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Tri-Cities | August / September 2020
BURSTING WITH TOO MANY
Because I said so............... 5 A message from MOM
Cover MOM: Vicki Haines......................10 This mom gets real
Organizing kids’ clothes......................18 Whether school is in session or not, kids keep growing
Tips for managing the digital photo hoarding habit
Our favorite helpful cooking hacks..................24 For when you’re short on time or patience — or both
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Family Community/Hometown: Pasco/North Platte, NE Husband: Kevin Haines Children: Kelin, age 7, Kenidy, age 5, stepson Trey, age 29, and stepdaughter Taisha, age 31 Grandchildren: Hayden, age 18, Reilly, age 16, and Grae, age 9 Profession: Dermatology Certified Nurse Practitioner and owner of Atomic Dermatology and The Bomb Shelter Med Spa
With four kids, three grandchildren and her own business, cover MOM Vicki Haines has plenty to keep her busy. And when things get stressful, she uses a Beastie Boysinspired mantra to calm her mind.
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All families are unique. Tell us about yours.I have been married to Kevin Haines since 2005, together since 1998. He is 10 years older and came with two children, Taisha and Trey. They were ages 7 and 8 when we got together. We had them every other weekend, holidays and summer. They were the best kids ever, and I loved them instantly. So cute and polite and listened. Never got in trouble, never talked back. Of course, Kevin drove a tight ship so he laid the foundation of discipline and manners, and this is probably why I was so attracted to him. He was an awesome dad and loved being a dad, and I knew I wanted more kids with him. After nursing school, I became a traveling RN in emergency departments throughout the Northwest and in Northern California, for a total of 18 emergency departments in 11 years. We decided to have more children, and I decided emergency work wouldn’t allow me the time I wanted with small children. My stepson Trey came to live with us full-time 12 mommag.com
when he was in the eighth grade. He was a wrestler, aka, walking skin disease. He influenced me to go into dermatology because finding a dermatology provider was impossible. I thought, hey, here’s a specialty that could use more help! I finished my master’s degree and started my dermatology career. With a little help from in vitro, we had Kelin in 2012 and Kenidy in 2015. Tell us about some of your proudest mom moments. My proudest mom moments are all the time. Taisha is the best mom possible to Grae, her daughter with autism. She has the patience and understanding and love that makes your heart swell. Trey becoming an Army Ranger, doing many tours in Iraq, literally being our family hero, and not to mention the dude grows the best beard you’ve ever seen, which I think he gets from me. He is currently finishing his bachelor’s degree in cyber security. My boy Kelin with his quirky questions about everything, like who really is the tooth fairy? Are those characters at Disney just people dressed up? He loves learning: he wants a new encyclopedia every week about extinct animals, all the sea creatures, all the dangerous animals in the world, etc. His ability to adjust with no problem to the home school situation. Never a complaint, he just says okay mom and dad this is what we are doing. My baby girl Kenidy, with her sense of style and her sweet sensitive nature. She’s not afraid to tell you 65 times a day she loves you and runs out just one more time for a hug and kiss. She is constantly drawing pictures for people and picking flowers to share. She is a giver by nature as am I, and I love this about her. She does tell me I could use a bow in my hair or a fancy necklace because my black uniform isn’t very pretty. What is something you swore you would never do before kids that you now do? I was a much better parent before I had kids! My kids will eat organic vegetables, ha ha ha, yeah, they eat mac and cheese, peanut butter and honey sandwiches, and maybe a few other things…none of which are organic vegetables. And I thought no plastic toys. Well, epic fail, Target is my kids’ favorite store and 99.9% of the time we are leaving with plastic toys. The struggle is real.
A happy family expansion “My stepdaughter married Paul on May 2, 2020 in a small private ceremony due to COVID-19,” said Vicki. Because of the pandemic, Trey was unable to join them. “Paul has two sons Hayden, 18, and Reilly, 16, so I now have two more grandkids.” Pictured here, from left to right, back row: Paul, Taisha, Vicki, Kevin. Front row: Grae, Kelin, Kenidy
…way to get out of making dinner:
I don’t need to. My husband does all the cooking so I always get out of cooking. He’s an excellent chef.
...place to hide or find peace & quiet: In
my car driving, with no music on. Also Bikram Yoga. It’s torturous but brings me to a place my mind can calm down.
…binge-worthy TV: Real Housewives — all of them!
…words to live by: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
...time saving app: I’m the least tech savvy
person alive. I’d like my iPhone 3 back, please.
Your biggest wish for your kids is… For my kids is to be successful so they each have a place for me to live. I’m living with each of them three months out of the year when I’m old. I need them to provide me with my own living quarters — an in-law suite, basement, tiny house, whatever — so they need to be successful so I can be comfortable. I haven’t let them know this yet. I think this article will serve as a great source to let them know. Really, though, I want them to be successful in whatever they decide, and to be self-reliant, independent, stable, happy and driven.
No one works harder than mom. We know that being a mom is a full-time job. Tell us about your work or volunteerism outside of the home. I started my own dermatology clinic in 2017, called Atomic Dermatology, in Pasco. Recently we expanded and now have The Bomb Shelter Med spa as well. It has been the most career-rewarding thing I’ve ever been able to do. I’m able to care for my patients exactly as I want without ties of big business. I do free skin cancer screenings locally several times a year to help those who are uninsured or underinsured. I also give skin cancer talks to educate, and I try to make it funny and light. I encourage everyone to “get naked” every year with your dermatology provider. I love that I’m able to show my kids that hard work and dedication to helping others is a great career and life choice. In the next
five years I want to expand further….more Atomic Derm to come. How do you keep it all together? What falls through the cracks? Honestly having my husband as my rock is how my whole life stays together. He’s the chef, chauffeur, gardener, disciplinarian, and he was recently promoted to first grade and preschool teacher. He’s the oil that keeps this whole engine running. Without him we’d all be lost.
If mom’s not happy,nobody’s happy. Tell us about your community/upbringing growing up. How did it shape the mother you are today? My dad told me, “I don’t want you to be better than anyone else, I just want you to be the best you can be.” This has always been a powerful message in my life. When I gave my nursing school graduation speech, I included this and it made my eyes well up. I know I have accomplished this, and that he is very proud of me. I want my children to feel this way. What is the quality you like most about yourself? My best quality is my sense of humor and my ability to make people laugh and be comfortable. Remember, most of the people I’m around on a work day are hanging out in their underwear. So that could be awkward, but they honestly forget so fast because I just go right into their life, my life, and boom, the appointment is over and skin problems are solved. People bring
for MOM Tea or Coffee? Green tea first thing in morning, coffee at breakfast and lunch, sleepy time vanilla tea at bedtime. Morning or Night? Night for sure, this whole kid/work/life thing really cuts into my sleeping in. Dog or Cat? Both. We have a year-old puppy, Belle, and a new kitty, too. Beer or Wine? Beer, wine, vodka, White Claw...depends on the night and the company. Bath or Shower? Shower for time-saving, but if given the opportunity I like a nice long hot bath. Hot or Cold? Hot weather, tea, coffee, shower, bath. All good things that warm you up. Hugs or Kisses? Both. This COVID-19 life has been weird for me, not being able to hug my patients or shake hands. Ice cream or Chocolate? Chocolate Early or Late? Late
me energy and happiness, and they can tell I genuinely love what I do. I am a true extrovert; I am energized by the busier I am. Every day I come home, I’m asked, how was your day? I say, it was busy and awesome! Many times, I’ve been asked, you can’t really be that happy all the time? Yep, I can and am. They say that everyone has a book in them. What’s the title of your book? The title of my book would be Find your Voice and Speak it. At some point in life we have to accept who we are and speak our truths.
Is motherhood what you expected? Motherhood is everything. It is truly what life is all about. Children — natural, step, adopted — all are blessings from God and should be cherished. I was adopted, and we had foster children. I understood early that
sometimes people get to pick their family. Being a mom can be stressful. How do you find calm in the storm? My favorite mantra to ground me is from the Beastie Boys: Let it flow, let yourself go/Slow and low, that is the tempo. I was in a yoga class over 20 years ago, and the teacher asked us to come up with our mantra, it was the only thing I could think of. I use it daily. I have a strong faith and relationship with God. I pray and meditate daily. My favorite prayer to ground me when things go bad is the serenity prayer. I used this prayer to help me start my own business and throughout this COVID-19 time as well. With so many questions and so few answers right now, all we can do is wait, pray and do the best we can with a smile.
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Out with the old before you bring in the new How to start: Mark three bags or boxes as KEEP, TOSS and DONATE. What to save Items in good condition that will fit another child, either one of your own or someone else’s. A few sentimental items can be stowed away with other keepsakes. What to jettison: Anything stained, ripped, what you think you’ll get to mending but never will, etc. Note that some donation sites will send unusable items to textile recyclers. How to store items to grow into: Clear storage bins let you see what you have. Label with season and sizes, and keep bins up and out of the way, so that items don’t get mixed up with current clothing.
Mom tip: If your kids are close in age and complain about accidental mix-ups of their sibling’s clothing in their items, it’s time for them to learn how to do laundry.
Organizing kids’ clothes One mom quipped recently, “This year, I’m not sure whether to buy my kids pajamas or school clothes.”
hether school is in session or not, kids keep growing — and outgrowing their clothes and shoes. That leaves moms managing the constant turnover.
Professional organizer Megan Warren of Shipshape & Organized Spaces, Inc. in Eugene, Ore., advises using the seasons, rather than the academic calendar, as a guide. “Make it a priority and set aside an hour at the change of each season to go through your kids’ clothes and remove anything that no longer fits or is overly weathered from use,” says Warren. “Put those items in a bag and into your car so the next time you drive by a donation center
you can drop them off,” she said, noting that getting into this routine helps the task seem less overwhelming the next time you have to do it. Warren also recommends getting the kids involved. “I have a bin in my closet where my kids can put any item of clothing or pair of shoes that no longer fit them. This has been a huge help in teaching them to be conscious of getting rid of unused items.” And as for that donation bag you put in your car…many moms drive around with them for weeks before remembering to drop them off. But hey, at least your kids’ closets look amazingly organized!
IS YOUR SMARTPHONE BURSTING WITH TOO MANY PHOTOS? editorial
IF YOU DELETE IMAGES TO MAKE MORE ROOM SO YOU CAN TAKE MORE PHOTOS, KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
If you thought you would use the time you had under stay-at-home orders to actually do something with those photos but didn’t, again, know that you are not alone. The struggle is real, and it’s time to do something about it.
First, clean it up Okay, so every single photo of your child is ah-dor-able and so hard to delete. But, no one needs forty shots of the same time they went to the petting zoo. Go through and delete all the eyes-closed, unflattering pictures. Then, get rid of pictures that are almost duplicates. It’s tough to press delete on your babies, but if the photos aren’t really all that different, they’re simply hogging up space you need to take more photos.
Really delete it When you click to delete a photo, it’s still in your trash. Just like your kitchen garbage can, it’s still in your house until you take it outside and roll it to the curb. It’s also similar to desktop or laptop computers, where putting it in the trash doesn’t make it go away. Think of deleting photos on your phone as the same two-step process: after you delete a photo, go empty your photo trash or “Recently Deleted” photos to really get rid of them.
IF YOU HAVE OVER 2,241 PHOTOS ON YOUR SMARTPHONE RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Backup, backup and then backup some more Use a service like iCloud or Google Photos to back up those precious memories. These services and many others out there are fairly straightforward to use. Use multiple services if you want redundancy. You can also buy small USB flash drives that connect to your phone and store photos on those, too.
Print those pics Many retailers offer free apps that make it a cinch to send your photos digitally, then get actual printed photos back. Imagine that: real photos that you could actually put in photo albums...mind blown. Services like Snapfish not only print pictures and send them to you, they also let you turn your photos into fun books, cards, and — a sign of the times — face masks. Framing photos is convenient with the Keepsake app. It lets you upload your photo, choose your matte and frame, then have the finished product sent to you directly. Prices start around $29 for a framed 8” x 10,” which makes a great gift.
Even if you have kids, pets and a photo habit, with small steps you can overcome digital photo hoarding. There is hope...and more room to be made for new pictures. 22 mommag.com
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You might be today years old learning this one: the hole in a pot handle is the perfect wooden spoon rest. Stick the end of the spoon in it while your dish boils.
The right accessories can make all the difference
Our Favorite Helpful Cooking Hacks
Clear fridge storage boxes let you see what the food is, rather than having to go digging — or more likely, ignoring items and having them go to waste.
For when you’re short on time or patience — or both.
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Kitchen scissors: if you don’t have some, treat yourself. From cutting open super-sealed packs of chicken, to cutting fresh herbs, this kitchen tool is multi-talented. Get ones that can go on the top rack of the dishwasher after using.
You can grate hardboiled eggs. Wait, what? This is useful for making deviled eggs, or adding some protein to a salad.
How many times have you thought far enough ahead to take the butter out to bring it to room temperature? Us neither. Grating cold butter works like a charm when baking.
A permanent marker for labeling and dating the tops of lids, plastic bags, foil, etc. Hide yours from the kids so it doesn’t get swiped for their crafts. Tin foil: Line your slow cooker or sheet pan with this utilitarian kitchen item to make cleaning up a breeze.
Because you are about to have way too much zucchini in your life: grate it up for zucchini bread, pasta or even as an addition to meatloaf.
Kid’s Favorite Pasta About 10 oz. of your family’s favorite pasta, cooked and drained. Wholegrain pasta provides more fiber and nutritional value. Add 2 - 3 Tablespoons of butter to the warm pasta and stir to coat. Drizzle olive oil, then shake on some garlic salt and parmesan cheese. Stir and serve hot, or store in the fridge to eat cold later.
If it’s about to go bad, just freeze it.
Prep ahead of time: future you will thank past you
Make a batch of “kid” pasta (see recipe at top right) for leftovers that are great for school lunches. Don’t forget to pack a fork — in fact, use up some of those utensils saved from takeout orders. Boil a half-dozen eggs on Sunday for the week ahead. Mark them in pencil as “HB” for hard-boiled and store them in a separate bowl in the fridge. A great grab-and-go source of protein. Desticker and wash fruit all at once so it’s ready to eat on the fly. This is a great chore for little kids, with supervision.
The jumbo applesauce you bought is on the verge of growing mold. Freeze it in small containers that are great for lunches, or quick recipe substitution in baking if you don’t want or have any eggs on hand. The kids want spaghetti! But then they don’t want spaghetti. And here you just opened the giant jar of sauce. Freeze it in portions your family uses. Rice, rice baby: Making extra of this popular grain is easy because it seems to magically triple its volume from what you expect. Portion out leftovers into two cups per plastic bag, then label and freeze. That way you’ll have it ready to go for future casseroles, skillet meals, etc.
From messmakers to time-savers
Warming up taco shells: place them open-side down on a cookie sheet so they don’t fold in while baking. Some people use fancy speciality baking sheets or balled-up foil, but this is much easier. Cherry tomatoes for a salad? Cut them all at once by gently sandwiching them between two plastic container lids, leaving enough space to run a knife horizontally through the centers. Voila! No more time spent cutting each individual tiny tomato. Store self-stir peanut butter upside down before you open it. That way the oil will move through the peanut butter, which allows for easier mixing when you do open it. Once it’s open, though, you risk a leak if you store it upside down. Screw that lid on tight if you’re going to live that dangerously. Microwave corn on the cob in its husk. No soaking is needed, and don’t even worry about the tassels. About four minutes should do, then cut the bottom off and pull the sleeve off the husk (it will be hot, so use a towel or mitts). Ready for butter.
Our Favorite Helpful Cooking Hacks
Pre-chopped, bagged and grab-and-go
Baby carrots might be the winner of the brown-bag lunch award, if there is such a thing. They are a convincing size for kids to actually eat and perfect for dipping. Precooked bacon saves you and your kitchen from greasy messes. If you still love fresh cooked, run it under cold water before cooking to reduce shrinkage and splatter. Cooking it on an outdoor grill is a good way to keep your house from the lingering odor.
Let’s get digital
Digital instant-read thermometer. This one is life-changing: not only is it superfast in giving you a temperature read, you’ll be relieved in knowing that your dish is cooked thoroughly for food safety. Let’s have a moment of silence for all the over-cooked chicken before these were invented. Recipe Keeper is a free app that allows you to import recipes from a website, then divides them up into ingredients, directions, notes, and so on. If you’ve already read a favorite blogger’s story about how she fell in love with a curry dish while traveling to India, this app lets you skip that part. No more scrolling and scrolling waaaay down, or searching for the tiny “jump to recipe” button.
Rotisserie chicken: If the clouds part in a grocery store and a choir of angels sing, it’s above the grab-and-go rotisserie chicken stand. It’s a weeknight meal and then some. Pull the leftovers to use in enchiladas or salads the next day, or freeze them for future recipes. About two cups in a freezer bag is almost perfect for a standard casserole.
Pinterest is a go-to tool for meal planning. If you’re like most moms, you forget what you made that the whole family liked versus what the kids said tasted like feet. Level up your saved recipes by categorizing them into family favorites and family rejects.
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