S M T W T F

$1 drafts & HH prices all day & night 7 p.m. Darts with Acxell Latin Night with Diego 9 p.m. Karaoke Underwear night: $1 off all drinks if in skivvies! GoGo dancers 9 p.m.

8 p.m.-close: $2.50 Miller family products. 4 & 6 p.m.: Free-to-join poker S 8 p.m.-close: $2.50 Bud family products

CHARLIE’S S Super HH 4-7 p.m., $3 pitchers; $3 Long Islands open-close M 2-8 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestic bottles, $3 pitchers; 8 p.m.-close, 1/2 off drinks for wearing underwear, $3 Jack Daniels T 2-8 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestic bottles, $3 pitchers; 2-4-1 cocktails & beer 8 p.m.- close W 2-8 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestic bottles, $3 pitchers; $3 Three Olives vodka, 8 p.m.-close T 2-8 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestic bottles, $3 pitchers; 2-4-1 drinks open-close F 2-7 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestics, $3 pitchers; HH 7-9 p.m.; $1 well & domestics, $1 drafts 10 p.m.- midnight S Noon-7 p.m. 2-4-1 well & domestics; HH 7-9 p.m.; $1 well & domestics, $3 Absolut & Bacardi 10 p.m.-midnight

STACY’S @ MELROSE S $1.50 Rolling Rock & Wells, open-7 p.m.; Showtime 7-10 p.m.; $1 Rolling Rock & Wells; $2.50 Bud Light; $3 Fireball shots 7 p.m.-Close; Happy Hours 10 p.m.-сlose M Happy Hours; $2.50 Rolling Rock ALL DAY T Happy Hours; $5 Martinis & $2.50 Rolling Rock ALL DAY W 2-4-1 all day*; *no shots T Happy Hours 4-8 p.m.; $1.50 Rolling Rock & Wells 8 p.m.-midnight F Happy Hours 4-8 p.m.; $2.50 Rolling Rock all day; $2.50 Bud Light, $4.50 Pinnacle vodka & Fireball 8 p.m.-close S Happy Hours 4-8 p.m.; $2.50 Rolling Rock all day; $2.50 Bud Light, $4.50 Pinnacle vodka & Fireball 8 p.m.-close

THE LOUIE S Sunday Funday Brunch: $10 Mimosa Bottles. 2-8 p.m.: $2 PBR 16oz Cans, $3 Smirnoff Vodka Drinks, $4 Bd Lt pitchers, $5 AMF’s, and $5 Jameson Shots M Happy Hour 2-7 p.m.: $3 Draft Pints, $4 Glass Wine, $5 Tito’s Vodka and 1/2 price select appetizers. 8 p.m. to Close: $2 Bd Lt draft, $3 Wells, $4 Smirnoff Cocktails, $5 Martinis T Happy Hour 2-7 p.m.: $3 Draft Pints, $4 Glass Wine, $5 Tito’s Vodka and 1/2 price select appetizers. 8 p.m. to Close: $3 Wells, $4 Fireball Shots, $5 Dom Pitchers W Happy Hour 2-7 p.m.: $3 Draft Pints, $4 Glass Wine, $5 Tito’s Vodka and 1/2 price select appetizers. 8 p.m. to Close: $3 Dom Draft, $4 Lemon Drops, $5 Specialty Cocktails T Happy Hour 2-7 p.m.: $3 Draft Pints, $4 Glass Wine, $5 Tito’s Vodka and 1/2 price select appetizers. 8 p.m. to Close: (2-4-1) 1/2 Priced Drinks and Appetizers all day and night F Happy Hour 2-7 p.m.: $3 Draft Pints, $4 Glass Wine, $5 Tito’s Vodka and 1/2 price select appetizers. 8 p.m. to Close: $3 Fireball Shots, $4 Dox XX, $5 Absolute Cocktails S 8 p.m. to Close: $3 Corona Premier, $5 Patron Shots, $6 Tito’s Cocktails 62

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