Keeping On - Winter 2025

Keeping On THE OFFICIAL VOICE OF AGE CONCERN CANTERBURY Vol 126: Winter 2025

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A WORD FROM THE PRESIDENT FROM THE CHIEF EXECUTIVE E a s t e r weekend is supposed to be sunny and great weather to get away for some R&R before winter sets in, well not this year, it was damp, drizzling and cool all weekend.

Too wet to get into the garden and the lawns do not stop growing.

Greta, Annette, Stephen and I had a very busy few days early in April as we attended the Age Concern New Zealand annual conference and AGM. Good speakers at the conference and catching up with colleagues from other parts of New Zealand. Stephen stood down as the Vice President of Age Concern New Zealand. We nominated Annette as our representative to fill the vacant place on the Board. Our nomination was successful so Annette is now a South Island member of the Board.

At the beginning of May the winter

warmth payment commenced. This is added on to your regular National Superannuation payment every two weeks. It is there for you to use to keep warm over the winter and stops again in October. It is not means tested and is given to everyone. Use it to keep comfortable when it gets cold. Warming soups and casseroles are good at this time and easily made from less expensive cuts of meat.

Age Concern Canterbury have opened a new hub in Rolleston to give the elderly community in the Selwyn District a place to go to for help and to discuss their needs. The hub has been going for a few weeks and is very busy, so the need was obviously there and it is now well used.

Now is the time for your flu vaccination; if your medical centre does not contact you make sure you call them. It is important to protect yourself and family from this very uncomfortable winter illness.

Trish Adams President

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I turned on RNZ this morning, driving back to the office from a meeting, to find myself listening to a discussion a r o u n d charities and the potential removal of their tax-free status. Host Paddy Gower would like to see the profits of charities (Destiny Church was the main example) subject to taxation; his guest however was worried that this might also impact smaller charities, for example those running programmes for “fifty old biddies”.

I’m deeply concerned about the implications of imposing taxes on charities. I’m even more concerned that it’s apparently acceptable for our national broadcaster to characterise older people as “old biddies”. Rhetoric of this kind, delivered so easily and casually, laughs off the dignity of people. Why so contemptuous? Why so condescending? Why is ageism the last acceptable “ism”?

Every day in my job I am lucky to meet a wide range of older people from all walks of life. Every single one has a wealth of experience and a remarkable history. Some of you need our assistance, some of you are the providers of that assistance: all of you are an important part of our

Age Concern Canterbury ecosystem, the tall trees in our forest.

For me, ageism is a sign of a society that is beginning to lose touch with its humanity. Again and again, we deal with government departments or service providers who demand an email address and a photo ID (passport or drivers’ licence) in order to be able to help.

These are barriers dressed up as progress. What if someone doesn’t use a computer, rarely travels, or no longer drives? They still exist and still need services! But everything seems to be speeding up, with “efficiency” and rapidity valued over true human interaction. You can now do all your shopping without ever having to talk to another person. You can read a book without having to go to the library. But are we really better off for these technological advances, or are things changing so fast that we won’t know what we’ve lost until it’s gone?

I’m very happy to think that Age Concern Canterbury is able to adapt to changes and new challenges and can help people with problems like these. The dignity and wellbeing of older people is why we’re here.

We’re delighted to take a call from you, to see you at the office, to work with you and for you, and to take a breath together as we navigate this hectic, changing world.

Greta Bond Chief Executive

Keeping On Page 3, Christchurch surgeon

Page 6, Bill Li, Bridging the gap

Page 9, Blue Brothers

Page 15, The Cafe Latte Orchestra

Page 17-20, A Year in Review Page 21, Anzac blanket Page 22-23, News from the Rolleston Hub Page 24, Elder Abuse Awareness Week Page 25, ‘Cold Violence’ Page 27, The Big Fib Page 31, Winter Chit Chat Page 32, My two cents by June Peka

OFFICIAL MAGAZINE OF AGE CONCERN CANTERBURY (INC) Keeping On is distributed by Age Concern Canterbury to Christchurch Malls, Senior Citizen Clubs and Groups, Libraries, Medical Centres, Rest Homes, Hospitals and Institutions, Housing Complexes and Agencies working with older people and individuals. Keeping On is published quarterly in February, May, August and November each year. Written contributions for consideration can be emailed to the Editor at dmcgrath@ageconcerncan.org.nz or contact Deirdre on (03)366-0903. The Keeping On Team: Deirdre McGrath - Editor, Mike Crean Journalist, June Peka - Journalist, Anna-Marie Hunter - Advertising Representative/ Desktop Publisher. Keeping On is printed by Inkwise, Rolleston.

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Christchurch surgeon: quiet, caring and humble

by Mike Crean

Earthquakes, massacres, a pandemic, major changes to the health system – all have struck Christchurch Hospital in recent years. The Canterbury District Health Board was hard-hit as patients with illnesses and severe woundings crowded hospital facilities.

Emerging from these horrors has risen a wiser and better prepared team of surgical professionals. Their leader is highly qualified surgeon, Greg Robertson. Quiet, caring, humble, he lives with his wife in their beautiful Redcliffs home. Their three children are now adults.

Greg is Chief of Surgery for Health New Zealand, Waitaha. Apart from a year at Dunedin as a student and two fellowship years overseas to advance his career, Greg has worked continuously in Christchurch. Born in Dunedin, he moved to Christchurch as a six year-old. He attended Fendalton Primary School, Heaton Intermediate and Christchurch Boys’ High. He left school with preferential entry to the University of Otago Medical School in 1978. After studying there and at Christchurch Clinical School he graduated in 1984.

Greg is interested in sports. He started gymnastics as a six year-old at Christchurch YMCA and went on to represent New Zealand in the parallel bars at the 1978 Commonwealth Games in Edmonton, Canada. Two years later he was hoping for selection again to represent New Zealand at the 1980 Olympics in Moscow – until New Zealand joined the international boycott of these games.

The demands, commitment and discipline required in sports mirrored and helped him in medical training and his career, he says. He completed his FRACS (Fellowship) in General Surgery in 1993. He then undertook post-fellowship, subspecialist training in colorectal surgery, at Cambridge, England (1994) and Sydney (1995).

Greg is Chief of Surgery for Health New Zealand, Waitaha.

Never did a hint of vanity slip from Greg. Neither did he consider staying abroad. He remains thankful that his studies were funded by the State. He recognised his “moral obligation” to “give back” to the system that has supported his education.

New Zealand doctors are well trained, Greg says. Some go overseas and do so well that they are asked to stay. He chose to return to Christchurch in 1996, taking the position of General and Paediatrics Surgeon. He began work the same day as fellow New Zealand surgeon Frank Frizelle. They worked together to further the development of the speciality of Colorectal Surgery in Christchurch. As years passed, Greg increased his management role in surgical services, while Frank pursued a “more academic” pathway.

The earthquake sequence in 20102011 accrued greater leadership responsibilities for Greg. The first quakes produced few physical injuries but a high rate of cardiac workload. The later earthquakes produced many traumatic injuries, predominantly orthopaedic.

“We were confronted with mass

casualties, with injuries from falls, falling debris or ‘crush’ injuries.”

Greg became Chief of Surgery at this time. He ensured co-ordination of all teams’ efforts in managing the mass casualty event then, and in the post-earthquake period, ensuring Surgical service delivery when access was constrained by facility damage and loss.

“Part of that role included ensuring we were looking after our own staff who were living the event. People were coming to work to help others, leaving home and family with the uncertainty of work and further aftershocks,” he says. “Collaboration among all those working in the hospital was necessary to keep the hospital functioning, with many uncertainties including basic infrastructure such as power, sanitation and water, along with concerns around our staffing levels and ensuring safety in hospital buildings.”

Similar efforts followed the mosque attacks of 2019, when large numbers of victims with gunshot injuries arrived in Christchurch Hospital Emergency Department, Greg says. Communities and first responders made such decisions as rapid transport of the injured and the competency of all staff at Christchurch Hospital. Learnings from the earthquakes ensured “the horrendous injuries” were dealt with promptly and appropriately.

“Outcomes were very good in comparison to similar events internationally. This seemed to intrigue international trauma leaders as we were a workforce not used to dealing with these types of injuries,” Greg says.

Facing earthquakes, Covid or massacre, “all our staff were fantastic. I am immensely proud of what we have achieved….The College of Australasia recognised the Surgical services of Canterbury with an excellence award in 2020 for this

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Greg cites David Meates, previous CEO of the Canterbury District Health Board, as “the person who encouraged me into surgical leadership”.

“David enabled, mentored and supported me so I could do the job he employed me to do. Integration of primary and secondary care, appropriate community support and engagement, staff working to their capabilities, enabled clinical leadership, real-time data sets, and a process to integrate health systems regionally, were some of the features of the Canterbury Health system under his leadership,” Greg says.

Unwilling to comment on the politics around David Meates’ resignation, Greg was clearly disappointed by the loss of such health leadership skills, particularly with: “the disarray in health at present…. The system change David was leading, and more importantly his team was delivering, has similarities to those Health New Zealand is trying to imbed at present, but unfortunately were dismantled in Canterbury on his resignation.”

Through his years as Chief of Surgery Greg has never spoken out about such issues in the health system, preferring to encourage from within.

“It has been very challenging to do so since the health reforms, with a lack of local engagement and enabled decision-making capability,” he says. Now ready to hang his cap and face mask on the peg, he looks back on his career and sees some positive changes with the regional concept.

“Caring for patients, the challenges of surgery, unexpected leadership experiences, and working with amazing people has been fantastic.

I never imagined I would have had a great career like this. I have loved it.”

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Some thoughts on ‘the nature of beauty’

by Colin Smith

Webster's English Dictionary says, 'Beauty is an assemblage of perfections.’ Whew, that covers a lot of territory. I think, for us to wander in this territory, we must first embrace the magic of our imagination. Mary Oliver says in her poem, Wild Swans, "The world offers itself to our imagination". There's actually beauty in that idea.

I think it's important to be imaginatively open-minded in the pursuit and appreciation of beauty, as beauty can and will arise in the most unexpected and unlikely of places.

We are surrounded all the time by "easy beauty" - the dawn chorus, the Dublin Bay rose at the back door… for me, it's the vibrant burnt orange of the nasturtium I let wander through my veggie patch. Veggies for the hungry belly, nasturtiums for the hungry soul.

I see a lot of beauty in the everyday kindness of people. Where I live here

in Motueka, Te Tau Ihu, (the Top of the South,) I regularly support a woman who panders to my addictive tea drinking habit. She recently opened a Devonshire Tea and Cakery Cafe.

There's proper teapot tea and huge portions of cake. The beauty in this venture is in her reason for doing it.

She's not out to make money, the tea, coffee and cake are all very cheap. Apparently, she became aware of the tragedy of loneliness in the community, so came up with the idea of creating a space to encourage especially lonely folk to come and mingle and maybe share a portion of their large cakes. It's a million dollar beautiful idea. Dog friendly, and "nice cake".

I really find a lot of beauty in random acts of kindness. I've written before about the tragedy of my alcoholic son, Mike, living in his 'riverside apartment', under a tree on the bank of the Maitai River in Nelson. Next

to his tree house, there is a really nice cafe, where the staff generously treat him with food and coffee. That's beauty in action.

You might remember, last year, I wrote a letter to Mike, saying how I was emotionally chuffed at the fact that he boarded a plane to go into a Rehab in Auckland, in order to throw off the shackles of John Barleycorn's liquid addictions. Two weeks later, Mike's thirst got the better of him, and he's back in his riverside tree apartment.

It would be easy to see Mike's journey as one of suffering and despair, which it can be, but there's beauty in how his journey is also one of "Never giving up hope". There's vulnerability in his journey and I find an amazing amount of raw beauty in vulnerability. Over the last few months, I've been visiting an old mate who's on his last legs, and living in the last chance saloon in a hospice.

He's dying with a brain tumour. When I visit there, I take my mate's dog, who does the rounds, saying hello to everyone. They all love te kuri, and what I see is an amazing dependent, innocent vulnerability. There's no ego left.

I also find immense pleasure and beauty in the way music can express the unsayable. Also, I find an elegant and graceful, often generous response in a lot of indigenous cultures, when dealing with the effects of racist policies.

So, in ending, I feel very grateful in being able to find beauty in often challenging situations.

John O'Donohue, the Irish poet/ philosopher, speaks of divine beauty"The invisible embrace".

P.S. There's great beauty in hope, son Mike is booked 'again', into a Christchurch rehab. Here's hoping that John Barleycorn will get his last orders. Watch this space.

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Tūranga, a simple but elegant name

by Socrates

In the wise city of Christchurch, there is a library named Tūranga.

A simple but elegant name, with a connection to local heritage. It means "stopping place". Recently, I encountered a lively debate about the building's name. Some people argued that the word "library" must be included, so that everyone would know the building's function. Others argued that the name is fine as it is. In my usual manner, I joined the conversation and offered these words: “Tell me, friends: when you enter a

building filled with books, with people reading, learning, gathering—do you know it is a library only if the word “library” is printed on the wall?”

And if a place calls itself by another name - say, Tūranga - yet offers all the treasures of a library, have you been deceived? Or have you simply encountered a name that carries history, spirit, and meaning unfamiliar to you?

I wonder: should every place declare its purpose in plain English? Must every restaurant be

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called “restaurant,” every museum “museum”? Is The Smithsonian not a museum because the word is missing?

Perhaps we are asking the wrong question. Not “Does it say ‘library’?” but “Does it act as one?” Not “Is the name familiar to me?” but “Am I willing to learn what it means to others?”

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Bridging the gap: a teen’s reflection on ageing

by Bill Li

Ageing was something I rarely thought about - until I had to.

That moment came when I began volunteering at a care home. Before that, ageing and seniors were all quite distant to me. I rarely, if ever, had contact with my grandparents, and most of the adults I met were my teachers. Looking back, I now realise I almost carried this unconscious assumption that the older people I do meet had just been their age for their whole lives. It sounds silly and of course I knew it wasn’t true.

However, because they were so distant in my life, because I never got an opportunity to sit and get to know them, and because I only ever saw them at this stage of life - briefly and in passing - it was easy to imagine them as always being grandparents or elderly figures, people who couldn’t possibly relate to what it’s like being my age.

I also had a limited and simplified understanding about what older people were like, but that perspective - as well as my perspective on ageing - started to change as I began volunteering. While they all happened

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to live in the same building, they were each entirely different - full of unique experiences and personalities. I got to know a few of the residents well, and hearing their stories of going around the world, talking about their parents when they were young, gave me a whole new appreciation for the things they had experienced. But it was more than that. I also found myself starting to take in more content with seniors and often their life stories, whether that be online or through picking up

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It never really occurred to me before to think that they had once been teenagers, young adults, or even children. That they had been students, took risks, made mistakes, and while it was initially strange to picture them at my age, filled with the same worries and excitement about growing up, soon I found myself curious about the anecdotes I'd get to hear and the insights they could give.

Through it all, it's also changed my perspective on a couple of things closer to home. Perhaps ageing

used to be a concept too distant and unrelatable to think about, but now that I can truly appreciate the universality of it, it's made me realise there's so much more that defines a person. Because your values, your personality, and your experiences are not defined by your age or how you look.

Now, ageing no longer seems so much like a far-off concept as it was before, and I’ve learnt and come to see that if I just take the time to listen, I might realise that their stories are not so different to my own.

Bill is a high school student who loves playing chess and keeping up to date with the news. Through spending time with residents at a care home, he’s developed an interest in forming intergenerational connections and listening to the stories people carry with them.

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Choral reflections: City Choir’s Osteoporosis is a condition that for improving health outcomes for midwinter concert at Knox weakens bones, making them New Zealanders, particularly as our

On Saturday, June 21st at 3pm, the resonant beauty of Knox Church will be filled with music that moves both heart and soul. City Choir Christchurch presents a deeply evocative programme centred on Bob Chilcott’s Requiem - a contemporary masterpiece that blends the solemnity of the Latin mass with the clarity and tenderness of English prayer.

Chilcott’s Requiem is a work of consolation and hope, performed here under the baton of John Linker, and featuring celebrated soloists Nicola Holt (soprano) and Jared Holt (baritone). They are joined by instrumentalists from the Christchurch Youth Orchestra, whose presence brings fresh energy to this contemplative work: Cameron Smillie (percussion), Caspar Adams (horn), Ethan Zhao (oboe), Miu Kim (flute), and Ruby Bentley (clarinet).

The programme also features two exquisite motets by J.S. Bach Komm, Jesu, Komm and Lobet den Herrn, alle Heiden - showcasing the choir’s choral precision and depth.

In a stirring solo interlude, acclaimed organist Jeremy Woodside performs Bach’s mighty Passacaglia and Fugue in C minor, a cornerstone of the organ repertoire.

Set in the soaring acoustic of Knox Church, this 3pm concert offers a perfect winter afternoon escape uplifting, reflective, and resonant with beauty.

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thinner and more fragile than normal.

This significantly increases the risk of fractures, often resulting from minor incidents such as a fall from standing height or even a small bump.

These fragility fractures, most commonly occur in the wrist, spine, shoulder, pelvis, and hip. Painful and debilitating, these injuries are frequently associated with a loss of independence and a reduced quality of life. Bone tissue is dynamic, constantly undergoing a cycle of breakdown and renewal.

Osteoporosis develops when the rate of bone formation fails to keep up with bone resorption, leading to weakened bones that are more susceptible to fractures.

Women are particularly vulnerable to osteoporosis after menopause due to the sharp decline in oestrogen, a hormone essential for maintaining bone density. While men typically develop osteoporosis later in life, it is often mistakenly regarded as a “woman’s disease.” However, onethird of all hip fractures worldwide occur in men, and these fractures carry significantly higher mortality rates compared to women.

Fragility fractures represent an urgent and growing health challenge, with profound personal and economic implications. Effectively addressing osteoporosis is crucial

population continues to age.

In 2022, 172,000 older adults representing 22% of those aged 65 years and over - filed ACC claims for fall related injuries. Accordingly, falls prevention is a critical component of reducing the incidence of fragility fractures.

Exercise plays a pivotal role by improving bone density, enhancing muscle strength, and reducing the risk of falls. Healthcare professionals are encouraged to recommend weight-bearing activities, such as walking or dancing, alongside resistance training to strengthen bones and muscles. Balance and flexibility exercises, like Tai Chi, are also effective in further reducing falls risk. Tailoring exercise plans to everyone’s age, ability, and fracturing risk ensures both safety and efficacy.

In 2023, ACC launched the Nymbl app to help older New Zealanders prevent falls and fractures. Nymbl provides a convenient way for older adults to engage in balance training at home. Combining educational content with practical exercises, the app empowers users to improve their stability and prevent falls through daily practice. It is readily available for download on both the Apple App Store and Google Play, making it an easy-to-use tool for supporting falls prevention.

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Blue Brothers marks six years of supporting men living with cancer

by David Clarkson

Blue Brothers has marked six years of providing exercise classes and companionship when it is most needed – to men who are living with cancer.

In that time, the group has grown and spread beyond Christchurch.

Those in the group value the strength and movement that comes from the gym sessions, as well as the mutual support they get from coffee catch-ups with men who face similar challenges.

In recent weeks, the Christchurch exercise sessions have been boosted at the coffee sessions afterwards by those who have become too unwell to attend the work-outs but still want the companionship.

It is a chance for them to understand that whatever they are going through, they are not doing it alone, and a chance to share experiences and advice about treatments, medications, and strategies to stay strong.

Blue Brothers was the idea of Dave Cattermole, who passed away in June last year, after a long fight with cancer. It was a fight where he conceded nothing. Without Dave as organiser, his partner of 30 years, Gill Kane, has taken over a caretaker role.

Dave, a keen sportsman, was diagnosed with cancer in his kidney in 2015, soon after he and Gill had completed the Great Walk around Stewart Island.

“I prefer to say that I am living with cancer, rather than dying of it, or suffering from it,” Dave would explain.

“Cancer doesn’t stop me – in fact, I’m determined to face it head on.”

He became aware of a group supporting women with breast cancer

The Christchurch Blue Brothers class and its brilliant trainer, Michelle Vann.

and decided that a similar group would be a boost for men living with cancer, men who might not otherwise find people to talk to about their situation.

His business background and his sheer drive ensured that the project got off the ground. He arranged free gym space for the sessions and got the support of personal trainer and founder of MVP Training Michelle Vann who still leads the free sessions in Christchurch.

Then it was a matter of getting the word out through flyers to sports clubs, health, and medical clinics.

The information spread and sessions grew, with new groups forming in

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The Blue Brothers Charitable Trust strives to help men regain control over their health and their lives, offering a beacon of hope and a community of like-minded individuals. Gill says: “In the face of adversity, Blue Brothers reminds us that with the right support system and a commitment to health, men can live fulfilling lives while navigating the challenges of cancer.”

The trust sees its goal as improving the emotional as well as the physical well-being of its members.

Exercise classes are always tailored to their capabilities, bearing in mind their age and the limitations

that might be imposed by their illnesses and the treatments they are undergoing. Even so, limits are not necessarily accepted at a personal level and the group’s motto emblazoned on their tee-shirts reads: “Giving up is not an option”.

Gill offers thanks “to all the wonderful organisations that support the programmes” and keep the classes running. If you, or anyone you know, is currently living with cancer and seeking to be part of a community which supports recovery and wellbeing, contact the Blue Brothers team for more information: hello@ bluebrothers.org.nz or telephone 027 202 7525 for a confidential, noobligation chat.

They’d love to hear from you.

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The North Canterbury group meets at Mainpower Stadium, 289 Coldstream Rd, Rangiora, at 8.15am on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

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Harmony - friend and colleague, our shu chong

by June Peka

Harmony, our friend and colleague on the writing team at Keeping On, likes to keep her light under a bushel.

Modest to the extreme, she forbids me to take a photograph or tell you her real name, so I will try to paint a picture with words, as she does in her stories of her earlier life on the other side of the world. If you have not read Harmony’s story of rubbish collection in Taiwan, you must find a copy!

Words are Harmony’s forte; there’s always been Chinese words of course, but English words too became a passion when she began intermediate schooling in Taiwan at twelve years of age. She freely admits her Taiwanese friends and family call her shu dai zi or shu chong – a study nerd or book worm. In fact, she loves words so much that only a few years ago, with her son in primary school

she studied four subjects part-time at Canterbury University to gain an honours degree from the Department of Modern Languages, in just three years.

“Students in Taiwan now begin to learn English when they start school at six years of age. I wish I had been able to start then too, as beginning at 12 gave me just six years to become proficient enough to go on to University for four years before gaining work as a copy writer for a private company. It was a company advertising house-selling, lifestyle and marketing. There was a lot of creative brainstorming, which I enjoyed, but after two years I wanted a change so I could use more of my language skills,” she tells me.

She then worked on a newspaper, covering community events, city

Put a spring in your step, a tune in your head and a smile on your face at WEA Learning dance steps, a musical instrument or singing a song keeps you young – or so say the experts!

There is an increasing body of research that shows benefits include: improved physical fitness, emotional well-being, energy levels, cognition and more for older adults. Learning new things, like songs and dance moves, requires a lot of brain power.

What’s more, it utilizes areas of the brain that don’t necessarily see frequent activity. Moving your body in a particular pattern unfamiliar to you is a surprisingly complex skill.

Researchers at the University of Helsinki, Finland revealed that caregiver-implemented musical activities, particularly singing, helped older adults with mild to moderate dementia. Memory, thinking skills and the ability to find their way around all improved, with significant benefits for those younger than 80.

Dancing has been shown to release neurochemicals that enhance positive emotions, and listening to favourite songs can reward your

brain with a hit of dopamine.

At WEA we offer dance and singing classes suited to all ages but very popular with older adults. For dance there is Music and Movement on Mondays, 1.00-2.00pm with Nicola Rooney. Or Singing for Pleasure on Thursdays, 11.00am-12.00pm with Deen Coulson.

Mary, who is 88 years old, dances seated on “low energy or achy hip” days and the Monkeys “I’m a Believer” perked her mood right up.

Susan attends the singing class and has told us that it is the highlight of her week and puts her in a really positive frame of mind.

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council meetings and the like. She found that quite a challenge, often feeling uncertain about the value of her work, so next used her skills at a private company, translating technological information from English to Chinese.

Harmony married at 26, later coming to New Zealand with her husband, and six-year-old son who is now 29 and working in Sydney Australia. Harmony says her son has had a good Kiwi education, but she has another project planned with him in mind.

“I feel I should write my autobiography so that that part of our history is not lost. My son has grown up here. We visit Taiwan, but times have changed. I’d like to write about personal experiences and everyday happenings, rather than start from the day I was born and carry on from there. That might be boring. But although I have studied words and writing, I’m still not sure how to make a start on this.”

I tell her a good time to start would be tomorrow, after her regular splash at Jellie Park or the Graham Condon

pool, and a relaxing after-soak in the spa bath. When she’s had coffee with her friends, and has no other commitments on her mind, she will sit at her desk or kitchen table and the words will flow. They may not be perfect to begin with (they almost never are, as you will know Harmony) but like magic they will respond to her burnishing.

Harmony is now at pensionable age, though looking only half of that. With still jet black hair, skin as soft and unwrinkled as a baby’s bottom, sparkling laughing eyes and a mile-wide smile, she’s enjoying volunteering for Age Concern.

Her phone is welded to her hand, as at least two or three times an hour she will check the meaning or pronunciation of a word she hasn’t heard before. As all the best writers do she carries an ever-ready pen and notebook but scribbles on serviettes too. I’m not sure what to think when my stories in Keeping On are heavily marked with ancient kanji symbols and question marks, but I choose to take it as a compliment from a fellow shu chong.

Over 40 years in the antique business Steve Purcell is a licensed antiques dealer trading as Antiques International Limited, with over 40 years experience in the business.

Steve started frequenting antique shops and restoring antique furniture when he was 15 and developed a passion for Kauri furniture in particular. After “doing up” a number of pieces it soon became apparent that some would have to be sold to make room for more projects.

Developing associations with a number of dealers, it was a natural progression into general antiques, art and jewellery. In the ‘80s the hobby became a business selling items at antique-fairs, on behalf in established shops and converting an old Bedford bus into a mobile antiques shop.

In the ‘90s the first official shop

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“Circa 1900” was formed with a partner in Merivale and a second shop in Riccarton called “Finders”.

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Do your best and leave the rest to God

by Harmony

After the 2011 Christchurch earthquake, TV One News interviewed an older lady living in Christchurch who had experienced the Napier earthquake as a little girl.

Not many people in New Zealand have experienced this kind of shock twice in their life.

I told my son then “the TV News should interview you as well”. He was only 15 years old at the time, much younger than the lady on TV, but he had also experienced two big earthquakes in his life.

The first earthquake my son went through was in Taiwan before he moved to New Zealand. On 21 September 1999, similar scenes to many earthquakes could be seen - roads broken, high buildings collapsed, many people homeless…. and over 2000 deaths.

Today Taiwanese only need to mention “when nine two one… “ and everybody knows it is about this heartbreaking disaster.

In January 2025, I went back to Taiwan for a holiday. At midnight, three days after I arrived, a 6.4 earthquake woke me up. At first, I wasn’t very scared. Then I started to worry about the aftershocks.

Because I was staying in the fourth-

floor apartment temporarily, I didn’t know any neighbours.

I packed some food, water and brought warm clothes, and a mobile phone.

I walked downstairs to the ground floor, then opened the apartment building’s main door to the street. I didn’t meet any neighbours on my way. I supposed everybody was already on the street. But the scene on the street was telling me: nothing happened!

Everything looked normal. The 24-hour 7-11 was still open. A motorcyclist with a helmet was touring on the road. It looked like everyone was staying at home. I was shocked by the scene in front of me more than the earthquake itself!

I walked back to my place. I googled

and tried to get a video from YouTube to get more information about the earthquake. Then the second and the third aftershocks came in. I received the immediate alarms from my mobile phone. The instructions about what must-do and must-not-do during the earthquakes were on my phone’s screen.

One week later, some friends invited me to a garden cafe in the mountains.

We were four ladies in a car having our 3200 ducks chatting (Taiwanese men say: “when women chat, one woman equals 800 ducks”.) I shared my unbelievable experience: “Oh, nobody cared about earthquakes last week.” All the women became quiet!

Then…

“What can you do if the earthquake hits you? Very little, actually! Just see how lucky you are! So, turn over, have a good sleep!” My one longterm friend shared her viewpoints.

Then, I was also quiet. It’s a perfect time to think about life and death.

Spiritual silence!

Yes, the sun still rises the next morning after that night’s earthquake.

I recalled my memories. The lady owner of the breakfast cafe still smiled at me when I walked past her.

The morning markets were still noisy.

People come and go in their daily life as usual. Lots of cars and motorcycles were still moving on the roads. The world seemed no different.

And we still had our beautiful day with home grown vegetables for lunch at a cafe in a quiet mountain.

We took lots of photos and shared with other friends on social media to show off our garden lunch. After lunch we talked with the cafe owner and played with her twin grandsons in the garden. Two dogs were barking….

I sat beside the dining table watching the scene in front of me and thinking of Confucian teaching from a high school compulsory course: Do your best and leave the rest to God. I could not truly comprehend its deep meaning until my middle age, after I experienced lots of ups and downs in my life and from my surroundings.

I was also shocked by my long-term friend’s comments: turn over, have a good sleep! In my memory, twenty years ago, she was not this kind of person.

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Cafe Group Outings Age Concern Canterbury’s Social Outings are for people over 65

by Law Clerk, Mikayla Whalley, Godfrey’s Law

Elder abuse is a significant concern in New Zealand, with approximately one in ten older adults experiencing some form of mistreatment. Abuse of our kaumātua can often remain concealed, making it challenging to identify and address.

Understanding Elder Abuse Elder abuse encompasses various harmful behaviours directed at older individuals, including: • Psychological Abuse: Threats, humiliation, or harassment that induce distress, shame, or a sense of powerlessness.

• Financial Abuse: Unauthorised use of an elder's money or assets, or coercion to alter legal documents like wills.

• Physical Abuse: Infliction of physical harm or injury.

• Sexual Abuse: Any nonconsensual sexual activity.

• Neglect: Failure to provide essential needs such as food, housing, or medical care.

Recognising the Signs Identifying elder abuse can be difficult, as victims may not recognise the wrongdoing or may fear reporting it.

Those who experience the following are more vulnerable to abuse: • Financial hardship.

• Poor health.

• Mental illnesses or dementia.

• Dependence on others for daily activities.

• Social isolation or family conflicts Responsibilities Abusers are frequently those the elder relies on for support, such as family members, friends, neighbours, or caregivers.

Under the Crimes Act, certain individuals are legally obligated to protect vulnerable adults from harm: • Anyone aware of abuse in a household must take reasonable steps to protect the vulnerable adult from serious harm.

• Caregivers must ensure all basic needs are met and protect the individual from injury.

• Staff in hospitals or care facilities must prevent injury, ill-health, or mental disorders due to inadequate care.

Potential Indicators of Abuse Signs that an older person may be experiencing abuse include: • Fear of specific individuals.

• Anxiety, irritability, or withdrawal.

• Changes in eating habits.

• Shaking, trembling, or crying.

• Expressions of helplessness or sadness.

• Reluctance to speak openly or allowing others to speak for them.

• Avoidance of contact with certain individuals.

Help is available If you suspect someone is experiencing elder abuse, consider initiating a conversation with them.

Approach the topic with sensitivity, offering support and reassurance that help is available.

In New Zealand, assistance is accessible through: • Elder Abuse Helpline: 0800 EA NOT OK (0800 32 668 65) • Age Concern: 0800 65 2105. Age Concern also provides Elder Abuse Services nationwide.

Remember, addressing elder abuse requires vigilance and compassion.

By recognizing the signs and knowing where to seek help, we can work together to protect our older community members.

Godfreys are here for you If you believe you or someone you love may be experiencing elder abuse, our considerate Life Law team at Godfrey’s are here to help.

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You will need to be able to transfer independently on and off our minibus.

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New social Cafe group picking up from Sumner-Redcliffs.

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We will pick you up between 9.00am and 10.00am and you will be home by 12.00 midday. Gold coin donation.

You will need to pay for your own food and drink at the Cafe.

Please contact Debbie on 331 7814 or 027 555 8077 to register your interest.

Beckley Coachlines offer unique and relaxing style tours Traveling around New Zealand from Stewart Island, to Lochmara, Napier and even Whangarei. Beckley Coachlines and Travel offer unique and relaxing style tours, specialising in the 50-plus age group.

Tour pricing includes coach travel, accommodation, breakfasts and evening meals. Most activities are also included – making budgeting for your trip super easy! Your experienced and friendly guides/ escorts know the business of touring, and are on-hand to make sure your tour goes as smoothly as possible.

You are able to do as much or as little as you like on the tours, meaning you get the holiday YOU want and need! Even better is your like-minded traveling companions, making new friends and connections is a really special part of these getaways. With lots of laughter and fun, you will head home with loads of special memories.

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Golden oldies tunes - fast tracks or one long marathon

by Mark Ellen

After one marathon session, and wearing only his underpants, he ended up banging his head repeatedly on his hotel-room floor, wailing, ‘I can’t finish this song!’

Leonard Cohen took five years to write his masterpiece, Hallelujah’. He tinkered with it endlessly, chiselling at its intricate rhymes and phrases. He was a devout believer in painstaking craft and meticulous polish. But he was haunted by the fact that others could knock out their finest work in seconds.

When Bob Dylan wondered how long ‘Hallelujah’ had taken him, Cohen couldn’t bear to tell the truth and said, ‘Two years.’ He asked about one of Bob’s and got a mortifying response: ‘Fifteen minutes.’

You can only hope he never heard about Keith Richards and ‘(I Can’t Get No) Satisfaction’. Composed 60 years ago this month, it set a high bar for lack of creative effort that’s never really been surpassed. Keeping a tape recorder by his bed in case of spontaneous inspiration, he awoke on the night of 6th May 1965 in a hotel in Clearwater, Florida, with a riff running through his head, pressed ‘Record’, sang it twice wheezily and slumped back to sleep. In the morning, he found the three-note superstructure that would help immortalise him.

Lady Gaga came close to this strength - saving work ethic when bashing out ‘Just Dance’ in five minutes through the fog of a hangover.

Stevie Nicks returned Fleetwood

Mac to the top of the singles chart with ‘Dreams’, cobbled together in ten minutes.

Incensed by a red-headed bank clerk who’d flirted with her newly acquired husband, Carl Dean (who sadly has just died after 59 years of marriage), Dolly Parton raced home to bang out ‘Jolene’ in half an hour.

And then wrote ‘I Will Always Love You’ the same day.

And ‘Seven Nation Army’, by blues anarchists, the White Stripes, was cooked up at a Melbourne pub soundcheck. Its now ubiquitous sixnote signature was soon fashioned into football chants the world over.

It was even pressed into service at Glastonbury in 2017, where a speech by the briefly beloved then Labour

leader was met with 100,000 singing ‘Oh Jer-em-ee Coooor-byn!’

But my favourite is the deliberately slapdash and lumpy ‘Song 2’ by bumptious pop stadium-fillers Blur. It was written and taped in 30 minutes as a joke to alarm a record company desperate for a hit. Ironically, the label loved it. Rightly so. It’s just passed one billion streams on Spotify.

The fastidious, pencil-chewing Leonard Cohen could only dream of such effortless spontaneity. How it must have hurt. His famous song ‘Anthem’ is even a celebration of the value of flaws and imperfection.

‘Forget your perfect offering,’ it advises. ‘There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.’ (Reprinted from the Oldie).

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When testing we go beyond the normal pitch range of hearing because those extra high frequencies are actually really important for hearing in background noise. We are finally picking up hearing losses that aren’t tested for in traditional audiology.

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They tell us that they enjoy the opportunity to get to know an older person, and that they benefit and learn from the experience.

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Aircycle provides gentle exercise without weight-bearing or strenuous activity. It’s simple to use, soft on feet and hands and easily deflated for carrying in a pocket or purse.

Use it from the comfort of your chair while sitting – reading, having coffee, watching TV or travelling.

A woman from Te Horo invented this simple device to help relieve her husband’s severe arthritic pain and swollen ankles. His arthritis carers were so impressed with the relief and increased joint mobility he experienced they asked her to make more for other sufferers.

Gay from Rotorua says, "Aircycle is better than the information says.

The pain in my knees has gone and, although I use a walker, I don’t need it around the house anymore. I can move more freely and have much less pain in both my hands and feet.

My feet are warmer too and now I don’t need bed socks which I’ve worn for years."

Sam from Oraki wrote, “I’ve suffered for years with sciatica. It’s gone completely when I use the Aircycle.”

Mrs Cooksley from Wellington advised, “I’m diabetic and had an ulcer on my leg which wouldn’t heal.

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Is your wood burner ready for a warmer, cheaper winter?

At this time of year, many Cantabrians are preparing for winter weather by getting out the hot water bottles, finding recipes for the slow cooker, and stopping up draughts.

If you use a wood burner, it’s also a great time of year to check that your wood burner is in good condition and ready to heat your home cleanly and efficiently during the cold months ahead.

Check your flue Having a clean flue and chimney is key to achieving a smoke-free fire.

When you tap your flue (the metal pipe that connects to the wood burner and goes up through the chimney), does it make a ringing sound or a dull ‘thud’ sound? If you hear a dull ‘thud’, it’s likely your flue needs to be swept as soon as possible. If you see any soot or creosote leaking from the joints of the flue, that’s another sure sign the flue needs to be professionally cleaned. Contact chimney sweeping companies for advice and quotes.

Maintain your burner When you close your wood burner door, is it shutting tightly enough to create a firm seal? It should be tight enough to hold a piece of paper firmly when closed. If the burner door is not shutting tightly or if the glass in the door is loose, air will be getting into the firebox, making your burner less efficient.

Also vital for efficient wood burning is the baffle, which is the plate that sits inside the top of your burner’s firebox. Before using your burner this winter, check if the baffle is loose, broken, or missing. A broken or missing baffle plate means the heat will go straight up the chimney and not into your home.

Visit warmercheaper.co.nz to see a step-by-step burner and flue maintenance checklist. You may be able to do some burner maintenance yourself, but other tasks will need to

be done by a professional.

Buy dry, quality wood Dry firewood burns more efficiently and produces less smoke.

Environment Canterbury’s accredited Trusted Good Wood Merchants provide dry, seasoned wood in Christchurch, Darfield, Ashburton, Geraldine, Temuka, Timaru, and Waimate and are audited annually.

Testing the moisture content of their wood supply is part of this audit process.

Visit warmercheaper.co.nz for a list of Trusted Good Wood Merchants and tips on efficient burning techniques, like the ‘upside-down’ fire lighting method.

We’re here to help It’s not cool to be cold in winter.

You may be eligible for one of our subsidies of up to $5000 to pay for and install a new heating appliance (an ultra-low emission burner or a heat pump) to replace your expired low-emission wood burner. Visit our home heating webpage: ecan. govt.nz/home-heating or please phone Environment Canterbury’s Advisory Team on 0800 326 636 to check if you're eligible.

You can also check if you qualify for financial assistance for home heating appliances and/or insulation through the government’s Warmer Kiwi Homes subsidy. Visit warmerkiwihomes.

A govt.nz for more information.

Enjoy a warmer, cheaper winter Did you know the upside-down method lasts longer and is more efficient? Try it next time you build your fire.

Check out the interactive ‘how to’ at warmercheaper.co.nz/burning

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The Cafe Latte Orchestra

by Mark Walton

I’m a lucky man as I have my very own orchestra, and it has the very comfortable name of, The Café Latte Orchestra. The members are mostly retired folk, and we only meet up 3 times a year as the musicians come from all around Australia and New Zealand. Because I’m what is known as a wind player as I play the clarinet and saxophone, most of the people in the orchestra are also wind players, although we are delighted when other instrumentalists want to join in with our fun.

Now, I don’t want you to think for one minute that the Café Latte orchestra is exceptionally good because we’re not! Some of our members only took up playing their instrument later in life whilst others played as children and then put playing aside during their busy years of raising children and immersed in challenging careers. In recent times we have quite a number of younger people joining us and lovely it is to see parents playing alongside their children. Dave, one of our bass clarinetists, has just turned 95 and he is always game for the next Café Latte event! We have several families who play in the group and there is no such thing as an age barrier. Although we are not the best orchestra on the planet, what I do say however, is that we’re the friendliest orchestra. Our group is more like a very warm supportive family who are of an age to really appreciate the strong friendships that are made.

When I announce the next year’s workshops, there is a great flurry of excitement as we get to travel to the

most interesting of places. Back in 2014 we even ventured over to West Sussex in England and had a blissful week of rehearsals in the little village of Lavant, not far from the market town of Chichester. On our first day there we played at the village fete that has been running on the village green for centuries. Pōkarekare Ana and Waltzing Matilda never sounded better as the young local children danced around their Maypole.

That was such a special week, as musicians from Canada and England also joined us, and I was so delighted to meet up with so many of my old students from the time I lived and taught in England. How extraordinary it was for my wife and I to see our daughter Tina, who lives in Brighton, England, playing next to her Canadian Uncle Peter. On Tina’s other side was Natalie, who played with her in their old school band.

They compared all the stickers that were still on their cases from back in the early 1980’s!

Last year the Café Latte Orchestra

did a mammoth road trip from Sydney to Broken Hill in Outback NSW to join forces with the Broken Hill Civic Orchestra. I have a long very happy association with this little orchestra, and as you can imagine they love it when the Café Latte Orchestra arrives in town to swell their ranks. Together we put on a Last Night of the Proms Concert where people wore Union Jack waistcoats and bowler hats, and red, white and blue streamers were tossed in all directions. There was something deliciously ludicrous of playing Rule Britania in this far-flung outpost!

Wherever we go, we like to put on a concert in aid of some worthy local cause as this way we get to be involved in the local community.

It’s our way of saying thank you for having such a wonderful visit to their town.

Because the average age in our group tends to go up each year, understandably members sometimes become sick and even end up in hospital at the time they should be

making music with their friends. If this is the case, we phone them up and play for them in the hope that we can raise their spirits. A few years ago, flautist Bev was going through some traumatic chemo, so we phoned her every day at 3.45 and played her some rousing music. I would like to say it completely cured her, but she joined us only last week for our music week in Mudgee, a very attractive NSW country town.

Most of our musical gatherings are in and around Australia, however our members’ absolutely favourite place to visit is actually Geraldine, and just today I booked the Pavilion in the Geraldine Domain for our fifth workshop in April 2026. Upstairs in the Pavilion is a very large room with beautiful acoustics and views from every window over the playing fields and the surrounding hills. We start with a dinner at the Village Inn, and then from Tuesday to Friday we rehearse enthusiastically. There will be a great deal of eating, huge amounts of laughter and endless joy.

On the Friday evening, we will give a concert in St Mary’s Anglican Church with their Rev Hugh joining us with his violin.

On the Saturday we will drive up to Christchurch and play for our favourite audience, the residents at Hōhepa in Barrington Street. This is the most uplifting concert you could ever imagine as the residents love to take turns conducting our orchestra.

As I said, I’m so lucky to have my very own orchestra who are my second family.

Petersgate respond to the record increase in couples counselling Gray Crawford, Business Manager at Petersgate Counselling Centre, reports an unprecedented rise in referrals of increased emotional disconnection among couples affecting overall family relationships.

Mr Crawford says that in 2024 and continuing in 2025, the number of couples seeking counselling has surged, due to growing tensions behind closed doors, strained communication and unresolved conflict.

What was once a steady flow of clients has become a wave, with Petersgate counsellors working tirelessly to meet the demand and offer support to those navigating the fragile dynamics of a home life collapsing under pressure.

Mr Crawford says that, somewhat surprisingly, it is the ‘baby boomers', 60 years plus, who appear to be the most affected by this trend at 39% of new referrals. Most of these couples are living in a “silent divorce”

situation, that can simmer away over many years, where they may still be amicably living together, but any emotional or physical intimacy that once defined their relationship has long since withered away.

Older adults are living longer, healthier lives, and life transitions such as retirement, changes in health, or shifting roles within the family, often intensify tensions with partners, leading to apathy in the relationship, deteriorating boundaries, isolation and resentment, gradually weakening any trust and respect necessary to sustain strong familial ties.

Professional counselling can help elderly clients explore the roots of their emotional disconnect, improve communication skills, and develop healthier ways of relating to each other.

Moreover, counselling can strengthen their emotional resilience and empower them to assert their needs and wants, ultimately

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Digging up my ancestor to find the truth

by Cheryl Nicol

Discovering a notorious ghost in my family tree was more than I’d hoped for, but Sir Berney Brograve, the eccentric 1st Baronet of Worstead, didn’t give up his secrets easily.

My curiosity was first aroused when my father brought home a mysterious varnished wooden box after the death of my grandfather in Christchurch in 1965. Inside was an assortment of Victorian-era jewellery and a lengthy newspaper clipping about a funeral in Wiltshire in 1924, as well as a few other interesting bits and pieces. A fabulous treasure box, to my then ten-year-old eyes.

The most intriguing item was a gold turquoise ring engraved Mary Brograve. Bath. August 25th 1869.

Who was she? No one seemed to know.

The box and its contents had been sent from England to New Zealand, inherited by my grandfather from his unmarried aunt Alice Long, who lived at Bath and died in 1941. Her mother, I later discovered, was named Julian Elizabeth Brograve. Julian was Mary’s daughter, and my great-great grandmother. The ring was a gift from Mary’s husband George on their 38th wedding anniversary.

But it seemed impossible to connect George to the much-maligned Sir Berney Brograve. I couldn’t find George’s father, although Sir Berney also had a daughter called Julian Elizabeth. No coincidence, surely.

This became one of those brick

Brograve Mary ring.

walls that stood steadfast against my research, for a very long time.

And then a breakthrough: George, whose mother was actually Sir Berney’s eldest daughter Anne, had changed his name from Rye to Brograve by Royal Licence in a bid to honour his late grandfather and revive the extinct baronetcy, and hopefully prevent the name of Brograve also becoming extinct.

Luckily for me, the letters he wrote in 1831 on the subject still exist. But the baronetcy was not granted by the king, and George remained plain Mr. Brograve.

And despite their best efforts, he and Mary only had two daughters, so the name eventually went the same way as the title.

At least that cleared up the mystery, and Sir Berney Brograve turned out to be my great-great-great-greatgreat grandfather.

But who was this notorious tyrant about whom so many tall stories had been written? While separating the

myths from the man, a rather sad story emerged.

Sir Berney certainly had a reputation. There’s no doubt he terrified generations of Norfolk people who passed down heavily embellished tales of throats cut in the attic of his rambling old manor house, fistfights with tradesmen over money, and supposed pacts with the devil.

Built around 1570 as a coastal stronghold against possible Spanish invasion and inherited from his father in 1753, his home Waxham Hall sat uncomfortably close to the edge of the eroding, storm-prone coast.

The threat of a French invasion, repeated inundation by seawater and a whole heap of death and disease made Sir Berney very nervous and very bad-tempered indeed.

He despised the smugglers who hid their contraband on his land. The feeling was mutual.

They fired cannonballs at his house from their ships as they passed in the night. They set fire to his houses in the village. Once, they falsely notified the London press of his death at Waxham.

Even more unlikely, they also said he’d given all his money to charity.

Seems they had a sense of humour!

Needless to say, old Sir Berney was about as popular as a dose of smallpox.

The need to drain his waterlogged land took his mind temporarily off smugglers and the despicable

French; having large areas of stagnant water in his backyard was simply unproductive – not to mention, unhealthy. The wind pump he built, known as Brograve Mill, still survives, though it is now derelict.

Widowed twice, just four of his 17 children outlived him. In two terrible days in 1793 he lost both his second wife and their 18-year-old son.

Most of the children were quite young when they died, the pattern of deaths matching the timing of the most severe flooding. As floodwater lay stagnant across the marshes, mosquitoes bred and spread deadly malaria, then known as fen ague, across the region.

Sir Berney died in 1797 aged 70, but it wasn’t long before taverns and alehouses were abuzz with wild-eyed talk.

Even strong, burly men were frightened out of their wits on encountering his ghost, roaming his wild and desolate domain in the dark of night.

Cape flying, he galloped across the marshes, his horse snorting fire from its nostrils, the devil by his side. Or so they said...

I couldn’t just leave Sir Berney’s reputation to folklore unchallenged, so if you’d like to know more about his many trials and tribulations - the real story - I’ve written a book: Sir Berney Brograve: A Very Anxious Man. (Available from Amazon).

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Age Concern Canterbury Inc.

A Year in Review For the year ended 31 December 2024 Vision Age Concern Canterbury is the trusted organisation that connects, supports, empowers and celebrates all older people across the region.

Core Values Dignity. Wellbeing. Equity. Inclusion. Respect.

Guiding Principles Te Tiriti o Waitangi, The United Nations Principles of Older People, The Declaration of Human Rights and Envrionmental Sustainability.

Visiting Service The Visiting Service team in Canterbury, the West Coast and Timaru continue to co-ordinate thousands of volunteer visits to socially isolated people: 6,392 volunteer visits in 2024.

1,992 calls were made to check on other socially isolated people.

Across the three regions, 42.99% of the volunteers are under 65.

There are currently 213 volunteers registered for the visiting service.

“Thank you very much for my home visitor, she’s absolutely delightful and you couldn’t have chosen anyone better.”

Social Connection Service The Social Connection Co-ordinators utilised our 3 minibuses to facilitate 3,038 outings for socially isolated people.

There are currently 132 volunteers helping to operate this service.

“Joining the outings service has been life changing ... I feel like I am part of the community again.”

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Elder Abuse Response Service Age Concern Canterbury delivers the ElderAbuse Response Service across Canterbury, the West Coast and Timaru.

601 referrals (a 34% increase on last year) were received from 37 different sources. The majority of referrals were from Family/Friend (Whānau) (192/21%) known to the referred clients; Self-referrals (132/15%); by Social Workers (121/14%); GP or other practice staff (90/10%); other concerned people or businesses in the Community (80/9%). The remainder of referrals came from a range of sources including Hato Hone St John staff, Police and the 0800 Elder Abuse Response Service.

Home Support Services 2424 clients were assisted in 2024 with home help, a trade/handyman or gardener from our database. (2,456 in 2023) All service providers on our database are police checked and interviewed.

“Kevin (service provider) is so nice and was an absolute gentleman to have in the house.”

Kevin has a real respect and affinity with older people, our clients really enjoy his attentive manner and efficient service.

Community Connectors The Community Connector Service supports older people living independently in the community. Clients are assisted or guided through WINZ/MSD and local government processes, and are connected with services that enable them to continue to live in their homes. Our advocacy with government agencies, health providers, family and community members enables and strengthens the clients' abilities to live as they wish.

We supported 1,657 individuals this year, an increase of 23% from 2023.

Website and Facebook We currently have 1,522 followers on our Facebook page and this is growing daily, with an increased focus on connecting with people via this medium. The most viewed post receiving 2,500 views. Volunteer and our Companion Walking Services were the most shared.

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Steady As You Go Courses

There are currently 60 regular SAYGo classes across Christchurch and North Canterbury. 28 of these classes have waitlists.

New classes in rural locations including Akaroa, Amberley and Belfast.

Volunteers

In 2024 24 volunteers l t contributed t ib t d 20,536 20 536 hours h to t improving i i the t lives of older people. This figure refers to the calculation of value based on minimum wage ($23.15 x 20,436 = $475,408.40).

Volunteers enable us to deliver on our vision of being the lead agency that connects, supports, empowers, celebrates and respects all older people in an inclusive community.

Keeping On

Keeping On THE OFFICIAL VOICE OF AGE CONCERN CANTERBURY Vol 124: Summer 2024

Keeping On is published four times a year: February, May, August and November.

We have 7 volunteer writers. Printing of Keeping On is enabled by the support of our advertisers.

52,500 copies of Keeping On were printed and distributed throughout Christchurch and the South Island.

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From May 2022 a digital version of Keeping On has been available to read as a flipbook at www.ageconconcerncan.org with 1,095 online reads in 2024.

Phone (03) 366-0903, Fax: (03) 365-0639, Email: team@ageconcerncan.org.nz, www.ageconcerncan.org.nz

“Another great issue of Keeping On ... lots of great reading and information from cover to cover.”

Charities Commission Number: CCC29446

Other Activities Christchurch Muslim Community: We have held a number of meetings with Christchurch’s Muslim community to explore ways that Age Concern Canterbury can better support older Muslim people living in Canterbury. We have held several information sessions around the use of public transport and assisted elders to access total mobility cards.

Kahukura Kaumatua: a day programme for older Maori people is held monthly in the Birdlings Flat Community Centre, in partnership with Health New Zealand/Te Whatu Ora. Information Sessions/Talks: We have delivered over 20 information sessions/talks to community groups.

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Our Finances Income 2024

EARS contract 41%

Interest and dividends 14%

Legacies 9%

Visitor Service contract 8%

Grants 7%

Health Promotion 6%

Other income 4%

Advertising income 3%

Donations 3%

Social Connections 3%

Membership 2%

Expenses 2024

Salaries, Kiwisaver and ACC 74%

Other expenses 4%

Postage, printing and stationery 4%

Computer, phone and internet 3%

Depreciation (net) 3%

Vehicle and travel 3%

Rent, rates and insurance 3%

Professional fees 2%

Accounting and audit 1%

Light, power, heating and cleaning 1%

Subscriptions 1%

Volunteer and social 1%

Repairs and maintenance <1%

MSD Discretionary fund <1%

Acknowledgements Age Concern Canterbury wishes to acknowledge with thanks the financial assistance of: Health New Zealand (formerly Te Whatu Ora) Age Concern New Zealand Christchurch City Council Selwyn District Council Ministry of Social Development The Office for Seniors Christchurch Casinos Ltd Kiwi Gaming Foundation

Estate of Margaret Burns Estate of Rosalie Sterritt Estate of Dawn Marshall Estate of G & B Davies Estate of Mary Lavery Jack Baggaley Rangiora RSA Club Jones Foundation and many other generous contributors.

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ANZAC blanket: a tribute of love and remembrance Residents of The Sterling, Kaiapoi Lifestyle Village in Kaiapoi have come together to create a heartfelt ANZAC memorial blanket, honouring all those who worked to make the world a better place during the World Wars.

This remarkable tribute features over 2,000 hand-knitted and crocheted poppies, lovingly crafted by residents and stitched onto an authentic army blanket. The poppies vary in size, style, and texture, each representing a unique expression of remembrance. Labels, also stitched

and donated by residents, add a personal touch to this collective masterpiece.

In recognition of the animals that served, purple poppies have been included, and a second blanket has been dedicated solely to these symbolic blooms. The memorial blanket also features intricately knitted representations of wartime figures and symbols, including a nurse, soldier, dog, horse, pigeon, kiwi, and kangaroo.

All materials were generously donated, and the project has not

only created a beautiful work of art but also brought the community together in a spirit of reflection and camaraderie. The shared stories and memories have forged lasting bonds among participants, many of whom contributed while recounting the wartime experiences of loved ones.

With the success of this year's blanket, plans are already underway for new commemorative craft projects to honour our war heroes next ANZAC Day.

ANZAC memorial blanket tribute.

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Known for its expert care, warm professionalism, and dedication to long-term wellness, this wellestablished clinic is more than just a place to treat sore feet - it's a hub for comprehensive foot care, cosmetic treatments, and tailored footwear solutions, thanks to its boutique extension, The Shoe Room.

Holistic Foot Care for All Walks of Life At Feet First Podiatry, the focus is on keeping you on your feet comfortably and confidently. The team of qualified podiatrists and foot health professionals provides a full spectrum of care, from routine general podiatry to specialised treatment plans.

Whether you need help managing persistent corns, calluses, cracked heels, or thickened and fungal nails, the clinic is equipped to handle all aspects of skin and nail care. They also offer relief for more complex issues such as ingrown toenails, which can be treated conservatively

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However, Feet First goes beyond maintenance - it offers advanced cosmetic and structural solutions, including nail bracing, nail reconstruction, and medical pedicures (medi-pedis). These services combine aesthetic results with health benefits, restoring not just the look but the integrity of your nails.

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Whether you're an athlete managing repetitive strain or someone dealing with chronic pain from flat feet, high arches, or plantar fasciitis, their custom foot orthotics provide support and alignment, reducing discomfort and preventing long-term damage.

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Step into The Shoe Room: Style Meets Support Connected to the clinic is The Shoe Room, a carefully curated footwear boutique specialising in stylish, comfortable, and podiatrist-approved shoes.

Whether you’re after everyday walking shoes, sandals, boots, slippers, or specialist options for orthotics, The Shoe Room team is here to help you find the perfect fit.

With brands chosen for their blend of support, durability, and design, you don’t have to sacrifice style for comfort. The staff are trained to measure and fit each customer personally, ensuring that your

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The Shoe Room now offers an In-Home Footwear Fitting Service - bringing comfort, style, and professional fitting advice right to your doorstep. Ideal for those with limited mobility our friendly team helps ensure the perfect fit without leaving home. A service fee applies, making quality footwear more accessible while supporting a personalised experience.

Behind both Feet First Podiatry and The Shoe Room is a team of passionate professionals who believe that foot health is essential to overall wellbeing. With a strong focus on patient education, proactive care, and personal attention, they’ve built a loyal following across generations.

Whether you’re seeking relief, maintenance, a little pampering for your feet - or the perfect pair of shoes, you’ll find it at Feet First Podiatry and The Shoe Room.

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Rolleston Volunteer Expo Cafe Group On Tuesday, 2nd April, the Rolleston Community Centre came alive with connection, inspiration, and community spirit as over 100 attendees gathered for the inaugural Volunteer Expo, marking the launch of the Older Persons’ Hub. With representation from 12 diverse local community groups, the expo served as a powerful reminder of the impact of volunteering and the strength of Selwyn’s community networks. The evening was officially opened by Councillor Sophie McInnes, who welcomed attendees and acknowledged the vital role volunteers play in creating a thriving, connected community.

A highlight of the evening was a talk

by Associate Professor Billy Osteen, Director of the UC Community Engagement Research Lab. Professor Osteen spoke passionately about the power of volunteering, noting New Zealand’s proud status as a global leader in community volunteering. His message reinforced the value of civic engagement at every stage of life.

Greta Bond, CEO of Age Concern Canterbury, expressed her

enthusiasm for the newly launched Older Persons’ Hub, and shared an overview of the volunteering opportunities available through Age Concern Canterbury. Greta emphasised how the Hub supports Selwyn District Council’s Ageing Positively strategy by offering a dedicated space for older residents to connect, access services, and find meaningful ways to stay active in their community.

Also shining on the night were members of the Rolleston Youth Council, who through a range of community and Council-led projects, are actively contributing to making Selwyn an inclusive, forward-thinking place for all ages.

The event was full of energy, connections, opportunities explored, and delicious kai shared. The next Volunteer Expo is scheduled for October 2025.

Contact Older Persons’ Hub Manager Emily Johnston at ejohnston@ageconcerncan.org.nz to stay updated on future opportunities and events.

Together, we thrive - one volunteer at a time.

Outings

Age Concern Canterbury’s Social Outings are for people over 65 who live in their own home and would enjoy more company. You will need to be able to transfer independently on and off our minibus. Limited numbers.

Social Cafe group outings in the Rolleston area.

Fortnightly outings to a variety of Cafes. We will pick you up and drop you home after. Gold coin donation. You will need to pay for your own food and drink at the Cafe.

Please contact Debbie on 331 7814 or 027 555 8077.

Freedom Drivers: empowering your independence At Freedom Drivers, we believe that your independence is priceless.

Being able to go out, enjoy life, and continue doing the things you love should never be limited by transportation challenges. That's why we offer more than just a ride—we provide a safe, reliable, and caring service designed to make every journey effortless and stress-free.

As we rapidly expand across the Canterbury region, our Selwyn-based team is quickly becoming the trusted choice for locals who value peace of mind and dependable service. We’re here to make sure transportation is never an obstacle to living life on your terms.

Our Commitment to You: • Personalized Service: We tailor every trip to meet your unique needs, offering door-to-door service that’s both convenient and reliable.

• Wheelchair Accessible Vehicles (WAVs): Our vehicles are fully equipped to transport both manual and larger power wheelchairs, giving you the freedom to go wherever you need without worry.

• Extra Care Every Step of the Way: We don't just drop you at the curb. We escort you to and from the vehicle, ensuring you feel safe, supported, and cared for throughout your journey.

• Experienced, Trusted Drivers: All of our drivers are fully licensed, first aid certified, and have passed NZ Police checks, so you can trust us with your safety and comfort.

• Pre-Booked and Pre-Quoted: No surprises—know exactly when you’ll

be picked up and the cost upfront, ensuring a stress-free, transparent experience.

At Freedom Drivers, we’re committed to going above and beyond because you deserve a service that values your independence and wellbeing.

But don’t just take our word for it - here’s what one of our customers has to say: “Our daughter has utilized the taxi service for people with special needs for many years. Our most current driver (Freedom Companion

Driving Rolleston) we would say is the best. Starting with the vehicle being used has been well thought out in layout, access, comfort, and aesthetics. Bobby, the driver and owner of the business, is great always communicating and making sure our daughter is safe and happy.

We would have no hesitation in recommending Freedom Companion Driving.” Philippa and Zane Murray Freedom Companion Drivers are Total Mobility Card (TM) and ACC Registered Vendors. Call us on 0800 A 956 956 for your next ride.

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Do you need a reliable, friendly driver you can get to know? * Extra care for seniors * Medical appointments * Social and sightseeing * Shopping trips * Airport transfers * Business appointments * Pets to the vet * School pick up and drop offs *

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Fixing more than just things What began as a simple idea during Sustainability Week has grown into one of Selwyn’s most popular community events: the Repair Café.

Held twice a year, these gatherings offer locals the chance to breathe new life into broken items - from small appliances and computers to clothing, jewellery, and even bicycles.

Organised entirely by volunteers, the Repair Café is more than just a place to get things fixed. It’s a celebration of community spirit, practical skills, and waste reduction.

“We didn’t have a detailed plan when we started,” admits one organiser.

“But the response from the community showed there was real interest.”

The numbers back that up: over 100 items are often brought in, with many repaired on the spot. “People are always grateful - even when we can’t fix something. There’s just something lovely about seeing people help each other.”

Volunteers of all ages, including many older residents, play a vital role. Some bring lifelong skills in sewing or electronics, while others help with admin or simply keep the tea flowing. “Our repairers often get as much out of it as the visitors,” the organiser adds.

New volunteers are always welcome - especially those with specialist skills like bike or shoe repair. And while space and time limit how often events can be held, organisers are keen to help others start their own.

For older people, the Repair Café is a warm, welcoming way to stay involved and meet new people. As one volunteer put it, “It’s satisfying, social, and a bit of fun. And you’re helping people at the same time.”

The next Repair Café takes place this May at the Reconnect Station.

Whether you’re bringing something to fix or a skill to share, all are welcome. In October there will be a bigger event held at the Rolleston Community Centre.

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A warm welcome at the new Older Persons’ Hub in Rolleston Age Concern Canterbury is excited to celebrate the opening of the new Older Persons Hub at the Rolleston Community Centre - a dedicated space supporting older people in Selwyn to age positively and stay connected.

Open weekdays from 9.00am to 12.00 noon, the Hub offers easy access to Age Concern Canterbury’s services right in your neighbourhood. Whether you're after information, a friendly chat, or support with health and mobility, the Hub is your local goto.

Services include elder abuse support, help at home, social visits and outings, Total Mobility cards, and classes for safe driving and fall prevention. It’s a welcoming place to find advice, make connections, and stay informed.

Hub Manager Emily Johnston is on site every morning and always happy to chat. With her warm smile and practical know-how, Emily ensures every visitor feels heard, supported, and valued.

You don’t need an appointment to visit - just drop in and say hello!

Location: Rolleston Community Centre. Phone: 027 231 4439. Email: ejohnston@ageconcerncan.org. nz Let’s make Selwyn a wonderful place to grow older - connected, supported, and thriving.

OLDER PERSONS’ HUB Age Concern Canterbury’s Older Persons’ Hub is here to help with issues of community health support and elder abuse, visiting and social outings, home support and a variety of classes.

Monday to Friday, 9.00am to 12.00pm at the ROLLESTON COMMUNITY CENTRE Drop in for advice and assistance or make an appointment.

Phone Rolleston Older Persons’ Hub on 027 231 4439 or Age Concern Canterbury on 03 366 0903.

Ageing well in Selwyn

Hub Manager: Emily Johnston

Emily Johnston has taken up the role as the Manager at the newly established Age Concern Canterbury Hub at the Rolleston Community Centre.

English-born Emily lives in rural Canterbury with her Kiwi husband, two children and a load of chooks.

Her previous roles as a coach and trouble shooter lend well to being the new Manager of the hub at Rolleston Community Centre.

Alongside the Hub Manager role Emily teaches yoga for Selwyn Council and has been part of the Age Concern Canterbury visiting service in Darfield as a volunteer for the last two years.

Emily’s other interests are gardening, mainly tending the veggie patch, and preserving what she has grown. Currently the family favourite jams are feijoa and peach.

Emily is looking forward to meeting and supporting the local communities and sharing the great services that Age Concern Canterbury offers.

Brought to you by the Selwyn District Council, the annual SWELL event series aims to bring older residents together through organisations and activities which support well-being and inclusion within the community.

Held on Tuesday 14 October from 9.00am until 2.00pm at the Selwyn Sports Centre in Rolleston, the SWELL Seniors’ Lifestyle Expo is free to attend with over 100 exhibitors.

Learn which social activities and community groups in Selwyn to join and find out everything you need to know about healthcare, life planning, volunteering and travel.

Bring your family or friends along, as there will be live entertainment, guest speakers, coffee, food and market stalls to enjoy.

Following the expo, there will be a two-week activity series with a variety

of events on offer. Listen to a witty live poetry reading, try a low intensity aqua fitness, group exercise or dance class, or enjoy a guided walk - there’s something to suit everyone!

To find out more and book yourself in, pick up a copy of the spring What’s on in Selwyn brochure from your local library or Council Community Centre (available 15 August) or go to: A selwyn.govt.nz/swell

Tuesday 14 October, 9am–2pm Selwyn Sports Centre, Rolleston

Connect with over 100 community clubs, organisations and wellbeing providers at Selwyn’s premier expo for older residents.

Enjoy fun activities, expert speakers and market stalls at this free event.

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“I have absolutely no objection to growing older.

I am a stroke survivor so I am extremely grateful to be aging – I have nothing but gratitude for the passing years. I am aging – lucky, lucky me!” ~ Sharon Stone

Undue influence in Wills A recent case from the Central London County Court, Langley v Qin, addressed issues of a predatory marriage, including undue influence in making a will. The Court set aside a will made by Robert Harrington, which left his estate to his new wife, Guixiang Qin, excluding his daughter.

One of the grounds for the Court’s decision was that Ms Qin had exerted undue influence over Mr Harrington.

In New Zealand, a will can be challenged if undue influence is suspected. The person claiming undue influence must prove that the will was created under pressure that overrode the testator's wishes. Not all influence is considered undue.

The testator can be guided by others, but the will must reflect the testator's own wishes.

The physical and mental condition of the testator is relevant when determining how much pressure is needed to constitute undue influence.

Factors such as age, physical frailty,

and isolation are often present, particularly when the testator is elderly. Since undue influence often happens privately, direct evidence is not required. However, it is not enough to merely show that the alleged influencer had the opportunity and means to exert influence. The person making the claim must show that the alleged influencer's control over the testator was such that the will would not have been made in the same way without it.

The Court will also consider whether the testator received independent legal advice. Although this alone does not prove the will was made freely, it can be an important factor.

Seeking legal advice when making a will is crucial. A lawyer can ensure that the will is valid, that the testator has the required capacity, and that steps are taken to safeguard against undue influence. For assistance, please contact Harmans at 03 379 A 7835 for expert advice.

Raising awareness during Elder Abuse Awareness Week Elder abuse is a serious issue that affects millions of older adults worldwide. It can take many forms, including physical, emotional, financial, and sexual abuse, as well as neglect and self neglect. Often, elder abuse is perpetrated by someone the elderly person knows and trusts, such as a family member, caregiver, or friend. The consequences of elder abuse can be devastating, leading to physical injuries, psychological trauma, and even death. Raising awareness about this issue is essential to prevent abuse and protect our older population.

Elder Abuse Awareness Week is a crucial time to shine a light on this often-overlooked issue. This year, we have organised a series of activities to raise awareness and provide support to our older community. The events will take place across various locations in the week following World Elder Abuse Awareness Day Sunday, 15 June.

At each of these venues our team will be available to provide information and resources about elder abuse, including how to recognise the signs and where to seek help.

Planned activities are:

Monday, 16th June: 10.00am – 12 noon at Rolleston Community Centre, Eastgate Mall, 1.00pm - 3.00pm: The Hub Hornby, Aranui Community Trust Inc Society (ACTIS) Tuesday, 17th June: 10.00am – 12 noon at Westfield

Riccarton.

Dudley Park Pavilion – Rangiora 1.00pm - 3.00pm at Fendalton Library and Amberley Library Wednesday, 18th June To wrap up the week, Age Concern Canterbury is hosting a community event on Wednesday, 18th June, at our office located at 24 Main North Road, Papanui.

A BBQ will run from 11.30am to 1.00pm and is open to everyone.

This event is an excellent opportunity for the community to come together, enjoy some food, and learn more about the prevention of elder abuse in a relaxed and friendly environment.

Together, we can make a difference and ensure that our older population is treated with respect and dignity.

Protecting you through all stages of life Our friendly and experienced Seniors Law team offers specialised legal advice so you have peace of mind and feel confident when it comes to making decisions that are right for you and your family.

Our Seniors Law team can help with: Wills Trusts Funeral Trusts Occupation Right Agreements Enduring Powers of Attorney

Rest Home Subsidies Estate Planning Asset Protection Sale and Purchase of Property

We have two convenient locations one in the Central City, the other in Papanui by appointment. If you can’t get to us, we offer a home visit service where we can come to you.

Contact Victoria Agnew P (03) 379 7835 E victoria.agnew@harmans.co.nz A 79-81 Cashel Street, Central City, Christchurch 8011 www.harmans.co.nz

Elder Abuse hits close to home

75%

of alleged abusers are family members

If you or someone you know needs support contact Age Concern or the Elder Abuse help line.

Elder Abuse Help Line 0800 EA NOT OK Free Phone Age Concern 0800 65 2 105

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‘Cold violence’ - a hidden form of elder abuse in New Zealand’s Chinese community Elder abuse is prevalent in New Zealand, with one in 10 people aged 65 and older experiencing some form of it and only one in 14 abuse cases brought to the attention of a service agency that can intervene.

Last year alone there were numerous media reports featuring accounts of neglect, financial exploitation and physical or verbal abuse of older people.

However, elder abuse is notoriously difficult to study. Those experiencing abuse often avoid disclosing these experiences for a variety of complex reasons. It is often friends, other family members, neighbours or practitioners who realise that something harmful is happening to the older person.

Some forms of ill treatment are immediately identifiable as abuse. But elder abuse can also be very subtle, which makes it difficult for older people to pinpoint when it happens and for others in the community to recognise it.

Our recent study explores a poorly understood form of elder abuse known as “cold violence” within the Chinese community in Aotearoa New Zealand. We interviewed older Chinese migrants, midlife Chinese migrants caring for older parents and practitioners supporting Chinese migrant families.

Although participants saw similarities in types of elder abuse across cultural groups, they described cold violence as particularly common.

What is ‘cold violence’ Cold violence is a form of emotional abuse that occurs within care relationships. It happens when the person with more power and resources in the relationship completely, and intentionally, withdraws communication and emotional support for a sustained period. Cold violence is used to punish people for particular conduct or to limit their independence and freedom.

This form of abuse is incredibly difficult to detect. Other forms of abuse have clear signs. Physical abuse may leave telltale marks. Suspicious bank transactions can be monitored and traced. Signs of neglect may be seen in malnutrition and poor hygiene.

They are materially evident. Cold violence, on the other hand, is open to interpretation. By strategically withdrawing emotional support and care, people can powerfully punish the older person without leaving any evidence, thus maintaining plausible deniability.

This makes cold violence difficult for older people to identify and for service providers or authorities to challenge.

Family members and carers can argue they didn’t do anything wrong.

This failure to respond to need is what makes cold violence a form of abuse.

Understanding the context Participants in our study commonly mentioned refusal to engage with older family members.

It’s like they see you but act as if they don’t.

Chinese culture values filial reverence and there is an expectation that the concerns and needs of older generations are prioritised. Being rejected by family is very damaging.

Consequently, older Chinese

people in our study considered cold violence as the most unacceptable form of abuse that can happen to an older person. They told us that withdrawal of verbal communication and emotional care was made worse by demeaning nonverbal behaviours, such as looks of “disdain” or “disgust”.

They agreed that being treated this way had a “negative impact on their mental health”, making them “feel heartbroken”. One participant likened it to mental torture.

Experiencing cold violence can also leave older people unable to meet their basic needs. In the context of Chinese family arrangements, older parents who migrated in later life are often highly dependent on younger family members.

They might lack language skills, the ability to drive and knowledge of institutional systems necessary to independently navigate everyday life.

In these situations, the withdrawal by family members is a highly destabilising experience, leaving older people unsure how to act and often without alternative sources of support.

Making sense of cold violence Family carers are commonly under significant financial, emotional and time pressure and receive relatively little formal support for care.

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However, there was a clear mismatch between how practitioners and family carers framed emotional withdrawal as carer stress and the way it was experienced by older people as cold violence.

Chinese migrants providing care for older parents agreed that cold violence was concerning. However, they saw it as the unintentional outcome of limited time and resources. As one participant explained: There are old people above and young children below, and their energy is limited […] They have tried their best.

Practitioners also attributed neglectful behaviour to carer stress.

This mismatch highlights the need to understand older people’s perspectives and to provide continuous education about less obvious forms of elder abuse.

Awareness raising should extend beyond older people to include family members, practitioners and the wider community.

Cold violence is not unique to the Chinese community, but it may be experienced differently across cultural groups. Regardless of the cultural context, being treated in this way is an unsettling and undermining experience for older people.

We have a collective responsibility to create safe environments for people to be able to age with dignity.

This starts with understanding how our actions can intentionally or unintentionally cause harm to older people in our families and communities.

Authors Ágnes Szabó, Senior Lecturer, Te Herenga Waka - Victoria University of Wellington; Mary Breheny, Research associate, Te Kunenga ki Pūrehuroa - Massey University; Polly Yeung, Associate Professor, Te Kunenga ki Pūrehuroa - Massey University.

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An Aligned To Go Falls Prevention class has now started on Thursday at 10.00am at Age Concern Canterbury. This class is designed to be the next step up from Steady As You Go, with more challenging strength and balance work and more rhythmic and danced based movements.

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The big fib

Staying Safe Refresher Course for Older Drivers

by Mike Crean

Sometimes a bloke just has to tell a lie. This one, I found out, was a whopper. The bloke concerned remains embarrassed, so let’s call him Derek. Some 20-30 years ago the then Prince Charles made a royal visit which included a day among the wonderful folk of Hokitika and districts. Derek, a Christchurch reporter, and a cameraman were sent to cover the Prince’s day there.

They set off by car in mid-afternoon and spent the night in a Greymouth hotel. But, oh no! Somewhere near Otira, Derek discovered he had left his identification card at home.

Royals are subject to idiots and criminals wanting to bump them off, so ID cards are compulsory for media people. They must be clearly visible and include their recent photographic portrait.

What could Derek do without his ID card? He envisaged police and security chaps blocking him, pushing him away from the prince, even arresting him. On arrival at Greymouth he explained his situation to well-known West Coaster Pat Taylor, who happened to be in the bar at the time. Maybe Pat would know a way to have his card delivered before 9am next day.

“No problem, Derek,” said Pat. “I have my ID card but I won’t need it now. You can have it.”

Derek breathed a hurricane of relief.

He thanked Pat and fixed the card to his lapel. Next morning he and the cameraman cruised down to Hokitika.

Derek marvelled at the numbers of people pouring into the park where Prince Charles would address them.

Bus after bus trundled in with loads of children from local schools. Derek walked among the crowd to sense the joy of the prince’s fans.

Then something began to make him feel uneasy. He sensed people scrutinising the ID photo he bore.

Many seemed to read the name then raise their eyebrows in disbelief. For this wasn’t their Pat Taylor. Fancy that – another Pat Taylor. Strangely, he looked just like West Coast’s Pat Taylor.

Of course, everyone knows West Coasters are good blokes. None would report this possible trickery to the police. At last two Devon passenger aircraft of the Royal New Zealand Airforce landed at the Hokitika Airport, a kilometre away.

People forgot the strange ID man and started cheering as Prince Charles at last arrived.

After the welcome speeches the prince was whisked to interesting sights around the town and its environs. Derek was impressed by the royal’s calm, polite manner, even when he was proudly shown sheaves of sphagnum moss hung on wooden

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structures to dry. However, Derek suddenly went cold. His cameraman had just received a call to speed immediately to a calamity further up the Coast to Westport. This left Derek to “find his own way home”.

Derek opened his wallet to find he had about $2.50 in cash and no bank card. How would he get back over the Southern Alps and Canterbury Plains to Christchurch?

Now, here comes the great fib.

Derek hatched a plan. He walked alone to the airport where the Devon planes were standing. There he met an Airforce officer keeping an eye on things. He explained his problem to the officer who told him to come back at 15.30 hours (3.30pm). So Derek wandered about for a while, then returned to the airport. “Here goes,” he thought, as he stepped up the ladder into the fuselage of the second plane. But, oh, oh, just inside was a woman officer seated at a desk with a book and pen. He told his story to her, stretching it to the extent of claiming the officer he had spoken to told him to return at 15.30 and he would get a seat.

If Derek felt a little nervous, he might have shivered when the officer with the book demanded his name.

Realising he was still wearing the borrowed ID card he mumbled, “Patrick Taylor”. The officer wrote this in the book. Next she asked for the name of his next-of-kin. “Um, ah, Mary Taylor, mother”, he stammered. That was entered in the book. Yet another question was fired: “your mother’s address”. Derek remembered a river ran through Greymouth and answered, “number 1, River Road, Greymouth.” That was filed in the book too.

In relief Derek was shown to a spare seat and flopped onto it. The “real” passengers arrived, the plane took off and Derek felt more comfortable.

But then he began to fret: what if the plane crashed? What if the plane was going to Invercargill, Wellington ….? What would Pat Taylor think if he heard about it?

An hour later he stepped down from the plane at Christchurch Airport, a free man. But not free enough. He admits that big fib still troubles his conscience.

Contact Wendy Fox, Age Concern Canterbury on 03 331 7808 or email wendy.fox@ageconcerncan.org.nz to find out when the next course will be in your area.

Why winter is the perfect time to book your insulation assessment As winter sets in, many Kiwi homeowners start to feel the chill of cold, draughty rooms. But did you know the secret to staying warm, dry, and comfortable this season could lie in your home’s insulation?

Winter is the ideal time to make sure your home is properly insulated not just for comfort, but for health and energy savings too. Insulation helps keep heat where it belongs - inside so you stay warmer without cranking up the heater. It’s like a puffer jacket for your house, reducing energy bills and making your home easier and cheaper to heat.

But the benefits go beyond warmth.

Good insulation helps prevent moisture build-up, reducing the risk of mould and damp - two common causes of respiratory problems and other health issues for seniors. With cold temperatures and condensation more common in winter, checking your insulation is an important step toward a healthier home.

If your insulation is outdated or missing, you’re not just losing heat - you may also be increasing health risks.

The good news? Community Energy Action (CEA), a local charitable trust, offers free home assessments and 80–100% subsidies for ceiling and underfloor insulation for eligible homeowners. In some cases, subsidised energy efficient heating is also available - especially for homes with no fixed heating or where the current system no longer works and can’t be repaired.

The Kiwi cold season can be harsh, but with the right insulation (and heating, if needed), your home can stay warm and cosy all winter long.

Winter is also our busiest season - so don’t wait. Book your free assessment now and get the support you need before the rush hits.

Call CEA on 0800 438 9276 or visit A www.cea.co.nz today!

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Bishopdale Hearing - celebrating three years, new staff and services I’m Bradi, and I own Bishopdale Hearing, your local audiology clinic at the front of Bishopdale Village Mall.

I can’t believe it’s been three years since opening Bishopdale Hearing!

If you had told me that within three years I would need four extra staff and a larger four-room clinic location, I wouldn’t have believed you.

We’re so appreciative to everyone in the local community for supporting us and helping us grow! We are one of the few truly independent audiology clinics in Christchurch.

This means I own and operate 100% of our little practice, and we have no financial ties to any other company or hearing aid manufacturer. When you choose to see us, you can feel safe knowing you are receiving an honest professional opinion.

We are also so thankful to have won two awards – a Rotary Club local business award after being nominated by one of our patients, and also the SBA Small Business of the Year (runner-up) award.

Our awesome team now consists of: Bradi - Audiologist/Owner Corey - Audiologist

Emma - Ear Nurse Jo - Administrator (Mon-Fri) Kate - Receptionist (Sundays and late-nights) Why should you choose us at Bishopdale Hearing?

Not only are we 100% locally owned, but we are super fun and relaxed. Unlike many others, we are also a comprehensive audiology clinic – we do a lot more than just fit hearing aids!

Services we offer are: * Earwax Removals. * Outer Ear Infection Treatments. * Diagnostic Hearing Tests. * Hearing Aid Fittings. * Hearing Aid Adjustments and Refits. * Auditory Processing Disorder Assessments. * Auditory Training and Hearing Therapy. * Custom-made Earplugs.

We would love to see you in clinic!

Come and visit us at 33 Bishopdale Court, just beside Peter Timbs butchery. Phone 03 359 8557 or you can also book online with us at www.

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UPDATE FROM THE CLUBS

Christchurch Red Hatters Club No set meetings but the Club has ‘gatherings’ which includes monthly events such as luncheons, dinners and an outing/activity. Contact: Iris Cousins on 021 0209 3598.

Christchurch Senior Citizens Cards section meet on Mondays, 12.15-3.00pm; Indoor Bowls section meet on Tuesday at 12.30-3.00pm; the Activities Group have outings for meals and social days, visit places of interest and go on bus trips.

Contact: Veronica on 383 4682 or 021 1187 360 or Beth on 388 2375 or 027 261 0493.

Lincoln Area Senior Citizen Club Members enjoyed a talk about Antarctica in February. The Club had its AGM in March and enjoyed a bus trip to Little River. The Club’s 49th birthday will be celebrated in June with a lunch and raffles.

Meet: First Tuesday of the month at 1.30pm at the Lincoln Event Centre.

New members are very welcome.

Contact: Evelyn 027 712 7195 or Gloria 027 434 6554.

Papanui Rebus Club Meet: First Tuesday of the month at 10.00am at the Morrison Avenue Bowling Club, 30 Morrison Avenue, Papanui, Christchurch. Contact: Gillian on 03 352 6697 or Sian on 03 359 0057.

Primetimers 10 Pin Bowlers meet for fun bowling and interacting with likeminded over 60-yearolds. More experienced members assist and coach newbies with the emphasis on pleasure rather than competitiveness. Meet: Mondays at 1.00pm at Zone Bowling, Iverson Terrace, Christchurch Contact: Brian 03 332 0531.

Pegasus Daylight Lodge No 450 is a Freemasons Lodge appealing to over 65-year-old Masons and their wife, partner or friend. The meeting has minimal ceremonial content. The lodge transacts business and then we join our partners for lunch and an activity or speaker. Meets at 11.00am, 3rd Wednesday of the month at Canterbury Freemasons Centre, 9 Shirley Road, Christchurch. Contact: The Secretary, pegasus450@xtra. co.nz or call Gerald 021 1704 179.

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Flat and hill walks. Finish at a Cafe.

Occasional social get togethers.

Subs are $15.00 per year. Walks are on Sat. and Sun. for 1 to 2 hrs.

Come for a trial walk to see if it suits. New members welcome.

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Keeping On 29 Companion Walking Service A service for people who find it difficult getting out and about on their own.

Would you like to be able to go for a walk in your community?

Our walking companions service provides one-on-one assistance for people who are finding it difficult to get out and about on their own.

Walks are personalised to your environment & abilities.

Phone (03) 366-0903, Freephone 0800 80 33 44

Leaky water works - Incontinence

“Look.. it’s Manbat!”

Planning ahead: the quiet gift of saving for your funeral No one wants to think about losing a loved one – a parent, a spouse, or a close friend. It’s tempting to avoid difficult conversations about wills, bank accounts, or funeral arrangements. But avoiding these conversations doesn’t delay the inevitable – it only makes things harder when the time comes.

Melanie Perry, an Account Administrator with the Catholic Development Fund (CDF), has spent two decades helping families prepare for the future. She believes that planning ahead, particularly saving for your own funeral, is an act of compassion.

“While talking about death can feel uncomfortable, planning ahead, especially saving for one’s funeral, is one of the kindest things a person can do for their family,” Melanie says.

“People are often afraid that talking about it might be upsetting for their loved ones, but in fact it’s a final gift of care to their children.”

A CDF Funeral Savings Account

provides more than peace of mind. It offers a practical financial advantage: up to $10,000 set aside specifically for funeral costs is exempt from asset testing when applying for the Residential Care Subsidy. This helps protect your family's financial security during an already difficult time.

Funerals are a significant moment in the Catholic journey – the final sacrament deserving of dignity and preparation. Having these arrangements thoughtfully planned and funded relieves emotional and financial stress from grieving family members.

“In the end, saving for your funeral isn’t just about practicality,” Melanie adds. “It’s a quiet, generous act that helps bring peace and eases stress.”

For more information or to speak with someone about setting up a CDF Funeral Savings Account, Melanie is available for a confidential conversation by calling 0800 40 FUND (0800 403 863).

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There are many myths about incontinence, for instance some people believe incontinence is an inevitable consequence of ageing or if you drink less it will improve.

Neither of these beliefs is helpful.

Facts about your Water Works The bladder: • is an expandable muscular bag, once full, it contracts to force urine out.

• holds 300-400mls during the day and up to 800mls overnight.

• empties 5-7 times a day.

• is irritated by caffeine, artificial sweeteners, alcohol, some fizzy drinks and medications, including diuretics.

• pelvic floor and urethra sphincter muscles stop leakage.

• we need 6-8 glasses of fluid a day.

• bladder and urethra infection and inflammation cause pain, discomfort and urgency.

• we train our bladder to empty before it’s full.

There are two types of incontinence Stress incontinence occurs when pressure is on the bladder from coughing, sneezing, jumping, lifting, pushing, laughing and pulling. The main cause is weak pelvic floor and urethra sphincter muscles.

Urgency incontinence is the sudden need to ‘go’, e.g when opening the front door you get the urge. It happens because the bladder has been trained to empty before it’s full.

Typically small amounts of urine are

passed frequently - 10 plus times a day.

To prevent or fix incontinence strengthen your pelvic floor and urethra sphincter muscles by: • sitting comfortably with feet and knees apart.

• leaning forward at the hips with back straight.

• finding your pelvic floor – imagine you’re stopping yourself from urinating or farting.

• tightening your pelvic floor three times a day, squeezing and lifting inside, on the out breath, hold for 3-10 seconds, rest 5-10 seconds, repeat 5-10 times, Still struggling, contact: • Your Doctor to rule out inflammation, infection or drug irritation.

• Nurse Maude Continence Service • To improve your pelvic floor and uretha strength contact a Therapy Professionals Physiotherapist.

Ph: 03 3775280 or email admin@ tpl.nz: www.therapyprofessionals.

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Rolleston Older Persons’ Hub opening Age Concern Canterbury Staff and Volunteers were out in full force to support the opening of the Older Person’s Hub and Volunteer Expo in Rolleston recently.

All Age Concern Canterbury teams were represented to advise attendees about the services and activities currently provided and plans for developing new opportunities in the Rolleston and the Selwyn district.

It was also a great opportunity for the Papanui-based staff to view the Hub space and facilities, to meet the locals and discuss their needs and expectations.

Staff will be visiting the Hub on a regular basis, and looking at ways to expand our services for the older residents of the fastAge Concern Canterbury staff and volunteers at the recent opening of the Hub. growing Selwyn district.

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The Nurse Maude Care Home: professional care second to none The Nurse Maude Care Home provides professional care that is second to none. A fully licensed 75bed facility where each spacious room comes with an ensuite bathroom. We have large, well equipped communal spaces and beautiful gardens in the heart of Merivale, Christchurch for residents and their visitors to enjoy.

We specialise in offering the best care available for those with complex health conditions needing long term residential and palliative care.

Residents can be attended by their

own doctor or have the Care Home's doctor look after them. Services include physiotherapy, hairdressing, manicures, podiatry, and chaplaincy.

There is also an extensive range of activities including virtual reality experiences, books, puzzles, games, animal visits and craft making. A team of volunteers’ support staff to help ensure our residents live their best life. We also have a café on site for residents and their visitors.

Our central location and free access to wheelchairs make it easy

Feel at home with our quality nursing care.

The Nurse Maude Care Home is more than just a place to live, it’s a place where residents enjoy a sense of purpose, meaning and dignity in a vibrant and caring community.

To learn more about the care we’re renowned for, which focuses on the whole person and their unique needs, contact us today.

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for visitors to take their loved one for a trip to Merivale Mall and have a look around the shops.

Our staffing levels are high, and we are fortunate in being able to offer full expert care from Nurse Maude specialist staff including Wound Care, Continence, IV, Stomal and Palliative Care Specialists, Dietician, and other key health professionals.

It may be possible to provide shortterm respite care for up to 28 days under the Respite Care Scheme

(subject to bed availability).

In additional to private residents, people can be referred to the Nurse Maude Care Home by their doctor. All prospective long-term care residents will have their needs, income and assets assessed by Older Persons Health before admission.

To find out more about the Nurse Maude Care Home and to arrange a visit, please call 03 375 4145 or you can email carehome@nursemaude.

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Painting sessions a success

Age Concern Canterbury’s inaugural painting session in March provided lots of creative fun for the 12 attendees.

With April’s session cancelled due to public holidays, the budding artists picked up their brushes again in May and enjoyed another artistic morning, creating

their masterpieces.

All materials are provided, and participants enjoy a cup of tea - all for a gold coin donation.

If you are interested in taking part in future sessions, please contact Robynn Walsh on 027 2791113.

Registrations are essential.

Winter Chit Chat

by Anna Tillman, Health Promoter, Age Concern Canterbury.

Winter can be tough as we age, especially when outdoor activities are limited due to cold temperatures and slippery conditions. It can be tempting to slow down and stay indoors when the temperatures drop but it’s essential to stay active, not just for physical health but also for mental well-being. Movement helps improve mobility, maintain strength and balance, reduce risk of chronic health conditions, and prevent feelings of isolation, all of which can be common during the colder months. I like to think of exercise as an investment in not just your physical health, but your mental and emotional well-being too.

So, if it’s too miserable outside to leave your house, schedule some movement into your day. A body at rest tends to stay at rest. For example, add in 10 squats while preparing lunch or coffee, put away laundry one item at a time to walk extra steps, march in place during commercial breaks of your favourite TV show or get up out of your chair every hour to walk a short distance in your home. As well as making you feel better this will also help in maintaining and improving your muscle strength which is important as we age as it supports your bones and joints. It’s also great for maintaining bone density, which reduces the risk of osteoporosis.

Winter doesn’t have to slow you down. Just remember to keep

moving, stay healthy and enjoy winter. With a bit of thought and planning you can stay active, healthy, and happy throughout the season. Remember, every little bit of movement counts. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s about consistency and finding joy in movement. So, this winter, let’s commit to staying active, keeping our spirits high, and enjoying all the benefits that come with it!

If you find that exercise is something that you would like to start or are not sure what would be suitable for you, please give me a call and have a chat to me about our community based Steady As You Go classes. They are a great way to add strength, flexibility and balance training into your week.

The class timetables are available in this magazine or on our Age Concern Canterbury website (www. ageconcerncan.org.nz).

Alternatively our Companion Walking Service is looking for both volunteers and clients, so if you feel that you would like to volunteer to walk with someone in the community or would like to have a volunteer walk with you in the community, please contact Wendy on 03 366 0903 or email wendy.fox@ageconcerncan. org.nz, or myself.

As always, happy exercising, and I look forward to hearing from you with any questions, queries, or suggestions.

Phone 03 331 7811 or email: anna. tillman@ageconcerncan.co.nz.

Catch a rising star Catch a rising star - Tuesday lunchtime concerts start on the 20th May at Te Matatiki Toi Ora The Arts Centre.

Curated by Concerts for Christchurch, the series features live performances by the next generation of classical musicians, some of whom are astonishingly young.

While it may be a myth that young people get younger every year, it remains a remarkable achievement to pass the ABRSM Grade 8 exam with Distinction at ten-years-old.

The young pianist in question, Oliver Williams, is now a Breens Intermediate School student, and will be the star performer at the Rising Stars concert on Tuesday 11 November.

Then there are Ethan and Caleb Waines, aged 13 and 11 respectively, who will perform piano on Tuesday 28 October.

Some of the most accomplished Rising Stars already have a clutch of eager pupils of their own. Brilliant pianist Lixin Zhang, who is studying for a Master of Music degree at Yale University, will perform on Tuesday 10 June, then his protegés will appear on Tuesday 12 August.

Leading teachers are not forgotten: Michael Endres’ piano students take

Brilliant pianist Lixin Zhang, will perform on Tuesday 10 June.

the stage on Tuesday 27 May, and Jonathan Tanner’s violin students on Tuesday 29 July.

Soloists and ensembles from the music programmes at Burnside High School and Rangi Ruru Girls’ School also feature. In fact, Rangi Ruru Girls’ choir and chamber groups open the series with their concert on Tuesday 20 May. For full details of all fourteen concerts in the Rising Stars series, visit www.artscentre.org.nz/whatson/rising-stars.

Tickets cost $15 per show or get special $10 tickets by joining either Concert for Christchurch Friends or Friends of The Arts Centre. All concerts are held in the Great Hall at A The Arts Centre, 1.10-1.50pm.

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Waimari Toy Library ideal for grandparents The Waimairi Toy Library is a place where imagination knows no bounds! The curated collection sparks joy in children’s hearts while nurturing their development through play.

And best of all the library has a casual membership option for individuals who are only in the area temporarily or for those without children who have friends and family visiting.

Perfect for grandparents.

Casual members are required to provide a refundable $50.00 security bond and pay $5.00 for each toy borrowed.

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VOLUNTEERS WANTED FOR SOCIAL OUTINGS Drivers and drivers’ assistants needed for our well-loved Social Outings Service.

Drivers transport clients in our minivans to a morning or afternoon tea in and around Christchurch, supporting them to make new friends. No special licence required. Casual basis.

Drivers’ assistants support the drivers and help clients.

Please contact Robynn on 331 7801, email robynn.walsh@ ageconcerncan.org.nz or Debbie on 331 7814 , email dgarraway@ageconcerncan.org.nz for more information.

Embracing ease: how holistic massage can support you in body and spirit

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J o i n a n a c c re d ite d class near you Visit www.livestronger.org.nz or phone Sport Canterbury on 022 495 8470

As we grow older, our bodies naturally change. You might feel more stiffness in your joints, tightness in your muscles, or notice that your energy moves a little differently than it once did. But aging isn’t just a physical experience - it’s also a time for reflection, for coming home to yourself, and for finding peace.

Holistic massage can be a gentle, comforting support on that journey.

What I love most about my work is seeing the change in people from when they arrive to when they leave.

My approach is to care not just for your body, but for your whole energy - helping you move from discomfort into a state of ease and flow.

These later years in life can be a deeply meaningful time. They offer space to review, to integrate, and to rest into who you are. Feeling at peace with yourself - physically, emotionally, and mentally - can make a real difference in your everyday experience.

During a session, I use warm stones placed over a towel to bring deep comfort and encourage your body to soften. I also bring essential oils, which can gently lift your energy and help you feel more at ease.

Each element is chosen with care to support your well-being - helping you release tension and reconnect with a sense of peace and contentment.

Holistic massage isn’t just about technique. It’s about being held in a space of respect, compassion, and presence. It’s about feeling truly seen and supported. Whether you're looking to ease physical discomfort, calm the mind, or simply enjoy a nurturing moment for yourself, holistic massage can offer a beautiful way to care for your whole being.

Your body remembers kindness, and sometimes, even a quiet moment of care can bring lasting comfort.

If this speaks to you, I warmly invite you to try a session. You deserve care that honours your whole self body, mind, heart and spirit.

Valerie Gasser is an experienced holistic practitioner and owner of In-Essence.

With qualifications in Massage Therapy, Oncology Massage (OM), Aromatherapy, Holistic Counselling with Pascha Therapy and Energy Healing, she is dedicated to guiding others on their Wellness journey.

Email: valerie@in-essence.co.nz A or phone 021 216 2708.

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Keeping the home fires burning

by Peggy Kelly

When I was a child, I was sent over the road to Dunlevy’s to get an item of hardware. While I was there, Mrs Dunlevy said to me, “Tell your father that the Christmas decorations are in”. Innocently I replied, “I think we still have ours from last year”. “Tell your da that I don’t keep his bacon from year to year!” was her memorable response.

We lived in a small town on Ireland’s northwest coast. Nothing went unnoticed, nothing remained uncalculated. For the place to survive, cash had to circulate. Going around, the same pound paid the grocer, the publican, the chemist, the blacksmith and so on until it landed in a coffer with overseas interests. Then it vanished from our self-supporting system.

I often think back 70 years to those days. Were they good days? Or do I only remember them as good because we managed to stay on the right side of the ledger? My father was an Elder in the Presbyterian Church and the Sunday School Superintendent. From the early 1950s we found ourselves living and doing business in a community where 94% of the people were Roman Catholic. My father observed the Sabbath Day – he didn’t sell anything on the Sabbath. Whereas most of the community, when it had fulfilled its religious obligation of going to Mass on Sunday morning, had the rest of the day to itself to enjoy the football game or the pictures or whatever it liked.

Occasionally when we got home from Church we’d find a lad from one of the hotels on our doorstep looking for a food item – urgently. A bus load of tourists had arrived unexpectedly.

What could my father do but let them have what they needed and enter the sale into the ledger on Monday?

That’s how we survived and thrived - supporting local businesses and stretching the rules, just a little.

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and now? Everything, actually! Just now I’m incensed that the rapacious Woolworths is readying itself to pounce and gobble up my modest but much loved Edgeware Village.

All the businesses in the Village are locally owned except BP and the St John’s op shop - and even they are part of our community. We remember how, when SuperValue fell down in the earthquakes, Peter Timbs, the butcher helped out by selling bread

and milk and by throwing an electric wire to Crisp the greengrocer – then working out of a tent, in fingerless mittens, building up a clientele loyal to him to this day. We remember how Stephen and his dad rebuilt SuperValue and how it morphed before our eyes into Fresh Choice.

That was no easy venture for them, to rebuild.

Now we hear that Woolworths is set to move in - onto the old Orion

site on Madras Street to gobble it all up. Gobble the livelihoods of local businesses and their employees; gobble the pharmacy’s message boy who delivers urgent scripts, gobble the grocer, the baker, the greengrocer and the off-licence that orders in my special Irish whiskey and gunpowder gin.

St Albans Edgeware is known for its ‘community spirit’. It will gobble that too.

I imagine this has been the experience in other parts of Christchurch and in towns throughout the South Island. A big box comes in and small retail places die – places where they know your name and are willing to go out of their way to serve you. The backbone of our country is being eaten away and the profits are off to Australia.

Help ensure every child is warm this winter The Blanket Bank’s annual Every Child Warm This Winter appeal is underway, with new collection sites and a growing number of supporters running blanket drives and fundraisers.

CMM’s Blanket Bank launched the appeal last year, choosing a name that acts as a reminder of the agency’s mission to continuously work towards improving the health and wellbeing of tamariki and their whānau.

The Blanket Bank distributes clean, good quality duvets and bedding free to needy households. The only criteria for accessing the service is a need for warm bedding, and this need is growing: the Blanket Bank experienced a 71% increase in

requests last year, distributing 1,110 blankets over 2024.

CMM’s Community Development Practice Lead Fionna Chapman explains that the Blanket Bank aims to reduce the high incidence of respiratory disease among whānau living in high-deprivation neighbourhoods in Christchurch.

“Respiratory disease is the third most common cause of death in New Zealand, and Māori and Pacific tamariki are the most severely affected,” Fionna says. “Both groups suffer high rates of chronic and serious health conditions, many of which are caused or made worse by inferior housing and insufficient funds to adequately warm their homes.”

Christchurch City Council data shows that in the Coastal Ward boundary, 48% of people earn under $30,000 a year, 18% of people earn between $10,000 and $20,000, and 11% of people earn $5,000 or less a year. The Coastal Ward includes New Brighton which along with adjoining suburbs is home to large Māori and Pacific populations.

Fionna says that there are several Collection Site changes this year, with a bin in the entrance hall at Pioneer Recreation and Sport Centre and at Lyttelton Community House.

For information about how you can get involved in this appeal or to find a Collection Site near you, visit www.

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From the IT desk

Passwords: the good, the bad and the cringe-worthy

by Dave Callis

Technology often seems like it’s speaking a foreign language— but don’t worry, there’s no need to become fluent overnight. With a little help, we can all harness the power of technology to make our lives easier.

Passwords are a common challenge: love them or loathe them, they’re our first line of defence in the online world. Yet, the very thing meant to protect us can often feel more like a digital headache.

From pet names like 'Rex' to classics like 'summer2023,' far too many passwords are easy to guess.

Combine that with the fact that the average person juggles well over 50 logins, and it’s no wonder 81% of breaches result from poor password security! And if that wasn’t enough,

stolen passwords are just a click away on the ‘Dark Web’.

Here are the four most common password pitfalls many of us fall into: * Easy-to-Guess Passwords: 33% of us use pet names, and 24% rely on common words. * Reusing Passwords: 66% of people use the same password across multiple sites - a risky habit. * Sharing Passwords: 43% of people admit to sharing sensitive passwords with others (this can lead to unintended consequences). * Insecure Storage: Leaving passwords on sticky notes (real or virtual) or in text files on devices is a hacker’s dream".

Why It Matters Every password acts like a lock

on your digital front door, but unfortunately, even one weak lock can let intruders through. If a login is compromised, hackers can use techniques like ‘phishing’—sending deceptive emails or creating fake websites—to gain access to other accounts.

For instance, they could use your online bookstore password to access your email or bank account—an all-too-common occurrence.

Helpful Tips Fortunately, better password security is easier than you might expect: * Start by using a secure, physical password logbook. Think of it as an address book—just for passwords.

Keep it somewhere safe and away

from prying eyes. * Or try a password manager app.

These apps not only store passwords securely but also generate strong, unique options for you. Many of these apps are free or cost only a few dollars per year.

If you’re still using 'password123, it is time for a change. Aim for passwords that are at least 12 characters long, using a mix of letters, numbers, and symbols. A little effort now can go a long way in keeping your digital life secure!

Technology might seem daunting, but remember, small steps lead to big improvements. We’re here to help, and we’d love to hear from you! What topics would you like us to cover in future issues?

Canterbury provides key Technology Workshop Aspire services to disabled community Would you like to learn more about Passwords?

We will be running a presentation designed to help you understand the importance of this first line of defence in your online world.

Tuesday, 10th June 2025 from 1.30 to 2.30 pm.

Age Concern Canterbury, 24 Main North Road, Papanui.

Christchurch. or Wednesday, 25th June 2025 from 10.30am to 11.30am.

The Older Persons’ Hub, 94 Rolleston Drive, Rolleston.

Registrations are essential and can be made by phone 03 366 0903 or email team@ ageconcerncan.org.nz

Help with Technology Appointments available For anyone over 65 who needs help with technology.

If you need help with your cellphone, laptop or tablet or if you want to learn how to email, video call or take photos...

Whatever your need, phone and make an appointment and we will try and help.

BRING YOUR OWN DEVICE.

Phone 366 0903 for an appointment.

Aspire Canterbury provides key services to the Canterbury disabled community and has partnered with Canterbury's disabled persons since 1982. Aspire's region is the whole of Canterbury from Timaru to Kaikoura and inland to the mountains.

Aspire is the largest Canterbury provider of Total Mobility discount taxi cards for people with disabilities.

They run a mobile van, disability information, and shop service to retirement homes; provide education events for children with disabilities who are leaving school; have a social enterprise shop (at the Braintree Centre) selling mobility aids, walkers and wheelchairs; hire disability equipment at a very low charity rate to people who can’t afford to purchase; and a large portion of Aspire’s work is running the disability information and advice service which

is like a disability specific version of the Citizens Advice Bureau.

Aspire has a strong focus on ensuring people with disabilities can get the advice and support they need to navigate the health system. Aspire walks alongside individuals and whanau as they learn to navigate the disability sector.

Aspire also advocates for people with disabilities at schools, at workplaces and in healthcare settings with the Aspire team regularly attending meetings to provide assistance and advocacy.

Social exclusion can be a problem for disabled persons. Aspire works hard to remove barriers to engagement and provides multiple pathways and opportunities for disabled communities across Canterbury to grow and for people to make real A connections with each other.

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Memories: Shopping “The richest bank of all is our memory bank. For years we deposited experiences there.

Now we can withdraw them. The interest accruing is our enjoyment.”

by Mike Crean

How shopping has changed.

Supermarkets? We had never heard of them in my childhood. We might have gone to Christchurch once or twice a year, but what did the city have to offer? Department Stores!

Multi-storey shops with departments ranging from cosmetics to footwear.

Only one has survived, bountiful Ballantynes. It was largely rebuilt after its 1947 fire and still stands on the corner of Colombo Street and Cashel Mall. Oldies can remember the competition for Ballantynes: Hays, Armstrongs, Beaths, DIC, Millers, Farmers. One by one they “fell by the wayside”. Each had its distinction, such as Hays using its flat roof as a playground to amuse children while mum and dad did the shopping.

The Farmers was different. Sitting on Cashel Street, east of Colombo Street, it ran a free bus service from Cathedral Square to the store and back again, to draw customers. The Farmers also ran branch stores in several rural townships. No wonder we seldom went to Christchurch, we could get anything we wanted from The Farmers at Hawarden.

The slogan on our branch read, “The Farmers for everything”. That was fairly accurate, though we kids added “…except what you want”.

Even then, if an item was not available, a shop hand would order

Hawarden Supermarket and roundabout today.

it from headquarters and it would arrive next day on a Road Services’ bus. Large items were sent on the daily train. Who needed to go to Christchurch for shopping?

Each branch of The Farmers ran a delivery service. The shop’s Bedford van (my dad drove it for a couple of years) served a separate area each day. First, a shophand rang each customer for their weekly requirements. These goods were packed and the van set off around Mason’s Flat, Medbury, The Peaks, Horsley Down, Hurunui. Some customers packed goods, such as eggs, to sell and sent them back in the van.

The Farmers was the heart of Hawarden. It was also the biggest shop in the area between Rangiora and Kaikoura. It had departments: grocery, hardware, drapery, clothing, footwear, etc. It had a petrol pump on the roadside for customers to fill up their tanks. It had a large shed in the back yard for the stock and station department to sell farming goods,

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Most of the staff were local residents.

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Their children boosted our school roll and improved our sports teams.

A display of toys appeared a few weeks before Christmas. Santa arrived mysteriously about 4pm, when school closed. Santa (my dad played that part several times) would sit on the throne to ask children what they wanted for Christmas and give them a gift.

The widespread community of about 800 was extremely strong in the 1950s. On Friday evenings crowds gathered in The Farmers.

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MAY 2025

Keeping On

My two cents

by June Peka

Stranger fooled by Whistler’s daughter It was odd behaviour I thought. As I shopped the busy supermarket aisles a harried-looking chap would appear at the top and bottom ends and sometimes at the intersections. He had no trolley, nor even a wife with one that I could see. He’d just pop his head around a corner, cock it from side-to-side, sigh in frustration and move on to the next pop-up point. Eventually an assistant (they’re great like that at Moorhouse Pak’n’Save) asked if he could help with anything and I was Johnny-onthe-spot to hear the response.

“I’m looking for my mate,” he said. “I know he’s here because I can hear him. There’s not too many who sound like my mate, but he must be zooming about like a ruddy blowfly, ’cause I can’t pin him down.”

Turns out his mate is a whistler, like me, and I’d been leading this chap a merry dance trilling along to Cold Play’s I Will Fix You, on the overhead sound system - one of his mate’s favourite songs.

He’d never heard a woman whistling before he said, especially an old one. I told him he should’ve heard my Mum! For as long as I remember Mum whistled along to the radio, sometimes adding scat, providing the fiddly bits of improvisation connecting the singer’s lyrics. As soon as I could get my lips to behave

A family of whistlers in tune with the piano.

as I wanted, I joined her, making maybe not the most tuneful cacophony but certainly the most joyful. The acoustics were perfect in dad’s Fordson

delivery van.

Obviously, Mum had escaped the opprobrium heaped on poor Jo March in Little Women, and maybe that’s why she never introduced me to the book when in the first chapter “Jo immediately sat up, put her hands in her pocket and whistled” and sister Amy scolded - “don’t Jo, it’s so boyish.”

A 1721 Scottish proverb “a crooning cow, a crowing hen, and a whistling maid boded never luck to a house” seemed to keep many girls away from this unattractive behaviour. Just the act of contorting one’s lips was seen as tomboyish. Much earlier still, Athena is said to have given up the aulos, or flute, because playing it made her ‘look peculiar, and the opposite of beautiful’.

While over the years a handful of men have elevated whistling to an art form (Arthur Askey, Fred Lowery, Ronnie Ronalde and Roger Whittaker, and now young Yuki Takeda) women have only recently broken through the glass ceiling. You really must check out American Carole Ann Kaufman, and Australia’s Molly Lewis who converses with birds, as I try to do... it’s music for the soul.

I used to think if I could play the piano, particularly honky tonk, I’d never be unhappy. Now I know the same goes for whistling, especially in my Rav 4, acoustically every bit as good as the old pie van.

Nice girls just don’t put Tromboncino - the strangest vegetable those beans in the post It’s almost impossible to understand why mail deliveries can be so shockingly slow, let alone receive an acknowledgment of same, an explanation, or God forbid an apology. However, a check of NZ Post’s website and a visit to the Northlands branch has given me some clues to share with you. You’re welcome.

With only 10 days till my daughter’s birthday in Nelson, and public holidays in that time, I decided to courier her little parcel. I mentioned to the chap behind the counter that I was no longer confident in the ordinary mail system, after posting a small packet of fresh green beans to an incapacitated, non-gardening cousin in Naenae. The beans arrived nine days later, no public holidays within, unsurprisingly inedible.

“Ahah, he exclaimed, it is not permitted to send perishable foodstuffs in the post.”

So that’s it! They’ve got a robot beeping along over lines of similarly well-wrapped little square parcels of whatever – toiletries? keys or coins? first aid kits or fridge magnets? unused stamps, vouchers or event tickets? and then - getting a whiff of my freshly picked scarlet runners.

“Off to that sunniest shelf with that one,” it would say. “Let it sit for a

week while the sender ponders on her crime and penitence. Hah, thinks she can pay $8 and I’ll turn a blind eye.”

In recent years we’ve legally received live bees and alternative drugs in the post, but it might surprise you to learn that all of the above mentioned, along with Christmas crackers, fire signals, perfume, salt or lottery tickets and scratchies are on the BIG FAT NO NZ Post list, and that includes by courier delivery.

More than 60 years ago my grandfather sent us a well-packed carving knife for a wedding present, noting we could ride bare arsed to Timbuktu on the one we’d left home with. And up until 20 years ago in Naenae, Mum would every Friday morning put 90 cents on an envelope containing a Lotto ticket and a copy of the day’s Dominion crossword, which I’d unfailingly receive on Saturday morning – my weekly treat.

Meanwhile, rather than drive a further 200 metres up my daughter’s rural driveway, the Nelson NZ Post courier popped her little parcel in the main highway letter box, where it languished for five days.

“Sorry, I didn’t even look,” she explained. “I thought the courier delivered to the door.”

So did I.

Browsing Mitre10 last year, I don’t know what possessed me to buy a packet of seeds showing a picture of the strangest vegetable I’ve seen for a while, but I’m very glad I did. There weren’t many seeds in the packet for $7.95, but from the one I started off in a pot last September we’ve been rewarded with a handful of summer minis, and three monster tromboncino – around three kilos each. Despite our odd weather, more are putting on a late growth spurt.

Tromboncino, also known as zuchetta or serpentine squash, and sold online by Kings Seeds as Squash Rampicante (25 seeds for $5), is the current buzzword for gardeners looking for a versatile all-rounder. Originally from Italy these can be eaten as little guys in summer, much like a courgette, but left to mature can become tasty winter monsters, suitable for soups, and roasting. They’re to die for in a curry with lentils - almost as good as that yam/lentil mix. Italians make it into gnocchi and pasta of course, to be sauted with loads of garlic.

I was pleased to find they’re happy to grow upwards and along the top of a low hedge, freeing up our ever-decreasing garden space for those vegies which need to be ground level. After a slow start when planted out in October, the vine, while restrained in comparison to most cucurbits, was happy to bask in the sun and put all its energy into producing the monsters pictured.

We’d picked a handful when greenish coloured, but allowed these to grow to maturity, picking at the beginning of April when the skin became slightly tougher, and a delicate beige – similar to a butternut.

Finely slivered and sprinkled with salt we enjoyed it with chopped cherry tomatoes and red onion in balsamic vinegar but got the most out of the smallest one at 60cms long, by blending it into the first soup of the year, with scruffy tomatoes and lentils in bacon hock stock. I peeled it, but on reflection, probably didn’t need to. We’ve followed advice and wiped and dried the other two, leaving them to “cure” on the back porch for a couple of weeks. In a dry position they will keep for 2-3 months but once cut should be stored in the fridge box and used within weeks, or frozen.

They’re good for us too, I’m told. Packed with vitamins A and C they help take care of our immune system, skin and bones, and are involved in trials for thyroid and prostate treatments. Next season I’m aiming to grow a supersized model. Anyone up for a competition?