are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com.
DAWN duncan
Dawn Duncan is a UND graduate who spent 26 years in Colorado before returning to her home state of Minnesota. Today, she resides in Detroit Lakes with her husband, Michael, where she runs a creativity company, specializing in offering classes/courses and retreats centered around art, writing, nature, and wellness. She is also a published children's book author. Outside of her work as managing editor and running her company, she teaches fitness classes and can usually be found in the gym, yoga studio, outdoors, spending time with her German Shepherd (Reva), or traveling.
ALICIA underlee nelson
Alicia is the creator of prairiestylefile.com, a website that explores the arts, culture, shopping, events and fashion of Fargo-Moorhead and the upper Midwest. She frequently travels across the region in search of what's beautiful and what's next.
PATRICE peterson
With a degree in journalism, Patrice continues to pursue her passion for writing by creating articles for various Midwest publications. She left behind a corporate communications job to find her own version of a perfect worklife balance. That includes spending plenty of quality time with friends and family, including her husband, children, and two young grandchildren. It also allows time to pursue her other passion for outdoor activities. Besides biking and skiing, she loves kayaking and spending time at her “Happy Place,” their cabin on Big Pine Lake in Perham.
DEVIN joubert
Devin Joubert (pronounced "yo-bear") is a freelance writer and also a fiction author of all things romantic comedy, humor, and true love. Stories have always been at the center of her heart, believing they change lives. She lives in North Dakota with her husband and mini zoo, where the prairies and forests collide. When she isn’t writing or wrangling her pets, she loves going on road tripping adventures with her husband. You can find out more about her at lifewritingwanderlust.com
BARB zahasky
After retiring from a successful small business in Detroit Lakes, Barbara Zahasky has turned her creative energy toward the kitchen. A passionate home chef, she finds joy in cooking and baking alongside friends and family, where laughter and good food always go hand in hand. Barb is known for her focus on technique—especially the art of finishing sauces—and for her meticulous attention to flavor and presentation that transforms each meal into an experience. When she’s not nurturing her sourdough starter, she’s likely exploring the outdoors or traveling in search of new inspiration and tastes.
KOOPER shagena
Kooper Shagena is a recent journalism graduate from NDSU. She currently trains performance horses and lives in North Fargo with her best friend. She is always reading, watching ghost hunting shows, or riding horses.
TThe time has come to gather, celebrate, and settle into the holidays and New Year ahead. This is a special time of year, as it lends itself to opportunities for connection, frivolity, and that extra sparkle we love. Although traditions and celebrations vary, here in the Midwest as we move into deep winter, there are wholesome festivities that have been enjoyed for decades and that continue today.
From gazing at holiday light displays to seeing Santa and Mrs. Claus, attending special services and events in honor of religious holidays, and enjoying simple pleasures with friends and family, December and January offer signature experiences galore and these brighten the winter season. With this issue, we’re bringing you an array of ideas on how to enjoy this season and experience the FM area at its best! There is an endless list of places and things to try, with something for everyone.
Don’t miss the FM Ballet’s production of the Classic Nutcracker, check out unique shops and artisan goods, and partake in holiday outings that are sure to build memories for years to come. Learn about the leadership behind the FM Opera and dedicated professionals in our area who are making a difference through the work they do.
It's a beautiful and busy time, and one for silence and reflection. As the year ends and we begin a new one, let us take pause to express gratitude for all that we have and hope for a bright and happy future ahead.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, [ aw ]
Best,
Dawn Duncan Managing Editor
"It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving." – Unknown
Lend A Hand Up makes it easy and impactful to help neighbors this holiday season through the Holiday Hand Up giving campaign.
Lend A Hand Up’s mission is to raise help and hope for local families experiencing hardship due to health issues, trauma, or the recent death of a family member. With more than 50 individual/family fundraisers active on LendAHandUp. org this holiday season, there is tremendous need and abundant opportunity for community members to boost financial help for local families who could use a hand up.
Among this year’s Holiday Hand Up participants are:
Shayla Johnk, Moorhead, who is a caring nurse and devoted mother of seven children undergoing treatment for Stage 3 Colorectal Cancer/Adenocarcinoma. Shayla’s diagnosis and treatment required her to step away from caring for others to focus on her own health challenges.
Gretchen Noah, Fargo, went to the emergency room when she experienced some sudden confusion and forgetfulness. Providers found a brain tumor on her frontal lobe. She underwent emergency surgery and was transferred to Mayo Clinic in Rochester to seek care from two Neuro ICU teams.
Holidays increase financial stress for families who are facing health challenges. Our goal is to increase the impact of generosity.
Jeana Peinovich, Lend A Hand Up Director
Mya Oelrich, Hillsboro, is a 13 yr-old who was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease in May. She missed the end of her 8th grade year due to her battles with infection, malnutrition, surgical removal and follow-up care of a part of her colon, appendix, and intestines.
Jess Radeck, Moorhead, suffered a massive stroke, leaving him unable to speak, move on his own, relying on a ventilator and feeding tube. Jess is 53 years old. He and his wife Michele have three children.
Faith Sander, a sixteen year-old from Hawley, was diagnosed with Stage 2A Hodgkins Lymphoma in June, requiring her to undergo treatment every other week for six months. This has created financial challenges for her parents who have taken significant time off work to care for Faith.
To learn about other families participating in this year’s Holiday Hand Up Campaign, scan the code below
Kasie Lee, Portland, has faced health challenges since the age of three when she was diagnosed and treated for a brain tumor. Following years of remission, in 2010, her shunt was surgically removed. She remained stable until 2025 when another brain tumor was found. She is currently undergoing consult and treatment at Mayo Clinic.
Krista Gumphrey, Detroit Lakes, was diagnosed with astrocytoma, an aggressive terminal brain cancer. She has undergone surgery, radiation and chemo and suffered two mini strokes which have resulted in a loss of her vision and mobility on the left side. Her medical condition has required her to close her small business.
Ryan Rossow, Davenport, is a proud veteran who served in Kosovo and Iraq. When his aches and pains didn’t go away, he went to the doctor. He was diagnosed and began treatment for aggressive liver and colon cancer. Unfortunately, his tumors kept growing and he and his family recently made the heartbreaking decision to stop treatment and focus on making Ryan’s remaining days special.
Randy Andreasen, Moorhead, was seen in the Emergency Room in August when he became increasingly confused. Doctors discovered two masses in his brain and a craniotomy was performed. Further imaging revealed that the cancer had metastasized to other organs. He is currently consulting with providers to begin palliative treatment.
Xavier Lux Serena, Grand Forks, is a tiny, but mighty two yr-old diagnosed with an extremely rare genetic disorder – a deletion of his CUL3 gene – along with failure to thrive, global development delay, and other challenges. In addition to eight therapy appointments a week, he also travels to the Boys Town Research Hospital in Omaha, Nebraska for specialty care.
Randy Carillo Jr, Moorhead, suffered a skull fracture damaging his middle back and left temporal lobe in addition to multiple facial fractures. He underwent a craniotomy and was referred to Craig’s Rehabilitation Center in Colorado for speech, comprehension, and memory recovery.
Renee Wilm, Wheatland, is battling cancer for the second time. Four years ago, Renee had a double mastectomy followed by chemo and radiation for breast cancer. In 2025, the cancer returned in her C-Spine and bone marrow. Her family and coworkers are serving as her caring support system.
Shawn Nelson, Vergas, was diagnosed with Stage 3 vocal cord cancer on August 15th. He underwent surgery to remove part of the tumor and has been traveling daily to Fargo to complete 35 rounds of intense radiation and chemotherapy. His treatment has kept him off the road as an owner-operator OTR truck driver since mid- August.
Dean Vetter, Fargo, suffered a traumatic road bike accident on July 31st and was airlifted to Sanford for severe spinal cord injuries. He will be unable to return to work for the foreseeable future as his medical team continues to assess his condition and determine the next steps for rehabilitation. His wife Heidi has remained by his side since the accident.
Joe Delacruz, Fergus Falls, is a proud U.S. Marine who has spent years serving others. Due to a recent accident which left him with broken ribs, punctured lungs, and neuropathy, he has been unable to work as he focuses on recovery.
Kennadie Linster, Finley, is an active 15-year old high-school sophomore who was diagnosed with a heart disorder called Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy (HCM) when a heart murmur was found at a routine visit in July. She is scheduled for open heart surgery, along with placement of an internal cardiac defibrillator, in Rochester in September.
There are many other individuals who live and work among us who are suffering right now due to health issues and other trauma. For these families, holidays can be especially tough physically, emotionally, and financially.
Now through the end of December, Lend A Hand Up makes it easy and impactful for you to lighten the load of others.
Help A Family.
Lend A Hand Up provides an online giving platform for individuals who want to direct a gift to a specific individual/family fundraiser. Online gifts made through the program’s giving site go directly to the families. Although gifts directed to individuals are not tax-deductible, donors who give online through the LendAHandUp.org website have the advantage of a 20% match. This unique “giving boost” is made possible through generous program sponsors.
Boost Help for Many
Families through a charitable program gift.
Donations made to Lend A Hand Up provide tax-deductible giving options for individuals and businesses interested in boosting financial help for many families versus one. During the Holiday Hand Up giving campaign of November and December, gifts make an even greater impact through matching funds. Match sponsors include the Alex Stern Family Foundation, Gateway Chevrolet and your Heartland Chevy Dealers, Dr. Calvin K. Fercho Family Foundation, and others who are committed to maximizing the generosity of others over the holidays.
Charitable donations to Lend A Hand Up may be made online through the program’s giving platform, Give.LendAHandUp.org, or by check payable to Lend A Hand Up. Lend A Hand Up does not process cash/check program gifts intended to benefit a specific individual/family. IRS guidelines prevent tax-deductible program donations from being designated to specific individuals or families.
Whether you direct an online gift to a specific fundraiser or make a charitable donation to Lend A Hand Up to help many families, feel good knowing that the love you put into helping a neighbor will make an even greater impact this holiday season.
For more information about giving options and families helped through the Holiday Hand Up Campaign, go to Give.LendAHandUp.org Or call the program office 701.356.2661
Donations made by to check should be made payable to Lend A Hand Up and directed to: Lend A Hand Up, 4321 20 Ave S, Fargo, ND 58103. Gifts made by cash/check to the program may not be directed to benefit a specific individual/family.
Learn More/Give: LendAHandUp.org
Lend A Hand Up is a 501c3 subsidiary nonprofit of Dakota Medical Foundation. The program’s mission is to raise financial help and hope for local families experiencing hardship due to serious health issues or trauma.
Each December, as the Fargo–Moorhead area sparkles with snow, holiday lights, and year-end busyness, one event invites local women to pause, breathe, and simply connect. It’s called the Jingle Mingle and it’s hosted by the Fargo Moorhead West Fargo Chamber’s Women Connect program. It’s a festive networking celebration designed to bring women together—to laugh, relax, and lift each other up during one of the busiest and most magical times of the year with fresh Christmas cheer. “It’s about creating a fun and festive space where women can network, slow down from the hustle and bustle of the holidays, and be reminded of the community around them,” said Amanda Susag, Director of Events for the Chamber.
The Jingle Mingle is more than just a holiday gathering–it’s a reminder of the power of community and shared experiences. Each year, the event offers attendees a chance to enjoy festive treats, inspiring conversations, and meaningful moments of connection that extend far beyond the season. With laughter echoing through the decorated venue and friendships rekindled over cocoa and conversation, the evening captures the heart of what Women Connect is all about: celebrating women who support, encourage, and champion one another both personally and professionally.
Creating Community, One Event at a Time
Amanda joined the Chamber in June, and she oversees a wide range of gatherings that help the region grow and thrive. “The Chamber itself puts on nearly a hundred events every year and these can be events like community engagement opportunities, service projects, leadership development, public policy, and workforce,” she comments.
One of the areas closest to Amanda’s heart is Women Connect, which is a monthly series that offers professional development, personal growth, and authentic conversation. They talk about mental health, struggling in the workplace, balancing family, and all the demands on you in your life, as well as how you identify your values and align them with your work and everything in your life.
Each event is guided by a committee of nine local women leaders who help identify topics and shape the programming. “They’re the drivers,” Amanda says with pride. “I just get to support them behind the scenes and help bring their ideas to life.”
Under Amanda’s leadership, Women Connect continues to grow as a trusted space in the FM area where authenticity meets ambition. Attendees leave not only with new ideas but also with a sense of belonging and renewed motivation to make a difference in their workplaces and communities. The program’s ripple effect can be seen in the relationships formed, the mentorships sparked, and the confidence built, which is proof that when women gather with purpose, the impact extends far beyond the room itself.
The Spirit of Jingle Mingle
If Women Connect is where the hard conversations happen, then Jingle Mingle is where women get to celebrate those connections. This year's event will be held on Tuesday, December 16, from 3:30 to 5 p.m. at the Armory Event Center in Moorhead, MN.
“The Jingle Mingle has been going on for many years. It’s a great place where we can all celebrate the year together. It allows folks to connect and engage in conversation while there’s games and some structure, but it’s really about enjoying each other's company,” said Amanda. “Anyone is invited to attend our monthly events, and those events are typically on the last Tuesday of every month. If guests are members of the Chamber, it costs $45 or it’s $55 for non-members. At the Jingle Mingle, there will be lighthearted games, festive drinks, and local vendors offering everything from holiday gifts to permanent jewelry. “The committee even wants to include a spiked hot chocolate bar this year.”
It’s a loosely structured networking event, so attendees can mingle, shop, or simply relax with friends. “People don’t need to feel pressured to network. They can just show up, be themselves, and enjoy the night. We’ll have committee members and Chamber staff there to greet them and help make introductions, so everyone feels welcome.”
While this will be Amanda’s first Jingle Mingle, she’s already inspired by the enthusiasm surrounding it. “Women are craving moments to pause and connect with others,” she said. “I think the energy in that room will be incredible.”
More Than an Event
Through Women Connect, the Chamber continues to build a supportive community for women across all industries and stages of life in the FM area. Each monthly gathering offers a chance to learn, grow, and find connection. “Women don’t have to attend every month,” Amanda said. “They can pick the topics that resonate most with them. It’s about giving them the space to find what fits their journey.”
Whether it’s professional growth, personal reflection, or simply a much-needed moment of laughter, Women Connect offers a seat at the table and Jingle Mingle provides the perfect way to celebrate another year of connection and community.
“Ultimately,” Amanda says, “it’s about empowering women—helping them show up for themselves and each other and reminding them they’re part of something bigger.”
As the year wraps up, Women Connect and the Jingle Mingle bring women together in a way that feels genuine and joyful. It’s a chance to slow down, share stories, and remember that connection matters just as much as accomplishment. What started as a series of gatherings has grown into a community of women cheering each other on through challenges, changes, and celebrations alike. It’s that spirit of encouragement and belonging that keeps Women Connect shining all year long. [ aw ]
Jingle Mingle: Tuesday, December 16 | 3:30–5 p.m. The Armory Event Center, Moorhead
Tickets available through the Fargo Moorhead West Fargo Chamber website: https://business.fmwfchamber.com/events/details/women-connect-jingle-mingle-december-2025-1257561
For more information about Women Connect or to view upcoming events, visit http://fmwfchamber.com.
And for more information about Women Connect, you can find out more info here: www.fmwfchamber.com/women-connect/
Holiday Lights at the Fairgrounds
Pour some hot cocoa into a thermos, pile into the car, and ooh and ahh over the Holiday Lights at the Fairgrounds between November 28 and December 31 (any day except Christmas Day). A portion of the funds raised benefit the FM Sertoma Club, just like when the displays were back in Lindenwood Park. But the current 1.5-mile route through the Red River Valley Fairgrounds takes the immersive experience to the next level, with RGB effect lighting, animated displays that move and wave, and drive-through tunnels.
Admission is $25 per car and $60 for each limo or bus. Some proceeds also go to non-profits and youth organizations who work the event, so it’s a fun way to give back to the community.
See live reindeer, decorate cookies with Mrs. Claus, and even meet Santa himself at Rheault Farm November 29-30, December 6-7, 12-14 and 18-21. This sweet 15-acre farm in the middle of Fargo transforms into a winter wonderland complete with model train displays, holiday lights, and horse drawn carriage rides (Saturday and Sunday afternoons only). Sensory kits, a quiet space, and a sensory-friendly night on December 12 help everyone can enjoy the fun.
Admission is free, but guests bring canned food items, new or gently used toys, or a cash donation to benefit local non-profit groups. There is a charge for concessions. Budget $2.50 per person for carriage rides. Kids under three ride free with a paying adult.
Thousands of spectators line the streets for the annual Xcel Energy Holiday Lights Parade, which kicks off the holiday season on December 6. The parade begins in Moorhead at 6:30 and winds through downtown Fargo. (Check out the website for final route information.)
Holiday music plays, marching units dance and wave to the crowd, and countless strands of colorful lights twinkle atop a steady stream of floats, brightening the cold winter night. Past favorites have included equestrian units, decorated holiday buses, and appearances by media personalities and public figures. Start or end your evening with drinks or dinner in one of downtown’s many bars and restaurants.
More than 70 makers from across the Upper Midwest converge at Brewhalla for a festive retail free-for-all on December 14. These aren’t your grandma’s crafts (although honestly, she’d probably love them): these are quirky, cutting-edge, and occasionally snarky creations you can’t find anywhere else. Score unique items like ceramic jewelry and jackets made from vintage linens, colorful fishing lures and fresh lefse, plus stocking stuffers like Dubai chocolate, holiday ornaments, and smoked pistachios. The event is free and all ages are welcome.
Interactive makers on the second floor Mezzanine create custom hats and shirts, five minute portraits, and more as you watch. Hit up the charm bar and the $5 make-and-take craft in the Craftatorium before you go.
www.brewhalla.co
The Blenders: Farewell Holiday Soul Tour
Meeting friends or family members at a Christmas concert featuring this vocal quartet has been a beloved tradition for more than a quarter of a century. The Blenders (newly minted members of the North Dakota Music Hall of Fame) return to the Fargo Theatre for six shows from December 17 through 21. It’s bound to be an even hotter ticket than usual, since this will likely be fans’ last chance to catch the group’s ear-catching harmonies live.
“We are stepping away from touring,” said tenor and group spokesperson Tim Kasper. “After 26 years of doing the Holiday Soul Tour — and 35 years together as a group — the four of us decided we needed time to reset and explore our options.” [ aw ]
Liquid measuring cups, cocktail stirrer or spoon, stemware (pictured: martini glass)
This refreshing and festive drink is perfect for holiday celebrations! Bright layers of cranberry and pineapple juice, topped with bubbly lemon-lime soda and a frothy crown of whipped cream, make a cheerful and delicious start to any gathering. Garnish with a sprig of fresh mint and a few cranberries for a festive touch.
THE METHOD
Chill the ingredients beforehand as that will keep the ice from diluting the drink too quickly. Fill each glass with ice cubes, then add the cranberry, pineapple, and soda. Stir gently, then slowly add the grenadine, which will sink to the bottom, creating a layered look. Top with whipped cream and garnish with cherries or cranberries and mint leaves. Tip: For an adult twist, you can add a splash of white rum before topping with soda. [ aw ]
RECIPE and PHOTO BY BARB ZAHASKY
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JenniferHill
Stylist: Kyrstin • Make-up: Samantha
RyanSorenson
Stylist: Ryan
Clothing: Halberstadt's (32nd Ave)
KateAhlgren
Stylist: Jenny • Make-up: Samantha
KyrstinSchroeder
Stylist: Jenny • Make-up: Tasha
Spa-Liday Magic The holidays have always been about giving—but as we head into the 2025 season, the focus is shifting from things to meaning. This year, it's not just about what’s under the tree. It's about who’s around it—and how well we’re showing up for them and ourselves.
The new holiday trend? Give the gift of love, selfcare, and wellness, loving yourself and taking care of special people in your life.
Laughter is also another form of self-care. Get together with your friends, go out for dinner and have some fun!
The end of the year often feels like a whirlwind: shopping lists, holiday parties, work deadlines, and family obligations. But in all the hustle, we risk missing what really matters—connection, wellness, and joy.
Taking time to care for ourselves and our relationships isn’t just a luxury, it’s essential.
All is Calm and All is Bright
What better way to pause and reconnect than a day at the spa? Whether it's a solo retreat, a couple’s massage, or a best-friend facial day, spa experiences are becoming more than pampering— they’re intentional acts of wellness, bonding, and the experience of rejuvenation.
Gift idea: Treat your mom, sister, partner, or best friend to a shared spa day. Turn it into a tradition. Let the scent of eucalyptus and the silence of the sauna replace screen time and stress.
Taking care of ourselves helps us show up more fully for others. This season, let go of perfection
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JenniferHill
Stylist: Kyrstin • Make-up: Samantha
RyanSorenson
Stylist: Ryan
Clothing: Halberstadt's (32nd Ave.)
KateAhlgren
Stylist: Jenny • Make-up: Samantha
KimmyDang
Stylist: Jarica • Make-up: Misty
and lean into presence. Invite friends over for a simple meal. Schedule that phone call you’ve been putting off. Take a long walk with someone who matters.
These small moments of love and care—both given and received—create memories that last far longer than any wrapped package.
5 Simple Ways to Gift Love & SelfCare This Season
1. Spa gift cards – Especially for those who never treat themselves.
2. Plan a “Digital Detox Day” –Unplug, unwind, and reconnect.
4. Host a Self-Care Day– Wellness IV with friends for the season it is relaxing and good for you.
5. Facial, Pedicure and Cocktails/ Mocktails with friends.
Kyrstin
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KyrstinSchroeder Stylist: Jenny • Make-Up: Tasha
JenniferHill
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Make-up: Samantha
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JenniferHill
Stylist: Kirsten • Make-up: Samantha
KateAhlgren
Stylist: Jenny Make-Up: Samantha
The Spirit of the Season: Rest, Reconnect,
Renew
2025 is calling us back to the basics: love, care, connection. This holiday season, trade the chaos for calm. Choose experiences over excess. Take care of your body, your mind, and your people.
Give the gift that truly keeps on giving: Love, selfcare and wellness.
(Models Left-To-Right)
JenniferHill
Stylist: Kyrstin • Make-up: Samantha
KimmyDang
Stylist: Jarica • Make-up: Misty
KyrstinSchroeder
Stylist: Jenny • Make-up: Tasha
KateAhlgren
Stylist: Jenny • Make-up: Samantha
Winter Fashion
2025/2026
The relaxation trend is also coming true for fashion. You will see slouchy boots, oversize bags, and jean options; wide leg jeans and skinny jeans are both on trend for winter 2025. This winter is the season for cozy textures with knee-length skirts and belts over coats.
The colors and materials you will see are earthy tones along with warm reds and blush pinks. You also spot a lot of suede and textured yarns.
Hair Trends for 2026
Expect a focus on natural texture with curl-specific cuts and layering, alongside classic styles like Birkin bangs, shags, and bobs. Color trends include bold options like Cyber Copper and Pink Chrome, balanced by softer shades like Chantilly Blonde and Dark Chocolate Brown. Overall, styles are moving toward effortless, authentic looks that allow for self-expression, especially with unique colors and embracing natural hair texture. [ aw ]
Hot flashes are often the most recognized and bothersome symptom of menopause. Other common symptoms include vaginal dryness, sleep disturbances and mood changes. However, symptoms like extreme mood swings, urinary incontinence and bleeding after menopause should be reported to a health care provider. Learn more about common menopause symptoms and when to tell your provider about more troubling complications.
What happens during menopause?
Menopause is officially diagnosed when a woman has gone 12 consecutive months without a menstrual period. The average age of menopause is around 51, though it can happen before or after. Perimenopause refers to the years leading up to menopause, which can begin seven to 10 years prior to a woman’s final menstrual cycle, or in your early-to-mid-40s. This stage is where many begin to experience symptoms.
“During perimenopause, ovarian function slowly declines and there is a decrease in the production of estrogen and progesterone,” said Dr. Michaela Heller, OB/GYN at Essentia Health. “This change
in hormone production triggers the cessation of menstrual periods and the changes that come with it, like hot flashes, sleep issues and vaginal dryness.”
Everyone’s transition into menopause is different. Some people first notice changes with their periods, such as spotting, periods lasting longer or shorter than usual or changes to their bleeding pattern. Others may break out in a sweat during the day or at night, while others may not experience any symptoms commonly associated with menopause.
Menopause is a natural process, but it shouldn’t disrupt your life. Some abnormal menopause-related symptoms can also indicate an underlying condition, like certain cancers. Know the difference between normal symptoms and when to report them to a provider.
written by Caitlin Pallai
photos supplied by Essentia Health
Dr. Michaela Heller , MD
OB/GYN at Essentia Health
Bleeding during perimenopause and after menopause
You should be evaluated by your health care provider if you experience irregular bleeding patterns or heavy bleeding during perimenopause, or experience bleeding after menopause. Remember that menopause is a full 12 months of no menstrual cycles. Tell your provider if you experience any of the following symptoms:
• Bleeding after intercourse.
• Bleeding that’s heavier than a usual menstrual period.
• Bleeding that occurs with abdominal pain, fever, chills, headache or changes in bladder and bowel function.
• Blood, even if it’s a small amount.
• Passing blood clots.
• Pink or brown vaginal discharge.
Heart palpitations
Heart palpitations, or the feeling of fluttering in the chest, are a common symptom of menopause. Palpitations can be due to normal hormonal fluctuations but should be evaluated by a health care provider to rule out other conditions, such as atrial fibrillation (AFib) or another arrhythmia (irregular heartbeat).
Debilitating mood changes
Talk to your provider if you experience severe mood swings or irritability that impacts your daily life, such as your work or personal relationships.
Severe body pain
Mild-to-moderate joint and muscle pain is normal during menopause, but if your body pain prevents you from doing daily activities, it’s important to alert your provider so they can help you find relief.
Urinary Tract Infection (UTI) symptoms
Menopause can weaken the urinary tract’s lining and lead to vaginal dryness, both of which contribute to UTIs. Alert your provider about frequent urination, pain or burning during urination, fever and abdominal pain.
Early menopause symptoms
Tell your provider if you experience menopause symptoms before age 40. Early menopause symptoms can include:
• Brain fog, including memory issues.
• Decreased libido.
• Hair thinning or skin changes.
• Hot flashes, including night sweats.
• Irregular periods, which include missing a menstrual cycle and periods that are lighter or heavier than usual.
• Mood changes.
• Vaginal dryness.
Everyone has a unique experience with menopause, so always tell your provider about any symptoms that are concerning or troubling you.
Treatment options
Because other conditions can have similar symptoms to menopause, your provider may recommend additional testing like imaging or blood tests to ensure the correct diagnosis. There are several treatment options for symptoms of menopause which can include:
• Lifestyle changes such as stress management, exercise and eating a nutrient-dense diet.
• Hormone therapy which involves replacing estrogen and sometimes progesterone through pills, patches, topical creams and vaginal inserts.
• Non-hormonal therapies including certain antidepressants and gabapentin to relieve hot flashes and suppositories for vaginal dryness.
• Alternative therapies like acupuncture, herbal remedies and massage.
While one approach can be helpful for some, it may not be the best fit for others. To ensure you feel your best before, during and after menopause, talk to your provider about the best ways to stay healthy, strong and comfortable during this transition.
“It’s also important to note that menopause is not a disease, but a normal part of the aging process,” Dr. Heller said. “That being said, symptoms may still be troubling, and we are here to help you through them.”
Essentia Health provides comprehensive health services for those who have entered menopause or have concerns about certain menopause symptoms.
Schedule an appointment with a provider today at EssentiaHealth.org.
fajita
Cuddly, wiggly, dog-friendly and kid-approved. Fajita is a nearly 4-year-old Pit Bull Terrier/Shepherd Mix female; if you’ve ever wanted to own every dog breed at once, here’s your chance. Athletic but calm, energetic but gentle, Fajita is equally comfortable at home on the couch or out trekking in the hills. This girl loves everyone she meets but her zest for life means she would benefit from a patient leader in new places.
Local animal shelters Cat’s Cradle and 4 Luv of Dog are full of stellar animal companions! Look at the current crew (note that there’s a chance an animal may no longer be available) and consider adding to your family! Adopt, don’t shop. These furry friends are ready to give love and create memories with you!
persephone
3 years and 1 month old. Pit Bull Terrier/Mix Persephone (Percy) is a sweet, loyal little lady who has come a long way during her time in foster care. She’s fully potty trained, respectful in the house, and loves to perch on the back of the couch to watch the world go by. Percy has made tremendous progress with her reactivity—now calmly observing squirrels and other dogs on walks with curiosity rather than concern. She adores her toys, blankets, and belly rubs, and delights in short bursts of zoomies followed by cuddles. This pocket-sized pup would thrive in a home with a fenced yard and no other pets, where she can safely run, play, and continue blossoming into the confident, loving companion she’s meant to be.
pippi
Pippi might be an older gal (7 years, 7 months), but don’t let that fool you — this lovely German Shepherd still has plenty of pep in her step and a whole lot of love to give. She’s been with us since February, winning over everyone with her gentle nature and big, soulful eyes. Her favorite days are the simple ones: lounging on the deck, soaking up the sunshine, or chasing a tennis ball around the yard. And when playtime’s over? She curls up with her giant frog stuffed toy — it’s her absolute favorite. Pippi’s the kind of dog who just wants to be close to her person. She’ll happily follow you from room to room and then settle in next to you for a quiet evening of TV and cuddles. She’d do best as the only dog in a calm home and prefers the company of older kids. What Pippi wants most is a peaceful home and someone to love her for who she is — a big, gentle furball with a heart full of love. She’s ready to start her next chapter… could it be with you?
gayle
Gayle is 3 years and 9 months old, female, and a very easy-going, respectful house guest. She is so happy to be in a home and absolutely loves her people. Even with people that she hasn't seen in months will wag her tail so hard it looks like it is going to fly off.
pam
This sweet lady is Pam, a senior Chihuahua who is 12 years and 2 months old. Pam came to 4 Luv of Dog Rescue through a local pound. At her initial exam she was diagnosed with a heart murmur. She received an echocardiogram and was diagnosed with Mitral Valve Disease, and pulmonary hypertension. She requires daily medication to manage this, with a cost of about $85 per month. Pam also received extensive dental work with extractions. Since starting her medications and recovering from her dental surgery, Pam has really started to thrive. She has lots of personality and spunk. She may not be the cuddliest dog, but she loves treats and running around the back yard. She also gets quick little spurts of zoomies that are absolutely adorable. Pam happily exists with the two large dogs in her foster home, and she has even started to try and play a little! Pam would make an excellent addition to almost any home!
eartha
Eartha is a female Shepherd/Pit Bull Terrier mix who is 2 years and 7 months old. Since joining us, she has made tremendous progress, especially when it comes to curbing her door-dashing tendencies! She’s gentle and loves everyone she meets, adults and children alike. While Eartha can have bursts of energy, she’s also a wonderful snuggler who loves lounging around with our residents. She has had the privilege of welcoming many new residents to Solid Ground and being there to say goodbye as others move forward on their journeys. We’re hopeful that Eartha will soon find her forever home, but we’re so grateful for all the warmth, comfort, and joy she’s brought to our program since arriving.
dinga
Dinga is a female Husky/mixed breed dog who is 1 year and 4 months old. She will be your best friend, your hiking buddy, your little shadow, your cuddle buddy for movie nights, and a warm blanket on cold nights. Her favorite things are: Car rides with windows open and her snoot sticking out breathing in the fresh air, chewing on Nyla bones non-stop, long walks with lots of sniffs, curling up on her favorite chair/blanket or sunning herself on the deck, zoomies in the back yard, and micromanaging quietly while her parents are working. She is a good work from home dog. She loves playing with rope toys or tug of war. Dinga is a ray of sunshine and absolute joy. She gets along well with other dogs, cats, and humans. She does well with children. Her energy is unmatched, so if you live an active lifestyle, she is the dog for you.
bread
Bread is a wonderful loyal companion. He is a 7-year-old Pit Bull Terrier/Labrador Retriever mix and is still full of energy and life. He enjoys everything life offers—car rides, walks, treats, snuggling on laps, and sun tanning on the deck. He is incredibly loyal and will be anyone’s fur-ever friend.
charmander
Charmander, a male Pit Bull Terrier who is 2 years and 6 months old, has really grown into his personality since we brought him into our home. I have never met a dog who likes to cuddle more than this handsome pup! There is no space too small for him to fit to be close to you. Tug-of-war is his favorite passing time. Charmander is a very curious guy; he wants to know what everyone is up to and even tries to help sometimes. He is dog friendly; he just needs to be reminded that he is not five pounds while he is playing with other dogs!
boxcar
If joy had a furry mascot, it would be Boxcar. This 11-month-old Shepherd/mixed breed male pup has mastered the art of keeping life interesting; equal parts goofball, snuggle bug, and professional toy thief. Rescued from a rural pound with his sister when they were only 10 weeks old, Boxcar quickly proved he’s the kind of dog who can make every day feel like a party. Whether he’s inventing new games with his dog friends or sneaking in for a cuddle session, this charming boy’s silly personality and bright spirit are impossible to resist. But Boxcar’s story isn’t all playtime and puppy kisses. At just seven months old, he faced a big setback — a fractured scapula. With the help of a caring rescue team, plenty of vet visits, and more TLC than most pups could dream of, he’s been healing like a champ. These days, Boxcar is back to being his bouncy, mischievous self (with just a touch more grace). As he continues his recovery, he’s also searching for his forever family, one who is ready for laughter, loyalty, and a lifetime supply of cuddles from a dog who truly knows the value of a second chance.
harrison
Harrison is an approximately 3-year-old Yorkshire Terrier mix. He came into the rescue with multiple dogs from a breeder rescue and appears to have not had much human handling. He would normally have a longer coat, but his hair was matted and needed to be shaved. Due to the previous limited socialization, Harrison was fearful of people when he first entered the rescue. He wouldn’t walk on a leash and avoided human interactions as much as possible. He has made great strides since his entry and is learning to walk on a leash. He is learning that pets and scratches feel pretty good. Toys are also getting his curiosity peaked. Nighttime has been spent very quietly in a crate and remains clean. Potty training is also going well with few to no accidents recently. Harrison will need someone who is willing to continue to patiently love him to bring him out of his shell more every day.
kitchen
Kitchen is a 3-year/9-month-old female Pit Bull Terrier/mixed breed and a lovely dog. If I were to describe in three words it would be polite, affectionate, and a little goofy. She adores people and is a favorite in the neighborhood with her striking look and prompt requests for a pet from anyone she meets. She is easy to manage and responds so well to an "Uh oh" or Midwestern "Ope";we don't use the word "No" to redirect her. She knows which pieces of furniture she can sit on, knows how to ask for permission to do things like climb up for a snuggle, and does a great job managing the house for me whenever I am gone. Her favorite activities include supervising the neighborhood through the living room window, prancing around with a squeaky toy, snoring in her spot underneath the bed, and doing the "Pitbull lean" on my leg while we sit in the backyard and watch the birds. She is a lover of creature comforts and does not like the rain or cold and finds it unfair if she doesn't get a little taste of your supper, but she is still enough of a dog that she loves zoomies, wants to chase deer and squirrels, and will immediately roll in a pile of manure if she finds one on her walk. She does not like to be close to other furry creatures, but she wants to be next to her people whenever she can, with a special preference for snoozing on them while they read or watch a movie. She is a heart stealer in every way, and worth taking the time to meet.
falcor
Falcor, is a 3-year-old male Great Pyrenees mix with the softest fur and gorgeous blue eyes. He loves to be loved and is a big fan of cuddling and will let you know with a paw if he hasn't had quite enough. Face scritchies are a must before we get settled for work in the morning. He is at his happiest spending time with people and our resident dog. He splits his day between our home offices, napping, chewing on bones and wrestling with our resident dog, Origami. While he may be deaf that doesn't slow him down; he does all the regular dog things, he plays, barks, enjoys walks and is eager to have your attention. Since he came to us in July, he's attended several training classes, not only for him but us too. The biggest challenge was recall; how do you recall a deaf dog? With the help of Down Dog and a vibration collar we can recall him pretty easily. We also use hand signals for sit, lay down, and thumbs up for a good job. He is very smart and has caught on very well. He has been to many 4Luv events and has done well with mindful children. He really is the sweetest boy, and we believe his forever family is out there and he's ready to meet them.
fir
• General Age: 4 months
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Cream
• Declawed: No
More information: neutered, up to date on rabies, distemper, dewormed, microchipped and Felv/ Fiv negative. Fir is one of our adorable new kittens at the shelter! Like many of his siblings, he’s still learning that the world is a safe and loving place. Fir can be a bit shy at first, but he’s quickly discovering that humans are the source of all good things like treats, toys, and gentle affection. With a patient and caring adopter who’s willing to spend some time playing and socializing with him, Fir will blossom into a confident, affectionate companion. He just needs someone who’s willing to show him that love and trust go hand in hand.
yaw
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Brown Tabby
• Declawed: No
More information:Yaw (4months old), neutered, up to date on rabies, distemper, dewormed, microchipped and Felv/Fiv negative. Yaw is a pintsized cutie who dearly wants to escape from his room and dash right into your heart. He longs for the open space of a home and the love, toys, food, and activity that a special human or family can give. He's social and friendly, and he's looking for someone to call family. Could that be you? Drop by the shelter, and let this energetic little sweetheart introduce himself to you.
miso
• General Age: Adult
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Gray
• Declawed: No
More information: Miso (1-2 years old), neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, microchipped, Felv/Fiv negative Miso is a gorgeous gray cat with highlights in his coat that look silver in the right light. He is also polydactyly, which means that he has some extra toes on his front feet. He has a friendly, affectionate, and calm personality. He loves it when you scratch the side of his head, and if you pet him just right, he will wriggle over on his back and turn his head upside down. He almost seems to have a smile on his face. Perhaps Miso, the gentle love bug, will be the perfect companion for you. Stop by and offer him a safe place.
superman
• General Age: Adult
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Medium
• Color: White (Mostly)
• Declawed: No
More information: Superman (4 years old) neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FIV +. Superman is a beautiful male cat whose long white fur is dotted with gray tabby patches. He’s very friendly and chatty, and he enjoys having head and shoulder scritchies. As his name suggests, Superman is a strong and independent guy, and he prefers to call the shots. If he wants to sit on your lap, he will let you know, and if he doesn’t, he’ll let you know that, too. He has a noble and confident demeanor, and he wants a home to call his own. He will repay you with plenty of affection and love. Superman is FIV+ and should be an indoor only cat to protect his immune system. Our adoption counselors at Cats Cradle can tell you more about how to care for and love an FIV+ cat.
camden
• General Age: Adult
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Red Tabby
• Declawed: No
More information: Camden (4.5 years old), neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FELV/FIV negative. Camden is a gorgeous orange classic tabby with gold eyes. He’s a big boy with a big personality to match. If he decides that you are special (and it must be his choice) he will throw himself on his side next to you, purr, and be a goofy baby, demanding pets and neck rubs. If you get up and walk away, Camden will often follow--he just wants to know that you will be near him and still love him. One of the photos here shows Camden on the scratching post, and that’s exactly where he wants to be in your estimation: on a pedestal reserved for only the best orange tabby cat in the world. As much as Camden loves adoration and attention, he does not like change. Consistency, a predictable routine, and a calm environment are essential for his wellbeing. Camden isn't sure that he wants to share the spotlight, but he has shown that he can get along with other cats if he's given time to get to know them. He might like a cat friend to keep him company and play with him if he is alone in the house for too long. This big orange kitty would do best in a quiet home without noisy dogs or children. Stop by the shelter and see if this handsome boy will choose you to be his special human.
acorn
• General Age: Young
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Cream and White
• Declawed: No
More information: Acorn is very shy but with patience and love will soon regard his people as special friends. He is still learning that the world is a safe and loving place. Acorn is shy at first, but he’s quickly discovering that humans are the source of all good things like treats, toys, and gentle affection. With a patient and caring adopter who’s willing to spend some time playing and socializing with him, Acorn will blossom into a confident, affectionate companion. He just needs someone who’s willing to show him that love and trust go hand in hand.
ope
• General Age: Young
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length: Short
• Color: Brown Tabby
• Declawed: No
More information: Ope (4 months old), neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FELV/fiv negative. Ope is the pint-sized brother of Yaw. He is just as cute and like his brother, he wants to escape from his room and dash right into your heart. He longs for the open space of a home and the love, toys, food, and activity that a special human or family can give. He's social and friendly, and he's looking for someone to call family. Could that be you? Drop by the shelter, and let this energetic little sweetheart and his brother introduce themselves to you.
gunny
• General Age: Adult
• Gender: Male
• Coat Length:
• Color: Black (Mostly)
• Declawed: No
More information: Gunny (1 year old), neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FELVFIV negative. Gunny is a sleek and handsome black cat who is extremely affectionate and friendly. Don’t overlook this fine fellow! To look at him with his coal-black fur is to look into an apparent black hole, but he’s truly a delightful and companionable guy. He enjoys being petted until the cows come home, and he will definitely sit on your lap and purr, purr, purr. Gunny has a calm and steady demeanor, and if one of the larger cats growls at him, he just politely turns and walks away. He’s much more interested in people who approach him with friendship, kindness, and playfulness in mind. Could that be you?
patsy
• General Age: Adult
• Gender: Female
• Coat Length: Long
• Color: Tortoiseshell
• Declawed: No
More information: Patsy (7 years old) spayed, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FIV +. Patsy is a long-haired dilute torbie who is absolutely charming. She is sweet and friendly, and she enjoys asking you for some attention and finding out if she can be safe in your arms. A favorite activity is to follow you around and chatter animatedly to you. She wants to know what you are doing and what is happening in the household. She loves having clean water in her dish, and she has a cute habit of scooping the water up with one paw to lick it slowly off her toes. Soft beds and delicious treats are also favorites with her. Patsy would do well in a quiet home without too much commotion (older, considerate children only), as she can be timid when there is too much noise. Because Patsy is Fiv+, there are some special considerations to keep in mind if you adopt her, and our adoption counselors are waiting to fill you in should you want to take this lovable sweetheart into your home and your heart.
somersault & splits
• Age: 7 months
• Gender: male
• Color: orange/white
• Declawed: No
More information: neutered, UTD on rabies, distemper, dewormer, micro chipped, FELV/Fiv negative. Somersault & Splits are six-month-old brothers who are affectionate, playful, and full of purrs! These confident, curious boys love to be wherever you are—helping with chores or watching Cat TV. Survivors of feline panleukopenia, they’re now healthy, happy, and deeply bonded, so they would like to be adopted together. They’re not fans of nail trims, but they’ll quickly forgive you for the right treat. If you’re looking for two loving, mischievous companions, Somersault and Splits are ready to steal your heart! [ aw ]
Every December, the FM Ballet performs the classic Christmas tale, The Nutcracker. First premiered in a large theater in Russia in 1892, this ballet and its recognizable music have become cornerstones of traditional Christmas celebrations all over the world. The story goes like this:
Clara, a young German girl, receives a toy soldier nutcracker as a Christmas gift from her eccentric uncle at her family’s Christmas Eve party. Amid the revelry, she loves and cherishes the nutcracker immediately; wishing and hoping that he would only transform into a real, life-sized soldier.
Once the guests have gone home and she is sent to bed, Clara can’t help but sneak back to the Christmas tree, where she had lovingly lain her soldier among the other gifts. When she has fallen asleep on the couch, a battle soon ensues between the evil Mouse King and her Nutcracker, now a real prince and soldier. Clara helps the Nutcracker Prince defeat the Mouse King, and the rest of the ballet shows the pair walking hand in hand into
a moonlit pine forest as snowflakes swirl about them. They then emerge from the wood and enter the Land of Sweets, where the Sugar Plum Fairy has been reigning in the prince’s place. In thanks for the return of their prince, all the sweets perform for Clara: Spanish chocolates, Chinese tea, and Arabian coffee, to name a few.
133 years later, Clara will be brought to life once more by the FM Ballet’s Lydia Zuel. Lydia is a seventh grader. She earned her place as a member of the Ballet’s Second Company, a transitory group meant as a bridge between schooling and professional ballet, for the 2025-2026 season by auditioning. Everyone in the FM Ballet Company and Second Company must audition every year, and for every show, so the pressure is constant, even for seasoned professional dancers. Outside dancers are also welcome to audition for the shows; they are free and open to the public, regardless of skill level.
Lydia will be dancing alongside two other remarkable young women this December; Mary Beth Porter and Margaux Butenhoff, two of
the Company’s principal dancers. Mary Beth will fascinate as the iconic Sugar Plum Fairy (for the fourth year in a row) as well as a member of Snow Corps and a Spanish dancer. The Snow Queen, a Spanish dancer, and a feature flower will all be performed by Margaux, who portrayed the Mouse King in 2024. The dancers auditioned for Nutcracker in early September and began rehearsals in the second week of October; because of the open auditions, each year may present a different cast of dancers from different backgrounds, skill levels, and styles, making for a unique challenge to perfect the performance in just two months.
“Waltz of the Snowflakes” and “Waltz of the Flowers” are two of the most challenging pieces in the performance, according to the dancers.
“It’s the most time consuming to make look good,” says Mary Beth about the Waltzes. They need to be totally synchronized and move as one.
“We have to dance as a corps,” Margaux explains. A corps de ballet, meaning “body of the ballet” refers to a large ensemble all dancing together, rather than just the principal dancers and soloists. For Nutcracker, this will be around 20 dancers. “We have to teach everyone the same steps; we all want to look the same.”
Being principal dancers of the Company, Mary Beth and Margaux are leaders and masters of their craft. The FM Ballet was started by Kathryn and Eddie Gasper in 2003 and has since been passed down to their son, Matthew Gasper. Kathy and Eddie founded many successful companies in the region, which toured in the United States and around the world in their career, a legacy which Matt has upheld. Founded on the pursuit of quality, the FM Ballet’s mission is “to give dancers in the Fargo-Moorhead and surrounding communities the opportunity to perform dance at the highest level.” So, earning a place in the First Company is a prestigious accomplishment outright.
“You definitely have to do a lot of training to get into the company,” Mary Beth says soberly. “Lots of technique.” Even at this high level, there must be stand-out leadership and an extra tier of excellence: principal dancers. These are artists who have reached the necessary level of expertise and technical skill that place them in main narrative roles in a ballet. They have the responsibility of bearing the weight of the story and showcasing the art to its highest degree.
Mary Beth is 20 years old and is in her sixth season with the FM Ballet Company. She began dancing when she was five and has held many memorable roles such as Clara in 2021, Little Red Riding Hood, Peter Pan, Alice in Alice in Wonder-
land, Scarecrow in The Wizard of Oz, and Cinderella in Cinderella. She has also been teaching classes at Gasper’s School of Dance since she was 16. She says she will keep teaching in order to be involved in dance for as long as possible. “I like teaching because you can keep doing it much longer than just dancing.”
Margaux, at 18 years old, is also coming into this transition period in her career. She started classes at UND this fall in pursuit of a physical therapy degree, but she is determined to keep dancing for the FM Ballet. Every Wednesday night around 6 o’ clock, she gets in her car and makes the hour-long trip down to Fargo for rehearsal and dances from 7:30p.m. to 9p.m., then drives an hour back up to Grand Forks to get to bed before classes the next day. She makes the trip again on Sundays.
“I think I just love it too much to quit right now,” she says. “It’d be too hard to give up.”
Behind the magical showcase that Margaux, Mary Beth, and Lydia present to the public every December, are hours and hours of rehearsal, corrections, and sweat.
“It’s so hard,” Margaux says. “I feel like everyone thinks it’s so easy. But it takes so much strength.” To support their entire body weight on the tip of one big toe, to extend a leg straight up above their heads from a standstill, and then to look graceful
and effortless in this strain is an extraordinary testament to the mental and physical toughness of these young women. It requires discipline that approaches militarism.
Margaux, Mary Beth, and Lydia share a little about what rehearsal can be like. “It teaches you responsibility and respect,” says Lydia. “It’s strict. They want the best for you, so they push you to do your best because they know you can do it,” says Margaux.
“We don’t talk back,” says Mary Beth. “They’ll give you a correction and you apply it. If you do get a correction, you don’t just brush it off—you try it again, apply it, and thank your teacher.”
“Or if you need to leave the room, you’ll raise your hand and ask to leave. Then when you return, you wait at the door, and they will let you back in.”
All the girls report that this culture of respect in the studio has translated to their character as human beings, and that their instructors are always supportive; although rigorous, the environment at the studio is healthy and vibrant.
“At the end of class, we’ll do révérence,” says Margaux. “Saying thank you to your teacher and your class.”
“We’ll do a little combination. Just slow movements with our arms and maybe a curtsy or bow,” says Mary Beth.
“And then we’ll always clap and say thank you.”
Révérence is a traditional closing exercise done in ballet at the end of a class or performance that expresses gratitude to the instructor, the audience, and to fellow dancers.
All this time and dedication comes together when the dancers get to step onto the stage. Mary Beth, Margaux, and Lydia all agree that performing is their favorite part of ballet.
“It feels really good because of all the work you put into it,” Mary Beth says. “Finally, it starts to pay off. I feel like I forget everything and it’s just all on the stage.”
“And it’s always fun to see what roles you get,” says Margaux. She has been dancing for so long that she’s gone from holding some of the smallest roles to the biggest ones—her different performances in character act as exclamation points on her progress.
“Two years ago, our spring show was Alice in Wonderland. That was my very first show when I was six—I was a hedgehog. When we got to do it
again, when I was 16, I got to be Queen of Hearts, so it felt like a full-circle moment for me.”
“I was Alice,” Mary Beth jumped in, “so we got to dance together. It’s fun to remember all the parts we’ve had.”
“And I got to dance with my hedgehogs a little bit, so that was fun,” Margaux smiles.
The executive director of the FM Ballet and Gasper’s School of Dance, Matt Gasper, endeavors to nurture this gratitude and tenacity in his students in hopes that they will carry it with them throughout their lives.
“I want them to be able to make decisions and not rely on anyone else. Dance is a huge tutor in that. Backstage, on stage—it’s just them.”
So, when the lights go down and the pit orchestra strikes up their opening notes for those five evenings in December, the attendees will have the opportunity to see Mary Beth, Margaux, Lydia, and the rest of the corps de ballet showcase their grit, beauty, and talent in The Classic Nutcracker. [ aw ]
Information and tickets: www.fmballet.org
When Amanda Pieters first discovered TLC’s A Baby Story as a teenager babysitting in homes with cable, she kept her fascination quiet. “That was not something you told your 12-year-old friends,” she laughed. “But I loved those little glimpses into people’s lives.” Years later, after a career in education and a master’s in educational leadership, she decided to also step into a delivery room, and something unmistakably clicked. “I called my now husband and told him, I feel like I just stepped into my own skin. I need to do this work as much as possible.”
Today, as Avocado Doula, Amanda brings a teacher’s heart and a calm, evidence-informed presence into one of life’s most intense transitions: helping families across Fargo–Moorhead and well beyond move into parenthood feeling seen, supported, and strong.
From residence halls to delivery rooms
Originally from northeastern Wisconsin, she moved to Moorhead about 14 years ago. She spent more than a decade in higher education. “For me, it's always been about supporting people during key transitions in their life. When I worked in higher ED, I was working with new college students and helping them figure out how to proceed. And then I worked in new student orientation and first year experience, helping a targeted group of young adults in their transition to being successful in college,” Amanda said. “Now as a doula, I view myself as a person to help with that transition into parenthood.” She works as a bridge to help people go from pregnancy into becoming a parent, whether that’s with a first or second or third.
That “bridge person” calling took shape when her best friend, Megan, got pregnant in 2020 and signed the two of them up for doula training classes. Of course back then the pandemic protocols made everything uncertain and slightly uncomfortable: virtual coursework, masks, and limited support people in delivery rooms, but Amanda was able to attend the birth, so she was grateful for the experience.
“Birth is the only time we welcome more discomfort— because it means we’re getting closer to meeting the baby.”
—Amanda, Avocado Doula
Amanda shared that Megan’s labor was, “pretty textbook. No complications, fortunately. But we did run into a bit of a hiccup where she was close to pushing and baby's head was settled off-center a bit. She had some swelling in one side of the cervix, which isn’t a terribly uncommon thing, but also something you don't want because obviously that cervix needs to all go away before baby can be pushed out. So, I had this visceral reaction when her midwife, you know, kind of found this out. And I thought, I know what we need to do. We need to lunge! I told her that,” Amanda said. They were working alongside an encouraging midwife and Megan’s partner, so the team tried position changes and Spinning Babies® techniques. “It was a true team effort.”
Megan progressed, pushed, and invited Amanda to catch her baby. “As amazing as that moment was, my passion is being there for the mother— helping her feel as nurtured and important as the newborn everyone will dote on,” Amanda said.
Why “Avocado”?
Her business name is an affectionate nod to those early days with Megan’s newborn. A pediatrician had suggested she needed more healthy fats for hormonal support, and Amanda took the mission very seriously—avocado toast, guacamole, you name it. “I even started leaving avocados by her bed,” she joked. The shape also echoes a pregnant belly, the pit, a baby. Amanda knew right away that she wanted this concept as part of her business name.
A philosophy in three words
The Avocado Doula’s mission is simple and sturdy: Educate. Empower. Support.
• Educate — Knowledge is power. Amanda offers evidence-based information in bitesized, practical ways so families can recognize choices and trade-offs before they’re in the thick of labor.
• Empower — Every family’s values and hopes matter. She helps clients use their voice—to ask questions, state preferences, and partner with their care team.
• Support — Emotional steadiness, physical comfort measures, hands-on tools, breath coaching, and realistic reassurance. Amanda shared that doulas don’t do clinical tasks, but they do help you decide when to call triage or seek lactation help, and when to refer you to pros like chiropractors, craniosacral experts, and more.
Beyond traditional doula support, Amanda brings a deep understanding of how the body moves and adapts during pregnancy and birth.
A bonus from Amanda’s educator roots is that she’s a Body Ready Method® Certified Pro, trained to notice compensation patterns from feet to head that may affect pelvic balance and baby’s engagement.
Birth in the Upper AbundanceMidwest: and Deserts
The Fargo–Moorhead region benefits from excellent hospital systems such as Sanford and Essentia. Yet when it comes to out-of-hospital births and the number of working doulas in the area are comparatively sparse. There are a handful of doula’s, but not enough. “We’re a bit of a birth desert for home birth and birth center choices,” Amanda said. “I completed a program called evidence-based birth. I'm an evidence-based birth instructor emeritus. If you look at the EDB instructors, like through their database, the east coast, the west coast, there’s an abundance of doulas and people who are doing this work. And then you can see it sort of starts to space out especially in rural areas. It's definitely much more spread out. I believe it definitely needs to change in the next few years.”
That scarcity extends beyond Fargo, across much of the Dakotas, and into places like Montana and Wyoming as well, which is unfortunate. Families often drive for hours to find midwives, birth centers, and experienced doulas. “There are doulas in these states,” Amanda said, “but we’re spread very thin. Many communities simply don’t have the same access to the kind of support that’s more common in larger cities. I sometimes have to turn away families I’d love to serve.”
Studies suggest that doula care is associated with lower odds of unplanned cesarean and higher maternal satisfaction. “But the business model must be sustainable for doulas, too. My job is to be your steady person in the storm—translating, reminding you of your strength, and helping you feel like this is happening with you, not to you.”
Preparing for Births
When it comes to prepping for births, Amanda meets with her clients at least twice prenatally to build rapport and sketch out a flexible plan. When the text or induction date comes, while on the drive, she centers herself with a short foursong playlist. “It’s a grounding moment. I ask for safety, presence, and the ability to keep my head and heart where my clients need them.”
Being a doula is a physical job as well so, she trains for the physical demands with strength work twice a week to protect her previously injured back. “If my clients can ride the waves of labor, I can hold a hip squeeze for 30 more seconds,” she said with a laugh.
Choosing a Doula
In the FM area, families have a handful of doulas to choose from—but because the community is still relatively small, availability can fill up quickly. “If you already know of a doula you’d like to work with, reach out early,” Amanda advised. “Our calendars book up fast, especially around peak birth months. Credentials matter, but fit matters more,” she added.
Booking earlier is easier, but it’s never “too late.” Amanda often books in the second trimester, with some clients reaching out sooner and others at 37 weeks. “Ask about availability as soon as you feel ready,” she said. She also builds compassionate policies around pregnancy loss so families aren’t navigating grief and logistics at the same time. “This person will be with you in your most vulnerable moments.”
You should interview more than one doula when possible, ask about philosophy, scope, and clarify expectations for availability, backup, prenatal visits, and postpartum support. A newer doula can be a great fit, too. The key is alignment and communication.
Quick Questions to ask doulas
• What’s your philosophy of support in labor?
• How many prenatal visits do you include? What about postpartum?
• How many births have you helped with?
• How do you collaborate with nurses, midwives, and physicians?
• What does on-call availability look like? Who is your backup?
• What comfort measures and movement techniques do you use?
• How do you support the dad’s role?
• What are your fees, payment options, and policies around induction, precipitous labor, or loss?
Are you thinking about becoming a doula? North Dakota needs more of them.
If you’ve ever felt drawn to birth work, you wouldn’t be stepping into a saturated field— you’d be filling a real gap and need. Across North Dakota (and other states) many communities have little to no access to continuous labor support. “There are families who don’t even know what a doula is until they’re in the middle of their birth and wish they’d had one,” Amanda said.
Training pathways range from weekend intensives to in-depth, months-long certification programs offered both in person and online. Costs can range from a few hundred to several thousand dollars, depending on the organization and level of mentorship provided. “Find a program that aligns with your values and has credibility,” Amanda said. “Look for one that includes evidence-based information, trauma-informed care, and practical guidance for running a sustainable business.”
She encourages new doulas to start building a local network right away—other doulas for backup, lactation consultants, chiropractors, midwives, and postpartum professionals. “Birth work can feel isolating, especially in rural areas,” she said. “Having a community means you can serve families better and avoid burnout.”
And while on-call life isn’t easy—birth rarely follows a predictable schedule, but the rewards are unmatched. “It’s sacred work,” she said. “You’re witnessing people at their most powerful and vulnerable all at once.”
One of her long-term dreams is to become a trainer herself, bringing doula education closer to home so more birth workers can get started in the Midwest and can access high-quality training without traveling across the country. “Every time a new doula starts serving here, it changes what’s possible for families.” [ aw ]
CONTACT INFO:
Avocado DoulaAmanda Pieters
Serving Fargo–Moorhead and surrounding communities
Website: www.avocadodoula.com
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BURLAP BOUTIQUE
3401 University Dr., Fargo, ND 58104
This holiday season, pink and red is trending, so the Burlap team used this as inspiration and painted table legs as tree bases in this festive color combo. Gorgeous decor, ornaments, and greenery are also hot picks, and their wooden Santas are a staple! They also curated a wooden sofa from an estate sale, painted and reupholstered it, and name her "Oma," which translated from German means "grandma." Other items are customer favorites, just a few of the many exciting finds at this unique boutique!
“I’m trying to reimagine what accessibility and artistic excellence can look like in this modern, midwestern community.”
Regina Thiel - Executive Director / FM Opera
As the executive director of the Fargo-Moorhead Opera Company, Regina Thiel would be described as a high-capacity leader in a high-profile position – and so much more. Since taking on that role in early 2025, she is focused on growing community partnerships, building on existing events – like the international dinner series – and strengthening the organization’s foundation for long-term success.
“Working with our artistic director, Joshua Kohl, and an incredible board of directors, I’m trying to reimagine what accessibility and artistic excellence can look like in this modern, midwestern community.”
Founded in 1968, the Fargo-Moorhead Opera Company is renowned for being the smallest metropolitan area in the United States to support a full, professional opera season, with a mission to “enrich the region with distinctive, exceptional artistic programming that will engage and excite audiences of all ages.” (See sidebar on page *)
A Split in Responsibilities
Although Regina has studied voice for many years and knows a great deal about opera, she, admittedly, is not the expert in that realm.
“Our new artistic director, Josh, does have those strengths,” she says. “He’s able to use his talents and connections, while I handle all of the operations and the executive side. The only thing I miss is being in the chorus. We have a small staff, and it didn’t seem like a super great idea to have me on stage, and not have anyone taking care of the front of the house. Once we get our feet underneath us and are able to hire more people, hopefully I can go back to the chorus.”
After singing with the chorus for a number of years, she was asked to be part of the Opera Board in 2017. She served for several seasons under the longtime general director, David Hamilton, and those experiences gave her a deep appreciation for the artistic and operational sides of the company.
“During my time on the Board, David was planning to retire, and we had to choose a new director to come in,” she says. “The person we eventually chose had hoped to be in Fargo for an extended time, but after only a year here, he was offered an opportunity in New York.”
In the interim, Regina proposed to the Board president that perhaps the Opera could consider splitting the general director role into two positions: executive director and artistic director.
“Although I was nearing the end of my Board term, had a full-time job, and was expecting my first child, it was a full circle moment for me,” she admits. “After taking inventory of my strengths, I suddenly realized there was a role for me at this company that I knew and loved. I recognized that my knowledge of all the ins and outs made ME a good candidate for the executive director side of the position.”
Madeleine Anderson, who serves on the board and provides marketing support for the Fargo-Moorhead Opera, became friends with Regina when both were in the opera chorus of Turandot together, served on the board of directors, and were expecting babies at the same time.
“Regina is a very warm and welcoming person, who can also think critically and strategically when things are tough,” she says. “Since we were friends during the interim period, I was around her a lot during the growing pains, and witnessed the conversations – whether happy or tough –and the way she conducts herself. She welcomes people and makes everyone feel comfortable, whether it’s a big donor or a new chorus member. She does a good job of making time for you with whatever you might need.”
The Personal Side of Her Story
Describing Regina as a dynamic, high-potential leader is only part of her story, though.
“Since having a baby last year, my free time looks a little different these days,” she says. “Most of my energy and joy outside of work now center on my husband and our 15-month-old son. It took us quite a while to get pregnant, and watching him grow into the curious, determined tiny human he’s becoming has been the greatest joy — and a daily reminder of how humbling, beautiful, and unpredictable this journey through life can be.”
Outside of the office and her immediate family, Regina also teaches yoga classes that focus on
mindfulness – “moving your body and breath so that you can move your mind.”
In addition, she says she enjoys sharing good food and wine with others, and appreciates all things living — humans, animals, and plants alike.
“I love to travel and explore new cultures and ways of life,” she continues. “I stay active with a collection of hobbies throughout the year, including snowboarding, road biking, and playing in adult soccer leagues. I’m also an Orangetheory regular (fitness training), and have been part of the same book club since 2011.”
As both a colleague and a friend, Madeleine has attended some of Regina’s yoga classes.
“She meets you at your level, no matter where you are, and makes you feel very welcome.”
Madeleine Anderson Board Member & Marketing / FM Opera
“She is so good at leading those classes, the way that she talks through the poses, bringing in her own personal anecdotes for whatever the class is focused on,” she says. “It’s about her passion – I think it’s similar about why she’s a good executive director. She meets you at your level, no matter where you are, and makes you feel very welcome.”
Besides having young children the same age, they share a great many interests. They both attended Concordia College (different years), have sung with the Choral Artists, and enjoy being active. Madeleine’s volunteer work in marketing for the opera complements her professional journey, which includes a high-level remote technology career that has progressed into the banking sector.
“We talk a lot about both of us being high-capacity people,” she explains. “It’s definitely one of our strengths that drew us together.”
Madeleine also believes that it was a wise decision that the Board made to separate the executive and artistic roles for leadership of the opera.
“Our artistic director is a tenor, shooting for the creative mind, and has the capability to draw talent to this area,” she says. “The executive director can bring that person back down to earth, pointing out and keeping track of the budget. Since there isn’t much room in that budget for administrative help, Regina is running a lot of it by herself. For someone as young as she is, it’s very impressive how she handles herself and how she presents herself on behalf of the company.”
Carving a Curved Career Path
Not all career paths follow a pattern, direction, or plan. Regina was never directly preparing for this, but everything she did along the way directly prepared her for this.
“Each of my experiences taught me something about connection, storytelling, and the joy of bringing people together – lessons I carry into my work every day. My path to the opera world hasn’t exactly been a straight line — and that’s part of what I love about it. As executive director of Fargo-Moorhead Opera, I get to bring together my creativity, business experience, and passion for connecting people through shared experiences.”
Although music and singing were always important to her growing up, and she worked with a vocal/voice coach, Regina decided not to major in music at Concordia College in Moorhead. She chose the prestigious school because of the reputation of The Concordia Choir, and its history of excellence in the field of music, but decided on a triple major in Global Studies, International Business & Spanish.
“During my first semester, I told Holly Janz, my voice teacher, that I didn’t think I wanted to be a full-time performer, but couldn’t see myself teaching music, either. She told me I could always be involved with music, even if I didn’t major in it. The next year, I was in my first opera chorus, and it really piqued my interest. I was blown away by the artform! I felt so fortunate that Fargo has an opera company that I was able to sing with.”
During college, and then initially following graduation, however, she worked at Atomic Coffee. The family that owns Atomic Coffee also owns two liquor stores in Moorhead, Bridgeview, and 99 Bottles. They were looking for a general manager right after she graduated, and she was looking for a way to pay off her student loans.
“After that, I worked in Admissions at Concordia, recruiting students in Southwest Central Minnesota and overseeing the Music Scholarship process.”
The next step was a traveling wine sales job in Minnesota with Johnson Brothers. Through studying and exams, she also earned a Certification Specialist of Wine (CSW) in that industry. Seeking a bit more of a challenge, she stepped into a management position with Republic National Distributing on the North Dakota side, and pursued additional wine certifications through the Wine and Spirits Education Trust (WSET).
“I never planned on getting that far into the wine industry,” she says, “It was fun, and I learned a lot, but I wanted and needed something different after a while. I got a ‘wild hair’ to be a financial adviser, passing all the tests, but after a year, I knew that wasn’t the right thing for me, either. Then I kind of took inventory of my skills and career. I realized I really have the abilities to be a customer facing person, and move into a leadership role, like a COO or executive director in a nonprofit type of organization.”
She worked remotely over the next three years for an agriculture technology startup in the sustainability realm, working as a customer success lead, all the while continuing to sing in the chorus at the opera.
“Each of my experiences taught me something about connection, storytelling, and the joy of bringing people together.”
Regina Thiel Executive Director / FM Opera
The Impact of Opera
Regina continues to be passionate about expanding opera’s reach and impact, working to make the art form more inclusive, accessible, and vibrant for audiences throughout the Fargo-Moorhead region. The season opened with La Traviata, Verdi’s timeless masterpiece of love, sacrifice, and social judgment, which is hailed as one of the greatest operas ever written.
Madeleine and Regina both love the different languages and artistic styles you get to sing in the Opera chorus.
“I don’t know exactly how to explain it, but to me, there’s something more dramatic or emotional about opera,” says Madeleine. “Also, the professionalism and prestige of the Fargo Moorhead Opera is instrumental in attracting nationally renowned singers for these productions,
such as Sarah Tucker, who can share their talent in our midwestern community."
This holiday season, the Opera is bringing back Amahl and the Night Visitors. A heartwarming, oneact opera that is perfect for all ages, it’s a beloved story of a young boy, his mother, and three mysterious visitors that can remind us of the power of hope, kindness, and the magic of the unexpected.
A Tribute to the Three Tenors, a thrilling concert event honoring the legendary voices of Luciano Pavarotti, Plácido Domingo, and José Carreras, will take the stage at Fargo Theatre in March 2026. The season closes with a long-awaited collaboration with the Fargo Moorhead Symphony
Orchestra. The first half will showcase Puccini’s one-act masterpiece, Il Tabarro, followed by a second half of carefully selected Puccini works.
“I keep going back to how moving into this leadership role was a full circle kind of moment for me,” adds Regina. “Each and every experience throughout my life has taught me something about connection, storytelling, and the joy of bringing people together, and those are lessons I carry into my work every day. My dad always said, ‘If you can read, you can do anything,’ and that simple idea sparked a lifelong love of learning and curiosity that continues to shape how I approach both work and life.” [ aw ]
“Each and every experience throughout my life has taught me something about connection, storytelling, and the joy of bringing people together, and those are lessons I carry into my work every day.”
Regina Thiel Executive Director / FM Opera
About the Fargo Moorhead Opera Company
One definition of the artform of opera calls it a staged drama set to music in its entirety, but that seems simplistic. Like most art forms, it’s a matter of personal taste, enjoyment, and exposure. In Italian, the word “opera” actually means “work,” a fitting name for this uniquely collaborative art that unites the work of a composer and a librettist with musicians, singers, and a production team into one extraordinary whole.
Founded in 1968, the Fargo Moorhead Opera Company https://www.fmopera.org/ occupies a unique position in the national opera landscape. As part of Opera America, a New York-based service organization that promotes the creation, presentation, and enjoyment of opera in the United States, it is the only Opera America company member located within the corners between Minneapolis and Montana, and Omaha and Winnipeg. It is also notable for being the smallest city in the United States to host a full-season professional opera company, dedicated to delivering world-class artistry and high-quality performances to its community and beyond.
Whether you’re a longtime opera fan, or attending for the first time, the Fargo-Moorhead Opera Company invites you to celebrate the power of music and storytelling with them. It’s a chance to connect through the beauty of live opera and world-class artistry right here in Fargo-Moorhead.
Catholic Daughters of the Americas will be selling a variety of homemade Christmas cookies and candies during our annual Cookie and Candy Walk. Premade trays will also be available. Various sizes available for purchase.
TIME: 10:00 am
LOCATION: St. Joseph's Catholic Church 1005 2nd Ave S, Moorhead MN
CONTACT: www.facebook.com/events/1155685736674105
DEC 13 FARGO MASONIC VENDOR & CRAFT SHOW
Come to the vendor & craft show and support small businesses. The show will be from 11-3 and lunch will be served from 11-1. It all takes place at the Fargo Masonic Center, 1405 3rd St N Fargo.
TIME: 11:00 am.- 3:00 pm.
LOCATION: Fargo Masonic Center, 1405 3rd St N, Fargo
DEC 17-21
THE BLENDERS
Live at the Fargo Theatre
TIME:
Dec 17: 7:30pm
Dec 18: 7:30pm
Dec 19: 7:30pm
Dec 20: 2:00pm & 7:30pm
Dec 21: 2:00pm
LOCATION: Fargo Theatre - Fargo, ND
DEC 18-21 THE CLASSIC NUTCRACKER 2025
We’re bringing this beloved, sold-out holiday classic back to life on the NDSU stage for the 12th Season! This year, we’re adding a 5th performance, giving you even more opportunities to start your holiday week with magic. From sugarplums to soldiers, join Clara on her enchanting journey and add a touch of wonder to your season. Experience a local professional production of The Nutcracker complete with a full live professional orchestra, plus special guest artists Craig A. Ellingson as Drosselmeyer and Makayla Finlinson as Arabia, performing breathtaking aerial silks. Performance Dates: Thursday, December 18 – 7:00 PM Friday, December 19 – 7:00 PM Saturday, December 20 – 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Sunday, December 21 – 2:00 PM This performance has sold out for the past 3 seasons—secure your tickets early to be part of the magic!
TIME: 7:00PM, 2:00PM
LOCATION: NDSU Challey Hall 1511 12th Avenue North Fargo, ND 58102
Northport Library, 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, ND Dani at 701.476.4026
Dec. 3
THE LIT LOUNGE: FANTASY 6 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Dani at 701.476.4040
Dec. 4, 11, and 18
LIBRARY LAIR FOR TEENS AT THE CARLSON LIBRARY 5 to 6 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Anna at teens@fargolibrary.org
Dec. 4 and Jan. 8
SENSE OF PLACE
BOOK CLUB 11 a.m.
Main Library 101 4th St. N. Beth at 701.241.1492
Dec. 8
TEA TIME BOOK CLUB 6:30 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Jenilee at 701.241.1492
Dec. 9 and 23
CRAFTERNOONS 3-4:30 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. 701.241.1495
Dec. 10
COMMUNITY GAME NIGHT AT CARLSON LIBRARY 5 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Dani at 701.476.4040
Dec. 11 & Jan. 8
DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES
BOOK CLUB 6:30 p.m.
Main Library 101 4th St. N. Megan at 701.241.1492
Dec. 16
SENIOR BOOK CLUB 1 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Kirstie at 701.298.6954
Dec.17
SCIENCE FICTION AND FANTASY BOOK CLUB 6 p.m.
Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S. Robert at 701.476.5980
Dec. 23
GIFT WRAPPING SESSION AT CARLSON
Dec. 30
Handpicked Goods
Stepping into Handpicked Goods in downtown Fargo is like walking into an Instagram reel in the best possible way. The creamy white walls, calming neutral palette, artfully weathered wooden floor, and the sunlight pouring through the front window act like a real-life filter, making the tightly curated selection of plants, gifts, party supplies, baby goods, and home decor really shine. Every product line is thoughtfully considered.
“We work with a wholesaler similar to Etsy” explains owner Amanda Rydell during a lull in between customers. “So everything we sell is from small businesses.”
This is the place to go for a thoughtful gift for a friend, a new arrival, a party host — or, honestly, for yourself. (No judgement here — it’s been a long year.) Look for ceramic mugs that feel great in your hands (including limited runs from Fargo’s Rising Dawn Ceramics), pretty houseplants and cards, and those little extras (like reed diffusers and candles, cozy socks and bath bombs) that make everyday life feel more luxurious.
The pillows and rugs on display are tactile and muted. The teethers and toys, hair bows and onesies have a vintage vibe and a calm, subtle color scheme while the party goods absolutely burst with whimsy. Crowns, impossibly detailed napkins, cake toppers decorated with flags and stars, and lots of disco balls encourage us to celebrate.
14 Roberts Street N., Fargo www.handpickedgoodsshop.com
First Avenue Market
This downtown Fargo variety store is stocked to the gills with eye-catching treasures from local artists, artisans, antique vendors, authors, and small business owners. Many of these items are one-of-a-kind, so shop early and often because the shop is never the same twice.
The weathered brick walls and gleaming wood floors give the place character and ambiance. The displays are an artful mix of old and new. Unusual home decor accents and original art mingle with vintage jewelry, glassware, and clothing for men and women. Books from local writers sit perched atop antique shelves and tables. Postcards and Fargo souvenirs are sprinkled in between sassy needlepoint pieces, crocheted stuffed animals, and retro knickknacks. Coloring books, gorgeous candles from Fergus Falls’ Free Soul Candle Co., quirky pins, and tote bags make gift giving easy. You’ll also find lots of locally made dog treats and catnip toys for your four-legged friends.
There’s a stellar selection of food for humans here too. The shelves are stocked with a solid selection of giftable snacks, including utterly addictive Sted chocolate bars made in Fergus Falls. The cooler offers grass-fed beef from Prairie Soul Meats in Ellendale and ice cream from Silver Linings Creamery down the street.
First Avenue Market also hosts fun and immersive events throughout the year. Watch the Facebook page to learn about book signings, pop-ups, and vintage markets.
Tiny Things
Remember how itty-bitty dollhouse furniture and model trains used to make you squeal with delight? Tiny Things’ diminutive collectible miniatures deliver that same wallop of wonder. The sheer cuteness of incredibly small things makes kids (and even jaded teenagers) gasp and stops adults in their tracks.
And when we say small, we mean small. We’re talking tiny coffee cups, sunglasses the size of a pinkie nail, a microscopic goldfish in a plastic bag. The level of detail is astounding; famous paintings are shrunk down to Chiclet size and favorite albums pop onto a tiny turntable that fits in your hand. It’s strangely satisfying to arrange doll-sized books on a shelf or stock a little shopping cart with petite versions of real-life sodas, cereals, and snacks. Those shelves and carts are for sale, so you can display your collection right away.
The shop also sells keychain-size (but fully functional) Rubik’s cubes, decks of cards — even novelties like the world’s smallest Super Soaker water gun. These items, along with shrunken versions of classic games like UNO, a teensy EtchA-Sketch, and an arcade machine as tall as your pointer finger, are pretty much guaranteed to make anyone smile.
The shop also sells human-sized jewelry, nail art stickers, and Croc charms. Pocket sized art kits, easels, piñatas, and sticker books are equally fun to give and get.
1702 1st Avenue N., Fargo www.tinythingsfargo.com
Sweet Dreams Confections
Everybody is a kid in a candy store at Sweet Dreams Confections. Owners Lee and Brenda Paseka or their daughter Heather call out a warm welcome as you pass a cooler heaped with colorful gelato and sorbetto in a tempting array of flavors, from green apple and ripe raspberry to chocolate and vanilla studded with cookies and fudge. Display cases reveal thick slabs of rich cream and butter fudge, hand-dipped truffles, nutty turtles, and chocolate-covered everything: cherries, marshmallows, nuts and so much more.
All of this is made right in this little shop. Find it tucked away in a nondescript storefront at the corner of 13th Avenue and 42nd Street.
Vintage Point is a gift giver’s paradise. The shop’s wares spill out into the hallway of Fargo’s 25th Street Market, enticing customers to step over the threshold. Once inside, the store goes on and on, tempting customers with a seemingly endless array of interesting items for the whole family, from kids to seniors.
During the holidays, the shop’s signature roasted almonds and prettily wrapped parcels of Abdallah Candies out of Apple Valley, Minnesota are lined up like toy soldiers ready for holiday giving. Pair the sweets with a container of tea or walk deeper into the store to discover journals and stationery, unique clothing, and quirky games and gifts featuring pop culture icons like Bob Ross, The Golden
1450 25th Street S., #121, Fargo www.25thstreetmarket.com/ VintagePointGiftShop.html
The soup, sandwiches, cookies, breads, and bars on the lunch menu are all made fresh too. At Christmastime, grab ready-made platters piled high with chocolate, savory snack mixes, dried fruit, or sweet and salty popcorn. (You can also customize your own.) Brenda’s lefse and rosettes are popular during the holidays as well.
Old-fashioned candy buckets hold dozens of treats, including nostalgic favorites like saltwater taffy and jawbreakers. Make your own sampler from an array of vintage and novelty sodas, score puzzles, toys and locally made dog treats, or stock up on giftable food items like popcorn and pretzels, soup and bread mixes, coffee and tea, and jams and jellies. Many are made right here in North Dakota.
Girls, and the cast of Schitt’s Creek. Some displays hold aromatherapy oils, luxe soaps, bath bombs, and lotions. Others showcase candles, glittering jewelry, and clever cards. Curious creatives will appreciate the selection of sketchbooks, markers, scented colored pencils, and wooden 3D puzzles.
There’s an entire room dedicated to children’s toys, books, and apparel and a section that focuses on North Dakota branded gifts like mugs, hats and socks. The store also stocks North Dakota-made jams, jellies, beef sticks, and local honey. An ever-changing selection of antique treasures, including trunks and an Art Deco-era theatre seat, are both part of the tableau and also for sale. [ aw ]
INGREDIENTS
Cake:
10 oz pound cake (frozen Sara Lee is a good option)
½ C seedless raspberry jam
15 oz fresh raspberries (12 oz for recipe, additional raspberries for garnish)
Creme Anglaise:
2 C heavy cream
½ C sugar
6 egg yolks
2 tsp vanilla
3 T liqueur or orange juice
(Grand Marnier works well for liqueur)
Crème Fraiche:
1 ¼ C heavy cream
1 tsp vanilla
¼ C powdered sugar
Garnish: fresh raspberries, mint sprigs, sliced almonds or finely chopped pecans
Traditional English trifle varies slightly in terms of ingredients but essentially includes cake (“sponge”) such as Lady Fingers, “jelly” (gelatin), liqueur (sherry, cream sherry, Grand Marnier, etc.), custard (there are British brands of powdered custard online or at specialty markets), and fruit, topped with crème fraiche or crème anglaise. Here, I’ve created a bit simpler “twisted” version and given options as to how to do the cream portion, plus opted to leave out the alcohol and use juice instead. With all trifle, fruit is used within the dessert as well as for garnish. A trifle bowl adds flair to your holiday table and showcases this beloved treat!
THE METHOD
Cut 10 ounces of pound cake into bitesized pieces. Place jam in a glass bowl and heat in microwave for 10-15 seconds. Stir. Pour the jam over the cake pieces then divide the amount of cake into two equal bowls. Place the contents of first bowl into a trifle dish. Set second bowl aside. Next, sprinkle half of the liqueur or orange and half (6 oz.) of the raspberries over the cake pieces in the trifle bowl.
Make the crème anglaise: Over medium heat and in a medium saucepan, heat 2 C of heavy cream. Meanwhile, using a large bowl and hand mixer, beat the egg yolks with sugar. This should continue until the mixture is very pale yellow and thickened. Right before boiling point, take the saucepan off the heat source and pour (slowly) into the egg/sugar mixture while beating (or whisking) continuously.
Note: Mixer should be on low to medium speed. Once mixed, return the pan to the stove and cook over low until thickened (it should be able to coat a spoon), being careful not to let it burn.
Pour in vanilla. Note: You can pour this mixture through a strainer if preferred, which gives it a very smooth texture and removes any lumps. Allow this mixture to be fully cooled. (I set the pan in a shallow ice bath to speed the process.) Once the crème anglaise has cooled, pour half of it into the middle of the trifle.
Layer with the second bowl of cake, the remaining liqueur or juice, and 6 oz. of raspberries. Add remaining half of the crème anglaise. Whip the crème fraiche using hand mixer: Add 1 ¼ C heavy cream, ¼ C powdered sugar, and 1 tsp vanilla to
a large bowl. Whip on high speed until you see “peaks” form. Spread the crème fraiche over the top of the trifle carefully and then garnish with berries, mint, nuts, etc. as desired. Trifle is best when chilled for 3+ hours, covered. To serve, use shallow dessert bowls and scoop trifle (it’s not a dessert that remains “intact” like cake, so it will have creamy consistency mixed with the cake and berries). Store refrigerated up to 3 days. [ aw ]
TOOLS OF THE TRADE
strainer • medium saucepan • whisk large spoon • handheld mixer (or standing) measuring cups and spoons egg separator or two small bowls (one for yolks, one for whites) liquid measuring cup • spatula • knife
