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2018 Winners’ Trips

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Wedding Events

10 Win a Trip for Two and be on our Next Cover 12

2019 Cover Shoot Day

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We’re Engaged

73 Local Fashions

Featured Weddings 15, 85 & 195

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What Comes After the Wedding?

Santoro & Craig Law Firm

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Putting a Plan In Place Financial Diva

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Getting Married in Windsor/Essex Nouveau Event Planning

100 Signature Weddings

Caesars Windsor 104 How To Communicate With Your Venue

The Water’s Edge Event Centre 127 Windsor’s Singing Sisters

L & L Entertainment 136 The Green Papermaker

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163 London St. Thomas 164 Winners’ Photo Shoot 166 Cover Bride Contest Winners 222 Directory

148 The Perfect Caterer

Mezzo Ristorante 151 Feel Great... Look Fabulous

Beach Bum Organic Spray Tanning 154 Honeymoon Planning 101

LaSalle Travel Services Inc. 178 Plan Your Special Event

Dark Horse Estate Winery 182 A Magical Event

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on the cover Left to Right: WINDSOR/ESSEX WINNER: Katlyn Barrette

Gown: Bridal Couture

SARNIA/CHATHAM WINNER: Samantha Benn Gown: Aliya Bridal Fashions

London/St. Thomas WINNER: Mimma Anello

Gown: Sophie’s Gown Shoppe

Photographer: Kaoss Studios Hairstylist: The Hair Professionals Makeup Artist: The Glass & Pillar Spa

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169 london bridal expo 2019

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Published by: Bridal Confidential Ltd. Owners: Lynda Cameron & Christine Cameron Editor & Marketing Manager: Jay Cameron Graphic Design: Ann Conroy Annual Publication: 2019 - 2020 Issue

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2018 Cover Winners’ Trips London/St. Thomas

Ashley & Andrew

We were welcomed by friendly staff, tropical drinks and the resort grounds were beautiful. There were multiple pools to choose from with activities taking place every day. We didn’t take part in too many pool activities but they were definitely fun to watch while lying back and sipping on a Pina Colada. The resort was massive and there were three different lobby’s we could choose from. At each lobby, we were able to hop on a trolley that took us around the resort or down to the beach. The food at all the restaurants were amazing but the a la carte Japanese cuisine restaurant was our all-time favourite as there was a cooking show included in the meal.

Andrew and I still can’t believe we won the 2018 Bridal Confidential Cover Bride Contest. When people ask us about our honeymoon, I like to begin by saying “Well, we won it- so there is nothing better than that!”. Andrew and I won an all-inclusive, seven-night stay at the Grand Palladium White Sands Resort in Mexico. We took our honeymoon two weeks after we were married, in October.

Sarnia/Chatham

We spent a lot of our days under a cabana bed on the beach, listening to the waves, the breeze and just enjoying our time as a newly married couple. The friendly servers at the beach bar were top notch! The beach was always well taken care of, and the entire resort felt super safe. We got to attend a show called “Chic Cabernet” and it was by far one of the best shows we have ever seen. It kept us dancing and singing the whole night through. Thank you so much Air Transat, Travel Agents In Action and Bridal Confidential for this amazing experience! We will forever be grateful! p

Miranda & Daniel

Daniel and I were so excited to win the 2018 Bridal Confidential Cover Bride Contest to be on the cover of a magazine and receive an all-inclusive trip to the Grand Palladium Resort in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic! We waited until February to travel to take a break from the winter and escape to a tropical paradise. This was my first time to the Dominican and I really enjoyed seeing a new country.

We spent most mornings at the large sports complex that offered a variety of activities and was very well maintained. We participated in archery lessons and played multiple rounds of mini golf daily. We enjoyed playing tennis and it was so neat to challenge each other to a game on the giant chess board. I’ve never taken part in archery before, but I got a bullseye during the archery tournament and won a bottle of rum!

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In the afternoons we relaxed by the pool sipping piña coladas, our favourite! There were five amazing pools with swim up bars to use, so we tried a different one

each day! We also took time to enjoy the vast beach area and took long walks along the water’s edge. It was fun getting dressed up for dinner and taking the resort train. There were so many varieties of restaurants to choose from and more than the amount of nights we were there! We tried a different restaurant each night and the food was excellent. I enjoyed the Indian cuisine while Daniel’s favourite was the Teppanyaki style Japanese restaurant where the chef put on a show while cooking our food!

Overall we had a relaxing vacation and an abundance of sunny hot weather!

Thanks again to Air Transat, Travel Agents In Action and Bridal Confidential along with all the sponsors for providing us with this once in a lifetime experience. p

started with us enjoying a short two minute walk to a beautiful indoor gym followed by an amazing buffet breakfast that was either indoors or outdoors overlooking a pool where they had anything and everything you want to eat. All of the restaurants were great including an amazing sushi place and an even better Indian restaurant that served the BEST Indian food we’ve ever tasted!

From the people to the pools and beaches there wasn’t anything to complain about, they even had a jerk chicken hut near the pool daily and a fire dancing show one night on the beach.

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Kimberly & Jeremy

A few days we enjoyed the beach but spent a lot of time enjoying the sun at the pool. Everyday once we were done in the sun we went to the top floor listening to live bands over drinks and fun times with people we met. One night they even played a few Christmas songs. Jeremy & I cannot thank Air Transat, Travel Agents In Action, and Bridal Confidential enough for everything that they did for us to make this experience come to life! This place is defiantly one to recommend and go back to one day! p

Jeremy & I were amazingly lucky to win the 2018 Bridal Confidential Cover Bride Contest which gave us the opportunity of a lifetime including an all-inclusive trip to Grand Palladium Lady Hamilton Resort & Spa in Jamaica. Our trip was absolutely amazing from start to finish. We have been to many places in our lives and we found this to be our favorite place yet, from the extremely nice staff, to the beautiful pebbled beach & pool nothing could beat this place! Every morning 7

What Comes

After The Wedding?

By: Joseph T. Santoro and Sarah A. Craig of Santoro & Craig Law Firm (Sarnia, ON) to note who is representing you for legal services on the Agreement, so the brokerage should have already sent us a copy of your Agreement, but you’re welcome to provide a copy too, we like extras!

Within two (2) weeks prior to the closing date is when it all goes down! Signing appointments at the bank, signing appointments at our office, so much signing! As part of our fees for completing the transaction, we also contact all local municipal services for water, hydro and taxes (not appliance rentals such as hot water heater, furnace, air conditioning, etc.). We do recommend you do the same as well so that the companies have it on record from both parties, just to be sure there is no miscommunication and that no one gets an extra bill!

Suggestions on How to Navigate your Newly Married Life Together through Real Estate and Estate Planning Other than your wedding and perhaps one day a shiny new car, your home will be the biggest investment of money you will undertake in your lifetime. And with that, comes a lot of pressure: Is this the right location? Is this the right mortgage company? Did I need to get a survey? Do I need a real estate agent? I need a lawyer for this?! Below let us help clarify some common questions we frequently hear from first-time, and first-time-in-a-while, home buyers and sellers.

When either buying or selling your home, you’ll likely use the services of a trusted local realtor to help you navigate your wish list for your future home. Once you’ve found the right one, an Agreement of Purchase and Sale will be drafted by the realtor(s) for your signature.

We often recommend that if clients have any questions regarding the conditions or clauses in their Agreement, you are more than welcome to schedule a consultation with Joseph or Sarah for review before signing; once it’s signed, it’s binding!

After the Agreement is in place, the next step is to contact an advisor at a local branch of a national financial institution, mortgage broker or lender for help setting up your mortgage, should you require one! After that is said and done, we recommend you contact Santoro & Craig Law Firm to begin an intake for your file and get some appointment dates set for consultation and/or signing! If you used a realtor, you will be asked

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On the day of closing, we will contact you once the transaction is closed. At that time, we will advise you when you can pick up your key(s) if you bought, or sale proceeds if you sold! We try to make the process as smooth and stress free as possible for our clients and are always a phone call or email away during regular business hours to answer any questions or concerns you may have.

Lastly, once you have the house and are settled, we do strongly recommend completing a Last Will and Testament and Powers of Attorney for both Property and Personal Care. Ensuring that your greatest asset, your home and each other, are taken care of is vital and so important for providing peace of mind for yourselves and loved ones should anything happen to you or your spouse.

It may seem morbid to think about so soon after a newly minted marriage, but being pre-emptive and protecting your final wishes and assets is a very wise decision for a nominal cost overall!

Our Wills and Estates team are willing to assist with any questions you may have and we provide intake forms and ask all the necessary questions in a confidential consultation appointment with Joseph or Sarah. p

Win

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how to enter Email a photograph of you and your fiancĂŠ along with your full names, date of marriage, and city you are from to lynda@bridalconfidential.com and you will be entered. If a professional photo, include name of photographer.

This year’s contest runs from October 15, 2019 to April 29, 2020. All couples from the Windsor/Essex, London/ St. Thomas, and Sarnia/Chatham areas that are getting married in 2020 or 2021 are eligible.

Winners are Determined by the number of points The Grand Prize for each contest is an all-inclusive trip for 2, two full days of pampering and the winning brideto-be appears on our next cover. There is also a second place winner, third place...

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three ways to get points

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You receive points by booking/purchasing from any business on our site or in this magazine.

Every time you book or purchase with any of our clients you will receive points. This includes any wedding related or non-wedding related transaction.

To receive your points: Email the name of the business to: lynda@bridalconfidential.com

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Attending affiliated Bridal Shows. Come to the Bridal Confidential booth, and fill out a ballot to receive your points.

Get points on our Facebook page. Up to 2000 likes (points) can be applied to your total at the end of the Cover Bride Contest.

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how to win... hints from 2019 Windsor/Essex Cover Bride Winner

Hi beautiful brides! I’m Katlyn, the Windsor/Essex 2019 Cover Bride! It is such an honour to be one of the winners of 2019 and I’m super excited to share some tips! This exciting adventure all started when my best friend of seven years and I decided to take the next step in our relationship. Brian and I actually grew up together as our fathers were close friends. We lost touch but then reconnected and the rest is history. Brian and I actually picked out our venue before even getting the ring. Lucky for Brian, I had been planning this wedding since the first date so I knew exactly what I wanted. It also worked in my favour that Brian actively assisted in the wedding planning.

This brings us to where I found out about the contest. A close family friend of ours was entered in the 2017/2018 cover contest which caught my attention. I kept seeing brides that I knew asking for “likes” in order to win a free honeymoon. I said to myself “What the heck. Why not? Who wouldn’t want a free honeymoon?”So I submitted a photo of Brian and myself and dug a little deeper into what the contest is all about.

The contest is won by booking/purchasing with Bridal Confidenital’s clients and I had already booked Mastronardi Estate Winery, which was associated with the magazine so I was already off to a strong start. I went to countless wedding shows and found many vendors that helped bring my vision to life. I ended up in 12th place for the 2017/2018 competition, and since I was eligible to enter again I was really excited.

dresses and so on. Why would anyone not want to take advantage of receiving points for bookings? Several businesses that I booked with that were not a part of the magazine ended up joining Bridal Confidential and I was able to receive even more points!

The key to actually being successful is to read the post of “How to get points” on their website. It highlights what points you are awarded for the things you book. You’d be surprised of the points you can get. I had a few people tell me I was a little over the top when it came to the points but reading the email that Lynda from Bridal Confidential sent me saying “CONGRATULATIONS” made every effort worth it. Now my fiancé and I will get 7-night accommodation at the Melia Internacional 4.5* in Varadero, Cuba!

This experience was so much more than just a free trip and a cover shoot. This was an experience that I wish everyone could have. I was able to discover so many unique businesses that provide for brides all over Southwestern Ontario. I was also lucky enough to meet the sweetest cover brides from London and Chatham. Having the experience to be on a cover of a magazine and spending fun photo shoot days with people you love is what really makes it special. I hope whoever is reading this knows that it is possible for you to win! Thank you Bridal Confidential for giving me the tools to plan amazing pre-wedding festivities and a wedding of my dreams! I am forever grateful. Good luck brides! p

This is where we get to the juicy part of how I collected points! I went to every wedding show I could in London, Sarnia, Chatham and Windsor to collect an easy 1,000 points. We even made a weekend trip out of a wedding show and stayed at the Lamplighter Inn. We were very strategic of where we booked for the wedding and where we spent money in general to submit receipts. I have always been a competitive person so this contest grew into somewhat of a hobby. From Dentist visits to cake tastings to suits for the guys and everything in between we were able to submit for points.

Utilizing associated businesses for things that you need to purchase will really help with your points. Robes for my bridesmaids, shoes, vacation bookings, accessories, flower girl

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We’re Engaged... the journey in our small 2002 Echo, and stayed in a far-from-glamorous-hostel. Aside from the dodgy accommodation and small transport, to us, that trip was unforgettable, as it marked the first of many to come.

Last August when the end of summer was near, Luis surprised me with a trip to where our travel adventures began in Chicago. This was a much different experience compared to our first; after a night filled with rooftop views and cocktails, followed by soothing jazz music, Luis insisted that we take a stroll along the Chicago River. On the Wells Street Bridge Luis got down on one-knee, and proposed.

Shawna & Lewis Luis and I began our journey together back in 2012; we became friends first through school and work and then our romance developed. We have never had a dull moment in our journey - when we both finished grad school in 2014 we ventured off to England together to pursue our career and travel ambitions. Together we have been travelling the world and living out dreams that we talked about in the early stages as a couple. In our seven years together we have discovered over 30 countries; our first adventure was a road trip to Chicago. At that time we were just finishing our undergraduate degrees - money was tight so we took

Sarah & Isaac Our love story began in the most unusual environment, work. I had been offered a job at the green house in Marthaville in the winter of 2011. I don’t remember the first time I saw Isaac, or our first conversation, but I remembered his smile, his laid back attitude and his stories of Mexico. Isaac had moved from Durango, to Wyoming to live with his brother and family. Talking with Isaac every day at that warm greenhouse, winter flew by. At the time, I didn’t have a cell phone, and Isaac didn’t have facebook. We went our separate ways as the season ended, and we lost communication.

We thought of each other from time to time. I knew Isaac worked as a landscaper, and I would peer into landscaping trucks driving by me, hoping to see him. Isaac knew I lived in Camlachie, and thought he had figured out which house I lived in.

In the spring of 2018, I received an unrecognizable friend request via facebook. I messaged this stranger (Isaac) as to how I would know him. He asked me if I ever worked at the greenhouse, and it clicked in who this sharp looking guy was! We chatted online. Within minutes, realizing we both really like red wine, we met up for a drink. Furthermore, we never lost contact again.

That summer, we fell in love. We spent our time sitting on the porch, drinking coffee, taking the dog for walks, swimming at the beach, and hiking in circles up north. We decided to marry, because we both felt contented, cherished, and loved by one another. We realized how special this bond was. Marriage is a celebration of this commitment, and we wanted to share this with our family.

We chose to get married on June 21st - the summer solstice. As well, the first day of summer, and roughly the time we started to date. If we are going to create an anniversary, a date to remember and rejoice, what better way to celebrate love than on the longest day of the year! p 14

Our engagement photos led us to another adventure back to Ireland (a meaningful country to us) where my mother’s family immigrated from, and where we have shared many memories over the years. We love Dublin around Christmas time; the atmosphere, the beautiful lights, the decorations, soulful Christmas music and how the city is bustling with shoppers and tourists. We were fortunate to capture our love through our engagement photos there. We found our photographer, David Duignan of Ireland, who was willing to just photograph us comfortable, laughing, exploring (and even enjoying a pint)! I couldn’t have asked for a better representation of our love, through photography. Our wedding will be held on November 16th 2019, in Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario. Seven years of adventures, a life-time more to come. p

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Samantha & Tristan Photo Shoot Day by Samantha My husband, fiancé at the time, and I found out about Bridal Confidential’s Cover Bride Contest at our first local bridal show in Chatham. We spoke with Lynda as she explained to us how to get points, and that we even got 1,000 points just for attending the bridal show! I had asked Lynda typically how many points winning brides obtain each year and she had stated “A lot!”. At that point my husband, Tristan, and I were a little leary about entering the contest, we thought “no way we would win this!”. After going home and searching through the magazine we realized we had already booked with a number of vendors they were affiliated with, so we decided to take our shot and we are so glad we did!

Our photo shoot day came shortly after winning the contest and Tristan and I were so excited, little did we know a whole day of pampering was ahead of us! Our day started off at the Holiday Inn Point Edward, there we had met our Limo Driver from Penguin Limousine, Ozzy, who was patiently awaiting our arrival in a sharp black tux. Ozzy was very professional and attentive, and made sure we were right on schedule for the whole day. We had also met our videographer, Corey, from Frameworks Media, who followed us for the day making us feel like real celebrities, and comfortable in front of the camera. At the Holiday Inn we had received a gift voucher for a night’s stay in their jacuzzi suite! We are really looking forward to a relaxed getaway after all of our wedding planning stress.

Our next stop was The Grind, where we were presented with a box of goodies, including freshly made salads, wraps, and cookies! Yum! Tristan and I have never been to the Grind before, but will without a doubt be making a stop when we are in Sarnia. We then made our way to LaPier’s Flowers & Gifts in Corunna. There I was presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers for our photo shoot, it was a beautiful, colourful creation! From there we went to the The Glass & Pillar Spa to have my make-up applied. Just as we entered the door we were greeted with warm welcome’s and smiles. While I was getting my make-up applied by make-up artist Jamie-Lee, Tristan enjoyed himself getting

a massage in the massage chairs. When we were done, I was so happy with my finished look!

Off for more pampering! We then headed to Adora Spa, where I received a gel manicure. I was very impressed, as my nails were not in the best shape that day, but they turned out outstanding and lasted weeks without chipping! Now it was time to get my hair done at the Hair Professional’s where I had met with Lynsey. We had met prior to the photo shoot day to discuss options, and decided we would go for an up-do with a flower crown. Never would I have thought I would ever wear a flower crown but, Oh-My! Lynsey did such an outstanding job, I never wanted to take it out! We then headed to Olives Casual Cuisine, where we were greeted by Jane & Stephanie who presented us with a gift card for a dinner for two that Tristan & I cannot wait to use!

Now that I was beautified, it was finally time to go to Aliya Bridal Fashion’s to put on my gown and Tristan’s tuxedo which he had picked up from Collin’s Formal Wear in Chatham. Ella & Michelle were there to welcome us and helped me into a beautiful gown they had specially ordered for the photo shoot. There we met our photographer, Under the Umbrella. From there, we ended the day by taking photo’s at Canatara Park, where we were surrounded by all kinds of nature including geese and ducklings.

A half hour into taking photos, it began raining and we decided to make our way to a local greenhouse, Degroot’s Nurseries for more photos in a dry area. Avery from Under the Umbrella was able to capture a variety of photos and they turned out beautifully!

We would like to thank Air Transat, Travel Agents in Action, and Bridal Confidential for sponsoring our all inclusive holiday to Cayo Coco, Cuba, at the Melia Jardines Del Rey. We are excited and looking forward to our upcoming getaway and thank you again for this wonderful opportunity!

Thank You to our Sponsors All Inclusive Trip for Two: Air Transat & Travel Agents in Action Photographer: Under The Umbrella Videographer: Frameworks Media Videographer. See photos/video at bridalconfidential.com in Gallery

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Gown: Aliya Bridal Fashions Tuxedo: Collins Formal Wear Hair: The Hair Professionals Makeup: The Glass & Pillar Spa MANICURE: Adora Spa

BOUQUET: LaPier’s Flowers & Gifts Limousine: Penguin Limousine Gift Basket: Grind Cafe & Catering Co. Dinner for Two: Olives Casual Cuisine Overnight Stay: Holiday Inn Point Edward

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Where it will form is a commonly overlooked aspect of the receiving line. The waiting throng could be trapped outside wishing they had sunglasses, or worse, umbrellas. And if they will be waiting inside, will there be enough room, or are we looking at a sardine situation? From a guest’s point of view, it’s enough that they are willing to line up and wait to speak to you, they don’t want to be uncomfortable while they’re doing it. Keep potential receiving line blunders in mind when scouting locations, and assure guests will be shaded or sheltered in comfortable surroundings.

Desiree & Robert ~ September 8, 2018 www.amsphotography.ca

Where guests will wait can be determined in advance, how long they will wait is anyone’s guess until it happens. Making conversations brief will go a long way to keeping the line moving, and if they’re still getting backed up, reduce the number of attendants. The only ones that really need to be there are you and your new hubby.

any other subject When you and your fiancé talk about nothing other than the wedding for the next one to two years, you may find you have nothing to say to each other on the honeymoon. You didn’t fall in love with him because he seemed like a good wedding planner, and too much focus on ‘the day’ can make you lose sight of why you did. Every now and then take planning off the conversation table and talk about your love instead.

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Leanne & Travis ~ September 22, 2018 www.angelaspellerphotography.com

Sands of Time

According to general consensus, the unity sand ceremony dates back hundreds of years to either Native Americans or Hawaiians, but its true origin remains unknown.

Perhaps that’s part of its mystique. Whatever its history, this beautiful ceremony blends a touching moment with the elements of nature.

Although the sand ceremony has no defined roots in tradition, is not associated with any major religion, and has no inherent rituals, the profound meaning is immediately recognizable in any culture. The sand ceremony blends the best of traditional with the freshness of modern.

The bride and groom can be the only ones who pour, or the entire family can participate. When marriage means a blended family, and is not just about the couple, the children can be included by having their own containers for pouring. Some couples like to include their parents or grandparents. The sand can be poured as you say your vows, during a special toast at dinner, or before the first dance. With its endless variations, it can be as unique to your wedding as there are grains of sand in the vase, and its significance will endure.

Elegant and inexpensive, the sand ceremony is generally performed in place of the candle lighting ceremony, and unlike a unity candle which leaves no permanent memento, the vase of sand becomes a piece of art whose beauty lies in simplicity. Ideal for outdoor weddings where wind could extinguish the candles, the sand ceremony is the ultimate representation of two lives blending together. The layers of colour represent the couple as individuals; however, on closer inspection it becomes impossible to determine the point where one colour ends and the other begins.

The sand ceremony is abundant with meaning, but simple in procedure. You only need containers filled with different coloured sand for pouring and a vase to pour it into. In its most basic form, the groom begins the ritual by pouring a portion of his sand, creating the first layer.

The bride then adds some of hers for the next layer, and then the order is repeated. Some couples like to have the officiant pour the first (or last) layer to represent the sealing of the vows. The last layer can be poured together to represent the mingling of lives. Just like everything else associated with this endearing ceremony, the number of layers is your choice.

Add visual impact by incorporating the sand colours, or the sand itself, into your decor. Nestle candles in matching sand as part of your centerpieces for a romantic glow.

Bouquets and boutonnieres can be coordinated to match or complement the sand. You could even design a whole wedding based on the sand ceremony. Factor in the vase’s future abode when selecting sand colours. Potentially a lifelong treasure, choose with your home in mind, and don’t forget to include the sand vase in your ‘must have’ photos. Happy pouring!

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Believe it or not, your bridesmaids will be just as nervous as you are on the big day, especially if they are ‘first timers’. The best way to help ward off the tension is plenty of rehearsal time.

Practice both the processional and recessional thoroughly. If she is going to be taking the arm of an usher, a trial run is called for. If you’re going to be handing her your rings or bouquet she needs to know the timing.

Attempting to hand something to a bridesmaid, who is looking at the guests, can make for an awkward moment (for both of you) as you try to get her attention.

Before walking the aisle, take a moment to encourage your team. Tell them they look fantastic and thank everyone for all the hard work they have done. It’s not only gracious, but it helps them feel more self-secure.

If one of the bridesmaids is starting to look like a deer in headlights, a little extra ego-boosting affection may be called for.

achieving the impossible Children are the ‘awe’ factor at any wedding, but they can also be the ‘uhoh’ factor. Expecting young ones to sit or stand still for any length of time is like asking a puppy to stop playing. They both have a lot of energy and movement is in their nature, but there is one way to help bring it down a notch. For lack of a better word, bribery. No child can resist the promise of a beautifully wrapped gift as a reward for cooperating and performing their duties well. accommodations 23

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What did I forget?

The expression “Don’t sweat the small stuff” only applies after the fact when there’s nothing to be done. Before a wedding, the small stuff has to be sweated. The final week or two can become so hectic that you may be stricken with a serious case of wedding brain. Its symptoms include: confusion, bewilderment and complete loss of memory; but don’t be discouraged, there is treatment available – it’s known as ‘the list’. Relying on your memory during these last few weeks is a major mistake. In all the excitement and anticipation you could forget your first name. Without ‘the list’ you can drive yourself off the edge worrying about what you might have forgotten.

the way, it’s easy to assume they know exactly what to do and what time to do it. A refresher course is in order.

No bride forgets the gown or the flowers. It’s not the major items that are in jeopardy, but it’s common for the couple to forget about a cake knife, money to pay the officiant, or a pen for the guest book.

Details, details, details. They may be small but there are lots of them.

Make notes on every wedding-related thought that pops into your head. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to take care of every little chore, but it does mean you won’t forget them completely.

Here’s a lineup of details couples often forget or overlook. Most of these things can be dealt with one way or another, but on the most important day of your life, you just don’t need the hassle!

A container for gifts of cash. Without a container in plain view, guests won’t know where to put their gift and will have to start looking for someone to direct them, or take charge of the envelope. Containers for the bouquets. If you want the bouquets to look fresh all through the reception, they aren’t going to do it alone. Vases of water are a must.

Vendor double check. What song will the DJ play as you enter?

What time will the limo arrive to pick you up? Undoubtedly these arrangements have been handled in advance, but it may be a long time between booking your professionals and the big day. Confirm with everyone.

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A pretty hanger for the gown. A stunning photo of your gown is a must and a wire hanger won’t measure up, and for those of you who won’t be prepping at home, don’t bank on there being a full length mirror available. Bring your own, and if the attendants are dressing with you, two would be better. Eat something before leaving for the day. Too excited to eat? Too bad. Even if it’s just dry toast, have something!

The possibility of inclement weather. For outdoor weddings have umbrellas in case it rains, bug spray in case it doesn’t, and bottles of water no matter what.

Transportation for guests who enjoyed your wedding so much, they shouldn’t be driving.

After the wedding plans. Leaving on your honeymoon right after the reception? Where do gifts, cake topper, centerpieces, etc. go when the night ends? Who takes the tuxedos back the next day?

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Transformation Even the simplest room can be transformed into an amazing room with the right lighting, flowers, linens, etc. Keep this in mind when visiting prospective venues. The only thing that really matters is whether or not the room will comfortably accommodate your guests; your professionals can work their magic on the rest.

Don’t leave them guessing Where do we park? Where are we supposed to go? You are probably so familiar with your wedding venue that it may not occur to you that others aren’t. Unless it is self evident, don’t leave it up to your guests to figure it out. In a situation where parking isn’t obvious, post signs or have someone direct traffic.

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When was the last time you walked in a floor length gown? If the answer is ‘Never”, prepare to practice. Floor length wedding gowns can harbour a hidden danger and instead of taking a step forward... too horrible to describe. Suffice to say that while the bride didn’t actually hit the floor, her bouquet made it to the alter ahead of schedule. There are a lot of things to remember as you take the walk: head up, shoulders back, bouquet lowered, and smile, but if floor length is your choice, focusing on the hem of your gown may be the most important of all. Supposedly it’s good luck to lead with your right foot, it’s even better luck to make sure the gown’s hem is out of harm’s way by walking at a pace that allows the material to graze your ankle before taking the next step. Sounds simple in theory but in practice it can be awkward unless you, well - practice, or you could eliminate the threat by having the front of the gown altered to a comfortable walking length.

Once you’ve got the walking down, next comes the dancing, where the tripping threat doubles. Grooms who are unaware of the minefield they have to maneuver aren’t going to be on the lookout for hemline vs shoes. Plan dance moves with hemlines and his feet in mind and tell him what to watch out for.

strap marks An afternoon wedding and a strapless gown call for a bra-free morning. Strap marks can take hours to disappear, the best move is avoiding them in the first place.

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Don’t Wait

You probably won’t ever have the occasion to wear your wedding gown again, but that doesn’t mean you don’t want to keep it. Perhaps for future generations to enjoy or just as the ultimate memento. If you don’t have it preserved as soon as possible you could be facing disappointment.

Your gown may look clean after the wedding, and you might be tempted to store it as is; but delicate fabric is susceptible to staining from invisible culprits like perfume or moisturizer. Even hard to spot sugar from wine or cake can do irreparable damage in a very short time. And no matter how careful you are, the hem will be soiled. Anything more than a few weeks and the stains begin to darken and become more difficult, if not impossible, to remove.

In addition to proper cleaning and preserving, the gown also has to be folded properly and placed in an acid free container. If you want your gown to last through the years, this is a job for a professional. Include your veil, gloves, garter, etc.

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unity candle The lighting of the unity candle is a significant moment in a wedding ceremony, and if you’ve been to any weddings in the past two decades, chances are you have witnessed the ceremony more than once. Unlike the majority of wedding traditions, the unity candle has no defined origin, and is not associated with any particular culture. There is some evidence of its use in the 1970s, and it appears to be have begun in North America around that time, but that’s all that is known about the unity candle’s history.

As a product of the 21st century, the candle lighting ceremony has no traditional strings attached, and is entirely open to personal preferences. Some couples perform the ceremony while the officiant gives a narrative, sometimes vows are exchanged, a song may be sung, or it can be performed in silence.

The unity candle represents the bringing together of two lives.

In its most basic form, two smaller, tapered candles are placed on either side of the unity candle itself. The tapered candles are lighted by the celebrant, the parents, or anyone significant to the couple. In the case of children being brought into the marriage, and providing they are old enough, the children can light them. Using the lighted candles, the couple lights the large candle together. The two smaller candles are then extinguished to signify the end of two separate lives.

TIP: Candles often come with wicks tucked into the wax which can make for an awkward moment when you try to light them.

Get someone to check that the wicks on the candles are upright and free from the wax for easy lighting.

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Tips

for writing your vows

Writing your vows has become so common it is almost a standard practice and you may want to incorporate this personal touch in your wedding. Before you start writing, be sure this is what your fiancé wants, and if he agrees ask your officiant if personalized vows are allowed. Once you have approvals, the next thing to consider is whether or not you and your fiancé will write one vow that you will recite together, or if you want individual vows.

With these minor issues resolved, it’s on to the actual writing... but where to begin? Most importantly, begin well before the day, give yourself time to consider what you want to say and keep notes on your ideas. Some things to consider are: How life changed since you met?

Are there goals that you share?

Did he help you through a difficult time?

What makes him unique to you?

What does marriage mean to you?

How will life be better as his wife?

When you actually sit down to write keep in mind that you can go over it and change it many times, so don’t be concerned if you don’t suddenly become Shakespeare. You don’t have to be eloquent - just sincere.

Keep it short and simple. A long speech is difficult to remember, especially at such an emotional moment and wedding guests always appreciate short speeches.

Practice your vows on a trusted friend or family member or if you prefer to keep your vows secret, practice by yourself... out loud.

Reading aloud will help you determine the ways your vows can be improved and help you to be more comfortable reciting them.

Copy your vows onto a note and give them to your maid of honour. If you have a moment of blankness she will be able to spur you on. Your fiancé can give his to his best man.

Above all else, keep in mind that you are not addressing the House of Commons, it’s a gathering of people who love you and if you mess up they will find it endearing.

wedding day breakfast If you don’t include breakfast in your wedding day schedule there is a good chance that you will forget or not feel like eating - big mistake, later in the day you will feel the ravages of hunger. So make it an occasion by having your maid of honour and bridesmaids get together for breakfast. This will take care of the food issue and give you time to go over the day’s plans.

Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.

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You don’t have to wear a gown, don a veil or even have bridesmaids, but a bride without a bouquet just doesn’t work. Whether it was a stalk of wheat, or an elaborate arrangement, carrying a bouquet is one of the earliest known wedding traditions, and besides giving you something to do with your hands, the flattery factor is off the charts - a perk that I’m sure wasn’t lost on our predecessors who, as folklore tells us, also used the bouquet as a defence system. In an era dominated by superstition, single gals were convinced a bouquet held the promise of marriage and if they could wrestle a bloom from its owner they would be the next to wed, so rather than enduring an attack, smart (and probably frightened) brides came up with the tossing solution. You have to wonder if those first bouquets were tossed to them, or thrown at them.

Carrying a bouquet is essential, whether or not you toss it is optional. Knowing they won’t be assaulted by a horde of desperate singles, brides sometimes forgo the toss and keep it as a memento. Probably what our ancestral grandmothers would like to have done.

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It’s inevitable, at every wedding there will be someone who, after toasting the couple an excessive number of times, thinks they know more than the photographer, or the catering staff has no idea how to serve drinks, and they need to be shown how it’s done. Enlist a groomsman, who isn’t into toasting, to watch for overly-helpful guests. He shouldn’t have any trouble detecting the offenders, they’re usually pretty loud about it. celebrants 47

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Newlyweds can be on the edge of their seats with anticipation over the possibility of insensitive speeches. Will it be embarrassing?

Will it reveal personal information? In an effort to find the perfect balance between touching and funny, speech makers, spurred on by a few glasses of champagne, can overshoot the attempt at humour and embarrass the couple in the process. Everyone remembers Hugh Grant’s speech in Three Weddings and a Funeral, and his jokes were hilarious. So why was he successful while others offend? Because his jabs were directed at himself and a prior speech-making disaster. He made no highly personal remarks, nor disclosed any trusted secrets. For future speech makers, here’s a list of the top 10 offending statements heard at weddings.

“When you started dating I didn’t think you were right for each other.” Even if it’s followed with “But now I’ve changed my mind”, the damage has been done. No matter how fantastic the rest of the speech, they will remember the first remark.

“I hope this marriage works out, but if it doesn’t I know a good lawyer.” This remark usually gets laughs, but as guests we’ve heard this one so often we’re laughing on que.

“Here’s to a long life of domestic boredom.” Anti-marriage remarks are the backbone of every well-intended but poorly executed speech.

“I know I shouldn’t say this, but...” If you want to give the newlyweds heart palpitations, this is the remark that will do it.

“I would like to take this opportunity to announce that I’m going to have a baby.” A baby trumps a wedding, so now everyone is obliged to turn their attention to you. Talk about stealing someone’s thunder.

“I don’t know how you managed to land him.” While you have that knife in the bride’s back give it a twist with “I hope you’ve found happiness at last.”

“We never thought you would find anyone to marry you.” Ouch! This is two for the price of one. Not only is the person in question a loser, the person they just married must be desperate.

“Let’s all drink to a better world.” Well meaning, but a little too solemn for the occasion. Weddings call for the mind-set that life is a bowl of cherries, and everyone is happy. Let’s leave it at that.

“We thought you’d never get back together after that last breakup.”

If you want to make it really bad, mention why they broke up.

“We all thought you would never fall in love again.” Reminding the couple that at one time their partner was desperately in love with someone else will really make their day.

I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best. Marilyn Monroe

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table tips “We had to stand in line to see the seating plan.”

Ideally guests will check the seating plan ahead of time, and you can encourage this by placing the seating chart in a prominent spot so guests can see it before the reception begins. If the wedding is especially large, avoid a bottleneck by having two seating plans in plain view. Give an alphabetical list of guests with table numbers to your wedding coordinator or an usher.

“I couldn’t find my table. Where is Samoa anyway?”

It’s fun to name tables after tropical islands to go along with a tropical theme, or after movie stars for a Hollywood theme, but guests should not have to wander around looking for their assigned seating. Table 14 is much easier to locate than table Cancun because numbering follows a pattern, and guests can more or less map it out. Put both name and number on the seating plans.

“I couldn’t see over, under or around the centerpieces.”

Dinner conversations become difficult when there is a towering array of flowers blocking the people across the table. In some cases they can’t even see the bride and groom. Keep centerpieces either short enough to see over or, for tall arrangements, thin enough at the base to see around.

“The centerpieces took up most of the table.”

Getting overly creative with table decor can crowd out plates, glasses, cutlery and guests. Banquet tables are set up for the maximum number of people in the minimum amount of space.

With space already at a premium, taking up more of it with a sprawling array of blossoms makes for uncomfortably crowded dining.

“I didn’t know anyone at my table.”

Seating guests with strangers is a popular, but generally unsuccessful strategy meant to integrate them. Firstly, dining with strangers and trying to make conversation is uncomfortable for most of us; and secondly after dinner, most guests slowly gravitate back to family and friends anyway.

“There was no place for unexpected guests to sit.”

No matter how specific you were on your invitations, you are almost guaranteed that someone will bring an extra person. Be prepared with an unassigned place setting or two.

more than just pretty Your wedding cake can do more than just sit there looking amazing.

It can tell a story. Did you meet your new husband in a park? Display some trees and greenery on the cake. Are you going to Paris on your honeymoon? Add an Eiffel Tower. You both love sailing? How about a little sailboat on the side? There are a number of ways to personalize a cake. It’s entirely up to your imagination and don’t be afraid to think outside the box. decorators 49

how to get them

dancing

One thing you don’t want to see at your wedding is an empty dance floor.

Getting up to dance can be intimidating when no one else is on the floor, and you need to think of ways to encourage your guests to dance. The more people who are dancing - the more others will join in on the fun.

First and foremost is the music. Your DJ must show initiative and able to read the crowd. For example, if the floor tends to clear when he/she plays fast songs, then more slow ones are needed. Encouraging your guests to request their favourite tunes is a great way to get them moving. Have paper and pencils on the tables for guests to write down their requests. These pieces of paper can then be given to the DJ. If you want to see your guests on the dance floor then you should be there too. When they see you up there they will be inspired to join you.

In advance, ask the members of your wedding party to dance as much as possible and ask them to encourage guests to join in. Ask them to keep an eye on the guests and try to include them by approaching tables and requesting partners. Or even have a few ‘snowball’ dances where the bride and groom dance until the DJ says ‘snowball’ and the couples separate and find a new partner. When the DJ says ‘snowball’ again these couples separate and find more new partners.

Have all of your guests on the dance floor for a group photo, followed immediately with a great dance tune. Since they are already on the dance floor they will be encouraged to participate and you will have a great photo. The bouquet and garter toss is another great time to keep them on their feet.

Encourage dancing but don’t force it. Bear in mind that some people just don’t dance or more importantly don’t want to. Let each guest have a good time in their own way.

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check your guns at the door In the old west, when an establishment wanted to ensure a violence-free environment, clients were separated from their weapons as they entered. Today, there’s not much chance wedding guests will arrive carrying six shooters, but they may be carrying something almost as destructive – cell phones. All that ringing, clicking and flashing during a ceremony is incredibly distracting, but that’s the least of it. Emailing pictures has become a national pastime, and you could be all over Facebook before you say “I do”.

Not as bad as being shot in the back, but if some seriously bad pictures get posted, a bullet may be preferable to the embarrassment. There are going to be people at every wedding who have more tech than taste, and think that a picture of the bride tripping over a step, or looking angry would be hilarious to millions.

Obviously, you can’t ask guests to check their phones at the door (the separation anxiety would be too great), but you can let them know that cell phones are banned for the duration of the ceremony. Announce that the bride and groom are having a technology-free wedding, and no pictures should be taken.

Hopefully most guests will respect your wishes.

NOTE: There’s another downside to guests snapping away in a photographic frenzy – the flashes that accompany the snaps. It’s hard for a photographer to capture your dream photos when they are competing with a light storm that’s reflecting all over the room.

Music

sets the mood It allows you to express your feelings, from the wedding ceremony to the reception. Choose your entertainment as carefully as you would choose your caterer or photographer. From the ceremony to the last dance there should be emotion. Well planned music will ensure that your guests have a wonderful time and remember your wedding’s beauty and celebration.

Music provides an emotional cord that ties your entire day together. Each song is a memory.

Music is the last true voice of the human spirit. It can go beyond language, beyond age, and beyond color straight to the mind and heart of all people.

Ben Harper

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it Goes as it Grows When boutonnieres have been fastened upside down it’s little faux pas that sometimes isn’t noticed until months later when someone spots it in the wedding album. Flowers face up and so do boutonnieres.

Sizing When body size hasn’t been taken into consideration, the boutonniere may work on the linebacker sized best man, but the jockey sized groomsman will tend to look like he’s wearing one of the bridesmaid’s bouquets. If there’s a distinct difference in physique, think about what will look right on the smaller man. He’s the one who’ll suffer most if you go for NFL size.

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Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day are the two days on which more flowers are ordered than any other time of the year.

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balanced accessories Choosing pieces that complement your gown is almost as much fun as choosing the gown itself, and because they are a lower ticket item, it’s easy to go overboard. By definition ‘accessories’ complete the look, and just one or two carefully selected pieces are generally enough. I know that doesn’t sound like much, but before you go shopping, consider the accessories you will already have and may not take into account such as rings, shoes and even hair and makeup. When you add the usually included, items like the veil and headpiece, the look is already close to complete.

When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. John Lennon

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The trick is to find the perfect balance – one that complements the gown and lets it steal the show. Coco Chanel, the matriarch of French fashion, had a little accessory trick. After completing her outfit, she would turn her back to the mirror and then turn around, and if one specific item caught her eye, distracting from the whole look, she took it off. When in doubt opt for less. Too many accessories stand out, but too few are seldom noticed.

Remember if there’s too much glitz going on you won’t shine through.

the chicken or the egg Experts differ on which comes first, the gown or the shoes. Do you buy the shoes first so you can take them along when gown shopping, or do you find the gown first and then match up the shoes? Whatever you choose to do, remember that shoes are the most important of all accessories.

Even though they are to be worn for only one day, comfort is still the number one factor. Paying more attention to how the shoes look than to how they feel is a huge mistake. They may complement the look of your gown, but sore feet won’t do anything for the look on your face. As the day progresses, uncomfortable shoes are often cast aside for slippers or bare feet, leaving the gown dragging on the floor.

Not only does this ruin the silhouette, but it could ruin the hem too.

Feet tend to swell during the day. For the most comfortable fit, do your shoe shopping in the afternoon or evening.

Match style to venue. Outdoor and indoor weddings can call for decidedly different shoes. Walking on grass in spiked heels is extremely awkward (but it does aerate the grass). Try it on sand and you could ruin the shoes before the day is over. Check out the flooring of your ceremony venue. New shoes combined with a slippery floor is a funny video waiting to happen. If you can’t avoid walking on a sleek surface, scuff up the soles of your shoes with fine sandpaper to give them some grip. (Queen Elizabeth II has an x cut into the bottom of new shoes.)

hint Looking for a way to break the ice at dinner. Have the best man host a quiz about both of you and get the tables to form teams.

Use caution with embellishments such as beads or crystals on shoes.

Make sure there are no rough edges that could get snagged and tear the hem of the gown. Spiked heels can put the hem in harm’s way too. If you have to wear spikes, never stand up without assuring that the hem is free and clear.

The gown may be long and flowing, but at several points throughout the day the shoes will come peeking out from under, and they can make or break the look. Amazing shoes will make you feel like a princess.

thoughtful daughter Her mother liked the gown, but the bride-to-be confided that deep down she knew “Mom would like me to wear her gown.” This scenario is more common than you could imagine. The thoughtful daughter who faced this dilemma, helped lessen her mother’s disappointment by donning the gown in question, having a portrait photo taken, and presenting it to her mother.

To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.

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dressing the

Moms

The mothers of the couple both want to look fabulous, stand out from each other, but appear coordinated too... tricky!

Before the shopping begins, the bride sets the tone. If the bride wears a short gown the mothers will look out of place in long ones. If possible the two ladies should discuss their vision. A wedding is a visual production. In the receiving line or in photos, dresses the same length will polish the look. What if they both want to wear navy blue (they would look like bookends).

Terms of agreement have to be reached.

When it’s not possible for the mothers to communicate, it’s up to the bride to do it for them. She should talk with both and come up with a game plan. Do they both want loose or form fitting? What colours do they prefer? Listen to what they have to say and liaison between them. When this type of communication is not possible - the bride’s mother takes the initiative and has the privilege of choosing her gown first.

The groom’s mother is expected to follow her lead. Keep his mother in the loop. As soon as the mother of the bride has made her choice, let his mom know.

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guest faux pas Making special requests.

Don’t call the couple or their families to ask for special considerations, such as bringing a date or children. It’s extremely difficult to make concessions for one person without doing it for others, and things can get out of hand.

Do the couple a favour and don’t ask in the first place.

find the right balance It would be wonderful to wave the magic wand of money saving tips, but in the end it comes down to common sense. The bigger the wedding the more it’s going to cost. Get estimates on the large wedding-related items: venue, flowers, food, etc. before giving out verbal invitations or wallowing in fun of pre-wedding impulse buying. Don’t blow it all on one thing. If having the location of your dreams means you can’t afford to invite your mother, go elsewhere.

Tastefully-done means just enough of everything: people, food, flowers and space. If some budget trimming has to be done, cut down a little on everything to maintain a balance.

Wearing white to the wedding.

In our ‘anything goes’ society, rules are outdated and traditions are optional when it comes to weddings, with one significant exception. Only the bride wears white. In an era where the rules of fashion are more or less out the window, why does this still matter?

Respect for the bride. Let her shine alone – in white.

Popping into the bride’s dressing room.

Wanting to wish her well is a gracious gesture with bad timing. If you weren’t invited, don’t go there.

Arriving at the last minute.

Arrive about 15 minutes before the ceremony is scheduled to begin. Getting everyone properly seated takes time and is paramount to the bride’s entrance.

Help them out by arriving early.

Taking a peek.

If you are late for the wedding, and the processional has already begun, wait until it is finished before entering, and no matter how tempted you are, never peek around the doors. You will be in full view when guests turn to watch the bride enter, and you will be all over the photos.

Altering the seating plan.

Checking place cards and moving them to suit personal preference may seem harmless, but think again. When you move, someone else has to move too, and worse, often the kitchen has a layout of who gets which meal at what table. You could create kitchen chaos. The couple went through a great deal of trouble to set up the seating arrangements, that’s where they want you to sit and their choice should be respected.

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Negative conversation.

Never talk to the couple about how much trouble you had finding the venue, how bad the weather is, or how much the parking costs.

Outdoor Weddings

Check your community calendar for events taking place on the same day, possibly even in the same area, and make your plans around them. Public parks make for popular wedding venues, but the operative word is ‘public’. You have no control over what will be going on nearby. In addition to possibly interfering with your wedding, local events can take up hotel rooms and banquet halls.

Do your home work before setting the date. City parks, the grounds of a historical building, or your own back yard, outdoor weddings take some special consideration.

The advantage of a garden or beach wedding is that you don’t have to do a lot of decorating. The natural surroundings take care of most of the ambiance, but there is a downside... insects.

For a wedding in a park, keeping the ceremony site well away from heavily wooded areas will help cut down on creepy crawlers and flying insects that decide to crash your wedding.

If your dreams include being married under a tree, just make sure it’s the right tree. Avoid any tree that is about to pollinate or release sap. At certain times of the year pollen can come down like rain. It gets in your eyes and hair and worse, can stain your gown. As for sap, if you touch it, it’s going to take a can of WD-40 to get it off your fingers. Sap on fabric is hopeless and any attempt to remove it should be left to a professional. PS: WD-40 stands for Water Displacement, 40th attempt.

Keep in mind the intense heat that our Canadian summers can bring. Some form of shade for both you and your guests is highly recommended. Being married in full sunlight on a hot day can have an interesting effect on your hair and makeup. Not to mention the groom sweltering it out in a tux. If full sunlight is your only option, have mercy on everyone and keep the ceremony brief.

Think about the angle of the sun and avoid facing it. Squinting in bright sunlight isn’t the most romantic look.

Even mid-summer can bring surprisingly cool evenings and guests, particularly elderly guests, may feel chilled at an outdoor reception. For a predicted drop in the temperature, bring along some lap blankets.

If you’re having an outdoor wedding and don’t provide ashtrays you are likely to have cigarette butts in your wedding photos.

Strategically placed containers of sand should take care of it.

TIP: Make a quick trip to the dollar store to get some inexpensive paper fans. Present them to guests as they arrive.

the ultimate prop that doesn’t look like one Eye catching, fun, romantic, an umbrella does it all and when it’s over it becomes a memento. Whether you get rain, snow or the perfect balmy day there’s always a way to work an umbrella into a photograph without it ever appearing out of place. Present guests with a fabric pen to sign it and you’ll have a one-of-a-kind piece of memorabilia. rentals 65

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Include the cake in your list of ‘must have’ photos.

When the cake is being served as a dessert, someone has to cut and plate it. Ask your venue about plating fees.

When choosing a cake, bring pictures of your dream cake, samples of your colours or pieces of lace you would like replicated. Give your baker a clear vision to work with.

Let your cake have a grand entrance, by decorating it with indoor sparklers and dimming the lights. It could even have its own song.

Cake protection. Your wedding will be outdoors and you want to display your cake, but there’s nothing insects would love more than a taste test. If you want to have your cake and see it too, bring along some cake protection. A tent of fine tulle over the cake looks wonderful and keeps the creepy crawlies out.

A beautiful cake needs a beautiful display. Enhance your cake by placing it on a mirrored surface with flower petals scattered around.

Arrange the lighting to make it stand out. Place the bridesmaid’s bouquets around it. Whatever you choose to do, give the cake the setting it deserves.

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take advantage Most future brides love to attend wedding shows. There are prizes to be won and fashion shows to be watched, but what about visiting with the vendors? A wedding show is a golden opportunity to meet with all the professionals needed for a wedding, so take advantage.

Wedding shows are your ‘one stop shopping’ dream.

At some point, every future bride will have to meet with photographers, decorators, bakers, florists, etc. this is where bridal shows can save you a lot of time and fuel. You have the chance to chat with the professionals, view samples of their work, and decide whether or not they will best suit your purpose. Otherwise, a lot of time can be wasted going from vendor to vendor in search of the right person. At wedding shows you can find that person without the effort.

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once in a lifetime Choose your gown before you choose your flowers. This sounds like a nobrainer, but in the frenzy of wedding planning this simple rule can easily slip your mind, especially if you happen to be in a flower shop. Wedding bouquets come under the heading of an accessory, and are meant to complement the look, never distract from, or overwhelm it.

A gown that has lots of glitz and glam doesn’t need a huge arrangement to go with it. Alternately, you have to be sure not to overwhelm the bouquet. Delicate bouquets will be almost unnoticeable when paired with an elaborate gown.

Look at the overall picture and select your ultimate accessory with the gown in mind.

Bring a photo of your gown when meeting with your florist. With a clear image, they will be able to advise you better.

Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.

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before photos There will be endless photographs of you in your gown, your shoes will appear in some, and your bouquet and veil will no doubt be included in many of them. You spent countless hours carefully selecting these items, don’t neglect them at the last minute. Before putting on the gown, before guests arrive at the venue, before the cake is revealed, ask your photographer to get individual shots of everything in its pristine condition. The bouquet resting on a table, your veil draped over a chair, your gown on a beautiful hanger or the reception room ready for guests to enter.

There’s no aspect of your wedding that you won’t want a record of, but your photographer has no way of knowing what is important to you. Make a list of your ‘must have’ photos, right down to the heirloom broach, or the handkerchief you are tucking into your bouquet.

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

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Katlyn & Brian Photo Shoot Day by Katlyn I had just gotten off a 12 hour shift from the hospital and Brian was waiting for me in the house. Knowing we had won the contest, he was excited about being pampered all day. What he didn’t know is that he would be watching me get pampered for a few hours first! I may have forgotten that detail when I told him about the photo shoot day!

Bob from Limos by Mr. J’s picked us up in a stylish limousine. This was Brian’s first time in a limo so he was very excited! Bob was very professional, timely and inviting. You can tell that Bob loves his job and he especially loves Bridal Confidential’s winners! Before we departed, Justin from Straylight Films met us at our home and we began our day! Justin made us feel very comfortable. He was essentially our tour guide/videographer throughout the day. Justin truly made us feel special.

Our first stop was at the Dry Parlour Inc. Darah welcomed us to the salon and started on my hair (which I have a lot of). Darah gave me a beautiful half up style with a twist and I adored it! We then made our way to Ambassador Golf Club to pick up a yummy lunch!

As we ate our lunch, Bob was making our way to Beautiful Images where we met Anna and her team and I had my makeup applied.

Anna did such a wonderful job and was able to pick colours that extenuated my eyes. Anna definitely loves her job and her clients.

She gifted us with a bottle of wine and a fresh flower bouquet. She treated us like family! Once makeup was done we headed to the Best Western Plus Waterfront Hotel where we were given a gift certificate for a overnight stay for two! We then headed to Mezzo Ristorante where we received a gift certificate for dinner for two! We were very appreciative of these generous gifts and look forward to using them!

Our next stop was for Brian. We made our way to Collins Formal Wear for Brian to slip into a tuxedo of the stores choice. Brian was excited to see something different compared to what he picked for the wedding. Brian was dressed in an all black tuxedo, black bow tie and shoes. He definitely looked handsome!

Our last stop before the photo shoot was Bridal Couture. I was put into a beautiful lace mermaid gown and an even more beautiful lace cathedral veil. I was happy to be in mermaid as that silhouette looks best on my body type. Bridal Couture’s staff were inviting and knowledgeable from the moment I walked into the store for the trial. Once I was dressed Bob took us to Wolfhead Distillery as we were super early for our appointment at Chalet Studios but we took the opportunity to talk with Justin and Bob. Truly great men in the wedding industry. If you ever need a driver or videographer I highly recommend these two gentlemen.

Our final destination: Chalet Studios. I was mesmerized by the property and even more mesmerized by photographers Janet and Alan. They are the nicest people. They were so welcoming to Brian and me. We had wine and cheeses and just enjoyed each others company. When we took photos Janet and Alan were so knowledgeable with positioning, backdrops and so on. Janet and Alan told us all about their love story and the love that they used to build their home/studio. It was inspiring.

Brian and I also loved the pups! Macey, Speedy and Sparky!

My favourite moments were taking photos with the fur kids.

It was so fun!

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This day wouldn’t have been possible without Lynda from Bridal Confidential. She was amazing throughout this entire process.

She is organized, professional and a complete sweetheart!

The things she does for us crazy brides with all our countless emails. Thank you for all you do Lynda! This was an amazing experience before our wedding!

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Having gifts stolen from your wedding ranks high on the ‘what’s the worst that could happen’ scale. You are devastated, the guests whose gifts were stolen feel terrible, and everyone is extremely uncomfortable with the whole situation.

It can also bring your faith in humanity down a notch or two.

Most people trust that no one at their wedding would do such a thing and they’re probably right, but family and friends may not be the only ones there.

Crashing a wedding is remarkably simple.

Just put on some nice clothes, wander into the reception, pick up a drink and no one will notice. The larger the wedding, the greater the odds that guests won’t know each other, and it’s easy for an intruder to blend in. While everyone’s attention is centered on the cake cutting ceremony at the front of the room, your gifts could be making an exit out the back.

We loved with a love that was more than love.

Edgar Allan Poe

Place the gift table well away from entrance ways, have a container for gifts of cash, and assign someone to oversee the table as gifts are being added. Unless your assigned guard is on duty for the entire evening, it’s best to remove everything to a safer location once everyone has arrived.

It’s nice to display them, but it’s nicer to have them.

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Charge What’s the first thing you should do after you have taken your vows? Buy something. Proponents of symbolism claim that the first person to make a purchase will hold the family purse strings, but they always throw us a curve ball. They also claim that during the first toast, the one who finishes the drink first will rule the home. If you don’t want to take any chances, sell your bouquet to your maid-of-honour, and buy it back as she returns it after the ceremony. The amount doesn’t matter, it just has to be a coin. As to finishing the drink first, what can I say? Chug-a-lugging a glass of champagne is not the daintiest move... but you gotta’ do what you gotta’ do.

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No matter how dazzling the gown, elaborate the celebrations or extravagant the favours, when it’s all said and done, one thing will stand out in guests memory more than any fabulous flower arrangement or display of fireworks – the food. Have a Viennese hour and they’ll never forget you. How does a Viennese hour differ from a dessert bar? In a single word – extravagance.

This delightful hour is labeled a modern trend that takes place after dinner with the ultimate goal of making guests feel like ‘kids in a candy shop’. A decadent display of pastries, chocolate, ice-cream or anything your heart desires. The key word is ‘decadent’.

The goal is to dazzle and delight. “Where do I start?” ought to be everyone’s second thought. Their first thought is “Wow!” Regardless of how subdued your wedding colours, vibrancy is key to a great display of goodies. Every show needs a main stage, and one central feature. It could be an irresistible chocolate fountain, a make your own sundae bar, a crepe station or anything you think will amaze all who gaze on its glory.

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A topper does not have to be edible, so you can have anything you want, even lights.

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Bringing the wedding in under budget is like getting married and winning Olympic gold on the same day. In an effort to achieve this goal, and have the best wedding ever, brides are diving head first into the deep sea of money saving ideas – but look before you leap. In the search to find ways to trim the budget, it’s easy to end up being disappointed with the outcome, and spending more to fix it.

The expression “I can do that” is often followed by “It’s harder than it looks.”

Unless you’re a seamstress, don’t try to alter your own gown; if you don’t know how to string jewellery, don’t make necklaces for the bridesmaids; and if you’re not familiar with arts and crafts, buy the favours. If you are all these things – go for it, but for the rest of us, it can result in wasted time and money. If you’re going to take on a do-it-yourself wedding, check out the cost of supplies, and time involved before making any purchases.

Don’t take on any chores that have to be done a day or two before the wedding. As the day approaches there will be a lot of activity, and no bride needs the extra pressure.

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By Dana Joy Horwitz, Proprietor, The Water’s Edge Event Centre You said “Yes! ” and started a conversation that would culminate in the wedding of your dreams. The key to a perfect wedding is communication that is not just reading the fine print or vocalizing image boards but honest and clear discussion with your venue about what your needs are. One of the most important components of your wedding day budget is your venue and as a venue owner, I have witnessed how communication can be the difference between ensuring your wedding day unfolds the way you have always imagined or falling short because people didn’t communicate their wants.

The cornerstone of effective communication with your choice venue is becoming thoroughly familiar with the products and services you have purchased. This involves understanding your contract including payment schedules, cancellation policies, décor restrictions and whether your beloved puppy is permitted to carry your rings down the aisle. Some venues can be more flexible, and you should understand how much customization your venue can allow. As the owner of a family-based boutique venue, I can really work with my brides to bring their vision to life.

When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.

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Good communication also includes knowing what your venue can and cannot do for you. Many municipally or corporately owned venues have large teams with individualized functions which means that the person who sells packages isn’t always a part of event-day staffing. Also remember that communication styles may differ.

Some people are comfortable with electronic communication, but nothing beats an old-fashioned phone call to get everyone on the same page. I also create a detailed timeline document that is shared between all key players. All notes including supplier logistics, bar menus and service timetables are updated as necessary. It is key to include event-day supplier staff contact info. If your DJ is running late, the phone number to the company office that is probably closed on weekends is not going to help me get him on track. Ask for and share cell numbers.

To take the pressure off you on your wedding day, designate a parent or member of your bridal party to liaise with the venue who will in turn work with your suppliers to leave you free to focus on the fun stuff. Your venue team needs to be aware of your preferences and the more information you share, the happier you, your new spouse and your guests will be. You can also designate someone to be a decision maker for you. For example, if a grumpy toddler decides to throw a tantrum in the aisle just before your procession starts, your designated decision maker can encourage the toddler’s parent to step away from the ceremony until your vows are said and you are merrily wed.

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the right silhouette Regardless of your body type there’s a gown out there that will flatter your figure; it’s all a matter of balance. Top heavy can be balanced with a full skirted gown and bottom heavy gals can equal things out with a crumb-catcher bodice or detailed neckline that draws the eye up. Brides with fuller figures might opt for gowns made of sturdy fabric for support. Boyish figures can benefit from a mermaid gown that gives the illusion of curves. The only way to know, of course, is to try it on.

A-line | Named after the shape, the A-line has a fitted bodice and flares out from the waist. The A-line flatters a fuller figure by elongating it and creating a sliming effect.

Ball Gown | Fitted tops and full skirts make this style ideal for most shapes and sizes with the exception of the petite bride, in which case it may overwhelm her and accentuate her lack of height.

Ball gowns require extra fabric and will be heavier than other styles.

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“When the gown is right you will know.” Undoubtedly you’ve heard that many times, and for the most part, it’s true. Countless brides report emotions rise to the surface when they first see their reflection in the mirror. But how do you find the perfect dress? With so many styles, fabrics and embellishments to choose from it can become bewildering if not discouraging. Future brides stressing over not finding ‘it’ is an everyday occurrence in bridal shops. Shopping for the gown should be an exhilarating experience, not an traumatic pursuit, so do your homework before starting the quest.

Aside from the ring, the gown is the only tangible thing you can possess before the big day.

The gown makes it real. You can try it on, you can gaze at it, you can dream about it, you can buy accessories for it, and you’re desperate to get it – I hear that! But did you know, in terms of cost, rushing out to purchase the gown before other plans have been finalized, is one of the most common mistakes newly engaged brides make? Numerous brides have envisioned an outdoor summer wedding, purchased the gown based on that, and for a variety of reasons decided on a winter wedding instead. Sadly (because I know how anxious you are), buying the wedding dress comes after the wedding plans are settled.

That being said, there’s no reason you can’t window shop and study bridal magazines while you wait for the time to come; in fact this is exactly what you should do. Although it’s best not to buy the gown right away, you can learn about gowns in general. Which style is most suitable for your body type, which fabric best suits the season. Keep a scrapbook of gowns you like and show your favourites to anyone who will be in your gown shopping party. Serious conflicts of opinion have ruined countless appointments and showing them your preferences will give you a ‘heads up’ on negative responses and time to deal with them in advance. Trust your instincts. It’s more or less guaranteed that someone in your shopping party won’t agree with your choice, but if you feel it in your heart, go for it - beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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Empire | With a full skirt that flows from just below the bust, the graceful lines flatter most body types and are ideal for petite women. With extra room at the waist they are great for hiding a tummy.

Mermaid | Fitted close to the body and flaring at the knee, this style flatters the curves and is best worn by brides who are comfortable with their shapes. Like the ball gown, shorter gals have to be wary of this one.

Sheath | A loose but clingy fit that doesn’t hide any flaws. Sheaths lack the structure that most other gown styles offer, such as boning and heavy materials that hold things in place.

Trumpet | Fitted closely to the body down to the mid hip, the trumpet style offers the same body curving illusion as the mermaid.

Whatever the style, choose a gown that is comfortable and requires little to no adjustments throughout the day. If a strapless gown is not fitted properly, the bride will be constantly doing the ‘hike up’, or what started as a barely noticeable pressure from the boning may become so irritating that the bride has to change sooner than desired. By the end of the day, the gown’s comfort level will far outweigh its beauty.

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what’s it made of?

Brocade | Stiff and heavy with an all-over woven pattern. Best for winter weddings.

Charmeuse | Lightweight and with a sheen, charmeuse is like satin, but not as shiny. It can be silk or synthetic. Silk charmeuse is more expensive and delicate.

Chiffon | Made from either silk or rayon, chiffon is transparent and generally used as an overlay.

Lace | Everyone knows about lace. Handmade or machine made it has been a wedding standard for centuries.

Organza | Similar to chiffon, but a little stiffer, organza’s versatility makes it a popular choice for gowns and veils.

Silk | A natural, soft material that was first developed in China around 3500 years ago.

Although expensive, it is a popular choice for wedding gowns.

Rayon | Synthetic and looks like silk, but is less costly and more easily cared for.

Satin | Shiny, silky and affordable, satin is a blend of silk and rayon. Its heavy structure makes it ideal for formal weddings, but too heavy for outdoor affairs in warm weather.

Taffeta | Similar to satin, taffeta has a sheen, but is crisper and rustles when you walk.

Tulle | A netting made from rayon or silk, and is often used on gowns, as veils, or even bunched on tables for a cloud-like effect.

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Does the expression ‘green wedding’ conjure up visions of making your own gown from burlap and picking your flowers from a nearby field? Don’t let that image scare you off. You can have a designer gown complete with greenhouse flowers, and still pull off an environmentally friendly day. To do your part, you don’t have to make huge sacrifices, just small, eco-friendly choices.

Avoiding plastics, using recycled materials, and outlawing Styrofoam are the basic rules of going green, but what else can you do to help the cause? At first glance it doesn’t sound like much, but one of the largest contributions your wedding can make to the future of our planet is staying local. From produce to product if it’s grown, produced and sold in your area, it doesn’t have to be packaged, shipped, flown or trucked in. The trickle-down effect in emissions reduction is substantial. And speaking of emissions, arrange your day so guests have to do the least possible amount of driving.

Packets of flower seeds make lovely favours, and if they are accompanied with a note on your environmental efforts you will shine as an example of how to have the perfect wedding and be a caring Earthling at the same time.

You can be proud of your achievement, the world will applaud you, and because local equals less expensive, you will be richer at the bank.

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Lily & Zach August 18th www.daveowensphotography.com

You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.

Oscar Wilde

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anger zone

The receiving line of every wedding has something that goes hand in hand with marked gowns, smudged makeup, and messed-up hair; and there is a 99.9% chance it will happen to you. What is this threatening menace? The hug. Well-meaning loved ones and overzealous hugs can do a lot of damage.

What to do? You can’t tell people not to hug you and you certainly can’t back away when they try, but you can let your body language announce your caution. When you see a hug coming, lean into it. Bending forward from the waist to meet the hug half way will give most hug-loving guests the subliminal message that you are putting up a protective barrier, and most will respond accordingly. No matter how careful you are, after the receiving line, go directly to the nearest mirror to check hair and makeup for any necessary repairs.

A long and loving receiving line can also do permanent damage to boutonnieres. Squashed blooms and misshapen stems will show in the pictures that are still to come. The only way to keep boutonnieres at their stunning best is to remove them during the hugging session (a.k.a. receiving line).

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Erica & Daniel ~ October 6, 2018 www.trevorboothphotography.ca

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Do’s Don’ts and

Do be organized. Not only will you feel more in control, you will sleep better.

Don’t lose it over small disappointments. Accept that not everything will measure up to your dreams. The gown you’ve been eyeing in the magazine may not look right on you; the decorations you have fantasized about may not be in the budget. Accept that these things may happen and move on.

Do include a variety of prices in your registry; something for everyone’s budget.

If you happen to have $25,000 to spare you can get married at Downton Abbey. OK, there is no real Downton Abbey, but Highclere Castle, where the series was filmed, maintains its $8,000,000 annual expense with income from tourists and hiring out areas of the castle for corporate events and weddings.

Built in the late 1600s, Highclere Castle is the ancestral home of the Carnarvon family. If the name Carnarvon is familiar it’s because the current Earl’s ancestor Lord Carnarvon was the financial backer for Howard Carter, the man who discovered King Tut’s tomb.

Don’t mention a preference for gifts of cash in an invitation. If you’re not registered, guests may get the hint, and for those who don’t, let your family and friends spread the word.

Don’t try new skin products just before the day. Regardless of what they promise, there’s no guarantee your skin will respond favourably.

Don’t vent your frustrations on any form of social media. Once your thoughts are out in cyberspace there’s no controlling who might see them. If you just have to tell your troubles to someone, do it the old fashioned way, call or visit.

Do have your ushers ask guests to turn off their phones.

Do practice the ‘first kiss’. With everyone watching, newlyweds can be a little nervous when it comes to the first kiss. If he moves to the right as you shift to the left a collision is imminent.

Do remain calm no matter what. If something does not turn out as expected don’t let it spoil your mood or the smile on your face.

Don’t stay until the last moment when everyone is gone and the room has lost its glow. Make your exit the same way you made your entrance, with flair and an audience.

Do have the most wonderful day of your life!

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Nikki & John ~ February 24, 2018 www.trevorboothphotography.ca

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Kudos to the couple

When it’s all over, what positive things will people say about your wedding?

The most thoughtful couple will get the best reviews. Consideration and good manners wins raves every time.

“They made sure we could hear the vows.” As a guest, one of the most tedious things is sitting through a wedding, unable to make out a word.

It’s like watching a movie with no dialogue, you quickly lose interest and you can’t really be part of something you can’t hear.

“They kept the day moving.” No lengthy waiting times, no standing around wondering where to go next. No glancing toward the kitchen in hopes of food. What a great wedding!

“They played a variety of music.” A few fast tunes, a few slow tunes. It gives everyone time to take a breath, and a chance for those who don’t want to boogie to get up on the dance floor.

The heart has its reasons which reason knows not.

Blaise Pascal

“They invited the officiant to the reception, how thoughtful.” He or she may not be a personal friend, but they are the person who just married you.

Who more appropriate to include in the festivities?

“They placed older guests away from the music.” For a person who is hard of hearing it doesn’t get much worse than being seated next to speakers.

“They talked with guests.” Touring the room and thanking everyone for coming is going to take some time.

Allow for it in your schedule.

“They kept the speeches short.” Almost as bad as not being able to hear what’s going on is hearing what’s going on, and on.

“They had entertainment for the children.” Most weddings are planned and executed with adults in mind.

Understandable to us, but not to the little ones. A bored child is a restless child and a restless child – enough said.

“They had a late night snack.” Even if guests enjoyed a five course banquet, after a few hours of partying, hunger begins to creep in again. A late night treat will seal the deal and they’ll say “What a great wedding” before anyone even asks.

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L & L is available for hire to perform at weddings, holiday parties, private events, and fund-raisers. L & L offers Windsor and Essex County something different. Something new. Their music is about the singing, and their craft is in their harmonies and unique voices. If you are looking to create an unforgettable atmosphere on your special day, look no further than L & L. They are a lovely addition to any ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner or reception.

They will sit down with you and design a package that suits your vision. They have a large repertoire of songs, from many genres, and are always willing to learn something new!

“L & L was a part of our magical wedding day at St. Anne’s Church and it would not have been the same without them! Their beautiful voices collaborated so well together, and it made my walk down the aisle so magical. Thanks again girls!”

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“I saw L & L at the Thirsty Butler. Amazing evening of jazz, such talent!”

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“You were brilliant. Thanks very much for being a part of our wedding night. We had plenty of people asking about you and giving compliments. Thanks again!”

Lindsay and Laura have been singing since they were old enough to talk. Music is in their bones and has always been a large part of their lives. Growing up, their parents always had music playing, from morning to night. Influential albums such as Night at the Opera by Queen, and Rumours by Fleetwood Mac would play as their parents did household chores. “It was the singing and the harmonies that spoke to us and inspired us the most.” says Lindsay. The girls would spend their afternoons creating singing and dancing routines, mimicking their favourite musicians. It was clear that they both had a passion for music at a very young age. They began taking vocal lessons, and soon after began performing in front of audiences. Their earliest performance experiences started in their hometown, Harrow. They would often sing the National Anthem for special events, fairs, and festivals around Essex County. Their passion eventually led them onto a bigger stage, as they became involved in musical theatre. They were very fortunate to have supportive parents who took them to music lessons, show rehearsals, and gigs.

Lindsay and Laura are similar in many ways, but they each have their own unique sound. Lindsay, the older of the two, has a sultry tone with a rock and roll rasp.

Laura has a smooth and soft, jazzy voice that suits many genres and styles of music. Together, their voices blend in the most lovely and complimentary way.

After high school, music took the sisters in different directions. Laura travelled around western Canada performing and recording with Juno Award winning Jazz musician, Maurice Drouin. Lindsay stayed closer to home, singing in a rock band who primarily performed in Michigan. As the two girls became mothers, their passion for music took a back seat to their busy lives. Recently, the sisters decided to rediscover their musical side, and a new business, L & L Entertainment, was born.

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on the aisle

On the practical side, aisle runners originated as a way to keep wedding gowns clean. In a time before paved roads and sidewalks, guests tracked dirt into the church and when the bride walked down the aisle, and on the superstitious side, they thought the runner prevented evil spirits from creeping up through the floor and stealing away the bride. Today, I’m certain the bride won’t disappear, and I suspect the aisle will be free of mud, but aisle runners are more popular than ever. If a runner is in your wedding plans, proceed with care.

Put a light weight (paper or thin material) aisle runner on a waxed floor and it’s a recipe for disaster. On grass, spiked heel shoes will puncture holes in it. No one is suggesting you forgo a runner, just make sure you do your aisle runner homework, and the first thing to check is the venue. Do they have regulations regarding runners, and if they are allowed, do the have stipulations or suggestions on how they can be secured? The next thing to check is the type of flooring. To prevent slipping on a highly polished floor, a heavy weight material is best. Thin runners are good for outdoor weddings, but without a solid surface beneath them, the wedding party will be better off in flats.

Whatever material/weight you decide on, the runner needs to be well secured to prevent it from slipping out of place. Your photographer may be taking pictures of the processional from behind and the shots could be spoiled by a runner that has 128 formal wear/tuxedos

bunched or pulled to the side. Heavy runners more or less take care of themselves and aren’t likely to stray across the aisle. Light weight runners can be secured with heavy decorations along the sides.

The etiquette on when to unroll the runner is open to choice. Two ushers unrolling it, once all guests are seated, signals that the wedding is about to begin. It has to be done quickly and without a lot of adjustments so it doesn’t delay the proceedings. A little advance practice wouldn’t hurt. The other option is to lay the runner before anyone arrives and block it off with ribbon so no one will walk on it.

When it’s all over, aisle runners generally get stashed at the back of a closet. What a shame! The runner is part of your wedding decor and deserves to be treasured like everything else. Drape the runner over a rod and hang it, or have the monogram framed.

Second Time Around

There was a time when a second marriage was expected to be a lesser, more restrained affair, but not anymore! All restrictions are out the window. You can wear a white gown, have showers, and celebrate till you drop. The one thing to avoid is a duplicate of a previous wedding. Every marriage is a fresh start, so start fresh.

Most remarrying brides discover that a transformation has taken place among family and friends. It has gone from “She needs my help, opinions and advice” to “I’m happy to help, but she knows what she’s doing”. For a second marriage, interference (ergo stress) is down to a minimum... enjoy!

Don’t wander off The day’s mission is to book a limousine, but on the way there a fellow castaway mentions having champagne in the limo, and how great matching socks look in photos. A little sidetracking in search of bubbly and funky footwear takes you off the path, and finding your way to limo-land is impossible because the sun is going down. When it’s time to report in, an unsuccessful day’s venture won’t be well received back at camp. If you’re going to get through this victoriously, it is imperative that chores are done on schedule. send out distress signals Don’t try to be superman by braving the environment alone.

Groomsmen are there for a more than escorting bridesmaids.

They are your survival team. Gathering supplies, arranging for festivities, and keeping the fires of romance burning can be more than even Tom Hanks could manage alone.

wedding planning a groom’s guide to

survival

What would you do if you found yourself in a survival situation? Most of us are familiar with the basic rules of staying alive and would, surroundings permitting, manage to hang on until rescue arrived.

Some of this knowledge comes from instinct, and some from watching ‘Survivorman’, but however it is acquired, the same principles can be applied to organizing and executing a wedding.

For centuries wedding planning has been strictly the domain of future brides. With the exception of a few defined duties, for the groom it was hands off, and no groom would have considered meddling in her affairs.

This attitude made a certain degree of sense. The wedding expenses fell to the bride’s family, and she was awarded the honour of running the show, so putting together a wedding was under female control. But there has been a wedding planning metamorphosis. Who pays for what is now a matter of agreement, and grooms are getting in on the fun.

So what does wedding planning have to do with surviving on an uncharted island? Well, you wake up one morning to find you are in unfamiliar territory, have no idea what’s expected of you, and are concerned about the consequences if you mess up. Hopefully, this is the closest you will ever come to a real survival situation, but it’s the perfect time to hone your skills.

Know your environment Before exploring the unfamiliar world of invitations, cakes and flowers, determine just how far into this jungle you can go before it verges on life threatening. The concept of couples planning the wedding together is still relatively new, and the ground rules haven’t been fully established.

Are you expected to have an opinion on the wedding colours? Does she want your input on her gown? Paying close attention to what’s going on around you is survival 101. Listen to the sounds emanating from the underbrush. Is someone suggesting that your presence is not required, or saying “Don’t worry about it”? They may be trying to give you subtle hints that you are straying into no man’s land, and there is quicksand in your path. There’s every chance your fiancé may want to keep her gown a secret, covertly purchase a groom’s cake, or rent your favourite vintage car as a surprise. The trick lies in knowing when to get involved, and when to keep out of it. If you can’t decipher what the jungle is trying to tell you, there’s a solution. Ask. 130

preserve your supplies Purchases have to be discussed and agreed upon. In the early stages of planning it may seem as though there’s lots to go around, but little nibbles here and there will use up your funds faster than you can write HELP in the sand. gather for the future Grooms often overlook the registry as a source for supplying the shelter with the necessary tools. The very name ‘bridal registry’ implies that it’s strictly for her, and you don’t get a share in this treasure trove of goodies. Keep in mind that the registry, while named for the bride, is intended for the couple. Lamps are great, but hammers are crucial. make an offering With everything that has to be accomplished, life will become a whirlwind of appointments and events. In this frenzy of activity it’s easy to forget about showing reverence to the local goddess - the bride. Even though she has already given her blessing by agreeing to marry you, that’s no reason to overlook the honours due to her. You’re not married yet, so behave like you are still courting. You already gave her a ring, but any goddess would adore flowers, dinner out, or any other special offering you can present her with. plan the escape One of the greatest assets in planning the honeymoon is the lack of obstacles in your path. Essentially, you only have to know where you’re going, where you’ll stay, and for how long. Wedding planning is often fraught with opinions and disagreements, but you will be pleasantly surprised how straightforward planning the escape can be. above and beyond When it’s all over, what tales will they tell about your bravery and courage? Want to insure a glowing report that will amaze listeners and dazzle admirers? Agree to dance lessons.

tight schedule Ask your groomsmen to encourage your guests to leave for the reception soon after the wedding. If someone isn’t directing them, guests will linger and chat, and throw the timeline off.

feuding bridesmaids You expect bridesmaids to help you plan the wedding, listen to your concerns, provide comforting reinforcement, and feel your joy. You don’t expect them to be feuding with each other, driving you to distraction with their complaints, and jostling for a better position in the bride’s best friend hierarchy.

Bridesmaids are meant to make the bride’s life easier, not drive her into a frenzy. Talk to any recently married bride and she can probably relate horror stories about the trials and tribulations of having bridesmaids, but what’s a wedding without them?

Practically worse than no groom. So you have to choose them almost as carefully as you chose him.

Super shy, drama queen, procrastinator, and let’s not overlook the friend who stole your future sister-in-law’s boyfriend.

You know who they are, and even though they are near and dear, perhaps their best role in your wedding would be that of a guest. The women you choose as bridesmaids should support you, and make your life easier, however, obligations can force you to have bridesmaids you know will be butting heads over every little detail. When lifelong commitments or family pressures corner you into choices you know will cause issues on a monumental scale, the only thing left to do is divide and conquer.

Divide by eliminating any potential points of contention before they arise, and the bridesmaids’ dresses are sure to be on the front lines of the battle. When they’re not happy with each other, agreeing on a dress is out of the question. Defuse the situation by letting each of them choose a slightly different gown. When the choice is theirs, they can’t blame anyone else.

The same is true of shoes, jewellery, hairstyles, and in the case of full blown war, even nail polish. Conquer by giving them common ground. No matter how intense the malice they have for each other, as your bridesmaids they share the common goal of helping to make your wedding day perfect, and a little encouragement will go a long way. Letting them know how much you need and appreciate them always smooths things over. Inspire your team with a “Win one for The Gipper” speech, and they just might put their differences aside for your sake.

When there’s dissension in the ranks, and your bridesmaids are making the Hatfields and McCoys look like BFFs, stand your ground. From the style of their dresses to the order of their place in the processional, the final decision is yours and yours alone.

Bridesmaids don’t have tenure, so if all else fails, and the offending maid is causing so much stress that you are thinking of eloping instead, she may have to turn in her bouquet, and be cut from the entourage.

It will be difficult, and there may be tears, but it beats having bridesmaids who are going for each other’s throats.

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Beyond Flowers

Why does the bride carry flowers? To be honest we don’t really know.

Brides and flowers date back to antiquity and as to when the pairing originated there is no definitive answer. Some say the bouquet began as superstition, a way to ward off evil spirits. Other, less romantic, people claim flowers and herbs were carried to mask body odour in an era when bathing was a luxury. Couldn’t it simply be because flowers are the most beautiful, elegant and fragrant of nature’s creations? Flowers express feelings, brighten our homes and give us joy, and when you see a bouquet in the room, it’s a sure bet there’s a bride nearby.

So brides carrying flowers is nothing new – what is new is what’s being done with flower stems. No longer simply bound with ribbon and more or less ignored, the stems of the bouquet have come into the limelight. They are being decked-out with everything from family heirloom jewellery to crystal encrusted wraps. There’s a dizzying array of choices. It could be your mother’s pearl earrings, rhinestones for extra glitter or material that matches the bridesmaids’ gowns. One clever (and superstitious) bride covered all the requirements of something old, something new... within her bouquet. She used fabric from her grandmother’s gown, her sister’s new bracelet, borrowed a lace choker, and had blue crystals nestled among the flowers.

Adding sparkle or personal treasures to the bouquet has been popular for some time. The more recent practice of decorating the stems presents the dilemma of whether to enhance the blooms or the stems.

One or the other has to be the focal point, otherwise its overkill. As you walk down the aisle, guests should be admiring you, not entering a hypnotic trance from all the bling. If you simply must have both,

coordinate them carefully and use a light touch. The bride’s bouquet is usually larger and grander than the attendants, so the glitter on them should be non-existent or kept to a bare minimum. The bridal bouquet is a statement of who you are, and you are the only one who should be making a statement on your day.

To retain their full glory, flowers need to be in water up until the last minute so they should not be wrapped in a that prevents absorption. At the reception, the bouquets are often placed in vases on the head table to keep them fresh and serve double duty as decorations. When the stems equal the beauty of the blooms, let them show with clear, not coloured, containers.

A word of caution – OK, two words of caution. Think about how the stems will look in the photos. A pair of red shoes peeking out from under a white gown has a certain charm, but a red bouquet handle in front of a white gown could look like you’ve just been shot. Also, whatever you wrap the stems in, it has to feel comfortable in your hand. Don’t use anything that would add too much thickness to the grip or weight to the arrangement. It may come as a surprise how heavy a bouquet of flowers can be. You will be holding them for 20 to 30 minutes at a time, and grasping something that is too large for your hand or uncomfortably heavy will lose its charm very quickly.

a little nervous? With nervousness comes quivering. Holding

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light’s illusion Good lighting can make a simple room, and everyone in it, look spectacular; bad lighting is the polar opposite. When visiting potential venues, note how the person with you looks in the room’s natural light. Does it enhance them or does it need help?

Uplighting has a flattering effect while overhead lighting can cast unattractive shadows. If you want to look your most beautiful and add instant ambiance, the proper lighting will do it all. The old adage “Every bride is beautiful” falls short when the lighting is bad.

the bunny dip Instead of bending forward to deliver drinks, Hugh Heffner’s Playboy Club ‘bunnies’ did the ‘bunny dip’. Today the idea of wearing a bunny costume is outrageous but it did teach us that maintaining a straight back, and bending at the knees is the graceful way to reach down. When raising your gown to maneuver a step, remember the bunnies and be glad you’re not wearing a tail.

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about the artist Experimenting with the revival of this ancient craft since 1996, Collette Broeders maintains a consistent studio practice in the spirit of papermaking developing new papers and accessories using traditional techniques, equipment and materials.As a print artist and papermaker, she connects with the ‘handmade’ and sensory experience of the natural world. In many respects, it is the repetition involved in the creative process itself that motivates her work. The very acts of doing, of experiencing, and producing in themselves evoke a ritual consciousness of some state of change.

le papetier vert (the green papermaker)

Collette Broeders is an artist located in Windsor, Ontario specializing in beautifully handcrafted invitations and papers. She has maintained a passionate artistic practice in mixed media merging traditional processes with new media and performance.

In the 80’s she attended St. Clair College of Applied Arts and Technology for business followed by the University of Windsor for the Bachelor of Commerce program. She worked in accounting, business and database development for several years. By 2004, Broeders returned to the University of Windsor where she completed the Bachelor of Fine Arts (Honours) program. Her studies focused on printmaking and investigated the digital realm where she combined both of these mediums. She is a founding member of one ten park: a working space, an active member of the arts community and maintains a studio in LaSalle, Ontario, Canada. Collette’s work can be found in several publications and previous interviews including Rampike Magazine. She has exhibited nationally and internationally.

She began hand papermaking almost thirty years ago and incorporated it into her artistic practice with printmaking and mixed media drawings.

Through years of experimentation, and exploring various artistic projects in both bookbinding and papermaking, she developed a love of the craft of hand papermaking.

Hand-papermaking is a traditional and lost art. These beautiful and unique papers are like no other found on the local market and are suitable for a variety of uses. All artist-made papers and products created follow the standards of archival quality and are suitable for markets beyond the wedding and events industry that include printers, graphic artists, visual artists, artisans and crafters alike. le papetier vert is an exlusive studio and paper mill in the Windsor/Essex region producing earth friendly, hand-crafted papers and accessories.

eco-conscious With an environmentally conscious mandate, these unique handmade papers are tree-free, and eco-friendly using the finest quality of natural fibres and earth pigments. All papers are hand-crafted in Collette’s design studio and paper mill and are customized to suit the vision of her clients.

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Deanna & Russel ~ September 22, 2018 www.chaletstudio.ca

just in case?

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Seating families on opposite sides of the aisle is another in a long line of traditions handed down through the ages, but the reasoning behind it may surprise you. The original purpose for separating the families was... wait for it... to avoid bloodshed.

In days of old, the daughter of a chieftain was the ideal bargaining chip for a ceasefire between warring tribes. When the wedding was little more than an uneasy truce, seating families as far from each other as possible was a strategic move.

What do you suppose happened at the reception when they added fuel (alcohol) to the fire?

we’ve come a long way baby!

Jenna & Jehad ~ July 29 2018 www.blushphotos.ca

Babylonia 1790 BC was the setting for the first known code of law. Known as Hammurabi’s Code it included marriage laws that stated if a wife failed to have children, neglected the home, or embarrassed her husband in public, he could divorce her. Adultery carried a much harsher punishment that involved any nearby body of water. Discovered in 1901, these stone windows into history are on display at the Louvre in Paris, and are proof that “Written in stone” doesn’t mean what it used to. invitations 137

the promise of a

Diamond

Since ancient times, the giving of a ring was a binding promise of marriage and even then a diamond was the most popular gem to give. If the gentleman withdrew his affection, the jilted woman would keep the ring for financial security.

Today, if an engagement is broken, most women will return the ring. The ring was a gift and hers to keep, however, if the brideto-be breaks the engagement protocall dictates the ring should be returned.

The wedding ring can be dated back almost a thousand years to Egypt, where the ring was thought to symbolize eternity. It was believed that a vein ran from the third finger of the left hand directly to the heart, therefore a ring on that finger would be closest to the heart.

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Accept this ring as a sign of my commitment ather than my wealth.

True love has no price, but it offers infinite value. Unknown

Celebrate With Love

The smallest recorded engagement ring was given to Princess Mary, the daughter of Henry VIII, in 1518. She was betrothed to the Dauphin of France (the infant son of King Frances I). Mary was just two years old. When things didn’t work politically, Mary’s engagement was cancelled. At the age of six she was engaged again to her cousin, Holy Roman Emperor Charles V, but when negotiations with France resumed, her engagement to Charles was broken and she was back on the bargaining table again. This time there was a choice, either the French Dauphin or his father the King. Luckily for Mary a treaty was reached without any betrothal. Confusing as it all was, Mary was never subject to an arranged marriage. Mary ascended to the throne in 1553 and married Prince Philip of Spain when she was 37.

In pre-Magna Carta England, the law prohibited anyone who was not royal, or a member of the church, to have a ring with multiple stones.

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If there may be an engagement ring in your future, you should know your ring size. If you don’t know, pop into a jewellery shop and be measured.

ScentSense

The delicate scent of perfume is the finishing touch that captivates the senses, and just like everything else on your day, you have to get it right.

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When seeking out your wedding day scent, try just two or three perfumes at a time.

After that you begin to lose the ability to distinguish between them – olfactory overload. If your perfume counter has a small jar of coffee beans, take a sniff of the beans. Just like having sorbet with dinner to clear the pallet, coffee beans clear the scent of perfume and let you start over, but unlike the sorbet, it’s only good for once or twice. Experts say our sense of smell improves as the day goes on, so it makes sense to do your sniffing when your nose is at its sharpest. Because body chemistry can affect a perfume’s scent, spray some on and give it half an hour to an hour to settle, then see if you still like it.

A seductive fragrance is an elusive fragrance. There’s a whiff of it in the air, and then it’s gone. A scent should be caught as you walk by, but not overpowering if you stop to talk. One gentle spritz or a few dabs on pulse points should be ample.

The old standby of spraying up into the air, and then walking through the scent as it falls, is a great way to apply perfume.

On your wedding day, your new hubby will be the person most exposed to your fragrance, so which one would he like? If you ask a man’s opinion on fragrances, it’s unlikely you will get a definitive answer, and he may not be much help in narrowing your choices, but on the other hand, if he doesn’t like it he’ll tell you.

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To spritz or not to spritz. Sensitivity to perfume is a common condition, and more and more brides are choosing to forgo perfume altogether in deference to those who can have negative reactions. If you are going scent-free for this reason, remind the rest of your wedding party to do the same. jewellers 139

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Staying on budget for a wedding is a challenge, and it’s generally not items such as the gown, venue, photographer or food that causes couples to tip the budget scale in the wrong direction.

Those expenses you can expect, and plan accordingly. It’s ‘the others’ that are the money vampires. The others are all the little things you didn’t allow for in the original budget. The expenses you don’t see coming. The average wedding is one to two years in the planning stage, and the amount of money that trickles out in that time can leave you dazed and wondering where it all went.

Some unanticipated expenses: Lunch with bridesmaids Beauty treatments Alterations and undergarments Marriage license Postage stamps Tips, sales tax and service charges Overtime and set up fees Gifts for the wedding party Shoes for the honeymoon ...and it’s not over, even when it’s over…

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Bring ease, comfort and luxury to yourself and your wedding party by putting a professional in the driver’s seat. Your family, friends and guests will be busy getting ready for your day and no one needs the extra responsibility of picking up the bride, groom or any other members of your wedding party. Hiring a limousine is less stressful and avoids confusion.

This is your day of unrestrained luxury. You are the bride and you should arrive in style.

Arrange for your photographer to be at the venue ahead of schedule and be sure he/she gets some shots of you stepping out of your ‘Cinderella Carriage’. Having your wedding party chauffeured also assures that everyone will arrive together and on time. a little limo history The words ‘limousine’ and ‘chauffeur’ have been used for over 100 years, and of course the words are French. Before four wheels and floorboards were even dreamt of, wealthy ancients were transported in sedan chairs carried by servants, and it was the ultimate statement of status and wealth.

In the US in the late 1920’s a company called Armbuster used their car to transport ‘big band’ leaders and the cars gained the name ‘Big Band Buses’. By 1930 many hotels were using airporter stretch coaches to transport their guests and the limousine was gaining popularity by a selective few... then came Hollywood!

When celebrities were first seen in limos, everyone wanted to ride along and by the mid to late 60’s our dream was coming true. Today a limousine has become the standard symbol of style, celebration, romance and luxury.

A limousine is an integral part of the wedding day and if there was ever a time for romantic music, this is it. Arrange to have your driver play a CD of your favourite love songs.

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The list is not just endless; it’s unique to every wedding, so budgeting for every unanticipated expense would be impossible. There’s no way to determine exactly what a night out with the bridesmaids will cost, or precisely what you will spend on a gift for the flower girl.

You may not know exactly what the others will cost, but when you know they’re coming you can be prepared by allocating a portion of your overall budget to the unforeseen.

Since the groom has others too, this is a perfect opportunity to work on your communication when it comes to money.

You can’t control the bottom line if you don’t know where it is.

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Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet, understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weakness. Love is content with the present. It hopes for the future and it doesn't brood over the past.

It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough, so search for it, ask God for it, and share it!

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You know you are in love when the two of you can go grocery shopping together.

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Having the unique beauty of your wedding captured in photos is hugely important. In the future, when you look at your invitations or cake topper, you can recall the day, but when you look at photos, you can relive the day. Creating beautiful images is your photographer’s job, but you can help make things go more smoothly for them.

Talk it through in advance. What ambiance do you want your photos to convey? Old fashioned, avant-garde, low-key, or Hollywood glam, and how do you feel about black and white? Giving your professional photographer a clear picture of your vision will save time for everyone and prevent disappointment in the future.

Don’t micromanage. There’s more involved in taking photos than just working the camera. Light, angle, and background have to be determined and adjustments have to be made. The way the sun is hitting your face.

The angle of the shadows falling across your gown. Before a great shot is taken your professional’s mind is computing the answers to a myriad of variables and constant input from others doesn’t help. Everyone should step back and let the professional go to work.

Plan ahead. Have a pretty hanger for your dress on hand, choose the chair you want your bouquet photographed on. Having small things organized in advance makes for smoother photo sessions. Look around. A beautiful background is a must for your cake, head table or speaker’s podium.

Once anything stationary is in position, there is nothing the photographer can do about its surroundings. If your cake is in front of the kitchen or if there’s a washroom sign behind the head table, they are going to be in the pictures. When choosing placement, look at what will be behind it.

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Organize the formals. Prepare a list of the people and groupings you want included in your formal shots. You and your parents, the groom and his parents, the maid-ofhonour and the bride, the flower girl and ring bearer, etc.

With so many possible combinations, unless there is a list to work with, there’s a good chance someone will be left out.

Forget about the camera. It will be impossible for your photographer to capture expressions of love or excitement if you stop, pose and grin for every picture. Some of the best wedding moments happen when the couple is unaware of being photographed. Don’t be concerned about unflattering shots, you and your photographer are the only ones who will ever see them.

Amazing wedding photos result from good planning and allowing your professional the time and freedom to do the job. The best pictures are the ones that are the most real, so relax and have fun on your day, that’s when photographic magic happens.

personal touches Delight your guests with handwritten notes tucked into their dinner napkins. You can thank them for coming or tell them how much they mean to you. Have your centerpieces made up of small, individual containers of flowers that guests can take home as favours. As guests enter your reception venue, get photos and include them with your thank you cards.

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by Filip Rocca ~ Mezzo Ristorante

Finding the perfect caterer is an essential part of any catering event no matter what the size. Weddings, corporate events, parties and family gatherings are all times when the services of a caterer might be needed. Unfortunately, there is no standardized grading system for caterers and anybody can start their own catering business.

Here’s how to choose a good caterer so that the food at your event is something memorable, for all the right reasons so read carefully and take notes.

Another good idea would be to ask the caterer if they have any events coming up so you can sneak in to take a look at the set up of the room. This will give you ideas for your special event.

Pay attention to word of mouth recommendations. No amount of advertising can replace a good recommendation from somebody you know and trust. If a friend or acquaintance had a great caterer for their wedding or event, then this is a caterer you should talk to for your next event. Conversely, bad reviews should also be heeded. Also, if the company has been in business many years this will show that they mean business and stick by their word.

Inquire about the food freshness. Many caterers cut corners in food preparation by using frozen products. Fresh is always best and they’re charging you as though it were made fresh. Insist on only using a caterer that uses fresh food, not frozen.

Schedule a tasting. Caterers who provide food for events should offer to provide you with a tasting, in order to gain your business.

This tasting will give you an idea of what to expect for the event but don’t rush into booking this until you have narrowed down a possible menu to avoid multiple tastings and more headaches.

This evening will give you a first hand look at the food quality, taste, presentation and service.

Consider the caterer’s specialty. Some caterers specialize in larger scale events and have the equipment and expertise to professionally handle larger numbers of guests. Other caterers specialize in smaller intimate events, cocktail parties, or even just delivery of catered food. Be wary of the caterer who claims to be able to do it all, chances are that they don’t excel at any of it.

Consider what services you need. Some caterers will only prepare and deliver you the food you ordered, and may even go so far as to set it up. Others can provide fully trained wait staff and support personnel. If you’re having a formal event requiring plated service then you want a catering company large enough to handle your needs. Feel free to ask the caterer if their staff comes from an agency or if they are employees of the catering company. Wait staff that come from a temp agency can imply that the catering company doesn’t often handle large, staffed events.

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Ask for references. When entrusting a single company to handle the food for your event it is essential that you ask for references.

Don’t just ask them to hand over names; instead ask for referrals of several recent events they catered. Also, look online at review sites to see if the caterer has testimonials on their services.

Call the local health department. Most catering companies are subject to licensing and regulation by their local health department, and there will be records on any prior complaints, issues and inspections. This is usually considered public information. If the catering company you’re considering hiring has had violations or complaints it’s time to look elsewhere.

Ask for a quote. Too often, asking to see the bottom line price is the first step in hiring a caterer when in fact it should be the last. The food for a wedding can be more than 50 percent of the entire event cost; you’re going to get what you pay for. If your caterer is dropping their price you can be assured they’re dropping their quality as well so be careful.

Keep in contact. It’s always best to keep a paper trail so when communicating always ask them to summarize the conversation in an email so you can reflect back if their are any discrepancies. Also, keep all receipts of deposits and caterer contact info handy in your phone in case a question or issue pops up during the event. p

When Princess Elizabeth (Queen Elizabeth II) married her Prince in 1947, Britain was still experiencing post-war rationing. Ingredients for cake and other luxuries were sent from oversees as gifts.

In 1228 Scotland saw the first law allowing a woman to propose.

In the United States seventeen tons of gold are made into wedding rings annually.

Elton John was once paid 2 million British pounds to sing at a wedding.

All of Henry VIII’s wives were related to each other and distantly related to him.

Holland gives us the bridal shower tradition. The legend says when a young maiden fell in love with a penniless miller, her friends ‘showered’ her with gifts that would help them set up a home.

Whoever came up with the idea of storing flowers in the fridge didn’t know much about flowers. They want cool not cold, and the average temperature of a home fridge is not to their liking. They would love a room that’s just a little too chilly for you.

Did you know?

It wasn’t until the 1500s that couples had to be married by an officiant in a place of worship. Before then couples married themselves.

When Elizabeth Bows-Lyon, Queen Elizabeth’s mother, married the future King George IV, her hand-made veil had over 12 million stitches.

The groom enters the church before the bride, and takes his vows first because he is thought to be taking on the greater responsibility.

Princess Diana chose her own engagement ring.

February 10 is World Marriage Day. Although it seems like a logical place, storing corsage pins in the flower stem promotes wilting.

The average engagement lasts one and a half years and Christmas is the most popular day for him to ask.

According to the opinion of a nineteenth century New York politician, women owning property was “An attack against both God and Nature”.

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Queen Victoria’s bridesmaids wore white. Her cake was 9 feet (2.74 meters) in circumference, weighed 300 lbs. (136 kilograms) and contained 11 pints of brandy. Thanks to the preservative properties of brandy and sugar, slices of the cake still come up for auction today. The lace on Victoria’s veil was hand made and the pattern was destroyed so that it could never be duplicated.

The wedding of Victoria and Albert was hailed as the wedding of the century.

If you don’t think faux pas happen at every wedding you may be surprised to know that even Queen Victoria messed up. 12 bridesmaids were to carry her train as she walked down the aisle, unfortunately the train was too short to accommodate them. Forced to walk closely behind each other, the bridesmaids tripped and stumbled along behind her.

The earliest recorded engagement ring was given to Mary of Burgundy by Archduke Maximilian in 1477. The ring had hogback cut diamonds (which later became the baguette cut – much nicer name) formed into the letter M. The tissue paper that is often included in wedding invitations originated out of necessity. Ink from old printing presses would smear easily and the tissue was needed to protect the opposite page.

Although no longer necessary, the tissue is still popular in traditional invitations.

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the Entourage Bringing your wedding party, family and friends on gown shopping trips is hard to resist. It sounds like so much fun to have everyone there to share the excitement; and in a perfect world it would be, but differing opinions can leave you confused and frustrated. You love it, your mother doesn’t and your friends just don’t think it’s ‘you’.

Too many opinions make it much harder to choose and can actually lead you away from your dream dress.

For some future brides, trying to please everyone presents a serious problem.

In every article you read and every expert you talk to, “Don’t shop with a large group” will be the first piece of advice given. But what do you do when you simply can’t leave anyone out without hurting feelings? Have a game plan. Before making appointments to try on gowns, go browsing alone, and get a clear picture of your likes and dislikes. Styles and fabrics look much different in person than they do in photographs, and fabrics can be much lighter or heavier than expected. Refining your search means you won’t be trying on endless styles and getting endless opinions.

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If your attendants all love you, but don’t necessarily love (or even like) each other, when it comes to choosing the gown you could be facing a power struggle. When your bridesmaids don’t get along they sometimes express it by refusing to agree on anything. For the gals who don’t see eye to eye there’s only one thing to do. Split them up and make separate appointments.

Damage Control. When someone else is paying for your gown, find out in advance if there are strings attached. At more than one appointment the bride-to-be suddenly discovers that because her mother is paying, she thinks she should make the final choice. The only way to approach this is to talk it out before going shopping. Never ever let yourself be talked into buying a gown because everyone else likes it or someone else is paying for it. Being swayed by opinion now can bring doubts later.

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Honeymoon Planning 101

by Betty LaSalle

Honeymoon according to the dictionary is a vacation spent together by a newly married couple. What better reward after a hectic and sometimes stressful wedding to go away with your new partner and have a romantic, relaxing holiday. Once a couple decides to tie the knot and sets the date thoughts of where to go and what to do on a honeymoon start. Sometimes they have a definite idea in mind but if they aren’t sure of what might be most suitable making contact with an experienced travel advisor is a great first step. Based on the time of the year, length of time available to go and budget the best options can be narrowed down quite quickly. Autumn honeymoons to the Caribbean can be at the most volatile weather time, so guidance in this is very important. Also sometimes honeymoon ideas can get a bit overly ambitious trying to cram too many places into too little time so guidance in this is very important. A great travel consultant can ask questions to narrow down the most important things and make suggestions to save money and sanity. If a couple has only seven to 10 days and they think that visiting four or five cities in Europe is a good idea going over the logistics quickly puts the busy itinerary into perspective. Normally a honeymoon is a time to relax and enjoy togetherness and not see your new partner stressed from exhaustion.

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When considering budget it is often easier if couples discuss their priorities. Is having a basic room at a higher end property OK, or is being in that oceanfront suite a necessity. Certainly many hotels and resorts wwill try to upgrade honeymooners subject to availability but if having that view or swim out room is going to be a deal breaker be prepared to reserve it ahead of arrival to avoid disappointment. Flying first or business class is also a popular luxury that honeymooners want to consider, so check it out.

Sometimes it can be very reasonable and there are times when it is quite expensive but it certainly is worth inquiring about. As well, being flexible can result in significant savings. Departing a day or two later or spending one or two less nights can help in reaching the budget. No one wants to pay more than they have to but it’s all about being realistic and compromising.

Your honeymoon can be a perfect experience but it’s all about planning and remembering what is important to you as a couple!

Whether it is an exotic local such as the Maldives or Iceland or one of the more common destinations such as Jamaica or Mexico a honeymoon that you want is a wonderful start to your life together. p

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Sprucewood Shores is the absolute picture-perfect vineyard site for your wedding location. Immerse yourself in the beauty of its unique architecture with exclusive access to the entire property and all the nature that surrounds it. The charming and rustic buildings are surrounded by panoramic views of the vineyard, a breathtaking sandy beach on Lake Erie, glittering ponds, and luscious gardens. The new reception hall with its warm exposed timber ceilings and its ability to accommodate weddings and events up to 250 guests, boasts an elegant and welcoming charm that completes the true feeling of a vineyard wedding.

The vineyard reception hall boasts a state of the art kitchen for creating delicious and freshly prepared food with superior service and value, matching the quality of the exceptional venue. Our in-house Chef Don of 3D Catering can craft a menu specific to your individual tastes, and he invites you to sample your personalized menu in advance of the wedding day.

Winery Weddings at Sprucewood Shores are intimate and private celebrations, each one individually tailored to reflect every couple’s unique and creative vision. When you plan your wedding with us, you work in conjunction with our onsite wedding specialists who will be there to guide you every step of the way.

Sprucewood is delighted to offer more options to clients that are interested in hosting other events, such as baby or bridal showers, birthdays, retirement parties, anniversaries, and corporate events. Our event coordinators will be delighted to organize your event and be onsite the day of to ensure that it is executed perfectly.

Host your ceremony, reception, and pictures all in one place, surrounded by the natural beauty of the vines and beachfront.

With access to the entire property, one is able to plan and experience the most ultimate wedding all in one exclusive location. Your ceremony can be located on our sandy walk out beachfront or on the expansive lawn in front of the gardens and ponds, or inside of our stately Winery Hall beside the Reception Vineyard Hall. Following the ceremony, your guests can wander the grounds or relax in comfort in our grand Winery as you take photographs that will capture the beauty of your special day. The reception hall is designed to maintain the experience of outdoor events with large sliding doors around the perimeter to let nature in. If weather is not ideal, they can just as easily close the doors and turn on the full year-round air comfort control system.

“Having our halls and our entire property available to the couples for the night gives them the flexibility to host their ceremony in a different space then their reception, yet all being in one location. The spaces we have here for indoor pictures are breathtaking and endless in our barrel room, atrium, balconies, panoramic window views, and more. Visit our website at www. sprucewoodshores.com/photographs/weddings to view photos of our unparalleled scenery.

Romantic and magical winter weddings are on the rise, growing more and more popular as the years go on. And why wouldn’t they be? Surrounded by our 52 arches of vineyards dressed in snow, you and your guests will be warm and cozy in our winery hall set for an intimate ceremony. After the ceremony your guests would be lead into our new all seasons state of the art reception hall, the perfect setting for a winter wonderland, filled with love and holiday cheer for the rest of the wedding.

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Cinderella Revisited

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“Cinderella gown”. “Cinderella carriage”. “Cinderella ball”. The story that delighted us as children, has become synonymous with weddings. When used to describe the wedding day, it generates a delightful image of a beautiful bride, true love and unending happiness. As a contributor to Bridal Confidential, I have to admit to using the analogy a few times, but I have always felt a little uneasy about it. Like I was trying to sell something I didn’t really believe in. So it’s time to fess up. Since early childhood, I have secretly harboured doubts about Cinderella’s future happiness.

Fairy tales are always far-fetched, that’s part of their appeal, but even as children we knew they have to add up at some point.

Snow White finding love when the handsome Prince wakes her from an apple-induced coma. Enchanting. What girl wouldn’t wake up if a Prince kissed her? We weren’t told much about Ms. White’s Prince, we were left to assume he was a decent guy and the marriage worked out. However, when it came to the tale of Cinderella, we got to know her Prince a little better, and for me that’s when their fantasy love story started looking a little shaky.

Cinderella goes to the ball, the prince falls in love with her, she vanishes into the night, and he has no way of finding her other than through the glass slipper she left behind. Up to this point the story is captivating, and parts about the mice making the gown, and the pumpkin turning into a golden carriage are adorable, but what follows has to make you wonder about Prince Charming’s IQ.

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Without even narrowing it down to blondes, the Prince searches for his lady-love by having every eligible female in the kingdom try to stuff their size nines into the tiny shoe. When he finally makes it to Cinderella’s house, he lets her two, seriously unattractive, step sisters try it on before he gets to her. Really? He loves her but he can’t remember what she looks like? Without the makeup and fancy clothes she’s a complete blur?

According to the unflattering descriptions of the step sisters, they weren’t remotely similar to Cinderella, but not until the slipper fit did this airhead realize it was her. In spite of his obvious intellectual shortcomings, they marry and live happily ever after.

My apologies to author Charles Perrault, film maker Walt Disney, and little girls everywhere, but I could never see it working.

Let’s make a sequel to the ending of this tale. Cinderella realizes that this guy shouldn’t be allowed to rule a country. He shouldn’t even be allowed out in public without supervision. She tells him to take his foot fetish elsewhere, moves on, becomes a theoretical physicist, marries a handsome commoner, and lives happily ever after. That’s a story I can refer to with a clear conscience. The moral of the revised fable? Just because the shoe fits, it doesn’t mean you have to wear it. Enjoy your “Cinderella day”, and here’s to making a better match than she did.

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Mimma & James london / st. thomas

Gown: Sophie’s Gown Shoppe Tuxedo: Collins Formal Wear Hair: Side Street Salon Makeup: Madison Artistry Location: Ivey Spencer Leadership Centre

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Mimma & James Photo Shoot Day by Mimma James and I are so excited to have won the Bridal Confidential contest! Our photoshoot day was simply a dream come true; to be pampered the full day was amazing. The day started with us being picked up from our home, where Grandeur Limousine and Carson, our Videographer, were waiting for us promptly at 8:30 am. I can’t give Carson from Topper Productions enough credit for his stunning work. He was so easy to work with and made us feel really special. And so the day began, first stop hair!! Despite all the terrible construction going on, our driver was able to navigate the city and find the quickest alternative route.

We arrived at Side Street Salon where Nina created a stunning up-do. She was so talented and easy to talk to. She even added sparkles to make me feel extra special. From there we got back in the limo and drove to Salon Brittash where Sherri from Purely Dermico was waiting for me to give me a mini facial. I felt so energized and refreshed, a clean slate for my makeup application.

Next, Madison from Madison Artistry was ready to do my makeup. While I had my makeup done, my fiancé James got a facial, something brand new for him and he loved it! My makeup was so soft yet bright, exactly what I wanted. All of that pampered made us hungry, lunch time!

We arrived at Angelo’s Bakery just in time for lunch. When we walked into the building we were overwhelmed by such a tempting aroma. We were cheerfully greeted by no-nonsense manager Grace with a beautiful lunch basket filled with drinks, grilled panini, fruit and cheesecake. Delicious! We got back into the Limo and next stop was the Elmhurst Inn in Ingersoll.

When we arrived at the Elmhurst we were overwhelmed by the beauty of the property. We took time to walk around and take

photos, we couldn’t miss such a perfect photo opportunity! We also picked up our gift certificate for an overnight stay with breakfast included. We simply can’t wait to use it. From there we drove to Collins Formal Wear where James picked up his suit. He looked so sharp in a navy and black tuxedo. It fit him perfectly. Of course, with James being dressed in his best, it was time for myself to put on my wedding gown.

Sophie’s was next on our stop. They fit me in such a breathtaking gown. A fitted beaded and lace bodice with a dramatic bottom. I felt like a princess. The moment that James saw me in my gown was a moment I will never forget.

From here we went to Villa Cornelia Restaurant where we were warmly greeted by the head executive chef Ryan – a solid guy and a true class act. He even gave us a tour of the house, it was so interesting and such a great piece of history in London. He gave us a gift certificate to enjoy whenever we would like and we’re looking forward to a romantic dinner. Our day was almost complete, but not before we met with photographer Anita from Creative Inspirations Photography for our special photoshoot.

Anita took us to Ivey Spencer Leadership Centre. She had the perfect spot all set up for us, and even went to the venue in advance to get ideas for our shoot. She was a pleasure to work with and captured some stunning photos. It was the perfect end to such a wonderful day filled with pampering.

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Both anticipated and appreciated, thank you notes are an integral part of your wedding. Like the last bow on stage, they are the final act of recognition and bring closure to the event.

No matter how spectacular the wedding, the thank you note is one of the things guests will remember, and just like everything else related to your wedding, there is certain etiquette.

If you are planning a buffet style dinner, arrange to have the leftovers delivered to a shelter or charity. Assuring that no food is wasted is an environmentally friendly move, and an act of kindness on your wedding day is said to bring good luck.

Who receives a note? In addition to guests and attendants, send notes to anyone who gave you a shower/party (these can go out right after the shower). The DJ, officiant, photographer, etc shouldn’t be overlooked, and don’t forget the neighbour who took care of the cat.

Timing is everything. Notes should go out within two months after the wedding. Getting them out promptly conveys the message that you cared enough to send your thanks ASAP. For any gifts that arrive before the wedding, get ahead of the task by writing the notes as they arrive.

Thank you notes should convey the same affection and generosity with which the gift was given. Hand written is a must. Don’t use cards with preprinted messages and just a signature.

Mentioning the gift lets them know that you wrote especially to them. “Thank you so much for the blender, you know how much we love to cook” or “The vase looks beautiful in our living room”. It doesn’t have to be lengthy, but it should be personal.

It’s not just about the gift. For those who attended the wedding, thank them for being there on your special day. If children were invited mention their names.

Low-tech all the way. Although it’s predicted that in the future handwritten letters and notes will become obsolete, we’re not there yet. Typing, texting, e-mailing or posting thank you’s is not enough.

If in doubt, check the spelling of names. It’s a major faux pas to get a name wrong.

Guests devoted time (and money) to come to your wedding, show your gratitude by devoting time to your thank you notes.

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To assure that it won’t rain on your day, a tradition from the old south states that burying a bottle of bourbon exactly one month before the day guarantees sunny skies.

With their ability to ward off evil spirits and assure happiness, wedding bells were once central to any wedding, but how do you honour this ancient superstition and reap the rewards when you’re being married on a beach and there isn’t a bell tower in sight?

Add a tiny bell to your bouquet and you’ve got it covered.

Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

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Tips

Don’t procrastinate. Before you know it months have passed and panic is setting in. Starting early means everything gets finished on schedule and you remain calm, cool and collected.

Coordinate your wedding colours to work with the venue. If your colours are black and red, and the venue’s walls are orange, the combination will be reminiscent of Halloween.

Give yourself plenty of time to get ready and lots of space to do it in. Feeling harried and crowded is the last thing you need on your wedding day.

Don’t make drastic changes to your makeup and hair everyday look. It’s OK to glam it up a notch or two, but don’t stray too far.

Don’t let anyone in your wedding party even think about chewing gum... enough said!

Take the day as it comes, and don’t let it get to you if things don’t go exactly as planned. Repeat this mantra, “I’m getting married today, nothing else matters.”

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For an outdoor wedding, have a backup plan and remember rain on your wedding day is good luck.

Have the wedding you want. Input on what should or should not be done, eaten or worn is going to bombard you from every angle. Do your best to accommodate, but don’t sacrifice your dream.

Greet everyone with a smile no matter what. No one wants to see an upset or angry bride.

As proven many times over, different artists can make even a national anthem unrecognizable. Make sure you and your DJ are in sync with artist and version.

Maintain your poise. Inappropriate speeches or offending behaviour? Let it pass. Your guests may not even notice what was said or done, but they won’t miss it if you react negatively.

Make a gesture of respect to the person walking you down the aisle.

Just before leaving that person to join your fiancé, give him/her a hug and a “Thank you”. Your attention will make them feel special.

Don’t cake smash. It’s unseemly and can do irreparable damage to your hair, makeup and gown. Your day is about love, not aggression.

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welcome packages For out-of-town guests the ultimate way of saying I’m glad you came, is a basket of goodies to greet them. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; some bottles of water, a few cookies, chocolates or nuts along with a map/directions and a hand written note. It’s not what’s in it that really matters; it’s the thoughtfulness behind it.

reserved? for whom?

Reserved signs on tables are a classy touch that can cause confusion. The word ‘reserved’ only says ‘don’t sit here’; it doesn’t say ‘this is your seat’. Even if the person knows they are supposed to be at Table 4, a reserved sign will leave them wondering if they have it right. If it’s going to announce that it’s reserved (code for special) it should include names so the special people will know who they are.

the 15% factor The first step in finding the right wedding gown is knowing how much you can spend; the second step is conveying this vital piece of information to the salesperson before she starts bringing out the gowns. On average, 10-15% of your budget can be allocated to the gown; however, that doesn’t mean you can blow the entire amount on the dress alone. You have to add the veil, shoes, accessories, alterations, etc. Do some pre-gown shopping and check out prices on all the extras you will need to complete your look.

rehearsal dinner Rehearsal dinners have a purpose beyond bringing the wedding party together for a meal. They are a perfect time to go over last minute details, and make sure everyone knows where they are supposed to be and what they are supposed to do. With the advantage of having everyone together, it’s a perfect time to thank them for making your day possible. And, if you haven’t already given the attendants gifts, now is the time.

Tomorrow is going to be a long day and you have to get up early looking your absolute best. If the dinner turns into a late night party, looking your best is not going to happen. Get home at an early hour so you can take some quiet time for yourself and relax before getting a good night’s sleep.

Who is invited?

Anyone you wish. In the past, rehearsal dinners were for the immediate family and members of the wedding party, but today it’s common for additional family members or out of town guests to be included.

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planning a Christmas wedding?

Why not follow through with a Christmas-themed wedding?

This is the one time of year that you can go ‘all out’ and not appear garish. Decorations, lights and ambiance galore! At Christmas it’s never too much.

Because the holiday season is a busy time for most people, send your invitations a little early, perhaps two months before, or send out ‘save the date’ cards. Book your venue early. When the day arrives, avoid having your receiving line at the entrance of your venue, as you may be leaving people, literally, out in the cold.

For a winter wedding you can wear a wrap or a faux fur muff - stunning. Your groom can wear a winter top coat - dashing.

Winter also provides some excellent photo opportunities.

A Christmas tree with beautiful decorations that double as wedding favours. Hot chocolate and marshmallows. Red cranberries in a bowl surrounded with candles. Mistletoe - lots of fun here.

Wear a red petticoat under your gown which will be revealed when your gown twirls up.

Have Santa arrive to hand out your wedding favours. String Christmas lights and white tulle. Match the lights to your wedding colours. Have crystals in your bouquet.

Use miniature sleighs with candy canes to hold your place cards and have silver and gold snowflakes sprinkles on the tables.

Instead of a guest book use a Christmas tree skirt. Have your guests sign it with a fabric pen and you will have an annual memory to cherish for every Christmas to come.

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Every wedding has one thing in common – people who want to party until dawn. That would be fine if they weren’t insistent that the newlyweds join them. If it’s any comfort, couples being harassed on their wedding night is nothing new, and it appears to go back before recorded history. The French even gave it a name – shivaree. The purpose of shivaree was to make a great deal of noise and disrupt the couple as much as possible on their wedding night.

Shivaree may be long forgotten, but the tradition of secrecy is as relevant as ever. If they know where you are, there’s a good chance someone will think it would be fun to find you.

leave it to a pro Anyone who makes wedding cakes can tell you horror stories about desperate calls from brides who have, unsuccessfully, tried to make their own wedding cake. Few bakers will be able to help on short notice, so don’t take any chances. The cake is second only to the gown when it comes to things guests want to see at a wedding. The cake has to undergo close inspections and it has to be perfect. You have enough to do on the day before your wedding. Don’t add baking a cake to your list of chores.

Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame.

Henry David Thoreau

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what was I thinking...

“I thought someone would retrieve my cake topper.”

The cake topper is one of the most commonly overlooked items at any wedding reception and if you don’t assign someone the responsibility of collecting it, you may never see it again. If it’s left behind, there’s a good chance the staff will think no one wants it and toss it out.

Having someone check the room before everyone leaves is the best way to make sure nothing is overlooked.

“I thought people would check for updates on my wedding website.”

While we live in an internet society, keep in mind that not everyone will think to check your website. The worst excuse for not informing guests of a time change is “I thought they would see it on my site.” Sorry, but if there’s an alteration in your timeline, you will have to make the announcement the old fashioned way – by telephone or in person.

“I thought a friend could take the pictures.”

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. When Harry Met Sally

Taking spectacular photos is an art that the average person with a camera is unfamiliar with. Anyone can take pictures, but not everyone knows how. There’s much more to it than just pointing and clicking.

Don’t trust your lifelong memories with an amateur. One unfortunate couple, who trusted a ‘snap happy’ friend, were devastated with the results when they saw shadows of overhead wires running right across their faces in every one of the group photos, and to make matters worse, everyone was squinting in the sunlight. A professional photographer would have noticed and corrected the problems.

“I thought save-the-date cards were optional.”

When most people plan a vacation they plan it months in advance and if they don’t know about your wedding, the vacation will probably take precedence. Send the cards out about six months in advance for a local wedding and eight months for a destination wedding.

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gift fatigue Shower gifts usually consist of basic household items. This stems from a time when the couple was setting up house for the first time and needed almost everything.

That’s not the average situation today, so if you don’t need all the standard shower gifts, host a ‘no gift’ party. You will be doing the environment a favour, you won’t have to deal with all those items you don’t need, and you won’t have to write thank you notes.

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When your ‘get ready’ location is not your home, bring the essentials yourself.

Relying on others to bring the must-haves is walking on the edge. The people you rely on may be as excited as you are (almost) and excitement often leads to forgetfulness. A delay on their part could mess up your timeline. Don’t take chances – take a fully loaded tote bag instead.

Elizabeth & Ryan ~ August 25, 2018 www.creativeinspiration.ca

superstition loophole In the world of omens and fate, almost everything has a meaning and knives are no exception. They are the symbol of a broken relationship, and it’s bad karma for newlyweds to receive them as a gift. Before you run out and delete that gorgeous set of cutlery from your registry, there’s a way around this sharp edged curse. Folklore tells us that if you pay the giver a penny, it becomes a purchase, not a gift. Folklore couldn’t foresee that one day a penny would be out of circulation, you better bump that up to a nickel.

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Wedding Feng Shui

Feng Shui (wind-water) is an ancient Chinese system of maximizing positive energies (Chi) and minimizing negative ones. It is a body of knowledge that reveals how to balance the energies of any given space to promote health and happiness. Many people believe the practice has great benefits while others dismiss it as pseudoscience, but a believer or not, who doesn’t want harmony on their wedding day? Feng Shui involves a deep understanding of nature, colours, balance etc., and for those of you who don’t have the time to take up a new science, let’s pare it down to the bare essentials.

Colours that don’t work well together diminish harmony. Red and blue for example - too harsh, or white and grey - too drab.

Rely on your instinctive knowledge and choose colours that make you feel good. And if you’re still skeptical that colours can impact mood, try on a bathing suit in a florescent-lit fitting room with green walls. You’ll get the idea.

Light According to Feng Shui, disharmony lurks in darkened corners and interferes with a room’s energy flow. Uplighting in corners makes a room feel alive with energy and has the added bonus of giving it a magical quality. In some situations it’s impossible to bring light to especially darkened corners but putting flowers in the area will brighten it up and solve the problem. Use light from candles strategically. Placed near crystal glasses, candlelight is reflected in a prism of colours, and mirrors under the candles add to the effect.

Most of us have had feelings of discomfort in certain rooms or buildings. You can’t quite put your finger on it but something is not right. For some, it’s sitting with their back to a crowded restaurant, others don’t like being in elevators. There’s usually no logical reason - it just doesn’t feel right. The point is, we are aware on some level Space ...and lots of it. when the natural flow is off, but as westerners we tend to dismiss it.

Not one moment of your day should be spent feeling crowded or Begin by paying attention to your instinctive feelings. uncomfortable. From the dressing room, to the limousine, to the last dance, give yourself lots of space. The most common reason for a Colour As soon as you announce that you are engaged the first two wedding that’s running late, is a harried bride who couldn’t find the things you will hear are “Let me see the ring” and “What are your other shoe because the dressing room was crowded and disorganized. colours?” I find this interesting. Western society doesn’t give a Before the day even begins, stress is creeping in and harmony is lot of credence to the idea that colours promote well being, so creeping out. Space at the reception is essential for everyone right why is this usually the second question? Could it be that on some down to the wait staff. Crowded buffet lines that brush up against level we are aware of the importance of the colours around us? tables, waiters doing the ‘sideways shimmy’ to get around the room Naturally you will choose colours that you like or have meaning or long lineups in the washrooms all add to the feeling of discomfort. to you, just accent them with colours that work well together. In every possible place give yourself and everyone space.

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downside of trendy The one thing you don’t want your wedding photos to do is define a decade at first glance. Cream puff sleeves have the 80’s written all over them. In the 90’s big hairstyles with tendrils everywhere were the rage. As for the last two decades, does the word ‘bling’ mean anything to you? Wedding photos that instantly give away their age all have one thing in common - too trendy. The hotter the trend the faster it cools and it will be out of style before you can say “Happy first anniversary”.

When you look back at your wedding photos, elegant and timeless will surpass trendy every time. If modern is your middle name, but you don’t want your wedding to appear trendy, don’t worry. You can update your wedding without dating it because some trends come under the heading of ‘what a great idea’.

Cupcakes, candy, ice cream sundaes.

Wearing coloured shoes.

Decorated bathrooms.

Photo booths.

Wishing trees.

Auctioning the bouquet for charity.

A variety of teas.

A signature cocktail.

Handwritten notes in guests’ napkins.

Including pets.

Personalized vows.

Gowns that aren’t white.

Like fashion, wedding trends swing from one extreme to the other. The trick is finding the balance in between.

keep your cool The next best thing to becoming engaged is telling everyone about it, and in the excitement it’s all too easy to make verbal invitations and before you know it you’ve invited everyone from the gym. Don’t make commitments until you have worked out your budget.

Impromptu invitations are not written in stone, and it’s OK to explain that you will not be able to invite them after all, but restraint is better than apologies.

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guest etiquette Even if you just told the couple you would be at their wedding, send in your reply card. They can’t be expected to recall every verbal reply and will be depending on the cards for the attendance tally.

Sign the guest book. It may not seem like much to you, but to the bride and groom it’s a record of their most special day.

Even if it’s directly between you and where you want to go, don’t walk on the aisle runner before the bride.

Congratulate the family as well as the newlywed couple.

Have large gifts delivered to the couple’s home. Newlyweds have enough to collect and relocate at the end of the night.

Your gift should be something they can both use.

Keep conversations brief. The couple has a lot of people to greet and limited time to do so.

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techies and Treckies Even though mass communication has taken over our daily lives, it is still considered poor etiquette to send wedding invitations by email. Having an invitation pop up on a monitor is too impersonal, and an electronic ‘thank you’ card verges on insulting, but given the direction of technology and communication, things will change in time. A dozen years ago we would never have imagined our primary contact with friends would be through texting or social media, and look where we are now.

So why is it still not acceptable to send your wedding invitations via the web? To begin with, it’s just too easy. If someone is expected to give up their day, attend a wedding, and bring a gift, they would like to know the couple took the time and trouble to give it a personal touch. Another reason we haven’t fallen completely under the spell of the keyboard, is the gap that still exists between the ‘Techies’ and the ‘Treckies’. It wasn’t until the eighties and nineties that computers became a household item, so you probably have older family members or friends who watched the original Star Trek on TV, and have no idea how to turn on a computer.

If there are people on your guest list who write checks to pay their bills, or have never used an ATM, a printed invitation is required, and if they get one, everyone does.

Invitations convey the tone for the ceremony in a way an email can’t. By it’s appearance, an invitation lets guests know how formal, or informal, your wedding is going to be. You can include words such as ‘formal wedding’ or ‘beach wedding’ and immediately guests know how to dress. You can put these phrases into an email, but with this much lack of ceremony, adding “Formal dress” simply wouldn’t work. If for some reason, you absolutely have to turn 194 celebrant

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I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.

Arwen, The Fellowship of the Ring

to email for invitations, do them individually. A mass emailed wedding invitation is the last straw when it comes to good form.

For all you ‘Techies’ out there, all is not lost. While your older guests still have to be contacted in person, for your ‘high tech, up-to-the-nanosecond’ friends, it’s perfectly appropriate to go the electronic route for announcements, save the date notices, updates and get-togethers.

The exception. A couple who were suddenly offered a position overseas decided to get married before leaving, and had no time to send printed invitations. If faced with a similar dilemma, time is of the essence, and a phone call would suffice, then an email is acceptable.

The double standard. It is perfectly correct, and considerate, to include an email address for RSVP’s in your invitations.

Guests can also use it for inquiries and requests. So why is it not OK for you to invite them by email, but OK for them to respond by email? Because whatever makes it easier for guests is always within the bounds of courtesy.

We are teetering on the edge of etiquette vs technology, and no doubt technology will win. In the meantime there is one last argument for doing it the old fashioned way. Invitations and thank you cards are charming keepsakes, but you can’t make a decent memento out of an email.

Melanie & Paul August 11, 2018 was the day of our picture-perfect wedding and the day we finally became husband and wife. During our wedding planning journey, it was our goal to remain calm and have fun. This would not have been possible without all of our amazing vendors.

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choosing invitations Planning an indoor formal wedding or an outdoor beach celebration?

Let the invitation reflect it. Guests are not just invited by an invitation, they are being given an idea of what type of day to expect and what to wear.

invitation etiquette Registry information does not belong on invitations. Passing on the registry information is up to family and friends. You can however have a wedding website that gives registry information and you can include a web address insert with the invitations.

For guests who haven’t sent in their RSVP, it’s perfectly acceptable to contact them and ask. In many cases the person in question intends to come, but has simply forgotten to return the RSVP. If you will have a new mailing address after the wedding, include the change in your thank you notes.

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first dance Don’t be the couple that sways back and forth. Your first dance sets the mood for the entire evening. It is very important to choose a meaningful song and a dance that expresses your personality and feelings for each other; and as equally important is the need to feel comfortable and confident. If you find it difficult to choose between songs then incorporate a ‘last dance’ to conclude the evening.

Music is a major factor in the planning of your wedding day. It provides an emotional cord that ties your day together. Each song is a feeling. Unknown

All eyes will be upon you when you step on the dance floor for the first time as husband and wife. Consider dance lessons not only for yourselves, but possibly for your whole wedding party, if budget and time permit. If dance lessons are out of the question then you need to start practicing 6 to 12 months before the big day. If possible, practice in your wedding shoes considering your dress style. Take into account the size of the dance floor before choosing a waltz, fox trot, salsa, etc. Ask your DJ to fade your music at the point where you invite the wedding party to join you.

Three of the all time most popular first dance songs are: At Last - Etta James Can’t Help Falling in Love - Elvis Presley Can You Feel the Love Tonight - Elton John disc jockey 201

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photo tips Hold your bouquet below waist height. This will give a longer and slimmer line to your body and arms. Holding your bouquet in a cheerleader “pom pom” style tends to shorten the overall look and can make even skinny arms look heavy.

Don’t try for a big smile in every shot. Allow some variety in your facial expressions and let your happiness show. Avoid ‘attention’ postures, you are not joining the army. Keep your shoulders, arms and hands relaxed.

Don’t hold your breath. Breathing normally will result in more relaxed photos. Think of the stiffness you see in photographs from the old west. Back then, exposure time required the subject to remain perfectly still while holding his/her breath, and as a result the photo had a rigid quality (FYI: back in the good old days of photography the subject never smiled because it was not possible to hold a smile for the required time).

For the illusion of a slimmer waist line twist your upper body slightly. Watch celebrities on the red carpet and you will notice they frequently use this photo trick.

If your wedding gown has a slim line you can ‘slim’ your hip line by placing one foot in front of the other and turning your hips slightly to the side. Like the upper body twist, this elongates your hip line, however don’t try to achieve the two ‘twists’ at the same time. You may end up looking inebriated. Most importantly both of these moves must be subtle - not forced.

For your more posed photos, your gown, especially if it’s very long and full, may require some placing or adjusting. Bring two or more of your bridesmaids to one of your last fittings and have the sales person show them how to place your gown so it will be at its most beautiful in your photographs - make sure all hands are perfectly clean!

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reminder Having a manicure is not something that will be high on the groom’s ‘to do’ list, in fact there’s good chance it won’t even cross his mind. A reminder may be needed. If he turns white and groans “Why?” you can point out that his hands will be featured in the photographer’s close-ups like registry signing and cake cutting.

Most men have gotten over it, but some still fear entering any building that advertises cosmetic improvement. If your fiancé falls into this category, and isn’t willing to brave the salon alone, even though you’ve offered to go with him, it’s time to bring in the troops. Men like to travel in packs, and if you can include his posse, there’s a good chance he will concede.

Caution: If you’re trying to convince a really macho guy to have a manicure, never use the words pampering, soothing or relaxing.

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...“Not tried to do it all myself.” Whoever said “The devil is in the details” must have meant that if you try to take on every detail singlehandedly, you will be ready to make a deal with the devil to save your sanity. Designate as many tasks as you can then stand back, and trust that it will be done correctly. Agonizing over whether or not your orders are being carried out is just as bad as trying to do it all yourself. ...“Included my fiancé more in the wedding planning.” Because it’s been done that way since the dinosaurs, there’s an assumption that planning a wedding is strictly female territory. Going on the notion that the groom has zero interest, many future brides don’t think to ask if he wants in or not. Most men are quick to step up when it comes to cars, music and food, but tend to withdraw when someone mentions hydrangeas. Why? Probably because, since no one asked him, and he thinks his opinion isn’t wanted. Keeping in mind that most of our greatest artists are men, open the door for his opinion on seating arrangements or wedding colours. There might be a Monet in there. ...“Not tried to please everyone”. The couple who attempt to accommodate everyone’s requests, is the couple who wishes they had eloped. When the invitations go out, requests will come in. “Is it OK if I bring a date?” “Don’t seat me near cousin Alice.” “I want you to wear your grandmother’s veil”. Before sending out announcements, and triggering the deluge, have your plans in place. If there is limited seating - “No you can’t bring a date”. If near to cousin Alice is the only available place - “Sorry”. And your grandmother’s veil? Oh well, you have to give in every now and then. “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”. John Lydgate 206 spas

...“Curbed my enthusiasm”. The adrenaline rush that accompanies the first few days of engagement can prove expensive if you aren’t cautious with spontaneous invitations.

Once it’s out there, there’s no taking it back. No invitations should be given, verbal or otherwise, until you have set the budget, chosen a venue, and know exactly how many guests you will invite. ...“Not second-guessed my choices”. When a decision has been made, stop looking at alternatives. Planning and executing a wedding takes enough time as it is, but start second-guessing your purchases or plans, and you are heading out on a bumpy, time consuming, budget breaking road trip with doubt and disappointment along for the ride. There will always be someone who would not recommend one of your vendors, or a friend who thinks your cake should have more tiers, and lets’ not even start with cuter ideas on Pinterest. Accept that, in the end, there will probably be things you would have done differently, but as long as you aren’t second-guessing your fiancé it will all work out.

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I didn’t think of that The popularity of off-white wedding gowns has given rise to some seriously bad wedding photos. The gown will appear dishwater grey if the groom is wearing a white shirt. Neglecting to pair his shirt with the gown is a small oversight with big consequences.

Post earrings? On your wedding day you will run the gauntlet of the most enthusiast, energetic, and long-lasting hugs you will ever experience. That innocuous little post could become an instrument of torture as it repeatedly pokes into your neck.

Overly secured rings can leave you wishing someone had pair of scissors. The knot that holds them on the pillow has to be both secure and easy to undo. Simple enough if you know how it’s done. There are countless tutorials available on line and it’s worth looking them up.

keep an open mind Your heart is set on a princess style gown and the bridal consultant wants you to try on a mermaid. What do you do? You try it on. You could be in for a pleasant surprise. The consultant is not there just to help you get in and out of gowns, knowing body types and what looks best on you is what they do. Even though the suggestions may not fall in line with your visions, another person’s view of you could be dynamite! Don’t forget to ask your gown retailer for advice on cleaning the fabric in the event of a spill.

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it’s inevitable Talk to any newlywed who’s wedding appeared to have ‘come off without a hitch’, and they will probably tell you there were plenty of hitches. They were just handled smoothly, guests never noticed, and the couple was determined not to let anything interfere with their happiness. Any time there are a large number of people attending a life altering event, something is likely to go awry, and the secret to a perfect wedding is not the lack of mishaps, it’s the way the mishaps are dealt with.

Never let them see you upset. Guests will take their lead from you. When you appear to be the perfect happy bride they will just naturally assume that everything is going exactly as you planned. They don’t need to know that your car wouldn’t start this morning, you couldn’t find your earrings, or that your maid-of-honour can barely function due to a deep depression over having just been dumped. They only need to know that you are in love, and about to begin a new chapter in your life, with a smile on your face.

how many can I have?

How many do you want? There are no rules about how many bridesmaids you can have. Protocol suggests that a good balance is one bridesmaid for every 25 guests, but the final head count is up to the bride, and limited only by how many friends she has.

The more the merrier? Perhaps, but for every additional bridesmaid it’s best to have a corresponding groomsman, so adding one person amounts to adding two. An extra bridesmaid can always walk the recessional alone, or pair up with another bridesmaid, and she can find her brother when it’s time for the wedding party to dance, but the imbalance will show during the ceremony, and at the head table. In the photos it will be pretty maids all in a row on one side, and a few solitary gentlemen on the other.

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PS: The current record for number of bridesmaids is an impressive 126. How is it possible to get 126 women to agree on the same dress?

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Where does it go?

There’s one thing brides of today share with brides throughout history. They wanted to talk about the wedding then, and they want to talk about it now.

Perfectly understandable. What could be more interesting to discuss than your wedding, and what could be more exciting than having friends give their input.

In this respect, things haven’t changed for centuries, but the method of sharing thoughts has changed in a way those first brides could never imagine. As a bride of the 21st century you have the whole world at the touch of a keypad. But before you dive into the deep end, keep these two simple guidelines in mind.

and who’s going to put it there?

Family first. He has just popped the question. You have said “Yes” and since you’re desperate to get the news out, your next thought is “Where’s my cell”?

Remain strong, and resist the temptation. There’s one thing you absolutely have to do before going viral. Let family members know first. Not so long ago the couple asked for their parents permission before becoming engaged. This tradition has seen its demise in most cultures, but the honour shown to parents has not diminished in any culture. You may not have to ask them first, but you do have to tell them first. No mother wants to hear about her child’s engagement through a friend who happened to be talking to a neighbour who saw it on Facebook. And the lifelong friend that you are planning to have as your maid-of-honour won’t feel very special when the neighbour calls to relay the news.

Nothing personal goes online. This seems like a no-brainer, but it’s done all the time, and is usually followed with deep regret. Planning and executing a successful wedding can be fraught with frustration. The hall you wanted isn’t available, you argumend with a bridesmaids, or someone is meddling too much. It does help to vent these frustrations, but do it on a one-to-one basis. If you wouldn’t announce it to a crowd, it shouldn’t go on the net. The old adage “What goes around, comes around” has taken on new meaning, and has never been more accurate. Once it’s out there, it circulates and there’s no way to stop it... ever.

Along with where to seat your guests, you have to decide where to put programs, seating charts, gift table, guest book etc. and you need people to place them there. You can’t rely on your attendants for this one, they will be much too busy to take on any extra tasks. Whoever gets the honour of placing, gathering or returning all your precious extras, will need a detailed list of what, when and where.

With small details assigned you can spend the day enjoying every moment without being side-tracked by questions like “Where is it” and “What do you want me to do with it?”

NOTE: The duty list works best if everyone involved is on it. That way no one has to go through you to find out who is doing what.

point person Even if the directions are crystal clear, there will still be people trying to get in touch with you on the day.

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this is your life On a day when your life will change forever, offer guests the chance to reflect on your past. Photographs of your childhoods compiled into books (one for each of you) will give them an opportunity to remember your past, or see it for the first time. Display them on a table set up just for this purpose, so guests can view the pages without causing a traffic jam. Photo displays are a great conversation piece, and help promote guest interaction.

read carefully If it’s being printed, proof read it.

Errors on invitations or programs often don’t get noticed until a guest spots it, and then it’s too late. Read everything as though you are seeing it for the first time. When reading something you have written or read before, the mind sees what it expects to see instead of what’s really there. Mentally spell out each word as though you were deciphering hieroglyphics.

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cake cryogenics

If it’s not as fresh and delicious as it was on the wedding day it will be a first anniversary letdown.

With enough time freezers can do serious damage, and a stale, flavourless cake won’t live up to the moment, but if it is done right the cake will come back to life as it was on the day.

Some can take it, some can’t. Heavy fruit cake has the stamina to withstand the punishment of a year in sub-zero temperatures, lighter cake will be withered and barely alive, fresh fruit and cream fillings will be in advanced stages of decomposition. The more delicate the ingredients the faster all hope of recovery is lost. Your baker will know which types of cake will survive a year in freezing exile and which won’t. If you want to serve guests a cake that is so fluffy it will barely survive the evening, topping it with a more durable keeper-layer is one way around the problem. For those of you who don’t like fruit cake (I hear that), or any of the other more lasting options, when your first anniversary comes around, order a fresh made duplicate.

To enjoy it next year, get it home in pristine condition tonight. Cake tops that are set aside, and overlooked for the rest of the evening are getting off to a precarious start. If you don’t want your finely decorated masterpiece sitting around at the mercy of passers by, or slowly dissolving under warm lights, you need a plan. Where will it be stored for the evening, and who will be responsible for getting it safely home? Just in case it gets left behind, let your caterer and venue staff know you intend to keep it.

Preservation begins with an alfresco trip to the freezer. Before coming into contact with plastic wrap, the cake needs about two hours of freezing time to harden delicate icing. Frozen icing is fragile icing, handle with care. Blanket the cake in several layers of plastic wrap to form a cocoon, then with the wrap as a barrier (when foil comes into contact with food it promotes freezer burn), add three or four layers of foil. Repeat the process. Finally, a solid, airtight container will provide more anti-air protection and its rigid sides will prevent collision damage from a carelessly tossed t-bone. On day 364, put it into the refrigerator and allow to thaw for 24 hours. Happy Anniversary!

untimely tradition?

The first dance, the cutting of the cake, the toasting of the couple. Most wedding traditions are upheld without question, but one long-held tradition, the bouquet toss, is under scrutiny and the jury is still out. Does the bouquet toss define them as singles who are so desperate to get married they are resorting to prophecy, or is it just a fun girl thing?

Get a consensus of how the single ladies at your wedding really feel about the toss and ask for an honest response. You may be surprised to learn that many of them don’t really care for the idea, or they may love it.

A survey of general preference will answer the ‘to toss or not to toss’ question. Misunderstood girlfriends can result in a disappointing turnout when the toss moment is announced.

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She turned into a dictator.

Demanding brides are the backbone of wouldyou-believe wedding lore, so why do bridesmaids take on the task in the first place? In most cases they didn’t see it coming. They thought they would be dealing with their normal, rational friend, but found themselves bound by a promise to an hysterical stranger. Being a bridesmaid can be fun, but it’s also a job and candidates need to know what they’re taking on. Do you want them to attend every party, do you expect them to run errands or address invitations? Let them know your plans before they accept, and they’re less likely to disappoint, but more importantly are you asking the right person?

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Make the mistake of depending on a friend who is always late, notoriously forgetful or simply doesn’t have the time, and the stage is set for problems and/ or tantrums. What wedding lore never tells you is that sometimes, due to a series of poor choices, becoming a demanding bride is the only option left.

She took it out on me.

Have you heard about the bride who gained a husband and lost three friends? You probably have. Disgruntled bridesmaids are commonplace, and the complaints are usually the same.

Look at what I had to wear.

The bridesmaid’s dress is notorious for being the number one complaint, and often with good reason. It’s clothing they wouldn’t normally buy, it’s suited to someone else’s taste, and regardless of how many times they hear “...and you can wear it again” it’s unlikely another formal occasion is just around the corner, so this is a one-time-only, doing it just for you thing.

So why didn’t they say something? Not wanting to rock the boat, objections come in the form of silence, reluctance and negative references to hips, so if you don’t see a happy smile and a playful twirl the message is clear.

Bridesmaids not matching is one of the great advantages of modern weddings. Combine our something-for-everyone world with flexibility and you really can please them all.

We never talked about anything else.

In the enchanting world of wedding planning future brides are in danger of being swept away, losing touch with reality, and subjecting companions to endless tales of life in Neverland. Maybe it’s the thinner air up there that turns zealous brides into tedious brides who are left wondering why their friends have blocked them on Facebook. For the sake of friendship, make the short trip down to Earth and discover what normal humans have been doing while you were away.

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A strange phenomenon occurs when a wedding is running late or a vendor hasn’t arrived.

Faced with unforeseen flaws in the fantasy, nervous brides sometimes have no way to vent their frustrations and resort to turning on their pack. No one wants to spoil the wedding by biting back, so the bride has the upper hand for the moment, but there’s a serious lack of logic here. Why would you turn on the very people you are about to follow down the aisle? Maybe it’s a good thing bridesmaids don’t walk behind the bride, or carry knives.

You won’t believe what it cost.

Accepting the position of bridesmaid comes with a price tag and they are expecting that, but they may not be expecting all the extras that eat into their finances, so for the bride who wants friendships intact some pre-shopping, budgeting for the bridesmaids is in order. How much they can spend on the dress, shoes and accessories is directly related to attending luncheons, hosting a shower, or hiring a sitter. What they spend on the outfit is not the bottom line, it’s what will it cost them in the end, so if you’re planning outings, parties and weekends in Vegas, look at the full picture before hitting the shops.

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