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OCTOBER 2020
FROM THE PRESIDENT
Is Perception Reality? SCOTT SIEGAL
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s we approach election season, I can’t help but marvel at the division in our country. You only need to go on Facebook and read your “friends” posts about President Trump. Don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a political statement or anything like that. This month’s column is about your beliefs and how it affects your everyday life with your customers, employees, or your co-workers. I get calls almost every week about some sort of blow-up with an owner and his customer or an owner and his employee. These calls always start out the same way… “you’re not going to believe what this salesman did today… or can you believe this customer said this about us?” Usually after asking a bunch of questions, the owner who I’m speaking with starts to realize that it was their own fault the situation existed. It was something they didn’t do or something they didn’t say or something they mis-read in the other’s actions that caused the problem. Then, they made things worse by reacting in a way that compounded the problem. A new book by University of Virginia psychologists Dennis Proffitt and Drake Baer, Perception: How Our Bodies Shape Our Minds, can provide a lot of insight to help all of us. The premise of this book is that what we perceive in any given moment is not only determined by sensory input, but by our personal physical abilities, energy levels, and social identities. And the last one (social identities) is being reinforced on a daily basis by the social media we consume. Watch the Social Dilemma on Netflix. It made me delete my Facebook account on my cell phone). The authors of this book say,
“Its common sense to believe we experience the world as it objectively is, even though our naïve intuitions are we see the world as it is, we do not.”
This book has research findings that not only challenge the things we perceive, but the judgments and decisions we make based on what we perceive. Most of the time the things we think are true and universal are often just our own experiences of the world. This is important to realize so when we are faced with irrelevant factors, we can start to understand that they are manipulating what we see and think. Proffitt and Baer write, “If we are going to have a better understanding of ourselves and our fellow human beings, we need to appreciate the startling individuality of everyone’s experience.” One of the most beneficial programs I learned from my time in CCN (and from Richard Kaller) was how to settle disputes. Settling disputes requires you to understand that other’s continued on page 2
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