October 2011 Vol 4
A MAN’S OPINION
Boost Your Confidence Fabulous Chili Recipes Quick and Delicious
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significant other is abusing you. It is ok to discuss it with your clergy, physician and
October is here . My how the time has flown
family. Get help . Don’t let these silent
by. Soon we will be welcoming in a bran new
monsters kill you. You are worth so much
year. But we have to get through this one
more than you can imagine.
first. October is national breast cancer and
domestic violence awareness month. We
Open up your mouth and talk about it.
acknowledge an enemy among us that
Talking saves lives. Swift action saves lives.
attacks the inside as well as the outside. Both
Reporting it saves lives. Be proactive with
are deadly to women. Both can be silent
your life and not reactive.
killers. Women are sometimes ashamed to
Read our articles on breast cancer and
admit that either one of them are ricking
domestic violence. If these articles hit home
havoc in their lives. We have to help women
with you, your girlfriend, your loved ones,
understand it is ok to tell. It is ok to tell your
your neighbor get help.
family that you found a lump. It is ok to
Be Blessed
discuss it with your physicians. It is ok to tell your neighbor that your
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Contributing Writers Janice Alston resides in High Point ,NC. She contributes articles for the Poetry and Prose pages.
Steve Harris is an Asst Pastor. Steve lives in Hurst, Texas with his wife Roxanne He writes the what men wish women knew column.
Jan Stevenson Is an diagnostician for the HEB school system. She resides in Ft Worth, Texas
Sara Hughes studied electrical engineering at Purdue University. She is a bank manager in Ft Wayne, Indiana
Kendra Timmons is a Master Stylist, salon owner, educator, and publisher who is on the cutting edge in the latest hair industry trends and styles. She resides in Arlington, Texas
Chef Will Fleming. Resides in Euless TX. Loves to cook and create . He has attended The Culinary Institute of America and Johnson Wells University.
CJ Kervin contributes articles for the Movie Madness column . She resides in Mansfield ,Texas . Rona Walton owns Destynee Travels. She is an avid traveler and resides in Austin, Texas.
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Lorene Collier Percy is a certified life coach and credit counselor. She is a published author and resides in DFW.
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I am a Survivor 14
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Tantalize your Taste buds 15
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Table of Content 5
Football Fanatic 18
Money $Money $Money 6
DFW Literary Soulfest 20
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How T o Spoil Your Hubby 9 Love Don’t Hurt 10
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Welcome to my finance column. Where we will learn a little more about money and you. I look forward to keeping you informed on personal finance issues. We may talk about fraud
•Vishing
prevention, scams, basic finance subjects such as budgeting,
The telephone equivalent of phishing. Vishing is the
loans, and savings, and many other things in the months to
act of using the telephone in an attempt to scam the
come.
user into surrendering private information that will be
This month, I will help you understand some of the social
used for identity theft. The scammer usually pretends
networking scams that are happening.
to be a legitimate business, and fools the victim into
Phishing – What is phishing? It is a spoof on “fishing.” One is
thinking he or she will profit. (Webopedia)
thrown a line of “bait”, with the hopes that one will “bite”.
Okay, so now you know what some of the popular terms mean.
Scammers try to obtain financial or other confidential
Now, how do you know if it is phishing or a legitimate request?
information from Internet users, typically by sending an
Here are some things to look for:
e-mail that looks as if it is from a legitimate
•Spelling and Grammar – Most legitimate companies would
organization, usually a financial institution, but contains
NEVER allow spelling and grammar mistakes to be sent out to
a link to a fake Web site that replicates the real one.
their customers or potential customers.
(Dictionary)
•Links in e-mails – Hover over a link and look at the web
•SMishing
address displayed. Is it the same as what the link shows? If
A compound of ‘phishing’ and ‘SMS’. SMishing is a
not, this could be a red flag. Also, links may take you to
type of phishing attack where mobile phone users
malicious files or software. Even if the e-mail came from
receive text messages containing a web site hyperlink,
someone you know, check with them to make sure they really
which, if clicked would download a Trojan horse to the
sent it, before clicking on links, opening pictures or music files,
mobile phone. (Webopedia)
etc…
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• •Threats – the e-mail threatens you to take action, or else. Be
By law, a person may obtain their own credit report for free
very wary of these types of threats. They are meant to scare
once per year from each of the credit reporting agencies.
you into clicking fraudulent links. • This means, every 4 months you should be checking your •Personal Information – Are they asking you to give them
credit. The three most used agencies are Equifax, Experian,
personal information that they should already have on file? If
and TransUnion.
you are unsure, let them know you will be contacting them by a
•TIP: Mark in on your calendar which agency you will check.
phone number or e-mail address that you already have for
For instance, every January, check Equifax, every May, check
them.
Experian, and every September, and check TransUnion. You will not receive your credit score from these credit reports.
However, your score is not important for identity theft •Secure Sites – Prior to entering your personal information into
purposes. This report will show you everything that is being
a website, verify it is secure. The address should read https:
reported under your name.
the “s” stands for secure. There should also be a picture of a closed pad lock, usually either in the address bar or the bottom
right corner of the screen. Do you suspect that you may have fallen victim to one of these
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fraudulent attempts? You may be a victim of identity theft and
Bank Manager
not even know it. You can visit www.annualcreditreport.com to get your FREE credit report. This method of checking your
report will not hurt your credit.
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Ashley Jacobs Born June 23 Mother of Princess Kylie
Co-owner of Jac’lis Attended TCU From Ft Worth Texas Vocalist Zumba participant
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•Men have ego’s – some bigger than others/ Learn how to stroke (genuinely) his ego. You get major points for ego stroking in front of friends, relatives and co-workers. •Flowers with a masculine balloon and a nice card that could
say-I’ve missed you-hurry home and I’ ll show you how much I ‘ve missed you. Get up early and gas his car up and have it How do you spoil your husband? If you think sex is the only
detailed clean and places a lollipop on his driver’s seat.
way to spoil your man please refer back to Issue one of this
•Plan a football party for a few of his best friends with plenty of
magazine article ”Intimacy” Before you attempt to spoil your
beer, hot wings, pizzas, chips. Set the food out when the friends
husband you must have a strong knowledge of your Mans likes
are there and go upstairs to change into his favorite team jersey
,dislikes .bell ringers ,toe curlers .favorite meals, favorite places
and be a great hostess.Dont asks question just host.
. Each man being spoiled will be different from the next. Ladies
•Dress seductively be aggressive and leave him drained and
this is where your woman’s spiders senses comes in, your I
snoring. The next morning embrace him.
could have found Bin Laden in two days senses. Why spoil your
•Buy something that he has had his eye on –bring it to his job
man you ask? TO place an invisible mark on your man for those
right before he gets off work-meet him in the parking lot with it
other ladies who would seek to get “your stuff” there is a
if possible.
certain gleam in his eyes that says to the other ladies” Taken / Spoken for’. They’ll know about you, by the way he display his
Inclosing it’s those little thing that show how much you care-
ring, and the way he tells total strangers about you. All because
The knowledge you have should have your husband smiling
YOU have spoiled him like no one else can because you have
from here to china when you surprise him-when was the last
knowledge no one else has. Below is a list of some possible
time you left him a sexy txt or email on his phone? When you
ways you can begin to spoil your husband.
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spoil your husband his heart will seek to return his treatment in a BIG way.
Are you tired of making excuses for him?
Last week you fell. The week before it was an accident. Today you ran into a door. Why should there be a next time? Is someone hurting you? Talk to your health care provider. We can help. To find help near you, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1.800.799.7233 or 1.800.787.3224 (TTY) TOGETHER, WE CAN STOP FAMILY VIOLENCE. 10
Does your partner:
or other weapons?
Embarrass you with bad
Shove you, slap you or hit you?
names and put-downs?
Force you to drop charges?
Look at you or act in ways
Threaten to commit suicide?
that scare you?
Threaten to kill you?
Control what you do, who you see
• Violence by an intimate partner accounts
or talk to, or where you go?
for about 21% of violent crime
Stop you from seeing or
experienced by women and about 2%
talking to friends or family?
of the violence experienced by men.
Take your money or Social Security,
In 1996, just over 1,800 murders were
make you ask for money, or refuse
attributable to intimates; nearly three out
to give you money?
of four of these had a female victim.
Make all the decisions?
• Hospital emergency department data
Tell you you’re a bad parent or
show women are about 84% of those
threaten to take away or hurt
seeking hospital treatment for intentional
your children?
injury caused by an intimate assailant.
Act like the abuse is no big deal,
If you checked even one, you may be in an
it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
abusive relationship. If you need to talk, call us
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets? Intimidate you with guns, knives,
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
111-800-787-3224 (TTY FOR THE DEAF)
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Praise is What I Do
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Breast Cancer Early Detection
always 100 percent accurate, and mammography is no exception. Research is under way to improve the technology to lead to better accuracy and to create new technologies .
One of the earliest signs of breast cancer can be an abnormality that shows up on a mammogram before it can be felt. The most common signs of breast cancer are a lump in the breast; abnormal thickening of the breast; or a change in the shape or color of the breast. Finding a lump or change in
your breast does not necessarily mean you have breast cancer. Additional changes that may also be signs of breast cancer include: •Any new, hard lump or thickening in any part of the breast •Change in breast size or shape •Dimpling or puckering of the skin •Swelling, redness or warmth that does not go away •Pain in one spot that does not vary with your monthly cycle •Pulling in of the nipple
•Nipple discharge that starts suddenly and appears only in one breast •An itchy, sore or scaling area on one nipple Mammography screening remains the best available method to detect breast cancer early. However, no medical test is
It is important for women to practice the elements of good breast health. It is suggested women: Obtain regular mammography screening starting at the age of 40. Obtain annual clinical breast exams Perform monthly breast-self exams Obtain a risk assessment from a physician
Best Chili Ingredients: 2 1/2 lb. lean chuck, ground 1 lb. lean pork, ground 4 garlic cloves, finely chopped 1 cup finely chopped onion 8 oz. hunt's tomato sauce 1 cup water 1 can beer (12 oz.) 3 Tablespoons chili powder 2 Tablespoons instant beef bouillon (or 6 cubes) 2 Tablespoons cumin, ground 2 teaspoons paprika 2 teaspoons oregano leaves 2 teaspoons sugar 1/2 teaspoon coriander, ground 1 teaspoon unsweetened cocoa 1/2 teaspoon Louisiana hot sauce 1 teaspoon cornmeal 1 teaspoon flour 1 teaspoon warm water
3. Add the garlic and onion, cook and stir until tender. 4. Add the other half of the meat and the tomato sauce, water, beer, chili powder, bouillon, cumin, paprika, oregano, sugar, coriander, cocoa, and hot sauce. Mix well. 5. Bring to a boil then reduce heat and simmer, covered , for 2 hours. 6. In a small bowl, stir together the cornmeal and flour, then add the warm water and mix well. 7. Stir into chili and cook, covered, for an additional 20 minutes.
Directions: 1. In a large saucepan brown 1 1/4 pounds of the ground meat (the beef and the pork), drain the fat. 2. Remove meat (the beef and the pork). Brown the rest of the ground meat, drain all but 2 tablespoons of the fat
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Welcome to my sports column! Some of us WEFGW ladies are sports enthusiasts and some of us are not. This is where I come
in. Articles for this column will be on basic sports knowledge, as well as other sports topics of interest.
some football fanatics might tell you). For those of you who
So, we have all heard the blonde joke:
don’t know, the quarterback is the player that gives the ball to
A guy decides to bring his new blonde girlfriend to a football
one of his teammates, with hopes that the teammate will
game. After the game is over, he asks her if she liked the game.
advance the ball to the opponents’ end zone. THAT is the
She replies, “Oh it was great, I loved watching those men in
object of the game, to get the football into your opponents’ end
tight pants, but there is one thing I didn’t understand.”
zone (The rectangular area at each end of the field).
“What did you not understand?” the guy asks.
Basically, whoever does that the most, wins. Sounds simple,
She replies back, “Well, at the beginning of the game, both
right? Well, kind of…
teams flipped a quarter to see who would kick the ball first.
The offense is the team that has the ball. Their job is to get the
Then the rest of the game everybody was yelling “get the
ball into the opponents’ end zone to score points.
quarterback, get the quarterback, get the quarterback!” So, I
The defense is the team that is “defending” their end zone.
thought to myself, “gosh, it’s just a quarter!”
Their job is to not let the offensive team get the ball into their
Does this sound like you? Well, let me help you out a bit. The
end zone.
object of the game is not to get the quarterback (contrary to
There are 5 different ways to score in football:
what
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alone. A touchdown must be made in order to attempt
for one of the “bonuses.” Ideally, a team wants to score more touchdowns than field goals. However, for the sake of getting points on •A Touchdown is worth 6 points. This is where the
the board, often times, and a field goal must be
offense takes the ball into the end zone, either running
kicked.
the ball or throwing the ball.
Next time, we will get into a little more detail of how
•A Point-After-Touchdown (PAT for short, also
the offense and defense works. I look forward to
commonly known as an extra point) is worth 1 point. A
helping you understand our sports a little more.
team kicks the ball into the uprights for a “bonus” point after a touchdown.
•A Two-Point Conversion is worth 2 points. A team can try for 2 “bonus” points after a touchdown by running or throwing a pass into the end zone, from a
Sara Hughes
short distance.
Fort Wayne, Indiana
•A Field Goal is worth 3 points. A team can try for a
Avid Chicago Bears fan
field goal if they don’t think they will be able to score a touchdown, and if they are in kicking range. •A Touchback is worth 2 points. This happens when the defensive recovers the ball in their own end zone. A team cannot score a PAT or a Two-Point Conversion 19
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mission is to inspire, inform, and entertain our
The Dock Bookshop sponsors a radio show, Dock Power
customers through books and book-related events in a
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to discussing and analyzing social, political, economic,
greeting cards, music, magazines, newspapers, coffee
cultural and global issues that affect humanity.
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hold meetings and events. The Dock Bookshop is a New
The Dock Bookshop collaborates with Texas Literacy Connection (TLC), a non profit (501(c)(3)) dedicated to promoting literacy and literary arts to build healthy communities, on many literacy projects. TLC support local, national and international literacy initiatives, promote reading and writing and inspire community action that will connect people, improve lives and help protect our environment. TLCC carries out its mission through hosting annual festivals, book related events, and offering various classes and workshops.
York Times, Essence and Dallas Morning News Best
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The Dock Bookshop is nestled off of Interstate-30, which
is the only direct connection between downtown Fort Worth and downtown Dallas, Texas. The Dock is surrounded by three major universities, junior colleges, progressing communities and minutes away from the entertainment district of Arlington – home of the Dallas
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With accessories, you can take a basic wardrobe and
bring some real character to it to show off your
Making some simple style changes in your appearance
sparkling personality.
will rejuvenate your overall look. When your style is
4. Take care of your complexion. Regardless of
updated, you feel revived. Bring your look alive this
whether you're a man or a woman, you stand to benefit
season by trying some of these easy style updates.
greatly by taking care of your face and skin.
You'll look better and your confidence will bloom.
Because your face is so integral to your appearance, your facial tone expresses one facet of your overall style.
Consider getting a facial every 3 months to revive your face, tone up your complexion and refresh your overall style. In turn, you'll experience a real increase in feeling good about yourself. 5. Polished shoes and ironed clothing are the best style accessories of all. Something as simple as polishing your shoes will bring a spring to your step. Taking a few extra minutes to iron your clothing brings
crispness to your style that adds to your feelings of confidence.
Details like this can earn you the accolades of being a "sharp-dressed" man or woman. Others take notice in a
Lorene Collier Purcy is a professional speaker, a certified
positive way and you earn respect simply with your
credit, entrepreneur & life coach, a contributing author to (2)
sharp appearance.
newly released books “The Power of Change: Reinventing Yourself at Any Age” & “How to Break the Glass Ceiling Without a Hammer: Career Strategies for Women”.. Lorene
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can be reached at www.amazeyourlife.com
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get some understanding of basic terminology such as layering,
With Kendra
feathers, tapering and trimming. If you don’t understand what
Communicating With Your Hairstylist Have you ever walked into the salon excited about your soon-tobe new look and walked out enraged because things didn’t go quite like you had imagined? We (yes, me too) have all experienced horrible service whether it be customer service in
general or a terrible haircut or hairstyle. I see ladies all too often that come in the salon with nightmare experiences from their last salon, and nine times out of ten it’s a communication breakdown. There is a method to the madness and I want to share some tips that may just help you from going down that
the stylist is saying, this is the perfect time to ask. Make sure
road again.
that the stylist is easy to talk to with a pleasant personality, and the same is expected from you, the client.
Schedule a consultation. This step is so important to your
Get a virtual makeover. There are online websites that allow
overall experience at the salon. When you find a salon or hair
you to get a virtual makeover by uploading a photo of yourself
stylist, you want to make sure you schedule a consultation to
and try on different hairstyles to get an idea of how a particular
communicate what your ideas or desires are for your hair.
style, cut or color may look on you before you actually commit.
Remember that communication is a two-way street. You need
When you find a look that you like, print it out and take it in to
to provide information and understanding to your hairstylist and
the stylist to show during your consultation. This is a pretty
the hairstylist needs to provide information and professional
neat idea.
direction to you. To avoid miscommunication, give as much information as possible about your hair and its history and also
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Bring pictures. We are visual people. It’s hard to describe a cut or style and be sure that the person listening really
or didn’t like the style (be gentle) and discuss what you
visualizes the same picture in their mind as you. You’re
would like to achieve this time around. It doesn’t help you
taking a huge chance of not getting the look you were
or the stylist if communication stops because you refused to
hoping for. So, show us a photo of the cut you had that you
speak to the one who can help get it right. Take a deep
really liked or bring photos printed from online or from a
breath, call them up or on your next visit communicate the
magazine of the look you want to see on yourself to be
issue right away and work together.
certain you are getting what you want. Listen. Be open to the recommendations and direction your Be realistic. Keep in mind that magazine photos are taken at
stylist has to offer. If you have done your homework and
a photo shoot where there’s a hairstylist and an assistant or
chose a salon or stylist you feel you will can vibe with, then
two right by the models’ side during the whole shoot to
there has to be a certain level of trust. Listen, ask questions
make sure every hair is in place. They may use wind
and get a good understanding of their suggestions so you
machines, hair pieces, extensions, and even whole cans of
can then make an informed decision. Ultimately, it’s your
hair spray. There are also lights shining on the models’ hair
call.
to make the color more vibrant. Not to mention the photo retouching that gives the hair an even shinier, fuller look.
If all of the above fails, then you have no choice but to
So, try to bring photos of models or celebrities at movie
move along and find another stylist. Pay attention to
premiers or on the red carpet. These photos look more
styles that you like on your friends, co-workers or even the
natural because there’s not a stylist trailing them right
cashier. Especially if they have a similar cut like the one
before the shot fixing every hair that’s out of place.
you’ve been envying or a similar hair type and texture as yours. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask where they go to get
Speak up. Tell your stylist if you didn’t really care for that last look she gave you. Be specific. Tell them why you did
their hair done. They’ll more than likely be flattered.
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I Have A Man
I Have A Man who loves me and is with me in all seasons I Have A Man And his name is Jesus ! Š Janice O. Alston
I Have A Man, he is my true and perfect Love, He handles me with kid gloves. I Have A Man and he treats me great
I Have A Man who makes NO mistakes. He is perfect in every way, He generously shows me his love- every second, every hour of every day. I Have A Man who is gentle but also very strong, I Have A Man who protects, provides and keeps me from harm. I Have A Man that loves me just as I am, Whether I am plain, or I am glam. I Have A Man And our relationship is intimate and personal.
I Have A Man, and he is my world, He does not call me lady, woman or girlHe calls me his child, and his friend. I Have A Man who assures me, he will be with me even unto the end, Whether I am thick, or I am thin. He is with me in good times or in times that are bad. This Man is the best I ever had.
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Movie Madness On today's hotlist is Abduction, all I can say
worth your time. Overall I give this movie an 11
Wow!!!! I was so impressed with this new up
out 10 rating it is a must see. This is CJ and this is
and coming actor: Taylor Lautner one of the star
my movie critique of the week.
attractions in the Twilight saga. He has shown us an even deeper, more meaningful side. Just
when you thought he could not be any more passionate than when he found out about the
wedding in the Twilight series, he surprises us with his new found maturity and cool
headedness.
The plot pulls you in at the beginning with his eyecandyness laying in nothing but his boxers on his friends lawn, from then on you are hooked. I have never been so thrilled to see a movie progress. I chose this film because it is definitely
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