CHESED דסח
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CHESED
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EXPRESSIONS OF CHESED
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Literal definition: Kindness. (Loving Kindness).
In other words: Nurturing. Giving. Warmth. Providing someone’s needs. Loving.
Expressions of Chesed: Chesed is loving-kindness. Chesed is all about acts of kindness that come from a place of genuine love. It involves nurturing, giving, providing for someone's needs, and showing warmth and love. These acts can take many different forms, such as giving your time, talents, possessions, or anything else that someone may need or request from you.
Chesed is an expression of true soul-love, which enables us to go above and beyond ourselves to care for and connect with others By allowing another person to experience us and by experiencing them, we can truly connect and create a positive impact. Loving-kindness is about giving freely, graciously, and unconditionally, with a generous heart that leaves the other person's dignity and self-esteem intact. It involves giving to others on their terms, rather than imposing our own expectations upon them.
In order to achieve kindness, it is important to set aside our own agendas and focus solely on the recipient. This means considering how the recipient will perceive the gesture and providing support without expecting anything in return.
Sometimes, even small acts of kindness can have a greater impact than grand gestures Chesed is a way of life that involves constantly seeking opportunities to show kindness and making a positive difference in the lives of others.
EXPRESSIONS OF CHESED
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INTEGRATING CHESED INTO YOUR LIFE #1
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INTEGRATING CHESED INTO YOUR LIFE #1
Chesed is giving undivided attention.
Chesed can be expressed through the act of giving undivided attention. When we give our full attention to someone, we show them that we value and respect them This involves setting aside our own distractions, priorities, and preoccupations and focusing solely on the person in front of us.
Real attention is noticing the other person deeply. Noticing their needs and their wants - and acting on them Noticing their accomplishments, big and tiny – and acknowledging them. It is setting aside time just for them. It is sharing things (jokes, trinkets, etc.) because we thought of them.
It is about noticing that they need some time to catch up on stuff or just relax. It’s about figuring out how we can give them that gift of time, perhaps by taking over some obligations or chores.
Giving undivided attention can be a powerful act of kindness It allows the other person to feel heard, understood, and appreciated. By giving our full presence to someone, we create a safe space for them to express themselves and feel validated. This act of Chesed can deepen our relationships.
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INTEGRATING CHESED INTO YOUR LIFE #2
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INTEGRATING CHESED INTO YOUR LIFE #2
Chesed is loving your spouse in the way they prefer even if you don't understand it.
Hallmark, jewelers, chocolatiers and thousands of other marketers are telling us what gifts we ought to be wanting and giving to show our love But those may not be what your spouse wants at all.
Your spouse is unique and may have unique and unusual preferences for how they want to be showed your kindness and love Expressing kindness and love is about the other person Do it their way.
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INTEGRATING CHESED INTO YOUR LIFE #3
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INTEGRATING CHESED
INTO YOUR LIFE #3
Chesed is looking for ways to make your spouse happy.
Ask yourself: “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” And do it.
Do something that your spouse will never know about. Do it just because you love and care about your spouse Not for reciprocation or out of guilt or obligation. Just because you want to make a tiny part of their life easier or better.
Surprise your spouse with something unexpected. Out of nowhere. Make sure the surprise is about your spouse and not about you.
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REFLECTIONS ABOUT CHESED IN YOUR MARRIAGE
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REFLECTIONS ABOUT CHESED IN YOUR MARRIAGE
How do you act with Chesed in your marriage?
1. Unconditionally? Do you give to your spouse –unconditionally … just to make them feel good … on their terms … without expecting anything in return? Do you express appreciation and give compliments - often and freely? The kind that they appreciate, not only the type that you feel comfortable giving?
2. Fully? Do you dedicate time and energy just for your spouse? Do you give the gift of listening? Of your smile? Every day? What do you do every day to make your spouse feel special?
3. Sincerely? Does your spouse sense sincerity in your giving? Does your way of giving uplift your spouse’s dignity (or at least leaves them with their dignity)?
4. Consistently? Do you give and love only when you are in the mood? Or do you give simply because you care and you made a soul commitment to your spouse?
5. Freely? Do you give happily – with full soul-love? Even when things are not quite so ‘perfect’? Or is it somewhat begrudgingly?
What will you do to enhance your love and kindness in your marriage and family life?
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TALK TOGETHER ABOUT CHESED IN YOUR MARRIAGE
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TALK TOGETHER ABOUT CHESED IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Ask your spouse:
"What types of giving make you feel loved?"
"What words are meaningful? What expressions of love really resonate with you ('love language')? What types of gifts do you appreciate?"
"What are some things that I gave you - tiny and bigger - that you would like more of? "
Be brave, ask for insight and feedback:
"What was a time that I gave a gift or did something that didn't resonate with you, that you didn't appreciate? What could I do differently in the future?"
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