SELF-DECEPTORS

INSTRUCTIONS: Self-deceptors are the internal forces that leaders struggle with that can deceive them and may lead them toward a false narrative, particularly in times of uncertainty, change, or stress.

In this exercise, you can work alone, but we encourage you to work with a trusted colleague, mentor, or coach, someone you think will be honest with you and who you provide feedback to enhance your self-awareness.

Reflect on the below list of self-deceptors and corresponding definitions. Then PLOT using the map how often each deceptor tends to arise for you (i.e., frequency) and the extent to which it impedes you as a leader (i.e., derailment).

If you choose to work with a partner, you will then ask your trusted advisor to fill out the worksheet for you as well. Compare responses once you’ve both completed the exercise. The reflection questions at the end can spur further dialogue and help you identify potential areas of improvement.

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PEOPLE PLEASING: In trying to be accepted by others, we minimize our leadership capabilities. We lean too heavily on a desire to live up to people’s expectations and appease the group instead of doing what we know is right.

OVERSIMPLIFICATION: Things are always black or white, good, or bad; there’s no nuance and no middle ground. We tend to give overly simplistic responses to put ourselves and others at ease, and because we have a binary bias (seeing a simple yes or no, A or B), even when the situation calls for greater discussion and the need to pause to navigate complexity.

SELECTIVE ETHICS: We fall prey to this deceptor when we act in ways that are inconsistent with our personal values or ethics but choose to ignore this fact, hiding it from ourselves and others because it serves us in some way.

COMPLIANCE: When we do something just to complete it, to “check the box,” rather than taking the time approach something with a committed mindset and effectively solve the problem.

BIASES: When we possess notions and assumptions about how people should and do behave. Our biases are characterized by preconceptions, stereotypes, and prejudices that make us more likely to favor or dismiss certain people or ideas.

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