COMO Living Magazine - October/November 2016

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CULTURE O C M HOMES O FASHION HEALTH AND WELLNESS

Embracing Differences

Special Families pg. 56

ON THE COVER: Logann Lisenby, Age 4

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A Quest for

Mindfulness pg. 47

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If you’ve been following our COMO Living advisory board online lately, you know they were each tasked with a 21-day challenge of their choosing, relating to self-improvement. Each went in a different direction and each had interesting results (Find those on page 16).

I decided to join them in this endeavor and wrote in a journal nearly every day with musings on my moments of gratitude. I learned that it is never difficult to find a multitude of small pleasures — fresh peaches, my silly cat, devoted co-workers, my new really cool hourglass, just to name a few.

What I noticed was that it’s really the little things “It is not happy that make me most grateful. (Although the hourglass people who are is nearly two feet tall!) I love feeling grateful. I love appreciating moments, people, stories, a good glass of thankful. It is wine, you name it. thankful people Which leads me to this particular issue of COMO who are happy.”

Living. You’ll read story after story of people filled with gratitude and joy who have overcome challenges, barriers, and hard times. Given some of their situations, one might think these folks would have plenty of excuses to feel neither gratitude nor joy. But as you read about these amazing stories, I have to think you’ll agree with me: These are lucky, lucky people who have every reason to bask in gratitude. And I feel even more gratitude in my life after reading their stories and getting to know them. I hope you’ll feel the same way.

I just thought of something else to feel grateful for: the trust these subjects give to us to share their stories. And that is no small thing.

Always grateful for you, our reader, as well.

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A TIME FOR CHANGE I love fall, but I dread its arrival every year. You know what I’m talking about. Fall is great.

But after fall comes winter, and that part I could do without.

But despite my greatest hopes, winter rolls around every year. This time, I think I need to stop fighting it and just enjoy fall for what it is: the season of change. Green to orange, hot to cool, summer to winter. That’s what makes fall so memorable to me.

Change happens, winter happens. We can dread it, or we can enjoy each season for what it is. Fall means hikes, corn mazes, and boots. Change wardrobes, change mindsets; enjoy the last warm days and hold on to them in your mind until spring. Take a mental picture of the gorgeous foliage and dwell on that memory when you’re wearing three pairs of socks in January.

It’s a season of change for COMO Living too. Former editor of COMO Living Audrey Sharp has moved on to pursue other passions in her life. We’re a pretty close group here at the Business Times Company, and we will miss Audrey’s warm heart, classic style, and boundless creativity. She was instrumental in the magazine’s successful evolution from Columbia Home to COMO Living, and we thank her for her vision on that project. Please wish her well with us!

I’ve had the opportunity to work closely with Audrey — for the past year, I’ve served as editor of COMO Living’s sister publication, Columbia Business Times. I’m excited to take the reins of this magazine as well. I’ve got it easy: COMO Living is a growing, evolving publication full of beautiful photos, dynamic design, and engaging content. It has, in my biased opinion, unlimited potential — I think you’ll enjoy watching the continued growth of this magazine.

It’s a blessing to get to work with publisher Deb Valvo, who is the COMO woman personified. She’s stylish, she’s funny, she loves to meet new people and share their stories.

She’s a woman with vision for her work – so much vision that I’m getting accustomed to 7 a.m. texts or after work chats to brainstorm ideas. I feel fortunate to have a mentor and partner in Deb. If you don’t know her, you should.

Enjoy our health and wellness issue. And thanks for reading.

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12 Letter from the Publisher 13 Letter from the Editor 16 COMO Living Board Update 19 Shelf Life: Reading Shouldn’t Be Boring 21 Libations: Six Common Wine Myths 23 Day in the Life: Beth Burkhart, Flight Paramedic

26 Gourmet: PureFit and range free 32 Home Tour: The Spillmans’ Home 43 Outdoors: How to Hike mid-Missouri

47 How Mindfulness Can Calm Your Life 98 100 51 Elisabeth Trumbower’s Full Recovery

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Couple You Should Know: Todd and Kristen Oliver

107 Engagements 108 The Midwest Wedding Crashers: Little Women

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ABOUT THE BOARD

21-DAY CHALLENGE RECAP FROM BOARD The COMO advisory board members took on self-improvement challenges this month.

Read about their results!

KRISTA KIPPENBERGER

BECKY ERDEL

ADONICA COLEMAN

Focus on Health

Erdos at Home

A2D Events

Eat in for every meal

Stay in touch

Make time to read

As I reflect over the last month,

My challenge was to reconnect with

I am proud that for 21 days we

people I often think about but fail to

followed a pretty strict “eat in”

reach out to.

I took the challenge to go back to one of my first loves: reading.

Some days it was easy as pie, like riding a bike. Some days, getting into it was like taking bitter medicine.

Not because I don’t love everything about reading books, but because my life has become so filled with things and people outside of myself.

Taking time to get quiet seemed impossible. On those days, though, I remembered my challenge, and I would pry myself away and get to my reading space.

I am not as fast a reader as I once was. I must admit that I was a little annoyed by that at first, but eventually it became OK — I feel like I processed the information better and gave myself time to digest what I was reading.

I also learned that the goodness I used to always feel when closing a book is still there. I truly enjoy the escape that books provide, and I am determined to once again make it a more frequent part of my life.

schedule. But I’m also surprised that

My first challenge was to find one

we didn’t save any money on food

of my first art students that I taught at

this month. We were actually $146

Missouri Military Academy. When I

over budget!

got to his website, I discovered that he

I think I need to get smarter at

mentioned me as his inspiration! I also

grocery shopping — maybe even

found one of my favorite students,

change grocery stores to try saving

who is now in international business.

a little money. For a family of three,

We vowed to get together soon.

it seems like a lot of money to

Next, I called up an old friend

spend on food each month ($550

whom I hadn’t talked to in quite some

a person to be exact). I’m not the

time. We talked for two hours. You

type to go grocery store hopping,

know you have a true friend when you

like shop at Aldi, then make a trip

can pick up like that. I also reconnected

to Wal-Mart, and then another

with a couple of past co-workers.

to Hy-Vee. It just sounds like I

I am so glad to have taken on this

would be spending more in gas

challenge, and I plan to keep going.

and in time. So maybe I’m paying

It has become too easy to just go to

a convenience tax to only shop one

Facebook or to text people without

place, one time a week? I would

having a real conversation. I pledge

love suggestions on how to save on

to do better — I’m even going

food and how much, on average,

to write letters and send actual

your family spends.

birthday cards.

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ABOUT THE BOARD

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JENNY BOUATAY

ANN MERRIFIELD

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Early morning yoga 21 days of rise and shine! The first week of my alarm going off at the crack of dawn for a 6 a.m. yoga class was pretty rough — I’m one of the folks who operates best with eight to nine hours of sleep, so being early to bed was the key. As a result, my night life took a hit.

Once I got over the early mornings, I eased right into the rhythm. I felt refreshed, grounded, and clear-headed every time I walked out of alleyCat Yoga at 7:15 a.m. Surprisingly, I felt physically stronger, and I didn’t need to stretch throughout the day.

By the end of the 21 days, I felt like I had given myself a gift. I was learning something new that not only stretched me physically, but mentally too.

Make time in the a.m.

Daily devotionals

My challenge was to wake up at least 30 to 45 minutes earlier than my usual schedule. The first few days were challenging because my body wasn’t used to getting up earlier, but when I adjusted, it was great! I felt relaxed each morning. I made my breakfast and enjoyed my coffee. I read or caught up on the news. There were times where I was able to exercise first thing in the morning, whether it was yoga, walking, or running around the neighborhood. My fiancé is an early bird, so it was nice to hang out before we started our day. I was able to greet the day, reflect, and start on the right foot with a positive attitude. I will definitely continue waking up early!

So my 21 day challenge of getting up early, reading a daily devotional, and walking as I meditate and pray over my devotional is officially over!

I’ve gone back through and read my posts, and they’ve helped me enjoy my journey all over again. I’m making it my goal to continue with this practice — it’s good for my health, and it’s good for my soul.

I think that this challenge has reminded me that daily exercise is important, but that it’s even more important to “walk humbly with God” (see my post on Micah scripture, Day 7). And that’s important not just for 21 days, but for each and every day of my life. Amen.

Stay positive on social media My ultimate conclusion after this challenge is this: How you interact on social media generally reflects how you interact in real life. The rules are the same. Mean is mean, supportive is supportive, and annoying bikini brags are annoying bikini brags. Despite the perception of social media anonymity, the stuff you post online tells

JILL ORR Author

the world who you are, and you will reap what you sow. (Just ask Anthony Weiner.)

And on the other end of the spectrum

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– the good end – the things that solidify strong relationships in the real world solidify them online: gratitude, honesty, positivity, supportiveness, and kindness. If you foster those values in your in-person communications, you’re going to bring that same energy to your online world. I have enjoyed looking for ways to be positive on social media and won’t stop. Interacting online is, I’ve discovered, a part of the constellation of my life now — and I’ll do my best to bring good juju into that realm. Given my deep and abiding optimism, it shouldn’t be such a challenge.

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SHELF LIFE

READING SHOULDN’T BE BORING

Find a health and wellness book written for you.

by B R E N N A M C D E R M O T T

I

t isn’t necessarily easy to read books about health and wellness. You settle into the couch with a glass of wine and a soft blanket and you want to read about . . . self improvement?

Where’s the engrossing mystery? The sweeping romance? Not exactly leisure reading. Because if you’re going to read a book about your health, don’t you have to, you know, do something after you read it?

And it can be overwhelming to take in the thousands of opinions from health authors. How many different diets are out there? Which ones are right and which ones are misleading? If you’re uncomfortable with the self-help genre, it can be intimidating to peruse the shelves at a bookstore.

And how do you narrow down “health and wellness?” Fitness?

Diet? Disease prevention?

Mindfulness?

Health reading doesn’t have to scientific gibberish, and it doesn’t have to be boring. Who read Cheryl Strayed’s “Wild” and wasn’t a little bit tempted to head to the mountains to improve physical health and maybe ditch the cell phone?

Stories of overcoming physical and emotional obstacles can be the most intimate and engaging stories of all — taking care of body and mind is something we

can all relate to, and a reminder to focus on self-care once in a while can refocus and re-energize us.

To make reading about health less daunting, try narrowing the topic down. Are you interested in a cleaner diet? Try “Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us,” by Michael Moss. Moss, a Pulitzer-prize winning journalist, explores how processed and packaged foods are manufactured to make addicts of consumers.

Maybe you want to focus on gratitude and happiness. “The Happiness Project,”

by Gretchen Rubin, is one woman’s exploration into changing her world and her attitude. From family to finances to long-forgotten goals, Rubin explored new ways to enjoy life.

Take some time to evaluate your interests in the health and wellness arena.

There are so many nonfiction accounts of everyday people changing their lives for the better. As you read, set three goals for incorporating advice into your everyday life.

Write it in a journal and keep yourself honest. Taking time to read about nourishing your body, mind, and soul can not only be fun — it can be invigorating.

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STAFF PICKS The COMO Living team weighed in on books that inspire them to better health.

Deb Valvo’s Must-Read: Spirituality “Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers” by Anne Lamott Lamott’s book breaks prayer down into three categories: asking for help, gratitude for the good in life, and recognizing a feeling of awe.

The book reaffirms faith and the benefits of prayer.

Cassidy Shearrer’s MustRead: Mindfulness “Full Catastrophe Living”

by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Take a moment for yourself and try to establish some mental stability with these meditation practices.

Brenna McDermott’s Must-Read: Endurance “Into Thin Air” by John Krakauer I started this book with no interest in climbing mountains, and the nonfiction account of his Everest ascent is downright scary at times. But it made me take a look at my fitness goals and think: I can do more.

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SIX COMMON WINE MYTHS

Debunking the tasting room talk.

by T I A WO O D

A

s the person that is often standing on the other side of the wine tasting table, pouring samples, I’ve heard quite a bit of chatter and uncertainty during my years in the wine industry. As such, I’ve run across a few myths when it comes to the perception and enjoyment of wine that are worth clearing up. Let’s talk about a few of the common ones here: Myth #1: “I’m not a real wine drinker. I only drink sweet wine.”

I hear this at least once at every wine tasting event, so I’ll come right out and say it: sweet wine is, in fact, real wine. You’re probably thinking that’s obvious and sounds ridiculous, but there is a perception out there that a higher amount of sugar in a wine somehow makes it a lesser wine. Riverboat Red is our most popular wine, and it’s one of the sweetest wines we make. I highly encourage everyone to drink the style of wine you like proudly — regardless of its residual sugar.

Myth #2: “This dry wine doesn’t taste dry.”

To understand what you taste when you don’t think a wine is dry enough, it is important to first understand what classifies a wine as dry. During the fermentation process, yeast will feed off of the sugar from the grape juice. When a wine is classified as dry, that means there is no residual sugar left in the wine after fermentation. In a sweeter wine, there would be residual sugar. That amount of the remaining sugar helps distinguish a wine’s classification of semi-sweet or sweet. So, when you taste a dry wine, make sure you aren’t confusing the presence of fruit-forward flavor with a lack of dryness.

Myth #3: “I would like a glass of Champagne.”

In order for a wine to be called Champagne, it traditionally must come from the Champagne region of France. However, there are Champagne-style wines, like the Les Bourgeois brut for example. The term “brut” actually refers to the level of dryness of the wine. A sparkling wine labeled “extra dry” is actually slightly sweeter than a brut sparkling wine.

Myth #4: “I’m having seafood for dinner. Which white wine should I have?”

If we’re dining on steak, we often pair it with a hearty, bold red wine, and seafood traditionally gets paired with a crisp white wine. We often think that the main component of the dish is what dictates the best pairing; however, the accents of sauces and spices make a big difference. One of my favorite charts to use as a guideline was created by Missouri Wines

— it can be found on their website, missouriwine.org, or @lbvwinery on Pinterest. Anyway, one thing that I remember hearing from a wine professional many years ago was that the pairing is of little significance if it’s not a wine you enjoy. The more important part is that you are drinking something you love. And to that I say, “Cheers!”

Myth #5: “Expensive wines are better.”

There is a common misconception that price equals quality. While this is sometimes true, there are many factors that go into play with the price of a bottle of wine — location, quantity available, packaging, and varietal being just a few. Most recently, I’ve been obsessed with our Jeunette Rouge, which won top honors at a national wine competition. It is a dry red blend sporting a very modest price tag.

Myth #6: “Red wine should be served at room temperature.”

It’s actually ideal to serve most red wines at cellar temperature, which is generally cooler than the average room. Serving dry red wines at around 60 to 70 degrees is best. While I like to keep my house nice and cool, I would bet that the majority of TIA WOOD people don’t keep their Tia Wood lives in Columbia rooms quite as cool as the with her husband, Daniel, somewhat chilly norm of and their two cats. She is the cellar. In that cases, the marketing director at Les Bourgeois Vineyards I would refrigerate the and a health and fitness wine for 10 or 15 minutes coach. In her spare time, before drinking to get its she enjoys drinking wine and working out, though not temperature slightly cooler. generally at the same time.

You’d be surprised at the difference it makes!

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BETH BURKHART Saving lives in the air and on the ground.

by S Y D N E Y R I N G DA H L

“A

mazing!”

That’s how Beth Burkhart would explain her job, and it is nothing short of that. Beth is a flight paramedic at Univeristy Hospital, and her passion shines through when she explains what first sparked her interest in this career. “When I was a little girl, my grandfather was in the hospital — one of the nurses took me outside and showed me the helicopter and where it came in and landed,” Beth says. “From that point on, I knew that’s what I wanted to do.”

When she’s not saving lives, she’s hitting the trails. Beth enjoys an active lifestyle and is a biking enthusiast, involved in many organized

rides. She also enjoys seeing the world and has a passion for adventure — “I have a huge travel addiction!” she says.

From helicopter to plane, Beth has had the opportunity to fulfill that need for travel. She recently visited Botswana and Zimbabwe. She also had the opportunity to travel to Tibet,

“From that point on, I knew that’s what I wanted to do.”

Kathmandu, and Nepal, even adding a visit to the base camp of Mount Everest to her list.

Beth also coordinates the university’s outreach program by staying in contact with surrounding hospitals in mid-Missouri. She sets up and provides classes for these hospitals to help expand and further their employees’ medical education, bringing MU Health to their door step. Not only does Beth’s love for her job come through in her teaching, but she also has a positive impact on her co-workers as well. Silvia Tribble, a fellow flight paramedic, says, “She is incredible at what she does, and, by teaching, she helps to bring in the next generation of medics.”

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D AY I N T H E L I F E

A T Y P I C A L DAY 7 a.m. — Beth starts her day with a mandatory safety briefing with the pilot, followed by a safety huddle with all three bases on speakerphone. “This is a time for the bases to get together as a team and know what to expect throughout the day,” Beth explains.

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Spinach Apple Salad (serves 4 to 6) Ingredients: (for best flavor, choose organic) • 1 pound spinach, rinsed and dried • 1 apple, peeled, cored, and sliced • 1/2 cup sprouted raw pumpkin seeds Dressing: • 2 tablespoons raw honey • 4 tablespoons balsamic vinegar • 1/4 teaspoon sea salt

Directions: 1. Divide spinach into four bowls, top with apple slices and pumpkin seeds.

2. Whisk together dressing ingredients in small bowl, or use a dressing shaker.

3. Drizzle salads with dressing.

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GOURMET

Roasted Squash and Roots

Ingredients: (for best flavor, choose organic) • 1 patty pan squash, seeded and sliced • 1 delicata squash, seeded and sliced

• 3 beets, peeled and quartered • 4 carrots, peeled and one-inch rough cut

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• 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil • 1 sprig fresh or dried rosemary • Sea salt to taste

• Combine ingredients together in one bowl. Toss.

• Spread on lined baking sheet.

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• 30 eggs, whisked well

1. Combine all ingredients and

• 1/2 cup coconut milk

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• 1 cup roasted red pepper, diced

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• 2 teaspoons pepper

3. Serve on a bed of greens with

• 1 tablespoon cumin

tomatillo salsa.

• 1 tablespoon granulated garlic

4. Serve with side of fruit: half-

• 4 cups egg whites

orange, quarter-grapefruit, etc.

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eremy and Jessica Spillman know custom homes. As owner of Spillman Contracting, Jeremy has spent years building one-of-a-kind homes for customers, and, through this extensive experience, he has watched people’s indecision down to the smallest detail.

It came as a surprise to Jeremy, when building his family’s own dream home, that each decision would be a challenge.

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“It’s challenging, making lots of decisions that you want to be perfect, because the end result is one of the largest investments you will ever make.”

- JEREMY SPILLMAN

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Construction of the home, located in the Vineyards neighborhood, started in May 2015 and the Spillmans moved in three days before Christmas 2015.

Jeremy was always interested in building – he and his friends would price materials at the corner hardware store to build the best possible tree house with their allowances. “I was born with it in my DNA,” he says.

He credits his craft to his mother and his grandmother, who grew up during the Great

Depression and would repurpose everything: an old picnic table on the side of the road became planter boxes for the backyard. They also fostered his entrepreneurial spirit. Jeremy would buy a bucket of gum and sell the pieces at school, and he ran his own lawn business.

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and Noah, would live until all the children graduated high school seemed easier than it turned out to be.

“I make a million decisions a day quickly,” Jeremy says. “But for some reason, on my own house, I over-analyzed everything.”

The more options you have, the more difficult it can be. “It’s challenging, making lots of decisions that you want to be perfect, because the end result is one of the largest investments you will ever make.”

“I love the ability to customize. I would make a terrible cookie-cutter production builder."

- JEREMY SPILLMAN

Some of the easier decisions were putting the kids’ rooms downstairs, so they could grow into their own space as they became teenagers. The Spillmans also knew they wanted to entertain upstairs rather than in the basement, so putting three bedrooms downstairs opened up areas on the main floor to enjoy when hosting.

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Jeremy says his favorite part of the home is the outdoor living space with a fireplace and TV. “It’s the perfect place to watch the Tigers and Cardinals,” he says.

And, despite some tough decisions on their own home, Jeremy still has a passion for custom homes. “I love the ability to customize,” he says.

“I would make a terrible cookie-cutter production builder because I can’t stop making changes if I think it will make the end product better.”

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In my opinion, the smell of bacon frying on a cold autumn morning is one of the richest joys of life.

But frying our favorite foods can also become one of the biggest dangers of home life if we’re not careful.

In November and December of 2014, State Farm received an average of 18 claims every day related to cooking fires.

That number nearly doubled on Thanksgiving and Christmas day. A study published by the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission found that 75 percent of range or stove fires started with food ignitions; 43 percent began with cooking oil, and nearly twothirds occurred when someone was frying.

We know the leading cause of fires in the kitchen is unattended cooking. Many people start out with a good recipe, but suddenly leave the kitchen for a persistent cell phone, a crying child, or a knock on the door. Once occupied, you forget about the pan and the pot. A flicker catches a nearby paper towel roll, and you are suddenly in danger of not only losing your dinner, but also hundreds (if not thousands) of dollars in property.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when preparing your own award-winning episode of “Chopped”:

during 2009 through 2013 were injured when they tried to fight the fire themselves.

One-third of home cooking fires reported in 2009 through 2013 started with fat or grease.

More than half of the cooking fire injuries resulted from these fires.

Children under 5 face a higher risk of non-fire cooking burns from contact with hot cooking equipment

MENU OF DATA From the Fire Analysis and Research Division of the National Fire Protection Association, we know that: 54 percent of people injured in non-fatal home cooking fires

or scalds related to microwave ovens; tableware, such as mugs and coffee cups; and cooking liquids from pots and pans.

These facts reinforce the need for common sense and alertness — two valuable “utensils” all of us should add to our kitchen supplies.

I could say a lot more, but I think it’s time to put these safety tips to the test and go fry some bacon.

BRIAN HAZELRIGG Brian Hazelrigg is a husband and father of two daughters and lives in Columbia. For the past 10 years, he has been a State Farm agent. His biggest passion is to help his clients achieve their dreams and recover from the unexpected. He also enjoys playing a supporting role in the Columbia community and its schools.

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There are many mental, physical, and emotional benefits to maintaining a clean home environment — here are the top five.

REDUCES ALLERGIES Regular cleaning is the best way to reduce dust, pollen, mold, and other irritating allergens from the home. Thorough dusting and vacuuming dispose of dust, dust mites, pet dander, and dozens of other allergens that cause cold and flu symptoms. Mold in particular can wreak havoc on your family’s

health, and regular sanitization can help control and prevent mold growth. People with allergies, asthma, and respiratory problems can relieve their symptoms and breathe easier by keeping their house clean. After vacuuming, make sure to empty the contents of your dust cup in the trash . . . outside.

REDUCES ILLNESSES A clean home is a healthy home. Every time you clean the house with disinfectants,

you are killing bacteria, viruses, and other microorganisms that can compromise your health. These powerful cleansers target germs and bacteria, such as E. coli, staph, and salmonella, that are responsible for many foodborne illnesses and infections. Sanitizing surfaces in the kitchen, bathrooms, floors, and other areas of the house will help protect you and your family from these potentially dangerous bacteria.

LOWERS RISK OF INJURY Keeping your house clean and organized can reduce the chance of injury by minimizing clutter and keeping things out of harm’s way.

Trips and falls are the most common accidents in the home. Simply tidying up and organizing can make a huge difference in the overall safety of your home.

IMPROVES CONCENTRATION A cluttered, messy home can distract even the most focused, especially if you’re watching the dust bunnies rolling around on your wood floors. Research shows that with the house clean and organized, you’ll be able to focus better on the task at hand.

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If the last thing you see before you close your eyes at night is your dust-covered ceiling fan, you’re probably going to have nightmares.

Maintaining a clean house can help relieve and prevent unnecessary stress. A clean house makes maneuvering and finding things much easier. Easy cleaning, like vacuuming, doing the dishes, and making your bed, will make your house look clean and ready for guests if the opportunity arises.

If you would like help keeping your home sanitized and dust free, call Tiger Maids to schedule your stress relieving cleaning team.

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Owning and living in a home that is both extremely functional and beautiful is a feeling that is so satisfying that it’s often hard to describe unless you have personally experienced it. Things fit. Extra space appears. Organizing and cleaning become simpler. When your home is custom-designed to fit and reflect your lifestyle, you and your family can reap the benefits.

Below we feature just a few of the many benefits of custom home design. For needs from energy efficiency to more functional space, contact Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling to find out how to create your dream home.

DOES YOUR HOME DESIGN REFLECT YOUR LIFESTYLE? Many people see their home as outdated or in need of a facelift. While many of us strive to create a beautiful home through interior decorating, DIY projects, and updated appliances, home design allows us to create a functional home — one perfect for your lifestyle. Reflect on some common issues you notice in your current home. Are you lacking space for your growing family? Do you have a beautiful backyard, but find yourself spending less and less time on your outdated porch? Does your family continually run into each other in the kitchen during the busy morning or afternoon rush?

Noticing these inconsistencies or annoyances in your home is a great place to start when considering a new home design or an update of your current home design. It’s also great to consider some of your favorite spaces and rooms

in your home where you get to relax and enjoy your time. Do these rooms reflect your lifestyle?

DESIGN FOR FUNCTIONAL SPACE Professional home design has the intent of creating functional space. Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling believes the perfect home does not waste a square inch. When there is purpose behind the architecture, layout, and design of your home, you begin to see the value your home truly has to offer.

As humans, we all are drawn to beautiful things.

It can be easy to purchase an item that catches your eye and place it together with the necessary items in a room. However, it’s important to keep in mind that form should follow function when it comes to home design. While creating a space that is efficient and appealing, don’t fall into the trap of creating spaces full of unimportant items just because they are attractive.

SIGNATURE KITCHEN DESIGN The kitchen is generally one of the most important rooms in the home. It is where family members gather to prepare a meal and reflect on one another’s day. It’s where the kids hang out, studying at the island countertop or fixing a snack. The kitchen has to be warm, inviting, social, and, most importantly, functional. It’s where we trek during our busiest and most chaotic hours — most often as we are heading out the door or coming home to unwind.

Sometimes, an update on your kitchen can make all the difference. Painting the walls with a

CALE KLIETHERMES Cale Kliethermes has learned the construction business from the ground up, working with his father to uphold the 40-year legacy that is Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling. Having been immersed in the industry since his teenage years, Cale possesses decades’ worth of expert knowledge and experience regarding new construction and remodels. Cale studied business administration and finance at Regis University, in Denver, Colorado, and earned his CGR (Certified Graduate Remodeler) designation from the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB). He also served in Iraq with the U.S. Marine Corps, where he built secure housing and observation posts. Cale specializes in leading homeowners through the creative process of designing their ideal home, and he is skilled in determining unique solutions that result in life-changing differences.

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matte color and adding an accent wall can create a warm and inviting space for the dining area.

Switching out old, noisy hinges for soft-close hinges can relieve tension and noise in an already busy space. Installing and replacing drawers, shelves, and cabinets to fit the items that belong in your kitchen allows for a much more functional space. Replacing the floors and countertops can not only improve the overall look of the kitchen, but can also improve clean-up and the overall longevity of your kitchen.

HOME ENERGY EFFICIENCY As society evolves, the need to become more efficient gets clearer each day. Energy efficient homes reap tons of benefits over the years, from saving you money and enhancing the quality of life to helping the environment. Buying energy-efficient appliances and upgrading your windows, doors, and other items will help reduce the amount of energy your home uses and save you hundreds of dollars each year.

CAPTURING THE BEST OF YOUR HOME A recent client of ours (featured in the August/ September issue of COMO Living) had a beautiful view from their back porch, but most of it was blocked by wood beams that kept their screen in place. Our design included removing the beams so that the family could enjoy their time on the porch with a clear view of their grandkids playing in their beautiful backyard. Home design allows you to accentuate the benefits that your home already has to offer and ensures that you and your family get to enjoy every part of it.

There are many other benefits to home design that you could be missing out on. Do any of these ring a bell? Does your home currently reflect your lifestyle? Contact Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling and we’ll set up a free consultation to discuss your home design options. We are always on time, on budget, with no surprises. Get started on creating your dream home today.

GET OUT Tips and tricks to making the most of a Saturday afternoon hike in Columbia p h o to s by A N G E L I Q U E H U N T E R

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Smell the Wildflowers: My Favorite Trail in Columbia

by C A S S I DY S H E A R R E R As a kid, I occupied myself in the forest playing “Little House on the Prairie” or whatever narrative I was obsessed with at that moment. There was never an urgency or a destination in mind. This is the attitude I try to keep with me on a hike. It’s a mission of discovery.

My favorite local exploration spot is Shooting Star Trail, in the Gans Creek area of Rock Bridge Memorial State Park. This trail isn’t as popular as some other Rock Bridge trails, so it’s easy to get lost in that meditative pioneering mood.

The wildlife diversity at Shooting Star brings out my childlike curiosity: I went hiking with a group of friends once and found five different kinds of mushrooms! And at least that many kinds of wildflowers! Here’s a tip: Bring a plant identification guide and learn as you go. It’s surprisingly gratifying to walk the path and say, “Look at that sassafras tree!”

The topography changes pretty quickly on Shooting Star, from overhanging trees on a muddy trail to stunning overlooks to ravines leading down to the creek. It also changes with the seasons. This summer, I sat on a sandbar at the bottom of the hill and threw rocks in the shallow creek with my friend and her son. This fall, the creek had changed borders and was a bit deeper. I love that every season offers a new version of the forest to discover, even winter. Go on one of those unseasonably warm days to admire the frozen creek and hear everything melting.

It can be a bit muddy and doesn’t have the wooden pathways like the Devil’s Icebox trail, so make sure to bring your hiking boots or some old tennis shoes.

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couple of years ago, I found myself having little fits of anxiety at work. During these episodes, it was hard to catch my breath and hard to focus. The high-pressure world of public relations was catching up to me. A coworker, who was having a lot of stress both at work and at home, suggested I listen to some “guided meditations” on YouTube. She emailed me some links and told me to keep an open mind.

I was skeptical. Up to this point, the only experience I’d had with any type of meditation was in a college acting class. Cliché, but true.

I waited until I got home. I put in my headphones, settled into my favorite chair, and pushed play. Ten minutes later, I was pleasantly surprised.

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So it’s safe to say that meditation is not a fad.

There’s a lot of terminology to keep straight.

If you’re interested in finding your Zen but are confused where to look, you’re not alone.

Let’s start with meditation. After scouring dozens of definitions, you’ll find that meditation boils down to the practice of quieting the mind and disconnecting from the distractions of the outside world. The objective is to achieve a state of consciousness that

allows you to focus your attention inward to discover your true nature or connect with your spiritual side.

Mindfulness, sometimes called insight meditation, is a particular type of meditation, but it’s a little different, in that you do not disconnect from what’s going on around you.

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally,” says Dr. Peter Holmes, a local retired psychologist who was introduced to meditation by theravadan Buddhist monks 35 years ago and has been practicing it ever since.

In other words, mindfulness is achieved when you intentionally focus on noticing and embracing every thought and sensation you are experiencing here and now, from the sound of the traffic outside to the tension in your neck to the racing thoughts about your to-do list. Rather than judging or reacting to these sensations, you simply observe them — you become mindful of them.

“A basic aspect of mindfulness meditation is paying careful attention to the arising and passing of thought,” says Holmes. “Thoughts come and go just like sounds or physical sensations. We try to notice the passage of thoughts without getting lost in thinking.”

This sounds simple enough, but achieving that takes some practice.

Western culture tends to teach us to focus

outward and interact with what’s around us rather than sitting still and examining what’s going on in our own minds. As a result, simply observing our thoughts rather than engaging them is one of the most common challenges reported by newcomers to meditation.

Practice makes perfect This is where paying attention to your body and breathing come in. A great technique is called the body scan, in which you sit or lie in a comfortable position and bring your focus through every part of your body from head to toe and release all muscular tension.

Once your body is relaxed, you can begin focusing on your breath. Without changing or controlling it, you simply observe your breath and the rising and falling of your belly with each inhale and exhale. Your breath becomes home base for you when your mind starts to wander. When you catch yourself getting caught up in thought, you simply notice it,

without judging yourself or reacting, and return your focus to your breathing.

Body scanning and the breathing technique take a little practice, but they’re what really sparked my interest in mindfulness. Each time I tried the techniques when I felt a bout of anxiety, I emerged amazingly calm. My breathing was easy, my blood pressure felt normal, and I felt an overall sense of ease and ability to continue with my hectic day. I was surprised, but both mental and physical health benefits of meditation are well documented in medicine. “[Mindfulness] has been used to lower blood pressure and reduce gastrointestinal problems,” says Josh Hulen, licensed professional counselor and founder of Columbia-based ABLE (Achieving Better Living with Empowerment), a private counseling practice. “Mindfulness is often used for dealing with chronic pain and various physical ailments,” Hulen says. “The practice can also be directly used to promote healthy eating and sleeping habits.”

In 2004, Hulen started studying the technique known as mindfulness based stress reduction developed by Dr. John Kabat-Zinn, an MIT-educated molecular biologist and professor emeritus of University of Massachusetts Medical School. Hulen now regularly employs mindfulness techniques in his counseling practice.

“Most problems people present in counseling can be improved with

“Most problems people present in counseling can be improved with mindfulness training.”

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Meditate on this Part of achieving mindfulness is exploring what works — and doesn’t work — for you personally. Everyone is different. Check out these additional resources to help you discover your path to meditative bliss:

Books

mindfulness training,” says Hulen.

“Mindfulness training is certainly not a panacea or a guaranteed cure for any problem, but it can provide a means for anyone to find within themselves a way to increase their quality of life.”

Another type of mindfulness practice worth exploring is yoga. Like meditation, yoga has been around for a while, with origins dating back to India some 5,000 years ago. If you’re not thrilled by the idea of sitting in prolonged quietness, yoga may be a great option for you.

Yoga is, among other things, “the practice of moving meditation,” according to Sarah Hoover, a registered yoga instructor who teaches at Yoga Sol, alleyCat Yoga, and offers private yoga sessions in her home.

Hoover says that mindfulness is achieved during yoga by focusing on the movements of your body while also paying attention to your emotions, thoughts, and external surroundings.

And, as with other types of meditation, Hoover’s clients see health benefits.

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such as a stronger spine and back with less pain, more joint mobility and less stiffness, a greater lung capacity, and less body pain caused by tension and injury.”

She says her clients are more in tune with their daily lives off the mat as well.

Let go and jump in Whether your goal is to connect with your spirituality, understand your true nature, or simply reap the health benefits associated with meditation, the trick is just getting started. Being open-minded and committed to not giving up (even when it feels like it’s not working) are key, along with keeping your self-judgment in check. It’s natural to doubt yourself, to wonder if you’re doing it wrong and feel frustration at that initial difficulty in focusing your stray thoughts. But keep at it.

Remember, the monks who devote their whole lives to meditation usually don’t nail it on the first try.

“Meditation is simple, but not easy,” says Holmes. “We have to develop a regular practice and stick with it through doubt, discomfort, and lack of immediate rewards.” A great way to get started is to embrace your favorite pair of stretchy pants, join a meditation group or yoga class that meets regularly, and remember to cheer yourself on.

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“Wherever You Go, There You Are” by Jon Kabat-Zinn “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment”

by Eckhart Tolle “Yoga Bitch: One Woman’s Quest to Conquer Skepticism, Cynicism, and Cigarettes on the Path to Enlightenment”

by Suzanne Morrison “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Blogs yogajournal.com mindful.org aboutmeditation.org

Join a group or class Show Me Dharma (showmedharma.org) alleyCat Yoga (alleycatyoga.com) Yoga Sol (yogasol.org) Unitarian Universalist Church of Columbia meditation group (uuchurch.net)

Multimedia Spotify: “Relax & Focus” playlist in the Focus genre “Ocean Escapes, A Sudden Rainstorm” and “White Noise” playlists in the Sleep genre

YouTube Jon Kabat-Zinn channel

Scientific research • Dr. Brick Johnstone, clinical neuropsychologist at the MU School of Health Professions and director of the MU Spirituality and Health Research program. Johnstone studies the neuropsychology of spiritual experiences.

• Dr. Richard Davidson, professor of psychology and psychiatry at University of Wisconsin-Madison. Named one of Time magazine’s 100 most influential people in 2006, Davidson is considered a leading mind in neuroscience and has conducted research on meditation with the Dalai Lama.

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Healing &

Gratitude One woman shares her story of overcoming illness and the power of the human spirit.

by A N N A C O M F O R T photos by A N T H O N Y J I N S O N

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n September of 2015, Elisabeth Trumbower felt a lump in her breast.

“It seemed like it came out of nowhere,” she says.

And it was big. She had no family history of cancer, but she made an appointment for some tests. Her OB/GYN told her not to worry — Elisabeth didn’t have any of the typical risk factors for breast cancer.

“Who’s going to die first?

Is it going to be you or the cancer?”

At the appointment, Elisabeth knew something was wrong. “The ultrasound tech was very chatty at first,” Elisabeth recalls. “And then, all of a sudden, when she started the scan, she got really quiet.”

When she heard the test results, Elisabeth panicked. “I did not handle it well,” she says.

“Some F-bombs were dropped. I thought I was a dead woman . . . [the Boone Hospital staff] will never forget my diagnosis.”

Elisabeth is an RN, BSN, and licensed esthetician. She owns Pela Cura Anti-Aging & Wellness, a medical spa in Columbia. Many of her family members are in medicine, too.

So as the panic subsided and the details of her diagnosis were revealed, she started to understand how unusual her circumstances were.

The tumor was an uncommon type known as triple-negative. The vast majority of triplenegative breast cancer patients carry the BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene (a positive test for BRCA1 is what led Angelina Jolie to undergo a preventative double mastectomy), but Elisabeth carried neither BRCA gene. This meant there was no targeted treatment for her type of cancer. She would have to undergo aggressive chemotherapy.

A diagnosis of a rare, difficult-to-treat form of cancer could destroy a person. But Elisabeth focused — “I’ve got to get my head in the game,” she said to herself — and started looking for good news. When she tested negative for BRCA1 and BRCA2, her first thought was that her nieces likely didn’t carry them either, so they wouldn’t be at greater risk. When the doctor explained that her cancer was triple negative, she said: “That’s great! At least I can do hormone replacement therapy safely.”

Elisabeth’s stubbornness and sense of humor were revived in those first few days. (“If the tumor had been any bigger, it would’ve been taking night classes at Columbia College,” she jokes), but the first steps of her treatment were hardly funny. To preserve Elisabeth’s option to have children someday, her eggs were harvested and frozen, and her ovaries were chemically shut down. She went into menopause overnight. Her father, the late Dr. William D. Trumbower, an OB/GYN for more than 40 years who had left his practice to work with Elisabeth at Pela Cura, prescribed a COMO L I V I N G

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hormone therapy cream to ease her symptoms.

The chemo was brutal. She began dosedense therapy, meaning higher doses of chemo at greater frequency. Her hair fell out after the first dose. Her immune system was depressed, leading to illnesses and complications. She describes her reaction to the chemo’s effects this way: “Who’s going to die first? Is it going to be you or the cancer?”

Elisabeth was stubborn — diehard, she says — and didn’t miss a single treatment, even when her doctors said she should consider taking a break. Once, her blood work was so bad that she had to receive a blood transfusion after chemo. Immediately afterwards, Elisabeth and her partner Merek LeGrand left for a holiday trip to Houston. She refused to let the cancer stop her from living. She continued working at Pela Cura throughout her entire course of treatment. “I was no hero with the way I dealt with things,” she says. “I had my moments of darkness and sadness and vulnerability and fear — a lot of fear. But I just didn’t let it consume me.”

A second tragedy made that more difficult: her father was diagnosed with kidney cancer a month after Elisabeth’s diagnosis. “We were so close we even got cancer together,” Elisabeth says. He died on March 4, 2016.

Elisabeth deeply admires her father’s humility, faith, and love for his family. Dr. Trumbower refused to begin end-of-life care until Elisabeth finished her last chemotherapy treatment. “He was the kindest, most generous, least judgmental person you can imagine, multiplied by a million,” she says.

His patients still cry in Elisabeth’s office, recalling his dedication.

A week after her father’s funeral, Elisabeth had a lumpectomy, followed by eight weeks of radiation. The cancer hadn’t spread, and her margins were clear, meaning no cancer was left in her body. She’s still recovering from the after-effects of her treatment, but says it’s child’s play compared to chemo. And she advocates for the legalization of medical marijuana, a cause close to her father’s heart.

Elisabeth says she takes things one day at a time. She’s not afraid of the future. “I know I can handle whatever comes at me and that I can still enjoy life,” she says. “And that’s a very powerful feeling.”

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Embracing

Differences

When families have a child with special needs, the world changes. Routine days are no longer routine. Life requires different commitments.

Here, three families share their stories of having a child with special needs, and they’re more than stories of struggle. They’re stories of hope, appreciation, and enduring love.

by B E T H B R A M S T E D T

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Advocating for Acceptance B r o c k a n d Ta r a A r n e t t r e m a i n h o p e f u l a b o u t s o n Lo g a n ’ s f u t u r e w i t h a u t i s m . ph otos by A N G E L I Q U E H U N T E R

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ara Arnett claims she’s known for telling it like it is, and she honestly admits that raising her 4-year-old daughter, Reagan, is more stressful these days than parenting Logan, her 7-year-old son with autism.

Tara, an appraisal analyst for Central Bank of Boone County, describes Reagan as a roughand-tumble little girl. She’s one who enjoys playing with makeup, requires lots of attention, and has emotions that can turn on and off like a light switch.

“Yet Logan is so even-keeled and predictable,” she says. “He has adapted well to his world and I know what will make him uncomfortable.”

Daily life with Logan proves manageable because of this temperament. The Arnetts’ worries about Logan are more long-term.

As Logan approached his second birthday, Brock and Tara noticed he wasn’t using many words, but it wasn’t until Reagan was born that they realized that something more was going on. “His symptoms didn’t scream at you,” Tara shares. “But when Reagan was born, there was no realization or care about his sister.”

It was at one of Reagan’s first wellness exams that their doctor noticed Logan’s inability to reciprocate attention and referred him to an audiologist and the Thompson Center for Autism and Neurodevelopmental Disorders, an MU-affiliated group that focuses on autism research, training, and service. Within six weeks, the family had a diagnosis. “It went really quick,” Tara says.

Five years later, Logan’s week includes eight hours of applied behavior analysis therapy at home, in addition to two hours of speech therapy and one hour of occupational therapy at the Thompson Center.

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at Precious Hearts Learning Center, a child care program in Columbia.

Tara is thrilled with the resources available in the Columbia area for children with autism, including the schools, the Thompson Center, and Boone County Family Resources.

“Resources are not this accessible and affordable everywhere,” she says. Tara also credits Boone County’s generous funding structure for special needs programs with their family’s ability to access adaptive equipment, therapy, and even orthotics for Logan, which are not covered by their medical insurance.

The Arnetts are grateful to have these resources now, but Tara’s real worries involve what happens later, after Logan finishes school. Much of her hope lies in other people’s acceptance and advocacy for those with disabilities. “Kids and people benefit from relating to those who are different than them,” she says. “It helps so much when other people become the cheerleaders for kids with special needs.”

One such cheerleader in the Arnetts’ life is a college student named Ashley Stevens who helps with Logan’s ABA therapy each week. Rather than focusing on what Logan can’t do, she is excited to see Logan accomplish great things.

In addition to providing therapy, she puts her organizational skills to work scheduling other therapists and assuring that Logan’s room and equipment are in order. “She keeps me sane!”

Tara says.

The family is also grateful for the staff at Precious Hearts, who were not just willing, but enthusiastic to care for Logan during the summer and after school. Tara sees the center as an example of the difference than an accepting and accommodating atmosphere can make for a child with autism. “It’s a different attitude, and that gives me hope,” Tara says.

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like winning a huge battle for us.” Logan is also in his fourth year of swim lessons and close to being an independent swimmer, something he is eager to accomplish.

“Growth comes in spurts,” Tara shares. “We won’t see anything for several weeks, and then we’ll have an explosion.” Right now, Logan is getting better at following directions and listening. Tara also notices a difference in the relationship between Logan and Reagan. “She’s starting to look for attention from him,” she explains, “and he’s a little more willing.”

A moment at a recent family gathering made Tara smile. She looked outside the window and saw her nephew patiently showing Logan how to throw a ball and pet the dog. “He often wants to interact, but he doesn’t know how to put himself in a group or social situation,” she says. In this case, he just needed a little help.

“We’re happy. We live a good life,” Tara says.

“We still celebrate the victories and struggle with the challenges. Ours are just different than most.”

Fostering Independence

Jeff and Dana Sharland share their 16-year journey with daughter Katie’s spinal cord condition. ph otos by A N G E L I Q U E H U N T E R

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ana Sharland sips a cup of coffee, curled up in a chair while her oldest daughter, Amy, feeds her daughter, Aster, nearby.

Søren, the oldest grandchild, builds Legos at the table while Dana’s husband, Jeff, strolls in after attending a men’s Bible study.

Dana occasionally receives texts from their other daughter, Katie, who is struggling to reach her office because of a broken elevator. That presents a challenge for 25-year-old Katie, who has been confined to a wheelchair since the third grade.

Dana takes a deep breath as she recounts the events of March 2, 2000 that changed their family forever.

“Katie was attending Fairview Elementary and getting ready for a play when her arms went completely stiff,” Dana recalls. “They took her to the nurse’s office, and, within 20 minutes, she was paralyzed from the waist down.”

To this day, the doctors still don’t agree on Katie’s diagnosis: some believe she has an inflammation of the spinal cord called transverse myelitis; others believe she had a stroke.

Katie spent two weeks in the ICU before moving to Rusk Rehabilitation Center for six weeks. There, she was put in a wheelchair with her head strapped in. “She was just so glad to be mobile,” says Dana, “that she took off.”

The weeks at Rusk were spent in occupational and physical therapy, where Katie relearned everything, including how to hold her head up and how to use her left hand to eat. “The big fear after Katie came home was that it could happen again,” Dana explains.

“Whatever it was,” Jeff chimes in. “We were operating in unknown land. It was so complex. Her condition was so real, yet no one knew what it was.”

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“Now they know that transverse myelitis only happens once,” Amy says. “But we didn’t know that then.”

The family had to overcome practical challenges in addition to Katie’s physical obstacles. Jeff had to buy an old, clunky van to move Katie home. Eventually, a family friend purchased and donated a nicer handicapaccessible minivan. Friends also helped tear down the Sharlands’ deck, add a ramp, install sliding glass doors, and widen the entrance to Katie’s bedroom. Later, friends again pitched in to install new hardwood floors.

While Katie’s mind continued to function normally, she needed constant physical help. At school someone carried her books, helped her navigate crowded hallways, and even write.

At home, she required help transferring in and out of bed, bathing, getting dressed, preparing meals, and getting in and out of the car. There were seasons she was in and out of the hospital several times a month with kidney or urinary tract infections.

“It was an emotional crisis,” says Dana. “All we could do was respond in the moment.”

Jeff and Dana admit that Amy and her younger brother, Nick, had to feel abandoned because they spent so much time on Katie. “Her situation drew us to a single focus for years,” says Jeff. Looking back, Jeff

and Dana wish they had done more to create a balance in their family, including incorporating Nick and Amy in decisions.

“Rather than pushing them away,” Jeff says, “we should have involved them and created a family unit.”

The Sharlands insisted that Katie live in the dorm while she attended MU, which Jeff calls “one of the best decisions we ever made” because of the independence it instilled in her.

With the financial help of Missouri Vocational

Rehabilitation,

Katie

completed her degree in Personal Finance in 2014, and has since made significant strides in living on her own. In 2015, she secured a loan to buy a house, and the family modified it to fit her needs. While she still leans on family and a personal care assistant for many functions, she can get around on her own, cook for herself, and care for her cats.

Vocational Rehab also connected Katie to Job Point, which helped her create a resume, learn interview skills, and find a job opportunity processing medical claims for the VA. Katie’s challenges have narrowed to everyday obstacles, like using the bus system. “Now, we deal with a lot of logistics,” Dana shares, “all the time, every day.”

WHAT’S NEXT FOR KATIE? Upcoming challenges include buying a car and having it modified so Katie can drive. “It’s just one more step toward independence,” Jeff says. Katie recently received her driver’s permit and has been taking lessons, researching adaptive cars, and saving her money.

“She gets stuck and doesn’t want to be a burden,” Dana adds. “If she could drive, it would remove obstacles for her social independence and change her world.”

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Kyle and Andrea Lisenby embrace the uniqueness of daughter Logann’s genetic condition. ph otos by L AU R A R OW E

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hen you have a child with special needs, there’s more of everything,” says Andrea Lisenby, who took a break from her responsibilities as community involvement manager and co-owner of Plaza Dental Group and mother of three small children to meet at Panera Bread and share her family’s story.

“There are more doctor appointments, more bills, more emotional ups and downs,” she explains. “There’s just more.”

Andrea is quick to add that there are also more family adventures, more connections with new people, and definitely more dimples.

Andrea and her husband, Kyle, who is a dentist and co-owner at Plaza, are the parents of Noelle, age 6, Logann, age 4, and Jaxon, who turns 1 this fall. The siblings share the same bright eyes, wide grins, and positive attitudes. Having three kids has rounded out their family, making them feel full and complete. “Noelle is the best big sister ever, and it’s fun to see Logann have a friend and playmate in Jaxon,” she shares.

The only thing there seems to be less of in the Lisenbys’ life these days is predictability. Andrea smiles as she pulls out two thick, brightly colored planners from her purse. “The ‘more’ in our life is unstructured and unknown, so we just go with it.”

The Lisenby’s need for structure was heightened when Logann was born with a small head size, difficulty breathing, no sucking reflex, and an underdeveloped brain and spine.

Logann

“Logann doesn’t have a specific diagnosis other than genetic abnormality,” Andrea says.

“Her condition doesn’t even have a name. Her particular chromosomal deletion has never been identified anywhere in the world, ever.”

From her first days at home, Logann started with early intervention services such as physical, occupational, and speech therapy. She worked for hours each day on how to chew, grasp toys, roll over, sit up, and crawl, things other children learn to do on their own.

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A strong and determined little girl, Logann mastered crawling at age 2 and can now walk independently. She weighs 24 pounds and can communicate using 15 verbal words, 10 signs, and lots of pointing.

“Her growth is amazing,” says Andrea. “When she was born, the doctors weren’t sure if she would ever learn to eat, walk, or speak.” Today, Logann is learning new skills like dressing herself, coloring, and stacking blocks.

Andrea is thankful for all the resources afforded to their family the last four years. Their small group from The Crossing showed up at the hospital when Logann was born. Missouri First Steps, an early intervention system, evaluated their situation and recommended services that would help Logann’s development.

Gerti Motavalli, one of their physical therapists, introduced Andrea to moms in similar situations, and the women began meeting together for support.

“We take time to celebrate the small victories,” Andrea says, “and we lean on God and others a lot.”

Logann still participates in therapy each week and attends the early childhood special education program at New Haven Elementary School Monday through Thursday. On Fridays, she takes part in Discovery Days, at the Missouri United Methodist Church, where she socializes with other kids her age without therapy or any special arrangements.

“On Friday, she gets to experience a typical preschool play day,” Andrea says. “It’s important to us that she gets to engage in both assistive and nonassistive social environments.”

Logann also participates in DanceAbility, a program designed by the School of Missouri Contemporary Ballet that gives students with special needs the opportunity to explore the world of dance. “She loves it,” Andrea says, sharing a video of Logann in her pink leotard, her arms and brown curls bouncing to the music.

Andrea describes Logann as a light to those around her and is amazed at the way she brings

people together. “The kids on our street wait in line to play with her,” Andrea says. “She truly is one of a kind. Everyone around us loves her for who she is.”

WHAT’S NEXT FOR LOGANN? Logann started pre-K this fall, Jaxon will celebrate his first birthday, and the dental practice plans to expand into a fourth suite. The Lisenby family

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calendar is full of Noelle’s soccer matches, MU football games, the Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival, and trips to Branson and Ohio. “We love fall,” says Andrea. “We love to be out and about as a family.”

Kyle and Andrea are determined to embrace life to its fullest. “We are not embarrassed by our situation, and we don’t compare our family to others,” Andrea says. “Every family has its own uniqueness. This just happens to be ours.”

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MOM IN THE MIDDLE

BEYOND ICON

LESSONS IN SOCIAL MEDIA Is the we b wor l d re a l l y s o n a s ty ?

by J I L L O R R

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arenting in the age of social media is a tricky business. Most of us with kids who are old enough to use it did not grow up using it ourselves, so we are learning about social media at the same time as our children — only we’re learning it slower and much more clumsily.

We are like the blind leading the blind-butinfinitely-more-tech-savvy.

But lead them we must, because while our kids may understand the actual technology better, our wisdom (read: misspent youth) allows us to see the implications of that technology more clearly.

And what is parenting teenagers if not terrifying them about the implications of their actions?

So how do we help our kids navigate the murky waters of connecting online when we only have the most tenuous understanding of it ourselves?

We start by assessing what we do and do not know.

What We Know We all know Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you’re a book nerd, like me, you may know Goodreads. And you’ve probably heard of Snapchat. But of those six, only three are relevant to kids under the age of 21. Facebook is the social media equivalent of mom jeans, and Twitter might as well be Actuarial Weekly in terms of how much interest my kids have in it. Both my children gave me blank stares when I mentioned Goodreads, but when I asked about Instagram and Snapchat, their eyes flashed with a possessive glint. “Yeah, people use those. So what? Why are you asking?” Ah hello, defensiveness, my old friend. Your arrival always lets me know I’ve hit upon something good. Time to delve more . . .

What We Don’t Know So according to my focus group of 12- to 14-year-olds with the last name Orr, Instagram and Snapchat are the two main forms of social media used by tweens and younger teens. (They use YouTube too, but in a strictly voyeuristic way.) I wanted to know how these platforms were being used, or rather misused, amongst their peer groups. Because naturally, as a parent, I’m always looking for the fly in the ointment, the bully in the lunchroom, the Band-Aid in

the pool water. It never occurred to me to ask how social media enriched their lives, but that’s a story for another day.

ME: Hi guys! How was your day?

KIDS: I thought we weren’t doing that anymore.

ME: Oh, right. So anyway . . . I was just wondering, have you guys, like, been involved with any drama as a result of stuff people post on Instagram or Snapchat?

KIDS: Um, no, not really.

ME: Really? Like, no one has gotten their feelings hurt about anything . . . like maybe someone posts about being at a party and someone who wasn’t invited feels left out?

KIDS: No. ME: Huh? So you haven’t heard of anyone getting bullied or made fun of on social media?

That’s weird . . .

KIDS: Why is that weird?

ME: Because you hear about it on the news all the time. (Note: I always say I hear things “on the news” when I want to lend gravitas to my own suspicions.) You know, kids getting harassed online — Savannah Guthrie just did a whole story on it on the “Today” show . . .

KIDS: Then maybe you should talk to Savannah Guthrie.

Drat! Foiled again! For whatever reason, my kids don’t feel like sharing the dark realities that I am convinced lurk in the shadows of their online worlds. And this is part of the problem. As adults, we don’t really know what goes on with our kids via social media. As with their IRL interactions, we only know what they choose to share with us. Of course, we can (and should) follow them, read their posts and comments, but this only gives us part of the picture. Most of them are smart enough to know we’re watching.

So I’m convinced only half of the negative issues that arise from social media happen on the platforms themselves. The rest happen old school, with people talking behind other people’s backs, gossiping, spreading rumors, etc.

And, as far as I know, there haven’t been any technological advances to help eradicate that kind of nonsense.

So my take-away here is that we as parents needn’t worry if we don’t know the difference between a like and a share, a tweet and a tag, or how to use the dog filter on Snapchat. Sure, there are specific dangers inherent in misusing social media (like the whole it-never-goes-away thing), but, generally speaking, the most important lessons our kids need in regards to using social media are the exact same as the lessons they need to become decent human beings. Be kind, be respectful, don’t be a douchebag, listen to your mother, etc. Because when you say something hurtful to somebody else — whether you post it online, write it in a note, or whisper it in someone’s ear — the implication is the same. What’s wrong in real life is wrong on social media. And that’s a truth we don’t need the internet to connect to.

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Jill is a stay-at-home mom of two (an odd title because she is rarely ever at home). In her pre-Mommy days, she graduated from MU with an undergraduate degree in journalism and a master's in social work, with an emphasis on children and family studies. But she wishes she would have gotten a Ph.D. in What's For Dinner and How to Get Bubblegum Out of the Carpet. That would have served her better.

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CONFESSIONS

A WORKING MOM’S “ME TIME” It’s the little things that keep you sane.

by M O N I C A P I T T S

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remember when weekends meant getting lost in a book and lounging in the sun. I consumed chapter after chapter for hours on end. Now, I often feel guilty when I take 15 minutes before bed to read five pages while struggling to keep my eyes open.

There was a time, just five and a half years ago, when I would craft and watch movies until the wee hours of the morning. Now, I keep all those awesome art supplies hidden away in a cabinet, concealed in hard-to-open containers to protect them from my children.

I dream about using them once again in Someday Land.

Gone are the days of lingering in whole weekends and evenings of “me time.” I now consume it in daily fragments. I could mourn the loss of hours of crafting and page turning, but instead, I try, like so many moms do, to find gratitude for the little moments I find.

Those moments, if I’m present for them, can be fortifying, leaving me ready for what’s next. It’s not “me time” in the same way that is was before children, but my life isn’t the same either. Like everything else, “me time” has evolved.

Running without pushing a stroller Once or twice a week, I go running with a friend, and we try with all our might to leave our kids at home. Stroller-free running is liberating.

I can swing my arms. I can run without stopping to break up fights or distribute snacks. The workout is just an added bonus.

The car ride from preschool to work Each morning is its own rodeo, and I’m the bull rider. Sometimes, I get bucked off; sometimes, I joyfully ride ’til the buzzer. The five minutes

it takes to get from preschool to my office are some of the most peaceful moments of my day.

Red lights and road construction don’t frustrate me — they’re liberating in the aftermath of a hectic morning.

Showering Time and water conservation go hand in hand when trying to get in bed early enough to function the next day. But some nights, I sacrifice bedtime (or literally start bathing my kids at 6 p.m.) so I can have a hot shower all to myself. I won’t lie: I’m an overachiever, and I multitask to maximize the moment. I can be found watching “Downton Abbey” or listening to a Janet Evanovich novel while in the shower.

Isn’t that where all moms watch TV?

Doing the dishes Yes, there are nights when my husband and I actually squabble over who washes dishes and who puts the girls to bed. The coveted dishwasher position grants a moment of “me time.” I put in my headphones, dance around the kitchen, and have the opportunity to accomplish a task uninterrupted. I think I actually get an adrenaline rush from the clean counters.

A workout class I don’t have to lead Occasionally, I show up for workout classes and the teacher asks, “What does everybody want to do today?” On those days, I want to cry a little, because the best part of going to a workout class is that I don’t have to make any decisions for the hour I’m there. From start to finish, someone else tells me what to do.

It’s amazing.

Monica is the founder and chief creative officer of MayeCreate Design.

She spends her days brokering a marriage of form and function and creating art with her team to grow businesses through websites and online marketing. By night, she's a story reading, singing, dancing, microwaving mom of two. She and her husband, Mike, have two daughters, Ellis and Aveleen, and two dogs, Maybe and Roxie. Monica considers herself an artist, yogi, and web dork with the ability to speak geek and English.

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My husband asks me, “What exactly do you do up there for 45 minutes when you’re putting the girls to bed?” Answer: I’m taking “me time.” I find few things more relaxing than rocking in a comfortable chair with a sleeping child in my lap and reading a book. I think it’s my version of heaven. Although I’m doing a routine that’s fundamental to the livelihood of my children . . . it’s still all about me.

Yard work Yard work isn’t even work; it’s just plain awesome. I love weeding my flower beds. When Aveleen was a baby, I put her down for naps on the porch so I could spend the entire nap time pulling weeds. Later, when she got bigger, she sat in the baby carrier on my back while I gardened. We called it Pitts Family CrossFit. Now, I have to be a bit more inventive.

Fortunately, a bucket of water or the garden hose can occupy the girls for at least 30 minutes so I can bliss out in the garden.

Cooking without burning I am not a gourmet cook, but there’s something incredibly peaceful about chopping vegetables.

You’ll notice a pattern here, but basically any time I can complete a task uninterrupted, I feel like I’m getting a slice of “me time.” It sometimes seems like cooking involves more running kids to the bathroom or breaking up fights than actual meal prep. While running interference, the water never fails to boil over, or the food gets scorched. Eating a hot meal without burn marks should constitute some type of award.

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in doing everything for everyone else. There aren’t enough date nights and girls’ weekends to keep my glass half full. I’m working to find little moments of peace every day that remind me of the things I love and the people I love so I can continue to be peaceful and loving towards them.

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GOOD DOG A childhood memory of an instant friend.

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was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes when I was 7 years old. A diagnosis of any kind, never mind a chronic one, is scary for such a young person. University Hospital worked hard to keep me and my family informed and comfortable to alleviate my stress and anxiety, but nothing made me feel better than the day the therapy dog came to visit.

After three days in a hospital bed, I was becoming restless and scared — and in walks the biggest dog I had ever seen in my young life. He was a St. Bernard with a red bandana that could have wrapped around me twice. His handler sat on the edge of my bed so I could pet the dog’s head while he talked.

He asked me what my favorite food was (tomatoes).

He asked me what my least favorite food was (brussels sprouts).

The handler asked me to assign one of the foods to each of two treats while the dog was outside of the room. When the dog came back, the handler asked him to eat my favorite food.

I fully believed the dog was magic when he ate the tomato treat.

This wonderful visit cured me of my nerves.

I almost immediately felt better. Instead of being worried about my future with diabetes, I was giddy with affection and awe for this massive animal.

According to the CDC, my experience was not unique. Having a pet or interacting with a therapy animal can decrease your blood pressure, cholesterol, and triglyceride levels, and therapy animals can ease feelings of loneliness and depression. Pets (especially dogs) also increase your likelihood of exercising and getting outside. Dogs (and sometimes cats) are even known to sniff out cancer, low blood sugar, and oncoming seizures.

Having a pet not only teaches responsibility, cures loneliness, and provides unconditional love; it makes us healthier people.

More Than a Friend While her painful loss wouldn’t just disappear, she did gain a sense of purpose and, of course, a whole lot of love.

But, as we all know, life seldom goes according to plan, and her challenges continued.

Battle No. 2 came in the form of cancer. This new fight would be so draining and difficult that it made simple tasks, like getting out of bed, nearly impossible.

But that poodle, now an adult, still needed her, and it was this responsibility and focus that gave her purpose. She had a reason to fight the cancer, and she did. And she won.

Like the old saying goes (I think), “Love is a four-legged word!”

As a mobile pet groomer, I’m in people’s homes on a daily basis, so I see firsthand how much these pets add to the quality of life for many of my clients. We now know that there are tremendous emotional benefits to having a special furry friend, and studies tell us that the physical benefits are equally important. I have one client in particular who substantiates both theories.

This client lost her husband, and, after he died, she was so devastated she couldn’t bring herself to go back home. Six months later, she added a small, fluffy white poodle to her life. It was only then that she was able to return.

This little puppy would go on change her life in so many ways.

Josie Mickey If someone had told me that I would grow up to own a small business and groom dogs, I would have thought they were crazy. I mean, who does that for a living? Well, for the past 20-plus years, I have been doing exactly that and have enjoyed (almost) every minute of it. As the owner of The Pet Fair, I love perfecting my craft and building a trustworthy home away from home for our resort guests.

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BODY LOVE Embrace your curves, your skin, yourself — today!

by C A S S I DY S H E A R R E R

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’m a pretty happy person, but even I have whispers in the corner of my psyche telling me, “You’d have a better love life if you just lost some weight.”

We all have our mean little lies our heads tell us.

For example, one of my favorite fictional characters is Eddie Monsoon, from the British sitcom “Absolutely Fabulous.”

Eddie is funny to me because she vocally struggles with body image the same way I do in my thoughts. One of her better quotes is, “In this body, there is a thin person dying to get out!” I can relate to that.

But Eddie obsesses over it. Her whole life revolves around the fashion industry, and her weight complex drives her to the point of ruining her career. What Eddie fails to remember is that she’s a funny lady. She has qualities

unrelated to physical appearance that make her a super fun person to be around.

The thing is, everyone’s best version of themselves should be a little different. Eddie (and many people who aren’t fictional) has tied up her self-worth in an unattainable body type that she sees in the fashion industry.

But she has so much more to offer than that. We shouldn’t all conform to the same body type — we can’t! Plus, that would be so boring.

And why waste time in a foul mood because you don’t have the perfect thighs? Even if you attained some air-brushed perfection, you’re going to age. And besides, the norm is different everywhere.

I’ve seen men in business suits rocking nose rings in Madrid. In Washington state, Patagonia is practically office-casual. In the

1920s, the ideal body was stick thin; now, a thick behind is the height of popular sexiness.

There is no need to conform to the nearest norm, or the face you see in the media. You can make up your own norm. A norm that fits you and your body type.

That said, it’s okay to want to change. Being healthy is a goal we should all strive for. But you can want to change and still see the beauty in exactly what you are today.

It helps to curate the people you listen to and take advice from. We live in an age of information, and we have so many experts at our disposal. We just need to listen to the right ones.

So where do you go for inspiration while working out all the ways you love your body?

FE E LI N G G O O D O N SO CI A L M E D I A Isabel Foxen Duke: @isabelfoxenduke Follow this awesome lady for good body vibes. She posts gems like: “You don’t have to be pretty like her. You can be pretty like you.”

Sam Johnson: @Samjohnsonwrites She survived an eating disorder and uses her Instagram to inspire people to redefine what “fit” is. Favorite one-liner?

“The best thing I ever did myself was to stop living in fear, and start living with love.”

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Record Recovery Help balance emotions and thoughts as they pertain to the food you eat. A wonderful tool for those of us who deal with eating disorders.

ThinkUp Record affirmations in your own voice for those moments when you aren’t feeling your most confident. It can be so empowering to hear yourself say, “I am blessed to be aging” or, “I love my body as it is today.”

DANCE IT OUT Making self-care a part of your daily routine can help reframe the way you look at your body. Instead of listening to inner doubt, set yourself up for success by making a positive playlist to up your confidence before leaving the house. Some of my favorites include: • Frazey Ford’s “Done.” Ward off the haters in your life, and check out a music video that will make you want to embrace your personal fashion style.

• Beyonce’s “Flawless.” Need a confidence boost? Take on Queen Bey’s personality and remind yourself that you wake up looking flawless. You look so good tonight!

• Mika’s “Big Girl (You Are Beautiful)” Sometimes it is nice to hear a different narrative than the one that Eddie fixates on (thin model). Mika (today's Freddie Mercury) says big girls have curves in all the right places.

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The Detox Dilemma

Separating fact from fad.

by M E G A N W H I T E H E A D

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ieting has been part of our lives for centuries, with fad diets becoming part of popular culture in the late ’80s. We’ve gone from carb cutting to paleo to volumetrics with some truly crazy diets in between. One method of “healthy living” that has lately increased in popularity is detoxing.

WHAT IS IT? Detoxing tries to rid the body of harmful or toxic chemicals by drinking or eating certain things. A few examples: drinks made from lemon juice, cayenne pepper, and maple syrup; fruit and vegetable smoothies; and specially formulated juices infused with vitamins.

Different products and approaches are each meant to cleanse different parts of your body, including the colon, liver, kidneys, and skin.

WHY DETOX? The CDC compiled a report in 2010 on the different chemicals found in our bodies. 212 chemicals were found, including: • Acrylamide — found in secondhand smoke and fried foods • Arsenic — well-known toxin formerly found in rat poison • Environmental phenols – found in plastics, resins, toothpaste, and hand soap • Perchlorate – found in explosives and airplane fuel • Perfluorinated chemicals – found in nonstick cookware • Polybrominated diphenyl ethers – found in mattresses and fire retardants • Volatile organic compounds – found in paints, air fresheners, cleaning products, cosmetics, upholstery fabrics, carpets, dry-cleaned clothing, wood preservatives, and paint strippers (list from The Huffington Post).

The popularity of detoxing has increased with the endorsements of celebrities like Beyonce, Gwyneth Paltrow, Anne Hathaway, and more. With the prevalence of preservatives and chemicals in food and other daily products, knowing how our bodies react is an understandable concern. Cleansing and detoxing, by name alone, sound appealing: ridding your body of these artificial chemicals and toxins with a 48-hour or three-day process seems like a quick and easy way to live a healthier, happier life.

DOES IT WORK? The conclusion of many nutritionists, dieticians, and doctors is that while detoxing isn’t harmful, it isn’t useful.

The benefits seen after cleansing or detoxing comes more from what you are eliminating from your lifestyle (alcohol, tobacco, junk food) than the ridding of toxins. Your body, through your liver, kidneys, and other organs, naturally removes harmful substances. The different cleansing products (juices, smoothies, etc.) do not actually jumpstart or affect these natural processes.

According to the Mayo Clinic’s Katherine Zeratsky: “Some people report feeling more focused and energetic during and after detox diets.

While detoxing isn’t harmful, it isn’t useful.

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However, there’s little evidence that detox diets actually remove toxins from the body. Indeed, the kidneys and liver are generally quite effective at filtering and eliminating most ingested toxins.”

Keri Glassman, a registered dietician, gave CBS’s “The Early Show” her problems with detoxing: • They can cause people to lose weight too quickly.

• People will then put weight back on.

• Many of the diets lack essential nutrients.

• Many of them cause the loss of electrolytes.

• Side effects could include fatigue, headaches, vomiting, and nausea.

• Some diets mean you starve your body.

There’s no scientific evidence to suggest our bodies need help to get rid of waste products if we’re healthy, and there’s little proof to support the claims that detox diets work. If someone follows a strict detox diet over the long-term, it could lead to nutrient deficiencies and health problems; however, if used for a short time, a detox or cleanse can jumpstart a lifestyle change, rather than a physical change.

SHOULD YOU DETOX? Be smart. As with most diets, you should consult your doctor before changing your eating habits drastically. If coupled with a wellbalanced diet and proper nutrients, a detox can benefit your frame of mind when attempting to create a healthier lifestyle.

Do not cleanse for long periods of time.

Cleanse for a couple days at most. The only proven way to build and maintain a truly healthy lifestyle is to eat a balanced diet and exercise.

Do your research. Look into the different methods of detoxing or cleansing and decide which one suits your tastes and lifestyle the best. Nothing works if it doesn’t fit.

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Three Detox Myths from Women’s Health

DETOX MYTH 1: Certain liquid diets can push out toxins.

Nope. No fad diet can eliminate harmful invaders faster than your built-in clean-up crew (the liver, kidneys, and colon). “The best ‘cleansing’ strategy is a proper diet, regular exercise, and not smoking,” says Stephen Dahmer, M.D.

DETOX MYTH 2:

Drinking loads of

water detoxes the body.

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dangerous. Symptoms of “water intoxication” include headache, fatigue, vomiting, and mental disorientation. “Drink nine 8-ounce glasses of water spaced throughout the day,” says Connie Diekman, R.D.

DETOX MYTH 3:

You can sweat out

toxins with serious sauna time.

It’s true that a small amount of toxins can leave the body via perspiration, but keep this in mind: “Very heavy sweating can impair the body’s natural detox system, making it less efficient,” says Dahmer. “You’ll do more detoxing in the bathroom than you ever could in a sauna.”

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everything, both negatively and positively.

And we’ve all witnessed others who are the epitome of using their “control” for their own good — from the way they dress, the way they feel, even their overall happiness and their smile!

I recommend a great book by neurologist Dr. Caroline Leaf called “Switch on Your Brain.”

She discusses how she uses the process of changing negative thoughts to positive ones and how this then changes your physical state of health. It’s an easy read, but highly impactful.

By using the practice of ayurveda,

As an esthetician and cosmetologist, I spend a lot of time taking care of my clients’ outward appearance — but there are limitations. So when opening my business, I wanted to do things differently, not just focusing on the outside, but the inside as well — a total wellness concept.

I’m not just talking about diet and nutrition.

I’m talking about the state of the mind, body, and spirit. If we don’t have the right focus or attitude about the life we live, we often don’t eat right, rest well, or feel good about the way we look. Beauty is something everyone possesses. But beautiful is how we want to feel each day.

The good news? We can literally change our physical state of health by changing our thoughts. We all know that our mind controls

Marcie Olivas salon/spa owner

Passionate about the art of cosmetology, Marcie is also highly respected for her expertise as a Matrix artistic designer and as a master colorist. She’s consulted Miss USA delegates, directed photo shoots and bridal fashion shows, and consulted on various magazines. She has earned her CIDESCO Diplomate certification and has extensive knowledge in skin care.

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a 5,000-year-old natural healing system, in conjunction with yoga, nutrition, and great skin and hair care products and services, we’ve developed a total wellness concept. We call this Regeneration Salon & Spa + Wellness.

Based on the premise that none of us can control all of life’s situations, this concept focuses on things we can control — which can then lead us to better overall wellness.

There’s a desirable balance in everything we do. You just have to find the balance for you.

While it’s not magic or easy, if you: • reduce stress • increase positive thinking • increase physical activity • meditate • practice breath control • improve nutritional habits • make time for good self-care (hair, massage, facials, makeup, skin care) then you can transform beauty to beautiful!

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DOC TALK Columbia is fortunate to have access to some of the nation’s best health care professionals and most cutting edge technology. Learn more about some of the area’s top providers in this special section.

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Always fascinated by the field of medicine, Dr. Janzen thoroughly enjoys how medicine continues to evolve. He also finds working with people and helping them live longer, healthier lives highly rewarding. Dr. Janzen is proficient in technological advances, such as the Ocelot Device, a medical breakthrough that uses inferred imaging to open blockages in the leg and helps reduce the risk of losing a limb.

Dr. Govindarajan and his team take great pride in providing compassionate, patientcentered care.

As part of midMissouri’s most comprehensive group of neurological experts, Dr. Govindarajan treats patients with Parkinson’s disease, ALS, muscular dystrophy, stroke, epilepsy and sleep disorders. He derives great pleasure in providing world-class care in Columbia. Influenced early in life by a compassionate cardiologist, Dr. Govindarajan knew he, too, wanted to be the kind of doctor who was loved by all and who could save lives.

A native of British Columbia, Canada, Dr. Janzen completed his general surgery residency at Cleveland Clinic Foundation - Huron, and his vascular surgery fellowship at University of Missouri where he is now the assistant clinical professor of vascular and endovascular surgery. His interests include varicose veins, vascular imaging, carotid artery surgery and endovascular surgery.

Originally from Bangalore, India, Dr. Govindarajan completed medical school at Bangalore University, a residency at Washington University School of Medicine- Cleveland Clinic and a fellowship at Washington University. As an assistant professor of neurology for the MU School of Medicine, one of his greatest enjoyments is seeing medical students’ excitement as they learn something new.

An avid pilot, Dr. Janzen has piloted an airplane from coast to coast this year. He is also interested in archery and can actually ride a unicycle!

He and his wife have a son and a daughter.

An avid golfer, Dr. Govindarajan also enjoys all kinds of music, but especially classic rock. Family is the bedrock on which he built his career and he considers his mother his true source of inspiration, attributing his success to her influence.

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Originally from Seoul, South Korea, Dr. An convinced her parents to allow her to attend high school in Canada. Few thought she’d stay long, but two decades later Dr. An was the beneficiary of one of the best training programs Canada offers, which provided her with valuable clinical and surgical skills. Her mission now is to help make the MU Health Care’s Mason Eye Institute one of the nation’s best in teaching and patient care, a goal Dr. An and her team work toward every day.

Dr. Thies inherited her love for medicine from her father, a rural Missouri doctor.

Through him, she learned that medicine provides endless opportunities to help others and make a true difference in their lives. Enjoying a reputation for providing clarity to her patients and listening to their concerns, Dr. Thies believes in empowering her patients to make educated medical decisions for themselves. Establishing a relationship of trust and respect, her door is always open to her patients.

Dr. An completed medical school at the McGill University Faculty of Medicine and a Glaucoma and Advanced Anterior Segment Surgery (GAASS) fellowship at the University of Toronto.

The love of a challenge and learning new things, along with helping people attracted her into the field of medicine.

Dr. Thies completed medical school at Kansas City University of Medicine and Biosciences and a residency at the University of Missouri Health Care.

She also has a doctorate degree in structural engineering and actually designed stadiums and arenas for ten years before the fear of flying necessitated a career change.

While her family still resides in Seoul, Dr. An stays close to her parents and brothers through Skype. In her spare time Dr. An enjoys reading, yoga and spending time with friends. She also plays the violin and recently joined the Columbia Civic Orchestra.

A highly competitive tennis player, Dr. Thies is also interested in painting, landscape projects, spending time with her family and dogs. Married for twenty nine years, she and her husband have a son and daughter.

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Dr. Bridgeman is the director of the hand and upper extremity division at the Missouri Orthopaedic Institute. He specializes in hand, upper extremity, and microvascular surgery. He provides a wide range of upper extremity care including fractures, nerve injuries, carpal tunnel surgery, sports injuries, and pediatric hand problems. He is co-director of the limb preservation team which helps patients who have lost function from injury and may need an amputation.

As the Director of the Division of Gynecologic Oncology with MU Health Care, Dr. Mark Hunter’s training on robotic surgery combined with his interest in technology, invention and biomedical engineering make him a very unique surgeon. He is highly specialized on the da Vinci Surgical System, performing minimally invasive surgery that offers an alternative to traditional and laparoscopic surgeries.

Although well versed in the highly technical aspects of treating his patients, Dr. Hunter and his team provide their patients with friendship, support and dignity as they undergo treatment. He enjoys using his creative talents to help ease suffering and is wholly dedicated to the art and science of oncology.

Dr. Bridgeman is proud to bring his expertise in this complex field to MU Health Care and increase the availability for this in mid-Missouri.

A native of Plano, Texas, Dr. Bridgeman graduated medical school at Creighton University School of Medicine. He completed his residency in orthopedic surgery at Penn State University’s Milton S. Hershey Medical Center. His fellowship in hand and microvascular surgery was completed at the University of Washington/Harborview Medical Center.

Originally from Los Angeles, California, Dr. Hunter graduated medical school at the University of California School of Medicine and has now been with MU Health Care for eight years. Hobbies include reading, writing and finding time to relax on any beach as well as tinkering with computer chips and robotic parts.

Dr. Bridgeman and his wife, also a physician, have three daughters. He enjoys camping, fishing and hunting, as well as watching college football.

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Growing up in Benin, a small West African country, and immigrating to the US at 17-years-old, Dr. Ilboudo has always had a strong desire to improve the health and well-being of children around the world and to be an advocate for their needs. It’s also important to her that her patients feel treated as individuals, each with a unique set of challenges, fears and hope. She wants them to always feel heard and helped by the relationship they have with her.

As an otolaryngologist, Dr. Dooley is trained in the treatment of patients with diseases and disorders of the ear, nose and throat, as well as related structures of the head and neck. Specializing in head and neck oncology, she and her team are dedicated to caring for cancer patients in a multi-discipline setting. Their goal is to achieve the best outcome, with the best long-term function.

Specializing in pediatric infectious diseases, she has interests in emerging infectious diseases and immunizations as well as antimicrobial stewardship.

Dr. Dooley completed medical school at the University of Missouri Health Care, residency at the University of Louisville, and a fellowship at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York. She is an assistant professor of otolaryngology head and neck surgery at the MU School of Medicine.

An assistant professor of Clinical Child Health, Dr. Ilboudo completed medical school at the University of Nebraska and her fellowship at University of Missouri-Kansas City. She especially enjoys improving the way health care is delivered and educating future doctors.

Originally from Warrenton, Missouri, Dr. Dooley enjoys exploring the various outdoor activities in and around Columbia, including hiking and kayaking. She has two young boys who also enjoy being outdoors and spending time in the many parks of Columbia.

She and her husband have two-anda-half-year-old twins who keep them quite busy. She enjoys traveling and spending time with family, when time allows.

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Today’s world is uniquely different from that of our parents.

With advanced technology, the way we communicate is immediate and verifiable.

Information is available at the simplest request.

Results and endproducts can be efficient, healthier, safer, expedited, and reliable.

Like today’s world, we all want the newest technological advances with the security of proven safety. At our dental office, you can have both. We offer low-radiation, high-resolution digital radiography and the added benefit that all information sharing with other specialists is through Televox secure messaging, which meets all HIPAA privacy standards. We have the use of laser, computerized chairside records, and now you can ask us about digital scanning and singleappointment crowns. This exciting option means not having a temporary fitted to your tooth and waiting several weeks before final fitting, but in-office production of a beautiful, well-fitting crown or bridge and its immediate placement.

If you need a simple root canal, we no longer are confined to standard hand-filing procedures but can treat your tooth with precision rotary instruments that lead to healthier outcomes.

Advanced, safe technology makes our dentistry extremely efficient and reliable, but we are truly set apart by who we are. Dr. Lyle combines 32 years of dental experience, a background of ICU nursing and an empathetic style of care that can transform a dental visit into a meaningful healthcare experience. Dr. Tegerdine brings fresh perspectives and knowledge of the newest techniques after completing a comprehensive residency in Advanced General Dentistry. Her energy and enthusiasm is rounded out by a desire to have a long term relationship with you. The entire staff is committed to serving our clients with accuracy, safety and respect.

What do we do throughout the day but don’t seem to get right? Breathing!

Dysfunctional breathing patterns are a topic that’s been gaining momentum and simply means we breathe without using the right muscles.

To assess breathing, the patient takes a deep breath with one hand on their chest and one on their belly. Ideally, the belly hand should protrude and the chest hand should “wiggle” or oscillate. This is called diaphragmatic breathing.

The diaphragm is the main muscle of respiration and most of us do not know how to use it.

Instead, we see what is called “chest breathing” where the chest hand rises upwards with little movement from the belly hand. This becomes a problem because we essentially start breathing with our “back-up” muscles of respiration.

When these back-up muscles are overworked, it can lead neck pain, TMJ dysfunction, tension headaches, chest pain, and upper back pain. Also, when the diaphragm deviates from its normal duties, we are setting ourselves up for low back pain because of its vital role in core and low back stability.

Posture and lifestyles pull our bodies into disadvantageous positions. Just look at a teenager watching TV. We also live in a constant state of inhalation, meaning we don’t expire all the air out of our lungs. This can lead to an increased sympathetic response resulting in anxiety, tension, and eventually fatigue.

So what can you do? First, get assessed.

Proper breathing and posture can go a long way in assuring a healthy quality of life. After that, practice and dedication will ultimately lead to a much more functional person.

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Eating healthy is often associated with being pricey but if planned right, anyone can eat healthy foods without the financial strain.

Here are some tips to get you started.

Eat: The grocery industry invests millions into marketing their products. To help fight urges, eat before going. Spontaneous buying adds to a bill.

Plan Meals: Plan your meals for the week, then make your list. Check in your pantry and fridge to see what you already have to ensure you only purchase what is needed. By planning more, you eliminate impulse buying.

Don’t Deviate: Once you’ve made your list, do not deviate from the list.

Food Prep: Cooking at home is much cheaper than eating out. Cook a week’s worth of lunches in one day by prepping your food ahead of time.

Buy Whole Foods: Whole foods trump processed foods. Not only are they healthier, they tend to be cheaper.

Shop Local: Local produce that is in season is more nutrient dense and generally cheaper.

Opt for Frozen Fruits and Vegetables: Fresh fruits and vegetables are usually seasonal and sometimes rather expensive. Frozen is cheaper, available all year and usually sold in large bags.

Plus, you cut down on produce waste.

Use these tips to make healthy eating affordable.

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LIFE COACHING

THE GREAT ILLUSION

F i nd i n g pe a ce s t a r t s wi t h l os i n g control .

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anaging situations works; controlling them does not.

Control is an illusion. Most of what people try to control is out of their control, and people often spend much of their lives continuing in their effort to control situations that will never be controlled.

“Someday I will get a handle on this,” they think.

But that “someday” never arrives.

The desire to be in control implies that situations in our lives are out of control. We can’t always win these. The best tools we’ve got, however, are management and being in charge, which mean that we’re doing the best we can with what we’ve got in any particular moment.

We can influence situations. This again allows us to feel “in charge” of our life. Who we are being in a situation has a significant impact.

Imagine you are in a serious discussion with a colleague and have very different positions on the best approach to solve a problem.

Underneath the surface, you may begin feeling angry, overwhelmed, untrusting, irritated, or intimidated. What often follows these emotions is a pattern of acting defensive, suspicious, and arrogant, perhaps even becoming a bit overbearing and, often, closed off. You may try to control the outcome, thinking that it’s the best way to protect your position. This “control,” however, is an illusion and never really resolves the situation in a healthy, positive manner.

How different might it be if we went into the same conversation being open, undefended, curious, and grounded? Take a moment to think about this approach in a situation to which you can relate. You can almost feel, see, or hear the difference in the outcome, can’t you?

When I visualize control, I see a fist clenched, holding on tight. There’s not much give and take. It’s like holding your breath when you’re scared. Control stymies creativity.

However, when we come from a position of personal power, we are able to stay grounded, be receptive, and influence the direction and

Three Ways to Release Control Relax: Take three deep breaths before you begin the conversation.

Receive: Be open to hear and consider the other person’s position.

Respond: Give yourself time to go inside and do a self-check.

Take one more deep breath, then respond.

outcome we desire. This is true for interaction with your colleagues, and equally so with your partners. It can even empower your kiddos. Most importantly, perhaps, this lifestyle of managing situations and being in charge (instead of feeling an impulse to control) can bring a new strength and calmness to your life. Being in charge is so much healthier than trying to control.

Whether we are attempting to be in control or be powerful, there is no assurance that things will turn out the way we want. But releasing control is not resignation; it is not throwing in the towel. Rather, it’s accepting that situations don’t always go as planned. It doesn’t dampen our passion for competing, fine-tuning our skills,

or winning. It’s just a fact of life. But there’s good news: by releasing the negative energy used to control circumstances, you have more energy and skills to be fully engaged, which leads to a greater possibility for success.

Consider asking yourself this: What would my life be like without being in control? Notice how your body responds. Do you tense up, holding your breath? If so, take a take a deep, cleansing breath, then ask yourself this: What would my life be like if I were managing?

There is such great opportunity for freedom and liberation when approaching life with an open stance, receptive to the flow and power of the universe.

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Carolyn Paris works with high performers who are “up to something.” As an executive consultant and coach, she helps her clients create more balance, fun, and satisfaction so they can experience sustainable success. The remainder of the time, you may find Carolyn riding her bike on the trail, scuba diving in beautiful oceans, or, her favorite, playing with her grandson.

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C A L E N DA R / O CTO B ER 2016 OCTOBER 1 Fall Festival and Chili Supper, Midway Heights Elementary School, $5, 573-864-5077 Roots N Blues N BBQ Half Marathon and 10K, $55 to $75, Stephens Lake Park, 7 a.m., rootsnbluesnbbq.com OCTOBER 6 “Once,” a musical presented by the University Concert Series, $30 to $50, Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m., concertseries.org OCTOBER 7 First Fridays in the North Village Arts District, North Village Arts District, 6 to 9 p.m., northvillageartsdistrict.org Harold’s Doughnuts presents the Love Your Craft Fest, Locust and Elm streets in front of Shakespeare’s Pizza, 3 to 11 p.m., loveyourcraftfest.com OCTOBER 7-16 Mid-Missouri Innovation Week Bringing Up Business, bringupbiz.org OCTOBER 8 7th Annual Harvest Hootenanny, Columbia Center for Urban Agriculture, 3 to 8 p.m., columbiaurbanag.org/this-years-hoot 7th Annual Pink Pursuit…It’s Not So Trivial! crawl, The District, 5 to 10 p.m., pinkpursuit.org Thon for Kids, a fundraiser for ACTS and Rainbow House, Rocheport trailhead of the Katy Trail, 7 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., 314-307-6879 OCTOBER 8-9 Hartsburg Pumpkin Festival, Hartsburg, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., facebook.com/ harstburgpumpkinfestival OCTOBER 9 Out of the Darkness Walk, a fundraiser for the mid-Missouri chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, Stephens Lake Park, 2 to 5 p.m., 573-864-0182 OCTOBER 10 Job Point’s Company Feud, presented by Joe Machens Dealerships, Stoney Creek COMO L I V I N G

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Luke Bryan Farm Tour, Centralia, doors open at 5 p.m., show begins at 6 p.m., xorbia.com for tickets OCTOBER 14-15 South East Craft Beer Festival, $45 to $85, N.H. Scheppers Distributing Co., secbeerfest.com OCTOBER 14-16 Artrageous Weekend, The District, all day, artrageousweekends.org OCTOBER 15 Bear Creek Run Half Marathon, AlbertOakland Park, $48, advance registration required, ages 12 and older, como.gov

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2nd Annual Boone County Stables Tour, 9:30 a.m. to 3 p.m., 573-443-8936, BooneHistory.org OCTOBER 15-16 12th Annual Paws in the Park, Stephens Lake Park, 660-882-5050 57th Annual Boone County Art Show, Central Bank of Boone County, part of Artrageous Weekend, Saturday 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. and Sunday 11 a.m. to 4:30 p.m., 573-443-8838 OCTOBER 21 Ales for Alzheimer's 4 Human Scramble, $125, Columbia Country Club, 12 to 6 p.m., Andrew@logboatbrewing.com OCTOBER 23 Donny McCaslin at Murry’s, $20 to $45, 3:30 to 5:30 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m., contact We Always Swing Jazz Series, 573-449-3009 OCTOBER 25 Whiskers and Wine, a fundraiser for the Central Missouri Humane Society, Reynolds Alumni Center, 5:30 p.m., Julie Aber, Julie@cmhspets.org O C T O B E R - 2016

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NOVEMBER 9-13 Antigone, Rhynsburger Theatre, $15, concertseries.org

NOVEMBER 4 First Fridays in the North Village Arts District, North Village Arts District, 6 to 9 p.m., northvillageartsdistrict.org

NOVEMBER 15 Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood LIVE!, $25 to 65, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., concertseries.org

The Price is Right LIVE, Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m., concertseries.org NOVEMBER 4-5 Missouri Contemporary Ballet performance, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., $15 to $40, concertseries.org

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NOVEMBER 5-6 2nd Annual ShowMe Writers Conference 2016, MU Student Center, showmewriters.com NOVEMBER 6 Katy Trail Tunnel Trot, Katy Trail, Rocheport Depot, $25, register by October 23, 573-751-9264

NOVEMBER 17 Choral Union: A German Requiem and Hiob, Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m., $10 to $20, concertseries.org NOVEMBER 19-20 Fall Into Art festival featuring over 60 artists, Parkade Center, fallintoart.org NOVEMBER 24 Turkey Trax 5K, Ultramax Sports, 7 a.m., register before November 16 at turkeytrax.com NOVEMBER 28 “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer,” Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m., $30 to 50, concertseries.org

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BIG BROTHERS BIG SISTERS COUNTDOWN TO KICKOFF Held in partnership with the MU football program, the evening included hors d’oeuvres and beverages, a live and silent auction, and remarks from Mizzou Tigers coach Barry Odom on the 2016 season. Big Brothers Big Sisters is a mentorship program providing children facing adversity with strong and enduring one-onone relationships that change their lives for the better.Â

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RAINBOW HOUSE 2016 GOLF CLASSIC This year’s event celebrated the 26th anniversary of the Rainbow House Golf Classic. Golfers gathered at the Country Club of Missouri for an afternoon filled with food, contests, golfing, and autographs from golfing pros. Rainbow House is a children’s emergency shelter, regional child advocacy center, and homeless youth program serving abused and neglected children as well as families in crisis.

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BOYS AND GIRLS CLUB CHIP IN FORE THE KIDS The Boys and Girls Club hosted the second annual Chip in Fore the Kids, a four-person scramble golf tournament. Over 44 teams competed, snacked, and socialized on the blue sky day at Columbia Country Club, and 11 Mizzou athletes joined in on the fun. The Boys and Girls Club of Columbia serves over 700 children from low income, single parent households by providing a safe place to learn and grow after school and during the summer months.

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COUPLE YOU SHOULD KNOW Tod d a nd Kr i s t i n Ol i ve r Dr. Todd Oliver is a fracture specialist at Columbia Orthopaedic Group. Dr. Kristin Oliver is a sports medicine and regenerative orthopedic specialist at Bluetail Medical Group.

The two have been married for six years and have a fun-loving and energetic relationship.

Meet Todd and Kristin, a couple you should know.

HOW DID YOU MEET? K: We were introduced to each other by Phillip Smith, of Peak Sport and Spine.

T: A mutual friend introduced us. He told her she would like me because I was a good person and athletic. He told me I would like her because she was athletic and gorgeous.

I guess that sums up the difference between men and women.

WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST DATE? K: Todd invited me over for dinner. I thought that meant a fancy dinner, but it was bagged lettuce (without dressing) and a frozen steak — such a gourmet! But it was a good meal despite all that, and Todd was so funny!

T: Just to clarify, I actually cooked the steaks.

They were not served frozen. The story she loves to tell everyone about our first date is that I asked her how much she weighed. I’m not the smoothest guy. Once a wrestler, always a wrestler.

WHAT IS THE BEST QUALITY OF YOUR SPOUSE? K: Todd loves to make my life easier — whether doing the laundry, going to the grocery store, or fixing something around the house. He is truly a blessing to me in so many ways.

T: That’s a tough one. There are many, all equally important. As a matter of fact, she has so many good qualities that it would be easier to come up with a worst one. I guess her best quality is that she has so many good ones!

WHAT MAKES YOU MOST PROUD OF YOUR SPOUSE? K: Todd is the most amazing father, and his girls adore their dad.

T: Her success and leadership in a new and innovative field of medicine.

WHAT IS UNIQUE ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP? K: I married a man who asked me, “how much do you weigh?” within one hour of meeting him. In his defense, he meant it only as curiosity, since I seemed petite to him. But still!

T: Neither of us depend on the other for happiness or entertainment. We bring that to the table without help.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE RESTAURANT IN COLUMBIA? K and T: Jina Yoo’s.

WHAT IS ONE THING PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOU? K: On my first day of kindergarten, I got sent home for squirting Gary Gaven in the face with red paint. It was so unfair . . . the boy was pulling my pigtails! What’s a girl supposed to do?

T: I have a tattoo.

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN ONE WORD? K: Loving.

T: Healthy.

YOU BOTH PRACTICE MEDICINE. WHAT’S DIFFERENT ABOUT YOUR APPROACHES? K: I practice non-operative sports medicine with a focus on biologics and stem cells. Todd is an orthopedic trauma surgeon, so he takes care of broken bones. I try to keep people from having surgery, while Todd is an expert if you need surgery.

T: I’m all about putting metal in people. She’s all about preventing it!

WHAT DOES THE FUTURE HOLD FOR THE TWO OF YOU? K: Hopefully, a porch swing and a breeze.

T: Although I don’t know when or where, I hope it involves family, friends, and good health.

WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO IN YOUR FREE TIME? K: Geez, I don’t really have a lot of that — who does? I enjoy reading, exercising, and working in the garden. And, now that the season is back, football!

T: Family, family, family, exercise, sleep, golf. In that order.

WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR FAVORITE OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES? K: Running, lounging by a swimming pool, and working in the garden.

T: Skiing and golf.

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ENGAGEMENTS

ENGAGEMENTS

by SARAH EVERETT

LAUREN AND MITCH

NICOLE AND TAYLOR

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icole Beck and Taylor Possail are both Minnesotans; they met at Minnesota State University–Mankato at an on-campus job. Beck studied accounting, and Possail studied business

education. Flash forward two years and Possail’s job is still on a campus — this time at Columbia College.

Possail is the assistant women’s basketball coach there; he moved to Columbia just two years ago, and Beck joined him over the summer.

“There’s a lot more to do here,” Beck says. “I love the college scene.”

The two enjoy spending time downtown near campus, visiting a variety of local restaurants.

“I like to think we both enjoy watching collegiate sports,” Possail says slyly; the two watch lots of basketball and football together. They also enjoy spending time with family and friends, and spending time outdoors, though Missouri summers are much warmer than Minnesota’s.

“We really like to go hiking a lot,” says Possail. “We’ve gone down and hiked Rock Bridge State Park.”

In fact, Possail proposed to Beck at a state park in Minnesota. They hope to someday have a house on a lake and expand their family. They also hope to continue enjoying the outdoors and advance in their careers.

Nicole is looking for a job in Columbia similar to the CPA job she had in Mankato.

Possail and Beck are getting married on July 15, 2017, at Beck’s church. Their reception will be at the Courtyard Marriott, in Mankato.

They are going for a theme of rustic elegance.

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itch Gosney and Lauren Berkbuegler are fans of travel, the Columbia College Cougars, and baseball. It’s their goal to visit every baseball stadium in the United States, and they’ve made quite a dent, visiting stadiums in California, Colorado, Georgia, and along the East Coast. Berkbuegler is a fan of the Cardinals, and Gosney is a Boston Red Sox fan.

Their wedding, on July 7, 2017, will also have a baseball theme and will take place in Wentzville, Missouri, a halfway point for both of their families. Gosney, who is originally from Columbia, works out of Murfreesboro, Tennessee, as the assistant director of athletics marketing for Middle Tennessee State University, and Berkbuegler, originally from O’Fallon, is a telemetry nurse at Barnes-Jewish Saint Peters hospital in St. Louis. The two are both Columbia College alumni: Berkbuegler played softball for the cougars, and Gosney was a men’s basketball student assistant. They met at an All American Rejects concert at The Blue Note and found they had the athletics program in common.

When Gosney proposed in June, he told Berkbuegler they were going to dinner and to look at a brick that they purchased together for the new campus quad. There, he surprised her with a ring. The ring has CC engraved on it and also has blue sapphires, the color of Columbia College.

In the future, they are looking forward to “sharing the same zip code.”

Berkbuegler is interested in getting a nurse practitioner’s degree and possibly teaching nursing classes down the line. They hope to continue traveling and spending time outdoors, kayaking and golfing and watching sports. Most importantly, they’re looking forward to spending time with each other.

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WEDDINGS

Little Women: A Tale Retold by the Midwest Wedding Crashers

by C H R I S T Y A S P E R | ph o to s by L OV E T R E E S T U D I O S

“Love is a great beautifier.” ­— “Little Women”

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e crash weddings and love it. There are times, though, that we miss the real story.

This is a story of strength, love, endurance, and, of course, women.

A couple months ago, we met Rachel Bollenbach and Ben Brammeier. We have always been overly enthusiastic when it comes to celebrating the Fourth of July and were thrilled to hear about a wedding taking place over the holiday weekend. The couple had arranged to be married at the First Baptist Church and then walk over to their reception at The Roof, both off of Broadway downtown. Fireworks were expected to light up the sky from surrounding neighborhoods, and the couple was delighted by the idea of celebrating their favorite holiday with loved ones. Ben is an Army man and is now in the Army Reserve. Everything in the wedding, from the men’s suits to the invitations, were branded by their love for this country.

I could go on about the wedding details, but let’s begin our story here.

“I do think that families are the most beautiful things in all the world!”

— “Little Women” Weeks before the wedding, Rachel’s grandfather unexpectedly became very ill. Grandpa had stomach cancer. His condition was critical, and he was placed in a full-care facility in the midst of wedding planning. Rachel visited him as often as

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she could, and many of her bridal activities had to be scheduled around her grandfather’s needs.

Rachel recalls her grandpa telling her how much he wanted to see her get married one day. That seemed to be impossible now.

The special day, July 3, was full of excitement, though Rachel knew Grandpa couldn’t make it.

The rain clouds lingered throughout the morning, and the hopes of a rooftop reception were not looking promising. The women gathered together and got ready at The Loft while the rain began to pour. However, nothing could ruin Rachel’s special day, especially when she was spending time with her favorite women.

Rachel arrived at First Baptist Church to find that her mother and grandmother had not yet arrived from the salon. Rachel checked the time. It had just turned to 2:30. The skies seemed to clear, and the sun peaked through to give a glimmer of hope. Rachel’s mother and grandmother arrived an hour later, but Rachel didn’t seem to notice with all the commotion. Time flew by, and the guests began to arrive.

The ceremony was officiated by a sweet friend’s father, who spoke of the couple with fondness.

Tears were shed and laughs were shared. The

WEDDINGS wedding bells rang, and the couple had their first kiss as husband and wife. Their choice of photographer was perfect for their special day — Love Tree Studios paid close attention to the most intimate details and captured the most significant part of this love story. It did not involve the dress, or the cake, or all the other wonderful details that they had pored over in the last year of planning. Sometimes, we’re so engrossed with the details that we miss the most important moments in life.

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“The love, respect, and confidence of my children was the sweetest reward I could receive for my efforts to be the woman I would have them copy.”

— “Little Women” In an instant, a picture is taken and a moment is captured, and we end this story with the most captivating of pictures. Grandma was photographed in a beautiful blue gown and a crisp red shawl, clasping a necklace that carried her husband’s ring near her heart. Much to the surprise of the gorgeous bride, Grandpa was able to see her get married from the best seat he could — heaven. Her grandfather had passed away at 2:30 that afternoon.

Looking back, Rachel recalls that the moment he took his last breath was the moment she looked up and realized the clouds were clearing. As she retold the story, Rachel expressed in tears that it was a sign from her Grandpa that he was with her.

The hour delay in Rachel’s mother and grandmother arriving to the church was due to their last visit to the hospital. They held

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back tears and kept the secret hidden for the remainder of the day so their sweet Rachel could celebrate without a care in the world.

Most of the women in their circle knew and gave each other an incredible amount of support. They all managed to dance the night away because of their love for the bride.

Which brings me to the quote above, rephrased here: a mother’s sweetest reward is the love, respect, and confidence of her daughters. Rachel walked away from her wedding with not only a new life partner, but with the loving portrait of a family life that possesses a lasting vitality to support each other through all life’s ups and downs.

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STRONG WOMAN

DR. KAREN THIES Dr. Karen Thies has dedicated her medical career to the practice of women’s health. Trained at the Kansas City University of Medicine and Biosciences, Karen served her residency at MU Health Care and is an assistant professor and doctor of clinical obstetrics and gynecology at MU Women’s and Children’s Hospital. She’s also active, funny, and driven — and this issue’s Strong Woman.

WHERE ARE YOU ORIGINALLY FROM? Small rural town in Missouri called Osceola.

Population of 600, maybe.

HOW DID YOU GET WHERE YOU ARE TODAY? Setting one goal after another and reaching them through persistence and hard work. If one approach failed, then I would change my strategy and try again and again till I hit my goal. Then on to the next goal!

THREE WORDS THAT SOMEONE WOULD DESCRIBE YOU AS? I actually asked some people about this: Loyal, enthusiastic, hardworking, funny, disciplined, great leader.

ON A TYPICAL WEEKDAY NIGHT, WE COULD FIND YOU: On the tennis courts; watching my son play basketball (during the season); feeding my koi; jogging with my dogs (when I’m not playing tennis); attempting to not set the fire alarm off while I cook dinner.

photo by Laura Rowe

From left: Thies' husband, Howard Houghton; Thies; daughter, Keely; and son, Caleb | Thies at work | Thies with her children during her first year in medical school | Keely, who wants to go into medicine, shadowing her mom

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STRONG WOMAN

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE RESTAURANT IN COMO? Dessert at Chris McD’s, steak at CC’s City Broiler, and pasta at Sophia’s.

COFFEE OR TEA? Coffee! All day long.

WHO OR WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR BIGGEST INSPIRATION? What: Growing up in a small town, which made me humble and taught me to look out for others in my community.

Who: Pat Summitt, the former University of Tennessee basketball coach who passed away in June.

Her journey of dealing with men professionally and not letting them hold her back in any way inspires me.

WHAT GETS YOU OUT OF BED IN THE MORNING? I am on a journey through life and don’t want to miss a moment of it!

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A weekend of performances featuring six new 10-minute plays, written for the festival. Playwrights were given the challenge of each writing two plays themed “Feast and Famine”. We have held workshops for these plays over a five-month period, and now the plays have been cast and are in rehearsal.

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NONPROFIT SPOTLIGHT

CEDAR CREEK THERAPEUTIC RIDING CENTER The healing power of horses.

by N I C O L E F L O O D

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ook around your community for something that needs to be done and do it; that’s what Karen Grindler did in 1988. That year, she founded Cedar Creek Therapeutic Riding Center. The theater and communications MU alumna was working as a recreation coordinator at a nursing home and taking horse riding lessons when she learned about equine therapy, a type of therapy using horse riding to treat cognitive and physical disabilities. Grindler saw a need in the community, and, with the help of a riding instructor certified in equine therapy, she opened Cedar Creek.

She began the first year with 12 riders and four horses. Today, Cedar Creek’s staff, volunteers, and 21 horses provide nearly 340 individuals in mid-Missouri with the benefits of riding each year.

The nonprofit provides lessons and equine therapy to riders from 2 years old to adulthood. Military veterans are among the frequent riders on the 2½ miles of wooded trails at Cedar Creek.

All riders are evaluated by a therapist and must have a doctor’s release to ride. Each horse is chosen specifically based on each rider’s needs. “The way that it works is through the movement of the horse,” Grindler says. “It’s a four-dimensional movement, so the exact same movement as the human walk. For a person who has an impediment to mobility, that movement alone is strengthening muscles in the back, legs, arms, and stomach. Because you’re on a moving apparatus, it engages your whole body.”

This motion created through riding helps improve balance, coordination, strength, and muscle tone. Cognitive impairments are addressed through learning horsemanship skills and stable management. Riding also helps individuals build bonds with the horses and improve self-esteem, giving riders a sense of independence and confidence.

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For Grinder, the most rewarding part of providing equine therapy is all the firsts that happen at Cedar Creek. “It’s hard to beat a child saying their first sentence on the back of a horse,” she says. “It’s hard to beat a child walking for the first time.”

All of Cedar Creek’s horses have been donated (except one — Mr. Clyde was purchased thanks to a grant from the Christopher Reeve Foundation).

Grindler says that many of the donated horses are older and in the retired stages of their life. “The hardest part of my job is that the horses are older, but I feel good that, in the last years of their life, they have a purpose and are loved,” she says.

Cedar Creek is run by a paid staff of 11 and many dedicated volunteers.

They have three certified instructors (including Grindler), an occupational therapist, an office manager, and six wranglers, who help with the horses.

Volunteers work with riders for eight-week sessions in the spring, summer, and fall. Grindler says she often thinks of the change in the riders’ lives, but she says volunteers are also touched by their experience at Cedar Creek. Many of the volunteers are college students; MU’s Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority is especially involved.

Members volunteer at Cedar Creek throughout the year and hold an annual golf tournament to benefit the center.

The riders and their caretakers can feel the passion Grindler and everyone at Cedar Creek has for the riders and the horses. “You definitely have to be passionate to run a nonprofit,” Grindler says. “People see how much we and the horses love our job, and it becomes a great place to be a part of. I just feel very lucky to have a job helping people find ways to improve the quality of life through the horse. I get to meet some amazing people, and amazing animals as well.”

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