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Hot chocolate, storytelling, and a lot of laughs are what the ALAMANCE REPERTORY THEATRE COMPANY is offering this holiday season, along with a stellar performance. 5 Wake Forest University’s Secrest Artists Series will present APOLLO’S FIRE on Thursday, Jan. 27, 2022, at 7:30 p.m. in Wait Chapel. The concert honors the 50th anniversary of the acquisition of Wake Forest’s Casa Artom... 6 The Marketplace Mall (2101 Peters Creek Parkway, Winston-Salem) is ringing in the holiday season by presenting FREE SCREENINGS of Frank Capra’s beloved 1946 classic It’s a Wonderful Life Saturday at 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. at Marketplace Cinemas, 2095 Peters Creek Parkway, WinstonSalem. Admission is free and seating is first-come, first-served, and refreshments are available for purchase. 7 The events of writer/director Maya Sarfaty’s insightful, award-winning documentary feature LOVE IT WAS NOT would seemingly be ripe for a juicy novel or a Hollywood potboiler, slathered in melodrama and sensationalism.
Throughout this past year, I had the unenviable task of writing a number of columns about celebrity friends of mine who had passed away. Now, during this season of celebration, it is only fitting that we CELEBRATE THEIR REMARKABLE LIVES and careers. Here are some excerpts from those columns. 14 A Greensboro nonprofit has converted the former Regency Inn & Suites Motel at 2701 N. O’Henry Blvd into an EMERGENCY WINTER HOMELESS SHELTER. While there seemed to be some confusion at first as to whether the converted site will supplement or completely replace the emergency measures the Interactive Resource Center (IRC) has taken in previous winters when temperatures dropped below freezing, it seems to have been cleared up. 19 Getting into the holiday spirit is always a bit EASIER WITH A SONG OR TWO— which comes especially easy thanks to Triad artists. With original tunes, covers, and shows to get the spirits flowing, ‘tis the season for one and all.
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ot chocolate, storytelling, and a lot of laughs are what the Alamance Repertory Theatre Company is offering this holiday season, along with a Naima Said stellar performance. “We wanted to celebrate the month Contributor of December with a variety of festivities for our Winston community,” said Chris Cohen, artistic director of ARTC. After kicking off the month with a Christmas Holiday Spectacular in support of Toys for Tots, ARTC knew the fun couldn’t stop there and welcomes all to attend their live performance of Mass Appeal, a play by Bill C. Davis, that follows the story of an idealistic seminary student and a Catholic priest as they try to navi-
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gate what is best for the church. “Mark Dolson is a young and brash Deacon with a passion to change the Catholic Church while maintaining the most important thing to him, the truth. He soon realizes that his journey cannot be spent alone,” said Logan Chidester, who plays Dolson in the play. “On the other hand, Father Tim Farley knows how the church works, which deals with a lot of politics and attempts to teach Mark how to navigate,” said Carl Nubile, who plays Farley. “Now you have to remember this is a drama/comedy, so the difference between age and youth, age and experience, and idealism and conformity unravel throughout the performance and leads to conflict between the two.” Both Nubile and Chidester have been part of ARTC for some time and have performed in a few productions together. “You can see the chemistry they share on stage, the familiarity and easy-going nature it is working with both of them. I couldn’t ask for a more suitable cast,” Cohen said. After the show was delayed due to Covid, everyone was thrilled to know the show could go on. “There is something special about theatre, especially black box theatre. It’s theatre for the people,” Nubile shared. “It’s the collaborative nature of it all. Theatre should be collaborative, that is why I asked Jim to direct this production. He is the type of director I am used to working with, someone who explores character, and the script and stage direction is secondary. This play is a
Logan Chidester (Mark Dolson) and Carl Nubile (Father Tim Farley) in the Alamance Repertory Theatre Company performance of Mass Appeal. two-character cast, so it is our job to really bring those characters.” Jim McKeny, prime director of Mass Appeal was welcomed with open arms to the ARTC team. “I stepped into a production that was already cast, already had all the support built-in, they just needed someone to steer the ship, so Carl asked me to come aboard. I read through the script and was sold,” McKeny said. “What makes this play so versatile is the ability to see the human condition as it morphs. Each character comes in with their own baggage, and slowly you see it shift away. Mark teaches Tim and vice versa in order for the church to hold, and to make life have value. It deals a lot with courage, morality, and personal strength.” Character dimension is an important factor in Mass Appeal, and ARTC prides itself on combining the dialogue with the pure actions and emotions faced in the play. “This play contains numerous layers. The younger generation will identify with Logan’s character because he is so idealistic and instantly angry and wants to tell you how the world is and that is how we all start, but then you get maturity as you get older to know when to say things at a correct time,” Nubile shared. “It is cleverly written and quite witty, especially when you think of a two-person play, to watch these two go at it is entertaining, to say the least.” The fun holiday festivities don’t stop there. ARTC has one final treat up its
sleeves, and it’s not just cookies. Their final holiday event, Twas the Week Before Christmas, is guaranteed to be fun for the entire family. “It is a night of carols and storytelling. This is our first year hosting this event, and it will certainly not be the last. If anything, it’ll only get bigger,” Cohen said. ARTC wanted to create a space for the entire family to come out and celebrate. “This started out as our once-a-month acoustic night, but instead of just having that night this month we decided to make it a festive event,” said Michael Gibson, co-host of the event. “We have around ten singers joining us, a lot of them from the musical theatre setting, as well as some Hannukah tales.” Twas the Week Before Christmas will include bringing to life traditional holiday stories such as The Polar Express, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, and The Night Before Christmas on stage. “We want people surprised going in, but we will share that Santa will be attending, so you don’t want to miss him,” Gibson said. “We want our guests to feel at home here, bring their children, and sip on some hot cocoa, eggnog, or for my adults, mulled wine. It’s going to be a jolly good time.” For more information and ticket sales visit: https://artctheatre.com/. ! NAIMA SAID is a 22 year old UNCG theatre graduate and host of Heeere’sNeeNee Horror Movie Podcast.
WFU Secrest Artists Series Presents Apollo’s Fire Wake Forest University’s Secrest Artists Series will present Apollo’s Fire on Thursday, Jan. 27, 2022, at 7:30 p.m. in Wait Chapel. The concert honors the 50th anniversary of the acquisition of Wake Forest’s Casa Artom, the University’s study abroad home in Venice, Italy, and will feature earlymusic chamber orchestra conducted by Wake Forest alumna Jeannette Sorrell. The program showcases concertos for multiple instruments by Bach and Vivaldi. Casa Artom is dedicated to Dr. Camillo Artom, who had fled fascist Italy and become a doctor and biochemical researcher at Wake Forest’s medical school. His wife Bianca Artom taught Italian at Wake Forest and served as the first director of the Venice program. Tickets for the community are $5-$18. More information can be found at secrest. wfu.edu or by calling the Secrest Artists
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HPU Expands Christmas Drive Tradition High Point University will once again welcome families to a complimentary Christmas Drive celebration to enjoy the sights and sounds of the holiday season. Families, friends and neighbors are invited to join in the traditions at the drive-through event from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. on Sunday, Dec. 19 through Saturday, Jan. 1. This is a fun, festive way for families to enjoy the holiday decorations and sounds of the season from the comfort of their vehicles. This year’s drive has expanded to include new decorations and campus facilities. Guests will enter at the University Parkway entrance and exit at Panther Drive onto Lexington Avenue by the new Nido and Mariana Qubein Arena and Conference Center. Located next to the new facility is the state’s tallest Christmas tree at 58 feet. Throughout campus, families can enjoy views of more than 100,000 Christmas lights, a life-size Nativity scene, 206 nutcrackers and other holiday decorations. Additional new features include more aniWWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
mals and shepherds in the Nativity scene, as well as ornaments that are 10-feet tall, and giant wreaths and garland decorating Qubein Center. “High Point University is blessed to welcome thousands of visitors to celebrate the Christmas season,” says HPU President Dr. Nido Qubein. “This is a time for families to come together and fellowship in the spirit of Christmas. We want to spread joy and love to all who visit us.” Last year, HPU welcomed 20,000 people to the Annual Christmas Drive. Families can find more information on this year’s Christmas Drive and a variety of other holiday events at www.highpoint. edu/christmas. !
The evening of Friday, December 3 was special for Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance as they lit up the night with the freshly installed Joshua Ridley Marquee at their new home located at 650 Marketing & th Communications W 6 Street. Theatre Alliance has been Manager serving the WinstonSalem community with theatrical and musical performances since 1983. The mission of the Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance is to inspire, transform, and unite the people of the Triad through a broad range of unique, diverse, and unconventional theatrical experiences. Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance relocated to 650 W 6th Street in the spring of 2021. The acquisition and move to this new space were made possible by the “Homecoming” Capital Campaign, the support of the Ihrie Family, and other generous donors. Community members joined Artistic Director, Jamie Lawson, Mayor Allen Joines, and Bob and Dr. Maureen Ihrie for this special event. Mayor Joines flipped the switch to light and unveiled the new Marquee. Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance’s building is now recognized as the Ihrie Theatre. “Flipping this switch tonight is a reflection of our biggest financial supporters Bob and Dr. Maureen Ihrie who have seen us through this project over every bump in the road,” Jamie Lawson said. “It’s an honor for Theatre Alliance to perform in this venue with their namesake.” The Marquee lighting was followed by a performance with special guest Taylor Vaden. Theatre Alliance’s next performance in the Ihrie Theatre will be Elf: The Musical December 16-21, 2021.
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Sawtooth School for Visual Art celebrated the season on December 3 and 4 with a new holiday and gift giving fundraising event that included work for sale by more than 30 Sawtooth Artists. Sawtooth, founded in 1945, has been a creative hub for Winston-Salem and neighboring regions. The institution has served generations of artists, from skilled professionals to novices of all ages. Sawtooth’s classes and events are open to everyone in the community, with class availability varying throughout the calendar year. The Artists Market featured work from directors, instructors, and students. Crafts for sale included pottery, ceramics, woodwork, prints, handmade bags, jewelry and more. Artists-instructors who were featured included: Marisa Mahathey, ceramics; Sara Sloan Stine, metalsmithing; Kim Gondring, woodworking; and Seth Charles, ceramics. The Artists Market served as an immersive experience allowing patrons to walk freely throughout the studios, the Davis Gallery, and the Marta Blades Gallery Shop to witness demonstrations, converse with artists, and purchase handmade crafts. For information regarding classes, registration, donating to Sawtooth’s Scholarship Fund, or becoming a member please visit Sawtooth.org. There are over 800,000 art experiences taking place in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County annually. To learn more about upcoming arts and culture events happening in our community please visit www.cityofthearts.com. ! ARTS COUNCIL is the chief advocate of the arts and cultural sector in Winston-Salem and Forsyth County. Our goal is to serve as a leader in lifting up, creating awareness and providing support to grow and sustain artistic, cultural and creative offerings throughout our region. We acknowledge that it takes every voice, every talent, and every story to make our community a great place to live, work, and play. Arts Council is committed to serving as a facilitator, organizer, and promoter of conversations that are authentic, inclusive, and forward-thinking. DECEMBER 8-14, 2021
Marketplace Cinemas makes merry with free screenings of It’s a Wonderful Life The Marketplace Mall (2101 Peters Creek Parkway, Winston-Salem) is ringing in the holiday season by presenting free screenings of Frank Capra’s beloved 1946 classic It’s a Wonderful Mark Burger Life Saturday at 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. at Marketplace CinContributor emas, 2095 Peters Creek Parkway, Winston-Salem. Admission is free and seating is firstcome, first-served, and refreshments are available for purchase. According to Zack Fox, general manager of Marketplace Cinemas and a filmmaker in his own right, this special presentation is a way for Marketplace Mall to share the holiday spirit with the public. “It’s a Wonderful Life is a holiday classic,” he said.
“We weren’t able to show it last year due to COVID. For this year’s screening, the Marketplace Mall offered to sponsor the screening and offer it for free to the public as a ‘shop and watch’ day: Come do your holiday shopping at Marketplace Mall and watch It’s a Wonderful Life for free either before or after your shopping experience.” Despite being a boxoffice disappointment at the time, It’s a Wonderful Life has become one of the most popular holiday films of all time. James Stewart, in one of his most popular roles, plays George Bailey, a small-town everyman so consumed by depression that he contemplates suicide, only to be saved in the nick of time by Clarence (Henry Travers), his bumbling but effervescent guardian angel, who proceeds to
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show George what life would have been like had he never been born. Based on Philip Van Doren Stern’s 1943 novella The Greatest Gift, which was itself inspired by the Charles Dickens classic A Christmas Carol, the film features a star-studded cast including Donna Reed, Lionel Barrymore, Thomas Mitchell, Beulah Bondi, Frank Faylen, Ward Bond, H.B. Warner, and Gloria Grahame. The film earned five Oscar nominations: Best Picture, Best Actor, Best Director, Best Editing, and Best Sound Recording. “The Marketplace Mall has been a wonderful supporter of ours since the start of COVID,” Fox explained. “They were a tremendous force when we opened our drive-in cinema. The mall truly has been thriving
with Hamrick’s, Harrison’s Workwear, Old Salem Bake Shop, and more. It’ll be a great Christmas shopping event. We are thrilled to be partnering up with them for this shopping and free movie event.” During the 1980s, It’s a Wonderful Life made headlines when Capra and Stewart voiced their displeasure about the film being shown on television in a “colorized” format. These screenings will be in the original black-and-white, as the film was meant to be seen. “I am really excited to be showing the movie from a 4K digital restoration DCP, and DCP — digital cinema package — is the highest quality image for movie theaters to offer. It’ll be a ‘wonderful’ showing!” In addition, Fox said that stand-up comedy shows in association with The Idiot Box Comedy Club in Greensboro would be continuing after the new year. For more information, call 336-7254646 or visit the official Marketplace Cinemas website: https://www.mpcws. com/. !
RiverRun offers free screening in its virtual theater The RiverRun International Film Festival is also offering a free screening, this one in its ongoing “RiverRun Rewind” screening series. Filmmaker Christi Cooper’s award-winning feature-documentary debut Youth V. Gov is currently available through Dec. 19. Free tickets are available here: https://www.goelevent. com/RiverRun/e/YouthvGov. The film, which was shown during the 2021 RiverRun festival, focuses on 21 young people who filed a groundbreaking lawsuit against the U.S. government, accusing it of having willfully acted to create the climate crisis, thereby jeopardizing their Constitutional rights. Should the lawsuit prove successful, it will not only be historic but would have potential ramifications on our future. The presentation features an interview with RiverRun program manager Mary Dossinger, filmmaker Cooper, and two of the plaintiffs featured in the film. This special event is being sponsored by Salem Smiles Orthodontics, a long-time RiverRun sponsor. “Youth V. Gov is a powerful look at the awareness that young people in our
country have regarding what seems like an adult issue,” observed Dossinger. “We hope that families will take the opportunity to view this screening together and see how a group of young people can come together and be a force of action, even when it comes to the government. We’re thankful to be able to show this film free of charge thanks to Salem Smiles and hope that means that the audience for this screening will be a substantial one.” The 24th annual RiverRun International Film Festival is scheduled to take place April 21 – 30, 2022. For more information, visit the official RiverRun website: https:// riverrunfilm.com/. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.
Love It Was Not: A glimmer of hope during the Holocaust
he events of writer/ director Maya Sarfaty’s insightful, award-winning documentary feature Love It Was Not would seemMark Burger ingly be ripe for a juicy novel or a Hollywood potContributor boiler, slathered in melodrama and sensationalism. Yet these events did take place, against one of the most horrific backdrops in 20th-century history, and the principals involved actually lived. In 1942, Helena Citron, the daughter of a cantor and an aspiring actress, was among the first 1,000 Jewish women transported to the concentration camp at Auschwitz. Franz Wunsch was the SS officer in charge of the gas chambers. What transpired, almost immediately, was an illicit and forbidden relationship
between the two that lasted until the camp was evacuated in 1945. After the war, Franz repeatedly attempted to contact Helena, but she steadfastly refused all entreaties. She began her own family and wanted no reminders of the past — until, that is, he was brought up on charges for war crimes three decades later, and she was asked to testify on his behalf in Vienna. Using vintage footage (including Helena’s home movies) and interviews with friends and family — of both Helena and Franz — Love It Was Not (originally titled Ahava Zot Lo Hayta) carefully balances the moral quandary with the simple notion of survival. Some observers questioned how Helena could even have entertained the idea of a romance with her captor, much less testify for him, but her explanation is as simple as her resolve: They weren’t there in the camps. They could not know what it was like. Despite marrying and having his own family, Franz remained in love with Helena for the rest of his life. In retrospect, she takes a much dimmer view.
chwitz. Nor would her sister Roza, who was later incarcerated there. Yet Roza’s children did die there, which Franz could not prevent. He is in no way portrayed as a hero, or even in a particularly positive light, but he was human and possessed emotions. Sarfaty could easily have expanded the scope of the narrative to encompass the Vienna trials (which by many accounts were a farce) or even expand upon the history of Auschwitz. She does neither, and the film is better for it. By focusing on this individual story and these real-life characters, the result is a clear, unfettered glimpse into a brutal period of history from specific perspectives. It needn’t be convoluted or overblown. It’s simple, straightforward, and strong. (In English, German, and Hebrew with English subtitles.)
The title Love It Was Not is how she described their relationship. There’s no question that, had it not been for Franz, Helena would not have survived at Aus-
— Love It Was Not is available for rental via a/perture cinemas’ virtual cinema screening room: https://aperturecinema.com/movies/love-it-was-not/. The DVD ($19.95 retail) is available from Greenwich Entertainment/Kino Lorber. !
Phoenix puts the pieces back together in C’mon C’mon Analyzing the career of Joaquin Phoenix is as rewarding as it is fascinating. He was River Phoenix’s younger brother. Then he was one of our best young actors. And even before winning the Oscar for his mesmerizing turn in Joker (2019), he had matured into, simply, as one of our best actors, tackling roles with a fearless passion that is nothing short of inspiring. In C’mon C’mon, he’s bearded, graying, and a bit burly, yet he still possesses that innately youthful quality of vulnerability. We’ve watched him grow up, and he’s still growing. The film marks the first from writer/ director Mike Mills since 20th Century Women five years ago and only his fourth since his 2005 debut Thumbsucker. Phoenix plays Johnny, a documentarian currently working on a project in which he interviews children from around the country about their lives (something akin to the long-running 7 Up film series). In the midst of production, he is unexpectedly summoned to Los Angeles by his estranged sister Viv (Gaby Hoffmann). She needs to tend her mentally unstable husband (Scoot McNairy) and, as a result, WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
needs Johnny to tend her young son Jesse (Woody Norman). He agrees, putting aside his initial trepidation. That, essentially, is the storyline. C’mon C’mon is entirely character-driven, not unlike Mills’ previous films. It’s also a comingof-age parable, but in this case, it’s Johnny who comes of age, if belatedly. The film is a drama at heart, and addresses some heavy emotional issues, but it’s not without humor and joy, and it’s abundantly clear that Phoenix and Norman enjoy playing off each other. They’re acting, of course, but there’s an infectious sense of play in their scenes together. C’mon C’mon is modest, low-key, and gently affecting. Some of the flashbacks are repetitious, and the dialogue is occasionally flowery, but the steady performances of Phoenix, Norman, and Hoffmann, as well as the glorious (and award-worthy) black-and-white cinematography of Robbie Ryan, offer more than adequate compensation. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.
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hroughout this past year, I had the unenviable task of writing a number of columns about celebrity friends of mine who had passed away. Now, during this season of celebration, it is only fitting that we celebrate their remarkable lives and careers. Here are some excerpts from those columns.
DAWN WELLS In the annuals of pop culture there have been three great debates: Coke or Pepsi?, Ford or Chevy?, and Ginger or Mary Ann? The answers to the first two questions may never be settled, but the third is a no-brainer. The overwhelming majority of men and women everywhere prefer girl-next-door Mary Ann Summers, a fictional character from the ‘60s comedy series, “Gilligan’s Island,” played expertly by Dawn Wells. Dawn was a stage and screen actress, a teacher, and author of “What Would Mary Ann Do?” Dawn Wells passed away on December 30 from complications of COVID. She was 82. I first met Dawn in 2013 when she attended the Western Film Festival in Winston-Salem. We re-connected five years later when she performed at the High Point Theatre to promote her book. JL: Why did you write the book in the first place? DW: Because we don’t have a Mary Ann today, and I think it’s very difficult being a parent, or a best friend. There’s no guidelines. But there still needs to be a guideline behind it, and I think that’s Mary Ann. Above all, don’t lose the values you’ve been raised with. That’s pretty good advice from America’s girl next door. Rest in peace, Dawn. HAL HOLBROOK During his storied career, Hal Holbrook portrayed, among other things, a President, a Senator, a Secretary of State, and a Deep Throat whistleblower, all of whom spoke eloquently about life, politics, and the human condition. But it was Hal himself who often articulated views that were befitting of the characters he played, such as this gem from a private conversation we had in 2013: “What’s more important in a democracy, that somebody should become a bilYES! WEEKLY
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lionaire at the expense of others, or that people who run things should make sure that the people of the United States have work, and can feed their families?” Hal the philosopher was most famous for his award-winning and longrunning one-man show “Mark Twain Tonight,” which he first tried out on local stages around the country. Hal: The first time I performed a Twain number was in the suicide ward of the Chillicothe insane asylum, and the next time I did it was for the Kiwanis in Newark, Ohio. Jim: What was the difference between the Kiwanis and the asylum patients? Hal: Well, mainly we didn’t know which ones were nuts. I first got to know Hal through his wife, the late Dixie Carter (“Designing Women”) who had participated in a panel I convened for the Television Academy back in 2000. Hal and I stayed in touch after that, and then we met up in Greensboro when he was in town to perform Twain at the Carolina Theatre. It’s unfortunate that Hal never was a Senator or a President in real life, but he left us with a body of work that entertained and inspired us, and we are better for having experienced it. Hal Holbrook passed away on January 23. He was 95.
from comedies like “Young Frankenstein,” to dramatic films such as “The Last Picture Show,” for which she won an Oscar. She also picked up nine Emmys along the way. I first met Cloris in May of 2008 when she participated in “A Mother’s Day Salute to TV Moms,” which I produced and moderated for the Television Academy. Needless to say, Cloris took over the event and kept everyone in stitches. She talked about the time she posed naked for a health magazine and then suggested that I disrobe right there on stage in front of 800 people. Cloris was wild alright, but she was always in control when it came to her acting, no matter the part. Perhaps Gavin MacLeod said it best when he told me, “As an actress, Cloris could do anything.” And I’ll sure miss seeing her do it.
disease, and he died on April 29, 2021, after battling COVID, and a bout of pneumonia. Johnny Crawford was 75 years old. I met Johnny in 2014 when he attended the Western Film Festival in WinstonSalem, and in the years since I would call him on his birthday and exchange holiday cards. Our last conversation was just prior to his Alzheimer’s diagnosis, and we talked about his cameo role in a film in which he portrayed silent movie star, William S. Hart. There were plenty of TV cowboys who I enjoyed watching as a kid, but it was Johnny Crawford who I wanted to hang out with. Six decades later I finally got my chance, and he didn’t disappoint. A real role model never does.
CLORIS LEACHMAN I had only known Cloris Leachman for less than 30 minutes when she asked me to take off my clothes. More on that in a moment, but suffice to say it was one of those things that sort of sticks in your head, much like everything Cloris did, and she did a lot. Cloris passed away on January 26. She was 94. Cloris is best known as Phyllis Lindstrom on “The Mary Tyler Moore Show” and for playing the same character in her own series. But Leachman left her mark on the big screen as well, starring in everything
JOHNNY CRAWFORD Much has been said about the importance of adult role models, and the positive impact they can have on children. But for those of us little buckaroos who grew up in the 1950s, there was no finer role model than Johnny Crawford, himself just a kid when he starred as Mark McCain on the hit TV series “The Rifleman.” On screen, Johnny seemed like a great guy, so we just assumed he was like that in real life. Turns out, we were right. Johnny could ride and rope with the best of them. He was a talented actor and an accomplished musician. He had a genuine smile and a genuine interest in people. He had a great sense of humor and an even greater sense of humility. He was the kind of guy you wanted to be like, whether you watched him as a kid or got to know him as an adult. I was lucky. I got to do both. In his later years, Johnny was a fan favorite at nostalgia conventions, while continuing to conduct his band and act. In 2019, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s
NORMAN LLOYD In his 20s, Norman Lloyd was directed on stage by Orson Welles. In his 30s, he was directed in films by Charlie Chaplin and Alfred Hitchcock. In his 50s and 60s, he produced and directed award-winning episodic television, and in his 70s, Norman won acclaim starring on “St. Elsewhere.” In his 80s, he was directed by Martin Scorsese, and in his 90s, he co-starred with the likes of George Clooney and Cameron Diaz. Norman had a distinctly regal voice and a distinctly wicked sense of humor. He was a great storyteller and an even greater listener. And I’ve never known anyone to match his energy level. Set designer Roy Christopher once remarked, “Norman’s creative motor was always running.” I guess that’s why I always thought Norman would live forever but forever came too soon. He passed away on the morning of May 11. Norman Lloyd was 106 years old. I first got to know Norman nearly 30 years ago when I was doing research for a series of articles on “St. Elsewhere,” and we stayed in touch from then on. I will always cherish our telephone visits,
including one which occurred on his 100th birthday. JL: Has anyone ever offered you a part in a film in which you would have to appear nude? Lloyd: No, I’ve never been that fortunate (laughs). If I had, my career would have ascended. It would have been enormous. I would of course have had a great fan club of the female persuasion. GAVIN MACLEOD In the early 1980s when “The Love Boat” was navigating prime time waters, and “The Mary Tyler Moore Show” and “McHale’s Navy” were still in reruns, an Entertainment Tonight poll named Gavin MacLeod (who starred in all three shows) the most recognized man on TV. If they had taken a poll of the most likable star, he would have topped that list too. Truth is, everybody liked Gavin. I first got to know Gavin back in 2013 when I interviewed him about his newly released autobiography, “This is Your Captain Speaking”: My Fantastic Voyage Through Hollywood, Faith, and Life.” He was 82 at the time, and I asked him why he waited so long to write his memoirs. Said Gavin, “I only have a few years left, and I wanted to do it while I could still remember.” In the years since then, we stayed in touch, and I always enjoyed our conversations. Sadly, I will no longer have the privilege of speaking with one of the nicest men I’ve ever known. Gavin passed away on May 29 of this year. He was 90. I once asked Gavin to recall his first acting experience, and he told me he played the part of a little boy trying to decide what to give his Mom for Mother’s Day. And why was he cast in that role? “Because I had just won the Charming Child contest by the New York Daily Mirror.” Gavin was in kindergarten then, and his performance was a huge success. “The audience applauded and I thought, ‘they like me! I want to do more of this.’” Lucky for us he did.
ED ASNER I would imagine that most wealthy nonagenarians spend their days relaxing at the beach or at their mountain villa, but not Ed Asner. After appearing in over 150 TV shows, 70 films, and countless plays, Ed had, at the time of his death, no less than 15 projects in the works. Of course, anyone who knew Ed wasn’t surprised by his energy or his level of professional activity. It’s what we expected from the man whose blue-collar upbringing taught him the value of hard work. Ed passed away on August 29. He was 91. Ed was best known for portraying Lou Grant on “The Mary Tyler Moore Show,” and then playing the same character in his own series, “Lou Grant.” He then became the only actor to ever win an Emmy for playing the same role in two different series, and he won seven Emmys in all. I first got to know Ed back in 2010 when he was filming “Elephant Sighs” in North Carolina and stopped by to tape an episode of Triad Today. We stayed in touch regularly by phone after that, including discussions about politics and his reason for writing The Grouchy Historian: An Old Time Lefty Defends Our Constitution Against Right-Wing Hypocrites and Nutjobs, which was published in 2017. Jim: What would it take for you to stop being grouchy? Ed: I don’t want to stop being grouchy. I think being avuncular is very attractive, and I like filling those shoes, so mind your own God damn business! (both laugh)
2007, and ever since, she gave of her time and talents to promote the TV show and her adopted hometown. That commitment included attending every Mayberry Days Festival, and appearing once a week at the Andy Griffith Museum where she signed autographs for adoring fans. Mt. Airy’s ambassador continued to give of herself until illness and old age would no longer permit it. Betty Lynn passed away on October 17. She was 95 years old. I first met Betty in 2008 when she enthusiastically agreed to appear on
my “Triad Today” show. She was a delightful human being, and I enjoyed being with her. At the end of our interview I said, “I hope you don’t mind when I slip and call you Thelma Lou.” Betty leaned over, kissed me on the cheek and said, “Oh no. I love Thelma Lou.” So do we, Betty. Rest in peace, my friend. ! JIM LONGWORTH is the host of Triad Today, airing on Saturdays at 7:30 a.m. on ABC45 (cable channel 7) and Sundays at 11 a.m. on WMYV (cable channel 15).
BETTY LYNN Betty Lynn was a busy character actress in Hollywood long before being cast in “The Andy Griffith Show” as Thelma Lou, the girlfriend of Sheriff Andy’s Deputy Barney Fife. Over the years, she visited Mt. Airy several times and had fallen in love with the town and its people. So, after her house in Los Angeles kept getting burglarized, she relocated to the town that inspired Thelma Lou’s Mayberry. That was in
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The Flower Mound Rebels, a youth football team in Texas, won’t be in the playoffs this year, NBC News reported. The Rebels, composed of 7- and 8-yearolds, are “too good” for their league, boasting a perfect record and having outscored their opponents 199-6, according to Keller Youth Association Vice President Rhett Taylor. “They are a select-level team.” He said if the team had competed in the league’s super bowl, he would have caught it from parents of other teams. Center Greyson Tanner, 8, reported being “very sad” about the ruling.
Preacher and author Sharon Gilbert, 69, raised a reaction when she appeared on the “Jim Bakker Show” on Nov. 23 and described the moment when an alien visited her for nefarious reasons. “After Derek and I got married, one night, this other Derek appears in our bed. The real Derek is lying down next to me; other Derek sits right up out of him. It startled me,” she said, according to Newsweek. No doubt! Gilbert asked the “critter” who he was, “Because he clearly wanted to have sexual relations.” Along with claiming to
be Derek, the creature said he was Xerxes, but Gilbert wasn’t having it. “I reached up, grabbed his face and I said, ‘You are a liar, and Jesus is real.’ And I pulled that face off, and beneath it was a reptile.” One Twitter user responded, “This is a story a 7-year-old tells when you ask them why they’re late for something.”
Ania Tanner, a grandmother from Ontario, Canada, found a cute singing and dancing cactus on the Walmart website and purchased it for her granddaughter, CTV News reported. The animated $26 toy sings in three languages: English, Spanish and Polish. But when Tanner, who is Polish, listened to the Polish lyrics, she was shocked: “This toy uses swear words and talking about cocaine use. This is not what I ordered for my granddaughter. I was in shock. I thought, what is this, some kind of joke?” The Polish song is by rapper Cypis, who didn’t give permission for the use of his song by the Chinese manufacturer of the item. For its part, Walmart said the toy is sold by a third-party vendor and will be removed while they investigate.
Twenty-year-old Lucy Battle of Burnley, England, nearly threw out the baby with the bathwater ... er, with the sofa, recently. Battle posted an ad on Facebook Marketplace about her sofa, with the caption “Need gone today,” but she accidentally posted a photo of her 7-month-old son, Oscar, rather than of the furniture, Leeds Live reported. “I just somehow managed to upload the wrong photo ... I didn’t expect it to go so far!” Battle said. One user commented, “Can I swap for a teenager?” But Battle isn’t budging: “I don’t want to give away my child.”
In Greenwood, South Carolina, firefighters responded on Nov. 28 to the Morningside assisted living facility, where several rounds of ammunition, which had apparently been stored in a toaster oven, discharged and caught a resident’s apartment on fire. WSPA-TV reported that employees initially believed a shooter was on the property when they heard the shots, but the room’s resident was found unconscious and suffering from smoke inhalation. The fire was extinguished, and no other apartments were damaged. !
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Triadfoodies Holiday Gift Guide of Glorious Deliciousness
t’s that time of year when we get to share some of our most favorite finds of 2021, and as usual, we’re giving all of these goodies away to someone very deserving. To Kristi Maier jazz things up a bit @triadfoodies and in the Spirit of Giving, we want our readers and followContributor ers to nominate a frontline healthcare worker as a way to honor their dedication the past couple of years. We’ll randomly draw a winner on December 17. Our “favorite things” of the year are those I’ve discovered while shopping at some of my favorite local markets. Occasionally, a company will reach out to me to “test” a product that is about to launch or to review a seasonal item. I’m thrilled YES! WEEKLY
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when these opportunities come up, and if I genuinely love them and would buy them for myself, then that product gets its hat thrown into the ring for our “favorite things.” We then narrow it down to a few favorites. Those that don’t make the cut might be included the following year and that happens a lot! And yes, there is a local fave that makes the cut year after year (Queen Fruitcake, you know who you are). This year, we’ve added another local item that we hope will always be a part of our favorite things. It’s that good. Without further ado, let’s behold the 2021 Triadfoodies Favorite Things…The Holiday Gift Guide of Glorious Deliciousness.
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When I tell you it is the best baklava I have ever had, then it is saying something because I love baklava. Owner Dina’s pastries are decadent and delightful, and the baklava is not so cloyingly sweet. You’ll find Baklava N More popping up at various
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markets, but you can place your order online and pick it up or have it shipped. Grab some baklava or any of her pastries for a holiday treat. Our winner receives a gift card for pastries of their choice. baklavanmore.com
Early in the year, we started seeing this little tea company called Tea and Toast popping up at markets across the area. We enjoyed a delightful loose-leaf citrus and vanilla blend and instantly fell in love.
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Kiley has added a box of sampler teas and a tea infuser for our winner. You can find the tea at Lavender & Honey, Poppyseed Provisions, Buie’s Market, and more, and you can even have the Tea and Toast Traveling Tea Bar as a catered event. teaandtoastshop.com
the Trinity, which features all three of their popular hot sauces, Red-i (traditional), Hempress Rising (green tomatillo), and Sun is Shining (mango curry). ninemileasheville.com.
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All Hail the Queen! This boozy, chocolaty fruitcake has signature status in our gift guide, meaning she’s always in the mix and has been so for seven years. Infused with Broad Branch Distillery’s Nightlab Moonshine Whiskey, a little goes a long way because she’s rich and indulgent. The BMC fruitcake makes a great hostess gift or after-dinner dessert. Find it at 450 N. Patterson Avenue, Suite 10, WinstonSalem. blackmountainchocolate.com
Sometimes called cowboy candy, these babies are so delicious. Sweet and spicy jalapeños have just the right kick. I have loved them on tacos and nachos, but my favorite way to enjoy them is on burgers and hot dogs with chili and cheese, and they’re pretty great in pimento cheese, as well. I find these locally along with their salsas at Wine Merchants in WinstonSalem, and you can find them at Gate City Butcher Shop. capefearpiratecandy.com
POPPY HANDCRAFTED POPCORN
For the past couple of years, I’ve had the benefit of reviewing some seasonal flavors for Poppy, based out of Asheville. The holiday collection this year was stellar. What I love to give as gifts myself and enjoy for snacking is Poppy’s traditional flavors like butter, cheese, and salted caramel. Poppy has added to our basket three of their top flavors, salted caramel, cheese, and pimento cheese. You can find Poppy online, as well as Mast General Store, Dewey’s Bakery, Fleet Plummer, and various boutique markets. poppyhandcraftedpopcorn.com
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BATISTINI FARMS VANISHING GRAPE WHITE BALSAMIC VINEGAR
This year, we’re introducing another signature item in our gift guide that is
here to stay because it’s considered liquid gold in my house, and it’s so versatile. My husband calls it the “little vinegar that can” because it literally makes the best dressings, and it’s completely delicious. Simply add it to extra virgin olive oil, salt, and pepper for a quick go-to salad of arugula or watercress. Seriously, pick this white balsamic up when you see it, and you’ll be a believer too. Find Batistini Farms products at Wine Merchants, Whole Foods, Buie’s Market, and b-farms. com.
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with some wine? Gwendolyn will merch it all up for you in a lovely gift basket that will delight your recipient. Whether you want to duplicate this winning basket yourself or buy individual items as stocking stuffers or gifts, we hope you enjoy the experience of shopping local and supporting our Triad and North Carolina producers and the markets that carry them. The winner of this Holiday Gift Guide Basket of Glorious Deliciousness will be announced on December 17, and the basket will be available for pick up at Wine Merchants after the announcement. Be sure to follow YES! Weekly on Facebook and Instagram to nominate the healthcare frontline worker you feel deserves this holiday treat! !
205 S. Stratford Road, Winston-Salem We’d like to thank Wine Merchants for beautifying our goodies this year by adding them to a sweet basket. Wine Merchants is one of our absolute favorite spots for local and regional goodies, sauces, pasta, crackers, and of course, wine. You can find local meat, eggs, and cheese, as well. Want to buy a few items along
KRISTI MAIER is a food writer, blogger and cheerleader for all things local who even enjoys cooking in her kitchen, though her kidlets seldom appreciate her efforts.
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Former hotel supplements, not replaces, emergency winter facilities A Greensboro nonprofit has converted the former Regency Inn & Suites Motel at 2701 N. O’Henry Blvd into an emergency winter homeless shelter. While there seemed to be some confusion at Ian McDowell first as to whether the converted site Contributor will supplement or completely replace the emergency measures the Interactive Resource Center (IRC) has taken in previous winters when temperatures dropped below freezing, it seems to have been cleared up. IRC Director Kristina Singleton explained that the former motel would not be the only such resource, as the center will operate an additional shelter in partnership with the City of Greensboro. On Nov. 23, a City of Greensboro press release announced that, with the aid of $3 million in city loan financing, the nonprofit Partnership Homes Inc. purchased
the motel, and is remodeling it for housing homeless individuals facing freezing winter temperatures. The release stated that the Interactive Resource Center and Greensboro Urban Ministries have collaborated in the past on sheltering the city’s homeless during dangerous weather, “and now there will be another option for those needing shelter;” with the phrase “another option” suggesting that the hotel would be supplementing those past procedures rather than replacing them. But last week, a social worker, who asked not to be identified, contacted YES! Weekly to express concern that the motel might be replacing the shelters that the IRC utilized in past winters. This source alleged that, before 2020, the IRC’s “white flag” protocols gave emergency walk-in shelter to anyone who showed up by 6 p.m., but that with the new system being implemented, those seeking such shelter must go in person to the IRC or Greensboro Urban Ministries by 3:30 p.m. on weekdays, fill out an application, be referred to the Regency facility, and then wait for approval, a process which may take several
days even when approval is granted. In their email, the social worker called the non-profit and the hotel “assets to our community for people who are experiencing homelessness,” which will “help individuals move through the continuum to obtain permanent housing.” But they stated their hope that “the two programs should complement each other,” explaining that the motel site “should not be a replacement for the White Flag protocol that the IRC has managed for years.” The social worker alleged that, when they recently called the IRC, they were told that the Regency site would be replacing rather than complementing the former procedures and shelter. This writer called the IRC on Monday morning and asked “are you still doing White Flag emergency procedure this year, or is that being handled by the new Regency site?” “No White Flag this year,” said the employee who answered the phone, “and the Regency is at capacity at this moment.” The city press release had also quoted former IRC Director Michelle Kennedy,
now the Director of Neighborhood Development, as stating “This project is fully aligned with the mission of Partnership Homes and the Housing First approach that the city is pursuing in its supportive housing strategies under the Housing GSO 10-year affordable housing plan.” When asked about the statement that there was “no White Flag” provided by the IRC this year and that the remodeled motel units were currently full, Kennedy said that information was incorrect. “The Regency is currently making rooms available as they are rehabbed. We just finalized White Flag planning last week, so folks may not have current info. The Regency is for people who are experiencing chronic homelessness. It’s a structured program that will run through March 1st. White Flag is still happening as it always has. The IRC is the lead agency for that.” Kennedy said that this year, rather than emergency shelter being provided at the IRC itself, as it sometimes was pre-Pandemic, the Center is partnering with First Baptist Church at 3000 W. Friendly Avenue. “We’ve used First Baptist in the past,
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The former hotel will be used to house those in need of shelter during the cold, winter nights as they have a gym, which we’ll be using again this year. The city will be responsible for some security support and janitorial services, and the IRC will responsible for sorting out how that location runs and operates. We haven’t had many nights that have warranted it, and it will probably be next week before we do. But White Flag will continue on as always, with the IRC being the lead agency.” Kennedy concluded by stating that IRC director Kristina Singleton would be calling to clarify the matter by the end of the business day. At 5 p.m., Singleton texted the following statement: “With increasing shelter needs and area shelters operating at limited capacity due to COVID, the IRC will operate an additional white flag shelter in partnership with the City of Greensboro. The shelter will be held at First Baptist church to ensure proper spacing guidelines as recommended by the CDC. COVID has had a huge impact on all shelters in Greensboro and the IRC is committed to being programmatically flexible to meet the need of our community.” This writer also spoke to Mike Cooke, WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
president of Partnership Homes, Inc, about what the nonprofit is doing with the Regency motel. “Tomorrow will be two weeks that we’ve been open and there’s been a lot of challenges, but it’s going well and we still have space available. I imagine at some point, sooner rather than later, we could have between 90 and 100 persons.” Cooke said that there are presently approximately 60 people housed at the facility. “We only take folks that are placed by the IRC or Greensboro Urban Ministries.” He said that the partner agencies are responsible for helping people get to the facility, which is off Highway 29. “They sometimes will bring them in their vehicles, sometimes other parties will, and there are few, although not a lot, of homeless folks who have their own vehicles.” He also described the origin of the project. “This property was identified by the city back around February of 2021 as a potential property for conversion to what’s called Permanent Supportive
I asked about the property’s maximum Housing, and so that’s when I got incapacity. volved. The city asked me to be involved, “It depends somewhat on how many as I have some history with the city, and persons the agencies place in the rooms. a long history of developing affordable They’re not putting any more than two. housing, particularly for the homeless. We could probably do 105.” ! So, they got me involved with it, and then we began working on it in that regard, doing due diligence and studyIAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published ing the property as a site for potential novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a conversion to permanent supportive whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which housing, whereby people have long-term he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of. leases. We were actually going to take each room and make them into efficiencies.” He said that’s still the plan. “But along the way, we thought about this property as the winter emergency shelter. We were prepared to buy the property with the city’s support, anyway, but we sort of pushed all that forward and purchased it and are using it as a shelter. Handy Work • In Home Repair We are no longer open to the public, so we really Assembly & Installation • Lawn Cleanup aren’t even considered a Call for free estimates! 336-689-7303 motel anymore.”
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HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BARTENDING? 5 years HOW DID YOU BECOME A BARTENDER? I honestly just got thrown into the bar. We were short-staffed at the restaurant I used to work at. I was terrified to bartend, but once I got the hang of it I did not want to go back into the dining room. WHAT DO YOU ENJOY ABOUT BARTENDING? Building relationships with the clientele. I’ve met some of the most amazing people working in the bar that I now consider my family. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO MAKE? A good dirty Martini. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO DRINK? Mules, I love ginger beer.
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WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND AS AN AFTER-DINNER DRINK? Irish Coffee usually hits the spot. WHAT’S THE CRAZIEST THING YOU’VE SEEN WHILE BARTENDING? It’s a tie between watching a homeless man pulling a knife out on a coworker or when a customer picked up our chalk board sign outside and tried throwing it through the window! WHAT’S THE BEST/BIGGEST TIP YOU’VE EVER GOTTEN? $400
‘Tis the season for Triad artists
etting into the holiday spirit is always a bit easier with a song or two— which comes especially easy thanks to Triad artists. With original tunes, covers, Katei Cranford and shows to get the spirits flowing, ‘tis the season for one Contributor and all. In “Christmas at the Laundromat,” Bruce Piephoff pens a heartwarming dedication to the holidays (and denizens of Lindley Park watering holes) in a sweet narrative of a holiday night at the infamous Suds & Duds in Greensboro. “It’s a Christmas story about little folk with big hearts,” Piephoff explained of the song that closes with empty street stumbles and wishes that “every day could be so happy and complete.” The Brown Mountain Lightning Bugs delve into the not-so-holly or jolly in “Tape Up the Window,” their upcoming holiday tune (scheduled for release on Dec. 19) which follows a Christmas narrative of a different sort—involving a shattered car window and a long, cold ride home. “It was 13 degrees outside, and we finished the remaining two hours of the drive shivering and dodging flying glass,” Kendra from BMLB recalled. “After a rough year, that seemed like an insult to injury,” she said. “The song goes out to anyone having a tough holiday season—it’s a little note to let folks know they’re not alone.” A similar story rings from Dale Cole, and his latest single, “A Christmas to Forget.” “It’s a tough time for a large percentage of the population,” Cole noted. “As a society, we’ve been sold on the idea that Christmas is all happy-happy, joy-joy. When in reality it is overwhelming for a lot of folks.” Lamenting the stress of moneywoes and memories of lost loved ones, Cole wrote the tune from an admittedly dark place. “I think all of us have experienced this type of Christmas at least once in our lives, so this song goes out to all of the Bah Humbugs,” he said. “Maybe next year I can write one from the other end of the spectrum.” As a co-founder of the “Virtual Village,” Cole is dedicated to helping folks in the community. He and Clay Howard plan to sing Christmas songs for charity, from 11 WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
a.m. to 3 p.m. on Dec. 21, at Lowes Foods on Robinhood Road in Winston-Salem. Cole’s son, Lindsay Ian Cole, got a bit more festive in 2020 with a classic Christmas cover, “Rockin’ around the Christmas tree.” William Nesmith likewise engaged in the tradition, with his popped-up rendition of “Deck the Halls.” As did the punks in Orphan Riot, who put out “O Come, All Ye Faithful” on the Fixed Frequency Records’ “Holiday Wrecker Vol II” compilation. Christmas covers have become something of a personal tradition for Julian Creech-Pritchett of Sweet Dream, who’s been releasing a cover each holiday season for the past five years. “I love the vibe and nostalgic feeling that a lot of classic holiday tunes have,” he said. “It’s always a fun challenge to pick a song and do my own arrangement each year.” Compiled on his “Holiday Collection” via Soundcloud, the practice began with John Lennon’s “Happy X-mas (War is Over)” in 2017. “Wonderful Christmastime” by Paul McCartney and Wings followed in 2018. The classic “Rudolph” (featuring Dylan Innes on the monologue) lit the way in 2019. In 2020, Creech-Pritchett paired with Ashley Virginia and Liam Trawick for “This Christmas;” and released a tribute to “A Charlie Brown Christmas,” as part of the James Mclaughlin Trio with Ramon Garcia. For 2021, he went surfy, with a full band, doing the Beach Boys’ “Little Saint Nick.” Those itchin’ for more holiday surf rock will enjoy “Surfing On Christmas Day (Santa Won’t You Bring Me Some Waves),” the latest holiday single from Southern Culture on the Skids, who’ll be riding a corn rocket in lieu of Santa’s sleigh to the Ramkat on Dec. 10, with the Dex Romweber Trio in tow. For a bill filled with strange characters, they’re no strangers to Christmas tunes. SCOTS’ spectacular version of “Merry
Christmas Baby” appeared on the 1996 “Just Say Noël” Geffen Records compilation (alongside artists like Beck, Aimee Mann, Sonic Youth, The Roots, and Remy Zero). And their cover of 2015 “Silver Bells” shines with a trademark surfy twang. Romweber, meanwhile, keeps it dark, with the glow of his scratchy Silvertone croon, and the “Dark Christmas” track off Bloodshot Records’ “13 Days of XMAS.” The “I’ll Have a Merry Christmas Without You,” EP from his days in Flat Duo Jets makes a snarky swinger; as does their jumping take on “Jingle Bells,” released as part of the delightful—albeit difficult to find—“Ho Ho Ho Spice: A Hospice Awareness Benefit Project” of the early 00s. Moving to the blues and benefits, it’s a hotamighty holiday in High Point with Matt Walsh’s Low Down Blues Revue Christmas Spectacular, “covering some 1950’s Christmas Blues classics along with the rest of the rough stuff you love,” at Sweet Old Bill’s on Dec. 9. Songstress “Whisky Christy” Hopkins and her Half Pint Orchestra plan to ring in “Auld Lang Syne” on Dec. 11 as part of the holiday show and food drive at WAVE Studios with Above the
Fray, Der Mere, Habitat, The Wandering, Lonesome Bones, and Gaffer Project. From food drives to toy drives, the Piedmont Blues Preservation Society will host a “Spirit of Giving Fundraiser and Toy Drive,” with T.C. Carter Band (the 2021 “Road to Memphis Blues Challenge” winners) at Elm Street Lounge in Greensboro on Dec. 12. Over at Joymongers, the Finns will kick off the brewery’s “Toys for Tots” drive with a show on Dec. 9. The drive itself runs through Dec. 18, culminating with a performance from Abigail Dowd and Jason Duff. Greensboro Beer and Hymns looks to get in the spirit, with spirits, for “Carols and Ale” at Oden Brewing on Dec. 12, featuring Oden’s latest brew, the “Chuck Mountain Dew,” created in partnership with Ales for ALS, a fundraising organization dedicated to awareness and support for ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease). From grinches to elves, the holidays have hit the Triad. Here’s wishing the best to you and yours. Cheers! ! KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who enjoys spotlighting artists and events.
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FOUR SAINTS BREWING
218 South Fayetteville St. | 336.610.3722 www.foursaintsbrewing.com Thursdays: Taproom Trivia Fridays: Music Bingo Dec 19: Honky Tonk Jam w/ Mark Dillon & Friends
2700 E Independence Blvd | 704.372.3600 www.boplex.com Dec 16: Chelsea Handler Dec 18: Rickey Smiley
1000 NC Music Factory Blvd | 704.916.8970 www.livenation.com Dec 9: Delta Rae Dec 10: He$h Dec 14: The Aces
333 E Trade St | 704.688.9000 www.spectrumcentercharlotte.com Dec 11: Trans-Siberian Orchestra Jan 16: Trevor Noah Feb 6: Billie Eilish Feb 10: Jeff Dunham
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6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct | 336.448.5330 www.vstaphouse.com | www.facebook. com/vstaphouse Dec 18: Jill Goodson Band
309 W Morgan St | 919.560.3030 www.carolinatheatre.org Dec 18: Ronny Chieng Dec 21: Drew & Ellie Holcomb’s Neighborly Christmas
123 Vivian St | 919.680.2787 www.dpacnc.com Dec 7-12: Ain’t Too Proud - The Life and Times of The Temptations
129 W Main St | 336.258.8240 www.reevestheater.com Fourth Thursdays: Old-Time Jam Dec 10: Chatham County Line Dec 12: Newberry & Verch
2900 Patterson St #A | 336.632.9889 www.arizonapetes.com Dec 11: Justin Biltonen
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1819 Spring Garden St | 336.272.9888 www.theblindtiger.com Dec 10: Cosmic Charlie Dec 11: Ed E Ruger Dec 12: Saliva Dec 16: Pecos and the Rooftops Dec 17: Mostley Crue Christmas Bash
310 S. Greene Street | 336.333.2605 www.carolinatheatre.com Dec 11: Laura Jane Vincent Dec 17: The Difficulties
1126 S Holden Rd | 336.333.1034 www.thecomedyzone.com Dec 10-11: T.K. Kirkland Dec 17-18: Rodney Perry Jan 6-8: David A. Arnold
221 Summit Ave | 336.501.3967 www.flatirongso.com Dec 9: Maia Kamil Dec 10: DJ Harrison Dec 11: Abigail Dowd Dec 16: Geoff Clapp Trio
5211 A West Market St | 336.763.2020 www.garagetaverngso.com Dec 9: Patrick Rock Dec 10: Jukebox Revolver Band Dec 11: Smitty & The Jumpstarters Dec 16: Jim Mayberry Dec 17: Brothers Pearl Band
GREENSBORO COLISEUM 1921 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com Dec 9: Trans-Siberian Orchestra Dec 18: Eric Church Dec 22: Playboi Carti
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348 South Elm St | 336.510.9678 www.facebook.com/littlebrotherbrew Dec 10: Shane Wheeler Trio Dec 11: Paper Wasps
2411 W Gate City Blvd | 336.373.7400 www.greensborocoliseum.com Dec 11: Breaking Benjamin: Unplugged
SOUTH END BREWING CO. 117B W Lewis St | 336.285.6406 www.southendbrewing.com Tuesdays: Trivia Night Dec 16: Buddy Ro & Glenn Bickel
STEVEN TANGER CENTER 300 N Elm Street | 336.333.6500 www.tangercenter.com Dec 7-12: Dear Evan Hansen
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503 N. Greene St | 336.274.2699 www.idiotboxers.com Dec 11: Andy Forrester Dec 11: Dejahzh Hedrick Dec 18: Tara Starnes
5840 Samet Dr | 336.887.2434 www.hamsrestaurants.com Dec 10: After Party Dec 11: Ultimate Rock Machine Dec 17: Sprockett Band Dec 18: COIA Dec 25: Opal Moon and the Darksides Dec 31: Hampton Drive
HigH Point tHEatrE
220 E Commerce Ave | 336.883.3401 www.highpointtheatre.com Dec 11-12: a Christmas Carol - the Musical Dec 18-19: the nutcracker Jan 15: James gregory
118 E Main St | 336.207.1999 www.thedeckatrivertwist.com Dec 9: Wesley Bryan Dec 10: Jaxon Jill Dec 11: Comedy Show Dec 16: renae Paige Dec 17: retro Vinyl
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1400 Edwards Mill Rd | 919.861.2300 www.thepncarena.com Dec 8-12: Disney on ice Dec 15: trans-Siberian orchestra
408 West 4th St | 336.331.3431 www.bullswsnc.com Wednesdays: karaoke Dec 11: Florencia rusinol
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101 S. Fayetteville St | 336.622.3844 www.TheLibertyShowcase.com Dec 11: Jerry allison’s annual Christmas Show Dec 18: 3 Staxx - remembering luther Vandross & Friends Jan 8: Mark Chesnutt Jan 22: the isaacs
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3801 Rock Quarry Rd | 919.821.4111 www.livenation.com nov 19-Jan 2: Magic of lights
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I thought I was happily married. Recently, I found a cherry Chapstick in my husband’s coat pocket — a kind he’d never buy. He claimed he randomly Amy Alkon grabbed it at the drugstore checkout. Advice Last week, he said Goddess he’d be visiting his mother at the nursing home, but I later learned he never showed. I asked him about it, and he said work ran over. Additionally, our sex life has picked up, and he’s been extra thoughtful lately. Doesn’t all of this, put together, scream that he’s cheating? How do I confront him? —Nightmares You don’t expect marrying the man of your dreams to turn your actual dream content into all-night notifications of impending disaster: dozens of inch-high coal miners in tiny hardhats and goggles scaling you and repeatedly jabbing you
with cupcake toothpicks topped with little red flags. Are you right to pile these infobits into the verdict your husband’s cheating? Maybe — but maybe not. Evolutionary psychologist Martie Haselton explains that we evolved to be protectively wrong: to err on the safe side, meaning make the least evolutionarily costly error. Suspecting cheating where none actually exists is less genetically costly than shrugging off signs that seem to point to it — and then possibly losing your man and/or having him funnel his resources away from your kids to those he’d make with some hussypants he’s seeing on the side. Confronting your husband — accusing him of cheating — is a risky tactic. If he is cheating, he’s likely to deny it. If he isn’t, your accusation could destroy your relationship. A possibly less risky tactic is evoking his empathy: telling him that, collectively, these infobits triggered fears of losing him. The subject becomes your seeking reassurance (which, P.S., may or may not be truth-backed). If he has been straying, he might be inspired to reevaluate and stop. Might. Over the next few months, observe your
husband’s behavior — including that which suggests he loves you and is faithful. Your observations are likely to be inconclusive (compared with finding him in bed with somebody), but if you amass enough information over time, it should begin to point you to some sort of understanding. I personally make peace with the freakouts of life that way; for example, a new mole that (apologies to Judy Blume) seemed to scream: “Are You There, Alkon? It’s Me, Malignant Melanoma.” One dermatologist visit later: “Hello, drama queen. I’d like to introduce you to your spider bite.”
Do men even read online dating profiles? Mine says I’m a “sober divorced writer.” Inevitably, guys message me: “What do you do? Ever been married? Wanna go for a drink?” Um, hello? I’m flattered I apparently get picked on looks alone, but even men who aren’t into hookups do this. —Mystified There’s a case to be made for a guy being a rushed or generally careless reader and sliding right past “sober divorced writer.” However, men are likely to blow past an even more standout description, such as: “I
enjoy fine dining, walks on the beach, and dismembering my date and feeding bits of him to the squirrels.” Though men seem more likely to hit on hot women on their pictures alone, they probably do this even when women are, shall we say, lukewarm or even room temperature. Because birth control used to be “Cross your legs, honey!” women evolved to be “the choosier sex,” wary about getting it on with a man until they vet him for his willingness and ability to “provide” for any resulting kids. Because men don’t get pregnant, it’s evolutionarily optimal for them — best for passing on Ye Old Genes — to have vastly lower standards. (Vastly. Like: “So...she has a pulse?”) This sex difference makes a strong showing on dating apps. Computational social scientist Taha Yasseri, with three students, analyzed piles of data from online dating studies. “Men are much less selective in who they communicate with,” they report. In fact, it’s “optimal for men to use the ‘shotgun method’”: blasting out “likes” like buckshot from some backwoods Cletus’ hunting rifle. The strategy is not finding a really great match (true love with a woman much like them — or a man if they’re gay)
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