W42ST Issue 49 - The Burning Issue

ISSUE 49 JANUARY 2019 FREE

How hard is it to be human in a digital world?

guilt-free me time, not screen time - THIS IS THE YEAR WE TAKE BACK THE POWER!

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Instead of resolutions – those futile plans to lose more weight or order less Seamless or stop cursing at tourists (OK, no-one believes THAT one!) – some of the best women I know recently asked: what will you leave behind in 2018? What will you place on the embers of the year just passed, before striding into 2019, purified by the flames? And, like Carrie Bradshaw, it got me thinking.

What would life look like if we were no longer slaves to the digital world? If we took back the balance of power? If, of all our relationships, the one with our phones was the least dysfunctional .

Will you take up the challenge?

Ruth Walker Editor, W42ST EDITOR RUTH WALKER

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FOUNDING EDITOR SIMON KIRRANE

SENIOR ART EDITOR LEE CAPLE

AMBASSADOR HERSHEY MILLER VICKY KUPERMAN SAMINA KALLOO CLAUDIA CHUNG SOPHIA STRAWSER

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CONTRIBUTORS

LIZ KIMBALL KRISTEN JONGEN ILONA LIEBERMAN MATT D’SILVA

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From Seattle, via Scotland ... hello, happy middle ground.

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Our pick of the five events you MUST see this month.

13 VICKY KUPERMAN

If you want to achieve anything this year, Vicky has a guide to NAILING IT.

14 BE MORE HUMAN

Radical thoughts on regaining our humanity in an increasingly digital world.

18 DISCONNECT DIARIES

24 AFRICA CALLING

Three inspiring stories that make you believe change is possible.

48 GALLERY

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66 LAST WORD

The dangers of digital.

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27 COFFEE CLASS

The kids learning about business by becoming baristas.

28 FEEL THE BURN

12 ways to connect with the real world ... and what our phones get RIGHT.

The truth about IBS – plus fun facts about poop to amaze and amuse your friends!

20 OPEN YOUR MIND

30 STAFF SURVEY

Our memories are like a collage ... they’re more flexible than we ever realized.

How Renaldy Smith juggles acting, bartending ... and being a good son.

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36 DRAG DEBUT

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52 TWO AND A HALF DATES

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53 SOBER IN THE CITY Sometimes sobriety sucks!

57 KTCHLST

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Men in the Tom Blackie is from Scotland, Henri Myers is from Seattle, and Hell’s Kitchen is home Photograph Julien McRoberts Hell’s Kitchen is our middle ground With family and business in Seattle, Los Angeles, London, and Edinburgh, New York was the perfect in-between location. Plus, Henri is from here originally, and Tom had always wanted to live in the Big Apple, so we found HK as the perfect spot.

But this is kind of sucky The worst part of living here would be being so close to Times Square, although the constant flow of tourists is really everywhere in the city. But other than lots of curious people, HK is pretty great all round.

The reason we stay Being quite active, we love being so close to the Hudson River and Central Park for nature jaunts. We’re also avid Citi Bike users. We bike daily to and from Maison 10, our concept store/art gallery/event space in the heart of NoMad. We’d always talked about opening a little shop We wanted to incorporate all the things we love – art, flowers, and really cool lifestyle items – and considered London as a location. But we changed plans and moved to NYC instead. And when the opportunity came up to create a retail space here in the city, we jumped on it.

BIO Tom and Henri are co-founders of Maison 10, a concept store that changes every 10 weeks, and where 10% of every sale is donated to one of ten charities.

They got married in 2014 and live in Hell’s Kitchen. maison10.com TOM AND HENRI’S HK Posh, W51st St - 9th/10th Ave Totto Ramen, W51st St 9th/10th Ave Arriba Arriba, 9th Ave - 51st St Pam Real Thai, W49th St 9th/10th Ave

Our third partner, Carsten Klein, is based in Amsterdam.

Looking back at 2018 It was an action-packed year for us, with some trials and tribulations along the way, but we’ve come out healthy and wiser for them. We relocated to a 5,000 sq ft loftstyle space on 5th Ave, and the new venue has allowed us to feature 10 amazing artists every 10 weeks and support a wide range of events.

And looking forward We’re super excited and don’t want to put too much out there to spoil the fun, but we’re working on some major projects and hope this year will be the year we take Maison 10 to a new level.

Resolutions for 2019?

Just to continue to live life, love each other, friends and family, and have a bit of fun and travel along the way.

If our apartment was on fire …

It’s a horrible thing to think about, but if we had to save one thing, it’d grab our hard drive. Henri is a huge music buff and it’s got all of his records, CDs and bootlegs on there. He could never do without it.

Our HK tribe?

For now, it’s just Tom and Henri. We’re each other’s ride-or-die.

Our go-to places in the neighborhood Some of our favorites are Posh Bar – you can’t go wrong there for cheap drinks, no attitude, and lots of booty shaking.

We love Totto Ramen (the one on W51st St – ask for Tata), Mexican food and overthe-top mamaritas at Arriba Arriba, and our almost-daily favorite for delivery or a dinner out and about would be Pam Real Thai – always a great idea!

Our HK happy place Everywhere!

“We love being so close to the Hudson River and Central Park, and bike daily to and from the heart of NoMad”

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JANUARY LET'S BE HAVING YOU,

NEWS

Five truly awesome events this month you’ll LOVE!

Choir Boy Samuel J Friedman Theater Opening night is January 8 for this show, set in the venerable Charles R Drew Prep School for Boys. One student has been waiting for years to take his rightful place as leader of the school’s legendary gospel choir, but can he get the gig if he sings in his own key? manhattantheatreclub.com

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Emily Brown and the Thing

Behind the Sheet

New Victory Theater

Ensemble Studio Theatre

The Thing is making such a racket, Emily Brown can’t get to sleep. What’s wrong with The Thing, you ask? The friendly creature has lost his Cuddly in the Dark and Scary Wood and won’t stop crying. Poor Thing. Happily, Emily is there to save the day. Phew! This musical, adapted from the picture book

by Cressida Cowell, runs January 6 through February 3. newvictory.org

By The Way, Meet Vera Stark Signature Theatre Written by Pulitzer Prize-winner Lynn Nottage, this fast-paced satire spans 70 years in the life of Vera Stark, controversial actress and civil rights activist, from the golden age of Hollywood and beyond. Opening night is January 29. signaturetheatre.org

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Exploring the untold stories behind the rise of modern gynecology, through the experience of Philomena, a pregnant slave woman, and her owner, Dr George Barry. Opening night is January 9. ensemblestudiotheatre.org

Superhero Tony Kiser Theater Kate Baldwin stars in this new Second Stage musical about a fractured family, the mysterious stranger in apartment 4B, and an unexpected hero who just might save the day. Opens January 31.

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BURN, BABY, BURN Got something you want to do? You’re going to need Vicky Kuperman’s failsafe tips to Making It Happen!

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he Burning Issue” is quite apropos for a January theme. As soon as gyms re-open on January 2, there’s usually a spike in membership. Motivated people, young and old, line up to finally “burn” the fat, “burn” the calories, “burn off” the holiday weight.

Working out and staying athletic is great for physical health, keeping stress down, socializing, and mental clarity. But there are other aspects of our daily lives that are vital for our wellbeing. We have goals, dreams, things we’ve always wanted to try, and hobbies we’ve always wanted to pick up. Many of us, myself included, can often set those aside because of our busy lives, work commitments, or sometimes simply due to the dangerous pitfalls of inertia.

If you’ve had a burning desire to do something, go somewhere, or try something new, 2019 is your year!

Here are my completely-just-now-madeup-steps-to-living-your-best-life-but-theyseem-legit..

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Like Charlotte said to Harry in Sex And The City: “Set a date!

Set a date!”

Always wanted to take a drum lesson?

Do a drunk painting night? Record a song? Host a networking party?

SET. A. DATE. This is, has always been, and will always be how I make things happen. This is rule #1. The be-all and end-all of productivity. Set a date, and the rest will fall into place (because you’ll feel pressure to make things fall into place). If you don’t set a date, you run the risk of being a “talker” not a “doer.” Do

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“If you don’t set a date, you run the risk of being a “talker” not a “doer.” Do you want to be a talker?

Do you? Do you? I didn’t think so.” you want to be a talker? Do you? Do you?

I didn’t think so.

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Make a vision board.

If it sounds kooky and crazy and new-age to you, then all the more reason to do it. I did it. For the first time in 2018. And guess what? It works! All you need is a poster board, some scissors, a few markers, some magazines (like old issues of W42ST), and a glue stick.

Spend an hour or two on a Sunday while watching Riverdale and start piecing your dreams together. You’ll have it all year to look at, reference, remember, and keep yourself accountable. If you believe it, you shall achieve it.

Above: Paint night hero!

Don’t live a lonely life. Find someone who wants to do what you want to do.

Last summer, I wrote about my bucket list in the June issue of this magazine.

My friend read it, and texted that she wanted to come along on one of my activities, which was a paint and wine night. This was one of the activities that I actually achieved.

Why? Because I probably wouldn’t have trekked out to Forest Hills in the middle of August by myself to paint a photo of a woman in a hat. But because my friend was coming, I felt like I had to show up. And I’m so glad I did. I can’t paint for sh*t, but I had an awesome night.

By the way – I really want to take a drum class in 2019. Anyone else?

Vicky

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Say it out loud. To somebody.

Always wanted to run a 5K? Tell someone. Tell anyone. Tell your dog.

Tell your neighbor. Tell your dentist. The more people out there who know of your goals, the more chance there is of you actually following through with them.

Accountability goes a long way.

ABOUT Vicky

Vicky Kuperman is a Hell’s Kitchen resident, stand-up comedian, and co-author of the resistance book How to Spy on Your Neighbor: Your Survival Guide for the United States of Russia, which she co-wrote with Isabella Patrick, available at Domus or on Amazon.

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“How can we use lace the internet as a p p? to lift each other u How do we explore in radical generosity digital spaces?”

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Seven ways to be more human in a digital world Words: Liz Kimball Photograph: Justin Patterson

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n January 1, 2018, my journal reads: “Spend less time on email and more time experiencing the rapture of being alive.”

Inspired by the intoxicating words of Joseph Campbell, it dawned on me last year that the rapture I desired was not a someday, once-I-finally-arrive sort of thing but, rather, a choice I could start prioritizing at any moment. If I wanted more rapture, I needed to make space for it to enter in.

Rapture did not appear to be blowing up my social media feed, nor did I think that I would be 103, in a mu-mu and rocking chair, telling my grandchildren about those award-winning emails I wrote.

After gorging on the depressing statistics about how the digital world is ruining our brains and bodies, I followed the advice and drafted a protocol, convinced that a plethora of boundaries was my pathway to more aliveness.

* 24-hour digital breaks each week * Unplug during vacations * Limit email, social media, and the news to after morning writing. * Only check social media and email at specific times during the day * Don’t have important conversations with your phone in your hand * Don't walk with your phone, so you can smile at people and birds instead I was successful some days and succumbed to the rush of dopamine on

others – ping! – something wonderful could happen! – ding! – someone likes me! – alarm! – Trump did something inhuman again!

“Just this once,” I would say, as I peeked at The Times before morning writing.

“Only a few more emails and I’ll put it away,” I said to my fiancé far too often.

It was hard for me to tell if the boundaries were helpful, because I was distracted by the onslaught of shame I felt over failing to be perfect at my endless rules.

I created a binary, labeling “resisting the urge” as GOOD and “succumbing to anything on a screen” – even my allotted time – as BAD. Not so rapturous. And not actually true.

A multitude of good things happened as a result of my being online last year, even though, at times, I also felt drained and overwhelmed by it.

I wholeheartedly believe we need to spend less time on devices, but I’m learning that the “phones are killing us” rhetoric doesn’t help me with the time that I am spending online.

Blaming devices revokes my power, casts me as the victim, and renders me helpless. It also lets me off the hook and fails to hold me fully responsible for my behavior. I will continue exploring ways to unplug, but when I do engage digitally, I want to be able to show up from a place of power and integrity, not guilt and shame.

ABOUT

Liz

Liz Kimball is a writer, creativity coach, speaker, and founder of The Collective for Women Creators. Her writing has been featured on Oprah.com, and she speaks on the intersection of art and entrepreneurship at universities and institutions across the country.

Join her at lizkimball.com to receive free thoughts, tools, and guidance on staying brave, awake and creative in the digital age.

When she's not working, she may be trying (and failing) to do a handstand.

A new frontier I needed a fresh approach for 2019, so I asked my intuition my favorite provocative question: What would a miracle look like?

“Being braver,” she said immediately, as if waiting to be consulted.

I thought she was going to say that I needed to cancel everything and go live on a mountain.

“A miracle would look like forging a brave relationship to the digital world.”

I hadn’t even considered the possibility.

I love exploring bravery even more than I love drinking coffee, but I’d always thought of the digital world as something we had to deal with, a necessary evil we complained about, and not an opportunity to live into one of my most sacred values.

Painfully, I made an honest list of all the behavior that felt like the opposite of brave:

* Scrolling * Making assumptions * Getting stuck in perfectionism and the

patriarchal disease of scarcity * Taking all feedback extremely personally * Judging other people and feeling superior * Comparing myself to others and feeling less than * Outwardly denying but secretly believing that likes, comments and followers = my worth * Trying to please everyone and their mother with every post and email * Reading too many articles and feeling generalized despair about the world and not doing enough about it * Feeling pressured into buying things by persuasive marketing copy and wellplaced advertising * Checking email when I feel challenged in the middle of creative work * Checking Instagram when I feel vulnerable OK. The truth is hard. The truth is also liberating. Looking at this list gave me insight into why time in the digital world felt so draining and what I could do about it. I felt power in the new awareness.

I know it’s audacious, but if I’m going to spend any amount of time in the digital world, then I have to believe I can find the rapture of being alive there, too. What if everything – even screen time – is an opportunity to wake up?

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PEOPLE The index card

After years of battling an array of eating disorders, I decided one day in the middle of my 20s that I was going to commit to a healthy relationship with food.

I threw out my endless lists of rules and diet books, read one exquisite, actually helpful book, and wrote a list of seven gentle but powerful guidelines on a single index card. Thanks to those guidelines, and a slow but dedicated commitment to healing, from that day forward, I created a healthy relationship with food and a growing respect for my body.

One decision – and that little index card – saved me.

Since I hoped to make a similar shift, I made another index card – this time with seven gentle thoughts for being human in the digital world.

1 Be brave

Anti-courageous behavior is easier on the internet because we don’t think anyone is watching. But I’m daring myself to ask: If a younger person I care about had a front row seat to this moment, would I be proud of what she saw me do and heard me think?

And: What is the brave choice?

Challenging but galvanizing – these two questions alone have created more shifts in a month’s time than a whole year of rules.

the little child in 2 See everyone, including yourself

The nature of the digital world can cause us to dissociate from our own and each other’s humanity. Remembering the wondrous child in each of us when I am writing an email to a customer service representative or scrolling through posts on social media helps me remember there is always a tender-hearted human on the other side of every digital interaction.

Picturing the little child in myself when I feel moments of isolation and loneliness in digital spaces is a reminder to remember my own heart is tender too.

the same you on and off 3 Be the internet

The tools of framing and curation can fool us into thinking we can perform a version of ourselves we would rather

Above: Start your challenge with an index card.

be. I have watched myself try (and, of course, fail) to perform “easy breezy chill person” (not me), “super artsy mysterious person” (also not me), “witty, sardonic, hilarious person,” and “very together ducks in a row person” (not me! not me!).

I am an earnest, enthusiastic, aggressively hopeful, insatiably curious, nonlinear duck trying hard at most everything.

We never have to share parts of ourselves with the world that we don’t want to, but we will quickly exhaust ourselves trying to perform who we are not.

Create trust by 4 giving the gift of your full attention

One of the most inspiring reasons to put down my phone is to remember that doing so strengthens someone’s ability to trust me.

While easier to remember in work conversations, I notice that I tend to slide with the people closest to me – family and loved ones for whom trust can become implied by the nature of our relationship – and I want to shift this.

This also applies to my creative work. If I want my creative genius to keep showing up with good ideas, I’ll need to take our time together seriously enough – like I would with another human – to turn on airplane mode when I sit down to collaborate.

radically generous, and 5 Be lead with love

Incessant scrolling feels like the digital equivalent to walking down a hallway at a school or a workplace and ignoring almost every single person you pass. I would never do this in real life, so why would I do it on the internet?

How can our time on email and social media be an opportunity to lead with love? When we see someone pop up on our feed, what if we sent a prayer instead of making an assumption or a judgment? Can we shower people with blessings when we hit “send” on an email? How can we use the internet as a place to lift each other up? How do we explore radical generosity in digital spaces?

6Replace general despair with small but mighty action

This was one of my most essential learnings in 2018. When you find yourself caught in general anger and despair over the state of the world (which does literally nothing for anyone other than make you exhausted), turn it off, get up, and do one small thing: call a senator, make a donation, sign up for an event. Bravely close the gap between the stagnant emotion and the specific action.

Only follow, learn from, and 7 be led by inspiring people who make you feel good

Many of us were raised in circumstances that required us to believe the people in power, whether we were aligned with them or not. One of the beautiful opportunities of our digital world is the ability to be highly selective about our teachers and leaders. However, I notice that sometimes we fall into old patterns of following people because we feel like we should, not because we feel authentically inspired.

I want to be more conscious about who I’m learning from this year, sending them blessings and love as I do, making space for new teachers and learnings aligned with my path.

With the index card in my back pocket, I’ve been exploring these ideas for the past month (I believe in starting New Year’s intentions in December) and am already noticing shifts. I feel buoyed and hopeful to notice moments of aliveness springing up in unexpected places.

When I ask my future self what to do about the digital world she says: “It only has as much power as you give it.”

Right.

This year, instead of more rules, I’m taking my power back. Mindfulness teacher Thich Nhat Hahn writes that every second of life is a miracle. I want to be awake to the miracles everywhere – online and off – in this bright new year.

I will, of course, forgive myself when I am imperfect because I acknowledge I have made some audacious intentions.

There’s no denying the research that our relationship with devices is affecting our brains and bodies, and maybe at the end of 2019 I’ll decide to move to the top of a mountain. In the meantime, I’ll be on the lookout for rapture and miracles in between the pings and dings.

I’ll meet you there.

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The 12 days of

disconnectedness Put down your phone. Do it now. Phil O’Brien is embarking on a post-holiday digital detox … and he knows just how to fill his time

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Catch the ferry to New Jersey.

ILLUSTRATIONS: FREEPIK.COM

Take in the city from the water.

Feel that ice cold wind and blow away the cobwebs. My recommend is to get off at one of the NJ ferry stops and walk to another. It’s good to explore and you’ll get some amazing views of Manhattan to boot.

If you want to take pictures, buy a disposable camera to resist the urge to grab your phone.

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Put your phone down, walk out the door, and walk aimlessly for an hour (or more). Don’t set yourself a destination, just walk. Take in the sights of the city, buy yourself a treat, take no pictures, text no friends, check no emails, listen to no music, don’t even check the map app! You’ll undoubtedly feel a twitch to pick up your phone at some point. Let it pass. Then work out where your next walk will take you.

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Get out that pack of cards and gather some friends around.

If your apartment is small, the tables at Gotham West Market are great A places to get A together. My A A particular favorite are the booths at Genuine Roadside.

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Don’t worry,

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OK, so not EVERYTHING on your phone is evil. In the return to analogue, these are some things Ruth Walker will keep

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PODCASTS

Instead of endlessly, mind-numbingly scrolling Instagram, or getting sucked down the rabbit hole of Panda Pop, a podcast will fill your head with knowledge, intrigue, conversation starters, and self-improvement. On my current playlist are The High Low (a weekly pop culture/ news podcast presented by

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feel good. I can’t say I do all them all the time, but when I do, my soul and heart are enriched (and I stop feeling guilty about the time I DO spend staring at a screen).

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Write a letter.

My personal choice is on a typewriter – partly because my writing is illegible. Go find a nice pen, some good paper, an envelope and stamp (maybe stock up – this is addictive!). Send that love note, apology, train of thought, and mail it. You’ll feel release (and a certain smugness that you did it). And I’ve not met anyone who doesn’t LOVE receiving a real letter. It might be your new thing.

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Play games.

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This is an amazing start – because you’re doing it already! Feel the guiltfree experience of reading print. Even better, there is absolutely no judgement if you just flick the pages (doesn’t that feel good now?). It’s the best antidote to the infinite scroll of social media. We just ask one thing – pass along a copy of W42ST to a friend. Spread the word.

Take a walk.

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Read a magazine.

IRL. I love being with people, but can spend way too much time with my face gazing at an iPhone screen.

So, these are the 12 things that make me

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ollowing my confession last month that I’m an Instagram addict, my burning issue is finding ways to disconnect digitally and connect

Take a hike.

There are amazing walks just a train ride from Grand Central Terminal. My favorite destination is Cold Spring and exploring the hikes behind the town. Download a map and print it out before you go. The views of the Hudson are glorious from the top of the trails – and on a clear day you can spot Manhattan.

Dolly Alderton and Pandora Sykes addressing subjects such as emotional labor, anxiety, and Kavanaugh); Business For Unicorns (a kick-ass source of invaluable, approachable advice from biz guru and entrepreneur Michael Keeler); Hashtag Single (still wondering why there are so many funny, smart, sexy women who aren’t taken? Yup, Jeanette and Traci did too – so they made this funny, smart,

sexy podcast to talk about it); and Sober in the City (W42ST columnist, artist, author, sober person, and single mom Kristen Jongen unapologetically examines creative life through a lucid lens).

AUDIO BOOKS

Subway rides don’t have to be spent staring at the floor and

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Get dirty.

There’s no chance of you picking your phone up when you are wrist deep in clay. Head along 10th Ave to enjoy a pottery class at Mud Matters (mudmatters.com). Don’t worry if you don’t fancy the spinning wheel – there are also hand courses where you can build clay sculpture. Go have a fling.

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January is usually the time for a concerted effort on exercise, and variety means you never get bored. Go to that rowing class, try a boxing boot camp, stretch to a barre class, finally saddle up for that spin class. Each one will stretch your mind and body – and disconnect you from your phone.

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Be shamed.

Head to Kiabacca on Thursday after 7pm and practice the art of Singo.

There are no numbers to check off, just music to recognize. And Pat, the bar owner and host, has a bell of SHAME if you’re caught Shazam-ing!

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Get active.

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Oscar season is coming up. Find a “movie buddy” who you can talk about the film with afterwards. Don’t think date: think neighbor, old friend, that person you keep on saying you “really must get together” with.

Get puzzled.

Remember sitting on a journey doing a crossword, word search, sudoku, or puzzle book?

Pick up the habit again. We’ve put a little crossword together to get you started again … answers on page 58. No peeking! Even better – do it with a friend.

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3. Sculptural stairway to heaven (6) 5. Happy horny coffee (5) 7. Pig of a bar (3,5) 9. Home shopping (5) 11. Editor on foot (6) 13. Lili’s Fabled Greek bakery (8) 15. Flaming seats (7) 18. Hot dog pal (8) 21. Small Ecuadorian (4) 22. Fishy wind (3, 6) 23. Always fine and….

(5) 24. HK pyramid (3) 25. Farm to table sheriff (7)

Get sexy.

If music isn’t your thing, then Sexy Bingo is at The Pocket Bar and Back Pocket Bar every Monday.

The prizes are amazing! And you might even make a genuine connection across the bar – that’s way better than Bumble!

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2. Water spraying house and gallery (8) 4. Bag a classic slice on 9th (5) 6. Sailing from Pier 81 (7) 8. Pumpkin tower (3) 10. Home to Josephine and Napoleon (4) 12. Wine under the plaza (6) 14. HK comic Marvel (9) 16. 9th Ave bread lady (3) 17. Floating museum (8) 19. Dances across 42nd Street (8) 20. Home to Manhattan artists (5)

1. Market on the west side (6)

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avoiding eye contact with the dude picking his nose opposite you.

Fill your head with books instead. I’ve just finished Abbi Jacobsen’s I May Regret This; Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama’s Book of Joy was life-changing (as was Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***).

In the queue – Oliver

Go to the movies.

Email me with more ideas to disconnect and connect. I need your help. I’m at phil@w42st.com.

Or, even better, send me a letter, at Phil O’Brien, 500 W52nd St #3W, New York, NY 10019

Sacks’ thoughts on Gratitude and In Extremis, the biography of war reporter Marie Colvin.

I need some fiction in my collection … any suggestions?

FACETIME

Once a day – sometimes more – my daughter in

Orkney (that’s an island off the north-eastern coast of Scotland) checks in via FaceTime. We laugh about funny things we’ve read or seen or done; we cry in frustration and share our insecurities and fears; we joke about lousy dates and crazy friends; and snort with laughter over family memories.

When you’re 3,224 miles

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MEDITATION

In this crazy, noisy, hectic world, moments of quiet solitude can be what keep us sane.

But mindfulness doesn’t come naturally to most

of us. Which is why they invented apps to hold our hands as we learn how to be silent. Shhhhh …

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OK, full disclosure, I haven’t actually done this, but kind of feel I should. The time is now!

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There’s more to Steven Rudin’s art than meets the eye Words Ruth Walker Photographs Phil O’Brien

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In the wake of 9/11, New Yorkers were facing a mental health crisis. How could they process the scenes they’d witnessed? Some just blocked them out, of course. Put them in a box and threw away the key, as many of us do with our most painful memories, never to examine them again.

For others, it was the polar opposite.

They looked at those memories again and again, peered at the horrific pictures in their minds until … slowly … they started to change.

“It’s called imaginal exposure,” says psychiatrist and artist Steven Rudin.

“What we do, basically, is have the patient close their eyes and describe a traumatic memory – deep stuff that they don’t want to look at – over, and over, and over, and over again. The process in and of itself changes the memory.

“The idea is that the way we feel affects the way we think. So if I were to ask you to remember something in a particular feeling state, the way you think about that situation and the way you describe it visually will be quite different than if I were to ask you in another state.

In other words, if I were to ask you on New Year’s Eve, when you’re around everybody that you love and life is doing really well, and I would say to you, ‘Tell me about school,’ you’d give me a completely different description than, say, when one of your parents was ill. The memories change dramatically based on the way that you feel; they are a constantly changing network.

“And as we go through life’s experience, we’re constantly

Opposite: Hell’s Kitchen features heavily in his latest, unfinished piece. Right: Who’s That Sitting Next To Auntie Rose?

Below: Steven Rudin.

adding parts and deleting parts, and that’s what should happen. It’s a modeling process because the purpose of memory, at the end of the day, is to help you to navigate the world.

“But in post traumatic stress disorder, the memories stay fixed and don’t change. When you talk to a person, let’s say a veteran from a war or somebody who has had sexual assault, the memory is so rigid that it doesn’t change over time, and becomes as vivid as if it happened five minutes ago.

“By recounting that memory over, and over, and over again, you facilitate the natural remodeling of the memory so that it becomes incorporated into the collage of your entire life.”

As he examined the process,

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it became clear that there were dramatic parallels between his work and his art – specifically, the art of collage.

“The collage concept is very powerful with people with trauma,” he says.

“Memories are like a collage, in that there is some aspect that is within our control.

Just the awareness that the pieces can be arranged in different ways can be helpful. You have this history of trauma, you have this history of abuse, you have this history of abandonment, and you have this history of rejection, but you also have this history of accomplishment. You have this history of perseverance. How do you put it all together? How do you arrange the pieces?”

The mere fact that his work is so detailed that people stop to look closely at it is, he believes, important.

“If you actually get somebody to stop in 2019, to stop and pause and look at something for more than just a second, it can make a difference. The conversation that emerges as a result of looking at the art is like a Rorschach inkblot test.”

And, naturally, he has used his art to navigate his own life. “The art I’ve made is clearly therapeutic with what I’ve been

“If you actually get somebody to stop and pause and look at something for more than just a second, it can make a difference.” going through in the course of my life. You could see that during my parents’ divorce the art had a particular flavor to it. It was the same during my medical internship, which was very, very stressful because people were dying, and I used my art as a way of coping with it at the time.

“I make dolls out of found objects, and I have one that’s called dancing boy. That’s sort of my coming out piece.

Everything I’ve ever done has been to do with putting pieces together.”

However, there is nothing dark about his work; on the contrary, it’s filled with optimism, positive symbolism, and nostalgic energy. And the healing power of

Above: In the studio, meticulously cutting out images for a new piece.

art, he says, is not just limited to the visual.

“I met a professor in Virginia who started a memoir course for people who were in the prison system. What he did was had them write, and rewrite, and rewrite, and rewrite their memoirs, and what he found out was that their personalities changed.

“In other words, when you tell your story over, and over, and over again, you will rearrange the pieces.”

Steven has worked in psychiatry since 1998, but he’s been an artist all his life, and the plan had always been to focus full-time on the art at some point. That time is now. He has stepped away from clinical work and invested fully in his studio. “I’m not sure if it’s serendipitous or if it’s coincidental, but the collage just sort of took over me. When I started showing people the work, they stopped in their tracks. There was something really different about it.”

Creating a single piece can take up to six months. It’s detailed and meticulous.

But if something goes wrong, he’s pretty OK about it. “A lot of times the mistakes are what really makes it better.”

And if ever there was a metaphor for life, it’s that! stevenrudin.com

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You have the power to profoundly transform someone’s life – will you?

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here are eight million stories in the naked city. Here are two to make you believe change is possible.

St Luke’s is one of the oldest churches in Hell’s Kitchen. The congregation joined the New York Ministerium in 1853, and the cornerstone of its German Gothicinspired church, which is listed on the National Register of Historic Places, was laid on October 10, 1922. Though its congregation only numbers about 100 members, St Luke’s has historically contributed to the betterment of Hell’s Kitchen and is, today, home to one of the neighborhood’s busiest soup kitchens. “St Luke’s aims to help people live out what they believe and what they hope for,” says Pastor Arden Strasser.

The church is also home to two particularly altruistic congregants, each of whom runs an independent non-profit working to change the lives of children and young adults in East Africa. And each has the support of Pastor Strasser who, as a young man, spent two years teaching high school in Zimbabwe. “I saw first hand the great need for education and its power to change people’s lives and to reduce poverty,” he says.

“I committed financial suicide to become a primary school teacher in remote Tanzania.”

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What began for Upper West Sider and photographer Richard Nesbit as a brief correspondence on Facebook with a young Sudanese refugee in Uganda, John Deng Akuei, has become a successful non-profit currently putting 11 kids through school in Uganda. A semester in high school, trade school, or college can cost less than $700 in Uganda, yet this is far beyond the means of most students, particularly orphans and refugees from the civil war in South Sudan. “I thought, back in 2015,” says

PEOPLE HK hugs Richard, “‘just a little bit from us would change his life.’”

In December Let’s Send These Kids to School held its annual benefit at St Luke’s.

“Raising Shillings, Raising Hope” was a musical and theatrical performance featuring some of Hell’s Kitchen’s innumerable actors, musicians, and vocalists, including playwright John Ahlin of Fat Knight Theater.

“Education empowers the individual and, consequently, his or her entire village to combat poverty and pursue progress,” says Richard. “I’d like to see the amount of people we’re helping double and then continue to increase.” lstkts.org

Gayle Lyn Kliever

Above: Gayle with just some of her students in remote Tanzania.

Opposite: Richard helps put 11 kids through school in Uganda.

“In 2004, I committed financial suicide to become a primary school teacher in remote Tanzania,” says Gayle Kliever, founder and executive director of GLK Student Fund. After spending five years in Tanzania, and inspired by the incredible industriousness, resilience, and need of her students, she founded a scholarship program incorporated in both Tanzania and the USA. The GLK Student Fund identifies Tanzanian students who are gifted and

motivated but lack the means to finance an education and connects them with sponsors who can pay their school fees.

In 2017, it supported more than 60 students, increasing its scholarships by 36%.

The fund also awarded three scholarships to students with disabilities, and participated in a school farming project to help provide affordable, healthy food.

“Fifteen years later, the children and young people of East Africa still occupy my daily thoughts, time, and energy,” says Gayle.

“Running a well-organized, non-corrupt organization in East Africa is not easy.” glkstudentfund.com Changing the world is often quite personal, and even small amounts of money can have an enormous effect on the lives of young people in vulnerable populations. From the pews beneath the stenciled nave at St Luke’s, Gayle and Richard have reached across the globe, all the way from Hell’s Kitchen to Tanzania and Uganda, to offer young people in these countries an opportunity to rise and to give them, in the words of Nelson Mandela, “the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” stlukesnyc.org

Rise up! playlist Homeless, Paul Simon Africa, Toto Africa Unite, Bob Marley & The Wailers One Drop, Bob Marley & The Wailers African, Peter Tosh Greatest Love of All, Whitney Houston Don’t be a Dropout, James Brown, Tabou, Les Nubians My Angel (Malaika), Harry Belafonte, Miriam Makes Serrer la Man, Boubacar Traore Il n’est Jamais Trop Tard, Cheikh Lo Monsieur Le Maire de Niafunke, Ali Farke Toure, Tourmani Diabete Sawale, Cardinal Rex Jim Lawson Heaven, Ebo Taylor Sweet Mother, Prince Nico Mbarga & Rocafil Jazz International Ma Jaiye One, King Sunny Ade Guitar Boy, Sir Victor Uwaifo, His Titibitis

In Your Eyes, Peter Gabriel Orugambo, Saida Karoli Shida Pt 1 & 2 Mbaraka Mwinshehe Umoja wa Tanzania Juma Nature, Professor Jay Vip Jahazi Modern Taarab All di Girls, Charmeleone Mbozi za Malwa, Bebe Cool Post Me, Irene Ntale, Mr Eazi Yo Sweet, Rema Namakula Kukaliba, Rema Namakula Nkwatako, Sheebah Karungi Mummy Yo, Sheeba Karungi Didadada, A Pass How Can we Ease the Pain, Maxi Priest Mulembe Gwa Kirya, Maurice Kirya Never Been Loved, Maurice Kirya Nyumirwa Nyo, Desire Luzinda

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Closer to home, one man is bringing warmth to the homeless On a cold night in January 2010, Anthony Cavaleri was walking home to his apartment in Hell’s Kitchen when he saw a man crouched in a doorway.

While the man was wearing a winter coat (New York Cares provides coats for the homeless), he had no hat, scarf, or gloves, so Anthony gave him his.

In that pivotal moment, the idea of HUGS USA was born. The mission: to collect and distribute, hats, umbrellas, gloves and scarves to homeless and low-income individuals.

In time, Anthony was told socks and underwear were the most requested items by those living on the street, so he started collecting those too.

“Collecting these basic items we often take for granted has enabled people to send small boxes of warmth (and hope) to those in need,” he says. “Bags and bags have piled in from our growing family of supporters, and we’re expanding our reach each year.”

Donations come from all over the country: a man in New Jersey knits hats and scarves; some people donate wool; a brother and sister in Ohio collected 2,200 pairs of socks from classmates; thousands of hats, scarves and gloves come from Collection 18; and Bombas recently donated 1,200 pairs of socks.

Around 20,000 items have been distributed, to centers like Project Find at Holy Cross Church on W42nd St. “HUGS are distributed through community organizations, churches and temples, shelters, and missions.

In emergency situations such as Hurricane Sandy, relief organizations are also utilized to quickly get HUGS into people’s hands. We are working towards the goal of building a country that no longer has a homeless population by fostering inspiration, workplace opportunities, education, mentorship, and supportive communities.

Wherever there’s a need, we’ll be providing HUGS.” To donate items or financial help (tax-deductable), hugsusa.org

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afternoon, they’ll be back in the cafe baking for the next day.”

The shop is staffed by five students, out of an internship class of 20 – all seniors. “They do the inventory, they do the outreach, promotion, they learn about labor costs and overheads, and do everything to run a business.”

To make the grade, they need to pass all their exams, and be recommended by teachers. Are they reliable? Are they mature? Are they able to get to school before the sun's up?

“At our school, they come from all five boroughs. The farthest I’ve heard about is Far Rockaways,” says Kat. “Some of our students travel up to four hours to get here – they have to leave at 4am to arrive by 8am. But this is what they want to do."

And the places in the program are hotly contested – the juniors are already getting competitive. “They’re all saying, ‘I want to make it in!’” says Kat. If they don’t make

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tudents at the Food and Finance High School on W50th St 9th/10th Avenue are learning about business … from the grounds up. And it turns out that running a coffee shop is about more than just learning how to do that fancy cappuccino frothy milk thing on the top.

School Grounds opened on November 1, in a space that had been earmarked as a student cafe for nearly

Above: Next order?

Clockwise from top left: Steven Roque, Issoufou Garba Hama, Gabriella Perez, Thomas Baez, and Tracy Chan.

nine years. The presence of Amtrak tracks underneath held up permission, but finally Homeland Security relented, and they’re now operating Monday through Friday, 7.30am through 9.30am, serving the west side breakfast crowd coffees, teas, fresh bagels, muffins, and more.

"Students come in around 6.30am to set everything up,” explains Kat Taveras, the program manager for the Food Education Fund at the school.

“Then, in the last three periods of the

“They do the inventory, they do the outreach, promotion, they learn about labor costs and overheads, and do everything to run a business.” it, however, they’ll fill one of the other paid internship posts in big-name restaurants around the city, including Gramercy Tavern.

“Not all our kids want to be in the kitchen,” says Kat. “They don’t want to be chefs. Or maybe they did, and they’ve learned through their time here that they want to do something else related to hospitality, like business management. So this is a huge opportunity for them.

“The biggest problem we have now is getting people in the door. There are about 1,500 people in this building alone who are potential customers, but it’s about changing people’s behavior. They’ve been getting their coffee and their pastries from wherever they get them from for the last 10/15 years. So we’re coming up with more ways of attracting them.”

Maybe the three types of muffin – pumpkin, blueberry, and chocolate chip – fresh bagels, and their best-selling breakfast biscuits (bacon cheddar and scallion chive) will tempt them … foodfinancehs.org

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BUSINESS “Potty talk is still , considered taboo and many IBS sufferers cringe s through symptom in silence.”

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oilet humor may be funny to some, but no one’s laughing about Irritable Bowel Syndrome.

Bloating, gas, abdominal pain, diarrhea, and constipation are just a few of the dreadful, unfunny symptoms associated with the most common disorder diagnosed by gastroenterologists.

Affecting approximately one in seven people worldwide, IBS is believed to cause as much absence from work as colds or flu. And, according to the International Foundation for Gastrointestinal Disorders, it costs society around $21 billion every year in medical expenses and lost productivity.

With numbers like these, you’d think we were in the middle of an epidemic.

Yet potty talk is still considered taboo, and many IBS sufferers cringe through symptoms in silence instead of seeking out the necessary care. The reality is that bowel movements are a normal part of living, essential for our physiology, and have to happen for us to remain healthy.

So it’s time we got more open about it.

manage it. However, experts suggest that people who suffer from IBS have a colon that is more sensitive to stress and certain foods. Managing these factors and making other lifestyle changes can significantly reduce symptoms, though it may take some time to figure out what works best for you and your body.

There are specific diets that can significantly alleviate symptoms and pinpoint food triggers. One is the Low FODMAP diet, which limits FODMAPS (fermentable oligosaccharides, disaccharides, monosaccharides and polyols), groups of short-chain carbohydrates that are either poorly absorbed in the small intestine or completely indigestible (and can include certain fruits, grains, and lactosecontaining foods).

Aside from diet, your doctor or dietician may recommend other treatment options such as relaxation techniques to reduce stress and fiber supplements or laxatives to help alleviate constipation.

The burning issue IBS a chronic gastrointestinal disorder characterized by recurring symptoms such as abdominal discomfort or pain, caused by changes in the nerves and muscles that control sensation and movement of the bowel. However, it’s not permanently damaging to the intestines and doesn’t cause any other gastrointestinal diseases.

IBS or SIBO? If you’ve been diagnosed with IBS or dealing with gas and bloating regularly, there is a strong likelihood that you could have a gut infection called Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth (SIBO). Thought to be one of the most complicated gut conditions out there, SIBO is defined as an excessive amount of bacteria present in the small intestine. While questions remain on the exact causes and treatment, one 2017 consensus published in The American Journal of Gastroenterology stated that a breath test, which can be

Managing a badly behaved bowel The exact cause remains unclear, and there is no cure or singular way to

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done right in a doctor’s office, is a simple, safe, and inexpensive way to diagnose it.

One of the main differences between IBS and SIBO in terms of treatment is that SIBO typically requires oral antibiotic therapy. And, aside from potential sideeffects, antibiotics do not always provide relief, and frequent use may have longterm adverse and costly effects.

For this reason, research for more effective and safer therapies for SIBO are ongoing. One study published in the journal Global Advances in Health and Medicine found that herbal therapy may be as effective as antibiotics.

When enough is enough Most of us suffer from diarrhea or constipation from time to time and that’s perfectly normal. But when these symptoms are happening frequently, and accompanied by abdominal pain and/or bloating, it may be time to see a specialist to get checked out. If you feel SIBO may be an issue, be sure to talk to your doctor about it – you may be a candidate for testing.

Open up While discussing your bowel movements may not be polite dinner conversation, it’s important that you’re open about your symptoms with your doctor. Sure, it can embarrassing, but you don’t have to suffer through the pain – there are many ways to get relief. Gut health can be extremely complicated and, no matter which treatment you try, patience will be key.

Symptoms don’t disappear overnight and there is no one size fits all cure.

13 FUN POOP FACTS • Your stools are made up of about 75% water.

• The remaining 25% is stuff like fiber, dead and live bacteria, other cells, and mucus.

• That brown color? It’s caused by bile.

• A healthy poop cycle is a big plop once a day. But a 1992

study found that less than half the population enjoy such a luxury.

• Sloths, on the other hand, only do their business once a week.

• The perfect poop is log-like and S-shaped.

• The ancient Egyptians created a kind of diaphragm out of

crocodile feces and honey to act as birth control.

• When Neil Armstrong left the moon, he also left four bags of poop behind.

• Some shooting stars are actually astronaut poop burning up in the atmosphere.

• The average American man

dumps 150g of poop every day – five tons in the course of their life.

• A healthy poop should sink.

• Farting is completely normal – most of us pass gas anywhere between ten and 18 times a day.

• Stool transplants are A Thing.

Look it up.

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Half and

HALF Everyone in New York has a side hustle … this is how Renaldy Smith works his

Job description Press Lounge manager.

But that’s just my side hustle …

I’m an actor, and have done tons of commercials. Recently, I did a production of Agatha Christie's And Then There Were None in Greensboro, North Carolina, playing Philip Lombard, a 1930s Englishman (side story: in Act 1, I bent down and my pants ripped down the butt, from top to bottom).

I normally go in for ethnic roles because of my ethnic ambiguity, so I love when I get to be part of a cast that’s telling a story without being limited by skin color. We put so much weight on race that we forget it doesn’t define us. Which reminds me, I think Idris Elba should be James Bond (then he can let me tackle the role!)

A day in my life Starts with coffee and a quick workout.

I have too many ideas for my own good – scripts, poetry or paintings – so I look through them to find one that inspires me.

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But a PERFECT day?

I wake up to watch the sunrise with coffee in hand. I really love coffee. Get a great workout in, then head to either rehearsal or a set to film. Grab dinner with friends after. When I get home, I tackle my next project and watch a movie or read a book before bed.

How I manage the juggle Last year, I approached Adam Block, the owner of The Press Lounge, about quitting. My plan was to save enough

“I love when I get to be part of a cast that’s telling a story without being limited by skin color.” money to focus on just acting for six to eight months. Maybe not the smartest idea, but NYC can be a very distracting city, so I wanted to see if I could jump wholeheartedly into what I wanted for my life and be consistently successful.

My last day was August 25, and I went backpacking in Italy afterward. But during my trip, my dad got into an accident, so when I came back, I needed a job so I could fly down and help with family matters. Adam needed someone to cover some shifts, he was flexible with my schedule, and he was understanding of my personal situation. Now I work a few days a week, and focus on acting and creative projects for the rest of it.

My hero There are so many. Growing up, I loved Johnny Depp. All of his films were so interesting to me. I also remember how much of an impression Kathy Bates had on me when I saw Misery. But Tom Cruise was the biggest reason I wanted to be an actor. I love 99% of his films. They're fun, and as a kid, I wanted to be in those types of films. As I have worked on my

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craft and more deeply explored what I think an artist is, there are other actors I could watch anytime: Viola Davis, Michael Peña, Gary Oldman, and Joaquin Phoenix, to name a few. Donald Glover inspires my creative side considerably.

He doesn't just stick to acting. I love his work on Atlanta, along with his stand-up.

Not to brag, but I was a huge Childish Gambino fan before everyone became a Childish Gambino fan.

My fantasy dinner party I'm assuming they have to be alive, so ... Donald Glover, the Obamas, Viola Davis, Justin Timberlake, Michael Peña, Lin-Manuel Miranda, Constance Wu, Stephen Colbert, Joe Rogan, Eddie Huang, Emma Thompson, Dave Chappelle, Ellen DeGeneres, Chris Pratt, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Tina Fey, Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Will Smith, Tom Hanks, Idris Elba.

On the menu? I love every kind of food, so a plethora of it, ranging from ribs to ramen noodles and a variety of whiskey.

When I’m not at work I love going to Empanada Mama. I was so excited when they re-opened in Hell's Kitchen. I like the Waylon, Valhalla, and Reunion. Rudy's is fun too. But the spot you'll most likely find me in is Ardesia.

My favorite bartender is Tyler Spikes, a fellow actor. He and I are great friends.

We actually met on the set of What Would You Do? and just hit it off. In this industry, you need supporters, and Tyler is definitely one of mine. We support each other well.

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OUT It’s important that you truly understand the extent of my non-success as a creative individual I am no longer in drama school, have zero representation (if it was possible to have negative representation, I’d have that), and I’ve yet to get my big break, medium break, or even small break. I’m in that weird in-between where most of my classmates have either quit the business all together (yes that happens within a year of graduating) or are the third-lead on a CW show (my dream, by the way). I’m trying, albeit largely unsuccessfully to “create my own work” and “seize every opportunity” while still spending most of my time in a job that is creatively unfulfilling but flexible enough to allow me time for the auditions I don’t have.

Great, now that you have a thorough understanding of my failure as an artist you are probably wondering …

“Why on earth should I take any advice from this jaded 23-year-old?” Well I’ll let you in on a little secret, after reading just about every self-help book and actor’s memoir the Drama Bookshop would sell me, I’ve come to a huge realization. It can be incredibly unhelpful to get advice on dealing with failure from people who are absolutely killing it. Which makes sense, it’s probably pretty easy to remember the shitty times as “remarkable growing experiences” or “periods of artistic reinvention” when you have multiple Broadway contracts and a movie coming out at Sundance.

So, rather than giving you a bunch of advice on how to overcome failure and find success …

Something I know nothing about!

I’m going to give you some tips on how to deal with failure and continue to persevere. Some people call this resilience, I call it artistic survival. So when you are in your own self-doubt spiral of hell, I hope you see this list and find it helpful, if for nothing more than knowing you’re not alone.

DISCLAIMER I was going to include a real disclaimer, but if you’ve gotten this far into the article you should know by now that you are taking advice from a 23-yearold. Adjust expectations accordingly.

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If you have access to an animal, pet them as much as humanly possible. I recommend a dog (chihuahuas are my drug of choice) but certain cats may work as well. If you don’t have one of your own, try to borrow from a neighbor. If you do have one of your own, remember – sharing is caring. *Bonus point: If said animal likes to be dressed up in sweaters or other attire, do it – you won’t regret it.

Work on anything creative, even if it ends up being really, really, really bad. Feeling productive and untalented actually feels better than feeling talented but unproductive.

Examples of things to work on: a sketch; a painting; a poem; an article on the subject of failure.

Find someone who has completely different interests than you and listen to them talk passionately about them.

If you’re an actor, watch something that has truly amazing acting in it. Balance that out by watching something with really bad acting in it to remind yourself that “if they can make it, so can I!” Find something you are grateful for every single day. This can be a small thing. Most days I’m just grateful that I don’t have to brush my hair for it to look OK. Push yourself out of your creative comfort zone by trying something you wouldn’t normally do. It wasn’t until I left school and had plenty of extra time that I took an improv class at UCB and realized I loved improv.

Find a workout you like and really stick with it. If you can achieve the impossible by focusing on anything other than just losing weight then you’ve made it.

Have a hobby that you don’t want to make a profession. I love painting. I love it so much that I never want to ruin it by trying to make money out of it.

Eat chocolate. If you are allergic to chocolate find a substitute.

Please don’t make that substitute something like a banana.

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We all arrive in this city starry-eyed and full of hope.

Matt d’Silva talks to two dreamers about what happened next …

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If you can make it in there, you can make it anywhere …

Every year, thousands of hopefuls relocate to New York to make their dream a reality, whether it be acting, writing, dancing, working in finance, or setting up a fashion line.

For some, after a lot of hard work, they get their big break. For others, it is more a case of making ends meet and, when they have a spare moment, dedicating those precious couple of hours to the thing that gives them spark and satisfaction.

Long-term musical theater professional Sarah (an alias – she asked to remain anonymous for this story) arrived in New York almost 22 years ago.

“I first started out here shortly after I graduated from college. It was ever so exciting. A group of us moved to Hell’s Kitchen wanting to get a break on Broadway – four of us in a twobedroom railroad apartment. It was a blast!” she says.

She’d studied theater and acting in high school and went on to study dance and musical theater in college.

“Broadway has always appealed to me,” she says. “It’s in my blood. That moment you’re on stage, it’s just exhilarating.”

In the beginning, there were a lot of auditions. She’d race all over the Theater District in between waitressing work and her dance and vocal classes.

“God, when I first started out I was going everywhere chasing that break!

I’d really be stomping the pavement.

It is actually not that different now. I seriously do think they should name a seat after me at Pearl Studio,” she laughs.

The stomping paid off. She’s been

“When I first moved to New York, it was almost like starting out again.” fortunate to land gigs in the chorus on many of well-known, long-running shows including Phantom of the Opera, Les Miserables, and Mamma Mia! But, she says: “It’s hard, as you can land a contract on a long-running show, which is great regular income, but you’re always worried when you’ll get that notice that the show is closing. Often, I’ve been fortunate to pick up another short-term role, but other times I’ve had to fall back on bartending, waitering, and, as I get older, I’ve started teaching.”

Brad (who also wishes to remain anonymous), a former dancer and now administrator for a resident production company, has a different story to tell.

He moved here with his husband over eight years ago, having trained extensively and toured as a dancer in the UK, Europe, Canada, and Australia.

“When I first moved to New York, it was funny – it was almost like starting out again. I’d worked around the world as a dancer – not leading roles but smaller parts. So when I arrived I had some contacts. But I had to get a day job while I auditioned and got introductions,” he says.

“I was lucky – my husband had a steady job bringing in decent money, so I was able to wait for the perfect job, which conveniently was for a small production company in Hell’s Kitchen. It was close to my dance classes and also allowed me to get away, if needed, for auditions. After

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This page: The Broadway dream is an elusive one – and one wrong step could end them forever. Sorry guys!

work, I’d often run up to Alvin Ailey and do one of their movement classes before heading home.”

He did finally get a break after three years of auditioning. He landed contract work for American Dance Company.

“I was determined to make my dream a reality, dancing on the stage in New York. It was a lot of work and constantly believing in myself.

There were days I thought I’d made a massive mistake moving to New York, but my husband was able to remind me of the positives and has always been a source of constant encouragement.”

However, his dreams were shattered when, stepping off the sidewalk in SoHo, he rolled his ankle. The following day, it was swollen and he could barely walk on it. He later discovered he’d broken three bones. Surgery would repair the physical damage, but his dancing career was over.

“Those damn cobblestones in SoHo, I blame them!” he says. “Of course, four years ago, when the injury occurred, I was heartbroken. But the positive is that I reached that goal of dancing on a New York stage. I can’t be too upset as the life of a dancer is full of injuries, and I’m happy I was able to make my dream come true. And all isn’t lost – I’m now working full time in a different capacity, still in Hell’s Kitchen, so life isn’t bad.”

New York is a city of dreams and opportunities. But the harsh reality is that sometimes your dream may take you on an unexpected journey.

Chasing your dream might mean reevaluating your options, or accepting that the outcome may not be the one you expect. And that’s one of the great learning experiences of life.

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t’s not every day you find royalty in the basement of Chelsea Market. Maybe you would upstairs, where they film certain Food Network shows, or a celebrity comes and checks out the new fads in the pop-up shops.

But down in the basement, past the kitchen, to the right of the storage room, is another space set up for Cleopatra, an Off-Broadway immersive experience starring RuPaul’s Drag Race royalty, Dusty Ray Bottoms.

“I used to be very anxious about doing my make-up. I’d even cry about it.

I’m much better now, though."

Technically, there are two stars: the queen herself, and the artist behind the sequins.

“What I love about this experience is that Dusty gets to be transported to Egypt,” says Dustin Rayburn, the actor/ artist behind Dusty Ray Bottoms. “Since I’m the MC, I’m just living in the given circumstances of the show.

“I didn’t think this is how I’d make my Off-Broadway debut,” he confesses. “I always thought it would be Dustin. But since Drag Race, Dusty has gotten me what I’ve always wanted.”

The success is well deserved – I’ve personally seen Ms Bottoms’ rise to fame. In fact, I was at the show (the well-missed So You Think You Can Drag hosted

by Paige Turner) where she coined her tagline “Neva lavd yah”. She even shaved her head in one performance.

Dusty is very punk.

And what’s a punk rock photoshoot without a little blood? As Dusty starts her process, she accidentally cuts her finger on a razor. A poetic

line of blood runs down the can of Barbasol.

Oh, the things we do for our art …

Stage management comes to the rescue, as they often do, and finger condom and bandaids are applied. The blood won’t stop showing through, which is perhaps symbolic to Dusty’s passion and search for finding herself.

The make-up, like the queen, is vibrant and impulsive.

After fixing her uneven lips, she accidentally smudges her black lipstick across her chin. Instead of wiping it off, she covers it with more infamous Dusty dots. These are the same dots that Michelle Visage critiqued during Drag Race.

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her professionalism during that moment.

“I didn’t want to be a clapback queen,” she says.

“Is this meditative for you?” I ask during her almost two and a half hours of painting her face.

“Oh, absolutely not!” she laughs. “I used to be very anxious about doing my makeup. I’d even cry about it. I’m much better now, though.”

After some vaping, a new bandaid, mingling with the cast, and 20 minutes’ worth of padding hips, a stagehand comes and fixes Dusty into her corset. It’s like the scene from Titanic, just with much more eye make-up.

Dustin is tall. But Dusty is even taller. Now with the corset lifting her up, standing in heels, and wig almost touching the ceiling, she’s a true glamazon. And just when you think you’re staring at the ferociously completed Dusty Ray Bottoms ...

Applying ruby claws, she says: “I don’t feel like Dusty until the last nail is covered.”

And so the queen prepares to make her entrance ...

Michael Kushner studies the artist’s preparation, in words and pictures, for the dressingroomproject.com

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Bruce Springsteen has returned to Jersey. The three Donna Summers are removing their disco wigs. In fact, a lot of Broadway theaters are freeing up at the moment, making way for all that 2019 will soon offer us on stage. In the early days of this new year we’ll also lose the wildly acclaimed revivals of Torch Song and Once on This Island and two less revered but hilarious shows, The Play that Goes Wrong and Head Over Heels. But you still have a chance to see these other well-loved shows before they shutter.

LAST CHANCE BEFORE THE NEW! 1. SCHOOL OF ROCK - THE MUSICAL

The hit Andrew Lloyd Webber musical is based on the Jack Black movie comedy about a substitute teacher turning straight-A students into rockers. Heather 8328 calls it a “great first show for children and adults! All ages will enjoy.” Closes January 20.

2. THE LIFESPAN OF A FACT

This comedy with an all-star cast is about a famous essayist and his fact checker. Wendi says it’s a “small, funny, thought-provoking piece” and Sharon F adds: “Bobby Cannavale is brilliant and uproariously funny.”

Performances end on January 13.

3. MIKE BIRBIGLIA: THE NEW ONE

After a sold-out run Off-Broadway, Birbiglia’s new solo show has been delighting audiences on Broadway.

Jenni S describes it as “cleverly framed and filled with laughs but not devoid of meaningful content.” The comedian finishes his run on January 20.

4. THE WAVERLY GALLERY

A family drama memory play from Oscar and Tonywinning writer Kenneth Lonergan. Ben Elliott raves that it is “a beautiful, human story brought to life by an ensemble of phenomenal actors.” This critically acclaimed limited run ends January 27.

5. AMERICAN SON

Kerry Washington and Steven Pasquale play desperate parents in search of answers in a Florida police station at night. Michelle G says it’s “gripping and just doesn’t let up.” The racially charged drama ends January 27.

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WHAT’S REPLACING IT? What’s replacing it at the Winter Garden Theatre?

Out with one screen-to-stage transfer, in with another! The stage musical adaptation of Tim Burton’s 1988 classic supernatural comedy Beetlejuice conjures its first preview on March 28.

What’s replacing it at Studio 54? Another revival of that all-time musical-comedy classic Kiss Me, Kate.

This one stars Tony winner Kelli O’Hara and her perfect bell-like voice. Previews begin February 14.

What’s replacing it at the Cort Theatre? A revival of King Lear starring last season’s Best Actress Tony winner Glenda Jackson. Can the 82-year-old legend win back-to-back Tony Awards? 2019 will tell.

Previews begin February 28.

What’s replacing it at the Golden Theatre? Hillary and Clinton, a new play set during Hillary’s 2008 presidential campaign from Lucas Hnath of A Doll’s House Part 2 fame. Tony winners Laurie Metcalf and John Lithgow headline as the Clintons.

What’s replacing it at the Booth Theatre? Pulitzer Prize finalist and avant-garde legend Taylor Mac’s new comedy Gary: A Sequel to Titus Andronicus. Tonywinning comic superstars Nathan Lane and Andrea Martin will surely have audiences laughing from the first day of previews on March 5.

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It happened recently with an experimental revival of Oklahoma and it’s happening again with the new provocative work Slave Play by Jeremy O’Harris at the New York Theatre Workshop. The play looks at three interracial couples and explores how history affects race, gender, and sexuality in contemporary America.

While the show scored a 78 average, you can find virtually any grade in the reviews.

It’s part of the magic of the theater that the same show can be seen so differently by each of us. Consider these wildly different opinions.

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“So bad it made me angry. Some people are going to love it.”

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“I found this play irresponsible in its portrayal of an interracial gap so wide that individual couples cannot bridge it.” TheaterBuff

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If splashy musicals and high-priced, all-star casts in limited runs aren’t your thing, there’s always plenty to see Off-Broadway. It can be tough to know which shows to check out, given their lower profiles and shorter runs but Show-Score tracks all New York City shows for you. Here are three productions beyond Broadway that our members are currently recommending.

“Good acting in an imperfect play that takes a contrarian view of race and sexuality.”

Opa Dale “Difficult to take at times, slow at other times.” Robert 7281

“I must admit after 20 minutes watching an antebellum soft core pornographic fever dream I was ready to leave the theater, but I didn't and I am glad. What started off as an awkward sex comedy suddenly became a meaningful therapy comedy which then became a meaningful drama.”

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“You will be shook. You will be uncomfortable.

You might even learn something about yourself.” Justin Andrew Jones

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THE NEXT BEST THING TO CHER ON INSTAGRAM?

The real Cher is, famously, a serial uncensored tweeter.

Unfortunately, the goddess is far less prolific on Instagram. In the great vacuum of her superstar absence, there’s another “Cher” to fill the void. The two-time Tonynominated actress Stephanie J Block is winning raves for playing the legendary icon in The Cher Show on Broadway. Cher isn’t even Block’s first household name alter-ego – she previously wowed as Liza Minnelli in The Boy From Oz and originated the Jane Fonda role in the musical version of 9 to 5.

Despite her razzle dazzle roles onstage, she’s more girl next door off it, sharing adorable photos of her family (like her daughter visiting her at work), a fan-tastic hug from Cher (on opening night), and even a photo of her washing her face for bed, sans make-up, after the show. "Keeping it very real.” @stephaniejblock

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This acclaimed work from London is a true story drama about a refugee camp in northern France which came to be known as “The Jungle.” James L called it “haunted and stunning.” Playing at St Ann’s Warehouse in Brooklyn.

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Two actors play the title character a year apart in this romantic musical about owning the hand that life deals you. Laura describes the show as “a wonderful theatrical hug.” Currently playing at the Westside Theatre in Hell’s Kitchen.

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PEOPLE The sharing economy comes to apartment living – and it could catch on

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hat are the biggest fights you’ve had with your roommates? Who’s turn it is to clean the bathroom?

Who used the last of the almond milk?

Squabbling over the Con Ed bill? Boyfriend sleeping over every weekend and not paying rent?

What if someone was to just make those conflicts go away? It’d make the whole roommate situation way cooler, right?

That’s pretty much what co-living is.

It’s taken the now familiar concept of coworking (some private space, some shared space, and shared facilities/costs) and adapted it for apartment living.

Common opened its first New York location in Crown Heights in 2015, and now has 10 spots in Brooklyn and Queens – with its first Manhattan one coming to Hell’s Kitchen next year.

“It’s a gorgeous building on W47th St - 9th/10th Ave,” says Common’s Molly Graizzaro. “And it’s going to be our greenest building yet. There will be solar panels on the roof and water efficient fixtures, sensors on lighting, things like that,” Put aside all memories of college dorm living. This is the grown-up version.

With fancy, high-end kitchens. Chic interiors (think West Elm and Restoration Hardware). Casper mattresses. Lounge.

TV. A weekly cleaner. In unit laundry.

And a roof deck.

“Room-mating is cheaper and more

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Opposite: The decor is neutral and comfortable, with furniture from places like West Elm and Restoration Hardware.

“You move to a city like New York and you’re all excited, then you get here and it’s so crowded you don’t even say hi to your neighbor.” social, which is good, because it’s lonely in the city,” continues Molly. “The problem is that it’s kind of risky: you really don’t know who you’re going to get. And you still have the problem that the apartment is unfurnished. Then you have to split the bills, and have fights over cleanliness or whatever.

“We knew that was happening,” she says. “It was happening to us, to the CEO, Brad Hargreaves [co-founder of General Assembly], and we thought, ‘What if there was a brand that just took care of all the stuff that’s bad about living with roommates?’”

Residents pay rent (typically 20% lower than the market rate), which includes a weekly cleaner, all the bills, the toilet paper and paper towels, general supplies, and high-speed wifi.

And if that boyfriend is overstaying his welcome, they’ll take care of that too.

“It’s fully furnished, so you’re not stuck with somebody’s grandmother’s couch that they didn’t take away. It’s not about

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making it bougie and luxury. But it is about beautiful choices.” The exception to the decorating standard is the bedrooms, which stay basic, with a bed, mattress, night stand, and closet. The rest is down to the roomie to personalize as they see fit.

It works something like this: Common enters into a deal with a landlord (in the case of Hell’s Kitchen, with YD Development), then oversees the design and construction that turns a building from vacant, old-style architecture into a modern, well-proportioned apartment building. No more weird room shapes or teeny tiny bathrooms. No more drafty windows or cranky, noisy radiators.

“We get involved right from the start and say, ‘This is how you can lay it out so it works really well, but it’s still a really good price.’ Then we have an interior design team that does all the pictures, chooses the furnishings. Our aesthetic is natural and normal. You should be able to relax in your own home, so it’s very comfortable, with a neutral palette.”

The company now has 120 employees, with 20 homes across six cities. And it is on track to open another ten this year alone. It’s clearly a concept that is working.

They have 1,300 applicants a week. And

Above: Private bedrooms come simply decorated so residents can put their own stamp on them.

Left: Each building has a common area with sofas and space to spread out.

“There’s nothing better than when things happen organically. Which is why we don’t match roommates – we let it happen, and let those natural relationships form” the average age is 29 – older than you might expect – made up of professionals, 70% of whom are on a 12-month lease.

“We want to make sure that everyone who ends up living here wants to be here and knows what it’s going to be like. So we do background checks,” says Sophie Wilkinson, head of design and construction. “We do financial checks, then we leverage our technology to do more sensible real estate fit.” By that, she means that, just because you’re new to New York shouldn’t mean you’re a credit leper. “I’m Australian, and when I came

Elle Bernfeld, LMSW Age: 29

Work: I work by day as a therapist, and by night I’m co-founder of a mental health app (KindMind).

My story: I came to NY in 2013, and have lived in studios, one bedrooms, two bedrooms, dorms, you name it. I’ve lived in Harlem, Upper West Side, Williamsburg, and now Crown Heights with Common.

Why co-living? Finding the right roommate isn’t easy. I’m lucky to have amazing friends, but that doesn’t mean that we should live together. Some of my friends weren’t looking for a place, and others had higher price ranges than me. I didn’t want to go and find someone random either. The idea of co-living appealed to me, because it isn’t just people thrown together for no reason. Most are there to expand their community.

The best part: I like the community aspect. In NY, it’s easy to lose a sense of community. Your friends are in separate boroughs, and suddenly getting a slice of pizza becomes a month-long planning process.

Any awkward moments? Of course the are conflicts! We aren’t robots.

However, they are pretty mundane.

Examples being that someone left dishes out, or someone didn’t take out the trash. My more interesting roommate conflicts are not from co-living!

Friends: I’ve made some great friends through Common. I already had friends in NY, so I didn’t expect to find people that I would also really connect with. I just liked the idea of not having to live on my own.

However, I’ve made real friendships that have continued even when they move out.

Practical advice for a co-living virgin: I personally think one thing that makes it work is that there is a third party handling things. We don’t have to collect rent from each other, we don’t have to recruit new roommates, and we don’t even have to call the repair man when something breaks. I think co-living would be harder if we didn’t have that aspect.

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here they said, ‘Oh, you have no credit.’

But I’d been paying rent in Australia for 10 years!’” Crucially, there’s no broker free.

At the center of it all, however, is the community aspect. Each building has a shared common area with sofas and games, and a regular calendar of events, from karaoke to Broadway shows, some organized by the team at Common, others by residents.

“Community activation is very hip right now,” says Molly. “There’s nothing better than when things happen organically.

Which is why we don’t match roommates – we let it happen, and let those natural relationships form. And if there’s an event someone’s excited about – say, a Game of Thrones night – it’s always going to be more fun if they put it on and drive it.

Above: Each apartment has a chic kitchen – and olive oil and other supplies come as standard.

“Other times, a member will want to be a host, but they’ll be like, ‘I just don’t have the time to do all the admin side of it,’ and so we put our team on it.

“You move to a city like New York,” she adds, “and you’re all excited, then you get here and it’s so crowded you don’t even say hi to your neighbor. It’s mad. Your neighbor’s probably exactly like you and has a million things in common with you, and you’d probably hit it off really well. But we live in this culture of not knowing your neighbor. So Brad – he’s from the South, and he has this romantic thing about keeping your porch light on. People can drop by, it’s friendly, you know?

“It’s such a missed opportunity to be in a city that’s so crowded, yet to be lonely.” common.com

Work: I’m an assistant account executive for Indicate Media Public Relations, which specializes in B2B tech.

My story: I moved to NY at the end of July this past summer from sunny Miami.

Why co-living? Funnily enough, I found out about Common through my employer. He recommended it, and once I looked into it, it seemed like a perfect fit for me because of the convenience and the perks that came with the membership.

The best part: Definitely the events. Every weekend I find myself attending an event organized by Common or by one of the residents. This past weekend I saw the Broadway show The Lifespan of a Fact with Daniel Radcliffe and I totally recommend it! This coming weekend I’m going to karaoke and a graffiti workshop in Brooklyn.

Any awkward moments? Not at all. My experience so far has been seamless and I feel fortunate to have been paired up with such a good roommate.

Friends: I’ve made tons of friends through Common.

There’s a real tight-knit community, and an opportunity to continuously meet new people.

Practical advice for a co-living virgin: Respect the common areas, as they’re shared by others. And say hello to new people you come across.

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Our ten favorite brands are giving back and then some

FEED ME

A cool cutting board can double up as a serving platter when you’re entertaining guests. This one comes with added back story. It’s part of the Feed collection at West Elm, and for every purchase, the Lauren Bush charity donates 25 meals to American families in need. $39, westelm.com

LENNY LOVES

Founded by NY brothers Julian and Cody Levine, along with none other than Lenny Kravitz (and fueled by the knowledge that 35 percent of Americans don’t brush their teeth twice a day!), Twice has two toothpastes – one that wakes and one that relaxes. Plus, 10% of company profits go to the GLO Good Foundation, which ensures underserved communities around the world receive dental care. $18.99, smiletwice.com

DIRTY WORDS

A tale of art, insanity, and Irn Bru set in Glasgow, Backstreets of Purgatory is a delicious, potty-mouthed romp.

And that cover? A masterpiece.

Moreover, 10% of sales go to The New York Public Library. $25, maison10.com

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COLD COMFORT

There could hardly be a worse time to be homeless in the US than in January. The Company Store makes a small difference by donating a comforter to a homeless child every time someone buys one. $111.99 for king set, thecompanystore.com

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One for the book nerds. This match box set of banned books includes Slaughterhouse-Five, The Adventures of Tom Sawyer, Black Beauty, Fahrenheit 451, and Song of Solomon. And each purchase helps fund literacy programs and book donations to communities in need. $8, outofprint.com

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LIVING TURN IT UP

Good-looking bluetooth speakers, made from real wood, with a big sound and a big purpose: proceeds help provide hearing aids all over the world, through the Starkey Hearing Foundation. $99.99, lstnsound.co

BOWLED OVER

Made by women artisans in Burkina Faso, these bowls are created out of hammered, filled, and polished bronze, copper and aluminum, then covered in leather on the outside. And we haven’t even got to the good part yet! They’re part of Global Goods Partners’ mission to empower women in some of the world’s poorest countries and end global poverty. Boom! $80, globalgoodspartners.org

POWERFUL PILLOWS

Who doesn’t love a pillow? These ones are loaded with all the good feels. Hand loomed in Marrakesh, 10% of sales is donated to Project Soar, an after-school program that empowers young girls in Morocco to continue their education by providing academic support, mentorship, and leadership coaching. $102, ravenandlily.com

ON FIRE!

I’ll be honest. I never really cared for the style of the original Toms shoes (although, obviously, I wholeheartedly admired the mission to give a pair of shoes to someone in need for every pair bought). These high-top sneakers though – very nice indeed. And now the brand is giving $5m to end gun violence, it has double the socially conscious kudos. Respect. $49.99, toms.com

THEY’VE GOT YOUR BACK

Founded by Brooklyn husband and wife duo Scot and Jacq Tatelman, State supports kids growing up in some of the country’s most underfunded neighborhoods. So whenever you buy any of their backpacks (this Kane one in metallic gold and pink has a wait list, it’s so hot!), they donate a backpack full of essential items to a child in need. $80, statebags.com

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HIT ME UP You’ll sweat like a mess. But you’ll feel like Rocky. Sophia Strawser test drives a boxing class and works out her anger issues

Where is it?

Title Boxing, W37th St - 9th/10th Ave. Why would you do it?

You know that feeling when someone is standing too close to you on the subway and you mentally turn around and sock them in the face? (Just me?) That feeling is why you go to boxing.

The instructor Michael, the owner and my instructor for the class, is overall the perfect fit to own a boxing club (or a Mike’s Jersey Subs.

Either of the two). He’s very attentive during class and quite “yelly” but in all the right ways. I’d say a sensible microphone could be a wonderful addition to the class as well as save the man from vocal nodes. But hey, yell or no yell, he got the class out of breath within roughly five seconds so he’s doing something right.

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Will I look stupid?

Yes, but you’ll feel like you’re in the cast of GLOW, which obviously makes it worth it. The class stays rather intense the whole way through. It’s broken into three sections: conditioning, boxing, and an end section of abs. In other boxing classes I’ve taken, there are breaks throughout. Some do stretching after the opening conditioning or offer up time to grab water. Not here. You choose when you get a break. Normally it’s five seconds while Michael has his back towards you. (I didn’t actually do this, Michael. But, had you been a less attentive teacher, I’d have taken a short nap and indulged in a snack of sorts.)

ClassMATES It’s the ideal place to meet your perfectly toned partner who will always have an outlet to properly take out their anger.

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“I was convinced I’d make it up the subway steps without losing my breath. (This statement was later proven incorrect.)”

Commute home Do you want to be seen on your commute home after this class? Absolutely not, but you will be seen as well as smelled. You’ll be a puddle despite this freezing weather, so run, don’t walk to you shower after.

The advantage is that you’ll look so rough on the subway home that people may offer you their seat out of pity.

What to wear You’re going to sweat like a hipster eating enough hot sauce to be considered a real Williamsburg resident. I recommend a light and breathable fabric for the class. I’d even dare to say show some midriff.

Hand wraps are a must. My reasoning for them is that you feel like Rocky. I was actually convinced I’d make it up the subway steps without losing my breath just by wearing them. (This statement was later proven incorrect.)

Studio vibes The studio felt like a little family. Everyone behind the desk knew each person that came through the front door. Check out a class by calling the studio or hitting it up on Classpass.

Catch you next month. Till then catch me @SophieStrawser.

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Love

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Claudia Chung is dating again – and romance comes at a price Photograph Ilona Lieberman

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he first guy I seriously dated after becoming a widow was an attractive British man. He wasn’t naturally attractive – he tried really, really hard at it. He wore impeccable clothes, kept a lean body, and smelled like soap (the most desirable scent on a man). He was also the kind of guy who’d seek out varicose vein removal specialists because he felt self-conscious running in Central Park wearing shorts.

This synthetic British gentleman pursued me for months before I agreed to “take a walk” with him to Bed, Bath and Beyond. And within minutes, somewhere between the coat hangers and trash cans, we were planning a life together. Seriously. It might have been seconds. Something came over me and I was all in with this man. He asked me to move in a few weeks later and I said yes.

Then came the lies. And the mistaken belief that telling me he’d jerked off that morning counted as polite dinner conversation. It also turned out my new lover was seriously manic depressive. And as I stood in the aftermath of one of his manic episodes, I was unable to comprehend my new reality. Truth be told, I held on to this relationship until the situation became unmanageable and I had to sever all ties in one swift cut.

After the Brit, I took a good, long break from dating. Then I met someone new. He was nice. And he was not medicated. But here’s

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ABOUT

Claudia Claudia Chung is a writer who moonlights as a school teacher. She is currently working on a book of essays and stories on the trials, tribulations, and the funny in being a young widow.

“Then I met someone new.

He was nice. And he was not medicated.” the thing about having already had THE love, the “until death do us part” kind of love: you know when someone is just not right for you. As much as you want it, try it, and work at it, you find yourself longing for someone you haven’t met yet. Or have met – you just don’t know it. It’s as if the hope of love is better than the reality in front of you. So I ended it.

Now what?

One evening, feeling kind of bored and epically single, I decided to try online dating for a week. As a first time online dater, one week felt doable. My site of choice was Bumble, the feminist one. It’s free. But only if you don’t mind spending a few hours a week looking through hundreds of pictures of men you might want to have sex with, date a little, or straightup marry. After a while, they all sort of blur together and start to resemble the Cheshire Cat – crazy eyes, big smile, giant teeth.

But Alice didn’t go down the rabbit hole looking to date the cat.

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So, instead of swiping on everyone with a penis under the Internet stars, I invested in the $8.99 upgrade, so I could pick and choose from the men who already dug me. And in one week, I received hundreds of swipes, exchanged messages with seven on the app, text messaged with three, and went on two and a half dates. There was the Banker. The Comedian. And the Teacher.

Here’s the breakdown. The Banker was fine. Tall. Zero connection.

The Comedian was an interesting one. I’d even say we connected. We were a bit like two gorillas throwing their poop around to see if they should have intercourse. The answer? We should not.

And finally, the Teacher. He kept trying to coax me into dull text exchanges. In the end, we didn’t meet and I just stopped answering.

After exactly one week, I deleted the app.

In my search for love after losing THE love, I’ve come to realize that my ideas on relationships have changed. I’m still open to meeting someone amazing. But I’ve had to let go of every preconception and expectation. Because having THE love changes you. And losing it changes you even more.

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Sober SUCKERY Ugh! Sometimes sobriety is like a kick in the nuts.

Kristen Jongen tries to be gentle

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ometimes it sucks to be sober.

If, as an addict, you are living drink and drug-free in this world, you are a fish out of water, like me, and that can suck.

The good news is that you are liberated from the hell on earth that is an active addiction. The bad news is that the human experience is tumultuous for 100% of homo sapiens.

To people in recovery, it is as if we awaken from a terrible nightmare staring directly into the sun. Without a filter, the world can feel extraordinarily bright and intense. As a sober person, there will be days, weeks, and months where a pair of sunglasses and a drink will sound good, no matter your day count. These are the days we need to be very gentle with ourselves.

For example, I recently: 1. Celebrated my seven-year sobriety anniversary.

2. Went on a first date with a man who was so sexy it hurt my feelings.

Mr Sexy was well informed and successful. He took great care of himself.

He was engaging and appeared interested in me. Naturally, I was planning our chic (but low-key) wedding. As we chatted about life and business, the subject of sports and opioid addiction came up. I took a deep breath. The word “addiction” skidded off his tongue with streaks.

I could tell he considered chemically dependent people moral failures.

I felt weary.

Things had been going great. We had

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“He was engaging and appeared interested in me.

Naturally, I was planning our chic (but low-key) wedding.” been laughing and flirting and having fun. He was loose from his gin and tonic.

I was, suddenly, not. My soda water was gone, and the crushed lime at the bottom of his glass called to me.

It said: “Jesus, Kristen, why can’t you be normal for one fucking minute?”

I could taste his gin. I wanted a drink.

Seven years and three days sober, I felt the same way I did on day one: selfconscious, less-than-human, and sorry for myself. I didn’t want to get drunk. I wanted relief.

I didn’t want to be sober in any city.

I get that addiction is unrelatable to normies. It is like a person telling me he compulsively naps under parked cars during rush hour. It makes no sense. I could have mustered up an analogy for him, but I was too tired. I could have waited to tell him I was sober once we were solidly in love, but I was too drained. I could have faked a heart attack, but my insurance doesn’t

Below: Telling people you’re sober can stink.

Really, Kristen, can’t you just try to fit in?

cover ambulance rides. Instead, I told him I am in long-term recovery and breathed through my discomfort.

Did he look disappointed? Yes. Did I walk away holding my own hand? Yes. Did I have a little tantrum on the way home? Yes. Did I call a friend in recovery who understood? Yes. There are days I am cheerless to be the poster girl for sobriety. I want to fit in. Sometimes I blurt it out and regret it. Sometimes I wait too long and wish I hadn’t. There is no right or wrong way to speak the truth. In the end, however, I haven’t slain this dragon to replace myself in its cage. My days of being enslaved are over. I am sober, so I can be free.

To you, dear ones, what’s your freedom worth?

Slay all day,

Kristen

Kristen

An internationally recognized author, artist, and motivational speaker, Kristen has written and published two books and is the voice behind Soul Soup books, prints, and greeting cards. Want more? Listen to her new weekly Sober in the City podcast and follow her on Instagram: @KristenJongen. If you’re having a hard time with drugs and alcohol, find support meetings at nyintergroup.org

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Wagging Pumpkin Lilli

Humans’ names: Ian and Alex.

Age: Two. Breed: French bulldog.

What makes me bark: Playing at the dog run at DeWitt Clinton Park.

Three words that describe me best: Curious, hungry, sweet.

Confession: Sometimes I eat my daddy’s headphones.

Instadog: @lilli.thefrenchie

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Human’s name: Valerie.

Age: 15 months.

Breed: Pit bull mix.

What makes me bark: When I want to get other pups to run and play with me.

Three words that describe me best: Cute, pushy, rascally.

Confession: Sometimes I eat books, especially old books; I especially enjoyed Chaucer in one volume … yum!

Instadog? I prefer playing in the park to hanging out on the internet.

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Porter Humans’ names: Alyse and Eric.

Age: Four.

Breed: Maltipoo.

What makes me bark: When I see my human friend Helga in Central Park with my puppy friends Frisco and Stephie. She has the best treats!

Three words that describe me best: Smiley, loving, adorable.

Confession: I love going to breweries.

I’m named after my mom’s favorite type of beer.

Instadog: @Porterhellskitchen

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Confession: I love running around with dryer sheets and splashing the ice in my water bowl.

Instadog: @lil.mini.cooper

Franny Human’s name: Debo.

Age: Five.

Breed: Pug. What makes me bark: The doorbell.

Three words that describe me best: Sweet, cuddly, warrior.

Confession: I surprised all around when I jumped in the calm ocean and swam like an Olympian. Pugs don’t swim.

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EATING & DRINKING Adella W43rd st 9th/10th Ave Upmarket, minimalist nook with a communal

Chez Napoleon

The Harrow

W 50th Street - 8th/9th Ave

10th Ave 49th/50th St

Hyper-traditional

Contemporary

Hell’s Kitchen

American cuisine

landmark French restaurant open

with a stellar cocktail program in the

plates & boutique wines..

since 1960 and still dedicated to

coziest of atmospheres. Make The

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serving classic comfort food dishes.

Harrow New York your perfect night

Leave your diet at home!

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9th Ave 55th/56th St In HK since 2004, Kashkaval Garden offers a relaxed environment to enjoy good wines, specialty cocktails, and Mediterranean inspired food & fondue.

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Hellcat Annie’s Tap Room

10th Ave 45th/46th St

10th Ave - 45th St

A wine bar and restaurant in the

Rotating local craft beer on tap, easy

drink from a rotating selection of drafts

heart of Hell’s Kitchen, serving

drinking lawnmower beers, cocktails,

oven pizzas and a high quality

and cask. Fill up a house growler or

dinner & brunch made from locally

sandwiches & shareable appetizers.

selection of rotating crafts at fantastic

bring your own. Knowledgeable staff.

sourced ingredients.

Happy hour 3pm-6pm Mon-Fri.

prices. Always interesting draft

www.beerculture.nyc (646) 590-2139

www.dianneandelisabeth.com (212) 247-3039

www.HellcatAnnies.com (212) 586-2707

W45th St - 8th/9th Ave A huge selection of bottles and cans, and

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Hibernia Bar & Grill

W72nd St - Amsterdam/ West End

W50th Street 9th/10th Ave

Cavernous, low-key taproom known

pub with good food and great craic,

for its wide variety of craft beers, plus

the genuine article. $10 lunch special

burgers & bar bites..

12-4pm, Mon-Fri. Kitchen open late.

www.beerculture.nyc/gebhards

www.hiberniabar.com (212) 969-9707

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Gebhard’s Beer Culture

Chez Josephine

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Kiabacca 10th Ave 45th/46th St Featuring 20 specialty brick

cocktails and wine on tap.

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10th Ave 41st/42nd St

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Lansdowne Road 10th Ave 43rd/44th St This neighborhood sports bar is a great place to gather for tasty pub food, wings, and a wide selection of beers while watching your favorite team. Back bar for parties.

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Manganaro’s Hero Boy

Hudsons

Green Fig

9th Ave 37th/38th St

cuisine with unique flavor and spices.

and cocktails served on a multi-level

Our 60-year anniversary! The original

Influences come from The Middle

yacht with a large deck. Short sailings

six-foot Hero will feed 30 to 40 people.

East, North Africa’s Maghreb region,

on the Hudson for sweeping views of

Large restaurant: eat in, take out,

and southern Europe.

the Manhattan skyline.

www.hudsonsnyc.com (212) 630-8840

catering. Reasonable prices!

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TIM is a personal trainer at Mark Fisher Fitness, where he can be found

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rocking unicorn tights or go-go shorts like nobody's business. When he's not taking a dance class or out and about during the weekend, he is most likely lounging around at home re-watching episodes of The Office.

Tim Landicho’s playlist CHIPOTLE 8th Ave - 39th/40th St Gonna get this basic one out of the way. I LOVE Chipotle (I'd be lying if I said that I don't have it six days a week). And I'm convinced that the staff at this location are the friendliest and deliver the best customer service out of any other Chipotle!

MARK FISHER FITNESS W39th St - 9th/10th Ave MFF is the most inclusive gym in NYC, with smart trainers in ridiculous

costumes, some serious fitness programming, and a community that genuinely cares.

HOUSE OF MOVEMENT 8th Ave - 35th/36th St If you love to dance (or would love to learn how), check this place out. Specializing in urban dance and hip-hop choreography, it offers an array of dance classes ranging from beginner to advanced levels, giving everyone something to try.

SCHMACKARY'S W45th St - 8th/9th Ave An obligatory stop for anyone with a sweet tooth. Come on by (after a dance class at HoM!) to satisfy your cravings with cookies, milkshakes, and ice cream sandwiches.

RISE BAR 9th Ave - 55th/56th St A super fun gay bar for when you feel like dancing all night with some friends.

PLAYLIST 1 2 3 4 5

thank u, next Ariana Grande I Wanna Dance with Somebody Whitney Houston Where the Party At Jagged Edge, Nelly Brown Sugar D'Angelo Lemon N.E.R.D. ft Rihanna

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EATING & DRINKING / SHOPPING & SERVICES The Marshal

10th Ave 48th/49th St

Locally sourced

Somewhere between heaven and

food, wine, and

Hell’s Kitchen. There is room for

David Ryan Salon W46th St 9th/10th Ave

10th Ave54th/55th St

Our mission is

liquor at a restaurant where

everyone in this sleek bar, from the

A new American and seafood cuisine

provide the highest quality service

sustainability and support for the

corporate world of America to the

restaurant in the heart of Midtown

to all our guests with the utmost

community are at the heart of

exhilarating youth of Manhattan.

with outdoor patio seating, classic

professionalism. Our staff is dedicated to

everything we do.

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cocktails, draft beer, and much more.

all aspects of beauty and style – helping

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you feel and look your best.

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The Press Lounge

10th Ave

NYC’s premier

Bringing a multi-cultural New York approach to authentic Japanese cuisine.

www.kitchensakebarmethod.nyc (212) 582-2146

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10th Ave 47th/48th St Ecuadorable! Quaint eatery serving traditional dishes with modern flair.

Family recipes make Ñaño special.

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rooftop lounge, with dramatic views, seasonal cocktails, an extensive wine list, seasonally inspired small plates, and welcoming service.

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Elizabeth Saunders Voice Studio

UT47 W47th St 8th/9th Ave

11th Ave 47th/48th St

Ñaño Ecuadorian Kitchen

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Method Japanese Kitchen and Sake Bar - 50th/51st St

7th Ave. Specialty coffee & tea, brunch and

28th/29th St

Korean fusion dinner.

Private, individualized voice/singing

(917) 265-8629

lessons..1st vice-president: New York

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Print Restaurant

Big Apple Meat Market

11th Ave 47th/48th St

9th Ave 39th/40th St

non-conforming clients welcome (860) 874-7184

www.ElizabethSaundersVoice.com

Fine & Dandy W49th St 9th/10th Ave Handmade

Farm-to-table restaurant dedicated

Serving Hell’s Kitchen and Chelsea for

accessories for dapper guys.

to seasonal, sustainable cuisine,

over 20 years.We are committed to

Ties, bow ties, pocket squares,

with fresh ingredients featured daily.

bringing our shoppers the best quality

neckerchiefs, tie bars, cufflinks, money

Located in the Ink48 hotel.

meats and groceries to the area.

clips, and much more.

www.printrestaurant.com (212) 757-2224

www.bigapplemeatmarket.com (212) 563-2555

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We serve healthy

NYC’s only floating lobster shack.

meals created by our nutritionist.

453 W46th Street

Fresh seafood, mason jar cocktails,

Nothing fried, no added sugars, no soy,

Founded in 1999 to deliver a

buckets of beer & raw bar. Casual

no chemicals, only 100% pure, organic

neighborhood veterinary practice

atmosphere – no reservations.

ingredients from Mother Earth.

that excels in providing thorough,

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Heart of Chelsea Veterinary Group

W46th St 8th/9h Ave

Pier 81, 12th Ave - 41st St

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Sall Restaurant & Lounge

Perdition

10th Ave 4th/45th St

9th Ave - 48th St Our gallery exhibits and sells original, affordable art made by local artists living and working with mental illness.

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Medicare Supplements, Advantage, & Rx plans while offering superior customer and broker services.

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comforts with contemporary hairstyling.

Our knowledgeable staff of dedicated, skilled barbers allow every customer a

Custom framing & art, conservation framing, canvas stretching & mirrors a specialty. We exhibit contemporary and international artists.

customized experience. Haircut $25.

jaditeart@gmail.com

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Kristin Misik Acupuncture

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W43rd St 8th/9th Ave

experience, one of the city’s oldest flea markets. Year round, each weekend, you can find antiques, vintage clothes, collectibles and more.

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Kitchen Tennis Academy is the go-to spot for adults and children to hone their skills. Get a suntan while playing tennis!

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No time to do laundry or clean your apartment? Maid-Hattan does it all for you! Call or text (917) 478-0210 to schedule your cleaning appointment.

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Hell’s Kitchen Flea Market

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Jadite Galleries

Barber Shop

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WALTER is a Guatemalan-born fashion designer who has lived in Hell’s Kitchen for two years. He recently launched the first collection for his brand Anima @anima.nyc; animaobjects.com

DIZZY'S CLUB COCA COLA Columbus Circle One of the reasons I love NYC! This place is a must for hearing talented musicians from around the world. I often bring my visiting friends to have a couple drinks and enjoy the music while appreciating the Columbus Circle night lights as a backdrop.

ARDESIA 11:00 pM W52nd St 10th/11th Ave I love the idea of walking up a quiet New York street and finding an unexpected, intimate, welcoming bar.

This place has the perfect ambience and the service is excellent. The space itself is dimly lit, warm, and cozy.

And there’s a great variety of quality wines and a wide cheese selection. Perfect for a night cap.

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HUDSON RIVER PARK Biking in summer is definitively a much more pleasant experience, but when the weather is good enough I take the opportunity. It helps to clear my mind while relaxing with the beautiful Hudson River view.

ROMEO AND 3:00 pM JULIET W42nd St - 11th Ave One of my hobbies is to explore cafes around the city. I like coming to this one because of the cozy rustic décor and the latte I can sip while listening to my podcast of the day and sketching.

IPPUDO 8:00 pM WESTSIDE W51st St - 8th/9th Ave The ramen is on point at this place. There is a nice energetic vibe too, and welcoming staff.

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Manhattan Plaza Health Club W43rd St 9th/10th Ave

15 Years of clinical experience serving the Hell’s

Amid the hectic pace of mid-town

Kitchen community. Specializing in the

Manhattan there is an escape to

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fertility & allergies. We accept health

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insurance.

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Mark Fisher Fitness

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W39th St 9th/10th Ave

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event cruises. Operating since 1945.

the essence of the brand’s philosophy.

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The New Victory Theater

The Circle Line

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accessories. California lifestyle is at

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See international theater, dance, circus, opera & music at affordable prices.

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MiDoctor Urgent Care

you want to see a physician, no appointment is needed. Just walk in and we will take good care of you.

midoctoruc.com (212) 757-2015

W52nd St 10th/11th Ave

Hell's Kitchen-based photographer, specializing in headshots, food, portraiture, and special events.

SteveHillPhoto.com

Stiles Farmers Market

The New York Medium

9th Ave 36th/37th St

61 W62nd St Certified psychic, medium, and tarot advisor. Individual and group readings.

www.theneyorkmedium.com marina@thenewyorkmedium.com

New York Water Taxi

A full line of farm fresh fruits,

Pier 82, W42nd St

Building original, provocative, and

NYC’s favorite hop on, hop off

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sightseeing cruise. You’ll see the Empire

from readings to workshops to fully-

State Building, Freedom Tower, Brooklyn

staged production.

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vegetables, eggs, pasta, fresh ground

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Castillo Theatre

Epstein’s Paint Center

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“My doctor, dispensing one more course of antibiotics, finally laid it on the line: ‘Did you really survive HIV to die of the web?’”

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he British-born, American writer and commentator Andrew Sullivan was a pioneer of the political blog – he started The Daily Dish in 2000.

But 16 years later, he was writing in a New York Magazine article about how his addition to the internet was threatening to kill him. Repeated infections, fewer vacations, fevered sleep, friendships that had deteriorated … all were symptoms of increased time spent in front of a flickering screen and less

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time in the real world. “Every minute I was engrossed in a virtual interaction,” he wrote, “I was not involved in a human encounter. Every second absorbed in some trivia was a second less for any form of reflection, or calm, or spirituality.”

The man once voted by Forbes magazine as one of the 25 Most Influential Liberals in US media (though he himself rejected the “liberal” label), added: “Just look around you, at the people crouched over their phones as they walk the streets, or drive their

cars, or walk their dogs, or play with their children. Observe yourself in line for coffee, or in a quick work break, or driving, or even just going to the bathroom. Visit an airport and see the sea of craned necks and dead eyes. We have gone from looking up and around to constantly looking down.”

The threat of this constant noise, distraction, scrolling, he concluded, is not to our brains. It is to our souls. At this rate, if the noise does not relent, we might even forget we have one.

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