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The North Carolina chapter of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People and a multiracial coalition of Alamance County residents and business owners have sued the county’s all-white Board of Commissioners. The lawsuit is intended to move what may be NC’s most controversial remaining CONFEDERATE MONUMENT out of Court Square in downtown Graham.
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One thing remains clear, however: standards at THE UNDERCURRENT have not changed. In spite of the preceding year’s difficulties, this remains one of the Triad’s premier restaurants, with food, service, and ambiance sustained at stellar levels. Regarding ambiance: the look is elegant but not stuffy. It’s easy to relax here. And for me, of equal importance, it’s easy to carry on a conversation, given the low noise level. The staff remains remarkably stable. Dining here a few times begins to feel like having dinner with friends instead of a waitstaff. 5 Although its full name is the REYNOLDA HOUSE OF AMERICAN ART, one need only say “Reynolda House,” and there’s scarcely anyone in the state, much less Winston-Salem, who wouldn’t know what historical landmark was being referred to. For more than 50 years, Reynolda House has been home to one of the most remarkable art collections ever assembled, displayed within the original 1917 interiors of the country manor of R.J. and Katharine Reynolds.
A wise man once advised me never to COMPLAIN about a problem unless I was prepared to offer a solution, and, where possible, I’ve always tried to adhere to that advice in my newspaper columns. 13 On Saturday, April 10, the organization will hold a Community PINWHEEL PLANTING EVENT at the Ben & Jerry’s at the Shops at Friendly Center from 1 to 4 p.m. The Kellin Foundation will receive 10 percent of the proceeds from the ice cream purchases during that time to further its work in the Triad area. Residents in the area can show their support by stopping by the booth at Ben & Jerry’s to get pinwheels to plant and other giveaway items. 14 VOLZ BROWN is a busy bee. With a stacked spring full of new releases and a schedule leading up to a hot summer, the Winston-Salem rapper and creative multi-hyphenate is abuzz. His latest release, “It’s Up To You,” (a collaborative effort with fellow Winston-Salem artist, KamDoja), dabbles across the board in what’s becoming Brown’s trademark “genre-blending” style.
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Chow down with John Batchelor at The Undercurrent BY JOHN BATCHELOR
y wife and I went out for a full-service, sit-down dinner in Greensboro for the first time in a year. For this special occasion, we chose The Undercurrent, an old favorite, where we joined friends Dave and Maggie. It’s not just the food and dining experience we have missed; it’s the conversation with companions. One thing remains clear, however: standards at The Undercurrent have not changed. In spite of the preceding year’s difficulties, this remains one of the Triad’s premier restaurants, with food, service, and ambiance sustained at stellar levels. Regarding ambiance: the look is elegant but not stuffy. It’s easy to relax here. And for me, of equal importance, it’s easy to carry on a conversation, given the low noise level. The staff remains remarkably stable. Dining here a few times begins to feel like having dinner with friends instead of a waitstaff. Chef de Cuisine Michael Harkenreader, an honors graduate of the CIA culinary program, also holds a degree in hospitality management from the University of Delaware. He previously worked in that state at the Hotel Dupont and the Dupont Country Club. Sous Chef Jonathan Ramos graduated from the GTCC culinary program. Chef-Partner Chris Wheeler, also a GTCC culinary alum, and his brother, ManagerPartner Wes Wheeler, both worked at The Undercurrent in the kitchen and in the bar before moving into an ownership role about ten years ago, completing that transition last year. This kitchen is especially devoted to lo-
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cal, fresh ingredients. The wine list is commendable for quality and value, with well chosen by the glass and half-bottle selections providing particular convenience. Warm, crusty, aromatic bread, prepared from scratch in-house, arrives promptly. One chilly evening mandated an uptemperature starter. Sweet Potato Soup filled the need, arriving hot, bursting with mellow sweet potato flavor enhanced with a light drizzle of rosemary oil, sprinkled with microgreens. Mushroom and Brie Galette place sliced shiitake, cremini, and portobello mushrooms over soft Brie cheese, baked in an open pastry crust, folded around the edges. A small arugula salad on one side incorporates toasted hazelnuts. Down the other side, a pink peppercorn crema, mashed and swirled for visual effect, is laced with steeped cherry juice. Fried Oysters have long been a personal favorite here, and the most recent rendition lived up to fond memory. The plump oysters themselves bear a crisp crust, their flavor sharpened with whole grain mustard Dijonnaise. Onion relish and a small spinach salad with crumbled bacon and sliced pear complete the presentation. The Country Pate’ is wrapped in bacon. Calvander cheese and smoked pecans complement the primary pork flavors as well as lending complexity. Cranberry compote provides a sweet finish. Among the seafood entrees, Salmon is skillet seared, creating a pleasant crust, its inherent flavor well served, but not obscured, by a lemon-parsley puree. This is placed over sesame Carolina Gold ricea heritage variety, joined on the side by vibrant al dente green beans. Slivers of country ham lend additional flavor. I have declared Scallops a special
strength of this kitchen. Consistently browned, yet always tender, on the current menu, they are enhanced with vanillagrapefruit vinaigrette and apricot puree, presented over hazelnut-thyme couscous laced with spinach. Parsnips, cut shoestring style, are fried crisp. Grilled Shrimp, one evening’s off-menu special, were rubbed with chili powder and coriander and presented on skewers, exuding a delightful grill smoke-enhanced flavor. A micro greens salad provided color as well as a little vinaigrette pique for the palette. Green beans pierced a basil risotto; a pea shoot salad with Apple Jack vinegar rested alongside. I am a big fan of the Grilled Pork Tenderloin here, its natural flavor slightly sweetened with golden raisin puree. The conception exhibits strong Southern influences, a function of hominy hash studded with pieces of chorizo sausage interspersed with kale leaves. Sliced avocado blends surprisingly well with the pork. Grilled Ribeye exudes exceptional depth of beef flavor from within tender texture. Sherry-date steak sauce is an original creation, a subtle and truly exceptional way to extend beef flavor without interfering with its intrinsic nature. A smoked paprika aioli renders French-style green beans more complex, while slivered Manchego cheese subtly mellows these myriad flavors. Grilled Rack of Lamb, another off-menu special, was treated with coconut macadamia nut kumquat glaze, surrounded by Morello cherry tarragon crema. This came with arugula, golden raisin, and quinoa salad, along with yellow curry naan and red pepper hummus. Skipping dessert here would be a serious mistake. The white chocolate- blueberry
Bread Pudding with warm caramel sauce is decadent, well worth the calories. French Opera Cake is a visual as well as taste treat. Thin layers of almond sponge cake are interspersed with mocha mousse, surrounded with coffee Anglaise, all flanked with a segment of chocolate-almond brittle. Brittany Leary, another graduate of GTCC, is the pastry chef. I am often asked, “What’s the best restaurant in town?” I always demur because on a given night, there are a handful of places that might beat out the others with particular dishes. But The Undercurrent consistently springs to mind whenever I consider the question. It also occurs to me, given the professional training of so many personnel, that The Undercurrent embodies testimony to the GTCC culinary program. ! JOHN BATCHELOR has been writing about eating and drinking since 1981. Over a thousand of his articles have been published. He is also author of two travel/cookbooks: Chefs of the Coast: Restaurants and Recipes from the North Carolina Coast, and Chefs of the Mountains: Restaurants and Recipes from Western North Carolina. Contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org or see his blog, johnbatchelordiningandtravel.blogspot.com.
The Undercurrent is located at 327 Battleground Avenue, Greensboro, 27401 | 336-370-1266 | undercurrentrestaurant.com Hours: Lunch- 11:30 a.m.-2 p.m. Tuesday-Friday; Dinner- 5:30-9 p.m. Tuesday-Thursday, 5:30-9:30 p.m. Friday & Saturday; Sunday Brunch- 10:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m. Appetizers: $12-$14 | Salads: $8 | Soups: $9 | Entrees: $20-$36 | Desserts: $9-$10 Most recent visit: March 24
Reynolda House launches virtual fund-raising presentation
lthough its full name is the Reynolda House of American Art, one need only say “Reynolda House,” and there’s scarcely anyone in the state, Mark Burger much less WinstonSalem, who wouldn’t Contributor know what historical landmark was being referred to. For more than 50 years, Reynolda House has been home to one of the most remarkable art collections ever assembled, displayed within the original 1917 interiors of the country manor of R.J. and Katharine Reynolds. The collection boasts works by such esteemed American artists as Georgia O’Keeffe, Frederic Edwin Church, Alexander Calder, Romare Bearden, Stuart Davis, Martin Johnson Heade, Lee Krasner, and Jacob Lawrence, among many others. Located at 2250 Reynolda Road in Winston-Salem, Reynolda House also offers beautiful gardens, nature trails, and a waterfall at Reynolda Gardens. In addition, Reynolda House has hosted countless educational and entertainment events, holiday and seasonal celebrations, and even weddings over the years. If it’s not the crown jewel of Winston-Salem’s history, it’s certainly very high on the list. This year, Reynolda House will present its annual fundraiser, “Celebrate Reynolda,” beginning April 24 in a virtual format, available on the new streaming platform Artarie (https://www.artarie.com/). Instead of the traditional in-person gathering for Celebrate Reynolda, this year’s event will showcase a series of musical theater performances inspired by the works included in Reynolda House’s collection, as performed by noted alumni of the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA) and Broadway actors. The presentation will include highlights from such classic productions as Ragtime, The Secret Garden, Sound of Music, and Man of La Mancha. Tickets are $50 and can be purchased here: https://www.reynoldahouse.org/ content/celebrate-reynolda-2021-a-virtual-celebration. “To my knowledge, this deep and wellthought-out experience is unique and WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
hopefully will not only inspire lots of people to want to learn more about Reynolda (House), but they will also appreciate the experiences that they will be able to view,” said Lynn Eisenberg, a Reynolda House board member and co-chair of this event. This year’s “Celebrate Reynolda” event was conceived by Greg Walter, the event’s musical and creative adviser, as well as assistant dean for external affairs, professional development, and alumni School of Drama, UNCSA, and Eisenberg. Among the UNCSA graduates who appear in the presentation are Isaac Cole Powell (School of Drama’ 17), who earned a Drama League Award nomination for his portrayal of Tony in the 2020 Broadway revival of West Side Story and will make his big-screen bow in the Universal’s upcoming screen version of the 2015 stage musical Dear Evan Hansen opposite Julianne Moore and Amy Adams, as well as appearing in the second season of the Amazon Studios anthology series Modern Love opposite Anna Paquin, Minnie Driver, and Miranda Richardson. Funds raised will support the museum’s
ongoing educational mission to provide art, learning, and nature to all Reynolda House visitors by providing free admission to more than one-third of its annual visitors, including students and children under 18, as well as offering free public education programs to all ages in support of reading, literacy, and arts education. “Over the past year, our staff has learned how to pivot remarkably and meet our audience where they are,” said Allison Perkins, executive director of Reynolda House and Wake Forest associate provost for Reynolda House Museum of American Art
and Reynolda Gardens. “This year’s virtual fundraiser allows us to use the integration that’s at the core of our identity to inspire others to connect with Reynolda in new ways so that we can continue to offer rich educational experiences and enhance our accessibility.” Currently, the featured exhibition at Reynolda House is Cross-Pollination: Heade, Cole, Church, and Our Contemporary Moment, which opened in February in the Mary and Charlie Babcock Wing Gallery and is scheduled to run through May 21 of this year. Reynolda House is open 9:30 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. Tuesdays through Saturdays, 1:30 p.m. – 4:30 p.m. Sundays. For more information about Celebrate Reynolda or any of the events scheduled to take place at Reynolda House, call 336.663.1149 or visit the official website: https://www.reynoldahouse.org/. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2021, Mark Burger.
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Gun violence solutions moot for now
wise man once advised me never to complain about a problem unless I was prepared to offer a solution, and, where possible, I’ve always tried to adhere to Jim Longworth that advice in my newspaper columns. Longworth For example, I’ve criticized long-serving at Large politicians by advocating for term limits, and I’ve criticized the practice of jailing people for smoking dope by advocating for the legalization of drugs. I’ve also proposed various solutions for solving our nation’s problem with gun violence, but I’ve since come to realize that neither my solutions nor those of anyone else are likely to work, so long as we live in such a politically divided nation. Here, in no particular order, are some of the initiatives that have been proposed to combat gun violence:
Ban the Sale of Assault-Style Rifles We tried this back in 1994, but six years later, the law was repealed as soon as Republican George W. Bush took office. In the intervening two decades, assault rifle sales have enjoyed unchecked growth. Biden and his majority might re-institute a ban, but unless such a provision is formed into a Constitutional Amendment, then it’s subject to another repeal whenever Republicans regain control of the government. Also, we now know that assaultstyle pistols can be just as deadly, as we discovered recently after the Boulder massacre. Thus, any new legislation must be careful to use the word “weapon” rather than just “rifle.” Finally, even if we suddenly made it illegal to purchase all guns, it won’t solve our overall problem, because currently there are more guns in circulation than there are people, so anyone who wants to commit murder can easily get his hands on a weapon. Regulate the Sale of Ammo This hasn’t worked with gun sales, so why would it work with ammo? Also, most gun owners already have a stockpile of am-
munition, and those who don’t, can beg, borrow, steal, or import what they need. Ban the Manufacture of Large Ammo Clips This would be a good idea except for two things. First, these mega mags are already plentiful, and second, any sicko determined to kill innocent people can do so with a semi-automatic handgun and several standard-size clips. Confiscate Guns If police went door to door to confiscate all weapons, it would violate the Second Amendment and start an all-out civil war. This is the ultimate fear of Q-Anon nuts, but it’s also a concern for law-abiding citizens who would get swept up in escalated gun violence. Arm Every Citizen There is a long-standing theory among many conservatives that if everyone were packing a gun, then one or more of us would be able to stop a demented shooter before he can massacre a lot of people. There is, however, no data to show that ordinary citizens would know how to react quickly enough to prevent a massacre, nor that they wouldn’t end up shooting an innocent person in the process. Institute a Buy-Back Campaign No matter how many cities seek to buy back guns from residents, those campaigns only collect a tiny fraction of guns already in existence. Besides, the kind of men who shot up Atlanta and Boulder would have never participated in such an initiative. Install Metal Detectors I have long been a proponent of requiring metal detectors in all schools, shopping malls, and other large public venues, and installing sophisticated remote monitoring and door lock devices. I still believe this is logistically viable, but unless subsidized by the government, these upgrades would be cost-prohibitive for most businesses, churches, and schools. Require Extended Waiting Periods There’s nothing wrong with enacting a mandatory 90-day waiting period for the
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purchase of a gun. But while such a delay could prevent some spur-of-the-moment murders, it would only prolong a planned massacre. A longer waiting period would, however, allow for more extensive background checks. Enact Mandatory Background Checks Most localities have a system in place for checking the background of someone who wants to purchase a gun. The problem is that unless the purchaser has been in jail or hospitalized for mental illness, a background check is useless. Some Sheriffs have suggested that such checks should include a shared national database that red flags anyone who has been visited by police or social workers on multiple occasions but never arrested or committed. Hire More School Counselors The one thing on which everyone agrees is that mass shooters are mentally ill. The problem is that we never seem to know about their illness until AFTER a massacre. Having a social worker or psychologist in every school would give us a fighting chance to detect early-warning signs of deviant behavior and violent tendencies. It’s an investment we should make, but it’s not a quick fix. The reason why these and other measures won’t succeed right now is because our political leaders are working at crosspurposes. While Biden is considering taking executive action to ban certain weapons, State legislatures are making it easier to own and carry a gun. For example, 15 States now allow concealed carry without a permit, and nine other States are about to follow suit. And 12 States are now debating a law that would prohibit local police from enforcing any new federal gun control laws. Meanwhile, the body count keeps rising from mass shootings. No one is safe anymore, and the conservative leaders who should be concerned about that seem to fear their political base more than they do the shooters. ! JIM LONGWORTH is the host of Triad Today, airing on Saturdays at 7:30 a.m. on ABC45 (cable channel 7) and Sundays at 11 a.m. on WMYV (cable channel 15).
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— An April Fools’ Day prank went wrong in Wichita, Kansas, on ... April 1, KWCH-TV reported, when Arnthia Willis, 58, called her daughter that morning and said Chuck Shepherd she’d been shot. The Wichita Police and Fire departments and Sedgwick County EMS responded to the address given, but discovered no one was there. They later found Arnthia in suburban Derby and arrested her for an unlawful request for emergency service assistance. — Michael Boatman, 41, discovered by two sheriff’s deputies wandering down the street at 1 a.m. in Spartanburg, South Carolina, wearing only a “clear bag over his genitals” on April 1, told the officers he was doing a “walk of shame” in penance for cheating on his wife, according to an incident report. The Smoking Gun reported Boatman, who was smoking marijuana, according to the report, also allegedly told officers he had taken methamphetamine earlier. Boatman briefly tried to run away from officers, police said, but was captured and arrested for indecent exposure, among other offenses.
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An unnamed man emerged with his groceries from an Albertson’s supermarket in Las Cruces, New Mexico, on March 28, to find that his car had been overtaken by a swarm of an estimated 15,000 honeybees, according to the Las Cruces Fire Department. The man, who had borrowed the car, had left the back window down during his 10-minute trip inside the store, and the bees took up residence in the back seat. The New York Times reported he called 911, and responding firefighters turned to Jesse Johnson, 37, an off-duty firefighter who keeps bees as a hobby. Johnson brought an empty hive box treated with lemongrass oil (“It really mimics the scent of the queen,” he said) and lured the swarm out of the car. “I’ll do anything to keep people from killing bees,” Johnson said.
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Around 4:15 a.m. on March 24, an unidentified resident of Laurium, Michigan, woke to find a gun pointed at his head, WLUC-TV reported. Laurium Police said Warren Meyers, 52, of Calumet, Michigan, allegedly demanded the ho-
meowner give him his two cats. The “cat burglar” left with one cat and was later apprehended, along with the gun he used, said authorities. He was arraigned on March 29 in Houghton County Court; the fate of the stolen cat is unknown.
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Among the treasures discovered at Oxburgh Hall in Norfolk, England, is a 121-year-old chocolate bar, still in its tin, commissioned by Queen Victoria for troops fighting in the Second Boer War in South Africa, Reuters reported on March 31. Oxburgh was the ancestral home of the Bedingfeld family for 500 years, and one of them, Sir Henry Edward Paston-Bedingfeld, fought in that war; the chocolate bar was discovered in his helmet case. “Although you wouldn’t want it as your Easter treat,” mused Anna Forrest, cultural heritage curator at Britain’s National Trust, “it is still complete and a remarkable find.” On the lid, a message is inscribed in Queen Victoria’s handwriting: “I wish you a happy new year.”
— The Anchorage, Alaska, Daily News reported on March 26 that customers at a local Costco store are routinely robbed of large cuts of meat as they transfer their groceries to their cars ... by ravens. More than a year ago, Olani Saunoa was buckling her toddler into a car seat when a raven swooped in and grabbed a package of short ribs from her car. “He had picked up the entire package,” she said. And this year it happened to her again — a bird snatched a pack of pork ribs. Other customers are reporting similar incidents on social media. Rick Sinnott, a former wildlife biologist, isn’t surprised: Ravens “much prefer ... a package of short ribs from Costco to half of a hamburger bun from McDonald’s.” — Neighbors in Northampton, England, have been annoyed by a swan that has been knocking on their doors, sometimes for hours at a time, for five years, Fox News reported on March 24. “He starts by rattling the letterbox then bashes the metal with its beak quite loudly,” said resident Stephen Legg. “The racket reverberates through the whole house.” The bird targets houses only on one particular block, according to local media, but no one seems to know why. !
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Alamance residents, business owners, and NAACP sue to remove Confederate monument
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he North Carolina chapter of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People and a multiracial coalition of Alamance County residents and busiIan McDowell ness owners have sued the county’s all-white Board of YES! Writer Commissioners. The lawsuit is intended to move what may be NC’s most controversial remaining Confederate monument out of Court Square in downtown Graham. The Complaint, filed on March 30 in Alamance County State Superior Court, alleges that the 107-year-old monument is not merely a memorial to “THE BRAVE SOLDIERS OF ALAMANCE COUNTY” as its inscription claims, but was erected and dedicated as a deliberate symbol of white supremacy, slavery, and secession. Because of this, the Complaint argues, the monument violates the North Carolina State Constitution. The Complaint also alleges that the monument presents a public danger as a literal rallying point for white supremacists making threats against people of color, is a waste of taxpayer dollars and causes potential customers to shun downtown businesses. Named, as Defendants, are Alamance County and its commissioners Steve Carter, William T. Lashley, Pamela T. Thompson, John Paisley, and Craig Turner Jr. These five officials, the Complaint alleges, have failed in their duty to the state and its constitution by refusing all entreaties to move the monument to a museum or other place where it may be viewed in its historical context and can be avoided by those who do not wish to see it, much less be heckled by the neo-Confederates who gather to pay it homage. Plaintiffs are: - The North Carolina State Conference of the NAACP and NAACP Alamance County Branch # 5368, - The organizations: Down Home North Carolina and Engage Alamance, - Individuals Dreama Caldwell, Tamara Kersey, Daniel Kuhn, Reverend Randy Orwig, and Maryanne Shanahan. The Complaint describes Engage Alamance as being comprised of Alamance County business owners who “believe that the presence of the monument has negatively impacted commercial activity” and “object to the use of taxpayer revenues to protect the monument.” It describes Down Home NC as being com-
prised of Alamance County residents and taxpayers who have “organized grassroots advocacy campaigns to remove the monument because of its exclusionary and harmful impact on many Alamance County residents.” The Complaint cites a June 20, 2020 email from Alamance County Manager Bryan Hagood warning the Board of Commissioners that someone could be “seriously injured or killed” if the monument is not moved from its present location. After that email went public last June, more than 50 community leaders sent the Alamance County Board of Commissioners a letter asking that the statue be relocated. Signers included Burlington Mayor Ian Baltutis, who called the monument “undeniably a part of our history,” but one that “represents an ideology incompatible with equality.” On June 28, the Board responded that they did not have the legal authority to move the monument, as it “is an object of remembrance as defined by North Carolina General Statute 100-2.1,” referring to the controversial Monuments Law approved by then-governor Pat McCrory in 2015, which states that “objects of remembrance” cannot be removed from their original location. Paragraph 54 of the Complaint alleges that the Board’s response was based on misreading that statute. “First, by its own terms, [the law] does not apply to objects of remembrance which a building inspector or similar official has determined pose a threat to public safety,” which the County Manager described the monument as being. According to Paragraphs 56 and 57 of the Complaint, the Monuments Law “only constrains the movement of objects of remembrance, defined solely as a monument or similar item that commemorates an event, a person, or military service that is part of North Carolina’s history.” It then alleges that the monument does not commemorate a specific person or event. Paragraph 58 of the Complaint argues that “armed rebellion against the United States cannot be considered ‘military service,’ particularly given the North Carolina Constitution’s stated opposition to secession.” Thus, the monument “does not qualify as an ‘object of remembrance’ and is not protected by the Monuments Law.” The Complaint then goes on to describe North Carolina’s and Alamance County’s post-Civil War history, according to the title of the next section of the Complaint, the “Monument’s Erection and Dedication Honored White Supremacy and Defied the Constitution.” Historians agree that many Confederate monuments installed between the first
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and fifth decades of the 20th Century were erected as a statement against Black suffrage and civil rights. As YES! Weekly reported in the August 11, 2020 cover story “Wyatt Outlaw and the white men who put a monument where they lynched him,” this is particularly true in Alamance County. On February 26, 1870, Wyatt Outlaw, a Black Alamance County Union veteran, was lynched by the Ku Klux Klan on or near the site where a monument honoring his memory would later be erected. Outlaw, a Graham town constable, a labor and Black rights organizer, was murdered for chasing Klan “night riders” out of town. Last year, neo-Confederate counterprotesters were seen by a YES! Weekly reporter taunting anti-racist activists near
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the site of Outlaw’s lynching by grasping their own collars, standing on tip-toe, and sticking out their tongues in an apparent imitation of a man being lynched. Several contemporaneous accounts of Outlaw’s murder state that he was killed at the order of Jacob Long, the Guilford County Klan leader who expanded that terrorist organization into Alamance County and was specifically opposed to Black men bearing arms, as Outlaw did. Long was arrested as an accessory in Outlaw’s murder, but when Governor William Woods Holden was impeached for ordering Long and other Klansmen’s arrests, all charges against Long were dropped. When Graham’s Confederate monument was dedicated in 1914, Jacob Long was Master of Ceremonies. Long’s speech
stated that the purpose of the monument was “to recall the achievements of the great and good of our own race and blood.” The monument was a gift from the United Daughters of the Confederacy, which openly defended the recently-revived Klan as an “absolute necessity in the South” and “the very flower of Southern manhood.” The monument on the site of Wyatt Outlaw’s murder is just one of many erected across North Carolina in the first decades of the 20th century, mostly due to the efforts of “Major” Henry London and his wife Bettie Jackson London, who was Chair of the Monument Committee of the NC Daughters of the Confederacy. Henry London also spoke at the monument’s dedication.
Although he insisted on being called “Major,” London avoided most of the war by being a student at Chapel Hill, serving six months as a private before Lee’s surrender. After the war, he championed white supremacy in his newspaper, The Chatham Record, and campaigned for the Disenfranchisement Amendment to the North Carolina Constitution, which, when it was enacted in 1900, kept almost all Black North Carolinians from being able to vote until the 1960s. Section VI of the complaint is titled “The Monument Threatens County Residents’ Physical Safety and Economic Well-Being While Also Straining TaxpayerFunded County Resources.” The section states that the Alamance County Sheriff’s Department has spent an
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estimated $747,672 guarding the monument during protests in 2020. “Further to this very point, on March 26, 2021, Alamance County officials announced that the government is in the process of erecting an additional barrier around the Confederate monument outside of the old Alamance Courthouse, expending even greater resources on protecting a monument without public purpose.” Paragraph 44 of the Complaint begins, “In addition to financial harm, the enduring presence of the Alamance County’s Confederate monument on County property poses physical risks to Plaintiffs and their fellow County residents.” It cites as an example of Elon University professor Megan Squires, who, along with her husband, Tony Crider (also a member of Elon faculty), was assaulted last June by neo-Confederates near the monument. The Complaint also asserts that the monument “serves as a magnet for members of organizations identified by the Southern Poverty Law Center as neoConfederate hate groups, such as ACTBAC (Alamance County Taking Back Alamance County) and the League of the South. As has been publicly reported, such groups often espouse both white supremacy and violence, including at times, through the promotion of U.S. civil war.” It also states that Plaintiff Dreama Caldwell “is aware of the continuing presence of and threats from ACTBAC and the Proud Boys regarding the Confederate monument, noting that members from both groups have shown up to physically defend the monument and threaten violence against those opposed to the monument.” The Complaint alleges that multiple persons have received death threats for protesting the monument, and that Graham and Alamance law enforcement regularly and violently arrest anti-monument protesters while maintaining a cordial relationship with neo-Confederate counter-protesters. YES! Weekly has reported on multiple instances of this, and the disparity was noted by the Alamance Times, even before a reporter for that weekly was roughed up, pepper-sprayed, and arrested during what local leaders call an attack by the Alamance deputies and Graham police officers on an October 31, 2020 voting rights march. That mashup and its fallout received condemnation from North Carolina governor Roy Cooper and Attorney General Josh Stein and the attention of the world press. The Complaint does not note the alleged friendship that Sheriff Terry Johnson publicly displays towards members of ACTBAC. YES! Weekly and other publications have reported these incidents and documented them via photographs and video. APRIL 7-13, 2021
While the Complaint states that numerous Alamance County residents have spoken before the Alamance County Board of Commissioners over the past year to request the removal of the monument, it does not note the controversy caused by responses from the all-white, Republican board. Last year, the late Commissioner Bill Lashley, a former police officer, made national headlines when he expressed apparent nostalgia for the days when officers could “beat the hell out of” protesters with impunity. Lashley also responded to an email from constituent Meg Williams with, “If you and your friend did not hate America so much, you would realize America May not be purific [sic] but it’s a good country.” When Williams requested clarification of the bizarre response, he replied, “Can you not read,Or you trying to overthrow America [sic].” Lashley, who died in December, should not be confused with his son William T. Lashley, who now serves on the board. Last year, the junior Lashley mocked antimonument protesters from his seat in the audience at a November Board meeting. The Complaint ends with the following statement: “Plaintiffs seek a declaratory judgment or decree because such action by this Court will terminate an actual controversy or remove an uncertainty among the parties. Specifically, Plaintiffs seek and have established grounds for a judgment or decree declaring that the monument violates one or more provisions of the North Carolina Constitution as set forth in Counts One through Five above, that Defendants own, possess, and/or maintain the monument on county property and therefore have authority to relocate or remove the monument from its current location on county property, and that Defendants are required by law to effectuate immediate removal of the monument to remedy the aforementioned, ongoing constitutional violations.” YES! Weekly has reached out to Alamance County Commissioners John P. Paisley, Steve Carter, Bill T. Lashley, Pamela T. Thompson, and Craig Turner, Jr. for comment about being named as Defendants in the lawsuit. On Monday, Board Chair Carter responded: “Thanks for our interest. We have been advised to direct inquiries to our Alamance County Attorney, Mr. Clyde Albright.” YES! Weekly requested a comment from Attorney Albright, who had not responded at press time. ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.
#PassThePinwheel highlights child abuse prevention The Kellin Foundation is counting on your taste for ice cream to help them stick a pin in child abuse. On Saturday, April 10, the organization will hold a Community Pinwheel Chanel Davis Planting Event at the Ben & Jerry’s at the Shops at Editor Friendly Center from 1 to 4 p.m. The Kellin Foundation will receive 10 percent of the proceeds from the ice cream purchases during that time to further its work in the Triad area. Residents in the area can show their support by stopping by the booth at Ben & Jerry’s to get pinwheels to plant and other giveaway items. Families have the option of choosing to plant them at the ice cream shop or to take them home and plant them in their gardens. There will be a craft table set up and goodie bags available for all children who attend. “Every child in our community is filled with extraordinary potential,” said Kelly Graves, co-founder and executive director of the Kellin Foundation. “As grownups, it’s our job to foster that potential because the very future of our community depends on them becoming healthy adults. Our team provides evidencebased approaches to help strengthen families, heal trauma, and break cycles of abuse.” This event is just one of many designed to bring awareness to the nationwide recognition of April being National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Prevent Child Abuse America has introduced pinwheels as the national symbol for child abuse prevention, hence the local Pinwheel for Prevention efforts. The biggest, and most visible, is the 2021 #PassThePinwheel movement that is moving across the nation and the state for April. For those looking to support the movement, pinwheels, pinwheel bouquets, and yard signs are available for purchase to help spread the word or act as conversation starters about preventing child abuse from the www.KellinFoundation. org. Families can purchase pinwheels, yard signs, and more to show their support for strengthening families and fostering healthy child development at Saturday’s Ben & Jerry’s event, as well. “During the pandemic, the community’s WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM
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need for high-quality mental health and behavioral health services exploded,” said Mary Herbenick, development director and resiliency coordinator at the Kellin Foundation. “Partnerships with organizations like Ben & Jerry’s, including the Saturday event, help us meet the growing need for providing services that build resilient children, families, adults, and communities.” The organization has already kicked off some of its month-long events. On April 1, they encouraged people to wear blue to show their support for “building caring connections, supportive environments and positive experiences for all children.” On the morning of Wednesday, April 7, they hosted a virtual Coffee and Conversation for Behavioral Health Professionals before hosting a virtual Child Abuse Prevention Month Kick-Off in conjunction with the Resilient Guilford Network. The kick-off, also a monthly meeting of the Resilient Guilford Network, discussed the state of child wellness in the Triad, current collaborations on resilience, and how Triad residents can help make their cities a safe place to grow. Participants and speakers included Sharon Hirsch, president and CEO of Prevent Child Abuse NC, City Council members from High Point and Greensboro, and other local leaders dedicated to strengthening families and preventing child abuse in Guilford County. A number of planned events highlighting child abuse and how to help prevent it will go on throughout the month. They are listed below: • Thurs., April 8, 2020 Community Resilience Model Training 10 a.m. – Noon via Zoom Learn what a trauma-informed,
resilience-focused community looks like and how to improve your response to toxic stress and trauma. Join this skillsbased training to learn about the biology and neurophysiology of toxic stress and trauma, explore the impact on individuals and communities, and discover how resiliency can be restored using proven wellness techniques. All are welcome, but registration is required. • Fri., April 9, 2020 Understanding and Assessing Trauma in Children - 9 a.m. - 1:35 p.m. This virtual training is designed to facilitate discussion on the importance of assessing trauma in children. The training is free and open to any Sandhills Center MCO staff & providers. Registration is required. • Wed., April 14, 2020 Guilford County Partnership for Children’s Virtual Resource Fair - 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. Residents are invited to join this event to learn more about local resources that promote the healthy development of children. During the event, the Kellin Foundation team will share more about how families can “Maximize Love and
Manage Stress” using the Guilford Basics. This event will be live-streamed on the Guilford County Partnership for Children’s Facebook page. • Thur., April 22, 2020 Trauma-Informed, ResilienceFocused Coaching - 3:30 – 4:45 p.m. The Kellin Foundation will lead a virtual workshop, hosted by NC Fusion, focused on understanding the foundations of stress and trauma among youth, particularly as they are compounded with COVID, and the mental health impacts that could play out on the field. We will discuss trauma-informed, resiliencefocused coaching strategies that could be used to help understand, connect, and address the needs of student-athletes for maximum success on and off the field. Registration is required. For more information on events, sponsorship opportunities, or how to purchase items to show your support, visit www. KellinFoundation.org. ! CHANEL DAVIS is the current editor of YES! Weekly and graduated from N.C. A&T S.U. in 2011 with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. She’s worked at daily and weekly newspapers in the Triad region. APRIL 7-13, 2021
Volz is buzzin’
olz Brown is a busy bee. With a stacked spring full of new releases and a schedule leading up to a hot summer, the Winston-Salem rapper and creative Katei Cranford multi-hyphenate is abuzz. Contributor His latest release, “It’s Up To You,” (a collaborative effort with fellow Winston-Salem artist, KamDoja), dabbles across the board in what’s becoming Brown’s trademark “genreblending” style. “I love that “genre-blending” is the umbrella term to describe my place in music,” Brown said, defining his natural sonic as between genre lines. “Whenever I’m trying to hone in on a specific genre is when I find my most challenges,” he added. Brown routes his flow through a hip-
hop base, built with contrast. “Of course, there’s a clear hip-hop influence in literally anything I create,” he noted. “I’m a huge believer in contrast and balance, and although hip-hop is like second nature, there’s an intention of cadence to incorporate other genres.” A lifelong music lover, Brown embarked on what he considers his “journey to become a music creative,” through active investment in self-study as a teenager. “I started with an M-audio USB microphone that came with some terrible recording software, but I made it work and have been building my knowledge and studio since,” he said, professing love for his Ableton Push. His line of studies includes an extensive list of influences, ranging from Paramore, the 1975 and Quincy Jones to Kid Cudi, Dave Grohl, Alicia Keys, Timbaland, and Barry White. These days, Brown holds an artistic affinity for the work of artists like KAYTRANADA, H.E.R., Steve Lacy, and Anderson .Paak. “They have a clear influence
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from a particular realm of music but also utilize their skills to create beyond what is expected of them,” he said. While Brown blends genres, the resulting songs present a focused package-weaving narrative elements around descriptive vocal highlights. “Growing up listening to a lot of Nas and OutKast, I was always in awe at the picture that entered my mind from their combination of flow and narration,” Brown said. “They created a generation of narrative lyricists, and I’m one of them.” Brown’s narrative path follows the buzz surrounding love affairs, love in general, and his budding adoration of jazz guitar (established by classical guitarist Nathaniel Ward) on “Look Boo, the Stars are Out.” “It’s Up To You” features Ward’s guitar work on four out-of-five tracks while exploring low-key interests and the escalating passion of budding romances. It’s a more casual take than Brown explored in its predecessor “Look, Boo…,” which follows a complete story arc between lovers. “I always enjoy a good love story,” Brown said of his thematic preferences. “I also love telling my story in a tone that will be empowering and relatable.” And while an array of artists, including the Steady Hyperactive collective’s roster, appear on “Look, boo...” Brown leaned more on the natural chemistry between Doja and himself on their collaborative EP. “I had a fun time with this one because we naturally pulled from strong Hip-Hop and R&B duos like Timbaland and Missy, Wyclef and Lauryn Hill, and Erykah Badu & The Dungeon Family; or even Method Man and Mary J. Blige,” Brown said.
Flower in Bloom appears as the only guest vocal, lending a “graceful hook” on “Around the Finger.” “She’s such a good mix of a talented powerhouse and a humble spirit,” Brown said. “I can’t explain how proud I am of that girl, and getting to work with her is just a plus.” In May, the pair will release a new single, “San Diego,” which Brown produced himself. A seasoned engineer, but a relatively new producer, he’s looking to expand his roster of credits--reinforced by the popularity of tracks like “Schnitzel” by OG Spliff and Flower In Bloom, which he co-produced with Greensboro artist Benji EZA (aka Cozy Fue.) Brown and EZA (along with Greensboro’s Lil kawaii and Charlotte rapper, CoreyKnoxville,) have also formed a new group, “Hex Boys.” “The feel is like a boy band of hip-hop,” Brown explained. “We plan on releasing a full project of material this year.” Brown’s also working on another solo EP, with beats from Raleigh’s illohim, which he expects to drop by summer. And his calendar continues heating up with an event in the works at a Winston-Salem art institution coming in June and a slot on April 16 at the fourth annual “ACOBE (A Celebration of Black Excellence) Festival,” which runs virtually April 16-18. Volz Brown is buzzing. His latest record, “It’s Up to You,” with KamDoja is out now. ! KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who hosts “Katei’s Thursday Tour Report,” a radio show spotlighting area artists and events, Thurs. 5:30-7 p.m. on WUAG 103.1FM. #ksttr
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STALK OF SHAME
I’m a 34-year-old woman seeking a relationship. Last week, I went to dinner with a man. We had an instantaneous connection and ended up having sex. I haven’t heard from Amy Alkon him since. I’ve always believed sex on a first Advice date doesn’t matter if there’s a connecGoddess tion. Now I’m worried I moved too quickly. I’m tempted to call him. Any advice on what to say? —Disappointed Chasing a man into wanting you is usually about as successful as trying to split atoms with small household tools. You may believe sex on the first date “doesn’t matter,” but our genes (the source of our psychology) have not heard of the women’s movement and do not drink out of an ‘’ovaries before brovaries!” coffee mug. Women and men are more alike than different, physically and psychologically, but the physical differences we do have (like how only women get pregnant) led to the evolution of psychological sex differences. For example, evolutionary psychologists Martie Haselton and David Buss find that heterosexual men and women having sex with someone for the first time experience differing “affective shifts” — shifts in feelings — afterward. In the afterglow, women felt more emotionally attached and more attracted to their partner (a “positive affective shift”).
These commitment-fostering feelings align with how, for a woman, sex “signals the possibility of pregnancy” (and daddy shoes in need of filling). On the male side, immediately after the first sexperience with a new woman, men who’ve had a lot of sex partners (six-plus as college undergrads, suggesting a shortterm sexual strategy) experienced a “negative affective shift”: finding a woman “less physically attractive and sexy.” (This effect didn’t show up in men with fewer sex partners or in women, no matter how many sex partners they’d had.) Haselton speculates that for hookupmeister men, the negative affective shift signals game over — sex goal achieved — and pushes them to move on lest they get “entangled in an unwanted long-term relationship.” If this guy wanted to see you again, he’d be blowing up your phone. To help yourself accept that, recycle him from a current goal to an ongoing reminder: Whenever you might want more than a hookup with a particular guy, wait till he’s emotionally attached before having sex with him. How many dates, calls, and texts this takes will vary, but basically, a man needs to care about you enough to weather how your sex face makes you look like a mortally wounded hamster.
this a way to give him a chance to miss me, reset, and get back together in a healthy way? —Distressed If you broke up by accident and still want to be with the person, there’s something you should do, and it isn’t spending a month and a half being all “My spirit animal is a 3,000-year-old crustacean fossilized in rock.” Breaking up because you hit an impasse in an argument is like abandoning your apartment because your toilet’s clogged. Chances are you exploded because you “reasoned” with part of the brain not equipped for the job. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman explains that our brain has two information-processing systems: System 1, our instinctive, fast-responding emotional system that jumps into action automatically; and System 2, our slow-to-awaken reasoning system that we have to force to do its job. System 1 (automatic emotion!) drove you to blurt your way into breaking up. Possibly getting back together takes hauling your System 2 reasoning out of bed and making it process whether you, as a couple, are irretrievably broken or just need to learn
healthy conflict resolution techniques. You resolve conflict not through fighting to win — hammering the other person until they give in — but through listening with an open mind: putting in the effort to understand and empathize and then working to solve problems as a we instead of a you versus me. (This takes practice, and psychologist John Gottman’s “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” is a helpful guide, but in the meantime, a clue: If the volume goes up, you’re doing it wrong.) Since the guy was in a relationship with you until you accidentally blew it up, he probably cares about you and doesn’t need to be psychologically manipulated into wanting you with some “no contact” crapfest. Ultimately, if you love something and accidentally set it free, go after it and tell it you were an idiot: “If I’m gonna have fights about underwear used for a coffee table coaster, I want them to be with you.” ! GOT A PROBLEM? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com). Follow her on Twitter @amyalkon. Order her latest “science-help” book, Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence. ©2021 Amy Alkon. Distributed by Creators.Com.
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My boyfriend and I broke up during a nasty fight. I (rashly and immaturely) blurted out that we should just break up. He blurted out, “Fine!” and asked to stop talking for a while. Ugh. I still want to be with him. Dating coaches advise a “no contact” rule post-breakup (cutting off communication for 21 to 45 days). Do you agree? Is
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