Columbia Home Magazine - October/November 2015

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Going through the

change Tackling menopause Page 61

one kid at a time The battle against addiction Page 73

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How Can You Become a “Healthy” Investor?

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While we’re encouraged to follow a healthy lifestyle, you can also take steps toward this goal in other areas of your life — such as your investments. We have some suggestions: • Give your portfolio a regular “check-up.” To help ensure the “health” of your portfolio, you may want to periodically review it with a financial professional who can point out gaps in your existing holdings or changes that may need to be made.

• Follow a balanced investment “diet.” As you know, nutrition experts recommend that we adopt a balanced diet. An analogous situation exists when you invest — if you own too much of one particular asset class, you might expose yourself to an “unhealthy” degree of risk. But if you own a mix of stocks, bonds, government securities and other vehicles, you can lessen the impact of volatility on your portfolio. In investing, as in life, balance and moderation are important.

• Don’t let investments get “lazy.” Exercise is essential in staying fit and healthy. Yet, exercise can also be hard work. Some of your investments may also not be working hard enough. For example, you might own quite a few certificates of deposit (CDs). There’s nothing “wrong” with CDs but they provide very little in the way of return in a low-interest-rate environment, such as we’ve had recently.

You might be depriving yourself of the opportunity to own other investments that “work harder” by offering you the growth potential you’ll need to make progress toward your long-term goals.

• Avoid “unhealthy” habits. Many of us are guilty of unhealthy habits which can harm the quality of our lives. As an investor, you can also fall into some bad habits. You could waste time and effort by chasing after “hot” investments, which may already be cooling off by the time you hear about them, or you could decide to take a “time out” from investing when the markets are turbulent. Another bad habit: Investing either too aggressively or too conservatively for your goals and risk tolerance. By avoiding negative habits, you can help yourself stay on track toward your objectives.

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EDITOR’s note E d i to ri al Audrey Sharp, Editor Audrey@BusinessTimesCompany.com Kristi McCann, Copy Editor

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GOING THROUGH THE

CHANGE Tackling menopause PAGE 61

ONE KID AT A TIME The battle against addiction PAGE 73

DOWNTOWN CHIC ALLEY A

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Fashion model Amy Rhoades wears clothes from Girl Boutique in this cover-worthy shot. We had so much fun shooting this fashion spread downtown CoMo in Alley A. Flip to page 48 to see the rest of the outfits our local boutiques picked out for Amy and her daughter, Noelle.

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On September 8, I celebrated my oneyear anniversary at The Business Times Company. It has been an absolute blessing working as the Editor for Columbia Home Magazine this past year, and I can’t wait to see what 2016 has to offer. Our company, at its roots, hasn’t changed. I’m confident when I tell people that we truly have the best staff in town. We are a team of about 14 people, and we put out three amazing publications. (If you haven’t checked out Columbia Business Times or City Magazine, you should.) I am proud to be a part of this company and work alongside this incredible team of people.

This issue of Columbia Home is our Health issue. Because it’s October and Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we decided to dive right into women’s health issues. Nancy Yang wrote an incredible piece about menopause and how to tackle it one hot flash at a time (page 61). Sleep apnea is another issue that many women suffer from (whether it’s them or the ones they sleep next to), so Beth Bramstedt gives us the low down on how to get a better night sleep (page 100). Plus, don’t miss our Tech section featuring Fitbits. What are they really for…fashion or fitness? Monica Pitts tells us what she found after conducting some research (page 37). And don’t miss some health tips for the whole family. Heather Homann tells us what organic produce to buy.

I like to take on a heavier piece in a couple of issues each year. Back in June I wrote about Leigh Britt, who tragically lost her husband in an accident in 2014. This issue, I took on mental health and substance abuse in teens and adolescence. It’s a much larger problem than I thought, and thousands of teens suffer from this. I learned that there’s a program, the Boone County Youth Mental Health Coalition, that is trying to find solutions for these teens The work they’re doing is amazing, and I encourage you to read that story and ask the tough questions. In addition, talk to your kids about addiction. It’s the cold, hard truth, but it needs to be talked about. In conjunction with this story, I wrote about Lucas Brooks, who passed away in June from accidental overdose. His mother, Nita, opened up to me about what the past few months have been like since losing Lucas (page 73).

On a lighter note, we featured some delicious soup recipes for you and your family to try this fall.

Sarah Hill, Trish Koetting and Tia Odom all have tough critics to feed, and these soups have passed the test. Hopefully they fill your home with wonderful smells, full bellies and happy hearts (page 38).

As always, thanks for being a reader of Columbia Home. There are some really cool new things coming for 2016, so stay tuned. If you have any questions or comments, story ideas, or just want to chat, feel free to email me at Audrey@BusinessTimesCompany.com.

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1. Erica Pefferman: I’m really glad that we are able to address issues that are really important to our readers regardless of the stage of life they are in. When we ask our readers what they want to know more about, health topics are always at the top of the list. So, this issue is dedicated to just that. I’m particularly interested in the menopause story that’s in this issue, as I know the impact it has on every single woman.

2. Michele Towns: When I was asked to say something about my personal health, it took me a minute to come up with something to share. I try to do everything in moderation when it comes to my health. Sometimes I’m better in the healthy eating and exercise areas than other times and that is one thing I can share. I do love to drink lots of water and in the future if we find that drinking water is bad for you, I will be the first person to die from it. On the plus side, I even drink gluten-free vodka.

Thanks, Tito’s!

3. Kristi McCann: IMy entire life I have been an active person. During my childhood, I played soccer for 16 years, and I danced my way through middle and high school. As I get older, more involved in my career and life seems to get in the way of routine workouts, I remind myself it's about switching things up and trying new activities. Just because I am not at the gym or counting calories doesn't mean I am not trying to be health conscious. It's so much more rewarding to hike through Rock Bridge State Park, enjoy rooftop yoga or treat myself to a homemade smoothie. It's just as much about feeding your soul as it is feeding your body.

4. Jill Orr: I've started doing yoga because I know it is good for me. The problem is that it inexplicably fills me with rage.

And the more the instructor tells me to find my inner Zen or whatever, the more I want to pop her head like a balloon. Please know that I am working on this.

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GameTime Social: There is no way these are healthy! Head over to Laura Lee’s Healthy Plate to try these babies out!

Stacy Ishmael-Zorn: These were fantasticthanks Audrey for sharing around the office!!

For future issues

In the next issue: Coming up in our next issue, we’ll be talking about a variety of topics: dressing for fancy events, a oncein-a-lifetime trip and TV series appearance, and a story about overcoming obstacles. Plus, don’t miss delicious alcohol-infused desserts. Yes, we’re giving you the best desserts for this holiday season and they include booze. There are lots of big things coming up for 2016, so if you want to be a part of an upcoming issue (which we would love), email Deb Valvo for all sales inquiries at Deb@BusinessTimescompany.com.

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❖ EDITOR'S NOTE p. 15 ❖ about the BOARD p. 17 ❖ From the Office

Features

21 CH Digital

38 Soup for the Soul 47 The Dish: Stacy’s Graffiti Bridge Pizza 55 What to Buy: Organic or not Organic?

61 Going Through The Change 67 Retail Therapy 73 One Kid At a Time

Around CoMo 25 Agenda and Datebook 33 Day In The Life 110 About Town

Departments 29 Book Worm 31 From the Expert: Getting to Know Your Missouri Grape Varietals 37 Tech

On the Cover 48 Fashion: Downtown Chic

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78 Home Tour: Mediterranean Meets Midwest 87 What The Pros Know 93 Dreaming In Boho Chic Style

108 Advertiser Index

Family & Relationships 103 Love & Relationships: Illness 105 Engagements 106 Wedding 109 Mommy Chronicles

Health/Wellness 97 Life Coaching: Not Only Finding Your Voice but Making it Heard 98 From The Local Market…All About Pears 100 Sleep Apnea: Robbing You From a Good Night Sleep?

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October/November 2015 Columbia’s must-do events 104th Annual MU Homecoming What: The Mizzou Tigers take on the Florida Gators at Faurot Field for MU’s 104th annual homecoming football game. Don’t miss other homecoming festivities in the days leading up to the game, including a blood drive, spirit rally, homecoming parade and campus decorations in Greek Town.

When: October 10 Where: The University of Missouri Info: For more information or tickets to the game, visit www.mutigers.com.

Hartsburg Pumpkin Festival What: The small town of Hartsburg, Missouri, bursts at the seams for this tradition dating back more than 20 years. The Hartsburg Pumpkin Festival features arts and crafts, musical entertainment, Halloween decorations and thousands of pumpkins. The festival also includes pumpkin carving, pumpkin pie-eating competitions, hayrides in the pumpkin patch, pumpkin painting, apple butter making and a straw maze.

When: Saturday, Oct. 10-Sunday, Oct. 11, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Where: Hartsburg, Mo. Info: For more information, visit www.hartsburgpumpkinfest.com.

Diamond Night What: Diamond Night 2015 brings the mission of Great Circle alive with an evening of elegance, fine dining and celebration. Thoughtful vignettes and inspiring stories illustrate the unique programs Great Circle utilizes to help guide children and families to a place where they can thrive. This special evening is presented by Beau Aero and Alfredo Mubara and Columbia Safety Employees. Carfax, Inc. and MFA Oil Company are also generous supporters.

When: Friday, Nov. 6, 6-10 p.m.

Where: Holiday Inn Expo Center Info: For ticket information or information on Great Circle, visit www.greatcircle.org/events/ upcoming-events/diamond-night.html.

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Thursday, Oct. 1

Stephens College Women’s Volleyball vs.

Columbia College, Silverthorne Arena, 7-9 p.m., visit stephensstars.com

Friday, Oct. 2

Friday, Oct. 9

Stephens College Women’s Soccer vs.

Lyon College, Cosmo Park, 5-7 p.m., visit stephensstars.com

First Fridays in the North Village Arts District, South 10th St. 6-9 p.m., free entertainment and light refreshments served, call 573-864-6641

Friday, Oct. 9 to Saturday, Oct. 10

Friday, Oct. 2 to Sunday, Oct. 4

Mizzou Football vs. Florida, Faurot Field, call 1-800-CAT-PAWS or visit mutigers. com for tickets

“Romeo & Juliet,” Missouri Theatre, 7:30 p.m. Oct. 2 & 3, 2 p.m. Oct. 4, call 573-882-3781 or visit concertseries.org

Saturday, Oct. 3

Mizzou Football vs. South Carolina, Faurot Field, call 1-800-CAT-PAWS or visit mutigers.com for tickets Boone County Farmers Market, Columbia Mall, 8 a.m. to noon, call 573-445-8459 Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Sunday, Oct. 4

Farmers and Artisans Market in the N. Village Arts District, 126 North 10th St. 9 a.m. to 1 p.m., call 573-864-6641

Tuesday, Oct. 6

Stephens College Women’s Volleyball vs.

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Wednesday, Oct. 7

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Artrageous Weekend, The District, S. 10th Street, all day, visit artrageousweekends.org

Saturday, Oct. 10

Boone County Farmers Market, Columbia Mall, 8 a.m. to noon, call 573-445-8459 Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Saturday-Sunday, Oct. 10-11

Urban Survival Course, 1301 Vandiver Dr., Suite Q, visit triple-ops.com/urban-survival. html, enrollment limited to 20 participants

Sunday, Oct. 11

Farmers and Artisans Market in the North Village Arts District, 126 North 10th St., 9 a.m. to 1 p.m., call 573-864-6641

Monday, Oct. 12

Columbia Daily Tribune Women in Business Awards, Stoney Creek Hotel & Conference Center, 11:30 a.m., $32 per person, call 660-238-2819

Wednesday, Oct. 14

Stephens College Women’s Volleyball vs.

Central Baptist College, Silverthorne Arena, 7-9 p.m., visit stephensstars.com

Friday, Oct. 16 Stephens College Women’s Volleyball, vs.

Central Methodist University 12-2 p.m., vs.

Benedictine College 6-8 p.m., Silverthorne Arena, visit stephensstars.com

Saturday, Oct. 17 Bear Creek Run Half Marathon, AlbertOakland Park, Blue Ridge Road, 8 a.m. to noon, call 573-874-7460 Boone County Farmers Market, Columbia Mall, 8 a.m. to noon, call 573-445-8459 Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Monday, Oct. 19 SNL Alumnus Brooks Wheelan, Rose Music Hall, 7 p.m. & 9:30 p.m., $15, visit rosemusichall.com

Tuesday, Oct. 20 The National Acrobats of the People’s Republic of China, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., call 573-882-3781 or visit concertseries.org

Wednesday, Oct. 21 Stephens College Women’s Volleyball vs.

William Woods University, Silverthorne Arena, 7-9 p.m., visit stephensstars.com

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Thursday, Oct. 22 to Saturday, Oct. 24

Comic Hypnotist Doug T, Déjà Vu Comedy Club, 9 p.m. Oct. 22 & 23, 8 p.m. & 10 p.m. Oct. 24, visit dejavucomedy.com

Thursday, Oct. 22 to Sunday, Oct. 25

Citizen Jane Film Festival, The District, S. 10th Street, visit citizenjanefilmfestival.org, call 573-819-JANE or email websmith@ citizenjanefilm.org

Friday, Oct. 23

Stephens College Women’s Soccer vs. William Woods University, Cosmo Park, 6-8 p.m., visit stephensstars.com

Saturday, Oct. 24

Boone County Farmers Market, Columbia Mall, 8 a.m. to noon, call 573-445-8459 Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Saturday, Oct. 31

Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Monday, Nov. 2

Arianna String Quartet, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., call 573-882-3781 or visit concertseries.org

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Field, nationally televised event, call 1-800-CATPAWS or visit mutigers.com for tickets

Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., call 573-882-3781 or visit concertseries.org

Thursday, Nov. 5 to Sunday, Nov. 8

Saturday, Nov. 14

Sylvia, Columbia Entertainment Group, 1800 Nelwood Dr., Nov. 5-7 at 7:30 p.m., Nov. 8 at 2 p.m., call 573-474-3699 or visit cectheatre.org

Friday, Nov. 6

Diamond Night, 6-10 p.m., Holiday Inn Executive Center, for tickets, visit www.greatcircle.org/events/upcoming-events/ diamond-night.html First Fridays in the North Village Arts District, S. 10th Street, 6-9 p.m., free entertainment and light refreshments served, call 573-864-6641

Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889 MURS, Rose Music Hall, 9 p.m., $10 in advance, $12 day of show, visit rosemusichall.com

Thursday, Nov. 19

MU Choral Union: Gloria! The Sounds of the Season, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., call 573-882-3781 or visit concertseries.org

Thursday, Nov. 19 to Sunday, Nov. 22

Saturday, Nov. 7

Sylvia, Columbia Entertainment Group, 1800 Nelwood Drive, Thursday-Saturday Nov. 19-21 at 7:30 p.m., Sunday Nov. 22 at 2 p.m., call 573-474-3699 or visit cectheatre.org

ShowMe Writers Masterclass, MU student center, call 573-882-9547 or visit bit.ly/ showmewriters

Saturday, Nov. 21

Columbia Farmers Market, 8 a.m. to noon in the ARC parking lot, 1701 W. Ash St., call Corrina Smith at 573-823-6889

Tuesday, Nov. 10

Young the Giant, The Blue Note, 8:30 p.m., $26 in advance, $30 day of show, visit thebluenote.com

Thursday Nov. 12 to Sunday, Nov. 15

Mizzou Football vs. Tennessee, Faurot Field, call 1-800-CAT-PAWS or visit mutigers.com for tickets

Thursday, Nov. 26 Thanksgiving

Timesflies, The Blue Note, 8:30 p.m., $28, visit thebluenote.com

Sylvia, Columbia Entertainment Group, 1800 Nelwood Drive, Thursday-Saturday Nov. 12-14 at 7:30 p.m., Sunday Nov. 15 at 2 p.m., call 573-474-3699 or visit cectheatre.org

Turkey Trax 5K, Ultramax Sports, 700 E. Broadway, 8:30 a.m. to 7 p.m., call 573-445-2664 or visit turkeytraxrun.com

Thursday, Nov. 5

Friday-Saturday, Nov. 13-14

The Fryman, Déjà Vu Comedy Club, 9 p.m. Nov. 27 $9, Nov. 28 $10, visit dejavucomedy.com

Wednesday, Nov. 4

Mizzou Football vs. Mississippi State, Faurot

Missouri Contemporary Ballet: Poised in Flux,

Friday Nov. 27 to Saturday, Nov. 28

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By Alex George

If I had a dollar for every coffee mug I own that says “Go Away I’m Reading,” well, I suppose I would have two dollars. But, my point is that these coffee mugs speak to an obvious but important truth about reading: it’s a solitary activity.

Increasingly, though, people are looking to find ways to be more sociable about books and to discuss what they’ve read. The huge popularity of book clubs and websites, such as Goodreads, is testament to our hunger to engage with others about books.

I’m pleased to announce that as of April 2016, there will be a new way for Columbia residents to talk (and listen) about books. On April 23, 2016, the inaugural Unbound Book Festival will take place on the campus of Stephens College. It promises to be a wonderful daylong celebration of books and reading. (Full disclosure: I am the founder of the festival, and we are proud to have Columbia Home as a media sponsor of the event.) Nationally acclaimed authors from across the country will come to Columbia to speak about their books and their writing lives. There will be programs for fiction, nonfiction, poetry and children’s literature, as well as a variety of panels on book-related topics. A wonderful collection of authors and poets have already agreed to appear, including (at the most recent count) two National Book Award winners, a Guggenheim “genius” fellow and many New York Times bestselling writers. From a local perspective, three of Missouri’s poets laureate will be sharing a stage to read their poetry at an event that promises to be standing-room only.

Events such as these offer the public a unique opportunity to chat with well-known authors, and we’re going to make the festival wildly interactive. Rather than having writers stand up and read from their books or deliver prepared talks, every event will be in an interview format, and there will be plenty of opportunities for audience members to quiz the writers, both in person and also ahead of time via the website. In addition to authors, the children’s venue will feature storytellers, magicians, crafts and more.

The festival is an all-day event and will be free to the public. More information is available at www.unboundbookfestival.com where you can find out more about guest authors, learn how to volunteer and sign up for our e-newsletter. I hope you’ll make a note in your calendars and plan to come. See you on April 23, 2016, at Stephens College.

By Atul Gawande This might just be the most important book you read this year. Atul Gawande, a surgeon, writes with grace and concision about aging and illness in an era of advanced medical practices.

He discovers modern medicine is not always well equipped to provide the elderly and the sick with what they need most at the end of their lives. Gripping and humane, Being Mortal looks at this difficult topic with compassion and asks some vital questions — questions that we will all at some point have to ask ourselves.

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Getting to Know Your Missouri Grape Varietals Chef Aaron View Les Bourgeois Les Bourgeois.com It’s a great time of year to eat local with the bounty provided by small farmers around Columbia.

What better time to cook up some great local food paired with Missouri-made wines? The wines made in our area make great pairings with the products of the state because the grapes are grown in the same soil. At Les Bourgeois, we produce wines with all of these Missouri varietals. To the right are five dishes that pair well with our wines.

Norton: As a full-bodied wine generally made with notes of berry, it is a fantastic wine for a nice Missouri-raised beef dish, such as a grilled filet.

Couple that with fingerling potatoes, countrystyle green beans with bacon lardons and a compound butter made with Norton wine, cilantro and garlic.

Chardonel: This wine is a Missouri hybrid made up of the popular chardonnay and the seyval grapes.

Generally, it’s barrel aged with a dry finish that makes it perfect for fish pairings. In Missouri, catfish reigns supreme as far as local fish is concerned. Some midwestern fish ‘n chips is the way to go. Using a cast-iron skillet, fry red potatoes, succotash and wine-battered catfish, and it is sure to be a get-together pleaser.

Chambourcin: Cook with and drink this great dry to semi-dry wine. A braised pork shoulder that is braised in the same wine you will enjoy is a fantastic family-style meal that brings the bounty of fall’s corn harvest to your table. Serve the pork shoulder with grilled corn on the cob and roasted root vegetables, and you have a classic meal that is elevated when you reduce the braising liquid to a sauce that brings the wine and pork together in a beautiful start-to-finish sauce.

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Traminette: This selection is a light and fruity variety that is great for desserts or fruit salads. It also adds a floral note to any light dish. A freshly bought pint of berries, some wine and a bag of cookies is all you need to make a lovely fruit trifle made with a fresh berry and wine compote, cookie crumbles and Chantilly cream. co lu m b i a h o m emagazi n e.com | 3 1

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Day in the Life: Mary Meyer, Physical Therapist, Pediatric Specialist

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No matter the emotional or physical pain she sees, the sleepless nights she faces, or the days that never slow down, Mary Meyer keeps working, pushing and wanting to do more. Her life revolves around pediatric physical therapy. During her undergraduate studies at The University of Missouri, she had different plans, but pediatric orthopedics presented an opportunity for Mary to step out of her comfort zone, to learn something new, and to think critically about development.

Mary’s role in the treatment of her patients at the University of Missouri’s Children’s Hospital Therapy Center is one that requires motivational coaching and the technical skill required to treat a child’s physical disabilities.

She works through the Tiger Intensive Therapy Program at Children’s Hospital. Occasionally, that requires the use of TheraSuit technology, an innovative treatment method that can help children diagnosed with cerebral palsy, down syndrome, sensory-processing disorder and many other diagnoses. This hospital is one of only three places in Missouri that children have access to this technology.

Mary feels blessed to be able to offer her patients top-ofthe-line treatment, but she says the most enjoyable part of her day is when she gets to push kids. She’s pushing them to be their best, to meet their goals, and to achieve what they never thought possible. As she encourages them, she hopes it fuels their desire for success. Often, it’s difficult for her to watch her patients struggle as she stretches them to limits they’ve never reached before, however, she knows that every moment of therapy counts. If she can show them that she has faith in their ability, they can believe in themselves enough to accomplish their goals.

A true sense of urgency follows Mary throughout her day. From start to finish, her day is about helping children with disabilities through their treatment, comforting calls to family and with her doctoral studies. That is why work comes first and continues to be the driving force of Mary’s passion for education and life. She feels that her career path has allowed her to love her patients and her work in a way much deeper than she ever thought possible. co lu m b i a h o m emagazi n e.com | 3 3

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d ay i n t h e l i f e 6 a.m.: When can I get my coffee? Should I head to the gym or get to work early? Work always wins.

7 a.m.: Ok, whom do I need to email today? We’re coming up with a treatment plan for Tyler’s cerebral palsy today. I can’t forget to mention that idea I had when I woke up last night. Coffee. Mary’s drive to work has to be productive. She uses this time to plan out her day and, of course, get her coffee.

8-11 a.m.: First patient of the day. How can I make him believe in himself enough to accomplish his goals? With her first patient, Mary works through the Tiger Intensive Therapy Program.

Occasionally, this patient will require the use of their innovative TheraSuit equipment.

11 a.m. to 1 p.m.: Time to send some emails. Do I have time to run and get lunch? Probably not. I’ve got that meeting at 11:30. I’ll type with one hand and eat with the other. Mary’s lunch hour is often used for productivity and not for enjoying a nice meal.

1-4 p.m.: Time for my appointment with Maria. She’s come so far, but I can’t stop pushing her now. Today we’ll both work extra hard.

In the afternoon, Mary sees one of her gait patients. With a team of specialists, she approaches her patients’ needs in technical and personal ways while making sure this child will have everything they need to succeed.

4-5 p.m.: I hope everything is going well with my weekly patients.

Time to follow up and see how they’re doing. Her love for her patients and sincere desire to push them beyond the limits they have always faced ensure that Mary will keep up with each patient.

She believes in them, and they have to know that. It is important they stay disciplined and focused as they set expectations for themselves, just as Mary does.

5 p.m.: Rest. Mary sits down in her office. For a few moments, she tries to decompress from her long day by catching up with coworkers. She pushes away thoughts of stress and lets herself rest.

5:15 p.m.: First I’ll call Maria’s parents. Then I can call John’s.

Then Tyler’s. Have to keep everyone updated. Mary knows that the parents of her patients often struggle with the treatments their children are undergoing. Many move to Columbia to receive this care, so her drive home consists of calls to parents.

6 p.m.: Well, time to study. I have that exam coming up. Many of Mary’s nights involve studying as she works toward her doctorate in physical therapy with a specialty in pediatrics from Rocky Mountain University. She doesn’t mind that she has to study after work. Her busy schedule gives her the adrenaline she needs to keep going.

7 p.m.: Time for some fun. Believe it or not, Mary manages to make time for life outside of physical therapy and studying. She plays on a sand volleyball team, grabs dinner with friends and is involved in Columbia’s Veritas group through The Crossing. co lu m b i a h o m emagazi n e.com | 3 5

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Fitbit: Fashion Fad or Fitness?

By Monica Pitts

Fitbits are the fad in the health and fitness world. You can walk down Broadway in downtown Columbia and see at least a couple of the familiar bands wrapped around the wrists of bystanders. The Fitbit movement is motivating all ages and body types to jump on the health bandwagon and wear their new gear proudly. And all of this makes me think: Are Fitbits a fashion fad or fitness?

Monica Pitts Monica is founder of MayeCreate Design.

She and her husband, Mike, have two daughters, Ellis and Aveleen, and two dogs, Maybe and Roxie. Monica considers herself an artist, yogi and Web dork with the ability to speak geek and English.

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The Fitbit Skinny Fitbits are a self-proclaimed “wristband that makes fitness fashionable.” They began creating multiple Fitbit products in 2007, but the most popular wristband worn by many is the Fitbit Flex. The band tracks activity throughout the day and night, including steps, distance, calories burned, active minutes and how long and how well you sleep.

The wristband’s features include progress display, wireless syncing, style and accessories, a 5-day battery life and water resistance. Fitbit Flex is sold for $99.

As of March 31, 2015, Fitbit had sold more than 20.8 million devices since they began making the fitness wristband. That’s a lot of wristbands!

“There has to be a good balance in any fitness routine,” Mandy believes.

“When we are doing something good for our health, the body immediately knows; you just need to quiet your mind and learn how to listen,” Laura agrees.

Mandy feels Fitbits can be a good investment for the average person. “A Fitbit will help keep them

2014: A Year of Fitbit Fashion In 2014, Fitbit announced a partnership with the fashion brand Tory Burch. The collection is cute, fashionable and comes at a pretty penny ranging from $38 to $195. And the kicker is they don’t come with the Fitbit Flex technology, so you still have to pay an extra $99 if you don’t already have a Fitbit.

That’s almost $300 to have a piece of jewelry that doubles as a step counter.

Amazon also offers many fashionable accessories by other manufacturers to pair with your Fitbit for the budget conscious starting around $5.50.

From the Professionals We all know living a healthy lifestyle is important.

Mandy Schick, owner of Schick Training and certified personal trainer, and Laura Detert, owner of Open Studio Pilates and certified Pilates teacher, concur.

Both women agree there are drawbacks to the Fitbit.

“I think for someone more advanced, it wouldn't really work as well,” Laura adds.

“They probably have other ways of tracking their progress and don't need the motivation,” Mandy says. “Some people get obsessed just with the amount of steps they take but are still not focusing on a good diet and a weight training program.”

“I’m not a fan of the Fitbit because it seemingly encourages us to treat our bodies like computers,” Laura says. “We are not computers. We are far more.

We are pure consciousness; everything that is, ever was and ever will be.”

Another reason Laura dislikes Fitbits is because of the electromagnetic field radiation it puts off.

“Most of us are bombarded on a daily basis with multi-tiered EMF (electromagnetic field) radiation from cell phones, wireless tablets, computers, wifi, etc. We certainly don’t need additional radiation strapped directly to our wrists, especially during sleep,” Laura says.

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accountable and motivated to be active,” she says.

“With my clients who are just getting started in a fitness routine, walking is key. I can give them a daily or weekly step goal, and the Fitbit helps them track their progress and motivates them to keep walking to hit their goal.”

“While I may be in the minority, I believe that Fitbit devices actually diminish your connection to your own body and may even damage it,” Laura says.

Of course I had to know the public opinion too, so I took the topic to the polls. Fifty people shared their opinions, and out of those participants, 80 percent consider Fitbits a fitness tool, though only 46 percent of participants actually own one. Of those who own one, 69 percent actually wear their Fitbits and all but one wearer reviews data and feel wearing a Fitbit enhances their fitness. The person who doesn’t think his or her Fitbit enhances his or her fitness wears their Fitbit as a fashion statement.

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Soup for the

Soul

by Audrey Sharp Photos by keith borgmeyer

Picture this: it’s a chilly fall afternoon, leaves are falling gently to the ground, and there’s a light breeze. On a day like that, there really isn’t anything better than a warm, delicious bowl of homemade soup. When the weather is just right, a hearty bowl of soup is just what the soul needs. We gathered up some family favorites from Sarah Hill, Trish Koetting and Tia Odom and hope you’ll give them a try sometime this season.

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Trish Koetting

Witches Brew This is a name that Trish and her sisters dubbed to any soup or stew concoction that their mom used to make utilizing every leftover in the house.Nothing was ever thrown away. This variation is a hearty beef noodle soup (makes 8 servings).

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Witches Brew

Ingredients: 1 ½ quarts of rich beef stock (homemade or Minor’s Beef soup base) 1 ½ c. of diced celery 1 ½ c. of yellow onion 2/3 c. diced carrots 2/3 c. green beans 3 Tbsp. minced fresh parsley 1 Tbsp. dried leaf thyme 1 c. red wine 2 Tbsp. ground black pepper (or Hoss’s Steak seasoning) 1 lb. diced beef (or leftover steak or roast beef) 3 c. of fresh or frozen Kluski egg noodles

Directions: 1. Bring the beef stock to a boil, add the thyme, pepper, wine, celery and onion.

2. Simmer for 10 minutes and add carrots, green beans and noodles.

3. Boil until the noodles are done. Add parsley and beef.

4. Adjust seasoning to taste.

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Tia Odom

Seafood Bisque This delicious soup is a go-to for the Odom family when they’re on vacation. Tia or the boys will pick up fresh shellfish from a local market and will enjoy the finished product by the ocean.

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Seafood Bisque

1 onion, finely chopped ½ c. celery, finely chopped 4 garlic cloves, finely chopped ½ tsp. Tabasco ¼ c. Cognac or other wine 4 Tbsp. (1/2 stick) unsalted butter ¼ c. all-purpose flour 2 c. cream (or half and half for lighter taste) 1/3 c. tomato paste 2 tsp. salt 1 tsp. black pepper

Directions:

seafood stock. (To save time or if the seafood shells are unavailable, use chicken broth instead.)

3. Heat the olive oil in a large pot. Add the onions and celery and cook for 10 minutes over low heat until just starting to turn brown.

4. Add the garlic, Tabasco and shrimp and cook over medium heat for 3 minutes, stirring occasionally.

5. Add the Cognac (or other wine) and cook for 1 minute.

6. Transfer the shrimp mixture to a food processor or blender, add ¼ c. of the seafood stock or chicken broth and puree. ' 7. In the same pot, melt the butter. Add the flour and cook over low heat for 1 minute while stirring. Add the

1. Boil the 4 cups of water in a saucepan. Put the shells

cream and stir with a whisk until thickened or about

into the water, and simmer for at least 10 minutes.

3 minutes. Stir in the puréed shrimp, stock or broth,

2. Drain the shells, and set aside the newly made

tomato paste, salt and pepper and heat until hot.

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Sarah Hill

Kelly’s Cheese Soup Sarah Hill worked at a small Irish tavern where she waited tables in high school. After graduation, the chef shared his special cheese soup recipe with her, and now it’s

Kelly's Cheese Soup

Ingredients:

Directions:

½ quart of water

1. Boil water and bullion, potatoes, celery,

4 chicken bullion cubes

onion and noodles for 2 minutes.

2 ½-3 c. diced potatoes

2. Add vegetables and boil for 10 minutes.

1 c. chopped celery

3. Add chicken soup and cubed Velveeta.

1 c. chopped onion 2 c. egg noodles 1 package frozen California blend vegetables 2 cans cream of chicken soup 1 lb. Velveeta Cheese, cubed

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Optional: mushrooms

4. Cook on low until cheese melts.

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Stacy’s Graffiti Bridge Pizza

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As a busy mom, I continually look for dinner options that require less prep and shorter cooking time. However, I am also a creative person who loves to experiment with food. One of my favorite foods is pizza, but it was never a dish I felt I could make at home until I found fresh, oven-ready dough at Publix a few years ago. I, like many other hopeful moms, had tried the stiff, ready-made crusts, the box mixes and the dough in a can to no satisfaction. I was more than willing to spend a few bucks on a fresh ball of dough and try my luck. I’m so glad I did.

This pizza is a recent addition to a plethora of other pies I’ve created over the past two years; it’s called Graffiti Bridge (yes, all my pies have musicrelated names). Some of the ingredients require short prep time, but overall, this pizza is quick to the oven. To save time, I purchase olive relish, sliced roasted tomatoes and shredded cheese. You can usually find fresh pizza dough at a local grocer who bakes bread each day. Just don’t be afraid to ask the person working behind the deli counter.

Ingredients: • 1 fresh ball of pizza dough • 1 c. of your favorite red sauce • 1 c. spinach • 1 medium-sized red pepper • 1/3 c. olive relish • ¼ c. red onion sliced • 1 c. roasted tomatoes in olive oil; can substitute sundried tomatoes • ½ c. baby portabella mushrooms • 10 dehydrated figs, halved • 2 oz. goat cheese • 2-3 c. mozzarella cheese (depending on your love of cheese) • 8 large slices of pepperoni • ¼ c. of olive oil • Basil flakes, red pepper flakes, garlic powder and honey (optional).

Directions: Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Flour a surface to roll out pizza dough to desired thickness.

Dust pizza stone or pan with garlic powder, and place dough on prepared surface. Spread sauce evenly on dough. Sprinkle the cheese, spinach leaves, red pepper, olive relish, onion slices, roasted tomatoes, mushrooms and fig halves to your liking. Drop dollops of goat cheese around the pie and finish with pepperoni. The pepperoni will crisp up during the baking process (highly desirable). Place pizza in the oven for 15 minutes. Then slide pizza off of stone or pan and allow it to bake directly on the rack for approximately 5 to 7 minutes. Keep checking the pizza as ovens vary. Remove pizza when crust is golden, cheese is melted and browning up nicely, and pepperonis look crispy. Once removed, you might want to dust with basil flakes, red pepper flakes or drizzle with honey. We like to drizzle ours with a bit of olive oil as well. co lu m b i a h o m e magazi n e.com | 47

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They might be new to town, but they’re not new to style. Amy and Noelle Rhoades came to Columbia from Houston. With fall in full swing, layering pieces is crucial for this Mid-Missouri weather. One minute it could be chilly and rainy, 30 minutes later, warm and muggy. You just never know. Our local boutiques have plenty of layering pieces for you to choose from whether you’re heading out for a day of shopping in The District or tailgating before a Mizzou football game Welcome to Columbia, Rhoades family! co lu m b i a h o m e magazi n e.com | 49

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g Shopper's guide to Pesticides in Produce

Just a quick stop by your local grocery store can have your head

swirling with nutritional questions and agonizing over the age-old debate of organic versus conventional produce

By Heather Homann

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P h Dirty dozen Shopper's guide to Pesticides in Produce

apples strawberries potatoes celery cherry snap peas tomatoes sweet bell cucumbers peppers spinach grapes necteraines collard greens hot peppers kale peaches

Proteins, starches, vegetables and fruit. These are some of the thoughts going through Megan Kemp's head while she pushes her shopping cart through the grocery store. As a wife and soon-to-be mother of two, she has a lot to think about. "It has to taste good, so your husband and children will eat it," she says.

But Megan doesn’t just think about her family when it comes to eating healthy. She works full-time as a registered dietitian and helps other people make nutrition choices throughout their day. Megan has lots of suggestions for her clients while they shop. "Don't be afraid of variety, and when it comes to produce, anything is better than nothing," she says. When considering just conventional produce, Megan suggests the Environmental Working Group's 2015 "Shoppers' Guide to Pesticides in Produce." The EWG's Dirty Dozen list includes the 12 fruits and vegetables with the highest amounts of pesticide residues, and the Clean 15 list has the 15 cleanest, or least contaminated, produce.

One major decision consumers wrestle with is whether to eat conventional (non-organic) food or to choose organically grown products. Most people weigh the pros and cons to determine whether or not the benefits are worth the price. Megan says using the EWG guidelines is a good way to reduce exposure to pesticides, and if you enjoy eating some of the foods on the Dirty Dozen list, a healthier option might be organic.

What does organic mean?

According to the United States Department of Agriculture, organic food is produced using sustainable agricultural production practices. Not permitted are most conventional pesticides, fertilizers made with synthetic ingredients or sewage sludge, bioengineering or ionizing radiation. Organic meat, poultry, eggs and dairy products come from animals that are not given antibiotics or growth hormones.

The Organic Foods Production Act (OFPA) of 1990 served to establish national standards for the production and handling of foods labeled as organic. Before a product can be labeled organic, a government-approved certifier inspects the farm where the food is grown to make sure the farmer is following all the rules necessary to meet USDA organic standards.

Companies that handle or process organic food before it gets to your local supermarkets or restaurants must be certified too. The bottom line is that organic food contains lower levels of pesticides than conventionally grown food and is produced in a more environmentally sustainable way.

What is the cost of organic?

Organic foods will cost more than conventionally produced foods, but how much more? A comparison was made at two Columbia grocery stores to evaluate the cost of conventional produce versus organic produce. Ten different produce items were chosen from the Clean 15 and Dirty Dozen lists: apples, peaches, nectarines, strawberries, mangos, kiwis, white potatoes, sweet potatoes, celery and cabbage. On average, the organic foods cost 198 percent more than conventionally grown produce. However, if you are willing to be flexible with your selections, you can often get organic produce on sale at nearly the same price as conventional.

Is organic really more beneficial to your health?

Mary Hendrickson is an assistant professor at the University of Missouri, who works in sustainable agriculture. In regards to organic foods, Dr. Hendrickson says, "There aren't a lot of proven health claims about it being healthier in terms of vitamins, nutrients and things like that. The only thing

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we can really say is that it reduces pesticide loads on fruits and vegetables.

You can avoid a lot of pesticide residues by eating organic."

The decision is yours.

So now we are back to the same age-old question. Is purchasing organic products really worth it? As you are strolling up and down the grocery store aisles picking out food, how do you decide whether or not to look for those little green organic labels?

"A consumer has to examine why they are interested in eating organic," Dr. Hendrickson says. "Tailor your buying to what you are interested in, and educate yourself." Are you eating organic mostly for your own benefit or the benefit of the environment and community?

That, along with convenience and how much more you are willing and able to pay, will determine how much you buy organic.

If you are interested in your individual or family's health, there are some things to think about before going grocery shopping. If you have children, you might consider avoiding, or at least minimizing, their pesticide exposure. The American Academy of Pediatrics linked pesticide exposure in children to increases in certain types of cancer and behavioral problems. Some people also think you should consider eating organic if you have allergies.

Anna Meyer is the owner of Range Free, an allergen-free bakery and cafe in downtown Columbia. She has allergies and believes eating organic makes a difference. "Everything you eat has an immediate reaction, and lessening toxins helps the body process foods," she says.

If you are more concerned about community health, the environment and the health of the workers growing your food, you might consider switching your diet to all organic foods. According to a Consumer Reports article, pesticide exposure in farm workers has been linked to increased risks of cancers, depression, and respiratory problems. Organic farming promotes sustainable agriculture and has different effects on the environment than conventional farming. Organic farmers are required by law to follow certain rules.

Clean fifteen

h Shopper's guide to Pesticides in Produce

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Focus on clean eating.

Just as Megan said, any produce is better than no produce. Regardless if you decide to eat and feed your family organic products, the goal at the end of the day is to ensure that the foods you are selecting are beneficial for your body.

Laura Lee Brown is the owner of Laura Lee's Healthy Plate in Columbia, and her main focus is to offer her clients easy access to nutritious meals.

"I make healthy food taste good, enjoyable, fun and not overwhelming," she says. Laura Lee also offers cooking demonstrations on how to shop and prepare food ahead of time. "There are ways to make something go a long way. You just have to know how. That's why we do cooking demos."

When it comes to shopping for food, Laura Lee believes it's important to go organic if you can, but it's also important to clean up your diet.

When planning her meals, she thinks about limiting sugars, artificial sweeteners, sodas and hydrogenated oils. She also cooks with healthy carbohydrates such as millet, brown rice and quinoa. She promotes eating quality fats from nuts, seeds and oil. And of course, she believes in feeding your body a variety of vegetables. "We really kind of play mom for everybody,” Laura Lee says about her staff. “We make sure they are getting all their vegetables and that they're enjoying it."

She also believes you can't get everything you need from food. Some suggestions she has for her customers are a multivitamin, probiotics and a good source of omega-3 fatty acids, such as fish oil.

However, Laura Lee urges that it doesn’t do you any good to supplement a bad diet.

Putting together the pieces of the puzzle So, how do you balance all these suggestions for eating healthy? Remember, organic has its advantages if you can afford it. Decreasing the amount of pesticides on your foods decreases the amount of toxins you put into your body, and the more the community purchases organic products, the more the environment benefits from these choices as well.

However, a diet rich in fruits and vegetables reigns in the most important. Eating conventionally grown produce is far better than skipping fruits and vegetables all together. Convenience is not an excuse, especially in Columbia where there options such as Laura Lee’s Healthy Plate that make healthy eating quick and easy.

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Goingthrough theChange Eventually, all women will go through The Change.

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Several years ago when I was in my early 50s, I witnessed a curious situation in the Green Tennis Center parking lot. It was a cold winter day, and a friend and I, still in our tennis togs, were chatting outside our cars. I was wearing a jacket. She was not.

“Haven’t you gone through this?” she asked after I inquired why she wasn’t cold. She said her new condition was really cutting down on heating bills.

Not long after, I learned all too well what she meant. I woke in the middle of the night on fire from the neck down. Desperate for evaporative cooling, I kicked off my covers and lay spreadeagle on the bed.

Heat surged through me stabbing at my chest. A few minutes later I was drenched and clammy, and it was over—`my first full-blown hot flash.

Hot flashes are one of the telltale signs of peri-menopause, a woman’s natural transition toward menopause.

They occur with varying degrees of intensity and affect about 75 to 85 percent of women in peri-menopause.

Other symptoms include irregular or heavy periods and menopausal disturbances such as headaches, fatigue, hair loss and vaginal dryness. Most women reach peri-menopause in their mid-to-late 40s, but some can notice the symptoms as early as their mid-30s.

Doctors don’t know exactly what causes hot flashes, but it’s likely related to hormonal changes. Decreased levels of estrogen have a direct effect on the brain’s hypothalamus, which controls appetite, sleep cycles, sex hormones and body temperature.

“Most women are not surprised by what is happening,” says Katie Welch, MD, an obstetrician/gynecologist at Women’s Health Associates. “They just want to know how to help modify the symptoms.”

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ward the ceasing of menstruation, Dr. Welch says. Eventually, there’s not enough estrogen released from the ovaries to thicken the uterine lining, and menses stop. Ovulation also stops, and a woman can no longer bear children. She says that peri-menopause can last up to 10 years, and the average age of menopause is 51.

For me, it was 52. By then the hot flashes had ramped up, and I too was saving money on heating bills. My husband invested in a polar fleece vest, which he wore inside while I dressed for summer. I was unfazed by Missouri’s “wintery mix” and joked with friends about how our hot flashes might be causing

“The hardest part for most women is the fear of aging, and menopause is a sure sign of that,” Dr.Welch says. “We live in such a ‘beautiful’ society trying to stay young forever and the fight to make that happen. For a lot of women, dealing with menopausal symptoms is just the beginning of other things.”

At the root of these other things might be misgivings associated with menopause. Often, a big part of a woman’s identity up until menopause is the ability to have children. When a girl gets her first period, she’s often told she’s become a woman, and in cultures throughout the world, the onset of menarche is cause for celebration. By contrast, menopause can feel like a loss.

“I look at menopause as a reverse puberty,” says William Trumbower, MD, a gynecologist and independent contractor at Pela Cura Anti-Aging and Wellness. “You lose bone and muscle mass, your brain changes, your sleep is different. You lose your sex drive and your sexual function. How women deal with that is really up to them.”

Recently, Dr. Trumbower retired from Women’s Health Associates to become an independent contractor with daughter Elisabeth Trumbower, an RN, licensed esthetician and owner of Pela Cura Anti-Aging and Wellness. “What thinkstock we’re offering is an integrated approach that will improve a patient’s quality of life for as long as possible,” Elisabeth global warming. says. “Bioidentical hormones and BHRT are a I certainly didn’t miss the hassles of monthhuge part of that.” ly periods or the PMS and cramping that accompanied them. I also found menopause Over the years, Dr. Trumbower has been into be a convenient excuse. Any time I forvolved with bio-identical hormone replacegot something or got confused, I blamed it on ment therapy, or BHRT, to help even out hor“mental pause.” monal imbalances and reduce certain health But for some women, the symptoms of risks. “Bio-identical hormones are an option,” peri-menopause and menopause can be unhe says. The hormones are created in a lab from bearable. Extreme hot flashes and night yams and soy and have the same chemical and sweats can disrupt sleep, which results in irmolecular structure as what the human body ritability, fatigue and even depression. Addmakes. The hormones he uses are FDA aped to that, vaginal dryness, loss of libido and proved, so they’ve been shown in trials to reincreased urinary infections can take the joy lieve menopausal symptoms and reduce the out of sex. For women who might also be facrisk of osteoporosis. ing an empty nest or the loss of their parents, these changes can make them feel like they’re Doctors administering BHRT measure their getting old before their time. patients’ hormone levels with saliva tests and

“The hardest part for most women is the fear of aging, and menopause is a sure sign of that,” Dr. Welch says. “We live in such a ‘beautiful’ society - staying young forever and the fight to make that happen.

For a lot of women, dealing with menopausal symptoms is just the beginning of other things.” develop individualized prescriptions to bring them into balance. (Saliva tests can also indicate whether a woman in her 30s or 40s has entered peri-menopause.) The prescription typically includes progesterone, which women who have had hysterectomies or are menopausal no longer have, and estrogen. It might also include testosterone, DHEA or adrenal hormones.

For those who choose BHRT, their prescriptions can be administered in several ways. Many patients use cream, which bypass the liver and avoid the risks like blood clots. For patients needing higher doses, shots or pellets, which also avoid the liver, are options. Pellets are a compressed form of pure hormones that are inserted under the skin with a local anesthetic.

For some women, the pellets can be a godsend.

One of Trumbower’s (which Trumbower? If Elisabeth, let’s use her first name. IF Dr. Trumbower, let’s use Dr. Trumbower to stay consistent with the rest of the piece.) patients, now in her late 50s, went into menopause at 35, about 17 years earlier than average, due to a hysterectomy. She says that the pellets, which she receives every four months (they dissolve over time), keep her feeling steady, help her sleep and reduce headaches.

“I’ve had trouble with hormonal imbalances since I was 13,” she says. “This is the best I’ve felt in a long time. My husband says I’ve never

been more level. I have no intense hot flashes, although I’ll probably flash until the day I die.”

“I do just enough bio-identicals that I do think there’s some benefit to them in the right patient population,” Dr. Welch says. Recently, a patient in her late 50s/early 60s called with a certain problem that was above and beyond what Dr. Welch felt comfortable treating, so she referred the patient to Dr. Trumbower. He helped her with hormonal balance, but Dr. Welch still sees her for annual exams, PAP smears and breast exams.

“I see bioidenticals as much more useful in patients who are peri-menopausal or postmenopausal versus somebody who’s younger and trying to control a cycle,” Dr. Welch says.“The dosage required to control or make a cycle is much higher, so a lot of times we need that birth-control pill dose to regulate a cycle.”

Women in peri-or post-menopause have fewer hormones in their bodies than their younger counterparts, so bio-identicals, which are gentler, might be all that’s needed to get things in balance.

Dr. Welch suggests that before considering BHRT, women should be aware of an increased risk of complications, especially if they have cardiovascular disease, diabetes or high blood pressure. She references the Women’s

Health Initiative study (WHI), which came out 13 years ago and linked hormone replacement therapy (HRT) to a higher risk of heart attacks, blood clots, strokes and breast cancer.

“Knowing that the WHI study only looked at Premarin and Provera, we can’t say that bioidentical hormone therapy is safer because it’s never been studied,” she says. “Also, cost is a big one with the bio-identicals. Depending on what they’re getting, BHRT may be more expensive than a prescription medication.”

Estradiol and Prometrium are examples of traditional prescription medications that contain natural estrogens and progesterone, she says.

Although she doesn’t have solid percentages, she estimates that about 50 to 75 percent of women take some form of hormone replacement during menopausal transition. However, ever since the WHI findings, it is not recommended that women continue traditional HRT for long periods of time.

Dr. Trumbower has a different take on the WHI. “The American medical establishment is basing all of their views on that study,” he says.

“Any research on Premarin tells you about Premarin; it doesn’t tell you about estrogen.” Premarin, which is made from the urine of a pregnant mare, contains 26 different horse hormones in one tablet, he says.

“My response is go to France,” Dr. Trumbower says. “The French never got into synthetic hormones by mouth. They have always thought that bioidenticals through the skin were better.”

The French Cohort Study, which is still ongoing after 12 years, has found no increase in heart attack, stroke and blood clots associated with bio-identical hormones, he says. And when the hormones were given in a balanced fashion, it found a decrease in breast cancer.

“The real question is: are you healthier with these hormones?” he asks. “And the answer is I think so because hormone balance makes everything better.” He says it’s important to go to a clinic with a physician who understands the complexity of hormonal balance, which is key in preventing some of the risks associated with HRT. “I applaud Dr. Trumbower’s individualized apco lu m b i a h o m e magazi n e.com | 63

Hormone therapy aside, there’s something liberating and even empowering about being postmenopausal.

With our children launched, my husband and I have more time and money to pursue our own interests and visit our families. Last summer I turned 59, and my father gave me a card that said, “You keep getting better!” He’s 91. I think I’ll take his word for it. proach to women and their hormones,” writes Susan Nagel, PhD, associate professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology and Women’s Health at University of Missouri.“There is a large amount of variability in both estrogen and progesterone levels and the response to the same level of hormone. With any medication, there are risks, and certainly there is a slight increased risk of breast cancer in postmenopausal women taking estrogens of any kind.”

A 2015 study compared levels of hormones in women taking a common formulation of bio-identicals with standard hormone HRT. It found that estrogen levels were generally lower in women on bio-identicals, which suggests they might not have any additional risks, Dr. Nagel says.

But even with the reduced risk, some women wonder why they should take hormones at all. Rather than thinking of menopause as a deficiency disease requiring medical intervention, why not accept menopausal symptoms as a normal part of aging?

“Many women sail right through menopause,” says Jan Swaney, MD, an internist specializing in women’s health, who recently retired. “They might have some symptoms that they view as nuisances, such as hot flashes, sleep disturbances, dry skin and dry eyes, but they have enough life experience to put them into context.” These women tend not to seek medical intervention for menopausal symptoms, she says.

Dr. Trumbower says he was relatively unhealthy most of his life and accepted arthritis, headaches and weight gain as normal aging. When he developed a hypothyroid condition, standard treatment didn’t work, so he began researching alternatives. The answer for him was exercise, dietary changes and natural thyroid replacement hormones, a type of BHRT. (Dr. Trumbower also administers BHRT to men, particularly those going through andropause, or male menopause.)

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ry,” he says. “Most of the people who follow my advice find their life is better. Many of my friends and colleagues roll their eyes; many know I’m an old radical. I’m not offended in the least.”

Recently, Urology Associates of Central Missouri opened Epoch Health, which offers anti-aging treatments for men. With Pela Cura getting into the act, women will have an opportunity to keep up with their partners, Dr. Welch says. “I think Dr. Trumbower’s providing a service that we haven’t had,” she says. “I think he’s going to be busy.”

For me, the onset of menopause was part of an overall re-defining of myself in my 50s. In the beginning it was about fighting the aging process. I had some work done, ramped up my exercise and spent a lot of money on undergarments, all in hopes of recovering my younger self on the outside.

But in recent years I’ve ventured inward, and my anxieties over aging have subsided. I’ve reconnected with a faith community, spent more time outdoors and embraced new experiences. I feel fortunate to have a supportive husband and a number of friends who were going through The Change right along with me.

Dr. Trumbower, my longtime gynecologist, also helped me through the transition. His holistic approach to medicine encouraged me to take an active role in my overall health and wellbeing. During my yearly checkups, we’d discuss things like fitness and bone density, the slow food movement and the advantages of fish oil. BHRT hasn’t been something I’ve needed, although the promise of turning back the clock hormonally can be tempting.

Hormone therapy aside, there’s something liberating and even empowering about being postmenopausal. With our children launched, my husband and I have more time and money to pursue our own interests and visit our families. Last summer I turned 59, and my father gave me a card that said, “You keep getting better!” He’s 91. I think I’ll take his word for it.

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One Kid At a Time

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One Kid At a Time There are more than 172,717 residents in Boone County. Within the 172,717 residents, 35,580 of those are under the age of 18.

Of that 35,580, nearly 25,000 are K-12 students attending school in Boone County. The number of children suffering from mental health issues is skyrocketing and the schools noticed a gap. The Boone County Schools Mental Health Coalition was created to bridge that gap, and they’ve implemented a program that’s geared toward creating an aware community that can work alongside schools, counselors, parents and teachers.

Early detection of mental health problems can lead to prevention of drug abuse, criminal activity and addiction down the road. And that road really isn’t as long as we think it is.

Determining Risk In the state of Missouri, the Department of Social Services, Division of Youth Services, keeps track of juvenile court referrals. Back in 2007, 3,161 law violation referrals were made due to drugs. In Columbia, the threat of youth involved in drug activity is silent, but deadly. Prescription drug abuse has become an increasing concern, not just in Columbia, but the entire state of Missouri. These drugs include Alprazolam (Xanax), Oxycodone (Oxycontin), and Amphetamines (Adderall and Dexedrine). Kids can get ahold of these drugs without even seeing their doctor: forged prescriptions, theft, “doctor shopping,” and online purchasing are among the options.

Sometimes, though, these addictions start by accident. Like a legal prescription for pain incurred from a horrible car accident.

The solution comes down to early detection

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— but how? Addiction doesn’t pick a gender, race, age or economic status.

“Twenty percent of children are at risk for mental health issues, and of that 20 percent, three to five percent of kids experience serious mental health issues that lead to more significant problems later, such as addiction,” said Aaron Thompson, Assistant Professor at the University of Missouri, School of Social Work, and representative from the Boone County Health Coalition.

There was a gap in early detection, and a group of individuals, right here in Columbia, knew there had to be a solution to this problem. It came in the form of the Boone County Schools Mental Health Coalition, which was formed by a passed six million dollar tax proposal back in 2012. Representatives like Thompson went door to door, asking Boone County residents to invest in kids. After the tax was passed, LouAnn Tanner-Jones was placed as the Director for this program, bridging the Coalition and all six school districts in Boone County. Her role is to implement and oversee Coalition programs. She works closely with the superintendents in each Boone County school district to figure out exactly where that tax money needs to go.

This program exists to help children succeed, in and out of the classroom, from their first day of kindergarten until they walk across the stage at graduation. The family Access Center for Excellence (FACE) of Boone County creates child-centered and family-based wraparound service plans for in-risk youth like the ones mentioned above. But what does that mean?

How does the organization determine what who the “in-risk” youth are?

“The use of the tax money is broad. We’re using it as a way to help kids in the end. The question posed to us with this money was, “How can we manage and reduce the serious mental health issues our children suffer from in Boone County? Our answer was to start at a higher level,” said Christine King, Columbia Board of Education Member.

King was first elected in 2009 as re-elected in 2012 and 2015. She served as president from 2013 to 2015.

“In the end, we want to make sure that the results show that we’ve helped parents and

families get their needs met when it comes to helping their kids.”

The Boone County Schools Mental Health Coalition is a multidisciplinary collaborative program among the six Boone County independent school districts, the University of Missouri College of Education, Department of Educational School and Counseling Psychology and School Counseling, the Missouri Prevention Center and the School of Social Work. Their mission statement reads: “ To promote a coordinated, multidisciplinary, collaborative initiative through: (a) implementation of a scientificallybased model of prevention and intervention, (b) reduce contextual risk factors and promote existing protective factors, and (b) provide access for in-risk youth and their families to comprehensive mental health assessment and wrap around case management services.”

Tackling The Problem If you are a parent, I’m sure there have been times where you pick your kids up from school and ask them how their day was.

They probably say, “Oh, it was fine.” And then it’s silent in the car for a bit. You might ask, “What did you do at recess today?” You glance back at your child, waiting to hear something about swinging on the swing set, playing on the monkey bars or an intense game of four-square. But instead you hear, “Well, somebody pushed me today at recess and I don’t know why.” Some parents would tell them to “be bigger than that,” or “don’t let it bother you,” or even to just smile. And all of that is correct. But the truth is that depression in 7-year-olds looks a lot like being bullied.

In 2014, the BCSMHC performed a needs assessment among teachers and school administrations across the county. They found that the majority of the group didn’t know what to look for in regards to kids’ mental health. And on top of that, if they did know what to look for, they didn’t know where to go or what to do with that information.

Thompson also mentioned that teachers were noticing an increase in bullying and academic problems, loss of interest in school, teacher-student rejection, school failure, substance abuse through peer groups and a

spike in criminal activity. These issues were ranging K-12. The Coalition has several grants that have been funded such as the FACE project that will provide assesments and case management.

The coalitions goal is to saturate the community with knowledgeable people who are aware and responsive to youth mental health concerns that could lead to more significant problems down the road, such as addiction.

Here To Help The Coalition to date has trained all teachers in four of the six county schools in MHFA.In the beginning they piloted the teacher version of the early identification system for 1,235 students grades K-12. A total of 62 teachers completed the online assessment to evaluate the functionality, feasibility and utility of the system. The purpose of the early identification system is to identify early signs of social and emotional problems among youth in a school building. This system will allow the BCSMHC to determine the level of risk at the student, classroom, school, district and county. The program also includes something called the Gate System: students who are identified “at-risk” by the early identification system will receive a second, more detailed assessment to determine more specific areas of concern. This is called the “second gate” and includes parent reports, as well as teacher and child reports of social and behavioral concern.

In some cases, a family may be referred to an outside agency.

As part of training, the Coalition informed teachers, school administrators and community members about the local resources in Boone County.

For younger children who may need counseling and help with mental health issues, there are several resources right here in Columbia. Great Circle is an agency that provides a unique spectrum of behavioral health services to children and their families.

Other great resources for children and adolescents are Compass Health and Pathways Community Health. There are also several local resources for teens who are suffering from drug addiction or substance abuse.

It’s something that parents have a hard time

talking about; they don’t know where to go, or who to talk to. There’s a fear that we may be judged, even by our closest friends. You won’t have all the answers when they ask, “Well what happened? They come from such a good, loving home.” You don’t have to have all the answers.

Reach out to these local organizations that can help you, your teen, and your family heal.

NAVIG8 Adolescent Treatment Program, The Crossroads Program, Great Circle, Valley Hope Addiction Treatment Center, Burrell Behavioral Health and CenterPointe Hospital are available to help.

The Coalition is aware of these resources and as part of their family wrap-around program will help guide parents and students to the light at the end of the tunnel. They are working hard to put an end to kids slipping through the cracks, silently suffering from mental health issues, drug addiction and substance abuse.

Their goal is to help each and every in-risk student get back on track, so that their future can be bright and promising; they just have to take it one kid at a time.

Five Regions The schools in Boone County have been divided into five regions.

Region A

Harrisburg School District Midway Heights Elementary Smithton Middle School Paxton Keely Elementary Alpha Hart Elementary West Middle School Ridgeway Elementary

Region B Sturgeon School District Centralia School District Two Mile Prairie Elementary School Battle High School Derby Ridge Elementary Douglass High School

Region C Local Resources Boonville Valley Hope 1415 W. Ashley Rd., Boonville, MO 65233 660-882-6547 www.valleyhope.org Burrell Behavioral Health 1805 East Walnut St., Columbia, MO www.burrellcenter.com CenterPointe Hospital 601 West Nifong Blvd., Suites 6A & 6B, Columbia, MO 65203 573-875-5900 www.centerpointehospital.com Great Circle 4304 South Bearfield Rd., Columbia, MO 65201 573-874-8686 www.greatcircle.org NAVIG8 Adolescent Treatment Program 403 Dysart St. Columbia, MO 65201 573-449-4770 www.compasshealthnetwork.org/navig8 The Crossroads Program 3605 South Providence Rd., Columbia, Mo 65203 573-256-8020 www.thecrossroadsprogram.com

Hallsville School District Oakland Middle School Lang Middle School West Elementary Parkade Elementary Blue Ridge Elementary

Region D Jefferson Junior High Grant Elementary Benton Elementary Lee Elementary Hickman High School Russell Elementary Fairview Elementary

Region E Southern Boone District Mill Creek Elementary Gentry Middle School New Haven Elementary Rock Bridge Elementary Rock Bridge High School Shepard Elementary Cedar Ridge Elementary

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The Process of Healing

It was June 2. Nita Brooks and her daughter, Grace, were flying back to Kansas City from Playa del Carmen, Mexico, where they had spent a week relaxing and celebrating Grace’s graduation from massage therapy school. What was already going to be a long day of travel turned into one of the longest days of their lives.

During their layover in Houston, Nita received two text messages that read, “Apparently Lucas has been asleep since 6 last night, “ and, “ he didn’t answer text last night.” After landing in Kansas City, sitting in the back of the plane, Nita and Grace received the news that Lucas had died.

When asked to talk about her son, Nita couldn’t define Lucas in one word.

“I don’t feel like Lucas is easily defined by one term. As a child he participated in many sports. After middle school his social life seemed to replace his sports participation. He loved hanging with his friends, and they frequently filled our house. Lucas also became very involved in our church youth group, and took two summer mission trips to Jamaica with the group,” Nita wrote to me.

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Lucas was also a family guy. He loved his family and said multiple times that they were the most important thing to him. At the time of his death, he was living with Grace in an apartment here in Columbia.

Nita reflects that Grace probably saw much more of Lucas’ addiction than she ever did.

Lucas was a heroin addict. Looking back, Nita admits that she was extremely naïve when it came to issues concerning addiction. She says that in the months leading up to his death, he looked high more often, had glassy eyes and frequently fell asleep or couldn’t hold a conversation.

Lucas had admitted to his mother that he used Xanax and marijuana.

He just never admitted to using heroin.

After that tough conversation, Nita and Lucas talked about a plan.

But that plan was interrupted six days later, when he was arrested for shoplifting. After spending a few nights in jail, he went to Valley Hope Addiction Treatment Center in Boonville.

“He was supposed to stay there for 28 days, but was released after 21 days, with only a four-hour notice to us. Just five days after he was released, Lucas died of accidental overdose.” Nita says.

Warning Signs Nita reflects on the little signs that never really did scream “addiction” to her. He avoided family contact. Grace talked about the difficulties of living with Lucas.

Lucas ran out of money, even though he was working 25-plus hours per week.

These were subtle indicators that something might have been off with Lucas.

“The only biggest sign I see now, looking back, and having learned more about how heroin addiction starts in many cases, is that Lucas had a car accident in October and ended up in the emergency room. He left with a prescription for narcotic painkillers.

I didn’t think much of it at the time, but I learned that nearly two-thirds of heroin addiction starts with addiction to prescription pain killers.” Nita writes.

Recovery Recovery from a heroin addiction is a lifetime process. A typical 28-day program barely skims the surface for what is needed in order to have a successful recovery. Insurance norm for addiction treatment is short-term inpatient. After that, the addict must find their own tools and resources in order to stay clean.

With Lucas’s case, the 21 days in rehab detoxed his body, so his regular heroin dosage became lethal.

Reflecting Nita remembers her son as being gentle, beautiful and joyful. She remembers that he loved nature; she pictures him tying up a hammock between two trees near the river and relaxing. She remembers a specific trip to the Lake of the Ozarks, where the whole family went tubing. She saw pure joy on Lucas’s face that day, sliding through the water, hitting wakes and smiling like nothing could go wrong.

On June 2, Nita felt shattered, suffocated and in shock. Losing a child is totally incomprehensible. In order to heal, she started writing, one word at a time. She has found that writing her thoughts and hitting “publish” is one of the ways she has found to deal with her grief. Today, she said she feels “functionally amputated.”

Nita says, “Losing Lucas was losing a part of me. Visually, I picture my four children as my arms and legs. Lucas’ death was like losing one of my limbs. A devastating, giant loss. But I am learning to navigate this world with three instead of four. It’s a slow, awkward and, at times, extremely painful process. I wish I didn’t have to, but I don’t have a choice. I’m a different me in many ways.”

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Mediterranean Meets Midwest Tucked back in a cul-de-sac in the southwest corner of Columbia is a beautiful, custom-built home that makes you feel as if you’re in Southern California. The style is Mediterranean, but there’s a catch. There are two houses.

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A family who wanted to channel their inner Mediterranean in their first custom-built home contacted Bruce Finley at Design Built Homes. They had picked a lot in the Copperstone Neighborhood and began the plan for their dream home alongside Bruce. The process took about four years, but that’s partially because the family built their main living space first and then built a stunning two-bedroom pool house right next door.

“We really wanted an all-inclusive builder, one that could do the architecture part as well as the building,” says the homeowners, who wish to remain anonymous. “Bruce also had lots of experience with energyefficient homes.

When you pull up to the home, you are welcomed by a circle drive with a beautiful fountain centered in front of the front door. The front door is homey and with stunning heavy wood doors and iron handles. The floor plan is open and airy with tall, vaulted ceilings and big picture windows on the North side of the home. A long hallway to the right leads to the bedrooms while stairs in front of the entrance lead down to the basement, which is full of sports memorabilia. The kitchen is beautiful with a large island and breakfast nook. The interior decorating was done in part by Johnston Paint and Decorating alongside IO Metro where the family got a few large pieces of furniture. Glancing out of the windows on the South side of the home, one can’t help but notice another building that backs right up to a beautiful swimming pool.

On the Southwest side of the driveway sits the family’s pool house. It was also designed and built by Bruce at Design Built Homes with the interior designed by Anna Luecke with AM Designs. The pool house has a very different feel from the main house; it’s light and airy and opens up directly to the pool, which was done by Vaughn Pools. There’s a gorgeous water feature that trickles down into the pool over smooth rocks.

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The landscaping on both houses was done by Outdoor Solutions and Rost Landscaping. Rost Landscaping did all of the work at the pool including the unique water feature mentioned above. Currently, Rost Landscaping also handles all of the landscaping maintenance at both the main house and the pool house.

The family that lives in this home has truly brought the Mediterranean style to the Midwest. They successfully blended two styles, two homes and made it functional, comfortable and stunning.

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Resources: Design Built Homes: 573-445-1783 Anna Leucke, AM Designs: 573-289-0889 Rost Landscaping: 573-445-4465 Outdoor Solutions: 573-424-4097 IO Metro: 573-445-9600 Johnston Paint and Decorating: 573-443-8755

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What the Pros Know Whether it’s home maintenance, style tips or buying advice, this team has you covered.

“Having grown up just south of Columbia, I’ve developed a love for the central Missouri community and the folks who live here. My wife and I built a home for our family just outside of Columbia. I have a good understanding of why there are so many Columbia transplants — it’s just a great community to live in! ” – shaun henry

“When I was younger, my dad let me have free rein over decorating his house. Together we went to auctions and picked out pieces for our home.

In high school, I also started custom framing and was responsible for decorating all of my school’s dances.

It was around then that I realized interior design was something that was always on my mind.”

– Tim Lehmann

“I was born and raised in Columbia. After serving in the Corps for four years, I moved back here to work with my father, Dan. In the near future I plan to take Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling into markets outside of Columbia.”

“I was born and raised in Columbia and love nothing more than calling this place home.

Columbia is a great community, and I thoroughly enjoy working in real estate.”

– Cale Kliethermes

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According to Cale Staying up-to-date on changing rules could protect you and your money.

By Ca le Kliethermes

Everyone will likely have their own definition or successful, but I’d like to share with you my idea of a successful project: 1. All of your expectations are properly set and either met or exceeded.

2. You are left feeling very pleased and satisfied with the final results.

3. The quality of work is exceptional and enduring.

4. You felt comfortable with the workers who worked on your home.

5. You and your contractor respect each other during the project and after.

6. You were given choices that increased the value of your project.

7. You feel that you’ve paid a fair price for the value you received.

8. The project has added value to your life and home.

By meeting these criteria, it lends itself to satisfaction. This is not only in your best interest for obvious reasons, but it’s also in the contractor’s best interest because satisfied clients are many times more likely to come to you again.

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Be sure to get lots of referrals before you select a contractor because you want to ensure the chosen contractor completes the job successfully. Here are a few tips for getting referrals: 1. You don’t always have to get three bids.

2. Going with the lowest price doesn’t always save you money.

3. Remember to check with the Better Business Bureau, and always check the contractor’s references.

4. Buying materials yourself doesn’t necessarily save you money down the road.

5. Just because the contractor has been in business a long time, doesn’t mean he or she is going to be the best. Again, check references, and find individuals you trust.

6. If the contractor says he or she is fully insured, that doesn’t always mean the insurance they have will provide you with adequate protection.

Cale Kliethermes I was born and raised in Columbia. In 1996 I moved to Colorado, where I ultimately (after playing for several years) earned a double major in business administration and finance through Regis University. After college, I enlisted in the Marine Corps and served four years, doing three consecutive tours to Iraq. In the Marine Corps I specialized in building and explosives. I got out of the Corps in 2009. Four years ago, I moved back to Columbia to work with my father, Dan, and our business, Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling.

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How the Dodd-Frank Act Could Be Affecting Your Mortgage Staying up-to-date on changing rules could protect you and your money.

By Brandon Gerau

Learn about recent changes in the mortgage industry and how they affect you and your home.

We seem to hear a lot in the media about securing mortgage approval and the difficulties plaguing mortgage consumers. What are these changes they are talking about? Below, I will discuss some of the changes to the mortgage industry that are a result of the Dodd-Frank Act and the questions consumers are asking.

What is Qualified Mortgage Rule?

In January of 2014 the mortgage industry in the United States changed the qualification and requirements in an attempt to minimize the highrisk loans that became common in the housing boom. These new regulations were designed to protect the consumer. One of the loans that Qualified Mortgage prohibits is the negative amortization option in which the loan balance grows over time. Some of the other risky loans it limits are balloon loans and interest-only loans. Lenders are still able to make mortgage loans; the main change the consumer will notice is that the documentation guidelines are a little stricter for all loan purposes.

is ATR? What ATR stands for ability to repay. These new rules are set up in an effort to protect the consumer. The Consumer Financial Protection Bureau amended Regulation Z to prohibit a lender from making a higher-priced mortgage loan without consideration of the consumer’s ability to repay.

You, as the consumer, will be asked to provide reliable documentation to determine eligibility. The typical information lenders consider are: »» Current income and assets »» Credit history »» Monthly mortgage payment »» Monthly mortgage-related expenses (property tax, insurance, homeowner association dues) »» Other debts »» Monthly debt payments compared to your monthly income »» Residual income

What is the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau?

The CFPB was established by Congress in January of 2012 as part of the Dodd-Frank Act. The purpose is to protect consumers by carrying out federal consumer financial laws. In January of 2014, the CFPB set new rules for mortgage servicers, which is the company that collects for mortgage payments. Below are the servicing rules: 1. All billing information must be in writing.

2. At least a two-month warning is warranted if a change in your adjustable rate mortgage interest rate means that your payments are about to change.

3. The servicers must promptly credit your payments.

4. They must respond quickly when you ask about paying off your loan.

5. There will be no charge for insurance you don’t need, and they cannot overcharge you for force-placed insurance.

6. The servicers must quickly resolve complaints and share information with the borrower.

7. Quality customer service policies and procedures must be in place and be followed.

8. They must contact you to help when you’re having trouble making your payments.

9. If you are having trouble paying your mortgage, they are required to work with you before starting or continuing foreclosure.

10. They must allow you to seek review of the mortgage servicer’s decision about your loan workout request.

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Have questions? Call your loan officer today to find out more details about the Dodd-Frank Act.

Brandon Gerau

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I have been with Landmark Bank for three years now. I am a mortgage lender at our new office on the corner of Forum and Chapel Hill. I have my undergraduate degree from the University of Missouri and am currently pursing my master’s in financial planning at MU. You can reach me at 573-499-7327 or email me at brandon.gerau@landmarkbank.com. co lu m b i a h o m e m agazi n e.com | 89

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Preparing for Fall Who is ready for fall colors of autumn, hoodies and chili? Fall is a very special time in my world. Hopefully, all of you have enjoyed your summer and are ready for a fun fall as well.

Here are some things to be thinking about this time of year:

By Shaun Henry

It’s time to put those sprinkler systems to bed for the winter.

A properly installed irrigation system will have the supply lines buried at least 12 inches deep to help avoid freezing issues, but to protect your investment you will want to have the system winterized. The process typically includes the use of a large, tow behind-type air compressor capable of supplying 85 cubic feet per minute (CFM) and will blow nearly all of the water out of the irrigation lines as you run a couple of cycles through your system. Most of us don’t have an air compressor like this sitting in our garage, so you will most likely have to call on a professional for help with this service.

It’s quite an ordeal but certainly worth it. Now if you happen to have seeded the lawn or planted some new trees or shrubs, you might want to postpone shutting down your sprinkler system until December, so you can water during any dry periods still to come this fall.

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This time of year we see a lot of wildlife getting ready for winter. Many birds fly south for the winter (this would be my choice!) while some animals get ready for hibernation and others build up their food storage in an effort to survive our long, cold Missouri winter.

We only have a few animals that actually hibernate in our area (bats, ground hogs and some mice). Most animals reduce activities to conserve energy and will fend for themselves in order to survive the winter. Squirrels are one of those animals that will build up their food supply and nest together with their family unit in order to share supplies and body heat. Sometimes, they look for the strangest places to store food and build a nest to ride out the winter months. Sometimes it’s in the attic space of our homes. As they search for entry points (which can be anywhere), squirrels might damage siding, soffits, fascia boards, chimney flashing and even various types of exhaust fans. Once in the attic, they can build nests where they create a mess with droppings and urine. Even worse, they can chew through wires, which creates a potential fire hazard, or destroy furniture and other household contents if they get into living areas. If you notice any sounds of scurrying little feet from your attic, you might want to be on the lookout for squirrels looking to take up residence. You might need to trap and remove them while finding their entry point to close and repair.

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Dormant feeding of your ornamental trees and shrubs might be the most important thing that you can do for your landscape plants this fall or winter, especially after the wet late spring and summer we had.

Water logged root zones often shorten and produce “lazy” roots while promoting disease.

You might want to take a soil sample around your planting beds to have tested. We often use the University of Missouri Soil Lab via the MU Extension office. If you have a plant of concern, they can also test a sample from your tree or shrub to see what nutrients it might be lacking, so that you can cater your fertility program to its specific needs. You might also want to research the different common fertility needs for your variety of plants because your plans should differ depending on the type of shrub or bush. You might need more Nitrogen for improving spring growth versus more Phosphorus for root development, winter hardiness and bloom production. There are also micro-nutrients available to supplement sulfur, boron, magnesium, iron, manganese and other nutrients that are vital to a healthy plants. Do your research, and remember more is not always better when it comes to fertilizer.

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An Atkins Shout Out I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to congratulate our Atkins team and the Atkins family on their 90th anniversary. It is quite an accomplishment for a small family owned and operated business to survive that long and do as well as they have. The long list of services provided have changed a lot over the years, but we have always held tight to the idea that we want to provide exceptional customer service, develop great relationships and be involved in the community. Thank you to Tom Atkins for all that he has done for our community and the folks that work here at Atkins.

Shaun Henry

I was born and raised in the Deer Park area south of town, where I was close to lots of cousins, my grandparents and plenty of friends. I don’t think I ever imagined living anywhere else. My wife and I both graduated from the University of Missouri and set roots in rural Columbia with our three boys.

Having grown along with Atkins Inc. since June of 2000, I’m proud to be part of an organization that’s so deeply rooted in building relationships throughout the community and developing one of the finest groups of experts in the field.

From grounds maintenance to pest management to commercial cleaning, our crews really know their stuff. We’d love to hear from you at 573-874-5100, or email me at shaun@atkinsinc.com.

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The Focal Point How to Design a Room Around Your Art

by Tim Lehmann There are a lot of ways to begin designing a space. If you have a spectacular piece of art, it can be the perfect place to start. Everyone has their own tastes when it comes to art; there are tons of pieces that I love, but there are very few that “speak to me.” I can’t really explain why I love these particular pieces so much. They evoke a feeling that is very hard to recreate. If you have such a “statement” piece, maybe you should consider designing an entire space around it. It gives you the chance to use special pieces that capture your attention or hold significant value.

A statement piece helps set a mood in a room, which ultimately influences the feel of your entire home. By choosing artwork that evokes the mood you are trying to achieve, you are influencing your home in the direction of your choosing.

There is a large beach photo in this room (I would probably specify where on the page it is once the article is designed), for example, that contributes to a light and whimsical atmosphere. The beach theme is subtly reinforced with the coral upholstery color on the sofa, the pop of aqua in the ceramics, the natural cecil rug and the light sandy colors used throughout the rest of the space.

Photos courtesy of studio home

Art was used as a stepping stone in this space as well. For the most part, the space is modern and neutral, but the bright colors in the artwork were the perfect way to bring pops of color into the space that would not necessarily work without that piece of art. The art also has a very glossy finish that mimics the feel of the chromes and the cream fabrics that have a hi-gloss finish..

To help you build a room around your own statement artwork, here are a few tips to help navigate you through the process: »» Let your artwork guide you when styling your room. Focus on shades of color in the piece that will help tie the rest of the space together. »» Be careful about competitive elements. Too many statement pieces can make a room feel unfocused. »» To keep a statement piece from feeling over the top, choose a classic style with a strong color scheme. »» Consider the style. While you don’t want your room to feel too staged, incorporating pieces that complement the style or era of the artwork can add a cohesive touch. »» Most importantly, choose a work of art that holds meaning to you.

Building a room from something you love makes your house feel more like a home.

Tim Lehmann I help with a variety of tasks at Studio Home. I run and stage the showroom alongside Jon Trigg and Aaron Dolan. I assist with client deliveries and installations. I also fill some of our custom-framing orders for both clients and walk-ins. And finally, toward the end of an interior design project, I help accessorize a client’s home. I love that every day at Studio Home is different and brings a new challenge.

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CELEBRATING 90 YEARS of quality service and community spirit!

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Dear neighbors, friends and family, Since 1925, you have been welcoming the Atkins family into your lives, communities and homes. This year, we celebrate 90 years of quality service, focus on customers and employees, and community leadership. More importantly, we celebrate your trust in us and loyalty to our company. For all of us here at Atkins Inc, we would like to extend our personal thanks to you - our customer, our neighbor, our friend.

Thank YOU for 90 great years and many more to come.

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Dreaming in Boho Chic Style Before Photos by emily shephard

A trendy focal wall creates the foundation of a gorgeous master suite makeover.

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I had the pleasure of helping my good friend Beth Campbell and her husband, Ryan, to recreate her master suite. We totally transformed the room by creating the focal wall behind the couple’s bed with a beautiful wallpaper by York named Boho Chic. Johnston Paint and Decorating supplied the pre-pasted, washable and strippable wallcovering, which was super easy to adhere. I would suggest this as a great project to tackle for a DIYer at any skill level. The best part? Beth and I noticed this paper was recently featured in the August 2015 issue of Better Homes and Gardens. We are trendsetters for sure.

With the help of Johnston Paint staff, we ordered the paper for the wall and completed the project all in one evening. The staff at Johnston assisted us in figuring out the amount of paper to order as well as gave us instructions on installation. They based their suggestions off the size of the wall.

Because of the beautiful ink pattern on the front of the paper, the manufacturer suggested to mist the back of the paper with water to activate the paste in lieu of submerging it water. After spraying the back, we pressed the paper together (glue side to glue side) for three minutes and then carefully hung each piece ensuring the match the pattern on each strip.

The repeating pattern made it easy to match on this particular print.

Johnston Paint and Decorating also supplied the fabulous new two-inch Hunter Douglas Parkland wood blinds with decorative tapes in a coordinating color.

The paint color on the walls is called “Plaster of Paris” by Benjamin Moore with an Aura Matte finish, which has a very low sheen with the durability required in a family home.

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D o IT Y O U R SE L F Beth was ready to say goodbye to her old massive headboard to help better display the beautiful wallpaper, which was our original goal. We decided to repurpose a headboard that I picked up at an estate sale six months ago for $15.00. I was thrilled she liked it, but my husband was even happier to move it out of our garage. I tend to purchase things I like when I see them, and they end up in our garage just waiting for the right home.

The heavy wood dresser was also purchased at a garage sale. It was lightened up with offwhite chalk paint called Cottage Paint (also available at Johnston Paint). It took two coats of the paint, one coat of wax and some light distressing. We were very pleased with the outcome on the dresser, as well as the kingsize headboard.

Beth and I are both garage sale junkies/ treasure hunters, so we quickly began the search in her own piles of stuff in order to create a cozy ambiance in the room. We searched high and low for a pre-owned chair for the room, but we ended up purchasing the navy trellis chair online, and it fit the space perfectly.

Thanks to Embroider It, a locally owned and operated embroider and screen-printing store, we were able to incorporate custom monogrammed pillow shams. They add that very personal touch to make the room look and feel complete.

Adding curtains, pillows, mirrors, new lamps and a wall of family photos helped pull the room together. We also created some art on the other wall by lining two shadow boxes that picked up at a garage sale and repurposed them with the leftover wallpaper. We also created a piece of art with arrowheads from Ryan’s grandfather arrowheads that we hung between the two shadow boxes.

Sleep well in your new room, Beth and Ryan, and thanks for allowing me to be part of this makeover!

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Not Only Finding your Voice but Making it Heard Advice from a Cancer Survivor

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By kim becking It’s been thirteen years since I first heard those words: You have breast cancer. You think it can’t happen to you. You say, “I’m 30, healthy and have no family history.”

Life was going according to plan, but all of that changed with those four simple words. One week I’m planning my son Brandon’s 2-year-old birthday party and the next week, I’m starting my first round of chemotherapy. After eight rounds of chemotherapy, a mastectomy with breast reconstruction and other minor surgeries, I am happy to say that I am now in complete remission because I was doing my monthly self-breast exam, felt the lump and took immediate action.

The lesson: You know your own body better than anyone else. Listen to your body and be proactive with your health.

Cancer taught me the importance of being my own advocate, asking the hard questions, taking action and being proactive.

Not only do I believe my own patient advocacy allowed me to get the best care possible and ultimately saved my life, it also empowered me, gave me more control over my disease, and improved the quality of health care I received.

There are many ways to become an advocate. Advocate for yourself. Advocate for a family member or friend. Advocate for other individual patients who may not be able to speak for themselves. The important lessons I learned throughout my cancer experience about becoming a patient advocate are tools that you can apply in your own life.

*Arm yourself with information so that you can be an educated patient or caregiver making informed decisions. Do your homework, read and confirm what you are reading is from a reliable source. Talk to others who have had similar situations and interview your doctors.

I got a second opinion and ended up changing doctors. It was one of the best decisions I made.

Don’t be afraid to get second or third opinions.

Do whatever it takes to feel good about the decisions you are making.

*Build your medical team and establish strong communication with your doctor. Realize that you are a part of the team. This is a partnership and there should be trust, respect and honesty.

Ask the hard questions. And then ask again if you don’t understand the answer. The only “bad” question is the one you wish you had asked.

Record the conversation on your phone and listen to it later. Take a friend or family member with you for support and to lend another ear for information you might miss.

*Take care of you first. As women, we are often the main providers for our children’s health and well-being, help manage our partner’s health needs and are taking care of an aging or sick relative. We take care of everyone else first and then, if time allows, we take care of ourselves.

The problem with this approach is that if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. Remember the old saying, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy?” Well, if momma ain’t healthy, ain’t nobody healthy, so, take care of yourself.

*Don’t be afraid to get second opinions. Your doctor should welcome your request for another opinion. During my cancer treatment when one of my doctors was not answering my questions,

I encourage each of you to not only find your voice but make it heard when dealing with your healthcare. You could be saving your own life or the life of someone you love.

Kim Becking is a nationally recognized and sought-after author, motivational speaker and life coach and Chief Motivator at Looking Forward Living Life.She believes life’s inevitable challenges are an opportunity to pause and reinvent ourselves, not only surviving but thriving. It’s a story she can tell through many chapters: her battle with breast cancer, the demands of owning her own business, the balance of being a working mother, the unexpected challenges of marriage, family and divorce, having a second chance at love, remarrying a widower with two small children, and adjusting to a fabulous new life in a blended household as Kim Becking, mom of three, party of five.Visit her blog at www.lookingforwardlivinglife.com for more inspiration. And stay connected on Facebook at Looking Forward Living Life and Twitter @maketodaycount1.

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all about pears Pears are packed full of health-benefiting nutrients. Some of these include dietary fiber, anti-oxidants and minerals and vitamins that are essential for optimum health.

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health benefits of pears

1. This fruit is a great source of dietary fiber. One hundred

grams of pear provides 3.1grams of fiber. Most of the fiber in pears is non-starch polysaccharide (NSP) Note: Your acronym was different from what I looked up, so can we double check this is correct?, which functions as a good bulk laxative in the gut. Also, its gritty fiber content binds to cancer-causing toxins and chemicals in the colon that protects the colon’s membrane from contact with these compounds.

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It’s low calorie. Pears have just 58 calories per 100 grams. A low-calorie but high-fiber diet helps lower and maintain body weight and blood LDL cholesterol levels.

3. Pears are packed with Vitamin C. They provide about 7 percent per 100 grams.

Recipes to Try with pears This salad combines greens, sweet fruit and Asian dressing that is sure to one-up your last side salad.

Ingredients: • 1 Tbsp. vegetable oil, such as safflower • 1 Tbsp. fresh lime juice • 1 Tbsp. soy sauce • 2 bunches watercress (about 1lb. total), tough stems removed • 1 Bosc pear, cored and thinly sliced • 1/4 c. chopped unsalted cashews

Directions: In a large bowl, whisk together oil, lime juice and soy sauce. Add watercress, pear, and cashews. Toss to combine. Serve immediately.

Varieties Colors can vary from green-yellow Comice and blush pink Bartletts to copper brown Boscs.

1. Asian varieties: Ichiban Nashi, Shinsul, Shinsieki and Nijisseki 2. European varieties: Bartlett and Comice

Prosciutto-Wrapped Pork with Sweet Potatoes and Pears Recipe from Real Simple

Ingredients:

WATERCRESS, PEAR AND CASHEW SALAD Recipe from Martha Stewart

4. Pears are a great source of minerals such as copper, iron, potassium, manganese and magnesium. They are also packed with B-complex vitamins such as folates, riboflavin and pyridoxine (vitamin B-6) .

How to Choose your Pears: Choose fresh, bright and firm textured pears. Avoid selecting those with pressure marks on the skin as that indicates underlying mottled pulp. Don’t confuse this with speckles; some of the Asian varieties have rusted speckles over their skin, which is acceptable.

If you choose unripe pears, place them in a basket with separate chambers at room temperature.

Wrap in paper to ripen. You can place them in the refrigerator for a few days to keep them fresh.

• 2 medium sweet potatoes (about 1 lb.), peeled and cut lengthwise into wedges • 2 firm red Bartlett pears, cut into wedges • 2 Tbsp. olive oil • 8 sprigs fresh thyme • kosher salt and black pepper • 1 piece pork tenderloin (1 ¼ lbs.)

• ¼ lb. thinly sliced prosciutto • 1 tsp. honey

Directions: 1. Heat oven to 425º F. On a large rimmed baking sheet, toss the sweet potatoes, pears, oil, thyme, ½ teaspoon salt, and ¼ teaspoon pepper. Roast for 15 minutes.

2. Meanwhile, wrap the pork in the prosciutto, slightly overlapping the slices to cover the pork completely.

3. Push the vegetables to the edges of the baking sheet, place the pork in the center, and drizzle the pork with the honey. Roast until the pork is cooked through and the sweet potatoes and pears are tender, 20 to 25 minutes. Let the pork rest for at least 5 minutes before slicing. Serve with the sweet potatoes and pears. co lu m b i a h o m e magazi n e.com | 99

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It might be robbing you of more than just a good night’s sleep.

By Beth Bramstedt

Connie Nickles, an accounts receivable clerk for Bob McCosh Chevrolet GMC Caddillac, was told for 20 years that she stopped breathing while she slept. Her family was uneasy watching her gasp for air wondering if she would start breathing again. Connie also struggled with snoring and intense daytime tiredness, but it took a feeling of terror for her to finally get help.

“One night I went to sleep with a lot of congestion from allergies,” she shares. “I stopped breathing and was so congested that I couldn’t get started again. I woke up struggling to get any air moving, and I really thought I would die. I knew I had to do something.”

After seeing a doctor and participating in a sleep study, Connie was diagnosed with obstructive sleep apnea.

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central. Obstructive is the most common and occurs when the throat muscles relax.

Apnea is Greek for “want of breath,” and the disorder was first described in 1965. According to the National Sleep Foundation, as many as 18 million Americans struggle with sleep apnea and most go undiagnosed.

Kelly Bietsch, respiratory therapist and cofounder of Kilgore’s Respiratory Center, was offering free sleep apnea screenings to the community when she realized both she and her husband suffered from the disorder.

“Getting treated changed my life,” Kelly says.

She discovered that she stopped breathing up to 22 times per hour.

Some people actually quit breathing up to or even more than 100 times per hour, Kelly notes.

“Sleep apnea breaks the sleep cycle interrupting the chunks of deep, REM sleep that we need each night,” she says. “We also experience a decrease in oxygen that can damage the cells in our body.”

Sleep apnea is a chronic blocking of the airway that can be linked to serious health issues such

as hypertension, diabetes, stroke, heart issues and depression. Other symptoms of the disorder include daytime fatigue, night sweats, headaches, weight gain and frequent nighttime urination.

While sleep apnea can affect anyone at any age, studies have shown a correlation with gender, race, age, family history, neck and waist size and body mass index. The disorder also occurs more often in people who experience nasal congestion and those who use alcohol, tobacco, tranquilizers and sedatives.

Traditional Treatment Options Once diagnosed, Connie wrestled with the treatment options. Deciding that surgery felt too extreme, she opted for a CPAP machine and purchased her first device in 2007. She has worn it faithfully, remembering the fear she first experienced when she needs motivation.

“CPAP machines are the recommended therapy option for treating obstructive sleep apnea and there are no negative side effects,” Kelly shares. With a passion for education, Kelly

patiently explains that CPAP stands for Continuous Positive Airway Pressure, and she demonstrates how the device keeps the airway open while the patient sleeps.

Kelly has owned Kilgore’s Respiratory Center since 2003 when she moved from St. Louis at the urging of her brother, Bob Kilgore. She opened her first store in the back of his Chapel Hill Pharmacy.

Kilgore’s Respiratory, which is now located in the Fairview Market Place on West Broadway, still offers free screenings. Kelly shares that about 95 percent of those screened have a positive test warranting them to be looked at by a doctor.

From there, patients usually do a sleep study at home or in a local sleep center. If the study reveals sleep apnea, patients are then given treatment options, which can include lifestyle changes, surgery, a CPAP machine or dental appliance.

Kilgore’s Respiratory is an equipment supplier, and Kelly prides herself on education, patient care and offering the most up-to-date equipment to rent or buy. While the national average of those following through with using their CPAP machines falls at 40- to 45 percent, Kilgore’s average sits at 82 percent. Kelly is committed to the success of her patients by offering education, checkups and support that are not covered by health insurance.

Kelly says the pressure on a CPAP machine ranges from four to 20, and the machines contain smart cards that should be read once a year. Respiratory therapists can check the data and tell if the equipment is working right or if the pressure needs to be adjusted.

Two years after receiving her machine, Connie noticed the air was actually blowing her mouth open while she slept. The weird whooshing sound felt odd, so she had it checked out. Sure enough, Connie had lost weight, and her body was now working more efficiently.

Her respiratory therapist was able to drop her pressure from 12 to eight, which was a big improvement, she says.

Alternative Treatment Options Another treatment option is Oral Appliance Therapy. According to Stacey Weis, a dental assistant with the Koala Center for Sleep Disorders in Columbia, oral appliances are gaining momentum and were approved in 2006 as the first line of treatment for those suffering from mild to moderate obstructive sleep apnea.

Dr. Richard Bohon, D.D.S., has practiced dentistry in Columbia since 1978 and opened the Koala Center for Sleep Disorders at 1505 Chapel Hill Road in September of 2014. He became interested in sleep apnea when he was personally diagnosed and received training on treating snoring, sleep apnea and Temporomandibular disorders (TMD) with oral appliance therapy.

“We’re trying to get the word out that there is an alternative to the CPAP form of treatment,” Stacey shares. She describes the appliance as comfortable, easy to wear, small and easy to carry.

The oral appliance fits on the upper and lower teeth and resembles a retainer. It is FDA approved, custom-fabricated and worn at night. The appliance repositions the lower jaw, soft palate and tongue to keep the airway open and prevent apneas.

Dr. Bohon and his staff want to encourage people to get tested for sleep apnea and try alternative treatment options, especially if they’ve given up on their CPAP machine.

“Insurance and Medicare are covering the appliance,” Stacey remarks, “And most people are surprised to know it’s covered through their medical insurance, not dental.”

A Worthy Pursuit Connie agrees with Kelly, who claims being treated for sleep apnea has changed her life.

“My quality and quantity of sleep has greatly improved,” Connie says. “I can actually fall asleep and stay asleep rather than wake up repeatedly.” She also claims that her allergies have improved, and she’s better able to breathe through her nose.

Connie still vividly remembers that fearful night but remains grateful that her experience has led to a fuller and healthier life.

“Without sleep, my body wasn’t working at peak performance,” she explains. “I was too tired to work out or do what I wanted or needed to do. I was like a car without fuel.”

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By Nellie Symm Gruender Chronic or life-threatening illnesses can have a profound affect on intimate relationships.

There is suddenly a new, unwelcome member in the family. It can impact every aspect of the relationship through dealing with treatment options, insurance, loss of income and changes in intimacy.

Shelley, my son Zach's significant other, suffered a profound head injury in a motorcycle accident, and she wasn't expected to survive. Against all odds and with Zach as her care champion, she survived and has gone beyond all expectations in her abilities.

While this miracle has been a wonderful gift, it has also been a constant struggle for the couple. Zach has become a caregiver and advocate. There is seldom a day that goes by that he's not working on some aspect of Shelley's present and future well-being.

For Shelley, it has been a time of adjustment to a very different life with many limitations, such as not having the ability to work or drive. While she is able to do most daily activities, she is acutely aware of her limitations. In a flash, she went from managing a store to a life of doctor appointments and dependency on others.

Statistically speaking relationships, in which one member is chronically ill, are more likely to fail. If the partners are young or one is the primary caregiver, the relationship is six times more likely to fail.

“Even in the best relationships it's hard.

You feel trapped, out of control and helpless.”

Who’s quote is this? There are elements that can greatly reduce the risk of a relationship meltdown: Communication Lack of honest communication about fears, frustrations and seeking solutions can leave each partner feeling distant and isolated.

Overcoming this means each partner finds ways to openly discuss the challenges. By doing so, the distance is decreased and there is a team mentality.

Understanding Emotions Chronic illness creates feelings of sadness, anxiety and anger. Each emotion is understandable but must be understood. The partners need to look for and comprehend the root of each of these emotions. It's easy for each partner to feel that the other partner’s emotions are directed at them, which creates unnecessary tension. Depression about the situation is inevitable, but chronic or clinical depression must be acknowledged and treated. Being knowledgeable about the illness might decrease the feelings of losing control. Counseling might be wise for both partners to gain new tools to address the frustrations and anxiety.

Resources Identifying local and national resources to gain knowledge and help can be a key in decreasing the stress on both partners.

Having a strong family or a faith-based support system can also be important in dealing with many aspects of the disease.

Assigning resource identification to a family member who wants to help can be rewarding for everyone.

Gene and Shelley are now three years into Shelley's injury recovery. Like all other couples dealing with a chronic illness, each day brings new challenges and opportunities to find solutions. With continued support and use of resources, Shelley will live at her highest ability and Zach will continue to be her loving partner.

resources External resources can help build a support system for everything from transportation to procuring care services.

Columbia is lucky to have these resources. Below are just a few of these organizations available in our area: Services for Independent Living Silcolumbia.org 573-874-1646 American Cancer Society Cancer.org 573-443-1496 New Horizons mo-newhorizons.com 573-443-0405

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By10-19-2013 Lauren Puckett

Alison stokes and brandon dorge

Brandon Dorge and Alison Stokes first met over a bag of Funyuns while at a party hosted by a mutual friend. The two of them joked while sharing the onion-flavored snacks, but by the end of the evening, they really only knew each other’s names.

A year later, Brandon caught Alison’s attention while at a friend’s birthday party. She made her way from the dance floor to talk to the familiar face and after catching up for a few minutes, Brandon reluctantly bought Alison a drink.

Later that night, Alison drove home and told he friends she was going to marry that man one day.

Three years later, Brandon has found new ways to impress Alison after the drink incident, but she’s never stopped keeping him on his toes. While enjoying an Eric Church concert this past May, she leaned toward him and yelled over the music, “If you love me, you’ll jump onstage!” He happily obeyed and nailed a perfect air guitar riff before he was taken offstage and forced to spend the evening in their chartered limo. “He truly loves me,” Alison says.

When Brandon started brainstorming ideas to propose to Alison, he knew he wanted to involve the town of Rosebud, Missouri, where her and her family would go antiquing. On July 4, 2015, Brandon made plans to go to Rosebud with Alison and her family but ultimately ended up backing out on the trip.

Disappointed, Alison continued on the trip with her family only to stumble upon one of Brandon’s friends.

He was holding a stop sign and walking toward the middle of the street. Slowly, more of their friends joined him creating a roadblock on Highway 50. “Good Timing” by Jake Owen started blaring throughout Rosebud. Alison immediately recognized it as her and Brandon’s song. Frozen in place, she watched as Brandon walked out to the middle of the highway to get down on one knee. The whole town of Rosebud trickled out to watch as Alison exclaimed, “Yes!” Brandon and Alison have plans to wed on October 8, 2016, at St. Francis Xavier Church in Taos. The couple looks forward to enjoying life’s adventures. They hope to share much more laughter and, of course, many more bags of Funyuns.

Darren Eidson and Samantha Warren

Darren Eidson’s New Year’s resolution was to ask Samantha Warren, his girlfriend of a year and a half, to marry him. In May of this year, he fulfilled his promise to himself.

The two originally met at a social event for singles for Mizzou’s School of Engineering. When she left the Heidelberg at the end of the evening, he ran outside to stop her and to ask her on the first of many dates. On their first date, Darren entertained Samantha with his hilarious stories over a dinner at Angelo’s, and after a few short months, it was evident their relationship was serious.

Post Samantha’s graduation, the couple had planned a hike through the Mark Twain National Forest, and Darren thought it would be the perfect time to propose. However, things didn’t go as planned. Samantha decided the trip was a bust when she found a tick crawling along Darren’s neck. The couple promptly turned around and headed back to the car, which put a rut in Darren’s sunset proposal plan.

Instead, he improvised. He told her he had a graduation gift for her, and presented her with a jewelry box. While she was admiring what she thought was her only present, Darren got down on one and said, “You’ll need it to hold this,” and presented her with the diamond engagement ring.

“I admire [Samantha’s] knowledge and differing viewpoints on life,” Darren says. “We never fight; instead, we calmly discuss disagreements and do not shy away from admitting that one or both are wrong.”

The couple plans to marry in Kansas City on March 17, 2017, at The Simpson House. The ceremony will be small and will feature the colors blush, dusk, grey and gold. They both look forward to being done with school and settling into a life together.

“I admire [Samantha’s] knowledge and differing viewpoints on life,” Darren says.

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Celebrating Love

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By Audrey sharp | Photography by Rhiannon Trask, Lollipop Photography Catering in conju nction with SC Events

Chris and Kate met in the fall of 2011 at a Bellamy Brothers concert in Columbia with a group of friends. Chris asked Kate to dance, and at first, she says, she was skeptical.

“I grew up country dancing and wasn’t really in the mood to dance with some random guy with his two left feet,” Kate says. “Chris” broke out his big, wide smile and I figured it was worth a shot. As it turned out, Chris was an amazing dancer, and we danced the whole night.

After having such a good night, she figured he knew how to have a good time.

They became instant friends; were both single parents who had gone through very difficult times. Because of these rough circumstances, Kate said it really made them appreciate the love, kindness and respect they knew they had for each other.

“Our friends often comment on how happy we are now,” she says. “We both think life is too short to be anything but happy.

After combining families under one roof,

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Chris and Kate soon realized they were in need of more space, so they worked together as a family to build their new house. Not long after living in their new house, they decided it was time to make their love commitment real, not just for them, but for their kids.

Kate and Chris didn’t take too much time planning their wedding. Four months to be exact! They decided that they wanted to have a May wedding at Kate’s parents’ house in Hallsville. There was lots of space for guests, a beautiful new barn and gorgeous scenery. While planning their wedding, there were a few wants on their list: 1.Something casual so everyone would feel comfortable and have fun.

2.Kate wanted to wear a short wedding dress with her cowgirl boots.

3.Decorations would include yellow tulips, lemons, mason jars and a lemonade stand.

4.Fresh Ideas would provide amazing food tailored to our event.

Kate has close ties with Fresh Ideas as she is

their Chief Financial Officer. She knew they

would do a stand-up job, and they went above and beyond. “Fresh Ideas staff did an amazing job of creating not just a menu of great food but also a great guest experience,” Kate says.

The menu included traditional dishes served

in an upscale and unique way. The guest list

for the Boatright’s wedding included a wide

range of ages, so it was important that everyone be able to enjoy delicious food and drink. The

adults loved the “Electric Lemonade” cocktail

and the kids enjoyed the candy bar where you could fill your own little box of treats.

All in all, the wedding was more than a

ceremony. It was a celebration, a blending of two families under one roof. Chris and Kate

blended families, love and lives and celebrated

that with blended cocktails. Here’s to a lifetime full of celebrating life and making every day count. Congratulations, Chris and Kate!

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By Jill Orr

Parenting is little bit like learning to cook. When you first begin, you’re nervous and afraid that one wrong move will ruin your precious creation. After a while, however, you begin to trust your instincts and improvise as you go throwing in a little of this and a little of that. You know that if things don’t turn out perfectly, chances are it’ll still be good enough. And after you’ve been at it for years, day in and day out, you realize that even if everything goes up in smoke, you can always order pizza. (In parenting, as in cooking, pizza is the answer 97 percent of the time.)

Here’s a look here at the evolution of 10 common parenting practices from those first precious days as a parent when you wanted everything to be perfect to the days three or four kids down the road when “perfection” is everyone making it out of the house with their clothes on.

First Baby

Second Baby

Third+ Baby

»» You stare at him or her for hours while he or she sleeps drinking in the peaceful sight of her little chest rising and falling and the sweet, gentle sounds that only a newborn baby can make. »» You lovingly pick out each day’s outfit complete with matching socks and hats. Then you take 25 pictures and post on Facebook and Instagram. »» Baby drops his or her pacifier and you swoop in like a Peregrine falcon to catch it before it falls to ground. You sterilize it for five minutes in boiling water just in case. »» You spend hours making homemade, organic baby food from fresh fruits and vegetables. »» You have everything personalized with your baby’s initials: burp cloths, blankets, sippy cups, growth charts, backpacks, etc. »» You document every milestone in his or her baby book: first smile, first roll over, first haircut, first steps, first words, etc. »» You leave pages of detailed notes for the babysitter, including feeding, changing and napping schedule. You might have even created a spreadsheet for her to track size, color, and shape of poops. »» The minute baby gets fussy, you take his or her temperature three different ways and even though it’s in normal range, you take her into the pediatrician because you just feel “something is off.” »» Packing for any outing requires an hour’s preparation and three steamer trunks full of supplies. »» You think you can never love another baby as much as you love this one.

»» The minute she goes down for a nap, you convince your firstborn its time to “snuggle.” You fall asleep instantly in your bed while firstborn watches two hours of Doc McStuffins. »» She mostly wears whatever she slept in the night before unless company is coming over. »» Baby drops his or her pacifier, and you wipe it on your pants and hand it back. Five second rule! »» Your definition of fruits and vegetables has been expanded to include fruit snacks and French fries. »» Personalizing now means using a sharpie to scribble your baby’s initials on the tag so you can distinguish it from the other kids’ stuff at daycare. »» Your second child doesn’t have a baby book, per se. It’s more of a baby plastic container filled with notes scribbled on the back of door mail coupons and a few stale Cheerios. »» You leave your cell number and $20 bill for pizza. »» You hesitate to take baby to the doctor’s office because your firstborn always catches something while there. Probably because he likes to lick the fish tank while you’re waiting. »» You’ve streamlined your supplies into what can fit into your existing purse. Diaper bags are for rookies. »» You can’t believe you love another baby as much as you love your firstborn.

»» You assume the baby is sleeping, but it’s hard to tell because he or she is in her pumpkin seat in the back of your minivan while you run your other kids all over town. »» A diaper is an outfit, right? »» Baby drops her pacifier, and you hand it back without wiping it on your pants because you’re pretty sure whatever is on your pants would only make it worse. »» Baby’s first solid food is a Cheeto. »» You smartly decided to name all subsequent children so that their initials will be the same as your firstborn’s. #winning »» There is little to no physical evidence this child actually exists. »» You leave strict instructions not to call unless the sitter sees blood. »» You feel like you’re basically a pediatrician by this point. You treat everything at home with baby Motrin, an ice pack and/or a magic kiss. »» Supplies now consist of a pile of Starbucks napkins and a lollipop. »» You know that just like your growing sleep deficit, yearly expenses and yoga pants, your heart will continue to expand and find enough love for every new member of your family. (And isn’t this is all the evidence of their existence you really need?)

J i l l O rr Jill is a stay-at-home mom of two (an odd title because she is rarely ever at home). In her pre-Mommy days, she graduated from the University of Missouri with an undergraduate degree in journalism and a master's in social work, with an emphasis on children and family studies. But she wishes she would have gotten a Ph.D. in What's For Dinner and How to Get Bubblegum Out of the Carpet. That would have served her better.

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Business Times Company Launch Parties On July 24th, Columbia Home celebrated the launch of their August/September issue at The Village of Bedford Walk. Then, on August 28th, Restoration Eye Care celebrated the move to their new location at 1410 Forum Katy Pkwy. Attendees went on tours of the beautiful new facility that has been under construction since June 2014.

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TRUE WORTH TRUNK SHOW: The True Worth Trunk Show brought Fifth Avenue Fashion to Columbia. Columbia Home Magazine Xxxxx partnered with Joe Machens, an authorized Mercedes-Benz dealer to host the event Xxxxxon Tuesday, August 4th. Attendees previewed the fall clothing line from W by Worth and learned about the latest trends from fashion experts. The True Worth Trunk Show raised more than $1,700 for True North, a provider of safety and services for victims of domestic and sexual violence in Columbia. Food and beverage was provided by Glenn’s Café, Peggy Jean’s Pies and Les Bourgeois Vineyards.

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Family: Son Lanny (15), daughter Katya (11) and lab retriever Marley (7)

Family: My soul mate, Jane-Ann, and my awesome daughter, Maribeth. Oh yeah, Freddy, our cat.

Childhood dream career: Disc Jockey for KFMZ (WKRP was the backup plan) or record producer Words you live by: The obstacle is the path.

Advice you’d give your teenage self: Be yourself.

Capitalize on your strengths in relating to people and don’t try to be anything else.

Advice you give your friends and family most often: Better to light a candle than curse the darkness.

Next item on your bucket list (plus some you want to accomplish!): I honestly don’t keep any kind of list; life is an adventure day by day. Getting my kids through school and beginning their independent lives is a daily thought and focus, and I suppose once I feel good about that I will start thinking about lists and things. I realize that isn’t very exciting, but holy cow is it important.

Childhood Dream Career: This is tricky. Being a hard headed German and competitive risk taker, I wanted to overcome any obstacle thrown in my direction. If told that I can’t accomplish something, I find ways to overcome my limitations and succeed.

I was once told “you always win.” Even though that’s not exactly true, I am determined to succeed at almost anything I do.

Secretively I wanted to race – NASCAR, Motocross, anything with wheels and speed.

Advice you’d give your teenage self: Learn today what may be useful tomorrow.

Advice you give others most often: I use any or all of the following as advice to others and as my own mantras: 1.You either do or you don’t, you win or you lose, you succeed or you fail, there is no in between. “Lighten up, Francis” – Stripes.

2.“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” – John Wooden.

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Mary Kay Cosmetics, Independent Beauty Consultant

Original hometown: New Melle, Missouri YEARS LIVED IN COLUMBIA: Since I graduated from Mizzou in 1969 with the exception of one year when I moved to Oklahoma.

FAMILY: I grew up in a small farm town with my older brother and younger sister. All three of us went the University of Missouri, which made us the first generation of our family to attend college. After school, all of us ended up working in the medical field. My husband and I met through a mutual friend and are celebrating 30 years of marriage this year. Together, we have a daughter that just graduated Mizzou Law School (Go Tigers). My stepson is a minister in Las Vegas and my stepdaughter manages a retail shop in Portland, Oregon and is mother to our five year old granddaughter.

ON A TYPICAL WEEKDAY NIGHT I AM: Working my Mary Kay business scheduling makeovers and helping clients. Once a week I do a bible study and often attend community fundraising and networking events.

FAVORITE RESTAURANT TO FREQUENT IN COLUMBIA: You can’t beat sitting outside on the patio at Flat Branch in the summertime. Sophia’s is good too.

WHAT I DO FOR FUN: My husband and I go to Mizzou football games, basketball games, and we love to tailgate. We go to at least one out of town game each year. I love promoting the University of Missouri 114 | october/nov em ber 2 01 5

School of Health Professions, so I make sure I bring their banner to each away game we attend.

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT: I love volunteering. I’m involved with the alumni organization for the School of Health Professions, Tiger Quarter Back Club, Food Bank for Central and Northeast Missouri, sunday school at Forum Christian Church and the Columbia Chamber of Commerce.

THE MOST REWARDING PART ABOUT MY JOB: Before starting my Mary Kay business, I had little to no self-esteem and selfconfidence. Since this career change, Mary Kay has helped me become more confident and has made my life more meaningful.

I think that it’s important for young women to have a healthy self-esteem, and it’s true that confident mothers raise confident daughters because my daughter is a very confident young woman.

As a member of the School of Health Professions Alumni Board, I mentor and encourage students in an industry I’ve had more than 30 years of experience in.

Photo by Ben meldrum

Age: 68

IN A SINGLE WORD, I AM: Dependable FAVORITE ACCESSORY: The most meaningful is the diamond ring I earned from Mary Kay Cosmetics when I was in the National Queens Court of Sales.

GUILTY PLEASURE: Shopping FAVORITE COCKTAIL: Gin and tonic

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Columbia home | 2001 Corporate Place, Ste. 100 | Columbia, MO 65202

Celebrate the season WITH

Sunsets & Wine Come to Les Bourgeois Vineyards to enjoy a beautiful autumn sunset at the A-Frame before it closes for the winter.

www.MissouriWine.com 14020 W. Hwy BB, Rocheport, MO 65279 800-690-1830 |

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