Darling Magazine - Wimbledon Spring 2018

darling SPRING 18 PRICELESS

What Women Want #100years

HEIST

Dances with Wolves

the bank of mum & dad

inspiring jini reddy

The Colour Purple charlotte’s looks

Sunset Boulevard

interview with danny mac

Beauty and the Beach

Our Golden Girls

spring styles, spring smiles

the art of friendship

Men of Steel

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Why do I get the feeling that this is going to be a blockbuster year? Maybe it’s just the optimism that comes with the welcome return of some warming sunshine on my skin. Or maybe it’s the “Oscar effect”, when the world puts on its glamourous best to celebrate creativity at its most spectacular. But as I skimmed through the proofs of this bumper spring issue I saw winners everywhere, and much closer to home! So, we’re rolling out the red carpet to homegrown heroes - cover girl Jini Reddy, an eco-warrior and writer who travels to places you couldn’t make up; the starring role of Gary Douch who almost single-handedly raises vast sums for bowel disease research - and Clare Jefferies who was awarded a rare double outstanding award in the professional care sector. Naturally we’re celebrating Women’s History Month in March and the epic #100years that women have had the vote in the UK. (Time to forget those supporting roles!) Spring also brings out the best of local fashion, food and fun. From award-winning restaurants to the New Wimbledon Theatre, we’ve put the pick of them in the spotlight. And fingers crossed to see who wins the Borough of Culture 2019.

What was that movie about silver linings...?

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Our intrepid explorer and author Jini Reddy Find your purple patch with stylist Charlotte Loves Beach Baby Boho style this Spring Celebrating 100 years Danny Mac - Strictly Sunset Boulevard Local women buzzing about bees It’s lux BBQ party time with Carole What’s your attachment style - Pam Custers Digital age at Infinitidental Clinic Safe fat-freezing with Nakedhealth Schools in the News - presenting a united front Cook’s Corner from Parties to Go Supper Club - the new trend Fresh, healthy eating at Lu-Ma Aya Lebanese on the up Bank of mum & dad - Peacock & Co Our Golden Girls, still together Top honours for Home Instead Local Hero, Gary Douch Method Putkisto massage with Shirley British craft - Painted Furniture Co Young entrepreneurs having a gas On the Social Scene with Editor Karine Torr Lady Wimbledon’s ‘What’s Hot’ Darling Diary Bridge with Paul Mendelson David Lloyd keeping our kids active Kate Greenhalgh: Sex, Lies and VHS

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Local Wimbledon resident, Louise Furber

Join Alison and her team celebrate the launch of The Glasshouse Clinic Wimbledon at their exclusive event on the Thursday the 26th of April 2018.

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Jini Reddy, award winning travel and nature writer on experiential, ethical travel

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ow does one end up as an author writing about the joys of connecting with nature and landscape? In my case, it was my experiences as a travel writer, meeting people from indigenous communities abroad that initially sparked a desire to deepen my own relationship with the earth and experience the world in more authentic, magical ways. in India, one time I met the Bishnoi - they’re the world’s oldest environmentalists, and have been protecting the land since the 15th century. Their women folk have been known to breastfeed orphaned deer. In Iran, I took tea with shy, friendly Qashqai nomads who migrate between summer pastures in the Zagros mountains and winters in the lowland. In Australia’s Queensland, two sisters from the Kuku Yalangi tribe led me on a walk to one of their special ‘women’s places’. There they told me sacred Dreamtime stories I vowed never to share and in the remote valleys of Pakistan’s North-West Frontier Province, I met a young woman from the Kalash tribe who talked of the fascinating

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‘‘Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us, or we find it not.’

Ralph Waldo Emerson

pagan rituals that her people still practiced. Though diverse culturally, all shared a desire to live in harmony with the natural environment and this resonated with me. But the cultural diversity is something I resonate with too: I was born in Wimbledon and raised in Montreal, Canada, to parents of Indian descent who themselves were born and raised in South Africa - and I now live back in the borough. A bit of a mouthful? Yes, but a perfect cocktail of kaleidoscopic influences, which fuelled my wanderlust.

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One pivotal moment happened on a remote jungle path in Guatemala. To cut a long story short, I’d been abandoned by my guide, a jungle patroller. Though initially I’d been livid, and then fearful - all sorts of dangers lurked in the wild - after a couple of hours, I began to feel a growing elation: suddenly I was aware that all around me was a living, breathing natural community and that I was a part of it. The separation I felt from my wild environment melted away. I felt kinship and I felt supported.

That was my first experience of consciously connecting with the aliveness or spirit in nature. A few years passed, and I began to tire of long-haul travel. I was worried about my carbon footprint too, and I turned my attention to Britain.

I hungered for more creative, intimate ways to connect with the natural world on our shores, experiences that anyone could go and do, whether they’re a

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nature novice, devotee, eco-lover, or simply curious.

I spent five months jaunting around Britain seeking these experiences, and the result was my first book, ‘Wild Times’ (available at Wimbledon Books). It’s both practical guidebook and (hopefully) inspirational narrative. Recently it won the book prize at the British Guild of Travel Writers Awards 2017, and was a finalist at the Travel Media Awards 2017.

The experiences in the book and many of those I’ve been privileged to have had abroad have allowed me to slow down, to reflect and to travel in ways that benefit local communities and leave a positive impact on local conservation efforts. You might call it transformative travel or experiential travel or ethical travel. But really, it is about venturing forth with an open heart and mind, with awareness and gratitude. It’s important because these days we seem to live in a state of disconnect from both the nature ‘out there’ and our own human nature: we see a reflection of this in the chaotic state of the world, and the terrible damage inflicted on the earth as a result of the

choices and actions we make cumulatively, choices we make through lack of awareness, lack of empathy or through feelings of disempowerment. But all of this can be remedied.

I’m now working on my second book, for Bloomsbury, exploring the magical in nature and the landscape in Britain. I believe we all want to invite more wonder into our lives, that deep down we all seek to live in more nourishing and meaningful ways, whether we’re conscious of it or not. I know of people of all ages who are hungry to experience the world with fresh, optimistic eyes, and to tread lightly on the earth. If this is you, I’d say you’re not alone - you’re part of a growing, positive movement, bridging the mainstream with more alternative, community-led, inspiring, imaginative initiatives that nurture people and the natural world. There are fantastic resources, across a wide spectrum that you can access. jinireddy.co.uk

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#100years

and still fighting

Darling Editor Karine Torr, celebrates our local heroines, past and present

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t this moment in time, I feel awash with hashtags. #100years, #MeToo, #instawomen, #feminism, #GirlsLikeUs, #EverydaySexism, Emma Watson’s #heforshe campaign, #Fem2, #genderequality – the list is endless. It’s an exciting time for women, not only in the UK - the worldwide women’s movement is really gaining ground. There are young movements like Frances Scott’s #50:50parliament (men outnumber women 2:1 in Parliament) and Jude Kelly’s fantastic annual WOW Festival (Women of the World) at London’s Southbank and especially, The Women’s Equality Party, a liberal feminist political party in the United Kingdom that was founded by Catherine Mayer and Sandi Toksvig at the WOW Festival 2015.

There are 32 million women living in the UK; they account for 51% of the population. Women make a massive contribution to society in their paid and unpaid work. They should have fair representation and inclusion in the most important decision-making institution in our country.

Even our own London Mayor, Sadiq Khan is getting behind the hashtag with his very own #BehindEveryGreatCity, making gender equality a big focus for 2018.

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o it seems appropriate 100 years later, to celebrate the life of a Surrey legend, Ethyl Smyth. Darling would like to thank Dr Christopher Wiley of the University of Surrey for sharing this wonderful story.

A stamp printed in Great Britain dedicated to the national portrait gallery, shows Emmeline Pankhurst

by Georgina Brakenbury, circa 2006 Suffragette Magazine gives angelic status to Emily Davison. Suffragettes were members of women’s organization movements in the late 19th and early 20th century, particularly militants in Great Britain.

Only in 1928 suffrage was extended to all women.

Ethel Smyth, poster of The March of the Women, from Surrey History Centre

Dame Ethel Smyth (1858–1944) lived most of her adult life in Surrey. History tends to remember her primarily as a pathbreaking composer of six operas and many other orchestral, chamber, and vocal works. This was an impressive output given that the music profession was then fiercely male-dominated; it was extremely unusual at the time for a female composer to have enjoyed a successful international career.

music she composed in the early 1910s, and particularly in her song ‘The March of the Women’. Quickly adopted as the suffragette anthem, it was sung during rallies to rouse the crowds, as well as to boost morale in prison during periods of imprisonment and hunger striking. The artwork presented the ‘March’ in the traditional suffragette colours: violet for dignity, white for purity, and green for hope.

In 1912, Smyth served a jail sentence in London’s Holloway Prison, having been arrested along with many other suffragettes for taking part in a window-smashing campaign across the West End. Visiting her in prison, the conductor Thomas Beecham witnessed a group of suffragettes singing Smyth’s ‘March’ while exercising in the yard, with the composer herself frantically attempting to beat time from her cell window using her toothbrush as a baton! Smyth’s last official act for the suffragettes also saw her conducting the ‘March’, in 1930, performed by the Metropolitan Police Band at the unveiling of the memorial statue to Pankhurst in Victoria Tower Gardens, adjacent to the Palace of Westminster.

Yet the area in which she had arguably the greatest impact lay not in music or literature (she published 10 books), but in politics. In September 1910 she heard a speech delivered

by Emmeline Pankhurst, the leader of the Women’s Social and Political Union, and pledged to devote two years of her life to the ‘Votes for Women’ campaign. She became a leading suffragette, heading processions, addressing rallies, and developing a close relationship with Pankhurst herself. It was Smyth is to be commemorated by her home Smyth who taught Pankhurst to throw stones to town in this year’s Celebrate Woking festival, hit their target, and in 1913 Pankhurst was even ensuring that her fascinating story as a arrested at Smyth’s house. pioneering female composer and suffragette Smyth’s suffragette activity was reflected in the continues to inspire new generations. darlingmagazine.co.uk | spring 2018 13 13

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It’s amazing how many friends from Strictly we’ve chatted to over the years in Darling. Darcey Bussell, Kevin & Karen, Louise Redknapp and now Danny Mac, set to play Joe Gillis in the iconic ‘Sunset Boulevard’ at New Wimbledon Theatre in April – we can’t wait…

Interview by Simon Button What are you most enjoying about playing Joe Gillis?

I love the level that he starts at in the show. I think it comes with age, but with a lot of the characters I’ve played previously they’ve been young men discovering themselves and stuff whereas this guy is a man and he’s already been through it all. He’s kind of at the end of his tether in this situation already and that’s just when the show opens so from that point you just build and build.

It’s been so great to take on a character who already has so much substance and already has so much stuff going on.

What are the big challenges about the show for you as a performer?

I have an incredible duty to tell the story as essentially the narrator of the show.

There are impeccable performances from the entire the cast and it’s based around four main characters, namely Norma, Max, Betty and Joe – but I’ve got to narrate the story so it’s about getting every bit of information over and serving the piece and everyone else’s performances in the right way. Vocally you have to be fit and healthy because it demands every part of your expertise and abilities.

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You’re clearly in great shape but have you buffed up for the Act Two opening number where you emerge from a pool in just your bathers?

If anything, I’ve had to do the opposite because going to the gym hinders me vocally. It’s about trying to find a healthy balance – eating well and keeping fit to a certain degree. I’ve not been to the gym as much as I have before, but I do like to maintain a level of fitness.

What have you learned from working with such a skilled performer as Ria Jones, who plays Norma Desmond in the show?

She’s incredible and she’s the reason the show is going out on tour. She is such a success story [having been Glenn Close’s understudy in the West End and appearing when Close was off sick] and also, Ria created this role in its original conception with Andrew Lloyd Webber some 26 years ago. It’s only now that she’s old enough to play it and it seems so poetic that it’s come full circle and she’s able to do the show. She’s an absolute triumph in it and such a joy to work with.

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THE SECRET LIFE OF WIMBLEDON’S BEES Editor Karine Torr chats to two local apiarists

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eacher and mentor, Alison Pelikan: I’ve been keeping bees for 9 years now and love (almost!) every minute of it, it is the most completely absorbing activity I have done. As a gardener and allotment grower in Wimbledon I also love the way in which what I grow attracts pollinating insects including bees, and of course the forage (flowers) provides pollen and nectar for our bees (my hives are on my allotment), who in turn pollinate my fruit and vegetables and enables the bees to turn it into honey.

Another aspect I love is teaching new beekeepers about the lives of the honeybee and how to manage a hive for the health and wellbeing of the bees. Along with this I sometimes mentor beekeepers around the borough, and again love the chance to share my passion for these amazing creatures whilst watching people’s skills develop. Can’t get much better than that!

If my lovely bees manage to provide an excess of honey, then I sell it at my stall during the Abundance Wimbledon Fruit Day as well as at several other venues. The honey is of course simply taken directly from the hive, spun in an extractor, filtered to remove “hive debris” and that is that.

This year we are taking a break from running courses for new beekeepers but intend to run them again in 2019. There are several other venues to look at if interested in learning more, including East Surrey Bees (privately run) and Surrey Beekeepers Association.

WBKA@wimbledonbeekeepers.co.uk Amanda Berry: Bees are the most intriguing little creatures and they never cease to amaze me. I have been looking after bees for three years - and although they take up more time than I imagined - I’ve never looked back. It is the most fascinating and rewarding pastime.

As pollinators, bees are vital to our food chain and one third of the food we eat is reliant on them. As the saying goes “They die.

We die”. However, I can’t say that I took up beekeeping for the greater good - I did it purely for selfish reasons - my own interest and enjoyment. And to learn. I wanted a new challenge, something completely different from my day job as a graphic designer. Indeed, a challenge it has been. The more I find out, the more I realise I don’t know.

I have been very lucky and have been supported by an experienced beekeeper who has been very encouraging. But, beekeeping is not to be taken up lightly - it requires dedication, commitment and time. But the rewards make it worth every moment.

I blog about my bees at https://beesinthesuburbs.wordpress.com

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events. The chefs are regular demonstrators at food festivals all over the UK including the BBC Good Food Show. Their clear passion to create dishes with a fusion take on the traditional Indian cuisine is why the NC Supper Clubs are taking off and treating guests to incredible food.

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Adding to his already incredible menu of chefs, Nesan is also keen to work with his good friends such as writers and chefs Atul Kochhar (Benares Restaurant), Hari Ghotra, Suresh Pillai (Hoppers London), Sabrina Ghayour, Mallika Basu (Food Columnist, Evening Standard) and Asma Khan (Darjeeling Express).

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What’s your relationship dance?

Asks therapist Pam Custers

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he couple sits down and as she starts to talk, her husband looks away. He seems more interested in the books on my shelf. The more emotional she gets, pleading, the more withdrawn and shut down he gets. He says he wants the relationship to improve but he can’t handle her critical complaining. Why is it that this young man, who professes love, seems to withdraw emotionally, just at the moment his partner so deeply needs his love and reassurance? She looks back at me, hurt and angry, whilst he remains unmoved, withdrawn and determinedly casting his eye away from his distressed partner.

What’s happening?

What we know, through years of research, is that we develop an internal model of operating within our relationships. This develops from the moment we are born. The amazing thing is that this template can be found across all cultures and nationalities. This template is your attachment style and there are three styles of operating. The ratio between these styles is also universal. Our attachment style is our relationship operating system. Depending on our template we all will operate in a similar style.

When there is emotional anxiety we either: • withdraw

• step forward or • keep our emotional equilibrium Once we understand this, we start to make sense of how we operate within our relationships.

‘Attachment’ is my first love. I spent a post grad year studying attachment and its impact on relationships. Once we get a grasp of how this operates, suddenly we are no longer polarised.

We are able to reduce the tension and start to feel connected. Having a good relationship is the difference between thriving and just surviving! If your relationship sometimes feels like my couple’s then perhaps it would be a good time to think about your operating system.

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Pam Custers is an experienced therapist working with individuals, couples and families. Her clients are successful individuals who value her unique approach.

She is accredited MBACP. MA. BA (Psych) Hons and is a RELATE trained and registered counsellor.

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rom inception in 2012, Infinitidental Clinic has been committed to using the latest technology within their services and treatment to ensure their patient’s experience is of the highest standard.

As all industries in the world move to enhance technology more and more, dentistry is not holding back either. Infinitindental Clinic are now able to offer their patients the ability to have their teeth, gums and mouth structure digitally scanned.

The scanning is non-invasive and does not involve any substances being applied to the teeth. A ‘wand’ is utilised by your dentist to move along your teeth, tooth by tooth across a desired section or the whole mouth. As it moves past the wand will be taking high definition, three dimensional coloured pictures. The pictures enable Infinitidental Clinic to capture the structure of your mouth to an extremely high precision - higher than any manual method or older methods (such as taking impressions).

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BENEFITS OF DIGITAL SCANNING: • 3D visualisation of your teeth and restorations in colour, showing defective restorations, cavities and malformations in teeth • Monitors with accuracy tooth loss caused by grinding, erosion or over brushing that is becoming an ever-increasing problem.

• It can show areas that are difficult to clean time lapse software can show the differences in serial scans over time as a video • Simulate how teeth can look if you want them straightened • Used to record crown, bridge, inlay, onlay and veneer preparations allowing laboratory construction without an impression • Impression-free so no need to apply material in your mouth. Particularly useful for those patients that suffer with gagging, retching and claustrophobia The iTero Scanner fits with Infinitidental Clinic perfectly and as such we are very excited to bring this service to you. They are moving forward with the world and becoming digital in their work. The scanner brings speed, reliability and fantastic visuals to be used by your clinicians and to be shared with you.

Scanning is optional for patients (new and existing) however if you are interested please contact Infinitidental Clinic. The scanner will be kept in reception so you can also see it when you are next in or passing by!

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es, you can. Louise Stewart and Mr David Gateley at Nakedhealth explain the process and how you can be beach confident by spring Body fat, whether tummy, thighs, hips, knees or chins, can be hard to lose despite dieting and exercising. Men and women who work out and eat sensibly can be frustrated by the fatty bits that don’t go.

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At Nakedhealth there is a team approach. Following a thorough assessment every patient sees Mr Gateley for the final go ahead.

What people really want to know Do you lose weight?

CoolSculpting will not help you lose weight. However, if you want to eliminate unwanted fat and look slimmer in your clothes, then CoolSculpting may be right for you.

Does it hurt? It’s a medical procedure. It will be a little bit uncomfortable but not painful.

It is quite cold and there is a suction, squeezing effect which you get used to almost immediately. Once removed the area is a little numb and can be slightly swollen. This is massaged and feels fine within a few minutes. Some people experience discomfort a few days later as the nerve endings re-establish and this is managed by the medical team.

How quickly will I see results?

You start to notice a result after a month and it continues to improve up to about three months.

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“One school, two buildings, great teaching, and tip top facilities.”

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The Study is a leading prep school situated in the heart of Wimbledon Village. We identify and nurture each girl’s unique academic, creative and sporting skills in a caring and supportive community.

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Having a united front is the holy grail of parenting, says Elaine Halligan of The Parent Practice. Here are her top tips on communicating with your partner to find unanimity on tricky family issues

By Philippa Hennessy

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s parents, presenting a united front is not always easy – there is often one parent who does not uphold the mealtime rules, allowing the children sweets before dinner or to stay up past their bedtime. If one is more authoritarian and the other has a more laissez-faire approach, how on earth do you achieve any consensus?

It’s difficult to get children to be cooperative if the family rules are not being upheld by both parents.

A UNITED FRONT CAN GO A LONG WAY • If your children are very young, agree on a strategy for teaching them how to dress themselves or how to react when they have a tantrum.

• Agree on the rules and boundaries in different situations, whether it is at meal time, on excursions or away on holiday.

• Acknowledge your partner’s point of view when it differs to yours.

• Compromise when there is disagreement consistency is more important than the actual rule.

• When there is conflict with your partner, do not criticise but make requests and explain your needs.

• Respect each other’s commitments outside the home and family life by taking into consideration how much free time one of you may have from day-to-day.

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• Complement each other on matters that relate to your children, such as backing each other up when one of you is enforcing a rule.

• Avoid criticising and arguing with each other in front of the children. Instead, say positive things to/about your partner in front of them - should you need to discuss a contentious issue, then it is best to wait until the children are not in earshot or in bed.

• Consult your partner before making promises to the children.

• It is normal behaviour for children to play you off each other, particularly when one of you says “no” to something.

Elaine Halligan is the London director of The Parent Practice, an organisation that delivers positive parenting skills to enable parents to bring out the best in their children theparentpractice.com

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Turn your oven up to 200 degrees C, Gas mark 6.

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Arrange these on 2 baking parchment lined oven proof trays.

Take a large mixing bowl. Add the rhubarb, strawberries, sugar, corn starch, and salt.

Gently mix these together until they have combined, the fruit should not be too beaten though. Be kind to your fruit!

Arrange a good sized dollop of the mixture onto each of the pastry pieces.

Fold the edges in and crimp to form a round shape.

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Freeze these until firm.

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Leave to cool on a baking tray, dust with icing sugar and serve with the whipped cream.

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very time the birds flock back to these shores and life starts to spread back into the country, I mark the changing of the seasons with these Strawberries and Rhubarb puffs. To be honest, the Whooper Swan can still be sunning itself in the south and I will be rustling up a batch of these beauties. Sometimes things are too good to wait for.

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Here at Parties to go we offer BBQ brunch that will make any event one to remember.

Have your guests met at the door with a Mimosa or one of our milkshakes, made by our cocktail barman.

We will tempt your friends, colleagues and loved ones with our leek and apple sausages, bacon, and hotcakes; all grilled over the embers in our charcoal BBQs. You can relax and enjoy Eggs Benedict with smoked salmon and chives, American style blueberry pancakes, chorizo hash, spinach baked eggs

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DAVID LLOYD CLUB NEWS A HEALTHIER TOMORROW

Getting our kids into good habits

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healthier tomorrow is normally a statement that has negative connotations. It implies that you have fallen off the diet wagon, given in to your favourite treat or are putting off doing something challenging today and waiting 24 hours to start again. However, for us, there is a far deeper meaning which will have a profound impact on not only tomorrow, but all the tomorrow’s after that.

As a nation we are struggling with rising rates of obesity, increasing sedentary rates and many health issues as a direct result. The question is how can we change and reverse this cycle? The answer is clear.

Educate our children on how to enjoy exercise, eat healthily and create their early social circles within environments within these surroundings.

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Rebalance yourself into the Spring

With Veganuary starting the year off to highlight more sustainable eating, mother daughter team Maria and Lucy have some fun and inspiring delights on offer at Lu-Ma this season

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ith Christmas well and truly over, we move into ‘diet mode’ or ‘healthy mode’ after enjoying the indulgences of the Festive Season. There’s no better way to address the rebalance than a cleansing, healthier diet to nourish you through Spring. The team at Lu-Ma plans our dishes with lots of thought, taking into consideration the correct balance of nutrients and minerals along with the Yin and Yang of food preparation and combination.

We now also offer evening dining twice a month.

An enjoyable evening where you can relax and savour a 2 or 3 course meal with organic wine, beer, a bottle of prosecco or fresh pressed juices.

We encourage groups of friends to soak in the beautiful atmosphere we create and try our extensive range of vegan, vegetarian/pescatarian and gluten-free options. We use locally sourced produce where we can and encourage people to try the Macrobiotic way of eating which has made such a difference to our health.

Up and coming dinner dates: March 2nd and 17th, April 6th and 20th, May 4th and 18th Group cookery classes with Angela our Chef.

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Wimbledon’s favourite Lebanese Restaurant spreads its wings

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Aya is a great venue for any party

e all know spring is a time of new beginnings and Amira and Ali of ‘Aya’ have certainly taken the spirit of spring and injected it into expanding and renewing their family’s award-winning Lebanese restaurants.

Amira says “We want the customers to feel like they are being welcomed into their own home, to feel relaxed and most of all to enjoy themselves.

We aim to make food which is healthy and balanced but always filling, delicious and satisfying. I never want clients to leave feeling hungry!”

Firstly, with their exciting, newly refurbished Streatham branch of Aya, you can expect the same great tasting menu, including their trademark charcoal grilled meats and the amazing service of their friendly staff, but with the added bonus of the large restaurant space and basement, ideal for groups and parties!

Aya Wimbledon Broadway takeaway for example. Late at night or for a quick lunch, it’s easy to order and collect with manager Abdula, who’s been there 6 years, always happy to serve and keep the customers smiling.

As their kids grow, Ali and Amira are seeing Aya grow and go from strength to strength!

With the same care and love that goes into running a family business making customers feel at ease in each restaurant is of prime importance to them.

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Alongside upholding the passion and the quality of current restaurants, the family are branching out a little further afield, with the mouthwatering prospect of Pizzaya.

Not too difficult to guess what this is going to be! Combining the expertise of a new Italian chef and their knowledge

of classic Lebanese flavours, Pizzaya will be offering a fusion of delicious, handmade, sourdough-based pizzas, covered in the freshest Beirut inspired ingredients.

Lastly, in the ethos of creating innovative ways to serve Lebanese cuisine, Amira tells us of their plans for Ali’s secret sauce. “Customers at our Aya restaurants never fail to ask for our homemade garlic and chilli sauces. They are so popular we’ve had to decant some into bottles to give to customers! So perhaps we’ll start selling our own bottles of Aya sauces very soon too...” Watch this space. ayacuisine.com Aya Streatham 78 Streatham High Rd | Aya Cuisine 195-197 Merton Rd 020 8417 0606 | Aya Takeaway 72 The Broadway 020 8543 3363 | Aya Cuisine 2 24 Merton High St 020 8543 3444 | Pizzaya 193 Merton Rd 020 8417 0066

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LENDING a helping hand Peacock & Co on how to get your kids up the property ladder as ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’

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or many aspiring homeowners, it is near impossible to buy without help from family members and friends. It is therefore perhaps not surprising that the ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’ is now one of the top ten funding suppliers in the Country.

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you are going about it in the right way; to protect your own interests, as well as your children’s.

In helping your children financially to step onto the property ladder, you should seek to avoid compromising your own financial security.

Therefore, carefully consider your options and their long-term implications and, if appropriate, seek independent financial and legal advice for your own particular situation.

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Is the contribution a gift or loan?

For both parties, it is best to be open and clear about the arrangement: namely whether the sum of money is a gift or a loan.

In many situations, the money will be gifted, and is often done so as part of inheritance tax estate planning. Please see below for further details.

If it is a loan, you may wish to consider formalising the terms on which the loan has been granted, to include how and when it is to be repaid. There are various ways to assist in providing parents with some security in such an investment.

Lender Issues If a child is obtaining a mortgage in order to purchase the property, then the Lender’s requirements will need to be considered in respect of any financial arrangement being considered.

In some circumstances, Lenders will not accept a deposit that has been loaned from a parent, due to the potential risk of the parent lender later asserting an interest in the property.

As such, this could limit the lending options available.

If the monies being provided are a gift, then a majority of Lenders will ask that the parent(s) sign a declaration to confirm the gift, and to also confirm that they have no interest in the property. Further due diligence will also need to be conducted on the donor, for anti-money laundering purposes.

Family Law and IHT Considerations Careful thought needs to be given to property purchases involving gifts/loans to children

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when they are purchasing a property jointly with their partner. There are various options available to assist in providing protection in the event of a breakdown of the relationship, such as a Declaration of Trust or Cohabitation Agreement.

Gifting money can also have consequences for Inheritance Tax (IHT). Generally, to enable a gift to pass entirely exempt of IHT, the donor must survive for seven years or more from the date of the gift. It is therefore important that consideration for effective tax planning is made before parting with any gifts.

Other options There are other options that enable you to help your children, without having to contribute by way of gift or loan. It is becoming common for parents to act as guarantors for home purchases, or for a parent and child to take out a joint mortgage on a property, known as a ‘joint borrower, sole proprietor’ mortgage.

A guarantor mortgage is a product which requires a parent or close relative to act as a guarantor for 100% of the mortgage debt.

Essentially, this means that the guarantor agrees to cover the mortgage payments if the borrower fails to do so.

It is important to be clear that there are risks in all of these approaches. Peacock & Co has both a specialist Private Client and Residential Property team that would be more than happy to assist you with any questions. peacock-law.co.uk E: amie.younger@peacock-law.co.uk 94 High Street, Wimbledon Village, SW19 5EG T: 020 8944 5290

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Left to right: Diane Fresinger, Jean Travers, Sylvia Delehanty, Judy Rees, Eileen Symonds

The Fabulous Five

By Pam Custers

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hat have a zoo keeper, an Antarctic explorer, a wedding planner, a ballet dancer and the Air Ministry got in common?

You may well ask yourself, but The Wednesday Painting Group is a place where five of the most glamorous and lively group of woman meet on a weekly basis. These Wimbledon stalwarts have been meeting once a week to paint and set the world to rights for many, many years. There is no stopping them - theatre, luncheons, never missing an opportunity to celebrate. Their positivity is infectious and with a combined age of 422 between the five of them they have many amazing things to share.

Diana Fresinger, 83, chuckles as she tells of her time working at London Zoo and the whirlwind romance with the love of her life, “I met my amazing Hungarian husband at the Royal Free and married in a month and quickly had three boys within two years.” Diana is an accomplished artist.

Sylvia Delehanty, 88, speaks passionately about her travels around the world as a youngster, and how, “I felt like I was on the edge of the

world as I stood on a beach in Patagonia and looked toward the Antarctic.” Later, in her 70s, she made a point of visiting the icy continent.

Jean Travers, the baby of the group at 75, speaks affectionately of her time working at the Air Ministry, the happiness her family has brought to her over the years, and how she was inspired to paint while training to be a teacher.

Eileen Symonds, 104, was an accomplished ballet dancer and model photographed by David Bailey, no less. Eileen kept the home fires burning whilst her beloved Bernard went to war, and when he returned they raised their three daughters and settled in Wimbledon in 1956.

Judy Rees, 80, keeps the art group on their toes with a weekly crossword and cake. Judy talks fondly of the time she organised her daughter’s wedding - and how she kept the promise she had made to her five year old daughter that she would bake her wedding cake!

This group of women are not only firm friends and staunch Wimbledonians, they are an inspiring example of how to live our autumn years in joy and comradeship.

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First London Double Outstanding in Care Clare Jefferies chats to Editor, Karine Torr about care at home and the importance of seniors staying socially connected

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f you have been following the press or switched on the BBC news recently, you will know that Home Instead Senior Care Wimbledon and Kingston has received a double Outstanding rating from the Care Quality Commission (CQC).

With two Outstanding ratings in succession, the first ever in London and the South East, Clare Jefferies and her company have been praised by the CQC for their person-centred approach to care and for recognising how valuable social activities are in keeping seniors connected to society and part of their community.

“Staying socially active is equally as important in the care equation” Clare says: ‘I have devoted the last seven years to providing the highest quality home care and companionship for older people in Wimbledon and Kingston. I set up Home Instead Senior Care after experiencing poor care when my own parents were terminally ill at the same time and passed away within seven months of each other.

I dedicate my working life to recruiting truly caring people who want to make a difference to older people’s lives, carefully matching caregivers to clients based on common interests to build strong relationships.

Respecting how each client would like to be cared for is at the heart of our Home Instead visits which last a minimum of one hour, so there’s no rushed care.

I have also recognised that needing help to continue living in your own home is just one part of getting older and I believe that support to stay socially active is equally as important in the care equation.

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Clare Jefferies at a Memory Café event

Over the last few years we have set up events and clubs in the area each week to give older people diary dates to look forward to – getting them out of their homes, preventing loneliness, isolation and depression. It also became clear to me that wives, husbands and full-time carers also need support, so we think very carefully about how we included them in their calendar plans too.

Being a Caregiver takes dedication, commitment, guts and courage. To have such responsibility for an older person is huge and I respect and admire every single one of my amazing team.’ homeinstead.co.uk/wimbledonandkingston 020 8942 4137

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Set up from Gary’s hospital bed, the charity has raised in excess of £625k for ground breaking research and is currently funding research worth approximately £350k under the guidance of Prof.

Kumar in seven countries around the world.

Gary, who lives in Raynes Park and runs a local construction company suffers from Crohn’s disease and feels that medical research into these conditions is well underfunded and the need for these studies is vital for the long term benefits and survival of sufferers.

The charity has no salaried staff so almost 100% of money raised goes directly to research.

Gary Douch Chairman of Bowel Disease UK

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We believe strength should be built “from inside out”, and try really hard to help you get to know your own body and respond to its needs and challenges. On the way you’ll benefit from improved posture, greater freedom of movement, not to mention a strong responsive core.

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Years ago, our local removals company, Bushells, moved us from Clarence Road to Woodhayes Road. They were really good. Keep it local, people! However, just before we moved, my husband had brought home a ‘video’ (remember those) lent to him by our Best Man. NB: like my husband, our Best Man was also a sad, trainee accountant, which contextualises the following, (not being nasty about trainee accountants - no trainee accountant ever describes their life as anything but terribly sad, but then they qualify and buy a BMW and join a golf club and are very happy.)

The video was entitled ‘The Lover’s Guide’.

(You must remember it - it was luridly advertised on bus-sides in the ‘90’s.)

We watched a bit of it, feeling quite racy but also sheepish, before being so embarrassed we hid it down the back of a book-case. It was a sort of quasi-scientific documentary about how

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to be fabulously sensual but employing actors whose general physique and demeanour implied expertise in the more fictional field of erotic cinematography. If you know what I mean.

After the move and during unpacking, I had one of those shock-horror moments: the forgotten video cassette. Gone!

SO mortifying. For about 20 years after, every time I saw a Bushells removal van, I wished the ground would swallow me up. They must have found the tape, and tactfully disposed of it, whilst sniggering.

We were probably the legend of Bushells.

A few months ago, clearing out the attic, I opened a VHS box for Disney’s ‘The Little Mermaid’ and there, inside, misfiled, was the unspeakable ‘Lover’s Guide’. All in a rush, I realised that Bushells Removals had not spent the last two decades laughing up their sleeves; they had not discovered the saucy cassette and mockingly confiscated it, knowing we could hardly complain without heaping shame upon our heads, and thankfully the children had been watching another tape of ‘The Little Mermaid’ which really was ‘The Little Mermaid.’

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