Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly • Spring 2020 by Alpha Gamma Delta

alpha gamma delta

QUARTERLY

CHANGE PLANS SPRING 2020

A SOCIALLY DISTANT SPRING MAKES THE POWER OF SISTERHOOD ALL THE MORE IMPORTANT

VOLUME 110 â&#x20AC;¢ ISSUE 3

Spring 2020

Q alpha gamma delta

QUARTERLY COMMUNICATIONS AND MARKETING TEAM

Director of Communications and Marketing Wendy Theus Barker, Gamma Alpha–University of Georgia Quarterly Editor/Marketing Manager Jennifer Freeman Thompson, Upsilon–University of Oklahoma Epsilon Zeta–Arkansas State University Events Manager Hayley Baker Gamma Zeta–University of Memphis

Content and Engagement Specialist Ashlie Freeman, Alpha Chi Omega Graphic Design Specialist Casey Miser, Alpha Omicron Pi Digital Marketing Specialist Lauren Wilson, Zeta Tau Alpha

THE MISSION The Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly endeavors to serve as a forum of communication to inspire, educate and challenge members on Fraternity, Greek and women’s issues; to rekindle, sustain and excite member loyalty and interest through celebrating sisterhood and recognizing individual and chapter/club accomplishments; to serve as a permanent record and archive, documenting the Fraternity. PRODUCTION NOTES The Quarterly is published four times per year by the Alpha Gamma Delta International Fraternity and is created by its in-house Communications and Marketing Team. Two printed issues are distributed by mail and two digital issues are distributed by email. Submission deadlines are the first day of September, November, February and May. Submissions and questions may be sent to à quarterly@alphagammadelta.org.

M E M B E R O R G A N I Z AT I O N B

Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

International President's Viewpoint

Dear Sisters,

I know this is not the spring you imagined. That sense of loss you are feeling is real, and it is ok to lean into it. The past month has shown us a lot, but none may be as obvious as the fact that humans crave connection and support. If there is a glass-half-full way to look at the timing of this pandemic is that that we have technology that allows us to see and hear each other in ways that weren't possible in our recent history. It doesn’t substitute for the real, person-to-person support and interactions that make us who we are, and that have been integral to our Alpha Gam journeys. However, I know when any of us have the chance to be together again, it will make us appreciate the experience all the more. I have the joy of being in touch with our many advisors, volunteers and chapters, and—from what I have seen and heard—you are working to stay connected and supportive of each other. Keep doing that. Our sisterhood is strong and continues to grow stronger as we become more intentional and take care of one another—even from a distance. While the Quarterly is for all Alpha Gams, we are dedicating this issue to those who are still in college or have recently graduated. And, senior members, we’ve got something special coming just for you. May 4-8 will be a special Fraternity-wide Senior Week to celebrate you and your time so far in Alpha Gamma Delta. The lifelong sisterhood of Alpha Gam is all the more important today, and I’m continually grateful for all of you as we navigate this time together. Be safe, be well—and be there for one another. Loyally,

Lee Woodham Langub

International President Gamma Alpha–University of Georgia

this issue

FINAL DESTINATION We caught up with our 2016-2020 Leadership Consultants to find out where they've landed, what they're up to and where they plan to go next.

INSPIRED BY ALPHA GAM Young adult author Rachael Stewart Allen tells us how her collegiate experience as an Alpha Gam at Georgia Tech has influenced her writing and gives us a peek at her latest novel.

LOVE AT FIRST SWIPE Lifestyle writer, podcast co-host and former Leadership Consultant Sarah Ellis talks navigating the ins, outs and in-betweens of dating in the digital world.

20 Pearls of Wisdom

11 Recommended Reading 22 Hack Your Pantry 25 Difficult Conversations

Red, Buff & Green Scene Traveling with Tina From the Foundation From the FHC Alumnae Opportunities

Cecilia Tackett, Kappa Beta– Western Missouri State, creates her own pomp and circumstance to celebrate graduation. The juxtaposition between the grad cap and face mask illustrates the recent reality of our senior collegiate members better than we ever could in words.

back

on thE Inspired by the onslaught of #healthyathome collages, we asked collegians to tell us what Alpha Gam means to them.

STAY IN TOUCH!

26 Managing Anxiety 29 Insta Like a Pro 36 Hack Your Life

also for you 3 9 10 15 18

cover

on thE

19 24 28 31 37

Boutique Finds: 10 Under $20 Word Search Affirmations & Gratitude Chapter Directory Flat Skiouros

Update your mailing address and distribution preferences at ® alphagammadelta.org/quarterly-mag. Missed an issue? View it online!

connect with us

We have linked several resources, websites and email addresses to provide you with further information. When viewing online, click the ® icon to follow the link or the à icon to send an email. Spring 2020

about INTERNATIONAL HEADQUARTERS 8710 N. Meridian Street Indianapolis, IN 46260 317.663.4200 info@alphagammadelta.org Office Hours 8:30 a.m.–5 p.m. ET INTERNATIONAL COUNCIL International President Lee Woodham Langub International Vice President–Alumnae Melissa Jacobson James International Vice President–Collegians Stephanie Simpson International Vice President–Membership Julie Berger Karstetter International Vice President–Extension Karen Donaldson Metzger International Vice President–Finance Alicia Adams International Vice President–Education Catherine Matthews Executive Director Katie Jolley Abernathy ALPHA GAM FOUNDATION President: Sue Maggio Sim Vice President: Carol Richards Peske Secretary: Patti Guthrie Rogers Treasurer: Janis Lang Bartosz Trustees: Adrienne Kerr Beckett, Lee Woodham Langub, Martha Petry Parham, Lynne Dunford Rossell, Sylvie Kramer Weikert Executive Director: Julie Waitman FRATERNITY HOUSING CORPORATION President: Mary Beth Dulcey Morabito Directors: MaryKate Toomey, Caroline Mahoney, Catherine Matthews Executive Director: Lisa Busch Spalding

Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

this issue

hey sis,

In mid-March, we started reviewing the content that was supposed to be in this issue—and none of it felt right. At the same time, a lot of talk was happening at IHQ about how to show a little extra love to our collegiate members amid campus closures and all-too-quick goodbyes. Thus, the idea for this special issue was born. After receiving the blessing of International Council to change our course for this issue and recruiting the help of several people, we went to work on an issue that would hopefully provide our members 25 and under something to pass the time, something to relate to, something to think about and something to be inspired by. More specifically, we want you to be inspired by knowing you have a lot of sisters walking in your shoes right now. As I write this note, I am still unsure what our world will look like by the time you receive this issue in your hands. However, I am energized by the outpouring of love I've seen across our sisterhood, and feel confident we will emerge from our places of quarantine even more aware that Alpha Gam is truly loving, leading, lasting. Loyally, Jennifer Freeman Thompson Editor, Quarterly

p.s.

While this particular issue might look different than usual, there will always be something in every issue of the Quarterly for you.

staff contributors KER HAYLEY BA AGER N A M EVENTS

Memphis

GAMMA ZETA

2012

D EWELL DIAMON GER ER MANA PT NEW CHA

THETA OMEGA South Carolina

ISER CASEY M ESIGNER D IC PH GRA

FREEMAN

T CONTEN

ASHLIE ECIALIST EMENT SP & ENGAG

Indiana

ALPHA CHI OMEGA

PARKER DELANEY ST SPECIALI TI CA ON IOR EDU

SEN

Iowa State RHO

Purdue

ALPHA OMICRON PI

ON THOMPS FREEMAN R JENNIFER O IT ED LY QUARTER

Arkansas State EPSILON ZETA

WILSON LAUREN LIST IA SPECIA ED M L DIGITA

TREMML ABIGAIL ECIALIST O ENTI N SP ARM PREV

DePauw

DELTA GAMMA

Indiana

ZETA TAU ALPHA

guest contributors Rachael Stewart Allen, Gamma Phi–Georgia Tech, is a scientist by day and author by night. She is the winner of the 2019 Georgia Young Adult Author of the Year award, and her books include 17 First Kisses, The Revenge Playbook and A Taxonomy of Love, which was a Junior Library Guild selection and a 2018 Books All Young Georgians Should Read. Her next novel, The Summer of Impossibilities, will be released May 12. Rachael lives in Atlanta with her husband, two children, and two dire wolves. Follow Rachael on Twitter @rachael_allen and Instagram @rachael.stewartallen. Sarah Ellis, Theta Tau– Belmont, is an NYC-based culture writer and reporter whose work can be found in Elite Daily, Greatist, mindbodygreen, Livestrong and more. She co-hosts and produces Subtext, a podcast about the language of digital dating. Sarah traveled for Alpha Gam as a Leadership Consultant in 2016–2017, visiting 13 states and helping establish two new chapters—but Theta Tau will always be her home. Follow her on Instagram @sarahaellis_ and the podcast @subtextpod. Tina VanSteenbergen, Beta Omicron–Illinois State, has 20+ years of public speaking experience and recently started her own company alongside her husband. She addresses professional and student groups in a number of important topics ranging from leading with empathy to cultivating confidence, but the work she does to encourage women to find and use their own voice is her proudest. Tina has flexed her talents for Alpha Gam in a number of ways, most recently as the host of Tea With Tina, a weekly web series to provide us some reprive during the quarantine. Follow her on Instagram @tinaraevan.

Spring 2020

and

RED, BUFF & GREEN SCENE: QUARANTINE EDITION

Join your girl Georgia Dickover for Senior Appreciation Week, May 4-8. Keep an eye out on Instagram for some familiar faces and words of love for the class of 2020.

yes,

mother

Give mom the gift of Alpha Gam pride with this Alpha Gam Mom Tee (available S-XXL; $15) and Alpha Gam Mom Button ($3). Available at ® alphagamboutique.org.

xoxo

read binge

“Truth Be Told” based on the novel by Kathleen Barber, Sigma–Illinois, provides a unique glimpse into America’s obsession with true crime podcasts and challenges its viewers to consider the consequences when the pursuit of justice is placed on a public stage. Produced by Reese Witherspoon’s production company Hello Sunshine, the Apple TV+ series stars Octavia Spencer, Aaron Paul and Lizzy Caplan. Katherine's second novel, Follow Me, was released in February.

May 30 is Founders’ Day DON'T FORGET!

International Council voted unanimously to cancel the 2020 International Convention in Phoenix. This decision required a great deal of thoughtful consideration of what was best for our members and our organization as a whole, as well as the difficulty of anticipating how long and how significantly the pandemic will impact us long term. This will be only the sixth time Convention has been canceled. Previous cancellations were due to war conditions (1917, 1943, 1945), the Great Depression (1933) and the Conflict in Korea (1951). Plans are in the works to accommodate discussion and voting related to official Fraternity business. We can’t wait to race to the Bluegrass State in 2022!

Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

29,588

fully

immersed

In January, 29 collegians, four alumnae facilitators and two IHQ staff members traveled to New Orleans to participate in Alpha Gam’s fourth annual Service Immersion Experience. Throughout the week, members participated in daily service opportunities, were immersed into the New Orleans' culture and reflected on the privilege of service through the power of sisterhood.

The amount of people who have tuned in for Tea With Tina in the first four episodes. She'll be with us every Tuesday at 2 p.m. ET on Facebook Live throughout the quarantine.

Each day participants served areas of New Orleans that are mostly unseen by tourists. From landscaping and power washing a nonprofit medical center and recycling Mardi Gras beads to keep them out of the landfill to picking up garbage along the lower wards and sorting materials at The Green Project, each experience was designed to show the power of impacting others at the community level.

99,355

The number of miles flown or driven by the 480 collegians who traveled to Indianapolis for the second annual Academy for Collegiate Officers.

In addition to the daily service projects, participants were challenged to develop plans to create positive social change in their own communities through passion projects.

See the event recap on page 6!

Due to an incoming winter storm, the group had to leave early on Friday, but not before discussing their passion projects over breakfast at Café Du Monde and touring more of the city. Amelia Abraham, Beta Theta–WisconsinWhitewater, had previously traveled to New Orleans as a tourist, but said this trip provided her with a new perspective.



11,787

The Service Immersion Experience is coordinated by the Association of Fraternal Leadership & Values and is designed to affect systematic change and sustainable progress in the undergraduate fraternal experience.

“It was insightful to see the city through the eyes of community members. I gained a much bigger appreciation for the culture through this experience,” Amelia said. Financial support was generously provided through a grant from the Alpha Gamma Delta Foundation. To learn more about this and past Service Immersion Experiences, visit ® alphagammadelta.org/blog.

The number of Instagram views of our video review of the past decade. Have you seen it yet? Spring 2020

RED, BUFF & GREEN SCENE: QUARANTINE EDITION

Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

Special thanks to the Alpha Gamma Delta Foundation and its donors for financial support of the Million Meals Movement service event, keynote speakers and the puppy stress relief event during the Sisterhood Retreat. Additional thanks to the FHC for sponsoring the weaving decor activity and popcorn snack break.

1. More than 75,000 meals were packed and donated through the Million Meal Movement to help fight hunger in Central Indiana. 2. Each attendee was given a workbook to supplement learning, stimulate creativity and record ideas. 3. Vice Presidents–Chapter Wellness participated in an activity to further hone communication skills. 4. Chapter Presidents used post-it notes to define their leadership goals in their breakout session. 5. Volunteer Ericka Roland, Theta Lambda–West Florida, led an important discussion with Vice Presidents–Member Experience. 6. To keep the energy flowing, officers took periodic dance breaks led by YouTube's Fitness Marshall. 7. Saturday's Sisterhood Retreat provided members ideas on inexpensive activities to implement at their chapters, including puppy play time, yoga, painting and karaoke. 8. Ritual Committee Chair Penny Yocum Edmondson, Beta Xi–Purdue, led a Roundtable discussion alongside Ritual Committee Member Rosie Goolik Jordan, Beta Delta–Indiana.

7 6

In February, 480 Chapter Presidents, Vice Presidents– Chapter Wellness, Vice Presidents–Recruitment and Vice Presidents–Member Experience traveled to Indianapolis for the Academy for Collegiate Officers. The event not only provided chapter leadership teams the opportunity to set goals and expectations for the year ahead, but also hands-on collaboration with their counterparts from other chapters.

Visit ® alphagammadelta.org/blog for more photos and a recap blog from Epsilon Zeta Chapter President Megan Gunnels.

staff staff

picks picks

You've folded all your clothes (twice!), rearranged your living room and even

Celebrate CelebrateFounders’ Founders’Day Daythis this year during year duringAlpha AlphaGam GamNight Night In! In! From a movie From a movienight nightwith withNetflix Netflix Party Party a happyhour hourover overZoom, Zoom, to to a happy possibilitiesfor forQT QTwith withyour your thethe possibilities sistersare areendless. endless. sisters Plan a nightininwith withsisters sisters on on Plan a night May 30 to participate! May 30 to participate!

Wehave have an an We

announcement announcement Join us for Tea With Tina, Tuesday, 19 at Tina, 2 p.m. ET on Join us for May Tea With Facebook Live scoop. Tuesday, May 19for at the 2 p.m. ET on

Facebook Live for the scoop.

Impact Talks are live, online personal and professional development designed to address the challenges currently experienced by many of our members.

Impact Talks are live, online personal and professional Spring sessions have concluded, butthe theychallenges are available development designed to address on ® OmegaOne. Topics include Motivation and currently experienced by many of our members.

Resolutions (January), Healthy Relationships (February),

Spring sessions have concluded, butand theyGratitude are available Thriving in a Remote World (March) (April). on ® OmegaOne. Topics include Motivation and These Impact Talks were made possible by a grant Resolutions (January), Healthy Relationships (February), from the Alpha Gam Foundation. Thriving in a Remote World (March) and Gratitude (April). These Impact Talks were made possible by a grant from the Alpha Gam Foundation.

You've folded all your clothes (twice!), rearranged your living room and even managed a few workouts. Pat yourself on the back and give yourself permission managed a few workouts. Pat yourself on the back and give yourself permission relaxand and watch, listen or read something compiled totorelax watch, listen or read something new.new. We'veWe've compiled a few a few recommendations from some of your friends at International Headquarters: recommendations from some of your friends at International Headquarters:

Emily Buice, Alumnae Development Specialist Emily Buice, Alumnae Development Specialist Emily Buice, Alumnae Development Specialist BetaBeta Eta–Southern Illinois Beta Eta–Southern Illinois Eta–Southern Illinois READING: TheThe Atomic City GirlsGirls READING: Atomic City READING: The Atomic City Girls Michele Camarco, Director of Finance & Operations AllieAllie Cook, Human Resources Manager Cook, Human Resources Manager BetaAlpha Beta–North Dakota State University Kappa Psi, Ball University Alpha Kappa Psi, State Ball State University PLAYING: RackoCorrect Opinions LISTENING: LISTENING: Correct Opinions AllieAudrey Cook, Human Resources Manager Manager Graser, Chapter Development Audrey Graser, Chapter Development Manager Alpha Kappa Psi, Ball State University Gamma Phi Beta–Oregon Gamma Phi Beta–Oregon LISTENING: Correct Opinions READING: My Year of Rest and Relaxation READING: My Year of Rest and Relaxation Check out her #bookstagram at @the_book_analyst AudreyCheck Graser,out Chapter Development Manager her #bookstagram at @the_book_analyst Gamma Beta–Oregon JenniPhi Jones, Director of Fraternity Services Jenni Fraternity Services READING: MyJones, Year of Director Rest and of Relaxation Theta Nu–Virginia Commonwealth Theta Commonwealth Check out her Nu–Virginia #bookstagram at @the_book_analyst WATCHING: Parks and Recreation WATCHING: Parks and Recreation Jenni Jones, Director of Fraternity Services Clara Mitcham, Director of Property Management (FHC) Theta Nu–Virginia Commonwealth Upsilon–Oklahoma Clara Mitcham, Director of Property Management (FHC) WATCHING: Parks and Recreation LISTENING: Gaslighter, Dixie Chicks Upsilon–Oklahoma

LISTENING: Gaslighter, Dixie Chicks ClaraKelsey Mitcham, Director of Property Gomez-Morrissey, ChapterManagement Development(FHC) Manager Upsilon–Oklahoma BetaKelsey Delta–Indiana Gomez-Morrissey, Chapter Development Manager LISTENING: Gaslighter, Dixie Chicks READING: What Made Maddy Run Beta Delta–Indiana

READING: What Made Maddy Run Kelsey Gomez-Morrissey, Chapter Development Manager Michele Powers, Regional Property Manager (FHC) BetaTheta Delta–Indiana Phi Alpha–Indiana Michele Regional Manager (FHC) READING: What Powers, Made Maddy Run Property WATCHING: Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist Theta Phi Alpha–Indiana Michele Powers, Manager (FHC)(Foundation) WATCHING: Zoey'sProperty Extraordinary Playlist Jessica Price,Regional Fundraising & Program Specialist Theta PhiXi–Purdue Alpha–Indiana Beta University Jessica Price, Fundraising & Program Specialist (Foundation) WATCHING: Zoey's Playlist LISTENING: MyExtraordinary Favorite Murder Beta Xi–Purdue University Jessica Price, Fundraising &Development Program Specialist (Foundation) Jena Valentine, Chapter LISTENING: My Favorite Murder Manager BetaTheta Xi–Purdue University Mu–North Carolina-Wilmington LISTENING: Favorite Murder WATCHING: New GirlChapter (again!) Development Manager JenaMy Valentine, Theta Mu–North Carolina-Wilmington JenaTiffany Valentine, ChapterAccounting Development Manager Vanarsdale, Manager WATCHING: New Girl (again!) Theta Mu–North Carolina-Wilmington Beta Delta–Indiana University WATCHING: New Girl (again!) READING: Girls by Robert Kolker TiffanyLost Vanarsdale, Accounting Manager Beta Delta–Indiana University Tiffany Vanarsdale, Accounting Manager Taylor Viti, Chapter Finance Specialist READING: Lost Girls by Robert Kolker BetaPiDelta–Indiana University Beta Phi–Butler University READING: Lost Girls by Robert Kolker WATCHING: Law & Order: SVU (hello, 20+ seasons!) Taylor Viti, Chapter Finance Specialist Taylor Chapter FinanceUniversity Specialist PiWhite, Beta Phi–Butler ErinViti, Communications Manager (Foundation) Pi Beta Phi–Butler University LISTENING: Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend WATCHING: Law & Order: SVU (hello, 20+ seasons!) WATCHING: Law & Order: SVU (hello, 20+ seasons!) Erin White, Communications Manager (Foundation) Erin White, Communications Manager (Foundation) LISTENING: Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend LISTENING: Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend Spring 2020

Rose Sisters is a virtual alumnae group for Alpha Gams who live throughout the world. Whether you live in a big city in Germany, a suburb of Montreal or a remote village in Alaskaâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;you can stay connected! If there isn't an alumnae chapter/club in your area, join Rose Sisters at facebook.com/groups/AGDRoseSisters.

Coming Embark with us on a whole new membership journey.

Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

Traveling

with TINA

Professional speaker, frequent flyer, Alpha Gam and all around good human Tina Vansteenbergen shares her must-have travel takealongs I write an outline of every talk before I give it—even the ones I’ve been giving for years! My notebook and journal help keep me sharp and give me a place to write down all of my thoughts.

Travel is dehydrating, so it’s important to drink as much water as possible on the road. I have a wide-mouth Swell bottle that I bring everywhere with me. My favorite part is that I can fit ice into it which keeps my water cold for hours.

This detachable pouch came with my backpack and holds the chargers for all of my devices— computer, phone, watch, everything!

“

To stay organized and always prepared, I have pouches for everything! One stores everything I need for speaking engagements (adapters, extra cables, my clicker, an extra clicker) and others store things like, pony tail holders, Advil, safety pins, snacks, tea bags, a nail file, Chaptstick and an excessive amount of liptsticks.

I love my backpack! It's from Dagne Dover, and I'm obsessed with the material—it feels like a scuba suit! It’s stretchy but durable, and the bag itself has a lot of compartments. Bonus: it has a luggage strap on the back, which—for me—was a must-have.

I have a tendancy to spill stuff on myself, so having a travel stain stick keeps me from ruining my clothes. It's very glamourous.

I always carry a flash drive with a backup of my presentation.

I gotta have my playlists, so I consider Air Pods an essential travel item. Follow me on Spotify @TinaRaeVan! Spring 2020

From the bottom of our hearts, we are so grateful for you.

You’ve helped award $250,000 in Fighting Hunger support throughout the United States and Canada. You’ve shown dedication to your education by showing up and applying for scholarships. You’ve cared for your sisters in need. Thank you for coming together to be stronger than ever in a season of difficult change. The Alpha Gamma Delta Foundation looks forward to contributing to the world’s work with you by our side.

10 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

Reading List

1. Own It by Sally Krawcheck 2. Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip Heath & Dan Heath 3. Becoming by Michelle Obama 4. The Radical LEAP by Steve Farber 5. The Tipping Point by Malcom Gladwell 6. The Student Leadership Challenge by James Kouzes & Barry Posner 7. Do Better Work by Max Yoder 8. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown 9. Leading Imperfectly: The Value of Being Authentic for Leaders, Professionals, and Human Beings by James Robilotta 10. The Confidence Code by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman

Spring 2020

Jensyn

Perrin

katy

Chicago, IL

@jensynperrin

Rho–-Iowa State; lc 2018-19

Serves as the NPC advisor at Northwestern University while pursuing a master's degree in higher education administration and policy.

sophia Baur-Waisbord Cambridge, MA

@sbaurwaisbord

Alpha Beta-Michigan; lc 2017-19

Pursuing a master's degree in higher education at Harvard University while providing mental health programs, finance training and other student development work for Harvard's athletics department.

McMullan

seattle, WA

@KatyMac72

Delta Beta-washington State; lc 2018-19 Works for online real estate giant Zillow.com as a Rental Support Specialist, supporting a network of over 25,000 properties across the U.S.

addie Long Fargo, ND

@addielong2

Beta Beta-North Dakota State; lc 2018-19

Serves as the Communications and Community Services Coordinator for the City of West Fargo and is a dog mom to a retired racing greyhound named Ed!

morgan Schimp San Antonio, TX

@bangbangschimp

Gamma Beta–-Florida State; lc 2017-19

Tackling law school at St. Mary's University School of Law while balancing swim coaching, wedding planning and assisting attorneys as they help homeless individuals obtain identification (which is way more complicated than it sounds).

Where are

theynow

From graduate school to budding careers, our LCs from the past three years are thriving. See what they are up to and follow them on Instagram!

12 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

SavannaH Roder washington, D.C.

@savannahroder

Nu Beta–-Tennessee at Chattanooga; lc 2018-19

Pursuing a master's degree in public administration at George Washington University while working at the Federal Reserve Board of Governors.

Working for IHQ Dani Mullin, 2018-19 Delta Sigma–Hawaii @dani.explores Chapter Development Manager

Abby Gindorff, 2019-21 Beta Beta–North Dakota State @abbyvgindorff 2nd Year Leadership Consultant Haley Casola, 2018-20 Gamma Tau–West Georgia @haleycasola New Chapter Experience Specialist (remote from Atlanta) Maggie Hackman, 2018-20 Epsilon–Kentucky @mags.hackman Engagement Specialist (FHC)

Other former LCs at IHQ include:

Katie Jolley Abernathy, Delta Theta–Idaho Hayley Baker, Gamma Zeta–Memphis Diamand Ewell, Theta Omega–South Carolina Samantha Murphy Handy, Gamma Zeta–Memphis Sara Rolin Scott, Gamma Zeta–Memphis Julie Waitman, Beta Beta–North Dakota State (Foundation) Emily White, Theta Omega–South Carolina (FHC)

suzanne Garner

Raleigh, NC @suzanne.garner513 Gamma Phi–-Georgia Tech; lc 2017-18

emily Scott Charlotte, NC

Works as a Mechanical Engineer at Barry-Wehmiller Design Group while pursuing a master’s degree in analytics from Georgia Tech.

@emscott45

Theta Omega-–South Carolina; lc 2017-18

Spearheads the college recruitment program for Wells Fargo as the Early Talent Program Coordinator and serves as an advisor for Theta Omega

Serves as a volunteer on the chapter level or Volunteer Service Team.

Spring 2020 13

Where are (CONTINUED)

vote

Lilly Bocquin, 2017-18 Upsilon–Oklahoma @lillylenee Austin, TX

theynow Kendra Ramsey, 2019-20 Iota–Washington @_kendra.ramsey_ Whitney, TX

Sarah Cowger, 2017-18 ❤ Beta Iota–Eastern Illinois @sccowger Mattoon, IL

Mariah Ritter, 2017-18 Epsilon Upsilon–Tarleton State @riahritter Dallas, TX

Emily Diehl, 2017-18 ❤ Xi–Illinois @emilykaydiehl Chicago, IL

Sarah Bullat Soldau, 2017-18 ❤ Delta Eta–San Diego State @sareliz_ Los Angeles, CA

Tegan Harty, 2018-19 Delta–Minnesota @teg_rex Iowa City, IA

Sarah Stipp, 2018-19 ❤ Beta Eta–Southern Illinois, Carbondale @sarahstipp Evansville, IN

Neena John, 2017-18 Gamma Omega–Alabama at Birmingham @ridin_round_with_that_neena Memphis, TN

Kirsten Robinson, 2018-19 Gamma Zeta–Memphis @robinson_kirsten Memphis, TN

Skye Marché Johnson, 2019-20 Delta Iota–Cal State Chico @skyemarche New York City, NY

Lauren Wenzinger, 2017-18 Phi–Oregon State @zingyyy Portland, OR

Megan McNeal, 2019-20 Theta Delta–North Georgia @meganmmcneal Canton, Georgia

Jonna White, 2018-2019 Gamma Zeta–Memphis @jonnawhite Memphis, TN

Use voice this november!

Rosie Nguyen, 2019-20 Epsilon Nu, Central Oklahoma @myrosienameishi Reston, VA

Oakleigh White, 2019-20 Gamma Sigma–Troy University @oakleighwhite Canton, Georgia

#AlphaGamVotes

Sydney Patrick, 2017-18 ❤ Upsilon–Oklahoma @sydpatrick Flower Mound, TX

Lacy Wood, 2019-20 Epsilon Upsilon–Tarleton State @lacyyy__ Katy, TX

LJ Perry, 2019-20 Gamma Zeta–Memphis @lj_perry Memphis, TN

Shannon Zogran, 2019-20 Beta Epsilon–Carroll @shanzogs Nicholson, GA

Educate yourself about the issues on your ballot encourage others to vote

your

Visit vote.gov to download your voter registration form and ballotpedia.org to learn about who and what will be on your ballot.

To learn more about the Leadership Consultant program, visit ® alphagammadelta.org/leadership-consultant. ❤ Serves as a volunteer on the chapter level or Volunteer Service Team.

14 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

A NOTE FROM THE FRATERNITY HOUSING CORPORATION

DEAR SISTERS, During this unprecedented time, we hope you and your families are safe and healthy. This crisis has heavily impacted all of us and reset the FHC’s priorities for the 2020-21 school year. When you return in the fall we’ll be focusing on three things: CONNECTION: Video chatting is fun but can’t replace hugs from sisters, spontaneous adventures to Sonic and late-night talks on the couch. We’re going to prioritize time and space for sisters to hang-out and catch-up in the chapter house—we want the thrill of returning to school to see each other to last. We also look forward to supporting you in the creation of new and unique in-house events to help you grow relationships with sisters like self-defense classes, cooking lessons with your chef and personal styling sessions. CLEANING: While we hope school returns to normal in the fall, we realize what a huge role the FHC plays in preventing a second-wave outbreak until a vaccine is developed. We are implementing a more comprehensive cleaning plan to ensure living and visiting the chapter house is always safe. In addition, there will be updated guidance and resources on providing superior cleanliness in meal serving lines and common spaces. Cleaning supplies will be available to members, allowing members to hold each other accountable for the cleanliness of individual living spaces. COMMUNICATION: We want live-in members to know exactly what is happening in real time without relying on sporadic communication via group chats and chapter emails. Starting this fall, the FHC will work to communicate directly with in-house members regarding any large issues related to the chapter facility. We are also working with the Fraternity to develop updated crisis response plans to include member education on staying safe and healthy during a pandemic.We know these new priorities, along with other initiatives we have in the works, will help Alpha Gamma Delta return in the fall stronger than ever. If you haven’t signed up to live in the house yet, do can do so by reaching out to your Director of Property. We want you to benefit first-hand from these changes—and we can’t wait to welcome you home!

Lisa Spalding Loyally,

Lisa Spalding, Executive Director Fraternity Housing Corporation

Spring 2020 15

BY RACHEL STEWARD ALLEN

A YOUNG-ADULT NOVELIST IS INSPIRED BY HER COLLEGIATE DAYS IN ALPHA GAM

remember waiting to go to my very first pref ceremony with a group of other potential new members. It was August, and we were crammed around a table on a fraternity’s front porch, a mish mash of dresses and excitement and waterproof mascara (it was common knowledge that Alpha Gam’s pref made everyone cry). We hadn’t even been to the ceremony yet. But I knew. Something special was happening at that table. Every girl sitting with me had big plans—to be pledge class president or make the dance team or become an aerospace engineer. To be the kind of woman who changes the world. There was something about talking about our plans and speaking them out into the open. It felt meaningful. Powerful. And everyone had ideas on how to make Alpha Gam even better, and the excitement ran through us like a living, breathing thing, and the idea of having them as my pledge sisters made me so very proud. And I knew. After I went to the pref ceremony (and cried), I knew even more, but I’ll never forget that night at that table. I think those moments are what sisterhood is made of.

16 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

I’ve always been fascinated by them – the moments when you realize you’re not just friends with someone, you’re sisters. I remember reading Divine Secrets of the YA-YA Sisterhood growing up and thinking that was what wanted in life and friendship and shenanigans. I want driving around in convertibles causing mischief and sneaking into Louisiana swamps for secret ceremonies and female friendships that feel like some great epic love story. And with Alpha Gamma Delta, for the very first time, I found it. I fully believe my experiences as an Alpha Gam are why I’m so drawn to writing books about sisterhood today. They’re also the reason I write a squirrel into every one of my books. (Full disclosure: in one of the books, it’s a taxidermied squirrel that two boys start playing football with. I’m so sorry! Please don’t tell Skiouros!) My next book, The Summer of Impossibilities, is probably my Alpha Gam-iest book of all. It’s about four girls who aren’t necessarily friends, who are forced to spend the summer at the lake house where their moms became best friends. And maybe a couple of them would rather be just about anywhere else, but maybe they turn out to be exactly what each other needs. These are my favorite types of stories to write—stories about found families and how women are stronger together and friendships that span years and miles. It can be hard to explain it to someone who’s never been in a sorority—the power of female friendship and sisterhood. But when you see it, you just know.

put another guy on the phone with him, I got the message—we were over. I sat in wide-eyed shock for a second. I knew I should feel angry—or upset. I had just been broken up with over the phone because of static. Because. Of. Static. Then I started laughing. I remember sitting in the Alpha Gam great room and feeling like the light streaming through the windows was brighter. Like I just might burst from a peculiar new happiness. I was free.

I was only in Alpha Gam for a few months before I felt brave enough not to need him anymore. One day, he was trying to call me, but when I answered, I guess the lines got crossed or something because all I could hear was a bunch of static and the strange voice of a man talking about a truck. I tried to call him back, but didn’t answer. I tried again. No answer. Then I had a voicemail. From the 80 percent yelling, 20 percent swearing and the extra 150 percent him freaking out on me because I had

It’s doing each other’s makeup before formal—and it's rushing onto the field together on game day. And it's a breakfast recap at Waffle House with raccoon eyes after a night that ran way too late. And getting smothered in hugs after you beat Zeta in the flag football playoffs. It's telling each other all the things you’re too scared to tell anyone else. And feeling your dreams expand until they’re bigger than you ever could have believed—all because you know each other.

My chapter sister, Angela Pham, came in with It’s when you and one of your favorite sisters you eyes wide with concerned and asked if I was okay. (To be fair, my laugh probably sounded off.) pledged with end up having your first babies just a few weeks apart—both of them girls. It's when “I think my boyfriend and I just broke up,” I said. you’re so excited that you send each other exclamation-point filled texts about how it’s going She sat with me on the couch, and I was going even though you’re sleep-deprived, incoherent to be okay. I just knew it. and three states apart. Later, my best friend’s dad passed away while we And now your daughters are 9-years-old and were still in college. If you’ve ever had something they’re pen pals—and the letters they send each like that happen to someone you love, you know other are so cute you literally cannot. You can your heart breaks right along with theirs. But I see this fledgling friendship forming, and you was also nervous. I wanted to be exactly the kind hope that someday they’ll call each other sister. of friend she needed right then, but what if I didn’t know how? What if social girls were only good at social stuff and only the serious girls got to be good at the serious stuff?

Because sometimes you just know.

But then I saw her, and I just knew.

I knew it again when my sister-daughter got married, and we hadn’t seen each other in a few years. But then Taylor Swift’s "Shake It Off" came on, and our eyes met on the dance floor, and we When I pledged Alpha Gam, I was dating a boy from my high school who was really good at twist- knew without having to say a word that this was one of our songs. ing me into knots and making me feel worthless. (Side note: If you want to date guys that treat you badly, don’t join a sorority. When you’re surrounded by a hundred girls who think you’re wonderful, it’s kind of hard to see yourself any other way.)

is mowing the lawn next door again.

Sisterhood is dancing your heart out. It's trying on all the ridiculous hats in the department store and games of Never-Have-I-Ever. It's bachelorette trips to Disney World that make you laugh so hard you cry. It’s one long conversation that starts up again every time you see each other. And it’s also picking each other up off the floor and putting each other back together when the unthinkable, dark things happen. It’s painting your nails on the front porch of the house while talking about how you’re going to fix everything that’s on fire in the world. (Because women contain multitudes.) And it’s making your sisters come to the window because that Sig Ep

Rachael's fourth book, The Summer of Impossibilities, will be released May 20 where books are sold. Skyler, Ellie, Scarlett and Amelia Grace are forced to spend the summer at the lake house where their moms became best friends. One can’t wait. One would rather gnaw off her own arm than hang out with a bunch of strangers. Two are sisters. Three are currently feuding with their mothers. One almost sets her crush on fire with a flaming marshmallow. Two steal the boat for a midnight joyride that goes horribly, awkwardly wrong. One of them is hiding how bad her joint pain has gotten. All of them are hiding something. One falls in love with a boy she thought she despised. One has a crush that could change everything. None of them are the same at the end of the summer.

Spring 2020 17

Alpha Gam

it's for life! isn't just for four years

Join a Junior Circle or alumnae chapter/club in your area Attend regional events Advise a local chapter or join the Volunteer Service Team Participate in webinars and professional development Join the Alpha Gam Book Club Network in our LinkedIn group of nearly 10K members Volunteer in your community during Week of Service Read the Quarterly Be a Pearl Sister

attention

Seniors

We want to keep in touch with you. Update your email, physical mailing address and more on myAlphaGam. Don't miss out on important information from IHQ such as event invitations, important news and future issues of the Quarterly!

2 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly 18 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

1



ten $20

under

2



These budget-friendly Boutique finds will satisfy your shopping urges without breaking the bank.

1. Old School ΑΓΔ Tee (S-XXXL) $20; 2. Stickers $3; 3. Heart Sunglasses (also available in red and yellow) $5; 4. Mini Star Pennant Banner $10; 5. Loving Leading Last Tee (S-XXXL) $15; 6. Retro Alpha Gam Button $3; 7. Rose Gold Phone Wallet $12; 8. Alpha Gam Vintage Keychain $8; 9. Magnetic Pin (also in gold) $6; 10.. Squirrel Charm Bracelet (also in silver) $16 10

6



Available now at alphagamboutique.org. Now through May, everything at the Boutique is an extra 15% off. Use code FREESHIP20 for free shipping!

8



Spring 2020 19

lis By S arah El

IN THE MODER

AGE

20 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with dating. In our ever increasingly digital world, dating looks pretty different than it used to. Love it or hate it, “putting yourself out there” now looks more like crafting the perfect Bumble bio than meeting someone at a networking event. In the past decade, online dating has emerged as the most common way couples meet, according to a 2019 study in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. In other words, digital connections have eclipsed meeting through friends or other face-to-face connections.

DECIDE WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR. Most of us don’t truly stop to think about the type of person we’d like to meet. It's possible to be so overwhelmed up by the neverending stream of profiles that you fail to pay attention to the vibe people are putting out. Before you spend a lot of time on dating apps, take a beat to consider what qualities are most important to you in a partner. With these in mind, you’ll be in a better headspace to chat with anyone who could be a compatible match.

But dating burnout is also on the rise. Match.com's 2019 “Singles In America” study revealed that 43% of people believe technology has made it more difficult to find love. Apps can be overwhelming, especially when they aren’t leading to any meaningful in-person relationships. And don’t even get me started on ghosting and what a waste of time that is.

DON’T GIVE AWAY TOO MUCH OVER TEXT. I know, I know—when you meet someone new and start texting them, it’s easy to get caught up in sharing stuff about yourself. But, honestly, you'll be glad you've saved the deep conversations for your IRL date. Keeping an element of mystery alive will spark the other person’s interest, and also keep the conversation flowing once you actually meet.

ON ONE HAND, it’s thrilling to swipe through Tinder and hear that familiar ping signaling a new match. The downside? Keeping up multiple online conversations—and dating itself—can be exhausting.

Before you declare a hiatus from dating and vow to stay alone forever, try these strategies for increasing your odds of success: FOCUS ON ONE OR TWO APPS AT A TIME. There was a time when I was literally on five dating apps at once, and it’s not a period that I look back on fondly. If you’re super focused on meeting someone, it makes sense that you’d want to be on as many apps as possible—but it’s probably not doing you any favors. Dating apps take time, and you’re better off focusing on just a couple of them so you can consolidate your energy. MAKE YOUR BIO MORE SPECIFIC. It’s great that you love guacamole and sleeping in on the weekends, but does it really making you stand out? When you point out unique things about yourself (Omelet cooking skills! Your love for Westworld!), you’re more likely to attract people who share your interests. Quality, not quantity, is what really matters in the dating game.

PLAN THAT DATE ASAP. Speaking of dates, get one on the calendar! Dating app conversations can fizzle out fast if you don’t take the next step toward meeting up. After you’ve covered some basic get-to-know-you conversation over chat, try to find a time and place to meet for coffee, a walk or a drink. This will keep the momentum building while it’s still fresh. LIMIT YOUR TIME ONLINE. To avoid fatigue (and trust me, I've been there), set a limit on the amount of time you spend on dating apps each day. This way, you can really focus on the time you do spend on them and save yourself the anxiety of constant app monitoring. KEEP AN OPEN MIND. It’s so tough to tell what someone is really like from a dating app. With that in mind, try connecting with people who might not initially catch your eye. If something about their profile interests you (maybe a shared hobby or a sarcastic joke), take the leap and start a conversation. What’s the worst that could happen? At the very least, you’ll learn more about the type of person you really want to be with. And that’s a win on all counts.

Check out the Subtext podcast on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify or BuzzSprout. Co-hosted by Sarah, each episode focuses on an aspect of communication in a digital dating world and tackles the sometimes confusing and stressful world of finding love online. Spring 2020 21

Hack

Your Pantry

WITH EXTRA TIME FOR COOKING BUT FEWER OPPORTUNITIES FOR TRIPS TO THE GROCERY, IT MIGHT BE TIME TO GET CREATIVE IN THE KITCHEN Whether your an avid baker or use your oven for shoe storage, sheltering in place has resulted in more cooking than ever before. But what if you're missing a key ingredient? Here's a list of items you can use as substitutes: •

1 egg = ¼ cup applesauce OR 3 tablespoons mayonnaise OR ½ banana mashed with ½ teaspoon baking powder

•

1 cup of corn syrup = 1 cup sugar dissolved in ¼ cup hot water

•

½ teaspoon baking soda = 2 teaspoon baking powder

•

1 teaspoon baking powder = ¼ teaspoon baking soda + ½ teaspoon cream of tartar + ¼ teaspoon cornstarch

•

1 cup salted butter = 1 cup margarine OR 1 cup vegetable shortening + ½ teaspoon salt

•

1 cup whole milk = ½ cup evaporated milk + ½ cup water OR 1 cup skim milk + 2 tablespoons melted butter or margarine

•

1 cup sour cream = 1 cup plain (not vanilla!) yogurt

•

1 cup vegetable oil = 1 cup applesauce (recommended for sweeter dishes only)

•

2 tablespoons of flour = 1 tablespoon cornstarch

 If you're stocking your kitchen for the first time or just want to maximize your purchases to include the most versatile ingredients, here are some suggestions to get you started.

22 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

SPICES: salt, pepper, oregano, basil, thyme, crushed red pepper, onion flakes, garlic, paprika, chili powder, cumin, cinnamon

CANNED GOODS: canned vegetables, canned fruits, tomato sauce or paste, chicken/ beef/vegetable stock or broth

BAKING STAPLES: flour, granulated sugar, brown sugar, powdered sugar, baking powder, baking soda, vanilla extract, cocoa powder

DRY GOODS: rice, quinoa, beans, spaghetti, penne or elbow pasta, oatmeal

COOKING OILS: olive, vegetable or canola

CONDIMENTS: mustard, ketchup, soy sauce, balsamic vinegar

! ! U U O O Y Y Y Y E E H H

W O L L FO

FACEBOOK: AlphaGammaDelta INSTAGRAM: AlphaGamIHQ

TWITTER: AlphaGammaDelta PINTEREST: AlphaGam

LINKEDIN: Company/AlphaGamIHQ

alpha gamma delta

QUARTERLY

Miss an issue of the Quarterly?

View archives, update delivery options, submit photos or content and more at alphagammadelta.org/quarterly-mag

Spring 2020 23

E M N T P W T M A R Y L O U I S E K Y E T H E L E

Y T O P M L L E A D I N G G E O R G I A D T E M R

Search WordSearch K P O E W D W Y V S D E L T A S K K P Y O Q J T Z

D W V A M A R G U E R I T E W M W M H N U A F U S

W J N S V L S L R N F Y L M W A Z A L S B I L R L

E U S B K V R I K P N X C H O S E N T M L H O U D

B E B Z K P K V Y U G A M M A H J O X R E D V D N

F O U N D E R S E R Z F A A Q D B U F F R J I R D

M H L N X M B Z B P Q F R F Y I J T J K O M N Z M

E I Q L O V U D M O R I O L X C M M F D S V G T L

H M W C Z I Z S V S M G S O A K I R P P E W A L E

K P P V Y W T E F E F I E R T O N X O V M C T Y M

J A E E C X P S A K L E Y A Y V A L P H A G A M I

S C S D B U T T E R F I E L D E X K P G S U Z A L

R T K Y I J O E N R K O S V G R F Y A I F I Q P Y

X P J P R T O L V V A B I I R I V P R L O P P B O

C P K A N A H L E E X U S S A C N V G J J S E J A

O H C F L S C E U L C O T D C Y H S E Q K Y V J H

H B E G F P C U Y T Y E E S E U E I P V E G T E R

Z G S R J E H R S U X E R I P G O O P I K G U N D

O C R Q I Z E A F E B Q H C Z K T Q H M R K C N U

P H V E E S I X W R G K O D W H K T H N A E K I X

P U J C E D H H E G E F O Y V J K W V D V N Y E S

Y M F V X N M A W B Y L D R H X J P E A R L W H A

P S R F L I O Y S Q U I R R E L A S T I N G Q R N

BUTTERFIELD

DOUBLE ROSE

MARY LOUISE

SISTERHOOD

MARGUERITE

SYRACUSE

SQUIRREL

FOUNDERS

ALPHAGAM

INSPIRE

ESTELLE

CHERISH

DICKOVER

GEORGIA

LASTING

PURPOSE

LEADING

CHOSEN

IMPACT

JENNIE

CHIPMAN

PEARL

CHUMS

GRACE

ALPHA

LOVING

EMILY

GAMMA

FLORA

EDITH

DELTA

ROSE

BUFF

GREEN

RED

ETHEL

24 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

Â®

“Ummm, Excuse Me?”

A TOUGH CONVERSATION CAN BE SCARY AND UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT IT SHOULD NOT BE AVOIDED. Have you found yourself sitting with a friend, family member or in a meeting with a co-worker having to pause to make sure you heard them correctly? As I wrote this question, I noticed myself nodding my head. I like to pride myself on being a person who is not afraid of having a tough conversation no matter how uncomfortable it may make me feel, but this is not always the case. There have been plenty of times where I have wanted to confront someone—a sorority sister, my biological sister or a colleague— but I have been afraid. Afraid of what, you ask? The list could go on and on, but the condensed version is the fear of losing the relationship, the fear of being wrong, the fear of not knowing what to say or how to support the other person. Being afraid is no way to go through life, though. The longer you put off the conversation, the harder it will be. Instead, challenge yourself to have the courage and the vulnerability to conquer your fears. The conversation will likely take a weight of your shoulders and help you move forward. Here are three steps for tough conversations: 1. PREPARE. Spend time writing out what you want to say, then practice in the shower or while getting ready in the morning. Be clear about the issue and know your desired outcome. Ask yourself: “What exactly is the behavior or comment causing the problem?” and “What impact is the behavior or comment having?” Hard conversations can often be difficult because we want to skirt around the issue. As you practice, remember the following slogan: Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. 2. LEARN HOW TO REALLY LISTEN. Brene Brown is an expert I turn to when thinking about having tough conversations. In her book, Braving the Wilderness, she says, “I believe one of the most courageous things to say in an

uncomfortable conversation is, ‘Tell me more.’ When we want to turn away and change the topic, we also have the opportunity to ask what else we need to fully understand the other person’s perspective.” Brown suggests we use phrases like, “Help me understand why this is so important to you,” and listen with a genuine desire to understand where the other person is coming from. 3. LOOK FORWARD. Addressing an issue does involve looking backward at what occurred. However, sometimes we can get caught up in the blame game or find ourselves judging. Instead, look at the facts, but focus on preserving the relationship.

Spring 2020 25

Weight the World

EVERYONE EXPERIENCES ANXIETY NOW AND THEN—BUT, FOR SOME, IT CAN BE MORE THAN JUST A REGULAR WORRY OR STRESSFUL DAY If you ever find yourself unable to shake feelings of nervousness, restlessness or dread for days—even weeks—on end, it may be more than just butterflies in your stomach. Anxiety symptoms vary from person to person and can appear at any age, but according to a recent study in the National College Health Assessment, the sharpest increase in anxiety often occurs during the initial transition to college. Many factors contribute to heightened anxiety symptoms among college students, ranging from sleep disruption (think: excess caffeine or pulling all-nighters—or both!) to academic pressure to increased social obligations. Regardless of how you land there, you're not alone—and there are things you can do to manage the symptoms. Consider implementing these practices: 1. CREATE A ROUTINE Without structure, many college students struggle to maintain healthy eating habits, consistent exercise and a regular sleep schedule. For those suffering from anxiety, even the simplest of tasks can seem helplessly overwhelming. Keeping a routine, however, can help maintain balance and a sense of normalcy. You may not be a morning person and that is OK (hello, snooze button!). But making regular space in your daily schedule for self-care, meals, studying, sleep—rather than just fitting them in when/where you can—will add some much-needed order to what can be one of the most hectic times your life. 2. AVOID AVOIDANCE One pitfall of anxiety can be the practice of avoidance (e.g. skipping class, not listening to voicemails, putting off discussing important issues with your roommate). Avoiding stressors is only a temporary solution and will make anxiety worse over time. Instead, take small steps toward facing anxiety-provoking situations. If you’re struggling in a class, be proactive and ask the professor for help. If you've missed three payments to your credit card company, ask a customer service rep what your options are. Think about what you can do to improve your situation, and then do it. Chances are, the amount of extra anxiety that has built up during avoidance is way worse than reality. 26 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

3. FIND A HEALTHY BALANCE Have you ever vowed to eat less fast food or take up running then found yourself buying a bunch of ingredients for elaborate meals or spending way too much on the perfect running outfit? While these activities will give you a temporary endorphin boost, it's unlikely they will lead to meeting your longterm heath goals. Taking small strides is a more realistic way to implement healthy habits into your routine. Start with a 15-minute walk, find a fun workout or yoga video on YouTube and follow along, keep some healthy snacks such as nuts or fruit on hand to prevent you from binging Taco Bell for the fifth time this week. Physical health plays a role in mental heath, so find what works for you and build on those positive new habits.

4. JUST BREATHE. It may sound overly simple, but controlled breathing can be incredibly calming. Breathe in for three full seconds, pause and then exhale for three seconds. Deep breathing reduces the body's chemical response to stress (and even pain!), slows your heart rate, lowers blood pressure and increases energy. Remember to keep breaths slow and gentle, filling your abdomen—not just the chest. Even if you're in the middle of class or surrounded by people, taking a few deep breaths is a great way to reduce anxiety in the moment and prevent unwise knee-jerk reactions.

Lose something? The Alpha Gam Boutique has a limited number of Badges available for immediate shipment.

5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF. Our thoughts can dramatically impact how we feel—both physically and mentally. Taking on too many challenges on an ongoing basis—such as huge projects, exams, club meetings, sorority events, work—can push you beyond your ability to cope and manage stress. Be aware of your limitations and don't be afraid to reprioritize. Recognizing anxiety response behaviors, quieting your inner critic and knowing it's okay to ask for help can reframe the narrative. When you find yourself in a moment of unrest, panic or burnout, stop and remind yourself you don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. If you're unable to move forward or find yourself experiencing more severe symptoms of anxiety or depression, remember help is available.

finding

help

Most colleges offer resources to help students cope with ongoing stress and anxiety. Without treatment, your anxiety could worsen over time. Text BRAVE to 741741 if you need immediate help and seek the advice of a medical professional if you experience the following: • You worry so much that it disrupts your daily life (including hygiene, school work, social life). • Your anxiety, fear, or worry is becoming harder for you to control. • You use alcohol or drugs to cope. • You have other mental health concerns or worry your anxiety is caused by an underlying mental health problem.

Shop replacement badges and more at alphagamboutique.org!

• You have thoughts of self harm. Spring 2020 27

28 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

Ways to Up Your

instaGame inst agrgraam

PHOTO APPS ARE A There is no GIRL'S BEST FRIEND shame in a little

IT'S ALL ABOUT When you look at THE LIGHTING your Instagram

bit of a touch up. We are not professional photographers out here, so do yourself a favor and download a photo editing app. Some of our favorites are Facetune, Afterlight and Perfect 365. Don’t get too crazy, but a little hair smoothing here and brightening there can polish your photos in a way that shows off your true beauty.

profile, it isn’t just the one post that matters—consider the overall vibe. A cohesive look is a simple way to step up your game. You can easily get there by using a filter (and no, we don't mean the Pretty filter on Snapchat). Try VSCO and Adobe Lightroom or purchase presets from Etsy or your favorite influencer. A good filter can set the tone of your whole account and can help to put some spice back into your timeline.

AUTHENTICITY We realize the first IS IMPORTANT two tips are about

tweaking aesthetics, but it's important to remember the whole point of social media is to show your followers what is happening in your life. Your real life. Since we all can't be Influencer Barbie (and most of us don't want to be), let your personality take the stage.

SHARE YOUR Where did you eat LOCATION that amazing dessert?

Which taco truck is selling those delicious tacos every Tuesday? Instagram was created for users to share their experiences with others. Geotagging allows others to share your experience for themselves and—if your profile is public—allows the business or brand to engage with you. For safety, never tag your home address or other private locations.

5 CAPTURE THE PERFECT SISTERLY SHOT? DM us @alphagamihq or email it to us at social@alphagammadelta.org so we can share with our followers, too!

#TRENDING Adding trending #HASHTAGS hashtags to your

Instagram posts can connect you to other posts, brands, new accounts and, ultimately, new followers. Tagging trending topics allows you to become part of a broader conversation. So, go ahead, #add #more #trending #hashtags and bring some connectivity to your Instagram.

Be intentional with your TIMING IS EVERYTHING post timing. This will help

COMMENTS ARE Get you a solid girl GIVE AND TAKE gang to hype you up—

IT'S NOT ONLY Instagram is a ABOUT YOU powerful resource!

increase your likes and to make sure your post don’t disappear in the algorithm. When are you most likely scrolling through your own feed? That is when you should post. That 6 a.m. sunrise is beautiful, but save it for later in the day if you want it to be seen by the maximum amount of people.

especially if you're trying to be seen! Posts that get a lot of initial comments perform better in Instagram's algorithm. If you share the love on their posts by letting them know how they are, they will be sure to return the favor when you post that adorable photo of you with the best mural in town. Asking questions in your caption is another great way to encourage comments.

Use it to find and connect with people in your community or around the world. Follow other amazing women and see what moments you can pass on. Give an account you love a shout-out on your story, tag them and let the connections flow.

Your Instagram WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL BRAND? tells a story.

Think about what you want your followers to know about you and stick to it. Do you love to travel? Indulge in new restaurants? Shop ‘til you drop? If you want to go pro, figure out what story you want your Insta to tell, then OWN IT! Save "off brand" content for your stories. This will allow you to share other content while letting your page to be a reflection of your personal brand.

DON'T FORGET Don’t get too TO HAVE FUN caught up in

perfection. If you want to use Instagram without all the extra apps and hashtags, that's fine, too! The important thing is that you express yourself, connect with those you care about and share what you feel comfortable putting out into the world. One last thing—if your account is public, be mindful of the personal details you share. Remember, the internet is never really private! Spring 2020 29

Badge charm, badges, guard, and dangle each sold separately.

E.*

H. A.

B.*

F. G. D. I. K.

C.*

L. M. L.

A. Maeve Necklace, #MAEVE GP $45 B. Snake Chain*, 18”, #SNAKE SS $24 | GF $31 C. Plain Acorn Charm*, #3488 GP $30 | SS $32 D. Enameled Acorn Charm, #3488F GP $35 | SS $37 E. Rope Chain, 18”, #013R SS $23 | GF $27

I. Chapter Advisor Dangle, #2830 GP $11 | SS $18 | 10K, 10KW $38 J. Mini Pearl Bracelet with engraved Greek Letters Tag, #631593 SS $45 K. Loyalty Ring, #7903 SS $95 | 10K, 10KW $210 L. Stackable CZ Band Ring, #143864 SS $25 | SS/GP $25

F. Crown Pearl with Diamond Points Badge with Tiffany Pearl, #0116 SS $310 | 10K, 10KW $634

M. Addy Ring, #ADDY GP $35 | SP $35

G. Pierced Badge Charm, #3000 GP $50 | SS $80 | 10K, 10KW $218

Initiated members and alumnae who wish to place a badge order should visit: bit.ly/hjgreek

H. Crown Pearl Double Letter Chapter Guard, #0600 GP $68 | SS $81 | 10K, 10KW $128

* Chain and charm sold separately. Prices subject to change without notice. K – karat gold, KW – karat white gold, SS – sterling silver, GF – gold-filled, GP – gold-plated, SP – silver-plated

30 Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly

chapter