MY AU PAIR TRAVEL KIT
CONGRATULATIONS! You have been selected to be a Cultural Care au pair. Now it's time to prepare for an amazing journey. We have selected you to join the community of Cultural Care au pairs because we think you have what it takes to make a success of this very special program. However, finding a great host family does require flexibility and the understanding that everyone’s
These will remind you of what you need to do when. Review them and watch for emails from your Cultural Care office.
needs are different.
school. All of it is designed to help you have a successful experience.
This book has been designed for you as a guide, a tool to be used actively, a resource and part of your training. We hope that you will find it useful, not only before you travel, but also once you arrive and throughout your au pair stay. You will see a number of checklists.
We have included tasks for you to complete. Some of them relate to what you will experience and some of them are connected to what you will learn in your online training and at the training
Shall we get started? Let’s go!
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CHAPTERS
01 04 02 05 03 My Preparation page 04
My Host Family page 76
My Course Activities page 54
Good to Know page 100
My Support Network page 68
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MY PREPARATION
My Course Activities
Learn about our training program and how you can prepare in the most effective way for the au pair experience. Discover all the resources we provide and use the checklists to make sure you are doing the right things at the right time.
My Support Network My Host Family
GET SET » 22
GO! » 34
You have been selected for the Cultural Care Au Pair program and it’s time to start preparing. Here you will learn what to do next and all about the resources we will provide to help prepare and train you.
You have committed to a host family. We are excited for you. Now there are a lot of practical things that you need to take care of and you
This section is about the last two weeks before you fly. You’ll be busy packing and saying goodbye. This section is created to make sure you don’t forget anything
will find them outlined in this section.
TASKS » 42 These tasks are for you, make them your own.
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important.
Good to Know
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“ I F WE WERE MEANT TO STAY IN ONE PLACE WE WOULD HAVE ROOTS INSTEAD OF FEET.”
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Good to Know
GET READY Congratulations! You’ve been selected to join the program.
My Preparation My Course Activities
YOUR CHECKLIST
Log in to your Au Pair Online Account My Support Network
Start MyAuPairCourses and plan when you will complete each section » S et your own deadlines for each course Prepare for matching by reviewing the Matching and Interviewing Guide
My Host Family
Review your virtual life
This section is all about your preparation and getting to know your resources. The following pages will help you check off the items on your checklist. Good to Know
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TRAINING & PREPARATION Training and preparing you for this experience is our top priority now. On this page you will find an overview of the steps involved in your training. Our training program has been developed to provide you with the right information at the right time. Each resource has been designed to help you have a successful experience. We require that you use all of them.
"Cultural Care did a great job in preparing me for my year, but the truth is that even though I had the best training ever; it could not fully prepare me. Every family is so different and so unique […] Part of this experience is always figuring things out by yourself." Lorena, au pair from Colombia
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Your go-to place to prepare, learn, and find information. You can access it from your computer, tablet or smart phone and you should check it every day.
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PREPARATION FOR MATCHING
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MyAuPairCourses
offline ° prepare ° right here
online ° review ° interview
online ° self-study ° learn
You have found a host family
GET READY WORKSHOP workshop ° interactive ° travel
Your departure
NEW YORK TRAINING SCHOOL face-to-face ° classes ° arrive
Your arrival to your host family
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AU PAIR ONLINE ACCOUNT
AU PAIR TRAVEL KIT
My Course Activities
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You have been selected
AU PAIR ONLINE ACCOUNT Your online account has been designed to answer all of your questions. Based on our 25 year history of helping au pairs have a successful experience, we created this space to help you succeed. Here are five reasons to log in to your online account every day:
UPDATE YOUR APPLICATION Please keep your profile updated and submit changes or additions to your application. Some updates will help us find you a great host family even more quickly, for example: » Additional experience caring for children » Improvements on your driving or swimming skills » Updates on your English level (if a non-native speaker) If there are any changes to your program participation or ideal departure date, please contact the office in your home country immediately.
WHEN TO USE IT? Start today and continue to use it until you return home. You will receive important updates from us at Cultural Care through your online account so keep an eye on it every day. Of course you can also call us at your local home office or in the USA at 1-800-333-6056 for any questions you have.
UPLOAD A VIDEO Host families truly love seeing au pair videos. Many prefer to review an application that includes a video, which means that your application is instantly more appealing when it includes a video.
PREPARE FOR THE MATCHING PROCESS You will see a Matching and Interviewing Guide in your online account. This guide is full of firsthand tips, sample questions and readiness exercises - everything you need to prepare for a successful interview with a host family.
You will find all of this information and more in your online account. » www.culturalcare.com/login
SEE HOST FAMILY MATCHES
FIND THE RIGHT FAMILY FASTER
You can view the details of any host family who is considering selecting you as their au pair. You can send the family a direct message and also submit feedback to Cultural Care Au Pair about the match. You will receive an email each time you are matched with a host family, so please be sure to check your email a few times each day.
Our host families love to see that you are excited about being an au pair. By logging in every day, by updating your application and by completing MyAuPairCourses they can see that you are as excited as they are. Being active in your account will help you find the right family.
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HOW DO I COPE WITH CHANGE AND BEING HOMESICK?
HOW CAN I TRAVEL WHILE I AM AN AU PAIR?
WHAT'S THE NEW YORK TRAINING SCHOOL LIKE?
WHAT CLASSES CAN I TAKE DURING MY STAY?
My Support Network
FOR EXAMPLE, DO YOU HAVE QUESTIONS LIKE:
WHAT WILL A HOST FAMILY EXPECT FROM ME?
My Course Activities
Your Au Pair Online Account is not only a platform for preparation but where you will find answers to many of your questions before and during your au pair experience. You can use it as a tool to find answers to many of your questions before and during your au pair experience.
My Host Family Good to Know
AU PAIR TRAVEL KIT Your Au Pair Travel Kit has been designed to help you prepare for your au pair experience. It includes five different sections. As you review them and complete tasks and assignments you will be preparing for your journey.You will discover things about yourself and your future host family.
» Make sure you complete all of the assignments in this book before you travel as they will be discussed at the training school.
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PREPARATION FOR MATCHING YOUR NEXT CONVERSATION COULD BE WITH YOUR HOST FAMILY.
Jonida, au pair from Italy
A LOT GOES IN TO FINDING THE RIGHT MATCH INCLUDING: Matching au pair qualifications with host family needs
Matching your expectations with a family’s expectations
You being responsive when a host family tries to contact you
online ° review ° interview
Ask your Cultural Care Au Pair office if they offer a Matching webinar or workshop that you can take part in.
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Good to Know
In your online account you will find our Matching and Interviewing Guide. This has been created to help you prepare for the interview process. It is important that you think about what a good host family really means to you, the guide will help you do that.
My Host Family
Finding the right host family will be one of the most challenging parts of this process. We will help, but you need to be an active and responsible participant in the matching process. Think of all the other au pairs who will also be looking for a host family – you need to put the effort in to stand out.
My Support Network
"Be careful how you choose your host family, but at the same time don’t be too picky: a big house or a big city doesn’t necessarily mean a better host family."
MyAuPairCourses You can now access MyAuPairCourses through your online account. MyAuPairCourses is Cultural Care's online learning center designed for your success.
We have designed the online training program to make learning as engaging and interactive as possible. It was developed in collaboration with childcare, medical and educational specialists. We also listened to the experts – former Cultural Care au pairs – and they have told us what they think you need to know. MyAuPairCourses allows you to get a head start on training before traveling to our New York training school. You must complete all courses before you travel to the USA. Everyone will learn at their own pace but you should plan to spend about eight hours completing MyAuPairCourses. online ° self study ° learn
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GET READY WORKSHOP
PROGRAM EXPECTATIONS What it will be like settling into your new home and what host families can and cannot expect of you. The workshop will review your rights and obligations as a participant of the au pair program.
My Host Family
» www.culturalcare.com/login
Practical matters such as luggage and flights, how to choose college or university classes or driving in the USA. It is an opportunity to ask any questions you have about the practical aspects of moving from your country to the USA.
My Support Network
Au Pair Online Account
PRACTICAL MATTERS
My Course Activities
Once you have confirmed a match with a host family you will start preparing for your departure. The Get Ready Workshop is an interactive training that you will be required to take part in. It covers topics including:
CULTURAL DIFFERENCES Cultural differences between the USA and your country. The workshop is hosted by the Cultural Care staff in your country. You can trust them as experts on how your culture may be different from American culture.
Good to Know
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Your Cultural Care Au Pair office will invite you to attend a Get Ready Workshop when it is time.
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NEW YORK TRAINING SCHOOL We at Cultural Care have always been proud of our training program. The training school, located just outside of New York, on beautiful Long Island, is the heart of this program. Your time at the school will be a hectic mix of intensive training sessions and fun while getting used to America with your new au pair friends from all over the globe! When you arrive at the school you will receive a welcome pack which outlines the schedule for the week. At the end of the week you will receive a certificate which shows you successfully completed your training at the school.
Read more: » www.culturalcare.com/trainingschool
The training school is the last formal step of your training, but you will learn so much more by having more conversations with your host family. Also remember you have great resources that will help you during your au pair experience.
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REVIEW YOUR VIRTUAL LIFE Like other potential employers, host families might google au pair applicants. If you’re active online, understand that host families may be able to see the content you put on Facebook, Twitter, your blog or other websites. When looking at this, a host family will be evaluating whether they see you as a mature, responsible young person. As you review your “virtual life”, consider how the content you put online can impact your chances for placement.
Remember to be thoughtful and respectful once you are with your host family. A frustrated Facebook post after a bad day may be read and misunderstood. Imagine how you would feel, and realize your host family will feel the same.
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GET SET Congratulations! You have committed to a host family.
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Make sure you have good insurance coverage for your time in the USA
ontinue to practice C your driving
Make sure you have all of your important travel documents
eep working on your K English
tay in touch with your S host family
Get excited!
Good to Know
alk to Cultural Care T about your flights and your visa
My Host Family
ign up for a Get Ready S workshop
ay outstanding balances P to Cultural Care and send any missing documents to your local office
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I f you haven't already done so, complete MyAuPairCourses
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FINISHING UP YOUR PRE-TRAVEL PREPARATION It’s important that you finish MyAuPairCourses and the course activities in this workbook or you will not be able to fly.
The training modules have been designed to ensure you are ready for your adventure. And to succeed at the training school, you must have completed this work in advance. These online courses are also part of the regulations made by the US Department of State.
Many au pairs stop practicing their English or driving once they find a host family, but we strongly encourage you to keep up with both. Before you know it you will be speaking English all day long and driving in new surroundings and it is best to be as prepared as possible. But never be afraid to ask your host family for help. It is better to ask than to be worried.
You have now found your perfect host family but remember, you are still strangers. Take every opportunity to stay in touch and get to know them better. You’ll feel much more at home when you get there.
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THE PRACTICAL STUFF
Your online account is a place for you to find answers to all of your questions and read more about the au pair experience.
Au Pair Online Account » www.culturalcare.com/login
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Good to Know
» Luggage and flights » Program regulations » The Cultural Care Au Pair Training School » Your educational component » Important guidelines on traveling while in the USA » Insurance related forms » US taxes » and your important contacts > fill out the next page
My Host Family
DON’T FORGET TO CHECK YOUR ONLINE ACCOUNT FOR INFORMATION ABOUT:
My Support Network
Your local Cultural Care office will get in touch with you about your preparation, it’s important you follow their advice. Sign up for the Get Ready workshop and make your transition easier. It is filled with practical and cultural advice created based on the real life experiences. We also strongly encourage you to review the visa process and your insurance coverage for your time in the USA.
IMPORTANT CONTACT INFORMATION
FILL OUT BEFORE YOU LEAVE
Please make sure to complete this section before you travel. It's a good idea to bring this Au Pair Travel Kit in your hand luggage during your trip to the USA.
HOST FAMILY:
CULTURAL CARE AU PAIR BOSTON:
Name:
1-800-333-6056 (Free call in the USA) aupair@culturalcare.com
Phone: Email:
AU PAIR TRAINING SCHOOL:
LCC:
Email:
St Johns University 500 Montauk Highway Oakdale, NY 11769 Arrivals / Flights emergency: +1-631-433-0137
CULTURAL CARE AU PAIR IN MY HOME COUNTRY:
TRAVEL INSURANCE:
Name: Phone:
Learn more in your online account. For specific questions, contact Erika’s claims agent directly: 1-800-783-7447 or erika@aetna.com
Phone: Email:
EMERGENCY 24 HOURS PER DAY:
+1-800-333-6056
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FOLLOW US AND SHARE YOUR STORY!
IMPORTANT DOCUMENTS » CHECKLIST SCHOOL OR UNIVERSITY DIPLOMA
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DS-2019 FORM
ERIKA INSURANCE COVERAGE
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PASSPORT
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[06] DRIVER'S LICENSE
[03] INTERNATIONAL DRIVER'S PERMIT
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PHYSICIAN'S HEALTH EVALUATION CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECK
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IMPORTANT DOCUMENTS Check off the items as you get everything together
YOUR VISA
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Once you have confirmed your host family you will receive a form called Certificate for Eligibility for Exchange Visitor (J-1) Status or also DS-2019 form. This form proves you are participating in the Cultural Care Au Pair program. You will bring this form to your local American embassy to apply for your visa. It is important that you start your visa process as soon as you have received this form. Please listen to the advice from your local Cultural Care Au Pair office. They are experts on the visa process in your country. » I mportant: Your DS-2019 form will show valid dates for a 12 month period. You are allowed to stay an additional 30 days after the full completion of your year as an au pair. However, that additional month will NOT be included in the 12 month period shown on the form. » You must keep the DS-2019 form with you for the duration of your au pair experience.
GOT IT!
PASSPORT
INTERNATIONAL DRIVER’S PERMIT
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Your passport should 02 be valid for the entire period you will be in the USA plus at least six extra months. Important: if you are considering extending your au pair term for an additional 6-12 months make sure your passport is valid for at least 2.5 years.
GOT IT!
We will require you to bring this as well as your home country license. In many states this serves as a translation of your own license and many car insurance companies will not insure you without it. You should contact the appropriate organization in your home country to organize the International Driver’s Permit as soon as possible.
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REQUIRED DOCUMENTS
Physician's Health Evaluation
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Driver’s License
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School or University Diploma
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Criminal Background Check
GOT IT! As you prepare to depart it is very important you stay in touch with your Cultural Care office. They will reach out to you to check in and make sure that you can leave
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Your Cultural Care office will inform you of all the required documents to participate in the program. We will require the following from you in order for you to depart. We will help you with all of these but please start working on them early so we can avoid any delays.
as planned. Check your email and messages daily, and My Host Family
always respond.
INSURANCE COVERAGE
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» You are responsible for any financial commitments while in the USA and that may include costs related to medical cases or accidents. It is important that you understand what these commitments are.
» Please make sure you review all information you have received regarding insurance and ask your local Cultural Care office what options they can offer.
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Good to Know
We all understand that having appropriate insurance coverage is important. However, you may not understand how insurance coverage works in the USA. Most likely it is very different from what you are used to in your home country. We cannot stress enough how important it is that you fully understand what insurance coverage you have through Cultural Care Au Pair and if you may need to supplement it. Over the past 25 years we have worked with our partner Erika Travel Insurance to create customized insurance coverage options that work for our au pairs. » Your online account is also a great resource for more information about insurance coverage through Erika Travel Insurance. It's a great idea to review this with your local Cultural Care office.
GET EXCITED! There are many au pairs who want to share their favorite moments with YOU! Check out au pair blogs and other online story sharing platforms.
GET EXCITED AND: » S earch the web for fun activities in the area you will live » Search for #culturalcare and see real life stories » Start an au pair blog » Connect with au pairs in the USA at www.facebook. com/culturalcare
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GO! The countdown has started. You are almost ready to go.
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Fill in the contact information sheet (page 26)
Get a few small gifts for your host children
Think about what you will pack
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heck your online account and review your flight C information in the My flights section
My Support Network
Plan your goodbye party
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alk to your parents and friends about your goals and how T they can best support you through tough times
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Your last few weeks at home will be busy. This section will help you make sure you don't miss
FLIGHT AND ARRIVAL Your flights and transfers to and from your future host family are included in the benefits of the au pair program.
Once you have confirmed a match with a host family you should know your approximate departure date. Our flights team can then start working on your travel arrangements. You will be able to view your flight information in your online account 4 to 6 weeks before your departure. You will receive a departure packet from your local Cultural Care office when your flight has been confirmed. This will include information about traveling to and arriving in the USA and details about what to expect at the training school.
Your first stop in the USA will be the Cultural Care Training School so all flights are booked into New York. The classes at the school usually start on Tuesday morning. You might therefore depart for New York on either Sunday or Monday. The actual date and time will be confirmed once your ticket has been issued and will be available in the flights section of your au pair online account. Once you arrive in New York, a driver will be there to take you to the training school.
View your flight details in your online account and read more information about flights and travel under > Know before you go / Your departure.
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PACKING Most likely you have never packed for a whole year before. It’s good to start thinking about what you will pack a couple of weeks before your travel date. Our best advice is to only pack what you can carry yourself! You will only need half as much as you think since you will want to buy a lot of things during your au pair term. When you pack, remember that clothing styles in the USA may be different to what you are used to wearing each day. Also remember that you want to be a role model for your host children:
» Don’t bring clothes that are too revealing. It can attract the wrong kind of attention. » T-shirts or other clothing with curse words or very aggressive messaging might be ok in your country but when you are in a native English-speaking country, they are not appropriate.
At the training school you will only need a small bag and your larger luggage will be put in storage. In your online account you will find great checklists for what to pack in your small and large suitcase. Please use them.
Airlines have different restrictions on how much luggage you can bring and the size of carry-on luggage. Often there are additional fees for luggage on domestic flights and for extra pieces of luggage. You can find more information about this in your online account.
Au Pair Online Account
» Look under Know before you go / Your departure
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TOP TEN TIPS FOR A SUCCESSFUL YEAR The role of an au pair is complex and unique. You live where you work and that means balancing personal, private and professional roles at the same time. You will learn a lot about this at the training school but we want to send you on your way with some good advice:
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BE PREPARED. It's not a travel year. It's not a study year abroad. It is not glamorous. Taking care of children for 45 hours a week is hard work!
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Ask lots of questions – asking your host parents as much as possible about what they expect is a good way to avoid misunderstandings early on. The more you ask the more you’ll know.
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Be ready to GROW AS A PERSON. This experience teaches you to be your own best advocate, to communicate, take responsibility, improve your English, and gain self-awareness. You will make new friends from all over the world, experience American culture, and will learn something about yourself.
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If you need support or help, don’t try to struggle through on your own. Talk to someone and SEEK OUT THE HELP YOU NEED. Keep in mind that communication is key.
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DO NOT COMPARE. Every situation and family is different. Do not compare the situation of another au pair with your experience. There is something to experience with each family.
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It is important to remember that people are individuals with qualities much deeper than the stereotypes we form. Only when you let go of stereotypes will you truly understand the people you meet abroad.
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BE A GOOD EXAMPLE. The children you care for look up to you and will act as you act and speak as you speak.
Admit it when you don't understand something. Let your host family know if the language is a problem and admit if you don't understand a word or directions. Relax – your English will improve rapidly during your first weeks.
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STAY IN TOUCH WITH YOUR LCC. Call if you cannot come to a meeting. Most importantly, call if you have a problem. They like to hear from you.
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Dive into your year. At first, you will feel nervous about a lot of things. It won’t be easy but the best thing to do is to jump right in!
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MY AU PAIR CALENDAR » 45
My Support Network
MY ADVENTURE » 44
My Course Activities
These tasks are for you. They have been designed to inspire you and to help you think about what you would like to achieve as an au pair.
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TASKS
WORK ON MY ENGLISH » 52 My Host Family
MY BUCKET LIST » 53
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TASK » MY ADVENTURE Read the questions below and answer them as well as you can. The purpose of this task is to make you think about some of the more challenging aspects of this program. It will help you as you prepare for your adventure.
» Why do you want to be an au pair? What adjustments do you think you will need to make to fit into the role of an au pair?
» What will you miss most from your own family and country? What can you do to avoid feeling homesick?
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» What is your plan for after you return home? How do you think your au pair experience will help prepare you for this?
My Course Activities My Support Network
» Mark when you think it will be most difficult to be in a foreign country » Highlight the holidays that are new to you or you are excited to celebrate and experience in the USA. Examples might be Hanukkah, Halloween, Labor Day, Fourth of July » Enter in your host children’s birthdays
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» Enter important dates like birthdays or holidays you celebrate at home
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TASK » MY AU PAIR CALENDAR
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J A N UA RY
1 / New Year’s Day Third Monday / Martin Luther King Day
F E BR U A RY
Third Monday / Presidents' Day 14 / Valentine’s Day
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17 / St. Patrick’s Day Easter 2016
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MA R C H
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1 / April Fool’s Day Easter 2017
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M AY
Second Sunday / Mother’s Day Last Monday / Memorial Day
JUN E
Third Sunday / Father’s Day Summer vacation begins and schools close.
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AU G US T
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J ULY
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S E P T E MB E R
First Monday / Labor Day
OCT O B E R
Second Monday / Columbus Day 31 / Halloween
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11 / Veterans Day Fourth Thursday / Thanksgiving Day
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D E CE M B E R
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Hanukkah and Christmas New Year’s Eve
TASK » WORK ON MY ENGLISH You will hit the ground running and no matter how good your English is, you will feel lost in the first days.
Think about three states in the USA you don’t know anything about and read about them online in English.
Find two blogs about something you love and follow them. Whether it’s Jay-Z or fashion, you will learn English by reading them.
Talk talk talk. Use any chance you get to practice your English.
There are great online tools available for free. Make sure to have them handy on your phone or tablet.
Translate the lyrics of your favorite English songs into your native language.
Watch some American movies or series, but only with subtitles.
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“ THE JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES BEGINS WITH A SINGLE STEP.”
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List what you would like to achieve during your au pair experience. Remember to include both personal goals and travel goals.
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HEALTH IN THE HOME AND A GUIDE TO COMMON CHILDHOOD ILLNESSES » 62
CHILDREARING IN THE USA » 66
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AMERICAN FOOD AND CHILDHOOD NUTRITION » 64
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THE STAGES OF CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT » 58
My Support Network
These activities will be discussed at the training school, so please work through them before you travel.
My Course Activities
During MyAuPairCourses you will be asked to complete a final activity for each course. These activities are designed to bring you closer to the real experience of being an au pair. So imagine yourself in the USA, with your host family or your host children while you work on the activities in this section.
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“ G ROWTH ISN’T SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU, YOU PRODUCE IT.”
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A way to share your native language in an age appropriate way.
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For each child, list:
A game or activity from your home country that you would like to introduce.
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Think about your host children. Consider their ages and what you already know about their interests. How can you support your host children’s growth and development?
An aspect of your home culture that you are excited to share, for example a holiday or tradition. Can you think of one for each season?
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MyAuPairCourses » activity » Children love learning new songs and hearing stories. Spend some time collecting your favorite songs or fairy tales. Be prepared to share, note them here in your travel kit and even pack them in your suitcase – it’ll be worth it.
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** Snow days happen when school can’t run as normal because of winter weather
» Here are two resources where you can find ideas from other au pairs: WWW.PINTEREST.COM/ CULTURALCARE
How would you fill an empty day with your host children? Example: you could get a head start on a Mother’s day gift.
SNOW DAYS**
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What kinds of arts and crafts would you like to do for holidays like Halloween or Valentine's Day?
SEASONS* OR HOLIDAYS
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Visit the Kids Corner in your online account
* The seasons are fall, winter, spring and summer. American children will have school breaks in winter and spring and longer breaks in summer.
You and your host children will have more fun and your host kids will develop new skills if you plan a wide variety of activities. List a few appropriate activities for each of the sections below.
THE STAGES OF CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT
MyAuPairCourses » activity
Remember to look for blogs or other online resources where you can find fun ideas.
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Look up three local places you may want to visit with your host children and list the web sites below. Examples could be the local pool, library, or playground.
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Planning special activities will keep summer vacation fun and exciting. For example you could start each day with a morning bike ride. What would you plan for the summer break?
SUMMER VACATION
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How can you keep your host children resting and entertained if they are home unwell?
SICK DAYS
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her some tea and put VapoRub on her chest. It was the best I could do. When my host parents came home they told me that they had given her medicine before they left and too much cough syrup can cause serious health problems."
HEALTH IN THE HOME AND A GUIDE TO COMMON CHILDHOOD ILLNESSES
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Clear communication with your host parents is so important. Talking about every detail, whether big or small, will help you feel more confident as an au pair. And that confidence will make it easier to make responsible decisions.
Think about the benefits that come from cooking with your host children. What can you gain? What can your host child learn?
AMERICAN FOOD AND CHILDHOOD NUTRITION 01 Pick at least one typical dish from your home country and write down the recipe in English, using American measurements. The dish can be one that you think your host children will enjoy, or the dish you will miss the most. You will have the opportunity to share your ideas with other au pairs at the training school.
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Think about your own childhood. How were you raised? What values did your parents teach you? Write down three important lessons you learned as a child that have shaped who you are today.
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We will discuss different ways to handle behavior challenges at the au pair training school.
Think about the children in your host family. Consider their ages and what you already know about them. What are the common behavior challenges that children experience at this age? What difficult situations might come up? List at least two challenges for each child.
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Every family is different and has different ideas about the best way to raise their child. Your host parents might make decisions about their household that you don’t agree with, but you will need to respect those decisions. Remember that you are part of a parenting team that wants the best for everyone in your household.
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We hope you will have the time of your life as an au pair. However, even when you are having a fantastic experience, you are likely to face challenges such as homesickness, having difficult conversations or you will simply have a question. You will find a lot of helpful information and useful tools in your online account but know that you also have a large network of people around you to help.
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Most of your communication so far has been with your local Cultural Care office in your home country. They will remain in contact with our office in the USA throughout your stay. And you are always welcome to call them before, during or after your stay. However, once you arrive in the USA, you will have a bigger local network whose job it is to help you.
YOUR HOST FAMILY
YOUR LOCAL CHILDCARE CONSULTANT (LCC)
YOUR BOSTON OFFICE SUPPORT
Your host family will want to make your stay a success. You will live and work with them, so be open and share both your excitement and your challenges. If you have concerns or if you are having a difficult time, you should always try to speak with your host family as soon as you notice something. Problems don’t go away on their own – they just tend to get worse. At the training school we will help you get comfortable with having these conversations.
Cultural Care has the largest support network in the USA and we call our local representatives Local Childcare Consultants or LCCs. Each LCC works with the au pairs and host families within a certain area. Beyond your host family, your LCC will be the most important person you will get to know as an au pair. Learn more about your connection with your LCC on the next page.
If you have a serious concern that you don’t feel your LCC can solve for you, your program director would be the next person to contact. A program director works with a region, several LCCs and groups of au pairs. They are there as an additional resource when you need it. In addition to your program director you can call or email our Boston office for general questions like visa, flights or insurance coverage. Cultural Care Au Pair Boston: 1-800-333-6056 (Free call in the USA) aupair@culturalcare.com
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Americans have a very charitable and helpful culture. The best way to get help in the USA is to ask specifically for help, rather than just telling someone you are unhappy with a situation.
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"Speak about problems right away. Host parents are people like everybody else, be polite and say if something bothers you - they might not be aware of the issues that make you unhappy." Ricarda from Austria
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Au Pair Online Account Learn more about the Cultural Care Au Pair support network in your online account under > Make it a successful stay / Your support network in the USA. You can find all the contact details in your online account as well. > My support contacts _________
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"You owe it to yourself to make this the best year it can possibly be. And sometimes that means letting us know that you are not happy or that things aren’t going well. Don’t wait too long if you are not feeling good about something."
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YOUR LOCAL CHILDCARE CONSULTANT Before you travel to the USA, you have your local support in your home country through the Cultural Care Au Pair local representative. This may be the person that hosted your information meeting or interviewed you. You can expect the same local support in the USA. Your Local Childcare Consultant or LCC will be your primary support contact, and you should feel free to call him or her with any questions or concerns you may have in your day-to-day life as an au pair. The LCC works with you and your host family to provide you with support and information throughout your time in the USA. Because the LCC lives in the area he or she may already know your host family and will definitely be able to help you with information about your new surroundings. Each LCC works with several au pairs so he/she will also introduce you to other Cultural Care au pairs in your area. Here are a few ways that you will connect with your LCC:
WELCOME CALL
WELCOME ORIENTATION
Your LCC will call you and your host family within 48 hours of your arrival to your host family’s home. The purpose of this call is for the LCC to introduce him/herself to you and welcome you to the community, and to answer any immediate questions you may have.
Your LCC will meet with you and your host family within 2 weeks of your arrival to the host family’s home. This is to give you a little time to settle in and start to get to know your host family and community and to start to experience life as an au pair. At the orientation meeting you will get advice on settling in and adjusting and also receive some local information on your area. Your LCC will also provide you with a list of other au pairs in the area and share their contact information. Reach out to other au pairs as soon as you can. Sharing your experiences and getting advice from other au pairs is both helpful and rewarding. Also, remember to be a good friend when new au pairs arrive to your area.
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If you cannot reach your LCC and you require immediate assistance, or if you would like to talk with someone other than your LCC, please contact the Boston office at 1-800-333-6056.
Your LCC will arrange monthly meetings for you and the other au pairs in the group. Some meetings will be very informal and discussion-oriented; some may include a guest speaker or a social event. There may be times when you all go out to a restaurant, or attend a sports event. Be prepared that you may be required to contribute $5-10 for a meeting if an activity like this is arranged. The monthly meetings are a required part of the program and you must attend. But they are also a great time for socializing, meeting other au pairs and a good opportunity for you to get to know your LCC better and talk about any problems or concerns you may have.
Stay in touch with your LCC between monthly meetings and let him or her know how you are doing. Your LCC is there to help and support you in any way he/she can. Developing a good relationship with your LCC is important. By simply sending a text message every week or connecting with him/ her on Facebook to give a quick update, you will get to know each other and your LCC will be better able to support you if you need it.
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Emily Brazell, LCC for over 12 years in Tappahannock, Virginia
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"I am a partner to the families and the au pairs. I am an extra part of the team. I truly believe that the au pair - host family relationship works best when they are partners together and I am an outside part of that team. I am the coach for that team and they don’t need me all the time to play their game. When they need my help, either the host family or the au pair can contact me and I give them some coaching tips, especially gained from my experience."
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"I am a friend to my au pairs, trying to give honest advice. I help them through good times and bad times and I am there to support them. When you arrive to the USA, it’s really important for you to remember that your LCC is there for you, that I am a bridge between you and your host family."
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Meeting your host family for the first time is an exciting experience. However, it can also be mixed with nervous emotions. Remember it’s new for all of you and will take some adjustment.
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During the first week you have the perfect chance to show that you want to be a part of the family and learn how you can best support your host family and work as a team.
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You will expect to “click” right away with your host family but that may not happen. That’s okay, it’s normal. Give it some time and work on your relationship. Read about some tips on how to start bonding with your host family.
By taking initiative you will show your host family that you are engaged and committed to their family. Read suggestions from our
You will have a hundred questions for your host family when you arrive. The suggested discussion topics on these pages are designed to help structure
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“ F AMILY IS NOT ABOUT BLOOD. IT'S ABOUT WHO IS WILLING TO HOLD YOUR HAND WHEN YOU NEED IT MOST.”
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Your first week in your new home will fly by if you let it, but it is also an important bonding time for you and your host family. Here is a list of activities that you can try to plan for the first week to help you start develop relationships with your host family and your LCC. » Have coffee with your host mother. » Spend some special time with each of your host children. » Call at least one new friend.
» Prepare a dish from your home country or bake a traditional desert. » Make sure to share one new thing you’ve learned or discovered every day with your host family, they will be excited to hear it.
» Take your first family photo with your host family. » Call your LCC once after the first week even if you just tell them you are doing well.
TIPS your personal life with your Don’t spend too much time talking *hostShare *to friends family. Tell them where you are and family back home during your first weeks. Instead, engage with your host family and your new friends and community. It will help you settle in more quickly.
going and who you are meeting. They will worry about you and being open with them will help build trust.
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“It’s true that the beginning can be hard and you must be ready to adapt to your host family routine and lifestyle. But as the time passes by (or flies in my case) the kids learn how to love you and you do the same.”
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INITIATIVE Taking initiative is sometimes difficult in new surroundings but your host family will look to you to start taking responsibility very quickly. Here are suggestions from our host families for how you can show initiative in your new home:
“In the last snowstorm, I was out shoveling and my au pair came out with my boys with shovels and we all got the job done in half the time!” – Marcia, host mom in Chicago
1 Check the children’s rooms every day for laundry. 2 Tidy the play areas after you are done. 3 Come prepared with suggestions for activities with the children, rather than just asking what they want to do. 4 Come prepared with ideas for age appropriate meals and discuss them with your host parents. 5 If their previous au pair is in the home you may feel insecure, but step forward. They will want to see you taking over the responsibility.
6 Talk to your host parents about rules for social media. Assume that they will not want you to post pictures of their children. They will appreciate that you have asked them. 7 Schedule some time with them to discuss all practical matters including safety and health related issues. You will find suggested meeting topics in this section.
We have selected you to be a Cultural Care au pair because we believe you have the right attitude to be successful on this program. Be confident, if nothing else simply say “I want to help, how can I help?”
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TOPICS TO DISCUSS You should make sure that you and your host parents schedule some time during your first two weeks to discuss the topics below. By doing so you will be better prepared to handle new situations every day and you will be a better support to your host family. You will find more discussion points in your online account under > Life as an au pair
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PRACTICAL MATTERS It is important that you agree on the following practical items with your host parents to ensure that there are no misunderstandings.
STIPEND AND ACTIVITY COSTS
INTERNET AND TELEPHONE USAGE
Decide which day you will receive your stipend and agree on how to handle any costs for activities with the children.
Make sure to discuss if there are any restrictions regarding the use of internet and/or the home and cell phone.
HOUSEHOLD RULES Every family and home have their own set of rules; make sure you understand what household rules apply in your new home e.g. curfew.
SCHEDULE AND COMMUNICATION
MONTHLY MEETINGS
Your host family may have received a communication log from Cultural Care Au Pair and if they have not then suggest that you use a notebook to write down weekly schedules and to communicate about the day. Start by reviewing your first week’s schedule.
You are required to attend monthly meetings with your LCC. Discuss this with your host parents and what transportation will be required.
CAR SAFETY
CAR USAGE
TAKING DAYS OFF
Make sure to plan time with your host family to review the car, its instruments, and safety features.
This is a good time to discuss if you will have access to the family car and what rules apply. Make sure your host family has included you in their car insurance.
It’s never too early to discuss how to handle vacation and sick days.
» Check with the local Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) to find out how to obtain your state driver’s license.
For information regarding the program regulations, including weekly stipends and scheduled hours allowed, go to your online account > Program Information
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WEEKLY MEETINGS It’s a good idea to talk to your host parents on a regular basis. Why not start a routine of weekly meetings? Use the time to share all your thoughts or concerns, no matter how small they may seem. And don’t hold back on the good stuff! Remember to share positive details too.
GOOD OR BAD, KNOWING THAT YOU HAVE SET ASIDE SOME TIME TO TALK ABOUT WHATEVER IS GOING ON WILL: » K eep the lines of communication open between you and your host family » Make it easier and more natural to talk about problems that occur » Let you and your host parents feel more confident each day
SOME TOPICS TO COVER IN YOUR MEETINGS MIGHT BE: » H ow did the past week go (for both you and your host family)? » How is the schedule working? Will there be any changes next week? » How are the kids adapting? » How does it feel to be away from home? » Anything else going on?
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3 Your LCC will meet with you within 14 days of arriving to your host family. This is a great time to ask any questions about insurance coverage and getting your state driver’s license.
4 It’s all new to you – go for a drive with your host family to get a sense of the area and where you will spend the most time driving.
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Whether on duty or in your free time, you should feel prepared to approach driving in the USA with confidence. Driving is one of the most important things that you will do. Take the time to sit down and discuss car usage and related topics – this will be critical to keeping yourself and the kids safe.
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HEALTH-RELATED TOPICS TO DISCUSS Complete the following sections together with your host parents during the first week or two. You will want to be prepared if a child feels unwell. QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR HOST PARENTS: If any of your host children have allergies, make sure you understand how to help the child in case of an allergic reaction.
You will want to have a good understanding of your host parents' approach when it comes to their children’s health. Remember that it may be different from yours, but you must respect their wishes.
Remember to communicate everything related to your host children’s health to your host parents.
» C an you explain how the children’s insurance works? What do I need to know? » How do you want to hear any “sick updates”? » In what instance do you want to be contacted immediately? And when is it okay to let you know later? » Who decides whether the children stay home sick from school? » What is in the medicine cabinet and which medication is okay to give to the children? » Where do you keep a first aid kit? Is there one in the car? » Please tell me about the children’s medical history. Do they have any allergies? Are the children more likely to get a certain sickness? » What else should I know? » When one of the children starts feeling unwell are there usually clear signs that you can share with me? ADDITIONAL QUESTIONS FOR INFANTS: » D oes ______________ easily get diaper rash and how do you treat it? » Does he/she have cradle cap and if so do you want me to do anything or do you simply leave it? » Does ______________ have colic or has he/she ever had a febrile seizure? Please explain how you handle it so I can help in the best way. Remember that caring for a child with colic can be stressful and it’s important to stay calm.
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Save the emergency room for emergencies. In the USA you have access to facilities like a walk-in clinic or an urgent care center. When you are unwell, going to one of these is usually a less expensive and more pleasant experience for you than the emergency room. An emergency room visit can cost an additional $50, $150 or more depending on your insurance coverage.
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Erika Travel Insurance partners with the Aetna network. Whether it's a doctor, walk-in clinic, urgent care facility, or medical specialist – if it's in the Aetna network it will be cheaper for you. Staying in-network also means no up-front costs. With ERIKA extended insurance coverage: » In-Aetna-network: $35 » Out-of-network: $95
Find all local in-network options on the Aetna website at www.culturalcare.com/doctors, so you are prepared for the day you get sick.
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» Keep one copy with you at all times. » Add all phone numbers to your phone as soon as possible.
POISON CONTROL: 1-800-222-1222 PEDIATRICIAN: Tel: Address:
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» One copy in the kitchen or other location where you can easily find it.
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One of the most important things for you to do once you have arrived in your new home is to make sure you complete this section. Your host family may have lists set up for you already and we strongly recommend that you make several copies.
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Safety First! » Cut, fill out and keep in your wallet at all times.
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DAILY MEALS: ROUTINES AND RESPONSIBILITIES Even though your host family is in charge of the children’s diet, you will have a role in deciding what the children eat each day. No matter what age the children are, it is important to talk about what your host family expects.
» See page 110 for 4 SIMPLE STEPS TO FOOD SAFETY
1 At what times do the children normally eat?
10 Discuss general nutrition guidelines for the children.
2 Do the children have a favorite food? 3 Do the children have any food allergies? 4 Are there special diets or certain foods to avoid? 5 Are the children allowed to have treats or sweets after the meal? How much? 6 What about snacking, what is allowed and when? 7 How much should the children eat at each meal?
8 How do you prefer that I handle times when the children don’t want to eat? 9 What about other food related responsibilities?
11 Review how to safely prepare the child’s food.
INFANT SPECIFIC NUTRITION INFORMATION Feeding infants requires special consideration. If you are caring for infants be sure to discuss these topics with your host parents: » Is the baby breastfed, will the mother pump milk using a breast pump each day? » Is the baby given formula? What kind and what amount? » How much should a baby eat and when? » Should the baby be eating baby food or foods that are pureed or mashed? » Does the family have a history of allergies? » Is there a plan for when the baby should start eating solid foods? "There are lots of different types of food allergies that you have to think about, not only for your own host kids, but if friends are coming over and want a snack, you might need to think about whether that food is okay for them to eat." – Theresa from Germany
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HOST FAMILY THOUGHTS ON CHILDREARING AND BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT You and your host parents form a team of caregivers and it’s important that you understand how your host parents want their children to be supported and raised. Here are some topics to discuss with them.
How do you usually reinforce good behavior and how would you like me to handle poor or bad behavior?
Is there a certain approach that works best for each child?
Are there any behavioral challenges you are facing right now with the children where I can focus extra attention?
» Remember that behavior management strategies will be different in every family. As an au pair you must reinforce the rules and values of your host family. » Stay calm, stay consistent and always be patient.
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By discussing all of the topics in this section with your host parents you will be better prepared to meet challenges in your daily au pair life. You will also make a stronger team of caregivers with your host parents.
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This section is full of the practical details and extra essentials that can make for a smoother day-to-day. From tips on dealing with homesickness to local conversion charts, we hope you make great use of these resources. Inside you also have space for your own notes, so you can create your own easy to reference guide that you'll want to keep on hand at all times.
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“SOMETIMES, THE SMALLEST THINGS TAKE UP THE MOST ROOM IN YOUR HEART.”
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THE TYPICAL ADJUSTMENT CYCLE Homesickness can appear at different times and is not always easy to notice. There is no quick fix. But remember, you are not alone. Many other au pairs are probably having the same feelings. Everyone experiences it differently, but it can look something like this:
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ADJUSTING
Everything seems exciting, interesting and new. You’ve heard the stories from real au pairs but your experience is going to be even more amazing.
At some point, you will feel a bit out of place. You might feel lost or lonely in your new home. Small mistakes and misunderstandings really bring you down. It might be easier to feel frustrated than motivated.
Your routine is familiar. Feeling relaxed and confident makes all the difference. You find what makes you happy in your new surroundings. You start to enjoy life in your new country.
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GOING HOME
You are more comfortable, but you start to question some parts of the culture. Back home, everything is perfect. Here, you are away from everything you understand and the people who understand you. Don’t give up. It just takes time and the right attitude.
You see what your new environment has to offer. Things make sense. And that feels really good. You might even feel like a native. You can be proud of yourself for accepting these challenges.
You will have mixed feelings about returning to your own country. You will bring what you learned and experienced in the USA into your new life and career. But you will feel sad to leave your new family and friends.
Check your online account for tips on dealing with homesickness.
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WHAT DO AU PAIRS SPEND MONEY ON? Most of your spending in the USA will be up to you. But there are some expenses that you should be prepared for. Any au pair who has been in the USA will probably tell you how important it is to save some of your stipend every week.
HERE ARE A FEW ITEMS AND WHAT THEY COST IN THE USA.
My must have groceries $35
Movies $12
Museum/cultural event $15
Yoga class $15
Urban outfitters shopping spree » Top $25 » Converse sneakers $50 » Sunglasses $18
Dinner out at the Cheesecake Factory $30
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» You will find more information about taxes in your online account. » Costs related to the extension program are subject to change. » You can opt to pay extra to fly on a weekend or from a different airport. Any other special request usually has a fee as well. Learn more about this in your online account.
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» “I spent a lot of money going to the doctor; one trip to the emergency room for something very small was $50. And then two other times when I was sick it was $35 each visit plus the medicine.” » “From the beginning, I knew I wanted to stay for another year. So I was actually saving for a while for that. The insurance cost $495 and the fee to extend was $367.” » “My parents came to visit at the end of my second year which was awesome. Obviously, I wanted to fly home the same day so I had to pay $50 because it was a weekend.”
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» “The classes I chose were expensive. But it was so worth it. Including books and transport to and from class I spent about $600 of my own money.” » “Me and my friend traveled together in our extra month. So to pay for that additional month insurance was $125. Oh, and for me flying home from Los Angeles was an extra $155.” » “We always had to bring money to our LCC meetings, usually like $5 for a coffee but once my LCC got us into a baseball game. It was so much fun. I didn’t mind spending $20.”
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» “My host family lived in a big city so they didn't have a car. I spent about $100 every month on transportation.” » “I paid $250 of my own money on my classes. Most of my au pair friends paid about the same.” » “I knew it was up to me to figure out how much I might owe for taxes so I did some research and started saving money, just $15 every week, at least I’d have something saved.”
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MONEY FACTS Learn about the value of American money and how expensive or inexpensive items are in the USA.
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Quarter
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TIPS FOR TIPPING In the USA, tipping is expected. But how much to tip and when can be confusing. Unlike other parts of the world, in the USA service is not always included in the bill. Service providers, for example a waiter at a restaurant, depend on tips as income. You should plan to tip between 10 and 20%. Ask your host family or friends for the local standard.
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AMERICAN SLANG Get moving, usually out the door
HIT THE ROAD HANG OUT
Relax, chill, have fun doing nothing
BREAK A LEG
If we want to be at the pool by lunchtime we better hit the road!
Should we go out, or do you just want to hang out at home?
You'll do great, break a leg!
UNDER THE WEATHER
ON CLOUD NINE
TO HAVE A BLAST
I'm a bit under the weather and not feeling 100%.
Everything is going SO well, I'm on cloud nine!
There is so much great stuff planned for our vacation, we are going to have a blast.
HOLD YOUR HORSES
PIECE OF CAKE
TAKE FOR GRANTED
We have to wait until the glue dries, hold your horses.
It's a piece of cake, you'll understand it when you get started.
Sick and not feeling so well
Slow down a bit
In the best mood ever
Easy, simple to do
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Another way to say good luck
The most fun ever
Assume something will always be there I always ask questions instead of taking things for granted.
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You have been so secretive, it's time to spill the beans.
BUMMER
Reacting to some bad news
She said WHAT? Get out of here.
You have my full attention, I'm listening Tell me everything, I'm all ears.
GOTCHA
24/7
Oh, gotcha. We meet at 9 in the evening and not in the morning.
I can always contact my LCC, she is available 24/7.
I 'got' you, I understand
All the time 24 hours/day and 7days/week
TLC
BFF
ASAP
FYI
OMG
Laughing out loud
As soon as possible
Tender loving care
For your information
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Best friend forever
Oh my God!
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LOL
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By the time we got to the front of the line it was sold out, such a bummer.
I don't believe it
I'M ALL EARS
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Tell a secret or give away all the information
GET OUT OF HERE
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SPILL THE BEANS
YOUR PERSONAL DICTIONARY You will probably hear people say many things you have never heard before. Learn as you go and make a list of the new words and phrases.
ENGLISH
TRANSLATION
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TRANSLATION ENGLISH
LEARNING THE SYSTEM What does 65° Fahrenheit feel like? How many miles is 5 kilometers? Get in the USA state of mind.
MEASUREMENTS LENGTH
WEIGHT
1 inch
≈
2.54 centimeters
1 ounce
≈
28.4 grams
1 foot
≈
0.3 meters
1 pound
≈
0.45 kilograms
1 yard
≈
0.9 meters
1 teaspoon
≈
5 ml
1 mile
≈
1.6 kilometers
1 tablespoon
≈
15 ml
1 cup
≈
250ml ≈ 9 fluid ounces
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ELECTRICAL
To convert from Fahrenheit to Celsius, first subtract 32, then multiply by 5/9
120 V / 60 Hz
≈
0º C
50º F
≈
10º C
61º F
≈
16º C
72º F
≈
22º C
82º F
≈
28º C
If you want to fit your electrical appliances from home into the wall in the USA, you will need a plug adapter. As for voltage, most of the latest electronics (like phones and laptops) automatically work in any country, but for some things (like hair dryers) you may need a voltage converter.
Average body temperature: 98.6º F ≈ 37º C
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32º F
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TEMPERATURE
4 SIMPLE STEPS TO FOOD SAFETY 1 / CLEAN
2 / SEPERATE
3 / COOK
4 / CHILL
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INGREDIENTS DIRECTIONS
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MY FAVORITE RECIPE
TIMEZONES The continental USA is divided into four time zones.
PACIFIC TIME – PT GMT-8
MOUNTAIN TIME – MT GMT-7
CENTRAL TIME – CT GMT-6
EASTERN TIME – ET GMT-5
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NOTES
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“Working as an au pair, facing all the challenges knowledge about myself and the world I live in. I see the world with new eyes thanks to all the new people from different countries with
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and living in another country has improved my
different cultures that I've met. It's made me
and understanding and that if more people travel or get exposed to new cultures it creates an open-minded environment which would make
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more curious about the world and how other people live their lives. I've learned about respect
the world a better place for us all.
experience. They're honest, bright and loving. You give one, and you get a hundred back. They show that life doesn't need to be complicated,
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Taking care of children has been such a giving
which has helped me to not take life too seriously. later it will be all right. Being an au pair has been the greatest experience of my life.”
Hanna from Sweden
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It's alright to fail or feel down, cause sooner or
“OH, THE PLACES YOU'LL GO”
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Cultural Care Au Pair is part of the EF Education First family EF Education First is an international education company focusing on language, academics and cultural experience with 500 offices and schools in over 52 countries around the world. We at Cultural Care Au Pair share EF´s mission in opening the world through education. Learn more about EF under: www.ef.com