A Spiritual Perspective for Strength & Healing
Mental Awareness in The Beauty Industry
Overcome Negative Self-Perception
This book is a compilation of inspiring true stories of women overcoming adversity. Abuse. Addiction. Divorce. Trauma. Tragedy. Exploitation. Injustice… we all have our obstacles to overcome. The true stories in this book, bravely shared by women from very different backgrounds, living in very different worlds, prove that not only is it possible to thrive despite those obstacles, it’s often our obstacles that motivate us to rise to our power in ways we never believed possible. The stories of eight phenomenal women in this book stand testament to what is possible and how strong and determined women are; when we come together, we are unstoppable.
Welcome to May's Issue of the Women Thrive Magazine In this magazine issue, we are exploring what is often the invisible side of us - our mental health. May is mental health awareness month, which we wanted to highlight in this issue.
The magazine's purpose is to speak of the topics that we all, as women, experience but often do not speak about. In this issue, we hope to bring awareness to feelings, emotions and aspects of our mental health that are important to all of us.
Mental health often comes with a stigma, but how can we manage our work-life balance and mental and physical wellbeing for optimal living?
I hope that this issue of the magazine inspires you and empowers you as a woman to embrace all aspects of yourself to step into your power, to speak your truth, to be ok with asking for help or being vulnerable.
I hope that this magazine and our extended community support you on your journey in life and business and remind you that you are not alone. In this world, there is so much more that unites us than separates us, and here you can always find support, community and sisterhood
Raimonda Jankunaite Founder & Editor-In-Chief
Credits Raimonda Jankunaite / Founder & Editor-in-Chief Olivia Marocco / Designer J Rachel West / Content Editor Photographer / @bazphotoman
"In this world, there is so much more that unites us than separates us, and here you can always find support, community and sisterhood. "
Editor's welcome note
Content
A spiritual perspective for strength and healing
7 Tips for busy solopreneurs
Women Thrive Summit Speaker
Women Thrive Speaker's Academy
Unlocking authentic empowerment
Shedding light on the mental health blindspot
How sharing your story can change your life
The healing power of Reiki
Taking off the people-pleasing cloak
A Spiritual Perspective for Strength and Healing by Kawtar El Alaoui, LL.B, PCC / P06
Yamarie Negron
Unlocking Authentic Empowerment / P16
Tami Gabbitas
The Healing Power of Reiki / P24
Overcome negative self-perception
Transforming your mental health
Mental awareness in the beauty industry
WIB Community
How social media affects your standards
4 Tiny habits to break your procrastination
Raising authentic and confident children
Developing an entrepreneurial mindset
Octoryia Robinson
Overcome Negative Self-Perception by Tapping into Your Inner Game of Success / P28
Angie Wilson
A Guide to Mental Awareness in the Beauty Industry / 34
"Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself if you need to, and learn to be the gentle and kind voice you always needed."
When I realized medication could not cure the constant and debilitating anxiety, I added healing tools to my toolbox, and it made all the difference.
The topic of mental health can sound very clinical. Doctors and mental health professionals abound in their advice, diagnosis, and prognosis And it can be easy to get lost in the midst of a mental health decline, unclear how to move forward, or how to turn the cycle of pain and anguish into wellness and empowerment. There can be so much shame around having a panic attack, not knowing why we feel 'off', or knowing we feel triggered beyond the norm, yet being unable to stop the devastating and overwhelming thoughts, emotions, and body sensations. While following a doctor’s advice is important, there are other tools and explorations that can bring much relief and healing beyond medication and talk therapy.
It is of course important to seek proper medical support, but after your mental health
stabilizes, there is often a void that remains despite the gratitude to be feeling better This is where the spiritual perspective can be most healing and supportive When I realized medication could not cure the constant and debilitating anxiety, I added healing tools to my toolbox, and it made all the difference.
According to many healing modalities and traditions, anxiety and depression are a sign from the soul that your spirit is trying to get your attention Depression can be a deep sadness of the soul, one that can be released over time with deep, nourishing soul care, changes in patterns of behaviour or unfulfilling work, and developing the skills to listen to your soul.
Here are the top five things you can do to turn the downward spiral of mental health decline around >>
"Anxiety and depression are a sign from the soul that your spirit is trying to get your attention."
When it comes to your mental health, physical fitness and a health-conscious lifestyle always help As we have seen when the Covid-19 pandemic hit, it is always better to be in our strong and resilient zone than allow a state of sub-optimal mental health to continue without seeking the proper support at the earliest signs
Give yourself the time and resources to stabilize your condition I personally experienced my ups and downs with anxiety, and I know there are times and experiences that can suddenly make it acute. All it takes is one sudden event, and we can feel thrown into the deep end overnight When in the acute stages, it is particularly important to work with a qualified mental health professional to stabilize your mental health Seeking help is in no way a sign of weakness, even if it is due to a relapse The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to have selfcompassion amid your suffering. You do not need to see the entire journey from the start Take the journey one step at a time until your body and mind are able to see and plan more long-term again.
In fact, give yourself permission to let go of all that is toxic. Unkind habits, compulsions, addictions, anything that keeps you in a repetitive pattern of chronic stress, isolation, and pain. And that includes people and jobs. Statistics show the staggering health costs of workplace harassment, bullying, and incivility. In some environments, these things are tolerated, and normalized And it can be scary to leave a job even if it’s hurting your health. But do not allow the fear of losing income to be the only factor you consider. Your health is also wealth, and without it, you may not be able to work At the very least, get the resources to strengthen yourself internally until you can leave. Whether it is in your personal life, or your work life, you never need to tolerate and accept being abused Ever
"The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to have self-compassion amid your suffering. "
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effective strategy in service to a better and more prosperous world Kawtar is a Trained True Purpose ®Coach, Faculty & Mentor with Leadership That Works India, Facilitator with the Business Plan for Peace in the UK, and Leadership Advisor with She Did It! Elle a osé! in Canada. She is the Founder & CEO of Conscious Togetherness, Inc conscious togetherness conscioustogetherness com
Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself if you need to, and learn to be the gentle and kind voice you always needed.
When you are a solopreneur, it's not uncommon to find yourself submerged in the daily grind of running your own business From managing client expectations to handling administrative tasks, the list of responsibilities can be overwhelming.
Amidst these demands, it's easy to forget to prioritize your own well-being. However, neglecting your mental health can lead to burnout and potentially hurt your business in the long run That is why it is important to find ways to take care of yourself while also managing your workload. In this article, we will discuss seven effective ways that busy solopreneurs can prioritize their mental health and wellbeing to help them stay healthy, happy, and productive
It's essential to set boundaries to maintain healthy work-life harmony. One of the most challenging aspects of being a solopreneur is not having a clear separation between work and personal life It's easy to get caught up in work and neglect other aspects of your life, leading to burnout Set clear boundaries for your work hours and stick to them. Make sure you're taking time to do things you enjoy outside of work.
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Remember, taking a little time for you se every day will help you achieve long-term success while preventing burnout.
Although running a business can be a solitary endeavor, it's crucial to remain connected with others. Networking with fellow solopreneurs in your field can help you feel less isolated and provide a valuable support system.
It's also essential to stay in touch with friends and family outside of work. Make an effort to connect with loved ones regularly, even if it's just for a quick phone call or a text message Engaging in social activities outside of work can also help you develop new relationships and interests, which can have a positive impact on your overall wellbeing. Remember, staying connected with others can help you maintain a healthy work-life balance and reduce feelings of loneliness or isolation.
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Setting unrealistic goals can lead to stress and anxiety, which can take a toll on your mental health. Instead, set realistic goals and prioritize them based on their level of importance.
Make a to-do list each day and tackle the most critical tasks first. This approach will help you feel accomplished and prevent overwhelm You can also use productivity and project management tools like Asana or Trello to get you organized and on track to meet your deadlines and achieve those goals.
"Remember, taking a little time for yourself every day will help you achieve long-term success while preventing burnout."
"Remember, staying connected with others can help you maintain a healthy work-life balance."
As a solopreneur, you may feel pressure to take on every project that comes your way. However, taking on too much can lead to burnout and compromise the quality of your work Learn to say no to projects that don't align with your personal values and goals or that you don't have the bandwidth for It's okay to turn down work if it's not a good fit
Practising mindfulness can help you reduce stress and anxiety and improve your mental well-being
Take a few minutes each day to practice mindfulness, whether it's through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply taking a moment to pause and reflect. This practice can help you stay centered and focused throughout the day.
It's essential to take breaks throughout the day to avoid burnout. Taking a break can help you recharge and come back to work with a fresh perspective
Take a few minutes to step away from your computer or phone and do something you enjoy, like reading a book or going for a walk.Taking longer scheduled breaks from social media and work is also a great way to ensure that you are making time for your rejuvenation and staying mentally healthy.
To sum it all up, prioritizing your mental health and wellbeing is essential to long-term success as a solopreneur. Setting boundaries, practicing self-care, connecting with others, setting realistic goals, learning to say no, taking breaks, and practising mindfulness are all essential to maintaining good mental health
Remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish; it's necessary to ensure you're performing at your best and providing the best service to your clients. Incorporating these seven tips into your daily routine can help you prioritize your wellbeing and achieve success as a solopreneur
Sheba Wilson is bestselling author of Get Up & LEAD and the Get Up & LEAD 90-Day Guided Journal She is also co-author of Voices for Leadership Her life’s work is delivering transformational value to individuals and teams through growth-centered coaching, leadership development, and inspirational speaking She is a Maxwell Certified Leadership Coach and Trainer and an experienced Human Resources Executive
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Empowerment is like the frosé of personal development - it's everywhere, and everyone's talking about it But what does it really mean to be empowered? Contrary to popular belief, It's not just about “doing anything you set your mind to” or “using positive thinking to solve all your problems,” it's about taking control of your life and environment in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling to you.
This is an essential aspect of our overall wellbeing, and authentic empowerment can play a significant role in improving it When we feel empowered, we have a greater sense of control over our lives, which can lead to increased self-esteem, self-confidence, and resilience This, in turn, can lead to improved mental health outcomes such as reduced stress, anxiety, and depression.
Now, let's talk about the difference between authentic and false empowerment Authentic empowerment is like that perfect, little black dress that you can wear anywhere and always feel confident in. It's rooted in your internal sense of self-awareness, self-efficacy, and values
"Takingcontrol ofyourlifeand environmentina waythatfeels authenticand fulfillingtoyou."
False empowerment, on the other hand, is like a cheap, knock-off purse that might look good from a distance, but ultimately falls apart and leaves you feeling unsatisfied It's based on external factors like status, material possessions, or social validation, which can be fleeting and ultimately unsatisfying.
Cultivating personal empowerment is like putting together the perfect outfit - it can take time and effort, but the end result is totally worth it.
Here are some tips to help you get started:
This might involve journaling, meditating, or talking to a professional Whatever it takes, get to know yourself and be honest about your thoughts and feelings
Empowerment often involves gaining new skills and knowledge. Whether it's learning a new language, taking up a creative hobby, or advancing your career, investing time, energy, and resources in yourself can increase your sense of control and influence. Start where you are
Authentically empowered women recognize the interconnectedness of all beings Building meaningful relationships with others can help you feel more connected and supported and creates a safe space for showing up as your true self. This might involve joining an online community, volunteering for a cause you care about, or simply reaching out to friends and family members for support and connection.>>
"Cultivating personal empowerment is like puttingtogether the perfect outfit."
According to the National Council for Mental Wellbeing, 70% of adults in the U.S have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives. Most of us are walking around with unresolved wounds that sabotage us and limit our ability to feel in control of our lives Working with someone to thrive beyond past trauma can help improve self-esteem and confidence, and enable you to experience more fulfillment.
At the end of the day, authentic empowerment is about using your voice and resources to influence positive change in the world. This means advocating for yourself, honoring your needs, and taking daily action that aligns with your personal goals and values.
Empowerment isn't just a buzzword - it's a way of life. Becoming authentically empowered impacts our mental wellbeing by giving us a greater sense of control and agency over our lives To cultivate authentic empowerment, it's important to show up like a woman who knows her worth. This means, developing self-awareness, investing in yourself, cultivating healthy relationships, healing from past trauma, and taking aligned action.
So, if you're ready to take control of your life and live authentically empowered, start by following the steps in this article. The world is yours for the taking
Negron is a Trauma-Informed Women's rment Coach, Certified Energy Practitioner, ield Success Principles Trainer Inspired by her ing journey, Yamarie helps smart, selfless, ally fed-up women identify the blocks that are hem back from experiencing the life that they
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"Empowerment isn't just a buzzword - it's a way of life."
by Paige Frisone
Ihad been in the thick of yet another bout of insomnia bordering on manic doing homework months in advance to pass the time, running on empty. That night, I had a passive, conscious thought. So I asked a faithful ally at the time, Google, typing, ‘Do I have an eating disorder?’ into the search bar.
by Paige FrisoneBefore long, I found myself stumbling into an on-campus meeting about eating disorders, completely panicked, lost, and alone. My attendance that day was informed by the wise, conscious, choosing brain. But despite what I learned, I remained an obedient victim to the voices in my head and out of options, thanks to the involuntary and dominant subconscious
This is a part of my story, but it’s not solely mine See, every 52 minutes, someone loses their life to their eating disorder In fact, eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of all mental illnesses When coupled with other comorbidities like depression, anxiety, and/or PTSD mental illness is the perfect storm of chronic woundedness and agonizing, unresolved questions: Why? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I fix this? Why can’t I just feel better?
Mental illness is the invisible struggle of invisible wounds, yet a whopping 298 million people struggle with anxiety worldwide, followed
closely by 246 million who battle depression. These numbers are unacceptable and could easily shift with greater implementation of root cause healing using the subconscious mind. Though the brain can be summarized with a simple statistic it’s 5% conscious, 95% subconscious the current mental healthcare system neglects the latter This is not a ploy to substitute or replace the current model, but simply to include (and build) other and more effective integrative ones The mental health conversation cannot (and should not) happen without looking at both the benefits and limitations of current protocols and systems As it currently stands, mental illness is conventionally treated by and through a Western lens And while the Western system is absolutely appropriate at times, it’s also notorious for treating symptoms, not root causes Additionally, Western medicine is diagnostic in nature Again, while this structure is helpful in moments, it can further complicate our relationships with ourselves, others, and the world at large For that, Western medicine should always be an option, but perhaps not emphasized as the only option
Every 52 minutes, someone loses their life to their eating disorder"
Mental illness is the invisible struggle of invisible wounds. "
Paige is a Subconscious Health Practitioner, published writer, poet, and psychosomatic speaker stationed in Boulder, CO. She’s the founder and owner of her integrative practice, Inner Realm Wellness LLC, where she aids clients around the globe in processing trauma and disease on a subconscious and sustainable level. Her work is fueled by losing a decade of her life to anorexia, severe depression, anxiety, self-harm, and ineffective prescription meds
The game of the mind is such that once these memories get stored subconsciously, they become harder to consciously access.Paige Frisone
Nearly a billion people are suffering from mental health disorders worldwide.
From the outside looking in many wouldn’t know that I’ve struggled with my mental health for as long as I can remember I look happy, “successful” and full of life. I post pictures of my husband and three kids. I dress my cat up for photo shoots in my backyard I share periodic photos of the hair salon I have owned for 11 years and video clips of my family and me traveling around the world. I even did a TEDx talk. I look like I have it all together. The truth is I am very happy (most of the time) I love my life, and at the same time I still have mental health challenges… Looks can be deceiving and mental health is often invisible.
There are so many different types of mental illnesses and I am one of the 280 million people in the world who suffers from depression Everyone’s journey is unique and there are many methods of healing or managing these diseases. What works for one person often does not work for another.
Multiple things have helped me along my journey I tried yoga, spiritual practices, exercise, journaling, therapy, dietary changes, and more. All of those things helped me. However, I found the most healing when I embraced my truth and shared my story.
According to Psychology Today, there is power in sharing our stories, even the things we may feel are taboo. What does sharing your story mean? It could be open conversations with family and friends, a blog, writing a book, podcast interviews, or speaking on stages all over the world. There is no right or wrong way to embrace your truth and share it with others.
The more I opened up about the things I have been through, the more acceptance I gained for myself and others. I was able to see how my challenges shaped who I am and in turn gave me many gifts I could not see at the time (strength, perseverance, and empathy among others).
My first suicide attempt was when I was nine years old, and my second attempt aged 16 My challenges continued and escalated into full-blown addiction and homelessness by the time I was in my teens. A lot of things happened along that journey that I was not proud of and, for a long time, I tortured myself with those memories. Once I accepted that I couldn’t change the past so I might as well embrace it, my whole life changed
The energy we give ourselves often extends to other people as well. So as I removed the need to be perfect, I unconsciously gave others the same grace. We are all moving through life, doing the best we can. With that perspective, I literally felt a weight lifted off my shoulders
Challenge:
Begin a gratitude journal
Writing down all the things you are grateful for will help you accept all the layers of your journey.
"I found the most healing when I embraced my truth and shared my story."
Challenge:
Think about one thing in your life that you overcame and share it with another person It could be through a social media post, phone call, or 1-1 conversation.
I realized my own strength when I overcame things I never thought I could and survived situations that almost broke me. I reached a new level of empowerment when I learned to stand unapologetically in my truth
I remember the first time I stood in front of a room full of people and opened up about some of my most personal experiences. I was absolutely terrified. However, when I finished I felt a strength I had never known I had fully accepted my past and it didn’t matter what anyone else thought.
But you know what’s amazing? People are almost always rooting for you. You will usually be met with warmth, kindness, and encouragement when you share your personal story.
Most new chapters start with a yes. Yes to new experiences, yes to being vulnerable, and yes to seeing where life will take you. I have seen so many lives changed when they said yes to sharing their stories. In turn, they helped others overcome their own challenges
A client of mine went through my 90 Day Book Writing Challenge and wrote two books in our time together. One day, we were on the phone and she broke down in tears telling me how amazing it felt to speak her truth. It was a healing journey for her and her own gift to the world.
I said yes to sharing my story and it led to me writing a book, speaking on stages, and connecting with women all over the world.
I was absolutely terrified but said yes to telling very intimate parts of my life on one of the biggest stages in the world. My 1st TEDx- 3 Keys To Being Unstoppable came out recently.
I’d like to ask you- what part of yourself have you been hiding? What part of your story would you like to share with the world? And finally, where could saying yes take you?
Natasha Ickes-Saman is a salon owner, 2x best-selling and awardwinning author, and 2x TEDx speaker with a Professional Communications Certification through Harvard. She has been featured in multiple publications from MunaLuchi Bridal to the LA Tribune and Hudson Weekly She was the 2019 recipient of a Certificate of Recognition from the California Senate She regularly provides free haircuts in homeless shelters throughout the Bay Area. Her passion is to teach women how to find their voice, share their stories and transform their lives in the process
natasha ickes saman natasha-ickes-saman com"I had fully accepted my past and it didn’t matter what anyone else thought."
"I have seen so many lives changed when they said yes to sharing their stories."
REIKI (PRONOUNCED RAY-KEY) IS AN ANCIENT PRACTICE OF HOLISTIC HEALING THAT PROMOTES WHOLENESS, BALANCE, HARMONY, AND CONSCIOUSNESS
It is a Japanese technique involving energy healing to balance the mind, body, and spirit. Reiki is a handson or hands-above technique that facilitates the relaxation response, a state of deep peace that promotes healing on all levels. Reiki can be done in person and remotely. Reiki has many benefits, but one area in which it has shown distinct promise is treating mental health issues Here are five ways Reiki can benefit your mental health.
Anxiety and depression are incredibly prevalent mental health disorders, affecting millions worldwide However, research has shown that Reiki can effectively reduce stress and anxiety and relieve depression symptoms This natural and powerful activating system calms the mind and promotes relaxation.In a Reiki session, the practitioner will place their hands on or near your body to facilitate the energy flow, addressing the root causes of any imbalances in the body that contribute to these symptoms. By releasing any blockages and promoting a feeling of calm and relaxation, Reiki can help to alleviate the adverse effects of anxiety and depression and enhance wellbeing.
Emotional wounds can be just as crippling as physical injuries and can significantly impact an individual's mental health. People can easily see the hurt when someone experiences a bodily injury, like a broken leg. Unfortunately, people often ignore emotional wounds because they are not as visible or tangible and tend to be overlooked or brushed aside, despite their substantial impact on a person's wellbeing.
Reiki can be a helpful tool for emotional healing, allowing you to release past traumas and move forward with a more positive perspective Reiki is beautiful for healing emotional wounds because it gently and noninvasively works its way through, ensuring that it causes no harm while going where intended
Another fantastic way Reiki can aid your mental health is that Reiki's healing energy can help free negative emotions and thoughts, allowing you to experience more joy, peace, and contentment.
"Reiki can effectively reduce stress and anxiety and relieve depression symptoms."
Getting a good night's sleep is crucial for maintaining our personal and professional lives. Not only does it help regulate our emotions and create better health, but it can also reduce stress and anxiety Unfortunately, many people struggle with sleep issues, such as difficulty falling or staying asleep, which can significantly impact their mental health
Regularly practicing Reiki can be a helpful tool in promoting better sleep quality. By allowing the body to relax and reach a deeper state of relaxation, Reiki can help you fall asleep easier and stay asleep Prioritizing good sleep and incorporating practices such as Reiki into our routines can help us achieve the restful and restorative sleep our bodies and minds need to function at their best
Low self-esteem and lack of confidence can significantly impact our mental health. If we're not feeling good about ourselves or are experiencing a lack of confidence, struggling with self-love, and being critical of ourselves, it's incredibly challenging.
Reiki can help boost self-esteem and confidence by promoting inner peace Reiki balances your body's chakras and clears energy blockages. When you feel good about yourself, it's easier to prioritize your mental health and make positive shifts within yourself
Reiki is an excellent resource for people with specific mental health issues, such as posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) Many people struggling with PTSD ha difficulty relaxing and reaching a hea is where Reiki beneficial By p relaxation and the body, Reik relieve the seve symptoms and comfort during times
Reiki is bec popular as a va of support for to improve the health while de g PTSD. Through Reiki, those who are suffering from PTSD can allow their bodies to relax and reach a healing state, which is essential for overcoming the challenges associated with this condition.
Tami Gabbitas is an Intuitive Life Coach and Reiki Master Teacher based in Arizona; she uses her intuitive abilities to help those with trauma Tami experienced trauma at a young age She found a supportive physician and devoted years to her healing journey; she discovered the power of Reiki to move trauma out of her body Now, Tami dedicates her life to helping others through Intuitive Life Coaching and Reiki. She offers both in-person and remote sessions.
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Reiki can be a helpful tool in promoting better sleep quality
Every day, since she was very young, she dressed in the same outfit As she grew, the outfit grew with her It was comfortable, familiar, she knew how to wear it and it pleased everyone around her Seeing others' delight encouraged her to wear it more and more Despite it occasionally causing her distress, pain, and upset, she continued to wear it for the benefit of others It was a powerful outfit
It prevented her from seeking her own goals and desires and still, it adorned her every single day Sometimes, on very rare occasions, if she was feeling brave, she would try on another outfit, only to be met with resentment and frustration by others and so she would resort back to what others liked It was a powerful cloak This cloak is known as the people-pleasing cloak It is quite popular in society and is traditionally more often found among the women of the world
I wore that people-pleasing cloak daily for many, many years I wore it so well, that I honestly thought I could never take it off It was who I was, it was part of me, or so I thought I had been a people pleaser for as long as I could remember, perhaps from about five or six years old It felt so natural to me I did not know how else to be
Then in 2018, when I was having therapy to rid myself of people pleasing I was challenged to start saying no to other people’s requests That first time saying no was unbelievably uncomfortable My stomach churned, I was wringing my hands, my heart was racing, and my throat was dry I took a deep breath, uttered the word no, and waited for the response I honestly don’t think that the word no was even in my vocabulary Of course, in a typical people-pleasing style, I had been overthinking their reaction In case you’re wondering, when I said no that first time, their response was ‘Oh, ok, no worries ’
As a lifelong people-pleaser, it was hard for me to take off that cloak and, if I am honest, I find myself occasionally, inadvertently wearing it again However, I have developed my awareness and I now know when I have slipped back into it and immediately take it off and remind myself that it no longer fits the woman I am today
When was the last time you told someone ‘No, I can’t do that’, or ‘I have a different idea?’
I understand if it feels risky I dodged it because doing so would leave me feeling vulnerable, concerned that I would be seen as being difficult and I had a strong desire to be liked, to fit in, and to belong
It was only a few years ago I discovered that adopting the disease to please meant that I was sacrificing myself, my goals, my dreams, and my plans It was self-sabotage at its finest Deep down, I guess I knew all along because I was becoming increasingly frustrated at the demands placed on me and yet it was a clue that I ignored for so long Are you doing the same? Are you thinking too much about others and their needs and feelings and much less about yourself? Of course, we do need to think of others, this isn’t about being completely selfish Other people are important but so are you We need to stop suppressing our own wants, needs, and desires for the benefit of others
We all have needs
Are you ready to step out of the confines of people-pleasing? Are you ready to say goodbye to the good girl? Are you ready to rise as an empowered woman? Are you ready to use your voice and regain your power?
Ladies, grab your journal and write these questions down and let your answers flow
If you were not afraid of what others will think, say, or do, what would you do?
What would this mean to you?
How can you balance your needs and the needs of others?
What stops you from asserting yourself?
How will you comfort yourself if others dislike what you say/do?
How will your relationships change with yourself and others as you begin this new way
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This article is inspired by Timothy Gallwey’s The Inner Game of Work
The biggest obstacle we face as humans and entrepreneurs is a negative self-perception It is how we perceive ourselves that determines how we perform in life and in business and gives us permission to choose what to do or not do. Take note of this: Negative self-perception is a larger obstacle than money or timing.
Even if we have limited resources and time, when we see ourselves as capable and worthy, we view every situation as an opportunity to rise to the challenge. Those challenges help us reach our potential If we have a clear enough vision we are working towards, we will maximize two hours a week and use it to our advantage. If we believe we can change the world by writing, we will find the time to put those words on paper
If we think we can change the world by starting a non-profit, we will find the time to bring it to fruition.
Working on how we view ourselves is the key Affirmations from others don’t permanently reframe how we think about ourselves. External voices can encourage us but that will only provide a temporary disposition. When we see ourselves as capable and powerful, we can live out the vision we see for ourselves with or without external motivation
To change the negative thinking, we first need to understand the conflict of our Inner Game described by Timothy Gallwey author of The Inner Game of Work. Self-1 is the conscious mind, “the teller”, who gives direction Self-2 is “the doer”, the subconscious mind that completes the goals. Ninety-nine percent of our actions are controlled by Self-2.
The conflict arises when Self-1 doesn’t trust Self-2 It’s called selfsabotage for a reason Our inner selves compete internally for control. Self-2 says it’s time to take action, but Self-1 says, “I don’t have enough time or resources I’m not smart enough, etc ” This is why understanding and leaning into our Inner Game is so important! It is the key to improving our self-esteem.
Timothy Gallwey articulated this so well when he broke it down in The Inner Game of Tennis He described in four steps how we can change our self-perception.
Step 1: Observe existing behavior BUT from a non-judgmental place
Step 2: Picture a desired outcome, through mindfulness without fear and doubt, of your peak performance potential.
Step 3: Let it happen! Trust Self-2, the doer When the doer and the teller trust each other, you will begin to succeed.
Step 4: Practice not judging yourself through all the steps. Calmly observe what you’ve been able to do
What obstacles did you run into? What recurring patterns or thoughts have been a part of success or failure? Address these from a position of development and growth and keep growing.
As women, we wear so many hats We show up in the world as career-driven women, entrepreneurs, wives, mothers, daughters, students, and friends, yet we can be filled with self-doubt or overly critical of ourselves because we can’t seem to juggle it all The Inner Game can teach us how to navigate our inner ecosystem.
If we look at an area that is not going well, like family life, education, entrepreneurship, etc , we can identify the beliefs and interferences in each area. Interferences like procrastination, making excuses, overthinking, lack of patience, and discouragement chip away at our ability to reach peak performance. We don’t have to live with the negative results of those interferences. We can observe what is happening and make intentional changes that will eventually become part of our inner ecosystem.
As entrepreneurs, we should focus on being courageous and giving ourselves permission to learn through failure The Inner Game teaching is about learning how to live in the present. Rather than allowing the history of failure to influence our choices today, we must focus on the now, show up, and move forward Michael Jordan missed many shots before he became “Air Jordan ” Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, but then returned and took that company further than anyone imagined. As entrepreneurs, we must have the resilience to keep moving forward
For example, I had a child at 15. I can’t beat myself up over how I raised my first child or compare the teen mom I was to the mother I was at 26 I gave myself permission to see how I’d grown as a mother. Letting go of the interference helped me see clearly that I am worthy of the love of my children This was a game-changer for me Now, I am living in the present moment, not in my past mistakes. I have an interferencefree mind because of my faith and these Inner Game principles >>
"As entrepreneurs, we should focus on being courageous and giving ourselves permission to learn through failure."
When we change our negative selfperceptions, the result is inner stability
We can’t let our inner selves stop our outer selves. Where there is conflict, there is chaos. When we can reduce or eliminate conflict, we will have more peace, and therefore productivity and progress that supports the type of success that we were always created to achieve.
Inner peace opens up opportunities for us We can overcome anything and be more productive by showing up every day and being present. A lot of people don’t realize their dreams because they are holding themselves hostage to the last time they tried and didn’t succeed The Inner Game gives us the freedom to start over, to try again. We are worth a million tries.
The bottom line with the Inner Game is this: if we want to increase our output (aka, our success), we need to ensure that our internal foundation is solid. An Inner Game is exactly the type of foundation that we need to build true and authentic success.
Octoryia Robinson is the Founder and CEO of Dream That Big Publishing, the author of Unraveled Potential, and the host of the podcast 7-Figure Authorpreneur She serves as a consultant, success coach, philanthropist, motivational speaker, and nurturer of dreams
Octoryia is fully committed to helping people start up or start over, by realizing their worthiness and following their dreams
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"Where there is conflict there is chaos."
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AngelicIngram 18thApril2023 MaryGouganovski 6thJune2023 EricaTatum-Sheade 16May2023 VickyMidwood 9thMay2023 NeetuDeolJhaj 11thApril2023 DeepikaSandhu 2ndMay2023According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 1 in every 8 people in the world live with a mental disorder Mental health problems can lead to significant disruptions in our daily lives, affecting our work, relationships, and overall quality of life Fortunately, there are ways to improve mental health, and one of the most effective ways is through alignment and self-discovery.
Alignment refers to being in a state of harmony with your whole being, including your heart, mind, body, and soul It involves aligning your thoughts, feelings, and actions with your values and beliefs. When you are in alignment, you experience a sense of peace, fulfillment, and purpose You also create a life that is true to who you are and what you truly desire.
Self-discovery is the process of exploring your true self and uncovering your passions, strengths, and purpose. It involves gaining a deeper understanding of who you are, what you stand for, and what you want to achieve in life. Through self-discovery, you can discover your unique talents and strengths, and use them to create a fulfilling and meaningful life Combining alignment and self-discovery can be a powerful way to transform your mental health. Here are some ways to get started:
Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment with curiosity and without judgment. It can help you to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and to respond to them in a more positive and constructive way You can practise mindfulness through meditation, breathing exercises, or simply by being more present in your daily activities.
MENTAL HEALTH IS A CRUCIAL COMPONENT OF OUR OVERALL WELLBEING, YET IT IS OFTEN NEGLECTED OR OVERLOOKED.
Your values are the things that are most important to you in life, such as family, honesty, or creativity. By connecting with your values, you can gain a greater sense of purpose and direction in life You can start by making a list of your values, and then exploring how you can incorporate them into your daily life.
Your strengths are the things that you are naturally good at. When you identify your strengths, you can find ways to use them in your daily life and to pursue activities and careers that align with your talents and passions.
4. Pursue your passions
Your passions are the things that you love to do and that make you feel alive, whether it's writing, painting, or playing sports By pursuing your passions, you can find a sense of purpose and fulfillment in life. You can start by making a list of the things that bring you joy, and then exploring how you can do more of them
Alignment and self-discovery are not one-time events, but ongoing processes that require time and effort. However, the benefits of these practices can be life-changing. When youare in alignment with your true self, and living a life that is true to your values and passions, you experience a greater sense of wellbeing, purpose, and fulfillment.
In conclusion, transforming your mental health through alignment and self-discovery is a powerful and effective way to achieve overall wellbeing.
Transforming your mental health can be a challenging process, and it's important to seek support from others. You can talk to a trusted friend or family member, or seek professional help from a therapist or counselor
By taking the time to explore your values, passions, and strengths, and aligning your actions with your true self, you can experience greater peace, fulfillment, and purpose in life. Remember that it's okay to seek support and guidance along the way, and prioritize your mental health as a vital aspect of your overall health and well-being. As the saying goes, "The greatest wealth is health " So, let's prioritize our mental health and take the necessary steps to improve it.
Monika Martin is an alignment coach and soul therapist She is also a certified yoga teacher, Ayurveda health and lifestyle educator and she has been trained in somatic embodiment and regulation strategies. Her journey with self-development started about two decades ago, but it was her life-changing burnout that was the breakthrough to years and years of crippling anxiety, terrible panic attacks, chronic pain, and fatigue Without medication, she found ways to heal from burnout and her Complex PTSD.
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by Angie Wilson
Hey there beautiful people! Are you ready to discover the secret to feeling good both inside and out? It's all about mental awareness, my friends! As a salon owner and beauty industry leader for over 25 years, I'm here to tell you that the beauty industry has been missing a major piece of the puzzlemental wellness!
I’ve noticed a powerful correlation between people’s moods and state of mind just simply by getting their hair done! I mean, who doesn’t get in a good mood when you have your hair washed or styled by someone else, right? Let’s dive in and explore how you can incorporate this game-changing practice into your beauty routine
Did you know that taking care of your mental health is just as important as maintaining your physical health? And for those of us in the beauty industry, it's even more crucial to prioritize mental health awareness The beauty industry is all about helping others feel confident, beautiful, and empowered, but that can come with its own set of pressures and expectations
By promoting mental health awareness and self-care practices within the industry, we can not only take care of ourselves but also our clients. Plus, a healthy state of mind leads to better creativity, productivity, and overall happiness. Read on to understand how to prioritize mental health together and create a healthier and happier state of beauty
"Taking care of your mental health is just as important as maintaining your physical health."
First things first, let's define what mental awareness means. It's all about tuning into your thoughts and emotions and being mindful of how they affect your overall wellbeing We all know that taking care of our skin and hair is important, but what about taking care of our minds? Mental awareness is like a spa day for your brain, and it's just as important as any other self-care routine
Now, let's talk about the beauty industry Traditionally, it's been all about the externalthe perfect makeup, the flawless hair, the enviable body. But what about the internal? What about the way we feel about ourselves and our place in the world? That's where mental awareness comes in. By incorporating practices like meditation, gratitude, and selfcare into your beauty routine, you can cultivate a sense of inner peace and confidence that shines through in everything you do
So, how can you incorporate mental awareness into your beauty routine? It's easier than you think! Start by setting an intention for the day - something you want to achieve or focus on. Then, take a few minutes to practice gratitude - think about all the things in your life that you're thankful for This helps shift your mindset from one of lack to one of abundance.
Next up, make time for self-care! Whether it's taking a relaxing bath, going for a walk in nature, or indulging in your favorite hobby, taking care of yourself is crucial for mental wellbeing. And don't forget about meditationeven just a few minutes of focused breathing can make a huge difference in your day
Now, you might be wondering, why does mental awareness matter in the beauty industry? Well, my friends, it matters because it's all connected! When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the outside And when you feel good about yourself, you're more likely to be kind to others and radiate positivity. Plus, incorporating mental awareness practices into your brand or business can help you stand out in a crowded marketplace and build a loyal following of customers who appreciate your commitment to holistic wellbeing.
So there you have it, folks - mental awareness is the missing link in the beauty industry! By incorporating practices like gratitude, self-care, and meditation into your beauty routine, you can cultivate a sense of inner peace and confidence that shines through in everything you do Let's make mental wellness a top priority and watch our beauty shine brighter than ever before!
Angie Wilson is an established life coach, writer, and speaker with over 25 years of experience in the beauty industry and pastoral ministry. With a Bachelor's Degree in Metaphysics, she focuses on helping individuals develop positive mindsets and turn negative situations into opportunities for growth
"When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the outside."
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Have you ever been scrolling through Instagram or TikTok and found yourself watching reel after reel of women living the ‘perfect’ life, running the ‘perfect’ home, raising angelic children, working six-figure, stay-at-home jobs, and making their own cereal all with perfect hair, makeup, and nails? And has an hour of scrolling left you feeling completely inadequate as you look around your home with pots on the side, never-ending laundry, a maze of toy dinosaurs and Lego to navigate, working in a job that you do mainly because it pays the mortgage (just)?
Yeah, me too. Sat wondering how these women manage to ‘have it all’ without so much as a blemish on their skin while I’m running around like a headless chicken trying to make sure we don't run out of milk and bread on the daily, breastfeeding a newborn, lucky if I’ve managed a shower at all this week Media pressure has forced women for generations to present a facade of perfection
The introduction of social media has exacerbated this need for apparent perfection and our need for external validation. Now, intimate details of our lives can be presented with whatever bias we choose to a worldwide audience for them to comment on unreservedly from their own perspective
No wonder the majority of us only want to present absolute perfection
by Catherine PlattsHowever, the InstaPerfect women are (largely) fictional creatures, and believing they are presenting permanently attainable standards is hugely damaging the psyche of the average woman ‘Average’ is a term that has come to have negative connotations and has become synonymous with terms such as ‘mediocre’ or ‘sub-par’ but in actual fact, the definition of ‘average’ is as follows: Average: noun - an amount, standard, level, or rate regarded as usual or ordinary. Qualities that are seen as typical of a particular person, group, or thing. A value midway between two extremes
The truth is, life is hard Whether you had a good upbringing or a challenging one, whether you are single or in a relationship, whether you work or not, have kids or not - life is hard And that’s ok That’s NORMAL. Maybe it shouldn’t be, it would be nice if life was easy, but it's hard and that’s normal. Why are we making it even harder for ourselves by setting unattainable standards for each other and dragging each other down when we seem to fail to reach those standards? Why are we pretending that all our lives are InstaPerfect in a cycle of toxic femininity and criticising the way other women are living theirs?
It’s time to support each other in our struggle to keep it together and normalise the normal Here are 10 things I learned in my struggle (and failure) to achieve perfection
1 It’s ok to work, it’s ok to be a stay-at-home mum, and it’s ok to work when you have kids No justification for either option is required, it’s just ok
2 There will always be pots to wash
3 Kids have tantrums - and Sod’s law dictates they are more likely to have them in a public place or in the middle of that important Zoom meeting
4 We all will have freckles, or cellulite, or wrinkles, or grey hair, or stretch marks, or some loose skin - or in my case, all of the above I’ve had two kids and my body has done a remarkable thing, but it has taken a toll on my body and I’m not going to apologise for that to anyone I’m simply going to buy bigger jeans
5. Nothing is certain, except death, taxes, and laundry. If you’re one of the women that can’t wear the same outfit twice - it’s time to invest in a washing machine and stop feeding the pockets of the fashion industry. Unless you work in couture fashion, no one really cares what you’re wearing providing it’s appropriate. I highly recommend trialing a capsule wardrobe - it's amazing how less really is more. You can get a lot of outfit variations from a simple capsule wardrobe and getting dressed will become effortless.
6 Normal houses have marks on the wall and shoes by the door By all means, redecorate regularly, wipe the walls down, and have plenty of storage (if your modern new build allows for it) but it’s perfectly normal to have shoes by the door
7 We are all getting older There has been a lot of noise lately about the difference in media representation of celebrities embracing signs of aging. George Clooney was celebrated for becoming a silver fox whereas Andie MacDowell was condemned. God forbid a woman ages at all. Kudos to Andie and all the others for embracing their natural selves
8 We are a long way off from true gender equality
To be honest, I’m not sure we will ever achieve it In order for there to be true equality, we would need to acknowledge that differences between the genders aren’t opportunities for superiority. In addition, the insecurities that the current ‘balance’ impresses upon both genders pay into multi-billion dollar industries.
9 ‘This too shall pass’ (Abraham Lincoln) It was in my 30th year that I found comfort in this phrase I used to always say ‘nothing lasts forever’ but I learned the hard way I was inviting negativity into my life at every turn Now, instead, I have the attitude that ‘this too shall pass’ and I apply it to all circumstances, both good and bad. It reminds me that the bad times will pass and to enjoy the good times while they last. Another good one I use in times of stress or disappointment is ‘it is what it is’. When you understand both phrases, you will obtain a level of emotional resilience that is very powerful
10 None of us have it 100 percent figured out We are all making it up as we go along, trying our best and learning as we go Social media perfection is just the staged highlights we display to try and fool ourselves into thinking we have it all sorted. Don’t fall into the trap.
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Ialways knew that I wanted to write a book I have loved writing all my life and figured it would be easy. As I got closer to completing the first few chapters, I started finding reasons not to work on the book. It was always so easy to put it off until 'later'. When I submitted my first draft to the editors, and got their feedback, my procrastination became ever more pronounced.
We all occasionally put off doing something. When waiting becomes a habit and pattern in our lives, it becomes a problem.
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With the demanding and busy lives that many of us women have, these phrases naturally come out of our mouths sometimes! Especially when faced with a challenging task to be done.
Procrastination happens to everyone, even those who are highly productive. Throughout my life, like many business owners, I have been known to suffer from procrastination. In the last few years, however, I have made great strides in overcoming this behavior.
In my journey to become a more productive person, I began to gain the ability to recognize procrastination and the excuses that would creep up from time to time when a deadline was looming. Learning to beat procrastination using a calculated approach that included understanding why I procrastinate. Then, applying strategies to overcome and beat it!
Procrastination is more than just poor time management or laziness. It often comes from negative emotions that keep us hostage from taking action. People put things off because they're not in the right mood. Then they distract themselves with other tasks. Then when they realize their avoidance, feelings of guilt arise for wasting so much time. Your mood worsens because you feel guilty. Your task deadline gets closer. The cycle makes you feel worse.
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""It keeps us hostage from taking action."
Fear of failure: Many people procrastinate because they are afraid of failing They may feel that if they don't try, they can't fail, so they put off taking action
Lack of motivation: When people don't feel motivated to do something, they may procrastinate instead of forcing themselves
to take action
Overwhelm: When faced with a large or complex task, it can be easy to become overwhelmed and unsure where to start This can lead to procrastination
Perfectionism: People with high standards may procrastinate because they want to do things perfectly They may feel it's only worth doing something if they can do something perfectly Distractions: In today's world, many distractions can lead to procrastination, such as social media, TV, and video games
The first step in using the Tiny Habits method to overcome procrastination is identifying the task you want to complete This could be anything from writing a report to cleaning the house Once you have identified the task, break it down into smaller, more manageable steps
Next, choose a tiny habit related to the task you want to complete This should be something that is easy to do and doesn't take a lot of time For example, if you want to write a report, your tiny habit could be to write one sentence If you want to clean the house, your tiny habit could be to put away one item
The next step is to anchor your tiny habit to an existing routine This means choosing a time and place to make your tiny habit that is already part of your daily routine For example, if you want to write a report, you could write one sentence after opening up your computer for the first time in the morning If you want to clean the house, you can put away one item whenever you walk into a room
Shortly after completing my book, I knew that I wanted to continue to overcome my procrastinating tendencies After reading Tiny Habits by Dr BJ Fogg, I became a certified Tiny Habits Coach with the goal of stopping procrastination in its tracks The Tiny Habits method is a simple and effective way to break bad habits and create new, positive ones Developed by BJ Fogg, a behavior scientist at Stanford University, the method involves starting with small, easy-to-do habits that can be built upon over time. Here are the steps to using the Tiny Habits method to overcome procrastination:
Finally, celebrate your success every time you complete your tiny habit This could be as simple as saying "Good job!" to yourself or doing a little happy dance By celebrating your success, you reinforce the habit and make it more likely that you will continue doing it
Over time, you can build upon your tiny habit and make it bigger and more challenging For example, start by writing one sentence and gradually increase to writing a paragraph or a page By starting small and building up gradually, you will find that you too can overcome procrastination, leading to confidence in all areas of your life. To learn more about my methods or book a complimentary coffee call, visit my website.
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By Beijing Rodgers
I’m not here to convince you whether you’re a good parent or not I am here to convince you that it is possible for your child to be confident, authentic, and fulfilled!
I am here to tell you that I am living proof of a child who struggled with confidence who struggled with limiting beliefs, self-doubt, wanting to give up, thinking I’m not good enough… According to Dictionary.com, purpose is “the reason for which something exists” and my definition is, “Your reason to exist is to give God glory”.
Would you like to be a parent that partners alongside your child to guide them in discovering their purpose? Would you like to be a parent who not just notices but appreciates the gifts, talents, and abilities of your child and will do everything in your power to enhance their full potential? OR would like to be a parent who allows their child to simply get by in life Once they achieve good grades, then they’re successful in your book? Have you ever thought about what activities make your child feel alive? What type of character do you want to instill in them today? What gifts, talents & skillsets do you want to see them soar in?
As the parent, isn’t it part of your job description to meet these needs? We all know that children want to be loved, and appreciated and have their basic needs met. But what about being the force of nature that ACTUALLY spends quality time with your child; connecting, bonding, and listening to their hearts? Instead of just picking them up from school, asking them about their grades, driving them to their extra-curricular activities, and doing it all over again for the next four days without a personal connection or bonding moments
To tell you the truth, raising children today is harder than ever. They are faced with being on screens all day long, whether it be their phone, the TV, the iPhone, their iPad, video games, or a Gameboy And once on their screens, especially if they are on social media, they are prone to comparing themselves and their lives to friends and even complete strangers
Some of our children also struggle with negative body image, poor and unhealthy thoughts, and emotions such as Guilt, Loneliness, Anger, Sadness, and Shame (GLASS)
But what if there was a way your child can push through these negative emotions and become the superhero that’s inside of them waiting to be unleashed?
This is the belief that one's abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and learning Encouraging your child to adopt a growth mindset can help them overcome self-doubt and limiting beliefs. Praise your child's effort and progress, rather than just their achievements Teach them to view mistakes as learning opportunities and encourage them to persist through challenges.
Do this by helping them identify their strengths and weaknesses. This will help them understand that they are capable of improvement and can take steps to develop their skills and abilities Encourage them to try new things, explore different interests, and provide positive feedback and support along the way.
Children learn by example, so it's important to model positive behaviors and attitudes towards oneself. Avoid making negative self-comments or engaging in self-criticism in front of your child Instead, model selfacceptance and self-compassion.
do you raise a child to be authentic by beginning their adventure in discovering & identifying their identity?
Help your child explore their interests and passions. Expose them to a variety of experiences and let them decide what resonates with them. Encourage them to try new things and take risks without fear of failure Provide them with the tools and resources they need to explore their interests and develop their skills.
Help your child develop a strong set of values by discussing the importance of honesty, integrity, empathy, kindness, and respect for others. Encourage them to live according to their values and to stand up for what they believe in Teach them to make ethical and moral decisions based on their values.
Do this while teaching your child boundaries, respect for others, and the necessity for proper corrective discipline. In this environment, help them to keep trying and pushing through even if they fail, as we know failure is part of the life experience, so during these times we must ensure to coach them to get back up and to try again. If they learn this early, it is the hardships that shape good character. >>
Help them uncover unique strengths and abilities. Encourage them to focus on what they are naturally good at and help them develop their skills in those areas Provide opportunities for them to use their strengths and talents in meaningful ways.
Help your child understand the importance of serving others and making a positive impact in their world. Encourage them to find ways to use their talents and skills to help others and make a difference in their community. Volunteer together as a family and encourage them to get involved in service projects that align with their interests
Encourage your child to connect with Jesus and seek His guidance in their life. Teach them to pray and study the Bible, and help them develop a personal relationship with Him. Encourage them to seek His will for their lives and to use their talents and passions to serve Him.
I think we can all agree that our children are our future leaders and solutions for a better and brighter tomorrow But in order for our children to become our leaders and solutions, they need a village, guiding and cheering them on to be confident, authentic & fulfilled!
It is possible to raise a confident, authentic & fulfilled child! Parents, if you’re interested in seeing how well you know your child, take my free quiz at coachingwithbeijing com/quiz-for-parents so that you can start raising a remarkable child.
Beijing Rodgers is from the beautiful island nation of The Bahamas. Her life's work and legacy are focused on creating thriving spaces for youth leadership, empowerment, and development This is achieved through her Youth-led Non-profit Organisation, IOT - It's Our Turn, which she started at the tender age of 12 years old And also through her Christian Life & Purpose Coaching business, Coaching with Beijing, focused on the professional & personal development of the young person, connecting them to their creator through selfdiscovery & life purpose
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Lastly, how do you raise a child to be fulfilled by guiding them to live the rest of their life pursuing their God-given purpose and be the solution to the problem they were called to solve?
We are each born with a special purpose and the talents and passion for bringing that purpose to fruition If we don't do everything in our power to see those passions translate into reality, then we rob ourselves and the rest of the world of the beauty that only we can create
To me, being an entrepreneur means finding that drive within yourself to bring something powerful to life. It’s about being inspired by what you do Developing an entrepreneurial mindset is a practice, like yoga or ballet The more you flex your mindset muscles, the nimbler and more natural your responses become.
Any practice is based on exercises Ten exercises have supercharged my business and those of my coaching clients. You have nothing to lose by putting these hacks into practice to change your mindset and supercharge your business
You need to believe in yourself and your ideas. This may sound obvious, but it is crucial to get right because your beliefs hold significant power When you are confident in your vision, you operate in a way that will bring it to life and you are prepared to take risks because you believe in your ideas.
Yes! Great entrepreneurs are not afraid to think big! Big does not necessarily mean money What success means to one person may mean something completely different to somebody else Thinking big means pushing your fears to the side and daring to pursue that dream business without allowing any excuse to hold you back.
3.) Focus
Big ideas require focus When you're pursuing an exciting new business venture, achieving a high level of focus is crucial for your success. The first part of this is eliminating distractions, procrastination, and excuses There will always be one billion reasons why you shouldn't start Behind that procrastination is fear. You're delaying action because the outcome feels scary or daunting. Learn to notice this quickly and pivot back to the main goal
Emotions can become tangled up in our decisions. Successful entrepreneurs avoid emotion-driven decision-making Emotions are certainly a part of life, but when it comes to decisions, they can slow the process and hinder progress. >>
Entrepreneurs must act quickly, even if they do not feel ready. They trade a bit of discomfort in the hope that they produce something their target audience finds new, fresh, and daring
Albert Einstein, one of the most brilliant scientific minds, said, "The only real valuable thing is intuition " Learning to trust that inner wisdom is crucial to finding business success. Learn to be comfortable not having all the facts in front of you. Follow your gut instinct and let that guide you on your path
The next step in developing an entrepreneurial mindset is to learn to value and protect your time As they say, time is money, and that's a big reason why I encourage entrepreneurs to conquer procrastination and eliminate distractions.
Instead of asking how your business can serve you, ask how you can provide value for others. President John F Kennedy famously said: "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country."
These aren't just good words for a political leader to live by; they are crucial for entrepreneurs as well Great businesses are not self-centered They focus on how to solve a customer's problem and make the target consumer the center of their focus. Great entrepreneurs never stop asking this question and always yearn to increase the value they offer their clients, team members, and business partners.
Ensure while you are providing value to others in your business that you don’t forget to periodically check in with yourself It's easy to think that you have entirely nailed the entrepreneurial mindset, but some behaviors or thoughts are sure to trip you up now and again. Check your mindset regularly. Sit down and ask yourself if you are focused. What is motivating you? Do you feel as confident as you could in your day-to-day decisions?
When failures happen, see them as opportunities to learn and grow Entrepreneurs rarely achieve success without a few setbacks along the way, and if they let that stop them, they would never see success.
Moving one inch a day is better than standing still If you keep your vision in sight, you can stay motivated enough to persevere through anything. Steve Jobs once said, "I'm convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance
Unless you have a lot of passion for this, you're not going to survive. You're going to give it up. So, you've got to have an idea, or a problem, or a wrong that you want to right that you're passionate about; otherwise, you're not going to have the perseverance to stick it through." Every time things get tough, redirect your eye toward the core reasons you started this endeavor in the first place.
Whether you are an entrepreneur in a slump, or a person with a big idea and the passion to power it, you can develop the mindset to become a successful entrepreneur filled with pride and purpose. Become stronger than the fears that limit you and achieve bigger success than you have imagined
Rachel Withers helps people around the world make mindset and lifestyle changes needed to achieve their dreams. As a business strategist, serial entrepreneur, and public speaker, Rachel applies her experience to coach clients towards personal empowerment and thriving careers.
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