RELATIONSHIPS (WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS)
Perhaps they will be with you on this journey from the beginning. If so, you are lucky to be part of a team of like-minded achievers. The discoveries you will make together and support you can provide each other will result in a quicker transition into a life of unlimited potential. If you have begun this journey alone or others in your life do not wish to join you or resist discussing your new life philosophy or belief system, then back off. Proceed on your path with dedication and perseverance regardless of their reactions. But do so humbly. Do not preach to them or criticize—either mentally or verbally—their lack of insight or agreement. Soon enough they will see the evidence of how the changes you are making are positively affecting your relationships with them. It’s not always possible to change the circumstances of your life, but changing how you react to them can make a huge difference. The people who truly love you will welcome your becoming a more loving, nurturing, tolerant person in their lives, regardless of the reasons why you are doing so. Communicate honestly and thoughtfully Even if your efforts to discuss your new philosophy of life and belief system are not welcomed or embraced, continue to communicate honestly and thoughtfully. When someone attempts to drag you back into an old pattern of emotionally charged exchanges or confrontations, respond simply and calmly with truth—respond, but do not confront. Respectfully inform them that you hear what they are saying and understand their point of view. If you disagree, say so, but do so kindly and without judgment. Your mission is not to make others wrong in their beliefs, but to show them through your actions that there is a different, better way to interact and relate. Then, you are not only improving your relationships, but also serving as a role model for others. Productive and informative discussions are constructive, but arguments only escalate emotionalism and reinforce the fears creating unresolved conflicts that no one can win. In routine interactions and conversations always say what you mean and mean what you say—but being truthful does not give you license to
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