ships back when there was very little information about gay cuckolds online, CUCKGIRL, much less gay cuckold porn or other resources. In fact, Dear Dan: I’m a lesbian in a longthere was once so little info online or term relationship. After much conversaanywhere else about gay cuckolds that tion with my partner we’ve decided to many people — myself included — explore cuckolding role-play together. weren’t convinced that gay cuckolding I’m not comfortable bringing another person into the relationship — especially was actually a thing. Cuckolding wasn’t a thing in right now — but I am willing to explore Thomas’s marriage at the start. “Total this as a fantasy. The thing is, I’m havmonogamy had always been the plan,” ing a hard time figuring out how to do it. There’s not a lot of info out there on how said Thomas. “But I got interested after seeing some straight cuckold porn. I to engage in cuck role-play, especially immediately identified with the cuck but I between two women. Could you point was too embarrassed to bring it up with me in the right direction here so we can have some fun while remaining monoga- my husband because it went against our vision of our marriage but also because mous? I only ever saw cuckolding represented —Couldn’t Undergo Cuckolding in straight porn.” Raising awareness of Kink’s Glories In Real Life gay cuckolds — and representing gay Dear CUCKGIRL: “You can definite- cuckold relationships — motivated ly introduce cuckolding themes and even Thomas to start his blog. So if you’re not finding anything out there about lesbian a cuck identity into your cuckolding, CUCKGIRL, ROMAN ROBINSON relationship while remainperhaps you could borrow ing monogamous,” said a page from Thomas’s Thomas, a married gay playbook and create the man and former cuck content and resources you blogger whose husband would like to see. has cucked him many Sadly, Thomas’s gay times IRL. “In fact, many cuckolding blog is no cuckold relationships are more. His was just one of monogamous and cucking the many sex blogs — remains in the fantasy deeply personal passion realm.” projects, one and all — Thomas even sees his that were lost forever after relationship as monogathe geniuses who ran mous — at least on his Tumblr decided to purge adult content side. “The definition of monogamy varies from their platform. In a matter of days greatly for each couple,” said Thomas, Tumblr saw its traffic fall by one-third “and I do consider myself monogamous and its value crater. Yahoo paid $1.1 bilbecause I’m the cuck and so I don’t technically have sex with other guys. My lion to acquire Tumblr back 2013 but six husband does. I just get to watch some- years and one porn purge later the site sold for just $20 million — less than 2% times.” Let me quickly define terms for read- of what Tumblr was worth when it still hosted Thomas’s gay cuckolding blog. ers who somehow missed the 300 other (The moral of this story: Don’t fuck with columns I’ve written about cuckolding gay cuckolds.) over the years: A cuckold relationship is Thomas thinks it’s entirely possible a one-sided open relationship where one for you and your partner to enjoy lesbipartner is free to have sex with other an cuckolding fantasies while keeping people while the other partner remains your relationship monogamous on both faithful. What distinguishes a cuckold sides. Indeed, that’s what Thomas and relationship from your standard open his husband did for many years. “My relationship where one person doesn’t husband and I started playing around care to sleep around is the element of with cuckold fantasies several years humiliation. In most cuckold relationinto our marriage and it remained a hot ships, GUCKGIRL, the cuck — the person who remains faithful — enjoys being role-play fantasy for a long time,” said Thomas. “It was fun, it was sexy, and it teased or mocked by their “unfaithful” improved our ability to communicate partner; sometimes the “unfaithful” partwith each other about sex in general.” ner’s lover or lovers, usually referred to They kept their fantasy play simple at as “bulls,” participates in the erotic first — for example, his husband would humiliation of the cuck partner. talk about a guy he found hot while Thomas created a popular Tumblr Thomas blew him or Thomas would blog about gay male cuckold relation-
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tease his husband about a sexy new coworker of his that he knew his husband had a crush on. They would use insertion toys and pretend they were other guys’ dicks and only gradually did they introduce some humiliating dirty talk into their cuckold role-play talk, and then only as Thomas’s husband became more comfortable with the idea of humiliating him. “Making use of cam sites is also a great way to explore if you’re comfortable with that level of monogamish,” said Thomas. “If you’re a cuck like me, watching your partner perform for someone else is incredibly erotic.” A more monogamous way to explore cuckolding without opening the relationship — not even a crack — is simply to ask your partner to tell you about her past sexual encounters. Listening to your partner talk about hot experiences she had with other women while you masturbate or while you two fuck is a great way to explore cuckolding without actually opening up your relationship. You’ll be bringing people up, CUCKGIRL, not bringing them in. “But just as a gay cuckold couple’s fantasies aren’t identical to a straight couple’s cuckold fantasies, a lesbian couple’s fantasies aren’t going to be the same either,” said Thomas. “CUCKGIRL and her partner just have to find their own way. But the most important thing is to keep communicating. Always communicate! If a particular form of role-play isn’t working, tell your partner. And give each other veto powers and go easy on yourself. Cuckolding is a fantasy that plays with your fears around monogamy and infidelity — it can be very hot but it can be scary too. So take it slow.” Like a lot of sex bloggers who were kicked off Tumblr, Thomas migrated over to Twitter, where he currently has more than 13,000 followers. His handle on Twitter is @gaycuckoldhubby. Dear Dan: I often masturbate thinking about the straight boy who wakes up in female underwear, tied up, gagged and pegged by a female. Is there a name for this fantasy? —Good And Simple Pervert
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