What is “Mothering”?

MOTHERING. WE ALL NEED IT. Those of us who are most fortunate have experienced it. Those of us who are a blessing have given it.

At this time of year we honor our mothers and those who have been like a mother to us. Actually, mothering can come from many people during our lives, and can be defined as relating to others in a way that would be characteristic of a mother, especially in being caring, protective, and kind.

Everyone’s definition and experience of being mothered is different because our situations differ.

As a newborn’s needs are different from those of a young adult, so are ours as we grow independent and pursue our goals in life. However, our need for mothering—as defined by being nurtured—is something we never outgrow.

Being mothered, or nurtured, brings to mind someone who cares for us emotionally, someone who listens to and understands us, and who is willing to help us with a problem.

It also means to be encouraged and supported—perhaps by someone who is like a personal cheerleader.

And someone who mothers us is someone we can count on, who is loyal and dependable.

You probably have several people in your life that fit into these categories, because mothering is not limited to a relationship between mother and child. This nurturing relationship can come from friends, non-parental family members, mentors and teachers, or can even happen in professional settings where someone takes on a nurturing role.

If you have experienced a close relationship where someone has given you emotional support or guidance and advice, who has taught you or nurtured you, then you are most fortunate, for you have received the nurturing and kindness that is mothering.

Mimi Matthews is in the “encouragement business” as the owner of Empowordment Cards by Mimi. She is also a speaker, workshop leader, writer, and our editor. Visit her shop at www.etsy.com/shop/EmPOWordmentCards and her blog at www.particularpassions.me.