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Winter is a time the Hills start slowing down. The travelers go home, the hours in the day seem to get shorter, and the snow begins to dust the trees and streets throughout each of our communities. But then, before you know it, lights go up, the shopping frenzy begins, and holiday preparations turn into the focus of our days, weeks, and months. This holiday season, we encourage you to be present and embrace the goodness this time of year brings to your family. Through the hustle and bustle of gathering gifts and getting ready to entertain guests, take the time to be with each other. Spend a little less time on Facebook, email, and Snapchatâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;and look to the New Year with one phrase in mind: be intentional.

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CONTENTS

BUZZ 6 Be Intentional Through the hustle and bustle of the holidays, take the time to be intentional. 11 Fun & Games Tooth Fairy tips and ways to show a little positivity this season. 13 Helpful Hacks From stopping the bandage overload to making potty training fun, here are some helpful hacks to try. 14 Fight Like a Kid Five-year-old Connor has made over $4,500 from lemonade stands and rummage sales to help local kids with cancer. 16 Bully Patrol Ezra Barsch is 11 years old and is on a mission to stop bullying in schools.

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18 In a Spin Two girls in the Black Hills have reached a top-level accomplishement–recieving a double gold in figure skating. 21 Practice Makes Perfect Winter performances are a highlight of this time of year. Here’s what makes them the most special. 26 No Excuses: The Second Child’s Baby Book Making a second baby book is simple with these six tips. SPOTLIGHT: THE HOLIDAY ISSUE 28 Have a Little Fun Here are some ways to get your teen involved during Thanksgiving.

32 25 Simple Ways to Countdown to Christmas Kick off the holidays with an advent calendar filled with meaningful activities. 36 Black Hills Giving Opportunities Get into the holiday spirit and spread some Christmas cheer! 40 Let it Go: Seven Things to Stop Worrying About Parenthood is hard, but some things aren’t worth the time and effort to worry about. 42 Money Talk Discover five steps to build funds for you and your family’s future. 45 Winter Fun Attractions have closed and visitors have left, but there is still so much to do!

COLUMNS 48 Making an Impact Safe Families for Children is helping kids in the Black Hills and working to reunite families along the way. 50 Legal: Preserving Those Memories The steps to take to ensure trips to your family’s vacation home will stay a holiday tradition for years to come. 62 Generational Wisdom Robyn and her granddaughter Bailiee share their thoughts on the holiday season. LOCAL LIFE 52 Black Hills Cuties 54 Calendar

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FUN & GAMES BUZZ

CAUGHTCHA BEING GOOD

Practice positive reinforcement with a “Caughtcha Jar.” This glass or plastic jar filled with pom poms is used whenever your child does something good. Giving compliments, doing extra chores, and sharing without being told are all worthy of a pom pom. Once the jar is filled, give your child a reward, like going out for ice cream or a visit to the park. Make them excited to be well behaved by letting them help decorate the jar. Visit a craft store and pick out stickers, glitter, and ribbon together!

POSITIVE VS. VS.

NEGATIVE WORDS WORDS

Stop hitting Don’t run indoors Stop playing until your chores are done

Don’t say that

Stop yelling

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Keep your hands to yourself

Please walk Do your chores and we’ll play once you're done

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Please choose another word

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PLAYING THE TOOTH FAIRY Losing a tooth is a magical experience for kids, because it means they’ll get a visit from the tooth fairy! They’ll go to bed full of anticipation and then your job begins. Make losing a tooth a full experience by leaving a note from the tooth fairy. Use a colored marker, glitter, stickers, and colored paper. Write to them saying they need to continue practicing their dental hygiene, but disguise your handwriting—kids are craftier than you’d think! Instead of leaving the tooth under their pillow, have them decorate a tupperware container with glitter, paint, and stickers. Put the tooth in the container and set it beside their bed. This makes it easier for the fairy, so you don’t have to root around under the kid’s pillow looking for a tiny tooth. “My wife was out of town, and I forgot to do my tooth fairy duties. In the morning, my daughter was in tears. So I asked her: ‘Was it windy

last night? Fairies can’t fly in the wind.’ The next night, I made sure to leave a note from the tooth fairy apologizing for not making it last night because of the wind,” said BHParent Creative Director and clever Tooth Fairy John Edwards.

TOP 3 TOOTH FAIRY TIPS: • Younger kids may not understand the value of money. Get them excited about the tooth fairy by leaving candy or small toys instead of coins. • If they wake up while you’re doing your fairy duties, think fast and respond with something like “Is everything ok? I thought I heard you up.” Be quick on your feet so your little one won’t get suspicious. • Don’t start tooth fairy business right after they are put to bed. They’ll be excited and want to see the tooth fairy, so falling asleep might take a while. Wait a few hours to make sure they won’t wake up. Black Hills Parent

ASK THE DOCTOR How can I keep my child healthy during cold & flu season? Whether for you or for your child, there are 5 areas you should focus on in order to achieve overall health. Doing so will decrease your risk of getting a cold or the flu. These 5 areas include: 1.) Optimal Nutrition Increase your/your child’s water intake, take a vitamin D supplement and eat fruits and vegetables that are high in vitamins C & E, beta-carotene and zinc. 2.) Regular Exercise Increase your/your child’s physical activity during the winter months by playing indoor sports, swimming indoors, playing Wii Fit, etc. 3.) Spinal Health The nervous system controls all systems of the body, including the immune system. Regular chiropractic adjustments ensure proper nerve function.

Talk with your chiropractor and set up a plan that best suits your/your child’s needs. 4.) Toxin Elimination Avoid or limit the amount of processed foods, foods high in sugar and foods you/your child might be sensitive to. 5.) Emotional Balance Plenty of sleep ensures a rested body and mind. Implementing these lifestyle recommendations will help strengthen your/your child’s immune system and in return will help prevent illnesses or simply speed up the recovery process. It’s important to focus on these 5 areas year-round, but it’s especially important during cold & flu season. Dr. Robert Kuyper Alternative Health Care Center

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HELPFUL HACKS BUZZ

SPREADING GERMS Flu season for kids can be headache season for parents! The flu spreads like wildfire, especially during the school and winter seasons. Teach them how germs travel by putting colored water in a spray bottle. Spray it on a piece of paper to demonstrate how far the droplets go. This will show the kids the importance of shielding their sneezes with their arm.

• BOOST YOUR KID’S IMMUNE SYSTEM

by offering a healthy and balanced diet, keeping active, and ensuring they get enough sleep. • MAKE SURE THEY ARE UP TO DATE WITH VACCINES.

Healthy children can start getting the flu vaccine when they’re about six months old.

GRAB THE CEREAL

Help your son improve his aim by throwing cereal in the toilet. Not only does it make potty time fun, but helps keep the mess to a minimum.

• HELP THEM GET OVER THEIR NEEDLE PHOBIA

by telling them the truth about what will happen at the doctor’s office and make sure they know they’re not being punished. Give a small reward, like candy or a trip to the ice cream parlor, after the shot.

BOO BOO BAG Bandaids are a hot commodity in any house with youngsters, and they go fast! Get the most out of the bandaid box by using the “no blood, no bandaid” rule. For small injuries, use a bandaid alternative like a boo boo bag. A reusable boo boo bag can be made of fabric covering an ice pack or a bright colored frozen sponge in a bag. Other boo boo bags are small fabric squares filled with raw rice, and then heated in the microwave once the kids want to use them. Give this to your kids when they have a boo boo that isn’t bleeding. You’ll save a small fortune in bandages with this fun and simple craft!

POTTY TRAINING HACKS Once your kids are out of diapers, you’ll learn one thing: toilet paper is precious. Sure, each roll is pretty cheap, but it adds up, especially when your wallet is being pulled in a million other directions. Teach your child to conserve toilet paper by putting a “do not pass” sign under the toilet paper roll. This lets your kid know when they have enough! Potty training your kiddo is like training anything else, you have to use a ‘carrot and a stick.’ Not literally though, rewarding a carrot wouldn’t make your kid anymore likely to use

the potty right! Incentivize good potty behavior by giving a reward, like a piece of candy or extra TV time, when they do it right. If they have an accident, have them help clean it up. Training underwear will work better than you may think. Choose panties that have your child’s favorite character on them or in their favorite color, and they won’t want to make a mess in them. In public restrooms, cover the flushing sensor with a sticky note. These can be intimidating to children just learning to use the bathroom. Black Hills Parent

BUZZ AMAZING KIDS

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Five-year-old Connor from Spearfish has made over $4,500 from lemonade stands and rummage sales—more money than most five year olds have ever seen. Instead of buying a new bike or action figures, Connor donates every penny he makes to helping local kids with cancer. It all started when he saw a picture of a little girl from Lead online. She was diagnosed at 22 months with Anaplastic Astrocytoma—an inoperable brain tumor. “He saw a picture of Kamryn on my Facebook, and fell in love with her,” said Dani, Connor’s mom. He raised over $1,300 for her over a weekend. Before she passed away, their families organized a “prom” and Connor took Kamryn. They had a candlelit dinner and dance, and even wore corsages. Through the grapevine, Connor learned about other local kids with cancer, like nine-month-old Kamber and three-year-old Avery. He raised $1,500 each for both of their families 14

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through his tried-and-true method of lemonade stands and rummage sales. “Most little five-year-old boys are worried about who they are going to play ball with after school, but Connor worries about all of his friends who are fighting big battles. He hates to see them hurt and for a five-year-old, he already knows what loss feels like and it doesn’t stop him,” said Catherine Viken, Avery’s mom. “For us it is not about the money he has raised for Avery, but the friendship they have developed. Cancer is expensive and every bit helps. Connor is and will continue to move mountains.” “Every kid he finds that has cancer, he looks at me and asks: ‘What can we do to help?’ He’s definitely the most caring kid I’ve met,” said Dani. This tiny philanthropist isn’t all grown up, though! Connor just started kindergarten at Lead-Deadwood Elementary School, and says he wants to be a “fire truck” when he grows up. With his dedication, anything’s possible.

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Mia (13) and Ezra (11) Barsch of Rapid City are developing a mobile app to end bullying in our area schools.

Ezra Barsch is 11 years old and has seen the stress bullying causes his peers. At the second annual Startup Weekend in September, he took the chance to pitch an idea—an app on your phone to report bullying anonymously. The app would send an alert to teachers and have photo and video features to allow others to capture what is happening. Alerts can then be pinned on a map of the school creating a heat map to see where the bullying goes on. “I know bullying is a problem,” said Ezra. “If I could help stop bullying, kids would be less stressed and it could lead to preventing suicide, too.” After numerous pitches were presented at the Startup Weekend kickoff, attendees and presenters were able to vote on their favorites—launching Ezra into the next round of developing his startup idea. Wyatt Engel, a student at School of Mines and Technology, was impressed with Ezra’s idea and joined the Bully Patrol team to help with development. “I was planning on doing a pitch myself,” said Wyatt, “but after hearing

Ezra’s idea for a bully buster phone app, I knew it was a winning idea with a significant impact that I could relate to.” Ezra’s sister Mia also joined the team. “Bullying awareness is something I like to work on because it’s important,” explained Mia. “Not a lot of teenagers think about when they say something mean, it can really hurt someone.” The team took the Startup Weekend event’s 54-hour time allotment to poll peers and community members around Rapid City, develop their business plan, and build the pieces their app would include. The team presented in front of a group of investors, and the Bully Patrol app was awarded first place. Bullying affects 1 in 4 students in the US, according to the Center of Disease Control and the Department of Education. But, with the help of the Bully Patrol app, numbers are sure to decrease. “Ezra is incredibly intelligent for his age and has characteristics most adults don’t,” said Wyatt. “You’ll definitely be hearing about Bully Patrol.”

Movers and Shakers Come Together The Black Hills’ most innovative movers and shakers of all ages congregate at a local office once each year. They begin by sharing their ideas, then voting on which startups would be successful. Then the work begins. In a 54-hour period, business plans are created, surveying and testing is done, then the team presents their startup idea to a group of investors.

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Only one percent of US Figure Skating members reach the level of double gold medalist, and these local teens did it before graduating high school. words Kelsey Sinclair

in a spin As far back as the 13th century, the Dutch would ice skate on frozen canals to travel to other villages. The sport eventually spread to England and then to the rest of Europe. Today, two girls in the Black Hills are spinning closer and closer to their goals for gold. Close friends and Black Hills Figure Skating Club members Lauren Eccarius (17) and Alex Rogers (17) are the only skaters from the Black Hills to earn the distinction of being double gold medalists. Only one percent of US Figure Skating members reach that level, and these incredible teens did it before graduating high school. Two years ago, Alex moved from Rapid City to Colorado Springs so she could be close to world-class coaches and in a more competitive environment. “When Alex was young, it was primarily a recreational activity, and I thought families who picked up and moved for a sport were insane. And now here I am,” said Alex’s mom Chris. “I laugh about it, but when you see your child has the talent, drive, motivation, and willingness to sacrifice a normal schedule, then you are willing to sacrifice right along with her.” She starts school at 7 a.m., and she gets to the ice rink at 1 p.m.—training for a couple hours. She does an off-ice workout that includes cardio and weights, and to improve even further, she does yoga, physical therapy, and dance.

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Closer to home, Lauren decided she wanted to stay with family and friends in Rapid City. Still, she goes down to Colorado Springs for one week every month. Like Alex, she skates four hours a day with four different coaches. A couple days per week, she’ll get up at 5 o’clock in the morning to skate before school. She also skates everyday after school. When Lauren needs help, she sends a video to one of her coaches outside of the state.

“I could not be more proud of her. She has always wanted to skate. I’ve never had to make her go to a practice,” said Lauren’s mom Alison. Kids who are interested in figure skating start by taking Learn to Skate classes offered by the city. After a two to three years progressing through the classes, serious skaters can consider joining the Black Hills Figure Skating Club. The club has five one-hour sessions of ice time throughout the week, but skate

schedules can be as intense as the skater wants. Some skaters even practice at 6 o’clock in the morning to get more ice time! “Skating is a very physically rigorous sport, but it is also artistic,” said Val Simpson, President of the club. “I’m so proud of Lauren and Alex for reaching the level they’re at and being the first ones in the Black Hills to be double gold medalists. They’ve worked towards their goals for over 10 years now, and they give the other girls something to look up to.” Black Hills Parent

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PERFORMING ARTS HOLIDAYS

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Truly being there for your kids is perhaps the greatest gift parents will ever give.It isn’t always easy this time of year, especially for parents of children in the performing arts. Between practice at home, rehearsals after school, and performances—band, choir, orchestra, ballet, and theater can ask a lot of students—and the family as a whole. But, as Central High School Theater Director Justin

Speck attests, the performing arts give us something precious: the chance to “truly express ourselves.” “Oftentimes we never feel validated until we hear it truthfully from someone other than our parents,” explained Justin, “and for some students, participating in performance arts could be the first time they feel completely validated.” Making Black Hills Parent

Practice time is absolutely a labor of love and the rewards are immeasurable. We can see it in the days and nights before the big performance, as all that hard work is transformed into excitement.

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those first steps onto a stage of any kind, and facing a crowd, are often some of a child’s first experiences of really putting themselves out there. They are also perhaps the first moments they begin to understand who they really are and what they’re capable of. Through it all, a parent’s presence is a tremendous gift—even during those years when it feels so hard to connect to their kids. Todd Brink and his three sons made Black Hills Community Theater’s annual all-ages productions a family affair and looked forward to it every year. Rehearsals were “a chance to spend quantity time,” he reflects—time he argues is just as important as quality time. “For two to three hours every night, for six to eight weeks, I got to be in the same room with my kids.” That time together expanded beyond rehearsal, too–exploring characters in the car and practicing lines over pancakes on Saturday mornings. Over and over Todd gave his sons “little nuggets of encouragement,” building up their confidence and then “staying out of their way,” he laughs. Christine Stephenson, mother of 8-year-old Elsa appreciates the Black Hills Suzuki School’s parent participation policy for the same reasons. Every day, they take time to practice Elsa’s violin. “I will never regret the bonding she and I will have from practicing together. It’s not always fun,” Christine admits, “but it’s also a lesson in delayed gratification. It’s a good lesson for parents and kids.” Practice time is absolutely a labor of love and the rewards are immeasurable. Parents can see it in the days and nights before the big performance, as all that hard work is transformed into excitement. Once the enthusiasm turns to fearful jitters—children again look to their parents for comfort. Taking the stage and gazing out into a sea of unfamiliar faces can unseat even the strongest resolve, but seeing Mom or Dad in the crowd is comforting— even if they won’t admit it.

And when the curtain goes up, we get yet another truly precious gift; the chance to watch children bravely face their world—and themselves. When Audrey Perli, just seven years old at the time, was cast as Gretl in the Black Hills Community Theater production of The Sound of Music, her mother Holly watched with pride as she worked to memorize her lines. The little girl had learned to read only two years before, and when the time came for her solo, “she just stepped up to the challenge,” Holly extols. “It was so precious.” Christine echoes that sentiment. “I get to see my little girl who has worked so hard every day,” Christine iterates. “Suddenly, she’s on the stage with poise, confidence, and focus. She plays as beautifully as she can and it makes me so proud. It’s a gift we’re giving her that we appreciate only in moments— because it’s a gift that requires all of us.” Amidst the decorating, the parties, and the never ending list of events to attend, the performance arts can provide a chance to give our greatest gift; presence. It is a gift we give to our children—an investment in our shared bond and in their future. It is also a gift our children give to us, when our hearts fill to bursting as we witness them taking one more step into themselves and on to life’s stage. The memories of the botched costume changes or missed notes will serve as warm reminders of the moments when we knew our children could overcome any obstacle, moments when we watched them learn they could recover from mistakes and go on to shine. When they’re grown we’ll look back on the hours spent practicing and rehearsing, long nights and full weekends, as treasured time together. The fond memories are making now the perfect time to remember the gift of our presence is perhaps the most treasured gift of all this holiday season.

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MEMORIES HOLIDAYS

A lot of people told me when I had my second child some things would fall by the wayside. It’s true; some things definitely had to give. Maybe I don’t wash my hair as much as I used to and I have entire seasons of shows DVR’d that I’ll probably never get to, but I have tried to make keeping baby books for my girls a priority by carving out just a few minutes here and there. The first months and years are so fleeting and I’m sentimental about holding onto those memories. Here are a few of my own helpful tips for making baby books easy and do-able. SIMPLE IS BEST It can be tempting to try to go overthe-top with all the design software and scrapbooking supplies on the market, but are you really going to follow through and find pleasure in doing those things on top of the million other tasks motherhood throws at you? I opted for a simple pre-made baby book with plenty of prompts for writing down meaningful memories and milestones as well as space for photos, birth announcements, and other tidbits. EASY ACCESS Because the books I purchased cover the first five years, I keep them handy so jotting down a memory is simple and quick. I keep my daughters’ baby books along with some nice pens, a couple glue sticks, and some scrap booking scissors in a drawer in the hallway. PRINT THOSE PHOTOS We all have tons of photos on our phones and digital cameras, but sometimes it’s easy to forget to print

them. I try to do a monthly purge of my photos and upload them to a website. I use Shutterfly, but other options include Snapfish, Target, and even Walgreens. Some sites offer subscription printing services with discounts. You don’t have to print every picture you take. I pick a few favorites and order prints at least once every few months to make sure to have plenty of photos in the baby books. CONSISTENCY RULES I bought my older daughter’s baby book at Target and was delighted to find the same one on Amazon for my youngest. I like that their books match and will have the same milestones documented for each of them. If you are unable to find the same baby book for each of your children, try to find books with prompts for similar memories. That way no one feels left out later when they are reading their special books. BIT BY BIT It would be incredibly daunting to sit down when your baby is three and try to fill out an entire book. I started filling the books out during pregnancy and spend just a few minutes per month updating them. It truly does not have to be time-consuming. I carve out a little time each month on my lunch break or when my husband takes my daughters to the park. Don’t overthink it. Jot down the thoughts and memories that immediately come to mind—those are the most important ones. Documenting the milestones shortly after they occur makes it easier to remember the details.

Katie Wiederholt is a former newspaper reporter and corporate communicator now working in health care financial services. She writes about marriage, parenting, travel, and more on her blog ahousewithcharacter.com.

SHARE Don’t keep the book hidden away all the time! My almost three-year-old loves looking at her special book. I keep it safely out of her reach in a drawer, but am happy to pull it out and flip through it with her whenever she asks. After all, the reason we keep baby books is to remind our children how special they are. Black Hills Parent

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THANKSGIVING HOLIDAYS

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one are the days of paper pilgrim hats and storytelling—and it can get nerve wracking preparing for a holiday with a teenager. Who will show up? The sweet kid who laughs at your uncle’s jokes, or the pre-teen who would rather hide out in their room than be downstairs entertaining guests. The teen years can be hard for all parties involved, but it doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun!

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Keeping them off their phone may be a long shot, but you can take advantage of their internet obsession. Have them search the rabbit holes of YouTube to create a Thanksgiving playlist filled with songs, funny video clips, and tutorials. Then, let them share their findings with family so they feel involved during holiday activities. It’s always more fun when Aunt Susan can crack a smile at a cat video. Have a crafty teen? They can also look up festive, Pinterest-worthy Thanksgiving recipes and crafts. From place cards to appetizers—you may be pleasantly surprised what they will create! For the more tech-savvy teens, encourage them to take photos and record the highlights of the day on their phone. They can use free video editing software to splice the clips together, and you’ll have a heartwarming homemade video to remember the day.

Thank the chef

Keep your teen engaged by letting them help this holiday!

Ready for the pumpkin pie? How about the stuffing, casseroles, turkey? Thanksgiving is, hands down, one of the best holidays to get your creative culinary juices flowing. In the days leading up to Thanksgiving, have older kids pick out a simple recipe they can cook themselves to test for the big day. When festivities begin, get your teen involved and teach them a family-favorite recipe. You’ll get them off their phones, into a filled kitchen, and they can learn new cooking skills—even if it just peeling the potatoes or putting rolls in the oven! Tia Van Pelt, a local mom from Piedmont, has her tween daughter, Tessa, help because it makes her daughter more involved in the holiday happenings. “To get my daughter involved, I have her do things like peel potatoes, set the table, make the list, go to the store with me, help with shopping, and pick out or make decorations. I feel this gives her some ownership in the event,” explained Tia. “I have her help cook, too. She watches my mom and I do the turkey, but I have her help with most of the other

items. I like to have her help if there is a lot of measuring to get her used to reading the measuring cup. I have her read the recipe, and if she is unsure on a step— I have her tell me what she thinks it is asking. And of course both kids get to help clean up!” Shannon Jindra, another local mom from Box Elder, gives Thanksgiving Day jobs to her kids so the adults can relax and not worry about things like the dishes. “We do try and get them involved as much as possible with the prep work for cooking the meal, but honestly the thing we have them help with most is clean up. When we go home, we have multiple Thanksgivings to attend, but we have one that is very large and we usually have it at my parent’s church. The tweens and teenagers did all the dishes the last time we had it, which left the parents to be able to visit with family,” explained Shannon.

You’ve got this

Your home will probably be packed on the holidays with dozens of extended family members. Make your tween feel like an adult and give them a job with the guests. This can be something like being in charge of games, making sure everyone gets drinks, babysitting younger kids, or hanging up everyone’s coats when they come in. “We have had Thanksgiving at our home a couple times. We only had grandparents come over, but I had Tessa greet everyone and get them drinks— coffee, tea, water, or punch—which she had made,” said Tia.

It’s all fun and games

When planning for the big day, include games they’ll enjoy. While the younger children are doing crafts and kids games, tweens can feel left out. Plan some tweenappropriate activities—whether that is outdoor sports like soccer or cornhole, board games like Monopoly or Apples to Apples, or unique games like bobbing for apples or sack racing. Want to really throw your teen through a loop? Recreate some nostalgia and revisit childhood together by doing some of your favorite things growing up. Remember, they’re making memories that will last a lifetime—even if they’re not jumping up and down for the pumpkin pie you’ve spent hours on. Tweens and teens have a way of acting underwhelmed even when they’re having a ball. You’ve tried your hardest to get them involved, happy, and feeling loved—that’s the best you can do. Now sit down and dig into that turkey leg! Black Hills Parent

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HOLIDAYS CHRISTMAS

25 Simple ways to countdown to Christmas

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hen the holiday season unofficially kicks off on Black Friday, a whirlwind of activity ensues that leaves families almost breathless by the end of December. Instead of rushing through the month, be intentional about what you say yes to this holiday season. Rather than over-committing to too many parties and activities that take you away from your family, focus instead on infusing the holiday spirit into your family. But how can you accomplish this without cramming more activities into an already frenetic season? Create an advent calendar, with 25 days of simple, meaningful holiday activities that focus on giving, family, friendship, fun, and tradition. You can buy an inexpensive advent calendar with pockets and fill each day with a fortune-cookie style paper noting the day’s activity, or simply write the activity-of-the-day on the family calendar you already use. Starting on December 1, implement one idea each day to slow down your holidays and focus on intentional activities that create lasting memories.

Play the Giving Game. Brainstorm a list of ways you can give to others without buying something from a store. (Examples: give a smile, a hug, an encouraging word, a helping hand, etc.) Post the list on the fridge as a daily reminder. Each night (at dinner or before bedtime), ask kids to share how they gave to others throughout the day. Track everyone’s daily “gifts,” and at the end of the week, the child who gave the most gets to choose a holiday flick to watch for family movie night.

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Grab your blankets and a cup of hot cocoa and cozy up to watch a family-favorite holiday film together. Switch it up by letting different family members choose each week. Go on a nature hike and bring along gifts to leave for forest critters, such as handfuls of birdseed or pieces of peanut butter-smeared bread.

Designate a “chores for charity” week. If you normally pay your kids for their daily chores, ask them to donate their earnings (matched by mom and dad) to a charity of their choosing. If you don’t normally pay for chores, conduct a “chores for charity” weekend with a menu of special paid jobs to choose from (i.e., raking leaves, cleaning the family car’s interior, washing windows, etc.). Pool everyone’s wages and let the kids drop the family donation into a Salvation Army kettle.

Play Christmas tourist in a neighboring town. Pop in a local gift shop to check out holiday treasures. Walk along the storefronts and look at holiday window displays. Grab a sweet treat at a local bakery you’ve never been to before.

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Cull through old toys, books, and clothes to give to needy families. Take your kids with you to donate the items together.

Allow your kids to decorate their bedroom doors for Christmas and offer up supplies of garland, ornaments, ribbons, etc.

Invite grandma or a favorite uncle to a craft day or baking day at your house to ensure your holiday fun extends to other family members.

Adopt an international Christmas tradition. The Swedes celebrate St. Lucia Day on December 13, which marks the beginning of the Christmas season and focuses on St. Lucy being the light during the long, dark Scandinavian winters. Light up your own holiday season by eating breakfast or dinner together by candlelight. Or adopt the French tradition of making buche de Noel, a traditional cake that resembles a Yule log with bark-colored frosting and a rich, buttercream filling. Decorate it with “snow” by sprinkling confectioner’s sugar on top.

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Attend a community holiday event (such as a concert, play, craft festival, live nativity scene, or parade) and bring a lonely relative, friend, or neighbor with you. Take your family into the Hills and find the perfect tree to bring home and decorate. Bring snacks and enjoy the time together as you explore the winter wonderland. (Permits are required.)

Pick a Secret Santa among family members and do something exceptionally kind for each other every day for a week. Reveal your Secret Santa identity in a cookies-and-milk ceremony at the end of seven days.

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Instead of a lemonade stand, host a hot chocolate stand in your neighborhood, asking for donations to a local charity.

Blow holiday bubbles outside by adding red food coloring to one jar of bubbles and green food coloring to another bottle. For a crafty twist, blow the colored bubbles onto snow (or a sheet of white paper) and watch a Christmas colorburst emerge.

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Play holiday decoration bingo by driving around your neighborhood checking out the lights and yard displays while searching for Christmas items like snowflakes, inflatable Santas, Rudolph, angel tree toppers, etc.

Take back an oldfashioned tradition and go Christmas caroling in your neighborhood. Invite neighbors to join in the fun, with hot chocolate and cookies back at your house to cap off the evening’s songfest.

Create a new tradition this year and fill the Christmas tree with ornaments that represent something special each year. Head to a local store to pick out their favorites as a family. Another great family tradition option is allowing children to open one gift from under the tree on Christmas Eve!

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Let your kids sleep near the Christmas tree one night, nodding off to the soft glow of twinkling tree lights, with holiday music lulling them into a yuletide dreamland.

We’re always wishing for a white Christmas, but if there isn’t any snow, make your own! Let the kids have a flour fight in the backyard and watch them giggle as they cover each other in white clouds.

Rewrite the lyrics to a favorite holiday tune, such as the Twelve Days of Christmas, by putting your own family’s spin on the song. (“On the twelfth day of Christmas, my mother gave to me, 12 light sabers dueling, 11 markers drawing, 10 dogs a-barking…”)

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Ask each family member to choose a favorite cookie recipe. Then schedule a few baking sessions to make batches of each person’s favorite treat. Everyone helps research recipes, make a list of needed ingredients, shop for supplies, bake, clean up and, of course, eat the tasty results!

During your cookie-baking sessions, make a few extra dozen to share. Take a cookie tray to your local fire department and thank them for their service. Or divvy up cookies into little treat bags and deliver them to a few of your neighbors.

Before Christmas Day, head to the kitchen and mix up a batch of reindeer dust (red and green glitter mixed with dried oats) and sprinkle it on your front lawn. This festive concoction will help Rudolph and his flying, antlered-gang find your house throughout their travels on Christmas Eve.

Create a Christmas scavenger hunt at home, using holiday items and decorations around the house, on the porch, and in your front yard. Conclude with a family game night after the kids put back their collected treasures.

With just a bit of intentional planning, you can slow down the pace of your holiday season and create a festive, memoryfilled month your kids won’t forget.

Prepare a special treat for breakfast on Christmas morning, whether it’s something simple (such as fresh-squeezed orange juice and cinnamon toast shaped like a Christmas tree) or something more indulgent (like mulled apple cider and a sausage-and-egg casserole).

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Let it Go SEVEN THINGS TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT

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orrying—it’s something all parents do. I am guilty of it, especially when I lie awake at 3 a.m. with the silence of the house ringing in my ears. I worry about what I forgot to do, what I need to do, what I should have done, and what I already did. Parenthood is hard. There is always something to be done, someone who needs assistance, and multiple things to worry about. The list is endless but may include everything from feeding your kids healthy foods, to your child’s friendships, to what others think about your choices. Some worries are valid, but many are not worth the time and effort. What if we could learn to let them go?

not real life and what is posted on Facebook is typically the best of what is going on in reality. Embrace the fact that no one is perfect and nobody’s expecting you to be.

WHAT IF’S

Parents often worry about things that haven’t even happened yet. What if he gets sick? What if she falls and gets hurt? What if I forget something important? What if he doesn’t make the team? What if’s are not worth the energy they use. Acknowledge they are unnecessary and decide not to waste time on them. Face the problems in front of you rather than worrying about issues that do not exist.

COMPARISONS

Comparing yourself to other parents is never a good idea. Your parenting style for your children will always be different from others, but doesn’t mean it is bad. Another pitfall is comparing your children to their siblings or other children their age. Each child has their own unique personality and will develop at their own rate. If you feel your concerns are valid, consult your child’s doctor for peace of mind.

PERSONAL EXPECTATIONS

Before I became a parent, I had high expectations for myself as a mother. I had things I wanted to do and things I declared I would never do. After my first child was born, I quickly realized that I would change my perspective on most pre-child declarations. When parents accept that they are doing the best they can, at that moment, for their kids, they will be able to cross this worry off their list.

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OUTWARD APPEARANCES

A tidy house with laundry put away and dishes done, a perfectly decorated home, an amazing wardrobe, all organic, home-cooked meals, the perfect marriage, smart, athletic, creative children, and a partridge in a pear tree. We want it all and we want it to be perfect, or at least appear that way. This picture is lovely but it is not a realistic, reachable goal. It is easy to get caught up in what our families looks like to others. It does not matter if your children wear perfectly coordinating outfits. Is your child dressed in weather appropriate clothing? Great. Does it match? It’s your lucky day. Social media puts so much pressure on us to keep up with what we believe others are doing. I have a secret for you, Pinterest is

“My husband and I pray about the things we don’t have control over,” explained Kristen Begeman, mom of three pictured to the left. “It brings us a sense of peace through all situations.”

Every parent makes mistakes and it is easy to spend time worrying about what should have been done differently. The past cannot be changed and although not easy to do, we must let go of things we cannot change. We can learn from our mistakes and continue to do our best in the future. Parents have permission to let go of past mistakes and teach their children to do the same.

GUILT

Do you worry that you don’t spend enough time with your child? Do you feel guilty you were not able to breastfeed your child or that you missed a soccer game? Do you feel bad you forgot to remind your son to grab his lunch on the way out the door? The guilt of these things and more can weigh heavily on a parent

EMBRACE THE FACT THAT NO ONE IS PERFECT AND NOBODY’S EXPECTING YOU TO BE but you have permission to let it go. It is okay if you miss a game or a school party. We all have to make choices and sometimes those choices cause unnecessary guilt. Once a decision is made, move forward and let go of the feelings of guilt. They will only rob you of enjoying the present.

CONTROL

I am a recovering control freak. With each child we added to our family, I was worn down a little more. When our triplets arrived, it finally dawned on me that I am not in control. Once I realized (and accepted) this fact, a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Yes, my husband and I are still in charge of the household, but I cannot control what happens in life. It’s a roller coaster, instead of trying to steer, throw your arms up in the air and enjoy the ride. Learning to let go of these worries usually leads to feelings of relief. As we head into the New Year, remember that each family is unique and each parent handles situations differently. Relax, and enjoy your family more. Sarah Lyons, mother of six, has learned to let go of many things over the years to maintain a happy and functioning household. Black Hills Parent

HOLIDAYS NEW YEAR

MONEY TALK Saving for the future words Jenna Carda

Spend less, save more—a New Year’s resolution that is easily in many parents’ top five goals for the upcoming year; and rightfully so. Investments are important for families, from buying a house and buying a car, to building a savings fund. But, when it comes to thinking about longterm needs—is it on the top of the list? Here are five steps from local professionals to help you build funds for the future this year. Create a budget It’s that word—budget. Many dread the thought of crunching numbers and being confined to certain spending amounts, but it’s a great base to start. “Every household will have a different view on budget,” explained Josh Campbell, Sales Manager and Business Partner for the Campbell Group. “Start by writing down everything you spend and track a 30- to 60-day record to see where your money is going.” From there, find what you are able to cut. Diapers, groceries, gas—those are necessities, and so is coffee. But, instead of spending $4 per day on a caramel macchiato, try limiting the café visits to once each week. “We call it the Ramen Noodle Budget,” said Aric Lopez, Business Partner for the Campbell Group. “We’re going to control spending to get to where you want.” Stick to your budget Seriously, that word just sticks around. But in all reality, keeping to your budget will help you reach your common goal. Is your goal to buy a new house? How about putting money into retirement? Delegating money to certain pockets will help you get there faster. “Most people are just flying through their day just trying to survive,” said Josh. “But, you can correlate what you spend on your income.”

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Josh explained that his family of four has cut their grocery bill down by just shopping for the things they need on a weekly basis. “Milk keeps going up, but when we aren’t stocking our pantry of things we aren’t going to use, it keeps the costs down.” Once your costs are down and stable, it frees up a little bit of extra cash to fund your next step. Build an emergency fund To put it simply, you don’t know what’s going to happen in life. Being prepared for the unknown is a comfort your wallet will thank you for. Backed by financial guru Dave Ramsey, the number one priority when dealing with finances is to have an emergency fund for when life sends you a hiccup. From a hospital bill for a broken arm to needing to get braces repaired, life will throw little inconveniences your way. Be prepared by saving six months of expenses. Don’t worry! It doesn’t need to be built with one deposit. Take baby steps and build the fund as quickly as your budget will allow. Save for your future You’re in your thirties, so there is obviously time to build your retirement, right? Well, finance professionals agree the earlier you start, the better off you will be. “Once you are living on retirement, it’s a fixed budget,” explained Aric. “If you don’t have enough saved up to match your lifestyle, there’s going to be some hard changes you’re going to need to make.” If your job offers a 401(k) consider contributing something to it. Usually, the costs are lower since the company is buying in volume. Meet with your Human Resources department to get started. If a 401(k) is not an option, meet with a financial advisor to open an individual IRA account. You can set up direct

deposits on a monthly basis, too, which allows for consistency and stability with your retirement fund growth. Parents need to take care of themselves. When you are young, you have time to make up the expenses of lost income, but once you get older, the opportunity for growth begins to dwindle. Save for their future As your income allows for more flexibility and your bases of monthly expenses are covered, opening an education fund for your child is a great investment. Higher education inflation is much greater than regular inflation, so any money you can set aside to help is a great way to provide to your children. Of course, the earlier you can start saving, the better off you’re going to be—but, there is no age limit on setting up an educational fund. A 529 Plan lends some flexibility between children and will also grow tax deferred—meaning you don’t need to pay taxes on that money as long as it’s used for educational purposes. There are some guidelines on what the money can be used for, but is a great way to get a start on heavy expenses. As you start looking at your expenses this year and gather a plan of action heading into 2018, connect with a professional to guide you through all of the steps and process. With a professional, you will be able to discuss your goals, eye-toeye. They will also be there to hold you accountable while trying to stick to your budget in the New Year. Baby steps will get you to where you want to go, and you can determine where and how much money will be put into your accounts. There’s no right or wrong way to start saving for your future; all it takes is a single step moving in the right direction.

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winter fun Attractions are closed, tourists have left, and many folks turn into seasonal homebodies—but there is still a lot of family fun waiting in the great outdoors!

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the hardesty family This active family doesn’t stop just because the snow has started! The Hardestys from Sturgis, with mom Shantel, dad Aric, and seven-year-old Kynlee, break the winter blues with year-round hiking, tubing across the snow, and intense snowball fights. “We love to hike throughout the year! Devils Bathtub is always a good spot because the trails are easily accessible–even in the winter,” said Shantel. Hiking is perhaps the most attainable winter sport, as the only equipment needed is a good pair of hiking boots (or snowshoes depending on the weather), winter clothes to bundle up in,

and a reliable vehicle. After a fun morning hiking, this family heads to the hills for tubing over the compact snow with friends. The kids have a blast rushing down the slick hills on tubes. Before hitting the slopes, gather all necessary equipment like warm clothing, sturdy shoes, and heavy gloves—inner tubes can be found at local stores. “We love being active in the winter because it breaks up the norm of sitting inside with movies and hot chocolate. With the weather being so unpredictable in the area, you never know when you're going to be locked indoors due to the sometimes unforeseen blizzards. But, even when it blizzards and we do end up stuck at home, we also never miss an opportunity for a snowball fight,” explained Shantel.

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the schad family The Schads’ three kids— Grace (13), Lily (10), and Grant (9)—practically have skiing in their blood. Their mom Courtney grew up in Maine, while their dad Shannon grew up in Rapid City. Their paths crossed in Colorado, where they were both competitive skiers, and the rest is history! Courtney and Shannon retired from competitive skiing and moved to Rapid City to raise a family. “I would have to say that my husband and I have always been interested in skiing,” said Courtney. “Our kids have been skiing since they were two!”

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Once their kids were old enough to ski competitively, these parents volunteered to coach the Black Hills Ski Team. They love practicing on Terry Peak, near Lead and Deadwood, as well as traveling to Colorado once a year to take advantage of the slopes down there. The Schads also take skiing vacations to Montana regularly—but the Black Hills will always be their home base. “The Black Hills are a fantastic place to learn to ski. There are plenty of skiing areas, as well as it being a very family friendly environment.”

For cross country skiing in the hills, the Beaver Creek Ski System near Custer has six trails with a total distance of about 13 miles. Deerfield Reservoir Complex and Carson Draw Trail System also have established trails for cross country skiing. Weather for skiing is usually decent by late November and the snow stays packed until March or early April. Several hiking trails in the Black Hills National Forest are open to cross-country skiing and snowboarding in the winter months. Before hitting the snow, make sure it is allowed on the trail you choose.

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the bruner family The Bruner family from Spearfish is never one to turn down a hike; mom Jeannine even continued to hike and workout up to 30 weeks while pregnant! Jeannine, Dan, Natalee (11), Owen (10), Harper (6), and Jude (6 months) take advantage of the Black Hills winters by sledding, hiking, and skiing in the area’s beautiful scenery. Not all trails around the hills are suitable for families with young children, however. “My oldest two and I like to go to Community Caves in Spearfish Canyon to see the ice columns, but it is too hard for my 6-year-old and baby,” Jeannine remarked. Sledding, however, is something the entire family can get in on. Before taking the kids sledding, make sure to find a smooth hill that isn’t too steep or ends near a street, parking lot, trees, or bodies of water. Young kids should wear a helmet to ensure they don’t get any head injuries.

Their favorite sledding spots are the hill by the West Elementary or the hill by Elkhorn Ridge Golf Club. But you don’t have to be in Spearfish to take advantage of the slippery snow. From Belle Fourche to Hot Springs, western South Dakota’s rolling hills make for the perfect sledding adventure! Jeannine encourages more families to get out of the house, bundle up in warm clothes and mittens, and experience the snowcovered Black Hills. “If families can get out safely, and are properly equipped, then they should try to experience the Black Hills during the winter,” said Jeannine. “It’s so peaceful and beautiful to be in the hills after a fresh snowfall. It’s easy to want to stay curled up, but those bright, sunny days in the winter are just too good to pass up!”

Too cold to go outside? Try one of these indoor boredom busters together! • Visit a local museum or gallery to learn about the exhibits on display •P lay board games, and introduce your kids to your childhood favorites •V isit the library and pick out some books everyone will enjoy •T urn the living room into a theatre and host a movie marathon •G et crafty and find an easy DIY project on Pinterest to hang in the house •R ent a hotel room and enjoy the pool for a mini weekend getaway

•M ake up funny skits with friends and put on a show •G rab your bowling shoes and head to the lane for an afternoon of fun •B uild a fort out of blankets and chairs •T ake a mom and me class at a local event center •B ake away and make yummy treats for family and friends

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MAKING AN IMPACT SAFE FAMILIES FOR CHILDREN AT BETHANY CHRISTIAN SERVICES Renee Eggebraaten Branch Director of Bethany Christian Services Katie Caldwell Coordinator of Safe Families for Children For more information visit bethany.org. words Jenna Carda photos Jesse Brown Nelson

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Life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs. Through the good and the bad, our life is better with people who care—moms, dads, grandparents, siblings. Could you imagine not having their support? For many parents in Rapid City, there isn’t someone for them to lean on. That is where Safe Families for Children steps in. This nationwide, nonprofit volunteer movement provides hope and support to families—keeping children safe, out of foster care, and reunifying families. Bethany Christian Services added the Safe Families services in 2014 and has been able to help nearly 120 children in three short years. “I was immediately drawn to Safe Families because it is a ministry—a real-life, hands-on opportunity for the church to demonstrate the love of compassion of Jesus Christ, which is Bethany’s mission statement,” said Renee Eggebraaten, the Branch Director of

Bethany Christian Services in Rapid City. From incarceration and hospitalization to job loss and home transitions, Safe Families is there for parents to utilize. It is a free resource keeping their children safe while they navigate situations they come up against. Being there for others is one reason Katie Caldwell joined the team as the Safe Families for Children Coordinator at Bethany Christian Services. “If I didn’t have the people in my network that I do, I could very well be in the same shoes as these people we are helping,” said Katie. “It can happen to anyone, and I want to help those people who do not have a network to have one.” The drive and determination the team carries is also found in the volunteers who open their homes to care for the children in need through Safe Families. Samantha Stuenzi and her husband became volunteers in June of this year and are fulfilling something that has been heavy on Samantha’s heart for years. Samantha’s parents divorced when she was young, but her mom had grandparents and extended family to support her throughout the hiccups in life. As Samantha got older, she began to realize not everyone has those same connections to lean on. “It’s always been on my heart, and I’ve said ‘eventually I want to do something–when the time is right’,” said Samantha. But, she began to realize there would never be a “perfect time” to begin. “So, I said ‘let’s do it!’” After applying to be a volunteer and a screening process which includes references and a background check, Samantha and her husband received an in-home visit from Safe Families to go over their daily schedules and their preferences on the children they would potentially host. Within weeks, a five-year-old girl was placed with the Stuenzi family. “It makes me happy seeing happy kids,” Samantha said with a smile. “Knowing and hoping that when all is said and done, they can be a family again and have the confidence and tools to live the life they want to live is why I am a volunteer through Safe Families.” Interested in becoming a Safe Families for Children volunteer? Visit bethany.org or give Katie a call at 605-343-7196.

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Ah, the holidays—good food, gifts, crafts, and more food. There’s nothing quite like being able to gather together as a family and reminisce about the past. For many people these holiday gatherings take place at a family cabin or vacation home. Oftentimes, these locations carry significant meaning for everyone in the family. Because of this, it is important for families to discuss how vacation homes will be handled when Grandma and Grandpa pass away. All planning of this sort should start with bringing everyone to the table and talking. It may sound simple, but all too often, families skip this step–assuming they already know what everyone wants. However, many times adult children and their spouses have different plans in mind than what others may think. In a family with four adult children, it may be that only two of those children are interested in taking on the ongoing responsibility of maintaining the family cabin. An honest conversation about this can help avoid unnecessary difficulties in the future. Once the family members have shared their individual thoughts on the matter, the current owners of the property (usually Grandma and Grandpa) should meet

with an attorney to talk about the best way to achieve their future wishes for the cabin. There are numerous options, including a Trust, an LLC, individual owner, etc. A clear understanding of the advantages and disadvantages associated with each of these options is essential to making an informed decision about which option is right for your family. After Grandma and Grandpa have put a plan in place, it is essential the plan is communicated to the rest of the family. Nothing is worse than the mass confusion that ensues when someone realizes the property taxes on the family cabin are due one week after Grandma passed away and no one knows who’s supposed to pay taxes, or who actually owns the cabin now. This holiday season, bake the cookies, wrap the gifts, put the kids to bed, open a bottle of wine, and gather around the table. Talk about your favorite childhood memories—laugh, cry, eat a cookie, and talk about the future. Talk about your kids sitting around that same table someday, and then talk about how to make it happen. Happy Holidays from my family to yours!

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CALENDAR NOVEMBER Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151

NOVEMBER FREE - Every Tuesday

Book Buddies

A library storyteller shares enchanting tales for families. Age: 0-3, 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Tuesday

Storytime & Crafts with Jane

4-H Youth Program Advisor Jane Amiotte shares stories with children followed by a craft related to the theme that day. Age: 3-10, 10:30-11 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Tuesday

Toddler Storytime

9:30-10:30 a.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330 FREE - Every Tuesday

Pre-K Storytime

10:30-11:30 a.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330 FREE - Every Wednesday

Tiny Tales Storytime Library storytime will entertain children with storytelling, flannel boards, puppetry, and engaging music. 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Thursday

Baby Bookworms

Bring your little ones for a funfilled story time led by a library storytellers. Age: 0-3, 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Thursday

Toddler Storytime 10:30-11 a.m., Hot Springs

Wednesday 1

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs Brampton Beast 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 FREE - Thursday 2

Why Not You: Foster Care/Adoption Information Come and learn more about foster care and adoption! All local agencies will be present. These are children waiting to become a member of a loving family. RSVP appreciated. 12 p.m. (lunch) or 6 p.m. (dinner), Dahl Arts Center, 713 7th St., Rapid City, 605-343-2811 FREE - Thursday 2

Youth (8-12) Archery Skills

Learn how to shoot a compound bow and archery hunting techniques 6:30-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310

football! SDSM&T Hardrockers take on Colorado Mesa University. 1 p.m., O’Harra Stadium, 501 E. St. Joseph St., Rapid City, 605-394-2511 Friday 3 - Saturday 4

Girlfriend’s Weekend

In-store deals and special events. Join your girlfriends for a weekend in the Hills! Downtown Hill City, 605-574-2368

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Bring friends to try out a new sport or for some friendly competition. 6:30-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Saturday 4

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Youth (8-12) Shooting Skills

Practice safety and shooting positions to become a successful hunter. 6:30-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310

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Family Tracking and Trailing Learn techniques for locating game in the field, before and after the hunt. 10-11 a.m. & 1-2 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310

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Learn how to shoot a compound bow and archery hunting techniques 11-12 p.m. & 2-3 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310

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Veterans Day

Rapid City Rush vs. Brampton Beast 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Free admission for veterans. A donation of three cans of food is appreciated. Crazy Horse Memorial, 12151 Avenue of the Chiefs, Keystone, 605-673-4681

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Tweens Get Crafty!

Calling all tweens and early teens who are looking to get crafty! Join us for an activity day on the third Wednesday of each month. The program requires a minimum age of 10. 3:30-5 p.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330 FREE - Thursday 16

Family Jerky Making

Learn tips and techniques for making your wild game into jerky. Practice cutting and seasoning. Taste testing will be a bonus. 6-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310

Thursday 16-18

SDHSAA Volleyball Championships

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center All matches webcast on SDPB. org; Championships on SDPB-TV.

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Youth (8-12) Shooting Skills

Practice safety and shooting positions to become a successful hunter. 6:30-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Friday 17

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 FREE - Friday 17-18

Holiday Art Market

Take a break from crowded stores and visit the Holiday Art Market at

the Dahl for a variety of unique, handmade items from dozens of local artists. This fun, festive event includes jewelry, scarves, greeting cards, books, pottery, fiber arts, paintings, photos, Native art, Christmas cards, ornaments, and more! 4-7 p.m. (Friday) & 10 a.m.-4 p.m. (Saturday), John T. Vucurevich Event Center, Dahl Arts Center, 713 7th St., Rapid City, 605-3944101 FREE - Saturday 18

Youth (8-12) Survival Basics

Learn basic survival skills that could save your life if you get lost. 10-11:30 a.m. & 1-2:30 p.m. (family), Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Saturday 18

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 FREE - Saturday 18

Annual Buffalo Auction

Each November, Custer State Park auctions between 200 and 500 head of live buffalo. Buyers and spectators from around the United States come to watch and participate in the annual auction. Buffalo are generally purchased to supplement an existing herd, to start a herd, or to eat. 10 a.m.-3 p.m., Custer State Park Visitor Center, 13329 US HWY 16A, Custer, 605-255-4515 Saturday 18

Ice Rink Opening Day

The Main Street Square ice skating rink opens for the winter season. A family movie will be shown at dusk. 10 a.m.-10 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City 605-716-7979 Wednesday 22

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Edmonton Oilers 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Thursday 23

SDHSAA All-state Chorus & Orchestra

Over 1,000 musicians share their talents in a concert recorded Oct. 28 in Sioux Falls. 1 p.m. CT / Noon MT on SDPB-TV Thursday 23

South Dakota Elementary Chorus

Dozens of 4th-6th graders perfom in a concert recorded Oct. 28. 2:30 p.m. CT / 1:30 MT on SDPB-TV

Friday 24

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 11 a.m.; 12:45 p.m. & 2:30 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222 FREE - Friday 24-25

Olde Tyme Christmas

A family-friendly event that welcomes Christmas with a parade, Christmas tree lighting, roasted chestnuts, hot cider and cookies, and special guests and events throughout the townâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s shops, attractions and train museum. An old-fashioned, small town lighted parade kicks off at 6PM sharp. Santa visits with children and hands out apples at the SD State Railroad Museum following the parade. A wonderful tradition to enjoy with your family! Downtown, Hill City, 605-574-2368 Friday 24

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Edmonton Oilers 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Friday 24 - Dec. 24

Christmas Night of Light Begins

Storybook Island becomes a winter wonderland during the Christmas Night of Light event. Check out all your favorite storybook

characters dressed up in lights for the holiday season. Begins November 24 and ends December 24, Storybook Island, 1301 Sheridan Lake Rd., Rapid City 605-342-6357 FREE - Saturday 25

Turkey Trivia Trail

Hike through the exhibits and along outside trails to learn some interesting Turkey Trivia! Did you know they are related to pheasants? This is a great way to walk off those Thanksgiving treats! 10-3 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4130 Adventure Trail, Rapid City, 605-394-2310 FREE - Saturday 25

Holiday Celebration & Winter Market

Usher in the holiday season with a festive celebration, including ice skating, tree lighting, Santa Clausâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s arrival, and musical performances to delight young and old alike. Shop the Winter Market, featuring a collection of local vendors where you are sure to find that perfect handcrafted gift. 2-6 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City, 605-716-7979 FREE - Saturday 25

Festival of Lights Parade

Featuring glowing floats covered in thousands of lights, horse-drawn carriages, animated scenes on flatbed trucks, sparkling vehicles, animals adorned in holiday decor, marching bands, and even a full-size passenger locomotive with over 100,000 lights, the parade has earned its reputation as the premier winter event in South Dakota, with lots of floats, music, food, fun, and more! 6 p.m., Downtown, Rapid City, 605-340-0914 Saturday 25

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m.; 2:30 p.m. & 4:15 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222

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Book Buddies

A library storyteller shares enchanting tales for families. Age: 0-3, 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Tuesday

Storytime & Crafts with Jane

Baby Bookworms

Bring your little ones for a funfilled story time led by a library storytellers. Age: 0-3, 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Wednesdays 6, 13, 20

Holiday Concerts

Quality, family-friendly holiday entertainment to enjoy over the noon hour. Attendees are invited to bring a sack lunch or just enjoy the holiday flavor! 12-1 p.m., Dahl Arts Center, 713 7th St., Rapid City, 605-394-4101 FREE - Every Thursday

Toddler Storytime

10:30-11 a.m., Hot Springs Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151

Festival of Trees

Beautifully decorated trees, wreaths, and more can be found at this Spearfish festival. Through this event, the Zonta Club of Spearfish can raise funds that allow them to support community groups and those in need. Tretheway Pavilion, S. Canyon St., Spearfish, 605-722-1430 Friday 1

Ugly Sweater Skate Party

Don your ugly sweaters and join Main Street Square for a holiday party on the rink! Entertainment, prizes and more will make the night fun for all ages. 5-9 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City 605-716-7979 Saturday 2

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m. & 2:30 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222 FREE - Saturday 2

Custer Christmas Parade

28th annual Custer Christmas Parade. 5:30 p.m., Downtown, Custer, 800-992-9818 Wednesday 6

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Colorado Eagles 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Saturday 9

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m. & 2:30 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222

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Saturday Art Adventures - Home Sweet Home

It’s the annual make-and-take gingerbread house craft at the Dahl! This holiday fun-day will be a buffet of sweet creative construction. Get into the holiday spirit with special music, art and an edible craft. Don’t forget we also have free holiday-inspired gallery scavenger hunts for the adventurous. All supplies provided. 1-3 p.m., John T. Vucurevich Event Center, Dahl Arts Center, 713 7th St., Rapid City, 605-3944101 Tuesday 12-20

Hanukkah

May the lights of Hanukkah usher in a better world for all mankind. Wednesday 13-16

Lakota Nation Invitational

For over 40 years, the Lakota Nation Invitational has provided Native American kids from across the country with the opportunity to compete. Events include basketball, volleyball, cross country, hand games, cheerleading, business plans, wrestling, powwow, Lakota language bowl, art show, knowledge bowl, poetry slam, and more. Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Thursday 14-16

Fezziwig’s Feast

Dinner Theater show at the Hilton Garden Inn. Adapted by Jon Cranney, based on A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens. 7 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 815 E. Mall Dr., Rapid City, 605-791-9000 Friday 15

Lights on the Ice Teen Night

Saturday 16

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m. & 2:30 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222 Sunday 17

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m.; 2:30 p.m. & 4:15 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222 Wednesday 20

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Friday 22

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Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Friday 22

Holiday Express

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m.; 2:30 p.m.; 4:15 p.m. & 6 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222

The ice rink is transformed into a dance party for teens complete with lights and today’s top hits. 5-9 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City 605-716-7979

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Skates and a Movie

Come watch a movie on the Main Street Square big screen. Cozy up next to the fire pit or skate to your favorite scenes. 5-7 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City 605-716-7979

Downtown Countdown

Spend the last night of the year at Main Street Square. The ice rink will be transformed into a dance party, complete with lights on the ice and interactive games. 5-9 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City 605-716-7979

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd,. Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Monday 25

Christmas Day

“For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” Luke 2:11-14 Friday 29

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Colorado Eagles 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

First Day Hike

Experience the solitude of winter in Custer State Park as you learn about the area flora, fauna and wildlife on this two-mile trail that parallels Grace Coolidge Creek. Age: 5+, 10 a.m., Peter Norbeck Outdoor Education Center, 13329 U.S. 16, Custer, 605-255-4464

Game Lodge Snowshoe Hike

Holiday Express

Saturday 23

FREE - Monday 1

FREE - Saturday 13

Saturday 23

Take a journey from Hill City to the North Pole where Santa will be waiting to get on board the train. Each ticket includes: train ride, hot chocolate, sugar cookie, candy cane, a small gift for each child, and a visit with Santa. 12:45 p.m.; 2:30 p.m.; 4:15 p.m. & 6 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-574-2222

Baby Bookworms

JANUARY FREE - Every Tuesday

Book Buddies

A library storyteller shares enchanting tales for families. Age: 0-3, 9:30-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 610 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-394-4171 FREE - Every Tuesday

Storytime & Crafts with Jane

Experience the solitude of winter in Custer State Park as you learn about the area flora, fauna and wildlife on this two-mile trail that parallels Grace Coolidge Creek. 10 a.m., Peter Norbeck Outdoor Education Center, 13329 U.S. 16, Custer, 605-255-4464 Monday 15

Martin Luther King Jr. Day

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?’” - Martin Luther King Jr. Friday 19-21

Rush Hockey

Rapid City Rush vs. Utah Grizzlies 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Friday 26 - Feb. 11

Rabbit Hole: A Drama in the Studio Theater

Becca and Howie Corbett have everything a family could want, until a life-shattering accident turns their world upside down and leaves the couple drifting perilously apart. Winner of the 2007 Pulitzer Prize for Drama, Rabbit Hole charts their bittersweet search for comfort in the darkest of places and for a path that will lead them back into the light of day. Adult language and themes. 2 p.m. on Jan. 28, Feb.4; 11 & 7:30 p.m. on Jan. 26, 27, Feb. 2, 3, 9, 10, Black Hills Community Theater, Rapid City, 605-394-1786 Friday 26 - Feb. 4

Black Hills Stock Show

The stock show features over 90 different agricultural events such as the crowd favorites—the Ranch Rodeo, Sheep Dog Trials, Bronc Match, and the World’s Smallest Rodeo. Central States Fairgrounds, 800 San Francisco St., Rapid City 605-355-3861 FREE - Monday 29

9th Annual Men in Black Basketball Game

Join the Rapid City Catholic School System for the 9th Annual Men in Black Basketball Game! (St. Elizabeth Seton Elementary students vs teachers, St. Thomas More Middle School students vs teachers, and St. Thomas More High School students vs priests) This family-friendly event will benefit both the Diocese of Rapid City Vocations Office and the STM Mission Jamaica Team. Free-will Offering Meal served at 5 p.m. in the STM commons. 5 p.m., St. Thomas More High School, 300 Fairmont Blvd., Rapid City, 605.343.8484

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Do you know someone in the Black Hills who is doing something amazing? Email ideas to editorial@blackhillsparent.com

Black Hills Parent

COLUMN GENERATIONS

The holidays are a time we get together as a family. The house is filled with our kids and grandkids, and we just enjoy being together. I love how I get a warm, cozy feeling around this time of year.

I get excited for winter. I like being able to play with my cousins and getting to talk to them in personâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; not on the phone. We get to have snowball fights, go sledding, and build snowman; then we get to go inside and have hot cocoa.

Robyn Beaird, Grandma

Bailiee BeairdTripp, age 9

SEASONAL THOUGHTS

What do you think when the seson begins to change and the snow begins to fall? Grandma Robyn Beaird and her granddaughter Bailiee share their perspectives with BHParent.

Black Hills Parent

Positive. Uplifting. 30 Days.

Take Our 30 Day Challenge. Listen to KSLT for 30 days and we believe youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll notice a different kind of radio station. Positive and uplifting, KSLT brings hope to your life. Once you finish the 30 Day Challenge, give us a call. We would love to hear from you! 1853 Fountain Plaza Dr. | Rapid City, SD | 57702 | Studio Line 605.399.1071 | kslt.com

Mom. Doctor. Local Expert in Allergy, Asthma & Immunology. Rapid City Medical Center is Excited to Welcome

Halie Anderson, MD

Allergy, Asthma & Immunology â&#x20AC;&#x153;As a pediatrician with specialty training in all aspects of adult and pediatric allergy and immunology, I am happy to be back in the Black Hills and look forward to serving the unique healthcare needs of your entire family.â&#x20AC;?

Now Scheduling for February 2018 Call to Schedule: 605-342-3280 2820 Mt. Rushmore Rd. Rapid City, SD 57701 www.RapidCityMedicalCenter.com LLP

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The Skin Institute at Rapid City Medical Center is the largest board certified group of dermatologists in the region specializing in complete skin care for your entire family.

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