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PURIM Chabad of northwest CT presents

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in Cuba

Saturday, March 11th Party and Dinner: 7:30 pm Johnson Art Center Forman Pierce Drive Litchfield CT 06759

Roll your own cigars (edible) Mojitos & Daiquiris Music and Dancing FULL CoURse CUbAn DInneR: L ’Chaim • Pollo Frito la Criolla (Fried Chicken Creole) • Ropa Vieja Cubano (Cuban Shredded Beef Costume Contest in a Tomato Base) • Arroz Congri (Cuban Rice and Black Beans) • espinacas a la Catalana (Catalan Spinach) • Yuca Frita (Crispy Cassava Root Fries)

• ensalada de Aguacate, berro, y Pina (Cuban Avocado,

Watercress and Pineapple Salad)

• sopa de Frijoles negros (Cuban Black Bean Soup)

Adults: $18 • Children (under 15): $10 • Students: $10 For more information or to RSVP please visit chabadNW.org/RSVP or call 860-567-3377 4 Jewish News

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Message from the Rebbe

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RABBI MENACHEM M. SCHNEERSON The Lubavitcher Rebbe By the Grace of G d 7th of Adar, 5713 [February 22, 1953] Brooklyn, N.Y.

Hence, in his wicked desire to annihilate the Jews, Haman seeks to destroy “all the Jews, young and old, children and women.” Although there were in those days, too, Jews who strictly adhered to the Torah

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people,” and every one was included in Haman’s cruel decree.

In all ages there were Hamans, yet we have outlived them, thank G d. Wherein lies the secret of our survival?

The story of Purim, as related in the Book of Esther, gives us a clear analysis of the “Jewish problem.”

Being dispersed over 127 provinces and lands, their own still in ruins, the Jews undoubtedly differed from one another in custom, garment and tongue according to the place of their dispersal, very much in the same way as Jews in different lands differ nowadays. Yet, though there were Jews who would conceal their Jewishness, Haman, the enemy of the Jews, recognized the essential qualities and characteristics of the Jews which made all of them, with or without their consent, into “one people,” namely, “their laws are different from those of any other people” (Book of Esther 3:8).

and Mitzvoth, and Jews whose religious ties with their people were weak, or who sought to assimilate themselves, yet none could escape the classification of belonging to that “one

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Golden Age Purim Party Listing

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Holiday Guide

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The answer will be evident from the following illustration.

When a scientist seeks to ascertain the laws governing a certain phenomenon, or to discover the essential properties of a certain element in nature, he must undertake a series of experiments under the most varied conditions in order to discover those properties or laws which obtain under all conditions alike. No true scientific law can be deduced from a minimum number of experiments, or from experiments under similar or only slightly varied conditions, for the results as to what is essential and what is secondary or quite unimportant would then not be conclusive.

The same principle should be applied to our people. It is one of the oldest in the world, beginning its national history from the Revelation at Mount Sinai, some 3300 years ago.

In the course of these long centuries our people has lived under extremely varied conditions, most different times and different places all over the world. If we wish to discover the essential elements making up the cause and very basis of the existence of our people and its unique strength, we must conclude that it is not its peculiar physical or intrinsic mental characteristics, not its tongue, manners and customs (in a wider sense), nor even its racial purity (for there were times in the early history of our people, as well as during the

Middle Ages and even recent times, when whole ethnic groups and tribes have become proselytes and part of our people).

The essential element which unites our “dispersed and scattered people” and makes it “one people” throughout its dispersion and regardless of time, is the Torah and Mitzvoth, the Jewish way of life which has remained basically the same throughout the ages and in all places. The conclusion is clear and beyond doubt: It is the Torah and Mitzvoth which made our people indestructible on the world scene in the face of massacres and pogroms aiming at our physical destruction, and in the face of ideological onslaughts of foreign cultures aiming at our spiritual destruction.

Purim teaches us the ageold lesson, which has been verified even most recently, to our sorrow, that no manner of assimilation, not even such which is extended over several generations, provides an escape from the Hamans and Hitlers; nor can any Jew sever his ties with his people by attempting such an escape.

On the contrary: Our salvation and our existence depend precisely upon the fact that “their laws are different from those of any other people.”

Purim reminds us that the strength of our people as a whole, and of each individual Jew and Jewess, lies in a closer adherence to our ancient spiritual heritage, which contains the secret of harmonious life, hence of a healthy and happy life. All other things in our spiritual and temporal life must be free from any contradiction to the basis and essence of our existence, and must be attuned accordingly in order to make for the utmost harmony, and add to our physical and spiritual strength, both of which go hand in hand in Jewish life.

With best wishes for a joyous Purim, and may we live to see a world free of Hamans and all types of Amalekites, the enemies of the Jews, of their body, soul and faith, Cordially yours,

Menachem Schneerson

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Rabbi Joseph Eisenbach BH Dear Parents,

Do you remember hearing a parent, teacher or elder tell you, “Do what I say, not what I do”?

Although as children we might have considered such an instruction a contradiction (and maybe it was!), as “mature” adults we can certainly understand it. After all, who’s perfect? We’re human.

At least once in a while it’s hard to avoid doing something that cannot or does not match our instruction to someone else.

G-d, however, isn’t limited as we are. When G-d tells us to do something, He accepts upon Himself the same obligations.

And we don’t have to worry that G-d will say one thing and do another. Thus, as Jews are commanded to wear tefilin, G-d, too, “dons” tefilin, though His tefilin are slightly different. Whereas our tefilin speak of our love for G-d and our responsibility to obey His commands, G-d’s tefilin speak of His love for his people.

This reciprocal relationship is evident in the upcoming holiday of Purim, as well. On Purim we have the mitzva of giving charity to anyone who extends his/her

hand for help. Our Sages explain that on Purim, we, too, have the right to “put out our hand” to G-d and ask Him for our needs, even more than on any other day. As we are commanded by G-d to fulfill the needs of others when they extend their hands on Purim, G-d will also fulfill our needs when we do the same.

How do we put out our hand to G-d? Through prayer.

The Baal Shem Tov taught that on Purim one should rise early to pray and ask G-d for everything that he needs. And not only for oneself, but for others as well, for Purim is an especially auspicious time for our prayers, just like Yom Kippur.

Interestingly, Yom Kippur is also referred to as Yom HaKipurim, literally “the day that is like Purim,” hinting that Purim is an even more auspicious day than Yom Kippur!

Thus, amidst the rejoicing, merrymaking, charity-giving, hamentashen- eating, gifts of food (Mishlo’ach Manot) sending, Megila-hearing, and dressing up of Purim, it’s a truly auspicious time to spend some minutes in heartfelt prayer to G-d, putting

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out our hands for all of our own personal needs, and for the needs of our family and friends.

On Purim, the holiday of Redemption from Haman’s evil plan, we should also remember to ask

G-d for our most personal and, at the same time, global need, the revelation of Moshiach and the final Redemption.

Chag Sameach, Rabbi Joseph I. Eisenbach

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Our Mailbox Dear Rabbi Eisenbach: We received your heart warming letter of December 12th regarding the Yahrtzeit observance for our darling daughter ................

(Aviva Mirer Bas Ellya).

Your kind words of consolation meant so much to both Sheryle and me. Thank you for your kind offer of providing some to say Kaddish in ............... memory. We wish you and Rabitzen Eisenbach our warm and sincere wishes for a joyous and healthy Chanukah.

Dear Rabbi Yosef and Mina,

appreciated!

I am so appreciative for all the support, love and kindness that you gave to me, Gayle, and Ethel.

Words cannot describe how much you helped me cope with the tragic loss of Mike. I find much difficulty expressing my sadness. You were with me from the moment that I found out, you had Golda tell Ethel, officiating at the funeral etc. May life be good to the both of you and your entire family.

Sincerely,

With Love,

Rabbi Eisenbach,

Mindy and Golda D.

Thank you so much for the Chanukah visit. It means so much to me.

All the best for health, peace, and happiness; and have the strength for continuing the mitzvahs you both do! - Amen

Than you again,

Dear Rabbi Eisenbach,

Gratefully,

Thank you for reminding me about my husband Aaron’s yahrzeit.

Dear Friends: I want to thank you for the kosher food you donated to Safe Haven. Our families are so grateful to learn that they have friends in the community who are truly concerned for their well-being and safety. I really appreciate your support of our clients.

My daughter Sande told me that you knew my husband Aaron and his brother Milton, two very wonderful men, both very kind and generous.

Enclosed you will find my chai donation in his memory.

Executive Director, Safe Haven

Wishing you a happy & healthy new year.

River Glen Health Care Center Southbury, CT

Dear Rabbi Eisenbach,

Frances K.

My family and I greatly appreciate your thoughtfulness – your kind letter and your phone call – at this very sad time. I was very close to my brother and his loss is very painful. Thank you for your caring and concern.

Dear Rabbi Joseph,

Lee R. Schlesinger

River Glen thanks you for visiting during holiday season! You brought so many smiles to so many people! You helped brighten each and every one of their days. We look forward to you visiting with us again.

Sincerely,

Thank you again, Sincerely,

Muriel L.

Thank you!

With my best wishes for a New Year filled with health and Simchas!

Edwards G.

Ava (The Armenian lady from St. Mary’s Hospital)

Thank you very much for being an important part of our community. Your presence to us is deeply

With much appreciation, Cynthia and all the family

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Chabad Happenings in Northwest CT Sellout Chanukah Retreat

Purim in Cuba (Northwest CT)

Next stop in Chabad Lubavitch of Northwest Connecticut’s Purim themed events is Purim in the Cuba. Experience a Purim celebration with a Cuban twist, which will be held at the Johnson Art Center at the Forman School at Forman Pierce Drive in Litchfield, CT on Saturday, March 11 at 7:30 pm. The event will feature a delicious kosher Cuban buffet including cigars and mojitos.

There will be unforgettable fun for the entire family. In addition, the celebration will feature a unique interactive activity for a child‑friendly reading of the biblical scroll of Esther, known in Hebrew as the Megillah. In the spirit of Purim, participants are encouraged to come in costume and be included in the competition, which will award prizes to contestants with the most innovative or funny costumes.

The event is a community‑wide program, and all are welcome to join, regardless of affiliation or background. Admission is $18.00 for adults and $10.00 for children.

WHAT IS THE HOLIDAY OF PURIM? The festival of Purim is celebrated every year on the 14th of the Hebrew month of Adar. It begins this year after sundown on March 15th and ends at nightfall on March 16th.

The holiday commemorates the salvation of the Jewish people in Ancient Persia from Haman’s plot “to destroy, kill and annihilate all the Jews, young and old, infants and women, in a single day.” The name of the holiday, Purim, literally means “lots,” for Haman determined the day of the annihilation by drawing a lottery. It is observed

by public readings of the Megillah, or Scroll of Esther, to recount the story of the Purim miracle, sending food gifts to friends, giving gifts of money to the poor and enjoying a festive Purim meal. For more on Purim’s history, observances and meaning, plus fun and other activities for the entire family, please visit www.chabadNW. org/PURIM. During the past 50 years there has been a revival in the observance of the Purim holiday.

This phenomenon can be directly traced to the vigorous outreach efforts of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem M. Schneerson, of righteous memory, under whose direction the Chabad‑Lubavitch movement distributed millions of Purim packages and explanatory brochures, organized countless public readings of the Book of Esther in places famous and obscure and otherwise reached out to Jews of all walks of life to encourage them to partake in the holiday’s celebration.

Purim in Cuba is another project of Chabad Lubavitch of Northwest CT, the local branch of the world’s largest and fastest growing network of Jewish educational centers open to all regardless of religious affiliation or level of knowledge.

Our objective is to create a warm, welcoming atmosphere to explore their heritage in a non-judgmental environment.

Our goal is to create a positive Jewish experience for everyone.

For more information on Chabad’s Purim festivities or on the holiday of Purim and its observances, please email info@chabadNW.org or call 860‑567‑3609 or visit our website at www.chabadNW.org.

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staff of the Chanukah Retreat.

“To see almost all of our previous year’s guests return is the greatest testament to the quality of our program, and the most dedicated staff at our Chabad,” said Rabbi Joseph Eisenbach, who together with his wife Mina, direct Chabad of Northwest CT, organizers of the event. The brightness of the Chanukah Menorahs took on an extra shine when one witnessed the many types of Jews, externally differently dressed but inside all the same Neshama.

From traditional Chabad garb of shtreimels and bekishas, from Modern Orthodox to Yeshivish, from Sefardi to Ashkenazi, the feeling of Achdus was palpable.

Friday night during the Seudas Shabbos, the guests were privileged to hear Shabbos tunes led by Avraham Fried and Gad Elbaz. During the lectures, guests were able to pose any questions or dilemmas on their minds to the speakers. “There were extremely spiritually moving discussions. There was an atmosphere of complete openness and people were

unabashed to bring up really deep issues that they may have been struggling with,” commented Mina Eisenbach codirector of Chabad of Northwest CT. “Guests were so emotionally involved, and the rabbis were on target with their responses - we kept hearing people repeat snippets of what occurred for those who did not attend those sessions.”

To cater to all the guests, there were three different minyanim, followed by an elaborate gourmet Kiddush with fish stations, a full bar and passing’s of lchaim shots.

Afterwards, there was a full sit down meal. “Participating in the Chanukah Getaway Retreat was one of the most powerful and special gifts I have ever given myself,” wrote a firsttimer to Chabad of Northwest CT. “The Rebbe’s mission was to create the foundation and love for Yiddishkeit in every Jew anywhere in the world, but the lighting of the match to ignite that love of Torah, he left to the individual. I am so grateful that I was able to strike that match continue on page 10 ‫ב"ה‬

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homes, warming those cold Montreal nights with hot latkes, singing and dancing with all the bubbys & zaides.

Those were our personal family Chanukah parties, bringing the Chabad family spirit, to all those lovely souls. It has been over twenty five years that I have done these Chanukah celebrations. It is heartwarming for the residents to see how the community truly cares for them.”

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erecting large public menorahs in Waterbury’s city center and the Wolcott town green, drawing crowds to celebrate their heritage.

Chabad’s annual Chanukah toy drive enabled hundreds of inner city children to join in the holiday atmosphere by receiving their very own brand new toy.

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“bolder vision for my community.” The conference provided her “with a rich takeaway that has helped sharpen my focus and has given me new ideas and enhanced skills for the benefit of my community.”

Each embracing multiple roles and responsibilities, the women explored relevant issues and learned from professionals and colleagues with years of experience. Among the topics that covered the gamut of their concerns: Raising a Large Family; Mental Health Issues; Events Marketing; Understanding

Troubled Relationships; Fundraising; Inclusion; and a conference within the conference for Hebrew School and Preschool directors.

Sessions were thoughtfully targeted to address the different demographics served

by Chabad. Campus leaders, for example (there are at least 240 women serving in leadership positions on campuses in the U.S. and abroad), found sessions like Raising a Family on Campus; Life on Campus: Psychodynamic Counseling for Anxiety; Chabad House on A

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Organized and planned by a board of women, each a Chabad representative, the conference included a parallel track for lay leaders. “These are the pillars of our community who are true partners with us,” said one Chabad representative from Argentina who was joined this year by two members of her community.

Lectures and workshops aside, the opportunity to spend time with other like-minded women from so many disparate countries and cultures who are part of a

worldwide project inspired by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, gave the participants, especially those going back to far and isolated outposts, an exhilarating sendoff.

“This was truly a larger-thanlife experience that will sustain me for a long time,” said Sashi Fridman, an American who is now a Chabad representative in Moscow, Russia, at the conference’s Sunday banquet gala. “It illuminated the power of the Jewish woman to leaddrawing on the strength of our tradition-with wisdom, as it focused on women who effect real, meaningful change with courage and creativity.”

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for myself and join in the joy of celebrating ʻAm Yisroel Chai’ surrounded by 400 or more Jews joined in unity and faith.”

Since the Chanukah retreat ended, Chabad of Northwest CT has been receiving dozens of such calls and emails praising the high caliber of the lectures, the luxurious setting, and the gourmet food. One of the highlights of the retreat was a musical Havdalah led by Cantor Waldman.

Motzei Shabbos followed with an elaborate buffet Melaveh Malka and the musical entertainment. The energy was electrifying and it was most enjoyable to see the crowd dancing, at times three generations together.

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of Chanukah, the happy faces of the guests, the excitement of the children, the warmth of the hosts, the wisdom of the lecturers, the engaging musicians - this was one of the most spectacular retreats ever.

As over seven hundred Jews now return to their everyday lives in communities, moved by the Rebbe’s guidance and inspiration they begin ʻunpacking’ the spiritual treasures gained at the Chanukah Getaway Retreat, including scores of resolutions to increase in Torah and Mitzvos, connecting with their local Chabad shluchim and learning Chassidus with vigor and joy. To learn about the upcoming retreats, please e-mail: retreat@chabadNW. org For more pictures visit: www. chabadNW.org/pics.

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PURIM HOLIDAY GUIDE TIME FOR SOME FUN!

Purim, celebrated on the 14th of Adar, is the most fun-filled, action-packed day of the Jewish year. It commemorates our nation’s miraculous salvation more than two millennia ago.

The Purim Story in a Nutshell

The Persian empire of the 4th century BCE extended over 127 lands, and all the Jews were its subjects. When King Ahasuerus had his wife, QueenVashti, executed for failing to follow his orders, he orchestrated a beauty pageant to find a new queen.

A Jewish girl, Esther, found favor in his eyes and became the new queen—though she refused to divulge the identity of her nationality.

Meanwhile, the anti-Semitic Haman was appointed prime minister of the empire. Mordechai, the leader of the Jews (and Esther’s cousin), defied the king’s orders and refused to bow to Haman. Haman was incensed and convinced the king to issue a decree ordering the extermination of all the Jews on the 13th of Adar—a date chosen by a lottery Haman made (hence the name Purim, “lots”).

Mordechai galvanized all the Jews, convincing them to repent, fast and pray toG‑d. Meanwhile, Esther asked the king and Haman to join her for a feast. At the feast, Esther revealed to the king her Jewish identity. Haman was hanged, Mordechai was appointed prime minister in his stead, and a new decree was issued granting the Jews the right to defend themselves against their enemies.

On the 13th of Adar, the Jews mobilized and killed many of their enemies. On the 14th of Adar, they rested and celebrated.

HOW WE CELEBRATE

Though we dress up in holiday finery, Purim doesn’t feature holiday work restrictions. Nonetheless, all the better if you can take the day off from work and focus on the holiday and it’s four special mitzvahs: (Note: If you are spending Purim in Jerusalem, the laws vary.

Visit: chabadNW.org/purim)

1. Hear the Megillah

Head to your synagogue to hear the whole megillah. The megillah, a.k.a. “The Book of Esther,” is the scroll that tells the Purim story. Listen to the public reading twice: once on Purim night, and again on Purim day. This year, that’s Saturday night, March 11, and Sunday, March 12, 2017. Pay attention—it is crucial to hear every word.

When Haman’s name is mentioned (following Chabad custom, only when accompanied with an honorific title), you can twirl graggers (noisemakers) or stamp your feet to eradicate his evil name. Tell your kids that Purim is the only time when it’s a mitzvah to make noise!

The megillah is read from a handwritten parchment scroll, using an age-old tune. Contact your local Chabad rabbi if for any reason you can’t make it to your synagogue for the megillah reading. He’ll do his best to send a megillahreader to your home or office.

2. Give to the Needy (Matanot La’Evyonim)

One of Purim’s primary themes is Jewish unity. Haman tried to kill us all, we were all in danger together, so we celebrate

together, too. Hence, on Purim day, we place special emphasis on caring for the less fortunate.

Give money or food to at least two needy people during the daylight hours of Purim, March 12. In case you can’t find any needy people, your synagogue will likely be collecting money for this purpose. At least, place two coins in a charity box earmarked for the poor.

On Purim, we give a donation to whoever asks; we don’t verify his or her bank balance first.

As with the other mitzvahs of Purim, even small children should fulfill this mitzvah.

3. Send Food Gifts to Friends (Mishloach Manot)

On Purim, we emphasize the importance of friendship and community by sending gifts of food to friends.

On Purim day, March 12, send a package containing at least two different ready-to-eat food items and/or beverages (e.g., pastry, fruit, beverage) to at least one Jewish acquaintance during the daylight hours of Purim. Men send to men and women to women.

It is preferable that the gifts be delivered via a third party.

Children, in addition to sending their own gifts of food to their friends, make enthusiastic messengers.

4. Feast!

During the course of Purim day, March 12th, gather your family, maybe invite a guest or two, and celebrate with a festive Purim meal. Traditionally, this meal begins before sundown and lasts well into the evening.

The table should be festively bedecked with a nice tablecloth and candles. Wash for bread or challah,andenjoy a meal featuring meat, wine and plenty of Jewish songs, words of Torah and joyous Purim spirit. Sing, drink, laugh, have fun together.

Note: When Purim falls on a Friday, out of deference to the approaching Shabbat, we start the meal earlier, ideally before midday.

Special Prayers

On Purim, we include the brief V’al Hanissim section in all the day’s prayers, as well as in the day’s Grace after Meals.

This prayer describes the Purim story and thanks G‑d for the “miracles, redemptions, mighty deeds, saving acts and wonders” that He wrought for our ancestors on this day many years ago.

In the morning service, there is a special Torah reading (Exodus 17: 8-16), describing the battle Joshua waged against Amalek— Haman’s ancestral nation—almost one thousand years before the Purim events unfolded.

Masquerade!

On Purim, children—and some adventurous adults, too— traditionally dress in costumes, an allusion to G‑d’s hand in the Purim miracle, which was disguised by natural events. Make sure your children masquerade as good, cheerful characters, such as Mordechai and Esther.

Dress up your kids before taking them to the synagogue for the megillahreading. Many synagogues have a masquerade party, along with prizes for the children, during or after the megillah reading.

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PURIM HOLIDAY GUIDE PRE- & POST-PURIM OBSERVANCES Torah Reading of Zachor On the Shabbat before Purim (this year, March 11), a special reading is held in the synagogue. We read the Torah section called Zachor (“Remember”), in which we are enjoined to remember the deeds of (the nation of) Amalek (Haman’s ancestor) who sought to destroy the Jewish people.

The Fast of Esther

To commemorate the prayer and fasting that the Jewish people held during the Purim story, we fast on the day before Purim.

This year we fast on Thursday, March 9. The fast begins approximately an hour before sunrise, and lasts until nightfall.

Visit: chabadNW.org/zmanim for exact times for your location.

The “Half Coins” (Machatzit HaShekel) It is a tradition to give three coins in “half ” denominations—e.g., three half-dollar coins—to charity, to commemorate the halfshekel that each Jew contributed as his share in the communal offerings in the time of the Holy Temple. This custom, usually performed in the synagogue, is done on the afternoon of the “Fast of Esther,” or before the reading of the Megillah.

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Shushan Purim

In certain ancient walled cities—Jerusalem is the primary example—Purim is observed not on the 14th of Adar (the date of its observance everywhere else), but on the 15th of Adar. This is to commemorate that fact that in the ancient walled city of Shushan, where the battles between the Jews and their enemies extended for an additional day, the original Purim celebration was held on the 15th of Adar.

The 15th of Adar is thus called “Shushan Purim,” and is a day of joy and celebration also in those places where it is not observed as the actual Purim.

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Everyone joined in, singing from the depths of their hearts.

Suddenly the door burst open.

At the entrance stood a Chasid.

“The Bolsheviks are coming,” the Chasid cried, wringing his hands in fear.

The Bolsheviks at the Purim Celebration The bitter cold chilled the officer’s bones and fear made his heart tremble. Ivan was not a coward, but the rumors of the sadistic Bolsheviks who were nearing the city of Rostov frightened him terribly.

He paced the streets, waiting anxiously for the light of day.

He was oblivious to the two men following at his heels, not making a sound, the distance between them narrowing...

Suddenly he felt powerful hands grabbing him. He screamed a loud and bitter scream, but the two held him and... In the morning the body of the officer was found with the warning: “Beware! The Bolsheviks are coming!”

The Jews were the most shaken by news of the Bolsheviks’ approach, as the study of Torah and observance of mitzvot was a most serious crime to the Bolsheviks. There was only one part of the city where life went

on as usual, where fear of the Bolsheviks was not felt: in the Yeshiva Tomchei Temimim.

The yeshiva students continued their studies without disruption. They drew their strength from their Rebbe, Rabbi Sholom Dovber of Lubavitch - the fifth Rebbe of the Chabad dynasty. The Rebbe encouraged them to study and pray as usual, and the yeshiva bustled with life.

It was Zundel the Beggar who brought the news: “The Bolsheviks are on their way into the city!” Soon Rostov became a city of flames and the Bolsheviks beat and killed anyone they chanced upon.

Thus passed several weeks.

The holiday of Purim was approaching. The Rebbe isolated himself and didn’t speak to anyone. The students could not make peace with the Rebbe’s isolation. They

remembered the great joy of Purim, when Jews celebrate the victory over Haman who tried to “destroy, kill and annihilate.”

And then it was Purim. Not a soul smiled. Finally, two of the yeshiva students who could no longer bear the thought of Purim passing in such a manner, summoned up their nerve and entered the Rebbe’s room. After a few silent moments they heard the Rebbe’s voice: “The Bolsheviks are in the city. I cannot exist together with them. But for the sake of Purim, we’ll forget about the situation. Go buy plenty of vodka and let there be light for the Jews!”

The good news spread through the city and the yeshiva students took their places for the Purim gathering. The Rebbe spoke and all listened. When the Rebbe concluded, an older Chasid began singing a soulful Chasidic niggun (melody).

The singing stopped at once; everyone was gripped with terror. The Rebbe, however, disregarded the news, and began singing a niggun very softly. The melody touched and calmed the frightened crowd.

Having concluded the melody, the Rebbe began saying a Chasidic discourse. The room was silent; the only audible sound was the Rebbe’s voice.

Suddenly the silence was broken by loud knocking. The Rebbe continued speaking as though nothing was happening.

After a few moments one of the members of the Rebbe’s family said: “Rebbe, the Bolsheviks are demanding that we let them in. If they see us gathered here it will be our end...G-d forbid.”

The Rebbe interrupted the discourse and said, “Open the door for them.”

In the doorway stood two tall and fearsome looking Bolsheviks, their eyes darting all about, hungry for prey.

“What is this gathering? What is going on?”

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Ask the Rabbi Question:

Someone pointed out to me that throughout the entire story of Purim in the Megillah, G d is not mentioned once. I understood that this is a story about G d miraculously saving us. If so, why do we leave Him out of the story?

Response: You are in good company.

Many of the great Jewish commentators had this same question and discussed this issue at length. Here’s just one of many answers: Compare the story of Purim with that of our other holidays.

Ever notice how the plot features no open miracles? No seas split, no mass revelation, no dwelling in clouds for forty years, and no overcoming an enemy a hundred times our size using guerrilla warfare. What did happen? A lot of people were in the right place at the right time to provide just the political clout necessary when needed. What a coincidence.

Of course, the word “coincidence” is not part of the Jewish lexicon. All these events were deliberately orchestrated from Above—only that the conductor stood behind stage.

Now you understand why Purim is a holiday of masks.

The costumes conceal one’s real identity, just like the dough of the hamantash hides over the fruit filling, just like natural events hid over Divine intervention. And the Megillah conceals G d’s name.

But it doesn’t end here.

The teachings of Chassidut analyze both types of miracles—hidden and revealed—and reach an astonishing conclusion: a miracle masked behind natural events (e.g., Purim) is actually more profound than one that breaks natural law (e.g., splitting seas). Why would this be? I’ve got a great analogy to explain: My younger brother used to be a whiz at video games. You would give him a new game and he’d beat it by the end of the day. Eventually, however, he discovered there’s another way to beat a game: Cheat Codes.

Push a few buttons, and before you know it, Super Mario can fly, runs through walls, and becomes invincible. But of course, play like that and it doesn’t prove that you’re a true master of the game.

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What’s this got to do with Purim?

G d created a system for this video game we’re starring in that we call “the laws of nature.” He did such a good job that people actually believe that this system runs itself.

After all, the weather influences the crops, the stock market our finances, and our lifestyle the state of our health. Now, the laws of nature say that if you’re surrounded by the world’s largest army on one side and the Red Sea on the other, there’s no hope.

As Jews, we know better. We realize that G d, not the system, is in control. The question is: how?

One way is by overriding the system. The laws of nature say that a sea must flow? No problem—today, that won’t apply. The laws of nature say the sun has to set soon? No problem, we’ll override that for a few hours. This is the classic miracle—the “physics breaker.”

But then there’s way #2: the system doesn’t have to be changed. You can play by the rules and still find a way to win.

That’s Purim. The aim was achieved without any natural laws being broken. Vashti was ousted. Esther was chosen.

Mordechai overheard a plot.

Achashverosh couldn’t sleep.

Esther found favor in the king’s eyes. Charvonah offered advice…

Miracle #1 shows that G d is not limited by the laws of nature. But Miracle #2 shows that all these laws of apparent cause and effect are no more than another tool in the hands of G d. He can use them to get whatever He wants, and it will all still look perfectly natural.

This is far more relevant to our lives today. (See Why Doesn’t G d Show Himself Anymore?) And this is a far deeper expression of G dliness. Not only is He not limited by the rules He made, He’s not limited even by their logic (which He made as well).

In fact, the Kabbalah teaches that this type of miracle relates more to G d’s essence than to any of His specific attributes.

Which gives a deeper insight into why G d’s name is not mentioned in the Megillah.

Each of His names represents another relationship to one of His attributes. (See How Many Names Does G d Have?) But during Purim, we witnessed a miracle that transcended any such attribute. And G d’s essence has no name.

Question: I have been told that you’re allowed to work on the holidays of Purim and Chanukah. Why are those holidays different than Passover, Sukkot and Shavuot, when most work is prohibited, almost like Shabbat? What is the underlying distinction?

Answer Let’s start at the beginning.

There are six days of the year that are known as Yomim Tovim (holidays), on which we are prohibited from working: the first and last days of Passover and Sukkot, and one day of Shavuot and Rosh Hashanah.1 (In the Diaspora, additional days are celebrated.2) While these days are not as strict as Shabbat and Yom Kippur, nonetheless the Torah says3 regarding these days, “No work may be done on these [days]. The only [work] that you may do is that which is needed so that everyone will be able to eat.”4 Since Purim and Chanukah are not on this list—in fact, they

are not mentioned in the Five Books of Moses at all, since these holidays commemorate events that happened later in history—one might assume that work is permitted on these days. After all, there is no verse that prohibits it.

But it’s not that simple . . .

Wait! Purim Is a Yom Tov! We read in the book of Esther that Purim was declared “a day of joy and feasting and Yom Tov . . .”5 What is the meaning of these three expressions of celebration?

The Talmud expounds that they reveal three unique Purim laws:6 • “Joy” teaches us that it is forbidden to mourn.

• “Feasting” adds that it is forbidden to fast.

• “Yom Tov” indicates that it is forbidden to work.

But wait! If work is prohibited on Purim, ask the sages of the Talmud, why was Rabbi Judah the Prince spotted planting on Purim day?

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Two explanations are offered: A. A few verses later in the Megillah,7 the Purim celebration is mentioned again.

This time it is simply called a time of “feasting and joy,” with no mention of “Yom Tov.” What changed?

The Talmud explains that at first the sages of that era had planned on establishing Purim as a full holiday, on which work (i.e., strenuous physical labor, such as agricultural work, or toiling for financial gain) would be forbidden. However, in the end this was never accepted as binding. Thus, Rabbi Judah was technically permitted to plant— although, the Talmud qualifies, certain communities may have had the custom not to work on Purim.

B. Alternatively, it may actually have been the custom in Rabbi Judah’s community to abstain from working on Purim. However, Rabbi Judah’s gardening was “festive” in nature, since the tree he was planting would be used for the purpose of shading festive banquets.

We therefore learn an important distinction from this story. The “work” we abstain from on Purim is not the melachot, the acts that are normally forbidden on Shabbat and Yom Tov, such as building a fire and writing. (After all, as we explained, there is no actual

verse stating that such work is prohibited.) Rather, it is “work” in the conventional sense— strenuous physical labor, such as agricultural work, or toiling for financial gain. But since Rabbi Judah was planting in honor of the festivities, this work was perfectly permissible.

Let’s Get Practical On Chanukah, according to all, one is permitted to work. With regard to Purim, things get a bit more complicated.

On Purim, strictly speaking, unless the community’s custom is to the contrary—in which case one is required to follow the custom of his community—it is permitted to work. However, nowadays the prevailing practice is to refrain from working on Purim. As the sages stated, “Whoever works on Purim won’t see a blessing from the profits earned.”8 The purpose of refraining from work is to spend the day immersed in the four unique mitzvahs of Purim and in the joyous, festive mood of the day.

With that in mind, here are some guidelines for the “nowork” custom: • Unlike Shabbat and Yom Tov, there is no problem with having your business operated on Purim by non-Jewish employees.9

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“An open miracle!” the Chasidim exclaimed to one another. They felt protected and sang with greater fervor. Thus passed two hours. So immersed were they in their joy, that they did not hear the Bolsheviks knocking

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It Happened Once Trembling, one of the Chasidim called out, “This is the Rebbe Sholom Dovber of Lubavitch.

He is teaching Torah to his Chasidim. The Rebbe is busy with his talk and he cannot be bothered.” He could hardly believe the words that came from his mouth. The two soldiers were astounded at the Chasid’s nerve, and they turned on their heels and departed.

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again... “Rebbe, what shall we do?” several frightened Chasidim cried out.

The Rebbe freed himself from his thoughts and said, “Open for them! I don’t fear them.”

The Chasidim understood that another great miracle was about to occur. The Bolsheviks burst through the door, their weapons in hand. The Rebbe ignored their threatening presence and said, “We will begin saying some words of Torah.” The Rebbe raised his voice and began, “Amalek is first among the nations but his end will be destruction.”

The faces of the Bolsheviks softened. The swords returned to their sheaths, and they watched with growing perplexity as the Chasidim listened to their Rebbe. They looked at one another and then, without a word, turned and left...

The Chasidim thanked G-d for miraculously saving them and for giving them their Rebbe

in whose presence evil had no power. Everyone was deeply moved, feeling in their hearts without knowing why that this would be their last gathering with the Rebbe. Painful tears flowed from their eyes, tears of parting. A week after Purim the Rebbe became very weak, and on the second of Nissan his soul departed in holiness and purity.

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By Anonymous Imagine for just one horrible moment that you have died.

Your soul is hovering over your body, and you are frightened and confused. “What is going on? Am I dead? What happens now?” You see two strangers come in and start preparing your body for burial. At this point, you realize that in order to meet your Creator in perfect purity your body must be prepared a certain way, and they are doing it all wrong. You want to beg them to send you to your destination prepared correctly, but no one hears your pleas.

This is not a nightmare. It is a true story, and I felt that this was what was going to happen to my husband’s beloved aunt.

She lived and died in a small town where there was no chevra kadisha (“holy society” that prepares Jews for burial in accordance with Jewish tradition), and due to circumstances beyond our control, there was no way to transport her body to a place where she could be prepared properly. So I was left with a choice: I could either allow her be buried in a state of impurity, or I could perform the taharah (purification process) myself...

I’m the type of person who can’t look at a dead animal, let alone see a person who has passed on. I always speed up and look the other way when I pass any type of accident, and refuse to watch scary or violent movies. I even faint at the sight of blood. Performing a taharah was definitely the most frightening thing I had ever contemplated doing, but denying her a proper Jewish burial was out of the question.

My husband and I live in Miami, and were scheduled to leave for the town where the funeral was to be held before sunrise.

I knew Jews were prepared for

Jewish Funeral Page burial in a very special way, but had never really wanted to know how this was done. Now, I had to learn how to perform a taharah in the next few hours. I called my rabbi, and he referred me to a woman, who I now think must be part angel.

eyes. She loved her aunt dearly and having lost her was hard enough.

She took me to a funeral home for a “taharah crash course,” and just walking through that door was torture for me.

There, she gave me the ritual instructions, and a video in which a taharah is performed on a dummy, and gave me the supplies I needed. After this, she took me to see a body that was ready for burial, but I found myself unable to enter the room where the dead body was, and all my doubts and fears started haunting me. If I could not see the body of a person I did not know, how in the world was I going to be able to see my sweet aunt’s? I told the woman to just explain the ritual and prayers to me and that I would somehow muster the courage later. Seeing how distraught I was, she offered to help me at the site by guiding me on the telephone every step of the way. What a brilliant idea!

We arrived at the funeral home and watched the video for the last time. Before we went inside the prepping room, I took a moment and prayed to G d with all my might. I asked for courage, love, light, guidance and every positive thing I could think of. I begged G d to help me perform this ritual perfectly so that the deceased could enter her heavenly home in purity. Then, my sister in law and I entered the chamber.

At that moment I realized my cellular phone had no service, and I panicked. How was I going to call my “angelwoman”? I found a telephone, connected it, and it worked!

It was a long road trip, so I, the taharah “expert,” had enough time to explain the procedure to her.

Until that moment I had not even dared to look at the covered body on the other side

of the room. I called my support lady, put her on speaker phone, and started the taharah.

As soon as we started the ritual and the corresponding prayers, I went into a daze and started feeling a special love; peace and serenity encompassed my whole being. Everything flowed perfectly. It seemed as if my soul had taken over and knew exactly what to do. I wasn’t afraid to look, or touch, or do anything. I was doing something beautiful and so very important. The last act of kindness!

When we finally finished and left the room, my husband told us we had been in there an hour and a half. It seemed like only a few minutes, as if we had surpassed time and space.

After the funeral, when I finally had a moment to think, I remembered that I had been taught that preparing a body

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Still shaking I went home, read the ritual instructions and prayers many times, and watched the video with the dummy, until exhaustion.

As soon as I went to bed, my heart and mind start racing. I did not sleep for one second that night, and as soon as my husband woke up I told him I could not do it. Again, we started to look for alternatives.

We called more rabbis, more associations and more foundations, to no avail. There was no option, other than letting her be buried impure, than doing it myself.

A person cannot perform a taharah alone. The ideal number of people is four, but in this case, that was not an option either. The only other Jewish woman who could help me was my sister in law, and she was even more fearful than I was. There was no choice and she bravely volunteered.

I could see the pain in her

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Someone who rejects their parents’ authority will usually have trouble accepting that ultimately, it is G d who runs the world.

I should follow.

Things change when the body dies. The soul is released. It is immediately closer to G d, the true source of knowledge. The “me” suddenly has much clearer access to Him. Still, the soul does not leave its body immediately. Could a loving wife immediately leave her husband after decades of loving togetherness? The soul stays close by, “ascending on high” slowly, stage by stage.

There are exceptions, however, and one of them includes going against a parent’s final Jewish News wishes. If a parent instructs children that he or she wants to be cremated, Jewish law— which places huge emphasis on respecting parents’ wishes—obligates children to ignore the command and provide a traditionalJewish burial for their parents. to do a taharah if necessary, Immediately after death, in the very first and this is the reason I wrote Who Are Funerals For, Anyway? this true story. stage of its Believe me, ifasthe soul’s my sister incent, law and I were main concern is It is a strange question, I know, but capable one thatof performing a Continued from page 23 that “its” body—its will determine many of the choicestaharah, made at anyone can. It is not partner over many scary or gory, and our fears are the time of death—and our entire underfor burial was the ultimate act much worse than performing decades—receive standing of this crucial spiritual transition of kindness, because you can itself. is an incredibly a Itproper Jewish point.

If one believes funeralsthe areact for never expect anything that in return beautiful spiritual experience, burial.

The soul the living, than do whatever the living want from the deceased.

But in this and nothing can be more to do.IBury, leave the body for the cries out in pain if case, felt ascremate, if I was the one sending off a its body is treated vultures, mummify it, put it on a important flaming than that benefited most of all. What soul to join G d with love and boat down the river, throw it in an opportunity it was for me to the garbage, d i s r e s p e c t f u l l y , caring, and pure again. Every put inabout underour your floorboards, learn totally awesomecannibalize and screams in unhas this right, and we imaginable horror it, or do one the many things that Jew societies religion andofwhat is really should never allow another Jew throughout or do to the if its beloved body, important inthe ourages life.have I am done a to be buried without a proper different sinceones. that day, bodies of person their loved The soul doesn’t a holy vessel, is put taharah. If even one Jewish and I and hope that G d doesn’t will help me anyway. It to the flame. When care, probably know soul is buried with a taharah deserve to stayplace,” this way. is in a “better and what happens to the body is alive, because of this story, sharing the body feels pain. “its” body is really of no consequence. this experience has served its When I got home, I felt as if I When the body can purpose.... needed to encourage everyone

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the Western world, and over one-third of all Jewish dead in North America in 2011 were cremated.

Why the trend? Here are a few examples of the “conventional wisdom” . . . and some facts.

1. Cremation is better for the environment.

Actually, it isn’t. Cremation uses a tremendous amount of fossil fuels, and releases toxins—including mercury—into the air.

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