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Cover: Sue Black Photo by Kiera Fyles, Palmer Photography Makeup by: Rachel Barclay

Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Marja-Leena Toseland All Enquiries 07802 949836 Email kingston@ Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson, Dr Mariette Jansen Photography Kiera Fyles Design Anu West Printer Aquatint Distribution Three Colours Ltd

Welcome to our bumper spring edition! With fresh shoots all around inspiring us to experience new things..and new spring fashion of course. Research reveals that travel is good for us so why not pack your bags for a weekend break? Our stylist, Justine Elton, has chosen outfits that will take you from sightseeing to cocktails, in style. And if you are taking your man with you, Studio 148 in Teddington is the perfect place to get him dressed in style too. You can also experience new cultures at home. Read how NC Supper Clubs are spicing up our dining experiences. The 100-year anniversary of the vote for women is a great reminder for us to carry on fighting for equality. We celebrate heroines from the past, including Dame Ethel Smyth from Surrey, and also women of today who are leading the many movements spreading everywhere with the help of social media. Our Inspiring Woman is one of today's leaders and named in the top 50 women in tech in Europe. She is Surbiton resident, Dr Sue Black, a digital skills expert and a social entrepreneur. She’s also the woman whose campaign saved Bletchley Park from ruin. More inspiration comes from the sun-drenched beaches of Rio as the golden girl, Georgie Twigg, relives highlights of winning Olympic Gold and reveals her European dreams for Surbiton Hockey Club. Happy Mother’s Day to all mums and Happy Easter too! Until sunny summer...

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Dr Sue Black believed education would change her life and she was right by Cristiano Dalla Bona

One of the biggest changes for me was going from being unable to pay my bills and worrying about it all the time, to just being able to do it and focus on what I was passionate about.


s Sue Black poses for her Darling cover photoshoot, smiling for the camera after having her makeup done, we ask her how it feels to live as a public figure. “I could never have imagined all of 6

this when I was young. But I’m enjoying it!”, she says. Sue’s life changed when she was a 25-yearold divorcee living in a women’s refuge with her three children. After taking evening classes, she


earned a degree in Computer Science and climbed the ranks of the academic ladder at the University of Westminster. Over the years, she campaigned for many causes, often using social media as a tool to spread her messages. She se-

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cured funding for the restoration of Bletchley Park, the UK leading centre for decrypting enemy messages during WWII. In 2016, her commitment was recognised with the award of an OBE for services in technology. A longtime advocate for women, she set up initiatives such as BSCWomen Network, which mentors women working in technology around the world, and Techmums, helping mothers familiarise themselves with computers. She’s currently developing Techmums TV, an interactive livestreaming programme, and her new book, The Pelican Guide To Coding, will be out next year.

Let’s start with your eventful youth... “When I was 12 my mum died and my dad later remarried. It wasn’t a happy time for me, so as soon as I could leave by 16, I did it. I moved in with my friend’s family, working as a waitress in a café. Then I decided to move to London, where I worked with refugees from Vietnam for a year. I got married at 20, had my first daughter at 21. Two years later I had twins. Unfortunately my marriage broke down and I ended up living in a women’s refuge with my children.”

That was the beginning of a brilliant academic career that saw you becoming Head of Computer Science at the University of Westminster. It can’t have been easy: the scientific area is often described as sexist. “People don’t often realise what it’s like to be in a minority. If you are a woman in computing, most of the time you are going to be 20% or 10% in a male-dominated environment. I am shy and I used to hate conferences, but then I attended a Women in Science event in Brussels. It was lifechanging: everyone was talking to each other and including other people in their chats. I thought: why not try to set up something in the UK where women who are interested in technology can talk to each other? So I founded BCSWomen Network.”

You’re a successful activist. Were your fights

inspired by the realities you witnessed at the refuge? “It helped me to understand how people might not always be able to achieve what they want to, because they’ve got so much other stuff going on in their lives. One of the biggest changes for me was going from not being able to pay my bills and worrying about it all the time to just being able to do it and focus on what I was passionate about. Bletchley Park, for example. When I found out that more than 50% of the professionals that worked there were women, I became very interested in that story. And when I discovered that more than 10,000 people worked there, it blew my mind completely. I started the campaign because I felt everyone needed to know that their work has saved 22m lives at a time when 11m people a year were dying.”

At that time, you decided to take Maths evening classes? “We were living on benefits, and I didn’t like it. I needed a job that would help me earn more money so that I could give my children a better life. The only way I could think of was to go back into education. So I thought: what’s my favourite subject? Maths.”

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inspiring woman Your book, Saving Bletchley Park, describes your incredible campaign. Your commitment for the site and for women in technology earned you an OBE. What was the day of the ceremony like? “It was a dream day! For some reason, you’re not supposed to shake hands with Prince Charles, but I remembered it the wrong way around. And he did actually shake my hand! Buckingham Palace tweeted a photo and it looks like we’re bumping fists! [laughs]. It was the first time the Palace used the #womenintech hashtag.”

Among the initiatives you’ve founded is #techmums, which aims to empower women through technology. Years ago I thought I needed to set up a program to help people realise that there are massive opportunities that come from having basic skills. If I wanted everyone to understand the benefits of technology, why not start with mums? They create the environment where kids live at home, so if they have a positive approach to technology, they can become a more technology-savvy family. I just wanted to create a positive feeling around technology and hopefully empower lots of women to get out there and use it.

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promoted by Hollywood women to change the culture of sexual harassment in the workplace? All the women I know, growing up, had some issues with men being inappropriate and, basically, my generation would never have said anything to anyone because that was what was happening to everybody. You just accepted it as part of male behaviour, unfortunately. So I think it’s really great that high-profile people have come out and said, “This has happened to me” on social media, so that other people can come out with their own stories. We can see right in front of our eyes social change happening. And it couldn’t be so without technology and the Internet.

As an advocate for women’s rights, what do you think of the Time’s Up campaign

What advice would you give your younger self? Be more confident. I spent probably 40% of my whole life just worrying about stuff. If I’d felt more confident when I was younger, I wouldn’t have worried about so many things that just don’t matter. To know that women are becoming more empowered, I think it’s amazing and what I always wanted to happen. SPRING 2018


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t this moment in time, I feel awash with hashtags. #100years, #MeToo, #instawomen, #feminism, #GirlsLikeUs, #EverydaySexism, Emma Watson’s #heforshe campaign, #Fem2, #genderequality – the list is endless. It’s an exciting time for women, not only in the UK - the worldwide women’s movement is really gaining ground. There are young movements like Frances Scott’s #50:50parliament (men outnumber women 2:1 in Parliament) and Jude Kelly’s fantastic annual WOW Festival (Women of the World) at London’s Southbank and especially, The Women’s Equality Party, a liberal feminist political party in the United Kingdom that was founded by Catherine Mayer and Sandi Toksvig at the WOW Festival 2015. They felt strongly that there was a need for a political party in the United Kingdom to campaign for gender equality to the benefit of all. There are 32 million women living in the UK, they account for 51% of the population. Women make a massive contribution to society in their paid and unpaid work. They merit fair representation and inclusion in the most important decision-making institution in our country. Even our own London Mayor, Sadiq Khan is getting behind the hashtag with his very own #BehindEveryGreatCity, making gender equality a big focus for 2018.

Suffragette Magazine gives angelic status to Emily Davison. Suffragettes were members of women’s organization movements in the late 19th and early 20th century, particularly militants in Great Britain. Only in 1928 suffrage was extended to all women. Ethel Smyth, poster of The March of the Women, from Surrey History Centre

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o it seems appropriate 100 years later, to celebrate the life of a Surrey legend, Ethyl Smyth. Darling would like to thank Dr Christopher Wiley of the University of Surrey for sharing this wonderful story. Dame Ethel Smyth (1858–1944) lived most

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In 1912, Smyth served a jail sentence in London’s Holloway Prison, having been arrested along with many other suffragettes for taking part in a window-smashing campaign across the West End. Visiting her in prison, the conductor Thomas Beecham witnessed a group of suffragettes singing Smyth’s ‘March’ while exercising in the yard, with the composer herself frantically attempting to beat time from her cell window using her toothbrush as a baton! Smyth’s last official act for the suffragettes also saw her conducting the ‘March’, in 1930, performed by the Metropolitan Police Band at the unveiling of the memorial statue to Pankhurst in Victoria Tower Gardens, adjacent to the Palace of Westminster. Smyth is to be commemorated by her home town in this year’s Celebrate Woking festival, ensuring that her fascinating story as a pioneering female composer and suffragette continues to inspire new generations. SPRING 2018


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BBC Four’s programme, presented by Amber Butchart, explored the lives of historical figures through the clothes they wore, whilst Ninya’s team recreated the clothing using only traditional techniques. The costumes created include the ‘Arnolfini dress’, from the Arnolfini Portrait by Jan van Eyck (on display at National Portrait Gallery), the ‘Hedge Cutter’ leather jacket from a portrait at Broughton Castle, the dress of Dido Elizabeth Belle from a painting at Scone Palace, the Jupon of the Black Prince from the effigy at Canterbury Cathedral and Marie Antoinette’s ‘Chemise á la Reine’ from Élisabeth Louise Vigée Le Brun. The collection also includes an outfit of Charles II, taken from a portrait of the monarch at Ham House. Sophie Johnson, Senior Visitor Experience Officer said ‘We are especially excited to be able to display the outfit of Charles II in the Marble Dining Room next to the image that inspired it’.

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The costumes are on display at the 17th century mansion house until 29th April.



TV auctioneer CHARLES moves to our manor


Cristiano Dalla Bona went to meet the man at his launch in Hampton Court Village to be entertaining and a moment caught in time.” Charles will be on television soon, in a BBC programme called Flipping Profit, where antique experts are placed around the country with their own money to try and buy objects to raise money for good causes, including Children in Need. “I enjoy the television work, I thrive on meeting people and when profits and programs go to worthy charities I thrive on taking part.”


elevision’s most famous auctioneer has come to London. Charles Hanson is fulfilling a long- held dream this year by expanding his Derbyshire business to our area. “I’m an ambitious man and I’ll be 40 in May. If I don’t do it now, I never will,” he said in a statement. The Bargain Hunt star has recently opened a consignment office in Hampton Court Village and the first auction took place at Teddington’s Normansfield Theatre at Langdon Down Centre on February 10. We met Hanson at the opening of his new business.

What attracted you to this area? “The area is not well-covered by auctioneers although, when it comes to antiques, I feel it’s very well-covered by a clientele who loves to collect. Not to mention the richness and history of places 22

like Hampton Court Palace and Richmond. I thought it was a good setting for us to start the business.”

What are the current trends in antiques and how do you see the future of antiques? “Buyers are increasingly purchasing online and that’s appealing because we offer a packaging service worldwide and it’s now easy to take part in auctions without being present. But in this traditional market we hope to bring people into the salesroom to enjoy the ambience, the theatre, the moment before we say “Going, going, gone!”. For many buyers it’s going


Any tips for our readers on choosing antiques? “I would say, come down to see us at the Normansfield Theatre. We would love to get people to handle tools, to help them learn about pieces. I always say: the best way to learn about antiques is to simply handle objects, to look at how they’re constructed. Close your eyes and imagine being transported back in time, because every object at an auction tells a story.”

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Darling Magazine’s Holly Candlish caught up with Olympic gold medalist, Georgie Twigg, ahead of this year’s EuroHockey Cup at Surbiton Hockey Club in May

Surbiton Ladies First Team celebrating becoming National Champions 2017


ince the women’s team Olympic Gold at Rio 2016, the sport of hockey has been enjoying enormous levels of success. Who can forget the nail-biting drama of the penalty shoot-out to determine the final podium positions between GB and the Netherlands? In a bid to sustain this level of interest Surbiton Hockey Club are proudly hosting this year’s EuroHockey Women’s tournament from 17th-20th May. “We are excited to be staging this top-class event for the first time in the UK. Surbiton will be buzzing with sports fans eager to see some of the best clubs in the world. Having done so well at the Olympics there’s a bigger hockey fan



base than ever and this will keep it in the public eye and inspire the next generation of players, “says Georgie Twigg, Olympic gold medalist and Surbiton mid-fielder. It’s no surprise that Surbiton, the second oldest club in the world, is hosting this prestigious European event as their playing record sets the team head and shoulders above other UK clubs. The line-up is impressive. Fellow Olympic gold medallists, Holly Webb and Giselle Ansley join Twigg, with a further four international players contributing to their success. National champions four years in a row, the team has enjoyed an unbeaten run of 52 matches. Surbiton Ladies 1s are the best of the

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Georgie Twigg in action

best and relish the opportunity of showing local supporters just how good they are. Event-goers can undoubtedly expect to see world-class hockey. The strong field includes over 40 Olympians and teams from Holland, Germany, Spain, Ireland and Belarus. “They are the strongest teams in Europe, but it is the Dutch who are the main competition,” says Georgie, “however, after the win at Rio, I feel more confident about facing them in the Euros.” Team GB’s performance at Rio was truly inspiring and Georgie is happy to relive the closing moments of the tense - if you were watching from your sofa - final. “It’s all a bit surreal. We knew if we kept it tight, and kept the score-line tight, then we stood a chance. With the final whistle we were tied 3-3 and it came down to penalties. At this point our captain ran up shouting, ‘Yes, we’ve got this girls!’ We’d beaten them before on penalties, so going into it our hopes were really high. It doesn’t make it any easier, but when Holly (Webb) stepped up I was actually very confident. The Dutch goalkeeper hadn’t seen her take a penalty before and didn’t have a clue what she was about to do. She was our secret weapon. The goal was a euphoric moment with us all running together screaming and crying.“ Since reaching the pinnacle of her sporting dreams winning Olympic Gold, 27 year old Georgie has retired from the international stage and has set herself different goals both on and off the playing field. “I now have a normal working

week training to be lawyer in London. Legal books have replaced the Monday-Friday training at Bisham Abbey National Sports Centre. On the sports front, taking Surbiton to the top and inspiring young people to take up the sport is now my goal.” To encourage young players, Surbiton trains more than 900 colts each week and is well known for its youth development programme. “For instance, Team GB player, Sarah Haycroft started playing at Surbiton aged ten and now at 26 years old captains the Ladies 1s,” she explains. “Teenagers regularly train and play with us in the first team. We want to nurture young players and inspire them. We are offering free entry to school children on the first day of the Euros to give them the opportunity to enjoy top level hockey first hand.” In the Olympics, Team GB had every confidence they would win and Georgie is certain that the home crowd will be a deciding factor for Surbiton HC at the Euros. “The Dutch are our nemesis and it is current champions HC‘s-Hertogenbosch from the Netherlands that we most fear. They always do well; they always win it. But we’re hoping with a home advantage, with our crowd on our home pitch, this is our year to win it.” To book tickets: For the school’s discount code contact: SPRING 2018


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Get the kids involved in the kitchen this Easter and it doesn’t have to be all chocolate...


(easier to make than hot cross buns)

Ingredients • • • • • • • •

225g self-raising flour, plus extra for dusting ¼ tsp salt 50g butter, chilled 1 small dessert apple, peeled and cored 3 tbsp currants or other dried fruit (chopped if large), optional 50-75 ml milk 4 tbsp natural yogurt 1 egg, beaten (optional)


Heat oven to 200C/180C fan/gas 6. Tip the flour and salt into a large bowl. Grate the butter into the bowl, toss the mixture together, then rub the bits of butter into the flour until there are no big lumps left. Grate the apple into the bowl, then add the dried fruit, 50ml milk and the yogurt, and combine to make a soft dough. If the dough looks dry, add a little more milk. Don’t squeeze it too much and don’t worry if it looks a little lumpy. Roll out

the dough on a floured surface and cut out scones using a 4cm round cutter. Combine any off-cuts and cut out more scones until you have used up all the mixture. To make the crosses, mix plain flour with water and knead to make a smooth dough. Roll out thinly, then cut into strips. Lay the strips on top of the scones and brush with milk, then bake in the oven for 10-12 minutes until golden. Mix together the a tablespoon of caster sugar with 1 tbsp water and use to glaze the tops of the scones as they come out of the oven. Cool on a wire rack and split to serve.


Reed’s School opens its world-class

Indoor Cricket Centre

Alec Stewart OBE declares it the best he’s seen in England! Local cricketing legend and world-class fast bowler, Bob Willis, also came along to join in the celebrations and view the new facility. He recalled that as an RGS, Guildford schoolboy he scored his only century on one of Reed’s Schools’ cricket pitches!

The Jarrett Indoor Cricket Centre


lec Stewart OBE was the guest of honour who opened the new Jarrett Indoor Cricket Centre at Reed’s School this spring. Nearly 200 guests gathered to celebrate the new facility which features cutting-edge technology and building design. Alec Stewart told the guests, “The new Indoor Cricket facility at Reed’s is the best I have seen in England and that includes all the 1st class counties too. It’s of the highest order! Congratulations to you all; these world-class facilities have the potential to produce top quality players for Surrey and also for England.” The building is named in honour of David Jarrett, former Headmaster of Reed’s School, who was the first man to achieve double blues from both Oxford and Cambridge Universities in Cricket. Mark Hoskins, David Jarrett and Alec Stewart OBE

The centre features 5 lanes which are customised to replicate wicket conditions at major grounds around the world. They are also fitted with PitchVision technology, which provides real-time video and performance analysis for players of all levels, from beginners to professionals. The Jarrett Cricket Centre is the first facility in the UK to have this technology integrated into its construction from build level. Over a dozen local clubs already utilise the facility - from Juniors to Seniors including a number of girls teams and courses are up and running for children of all abilities from the ages of 6 to 17. Keith Medlycott, cricket professional at Reed’s who is running the centre, commented “Clubs and schools in the area are welcome to come along to a taster session to try out the facilities here. We are also running Masterclass sessions or courses, open to all, designed to specialise in certain skill sets within the game. Our aim is to ensure the whole community can benefit – adults who would like to play should note that we’ll be running six-a-side Indoor League in the summer!” A unique philanthropic enterprise, all profits generated from lettings will go directly to provide educational and pastoral support for children through the Reed’s Foundation. The Foundation, originally called the London Orphan Asylum, was established in 1813 to help financially disadvantaged children who have lost the support of one or both parents. Since it was founded over 12,000 children have had their lives transformed thanks to the Foundation; this work continues today at Reed’s School.

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Having a united front is the holy grail of parenting, says Elaine Halligan of The Parent Practice. Here are her top tips on communicating with Having a united front is the holy grail of parenting, says Elaine Halligan your partner to find unanimity on tricky family issues of The Parent Practice. Here are her top tips on communicating with By yourPhilippa partnerHennessy to find unanimity on tricky family issues


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Did YOU take a two week holiday last year? Darling magazine’s Rosy Jones delves deeper had lost weight, compared with those who stayed at home!


f you are amongst the working population in the UK who didn’t take at least a two week break – you’re not alone. Research commissioned by British Airways found that 65% of us didn’t “indulge” ourselves with a two week holiday, and over half of us have spare leave at the end of the holiday year. Maybe you’re one of the 16% who feel guilty taking all your leave allowance – and then go on to lose it.

Convinced? So where will you go in 2018? If you’re like the vast majority of Brits, then it’ll be somewhere you’ve been before. Four out of five of us go back to somewhere we’ve visited at least once before. This is true for me – I love visiting some very familiar places. I go to Paris almost every year, just to inhale that very Parisian atmosphere (flooding and gauloises) and if I don’t take at least one annual trip to Lundy Island, for a week of e-detox and marvelling at wildlife, then my

friends tell me I’m barely liveable with. According to a study from Baylour College of Medicine in Texas,

going somewhere new allows us to experience life as a child again, slowing down our memories, invigorating our brains and helping us to be more creative. While I wouldn’t necessarily recommend doing something new every week (my own fiftieth birthday challenge for 2018) nor indeed going on a bobsleigh run (note to self – don’t let your friends pick your challenges…) it seems that going away is healthy in all kinds of ways. Go on – book your fortnight away now. It’ll do you a world of good. British Airways commissioned research with Atomik Research

Going away on holiday is good for your health and your state of mind. Research done in 2013 showed that improvements in health for those who travelled compared favourably with those who had stayed at home for their holidays. And although we might indulge in all sorts of “treats” while we’re away, the group who travelled saw a decrease in their blood pressure, were more able to deal with stress at the end of their “break”, and SPRING 2018



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alk to the end of Hampton Hill High Street, past the Library, the Bloated Mallard pub and the excellent Noble Green Wine merchant and craft beer shop, and you’ll happen upon the lively Hampton Hill Theatre. Owned for the past 20 years by Teddington Theatre Club, Hampton Hill Theatre is only the most recent home of an institution founded in 1927 to help local pupils get a taste for Shakespeare – and 90 years later, is still going strong. If you’ve got a yen for the stage in all its glorious forms, then you could do worse than pay them a visit. And you don’t have to feel the need to stand in the spotlight – particularly if you’re more interested in working them from behind! The theatre is run by volunteers, and lots of people are needed to deliver a professional

theatrical experience from lighting design to Front of House, from Stage Designs , Props to that most important actors’ safety net in the Prompt corner. And if you fancy yourself as Mistress Quickly (but have a problem memorizing Shakespeare) then your role could be in the bar – the members say that the Bar is the beating heart of the theatre and is vital to the success of the club. Of course, a theatre club also needs its actors, and Teddington holds open auditions for each of their many performances, meaning that if you’ve never tried acting before, or if you’re new to the area, then you are always welcome to go along and test your feet out on the boards. New members are welcomed as participants or at a discount for audience benefits.

Chairman Clare Henderson Rowe & President Roger Smith, 90th anniversary in October 2017


The Theatre Club is proud of its roots in the community and ensures that it there is a welcome


to stage schools and drama clubs as well as to others in the community who want to rent the stages or other spaces for events and special functions. TTC produces many shows each year, and to deliver variety from farce (writer of The Good Life Bob Larby’s Month of Sundays is on later in March) to theatrical polemics, with the musical The Matchgirls showing in July being only two of their current season’s shows. Full details of shows and membership can be found on the club’s website:


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am so excited to learn of Lionel Richie joining Gary Barlow, Joe Bonamassa, The Beach Boys, Jools Holland and Paloma Faith at the stunning Tudor Courtyard at Hampton Court Palace Festival in June. What a super line-up it is at this year’s festival. It’s a chance to see your superstar idol close in this intimate and beautiful setting. And it’s at our doorstep!

The festival is attracting more international superstars each year. Lionel Richie , who will perform on the 5th an 6th June as part of his UK tour, is a great coup. The Beach Boys, with founding member, 76 year old Mike Love as their lead soloist, are still incredible on stage, thrilling audiences with their old hits such as Surfin’ USA. Paloma Faith’s concert will mark her return to Hampton Court Palace Festival having last performed sold out shows there in 2015. Paloma recently reached number 1 in the album charts with the acclaimed ‘The Architect’. She has also secured a BRIT Award 2018 nomination for British Female Solo Artist.

of truly special and unique openair concerts. Attendees will arrive at the sumptuous Palace Gardens to enjoy a spot of picnicking in the spectacular surroundings with champagne available to purchase from the festival’s Champagne Partner, Champagne PIAFF. The festival also offers the perfect opportunity to celebrate special occasions in a prestigious setting, with exclusive dining and corporate entertainment available, ensuring a memorable VIP experience. Artists perform in an intimate 3,000seat auditorium in Base Court, set against the backdrop of Henry VIII’s magnificent Tudor Palace. There are still some tickets left to certain performances but many of us fans will have to take our picnics to the river banks by the palace and enjoy the good vibrations from a distance.

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SPRING BRIDGE With Darling’s bridge expert Paul Mendelson This hand defeats most players yet, upon analysis, it is embarrassingly logical. Would you play it correctly?

♠ West S 876 H K1052 D K42 C J106

♦ Dealer South N E NB 2D NB 3NT

North S A109 H 9873 D 873 C 954

♥ East S 5432 H QJ6 D 965 C K87

South S KQJ H A4 D AQJ10 C AQ32

E/W Game S W 2C NB 2NT NB

South’s 2♣ opening bid was the strongest bid she had available; 2♦ was a negative and 2NT showed a balanced 23-24pts. North raised to game. Declarer has 3 spades tricks and one each in hearts, diamonds and clubs. You need three more. Crucially, you only have one entry to dummy. There is one piece of good news: West’s 2♥ lead suggests a lead from a 4-card suit. If you use the A♠ entry to take the diamond finesse, it loses, and now you cannot get back to dummy to take the club finesse. But, here’s the thing: even if the diamond finesse had won, you could not get back to the table to take it again. So, you were almost certainly going to lose K♦ anyway - whoever held it. For that reason, declarer should win trick 1 with A♥ and lay down A♦ and then Q♦, continuing until K♦ is taken. E/W will take 3 heart tricks, but now you still have A♠ in dummy to reach the table and take the club finesse which, thankfully, wins.

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here I was, having coffee with my editor, when she stopped and stared at me intently. “You are beautiful,” she said. “Well, thank you,” I replied, chuffed. “No, I’m thinking U. R. Beautiful. The beauty salon. You need to go.” Oh. Not quite the same sentiment. To be fair, I’d had my hair in waist-length silver braids for the last four months, and having taken them out I was well aware I was left with such dyed and dried blonde hair that it looked like I was styled by The Donald. My editor reached in her bag for her mobile, as if making an emergency call, “UR stands for Urban Retreat. You need a new headshot, and there’s only so much Photoshop can do.” “Well they sound like Pets R Us.” I complained, feeling like I was being booked into the groomers. “Are you saying I’m a dog?” “Not at all”. “What then, that I’m letting down the On the Scene social pages?” Too long a silence. “I was joking” I added. Marja-Leena responded by practically speeddialling them. So off I padded like a disgraced puppy. The salon nestles on the first floor in Boots. Hidden



away, it’s a gem. Sam the senior stylist took to the challenge like a Britain’s Bake-Over finalist as I explained how my hair had grown grey prematurely. (Editor: Yeah right. Did you also explain how your nose had just grown too?) Their task was to reduce the Myra Hindley brassy yellow dyed ends and turn me into my dream blonde - an all over ash-silver white. Very fashionable, and a colour no salon had yet achieved due to my normally dark brown hair that was currently being afflicted with unexpected grey. We browsed the internet pictures to get a clear idea of the options. Sam warned me to that to keep the cool, white shade I picked out would mean applying a violet toner regularly - but it turned out to be a price worth paying, because three and a half hours later, she had worked magic. It’s tricky for a woman of a certain age to get the ‘grey’ right. Too short a cut and you look like a granny. Too long, and a hippy. Just right…and you can appear on the social pages of Darling Magazine. U R Beautiful Boots 1st Floor Kingston Upon Thames

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Darling Magazine - Kingston Spring 2018  

living & lifestyle in kingston, surbiton & teddington

Darling Magazine - Kingston Spring 2018  

living & lifestyle in kingston, surbiton & teddington