Your Subtle Voice

By Joy Dettling

Being Felt, Not Just Heard

When we think about authenticity, unique expression, and “finding our voice,” we often picture something bold. Something loud. Something big and visible— like speaking our truth publicly, sharing art with the world, launching a mission.

But what if authenticity can be incredibly subtle? What if it’s not even heard, but simply felt?

I’ve come to believe that we can have a profound impact on others even when we are quiet. Even when we are still. If we can find peace and calm within ourselves, that quality can ripple out into the spaces and people around us. If we can cultivate joy in our own lives, I’ve found that this helps others access their own joy, too. Not through effort, but through resonance.

What if finding our authentic expression doesn’t begin with a megaphone—but with a tuning fork?

The Frequency Of Authenticity

I see voice now not only as the words we speak, but as the energy we carry. We’re always transmitting something—our emotional tone, our nervous system state, our embodiment of truth (or lack thereof). I’ve found that being deeply present and real within myself—acknowledging both the light and the shadow—is a form of voice. It’s how I communicate to the world: “This is me. I’m here.”

Our voice doesn’t have to be loud to be powerful. We all know the phrase actions speak louder than words—but I would say that also energy speaks louder than words.

We are energetic beings, each resonating at a specific frequency. And just like a tuning fork can bring an instrument into harmony, I’ve found that the frequency I hold—especially when I’m truly being myself—can activate something in others. Not to change or fix them, but simply to remind them of their own authentic self. Their own truth.

Energetic Language And Invisible Influence

There is a subtle energetic exchange always happening between people. It’s quieter than body language, deeper than tone of voice. Some might even call it telepathy. You’ve probably felt it before—walking into a room and instantly sensing the energy, or feeling soothed just by being near someone grounded and calm.  It’s the same reason why we feel more at ease in nature. Trees don’t speak, but they emanate something ancient, grounded, and pure. Sit with one and feel yourself attune.

In my work holding space for others in healing sessions, I don’t think of myself as “doing” something to them. I see myself as holding a frequency. I’m not here to guide, push, or mold— but to inspire. I sit in my own authentic frequency so that others feel safe to sit in theirs. My presence becomes a gentle invitation, a mirror, and the permission to be themselves.

The Work Of Just Being

There’s a term in New Age and metaphysical circles called grid work—it refers to the act of showing up in a place to do energetic work or realignment on a specific location. I never set out to do this, but being somewhat nomadic, I’ve started to notice a pattern. I feel called to certain places with no clear reason why. And once I’m there, I discover that what I thought I was there to do… wasn’t the point at all.

I’ve had multiple experiences over the past year where my presence alone seemed to shift something. It offered lessons, both for myself and those around me. It reminded me that we don’t live in isolation. Whether we speak or not, whether we intend it or not, we influence each other deeply. We are each part of an energetic ecosystem. The way we show up matters.

Letting Embodiment Speak

So maybe “finding your voice” doesn’t always look like writing a book, taking the mic, or launching a brand. Maybe it starts with doing the inner work. With becoming intimate with ourselves. With honoring our wounds, claiming our joy, and radiating from that grounded, truthful place.

Maybe your voice is in how you walk into a room. In how you breathe when someone else is losing it. In the way your presence makes others feel safe to be more of themselves.

We are not only here to speak—we are here to resonate.

So let your calm be contagious. Let your joy be felt. Let your stillness shift a room. Let your voice ring out in the most invisible, miraculous ways.

You don’t always have to be loud. You just have to be you

Joy Dettling of Ignite Life specializes in helping individuals release unseen stuck stress patterns and embody their true potential. To find out more, visit ignitelife.net or contact joy@ ignitelife.net.