Darling Magazine Richmond & Kingston - Winter 18/19

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ELIZABETH MORTON on acting, writing and support for Orange Tree Theatre Being a conscious consumer is NOT JUST FOR CHRISTMAS A new kind of Tribe is knitting in Richmond Hill The Gate - THE new place to play & relax

Women in Business Exclusive feature Twickenham's gorgeous

Church Street Our guide to festive and winter dining

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Tennis by the Thames A private, friendly club for all ages in an idyllic location

At the Kingston Riverside Club we warmly welcome players of all standards and ages.

Our newly upgraded facilities include covered, floodlit courts enabling play throughout the year, a modern clubhouse with a bar, showers and changing rooms and a private car park for our members.

We offer two different types of court surfaces: Macadam hard courts for faster play and clay courts which are softer, limiting impact on ankle, knee and hip joints.

Why not pop in and see us – the entrance to the club is at the junction of Lower Ham Road and Lower Kings Road in Kingston.

Professional coaching for all levels of tennis players Children’s tennis camps during holidays Social tennis, events & tournaments Call 020 8546 5935

kingstonriversideclub.org info@kingstonriversideclub.org Lower Ham Road, Kingston, Surrey, KT2 5AJ

editor’s letter This winter is keeping us waiting We are still enjoying unusually mild autumn days as I write this at the end of November. I feel truly blessed living here, in one of the few regions in the world to enjoy at least some benefits of global warming.

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Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Marja-Leena Toseland All Enquiries 07802 949836 Email richmond@ darlingmagazine.co.uk kingston@ darlingmagazine.co.uk Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson, Dr Mariette Jansen Photography

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Our lovely cover girl and Inspiring Woman is an award winning author and actor, Elizabeth Morton, married to a Dr Who, Peter Davison, and a step-mum in-law to another Dr, David Tennant. Darling is about flying the flag for women and we have an abundance of successful female entrepreneurs and professionals in this issue; an exclusive feature with12 local business women sharing their stories and top tips; Ali Clifford, promoting ethical and sustainable fashion and cosmetics; Milli Abrams's Tribe shop and courses in Richmond Hill have stirred a storm amongst knitting enthusiasts and inspired novices; our stylist Carrie Foreman has chosen fashion and gifts to make you shine this Christmas and beyond. Supporting local high street businesses is another passion for us. This time the spotlight is on Twickenham’s pretty Church Street, where businesses are thriving despite tough competition from online retailers and large cafe and restaurant chains. One of my favourite things about this time of the year is for friends and families to gather for lovely meals at cosy and welcoming eateries. We’d love you to discover our favourites chosen for our regular restaurant guide.

We wish you a wonderful Christmas time and hope that you'll enjoy the best winter has to offer whether it's skiing, ice-skating, enjoying wintry walks or a horse and carriage ride through our beautiful Richmond Park.

Until the New Year and our spring issue in March.

Marja-Leena Toseland

Editor

CONTENTS 3 Editor's letter 4 Elizabeth Morton chats about acting, writing and the Orange Tree Theatre 7 Women in Business - top tips from local women at the top of their game 13 An adventure in Iceland 14 A thriving business community is the heart of Twickenham’s Church Street 16 Our guide to the festive season and winter’s best local restaurants 19 Richmond’s new hot restaurant and bar - The Gate 20 Our stylist’s top pics will make you shine this season 23 Knitting is hip again - join Millie’s Tribe in Richmond Hill 24 Being a conscious consumer is not just for Christmas 27 Dr De-Stress gives advice for empty-nesters 29 Healing your heart with The Grief Recovery Method 31 Where are we with the campaign to erect a statue of Virginia Woolf in Richmond?

33 Why buy bespoke by QubeWest Interiors 34 What to do if there is no Power of Attorney by our legal experts Moore Blatch 38 'On the Scene' social pages 44 The magical horse drawn carriage rides return to Richmond Park this Christmas 45 Kingston has a Town Crier again 46 Paul Mendelson’s bridge column 47 Christmas Day Dinner for young care leavers 48 What’s On this winter - diary pages 50 Lyndsay Russell’s Point of View

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Elizabeth Morton

award-winning writer and actor Our editor Marja-Leena paid a visit to Elizabeth's thespian home (with only one Dalek in evidence) to find out what she’s up to now

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ike me, you will remember Elizabeth from iconic dramas and comedies such as Jeeves and Wooster and London's Burning. She’s also won accolades and awards for her short stories, she has just acquired a two book deal with Ebury Press/Penguin, and her work has been produced by BBC, C4, and Radio 4. She lives in Twickenham with husband Peter Davison, who played Dr Who in the 80’s and vet Tristan in All Creatures Great and Small. They have two sons, Louis who recently had a great role as Geoffrey Charles in Poldark, and Joel who is still at school. This thespian family has also acquired a second Dr Who, David Tennant, who is married to Peter’s actress daughter Georgia. The couple met whilst filming Dr Who.

Writing and acting require very different talents and disciplines.

What are you more passionate about?

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“When I was acting I was incredibly free. I had no children, I could go anywhere at any time. I do believe that it’s a charmed life if you can make a living out of it. It’s challenging but also great fun. Looking back, I feel that those many years as an actor informed me as a writer. I have always written though, even when I was acting. When I was a child I used to send pages of jokes to comics and I still remember when I was 8 they printed one in Bunty - which was terrible by the way - but it was the most incredible feeling.

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“Every person's story is unique, so why not write it down? It could be the start of something fantastic.”

Acting is training for becoming a writer as you are working with words. Writing a novel is really playing the characters in your head. If you can use the same skill it gives it authenticity. My first piece of writing that received attention was a play I wrote for a competition when I was heavily pregnant with my first child. I then trained with The Royal Court Young Writers Group. I also love visiting schools and advise teachers on how to develop their pupils’ speech and creative writing. I’ve been to very different schools from Feltham, Liverpool, Birmingham, also locally here.”

You are also an ambassador of the Orange Tree Theatre - is the future looking secure for the theatre?

“It’s great to be part of this independent producing powerhouse that punches above its weight! They reach an audience of 75,000 a year, and 10,000 in the community, and have won 25 major industry awards.

My job as an Ambassador is to persuade as many people I can to come along and see for themselves what wonderful work this theatre is doing, right in the heart of Richmond. The arts are under such pressure with funding cuts, not only at the theatre, but also in schools which is why their school’s Shakespeare programme is so important. We will always need to raise money for the theatre to continue.”

calendars, and bespoke books for businesses like Milestone and Collis, St James Group, Harris and Hoole - one highlight was when our books were given to each Marriott Hotel guest during their Rugby World Cup stay.

So with my first novel coming out next year, the second to finish, Orange Tree, and the business, I am keeping myself busy.”

Which of your work are you most proud and fond of?

“I’ve always written short stories but wanted to write a novel. I’m finishing my debut called A Liverpool Girl which is an uplifting saga set in the 1950s. I’m from Liverpool and as a teenager, by day I was at convent school, and by night, I played my piano accordion at pubs and working mens’ clubs. I used these push and pull experiences in the book. My father’s family was Irish Liverpool catholic, my mum was a music teacher and my grandmother a ballet dancer, so I had two very different sides in my life to draw from. I will always love my short stories and still sometimes write under a different name, it frees me to be bolder and to write about different things too.”

Elizabeth with husband Peter Davison

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What’s next for you?

“I have a small business with Martine La Roche - Roche-Heery Creatives. We combine Martine’s photos with my writing, into bespoke books about the River Thames. Orleans Gallery were the first to stock it, which gave us the confidence to take it to Petersham Nurseries. After their feedback we produced a second version which they sold. Now it’s at many local outlets, and in central London and Bermondsey. We also produce cards and

Elizabeth in Jeeves and Woster

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Top tips from 12 local women at the top of their game

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e have seen a big increase in the number of women setting up their own businesses, 45 per cent up between 20132016, compared to a 27 per cent rise for men. This is great news as we need to utilise the talents, skills and expertise of all for our economy to stay competitive.

The Women in Business Council was set up by Teresa May in 2012 in order to advise Government on how women’s contribution to the economy can be optimised. They see an urgent need to broaden girls’ career choices and aspirations by bringing together schools, businesses, career development professionals and parents. To empower future generations of young women to consider entrepreneurship as a viable career option requires us to embed this female entrepreneurism in the education system.

Flexible working, especially for

“We need to accept that we won’t always be right, that we screw up royally sometimes - understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”

Arianna Huffington, Co-founder, The Huffington Post

parents, needs to be supported by employers. More and more women, who are currently in the labour market and struggling to find the necessary workplace flexibility, are considering setting up their own businesses as a realistic career choice.

Working for yourself doesn't have to be lonely as there are many support networks around. Women only networking groups are mushrooming everywhere. The members of these groups, myself included, find them warm, supportive, fun and less superficial. And it gets you real results too in terms of quality referrals and sales.

“More women are realising that joining a supportive network is beneficial to them, not only for business growth, but also for personal growth and development. Athena’s aims are support, training and strategic connections.” Charmaine Mace, Regional Director, Richmond Borough, The Athena Network.

Even women on top face prejudice, but don’t let that stop you finding your dream and living it.

“I still get investors asking me who we have to run the business side of things,” says Justine Roberts, founder and CEO of Mumsnet, which is in the top ten most visited social networks in the UK, with over 12 million unique visitors per month.

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Top tips from 12 local women at the top of their game Sarah Austin Founder of Really Helpful Club "I spent 10 years in the City as a Senior Fund Manager before leaving to become a fulltime mother. Four years ago, I founded Really Helpful Club, an online and offline community for positive, like-minded people to share their connections, advice and knowledge. Our Membership is unique, there’s nothing quite like the Really Helpful Club. It’s

Veronica Congdon Architectural Designer, VCDesign Architectural Services “When I graduated in CapeTown, I never imagined I would run my own business in SW London. I moved here in 1989, and after 11years gaining experience in large commercial practices, I took the plunge to set up my own practice. I love working with stimulating briefs and enjoy great satisfaction when my clients' dreams

Katerina Damcova IT specialist, IQ in IT Ltd "I have always been passionate about electronics and cars, even as a child. When it came to make the decision about my career IT seemed like the most fun and enjoyable option. After gaining five years experience as an IT

free to join and, with over 15,000 members, our community is buzzing.

Our website features a directory of outstanding memberrecommended businesses, who can advertise their services to our unique and influential network. We also run informative, inspiring and interesting events covering all aspects of life, from health and wellbeing, to career advice." reallyhelpfulclub.com

My top tip: "Build a support network, you can’t do it all on your own."

are realised. These can vary from homeowners who have outgrown their homes or could not buy what they required, developers seeking to maximise value to downsizers, The main challenge is managing everyone’s expectations; be it on budget, timescales or what they can achieve through planning.” veronicacongdondesign.co.uk

My top tip: "The key to suc-

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cess is building relationships with reliable builders, suppliers, and consultants."

Manager and achieving my Batchelors degree in IT, alongside working full time, I decided to start my own business in 2009. My passion for customer satisfaction has led me to create a successful IT business based in Kingston providing business IT support with security at heart."

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My top tip: "If you love what you do you never work a single day in your life."

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Janine Drake The Travel Trove “I made the switch from the corporate world of television advertising sales to selling travel in 2015 when I set up The Travel Trove. We specialise in luxury and tailor-made holidays for people who appreciate a personal service. We listen to our clients brief, spend time researching options from the hundreds of suppliers we partner with, and go

Catherine Edsell Fellow of the Royal Geographical Society and the founder of The Matriarch Adventure “I plan and lead expeditions for women to track desert elephants in Namibia. Why? Because I recognise the need for women to step out of their comfort zone and have a real adventure in extreme wilderness, gaining perspective, shifting old patterns and living life more fully going forward. I have 20 years

Erica Ferrar A Little Holistic Oasis “Understanding how stress can upset our physical, mental and emotional equilibrium, it makes sense to approach improving wellbeing from a preventive aspect.

If we build our resilience from the inside, we can empower ourselves to improve our own health and wellbeing.

My top tip: "Always focus on clients’ needs as repeat business will naturally come from good service. In these days of the internet, we have found that there are still lots of people looking to do business with a real person who actually cares about the experience they offer.” the extra mile to ensure our clients have the best experience from start to finish."

experience in conservation expeditions, and now combine this with wellbeing. In 2019 I am launching a new adventure for mothers and teenage daughters, focusing on bonding and connection with the natural world along with a new coral reef conservation adventure in Madagascar celebrating sisterhood in action!"

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My top tip: "Follow your passion, take action and the rest will follow."

Erica understands how incorporating key resilience coaching and training concepts, alongside the restorative therapeutic and relaxing benefits of a diverse range of holistic therapies, can achieve the balance and coherence we need to improve and sustain our wellbeing and increase our clarity, focus and drive."

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My top tip: "Relaxation is not a luxury, it is an essential tool in building personal resilience."

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Top tips from 12 local women at the top of their game Rhiannon Ford Divorce Consultant and Coach "I run a consultancy service, providing support and guidance to people going through divorce and separation. No one gets married thinking they will ever face divorce and it is a challenging time in anyone’s life. I work with clients before, during and after their divorce, taking time to

Tessa Kind Community Fundraising Manager, Love Kingston "I’ve enjoyed being involved in my local neighbourhood, from chairing the PTA to residents’ groups and neighbourhood watch. After spending three years volunteering with Love Kingston I was delighted to take up this position in March 2017 and continue the excellent work raising money for good causes in the Royal Borough. My role is to

Claire Langdon and Maggie Nuttall The Retreat Kitchen, Richmond “The spark to set up our muchloved vegan café, The Retreat Kitchen, came after we met as participants of the BBC’s, ‘The Retreat’, where we underwent a life-changing 30 day health programme and vegan diet at a detox centre in Thailand.

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understand their situation and particular challenges. I then help them put the right resources, professionals and processes in place, supporting them along the way."

My top tip: "When facing divorce it is important to get a strong support system in place to help with all the different challenges you might face."

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engage with the community, manage volunteers, organise events, raise awareness of the fund and the charities we work with, plus of course, fundraise. Our focus fundraising day, Love Kingston Day, is Feb 14th. Everyone is encouraged to join in and help fundraise for Love Kingston."

My top tip: "Charity fundraising

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is a team effort. Say thank you, let the team and supporters know you they’re appreciated."

With a renewed and healthier outlook on life, we joined forces to spread the incredible benefits of a plant-based diet; The Retreat Kitchen officially opened in February 2017."

Our top tip: "Know your figures

and do your research! Plan for the worst case scenario, talk to as many people as possible and find something meaningful that will make you stand out from your competition."

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Michelle Peters MD, Paragon Green Cleaning Company “Having worked in the cleaning service industry for 23 years as a company director, I developed a passion for being able to provide cleaning services in a more friendly and sustainable way.

I spent 18 months researching how to make cleaning better for our health, our immediate environment and our planet and it blew my mind! The more I

Sophie Peters Independent Consultant, Arbonne International “I started a network marketing business when I didn’t need it. I had just graduated from University and was on the hunt for a full-time job, just like all my peers. I got myself a job in the fundraising tech-

learnt the more I was driven to learn more. To be able to share my knowledge and offer clients an environmentally friendly and sustainable cleaning service that minimises the detrimental impact on us and the environment is fundamental to my company. “ paragongreencleaning.co.uk

My top tip: "Believe in your business. If you’re not sure, do it anyway and find out!"

nology sector, which was fantastic; until my position, along with many others, became redundant. Luckily, I had the foresight years prior to start my NWM business and build it up alongside working full time. I still continue to do so today and couldn’t be more excited for the future!”

My top tip: "Never stop learning."

Rochelle Tomlin Business Growth Enabler, NatWest "My role is to help local businesses and communities by introducing them to contacts that can support them. I have 33 years of experience in helping customers with the right support to hit their business goals.

I’m proud to be one of over 400 NatWest, Women in Business Specialists across the UK. We run free, female focussed events that were

attended by over 11,000 women last year alone. Over the last 16 years in partnership with Everywoman we’ve been celebrating gender divesity by recognising the success of Britain’s top female entrepreneurs, helping to develop a female talent pipeline that provides these future leaders with tools, techniques, insight and advice."

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Rochelle.tomlin@natwest.com

My top tip: "Be the best in whatever you choose to do and remember help is always at hand."

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FANCY A NIGHT OUT? Work from home?

Need a nanny for a night to get some sleep?

Our team at Super Sitters provide short term childcare. We offer last minute, flexible, professional care for the individual requirements of any child and their family.

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The Premier Networking Organisation for Women In Business ATTENTION, LADIES! Do you run your own business?

Want to meet likeminded business women? We’re here to support you, provide strategic connections & training. Meetings are once a month, between 12 and 2pm. COME & VISIT one of our groups!

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KINGSTON – Holiday Inn, Kingston Tower, Portsmouth Road, KT6 5QQ 2nd Thursday each month

ST MARGARETS – The Crown, 174 Richmond Road, TW1 2NH 3rd Wednesday each month

RICHMOND – Richmond Gate Hotel, Richmond Hill, TW10 6RP 2nd Wednesday each month

KEW – The Greyhound,, 82 Kew Green,TW9 3AP 3rd Thursday each month

HAMPTON COURT – The Stables, 18 Hampton Court Rd, KT8 9BP 3rd Tuesday each month

SURBITON – The French Table, 85 Maple Road, KT6 4AW 4th Tuesday each month

For more information contact Charmaine on 07507 151 058 or email charmaine.mace@theathenanetwork.com

Artisan Sandwiches* *eat in Chocolate Cake* or Pastel de Nata (Custard Tart)* take away Fresh Coffee* Fine Wines Specialist Cheeses Charcuterie (Bisaro Ham, Chorizo, Alheira etc.)

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My ICELAND CHALLENGE

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By Valerie McBride Munro

y adventure in Iceland started as a marriage of two elements. Firstly, my good friend Julia Jones of Iceland Traveller was introducing the Iceland Charity Challenge hike; secondly, Richmond Talking Newspaper desperately needed cash for new recording equipment.

Our group of eleven were to walk for four days within the Golden Circle, covering 50 kilometres in total. We’d spend one night camping under the stars, and another in a scout bunkhouse. We knew that the weather could be extremely fickle and were prepared to be very wet and cold.

We were led by professional guides who took us completely off the beaten track, so as far as we were concerned Iceland was completely empty.

DAY ONE – walked all day on American tectonic plate. Underfoot mixture of volcanic shale and deep moss, quite hard going. Perhaps word ‘hike’ didn’t quite fit. Think all out of comfort zone but laughing. No rain though. Campsite nestled at bottom of secluded valley in middle of thermal field. Geothermal dinner, delicious lamb cooked to perfection in hot mud. Spent two hours lounging around in hot river.

DAY TWO – left campsite to walk most of day on

Relaxing in a geothermal pool

lumpy lava – again heavy going but spirits high.

Could see for miles over magnificent scenery. Someone suggested mixture of wild Wales and Mars.

Walked back to hotel Hveragerdi.

DAY THREE – more magnificent scenery but where I faced my own personal challenge.

Climbed up ‘hill’ called Ravenscliff – 700 metres up steep slope; wonderful views from top but very hairy descent for someone with acrophobia.

Luckily still no rain, but skies dark, mean and moody. Spent night in scout bunkhouse beside lake – all very pretty, tiniest Northern Lights.

DAY FOUR – walked along European tectonic plate with more magnificent views, mainly looking at Ravenscliff, thinking of easier ways to raise money! Iceland has the most extraordinary landscape and skyscapes. Great humour in group.

Long day finally walking to Hveragerdi... and finally Northern Lights show!

At the end of the challenge, packed up and returned to the airport, all with a little piece of something Iceland under our skins. It’s a magnificent and magical country. We walked hard, but raised £4,500 for RTN – I’d say, job done!

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Valerie Munro is production editor for Richmond Talking Newspaper, a unique source of local and community news for blind and partially sighted local residents: richmondtalkingnewspaper.org.uk

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CHURCH STREET Hidden behind Twickenham’s busy King Street and just a few strides from the iconic Eel Pie Island lies one of the best preserved and prettiest streets in our area, no wonder it’s so popular with filmmakers. There is a wonderful mix of independent shops, cafes and restaurants, but with increasing competition from online businesses they need continued support from their local customers as well as to attract visitors to the area. Here are some of the great businesses to give you a taste of what Church Street has to offer.

Allissias Attic Beautiful hand selected gifts, homeware and furniture with an eclectic flavour but leaning towards the Vintage French Style. Their beautiful, timeless and practical pieces inspire your home, bringing glamour and sophistication with an ease of everyday style.

Worth a visit to see their huge range of Christmas gifts and decorations in store or online at: allissiasattic.co.uk | 42 Church Street | 020 8616 5760

Brewery Market Befitting the Church Street scene, Brewery Market’s welcoming interiors make for a happy hour, or two, spent browsing a broad selection of craft brews and a charming range of hop based cosmetic products (because hops are hugely beneficial to us inside, and out). They even have a beer for your four-legged friends!

Craft beer is giving us more tastes, styles and flavours than ever before. Check their website for what’s on tap and special events. Drink in, or takeaway. brewerymarket.co.uk | 48/49 Church Street | 0203 601 9494

Crusader Travel The team with over a hundred years of "travel experiences" between them and no challenge is too demanding. Bruce has been tour operating for many years from Red Sea to Golfing to Villas in Sicily. Hedda for many years led Wildlife Groups Worldwide, Shona excels in Cruising and Bespoke and Billur, our "Aussie Specialist" is also specialist in Turkey. Parking is available behind the Agency, drop by and discuss your plans. New this winter: flights to Aqaba (Jordan - Beach & Petra) and Eilat. crusadertravel.com | 57/58 Church Street | 0208 744 0474 14

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Pulcinella Osteria First opened in November 1994, creating surprising interpretations, but always maintaining the spirit and substance of traditional Italian food.

The array of flavours start from their quality breakfast, comfortable lunch dishes to their incredible tasty dinners, all paired with an outstanding wine selection. Osteria also hosts a very popular Supper Club.

Join them on the 28 January for a Sicilian evening.

38A CHURCH ST, TWICKENHAM 0208 744 2403

osteriapulcinella.co.uk | 36/37 Church Street | 020 8892 5854

The Bloomery

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R E E S Her flowers are not just beautiful, they are chosen to arts and N O Nprovide - D R Oa Punique N O look, R D Mwhether A N its a bouquet to celebrate a new home or flowers toFdress your wedding venue or event. There is a large variety of IR seasonal plants for the garden as well as interior plants to dress your home 6FT-7FT £45 for the festive season and winter.

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SNAX A cosy café, restaurant and a take away deli, specialising in home made Homeware & gifts Italian food and delicious cakes which are all baked by Vera, the owner, on the premises. They serve a hearty breakfast and fantastic Italian coffee from 7am (8am Saturdays and 9am Sundays), freshly prepared food, salads and sandwiches for lunch, or what ever time hunger strikes until 4pm (3pm weekends), and their cakes are a must try for your afternoon pick-me up! snax-twickenham.com | 28 Church St | 020 8891 1006

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Festive Season & Winter Roz Ana One of the most popular spots to celebrate in the Kingston area; with a great reputation for serving the best in Regional Indian Cuisine, delicious wines and enticing cocktails, all in a buzzy smart-casual environment. Family friendly and with plenty of options for vegetarian and meat lovers alike. Very flexible space for private parties of all sizes and menu choices to suit most budgets. Take a look at the video and our menus on the website for a sense of what Roz Ana has to offer.

4-8 Kingston Hill, KT2 7NH | 020 8546 6388 | roz-ana.com

Hawkers Bar and Brasserie at DoubleTree by Hilton Whether you are seeking a Festive Afternoon Tea or just fancy a hint of the Christmas spirit, this is the ideal place to bring together all the people that matter most. This year, discover our stylish bar and restaurant located in the heart of Kingston and create lasting memories along with a wonderful range of Christmassy menus. For a bit of added indulgence, taste one of our locally sourced gins or craft beers.

1 Skerne Road, Kingston upon Thames KT2 5FJ | 020 3146 4144 | hawkerskingston.com

La Buvette An independent, French bistro in an idyllic setting with an intimate dining room and a secluded courtyard, right in the centre of Richmond. They have been serving local residents since 2004 with a menu that represents Regional French cooking, with nods to the influencing neighbours of Spain, Basque, northern Italy and North Africa. The menu changes fortnightly with the Prix Fixe at ÂŁ20 for 3 courses. The wine represents all the regions of France. Open every day for lunch and dinner.

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RESTAURANT GUIDE

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Ristorante Del Posto St. Margaret’s favourite local Italian serves authentic and mouth watering dishes, inspired by flavours and Italian home cooking. Their warm and welcoming atmosphere makes it a perfect place for friends and families. Their motto says it all ‘There is nothing more important than a good meal with friends and family, accompanied with a nice glass of wine of course’. And the Italians also say: “A tavola non si invecchia” - “At the table one does not age”. We are committed to using authentic Italian and fresh ingredients in our recipes. They even play live blues and jazz every Monday evening.

139 St. Margarets Rd, Twickenham TW1 1RG | 020 8891 2644 | delposto.co.uk

Riverside, Kingston Bill's, Busaba Eathai, Chakra, Côte and Comptoir Libanais overlook the River Thames and Kingston Bridge, offer diverse cuisine to suit every palette. Choose from the best of British, French brasserie, a taste of Thai, lovely Lebanese or an authentic Indian feast – there’s something for everyone. Visiting Kingston for shopping or going to the theatre? Our restaurants are open for breakfast, lunch, afternoon tea and dinner. If you are looking to book your Christmas celebrations with family, friends or office colleagues, just visit riversidekingston. co.uk and see all the options available and book a table.

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Stein’s Bavarian Restaurant Don’t miss the opportunity to delight your staff and friends with an authentic Bavarian atmosphere this Christmas! Festive specialities of roast duck, wild boar and venison as well as delicious vegetarian options are on the menu. Beer, wine and cocktail lovers will be well catered for too. Decorated with beautiful wreaths, Stein’s is a magical place at Christmas. It’s like stepping into a cosy chalet, everything from the timber cladding to the benches and antlers have been carefully selected and imported from Germany and Austria. NEW: Stein’s Berlin. Christmas Market until Sun 9 Dec. In aid of Vineyard Community Centre, Richmond | 51 Princess Gate, London SW7 2PH 56 High Street KT1 1HN | 020 8546 2411 | stein-s.com/kingston

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The Gate

brings a new social dining concept to Richmond Hill

Our editor paid a visit to check out the ambience and sample their fayre

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he Gate is part of the newly refurbished Richmond Gate Hotel with its own entrance in Queen’s Road. The space has undergone an incredible transformation from its past to a stylish restaurant and an impressive bar blending together in a light and sumptuously fitted glasshouse which opens up to a gorgeous garden offering al fresco dining and drinking in the warmer months.

I invited a friend to join me for a Friday evening drinks and dinner, just few days after they had opened. The bar area and tables by the open kitchen were busy with a warm atmosphere and even with a resident DJ playing cool tunes. If you are after a more quiet corner or have a bigger group to host, then the area by the entrance is perfect.

The bar staff take great pride in creating fabulous cocktails and my Negroni Bianca was mixed to

perfection. For starters we had seared scollops with pea puree and bacon; great flavours and the scollops were soft and fresh. The house cured salmon with kelp gribiche and pickles was an equally tasty combination. For a main course, I was tempted by their plant based and grains menu and ordered a baked cauliflower served with buckwheat, almond, sour cream and pickled Romanesco and topped with pomegranate. This turned out to be an amazing choice, by far the most imaginative way to serve cauliflower cheese. My friend wanted his Friday fish & chips which were light and crispy, and very tasty.

After all that delicious food there really wasn’t room for

pudding but we couldn’t resist the ‘shared blueberry and apple pie’; a lovely concept of serving individual portions from an enormous pie brought to your table. You can order the whole pie too if you have a big party or a hungry family to feed. Absolutely delicious with vanilla ice-cream or custard.

The Gate is a great space to work and play, for breakfast, lunch and dinner, serving coffees and cocktails all day and as day turns to night it transforms into a vibrant bar, with live music and DJ’s and special events planned too.

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ne Thursday evening, when I was outside taking photos through the window of all the knittyaction that was happening inside during Knit Nite, a little crowd had gathered outside the steamy window. I overheard one gentleman say to his wife “It can’t just be about knitting – it must be a front!”

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fashion

A Conscious Christmas

ALL YEAR ROUND

Ali Clifford, Wimbledon-based social media marketing consultant to ethical and sustainable fashion and cosmetics brands, has some advice on how we can shop guilt-free for a more Conscious Christmas

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s we head into December, the countdown to Christmas gifting, holidays, and parties really ramps up. Reminders have been thrust upon us for last minute Christmas Day outfits, stocking-fillers, and party shoes, and a mild panic starts to set in.

“Buy less, choose well is my mantra as we approach Christmas.”

Over the last few years, in the lead up to the festive season, I’ve certainly considered “who” made my clothes and the gifts I’ve bought for friends and family. Yet now there seems a new urgency for that ‘conscious Christmas’ - In the UK many more of us have David Attenborough’s Blue Planet II and BBC’s Stacey Dooley and Fashion’s Guilty Secrets to thank for opening our eyes to the impact that plastics, and fast fashion is having on our planet as well as the people who make it.

Navigating the holiday season can be tricky when you are trying to stay true to your ethics, newfound or otherwise.

SO - to keep it brief, and to the point, let’s start with two basic fashion principals to consider: • Sustainability - What is it made from?

• Fairness for garment workers - who made it?

And - it’s not JUST cheaper high street ‘fast fashion’ we should be contemplating; Even if we are going ‘high-end’ and luxury, let’s shop ‘ethical’ instead.

Sustainable Fashion Stacey Dooley says in her BBC documentary FASHION’S DIRTY SECRETS: “I’ve never associated clothes’ production with pollution before.”

Cotton has been called the world’s dirtiest crop, owing to its heavy use of insecticides and water, high greenhouse gas emissions and land use. Did you know, it can take over 15,000 litres of water to grow the cotton to make a pair of jeans.

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Alternatively, organic cotton or linen require less water and fare better in terms of environmental impact and toxicity.

Party shoes, and Boxing Day boots On the hunt for that perfect leather clutch bag and shiny party shoes?

The fashion documentary on Netflix, “The True Cost Movie” shows leather tanneries responsible for chronic pollution with a toxic waste of chemicals such as arsenic and chromium flowing into India’s revered Ganges river, and the systematic poisoning of tens of thousands of people. Opt for vegetable tanned European chrome-free leather which will have been produced to higher welfare and environmental standards. There are plenty of sustainable vegan footwear options available too: Shoe brands such as Po-Zu.com use materials like cork, linen, eco microfibre, organic cotton, Fairtrade rubber, and innovative vegan materials like Pinatex, a plant-based leather which is made from pineapple leaf fibres.

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Are you a Slave to Fashion?

Well, that’s the greenhouse gases, the ocean plastics, leather tanneries and textile pollution covered - now let’s talk about the movement for greater transparency regarding the workers conditions and rights in the fashion industry.

Campaigners such as Safia Minney MBE, founder of People Tree, and author Slave of Fashion, are highlighting modern slavery in the garment trade.

Also, Fashion Revolution’s hashtag #WhoMadeMyClothes? This simple question gets people thinking differently about what they wear. As consumers, our questions, our voices, our Christmas shopping behaviour can have the power to help change things for the better.

Be a sustainability advocate Meghan Markle pulls on a pair of Outland Denim skinny jeans… and up to 30 women rescued from human trafficking will be hired as seamstresses as a direct consequence.

We can create our own ‘Megan effect’ – People will ask you where you bought your party shoes!

Hey, you could even RENT your party outfit from wearthewalk.com Use your wallet, wardrobe and your voice to transform fashion into a force for good. Shop ethically this season. Here’s a list of brands and independent stores who are finding alternative ways of producing and promoting fashion that

is mindful of the people who make it, the planet and its resources: po-zu.com, howies.co.uk, peopletree.co.uk, fabricforfreedom.com Find the Slave to Fashion Book at ethicalshop.org Boots by Po-Zu.com

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Dr Mariette Jansen

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Empty nest – an opportunity to redefine fulfilment

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ent and take control of before you realise it, your ime flies and

little baby has turned into a young adult who is exploring the world on their herapist, who is an expertyou in helping own.

Without keeping an eye on them. al chat to find outleft how can help They youshe to travel, study or work. You did 131 your job so well that they are able, willing and even keen to stand on their own feet.

a great achievement t can be veryWhat difficult to prove what has and a job well done!

And… what a huge shock d. However, you are not doing yourself anyto the system too.

Your head lets them go but your heart aches. y obsessing about revenge. Angry and negative The big question is: ‘What don’t allow you to move forward. Your wishdo I do now?’ They gave sobut much joy and e is understandable, it alienates youpurpose from and it feels as if they took it all with them. nds, your partner and yourself. I suggest youThat is a very difficult place to personality’. be. It leavesOne anyhalf parent lost for words metaphorically a ‘split and overwhelmed ll look for professional help to dealwith withemotions. your

emotions. Instead of obsessing start processing But, every cloud hassupa silver lining. After the up your confidence.

Also, seek the initial bereavement stage, specialised law firm that can take over fromyou realise how free you are.

More time, more advice and execute what can be done.

The emotional space and less responsibilities. f of you sees this experience as a life lesson, herself and focuses on the future. A new job ark a new beginning and bring new positive nt to counteract the negative experience. You l feel that he won in the end, but if you don’t anges to your mindset, guess who is the loser? fair, but instead of fighting it you are better of from it.

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A time to grow as a person without the boundaries of motherhood.

It is time to fly, spread your wings and discover the world. Just like your children are doing.

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Is your heart: Broken? Lost? Stuck?

Dealing with the pain of loss

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here is never an easy time of year when it comes to dealing with raw emotions but as the evenings draw in and the Christmas festivities begin, this time of year can be especially painful for those of us who are grieving. Any loss, whether due to death, divorce, the ending of a relationship, loss of trust or even redundancy, can cause feelings of grief and despair as we think about our unfulfilled hopes, dreams and expectations. Those memories and feelings can often seem overwhelming and the future frightening and bleak.

Contrary to popular wisdom, time does not heal emotional wounds. Regardless of when your loss occurred, it is important to know that recovery is possible and that there are actions which can be taken to heal your heart and make you feel whole again.

As a society we are notoriously bad at dealing with grief. We are told that ‘time heals’, ‘to be strong’, ‘keep busy’, ‘don’t feel sad’. But it is normal to feel

sad, fearful, disoriented, confused or even angry when we have suffered a significant loss or an unexpected change in our lives. Although sadness is normal and natural, pain does not need to be.

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How RICHMOND shaped

Virginia Woolf

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e wrote in our summer issue about a campaign for a statue of Virginia Woolf which is to be erected on the terrace by the river in Richmond. Planning permission has now been granted and the Local Arts and Media Charity and publisher, Aurora Metro, who are behind the campaign, have raised a part of the £50,000 needed. A book Virginia Woolf in Richmond has also been published recently to coincide with the campaign.

The author behind the book, Peter Fullagar, examines how living in Hogarth House on Paradise Road, Richmond was a turning point in Woolf’s career. Virginia and her husband Leonard first moved to 17 The Green, Richmond in 1914 before moving

to Hogarth House in 1915, where they stayed until 1924.

The new book demonstrates that the parks and riverside walks of the town were frequented by Virginia, where she enjoyed observing the local people and attractions, often noting them down in her diary or in numerous letters to friends and family. In 1917, Virginia and Leonard founded the Hogarth Press in their house to allow Virginia the freedom and control of her own work. Their first publication was Two Stories and this led to the couple publishing works by notable writers such as Katherine Mansfield, T.S. Eliot, Sigmund Freud and E.M. Forster, as well as further work

by Virginia herself. However, the turning point was the publication of Kew Gardens in 1919, a short story by Virginia which was reviewed favourably in the Times Literary Supplement.

This resulted in the couple being overwhelmed with orders for the publication and this gave Virginia much more confidence in her own writing. Although the couple left Richmond in 1924, Virginia records in her diary that

Author Peter Fullagar with his book Virginia Woolf in Richmond

“I ought to be grateful to Richmond and Hogarth, and indeed, whether it’s my invincible optimism or not, I am grateful.”

Cheryl Robson, director of Aurora Metro, believes that Richmond deserves to be recognised as important in the life and work of Woolf and will help celebrate the literary history of Richmond.

Virginia Woolf in Richmond (£16.99) can be purchased from aurorametro.com Donations to the Virginia Woolf Statue campaign can be given through aurorametro.org/virginiawoolf-statue

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What happens if you don't have a

Power of Attorney in place?

By Fiona Heald, Partner and Suzanne Mynors , Associate

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ontrary to popular belief, nobody has an automatic right to manage someone else’s finances, even if they are related, married or in a civil partnership with them.

So what happens should you no longer be able to manage your financial affairs, perhaps due to ill health or an accident, and you don’t

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have a Power of Attorney in place which covers property and finance?

This article covers the issues that arise when a Power of Attorney is not in place and someone else needs to manage your financial affairs, including anything from paying household bills to managing your pension or savings.

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What needs to happen when you don’t have a Power of Attorney in place?

Firstly, you’ll need to apply to the Court of Protection for a ‘property and financial affairs deputy order’.

This asks the Court to appoint a deputy, or preferably deputies, to deal with your finances.

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It is advisable to have more than one deputy; that way, should one deputy not be able to carry out their duties, then another can act on your behalf. Your deputies should also be able to act ‘jointly and severally’, meaning any one deputy can act independently at any time.

The Court of Protection likes family and friends to be appointed as deputies.

However, where there are family disagreements or if your assets are complex, it can be best to appoint a solicitor.

A Court of Protection order requires information on your assets, income and liabilities, a medical certificate and a declaration by each proposed deputy to confirm their suitability and that they will undertake their duties properly.

The process of completing the forms can take around a month, and support from a solicitor may be required. Be aware that many NHS doctors won’t complete the medical certificate, and those who do may charge up to £300.

The application fee is £385 and payable to the Court, and it takes about a month for the Court to issue the application.

After this, your proposed deputies need to notify various

family members, including yourself – all of whom have the right to object to the appointment of a deputy.

Assuming no objections are received, the Court requires an annual insurance bond which pays out should any deputy illegally take your money. For £300,000 cover, the premium is about £225.

With the bond in place, the Court issues the order along with guidance for the deputies. A separate bank account needs setting up to manage your financial affairs. And your deputies will send the order to all the companies that you have dealings with.

The Office of the Public Guardian (OPG) supervises deputies and receives further fees, such as the annual supervision fee of £320 per year for assets of over £21,000 and £35 if less. A further assessment fee is due to the OPG of £100, required for new deputies. All fees are payable out of your money.

This whole process takes about six months.

The much better option is to make a Lasting Power of Attorney.

Suzanne Mynors

A Lasting Power of Attorney gives you control to ensure that your property and financial affairs are dealt with in your best interests should you no longer be able to make important decisions yourself.

This is a legally binding document that your solicitor can draft on your behalf.

You appoint the people that you want to act as your attorneys, taking into account any wishes and feelings that you have made known, but always in your best interests. Once these documents are written, there are no additional legal costs. In addition to covering your finances, you also have the option to have a Lasting Power of Attorney to cover your health and welfare. Both these documents can give you the peace of mind that your affairs will be managed whatever the future may hold.

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Charlotte Melia (Dazzle & Fizz), Ulvi Taghizadeh (wife of Ambassador of Azerbaijan), Sahar Arfeen (The Posh Mum Club), Sadie Reid (Hip&Healthy and Luxe + Hardy) and Venetia Archer (Ruubyapp)

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GIGGLING SQUID'S FABULOUS LAUNCH PARTY IN KINGSTON

S'om, Simon Gallagher, Bu and Mint

Angellica Bell, Praneer Laurillard (owner of Giggling Squid) and Michael Underwood

WOMEN IN BUSINESS LUNCH BY KINGSTON CHAMBER OF COMMERCE

Julia Trollop, Josie Bulloch and Alida Ballard

Sara Whitman, Lauren Hall, Rochelle Tomlin and Natalie Crew

AT ANITA FERRON CLARK'S FANTASTIC STYLE & FASHION TALK AT THE WILLOW

Michelle Peters and Erica Ferrar

Lucy Spray, Edwina Hughes and Colin and Colin Williams (Holiday Inn)

Caroine Brown, Anita Feron Clark, June Barber, Jenny Townsend, Jolanta Waugh and Clare Reid

Natalie Crew, Clare Mannall and Sue Towner

Sister act: Anita Ferron Clark and Rakhi Purohit (makeup artist)

Stacey Richard (Super Sitters)and Lucy Spray (Lucy J Interiors)

HOME WORKERS AND FREELANCERS COFFEE AT THE WYCH ELM IN KINGSTON

Emma Peries, Alex Hughes, Rayner Ward and Kelly Little

THE ATHENA NETWORK LAUNCHED A NEW GROUP IN ST MARGARETS

Nina Colvin, Sveta Longley, Ingrid Hinton and Angela Winter

Amaka Jackson, Gabi Da Rocha and Paula Trovalusci

Charmaine Mace, (Regional Director, Athena Richmond & Kingston), Kathryn Seaton-Reid, Mariette Jansen (Dr De-Stress) and Veronica Congdon

OPEN HOUSE IN TOWNSHEND TERRACE, RICHMOND

Anne Williams, Sarah Houston and Leoni Wright

Anne Gibbon, Penny Waite and Nina Stubbs

IN BERLIN - STEIN'S KINGSTON AND RICHMOND RESTAURANTS EXPANDED TO SOUTH KENSINGTON AUTHOR GAIL HONEYMAN VISITED KINGSTON UNIVERSITY FOR THE BIG READ

Architect Shabnam Noor and Business Director Rizwan Ahmad from Stories by Shabnam Noor Architects

NOW THAT'S ENTERTAINMENT! PREVIEW AT 1of1, TEDDINGTON

Sky Holland, Marja-LeenaToseland Marja-Leena Toseland, Anu West, Charmaine and Yulia Robinson

Mace, Koo Anand, Letizia Gorianz-Porta and Bele Weiss (owner of Stein's)

Associate Professor Dr Alison Baverstock, Gail Honeyman and Kingston Deputy Mayor Olivia Boult. Photo by Kingston University

KINGSTON POUND IS 'REAL' MONEY: KINGSTON UNI STUDENTS DESIGNED THE £££ NOTES Andrew Connolly (the man behind Kingston Pound), Mayor Cllr Thay Thayalan, winning designers Molly Dunn and Eva Hilton, Vice Chancellor Colin Rhodes and Karen Powell (Salmon Magazine)

Raph Thomas (artist), Kate Winskill (owner of 1of1) and Stephen Doak (artist and classic film poster collector)

THE FIRST KINGSTON CHAMBER OF COMMERCE EXPO IN CHESSINGTON

Peter Lynagh ( ABLE Academy), Natalie Crew, Ed Davey MP and Amanda Cullen (business coach)

Tamara Stringer (Incredibly Social), Georgina Oxlade (VSO International) Hannah Hines (artist), and Natasha Perry (Catchfly)

Surbiton Golf Club: David Weatherhead (Club Captain), Richard Kennett, Ross Brock, Alex Williams (PGA professional) and Clint Whittaker (General Manager)

Marja-Leena Toseland, Goncalo Sousa and Lorna Giffin (both from DoubleTree by Hilton)

The London Prosecco Company: Natasha Littlewood, and Ross Feeney with Anu West (Darling designer)

AT JENNY BLANC'S BEAUTIFUL TEDDINGTON SHOWROOM EVENT

Christine Ella (TW11 Magazine) and Paula Palk

Chloe Mullaney and Kelly Baldwin

Our editor, Jane Simpson, Jenny Blanc and Chrissy Marshall

ARTIST HANNA TEN DOORNKAAT FUNDRAISING SUPPER FOR HER VENICE BIANNALE '19 SHOW

A FABULOUS LAST NIGHT OF THE PROMS DINNER AT THE WHARF IN TEDDINGTON

Puffy Kimm, Sha Lino (owner of Terra Mia) and Hanna

Marja-Leena Toseland, Tracey Hanh and Matt Windett

Barbara Grant, David Grant, Barbara Spain (Manager, The Wharf) and friend

KINGSTON ARTS FESTIVAL OF THE VOICE LAUNCH AT THE CORNERHOUSE

Julie Pickering (Former Mayor of Kingston), Aine Lark (Chair of Kingston Arts) and Alistair Lark

Mayor of Kingston Cllr Thay Thayalan, Aine Lark, Deputy Mayor Cllr Olivia Boult and Mayoress Lata Thaylan

Belinda McKenna, Jack Bicknell (Duke Box) and Katharina Scott

HOLY CROSS PREP SCHOOL, COOMBE, ANNUAL MCMILLAN COFFEE MORNING Sarah Austin (parent and founder of The Really Helpful Club) with our editor

Zoë Penny, Liza Rowe, Kate Thomas, Ros Hanna, Jane Thomas, Ciara Enskat, Maureen Shilston and Debbie Caravello

HOLY CROSS PREP SCHOOL, ALUMNI GARDEN PARTY

Alison Young, Karine Torr (Darling Magazine), Paul and Maureen Shilston, Debbie Coia and Luisa Coia

GUSTO ITALIA FOOD AWARDS

Carmelo Carnevale President of UK Italian Professional Chefs Ass.) and Nesan Thirunesan (NC Supper Clubs)

Marja-Leena, Nancy Dell'Olio and Karine Torr (Darling publisher)

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The winter carriage rides are back What could be more magical than a horse drawn carriage ride in beautiful Richmond Park?

The 90-minute experience begins at Holly Lodge, Richmond Park, where you'll be met with refreshments. You will take your place in the carriage embarking on a 60 minute ride through the park in all its winter beauty!

You'll also be treated to a unique behindthe-scenes visit of the working stables.

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HIS CHRISTMAS, experience Richmond Park like never before with a ride around the park in a six-person Park Brake drawn by our majestic Shire Horses.

Enjoy the sounds of hoofs and bells, revel in the crisp air and watch the wildlife up close while you snuggle under a blanket … and have some sloe gin and a mince pie to truly get into the festive spirit!

Proceeds from the horse drawn rides will help fund sustainable conservation initiatives with the working Shire horses in The Royal Parks.

stop-shop for all your festive needs, with baubles and fairy lights for sale, as well as wreaths and garlands.

Each tree is hand selected to ensure it is of the highest quality and comes with a care label and a unique code, so you can check online the origin of your tree.

CHRISTMAS TREES On sale from 23-25 November and then every day from 28 November to 22 December.

BUSHY PARK:

Diana Fountain Car park

RICHMOND PARK:

Roehampton Gate Car Park

Various dates from 25 November until 6 January. Please ensure to book in advance.

You can also pick up a lovely Christmas trees on your visit to Bushy, Greenwich or Richmond Parks. The stalls will be a one-

CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEA Order a Royal Parks Calendar, a lovely stocking filler for your loved ones.

From shy pelicans in St James’s Park and vain deer in Richmond Park, to magnificent sunsets in Bushy Park – the calendar provides a snapshot of what makes London’s eight Royal Parks so special.

Each picture in the calendar has been hand selected from entries to our 2018 photo competition. The A4 calendar costs £9.99, from shop.royalparks.org.uk

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Proceeds from the Christmas tree and calendar sales go towards supporting the work in looking after 5,000 acres of historic parkland in London.

local history

Oyez, oyez, oyez!

Kingston has a town crier again

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fter an eight year silence, the call of Kingston’s town crier can be heard once more, ringing out across the borough to command our attention and spread important news.

The honour of this ceremonial role has been bestowed upon Mike Seigel after he expressed a keen interest in the vacant position which is now combined with that of Tipstaff.

The appointment was made by the Mayor, Deputy Lieutenant and High Steward, who were looking for candidates who lived within the borough, were of notable standing, and had strong links with the community. Mike has lived in the borough for 33 years, is currently Chair of the Kingston Tour Guides and was the first Chair of the Canbury Area Residents Association (CARA) established in 1990.

Besides proclaiming the news, it was commonplace for a town crier to carry out other duties such as patrolling the streets after dark, acting as peacekeepers and escorting people to the stocks, and making sure fires were damped down for the night after the curfew bell.

Kingston did away with its Town Crier on the outbreak

of war in 1914, but re-established it in 1984 combining it with the position of Tipstaff. The office of the Tipstaff is thought to have been created in the 14th century. The name originates from the early law enforcement officers who would apprehend a person intended for arrest by enforcing their duty, if necessary, with a tipped staff.

More recently the Tipstaff has been a uniformed official of the Council who leads the civic processions.

Today, Mike’s duties are focused on supporting civic events and making the connection with Kingston’s historic past. He has already been very involved in various activities in the Royal Borough: as Tipstaff at the Mayor Making Service in June, the Crown Court Service in September, the Borough Sports Awards in October and the Remembrance Service in November, while as Town Crier at many events including the hugely successful Kingston Carnival,

the opening of a playground in Chessington, the Heritage Weekends, the Surbiton Festival and the switching on of the Christmas lights.

If anyone wishes to make use of Town Crier’s services, they should contact the Mayor’s Office: mayorsoffice@kingston.gov.uk 020 8547 5027/30

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Bridge guru, Paul Mendelson gets cosy around the bridge table

North S J4 H 843 D A1072 C QJ102

♠ West S KQ1087 H K652 D Q96 C 5

South S A65 H AQ D KJ83 C AK43

♦ Dealer South N E 3NT

N/S Game S 2NT

♥ East S 932 H J1097 D 54 C 9876

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West led K♠ - top of a broken sequence - against South’s 3NT contract, and declarer immediately recognised that his opponents had hit on her weakest suit. It is wise to assume that the leader has a 5-card suit and play accordingly. If West has five spades, then East holds three and, for that reason, South should refuse to play her A♠ until the final round. In doing so, East should now have run out of spades.

When it comes to attacking the diamond suit to make her extra tricks, South must appreciate that West is a player she would like to avoid gaining the lead - since she has two more spade winners - whereas East proffers no threat, now being void in spades. To this end, having won A♠, declarer should lead 3♦ from hand and, when West plays low, should play dummy’s 10♦.

Even if East were to win, she has no spades left to play. So dummy’s 10♦ wins the trick, and now South can cash A♦, K♦ and a fourth diamond to bring home her contract is style. aceoftrumps.com

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A very special Christmas Day Dinner with a warm, fuzzy feeling guaranteed

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or the second year, our growing team of Richmond and Kingston-based volunteers are hosting a Christmas Dinner, actually on the 25th, for 50 local young people, aged 18-25, who have recently left the care system. Our goal is to create a safe and welcoming day, complete with traditional lunch, lovely gifts and festive fun. The idea to hold a Christmas Day Dinner in Richmond came from a local resident, inspired by the 2012 Olympic poet, Lemn Sissay.

Lemn’s first Dinner took place in 2013 in Manchester; this year there will be 14 nationwide. The need for the Dinner is beautifully expressed by Lemn, who grew up in foster care and in children’s homes, and had no family to fall back on when he became a care leaver. “It feels an incredibly risky time,” he says. “I used to fold myself into myself. All the memories were of Christmases that hadn’t been good.”

public transport on Christmas Day, contributions to the travel fund are much appreciated.

Find out more at christmasdayrichmond.com or on Facebook by searching for The Christmas Day Dinner Richmond Upon Thames.

Last year’s dinner was held at the Cricket Club in Bushy Park and the feedback was fantastic. One personal advisor from the Leaving Care Team said: “The messages I have received from my

young people that attended Christmas Day are amazing – it’s a day they will always remember. They told me they made friends, swapped numbers and felt really special.”

For many young care leavers, loneliness and isolation is magnified on Christmas Day; it can be a day to dread and then forget. We’re inviting the local community to join us to help make this day special for these young people.

If you have an hour, a business, wrapping skills and/or a desire to help in some way, large or small, please get in touch. We’d like to give every guest a Santa’s sack of presents. And with no

Above: Sir Vince Cable and other volunteers with young care leavers at last year's succesful Christmas Day Dinner

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Kingston area FESTIVAL OF THE VOICE Restoration Christmas: Lovekyn Chapel, Tue 11 Dec, 7:30pm Christmas Concert: Sat 15 Dec, 7:30pm Choral Music for Christmas: Sun 16 Dec, 3pm

TEDDINGTON THEATRE CLUB Dick Whittington: Sat 8 Dec - Sat 15 Dec The Winter’s Tale: Sat 26 Jan - Fri 1 Feb, 7:45pm Lillies on the Land: Sun 3 - Sat 9 Mar

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ROSE THEATRE

KINGSTON CHRISTMAS MARKET Until 31 Dec

Hansel & Gretel: Thu 6 Dec - Sun 6 Jan Christmas Celebration: Tue 18 Dec Oliver Twist: Sat 5 Jan - Tue 8 Jan To Kill a Mockingbird: Tue 12 Mar - Sat 23 Mar rosetheatrekingston.org MICHAEL FRAYN THEATRE NT Live The Madness of King George III: Fri 11 Jan Antony and Cleopatra: Thu 17 Jan I’m Not Running: Thu 31 Jan The Tragedy of King Richard the Second: Wed 13 Mar michaelfrayntheatre.com LANDMARK ARTS CENTRE Carols by Candlelight: Sat 15 Dec SPARKLE Contemporary Craft and Gourmet Food Fair: Fri 16-Sun18 Dec knot.just.stitch: mixed media art exhibition, Tue 12 - Sat 16 Feb and Mon 18 - Thur 28 Feb Theatre of WiDderShiNs presents Snow White, Rose Red and Bear Brown: Mon 18 Feb Patrick Monahan #Goals, standup comedy: Fri 25 Jan, 7:30

inkingston.co.uk KINGSTON MUSEUM My Spice Box Remedies - festive making: Sat 22 Dec. 1-3pm kingston.gov.uk/museum GAME OF STONES With tavern stops, follow clues and riddles through graveyards, alleyways and market squares on a magical journey across historic Kingston.

Play anytime. Book online. gameofstonestreasurehunt.com

THAMES CONCERTS Sat 19 Jan – Daniel Moult (organ) Sat 2 Feb – Ashley Fripp (piano) Sat 16 Feb – The Aurora Trio (flute, viola and harp) Market Day morning series - Saturdays 15 Dec – Musicians from Kingston Music Service 16 Feb – The Lovekyn Consort St Andrew’s Church, Surbiton thamesconcerts.com CHRISTMAS TREE FESTIVAL Hampton Wick High Street The 20 Dec, 5-7pm visitrichmond.co.uk CINDERELLA Sat 19 Jan - Sat 26 Jan St James’s Church, New Malden stjamesplayers.co.uk LOVE KINGSTON DAY Tue 14 Feb Love Kingston raises funds for communities in Kingston Multiple venues around Kingston love-kingston.org.uk

BURN’S NIGHT SUPPER AND CEILIDH In aid of Momentum children’s charity Fri 25 Jan 6:30pm Glenmore House, Surbiton Tickets £60 (tables of 10). All Saints’ Church, Kingston

KINGSTON’S BIG SING The Rotary Club raising funds for vulnerable people in our community Sat 23 Feb, 3-6:30pm All Saints’ Church, Kingston Tickets £12-£20

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allsaintskingston.co.uk/event/ kingstons-big-sing WOW - WOMEN OF THE WORLD CONFERENCE 7-11 March, Southbank Centre

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THE ORIGINAL HAMPTON COURT HALF MARATHON Sun 17 Mar, 8:30am hamptoncourthalf.com

Richmond area AFTER DARK A stunning contemporary light display, a light trail around the grounds and a light show projected onto Chiswick House, street food stalls, a bar and an exclusive Supper Club.

Until 30 Dec, Thu to Sun 5-10pm Chiswick House Gardens and Trust, W4 2RP Tickets £15.40 - £43.09 after-dark.co.uk KEW GARDENS See the Gardens light up for an unforgettable after-dark festive trail of lights Until Sat 5 Jan, 5–10pm, last entry 7.40pm. For tickets and listing of other winter events:

THE MUSICAL MUSEUM at Kew Bridge The Christmas Concert: Sun 16 Dec, 7:30pm Tea Dance, Mon 17 Dec, dance lesson 2pm, tea dance at 2:30pm musicalmuseum.co.uk DUCK POND MARKET Richmond Foodies market: Sat11am-4pm Richmond Artisan market: Sun 10:30am - 5pm duckpondmarket.com/richmond

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TWICKENHAM FARMERS' MARKET Every Sat 9am-1pm Holly Road car park, TW1 4HF

HAM HOUSE

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Winter Walkies: until Thu 31 Jan Talks and tours, select dates and times

ONE PAVED COURT Christmas Print Show: until Sun 9 Dec Universal Motherhood: Wed 12 Dec - Wed 19 Jan

ORANGE TREE THEATRE The Double Dealer: Fri 7 Dec - Sat 26 Jan Can’t Wait for Christmas: Fri 14 Dec - Sat 5 Jan Allegri Quartet: Sun 13 Jan - Sun 10 Feb Elaine Delmar: Wed 20 Jan Cougar: Fri 1 Feb - Sat 2 March

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ORLEANS HOUSE GALLERY Talks, courses and exhibitions Festive December: Dress, Dazzle & Display: Tue 11 Dec Festive December: Royal Christmas: Tue 18 Dec Pencil Portraits: Thu 7 Feb #CollectionCuriosities: until Sun 24 Feb

MARY WALLACE THEATRE Twelfth Night, by Shakespeare: until Sat 15 Dec Hedda Gables, by Henrik Ibsen: Sat 19 - Sat 25 Jan Punk Rock & Bassett: Thu 21 - Sun 24 Feb

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RICHMOND THEATRE

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HAMPTON COURT PALACE Skate Back In Time: until Sun 6 Jan hrp.org.uk/hampton-court-palace

An Evening with Ken Hom: Thu 7 Feb Strictly Ann Widdecombe: Sat 9 Feb The Girl on The Train: Mon 11 Feb atgtickets.com EEL PIE CLUB Christmas party - Eel Pie AllStars + guest musicians Wed 19 Dec, doors 7:45, music 8:30-11:30pm Tickets £14 Mack featuring Tommy Hare, Thu 10 Jan Tommy has a deep and soulful country soul voice Mack are an eight-piece band from London, melds the sounds of the Deep South of the USA with a distinctive South London twist.

Opening blues guitarist/vocalist: Robert Hokum Tickets £12 Bluesclub, Thu 24 Jan Eel Pie All-Stars plays only when not touring with their own bands. Blues of America 30s-70s.

Tickets £13 eelpieclub.com RUNNING EVENTS Bushy Park 10k: Sun 3 Mar Richmond Park Spring 10k & 5k: Sun 31 Mar letsdothis.com

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Peter Pan, Panto: 8 Dec - 6 Jan Swan Lake, Moscow City Ballet: Wed 30 Jan Sleeping Beauty, Moscow City Ballet: Fri 1 Feb

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Prodigal Daughter

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ow. It seemed like only three months ago I took my nervous kid up to Durham University with her posters, black Goth gear and beanie-baby rabbit. I wept all the way home. Yet here I was, suddenly welcoming her back for good (well, the foreseeable future as our Brexit world crumbles).

Over her three years away, things had dramatically changed. I’d just swapped our four bed comfy villa for a two cabin houseboat near Kingston Bridge and a wide-beam narrowboat in Chertsey. Whilst she, I soon discovered, had swapped her teenagehood for a First in Psychology, a case-load of rotting clothes from damp student accommodation, and a plethora of Uni mates who call me ‘Mama Hanson’ and crash over with unexpected regularity.

So there we were, suddenly living together again, struggling with hatches, engines, ropes, and leaks and an outdoors-loving cat going demented with the temporary confinement on board.

A transition took place as we uncomfortably shifted from Mother/Daughter to Flatmates. E.g. my horror at discovering she smoked, ended with my bumming a fag off her after one of the inevitable

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“Is the boat sinking?!” moments. Yes, it was impossible to lecture her whilst clutching for the (moral) high ground, so after a few nights sharing ciggies on deck at midnight - oohing over the view of the river I stopped.

Then there’s the fact she’s 21 and earning. Currently she’s saving up with a fun job at a kids farm called Piglets… but guess who brings home all the bacon? I don’t ask for rent, and I buy all the food and household goods. In return I’m more vocal about her helping me. Rows ensue. She sees me as telling her what to do/controlling her life. Whereas I feel she should be more aware of chores and just do them without asking. Tones of voice are misread. Meanwhile dating is a whole other issue.

But the fact is, having her home again is utterly fantastic. We often batten down the hatches, light the wood burner, and curl up for a Netflix binge/ book/podcast, bored cat stretched out equally between us. So don’t cry when they go because, like Arnie’s famous words, many now join in with ‘I’ll be back” (and with a bit of luck, not terminating your patience. freedom, or bank balance).

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