Washington Jewish Journal | March 2025 | Purim Edition

Washington’s Purim Story: Finding Light in Unexpected Places

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Purim is a time of joy, unity, and hidden miracles. It reminds us that even in times of uncertainty, Hashem is guiding our story, weaving challenges into triumphs and adversity into salvation. Just as the Jews of Shushan experienced a sudden reversal of fate, we, too, recognize that no matter how dark a moment may seem, there is always light ahead.

This edition is filled with the spirit of Purim. From the chesed of matanos l’evyonim to the creativity of mishloach manos, from the deep lessons hidden within Megillas Esther to the festive atmosphere that fills our homes and shuls—this issue captures the essence of the celebration.

On a personal note, Purim has always reminded me of the power of community. My grandfather, Rabbi Pelcovitz zt”l, often spoke of how the greatest miracles happen when we come together with unity and purpose. The Purim story is not just about the courage of Esther and Mordechai, but about an entire nation standing strong, praying together, and reaffirming their commitment to Torah and mitzvos. That unity changed everything—and it continues to do so today.

With contributions from so many individuals and organizations, this edition reflects the heart and soul of our community—just as Purim reminds us to embrace joy, strengthen our connections, and recognize the hidden blessings in our lives.

Wishing everyone a freilichen Purim and a peaceful Shabbos!

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Fate Or Faith?: Purim And Yom Hakippurim

BY RABBI AARON LOPIANSKY,

ROSH YESHIVA, YESHIVA OF GREATER WASHINGTON-TIFERES GEDALIAH

I. A Fast Like the Feast

Purim is a most joyful festival, but it is also elusive in nature. One is convinced that there must be more to it than meets the eye. Indeed, the Ari alludes to the special quality of the day by saying that it is similar to the most solemn day of the year, Yom HaKippurim. In fact, the name Yom HaKippurim means “a day like Purim” (k’Purim). This puzzles more than it clarifies, for two days could not be more dissimilar. What binds the two days together?

The prime similarity between the two lies in the word “pur,” which means “lottery.” Purim was named after the lots that Haman cast to determine the day on which to kill the Jews. Yom Kippur also has its lottery — the drawing that determined which of two identical goats would be brought on the Altar in the Beis HaMikdash and which would be cast off to Azazel. In what ways are these two lotteries connected? What is their significance — which is apparently so imposing that the very name of the days, expressing their essence, refers to these lotteries?

Furthermore, in the analogy implied in “k’Purim,” Purim is presented as more elevated than Yom Kippur — it is the model for the fast day. How is this to be understood?

II. Perceiving the Divine

in Human Events

Rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Dessler, zt”l, describes three levels of perception of Divine Providence. Most striking is an encounter

with totally supernatural, miraculous events that are a clear revelation of the Divine will. Such events are completely unrelated to our sphere of existence. We read about such occurrences but never experience them firsthand. Nor is it within our power to cause miracles to take place.

At the other extreme is the form of Divine revelation described as “nature.” While natural occurrences are completely within our frame of reference, they are phenomena in which the Divine influence is not easily perceived. They are a completely enclosed system of cause and effect governed by a set body of laws.

On a third plane, described alternately as “coincidence” or “probability,” events are perceived as completely natural, but the order and pattern within which they occur point to a superior power imposing its will on this seemingly natural order of events.*

III. Divinity through Lots

The Torah has a device that underscores this phenomenon: the lottery. When Klal Yisrael entered Eretz Yisrael, the land was divided both according to the dictates of the urim v’tumim (the high priest’s breastplate, which was endowed with spiritual powers of counsel and decision) and by the casting of the lots. Since the urim v’tumim was foolproof, there was no intrinsic need to resort to lots to determine which parcel of land would be awarded to which tribe. The function of the lottery, then, was not to

reinforce the decision of the urim v’tumim. The lottery served to prepare Israel for its transition from life in the desert, where they lived a life completely detached from nature, subsisting on manna and water from Miriam’s well, to life in the Land of Israel, where the people had to discover the spiritual core inherent within nature. They uncovered this through the mitzvos hateluyos ba’aretz, the land-related mitzvos, which deal with agricultural activity and produce, demonstrating that even in the most natural of cycles a spiritual dimension exists. Thus, it was not enough to divide Israel by Divine dictum alone; one had to find the Divine will inherent in a seemingly natural chain of events — the chance drawing of lots.

This very same theme was represented by the lottery of Yom Kippur, for there is a parallel lesson to be mastered in our performance of mitzvos. Even though mitzvos have rational dimensions to them, the essence of a mitzvah is Divine will. Thus, on Yom Kippur, two goats, identical in size and shape, were set aside. What would decide which one would be selected as a sacrifice “for G-d” and which one would represent the essence of evil, to be dispatched to Azazel? (See the commentary of the Ramban, who learns that this goat represents the Satan’s portion in this world.) Only a flick of the wrist, producing a “chance” lot that would express the Divine will.

So, too, the lottery of Purim expressed the

concept of Divine will diffusing into our realm through “natural” events. Haman used a lottery to pick a month for killing the Jews, and Adar emerged, the month during which Israel’s lawgiver, Moshe Rabbeinu, died. Haman saw this as a sign that Adar was an auspicious month to destroy the Jewish people. This same month, however, also contained Moshe’s date of birth. What determined if this month would bring about the redemption of Israel or its downfall? In the absence of a definitive order of cause and effect, we must turn to an answer that lies beyond cause and effect: the Divine will.

IV. Parallels in the Megillah

This emergence of both good and evil from an identical source occurs repeatedly throughout the megillah. A tree is erected on which to hang the leader of Klal Yisrael, only to serve as the hanging post of its most virulent foe. It is due to a situation surrounding the queen (Vashti) that Haman gains his prominence, and it is due to the queen (Esther) that he suffers his end. Haman’s fortunes begin with a feast and end with a feast. Zeresh and his friends advise him on the method for achieving unchallenged power, and they are the first to predict his downfall. The pesukim themselves ring with parallel: “And the riders went out in haste [to deliver the edict to destroy the Jews]” (Esther 3:15); “And the riders went out in haste [to deliver the edict allowing the Jews their revenge]” (ibid. 8:14).

The very theme of the day is “v’nahafoch hu” — the complete reversal of the events occurring. That is, the events stayed the same, but instead of serving

as a means for bringing harm on Klal Yisrael, they became tools for its redemption.

A prime example of a single source producing opposing results is the parah adumah — the red heifer whose ashes were used to ritually purify those who had been defiled, yet defiled those who were pure. The Midrash (on parashas Chukas) explains the phenomenon by quoting the verse “Who can bring a clean thing out of the unclean, if not the One?” (Iyov 14:4). The Sfas Emes explains that if the same means can promote opposite effects, then the effect is not inherent in the means but must come from some different source. Thus, if the same heifer can both purify and defile, then both purity and defilement are not traits inherent in the heifer but are expressions of G-d’s will. This demonstrates the oneness of G-d, for nothing exists outside His will.

This, then, is the common denominator between Purim and Yom Kippur: the negation of “natural” patterns of cause and effect, and the realization that the root of all cause and effect is G-d’s will.

V. Two Approaches to Truth

Why is Purim considered higher than Yom Kippur?

Both days offer a spiritual view of life. There are two ways of reaching this metalogical understanding: one can negate this world, put himself a bit above it, and recognize truth; or one can study the world and involve himself in it until he realizes the truth.

Yom Kippur uses the first method. We abstain from all manner of human activity and emulate malachim (angels). To be sure, we gain a higher perception of the world,

but it is at the price of our humanity. It is not as humans that we have gained a higher perception of reality but as angels.

By contrast, Purim affords us this understanding through physical involvement and intoxication (“a person must imbibe until he does not know the difference...”). Here it is the human being who gains this awareness. The gains of Yom Kippur are hard to transfer to everyday reality, for they come about through experiences divorced from it. The gains of Purim are with us for everyday needs.

Rav Yitzchak Hutner, zt”l, once quipped on Purim, “The reason we don’t make Havdalah after Purim is because there is no motza’ei Purim — no ‘after Purim.’ Purim stays with us forever.”

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From Ignorance to Bliss

BY NATHAN WITZTUM

We are all familiar with the expression, “Mishenichnas Adar Marbin b’simchah–when we enter the month of Adar, we should increase our level of happiness.” It is worth wondering, why is it specifically in Adar, the month of Purim, that we are supposed to be extra happy? Why not Nisan, the month of Pesach, when we attained freedom, or Sivan, the month of Shavuos, when we received the Torah? We know that the villain of the Purim story was Haman, who was descended from the nation of Amalek. We read Parshas Zachor on the Shabbos before Purim to remind us of how Amalek attacked us in the desert on our way to Har Sinai. The people of Amalek stand ready to strike the Jewish people when we are vulnerable. They did so in the desert, and Haman attempted to do so again in the times of Purim.

The question is: how did Amalek manage to successfully attack us in the desert? Wasn’t Hashem protecting us? If we look at the pasuk immediately preceding the attack, the B’nai Yisrael ask, “hayeish Hashem b’kirbeinu im ayin–is Hashem with us or not?” The Jewish People falter in their emunah and question whether Hashem is really looking out for them. This doubt is what allowed Amalek to attack. Amalek feeds off the power of doubt. In the worldview of Amalek, there are no certainties. Everything happens randomly. This is why Haman cast lots to determine the day he should destroy the Jews–he derived his power from the uncertainty that his ancestors pounced on.

A cursory reading of the megillah makes it seem that the events are a bunch of coincidences that just happened to lead

to the salvation of the Jews. There are no open miracles. Hashem’s name is not even mentioned once in the entire book! But thinking more carefully, we realize that the whole story could not have happened by chance. Hashem must have been directing it. The megillah reveals to us the hidden hand of Hashem which was orchestrating the events from behind the scenes. If we had any doubt about whether Hashem was looking out for us in the times of Purim, the megillah, by weaving the different parts of the story together, gives us confidence that Hashem was directing it all along.

There is a well-known mussar Orchos Tzadikkim, in which the author goes through many different and explains their advantages and disadvantages. The sefer through the middos in pairs, describing one character trait and then its opposite. Naturally, we would think that the opposite of simchah, happiness, is sadness. However, the author of Orchos Tzadikkim lists da’agah as the opposite middah. We see that uncertainty, or doubt, reduces our level of happiness. In fact, there is an expression “ein simchah k’hataras hasfeikos no joy like resolving a doubt.” On Purim, we doubted whether Hashem was really looking out for us, but the megillah helped us to see that Hashem was behind us all along and brought back our confidence in Him and in ourselves. The resolution of this doubt is the ultimate joy, and that is the source of our unique happiness on Purim.

shiur at Ohr HaTorah, which he delivered for two years. Professionally, Nathan is a senior ship systems engineer for the U.S. Navy, designing and optimizing cuttingedge naval systems that power the fleet. He has lived with his wife and children in Kemp Mill since 2019. You can reach him at Witztum@WashingtonJewishLife.com.

Purim, Parenting, and Positivity

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Rabbi, at what point am I “too old” to dress up on Purim?

Parents often reflect on the challenges of raising children, noting the lack of clear, step-by-step guidance. “If my children only came with an owners manual”, they might say. In truth, parenting might seem to have many wrongs and few, if any rights. When turning to the Torah, we find little explicit instruction on parenting methods. Beyond the narratives in Tanach and the messages woven into these stories, there is no definitive guide to raising children.

However, Mishlei (22:6) teaches:

—”Educate a child according to his way.” This verse highlights the essence of parenting: recognizing that each child is unique and requires an individualized approach. While this principle is clear, the specifics of parenting methodology remain open-ended. As a result, traditional and Midrashic sources provide narrative and insights rather than a comprehensive guide. While not its primary focus, Megillas Esther offers several valuable lessons on parenting and emotional support for children. When introducing Esther, the Megillah states (2:7),

he [Mordechai] raised Hadassah [Esther] because she had neither a father nor a mother.” This phrase is both delicate and profound. The simple translation suggests that Mordechai raised Esther in place of her parents. However,

the word amen ( ןמא ) literally means “to believe”. Based on this, it can be understood that the essence of parenting is to believe in and encourage one’s children. The Torah’s approach to parenting is rooted in positivity and love. Esther lacked parents who could provide her with encouragement, affection, and proactive support. Mordechai, therefore, not only took her in but also embraced the full responsibilities of parenthood, ensuring she felt valued and empowered.

Parenting often involves moments of frustration and difficulty. When children misbehave, it can be hard for parents to separate the behavior from the child. This can lead to feelings of disconnection, irritation, or disappointment. Children, in turn, internalize these emotions. There are two key ideas to consider here. First, parents must remember not to take misbehavior personally. As adults, we make mistakes, say things we regret, or act in ways we wish we could change—but we, as adults, have the coping skills to manage these situations. Children, however, are still learning. Instead of reacting with frustration, we should validate their feelings and help them develop appropriate coping mechanisms. Not to say that consequences don’t have a

place in parenting.

Second, children need to be reminded— constantly—of their parents’ unconditional love. Statements like, “Nothing you do or say will ever change how much I love you,” provide essential reassurance. Additionally, parents often focus more on stopping negative behavior than on reinforcing positive behavior. For example, we are quick to intervene when children fight but hesitant to praise them when they play nicely, fearing that doing so might disrupt their calm. However, if we only respond to negative behavior, children will seek attention through misbehavior rather than through positive actions. By consistently acknowledging and celebrating good behavior, we reinforce the behaviors we

ALANNA PEPPER, LMSW

RABBI DR. AVICHAI PEPPER Director of Educational Support Services Yeshiva Of Greater Washington, Boys Division

want to see more of.

Try this: For the next week, if your children argue, calmly separate them with minimal attention. However, whenever they behave positively, express excitement and praise them. Over time, they will naturally gravitate toward behaviors that earn them the most attention.

Beyond direct instruction, children are shaped most by the behaviors and attitudes they observe in the adults around them. They are perceptive and mirror the emotional responses of those they respect. Looking at the Purim story through this lens, we must ask: What inspired the children of Shushan to learn and daven with Mordechai during such a turbulent time? Their resilience was likely a reflection of the way the adults around them managed stress. To raise children who remain steadfast in adversity, parents must model a healthy balance between bravery and emotional openness. One could theorize, that Mordechai and the Jewish community of Shushan must have engaged in honest conversations about their fears while maintaining an atmosphere of hope and strength. This environment empowered the children to respond with courage rather than fear.

Viewing Purim through this perspective also sheds light on the tradition of dressing up. Are we ever too old to wear costumes on Purim? The answer is no. Authoritarian parenting—rigid and overly strict—limits positivity, curiosity, and personal growth. In

contrast, an approach infused with warmth, fun, and encouragement fosters deep and meaningful connections, even in times of challenge.

“Purim presents an opportunity to engage with our children — not just as authority figures, but as participants in their joy and fun. Dressing up as a family fosters teamwork, creativity, laughter, and shared memories.

These moments become the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship. True connection is not about control; it is about presence, guidance, encouragement, and mutual enjoyment. By stepping into our children’s world—playing with them, joking with them, and celebrating with them—we strengthen the trust and love that define meaningful parenting.

So, at what age should one stop dressing up for Purim? Perhaps the real question is: At what point should we stop engaging in the joy and connection that infuses parentchild relationships in a fun way? The answer is—never.

Alanna Pepper, LMSW, is a dedicated therapist at Shalom Tikvah, a nonprofit clinic committed to supporting the Jewish communities of Maryland. With a deep passion for guiding individuals and families toward healing, she brings a wealth of expertise to her practice. Alanna holds a Master’s degree in Counseling from Liberty University and a Master’s in Social Work from Yeshiva University’s Wurzweiler School of Social Work. Her extensive background spans over two decades in education, equipping her with a unique and insightful perspective in social work, parent coaching, and community engagement. Her compassionate approach, combined with her breadth of knowledge, makes her a trusted advocate for those seeking support and transformation. She is also a volunteer at Chail Lifeline Crisis Services Mid-Atlantic.

Rabbi Dr. Avichai Pepper is a seasoned educator with a rich academic and professional background. A graduate of the New England Rabbinical College in Providence, RI, he holds a doctorate in educational leadership from Liberty University, alongside a master’s degree in educational leadership from Bellevue University and a master’s degree in counseling from Liberty University. Currently serving as the Director of Educational Support Services at the Yeshiva of Greater Washington, Rabbi Dr. Pepper leverages over 25 years of dedicated service in Chinuch (Jewish education) and community development. He teaches Judaic Studies at Berman Hebrew Academy, serves as a teacher coach and presenter through Lomdei and Kadima, and is an adjunct professor at Woodmont College’s School of Education and School of Behavioral Science. He is also a volunteer at Chai Lifeline Crisis Services MidAtlantic and international.

Purim: Crime and Punishment

TRABBI YITZHAK GROSSMAN

BY Rosh Chaburah, Senior Lecturer Greater Washington Community Kollel

he primary themes of Purim, as expressed in the Megillah and the liturgy of the day, are exuberant joy and profound gratitude to Hashem over our salvation from Haman’s genocidal designs. Our tradition, however, contains another important, if darker and less prominent, perspective on the tale of Purim. While it may seem unpleasant to blame disaster and tragedy on our sinfulness, it is essential to do so. As Rambam (Ta’aniyos 1:1-3) writes:

It is a positive Torah commandment to cry out and to sound trumpets in the event of any difficulty that arises which affects the community, … This practice is one of the paths of repentance, for when a difficulty arises, and the people cry out [to G-d] and sound the trumpets, everyone will realize that [the difficulty] occurred because of their evil conduct ... This [realization] will cause the removal of this difficulty. Conversely, should the people fail to cry out [to G-d] and sound the trumpets, and instead say, “What has happened to us is merely a natural phenomenon and this difficulty is merely a chance occurrence,” this is a cruel conception of things, which causes them to remain attached to their wicked deeds. Thus, this time of distress will lead to further distresses.

Accordingly, the Talmud (Megillah 12a) assumes that the Jews at the time of Purim must indeed have been deserving of annihilation. It initially proposes that this was due to their having partaken of the feast of Ahasuerus, and subsequently concludes that it was actually due to their having prostrated themselves before the idol of Nebuchadnezzar. Many have wondered at the seeming disproportionality between the suggested sins and the punishment of annihilation: It is not even clear that the food eaten by the Jews at Ahasuerus’s feast was non-kosher, and while idolatry is indeed a grave sin, the Jews had worshiped idols on many occasions in their history, and while they were frequently punished for doing so, they were never faced with utter annihilation. We will not attempt to resolve this question here, beyond noting the lesson of the potential severity of Divine justice.

In any event, insofar as the Jews had sinned, why were they ultimately saved from annihilation? The aforementioned Talmudic passage indicates that this

was because their sin had not actually been as grave as it had appeared:

They did not really worship the idol, but pretended to do so only for appearance, acting as if they were carrying out the king’s command to bow before the idol. So too, the Holy One, Blessed be He, did not destroy them but did act angry with them only for appearance. He too merely pretended to desire to destroy them, as all He did was issue a threat, but in the end the decree was annulled.

Elsewhere (ibid. 14a), however, the Talmud assumes that the Jews were saved because they repented:

The removal of Ahasuerus’s ring for the sealing of Haman’s decree was more effective than the fortyeight prophets and the seven prophetesses who prophesied on behalf of the Jewish people. As, they were all unable to return the Jewish people to the right way, but the removal of Ahasuerus’s ring returned them to the right way, since it brought them to repentance.

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Rabbi Yitzhak Grossman is the Kollel’s Rosh Chaburah and Senior Lecturer, leading the Kollel faculty in an intense study of Jewish law in both the morning and the afternoon. Rabbi Grossman also lectures throughout the community on a

Purim: Awakening to Hope

BY RABBI YOSEF PASTALNIK

Sleep and Purim are deeply intertwined. According to one opinion in the Mishna1, the turning point of our salvation is marked by a disrupted night’s sleep:

תנשְׁ הָדׁד נ אוּהה הָלׁילב – “On that night, the king’s sleep was disturbed.” A nap, as the Rama2 instructs, should follow our Purim drinking to complete the mitzvah. Rebbe Akiva’s students doze off during his shiur, only to be awakened by his connecting Esther’s provinces to Sara’s 127 years3. Most tellingly, sleep defines Haman’s accusation against us: דָחא

- “There is [yeshno] one people … they have been asleep [yashnu] in their mitzvos.4” What are we to make of all this sleep? What’s the message?

When Hashem puts Adam into a deep sleep to create Chava, the Torah states: הָמדׁרת םיקִלא ’ה לּפיַּו - “Hashem cast a deep sleep on man5”. The Medrash6 comments: הָנּשְׁ הָלָפמ תלּחׁת – “Sleep is the beginning of falling.” Chazal7 take it further: sleep is one-sixtieth of death. Sleep signifies disengagement, disconnection, and descent - the very state Haman sought to exploit.

When Haman cast his lot - רוּפ ליּפּהagainst us, it was a dark time for Am Yisrael. Yirmiyahu had prophesied 70 years of exile8, yet both we and our enemies miscalculated. We erroneously counted from Yehoyakim’s exile9, rather than from the actual destruction of the Beis HaMikdash 19 years later. When those 70 years came and Geulah did not, despair set in. And when permission to rebuild the Beis HaMikdash finally came - when hope stirred - Achashverosh suddenly halted the project10. Dejection and

hopelessness permeated our national consciousness.

This was Haman’s moment. Like his ancestor Amalek, he believed our fall was final. If Am Yisrael had stumbled, surely they would continue to fall. Indeed, looking closely at the words:

– “Seven times the righteous man falls and gets up11,” the letters at the end of each word spell קִ׳׳ּל מע, for Amalek always appears at our lowest points, whispering to us in our moments of descent, insisting there can be no return.

But Haman miscalculated. He misunderstood the essence of Am Yisrael. As we know from the Megillah, Esther goes before the king to plead for her nation: ויָלׁגְר

לפתו – “She fell before his feet12”. But immediately, Achashverosh extends his scepter: דמעתו ,רּתׁסא םָקִָתו ךלֶמה יּנׁפּל – “Esther rose and stood before the king.13” As Rav Avraham Tzvi Kluger explains, Esther represents Am Yisrael. When we fall, it is never permanent. לפתו is always followed by םָקִָתו. We may sleep, we may fall - even seven times - but we always awaken, we will always arise.

Contrast this with Haman’s own descent. His wife warns him: לופָנ יּכ לופת – “You will surely fall.14” For Haman, falling is final. And indeed, once he does fall: ה

–“Haman fell onto the bed15” - there is no rising. His downfall is fast, final, and forever. We even recognize this daily in davening:

– “They kneel and fall, but we rise and are strengthened.16” Yes, we too fall. But what differentiates us is that we get back up. Hashem gives us

the strength and ability to rise again.

Shir HaShirim17 declares:

“I sleep, but my heart is awake.” The Medrash18 expounds, depicting a reality so sad, yet beautifully encouraging:

“I sleep regarding the end of days, but my heart is awake for the redemption. I sleep regarding the redemption, but Hashem’s heart is awake to redeem me.” The sleeping Jew falters when redemption seems far, the fallen Jew despairs that he cannot rise again. But even then, he admits: Hashem is awake to redeem me!

We may feel that exile has stretched on too long, that hope is fading. But the Megillah is Hashem’s message to every Jew -

– whether spiritually near and far: I have not forgotten you! redemption will come! Sleeping, you will awaken! Fallen, you will stand!

לארשְׁי

“The Guardian of Israel neither slumbers nor sleeps19”. Like Esther, we will rise. Like the Jews of Shushan, we will see Geulah.

Rabbi Yosef Postelnek the assistant rabbi of Young Shomrai Emu nah of Greater Washington. A graduate of Sy Syms School of Business, Rabbi Postelnek received Semicha from the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary. He current ly learns in Kollel Zichron Amram of Yeshiva of Greater Washington. 1

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That sounds like a totally different approach. How has the response been so far?

Honestly, it’s been amazing. In less than four weeks, ZUUG has already led to 67 mutually approved matches, and 10 couples are already dating. We’ve received incredible feedback from singles, parents, and even shadchanim who love how the process respects people’s time and privacy while still keeping things personal.

Can you walk me through how it actually works? Let’s say someone wants to sign up—what happens next?

Sure! Singles—or parents on their behalf—fill out a profile with key information about themselves, their values, and their preferences. They also choose a shadchan they trust to facilitate things for them. Then, ZUUG provides up to two suggestions at a time (with a maximum of six per month). These suggestions include basic info—no last names, no resumes—just enough to decide if it’s worth exploring. If both sides express in-

Modernizing the Shidduch Process

terest, the chosen shadchan is notified and takes over, redting the shidduch in the traditional way.

That sounds really structured but not overwhelming. Who is ZUUG meant for?

Right now, ZUUG is available for singles between the ages of 20 and 35. And while it’s currently free to use, we’re planning to introduce a one-time $25 seriousness fee in the near future. This will help ensure that profiles are accurate and that people signing up are truly committed to the process.

Privacy is a big concern for a lot of people in shidduchim. How does ZUUG handle that?

Absolutely—it’s one of our top priorities. Profiles are completely hidden, even from shadchanim, until both sides agree to a match. ZUUG also implements high-level encryption and data protection to keep everything secure. People really appreciate knowing their personal details aren’t floating around for anyone to see.

So if someone is looking for a shidduch, why should they choose ZUUG over other options?

ZUUG combines the best of both worlds—

privacy and personalization with the structure of the traditional shidduch process. There’s no pressure to go through endless profiles, no overwhelm, and no feeling like you’re just another name in a database. Each person chooses their own shadchan, and every match is made with real thought and care. It’s a fresh, respectful way to approach shidduchim. It sounds like a game-changer. Where can people learn more or sign up?

The best place to start is zuug.app. There, you can sign up, learn more about how it works, and even read testimonials from people who have already seen success.

Mrs. Shani Leiman is a veteran shadchan, dating coach, and educator with over two decades of experience. She has guided countless singles through the shidduch process, helping them build strong, lasting marriages. Known for her warmth and keen insight, she is a trusted mentor in the world of shidduchim.

HOLDING STRONG TO FAITH AND JOY THIS PURIM

Finding Meaning in Simcha Amidst Uncertainty and Hardship

WBY RABBI DOVID ROSENBAUM

e associate the holiday of Purim with much joy. How are we to relate to it this year? True, there are many things that have happened in Israel over the past months for which we should be thankful. There are also many tragedies. Do we feel like celebrating this Purim?

It is vital to remember that Purim is a holiday on which we remember that Hashem dramatically flipped a situation that seemed bleak. If we approach the day with this realization, it can bring much encouragement to us as we face the challenging matzav. Even so, it would be difficult for most to channel such a concept into joy.

It is worthwhile to reflect on the primary term used to capture the feeling for the day, simcha. There is a famous idea that

thrill and excitement this Purim. Though challenging, I would argue that it is attainable to feel a sense of satisfaction this Purim.

In addition to all the tragedies, so many events have occurred that remind us all that Hashem is running the World. We don’t understand this bizarre concoction of circumstances, but it is difficult to deny that this is all His hand. As we reflect on the Purim story, we are reminded of His awesome power to dictate events, utterly defying their probability of occurrence. If we step a bit further back from the difficult pictures, we see we can appreciate this is part of a much broader panorama that, we know and trust, will ultimately end in the great redemption of His People.

Though far more difficult to accomplish this year than most, may we all merit a bit more clarity and faith this Purim, and may these things inspire within us . May the channeling of our emotions towards emunah stand as a great merit for wonderful tidings for Klal Yisrael and Medinat Yisrael speedily in

Rabbi Dovid Rosenbaum became the Rabbi of YISE in 2010 after having served as the Assistant Rabbi under Rav Gedaliah Anemer, zt”l, for the previous five years. In addition to his responsibilities at YISE, Rabbi Rosenbaum has played an extensive role in the broader Greater Washington Orthodox Jewish community, serving, among other positions, as President of the Vaad Harabanim of Greater Washington from 2013 to 2015. Rabbi Rosenbaum is currently the Gittin Administrator for the Vaad, coordinating halachic divorce for couples in the community. He also acts as a halachic resource for a number of organizations in the community.

PURIM Q&A

BY RABBI YITZY FOX

01. How many parties did Achashveirosh throw in the Megillah?

02. How many people were hanged in the megillah? Who were they?

03. During which month did Haman draw the lots to determine when to kill the Jews?

04. Whose idea was it for Haman to build gallows to hang Mordechai? Who told Achashveirosh about the gallows?

05. What was supposed to happen on the thirteenth of Adar? What happened instead?

06. Which four kings are mentioned in the Megillah?

07. What is the connection between Sarah imeinu and Achashveirosh?

08. How many different outfits did Mordechai wear throughout the Megillah?

09. In what way is Purim like Shavuos?

10. Which 2 people in Tanach let out a “ ”?

Answers:

1. There were three parties hosted by Achashveirosh. The first party was 180 days for his officers and another seven days for all the people of Shushan (which the Jews attended). He made another party when Esther became queen (1:3-5; 2:18).

2. Thirteen people: Bigsan, Seresh, Haman, and Haman’s ten sons (although they were first killed and then their bodies were hanged).

3. Nissan (3:7).

4. a) Zeresh (Haman’s wife) and his friends (5:14). b) Charvonah (7:9)

5. The decree to exterminate the Jews (3:13). Instead, on that day the Jews struck their enemies and killed 500 men and the ten sons of Haman. The next day, the fourteenth of Adar, they killed another 300 men (9:5-15).

6. 1. Achashveirosh (1:1). 2. Yechanyah (Yehoyachin) (2:6). 3. Nevuchadnetzar (2:6). 4. Agag, the king of Amalek, is referenced in 3:1.

7. Achashveirosh ruled 127 provinces and Sarah lived for 127 years.

8. We know of four: 1. He wore his regular clothes. 2. He wore sackcloth (4:1). 3. He wore the royal robe (6:11). 4. He wore other fancy royal garments after taking Haman’s position in the palace (8:15).

9. On Shavuos, B’nei Yisrael received and accepted the Torah out of fear. On Purim, the Jews reaffirmed their acceptance of the Torah on their own accord with love, as it says, (9:27; Shabbos 88a).

10. 1. Mordechai (4:1) 2. Esav (Bereishis 27:34)

Rabbi Yitzy Fox serves as a Rebbi at Berman Hebrew Academy and is a member of the Chofetz Chaim Kollel at the Silver Spring Jewish Center. Renowned for his dynamic and engaging approach to Torah learning, he is dedicated to making Torah accessible to all ages. His forthcoming sefer, The Ultimate Parsha Challenge: Shabbos Table Q&A for All Ages, set for release this Shavuos (May), offers engaging questions and discussions to elevate the Shabbos table. For any questions, comments, or to subscribe to the weekly Parsha Q&A newsletter, please contact rabbiyitzyfox@gmail.com.

OFF THE RECORD

The Music Stops and the Stories Begin

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Yosef Kugler is a composer, wedding singer, and performer based in New York who is making waves in the Jewish music scene in a way that’s never been done before. Born and raised in Greater Washington, Yosef has produced 40+ singles, building a loyal base of 19,461 returning monthly listeners and reaching 158,825 playlist followers, with over 7 million streams across various platforms.

Known for hits like Nolda, Tamid Itcha, and Gomel Alai, among many others, Yosef has captured the hearts of listeners with his raw emotion and heartfelt compositions. His music isn’t just about melodies—it’s about connection, energy, and authenticity

WJJ sat down with Yosef to explore the stories behind his top songs, his packed performance schedule, exciting collaborations, and the creative passion that fuels him.

When did you know music was your path?

I’ve loved singing and Jewish music for as long as I can remember. As a kid, I was obsessed with Miami Boys Choir and Yeshiva Boys Choir, always dreaming of being on stage. My journey officially began with the Torah School Boys Choir, first led by Eitan Katz, and years later, I had the incredible opportunity to perform with him and the Torah School Choir last summer—in my uncle’s backyard. For a long time, I never saw myself as a songwriter, but Baruch Hashem, one day everything clicked, and I haven’t stopped writing since. Music isn’t just about the notes—it’s about creating something people can truly connect with. My goal is to bring my unique sound to life in a way that resonates with others.

For bookings or to purchase a soundtrack, Yosef can be reached at ykuglermusic@gmail.com

Are you working on any new music?

Alright, here it is—I wasn’t planning to say this yet, but… my first full album is officially happening! This album has been a dream of mine for a long time, and I feel incredibly grateful that it’s finally coming together. A few songs I’m especially excited about are Keil Avos (or Magen Avos, still deciding on the name), Ahavas Yisroel, and Ein Kamocha. Each one carries its own message and emotion, but they all stay true to my sound. I’ve been working with some incredible mentors and artists, and while there’s no official release date yet, it’s coming in the next few months. I truly hope this music inspires people the way it has inspired me while creating it.

When did things start to take off?

My song Nolda in 2018 was a turning point. I never expected it to take off the way it did, but it started gaining traction, especially in seminaries—they were playing it nonstop. It was even sung in a few competitions, which was pretty surreal. The feedback has been constant, and to this day, I still hear from people about how much they love it. Right now, Nolda is about to hit 900,000 streams on Spotify, Gomel Alai is at 400,000, Ein Omer is climbing toward 500,000, and Keil Hakavod is approaching 200,000. Seeing these songs take on a life of their own is a reminder of the power of music. When I released my first single in 12th grade, it was almost unheard of for someone my age. Today, young singers drop singles all the time, but back then, people were shocked. I’d get reactions like, What are you doing? But that early start helped pave the way for others.

Who’s a collaborator that really stands out to you?

I’ve worked with many incredible artists, but Ari Goldwag stands out. We’ve collaborated multiple times, and each experience pushes me to grow. This past summer, we released an a cappella version of Gomel Alai, which hit 67,000 streams on Spotify in just a month. His talent, creativity, and professionalism take every project to the next level. Working with him has been inspiring, and I’m grateful for the music we’ve created together.

What makes your music instantly recognizable?

It’s all in the energy, emotion, and the way I build my sound. My music has a signature feel—whether it’s the harmonies I layer, the way the melody flows, or the niggunim I incorporate. I like to take traditional elements and give them a fresh, modern edge while keeping the soul intact. People tell me they can feel my music—it’s not just a song, it’s something real, something that resonates. I put a piece of myself into every track. But at the end of the day, it’s all a gift from Hashem. I feel incredibly blessed to be able to create music that speaks to people, and I’m grateful for every opportunity to share it.

How has streaming changed the Jewish music industry?

The industry has completely changed. Ten years ago, if you wanted to make a name for yourself, you had to release a full album, which could easily cost $10,000 or more. Even then, there was no guarantee of success. Now, anyone can put out a song, reach an audience, and gain traction without a huge budget. There aren’t really record labels anymore—at least, not in the same way. If you have talent and a supportive community, you never know how far your music can go. That’s exactly what happened to me. I didn’t have to spend a fortune, and my songs still reached tens of thousands of listeners. Spotify has been a game-changer—it puts everyone on the same playing field.

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Israeli Innovation Powers Amazon’s Fleet with $191M Boost

In a major win for Israeli tech, UVeye, a homegrown AI startup, has secured a massive $191 million investment led by a Toyota-backed fund. The company’s cuttingedge vehicle inspection technology, designed to detect maintenance issues in seconds, will now be deployed at 850 Amazon delivery stations across the U.S., Canada, Germany, and the UK. This expansion reinforces Israel’s reputation as a global leader in AI and automation, bringing efficiency and precision to one of the world’s largest logistics networks. As Israeli innovation continues to revolutionize industries worldwide, UVeye’s success is yet another reminder of the country’s powerhouse status in high-tech advancements.

Israeli AI Firm Powers NASA

Omer-based startup Odysight is revolutionizing aviation safety with AI-driven cameras that detect aircraft failures before they happen. Already deployed by NASA, the technology showcases Israel’s leadership in aerospace innovation. Now, Odysight is gearing up for a Nasdaq listing, marking another milestone for Israeli high-tech on the global stage.

Israel Honors the Bibas Family with Knesset Tribute THE BRIEFING

The Israeli Knesset and Ben Gurion Airport were both illuminated in orange in memory of the Bibas family, whose tragic loss shook the nation. This powerful tribute stands as a reminder of Israel’s unwavering commitment to honoring its fallen and standing strong against terror. May their memory be a blessing, and may justice prevail.

s a wise man once said, “Play stupid games, win explosive prizes.”

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Deadline 5:00 PM Purim Day, Friday March 14th

Not sure if this is Purim shtick or actual legislation, but Congressman Joe Wilson (R-SC) thinks it’s a gantz guteh idea! A $250 Trump bill? Perfect for when inflation makes a $100 feel like Monopoly money. Whether you love it or hate it, one thing’s for sure—this bill, if real, would have everyone talking, and in today’s America, that might just be the most valuable currency of all.

Maryland Proposes Sugar Tax to Fund School Meals

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aryland’s “For Our Kids Act” would tax sugary drinks to support student meal programs, raising costs starting in July 2026. While aiming to promote health, some argue that a balanced diet includes knowing where to find the Diet Coke. Experts estimate a 56¢ increase on a 28oz sports drink, $1.35 on a 2-liter soda, and $2.66 on a 12pack, with diet sodas taxed at about half. Critics question whether this is a smart policy—or just the first sip of a much bigger government thirst for control.

Maryland Lawmakers Push Mask Ban to Combat Hate

Black and Jewish lawmakers in Maryland introduced a bill to ban masks used for intimidation, citing a rise in hate-fueled protests. Inspired by a similar law in New York, it makes exceptions for health and religious reasons— so Purim costumes stay festive, while protest disguises get the boot. Supporters say it will help fight extremism, while critics argue it could restrict free speech. As the debate unfolds, the challenge remains: can a law stop hate, or will bad actors just find another mask to hide behind?

Purim Shtick or a Serious Proposal?

Bill Seeks to Make

Trump’s Birthday a Federal Holiday

Rep. Claudia Tenney (R-NY) has introduced a bill to designate Trump’s birthday and Flag Day as a national holiday. Supporters see it as a well-earned tribute to a president who reshaped America, while critics argue federal holidays should reflect broader national unity. Whether this is a moment of political Purim shtick or a serious push for Trump’s legacy, one thing is certain—the debate over his impact is far from over.

Purim Came Early: Politico Can’t Decide on the Economy

One headline calls it a dream economy, while the other admits voters were right about its struggles. A reallife case of V’nahafoch Hu—where everything flips! Convenient timing or just Purim shtick?

Maryland Honors Chabad of White Marsh with State Recognition

Founded in 2021, Chabad of White Marsh has been a hub for Jewish life in Maryland’s Perry Hall, White Marsh, and Middle River communities. Located about 20 minutes from Baltimore and an hour from Silver Spring, the center, led by Rabbi Tzvi and Mrs. Sarah Schectman, recently celebrated their son Menachem’s upsherin. In recognition of their contributions, Maryland State Senator J.B. Jennings awarded official citations to both the Chabad center and the Schectman family, highlighting their dedication to Jewish education and community enrichment.

When Jews Stand Together, Israel

Stands Strong

Arecently released hostage revealed a powerful truth— her Hamas captors admitted they fear Israel most when the Jewish people are united. This is more than just a statement; it’s a reminder that strength comes from standing together, in Israel and across the world. When Jews put aside differences and unite with purpose, no enemy can break their spirit. History has proven it time and time again, and now more than ever, that unity is Israel’s greatest weapon.

Powering Up: Maryland’s Nuclear Plant Gets a $100M Boost

Maryland’s only nuclear plant, Calvert Cliffs, is getting a $100 million upgrade to keep the lights on—and then some. The project will refurbish electrical systems, boost power output by 10%, and extend the plant’s lifespan. With 37% of the state’s electricity coming from this site, Constellation Energy is making sure Maryland’s energy future stays strong.

Eric Adams Pushes Back on Critics

NYC Mayor Eric Adams made it clear that he won’t be told who he can or can’t talk to. Addressing criticism over his administration’s engagement with the Trump team, he firmly stated, “I’ll talk to who I want!” But the question remains: how far is the mayor willing to push the boundaries of bipartisanship—and at what cost?

Pidyon Peter Chamor Makes Headlines in WSJ

The ancient mitzvah of Pidyon Peter Chamor (redeeming a firstborn donkey) made headlines in the Wall Street Journal, as Jerusalem’s rare ceremony drew massive crowds. Though rare today, it continues to be observed by those who own donkeys, preserving a unique part of Jewish tradition.

Brazen Pro-Hamas Sympathizers Harass Students in Rockville, MD

In a shocking display of open extremism, pro-Hamas sympathizers gathered outside Julius West Middle School in Rockville, MD, screaming for Israel’s destruction. A truck adorned with a “HAMAS” license plate and anti-Israel messaging sat parked as four adults waved Palestinian flags and spewed hate. Watching extremists openly glorify terrorists outside a school isn’t just disturbing—it’s a wake-up call to the growing normalization of antisemitic intimidation.

How I Put on Tefillin in France and Almost Got Arrested!

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JOSH RUBIN

s a 60+ person I have put on my Tefillin in many places: In Shul, in the Street during Covid, in the safe room during Hamas bombing while visiting my kids in Bet Shemesh, in airports and today for the first time on the Alps! I am on a kosher guided trip of the Alps and I woke up too late for shacharit, so I put my tefillin in my pack and joined my fellow kosher hikers. I wondered how I will feel laying Tefillin standing on Mont Blanc.

Mont Blanc is a year-long snow-covered peak towering above the picturesque alpine town of Chamonix, France. Population of Religious Jews in Chamonix – zero. Mont Blanc is the second highest mountain in Europe. At 4300 meters it is ten times the height of Masada. From the foot of the mountain, I finding myself humming King David’s words -brought to life by Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach:

Time for a reality check and a bit of honesty. The hiking level of the group is

He surprised his students by scheduling himself a trip to the Alps.

When asked why he said, “When I go up to Shamayim G-d will I say ‘Shimson, my son, it is true you did many mitzvot, but did you also remember to see My Alps? I created them just to inspire you!”

Yes, I am inspired- the Alps are awe inspiring. The closest place to Heaven on Earth and possibly one of the perfect places to lay Tefillin.

I was inspired.

Problem!

In the valley it is warm around 80 degrees. On top of Mount Blanc at the altitude of 4300 meters.

It is cold around 40 degrees. Problem!

What will people think when they see me strapping a small box to my arm!

Can you imagine the headline?

“The bomb squad ordered the evacuation of Mount Blanc when an extremist orthodox jew strapped a box to his arm!”

Again I finding myself humming King

I lift up my eyes unto the mountain, From where, from where will my help come...

hiking up. I am on the alter-cocker level of the walkers. We are taking the cable car. Still, Mont Blanc is only accessible by two cable cars. The first one, which you have probably seen in real life or in the movies, and the second one, which runs parallel to the sheer cliffs of Mont Blanc. rom the top of Mount Blanc, you can see for miles and miles.

A story is told of Rabbi Sampson Raphael Hirsch (Germany, 1808-1888), the intellectual giant behind the founding of contemporary Orthodox Judaism.

David’s words: “I lift up my eyes unto the mountain,

From where, from where will my help come…”

The jacket comes off, as does the sweater, I roll up my sleeve, Tefillin comes on, staring at the majestic alpine views, I am in heaven when I say Shema Yisrael. There are moments in life that we want to last forever.

This was one of them.

So, it was jarring when I felt a tap on my

shoulder.

At first, I didn’t connect to the tap. Then I heard in a French accent “Pardon”

I turn around to face three French policemen and one is resting his hand on the butt of his revolver.

The one in charge begins talking to me –in French!

Finally, I say “American. I don’t speak French”

He smoothly changes into English “What are those boxes you have strapped to your arm and head?”

So I explain to him “Moshe received the

Scaling Heights, Strengthening Faith

Torah from Sinai, he passed it on to Yehoshua, Yehoshua passed it on to the Elders…”

Just kidding. That is not what I said.

I told him. I am praying and jews wear these when they pray. By this time my fellow yidden came over and reassured the policemen, and that is the end of the story. Except as I davened, the policemen kept a keen eye on me.

Knowing now that I might be question by French police would I do it again? Should I do it again? What would I say to my children if they asked me “Do you think it is a good idea to lay Tefillin on top of Mount Blanc?”

I answer with my mother holding a sign “Let my people go” at a Soviet Jewry rally.

I answer with my father making sure we lit Chanuka candles in the window even though we were the only orthodox jews in West Chester Pennsylvania.

What do you think? Is it a good idea to lay Tefillin on top of Mount Blanc?

Josh Rubin, owner of Kosher World Adventures, lives in Efrat with his wonderful wife. Together, they have five children and 11 grandchildren. Known to his grandchildren as “Pops,” Josh is an active and adventurous grandfather who enjoys playing guitar, cycling, and ballroom dancing with his wife. He is a trained therapist and has received Smicha from Rabbi Riskin. For more information visit kosherworldadventures.com.

The Power of Embracing Choice

Unlocking Growth, Emotional Intelligence, and Personal Success

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y favorite word in the English language is choice. Every single day, we get to choose who we want to be. It is an incredible gift, one that we often take for granted. I am deeply grateful to have a mind that is capable of growth, learning, and transformation. But despite this gratitude, I know that I want more. I want to continue growing, evolving, and becoming the best version of myself.

How do we transition from who we are today to who we truly want to be? What internal barriers have we unknowingly placed in our own way? More often than not, these

much about what others think, allowing their opinions to shape our choices. I often tell my clients: Don’t look to the left or the right; look within yourself. What do you want? Who do you want to be? Trying to mold yourself into someone else is pointless—you are uniquely you, and that is your strength.

A key tool in personal growth is emotional intelligence, which involves understanding and managing both our own emotions and the emotions of others. Those with high emotional intelligence tend to achieve greater success academically, professionally, and personally. But contrary to what some may believe, emotional intelligence is not something you are simply born with—it can be developed. The brain is not fixed; it has the capacity to grow and adapt throughout our lives. The real question is: How do we cultivate emotional

esteem. This requires honest selfreflection. Most people experience these emotions at some level, and acknowledging them is crucial to growth. The goal is not to suppress emotions but to understand them.

When emotions arise, our subconscious reacts before our conscious mind processes them. This is known as a bottom-up experience—we feel before we think. Recognizing where emotions manifest in the body (tight shoulders, clenched jaw, or a sinking stomach) helps us gain control. Through reflective abstraction, we can analyze these emotions, determine their triggers, and shift our responses in a productive way.

By implementing strategies such as modifying situations, reframing thoughts, and choosing how we respond, we empower ourselves. Emotional intelligence is the bridge between who we are and who we strive to become.

The first step is identifying negative emotions such as

Debbie Ginsberg is the founder of OrganizeU4Life, a Neuro Change Practitioner and personal development coach. She specializes in guiding individuals to improve focus, productivity, and decision-making by leveraging the principles of neuroplasticity, helping them replace limiting habits with sustainable, goaloriented behaviors. Contact her at Info@OrganizeU4Life.com or visit www. OrganizeU4Life.com. OrganizeU4Life provides mentoring services via Zoom and other online platforms

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Pinny for Your Thoughts

Insights from Pinny Roth, LCSW-C on Love, Connection, and Mental Wellness

BY PINNY ROTH, LCSW-C

Dear Pinny,

I love making my wife laugh—I joke around, tease her playfully, and act goofy because it feels like a fun way to connect. But lately, she just seems annoyed by it. She tells me to be serious or rolls her eyes, and I feel like I’m doing something wrong. I don’t want to frustrate her, but this is just how I roll. Why does it seem to push her away, and why does it bother me so much?

— AM

Dear AM,

It’s refreshing to hear from a husband who is so conscious and caring about his wife and their connection! With that said, let’s take a closer look at the dynamic at play here. What you’re describing is a pattern I often see in couples therapy and a crucial lesson I emphasize when preparing engaged or dating couples for longterm commitment; it is common in relationships to express and receive love in different ways.

When love is communicated in ways that aren’t fully recognized by a partner, often misunderstandings and feelings of disconnection set in. For you, humor and playfulness are a way of saying, “I enjoy you. I want to be close to you.” But for your wife—especially if she’s stressed— they may be perceived as signs that you’re not taking her seriously.

So how do you break this pattern and help her understand your true intentions? The key is showing her that your goofiness isn’t just a habit but is actually an invitation and genuine bid for connection.

You can start with an open and sincere conversation when you’re both calm and in a good place. You can say, “I joke around because it’s my way of feeling close to you. That’s why it’s hard for me when you seem frustrated by it—I experience that as rejection.” This expression helps her understand that your humor isn’t about avoiding depth or dismissing serious moments but about building a bridge to connect with her.

When sending an invitation for connection, pay close attention to her cues—both verbal and non-verbal. Is her body language and tone giving off signals that she is open and receptive or defensive and closed off? Is she indicating that she feels acknowledged and understood or tense and threatened? Doing this will allow you to gauge her emotional state and adjust your approach accordingly.

For example, if you notice that she starts crossing her arms and speaking in a sharp tone, it may mean that she feels misunderstood, overwhelmed or needs connection in a different way. This would be a good time to invite her perspective. You can ask “How do you experience my joking? Does it sometimes feel invalidating to you?” You could also try using genuine curiosity: “Hey, you seem focused and not in the mood to connect—am I getting that right?” This reassures her that your goal is mutual understanding while opening the door for her to share her perspective.

Keep in mind that you’re not alone in this! The dynamic of missing each other’s bid for connection is something many relationships experience. Recently, I worked with a couple with similar struggles where the wife frequently asked her husband for his opinion on decisions—about work, family, even what to wear! The husband, being a natural problem solver, would offer his best advice, thinking that’s what she wanted. However, after repeatedly noticing that she didn’t follow his suggestions, he felt frustrated for wasting his time. For him, these conversations were about finding practical solutions— but for her—they weren’t about fixing anything, they were an invitation for connection.

Each time she asked for his input, she was taking a small risk—expressing a need to engage and feel seen. When he focused only on whether she followed his advice, rather than simply being present with her, she felt dismissed. Once he understood that she was seeking engagement rather than direct solutions, he was able to shift his approach. Instead of immediately offering answers, he started asking, “Are you looking for advice, or do you just want to talk this through with me?” This small change was a big win for both of them; she felt more valued and he no longer felt frustrated by their interactions.

This concept of bids for connection extends beyond romantic relationships—

it shows up in parenting as well. For example, one of my children often hovers around me and constantly seems to be in my space. At times, it can feel annoying, especially when I’m busy. If I’m not mindful, I might respond with irritation or impatience. But when I pause and recognize that he’s actually seeking connection in his own way, I have a choice—I can either engage with him or let him down gently. For example, I might say, “I see you really want to be with me right now! I love that. Let’s spend some time together after I finish this. Is that okay?” This acknowledges his need to bond while also setting a loving boundary. Recognizing these moments—whether with our spouses or children—can significantly strengthen our relationships.

How Do You Connect?

Ask yourself these questions to better understand yourself and your partner’s invitations for connection:

• How do I typically reach for connection with my partner?

• Are my bids clear and intentional, or subtle and easily misinterpreted?

• How do I usually respond when I feel my bid for connection is rejected?

• Do I recognize the ways my partner or child seeks connection with me, even if they’re different from my own?

• What small adjustments can I make to be more present and engaged in these moments?

Emotional trust is built in small moments. By tuning into subtle signals, we can create deeper and more meaningful relationships, ensuring that our loved ones feel seen, heard, valued, and connected.

master instructor

George Faller, Pinny integrates his clinical expertise with innate ability to create clarity, guiding his clients toward achieving their goals. When he’s not in session, he’s focused on his “inpatient” caseload—his six lively boys and markedly outnumbered wife!

Want your question published? Text it to (301) EFT-6353 or email info@eft.center.

Richard “Pinny” Roth, LCSW-C, is a Silver Spring-based therapist who uses his gifts of connectedness, warmth, humor, and deep insight to help his clients make sense of their emotional patterns. Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy under

Brunch Like a Queen (or King!) This Purim

Perfect Dairy Brunch Ideas for Purim

BY JAMIE GELLER

Purim 2025 throws an extra challenge our way—it falls on a Friday. That means juggling Megillah reading, delivering Mishloach Manos, making a seudah, and getting everything set for Shabbos. (Cue mild panic.)

While most of the planning will fall into place, one big question still stands: When do I fit in my Purim seudah, and what on earth do I serve?!

We’re thinking of brunch. Picture this: Four Cheese Flatbread with Basil, 4 Cheese Baked Ziti, Stacked Eggplant Rounds, Smoked Salmon Salad, Mini Caprese Salad, Braised Tofu Provençal, Mini Spanakopitas, and for dessert—Strawberry Pastry Cups. Sounds amazing, right? It’s the perfect excuse to enjoy those special dishes we don’t always get to make.

A special thank you to the internationally renowned or as The New York Times incredible recipes. What’s on your Purim seudah menu this year? We’d love to hear! Email us at

4 Cheese Baked Ziti

Baked with 4 types of gooey cheese, and baked to creamy perfection, this baked ziti recipe is a popular family favorite. Bake in ramekins for a fancy spin on holidays such as Shavuot.

Duration: 45 min | Cook Time: 35 min | Prep Time: 10 min | Servings: 6

Ingredients

• 5 cups penne pasta

• 5 quarts water

• 5 tablespoons salt

• 3 tablespoons olive oil

• 2 garlic cloves, chopped

• 2 cans crushed tomatoes

• 1 ½ teaspoons salt

• 1 tablespoon sugar

• ¾ cup Tnuva Quark Creamy Soft Cheese, 95% Fat Free

Preparation

1. Preheat the oven to 325°F.

• 5 ½ ounces Tnuva Shredded Mozzarella

• 5 ½ ounces Tnuva Edam Cheese, shredded

• 5 ½ ounces Tnuva Parmesan, grated

• 1 tablespoon Tnuva Butter

• 2 egg whites

• ⅓ cup + 1 tablespoon heavy cream

2. Bring the water to a boil with salt. Prepare the pasta according to the directions on the package. The pasta should be “al dente” after about 10 minutes.

3. In a large frying pan, heat up the olive oil and add garlic. Fry until golden. Add the crushed tomatoes and mix well.

4. Gently add all of the Quark cheese and about half of each of the other cheeses to the sauce and mix well.

5. Grease a baking dish with butter and pour the pasta into the dish. Then add the sauce onto the pasta.

6. Beat the remainder of the cheeses with the heavy cream and the egg whites. Spread this mixture over the pasta.

7. Cover the baking dish with aluminum foil. Bake for about 20 minutes. Remove the foil and bake uncovered for about 5 minutes on high heat. Serve immediately.

Mini Caprese Salad

A classic that’s elegant in its own right but made even more special for when minified.

Ingredients

Duration: 5 min | Prep Time: 5 min | Servings: 8

2 pints grape tomatoes, rinsed and dried

1 (1 pound) container Marinated Ciliegine (fresh mozzarella balls)

18 basil leaves, rolled up and sliced into thin strips

½ cup extra virgin olive oil, such as Colavita

¼ cup red wine vinegar

Freshly cracked black pepper

Preparation

Combine tomatoes, mozzarella balls, and basil in a medium bowl. Drizzle evoo and vinegar over the salad and season to taste with cracked black pepper.

Smoked Salmon Salad

Duration: 10 min | Prep Time: 10 min | Servings: 6

Ingredients

• 12 cups arugula, washed and dried well

• 1 (8-ounce) package sliced smoked salmon, cut into 1-inch pieces

• 1 cup plain bagel chips, broken into bite-sized pieces

• 5 small sprigs, fresh dill, torn into pieces

• 1 cup grape tomatoes, halved

• 1 small red onion, cut in half and thinly sliced

• 3 tablespoons capers, drained

• ¼ cup olive oil

3 tablespoons red wine vinegar

1 teaspoon kosher salt

Freshly ground black pepper Preparation

In a large bowl, combine the arugula, salmon, bagel chips, dill, tomatoes, onions, and capers and toss lightly.

In a small bowl, whisk together olive oil, vinegar, salt and pepper. Pour over salad and toss to coat evenly with dressing. Divide between 6 plates or bowls and serve immediately.

Strawberry Pastry Cups

We have so many cheesecake recipes both dairy and parve so I figured I’d throw Hubby a bone for dessert since he doesn’t like cheesecake (WHHHAAATTTT?!??!?) but really cause I don’t want to eat the whole darn thing all by my lonesome.

Duration: 10 min | Prep Time: 10 min | Servings: 16

Ingredients

• 4 ounces cream cheese

• 2 cups store-bought vanilla pudding

• 16 mini pastry shells

• 6 strawberries, hulled and sliced Preparation

1. Beat cream cheese with an electric mixer until soft and fluffy, about 2 minutes. Beat in vanilla pudding for about 1 minute.

2. Spoon filling into pastry shells. Garnish with sliced strawberries.

THE CAPITOL FEAST

I am going to breakdown the salad ingredients here and give you the “WHY” of each:

12 cups arugula, washed and dried well

I absolutely adore arugula. A nice change from standard lettuce, it has a delicate peppery bite and is excellent in salads, on pizzas, tossed with potatoes, and more. If you are new to arugula or find it too bitter consider tempering its bite by tossing together with salad greens of your choice.

1 (8-ounce) package sliced smoked salmon, cut into 1-inch pieces

I like smoked salmon off a bagel. I of course love me a SS + CC bagel but when I don’t want a heavy meal I toss smoked salmon pieces into green lettuce and rice salads. In Israel we don’t have kani so I always make this Sushi Salad with smoked salmon flakes and have my friend Miri to thank for the idea.

1 cup plain bagel chips, broken into bite-sized pieces

A little crunch goes a long way. These can of course be whole wheat or everything flavored or even homemade, whole wheat, everything croutons. I have this thing against store bought croutons and would rather not eat a crouton if I didn’t make it. I use all my leftover challah (scraps are fine) to make croutons and feel uber thrifty and super satiated when I do.

5 small sprigs, fresh dill, torn into pieces

Do not underestimate the power of a little green. Fresh herbs bring such vibrancy, beauty and a bevy of health benefits to your plate. Dill of course perfectly complements the flavors here but a bit of parsley thrown in, in addition, never hurt anyone.

1 cup grape tomatoes, halved

We buy one to two LARGE cartons of grape tomatoes per week in our house. I love red, yellow, orange, and chocolate covered cherry tomatoes which are rich mahogany in color and have a strong tomato tang. Make sure to halve them lengthwise – much prettier that way.

1 small red onion, cut in half and thinly sliced

Red onion - because it’s milder, sweeter and more beautiful than yellow. Perfect for eating raw, I like to slice mine paper thin.

3 tablespoons capers, drained

This pickled berry provides a pungent burst of flavor perfect for cutting the rich fatty salmon.

¼ cup olive oil + 3 tablespoons red wine vinegar + 1 teaspoon kosher salt + freshly ground black pepper

Tied for my favorite simple dressing on earth, it’s only rival: EVOO + lemon juice + salt.

Finally, serve your Smoked Salmon Salad with lemon wedges so folks can squeeze just before eating. Sure to brighten your dish and your day. :)

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Top 5 Kosher Beef Jerky Picks for Purim:

The Ultimate Snack for Your Seudah & Mishloach Manos

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Purim is all about joy, energy, and unforgettable feasting! From vibrant mishloach manos to a lavish seudah, every moment is packed with excitement—and what better way to fuel it all than with the ultimate savory snack? Kosher beef jerky is bold, smoky, and perfectly chewy. Whether you need a power-packed bite for the Purim rush or a standout seudah treat, these five incredible brands will take your celebration to the next level. Grab a bag (or five!)—once you taste it, you’ll never do Purim without it again

Brooklyn Biltong (Original, Peri Peri, Steakhouse, Lemon Pepper)

Hechsher: OU

Why It’s Great:

Forget the jerky you’re used to— Brooklyn Biltong is a softer, air-dried South African-style snack packed with flavor. This variety pack lets you sample everything, from zesty Lemon Pepper to spicy Peri Peri that’ll wake up your taste buds faster than a Hamanthemed grogger. Perfect for Purim, it’s a uniquely delicious addition to your seudah table!

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Joburg Kosher Beef Jerky

Hechsher: Star-K

Why It’s Great:

Made in the traditional South African biltong style, Joburg Jerky is softer than American jerky and packed with flavor. The bold spices make it a favorite for meat lovers craving something different. Toss a pack into your mishloach manos for a savory, proteinpacked break from all the sweets—some people actually skip the hamantaschen (shocking, but true!).

Aufschnitt Meats BBQ Beef Jerky

Hechsher: CRC

Why It’s Great:

Smoky, sweet, and tender, Aufschnitt Meats’ BBQ Beef Jerky is a backyard grill in snack form. Its mouthwatering flavor makes it hard to stop at one piece, so keep a backup! Perfect for your seudah or a BBQ-themed mishloach manos, it’s a guaranteed hit.

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Grow & Behold Black Pepper Beef Jerky

Hechsher: OU Glatt

Why It’s Great:

If you love a serious kick, Grow & Behold’s Black Pepper Beef Jerky brings bold, peppery goodness. Made from premium pasture-raised beef, every bite is rich and flavorful. Set it out on Purim, and watch it vanish faster than Haman’s good name in Shushan!

L’Chaim Meats

Glatt Kosher Bison Jerky

Hechsher: OU Glatt

Why It’s Great:

Level up Purim with L’Chaim Meats’ Bison Jerky! This 100% grass-fed glatt kosher snack is richer and slightly sweeter than beef. A bold treat for a festive celebration!

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Ensuring The Legitimacy of The Court Through Partiality

IHow Beis Din’s Unique Mechanism Balances Partiality and Legitimacy to Ensure Truthful Judgments

BY RABBI URIEL CHARLOP, DAF YOMI MAGGID SHIUR, KEHILLAS OHR HATORAH

n Maseches Sanhedrin Daf 23a, the Mishnah outlines a mechanism for forming a panel for a beit din (a Jewish court). According to the Mishnah, each party to the litigation selects one dayan (a judge). The two dayanim chosen by each party then collaborate to select a third dayan. This mechanism is known as ",

הז" meaning “each one chooses one.” Additionally, the Baraita, which serves as an extra source from the sages who authored the Mishnah, emphasizes that this mechanism ensures that “ ותימאל ןידה אצְי,” a truthful judgment comes out.

Rashi explains that “ ותימאל ןידה א צְ י” is achieved because the mechanism for choosing the members of the court guarantees that even the losing party will comply with the judgment. The losing party knows that the dayan he selected will advocate for any meritorious arguments in his favor during the panel’s deliberations. Therefore, the losing party can rest assured that the judgment is truthful, even if it is against him.

The explanation Rashi provides may surprise some. After all, we expect judges to be objective and impartial. How, then, can the Talmud justify a judge making the case in favor of the party who selected him? To understand Rashi’s perspective, we must consider a few key points.

The first point is that the mechanism counters impartiality with impartiality. Since each party selects one dayan, and each dayan makes a case for the party that selected him, the mechanism achieves equilibrium.

The second point, made by the Tosafot, is that although two of the dayanim are partial, the third judge is impartial and can serve as the deciding voice, checking the partiality of the other two judges.

The third point, highlighted by the Rosh (Rabbi Asher ben Yechiel), emphasizes that while each dayan selected by a party

makes the case for that party, it does not allow them to present far-fetched or implausible arguments. The dayanim are only permitted to make arguments that have merit. Furthermore, Rashi on daf 32a points out, in a similar context, that even a dayan who, during deliberations, has the role of advocating for one outcome, must vote not in accordance with the arguments he presented but in accordance with the more plausible overall conclusion that comes out from deliberations. In other words, the selected dayanim may be partial, but they must still be objective.

Aside from the points mentioned above, I believe the most important consideration is that even if this mechanism compromises the objectivity of the panel, the resulting benefit is the court’s legitimacy. If this process encourages the losing party to accept and comply with a negative judgment, then compromising objectivity is outweighed by the positive impact of legitimacy. Moreover, partiality and objectivity are valuable insofar as they ensure the trust of the parties in the process. But here, injecting some partiality into the beit din actually enhances trust in the panel and compliance with its judgments, whereas pure impartiality may not serve its purpose. Therefore, partiality, counterintuitively, achieves the same goals that impartiality is intended to accomplish.

Perhaps this mechanism may explain another halacha that puzzles many. The Talmud in Ketubot at 52b condemns the practice of attorneys who advocate before the dayanim in favor of one party and against the other. Naturally, this raises the question of how a party who is not good with its tongue can argue before the court if it has no avenue of hiring an attorney to do it for them. But

under the mechanism of “each one chooses one,” the Talmud in Ketubot is no longer puzzling. Although a party should not hire an attorney to advocate for him, he may choose a dayan who, in addition to the role of adjudicator, also serves as an advocate for him.

This mechanism may help clarify a puzzling halacha. The Talmud, in Ketubot 52b, condemns the practice of attorneys advocating for one party before the dayanim (judges). This raises a question: how can a party who struggles with articulation present their case if they should not hire an attorney? However, under the mechanism of “each one chooses one,” the halacha in Ketubot becomes less perplexing. While a party should not hire an attorney to represent them, they can choose a dayan who, in addition to serving as a judge, can also advocate on their behalf. This dual role of the dayan helps ensure that the party’s arguments are presented effectively while still maintaining the legitimacy and integrity of the court.

Your Favorite Color

BY AVIVA WAXMAN

The time has come to begin that long awaited design project and you are so excited but at a complete loss of where to begin. Because a design project can be really overwhelming with so many options and decisions, I like to begin with choosing a color palette. This color palette will consist of around four colors and will provide a fantastic reference point for a lot of design decisions. The color palette is preliminary and will evolve along with the project, but it will narrow down many decisions.

Choosing a color palette is easy for some and overwhelming for others. Some of my clients know which colors they want to use while others are overwhelmed at the very thought. Funny story, I was once working with a contractor who told me he had just completed a project where the client needed to choose a paint color. She had 100 paint swatches on her kitchen island and each time she walked into the kitchen she would remove 1 paint swatch. Needless to say, it took her A LONG time to choose her paint color! We don’t want to take that long so here is a tip for choosing a paint palette: go to your clothes closet and find the predominant color. The color you tend to wear is probably a color you like. We will take this color and find three coordinating colors to create the palette. Usually, two will become the primary colors for walls, flooring, and large pieces of furniture and two will be the accent color for accent pieces, artwork, and some furniture.

I also want to mention that I strongly disagree with the idea that some colors are “out.” I always tell my clients: this is your home; you live in it and you have to love it. All colors will look beautiful, and up to date, if paired with the correct colors. Be confident in your decisions because then your design will be truly YOU-nique.

Aviva Waxman is the owner of Sheva Interiors, an interior design firm covering Maryland and DC. Aviva loves to work with her clients to bring out their style in a contemporary and You-nique way. She can be reached at shevainteriors@gmail.com

Top 3 Biggest Concerns About Buying a Home Today

Expert Insights from a 20-Year Mortgage Veteran on Navigating Rates, Prices, and Market Uncertainty

20 Years in Mortgages—Here’s What Buyers Get Wrong

The real estate market is always shifting, and I’ve seen countless buyers hesitate, second-guess, and even walk away from homeownership out of fear. With interest rates higher than in recent years, many are on edge—but are their concerns truly deal-breakers? Let’s break down the top three objections I hear and why they might not be as daunting as they seem.

1. “Mortgage Rates Are Too High Right Now”

It’s no secret that mortgage rates have climbed over the past year. From the historically low rates of the pandemic era, we’ve seen rates adjust upward, leading many to believe that now is not the time to buy. However, the notion that high rates should stop you in your tracks deserves a closer look.

First, let’s keep in mind that while interest rates are higher than they were at rockbottom levels, they’re still relatively low when we consider historical trends. For

most of the 1980s and 1990s, rates were well above 6% and often pushed into the double digits. In fact, a rate of 6.5% or even 7% would have been viewed as fairly typical in years past. So, when you compare today’s rates to those of prior generations, they’re still quite reasonable in the grand scheme.

Second, today’s homebuyers have more refinancing options than ever before. If you buy now and lock in a mortgage at a higher rate, you can always refinance down the line when rates eventually drop again (and they will). Many buyers are seeing this current rate environment as a temporary obstacle, not a permanent barrier.

Lastly, rising rates often have a silver lining—home prices may stabilize or even decrease as fewer buyers are able to afford larger mortgages. This can translate into more negotiable deals, so you might pay a little more in interest but get a much better price on the home itself.

2. “Home Prices Are Too High and Not Worth It”

The reality is that many markets across the country are experiencing elevated home prices. With limited inventory and high demand, bidding wars have been

commonplace, leading many to feel that homes are overpriced. This has led to the concern that buying now would result in overpaying for a property—especially as the economic landscape continues to shift.

However, the key to understanding today’s home prices is recognizing that they are reflective of long-term trends, not shortterm fluctuations. Even with slight dips or price corrections in certain areas, real estate remains one of the most reliable long-term investments. Historically, home values increase over time, even if they experience occasional volatility. This means that while it may feel like you’re paying more for a home today, the value is likely to appreciate in the coming years. In fact, those who’ve held on to their homes for a decade or more have often seen substantial equity gains.

For those concerned about affordability, consider looking at different neighborhoods or home types that might offer better value in the long run. Also, don’t overlook the power of a mortgage broker. With access to a wide variety of lenders and loan products, a broker can help you explore options such as adjustable-rate mortgages (ARMs), or assist in finding down payment assistance programs that can ease the upfront cost.

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3. “I’m Worried About the Economy and Job Security”

This is one of the most understandable concerns, especially in an era of economic uncertainty. Rising inflation, the potential for recession, and layoffs in certain industries are causing many buyers to pause and reevaluate their decisions. The fear of buying a home only to face economic hardship or job insecurity is a legitimate concern—but it’s not one that should paralyze your decision-making.

For starters, if you’re in a strong financial position—stable employment, manageable debt levels, and a reasonable amount of savings—now might actually be an excellent time to buy. Interest rates and home prices could rise even higher in the coming months or years, and waiting could leave you priced out of certain areas entirely. It’s essential to assess your financial security and think beyond immediate circumstances. With a fixed-rate mortgage, your monthly payment remains predictable, offering a sense of stability in an otherwise uncertain world.

Additionally, consider the long-term nature of homeownership. If you buy a home with the intention of holding it for at least 5 to 10 years, you’re far more likely to ride out any economic downturns and come out ahead. Real estate isn’t a short-term investment. It’s about building equity, securing a stable living situation, and ultimately capitalizing on future appreciation.

Lastly, it’s also worth noting that many industries and job markets are incredibly resilient. If you’re unsure of your job security, focus on building an emergency fund that could cover 6+ months of living expenses. This is one of the best ways to reduce the anxiety surrounding job loss or economic fluctuations, while still being able to make a home purchase that serves you well in the long run.

Seizing Opportunity in Any Market

Navigating today’s real estate market can feel intimidating, especially with concerns about rising mortgage rates, high home prices, and broader economic uncertainty. However, as a mortgage broker with over 20 years of experience, I’ve seen firsthand how homeownership continues to be a powerful tool for building wealth, gaining financial stability, and securing a meaningful place in your community.

By understanding the context of today’s market and carefully weighing your options, you can make a home purchase that aligns with your goals. Whether it’s taking advantage of refinancing opportunities down the road, considering a more affordable property, or locking in a stable, long-term investment, there’s a way forward even in a climate that may seem less than ideal at first glance.

Remember, the real estate market is cyclical, and it’s not about finding the perfect moment—it’s about making informed decisions and acting when the time is right for you.

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