6 Reasons why He’s not the one

6Reasons Why He’s Not the One

Every woman has had at least one guy that makes her pause and say, “What on earth was I thinking?” This is generally followed by a “thank you, Jesus,” and a plausible praise break for many.

To that point, I applaud every woman that has been courageous enough to admit that you were compromising and deserved better.

I applaud every woman that knows her time, mental, and emotional states are worth protecting.

I applaud every woman who is able to discern the reasons and seasons of her relationships.

To the ladies in need of a reminder, please know that you are worth it. You are worth the wait, your heart’s desires, and the standards you have set.

A guy that’s not the one, is not a bad guy. He’s just not the right guy for you. Just because you may find yourself at a crossroad, questioning the relationship, or wondering why you didn’t see some things sooner, doesn’t make you wrong, bad, or indifferent. You simply don’t know what you don’t know, until you know!

So, here are 6 reasons why he’s not the one:

#1 Something just ain’t right!

We can start right here because in many instances our discernment and intuition are enough! We must learn to heed to the Spirit, and trust our guts. If you’re playing tug-of-war with yourself about him, this is an indication that there is a lack of peace and clarity. #2 He has no vision.

If he has no vision for his life then it’s highly unlikely that he will have vision for a relationship. This is most likely because he is not aligned with purpose. Furthermore, if a man who finds a wife, finds a good thing (Prov. 18:22), how does a man who has no idea what he wants, know when he has found anything at all?

This doesn’t mean that he has to have it all together. None of us do. But, he should have something to invite you into and be able to identify how you fit into the vision.

#3 You love him, but… ...you don’t always have fun with him. ...you can see yourself with someone else. ...you can’t be yourself around him.

The list could go on and on! But, at the end of the day, sometimes loving someone is not enough of a reason to stay. Love with no depth of connection, commitment, or fruitful commonalities, is fundamentally not a love worth fighting for.

#4 You feel like you have to compromise.

Two things:

1. Be 100% clear and grounded about your boundaries. Some guys are professional boundary pushers. If you haven’t decided for YOURSELF how fast and how far you’re willing to go, and when, you may look up and find yourself in a place you rather not be. 2. Be honest with yourself about what you REALLY want; you’re not asking for too much. You’ll short change yourself in the long run if you choose to ignore the deal-breakers.

#5 He’s always making excuses.

You’re ready to take things to the next level. You all have even talked about it. Yet, that seemingly pivotal conversation is always followed by “BUT,…” But, I’m really busy. But, I was hurt in my last relationship. But, I don’t want to force anything.

All this means is that you are not a priority. If he wanted you, he would have you. Period.

#6 He doesn’t draw you closer to Christ.

Any man that takes you away from God, His Word, His way, His standard, and His best, is indeed, not the one for you.

He doesn’t have to shout and speak in tongues to be a “man of God”. However, he should be a man who is ACTIVE in his faith-developing himself in God’s Word and in prayer with concern about the things of Christ.

Brandi Nicole Williams is an author, speaker, minister, and entrepreneur. She is the author of Legs Down, Prayers Up: 6

Keys to Unlocking Purpose While

Waiting. Brandi is extremely passionate about creating lifestyle transformation that moves people into purpose with a clear identity in

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