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An Unselfish Love
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by Theodore Young Jr.
usbands, love your wives, just as Christ loves the
the home of my parents and married. Outside of the “Holy
Church (Ephesians 5:25). It seems when I think
Trinity,” there is no one who is more important in my life.
this verse is exhausted, the Holy Spirit brings me
This is the woman God gave to me as a “divine
back here again for more. In the Amplified Bible, there is
helper.” This is the woman God specifically chose for me
a section in the verse that reads, “Seek the highest good
to make me one. God brought us into this holy covenant
for her and surround her with a caring unselfish love.”
to complete both of our destinies. He wanted to take two
The question is, do we love our wives as Christ loves the
imperfect beings with baggage and put them together
church, in an unselfish way? Are we putting our wives’
to glorify Him. He has destined us to be a blessing to the multitudes. But on days when I am not sensitive to the Holy Spirit, I take my partner for granted. Worse yet, I overlook the gift God has blessed me with. When we are walking with God, we have a divine opportunity not to be selfish. His Word cleanses us from all unrighteousness. As husbands, we desire to share His love, mercy, and grace with others. Our wives are walking with us. They are in the perfect position to receive from our blessings. Our reasonable response to God is to serve with gladness. Who better than our wives for us to practice with? I believe when we yield toward serving our wives, we please our God, especially when we are not feeling it in the moment. As Christ said, “Not my will, but your will be done.” Our time
needs before our own? When we have plans and our wives
on earth is short. God desires us to spend more time loving
ask us to do something that is inconvenient, do we do it
and growing with each other.
with gladness, or do we fuss? I will be the first to admit there have been some strong
Wives, your husbands need your encouragement, your touch, and your support. I ask that when you see us
victories in Christ in my marriage. However, there have
struggling, pray to the Father to give us insight. Believe
been some complete failures where I did not see things
God for your husbands to see His kingdom. When we fall
from her perspective. There have been moments when
short, call us out in love. However, don’t condemn us,
I was not willing to sacrifice my agenda. I will not even
but give us the same loving mercy that our God shares so
talk about the times that I half listened and was busy
generously with His children.
doing something else. I did not always give my wife the practice Philippians 2:3. This is the woman for whom I left
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About The Author
full attention she deserves. I am confessing that I did not Theodore Young was born and lived in Bronx, NY, for 42 years. Married 21 years and father of two teenage daughters. He Accepted Christ in his life over 32 years ago. and works as a licensed social worker in the state of TN.
