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Friends Wilmington Friends School Fall 2012/Winter 2013

Homecoming 2012 Honored Alumni— Mark Ball ‘52 Sharon Cohen ‘84 Dan Joseph ‘02 $2.3 Million Gift to Friends China Trip Photos

Friends Wilmington Friends School Fall 2012/Winter 2013

From the Head of School


For Alumni & Friends


Largest-Ever Alumnus Gift


Investing in Friends


Homecoming 2012


China Trip Photos


More News from Summer & Fall


Class Notes


Special 50th Reunion Note, Class of 1962


In Memory


In Closing: Bye, Bye Birdie

BOARD OF TRUSTEES Chair Vice Chair Treasurer Secretary Andrew Aerenson ’81 Christopher F. Buccini ’90 Denise Chapman Thomas M. Connelly Doneene Damon Meg Gehret Erskine ’83 Brett D. Fallon Reginald D. Flowers ’90

Susan Kelley Darcy Rademaker Daniel Klein Russ Endo Ellen L. Gay Scott W. Gates ’80 J. Harry Hammond Deborah Murray-Sheppard Laura K. Reilly Jocelyn Sutton Stewart ’82 David Tennent Harvey Zendt

Alumni Association Board Liaison

Christopher W. Lee ’82

Home & School Association Board Liaison

Jane Hollingsworth

ADMINISTRATION Head of School Assistant to the Head of School Assistant Head for Academics Assistant Head for Finance & Operations Head of Lower School Head of Middle School Head of Upper School Director of Admissions and Financial Aid Director of Communications Director of Development Mission Statement Wilmington Friends, a Quaker school with high standards for academic achievement, challenges students to seek truth, to value justice and peace, and to act as creative, independent thinkers with a conscious responsibility to the good of all. On the cover, a beautiful day for Homecoming 2012; this page, junior Ellie McGinnis, a member of the cross country team, in the Smith McMillan 5K.

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ALUMNI BOARD Donald Altmaier ‘51 Melissa Fagan Billitto ‘87 Stanita Clarke ‘06 Carolyn Gates Connors ‘81 Alexandra Poorman Ergon ‘77 Tim E. Gibbs ‘76 Ona Murdoch Hamilton ‘67 Amy Curran Harper ‘94 Raven Harris ‘06 Omar Khan ‘90 Josh Klein ‘98

Bryan Garman Ann Cole Peter Wenigmann William Baczkowski Annette Hearing Jonathan Huxtable Rebecca Zug Kathleen Hopkins Tracey Quillen Carney ’80 Judy Aliquo

Chris Lee ‘82 Kate Lester ‘02 Adrienne Monley ‘02 Donald C. Morton, Jr. ‘94 Kristin Dugan Poppiti ‘03 Tom Scott ‘70 Amanda L. Soto ‘00 Martha Poorman Tschantz ‘85 Nicole Caddell Wample ‘03 Joe Wolcott ‘97

Professional photography by Billy Michels ’89, Elisa Komins Morris and Joe del Tufo Design/layout by Jacquelyn Quinn Dickey With thanks to the alumni, students, faculty, families, trustees, and staff of Wilmington Friends School for their contributions to the community effort of Friends magazine. Please send any comments or corrections to

FROM THE HEAD OF SCHOOL Dear Friends, Homecoming provides an opportunity to celebrate our students and our alumni, and the school that inspires them to achieve, to serve, and to give in the historic definition of philanthropy in an active effort to promote the happiness and well-being of others. At Homecoming 2012, it was more than evident that the spiritual roots of philanthropy are alive and well at Friends School. Our alumni award winners certainly have let their lives speak to that spirit. Mark Ball ’52, the recipient of the Distinguished Alumnus Award, is a Rhodes Scholar who clerked for U.S. Supreme Court Justice Earl Warren. In addition to having a successful law practice, Mark served as General Counsel of VISTA, staff director of the Peace Corps, and General Counsel of the United States Agency for International Development. Sharon Cohen ’84, Alumni Service Award, founded Figure Skating in Harlem, a nationally acclaimed non-profit that has used the appeal of skating to provide a program of academics, counseling, and character development for more than 1,000 girls. And Dan Joseph ’02, our Young Alumnus of the Year, applies his talents and Friends-honed skills in collaboration to provide joy and inspire creativity in others as a Disney “Imagineer.”

Bryan with 2012 Alumni Award recipients Dan Joseph ’02, Sharon Cohen ’84, and Mark Ball ’52.

Homecoming weekend also enabled us to honor two longtime friends who embody the definition of philanthropy. A past Alumnus of the Year and longtime kindergarten volunteer, Tim Bayard ’62, and his wife and former Friends School Trustee, Mona Bayard, have served the school and the broader community for decades, giving generously of their time and considerable talents. And now they also have given the largest-ever financial gift from an alumnus to Friends School: $2.3 million, divided between endowment and capital projects. And we had more gifts to celebrate. Among them, the Classes of 1952 and 1962 and Walter Smith ’62 and his wife, Jeanette, established endowment funds, and the Smiths were also instrumental in bringing another, distinctive gift to Friends School: the platinum and gold records of Walter’s classmate and cousin, Howie Wyeth ’62. The grandson of N. C. Wyeth, Howie was a gifted drummer and pianist who, prior to his untimely death in 1996, performed with a range of artists, including Blues Traveler (one gold album) and Bob Dylan (another gold and a platinum album). The Wyeth gift inspired the school to host a Homecoming program celebrating the arts, including an alumni art show and performances by students who join all of us in looking forward to the completion of a new performance venue at school. More than replacing the facilities that served the school well for 50 years, we are undertaking a reconstruction and renovation project that will provide a brand new theater, a new gym, and a beautiful, and functional, entrance from the parking lot to the middle/upper school building.

The Ballotta Garman family at the Smith McMillan 5K— Karen, Oriana, Bryan, and Siena.

Although we are committed to these plans, our fundraising efforts are ongoing, in what we hope will be a powerful statement about our school community coming together not only to rebuild after the April 2012 fire but to move forward with strength and vision, in the Friends School tradition. In order to complete the project with the improvements, we will, of course, need to rely on the spirit of philanthropy in its modern day meaning. Please consider a special contribution toward our new facilities, and thank you for all the ways you have supported our recovery and renewal since last spring. And thanks to all who helped make Homecoming 2012 such a success. From the 50th reunion lunch to the 5K, from Meeting for Worship to the athletic events to the bake sale, and so well summarized by the halftime band’s celebration of the Inner Light, it was a great tribute to the spirit, community, and love of humanity that define and continue to sustain Friends School. In friendship,

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From the Alumni Association President

Effective Networking: Use Your Friends Connections

Dear Friends, Alumni Weekend and Homecoming 2012 were fantastic! The Alumni Board attended all the many events, including Thursday’s True Blue luncheon and Evening of the Arts, through Friday’s 50th Reunion Lunch and All Alumni Reunion and Awards Reception, into Saturday’s HomeMelissa Fagan Billitto ’87 coming celebrations. At each event, I had the opportunity to connect with alumni and current families who were, quite simply, happy to be at Friends, happy to be together, happy to be enjoying such beautiful weather on our amazing campus. I have served on the Alumni Board for the last four years, and I am currently serving as President. I am so proud and honored to be active with our school. The Alumni Board hosted a special new event on Homecoming day for alumni—a talk with Head of School Bryan Garman, entitled “What’s New at Friends.” More than 60 alumni packed the library, sipped our coffees, and heard Bryan update us on the auditorium (soon-to-be theater) and gym, and share his vision for the future of Friends. The main takeaway of it all for me? This is a very special time and place to be part of the Friends community. We have extraordinary leadership; investment in our school has never been stronger; Friends offers signature programs such as the IB, Mandarin, STEM, QUEST, and School Year Abroad; and Friends is educating the leaders of tomorrow. It is clearly the right time, the right place. I hope to see you back on campus throughout the coming year—and years—to celebrate being part of Friends. Sincerely,

A strategic social media strategy is essential for any effective career navigation, and WFS is here to help. Whether you are looking for a job or you want to help fellow Friends alumni, we have set up two useful tools:

LinkedIn group for Wilmington Friends School Alumni: Join this group and drive the conversation by posting questions about your job search or information on your company’s job openings. With more than 175 million members world-wide, LinkedIn is worth your time and effort. But it’s only as good as the users who are part of it—become an active member of the Friends group today! Open to all alumni and parents (past and current).

Homegrown Networking Directory: We now have more than 70 alumni contacts ready and willing to connect with YOU about your field of interest. All you need to do is log into the WFS website, go to this password-protected page, and click to email your networking questions. From architecture and design to law and investment banking, there are more than 50 industries represented. Visit

Join our Facebook pages today for photos, videos, updates and more. We regularly post on our two Facebook pages, which combined have more than 1,500 members. Click “like” today!

Wilmington Friends School Wilmington Friends School Alumni Melissa Fagan Billitto ’87

2013 AUCTION: Ready, Set, Bid! Correction to the Report on Philanthropy With apologies, Paul Wishengrad’s name was inadvertently omitted from the donor list for Parents of the Class of 2020. In acknowledging Paul’s gift, we not only thank him, but we also thank 2020 parents, whose now correct participation rate is an inspiring 87%.

The Auction for Friends is fast approaching. Mark your calendars, and save the date: Saturday, April 27, 2013.

It is sure to be a memorable evening of good food, good company, and all for a good cause—benefiting Financial Aid at Friends.

The event will be at Barclays on the Wilmington Riverfront, catered by Toscana and WFS parent-chef Dan Butler.

For more information, contact the Alumni Development Office, 302.576.2975. With thanks to this year’s Auction chairs: Marci Aerenson Diane Beneck


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Largest-Ever Alumnus Gift to Friends Tim Bayard ’62 and Mona Bayard

I have, as they say in fund-raising, “made a stretch gift” to Friends School. It is something I have thought about for a long time, ultimately deciding on Friends, as opposed to my university, not just because of the impact the school has had on my life and my family (and on communities I care about), but because of the impact my gift can have on the school. When I first broached the idea of participating in the Pooled Income Fund (PIF), I was told, “You are too young!” Well, not anymore, and in my 50th reunion year, the time seemed doubly right. I also wanted to do what would be most helpful to the school, and after talking with the administration, decided to divide my gift, so that $1 million in unrestricted funds could be used right away with the remaining $1.3 million going into the PIF. It makes sense for everyone.

Tim and Mona at the 2012 True Blue/1748 Society Luncheon, and below, Tim with Kindergarten teacher Jane Goldberg, in the classroom where he has volunteered for more than 20 years.

Because of the community and mission at Friends, each of our contributions of money and time can make a substantial difference to the school—so that its graduates can make a difference in the world. I am pleased to be able to give a major financial gift to Friends, but I could not mention it without also talking about the 20-plus years I’ve spent volunteering every Thursday in Jane Goldberg’s Kindergarten class. I have done other volunteer work at school, like being a nonTrustee member of the Property Committee, helping with the school archives, and serving on the Alumni Board, but for me, nothing compares with being a “member” of Kindergarten. Some members of my class of 1962 may remember our own K year with Mrs. Warfield. This past September, I found myself regressing to those wonderful days— wonderful, that is, after the first few frightening ones. This year’s brand new Kindergartners arrived much as we did: some just full of themselves and ready to take over the classroom; others shy, even timid, and prone to sudden outbursts of tears. Over the years, I have learned the magical curative powers of moist paper towels, good for almost any ailment, from a bruise to a small headache, or even the pinch from a guinea pig’s teeth. There is something quite wonderful about being back in Kindergarten. There are so many ways to give to Friends. Working with students, for me, is uniquely rewarding; financial support is, without a doubt, essential. I hope all alumni will find a way to be part of our school. Because of the community and mission at Friends, each of our contributions of money and time can make a substantial difference to the school—so that its graduates can make a difference in the world. —Tim Bayard ’62

Wilmington Friends School is deeply grateful for the transformational gift from of Mona and Tim ’62 Bayard. The $2.3 million is the largest gift received by an alumnus/na to date. In addition to Tim’s volunteer service, Mona served on the Board of Trustees from 1998 to 2007. Mona and Tim are parents of an alumna, Clare ’94; they are True Blue donors, members of the 1748 Society, and Leadership donors to the Annual Fund. Pooled Income Fund (PIF)—Donating cash or appreciated stock** to Friends—the pooled income fund provides lifetime income for you or others you name, with the majority of the principal benefiting an area that is important to you upon your death. Pooled income fund gifts are most commonly used when you want to receive income for life with a hedge against inflation. You benefit from an income tax charitable deduction for a portion of the gift amount and completely avoid the capital gains tax that might otherwise be due on gifts of appreciated stock. (**Appreciated stock is a great way to give. The donor receives the tax credit for the contribution at the market value of the stock and does not pay any capital gains tax.) 'BMM8JOUFStFriends 'BMM8JOUFStFriendsmagazine magazine



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HOMECOMING 2012 THURSDAY, OCTOBER 18 True Blue/ 1748 Society Luncheon More than 100 friends enjoyed lunch in the middle/upper school Library, with performances by the upper school Jazz Band and Chamber Singers.“Student ambassadors” also attended to greet guests and share the student perspective on what’s happening at Friends today. In his remarks at the event, Bryan Garman went through the plans for the new theater and gym, and announced the largest-ever alumnus gift to Friends School, $2.3 million from Tim ’62 and Mona Bayard (see page 3). True Blue donors have supported Friends School for 10 or more consecutive years. Members of the 1748 Society have included the school in their estate plans.

Clockwise from top left: Darcy Rademaker talking with Mona and Tim Bayard ’62; Biddy Miller Jenkins ’51 with Sophie Mester ’13; all current parents, as well as several alumni, seated: Andy Aerenson ’81, Marci Aerenson, Chip Connolly ’79, Katy Connolly, and standing: Linda Jaworski, Chris Lee ’82, and Julie Tattersall McGinnis ’82; Sue Merrick ’39, Sue’s guest Pat Sylvester, and Sara Hodge Geuder ’55.

Evening of the Arts This special event celebrated the visual and performing arts at Friends. The evening began in the Meeting Room with memorable performances by middle and upper school students who then led the alumni guests to the Library, for the second annual Alumni Art Show reception. Alumni Board member Don “Chick” Altmaier ’51 was instrumental in organizing the show, which featured 14 alumni artists, representing six decades, who were celebrating reunions in 2012: George Elliott ’47, Chinese brush artist Marie “T” Berl Ferguson ’47, painter Pat Ryan Zolper ’47, painter Walter “Bud” Lee ’57*, painter Jay Dalgliesh ’62*, architect Graham Dougherty ’62, painter Ben Larrabee ’62, portrait photographer John Kurtz ’62, painter Ona Merdoch Hamilton ’67, painter Christine Barker ’67, sculptor Jan Lovett Williams ’82, nature photography David Chalmers ’87, stylus painter Daisy Church ’97, artist and animator Daniel Joseph ’02, Disney “Imagineer” *deceased 6

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Clockwise from top: Along with soloist Lauren Smith ’12 and the Jazz Band, middle school choral students performed at the Evening of the Arts. John Kurtz ’62 with his painting during the reception for the Second Annual Alumni Art Show. Ginny Lee Butters ’62 stands with a painting, “Blueberries,” by her late brother, Walter “Bud” Lee ‘57.

A Gift of Gold (and Platinum): The Wyeth Records During the Evening of the Arts reception, Head of School Bryan Garman formally accepted a gift of Howie Wyeth’s gold and platinum records. Howie was a member of the Class of 1962, and this would have been his 50th Reunion. Excerpts from Bryan’s remarks: “Inspired by Friends music teacher Ralph Guest, Howie had an outstanding musical career at school, where he founded what he called The Friends School Marching Band Sitting Down. After graduation, he attended Syracuse University, where he majored in music. Howie shared the studio and the stage with some heavyweights, including Roger McGuinn of The Birds, Don McLean, Robert Gordon, Link Wray, Leslie West, Kinky Friedman, Patti LaBelle, James Moody, Blues Traveler and others. “But Howie is best known for being Bob Dylan’s drummer on two of the albums that his partner of 17 years Catherine Wheeler, has graciously given to the

School: Desire, originally released in 1975, and Hard Rain (1976), a live album that captured some of the best moments of Dylan’s legendary Rolling Thunder Revue. Subsequent recordings of Howie’s playing and that tour have since been released in Dylan’s Bootleg Series. In addition to inspiring a renaissance in Dylan’s creativity and musicianship, Rolling Thunder, a band of all-star musicians that included Joan Baez and Joni Mitchell, raised consciousThree of Howie Wyeth’s ’62 brothers attended the Evening of the Arts. Picness about Rubin ‘Hurricane’ tured are John ’68, Convers ’63, and Andy ’66 Wyeth with cousin (and Howie’s Carter, an African American classmate) Walter Smith ’62. boxer who was twice convicted of a triple murder that Katrina, of the racial profiling we saw took place in 1966. Carter’s advocates, with Trayvon Martin. And we think of Dylan among them, argued that the Howie’s drums, the foundation of those conviction was racially motivated and magical Rolling Thunder moments, and unjust. Efforts to exonerate the Hurrithe wonderful spirit he brought to everycane proved successful when the convicthing he did. And we remember Howie tion was overturned in 1985.” Wyeth for the role he played in creating one of the most important songs ever After guiding the audience through the song “Hurricane,” Bryan concluded, “As recorded about injustice, a song written by one our most important songwriters the maelstrom subsides, we are left alone and anchored by one of our most gifted with our conscience, thinking perhaps drummers.” of Rubin Carter, of the injustices we witnessed in the wake of a hurricane named

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 19 Cross Country The cross country team’s Homecoming meet was the Joe O’Neill Invitational at Bellevue State Park. The annual race includes schools in Division I and II. Senior Cav Salvadori finished 6th, and junior Thomas Connelly finished 9th overall. In addition, the team wore their Quaker Pride in the Smith McMillan 5K the following morning as a “recovery run.” All State Thomas Connelly ’14 Second Team

All Conference Cav Salvadori ’13 Thomas Connelly ’14

All County Cav Salvadori ’13 Thomas Connelly ’14

Right: Cav Salvadori ’13 and Thomas Connelly ’14 in the Smith McMillan 5K. Far right: Quaker runners Emily Freilich ’14, Liza Hendriks ’13, Stephen Ly ’15, and Jack Hollingsworth ’13 in the Homecoming meet at Bellevue State Park. 'BMM8JOUFStFriends 'BMM8JOUFStFriendsmagazine magazine


FRIDAY, OCTOBER 19 All-Alumni Reunion Reception and Alumni Awards More than 100 alumni gathered to celebrate Homecoming and the Alumni Award recipients for 2012. All three graduates who were recognized this year by the Alumni Board shared their insights about the influence of Friends education on their lives and careers. Distinguished Alumnus Mark Ball ’52 referred to the “compass” that Friends provided; Service Award recipient Sharon Cohen ’84 pointed to the importance of service at Friends, as integral to the lifelong lessons of Quaker education; and Dan Joseph ’02, Young Alumnus of the Year, talked about how Friends gave him the confidence to find, and use, his own voice.

Daniel Joseph ’02, Young Alumnus of the Year; Sharon Cohen ’84, Outstanding Service Award; Mark Ball ’52, Distinguished Alumnus of the Year; and Melissa Fagan Billitto ’87, Alumni Board President.

Volleyball Friends volleyball won an amazing 10th straight conference championship in 2012, with an 8-0 record against conference opponents—including a 3-0 win over Sanford on Homecoming Friday. The Quakers went on to a dramatic 3-2 first round state tournament win over A.I. du Pont, before falling in the quarterfinals to eventual state champion Padua. Senior Lauren Kerrigan was named state Player of the Year by the Delaware Interscholastic Volleyball Coaches Association and, for an unprecedented second time, the Gatorade Player of the Year for Delaware volleyball. All State Lauren Kerrigan ’13, First Team Erin Skibicki ’13, Second Team All Conference First Team Lauren Kerrigan ’13 Erin Skibicki ’13 All Conference Second Team Susan Kuhn ’13 Delaney Lee ’14 Senior All Star Game Lauren Kerrigan Erin Skibicki Susan Kuhn


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Clockwise from left, senior tri-captains Susan Kuhn, Lauren Kerrigan, and Erin Skibicki led Quaker volleyball to a Homecoming win, a 10th consecutive Independent Conference title, and the quarterfinals of the state tournament. Far left: Senior Grace Carey as the Blue Kangaroo led the Quaker fans in cheers at volleyball’s Homecoming win.

Distinguished Alumnus, Mark Ball ’52 Mark is currently an arbitrator, mediator, and consultant on the law of international and domestic arbitration, as well as an adjunct professor of international commercial law and senior fellow, Temple University Law School, Philadelphia, PA. Mark graduated from Amherst College with a BA, magna cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa in 1956; attended Oxford University as a Rhodes Scholar, BA in law, 1958 (MA, 1973); and received his LLB from Harvard Law School in 1960. He went on to clerk for U.S. Supreme Court Chief Justice Earl Warren and for Justices Stanley Reed and Harold Burton, 1960-61. He also served as the Assistant General Counsel, Office of Economic Opportunity, and General Counsel of VISTA (Volunteers in Service to America, part of the Lyndon Johnson “War on Poverty”), 1964-66; as Staff Director of the Peace Corps, 1966-67; and as General Counsel of United States Agency for International Development, 1977-79. Bill Quillen ’52, Mark Ball ’52, Fred Pardee ’52, and Don “Chick” Altmaier ’51. He has also served as a lecturer in international commercial arbitration at the University of Pennsylvania Law School; and he has been adjunct professor of law (international commercial arbitration) at Villanova Law School and Georgetown University. Mark has consulted and advised various nations, including Armenia, Bulgaria, and Georgia, on mediation and arbitration law, and was a member of an IFC (International Financial Corporation, part of the World Bank Group) mission to South Sudan to evaluate prospects for the resolution of commercial disputes through mediation and arbitration. Additionally, Mark has served as counsel in roughly 60 international and domestic arbitrations in the U.S., England, and the Netherlands. At the Iran-United States Claims Tribunal at The Hague, he served as lead counsel in approximately 10 cases and supervising counsel in 25 others.

50th+ Reunion Luncheon On Friday, the school hosted the 50th+ Reunion Luncheon at the DuPont Country Club. About 60 alumni attended, along with spouses and guests, representing the Classes of 1937, 1947, 1952, and the 50th Reunion Class of 1962.

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Head of School Bryan Garman welcomed the returning friends. Bryan recognized Jane Frelich and Charles Gant from the Class of 1937, the last class to graduate from the Fourth & West Street campus. He also expressed thanks for the many gifts received by the school in honor of reunions this year. Bryan concluded, “Thank you for making the world a better place, by letting your lives speak as Friends alumni.”

Currently a senior fellow with the International Law Institute in Washington, DC, Mark has lectured and been the director of programs on arbitration, mediation, and negotiation for lawyers, judges, and government officials from developing nations. These programs have been held in the U.S. and a number of countries in the developing world, including Uganda, Nigeria, Kenya, Ghana, Egypt, and Turkey. He travels frequently to Africa, which holds a special place in Mark’s heart. He and his wife Harriett (“Cricket”), with many like-minded friends, provide support to a nursery/primary school in a Kampala Uganda slum. They visit the school about once every year. Mark’s classmates Bill Quillen and Fred Pardee described what they called Mark’s “human qualities,” this way: “They are perhaps best capsulated by the word ‘empathy.‘ To borrow from a dictionary definition, Mark is ‘sensitive to and vicariously experiences the feelings, thoughts, and hurt of others.‘ Arbitration and mediation are tools designed to heal conflict and let the participants move on hopefully with speed and lesser cost than litigation or continued battle. It is a legal niche designed for Mark. And, on the more general scale, Mark’s love for emerging populations, and particularly, based on his experience, the people of Africa, runs deep, and he grieves in a very personal way about the slaughter of humankind in Africa. In addition to being a classic of American strength and simplicity, Mark is a true citizen of the world and the starvation of children in Africa is the death of his children. Empathy is quite a burden to carry.” Mark has taught courses in Shakespeare and the law. He recently led of a group of about 20 seniors in his retirement community in reading all of Ulysses out loud, which took about two-and-a-half years, with summers off. (The group was written up in the Philadelphia Inquirer.) He has four children, six grandchildren, and as he says, “Cricket, my beloved wife and guide of 55 years.” A large contingent from the Class of 1952, many with spouses, gathered for their 60th Reunion and to honor classmate and Alumnus of the Year Mark Ball: Vi Doughton, Bill Robinson ‘52, Marie Geesey Robinson ‘54, Jack Porter ‘52, Lew Doughton ‘52, Harriett (“Cricket”) Ball, Mark Ball ’52, Georgie Stapleton, Walter Stapleton ‘52, Bill Lang ‘52, Ann Lang, Fred Pardee ‘52, Laura Pardee, Diane Adams, Barry Smith ‘52, Marcia Stirling Quillen ‘56, Tom Putney ‘52, and Bill Quillen ‘52.

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Outstanding Service Award, Sharon Cohen ’84 Sharon is founder and executive director of a pioneering non-profit organization, Figure Skating in Harlem (FSH).

Today, FSH programs include intensive academic tutoring and classes in public speaking and communications, writing, nutrition, and financial literacy, as well as counseling, leadership training, career development, and cultural field trips. The results: 100% of FSH seniors graduate high school, and they have gone on to colleges like Mount Holyoke, Howard, Spelman, Brown, and many others. FSH has maintained a 0% pregnancy rate among its students. About 80% of FSH girls maintain a 3.0 or higher g.p.a. In a recent survey, 98% of girls reported feeling safe and supported at FSH; 94% felt they were doing better in school; 99% felt they were more helpful to others; and 97% said they feel better about themselves. Nearly 100% of girls stick with FSH throughout the year, and 75% return each year.

Established in 1997, FSH has served more than a thousand at-risk girls from some of New York City’s poorest communities. Through a dynamic fitness and academics program, FSH promotes academic success, physical health, and emotional well-being. The organization has gained national recognition and is supported by an impressive roster of Olympic athletes, private foundations, corporations, celebrities, and individual donors. Above all, Sharon and FSH enjoy tremendous parent and community support, as hundreds of families organize three exciting events each season that attract more than 2,500 spectators. Sharon grew up in the world of competitive figure skating. A USFSA double gold medalist who trained with Olympic coaches, she appreciated the lessons the sport could teach about discipline, perseverance, responsibility, and goal setting, and the lasting effect of those lessons on confidence and positive development. In 1990, after graduating from Brown University and moving to New York City to work at CBS News, Sharon had a chance encounter with a group of East Harlem girls who wanted to learn how to skate. She returned to the ice and found a way to channel her dual passions for skating and education.

Sharon has been a guest speaker at the Professional Skaters Association/Ice Skating Institute national conference and National Fundraising Day. She completed a certificate program in non-profit management at Columbia University Business School. In 2006, Sharon was selected as the winner of Maybelline’s Women Inspiring Confidence through Education, as announced in People magazine. That same year she appeared on the cover of Skating Magazine with her students. In 2007 she was WNBC-TV’s “notable New Yorker” and NY1’s “New Yorker of the Week.” In 2012, she received a Community Leadership Award from the President’s Council on Physical Fitness, Sports, and Nutrition. Each spring Sharon is joined by New York City notables from Vera Wang and Donald Trump to Diana Ross and the Cast of Law & Order: SVU for the signature gala Skating With the Stars, which raises funds for FSH.

Top: Sharon with her parents, Mildred and Herman. Above: Faculty helped to honor Sharon Cohen’s success with Figure Skating in Harlem—Cynthia Stan Mellow, Bill Neff, Sharon, Terry Maguire, Bill Bickley, and Dick Kittle.

By 1997, after completing her M.F.A in film writing and directing at New York University, Sharon was completely hooked on teaching, and a growing number of girls in East Harlem wanted to participate in her program. She was continuously inspired as she saw students discover their inner resources as well as develop new skills to succeed. Rather than pursue her film career, even after winning several awards, Sharon worked with a group of committed and enthusiastic parents in Harlem to formalize Figure Skating in Harlem.

Young Alumnus, Daniel Joseph ’02 Dan is a Special Effects Designer and “Illusioneer” with Walt Disney Imagineering. Dan merges electronic and mechanical know-how with his artistic sense and talent to design experiences for people through what can only be called technological magic. An IDSA Member (Industrial Design Society of America), he holds a B.S., Industrial Design, 2006, from the University of the Arts, Philadelphia, PA, where he was the recipient of the Young Artist Scholarship. Dan won First Place in the 2006 Walt Disney Imagineering “Imagi-Nations” Design Competition for new attraction designs, story elements, budgeting logistics, engineering, and special effects. This past fall, Dan has been working with Disney in Orlando, FL, on new attractions. He was spotlighted in an October 2, 2012 Orlando article about the 30th anniversary celebrations for Epcot: “Disney Imagineer Daniel Joseph ran the ‘EPCOT Illusioneering and Beyond’ presentation, which focused on ‘Illusioneering’ Described as ‘professional tinkerers,’ Joseph took guests through some of the special effects and illusions that make up the Illusioneer craft, such as the importance of lava in Epcot, fiber-optic displays and Smellitzer, or scent effects. He also noted Illusioneer designs must be ‘simple, elegant and repeatable.’” (Debra Peterson, D23 Epcot 30th Anniversary Celebration honors Disney theme park’s past) Patents are in place for 13 of Dan’s inventions, created during his work with Disney. One of those inventions, “Walk Like an Eskimo,” a flooring system that simulates features of natural surfaces such as the sound and feel of footsteps on snow, was featured in a article titled“The Best Inventions of 2011... So Far” on June 9, 2011. 10 magazine 'BMM8JOUFStFriends magazine 10 4VNNFStFriends 'BMM8JOUFStFriends magazine

Top left: Dan with his parents, Michael and Dayle. Above: Dan expressed special thanks to his Friends School art teacher, Cynthia Stan Mellow.

Above: Current and past faculty and classmates helped pay tribute to Dan Joseph: Jon Huxtable, Kate Lester ’02, Jan Jones, Adrienne Monley ’02, Dan, Bill Neff, Beth Hopkins ’02, Bill Bickley, Marilyn Maguire, Harry Hammond, and Dick Kittle.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20 The 17th Annual Smith McMillan 5K Run & Walk It was a sunny morning for the more than 180 runners and walkers who completed the 2012 Smith McMillan 5K—an all-time record for participation. Thank you! The 5K benefits financial aid endowment at Friends, and this year’s event raised almost $9,000 through sponsorships and registrations. Many thanks to co-clerks Katy Connolly and Diane Nolen who led an extraordinary committee and group of volunteers. Jon Clifton ’80 once again provided the professional organization through Races2Run, and we thank him for all of his hard work and dedication to this event. To jazz things up this year, we invited Java Puppy, a mobile coffee truck which provided coffee and hot chocolate, as well as healthy “green drinks,” all served with a smile by Liz Abel of free+abel. In addition, we welcomed home many members of the Class of 1977, celebrating their 35th Reunion and honoring their late classmate Wendy Smith McMillan by participating in the 5K. The event was founded in memory of Wendy and her brother Jonathan Bacon Smith ’83. As always, we thank our loyal volunteers and sponsors. We would also like to thank the many WFS faculty and staff members who volunteered their time.

Committee and Volunteers: Katy Connolly (co-clerk) Diane Nolen (co-clerk) Lisa Townsend Raber ’77 (clerk emeritus) Annette Aerenson Marci Aerenson Lauren Asher Denise Chapman Caroline Connolly ’12 Chip Connolly ’79 Gil Connolly ’14 Kate Cowperthwait Adam Cutler Wendy Cutler Rasheeda Demby Judy Downing Sarah Gordon Amy Curran Harper ’94 Aliceia Higginbotham Jane Hollingsworth Sue Ann Kane Susan Kelley Linda Kushner

Laura MacKelcan Dawn Manley Joe Napoletano Lindsey Nolen ’19 Jennifer O’Brien Tom O’Brien Tara Quinn Anna Quisel ’87 Lou Salvadori Jennifer Sullivan

Sponsors RACER: Delaware Orthopaedic Specialists Jamie Nicholls & Fran Biondi ’83 STRIDER: Brandywine Recovery, Inc. The Connolly Family PNC Bank Schlosser & Associates W.L. Gore & Associates, Inc.

Hayman Creative Promotional Products Agency PACESETTER: The Aerenson Family— Annette, Bob ’79, Whitney ’09 & Jackie ’15 Jon Clifton’80 The Cowperthwait Family First American Title Insurance-National Commercial Services FoldFast Goals free+abel The Kelley Family— Susan, Bernie, Eric ’10 & Lauren ’12 The Magness Family PANTANO Real Estate RoadID

DONORS: Annette Aerenson Marci Aerenson Candies for All Occasions The Connolly Family Currie Hair Skin Nails The Cutler Family Fit for Life free+abel The Gatti Family Amy Curran Harper ’94 The Hollingsworth Family Johnnie’s Dog House

Sue Ann Kane Susan Kelley Dawn Manley Debbie Miller The Nolen Family The O’Brien Family Q Salon & Spa The Raber Family Toscana WFS Business Office WFS Home & School Association

Clockwise from top left: It was a beautiful morning for a trip around the course at any speed. Volunteers always, and literally, make the race go; thanks to all, including Susan Kelley and Caroline Connolly ’12 (and just behind them, Jane Hollingsworth and Sarah Gordon). The Gooderham Family, ready to run in their Smith McMillan finest: Oliver ’20, Robert, Sarah ’17, and Catherine Dean-Gooderham. Jon Clifton ’80 lined up more than 180 runners and walkers at the start of this year’s race. Left: Racers age 10 and younger got the morning started with a“fun run” in front of the Java Puppy coffee truck.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20 Service at Homecoming In the all-school Homecoming Service Project, parent and faculty volunteers helped collect and organize donated goods for The Ministry of Caring. In addition, the lower school held its second annual Homecoming Service Bake Sale, this year benefiting Children & Families First. The Bake Sale, with treats cooked both at school and at home, raised $946.50.

Soccer A great Homecoming win for soccer, 2-0 over a tough team from Tatnall. Senior tri-captain Michael Galardi and freshman Patrick Haubert had the goals for Friends, both off assists from junior Jamie Martelli-Raben. Goalie Tate Muratori-Levit had four saves. Quaker soccer finished its season 5-9-1, with those other highlight wins coming over four more tough teams—Caravel, Wilmington Christian, Sanford, and Tower Hill. All State Jamie Harper ’14, First Team Michael Galardi ’13, Second Team All Conference First Team Jamie Harper ’14 Mike Galardi ’13 All Conference Second Team Will Maguire ’13 Graham Haubert ’13 Tate Muratori-Levit ’14 All Conference Honorable Mention Bobby Broderick ’13 Drew Conner ’15

What’s New at Friends Following Meeting for Worship, many guests joined Bryan Garman in the Library for a presentation about what’s new at school, including plans for the new theater and gym—not just to replace but to improve the facilities destroyed by the April 2012 fire.

Meeting for Worship Homecoming Meeting for Worship honors faculty and staff, past and present, with 15 years or more of service to the school. Alumni from reunion classes also have a special invitation to attend Homecoming Meeting.

Bryan Garman opened the gathering in the recently renovated, with a few finishing touches still to come, middle/upper school Meeting Room. Top right: Former faculty members Richard Bernard and Bill Neff are among a distinguished group that has earned two “15 years” (more than 30 years of service) buttons. Bottom right: Rebecca Brand ’92, Rob Brand ’89, and Amanda Bartoshesky ‘93.

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Field Hockey Clockwise from top left: Senior tri-captain Will Maguire; first team All Stater Jamie Harper ‘14, son of Jeff Harper ‘74; senior tri-captain Bobby Broderick; and senior tricaptain and second team All State player Michael Galardi, who may look outnumbered on this play, but put the header in the goal to give the Quakers a 1-0 lead in their eventual 2-0 win over Tatnall.

Not very Quakerly but to the point: Friends field hockey lost the Homecoming battle but won the Independent Conference war. The Quakers lost 0-1 to Tatnall on Homecoming, but beat the Hornets 1-0 two weeks later, just one day (due to Hurricane Sandy rescheduling) after beating Tower Hill, to clinch the Independent Conference title outright. Friends went on as the #5 seed in the state tournament, beating a tough team from Milford in the first round before losing 0-1 in a heart-breaker to #4 Caravel. The Quakers finished their great, conference championship season 12-3-1. All State Emily Horwitz ’13, First Team Danielle Kuller ’14, Second Team All Conference First Team Meredith Erskine ’13 Emily Horwitz ’13 Sophie Mester ’13 Danielle Kuller ’14 Meryl Gatti ’15 All Conference Second Team Natalie Wenigmann ’13 Co-captain Emily Horwitz ‘13, daughter of Rich Horwitz ‘75, Elena Veale ’14 in goal, with Elena Veale ‘14, Danielle Kuller ‘14, and Lucy Jane Yeatman ’15 Yeatman ‘13 on D.

Meredith Erskine ‘13, daughter of Meg Co-captain Sophie Mester ‘13, daughter Gehret Erskine ‘83; two weeks later, Meredith of Lisa Medford Mester ‘83. would score the winning goal against Tatnall to seal the Independent Conference championship for Friends. 'BMM8JOUFStFriends 'BMM8JOUFStFriendsmagazine magazine 13

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20 Below: Senior Bowman Benge finishing one of his nine tackles on D in the 20-12 Homecoming win over Tatnall.

Football A big Homecoming crowd watched the Quaker football team build a 14-12 lead on conference rival Tatnall, and then top it off when senior Jon McMillan, son of Carl McMillan ’79 and the late Wendy Smith McMillan’77, ran in for a score on the last play of the game—your final Friends 20, Tatnall 12. The Quakers’ first TD came on a 10-yard pass from senior Sam Carney, son of Tracey Quillen Carney ’80, to senior Ben Hanson, who also had a standout game on defense, including an interception and critical stop on a Tatnall two-point conversion attempt. Sam also kicked the two extra points, punted and kicked off, and played corner on D. The second score was a power drive from a yard out by senior Luke Magness, who ran for 111 yards in the game, had six tackles, and forced and recovered two fumbles. The tackle leaders were Jon McMillan and fellow senior Bowman Benge, each with nine; Bowman also led the blocking on the O line. Senior Jeff Davis, son of Susan Tattersall Davis ’84 and Bob Davis ’83, picked up two critical first downs on offense, had three tackles on D, and was the long snapper in the kicking game that came up big. The Homecoming victory set the Quakers up for what proved to be an even bigger celebration, after a 23-21 win in the season finale against favored Tower

Hill. By beating Tatnall and Tower Hill, Friends earned a share of the Independent Conference championship. The Quakers finished the season 6-3 overall (with one game cancelled due to Hurricane Sandy), bringing Coach Bob “T” Tattersall’s career win total to 268.


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All Conference Offense First Team Bill Gordon ’14, Tackle Ben Hanson ’13, Tight End Luke Magness ’13, Fullback Sam Carney ’13, Quarterback, Punter & Kicker All Conference Defense First Team Bill Gordon ’14, Tackle Jon McMillan ’13, Linebacker All Conference Offense Honorable Mention Conor Ganse ’15, Center Bowman Benge ’13, Guard Jeff Davis ’13, Wide Receiver All Conference Defense Honorable Mention Bowman Benge ’13, Line Ben Hanson ’13, End Luke Magness ’13, Linebacker Jeff Davis ’13, Back

Coach Bob Tattersall had two grandsons on his 2012 team, senior Jeff Davis and sophomore Scott Davis. Coach “T” now has 268 career wins.

Left to right: Luke Magness ‘13 ran for 111 yards in the Homecoming game; To the delight of the Homecoming crowd, Jon McMillan ‘13 ran in for a score on the last play of the game; Ben Hanson ‘13 and QB Sam Carney ‘13 celebrate a touchdown pass.

All State Third Team Sam Carney ’13, Kicker

2012 Delaware Interscholastic Football Coaches Association Academic All State Team (3.75+ g.p.a. and varsity letter) Bowman Benge ’13 Sam Carney ’13 Jeff Davis ’13 Ben Hanson ’13 Ben Pickles ’13 Bill Gordon ’14 Jimmy Carney ’15 Spencer Hall ’15

The Band In its most ambitious effort to date, the 4th-8th grade halftime band’s show included student (and occasionally canine) representatives for each grade, the passing and celebration of a symbolic Inner Light, and a formation of the Friends schoolhouse logo on the ďŹ eld. Many thanks to instrumental music director Christopher Verry, the band students, and everyone who took part in the halftime spectacular.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20 Families & Friends Outside in the sunshine, activities included Kids’ Corner, with a DJ, moon bounce, and face painting (courtesy of some very artistic Friends students). A delicious lunch, catered by Toscana, was served in the big tent, while alumni and current families could shop in the small tent for Friends spirit wear. The Alumni Board and Home & School Association both had welcome tables, and guests had a chance to see the plans for the new theater and gym along their way on self-guided tours.


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Pat Ryan Zolper, Dick Diver, and Marie “T” Ferguson attended their 65th Reunion.


Jane Hayden Frelick and Charles Gant celebrated their 75th Reunion this year.


The 1952 reunion at the DuPont Country Club lunch was an all-male affair (though we were pleased to welcome many spouses and guests). Seated: Bill Lang, Rufus Jones, Barry Smith, Fred Pardee, Mark Ball. Standing: Jack Porter, Ira Ellis, Tom Putney, Bill Quillen, Lew Doughton, Bill Robinson, and Walter Stapleton.


Seated: Ann Harper Heaton, Priscilla Smith Witke, Hugh James, Alice McGovern Doering, Jerry Poole. Standing: Sally Smith Lambert, Wayne Keller, Jacquie Bostick Coyle, Rob Hoopes, Caroline Schwartz Sutton, and Tom Baker.

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The 50th Reunion class welcomed back friends from all over the country. Front row: Patty Sauter Ruemmler, Barbara Collins Conn, Robert Lessey, Sheila Brown Arbury, Loree Rogers Reed, Rob Grimes, John Harris, Walter “Bull” Smith, Skip Allen, Betty Jean Hirschland Munro. Middle row: Ned Davis, Debbe Hitt Lane, Amey Eckles Dodge, Carol Van Wyck White, Anne Marshall Brinsfield, Phoebe Baker, Nelson Sanborn, John Cox, Ginny Lee Butters, Susan Cochran Lindsay, Suzanne deVries Baartman. Back row: Peter Clark, Skip Mertz, John Lindley, Dut Brown, Tim Bayard, Ben Larrabee, Stephen Poole, Rich Weigel, and Rob Pyle.


A great time (if in slightly low light).... Back row at left: Warren Deitcher, Pete Wentz, Rob Dewees, Richard Stat, Tim Snyder. Seated: Phillip Reed, Chris Strahan Barker, Margie Hirschland Robinson, Tom Nolen, Laura Geesey Payne, Josephine Martin Bayard, Yosh Ono, Gail Wollerton Corby, Albert Jay McCrery, Ona Murdoch Hamilton, and Doug Freeman.


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A photo great in spirit (sorry we can’t print it bigger without losing clarity)….Front row: Monica Logsdon Rockefeller, Lisa Suarez, Sue Hatch Colvin, Anne Wadsworth Peck. Middle row: Piper Wentz Rothschild, Debbie Bendett Hill, Christobel Shedd Selecky, Dorothy Weaver, Alex Lehr-Maunder. Standing: Mike Vincent, Pete Wilbur, Theo Nix, Per Lundgaard, Sam Nolen, John O’Brien, Jeremy Gelb, and Mike Schwartz.


Front row: Laura Isken Doyle, Sue Morton Swarter, John Harper, Sylvia Whiteside Reid, (sorry, a little fuzzy moving right) Lisa Townsend-Raber, Ginni Troyan Brown, Meg Dempsey Frey. Middle row: Georgia Kollias-Daskalakis, Kathy Takacs Taylor, Kristin Schafer Looney. Standing: Peter Hollingsworth, Garry Peiffer, Andy Durham, David Gates, Alex Poorman Ergon, and Marianne Cordrey-Cotsell.


Front row: Karen Humphrey, Jan Lovett Williams, Julie Tattersall McGinnis, Lisa Woolley Anderson, Kathy Troyan Facciolo, Julie McCauley Hill, Priscilla Altmaier du Pont. Standing: Michael Longwill, Alan Hoff, Brett Redfearn, Chris Lee, Rob Thomas, John Pearce, and John Coleman.


Front row (seated): Julie Bierlein, Karen Tarbell Greeley, Anna Quisel, Tracey Porter Aleman, Caitlin Hart. Middle row: Susan Morovati Finizio, Amy Hartzell Pszczolkowski, Amy Jennings Gallagher, Kathy Seaholm McDermott, Kristen Caviness Sihler, Linda Mack, Apollo Khine, Melissa Fagan Billitto, Eric Opderbeck, Peter Baker. Back row: Emily Geuder, John McClelland, Ethan Cooperson, Tracy Campbell, Greg Mand, Rich Powers, Louisa Terrell, Dan Mulveny, and Bret Snyder. Not pictured: Christy Searl and William Medford.

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Seated: Alli Meyer, Lila Richards, Katherine Osbun Maki, Bill Shipp, Rebecca Brand, Katie McKelvie Backfield. Standing: Dan Dubin, Eric Levin, Chad Laurence, Charis Kozic O’Connor, Jennifer Seiberlich Brown, and Rob Donaghy.


(With spouses and guests) Seated: Laura Kirk Kurz, Sara Weiss and Kevin Zimmerman, Matt Meyer, Olivia Kurtz. Standing: Sara Schell Wells (with baby Cecilia) and John Wells, Joe and Para Wolcott, Will Holloway (next to Joe, behind Para) with friend Anna, Kelly Osbun Rubincan, Jenn and Bernie Reilly, Adrianne Dudley, Gordon Fraley, Dahvia and Drew Dalton, Maureen and Rami Abdel-Misih.

WFS and CASE/NAIS Recognize Longwood Foundation Following its nomination by Friends School, the Longwood Foundation will be recognized by the Council for Advancement and Support of Education and the National Association of Independent Schools (CASE/NAIS) with the John R. Chandler Award. The Chandler Award honors a corporation or foundation for outstanding contributions to independent schools. The award is named in honor of a former assistant headmaster at the Hotchkiss School who was one of CASE’s first independent school trustees.


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Over the past 25 years, the Longwood Foundation has contributed more than $8.5 million to support capital improvements at Wilmington Friends—including classroom additions to lower school in the late 1980s; athletic facilities and science and computer labs on our middle/ upper school campus in the mid-1990s; and art, music, and computer classrooms and a new Meeting for Worship room at lower school in the early 2000s. The Longwood Foundation’s grant to Friends School in 2007 was instrumental in

helping with much needed infrastructure improvements to windows, roofs, and HVAC systems. Most recently, Longwood gave Friends a $1.5 million grant toward the construction of a new Global Learning Center (GLC) on the middle/upper school campus (fundraising ongoing). Please join us in congratulating, and thanking, our friends at the Longwood Foundation.



School Trip to China Photos by Elisa Komins Morris

The ground-breaking event of summer 2012 was the first Friends School trip to China, organized by Chinese teachers Yue Wang and Xiaohong Xu, and by recently retired Assistant Head of School/Head of Middle School Bill Neff. Fortunately for the Communications Office, professional photographer Elisa Komins Morris was among the seven Friends parents who accompanied 11 middle school students, five upper school students, and four school chaperones on the trip. Many thanks—again—to Elisa for sharing her wonderful photos with us.

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School Trip to China 2012 WFS China Trip Itinerary Monday, June 18 5:00AM – Depart from WFS to Newark Liberty International Airport. Flight information: United Airlines Flight# 0089, Newark-Beijing, departing at 11:55AM Tuesday, June 19 1:45PM – Arrive at Beijing Capital International Airport. Meet with Ocean Ping, our tour director, and then take the bus to Beijing Dong Fang Hotel 6:30PM – Dinner at the hotel Night Activity: On-site orientation at the hotel’s cafeteria Wednesday, June 20 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 8:00AM – Depart from the hotel Morning Activity: Summer Palace (taiji practice and dragon boat), pearl demonstration Lunch: lunch at suggested restaurants Afternoon Activity: Tiananmen Square, Forbidden City, Dinner: Roast Beijing Duck Night Activity: Kung Fu Show Thursday, June 21 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 8:00AM – Depart from the hotel Morning Activity: School visit at Beijing Wenhui Middle School, Great Wall Lunch: group lunch at specified restaurant Afternoon Activity: Tea ceremony 2008 Beijing Olympic Stadium: Bird Nest and Water Cube, Hutong rickshaw tour Dinner: dinner with local Chinese family Friday, June 22 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 8:00AM – Depart from the hotel Morning Activity: Temple of Heaven, fly to Xi’an Lunch: lunch at the airport Afternoon Activity: City Wall at Xi’an (bicycle riding), check into Xi’an Hotel Dinner: dinner at the hotel Night Activity: Foot massage


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Saturday, June 23 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 8:00AM – Depart from the hotel Morning Activity: Terracotta Army, Lunch: group lunch at specified restaurant Afternoon Activity: Tang Museum, Big Goose Pagoda, city tour Dinner: Tang Dynasty Show or dinner at the hotel Sunday, June 24 Depart from the hotel, fly to Shanghai Lunch: lunch at the airport Afternoon Activity: Shanghai World Financial Center, The Bund, Nanjing Road Dinner: dinner at specified restaurant Night Activity: Chinese Acrobat Show Monday, June 25 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 8:00AM – Depart from the hotel Morning Activity: Jade Buddha Temple, Silk Factory, Yu Garden, Lunch: lunch at suggested restaurants Afternoon Activity: shopping at Yu Garden Dinner: dinner at Ding Sheng Ge Restaurant Night Activity: night cruise on Huang Pu River Tuesday, June 26 6:30AM – Breakfast at the hotel 11:00AM – Depart from the hotel to Shanghai Pudong International Airport, maglev train to airport Lunch: lunch at the airport Flight information: United Airlines Flight# 0087, Shanghai-Newark, departing at 3:45PM 6:20PM – Arrive at Newark Liberty International Airport, take shuttle bus back to WFS 10:00PM – Arrive at WFS

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Summer Fall 2012

Class of 2012 IB Students


Final International Baccalaureate (IB) scores for diploma and certificate candidates are received after graduation. Twentynine members of the Class of 2012 earned the IB Diploma, and non-diploma candidates earned an additional 71 certificates in IB Higher Level courses.

UÊ iÜÊ«Àœ}À>“ÃÊ>˜`ÊÌiV…˜œogy: Faculty and students in grades 5-12 have some bright, new tools to work with: their own school-issued laptops, as Friends launched its “one-to-one” laptop program this fall. In addition, the school installed four additional SMART Boards and, at lower school, added 48 iPads for younger students (older students need actual laptops in order to do programming work). The lower school also opened a laptop research lab in the library, and implemented a new Singapore Math program, “Math in Focus,” in K-5.

IB Diploma recipients from the Class of 2012 are attending: Bennington College (2) Boston University Claremont McKenna College Colorado College University of Delaware (2) Franklin and Marshall College The George Washington University (2) Georgetown University Haverford College Johns Hopkins University Lafayette College Loyola University Maryland

New York University The University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill The Ohio State University Randolph College University of Rochester University of South Carolina Swarthmore College (3) Tulane University University of Virginia Warren Wilson College Williams College Yale University

Seniors started their year with an ice cream social hosted by Head of School Bryan Garman and his family. Ashley Cattermole Gillerlain ’91, an Associate Teacher in k/pre-first, welcomes students to the classroom community on Orientation Day 2012.



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UÊ œ˜}À>ÌՏ>̈œ˜ÃÊ̜ÊÀˆi˜`ÃÊ seniors Catherine Curran, Jack Hollingsworth, Ryan Kielhorn, Sophie Mester, and Dunia Tonob, who were recognized by the National Merit Scholar program this year. Their scores placed them in the top 3% of the more than 1.5 million students who took the qualifying test. UʘÊÓä£Ó‡Óä£Î]ÊÀˆi˜`ÃÊ parents and faculty/staff are continuing their monthly service at Emmanuel Dining Room. Parents prepare and serve a meal each month, and faculty/staff provide servers an additional day each month.

Lower School Science Specialist Tim Dalby was recognized by the Delaware Department of Education for excellence in teaching. Tim is demonstrating a parachute design and test flight in the lower school STEM Lab; students designed and then launched their own parachutes from the Lab’s loft.

Home & School Association volunteers welcomed everyone to the new school year at a September picnic.

UÊ/…iÊwÀÃÌÊ+1 -/Ê՘V…ÊEÊi>À˜ÊœvÊ̅iÊÞi>ÀÊvœVÕÃi`ʜ˜Ê iÃÌÊ Õ``ˆiÃ]Ê>Ê volunteer program in which students do activities and socialize with peers with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Friends has developed a very active Best Buddies partnership.

October UÊœÜiÀÊ-V…œœÊ-Vˆi˜ViÊ œœÀ`ˆ˜>̜ÀÊ/ˆ“Ê >LÞÊÜ>ÃÊÃiiVÌi`ÊLÞÊ i>Ü>Ài½ÃÊ Department of Education as a state-level finalist for the U.S. Presidential Awards for Excellence in Mathematics and Science Teaching program. Tim, who holds a B.S. from the University of Delaware, has been at Friends since 2006 and was a leader in launching the lower school STEM Lab and Elementary Science Olympiad program. UÊÀˆi˜`ÃÊÜiVœ“i`Ê7ˆ“>Ê9ÕÊvœÀÊ̅iÊÃiVœ˜`Ê՘V…ÊEÊi>À˜ÊœvÊ̅iÊÞi>Àʈ˜Ê early October. Wilma, parent of Victoria Yu ’08, spoke about her experiences traveling to different locations around the world, as well as about the art and science of her underwater photography.

Students in grades 5-12 now have school-issued laptops. The school also added four more classroom SMART Boards. UĂŠ-ĂŒĂ•`iÂ˜ĂŒĂƒĂŠÂˆÂ˜ĂŠÂ?ÂœL>Â?ĂŠ*i>ViĂŠEĂŠĂ•ĂƒĂŒÂˆViĂŠVÂ?>ĂƒĂƒĂŠ>Ă€iĂŠ>}>ÂˆÂ˜ĂŠÂŤ>Ă€ĂŒÂˆVÂˆÂŤ>ĂŒing in the four-part educational series, “South Asia: India & Pakistan.â€? The series is organized by the Delaware Lahore Delhi Partnership for Peace, associated with the Rotary Club of Wilmington. Friends is one of eight local schools that have participated. In the second session this year, students heard from Ambassador Robert Blake, Assistant Secretary of State for South and Central Asian Affairs. In addition to the programmed sessions, Friends is also starting an academic partnership with the Learning Alliance of Lahore in Pakistan. UĂŠ7i˜`ÞÊÂœ}iÂ?ĂŠĂœ>ĂƒĂŠĂŒÂ…ÂˆĂƒĂŠĂži>Ă€Â˝ĂƒĂŠÂœĂ•Ă€ĂŠ-V…œœÂ?ĂŠ-ÂŤi>ÂŽiÀÊ­>ĂŠÂŤ>Ă€ĂŒnership with Sanford, Tatnall, and Tower Hill) and also the fall all-school professional development speaker. Mogel is an internationally known psychologist and parenting expert. She is the author of two books: The New York Times bestseller The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, which is about raising children, and The Blessing of a B Minus, which focuses on raising teenagers. UĂŠÂœĂ•Ă€ĂŠĂ•ÂŤÂŤiĂ€ĂŠĂƒV…œœÂ?ĂŠĂƒĂŒĂ•`iÂ˜ĂŒĂƒĂŠĂœÂœĂ€ÂŽi`ĂŠĂœÂˆĂŒÂ…ĂŠ>˜`>Ă€ÂˆÂ˜ĂŠĂŒi>VÂ…iÀÊ Xiaohong Xu in the China Partnership of Greater Philadelphia’s Global Green Forum 2012. The program consisted of a two-day debate competition at the University of Pennsylvania. Friends juniors Emily Freilich and Ellie McGinnis and sophomores Hannah Caspar-Johnson and Emilio Ergueta participated in the debate. The program paired American high school and university students with students from China who had qualiďŹ ed from millions of students in a national competition. Other participating area high schools were the Haverford School and Penn Charter. UĂŠ ÂˆĂƒĂŒÂˆÂ˜}Ă•ÂˆĂƒÂ…i`ĂŠÂ?Ă•Â“Â˜Ă•ĂƒĂŠÂœvĂŠĂŒÂ…iĂŠ9i>ÀÊ>ÀŽÊ >Â?Â?ʽxĂ“ĂŠ>ĂŒĂŒi˜`i`ĂŠ classes and led an upper school Collection for students and teachers. Read more about Mark on page 9.

November UĂŠ1ÂŤÂŤiĂ€ĂŠĂƒV…œœÂ?ĂŠĂƒVˆi˜ViĂŠĂŒi>VÂ…iÀÊ Â?Â?iÂ˜ĂŠÂœÂ…Â˜ĂƒÂœÂ˜ĂŠĂœ>ĂƒĂŠĂ€iVÂœ}Â˜ÂˆĂ˘i`ĂŠ>ĂƒĂŠ the National Association of Biology Teachers (NABT) 2012 Outstanding Biology Teacher for the State of Delaware, and received her award on November 3 at the NABT’s 2012 Professional Development Conference in Dallas. Ellen has taught at Friends since 1998, and holds a Ph.D. from Michigan State and a B.S. from Duke. She currently teaches the IB Higher Level Biology course. William Anderson, himself a two-time Pennsylvania State Outstanding Biology Teacher and now a part-time teacher at Friends, attended the conference as well and participated in the award presentation. UĂŠÂş-ĂŒĂ•vvĂŠĂŒÂ…iĂŠ Ă•ĂƒÂťĂŠœœ`ĂŠ Ă€ÂˆĂ›i\ĂŠ1ÂŤÂŤiĂ€ĂŠĂƒV…œœÂ?ĂŠ>`Ă›ÂˆĂƒÂœĂ€ÂˆiĂƒ]ĂŠÂœĂ€}>nized into a friendly competition, participated in the statewide “Stuff the Busâ€? Thanksgiving Food Drive. The students collected 684 items for the drive (the winning advisory contributed 135).

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Early December Friends teams celebrated three conference championships this fall: volleyball adding “2012” to its championship banner; a title for field hockey in arguably the state’s toughest conference; and a 23-21 season finale win over favored Tower Hill that gave football a share of the championship.


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CLASS NOTES 1939 Class Agent Doris Biesterfeld Townshend gathered and shared updates from the class (below). Unfortunately, Dorie herself had sad news to share, with the death of her husband, Harry, on July 28, 2012. Four of the surviving members of the Class of ’39: Jane Bridgewater Hewes, Stephen Roszel, Sarah Eliason Englehart, and Dorie responded to the following questions: To what do you attribute your long life? What was the happiest period of your life? What is your chief enjoyment now? All agreed that a long life can be credited to family genes, a lot of luck, and in some cases: no smoking, no alcohol. There was much mention of happy marriages, including the empty nest chapter, with time to travel and be together “without thinking about babysitters.” For Steve, “happy” meant being with his beloved “Dax,” a 12-year old Weimaraner. The Hewes are beginning another chapter in their lives, moving to an Episcopal senior-living residence with new friends and new experiences. Sarah is already in a retirement home near her children who, she says, “spoil [her] rotten.” And Dorie enjoys keeping in touch with her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren (number 13 was on the way, as of her note to school).

1947 John B. Jessup kindly updated us from his home at an assisted living facility, called The Homestead, which is run by the Wesleyan Church in Denton, MD. He reported: “It suits me extremely well, I love it here. I regret being so removed in heal and residence [from Friends] but add memories galore of: Wilmot Jones, Clara Dewsnap, Mr. Brown, Ms. Pusey, Ms. Hammond, and so many other staff and students. I loved K-8 at Friends!”

try to learn more and more in what I think is this complicated technological age. I retired many years ago from a teaching career with primary age kids. I loved them!” Of her 63-year correspondence with Anelma (or “Anne,” her American nickname), Marion noted: “Naturally the advent of email has made it easier, and so of course we correspond more often.” A few years ago, Anelma had shared with the Alumni Office her post-WWII memories of her time at Friends: “I was one of the first group of AFS exchange students (we were about 30 from various European countries) and we made a kind of propaganda tour all the way to the Rockies by bus, spreading the idea of letting the young people get to know each other and this way to promote peace in the world.”

1951 Class Agent Don “Chick” Altmaier summed up a few updates for the tight-knit class: “In August, [Jay Maston’s wife] Cathy Maston retired from her job of planning and managing huge major festival events in Norfolk. Over the years, she’s turned small festivals into national events and is the envy of similar cities around the country. Jay and Cathy plan a long winter cruise starting I believe in Peru going around the base of South America and docking finally in Brazil. Also in August, Frannie ’53 and I visited with Peg and Art Hill at their place in Spruce Head, ME. It was a gorgeous day, and it is so beautiful from their living room and deck looking out over the lobster fleet in the harbor.” Finally, for that busy month of August, Chick was asked to exhibit a dozen of his art works in the Brooklin, ME, town library.

1957 Dick Haedrich attended the October 20 commissioning ceremony for a new Middlebury College research vessel, named after his friend, researcher David Folger. Dick made the last leg of the delivery trip from Whitehall up through Lake Champlain, with his granddaughter Caitlin, who was scheduled to enter Middlebury this winter. Wayne Keller’s wife, Joannie, passed away on October 8, 2012. Friends AFS alumna Barbara Steger Stolterfoht reported that she had traveled to Egypt this October.

1960 James O. Simon (See 2000.)

1962 Edward “Ned” Davis (See 2010.) On the Friday of Alumni Weekend, Trudie and Ben Larrabee kindly made a hurried trip from their home in CT to make it to class on time. They joined Cynthia Stan Mellow’s International Baccalaureate (IB) art class, where Ben shared his experiences as a professional artist. (See more about the Alumni Art Show on page 6.)

Speaking of Art Hill, he was elected in May 2012 as the Chair of the Board of Trustees at Eastern University.


1949 We were delighted to hear from Marion Ford Philips from Kirkwood, MO, in response to one of our alumni email blasts this fall. She shared that she is still in regular touch with her Finnish “sister,” Anelma Iivarinen Korvenmaa, who Marion lived with Marion’s Ford family while attendPhilips ’49 ing and graduating this past from Friends as an summer in exchange student. Kirkwood, Marion also noted, “I MO. was greatly influenced by Quaker beliefs at a very impressionable age. I attended from 7th grade on. As a student at Friends, lifelong learning was instilled in me. As an 80 year old, I’m proud that I can still

State Arts Council, highlighted Stuart’s work in the article: “As an enduring, effective arts advocate, Stuart B. Young is called relentless, indefatigable and enlightening. Enlightened, too, for recognizing how the arts boost economic development as well as cultural enrichment.”

Rufus Jones (See photo.)

1953 Frannie Walker Altmaier (See 1951.)

A clever nephew created this “magazine cover” for Rufus Jones ‘52. Note the 1748 hat.

AFS student Anelma Iivarinen Korvenmaa ’49 with a young relative in Helsinki.

Dick Roberts and his wife Priscilla live in downtown Denver. They co-authored a book on Thomas Barclay a while back and have a wonderful book collection. For his tireless work as an art advocate in Wilmington, Stuart Young was named one of the “50 Most Influential Delawareans in the Past 50 Years” by Delaware Today. Lise Monty, chair of the Delaware

Ben ’62 and Trudie Larrabee with Cynthia Stan Mellow and IB art students, October 19, 2012.

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In May, Jeannette and Walter Smith attended an exhibition and Awards Ceremony of Cumberland Valley Artists at the Washington County Museum of Fine Arts in Hagerstown, MD. Carol Mackay Mertz, wife of Walter “Skip” Mertz, won best of the show with a sculpture titled “Tribe.” Skip and Carol’s two sons and their families also attended the event.

The Class of 1962: A 50th Reunion to Remember In the summer of 2011, Phoebe B. Baker ’62 set forth to create an updated “yearbook” to celebrate her class’s 50th Reunion, and along the way received considerable support from many classmates. Over the year, they reached out to every single member of the Class of 1962 and ended up—quite remarkably—with updates from nearly all of their classmates. Something special happened along the way. By all reports, their reunion weekend was incredibly meaningful, and included the generous decision to start an endowment fund in the class’s name. Terry Lawrence ’62 took that project on, and within one month secured more than $60,000. Combined with Walter ’62 and Jeannette Smith’s Endowment Fund and Tim ’62 and Mona Bayard’s gifts to the school, this 50th Reunion was the most philanthropic in the school’s long history. Excerpts from the printed “yearbook” distributed at the 50th Reunion:

George Curme IV ’65 and his dog Duke at home in Roanoke, VA, August 2012. Note the Friends sweater that George’s wife, Sue, knitted for him. 1965 George Curme IV (See photo.) In December, Barnes & Noble “Nook First” launched Leslie Davis Guccione’s first e-book, The Chick Palace, her 31st book overall. It hit #1, spent two weeks on the bestseller list, and became January’s “staff pick.” The Chick Palace is also available on Amazon’s Kindle. Leslie’s 1993 young adult book, Come Morning (dedicated to her WFS class), is summarized on Amazon this way: “Twelve-year-old Freedom, the son of a freed slave living in Delaware in the early 1850s, takes over his father’s work in the Underground Railroad when his father disappears.”

1970 Chip Oat has moved to Washington D.C. from NYC and looks forward to connecting with fellow alumni in the area.

1977 Mimi Cordrey-Cotsell recently became a grandmother. She emailed us the happy Grandson to Mimi news: “Son (and Cordrey-Cotsell ’77 and son fellow alumnus) to John Bloxom V ’01: John John Bloxom V ’01 Bloxom VI. and his wife, Jessica, have a child—John Bloxom VI, of course—born on March 28! (He is really the most adorable child ever.)”


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The classy Class of 1962 came back in full force for homecoming and reunion. While many graduated 50 years ago, some classmates transferred to other schools, but still keep Friends in their hearts and minds. A handful could not attend:

Although John Sparks of South Dennis, MA, sold the consulting firm he formed, he still consults and is now an executive recruiter with his firm, Westport Associates. John enjoys reading escapist novels and playing golf.

Although retired now, By Bishop of Savannah, GA, had a good excuse for missing the reunion: he and his wife, Patricia, have taken turns attending their reunions. This was her turn. In April, they celebrated their 41st wedding anniversary; they were married three days after By was medivaced back from Vietnam.

Norm Vernon is encouraging his classmates to hold a reunion in his home of Naples, FL. In his retirement, he has devoted his time to golf, achieving two holes-in-one. Norm, who has volunteered to support the humane societies, also had a good excuse in the minds of all who have ever owned a pet.

Terry Lawrence and his wife, Maureen, who found their perfect retirement home in Machipongo, VA, also had a good excuse for not attending: doctor’s orders. But he is well on his way to coming back strong and is continuing his efforts to establish and augment the class endowment fund. Ellen Ginzburg Migliorino resigned as an assistant professor of American Studies on the faculty of the arts at the University of Trieste, Italy, because of her impending and now incapacitating illness. Ellen and her family are in our thoughts. Aline Laurent Nogues joined our senior year as an exchange student. Before the reunion, Ned Davis left many phone messages for Aline and plans to continue trying to reach her. According to the alumni office, Aline lives near Paris and has at least one child. Sally Reed Skey of Princeton, NJ, [in what the yearbook noted as a trend] has also become quite a good golfer and is an avid bike rider. She’s also granny nanny two days a week in NYC.

Many from WFS ’62 attended at least part of the four-day reunion and homecoming celebration: Skip Allen has retired in Smithfield, VA, after a career as a mechanical engineer in marine repair. He keeps active with a lifelong learning society, book and breakfast clubs, genealogical research, and as a volunteer “nail pounder and wood butcher” with Habitat for Humanity in Smithfield. Sheila Brown Arbury of Washington, DC, has continued her studies over the years and is now learning Greek. As a health scientist with the US Department of Labor, Occupational Safety and Health Administration, she writes and reviews policy papers and outreach documents about work place health hazards and their solutions. Phoebe B. Baker of Avondale, PA, has retired after editing a now-defunct community newspaper, teaching business managers and researchers writing techniques, and writing explanations of health and welfare benefits for a church plan.


Jim Bayard and his wife, Fran, of Wilmington have both retired: he from the office of the Public Defender for the State of Delaware and she from her work as a teacher and technical writer. They are the parents of two married daughters and the grandparents of “three exciting grandsons and one super granddaughter.” Tim Bayard of Wilmington attended WFS classes for nine years, and returned as a volunteer in 1982. Both he and his wife, Mona, continue to support the school in many ways. He also continues as both student and instructor with the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute at the University of Delaware in Wilmington and enjoys music from Friends kindergarten concerts to area chamber music groups and jazz. Deborah Hancock Breck of Wilmington is semi-retired but still keeps her hand in business by managing the books for a rental property. She was a piano major at Shenandoah Conservatory of Music and still enjoys playing the piano as well as many other activities. Anne Marshall Brinsfield of Wilmington and Tequesta, FL, is retired now, but notes that she survived 25 years of teaching school including middle school. Ann is enjoying playing golf courses across the western United States and southwest Ireland. Dut Brown of Great Falls, VA, lists his current activities as “golf, golf, golf” in keeping with his past athletic interests. Perhaps the next reunion will be a golf outing. In June, Ginny [Lee] Butters of Greenville and New York City was in cold, rainy Oxford, England, awaiting the arrival of her first grandchild. Ginny works hard to keep this class together; at this reunion, she entertained the class of 1962 from both Friends and Tower Hill at Sunday brunch. Peter Clark settled in Newark, DE, where he has been involved in community theatre, designing sound and lights, building and designing sets, and stage managing. He was president of Chapel Street Players for two terms. Barbara Collins Conn of Kennett Square, PA, has been enjoying two granddaughters and this spring welcomed her first grandson. Doak and Barbara spend much of their time at their house on the Eastern Shore where they enjoy sailing on the Chesapeake. After 40 years with several Delaware banks, John Cox of Wilmington has started up an encore career with a firm that sells credit card processing to merchants. As Class Agent for life, he has organized many reunion events

over the years including the reunion dinner for the 50th. In his retirement, John Dann of Dexter, MI, is running his own mail order and catalogue business through which he sells rare books, manuscripts, etc. He has retired as the director of Clements Library, the special collections research library, and a professor of history at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. While Ned Davis of New York City has worked in the strategic investment advisory field, he loves maps and geography so has invested time in seeing the world. This year, he has biked through Cuba, explored Copenhagen by bike with Copenhagen resident Ria Lerche (WFS 1964), spent August on the coast of Corsica, and was to go to Tierra del Fuego and southern Chile and Patagonia in the late fall of 2012. Suzanne de Vries journeyed from the Netherlands to join the reunion. She is sure her positive experience through AFS (American Field Service) at Friends influenced her daughters now living in Montreal and London with their families, including four grandsons. She has retired from a career in preventive medicine serving in baby and toddler health clinics.

John Harris of Barrington, IL, is still working in chemical sales with Citgo, but has time to enjoy golf and attending the numerous activities of his grandchildren. Philip Hessler of Elkton, MD, reconnected with his seventh grade classmates at the reunion. He is retired after a 40-year career in teaching. Ginny Beuermann Keib of Newtown Square, PA, who finished high school at the American School, Tokyo, Japan, now volunteers as an usher at an area theater, serves on church committees and projects, and has worked on various committees for her neighborhood organization. John Kurtz of Wilmington continues to paint as well as to travel, buying and selling antique rugs. One of his paintings was featured in the reunion art show. His three daughters—Olivia, Erika and Josephine—are Friends “lifers” and two of them are now responsible for running the rug business and gallery.

Amey Eckles Dodge of Blue Hill, ME, enjoys her grandson and five granddaughters as well as water activities, especially boating, and reading and hockey. The families of both her son and daughter ship lobster all over the world. Rob Grimes of Grand Blanc, MI, is enjoying his favorite pastimes of reading and cooking now that he has retired. He’s even made his own sauerkraut.

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The Class of 1962 (continued) Debbe Hitt Lane of Sewanee, TN, is a very casual farmer after a career ranging from being an insurgency/counterinsurgency researcher, writer and translator (French and Spanish) for D.C.“think tanks” to computerizing a Houston school. She still enjoys animal rescue, foster and adoption.

John M. Lindley of Bloomington, MN, has been a writer, editor, and manager and is now employed with the Ramsay County Historical Society. Family is important to John; his includes three sons, a daughter, a stepson and a stepdaughter as well as four grandsons and two granddaughters.

Ben Larrabee of Darien, CT, has created a successful fine art portrait photography practice, Ben Larrabee Photography LLC, and is experiencing the pleasure and benefits of living and working with his wife and muse, Trudie. They also spoke with Friends art students about his work that was featured in the alumni weekend art show.

Susan Cochran Lindsay and her husband, John, of East Brookfield, MA, happily say that their three sons and daughter are “our friends along with their spouses and our 18 grandchildren.” Susan has served with John wherever needed as he pastored for 38 years before retiring.

For seven years, Bob Lessey of Baltimore has shared every Tuesday with his grandson and two granddaughters. Bob volunteers with the AFS and the Johns Hopkins Psychiatric Residency Program as well as the Baltimore Museum of Art. At the museum, he discusses movies from a psychoanalytic viewpoint.

1977 (continued) A certified paralegal, Meg Dempsey Frey has worked for the State of Florida for the last four years, with an office in her home community outside Jacksonville: “I enjoy being a paralegal and would love to move closer to family and back to the Delaware area, when the opportunity is there. I play on several tennis teams in my neighborhood and do volunteer work when I can. One of my twin daughters, Shanley, was married this summer; her twin sister, Gillian, works in DC; and my son Will goes to the University of North FL in Jacksonville.” Laura Isken Doyle lives in Vienna, VA, with husband George. They have four children: Matt, senior at Harvard; Claire, sophomore at Bucknell; and twin high school juniors, Tommy and Katherine. George works for Boeing, and Laura keeps busy volunteering in the community and at the children’s school, and taking care of their golden retriever, Maggie.

At their small family farm in Leverett, MA, Jim Lyons and his wife, Jill, raise a lot of their own food and offer small programs for families. At the farm, people of different faiths— and people seeking faith—can reflect on and share their call to care for the earth. While encouraging people to regain skills to provide food, clothing, and shelter, they also know the farm allows people to explore in hands-on

op-ed in The News Journal in August titled, “Adapting William Bancroft’s Vision to 21st Century.” Richie, as he is known to his WFS friends, wrote, “The permanent protection of 1,100 acres along the Brandywine known as ‘Woodlawn’ is an historic act of conservation by the Mt. Cuba Center, The Conservation Fund and Woodlawn Trustees, Inc. But it has the potential to be even more: a National Historic Park designation for the property offers a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for Delaware to advance the future of conservation on a national stage.”

1985 We can’t ever again watch PBS’s Antiques Roadshow without thinking of Friends, after receiving this great update from Kerry Lewis Shrives: “I’m crossing the country filming the 17th season of the PBS program Antiques Roadshow. Despite 17 summers on the

Liz Krahmer Keating and her children visited Kate McKusick’s family in California this past August. The kids have been friends since meeting in 2010.

1982 In news from California, we learned that Cayla Koffler Schneider is working in special education, and her husband, Josh, continues to work as a re-recording mixer on various TV shows.

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ways their spiritual need of and responsibility for the earth. Skip Mertz of Fort Valley, VA, has worked as a mediator for family courts and built his family home, the garage, the studio, porch, and barn himself. His wife, Carol Mackay Mertz, who also hails from Wilmington, is a stone sculptor and owns Stane Brae Studios. Betty Jean Hirschland Munro of Hudson, OH, enjoys her two daughters, four grandsons, and four granddaughters and happily attends their activities in sports, music, drama, and horse events. Betty and her husband, Don, enjoy their home in Vermont in the summer and fall. Steve Poole of West Chester, PA, was a soccer official for Wilmington area high schools and some colleges for 25 years. Before going to Vietnam in the military, he spent a year in Washington, DC, studying how to speak, read, and write the Thai language. He has retired from his career as a bank trust officer in Delaware.

road, the experience remains exciting. Summer 2012 will include Boston (my hometown), Rapid City SD; Cincinnati OH; and Seattle WA, in search of America’s treasures.”

1986 This past summer, KGD Architecture welcomed Tom Donaghy as Architecture Director. The company noted in its announcement, “His work in the United States ranges from Pictured is the Maryland large urban projects District Court in Rockville, to single works of which was designed by civic, cultural, and Tom Donaghy ’86 and commercial architecwon an AIA Award of ture, and is consisExcellence. tently sympathetic to contextual environments, sense of place, and the connection between human experience and sustainable practices. Recently, Mr. Donaghy’s design for the Maryland District Court of Rockville received an Award of Excellence from the 2012 American Institute of Architects (AIA).”

1987 Children of alumnae Liz Krahmer Keating ’77 and Kate McKusick ’77: Andrew Keating, Rosie McKusick, and Will Keating met at Universal Studios in CA at the Harry Potter exhibit in August.

Since he lives too far to make it back for his 25th Reunion, we asked for an in-depth update from Matthew Gregory. Incidentally, when we say “too far” we mean specifically the Commonwealth of the Northern Mariana


Robert Pyle of Wilmington studied primitive cultures in Africa, the Asmat of Irian Jaya, Papua, New Guinea, and the Aborigines of Australia. Now he is into adventure travel and started his own company, Global Travel Adventures, in 2006. Loree Rogers Reed of Madison, GA, recently accepted a call from the Episcopal Church of the Mediator in Washington, GA, to serve as their rector. More than 30 years after earning her B.A. from Connecticut College for Women, Loree earned her M.Div. at Candler School of Theology, a school within Emory University in Atlanta. Patty Sauter Ruemmler of Pasco, WA, declares that her children are her greatest accomplishment. In their retirement, Patty and her late husband, Phil, established a home-based business, Vet Pac Inc., a software management system for veterinary clinics. Horses have always been part of Patty’s life and now she is a Centered Riding Instructor and volunteers with a local 4-H group, United States Pony Club, and local riding clubs.

Nelson Sanborn of Downingtown, PA, suffered a severe head injury in 1985 and recovery has been an ongoing process. He needed to learn to read and write, speak clearly, swallow/eat, avoid panic, drive a car, and work through a problem. In 2007, he started his own computer business. Walter “Bull” Smith and his wife, Jeannette, of Gettysburg, PA, have actively supported Friends School for years and established an endowment this year. It honors her children who never attended Friends, but embraced the school. Bull and Jeannette also collect antiques and art and have restored two houses in the Gettysburg area while he continues to work during his retirement assisting and instructing many construction companies. Bob Tiews has lived and worked in New Hampshire and Florida, but now has returned to Delaware. After his junior year at Friends, his family moved to Japan where Bob became friends with another “expatriate”from WFS ’62, Ginny Beuermann Keib, while finishing high school near Tokyo. Dut Brown

knew Bob while their fathers worked on a DuPont project in Northern Ireland. Bob’s wife, Tia, taught at Friends briefly. Jan Tone has lived in Colorado and Germany, but now treasures his home in Galena, MD, where he retired. In Colorado, he enjoyed hiking, camping, and traveling in the mountains. Rich Weigel has made a difference at Western Kentucky University, Bowling Green, KY, and more widely in his field of the political and religious history of ancient Rome. He lives in the city where Corvettes are manufactured and where the Corvette Museum is, but he was there first. Carol Van Wyck White of Raleigh, NC, passed her certified diabetes educator exams at age 67 while she worked as a charge nurse in the emergency department and had an undiagnosed brain tumor. Carol and her husband, Hap, share five sons and a daughter, and six grandsons and six granddaughters; Carol especially loves spending time with her grandchildren.

Friends School. Kyle wrote, “With the many new additions from fellow WFS’ers, it is exciting watching this new generation of our kids grow up together. Between lacrosse practices, diaper changes, band recitals and work In July, Shirley travel, when we have a few minPadmore-Mensah utes of free time, we like to tend was appointed U.S. to our organic vegetable garden Magistrate Judge for and dream of one day taking a St. Louis. Shirley Padmore-Mensah ’87 family vacation!” Kyle is Director of Marketing at Star Roses and 1988 Plants, and John is Director of Construction Amy Baker Deitrich was selected at Habitat for Humanity of Chester County. to attend the June Model Schools They reside in Landenberg, PA. Conference in Orlando, FL, with the system and we are not completely off the grid yet, but hope to be soon with the addition of wind power.

Islands (CNMI), near Guam in the Pacific. A quick Internet search taught us that the CNMI are one of the two “insular area Commonwealths of the United States of America, the other being Puerto Rico. Both can also be classified as unincorporated, organized.” (Wikipedia). With that bit of geography visualized, here is Matt’s update: “Since the 20th reunion, I resigned as Attorney General of the Commonwealth of the Northern Mariana Islands (CNMI) and went back into private practice (my term was January 2006 to October 2008). I currently practice law on Saipan and occasionally Guam. I have been specializing in construction litigation since 2008. On a personal note, my wife and I have installed solar panels on our house and have sought to be self-sufficient for power and water (phone and cable are different matters). It has been over one year since we installed

a group of teachers and administrators from the Colonial School District. About 7,000 people attended this national conference sponsored by the International Center for Leadership in Education. Amy teaches Introduction to Computer Science and Exploring Business at George Read Middle School in New Castle.

2000 Braden Neff (See photo, next page.) Edward F. Simon graduated from The Columbus School of Law at Catholic University of America in Washington, DC, in January and

1997 Kelly Osbun Rubincan (See photo with 1998.)

1998 John and Kyle Zechman McKean welcomed a daughter, Harper Emma McKean, on August 15, 2011. While Harper has just started attending George Fox Friends School, her proud stepbrother Lucien, a fifth grader, is in his final year at West Chester

Harper McKean, daughter of Kyle Zechman McKean ’98, enjoys Commencement at Friends.

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was inducted into the Maryland State Bar on June 20, 2012. He is a clerk for a judge in the Circuit Court of Maryland in Annapolis for the next year. Ed is the son of James O. Simon ’60.

2001 John Bloxom V (See 1977.) Jordan Wolk and his wife Krista welcomed their first child, Jason Philip Gerstenlauer Wolk, on September 19, 2012. Jordan and his family live in Atlanta, and he works as an international tax attorney for the accounting firm KPMG.

Braden Neff’s ’00 baby boy Will gurgles with delight while wearing his Friends onesie.

last 10 years trying to accomplish missions in Iraq and Afghanistan are coming back and seeing there really is a brass ceiling,’ said Ariela Migdal, senior staff lawyer with the Women’s Rights Project of the American Civil Liberties Union, in a news conference.”

After 27 months, Jonathan Mellor Kittle finished his Peace Corps service in Panama. Jonathan 2002 and his community, Elana Caplan is a second-year Kwite, successfully student at the Wharton School completed their aqueof the University of Pennsylvania duct project, bringing studying Strategic Management. safe drinking water She previously worked at Arsenal to village homes for Capital Partners in New York the first time, and Proud new dad Jordan Wolk ’01 and mom City as an Investment Profesgreatly reducing Krista with baby Jason. sional in the Financial Services water-borne illnesses. and Healthcare industries. Prior After his service, to Arsenal, Elana worked at RothJonathan travelled schild Inc., also in New York, with fellow Peace as an Analyst on a number of Corps volunteers Mergers and Acquisitions as well through Costa Rica, Restructuring transactions. This Nicaragua, Honsummer, she was an intern in the duras, Guatemala, Philadelphia office of The Boston El Salvador, Belize, Consulting Group. She counts and Mexico. His trip many former WFS’ers as close ended in Sunnyvale, friends and is excited to be back CA, for Thanksgivin the tri-state area. Meghan Baczkowski Pixley ’03, baby Caroline ing with his sister, Jennifer Kittle Trainor Chris Scott (See 2005.) Rita Pixley, and proud grandfather Bill. ’02 and her husband, Mindy Kittle Keane, Jennifer David Trainor ’02, as well as sister Mindy Kittle Trainor, and David Trainor (See 2004.) Kittle Keane ’02 and her husband, Bryan. Jonathan was accepted into American Univer2003 sity’s School of International Service (SIS), and Congratulations to Meghan Baczkowski this fall began work toward a Master’s degree Pixley and husband Brian on the birth of their in Global Environmental Policy. Jonathan first child, Caroline Rita Pixley. She arrived was elected to represent his program as GEP on Sunday, September 30, 2012, at 11:03am.

Senator on the Graduate School Council. In his free time he keeps busy with organizing a Peace Corps student organization at SIS, and working as CIO for the non-profit, Challenges 2 Opportunities (C2O).

2005 After graduating from Marymount College, and then NYU’s Masters program, Alex Dill has published her first book of poetry, Venn Diagrams, which she dedicated to her mom and dad. Proud brother, Chris Scott ’02, emailed us in August about sister Emily: “My sister, Emily Scott, opened a store in Swarthmore, PA this past weekend! The store is called Compen(continued on page 34)

Emily Scott ’05 outside her new shop, Compendium, on opening day.

Raven Harris ’06 (center) during her White Coat ceremony at Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

Caroline Rita is the perfect granddaughter of Bill Baczkowski, Assistant Head of School for Finance and Operations at Friends.

2004 Colleen Farrell, who recently left active duty as a Lieutenant in the Marine Corps, was one of four female service members to follow a lawsuit in November, challenging the Pentagon’s ban on women serving in combat. The lawsuit, filed in federal court in San Francisco, was the second such challenge in 2012 to the Pentagon rule. According to a New York Times story about the lawsuit, “As a result of the exclusion policy, the suit contends, even women who have been ‘attached’ to male-only combat units and fought in battles alongside men have been unable to attend combat leadership schools or been denied assignment to positions that are steppingstones to promotions. In the Army, the suit says, 80 percent of general officers come from combat arms positions, which women are barred from holding. ‘The servicewomen who have been spending the 32

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Jonathan Kittle ’04 and friends from Kwite, Panama, celebrate the completion of their aqueduct project.


The Class of 1997: Where Are You Now? Before each issue of Friends magazine, we survey one class of graduates for updates on their lives, work, and reflections on Friends. For the fall/winter issue, we focus on the class celebrating its 15th Reunion. We might have been a little late this year, since many members of the Class of 1997 sent updates last spring; but we are happy to add the replies below to that news. Dorothy “Daisy” Church works in San Francisco as an artist and animator. She is currently working as Art Lead at Natural Motion Games developing titles for games on iOS and Android. Previously, Daisy was based in Los Angeles as an animator for television, commercials, music videos, and independent films. You may have seen her work on Metalocalypse, Wow Wow Wubzy!, The Mr. Men Show, The Ricky Gervais Show, and more. Daisy graduated from Carnegie Mellon University with a BFA in fine art and a minor in history and then from the University of Southern California with a MFA in animation and digital art. She wrote, “If not for the guiding light of Mrs. Cynthia Stan Mellow, I would not be where I am. She is the one who pushed me and showed me the many possibilities of careers in the arts, and I very much credit her (along with the support and love of my family) for where I am today. Working as an artist and animator has allowed me to continually learn and observe the world around me, and truly give me a chance to do what I love for a living. It’s a hard road, but one with many, many rewards. I also cannot forget to credit Friends with teaching me the values and responsibility of leadership. From yearbook to Prism to the many (many!) organizations I belonged to in my time at WFS, I feel my involvement helped form my leadership and organizational abilities.” Daisy also actively works as PR champion for various animal rescue groups in Los Angeles by helping with online networking, administering Facebook pages, and promoting donation drives. Los Angeles animal shelters are badly underfunded, overcrowded, and she urges everybody to adopt when looking for a new pet! In addition to her animation career, Daisy exhibits her fine art in galleries worldwide. Her first solo show was held in Los Angeles in 2009, and she continues to develop and polish her personal style. Daisy is happily married to a fellow artist and animator, Damon O’Keefe, and they both love traveling, creating art, and taking care of their two cats and one very spoiled horse. Feel free to visit her online at and on Facebook!

In her fourth of a five year Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology program at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (now called Sofia University), Elizabeth Anne Caine is working on her pre-doctoral internship hours in Clinical Psychology training at Catholic Charities of Santa Clara County and completing her dissertation proposal. Liz noted: “I plan to research the effects of spiritual versus secular meditation/mindfulness practices on levels of death anxiety in adults by comparing Buddhist practitioners with secular meditators. I live in San Francisco and enjoy spending my weekends in Sonoma County (wine country!).” Prior to her Ph.D. work, Liz received a B.A. in Interdisciplinary Studies from Long Island University, Friends World Program; an M.A. in Engaged Buddhism from Naropa University; and an M.A. in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. She wrote:“I was greatly influenced by the Quaker values espoused at Friends. I went on to do a year of community service through AmeriCorps (City Year Philadelphia) after I graduated before attending a Quaker-inspired undergraduate program where I learned more deeply about becoming a global citizen. I attribute some of my development in terms of my progressive values, pacifism, and appreciation for silence and spirituality to my experience of Quakerism from my time at Friends. I know that Friends instilled a desire to have a positive influence on the world, compassion for other people, cultures, and the planet as well as a desire to continue learning and growing in these areas throughout my life. “As a Psychology Intern at Catholic Charities, I work in community mental health with underserved populations who would otherwise be unable to afford mental health care. Particularly, I work with low-income older adults. I utilize a spiritually-oriented approach to treatment which includes mindfulness and body awareness techniques.” Mckenzie M. Jones received her B.S. from the University of Delaware; her pre-medical post baccalaureate certification from the University of Vermont; and is working toward her M.A. at Teachers College at Columbia University. She is an avid volunteer and works as a Jr. Board member for the Brooklyn Community Pride Center; is a Jr. Board member for the Eco Health Alliance, New York City; and works with Street Squash, an urban youth squash program in Harlem. Olivia Kurtz received her B.A. from Bryn Mawr College, and currently lives in Arlington, VA, with her husband, Matt Meyer, and their 16-month-old daughter, Sophie. Olivia is the energy and environment policy advisor for Senator Susan Collins of Maine. Matt also works on Capitol Hill as chief of staff for a House member from Tennessee. Olivia noted, “Friends taught me to be inquisitive, to love to learn new things, to speak up, and that by working together we could make things happen. Friends fostered many oppor-

tunities to develop leadership skills—through sports, group work in the classroom, committees—and provided us with the sense that as students we could help (and were expected to) shape our school community.” Pliny Reynolds graduated from Savannah College of Art and Design, receiving a Bachelors of Fine Arts in ’04 and Masters of Architecture in ’05 and currently resides in Austin, Texas, where he has been since 2005. Pliny wrote, “I am a Project manager for StudioGee Architecture and I design and develop Whole Foods Markets in the Northern California region. I have worked on stores (WFM) from Washington, D.C. to NYC over the past seven years. My firm has participated in many service-oriented activities over the years. These include hands-on construction for Habitat for Humanities and donating hand-crafted dog houses to raise money for the local SPCA. “In March of 2013, I will be relocating to Portland, Maine. I intend on using my design experience to develop a restaurant concept in downtown Portland. My goal is to trade my drafting desk for an apron and follow my life’s other passion, food. Come up for a visit!” Pliny shared his insight on his Friends education: “I think overall, WFS has inspired me to follow my passion and be a force of positive change. I have always endeavored to bring people together in various ways—most recently through architecture, and soon, over long tables of wonderfully crafted food.” Jennifer Helfand Shahin received her B.S. from Penn State University and her M.A. TESOL from West Chester University. She shared this update with us: “I have been teaching French/ ESL at Norristown Area High School for 11 years, and I am currently a member of the School Leadership Team. We live in Bucks County, PA, with our two children, Alex (5), and Sophia (6 months). My husband Ramy recently left corporate America to join me in a more service-oriented role as a nurse. “I can never say enough about Friends School. The values and behaviors I learned and developed while in school drive everything I do in my life: how I teach, how I raise my children, how I treat and work with others, and how I continue to better myself. I reflect constantly on experiences I had in the classroom and on the athletic fields to drive my instruction and lead my students down the path to good citizenship. As the advisor of my school’s French club, we do a variety of fundraisers per year to raise money for different groups in need. We have held two 5Ks for Haiti and Japan Disaster Relief in the last two years.” Jesse Soff lives in Los Angeles with his wife and son. Jesse graduated from Emerson College, with a B.A. in Film, and reported, “I own a production company called Rainfall Films, specializing in production, post-production, and visual FX for films, commercials, music videos, and really anything else that comes our way!”

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dium, and it is a small clothing cooperative featuring Emily’s lines for women and children, as well as offerings from up-and-coming designers that you can’t really find anywhere else.” Emily’s store was featured in a News Journal story.

2006 Robin Santana shared that daughter Raven Harris is now in medical school. Robin recently attended Raven’s White Coat ceremony. Raven is pursuing an MD/PhD at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in NYC.

2009 While in college last spring, Emily David was among 11 Dickinson interns at the U.S. Army War College’s Peacekeeping and Stability Operations Institute. Dickinson’s website included an article on the interns’ experience and quoted Emily: “David, an English major, compiled an information booklet on all 265 peacekeeping institutes worldwide to encourage cooperation. Steinborn, an internationalstudies and Middle East-studies double major, conducted research for a Peace, Stability and Irregular Warfare project. ‘At first I was a little intimidated,’ David recalls about coming into PKSOI. “But the officers here are so open and friendly, and it’s such a supportive environment. They truly value the students who come through here from Dickinson.” This past August, Julia Roberts received a happy surprise in her mailbox: her college, Washington University in St. Louis, had awarded her a special scholarship for “exemplary leadership and engagement” as an Architecture student, recognizing both her work in the classroom and her involvement in the community. Julia is currently studying abroad in Copenhagen. Nate Squire was chosen to be co-captain of the men’s soccer team at Muhlenberg where he is a senior.

2010 Troy Beneck was featured in the University of Delaware’s “Blue Hens” online magazine for his performance at the Intercollegiate Tennis Association (ITA) Summer Circuit Tournament at Cornell University. An honor student at UD, Troy advanced to the semifinals in both singles and doubles during the tournament, which was held July 27-30. Bluehens. com noted: “A two-year letter winner, Beneck earned third team All-Colonial Athletic Association honors in both singles and doubles play during the 2011-12 season as he posted a singles record of 16-13 and a doubles mark of 16-7 with partner Andre Vorobyov. Beneck is now 31-20 at Delaware in singles play for his career.” Ernest Higginbotham, a student at Williams College, was hired as an intern at a New York investment company by fellow alumnus Edward “Ned” Davis ’62. Ned is also a Williams grad, and got to know Ernest’s father as they cheered for the Ephs, and Ernest, at football games. When Ned realized Ernest was a WFS grad too, he gave Ernest’s dad his card and asked him to keep in touch. Ernest


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is a Math and French Language/ Literature double major, as well as a starting defensive end for the Williams football team.

2011 Louise Connelly recently sent an email to Director of College Guidance Kathleen Martin, and made a connection between her philosophy class at Princeton and the IB Theory of Knowledge class at Friends. Louise wrote, “I’m also taking a Philosophy of Mind class which is so meta it whirls me in and out of focus during classes Mara Freilich ’11 on the far left, in a photo from a Brown University outing and reading (....hard to conclub backpacking trip in the Adirondacks. centrate when the things you’re supposed to be thinking about are 2012 questions like ‘What is a thought?’ ‘Do they Erica Brown volunteered for Special Olympics exist?’ ‘How is this happening right now?’). camp this past summer, along with several curBut it also fascinates me—can’t stress enough rent students and Erica’s aunt, and the Directhe importance of Theory of Knowledge.” tor of Development at Friends, Judy Aliquo. Brett Fallon recently interned with Senator After Commencement this past June, Virginia Chris Coons (D-Del.) Senator Coons is also a DeWees traveled with a Quaker student proparent of three current Friends middle school gram to Mexico, and lived and worked with students. six other girls in an “eco village” in the cloud Mara Freilich (See photo.) rainforest. Anna Melnick was quoted in an article by Director of College Guidance Kathleen Martin Maha Kamal in Boston University’s The Daily reported from recent exchanges with members Free Press. The article described BU’s new of the Class of 2012 (and one mom): Autism Center of Excellence that will explore “Nye [Ponzo] and Beth [Hill] both are doing why individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorgreat; their education at Friends has truly ders fail to acquire spoken language. “Boston prepared them for college. Just yesterday, Nye has a reputation of being at the forefront of had a meeting with her English Professor to the medical world, and combined with BU’s go over her paper; she couldn’t wait to call me dedicated research divisions, the new ACE after the meeting to let me know her Professor program could not have chosen a better said her paper was one of the best in the class. home,” Anna said. “Especially with BU’s ties She said, ‘Mom, I used terms that we hadn’t in the past of supporting the autism commugone over yet in class,’ and said she owes that nity and research and development, the new to Friends.” - Shamika Ponzo, Nye’s mom center will undoubtedly change many lives for the better.” Anna is a sophomore at BU. “It’s a time like this when I thank Friends for conditioning me to write ridiculously long In her sophomore year at Dickinson College, essays, so when I have to write 1500 words in Jess Swain had scored three goals and had one college, it’s easy to knock out!” - Rachel Paul, assist at our last check on a very competitive on Facebook women’s soccer team, which finished its regular season 12-5. Jess had earned significant Emily Romano traveled to Jalonga, Domincan playing time and had started three games. Republic, this summer for a service work project, along with current students Roth Johnson ’14 and Catherine Curran ’13.

With athletes at Special Olympics camp, in the back row are, starting second from left, Erica Brown ’12, James Kocher ’13, Director of Development Judy Aliquo, and at right, Chris DiMaria ’13, and Zack Lessner ’13.

Patrick Schlecker’s father, David, died suddenly in July at the age of 47. His obituary noted, in an observation sure to be confirmed by anyone who ever stood on a sideline or sat in the bleachers with him, “David’s greatest joy in life was spending time with his son and watching him participate in football, lacrosse, and wrestling at Wilmington Friends School. He was known by all for his generosity, his sense of humor, and his commitment to helping other men who were also victims of abuse.” A celebration of David’s life was held on July 18, 2012 in the WFS Lower School Meeting Room.

IN MEMORY Please note: In listing survivors, we seek to acknowledge all WFS family connections, both those noted in obituaries and those recorded in the school database.

Spofford, and Thorndike Engineers, ITT, and Frazier Industrial Corporation before starting his own firm, Biggs Engineering Associates, in Washington, N.J.


After his retirement, he moved to Berkeley Springs, WV, where he was active in a variety of volunteer organizations. He served on the boards of the Sleepy Creek Watershed Association, the Cacapon State Park Foundation, and the Solid Waste Authority. The Charles R. Biggs Recycling Center was named in his honor. He was also a Master Gardener and treasurer of the Berkeley Springs Farmers Market. He was a member of St. Mark’s Episcopal Church in Berkeley Springs.

Stephen duPont passed away on July 21, 2012. He is survived by his wife, Ellen Kate, his youngest brother Alexis Irénée ’46, five children; two stepsons; seven grandchildren; two step-grandchildren and one great-grandchild. Stephen had two other brothers who also attended WFS for a time, Jacques and Benjamin. Born into an engineering and scientific family, and a world only just learning to substitute the mechanical horse for the real one, duPont was always a lover of cars, boats and motorcycles. While a young designer at Indian Motorcycle he designed the six illegal Daytona racers of 1941 (and probably the six legal ones of 1947 that swept the field). Nevertheless, his enduring passion was always aviation. Despite being blinded in his left eye as a young teenager, he got his first flying license at 19 and led a professional life as a pilot and aviation engineer from the early ‘40s to the late 60’s, first as test and private pilot for Giuseppe Bellanca, then as Director of Design at Doman Helicopter. He was one of the earliest life members of the Experimental Aircraft Association, and as owner of Helisoar, a manufacturer of kit sailplanes, duPont may have been the first American to offer a true kit airplane including all parts. He flew in every national sailplane competition from 1934 to the mid 1970’s and served as a Director of the Soaring Society of America for Safety/Construction for many years. Stephen duPont was inducted into the Soaring Hall of Fame in 1987. Always an inventor, he held numerous patents ranging from hearing aid devices to rowing apparatus. Additionally, he was a writer. A commercial pilot and an FAA Aircraft and Powerplant Mechanic, he wrote and published several aviation papers and articles. His pamphlet about landing sailplanes was used by NASA and played an important role as astronauts learned to land the space shuttle. He wrote a book at the age of 91, which resulted in yet another patent.

1946 Charles R. Biggs passed away on November 2, 2012 in Winchester, VA. Charles is survived by his wife of 61 years, Margaret, and four children. He is also survived by his sister, Anna Biggs Pierce ’47, and seven grandchildren. Charles was predeceased by his brother John Biggs III ’45 and his father Judge John Biggs Jr. ex ’14. Charles is survived by two nieces and a nephew who are also Friends graduates: Anna M. Biggs ’83, Jane Biggs Sanger ’79, and John A. Biggs ’85. Charles received a B.S. in 1950 and an M.S. in 1951 from Princeton University. He was a licensed Professional Engineer in New York and New Jersey and a licensed Professional Planner in New Jersey. He worked for Fay,

1948 William (Bill) Cover ’48 died on November 15, 2012. He is survived by his wife of 59 years, Jane, four sons, and 10 grandchildren, including Thomas Cover ’16. Bill was born in Philadelphia, PA. He graduated Dickinson College, where he was a member of the Beta Theta Pi fraternity. Bill began his career in Information Technology when he opened his first company, Electronic Data Services. As his career grew, he opened his second I.T. company, Computer Oriented Services, which had operations in Delaware, North Carolina, and Bermuda. Bill was a member of the Wilmington Country Club and Christ Church Christiana Hundred. MaryLou Schell Taylor died on June 26, 2012 at the Methodist Country House in Greenville, DE. She was married to William Taylor ’48 for 52 years until his death in 2004, and is survived by three sons, Jeffrey ’73, Gregory ’79, and William Jr. ’83 and their families. MaryLou was born and raised in Philadelphia until her family moved to Wilmington when her father was appointed Chief General Surgeon for the newly opened Veteran’s Hospital in Elsmere. She met her husband in the 11th grade at Friends, and went on to graduate from Centenary College (1950). MaryLou was a talented homemaker who loved to dine out, travel the world (and she saw a lot of it), create incredible scrapbooks from those travels, and tend to her gardens. With her husband, Mary Lou was a voracious Philadelphia Eagles fan who braved the weather on many occasions to cheer on her team. She also dearly loved her baby grand piano and could be found nearly every morning “butchering works of the great composers.”

1950 Eleanor Marsh Hillers, 80, passed away suddenly on August 29, 2012. Born in Wilmington, she graduated from Wells College, magna cum laude. Ellie worked as a biochemist for Bristol Laboratories and is named on the Tetracycline patent. A member of Christ Episcopal Church in Manlius, NY, she was a member of the choir and bell ringers and painted ornaments and served on the Vestry. She was

a consultant for many years to the National Episcopal Church. Eleanor was a member of the Cavalry Club, Syracuse Chorale, and the Onondaga Garden Club. She was predeceased by her parents and brother, Henry Marsh ’47. She is survived by her husband of 58 years, Robert S. Hillers; four children; sister, Jane (Dick Rosenbaum) Dieckmann ’51 of Ithaca; and nine grandchildren. Friends gratefully received a bequest from Ellie.

1951 Suzanne Munson (Ely) Winkemeier passed away on September 28, 2012. Her husband Wink, died last year. Suzanne is survived by her brother, Charles ’56, her children and stepchildren, and extended family. Born and raised in Wilmington, Sue attended Bates College, graduated from the University of Delaware in 1955, and raised a family in New Jersey before retiring to North Carolina. Sue had an affinity for the shore—clamming, swimming, and beach combing. She inherited a fascination about medicine from her father and was an active volunteer with the Madison, NJ, ambulance corps; she later earned her nursing degree and served as a nurse in New Jersey, at SurgCare in Wilmington, and as a hospice volunteer. She was never without a cat in her life, continued to practice the piano and accordion, and looked forward to a rare blue moon. In addition to her family, Sue was blessed with many wonderful friends over the years including “the Tomatoes”—all of whom were so supportive during her illness.

1957 Walter “Bud” Hutchison Lee, Jr. died on November 12, 2012 after a nearly seven-year bout with Lewy Body Dementia. He was surrounded by family, prayer, and song in the home he loved. Bud is survived by his wife of 44 years, Valerie, two sons, three grandchildren; his brother, William Swain Lee ’53 and his sister, Virginia Lee Butters ’62. Bud was born in Wilmington Hospital. Raised in Middletown, DE, as the son of a doctor, he attended Friends School before graduating from Westminster School in 1957 and from Washington & Lee University in 1961 with a Bachelor of Arts (B.A.) in European History. After attending Washington & Lee Law School, Bud moved to Wilmington, where he started a successful real estate firm called The Greenville Company. It was during this time that Bud met his wife Valerie, started a family, and sowed his roots in the Wilmington community. In addition to his time as a residential realtor, Bud worked as a Financial Advisor at Legg Mason, and served as Director of Development for the Tatnall School, and taught seventh grade history—one of his most enjoyable professional endeavors. Bud was an avid oil painter, a passion he inadvertently discovered while taking an art class in college, and later pursued and refined tirelessly until he could no longer paint. Bud loved to travel, explore, scavenge for antiques, dance, sing, rake leaves, 'BMM8JOUFStFriends magazine



but most of all, spend time with his family. Bud’s smile, kindness, charm, laughter, and zest for life, will not soon be forgotten.

1958 C. Webster (Wes) Johnson, Jr. died on September 11, 2012, at Cokesbury Village, surrounded by family and close friends. He was loved not only by his family and close friends, but also by the residents of the Cokesbury community, who had come to enjoy very much his sparkling presence during the three short years he had graced the Village. More than anything, it was his humor, caring for others, optimism, and his energy that endeared him to all. Wes was a certified Master Gardener and a birder par excellence. He would often be observed zooming around the Cokesbury grounds in his mechanized wheelchair, flag flying, tending to flowers, plants and shrubbery, as well as expertly observing whatever birds flew by or perched near. He never lost his wit or his delightfully pleasant, sardonic demeanor. He maintained his sunny disposition even though he had been “dealt a bad hand” health-wise with a debilitating and rare neurological disorder, which he contracted 16 years ago and which had rendered him unable to walk or to use his hands effectively. And, finally, he was struck with lung cancer this year, which he had fought valiantly to the end. Wes was born and grew up in Wilmington. He attended Hobart College, worked in New Castle County and Delaware State government positions, and had been active in Republican politics. He is survived by his loving family, including his sister, Suzy, and her husband, Norm Veasey, and their family; two step-children; three nephews and a niece; nine great-nephews and two great-nieces.

1960 Herman Richard (Dick) Gaumer, Ph.D ’60 passed away on July 5, 2012. He is survived by his wife Susan, two children, and a granddaughter. Dick had many relatives who were graduates of Friends School, including his sister, the late Judy Gaumer Hutton ’58, his stepbrother L. John Harris, Jr. ’62, who was also listed as a survivor; and in addition, Alice McGovern Doering ’57, Susan McGovern Herndon ’53, and Edward McGovern ’61. Dick’s obituary noted that the Quaker traditions of peace and justice deeply influenced his character throughout his life and career. He studied biology, graduating from Dartmouth College, earned a Master of Science degree in marine biology from the University of Delaware, and a Ph.D. in bacteriology and immunology from the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill. Following a post-doctoral fellowship at the University of Colorado, he moved on to a research position at the University of Minnesota before moving to New Orleans.


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Initially at Tulane University, in 1980 Dick began a long relationship working with LSU Medical School. He served as Associate Professor of Pathology, Coordinator of HIV Laboratory Services, and as Scientific Director of Molecular Pathology and Flow Cytometry at Charity Hospital, later LSU Interim Hospital. One of his medical technicians described him as “a leader, teacher, inspector/travel partner, cheerleader, friend, confidant and rescuer of [her] job following Hurricane Katrina.” When the HIV-AIDS crisis hit in the early 1980s, Dr. Gaumer visited bars in the French Quarter to assure those worried about affliction that research was going on that would, if not cure the disease, make it possible to live a quality of life with the disease for years to come. His work at Charity helped make that assurance a reality. A devout Christian, Dick chaired the HIV-AIDS Commission in the Episcopal Diocese of Louisiana, and participated in the national HIV-AIDS efforts of The Episcopal Church. Devoted to public radio, Dick served on the Board of WWNO until his death. He sang in Episcopal Church choirs in Minnesota and New Orleans, graduated from the School for Ministry of the Episcopal Diocese of Louisiana, and was a member of the Ambassador Club. He will be remembered for his marvelous sense of humor and dry wit and for riding his bike on the Mississippi River levee every morning from Uptown New Orleans to well past Elmwood in Jefferson Parish and back.

1962 John (Jay) Drayton Dalgliesh, Jr., acclaimed architect and dear friend, died peacefully at his Earlysville, VA, home on July 5, 2012. Jay is survived by his wife of 34 years, Betsy, and her family; his sister and her family. Jay was born in Columbia, SC, was raised in Wilmington. Jay often said that the core traits of honesty and a willingness to listen were instilled during his thirteen years at Quaker school. Jay graduated from The University of Virginia School of Architecture where he was a member of Phi Kappa Sigma fraternity. He also studied at Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts in Florence, Italy. He was a talented rugby player for Virginia Rugby Football Club for some twenty years—a phenomenal run— before retiring his cleats. As the club toured Ireland, England, Mexico, and the Bahamas, Jay gathered with fellow rugby mates who remained lifelong friends. Knowing at age nine that he wanted to become an architect, Jay’s lifelong passion for his vocation would become evident in the beauty of his creations. After a brief stint working for the firm of Paul Rudolph in New York, he decided he preferred the rural beauty of Virginia to city life. He joined the Charlottesville firm Grigg, Wood, and Browne in 1969 where he happily plied his trade for his entire career, eventually heading the firm Dalgliesh, Gilpin, and Paxton. His specialties included historic renovation along with family homes and retreats uniquely tailored for each

client and location. Inspired by the organic pueblo architecture of the southwest, in 1981 he and his wife Betsy built a solar adobe home in Santa Fe, NM. Jay Dalgliesh designs are known across the country, and stretching as far as the Caribbean, the Grenadines, and Nova Scotia. Ducking formal recognition, he took quiet pleasure in his life’s work and reveled in the joy of his clients on the many occasions that he was a guest in their homes. In love with life and living it with gusto, Jay finds a permanent place in the hearts of countless devoted friends due to his unfailing kindness, generosity, humor, and empathy.

1966 Peter N. Letang of Chadds Ford, PA passed away on November 21, 2012, after a long and courageous battle with pancreatic cancer. Throughout his illness, Peter always kept a positive attitude and managed to maintain his legendary sense of humor. He is survived by his wife of 20 years, Debra, two children, Nick and Samantha, his sister Lisa Letang ’76 and her fiancé and children. Peter has another sister who is also a Friends graduate, Karen Letang Hiehle ’64. Peter is also survived by his faithful canine companion, Cricket, who never left his side during his illness, and a wealth of great friends. Peter was predeceased by his parents, Nicholas and Elsa Letang, who were longtime leaders in the Friends School community. Peter graduated from Bucknell University and Baylor Law School, and spent much of his career as a Deputy Attorney General with the Delaware Department of Justice, retiring from the State as Chief New Castle County Prosecutor. He prosecuted many high-profile criminal cases, and he took great pride in his work. In addition, Peter also served as an Assistant Public Defender and Court-appointed counsel. Most recently, he had his own private practice. Peter’s reputation as a distinguished and respected trial lawyer was known throughout Delaware. While he had a distinguished and honorable career, he will mostly be remembered for his kindness, humor, and friendship. Nothing seemed to be a problem for Peter—he approached any problem with a smile and always asked, “How can I help?” Peter loved life! He spent many happy hours at the beach in Lewes with his family, and sailing the Chesapeake and Caribbean. He was an avid fan of the Chicago Bears and Cubs. He also enjoyed a good party and loved to socialize and share his funny stories and great wit. Anyone who had the opportunity to talk with Peter soon realized that his family was his most important treasure. Peter attended his children’s school events religiously, even while he suffered from this horrible disease. While he is gone, his spirit will live on proudly cheering on the sidelines for Nick and Sam throughout their lives.


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2013 Coming Events February 7 Annual Fund Winter Connect-a-Thon

April 23 Middle & Upper School Choral Concert

February 23 Home & School Used Book Sale

April 25 Upper School Instrumental Concert

March 1 Eighth Grade Musical

April 27 Auction for Friends

March 12 Fifth Grade Musical

May 10 Lower School Grandparents and Special Friends Day

April 18 New York Regional Reunion April 19-20 Upper School Spring Play

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May 14 Middle School Instrumental Concert

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