Ways to Nourish + Awaken Your 5 Feminine Pleasure
By Alexandra Durigan, RN BSN Founder, ORIGIN Pelvic Care
Beautiful woman,
A long time ago there was a severance from sexual health as whole health. This severance is something we have endured in the underbed of our bodies, tissues, and feminine pleasure pathways. This severance ignited an inner schism, an inner separation, from our sense of self and our original sexual nature. When we as women do not feel safe to fully inhabit our sexuality, we suffer greatly. We suffer because we are sexual, life giving beings. We are the essence of sexuality and creation itself. This is a radiant, rich, and powerful part of our womanhood. It is a part of our womanhood that feeds, fuels, and inspires our life.
The power of a woman ’ s sexuality is also something that has been distorted, shamed, and shut down over centuries. Indeed, it was and continues to be an act of control When we as women come back into relationship with our sexuality we come back into relationship with our worth, our power, our capacity to create, our deservingness, and from this well nourished, intimately reclaimed space, we rise, and give rise to a more beautiful world.
I know, you opened this pdf for 5 tips for better pleasure. But the thing is dear woman, that as you come back into relationship with your pleasure, you must know what a healing, transformative, and powerful thing it is. That your pleasure is sacred. Your pleasure births worlds. Your pleasure opens possibility. Your pleasure is foundational to your health. And I pray, that your pleasure body becomes a compass for your life. That you learn now only how sacred you are, but how powerful you are as a woman And that your pleasure supports the healing of aches, pain, separation, and brings you home over and over again to who you are, and all that you deserve I pray that your pleasure becomes an altar of joy, healing, discovery, and remembrance.
WaystoNourish+ AwakenYour 5 Feminine Pleasure
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Do you believe it is possible? Do you believe that your body is capable of profound pleasure? This belief matters greatly. In working with thousands of women, particularly women who have endured years and decades of vulva vaginal numbness or pain, or separation from their sexuality, I find this belief to be foundational to everything that comes next. The stories, beliefs, and conditionings that we hold within our bodies and psyche around our sexuality have physiologic impact within our body and therefor our lives. They impact our nervous system, our biochemical (hormonal) production, the way that we move in the world, the way we treat ourselves, the way we listen to our bodies, the care that we give to our bodies and the way that we show up in the bedroom, and life, in service to our pleasure I frequently find that we must begin to repair and re-write our most foundational beliefs about our own bodies pleasure capacity before we can truly enter a healing and expansive discovery of our pleasure bodies If we don’t begin to believe that our bodies are capable of profound pleasure, then we are forfeiting ourselves from the possibility and creating immediate barriers from the potential. So woman I ask you again, do you believe that it is possible? Are you ready to believe? What stories have YOU held around your sexuality that you are ready to let go of, and re-write?
Because your sexuality and pleasure is for you. It is a gift from your body, for you, and for your life. It will teach you, empower you, and nourish you greatly. This, you so deeply deserve Do you believe that?
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Environment. I’ll say it again, ENVIRONMENT. Tell me love, what is the environment that you have tried to meet your pleasure body in? Was it a pleasure filled environment? Were the sheets clean? Were the smells soothing? Did your body feel like it could soften? Did the environment cue to your psyche that you are safe? Did the environment feel like it could hold you? Like you could just sink in and relax? Or was the environment full of pressure? Was it full of expectation? Was it full of an untouched laundry basket that made you get stuck in your head over all the things on your “to-do” list? Our environment is foundational to our pleasure Everything in our envionrment cues our psyche and nervous system to respond. Our psyche and nervous system impact our feminine pleasure on every single level. If you follow my work you have likely heard me say that “blood flow goes where the nervous system tells it to flow”. What this means is that when are stressed, fatigued, overwhelmed, unregulated, when we are in go-go-go mode, our nervous system directs blood AWAY from our sexual centers. Making it almost impossible to lubricate, to engorge, to arouse, and ultimately, physiologically inhibiting our deep pleasure body. Here we get stuck in our head, locked in tension and frustration in our bodies. Our environment holds exquisite potential to aid us in shifting states Meaning, our environment can support us in down regulating within our nervous system. When our environment signals cues of relaxation, safety, spaciousness, warmth, our nervous system can begin to settle. In this selling and resourcing we can begin to exit our minds and come back to our bodies From here our nervous system will profound pleasure possibility as it begins to reorient blood flow back to our sexual bodies, back to our sex centers, and in this re-enable the possibility for arousal, lubrication, and again, pleasure.
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TIME TIME TIME TIME Oh woman, how our pleasure bodies TAKE TIME. We have been indocrinated into a wounded sexual overculture of quick sex, putting impossible pressure upon our sexual bodies to be “ready” as fast as the man This is an intergenerational wound of separation from our feminine physiology and a grave misunderstanding of the physiologic inter-workings of our feminine pleasure pathways When we pressure our pleasure with time, we will never get to the wide, deep, whole body, oceanic, dripping wet, transcendental pleasure that we have the potential for, and that is innate to our Womanly Form For our vulva, vaginal canal, and the hidden erectile networks of these places to fully arouse, to lubricate, to fill our bodies with dopamine, to engorge and awaken all of our pleasure centers, our feminine bodies require at least 30-45 minutes of touch, time, and attention That may feel impossible to you And I will share, it is not. In working with thousands of women I can tell you this, we sit on our phones, we wander around stressed, we prioritize getting those last chores done which will just come back tomorrow, over taking care of our bodies We put ourselves last on the priority list and are starved from practice of how to give ourselves time and space to be met and cared for And for some, how to receive space for ourselves at all Or to even consider that we are worthy of it. The thing about our feminine pleasure pathways is that they TEACH US, that we are made to take up space. That we deserve to be taken our time with. That we, that you, deserve to be devoted to Honoring our pleasure is to embark on a healing journey of evolving the way that we relate sexually. It is an initiation to begin relating to our sexuality and sexual interactions in sovereignty that your body needs, requires, and deserves all the time, touch, and attention before even considering penetration. Plus, you would never want to miss out on all that vulva has for you. Your pleasure will show you a way that is spacious, a way where you receive so much, a way where you take up all the space, and experience what becomes possible in your pleasure body from the gift, and essential factor of TIME
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Pleasure Anatomy. Do you know your pleasure anatomy?
This is one of my FAVORITE topics of teaching and of the work that I do. Coming from the Nations #1 hospital as a Women’s Specialty Registered Nurse I can tell you this....The gynecolgist does not know your pleasure anatomy The doctor does not know your pleasure anatomy. The Nurses do not know your pleasure anatomy. Because it is NOT TAUGHT, even at the highest levels of medicine And so we have a massive dilemma and loss of body literacy. And if you go to sterile offices outside of yourself to ask questions about your pleasure, libido, potential of orgasm, vulva vaginal numbness or pain, you feel let down, because the medical structures at be cannot support you Or, you have not gone, and suffered to some degree in silence and dismissal of yourself and your sexual yearnings. Woman, you knowing your pleasure anatomy is essential. You are the only one who can truly know your pleasure pathways the most. It is not only your responsibility, but it is your greatest gift, and it will nourish your life in countless ways to come into relationship with your pleasure anatomy, to feel confident in your body, to feel belonging to these parts of you, to make beautiful love through sensing the desires and yearnings of your tissues, and to follow them. The female body arouses into pleasure in incredible ways. Ways that have been misunderstood and skipped past for far too long I will give you a crash course here, and ultimately encourage you spending time touching and looking at these parts of your body If you desire further help reach out to me, or explore my online e-course, Vulva Worship, where we delve deep into pleasure anatomy and unlocking your greatest arousal
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Feminine Pleasure Anatomy begins at the vulva The vulva is the external part of our body where our external and internal labias are, where our clitoral body is, and ultimately is all of
the structures that we can see externally with a hand mirror. Our vulva is KEY and essential to our feminine pleasure potential It is our vulva that engorges with blood, fills with energy, nourishes and enlivens our nervous pleasure pathways, lubricates our tissues, prepares and ignites our full orgasmic capacity When our vaginal canal is entered without full arousal at the vulva we can suffer micro-tears at the vaginal opening and throughout the vaginal canal. Our internal tissues are NOT ready to receive until this arousal process. Women scorn themselves for not being lubricated, yet our lubrication, our wet, dripping, juicy nature takes far more time than women have ever given themselves. So how do we get there? By being more literate of our Feminine Pleasure Anatomy. The forgotten, overlooked parts of our pleasure anatomy include our Vestibular Bulbs, our whole clitoral body including our Clitoral Glans, Shaft, and Legs, and our Labias, all of which have hidden erectile networks that ricate
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Breath, subtly, listening. Without the breath, without presence to the subtle sensations, without listening to our body, we will be stuck in a hardened state away from the intelligence of our sensuality, or accidentally bypassing our bodies truth, creating further distance and dissonance from ourselves and our pleasure potential. Our feminine pleasure requires us to slow down. Slow way down. To believe that we are pleasure filled and to show up in service to that belief, and our deservingness of its reality. Our feminine pleasure asks us to create pleasureful environments for ourselves to melt into, to take up space within, to settle into our nervous system Our feminine pleasure requires us to take up time. And it asks of us to orient to our pleasure anatomy. As you begin to believe in your capacity for pleasure, as you begin to set and engage in an environment that can hold you and cues to you safety and beauty, as you give yourself the essential factor of time, and as you begin to get to know your pleasure anatomy, you will then be faced with the next piece.....You will need your breath, you will need your own presence to the subtle sensations emerging in your body, and you will need to listen to them. This, is where the greatest beauty, healing, pleasure, and orgasmic capacity begins to emerge. The deeper, slower, and wider the breath the more you will be able to stay present with sensation. The more you breathe into the subtleties of feeling, the more sensation will begin to emerge. The more you listen to this sensation, the greater you will be guided by your body, be able to feel with your body, and follow the unfurling threads of what feels good, taking you into a rich and radiant discovery of your own pleasure pathways. Breathe deep dear woman, feel the subtly of your tissues, and listen with love, and you will meet the nourished awakening of your feminine pleasure.
Alexandra Durigan is a Women’s Specialty Registered Nurse, Women’s Pelvic Health Specialist, and Founder of ORIGIN Pelvic Care. It was Alexandra’s personal journey and experiences within women ’ s health that led to the passion and mission of her work “ more for our womanhood” From working in Western, allopathic care to the founding of her private practice, ORIGIN Pelvic Care, Alexandra is here to share the importance of pelvic care throughout the journey of womanhood so that women may live radiant lives led from the beauty of their wellnourished centers.
Alexandra believes in hearing the body not as symptom, but as story, and that through right listening, touch, and tending we can cultivate regenerative repair in our sexual and reproductive bodies throughout the wholeness of our womanhood
Alexandra shares that “it is not only important and transformational on the individual level but essential to our world itself to more greatly care for our women and their wombs”.
Alexandra’s point of view is that women deserve care that enhances their lives through connection and belonging in their center, while also initiating greater health outcomes. Her in-person practice, ORIGIN Pelvic Care, is located in Boulder Colorado where she serves women in the realms of Sexuality & Pleasure, Reproductive Health, and The Birth Continuum She also serves women in online group spaces and programs and can be found on Instagram at @originpelviccare or her website originpelviccare com
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