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inspiring women

VANESSA BAILEY a one-woman

POWERHOUSE Pick of the

best restaurants for the



your way to success KINGSTON for London Borough of Culture Boutique or high street? GET READY to PARTY

Christmas inspiration fabulous local shopping


living living & & lifestyle lifestyle in in kingston, surbiton & teddington |

Tennis by the Thames A private, friendly club for all ages in an idyllic location

At the Kingston Riverside Club we warmly welcome players of all standards and ages. Our newly upgraded facilities include covered, floodlit courts enabling play throughout the year, a modern clubhouse with a bar, showers and changing rooms and a private car park for our members.

We offer two different types of court surfaces: Macadam hard courts for faster play and clay courts which are softer, limiting impact on ankle, knee and hip joints. Why not pop in and see us – the entrance to the club is at the junction of Lower Ham Road and Lower Kings Road in Kingston.

Professional coaching for all levels of tennis players Children’s tennis camps during holidays Social tennis, events & tournaments Call 020 8546 5935 Lower Ham Road, Kingston, Surrey, KT2 5AJ

editor’s letter Let the festive season begin

Cover: Vanessa Bailey Photo by Kiera Fyles, Palmer Photography Makeup by: Rachel Barclay

Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Marja-Leena Toseland All Enquiries 07802 949836 Email kingston@ Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson, Dr Mariette Jansen Photography Kiera Fyles Design Anu West Printer Aquatint Distribution Three Colours Ltd Darling Wimbledon Karine Torr: 07930 396356 Darling Richmond Marja-Leena Toseland 07802 949836 Darling North Surrey Philippa Hennessy: 07772 633339 Darling Ascot and Sunningdale Martine Curzon: 07788 444184 Whilst every care has been taken to ensure that the data in this publication is accurate, neither the publisher nor its editorial contributors can accept, and hereby disclaim, any liability to any party to loss or damage caused by errors or omissions resulting from negligence, accident or any other cause. Darling Magazine does not officially endorse any advertising material included within this publication. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in any retrieval system, or transmitted in any form – electronic, recording or otherwise, without prior permission from the publisher.

Where did the year go? The end has crept up on me again but I’m not complaining as I love this time of year; the lights are on and our homes have been decorated. There are gift fairs, parties, concerts, fabulous food and drink; and the presents of course. We are bringing you our top choices for the best places to eat and drink, to look stylish as the ‘belle of the ball’ whether your budget is high street or boutique, and fabulous, and a little different gift ideas from local businesses. On the cover, and as our Inspiring Woman, we have chosen a creative ‘doer’ who sees her ideas through to finish; actress, screenwriter and producer Vanessa Bailey. You might recognise her from her stint in East Enders or Channel 4’s Southcliffe or the current Pukka Pies advert. Darling is all about inspiring you, whether it’s in your working life with tips on how networking can boost your business or career, looking after yourself both mentally and physically, creating a home of your dreams or enjoying the best of the art and culture on offer locally. Did you know that Kingston is in the running to become London’s first Borough of Culture? Enjoy the family get-togethers, ice-skating, skiing, sunny escapes, wintry walks, mince pies and mulled wine. Until the New Year when Spring is on its way.

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Vanessa Bailey - a one-woman powerhouse


Where to eat and drink in the festive season?

10 Kingston's colourful characters textile portraits 11 Will our Royal Borough become the first London Borough of Culture? 12 High Street or Boutique - festive style edit 14 Are we being savvy by networking in women-only groups? 15 Kingston Chamber of Commerce - 100 years of business 16 The future is bright for local business 17

Will you be my attorney? What you need to know

18 Disappearing vistas of London 20 Personalised skincare 21 On the couch with Dr De-Stress 23 What every woman needs to know about osteoarthritis 24 Christmas inspiration - shop local for fabulous gifts 27 De-mystifying Tarot cards 29 On the scene - out and about with the Darling editor 34 The heart and soul of your home - by The Painted Furniture Company 37 Why would you need an interior designer? 39 Preventing your home dream becoming a nightmare 40 Who cares for the young carers? 41 Love local 42 What's on - your diary for the festive period 44 Kingston joins the fight against food waste 45 Paul Mendelson's bridge column 45 Lyndsay Russell's Point of View

JinJin Chinese Restaurant & Bar • Contemporary Chinese Restaurant, by the River Thames in the centre of Kingston. • An ideal venue for lunchtime meetings, socialising and fun-filled dinner parties. Take-away available. • Specialising in authentic SiChuan and North China cuisine with a twist.

Unit 8, Charter Quay, 2 Wadbrook Street, Kingston KT1 1HR | 020 8549 6638

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POWERHOUSE ‘The most important thing in a project is to finish it’ Vanessa Bailey makes her ideas into film projects


first met Vanessa at the London Screenwriters’ Festival this summer at the premier of her short film, Seeing Him. It is very much her film as she wrote the script, played the main character Sophie and also raised the funds needed through Crowdfunding, in order to produce it. I loved the film and was hugely impressed by her and all that she had done to make this much celebrated film; it’s had a very successful run on the film festival circuit with 14 international film festival Official Selections so far and four award wins (Best Drama Short, Best Score, Best Produced Screenplay & Best UK Actress).

Photo by Palmer Photography Makeup by Rachel Barclay

Vanessa has also appeared in EastEnders as Sarah Cutler, in Channel 4’s Southcliffe and BBC’s Sarah Jane Adventures, as well as in a range of independent short and feature films and in high-profile commercials too, including the current Pukka Pies TV ad. She’s also written Three Days, a short romantic comedy which explores a relationship between an older woman and a younger lover, as she does in Seeing Him. A really refreshing choice for a romantic story. We are of course used to seeing older men cast frequently with much younger women. She's currently in the early stages of working on two feature scripts – a comedy and a drama. WINTER 2017-18


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Now living in Lower Ham where her husband’s job brought them from Bromley, their house overlooks the river. No wonder she’s loving this part of London.

You are a brilliant writer as well as a producer and actress. How would you describe yourself professionally? ‘I am primarily an actress as that’s my job, but I see myself as a creator as I’ve had to bring my creative ideas to life myself by writing, producing, raising funds and acting in my films. I don’t like to sit around with an idea in my head, I like to make it happen. I don’t have all the skills an experienced producer or fundraiser has so I bring people into the project who really know what they are doing. I facilitate the project and make it happen.’ 6

Technology has obviously had a huge impact on film making and made it possible for small companies and individuals to make their own films. Can this have an impact on quality? ‘I think it’s a good thing that the film industry has been more widely opened up to independent talent through things like crowdfunding. It is now much cheaper to produce films as well as technically much easier. You can do so much on an iPhone even. The small indie film makers bring a fresh approach and sometimes more intellectual films to the public that wouldn’t be commercially appealing enough to gain funding through the more traditional channels. I think there is room for everyone. We can’t compete with

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massive blockbuster budgets but there are brilliant independent film makers there who are worth taking notice of.’

Did you want to be an actor from a young age and how did you get started in TV and film? ‘I’m everything that my parents made me into. I owe everything to my mum. My parents sacrificed a lot and worked incredibly hard. My brother and I were the first generation in our family to be privately educated; we got scholarships to a private school. First generation to go to university and the first to be immersed in the arts. I had piano and singing lessons. I had quite an unusual upbringing as I was part of an affluent set of my private school friends but

inspiring woman at the end of the school day I was picked up in my dad’s van with ladders stuck to the roof; my dad was a builder. I grew up in two very different social circles which has made me into who I am. I am super appreciative of the education I’ve had but it’s not the most important thing. I’m hopefully using it a way that it will benefit others as well, the way my parents would have wished me to. I’ve discovered that I have a strong work ethic too. I love working with people and discovering the talent they have and the magic in everyone. That’s why I like leading a team, bringing the magic together. I can be fierce but I’m also quite nurturing. I am focused but also flexible. My family is my be-all and endall. I have two daughters and a son who are 22, 20 and 18. My children are a gift and I’m immensely proud of the young people they’ve become. And my husband is the man behind the woman. He’s production managed for me and helped with my scripts, he really helps me to follow my dreams. He’s pretty amazing.

Filming Seeing Him

I’m a primary school teacher by training specialising in music and English. After the children were old enough for me to go back to work I realised that I didn’t want to teach any more. I always wanted to act but thought of that as a daft job. I had done a lot of drama at Uni. Did a lot of work as an extra. I was in Bristol at the time and there was a lot of demand for extras in dramas for TV. I loved it so much and got so frustrated watching other actors on set that I put myself forward for

extras who're required to say lines as well. These credited lines of dialogue allowed me to build enough credits to apply for a Spotlight membership. That’s where all professional actors are registered. Once I had that, I could get an agent. I then worked for free on independent short films which gave me a showreel so I could show my skills. I went in through the back door really as I hadn’t studied at drama school. I couldn’t afford it and and I had my kids at home to look after so could’t go away to study. I thought then that if I don’t try it now I’m probably not going to. People say to give it four years to break into TV and film and I’m pretty pleased with how it’s worked out.’ You can catch Vanessa in a BBC comedy and a Channel 4 drama series soon… (details withheld until these are on air). Seeing Him:

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Festive Season's  


here to celebrate with friends, colleagues and family over the festive season requires careful planning, whether it's for two or for twenty, dinner or lunch. We've picked our favourite local restaurants; from traditional to cool, hotel to pub, British to Bavarian, Indian to Italian, even with beautiful river views for those wanting a romantic setting. Let the staff look after your party. Just enjoy!

Roz Ana One of the most popular spots to celebrate in the Kingston area; with a great reputation for serving the best in Regional Indian Cuisine, delicious wines and enticing cocktails, all in a buzzy smart-casual environment. Family friendly and plenty of delicious options for vegetarians and meat lovers alike. Very flexible space for private parties of all sizes and menu options to suit most budets. Take a look at the video and menus on the website for a sense of what Roz Ana has to offer; then call! | 020 8546 6388

Bavarian Christmas at Stein’s Don’t miss the opportunity to delight your staff and friends with an authentic Bavarian atmosphere this Christmas! Festive specialities such as roast duck, wild boar and venison as well as delicious vegetarian options are on the menu. Beer, wine and cocktail lovers will be well catered for too. Decorated with beautiful wreaths, Stein’s is a magical place at Christmas. It’s like stepping into a cosy chalet, every single item from the timber cladding to the benches and antlers have been carefully selected and imported from Germany and Austria. | 020 8546 2411

Veeno The ultimate Italian Christmas Treat! Do something different this Christmas: treat yourself to our indulgent sharing package!, only £25 per person. To start: A choice of Prosecco or Aperol Spritz, accompanied with authentic Italian breads and juicy Ligurian olives. The main event: The king of boards, our Italia platter, Italy’s finest cured meats and cheeses, enjoy with a bottle of wine from our Giumara label (Grecanico, Inzolia, Nero d’Avola or Frappato and Nerello). To finish: Homemade Tiramisu (Made to a secret family recipe) with a warm glass of our family produced mulled wine, tea or coffee (until December 30th) Veeno is is the perfect place for Italian Aperitivo, the ritual of drinking, nibbling and relaxing after work. A daily occasion to share moments of happiness with friends and family. | 0800 085 5987

RESTAURANT GUIDE The Victoria Home to one of Surbiton’s most beautiful beer gardens, The Victoria boasts three luxury huts and a fire pit, perfect for cosying up over the winter months. Enter into the sun-soaked restaurant, the perfect place for tucking into a three-course festive feast. From spiced cider braised pork belly to butternut squash soup, we’re sure our menu will get your taste buds tingling. Or if you’re dreaming of a stress-free Christmas Day, we’re also offering a three-course premium menu. | 020 8399 3007

The Wharf Restaurant They’re making it a warm Wharf Christmas with menus to suit all tastes, occasions and budgets, including festive lunches, dinners and four Christmas party nights. They’ll do the cooking AND the clearing up on Christmas Day lunch and on Boxing Day Jazz Lunch. To end the year in style, The Wharf holds their traditional New Year’s Eve Glitz and Glamour Ball. | 020 8977 6333

Hawkers Bar and Brasserie Although new on the Kingston restaurant scene, Hawkers Bar and Brasserie has already cemented itself as an all-day dining establishment, serving delicious food in a stylish setting. With Christmas on the way, Hawkers have crafted a range of menus to celebrate all things festive. From traditional Christmas Lunch and Dinner menus from just £15 per person to Festive Afternoon Teas available throughout December. Bring all the family together and get in the Christmas spirit with Hawkers this festive season! | 020 3146 4144

The King’s Head With cosy snugs and nooks galore, The King’s Head is a wonderful place to celebrate the festive season. With a fantastic party menu and deliciously seasonal à la carte menu featuring British pub classics served with French flair all cooked from scratch by our lovely chefs, there is something to delight everyone in your group. Add to this our carefully selected wine list and cracking selection of ales and beers, you have the perfect recipe for a fantastic feast! Pull up a chair and let us look after you, we look forward to welcoming you…” | 020 3166 2900


Kingston's COLOURFUL

CHARACTERS captured with fabric

and precision stitching in stunning TEXTILE



he Kingston Characters project took North Kingston artist Ruth Blackford a year to complete and led her to meeting fascinating people and making some great friends along the way. The results of her industrious, but fun-filled, year is represented brilliantly in her exhibition of 40 large scale portraits at The Rose Theatre from 23rd January until 3rd March. “I aim to capture not just a likeness, but also the essence of the personalities – how they present themselves, their expressions, interests and foibles. Fabrics are carefully chosen to do this and painstakingly hand stitched together to form the base, then both hand and machine stitching are used for detail. Each stitch is carefully considered and placed – one tiny stitch just 1mm in the wrong place and the likeness is lost!” explains Ruth.

Pete the Feet

Originally trained in textiles, Ruth worked for many years as a designer of embroidered women’s and children’s wear selling to high street fashion labels both in the UK and abroad. But gradually, her work became more illustrative, and her fascination for people became the main focus. She started to photograph interesting people, ranging from people she already knew to strangers she would accost in the street! Initially she drew from the photographs, but her love of colour, pattern, texture and fabrics remained strong, and so rather than pens and paints, she began to harness her textiles skills, using cloth and stitching to create portraits. ‘My collection of portraits has grown gradually and most of the people I have depicted are connected to Kingston where I live, so I decided to focus on local friends, traders, and residents, and exhibit them in a show that celebrates the wonderful community I live in.’

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Mayor Julie Pickering


Will our Royal Borough become

London's first BOROUGH of CULTURE? in the borough and our University has one of the most successful rates for graduate start-up companies in the UK. Coupled with this are our fantastic parks and the riverside there is so much to be proud of. We are all keeping our fingers crossed that the Royal Borough of Kingston upon Thames becomes London’s first Borough of Culture.”

Mayor Cllr Pickering and Deputy Mayor Cllr Mike Head stand on the royal rowbarge Gloriana


s Mayor of Kingston, Cllr Julie Pickering has found many reasons to shout about what an amazing place Kingston is to live, work and study, but has found that others nearby don’t appreciate all it has to offer. That’s why Julie, alongside Kingston Council and the community and promoting its bid to be the first London Borough of Culture. London Mayor, Sadiq Khan, is looking to award two boroughs the title ‘Borough of Culture’, one for 2019 and one for 2020. Kingston will submit its application in December, with the results revealed in February 2018. Julie speaks passionately about Kingston’s history as England’s birthplace, with the first King of England crowned here. Eadweard Muybridge, pioneer of the

If you would like to invite the Mayor to an event, email If you would like to be involved in shaping Kingston’s future, sign up on the Kingston Conversations website. If you’re interested in becoming a councillor in 2018, and potentially a future Mayor like Julie, find out more on the Kingston Council website.

moving image, which started the creation of cinema, is also one of Kingston’s most famous past residents. The borough was also instrumental in the Battle of Britain, with over two thirds of the “We have the first and oldest Royal 1,900 planes being ‘Hurricanes’ Borough. To add to this, Kingston is - a model which was designed the safest borough in London, with and some even constructed in the third largest retail centre in LonKingston. don and a fantastic music scene.” Julie added: “We have the first and oldest Royal Borough. To add to this, Kingston is the safest borough in London, with the third largest retail centre in London and a fantastic music scene. We’ve had a brilliant summer of culture, with Kingston Carnival, the International Youth Arts Festival, the Korean Festival and many more. “The educational Mayor of Kingston, the first and oldest borough in standard is excellent London, leading the procession at Westminster WINTER 2017-18



High Street or BOUTIQUE Hi, as your local Image Consultant, I’ve put together some ideas for your upcoming party season this Christmas & New Year. Whatever your budget, style or body shape, I can help you find the best outfit choices to make you the ‘Belle of the Ball’. A few simple tips to remember: 1. When you want to amp up the glam, chose an item you love whether it be a skirt, a dress or a top, then work your accessories around it; don’t over do it, otherwise you’re in danger of looking like one of the Christmas decorations!

Justine Elton Sartorial Image Consultant

2. Make-up can play a huge part in finishing off your look, matching nails and lips in a vibrant colour, which suits your complexion, will make your face glow. It’s the party season, be brave and try something different. If this is all too much information and you’re not sure how to apply these tips to you, why not book a styling appointment with a professional: you are worth it! Phone me on: 020 3759 1445 | web: | Instagram: sartorial_imageconsultant

Sartorial gold coloured tassle earrings £12.50

MAC Lipstick Satin, MAC Red £16.50

Cabinet Gold Plated Swarovski Crystal Erinus Ring £174

Sartorial jet, blue and crystal beaded cascade design necklace and earring set £24

Sartorial jet and crystal beaded necklace £16.50 L.K. Bennett Agata Bow Stiletto Heel Sandals, Gold Satin £265

FeFee aker g Ted B w Evenin Bo t o 9 n 6 K £ Bag

Ted Baker, Lolar Frilled Bell Sleeve Top, Black £99 Oasis Deco Aztec Sequin Skirt, Multi £39

Sartorial burnished gold, rose gold & silver statement necklace £24.50

Olivia Burton 3D Bee Adjustable Ring, Gold £35

Sartorial gold ball and crystal drop earrings £10.50

Kailani Keyhole top by HALE BOB. Anna Boutique, Hill Rise, Richmond £215

The cherry on the top

This faux fur cropped coat by IJMA goes with anything. Anna Boutique, Hill Rise, Richmond £159

Damsel in a Dress Military Trousers, Navy £110

Ralp & Russo Alina Clutch in Cherry Pink £1,950

Yves Saint Laurent Tatouage Couture Liquid Lipstick, 03 Rose Ink £29

Kurt Geiger Anja Aysmmetric Court Shoes, Red Wine Suede £149

Aimee w rap dress in Darwin' prin t by HA Anna Bo LE BOB utique, Hill Rise , Richmo nd £315

Ted Baker Kwistina Pointed Toe Court Shoes, Black £190

women at work

Are we being savvy by networking in women-only groups? by Charmaine Mace


s a woman, starting a business and working on your own can be daunting as you won’t have colleagues to discuss an idea or problem with. Women in particular want local support, local networks and local advice – joining a womenonly group offers this in a supportive and relaxed environment. A lot of women are natural networkers. It’s NOT about shoving your business card into someone’s hand and hard selling. The women who are successful at networking are the ones who nurture the relationships, help each another in good and bad times and find opportunities for one another. I’ve seen so many women grow personally and also develop their businesses. Again, I think that this is because of our non-threatening environment. We laugh with each other…not at each other. Most women prosper in this environment. Some of them, when they first start networking, are so nervous standing up and speaking. I’ve been told so many times that because of the training they have in our groups, their “elevator pitches” or “60 seconds” are buttoned down and they can now stand up in all sorts of groups without have butterflies in their belly. This makes me chuffed. Over the years of doing networking, I have found that more people are now “getting it”. Networking is a good place to spend part of your marketing budget and to include in your business plans as long as you take heed of the “rules”. Being part of a network and maintaining relationships is about giving as much as it is receiving. Offer value without the expectation of a return and watch your success grow.

“I joined Athena not knowing what to expect and have been wonderfully surprised. This is a safe environment, with diverse women and has changed my business for the better, opening doors and creating opportunities that I never expected. I have not looked back.” Alexandra Willis “My decision to join Athena was one of my best. I knew it would give me opportunities I couldn’t achieve on my own in such depth – networking skills, business development and support; forging lasting friendships was the bonus.” Valerie Munro aka Auntie Planty

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ATTENTION, LADIES! Do you run your o

Kingston Chamber of Commerce connecting businesses in Kingston over 100 years

by Natalie Crew Membership Development Manager


etworking is one of the most effective ways to grow your business, but it needs to be approached the right way for you to reap the full benefits. The Kingston Chamber of Commerce is one of the oldest independent networking organisations in the UK. With our long history and experience, we understand what businesses need in order to make the most of networking. Look to fostering long term relationships with a wide range of people, not just your target market. It is not about selling your services to the person next to you at breakfast. By establishing new connections you are building your sales team: people who will recommend you when you’re not even there.

Getting to know your fellow members and attending events regularly really pays off. Maximise your investment in networking by picking an event that’s right for you. If you’re not a morning person, an 8am breakfast might not be the best time to put yourself out there. Some people like the intimacy of building relationships over a relaxed lunch, while others prefer a more structured and targeted approach. The idea of pitching your business to 50 strangers at breakfast may be the perfect way for some to promote their business but it may also fill many with dread, so find out the format before you go and ensure you are prepared. If you prefer to build relationships on the golf course or over a glass of wine in the evening,

finding an event that suits you will pay dividends. The Chamber of Commerce is here to support our members and the business community as a whole. Our membership represents businesses at all levels and sizes, and our unique relationships with strategic partners like the London Chambers, the council, and Kingston First can facilitate valuable connections. We’re also committed to helping the local community and annually raise over £5,000 for our president’s chosen charity, this year it’s the Kingston Carers Network. Networking should be fun, and we try to plan events that are enjoyable such as the monthly breakfasts and lunches at some amazing restaurants and venues, from private dining at the French Table, Women in Business events to breakfast on a boat or even lunch in a prison! WINTER 2017-18



The future is BRIGHT for local business


ingston’s business community was saluted for its vibrancy and innovation at the glittering Gala Dinner of the Kingston Business Excellence Awards in association with British Land & USS. The awards celebrate the hard work, achievements and successes of the Royal Borough’s 8,000 businesses. The fifth annual awards was hosted by founding partners Kingston Chamber of Commerce, Kingston Council and Kingston First at the prestigious Ravens Ait venue on the River Thames (Thursday, 12th October). Over 250 people cheered as Banquet Records, the iconic record store in Eden Street, was crowned Business of the Year, ahead of 11 category award winners at the event, compered this year by TV and radio host Becky Ives. Banquet Records, which was set up 15 years ago by Mike Smith and Jon Tolley, has built an international reputation for bringing top bands to the

Royal Borough. Mike Smith commented: “It’s an honour to be recognised – but for us it’s not about being the best business but about being part of a progressive and a vibrant Kingston. So, this award is for all the businesses who contribute towards the Kingston we love.” The annual business awards are open to all types of companies from start-ups to SMEs and large corporates, and celebrate all aspects of business including an award for Committment to the Community. One of the evening’s winners was Kingston Mortgages, who picked up Best SME Accolade at the Kingston Business Excellence Awards 2017. “Winning this Award is great recognition of everyone’s commitment and will no doubt be a great boost to the business” - Chris Poore, Managing Director, also highly commended in Entrepreneur of the Year category.

Kingston Mortgages are experienced, friendly mortgage and protection advisers who provide totally independent advice and support locally and across the UK. Their first-class service makes the whole house-buying process simple and smooth.

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Will you be my attorney? What you need to know Barry Adamson


asting Powers of Attorney (LPA) enable a person to choose who they would like to make decisions on their behalf should they become unable, by reason of mental incapacity, to make those decisions themselves. Whilst much has been written about the need to make an LPA, the responsibilities of the person being asked to become an attorney are not so well publicised. Your first instinct is likely to be that, of course you would like to help a friend or loved one, but the following should be considered before agreeing to become their financial attorney: Best interests The cardinal rule is that, as an attorney, you must act in the donor’s best interests at all times. Keep your finances separate If you are taking charge of

someone else’s finances, it is essential that you do not mix their money with your own. There are some exceptions to this rule so it is always worth seeking advice. Banking If you need to use internet banking on behalf of someone else it is vital that you first register the power of attorney with that person’s bank and the bank confirms they have accepted that you have authority to act for their customer. Not doing so can be considered a crime under the Computer Misuse Act 1990 – something very few people realise. Expenses Unless you are taking on the role of attorney in a professional capacity (as the donor’s accountant or solicitor) it is most likely that you will not be paid for your time acting as attorney.

from the donor’s assets, even if you believe the donor would have wanted you to make them on their behalf, is extremely limited. It will be necessary to ask for the Court of Protection to sanction a proposed gift. We would recommend advice is obtained to ensure that any proposed gifts are approved. Following death The authority conferred by a power of attorney ceases upon the donor’s death. As attorney you do not have the right to close the deceased’s accounts or pass monies on to the beneficiaries of the donor’s estate. These are tasks for the donor’s legal personal representatives….as is the payment of the donor’s funeral bill. Barry Adamson Partner and Head of Private Client 020 8332 8679

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VISTAS of London

ondon has 13 protected vistas, one of the most famous being the view from King Henry VIIIs Mound in Richmond Park to St Pauls Cathedral in the City of London (below). Unfortunately this historic view has in the last year been destroyed due to the construction of a 42-storey building in Stratford, which towers behind and dwarfs the dome of the Christopher Wren masterpiece, and compromises the 300-year-old view from the park.

act of parliament, and it is said to be the most expensive view in the country, which will be further bolstered by the recent refurbishment and sale of Doughty House, with a price tag of a cool £100 million.

The developers of the tower seem to have ignored the rules that protect such views. London Mayor Sadiq Khan has been urged by campaigners to have the top 12 storeys of the tower removed, sadly this has been to no avail.

The view is beloved by many of us, and also proved an inspiration to painters such as Sir Joshua Reynolds and JMW Turner, and Sir Walter Scott who described the view as “an unrivalled landscape.”

Richmond of course benefits from other vistas too, such as the wonderful view of Petersham meadows and the Thames from Terrace Walk on the hill. It’s the only view in the country that is protected by an

The wonderful view of Petersham meadows is the only view that is protected by an act of parliament, and is said to be the most expensive view in the country

Photographer Paul Mowatt, who grew up in the area, photographed the view of the Kew Gardens pagoda on his way home from college one wintery afternoon in 1981. The great storm of 1987 took many of the trees down, seen in the original Black and White picture here. Subsequent development of the Richmond Cricket Club and London Welsh Rugby Club, with the installation of large obtrusive floodlights, has rendered Paul’s original view as somewhat ‘lost’. Paul says : “I only printed the negative after the great storm and I remember being quite taken aback by how much the landscape had changed due mainly to the storm. It motivated me to photograph more of these spectacular vistas, as I realised that these beautiful views can literally be lost overnight” To mark the anniversary of the great storm, Paul has produced a series of limited edition prints of his original view of the pagoda. Titled ‘from the pagoda’ only 75 will be produced, and each print will be printed on fine art Giclee paper, measure 12”x8”, and will be signed and numbered by the artist. Priced at £185.00. email: left: St Paul's Cathedral from King Henry's Mound right top: Petersham Meadows right middle: Kew Gardens Pagoda in 1981 right bottom: Kew Gardens Pagoda today


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our bathrooms are suddenly looking like beauty salons

spent an hour with Marion Couffon, anti ageing consultant with more than 10 years of experience in the industry, who explained the philosophy and science behind the many innovative ‘cadgets’ that her company has developed for home and also professional use. Marion demonstrated her unique Spa System on one half of my face, leaving the other side un-touched, in order to show me that even one treatment can have immediate effects, albeit minor as expected. Noticeable results will need a few weeks of regular use together with the specially formulated products. No wonder this is nicknamed the ‘face iron’ as it does just that, smooths out lines and wrinkles. It is used 20

to enhance the effectives of the products so they penetrate much deeper into the skin. I also discovered that some of these products can now be personalised to an impressive degree; age, sex, ethnicity, skin condition e.g. sun spots, acne and also preference for a SPF factor and fragrance. The products; cleanser, serum, day and night creams are delivered to you in capsules that slot into a dispenser. I have been applying their line corrector and the SPF22 day moisturiser every morning and the night cream at night. My skin is looking smoother and hydrated, even without the galvanic ‘face iron’.

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CHRISTMAS OFFER: Marion is offering FREE DEMOS to Darling readers. For further information, contact Marion on 07768 256 556 liveyoungersmarter

mental health

couch with Dr De-Stress On the

Dr Mariette Jansen

Aligning the dialogue of head and heart Dr Mariette Jansen (Dr De-Stress) is a psychological coach who helps her clients to discover more about themselves and to take control of their lives and its challenges. If you are worrying about anything, share your questions with Mariette in confidence and receive a personal answer from her:

Q: Dear Mariette, I am in a real state about Christmas. I want to do something different and am anxious about telling my family. Since my parents died four years ago, I have taken it on to host Christmas for my three sisters and their families (8 children and 1 dog) and now everybody takes it for granted that I will do that again. I have a very demanding job, a lovely husband, big house and no kids. This year I want to go on a cruise with my husband as we need time together. I don’t know how to tell my sisters and part of me feels very selfish. What do I do? Celia A: Dear Celia, aren’t you a lovely sister? Hosting Christmas for four years in a row. I bet your sisters were delighted to have the burden taken off them. For that reason, they will not be too happy with you this year. However, this reaction is not personal. It is about in-

convenience and effort. Their lives were much easier with you taking care of Christmas. Now they have to spend time, energy and money themselves. But, is it your responsibility to organise their Christmas? Are your sisters not capable? Is it selfish to look after yourself and your marriage? Even though family is very important, your primary relationship is with your husband and it is important to nurture and nourish that relationship as well as looking after yourself. I suggest you communicate your decision via an email, so each can digest the message first. You can explain your decision clearly, tell them you understand they might be disappointed and even though you will miss them, you are also looking forward to being away and getting some rest. I wish you a wonderful Christmas.

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Ali Mobasheri D.Phil.(Oxon) Professor of Musculoskeletal Physiology, Univ. of Surrey


steoarthritis (OA) is the most common form of arthritis and one of the most frequent causes of physical disability among adults. It causes pain, swelling, impaired joint function and inflammation of the joints and leads to irreversible changes in bone. It is more common in men under 45. However, research suggests that women over 50 have a significantly higher risk of developing OA and other types of arthritis (except gout, which primarily affects men). Some of the risk factors are beyond our control, such as abnormal biomechanics (joint loading) and changes in our hormones as we get older.

So why do women get such a raw deal here? We don’t have a clear answer to this but some hints can be found in the female anatomy (hips, curves and so on) and the female hormone system. This is especially relevant when combined with excess body fat. The desease primarily affects knees, but hips and hands are also often affected. Women tend to have more flexible joints and this anatomical hypermobility causes laxity and increases risk for developing OA. Women’s bodies are designed to give birth and their tendons and ligaments in the lower body are therefore more elastic than men’s. OA in women rises significantly after menopause suggesting that oestrogen plays a part as it increases the risk of osteoporosis, making bones less dense and more fragile. However, taking estrogen (via hormone replacement therapy, or HRT) does not necessarily reduce the risk and this highlights the importance of several factors that are not beyond our control: excess weight, body fat and low levels of physical activity.

Obesity is one of the most important risk factors for OA and a range of other musculoskeletal problems. Excess white fat in our bodies acts as an inflammatory organ, releasing harmful mediators that exacerbate the symptoms of OA. For decades OA was considered a wear and tear disease affecting the elderly. It is now generally accepted that it is an inflammatory disease that can start in our teens and 20’s and manifest itself as early as our 30’s and progress further and faster when we are overweight. All this may sound depressing but the good news is that losing a few pounds can make a difference and losing weight can decrease joint pain and slow joint degeneration as well as benefit muscles, tendons and ligaments. “Obesity is one of the most important risk factors for OA and a range of other musculoskeletal problems. Losing a few pounds can really make a difference.” WINTER 2017-18


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gifts for him & her available locally Productive Chic - Leather Personal Planner Large: Gold £48 It’s easy to stay organised with this classy everyday planner. It includes pockets, stickers to personalise your item and two notepads. Practical, but still classy. 2018 Family Calendar Large: Sweet £18 The Family Calendar is an all-time Kikki K favourite. Perfect for a busy parent who needs to manage ‘everyone’s’ time effectively. Help them enjoy a less stressful year. Kikki K, Bentall Centre, Wood St, Kingston |

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De-mystifying TAROT CARDS A powerful tool for guiding you


hen people hear that I am a Tarot Card reader I smile and wait for their reaction. I have been working with Tarot cards and Angel cards for over 25 years and have found that the cards are a great tool in self discovery. The 78 cards in the pack can pretty much describe every situation we can possibly experience in life. My journey started with the Tarot when I was going through a particularly difficult time in my life. My health and marriage were in trouble and life became a challenge. It was at this time the cards were gifted to me. Prior to that I was a student of Vedic astrology, my other passion. The cards became a source of guidance and allowed me to access my true self; they became my ‘best friend’ and guide. As my connection with the cards deepened, I was able to access my intuition and align myself powerfully to my higher self. Realising my strong affinity with

them I started to do readings. The Tarot needs to be demystified as the benefits are practical and simple; it can give insight and guidance, also bring a fresh perspective to a situation you are experiencing. The cards highlight what conscious and subconscious effort you are exerting on your life and how these various factors impact your life. I pick up on any blocks you may be experiencing; these can be external, such as people and your environment, or internal, such as fear, worry and doubt. Whatever is on your mind will be highlighted by the reading. I bring you into the ‘now’ so you can focus and gain clarity. Once the cards are laid out in a spread, a picture of your current situation begins to unfold, like a story in my mind. My aim is to help you make more balanced and insightful decisions.

I believe the Tarot is an excellent way to gain a clear view of what you are thinking and doing, also where you are heading. A reading gives you the opportunity to focus on possible outcomes and examine influences around choices. By getting an impartial view often helps in making changes you need to make, in order to reach your desired results. If the path you’re on is not making you happy, you have the power to change it. You hold the key to your future. Facebook & Instagram: jaishreetarot WINTER 2017-18


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Surrey showroom in Hampton Wick. With beautiful collections of high-quality bedroom, living and dining furniture, they are a first-stop for anyone looking for stunning painted pieces.

"We always strived to have something a little different in our Cotswolds showroom”, says Adam, “and, much as we love the oak furniture we grew up with, we were really struggling to bring some life and colour back into the showroom, everything was just a bit… well, brown!

Whether your style is bold and bright or soft and subtle, a freshly painted dresser, sideboard or table will revive your interiors and introduce a splash of your favourite hues to your home. Whatever your room’s décor, our passion is in providing you with a piece of furniture that is just what you were looking for, and is built to last a lifetime.

dam & Rosy Brown, the founders of the Painted Furniture Company, have been in the furniture and interiors business for many years, but the brand was really launched in 2010, when one afternoon they got a bit bored....

Just for fun we asked a supplier to paint one of our bestselling pieces in a nice grey green, the colour we always called the ‘Cotswolds window frame’ colour, just to see what it looked like. The results were stunning! We now had a collection of furniture which we knew was properly made and great quality, but we could now have some fun offering it in all sorts of colours.” The Painted Furniture Company, originally from Cirencester in the heart of the Cotswolds, have recently opened their first South West London and 34

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When it comes to paint colour; the choice is yours. We have a huge range of colours as standard, each carefully chosen to compliment a modern colour scheme from classic whites to striking greys.

“In an age of mass production, we are proud to be hand building our timeless classic furniture here in the UK and keeping traditional hand crafting techniques alive.” “Producing good painted furniture is much more complicated than simply producing furniture and painting it. Over the years, we have developed the expertise, the contacts and the experience to ensure we supply our customers with the highest quality furniture,” comments Rosy Brown, Managing Director at The Painted Furniture Company. “For any product to be included in our furniture collections it must be the best of breed and offer a great value price point too.” The customizable collections allow for complete versatility in terms of colour and sizing. So, whether you’re looking for a sideboard to fit perfectly in the nook under the stairs, or a low wardrobe to fit under the eaves, they'll be pleased to provide something that fits your vision perfectly.

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“Whilst our website has helped us grow to be probably the largest specialist retailer of painted furniture in the UK, that wouldn’t have happened without the backup of a real showroom where customers can see a wide range of our collections, in a range of colour options, displayed in beautiful room settings. We are fully committed to keeping a high street presence for the business. The opening of our showroom in Kingston seemed an obvious choice for us and we’ve been delighted by the reception so far. Pop in and meet our showroom manager Sam for a friendly chat and a browse.” 59-61 High Street |Hampton Wick | KT1 4DG

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in, without having to worry about whether the sofa and the sideboard will fit into the room or that the gloss on the door frame will match the wallpaper.


here are many resources for the home owner to help you redecorate and restyle your home, from specialists like the Designers’ Guild through to the styling suggestions at B&Q! So why would anyone need an interior designer when you can do it all yourself ? In any profession, from law to landscaping, an expert can bring experience, knowledge and skill which will help you to get what you want. Whereas a conveyancer would help you sort out the mess that might occur when property boundaries are not clear, an interior designer will help you to create the environment you wish to live

An interior designer will know that certain shades of blue make a room look larger and that some colours of red will do the opposite. And she will help you design a room layout that will place the electrics in the perfect spot for the furniture that you choose – and that it will all work within your space. I have come across many people who have decided to ‘design’ their own rooms or entire homes and have sadly lived to regret it. Having spent hours finding and buying the whole list of things that they love, they find that when they are delivered the style doesn’t work, or worse, the furniture doesn’t fit into the space, and the money and time has been wasted. Employing

an interior designer could even save you money. Good professional interior designers belong to the British Institute of Interior Designers and their website is a good place to start if you are planning a change for your home. It's important to find an interior designer who will listen to your ideas and not force their own style into your home. This is a key part for me, and I have developed a process to do just that. It’s important for me – and for you – that your interior designer works closely with you to discover what you want from your home, and then help you to realise that dream.

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oving house can be difficult and expensive these days, so extending your property in order to improve its functionality and value has become the preferred choice. Your home is probably your most precious and valuable possession, so you want any renovation project to go smoothly. It is a false economy to think you can save the architect's fee and appoint a builder directly; a competitive tender process and a professional architect overseeing the work can save you a lot of money and heartache. Building works can progress quickly and, unless you know what you're looking for, you may not spot mistakes unitl it's too late or costly to rectify. Finding the right architect, builder and suppliers can be daunting. Architect Sabine Carlson-Stenner wants to share her expertise

having recently completed her own house extension and renovation project as well as many other similar projects in the area and also drawing on her wealth of experience as a commercial property architect and interior designer.

The question to ask is not ‘what extension can I have?’ It is more ‘how do I want to improve my lifestyle?’ “Remodelling your home should be fun and exciting, and the end result should be something you are proud of. As well as maximising the functionality of the space available, I am a fan of those finishing touches that make your home unique. These can include subtle lighting effects, clever space saving storage and statement features that give your home the 'wow-factor' – a unique look and feel, achieved without breaking the bank.

I have a great team around me and have built trusting working relationships with local builders, engineers and suppliers, which ensures that the essence of the design is implemented to the highest standards and best value. I am also a member of the Faculty of Party Wall Surveyors. You and your family's needs and wishes are always number one and will form the basis for the project. I am here to help you achieve your goals. I am concise and transparent about costs and will consult you at every stage. I can put you in touch with previous clients for any questions you may have. Email or call me for a chat and tell me about your home dream – I hope I can make it reality.”

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ingston Carers’ Network supports carers in the Royal Borough of Kingston and the Young Carers’ Project focuses on supporting children and young people between the ages of 5 and 18. It currently supports almost 600 young people, who have a family member living with them at home with a physical disability, learning difficulty, mental ill health or substance misuse. The project is constantly growing, and we are always trying to find new ways to support more young people who have a caring role at home. Our aim is to offer support and a safe place for young carers, a place that is just for them.

The 2011 census identified 178,000 young carers in England and Wales alone and when figures from the Northern Ireland and Scottish census are taken into account, the total number of young carers in the UK total at least 195,000. These young carers need practical support and we give this through: • One-to-one contact with a trusted person • Peer support on trips and outings with other young carers who might have similar experiences • After school drop in sessions offer fun with other young carers • Advocacy – providing someone to help young carers get their point across • We offer individual advice and information, and answer questions and listen

Typical day to day responsibilities for young carers can include: • Washing, cooking and cleaning for the family • Helping to wash and dress family members • Administering medication • Taking siblings to school or to the shops • Translating for a family member who cannot speak or hear, or who speaks a different language • Giving emotional support What are the implications of being a young carer? It usually involves them taking on more adult responsibilities than other people their age. This can mean: • Missing out on opportunities to play and learn, and becoming socially isolated • Their education can suffer if they regularly miss school to care for someone at home. They may need to attend doctors’ appointments with family members to translate, or take and pick up siblings from school • They may struggle emotionally, as they may not get emotional support from family members • They are often afraid to ask for help, in case they let family down or are taken into care


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Carols followed by Solemn Midnight Mass Sun 24 Dec 11:30 pm Mass with Carols Christmas Day 9:30 am, 11:30 am St Andrew’s Church Maple Road, Surbiton Advent Carol Service Sun 27 Nov 6 pm Midnight Mass Christmas Eve 11 pm St Mark’s Church St Mark's Hill, Surbiton The Service of Nine Lessons and Carols Sun 17 Dec 6 pm Midnight Mass Christmas Eve 11:30pm Christ Church New Malden Midnight Communion Christmas Eve 11 pm Christmas Day Service 10 am Burn’s Night Supper and Ceilidh In aid of Momentum children’s charity Fri 26 Jan 6:30pm

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Glenmore House, Surbiton Tickets £60 (tables of 10)  Theatres Rose Theatre Frozen Singalong Thu 21 Dec, 11am, Charlotte’s Web Rose Theatre Youth Fri 12 to Sun 14 Jan TEDx Kingston on Thames Sat 20 Jan 11 am Ed Byrne Spoiler Alert Sun 21 Jan 8 pm Jenny Eclair: How to be A Middle Aged Woman (Without Going Insane) Thu 1 Feb 7:30pm Royal Philharmonic Orchestra Vaughan-Williams, Elgar, Dvorak Sat 3 Feb 7:30 pm Michael Frayn Theatre NT Live - Young Marx Thu 7 Dec 7pm NT Live - Cat On A Hot Tin Roof Thu 22 Feb 7pm Landmark Arts Centre Bring Your Own Baby Comedy Tue 12 Dec £10 / 020 8977 7558 12:30 pm Paddington’s First Concert With Wind quintet and narrator Sat 10 Feb 3 pm £6 children / £8 adults / Bears free Trifarious Sun 25 Feb 2.30 pm Trifarious Trio £13.50 / £12.50 / £11.50 Embrace Tango a day of dance, music, art and sculpture Sat 17 Feb 10 am – 4 pm Supported by the Gosling Foundation. TheCORNER House Surbiton The Voice and Shakespeare

Horse Racing at Kempton Twilight Flat Racing 13, 20 Dec 14:35pm 32Red Winter Festival Jump Racing 26 27 Dec from 10 am Kempton Park Racecourse Musicland Live 2018 Young bands playing older music Sat 13 January from 7 pm Imber Court Sports Club

Fri 8 Dec 7 – 9 pm oneACTS 2018 Fri 8 Dec Applications deadline (Directors) Wed 31 Jan, Sat 4 Feb; Open Auditions Actors Cyn Dorella The Panto 23 24 25 Jan 7:45pm Kingston Christmas Market incl. Candy Cane Forest From 16 Nov Seven Kings Trail Seven Kings hidden around Kingston Town Centre. Find them all and enter the competition Free from 16 Nov Christmas Cocktail Masterclass Browns Restaurant, Charter Quay Available throughout November & December £30 per person

Children’s Literary Festival: Children’s Authors and books Various venues in the Royal Borough Sat 2, 9, 16 Dec Early Xmas Cracker Claire Martin and Ian Shaw, Jazz St Andrew’s Church, Surbiton Sat 9 Dec 7:30 pm

Robin Hood and the Babes in the Wood St James's Church Hall, Bodley Road, New Malden 20-27 Jan 7:45 pm Valentines 10k Sat 11 Feb 9 am Barwell Business Park, Chessington Love Kingston Day Tue 14 Feb Love Kingston raises funds for communities in Kingston Multiple venues around Kingston

A Winter’s Night: Carols Old and New St Andrew’s Church, Maple Road Ash Wednesday Mass Sat 16 Dec St Raphael’s Catholic Church mouth Road Wed 14 Feb 7:30 pm Christmas Tree Festival Sat 16 Dec- Mon 8 Jan All Saints’ Church Kingston Kingston’s Big Sing All Saints’ Church Sat 17 Feb 4:30 pm TJ Johnson Band Records Richmond Road sing-tickets-37330498526?aff=es2 Sat 23 Dec 9pm an extraordinary blend of music Insights: combining jazz, blues, soul, country The business of freelancing and gospel Kingston University Thurs 22 Feb 5:45 -7:30pm WINTER 2017-18


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Kingston joins the fight against FOOD WASTE


f food waste was a country, it would be the third largest emitter of greenhouse gases after the US and China.

This shocking statistic should be enough for anyone to realise that food waste is a problem we need to act on, and it is something anyone can play a part in. Six Kingston-based businesses have partnered up with the free app Too Good to Waste in order to allow stores to sell surplus food to customers at the end of the day for a reduced price. Since this social enterprise came to the UK, almost 100,000 meals have been saved. More than1000 British restaurants, cafés and bakeries have already joined the initiative, including brands like Yo! Sushi, Chop’d, Sofitel and Mitchells & Butlers. Jamie Crummie, co-founder of Too Good To Go, said that “a great deal of environmental challenges pose a threat to modern-day London”, where statistics suggest food waste

costs the average citizen £200 a year. In addition, for every 5 bags of shopping purchased, one is thrown away with perfectly edible items. Through the app, users can now pick-up their pre-bought food before the closing of the stores, contributing to a growing movement that could lead to a more sustainable future. As Crummie explained, “what we perceive to be waste isn’t waste at all”.


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WINTER BRIDGE With Darling’s bridge expert Paul Mendelson This hand defeats most players yet, upon analysis, it is embarrassingly logical. Would you play it correctly?

North S A109 H 9873 D 873 C 954

West S 876 H K1052 D K42 C J106

South S KQJ H A4 D AQJ10 C AQ32

♦ Dealer South N E NB 2D NB 3NT

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East S 5432 H QJ6 D 965 C K87

E/W Game S W 2C NB 2NT NB

South’s 2♣ opening bid was the strongest bid she had available; 2♦ was a negative and 2NT showed a balanced 23-24pts. North raised to game. Declarer has 3 spades tricks and one each in hearts, diamonds and clubs. You need three more. Crucially, you only have one entry to dummy. There is one piece of good news: West’s 2♥ lead suggests a lead from a 4-card suit.

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If you use the A♠ entry to take the diamond finesse, it loses, and now you cannot get back to dummy to take the club finesse. But, here’s the thing: even if the diamond finesse had won, you could not get back to the table to take it again. So, you were almost certainly going to lose K♦ anyway - whoever held it. For that reason, declarer should win trick 1 with A♥ and lay down A♦ and then Q♦, continuing until K♦ is taken. E/W will take 3 heart tricks, but now you still have A♠ in dummy to reach the table and take the club finesse which, thankfully, wins.

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TRIPPING at The Burning Man Oh God, do you think everyone’s going to spaced out on drugs?' my travel mate Karoline had asked me anxiously when we were heading deep into the Nevada desert. She was referring to a particularly lurid account of The Burning Man that had recently appeared in that bible of truth, The Daily Mail. I had no idea. But I did know it was the highly creative Mother of All Festivals. And to see why, you only have to Google BM Images… then triple the impact of those photos for the reality. Thousands of colourfully costumed festival- goers on sparkly-lit bicycles, plus insane, music-pumping vehicles in the genre of Mad Max meets Dr. Seuss, all circling giant art structures in the sand - created by the lovechild of Monty Python and Salvador Dali.

For eight days, a vast deserted desert plain is suddenly edged by a horseshoe of 78,000 people living in about 800 themed camps. In the centre of the wild, dusty landscape, a giant 100ft wicker man looms over the whole, surreal scene. Landing on another planet, is the nearest I can say to describe it. Going to the event is a radical challenge as you have to supply all your own water and food and survive in up to 110-degree heat. ‘Gifting to strangers’ is another special element. I came home laden with jewellery, poems, stickers etc., plus more (temporary) tattoos than Beckham’s left thigh. In return, I distributed English Breakfast Tea bags to those I met. You can take the girl out of England…. I’m not going to even try and describe the event further, because it’s just too awesome and impossible in 400 words. But I am going to describe what happened on the last night. I tripped heavily. Yes, shocked readers - I really tripped. However, not on LSD or mushrooms, but through the air. My foot catching on a ground-sheet in the dark. Suffering a ripped hamstring and a trapped nerve, I was flown home after a two-day stay in a US hospital. Total bill: $30,000. YES, that’s when I really thought I was hallucinating. Yet regardless of the ensuing flashbacks and rehabilitation, I wouldn’t have missed the festival for all the opium in China. A trip of a lifetime, that utterly, totally blew my mind.

Art in the desert - The Crashed Plane


And the only drugs taken… were in hospital.

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