Gò0dNews for Couples
Loving Our Wives
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by Theodore Young Jr.
hristian husbands are familiar with Ephesians 5:25: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”
I took this Scripture for granted at the time of my
received, I honor God by acts of service in love to my wife. The most powerful way of displaying God’s love to our wives is by modeling the behavior of Christ in our marriage. When the disciples were caught in a storm, they woke up a
marriage. As I continue to walk this Christian journey,
sleeping Jesus. He immediately went to the Father in prayer
the Holy Spirit challenged me. That challenge was, could
and spoke peace to the storm. As husbands, we speak peace
I sacrifice myself in service to my wife? Could I make my
to our wives’ storms. We speak hope to their challenges and
wife and my marriage a priority in my life? Could I serve
to their concerns. We reassure them that we will always be there for them, reminding them of God’s word and praying for them regularly. I have experienced that my selfishness has been an obstacle to love my wife the way God would have me do. Husbands, if we are being honest with ourselves, sometimes our personal agendas can create difficult moments in our marriages. However, I have found that when I am having regular quiet time (meditating on His word) with the Lord God, I gain His perspective. I value my wife more than myself. I am more sensitive to the Holy Spirit, who directs me to the needs of my wife. I gain revelation of God’s plan for me to have a “helper” with divine anointing, assisting me to complete my God-given assignment. Having an intimate relationship with
her when I did not feel like it or if I was displeased with
God places us in position to be better servants. With more
my wife? I have been convinced by the word of God that “I
of His love, we can’t help but share it with our wives.
can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me”
When we love them, we are honoring the ONE who gave
(Philippians 4:13).
them to us. God is not expecting perfection from us as
Jesus said, “Just as the Son of man did not come to be served, but to serve” (Matthew 20:28). Are we servants to our wives? We honor our wives when we serve
husbands but a continual willingness to share what we have received from Him. For the wives who are reading this and recognizing
them in private and in public. We display love, respect,
discrepancies in our relationships, don’t get mad. Pray for
and appreciation for who God created them to be. My
us with an unshakable faith. Our Father in Heaven hears all
motivation for serving my wife is based on the salvation I
of your prayers, and He will respond in love.
before God and witnesses. With His forgiveness that I
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About The Author
received from Christ and the covenant of marriage I made Theodore Young was born and lived in Bronx, NY, for 42 years. Married 21 years and father of two teenage daughters. He Accepted Christ in his life over 32 years ago. and works as a licensed social worker in the state of TN.
