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Many people have not been encouraged or taught to love themselves. In fact we have been raised to believe in self sacrifice as a model of goodness. We have been conditioned to believe that you should love and appreciate yourself only when you do good things or succeed in specific ways. While there’s nothing wrong with feeling good about yourself in relation to positive things, truly loving yourself is an unconditional process, which means accepting, appreciating and celebrating all of who you are—both light and dark. Something that is very difficult for most of us. But you can change that and you can start slow and with little things like speaking kindly about yourself, taking compliments graciously, taking care of yourself, honouring your emotions, pampering yourself, celebrating your success and learning from failures, appreciating your flaws and what makes your different from others… There will, no doubt, be moments when we feel low, tired, defeated, challenged and failed… but it is the love and self preservation inside that sees us through the most trying times, however big or small. If we don’t love ourselves, nothing will really matter. No matter what we conquer, create or experience, we’re never able to appreciate it or ourselves, or feel fulfilled. I can list a million reasons to love yourself… but some of the most meaningful ones are listed here for you to think about: self-love attracts love; self-love motivates taking good care of your health; self love is spiritual; self love helps you appreciate yourself; self love gives you a 24/7 best friend; self love helps you make healthier decisions; self love improves your self image; self love can help you look and feel younger; self love helps you break poor people pleaser habits; self love leaves you with a lot more to give to others… I begin my journey each day telling myself that I am fantastic, and that today is yet another day to set the foundation for a better tomorrow and more love… Until the next issue,
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i see it
editor’s pick
Old age is the most unexpected of all things that can happen to man – Leon Trotsky
Charu Chadha
As time passes and I grow richer in my experiences, I grow to believe more and more that there is nothing more important than loving yourself! Sadly, most people spend most of their time thinking someone or something else can give them what only they can give themselves. To be truly fulfilled in life and in relationships, you have to find the love within you. You simply can’t love anyone else until you love yourself.
the w ay
Love Thyself!
Browsing through books Corporate Associate Editor in a store in Thamel, I came across Eknath Easwaran by chance…many years since, I keep going back to his words. One of my favourites is ‘Living Thoughts of Great People”. From this book, I write a page that I want to share with you in Eknath’s words… …When the first grey hair appears on our head, it is a critical juncture in life. We go to the mirror with a sinking feeling of dread and try to pluck out the evidence – one here, two there. But the more we pull out, the more seem to come in. I tease my friends by asking them if they would like to relive their adolescence. It always brings a groan. Youth has a lot to offer, but so does the experience of age. In India we have a joke about a man going to a barber and asking, “Do you have anything for grey hair?” “Yes,” the barber says, “respect”. Just because we don’t have wrinkles or grey hair, we are not necessarily alive in the fullest sense of the word. Real living comes from making a contribution in life. This is the paradox of life: when we cling to the body, it loses its beauty. But when we do not cling to the body – and use it as an instrument given us to serve others – it glows with special beauty, as we can see from the lives of many great mystics. When our consciousness becomes pure, even the body begins to reflect its light… Seeing my mom’s zest for life and living, I see an eighteen year old in a woman of 61, her enthusiasm and energy often puts me to shame. She always maintains that life is beautiful – even on the toughest day and through the darkest hour. Sometimes I wonder at her and sometimes I get infuriated…but there has never been a moment when I have been left uninspired. I think she is one of God’s special people who radiates light and brings warmth to others. I love the mountains and nature and I always want to be on the go, out there on the trail… she loves the mountains and nature, but she’d rather enjoy the view from her terrace where she also grows her flowers. She is alive in the fullest sense of the word and I am learning… we couldn’t be more different and yet we are so alike.
february 2012 Volume 8 | Issue 5
beauty Beauty Tips 22 Lux 10 skin-care resolutions to make makeup tips 24 Lakme Makeup colours for 2012 Beauty Q & A with Dolly Singh
beauty 25 VOW Lock your age hair expert 26 Sunsilk Goodbye dull, rough hair! women 30 Innerview The Valiant! Charimaya Tamang
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Woman to Watch Yo mann ta mero Nepali ho!
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Love Thyself
T h e p o w e r t o c r eate c h a n g e
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B r e a k u p - p r o o f your
health, fitness 54 & nutrition Feature 52 Health Preventing prolapse 54 Keeping your uterus in place
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career & finance & Lovely 36 Fair Career Guidance Internship, volunteering & community participation... Your way to personality development
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Career Q & A with Dr Niti Rana
regulars 9
The way I see it
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Editor’s Pick
15 Let’s Talk 16 My Cup of Tea
The best advice I have received
28 Hold My Hand 33 Child care
End your child's homework hassle!
34 Relationship
Soothing that heartache!
50 tête-à-tête
It's time for indoor cycling. Let us rage on!
56 Animal Anecdotes Pet a cat Pet Q & A with Dr Saroj Yadav
Mental Health Q&A with Dr Sharad Man Tamrakar
Medical Q & A with Dr Bharat Rawat Dr Neil Pande Dr Ruchi Saxena Dhakal
Exercise Q & A with Sandesh
68 Star signs
Breakup-proof your love
entertainment 20 I spy Quiz & Polls 58 VOW How hot is your relationship? 60 VOW Spices Picks 62 Flick Your guide to happening 64 66
movies, music and books Musical Conversation For the love of music... Samyog Rana New Spark
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Date: 22 January Participants Om Khatri, academic council member, Nepal Academy of Fine Arts Raj Kumar DC, bar master, Cocktails and Dreams Shanti Ram Bhattarai, relationship manager – priority banking, Standard Chartered Bank Anupama Aura Gurung, 1st runner-up, Miss Nepal 2011
Advice, like water, takes the form of the vessel it is poured into… All of us have been offered an advice or two, here and there, whether it is needed or not. In the form of guidance, opinion, direction, instruction, recommendation, we have all heard it, worked on it, ignored it, liked it…! While some come imposed, some stay on forever in our minds- maybe even changing the way we live. In this edition of My Cup of Tea, we invited four individuals to share with us the best advice they have received in their life and what difference it has made to their lives. Read on…
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Om Khatri Born in Baglung, I came to Kathmandu after completing the SLC exams. As I had a deep interest in drawing since I was barely six years old, I wanted to pursue my studies in Art at the Lalit Kala Campus. I was all set to study art, but when I came here and learned that it would take my full time, I was compelled to think. I had come with plans to study while also working to earn money to meet my expenses, but if I studied in Lalit Kala, I would have had to devote all my time to studies, and that wasn’t feasible. At the same time, one of my uncles in Kathmandu advised me to take up English and Mathematics at the Saraswoti Campus so that after the completion of my studies I could go back to my village and start teaching My advice there. Of course in my heart I had this to the readers: pain at not being able to pursue my real If you want to dream of becoming an artist. One day, I was passing Bhotahiti when I felt this realise your intense urge to go inside the campus. dream, believe With the help of a few friends, I went in yourself and in to a class on clay-moulding. I tried my your dream and hands too. It so happened that the lips I start working had moulded the clay into received much towards appreciation from the teachers there. When achieving it. it was discovered later that I was actually not Nothing will a student there, one of the teachers advised me stop you then. to join the college. “I can see the potential in you,” he told me. So I joined Lalit Kala Campus, and that advice from my teacher was a turning point in my life. I wouldn't have been what I am today otherwise. To have one's hobby as a career is a great thing, and over the years, being an artist has been my identity.
Raj Kumar DC
In the many stages of life that I have come through, I have received a cluster of advice from different people. Some suggestions were good, some were bad – both in my personal and professional life. But the most defining advice I always remember and that completely changed the course of my life was from Netra Nath Bhattarai who advised me to get into the hospitality sector, taking my personality and sociable nature into consideration. I came from Science and Sociology background, and I was pretty doubtful about it. But I decided to take the risk although I had no formal training or experience in this particular field, focusing on beverages. I worked for eight years at the Hotel Manasalu as the bar manager. I learnt by doing, and eventually I was able to work really well and help in the business development of the hotel. In the meantime, lots of people helped me and gave me ideas as to how I could improve professionally. I would especially like My advice to the to mention Khem readers: Nothing is Lakai ji, who has played a key role impossible. in establishing me in this sector. There were challenges, but I have learnt that nothing comes easy. You must be dedicated, confident, passionate and honest towards the work you do and sooner or later, you will be successful.
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Shanti Ram Bhattarai
When I was a child, my father told me, "Jindagima agadi badhnu chha bhane, siyoko tuppama hidnu parchha." I wouldn't say it's an advice, but more of a statement. Normally, when a child is advised to do something or asked not to do something, they tend to do the opposite. But this particular statement was positioned in a way that neither did it ask me to do something nor did it forbid me from doing anything. I was too small to understand it then, but now I realise that I was left with an option and a strong motivating message… he wanted me to do what is right without anyone telling me what to do or what not to do. The statement could also mean My advice to that life is not as easy as it the readers: might look. Every step we Be honest and take, we have to come across never shy away obstacles. Success only comes from accepting when one walks over the spikes challenges life time and again – be it on the sets for you. Hard personal or the professional front. work is the key to Over a period of time since I lost success. my father when I was just in the 10th standard, I have been trying to understand this statement by him from different perspectives and relate my life accordingly. From the personal front, losing him at that age with not much support behind, circumstances itself started teaching me how unexpected life could be. I was left with two options – either lead a normal village life where I was born and do what normally a villager does, like farming, and be happy with that, or take the incident as the reason to become even stronger and move on. And trust me, moving on without much support and proper guidance wasn't a cake walk. Likewise, on the professional front, once we choose to come out on the battle field in today's age of cutthroat competition, leading a normal life at times is next to impossible. The moment we feel we have reached a certain point and it's okay to relax, others will take advantage of it. Everyday is a challenge, and you have to stay on your toes all the time. The world is very dynamic and uncertain and we never know how or where we will be next. So from all perspectives, I have now realised that the statement of my dad is actually very inspiring and will always remind me to have a never-say-no attitude.
Anupama Aura Gurung
Take failures as learning experiences as they are the recipe to success. – Adam Khoo. I heard this during our motivational talk in Geylang Secondary School back in Singapore. At My advice to the that time, we were just done with our O levels readers: Accept preliminary and finals were drawing close. For those failure… of us who had not done that well and wanted to everyone fails excel, these words were etched on our minds! Till at something. date this phrase never fails to spur me on. As kids, But never we were brought up to believe that failing is bad. But I am thankful for that one advice which changed accept not my perspective on failing. It inspires me to go on and trying. embrace challenges without any fear. Text» Poonam Maharjan, Evelyn & Malvika Photo» Nibendra Pradhananga
I spy
heart 2 heart
Kailash Sirohiya, PM Dr Baburam Bhattarai and Hisila Yami
purely bizness whazzup?
Keep the flag flying high Siddhant Pande and Suraj Vaidya
Sher Bahadur Deuba, Pushpa Kamal Dahal
guess who's feeling lucky
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Apa Sherpa
all for a cause Nirnaya Shrestha
Nima Rumba
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art beat
let's talk
Madan Krishna Shrestha and Ragini Upadhaya
Kunda Dixit and Susan Grace
one for the camera... two for the road
freakonomics all around
PC Lohani Srijana Joshi, Kishore Maharjan and Nalina Chitrakar
can we walk the talk?
tring tring...
Madan Lamsal Anil Shah and Scott H Delisi
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skin-care
resolutions to make
Even the most beauty-wise woman occasionally sleeps in her makeup, skimps on sunscreen, skips the annual appointment with a skin doctor or doesn’t mind using nails to tear open boxes… so we have come up with a few resolutions for you to make for your best skintentions! Moisturise after showering
Warm shower strips skin of oils. So keep a body lotion right in the shower – seeing it will remind you to apply it when your skin is damp, within 10 minutes of turning off the water. If you wait, your skin will start losing water vapour. Choose a body lotion with a flip top; pump bottles allow water in, and that can lead to bacteria.
Wear sunscreen every day
Doctors have long advised wearing sunscreen daily (at least SPF 30) and
reapplying it often. The challenge is finding a cream that offers enough protection and doesn’t feel like a lead blanket. Look for ‘non-greasy’ or ‘sheer’ on the label.
Take off your makeup at night
Makeup can mix with skin oils and dirt to cause zits. Cosmetics can also trap skindamaging free radicals that float in the air (bus exhaust, for instance) against your skin. So as soon as you get home, wash your face with clean water. One easy fix would be to keep face wipes handy on the bedside table. Tear open, swab, slumber.
Clean up after the gym
Don’t let your skin take a hit just because you’ve discovered an amazing new workout. Always wear moisture-wicking clothes to the gym, and if they don’t have a shower, don’t forget to pack wet tissues. Swipe the face, back and chest right after class, and change into a clean, dry t-shirt. Back home, hop into the shower ASAP.
Book a yearly mole check
Having a dermatologist survey your body once a year is really crucial. For convenience, group your annual appointments (physical, mammogram, dermatologist) at a time of your convenience. And before you leave the doctor’s office, make an appointment for the next year, put a reminder in your phone, and ask the receptionist to follow up.
Exfoliate regularly
A baby’s skin replenishes itself completely every 14 days, but by age 30, an adult takes a full 28 days to replenish. With all that extra time, skin cells have a chance to dry out and lose lustre, unless you jump-start the renewal process by exfoliating. Use a gentle face scrub once or twice a week, and a chemical exfoliant on two other days of the week.
Have mercy on your hands
To keep both nails and hands from dehydrating, forgo plain antibacterial gels and instead choose moisturising versions of the same, and do the same with soaps. Also apply hand cream with SPF – like the face, hands are exposed and need coverage. At night, rub your hands with a rich alpha hydroxyl acid lotion (it’s too thick for the day!). If the skin is chapped, wear cotton gloves overnight after application.
Clean your makeup brushes
When good makeup brushes go bad, makeup and skin oils build up, creating a breeding ground for bacteria that can cause irritation. So, wash your tools monthly with a liquid hand soap or baby shampoo and lukewarm water (hot water can cause bristles to fall out), then rinse well, squeeze out the excess water, reshape, and allow the brushes to dry thoroughly.
Keep your hands off your face It’s tempting to squeeze a pimple, but just the act of touching your face with your fingers brings pore-clogging oil and dirt to the skin. How not to pop? Get rid of magnifying mirrors, put “don’t touch” post-it notes around the house, and grab a squeeze toy to keep your hands busy when you are not doing other things.
Stick with the programme
Waiting for a new skin treatment to show results can take time. A good antiaging cream can take six weeks, and the same goes for skin lighteners and acne products. But if nothing has changed by week six, the product will never work for you.
Makeup colours for 2012 Here is the ultimate list of colours you got to try in 2012 for your eyes, cheeks, lips and nails. Have fun.
Pearly white eye shadow
White brightens your eyes, so they look larger. And hence, Lakmé made moondust eye shadow for those of you who want their eyes to look bigger than they are. Use it on the lids, the inner corners of the eye, and if you are feeling adventurous, the cheekbones for a subtle highlight. However, if you have dark skin, white can look ashy, go for shimmering champagne instead.
Petal pink and apricot blushes
Sure, you have already tried a pink blush, but this year you might want to wear it differently. Layer it over apricot to approximate the way your skin actually looks when it is flushed. You can use a cream or powder formula but the real trick is to apply the peach first, followed by pink, on the apples of your cheeks. It gives you a healthy colour. Try Lakmé absolute range of chromatic blushes.
Silvery gray eye shadow
On the lids, silvery gray looks sophisticated and more understated than full-on gold. So try this new metallic hue and have fun.
Orange on the eyes, lips and nails
You will love this bright, fruity colour for makeup and nails. Although the orange eyeliner you have seen supermodels adorn on the international runways looked cool, the shade looks best and is a lot easier to pull off on lips or nails. There is Lakmé enrich 9 to 5 lip colour to the quartet eye shadows.
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Glossy brown shadow
Brown eye shadow is a makeup-bag staple, but now makeup artists are adding a touch of shine. Lightly swipe a rich moisturiser, such as Lakmé moisturiser over copper shadow. Or just try a shade that is already got a hint of gloss, like Lakmé’s eye shadow quartet in gypsy’s collection or Lakmé eye shadow quad peacock.
Violet nails
We are tickled pink over the shades of purple that popped up on nails at Prabal Gurung. Violet looks best on short, wellgroomed nails. Try Lakmé fast & fabulous, or their gypsy nail paint.
Cherry red lipstick
Forget matte and deep red lips. The scarlet of the moment is shiny and bright. Soften the colour along your lip line using your fingers or a clean cotton swab. It makes the bold shade more wearable. Check out Lakmé lip love lipstick shades.
Peachy pink lip gloss
This year’s take on the nude lip is a pink-y peach shade that flatters all skin tones. Add the fruity look with Lakmé fruit shock lip gloss. Tap peach gloss over the centre of soft pink lips for a glow, or try one of Lakmé’s assorted flavoured lip glosses example bubblegum.
Creamy brown liner
For a whole new twist on the smoky eye, just add chocolate brown liner. Rim the inside of your lower lash line with your favourite black pencil, then draw a smudgy chocolate brown line along your upper and lower lash lines. Look for Lakmé 9 to 5 defining eye liner.
Q&A BEAUTY
I am 20 years old and I have dark skin. I work as a marketing executive in a reputed company, and thus I have to do a lot of field visits. I use sunscreen lotion with SPF 30 and still my face and arms get discoloured. Is there something I can do at home to remove tan and bring back my skin to normal colour? – Payal Tamrakar Sun tan is one of the major problems with darker skins. The affected areas are mainly face, neck and arms. I would suggest you to use a moisturiser which has around 40 or higher SPF. Also to quicken the process of removing the extra tan lines, exfoliate regularly. It gradually removes your dead cells making your skin’s original tone come out sooner than you think. Some natural home remedies would be to squeeze some tomato juice and apply it directly onto the tanned area and leave it for 15 minutes. This can be done in alternate days. I hope this will help you. For more information, please do not hesitate to contact me at my salon. Facials available here can rejuvenate your skin wonderfully.
DOLLY SINGH, proprietor of Dolly’s Exquisite Creations, will answer all your beauty and makeup queries. Email your questions to editorial@vow.com.np Contact her at 4445080.
beauty
Nisha Sharma tries the
Lock your
AGE
facial
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Facial time: 30-45 minutes, depending on skin type Makeup on Nisha: From BareMinerals and Sephora Jewellery Courtesy: Bentley, Durbar Marg, Tel: 4220006 (All products available at Dolly's Exquisite Creations and to book your facial appointment, call 4445080.)
Do you worry about getting wrinkles and fine lines, or is your face ageing quicker than you anticipated? Put all your worries aside, for Dolly Singh, beauty expert and proprietor at Dolly's Exquisite Creations has introduced in Nepal the very new and effective AGELOCK Facials! Lock your age with this amazing facial which promises you young, glowing skin that feels cared for. Picturesque Nisha Sharma, theatre artist, after having the AGELOCK facial says, "I am a theatre artist and my face is exposed to heavy makeup which in the end badly damages my skin. My mother always reprimands me for not taking good care of my skin. After getting the AGELOCK facial, my skin feels softer, smoother and younger. Believe me, I can feel my face radiating now!"
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Goodbye dull, rough hair! Frustrated with hair that feels rough and looks dead, you might have tried every shampoo and other products that promise hair heaven only to be met with the same dry, rough hair. The market has no dearth of hair products that promise miracles within weeks but as we all know, everything is not as it seems. So stop with the endless new purchases, and start by eating healthy and treating your hair to much needed TLC. Remember the age old adage, as you sow, so shall you reap. If you take good care of your hair, your hair will feel loved and start looking beautiful.
Food foundation for healthy hair
Hair, like skin, is a reflection of what you eat. So if you eat healthy, you will naturally have healthy hair. Below is a list of foods you must include in your diet.
Salmon: The importance of fish in
our diet is widely known. But did you know salmon should be on your fish list? According to many dieticians, it’s hard to beat salmon. Not only is it high in omega-3 fatty acids which support healthy scalp, salmon also contains high-quality protein and is also filled with Vitamin B-12 and iron.
Dark green vegetables: Broccoli is an excellent source of vitamins A and C, which your body needs to produce sebum. The oily substance, secreted by your hair follicles, is the body’s natural hair conditioner. Beans: Kidney beans are not only tasty but now you know that they are good for hair too. Lentils are another important protein, iron and zinc source to promote hair growth. Nuts: Walnuts contain alpha-linolenic
acid, an omega-3 fatty acid that help condition your hair. Along with walnuts, cashews and almonds are extremely good sources of zinc. Zinc deficiency can lead to hair loss, so munch on these nuts.
Eggs: Eggs are one of the best protein sources you can find and also contain vitamin B-12.
Carrots: As a
source of Vitamin A, carrots are inevitable.
Pumpkin seeds: They’re rich in
zinc, which contributes to the production of your hair’s natural oils.
Oranges: Great for hair growth, oranges are packed with Vitamin C which produces collagen.
Healthy mind
Just like our skin and mental health, hair can be damaged by stress. Make sure to take out time for yourself whenever you find that you are engrossed with work.
TLC
You need to take good care of your hair and pamper it a lot. Try and religiously follow these simple tips at home. • Hot oil massage and treatments have proven to be very effective to make hair soft and silky. Take two teaspoons of extra virgin olive oil and heat it. Apply this hot oil to washed hair and then leave it for 10 minutes with either a towel wrapped or with a shower cap on. Rinse gently. • Take a cup of water along with a cup of white vinegar and mix well. Just as you finish shampooing, use this mixture to wash your hair at the very end. It adds shine to the hair while making it soft. • Mix castor oil and water equally. Wash your hair using this mixture and massage the hair thoroughly while washing. Rinse with lukewarm water. • Mix two egg yolks with a cup of water and add a tablespoon of olive oil. Massage your hair and then cover with a shower cap for 15 minutes. Rinse using lukewarm water.
Tips to shiny hair: Oil: Your hair oil should contain Vitamin E. It helps you reach your goal of shiny hair faster. Egg: The best home remedy for shiny
hair, mix eggs and mayonnaise and apply it to your hair and leave it on for 15 to 20 minutes. Wash thoroughly.
Beer: Beer is also known to add shine to the hair. Pour some beer on your hair and massage it in. Rinse with cool water.
Avoid
• Smoking • Too much caffeine
hold my hand Shalini Wadhwa
I feel inadequate and left behind
Hi. I am a 26 year old woman and have studied up to the intermediate level. Having studied in a convent, my English language skills are very good. Due to various reasons, mainly financial, I was unable to complete my studies and being good at English I was able to get work easily. But now I am very dissatisfied because all my classmates and friends who used to envy that I was earning at a young age have moved ahead of me. They are in better positions because of their education and I feel bitter and angry that I am left behind. I work in a secretarial position in a very well known company and earn well too, but now during get togethers with cousins and friends I feel ashamed of what I do. I know I am not being logical in my thoughts but I am very frustrated. I am also not eager to resume college as I feel older and a misfit among the college crowd. My other problem is that I have been in a relationship for the past two years. The guy I am seeing is working in a bank and he has many female friends who are well educated, smart and beautiful. Sometimes we all go out together but I feel left out. I often wonder why he is with me when he could be with any of those girls. Our relationship is suffering a lot because I often
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fight with him unnecessarily and although he is very patient with me, I can see that he wants to be around me less and less. Please help me and please do not reveal my name. –Name withheld You are not alone… everyone has problems in life – some big, some small – but we also have the gift of choice and the ability to change things. You are stuck in a place in your mind from where you do not want to come out… we can feel a lot of anger, resentment and dissatisfaction for what has happened to you, but you fail to see that you did real well in the face of a huge challenge. You actually contributed to your family by sacrificing your education and taking up work instead. That is not something you should be ashamed of or regret, you did what you had to and you did well. Yes, your peers have moved ahead in terms of education and career, but why should you compare your work and your life with them. You still have a choice – you can study again. If you are uncomfortable joining regular college, maybe you can consider taking an online degree or appearing as a private student. There must be shor t term professional courses available to enhance your career direction – explore these. Most
Charu Chadha
impor tantly, do find strength in the actual meaning of ‘dignity of labour’… no work is small or big, and if you actually believe that you become bigger or smaller by what you do, then you think incorrectly. Yes, we must consistently challenge ourselves and develop and grow but not at the cost of our core… that must stay strong and true to itself whatever you may do for a living. As for your personal relationship, again you need to work on your self esteem. You man loves you irrespective of your career, degree or status… Don’t ruin what you share with the person you love out of insecurity. Appreciate him and build your relationship on the strong foundations of trust, love and commitment. He would not introduce you to his friends if he were ashamed of you… know that and work towards becoming a stronger and more confident human being. All the best.
Should I follow my heart or head?
I am a 36 year old woman, unmarried and was in a long relationship but it did not work out. I have a great career, am financially independent, own a house and largely have everything a woman of today wants. I recently met a guy
at a social event and although I never get too close with strangers, something drew me to him and we ended up spending the entire evening together and exchanged numbers. Soon we were seeing each other almost every day on some pretext or the other. He is originally from Darjeeling and based here for some years trying to make a career in the marketing field. Four months ago, I suggested that he move in with me and things were going just fine when he had to go home due to some problem. He told me that he lives with his old mother and a cousin sister who looks after her. We had even planned to go to Darjeeling this summer so that I cou`ld meet her. Meanwhile, I met a friend from years ago and invited her to dinner. When she saw his photograph and asked about our relationship, she grew uncomfortable but eventually told me that he is a married man with a wife and child back home. I confronted him with what I learnt… one part of me wanting him to deny it and tell me that it is all a lie… but he hung his head and started crying saying that he loves me and he was afraid that he would lose me if he told me the truth. I threw him out of the house and haven’t seen him or taken his calls for weeks, but I am miserable and unhappy without him. I love him too and do not know if I can live without him. I have no family as my parents died in an accident years ago. I have money but that brings so little happiness. I am in a dilemma. When my previous relationship ended, it did not feel this way. Should I follow my heart or my head? Please help. –Name withheld Life sometimes puts us into ver y painful situations when our thoughts and judgment are also challenged. While life may seem unfair and full of despair, you can never lose hope and the belief in your ability to overcome this situation. You have already taken a step in the right direction by severing all ties with him. Your first gut reaction is most often the correct one – stay with it. It will hurt for some time, but you will heal. The basis of any relationship cannot start with lies… he lied to you… whatever he may say today. Plus his being ready to forego a marriage and a child with no real reason says very little about him as a person. There is no dilemma – don’t create one. Simply accept what was and move on. Take care of yourself. Send your questions to editorial@vow.com.np
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The valiant!
Charimaya Tamang, 2011 Hero Acting to End Modern-Day Slavery
even months after Anuradha Koirala made the nation proud by winning the CNN Hero of the Year 2010 award, Nepalis all over the world got yet another reason to rejoice when Charimaya Tamang was among the 10 people from all over the world to be honoured with the 2011 Hero Acting to End Modern-Day Slavery Award by the US Secretary of State, Hillary Rodham Clinton. The photo of Charimaya draped in a blue saree with flower prints, embracing Hillary as she received the award, made it to the front page of almost every Nepali newspaper last June. On my way to meeting Charimaya, the same image keeps on playing in my mind. Besides the much acclaimed recognition and the fact that she was once been sold into a brothel in India from where she was rescued 22 months later, I hardly know anything more about her, and I am a little 30 | VOW | February 2012
apprehensive about this particular interview, because no matter how much I try not to remind her of her piercing past, my very presence there as an interviewer would make her mentally ‘relive’ her days in the brothel. A ‘credible’, first-hand information gathered by making her narrate her tormenting yesteryears is definitely not my intention. As we meet and exchange greetings, she puts me at ease with her warm smile, and even as we haven’t talked much yet, I can see in her hazel eyes the confidence with which she has overcome challenges. While she tells me about how busy she’s become and how maddening it can be at times to handle the media attention, I take note of how radiant her persona is. Humble but buoyant, I ask her if she’s okay telling her story to me. She surprises me by saying, “Of course! My story has to be told… people should know about it. My story should teach those involved in the trafficking business and flesh trade that they could batter my body, but my soul remains intact and with each breath I take, I am ready to fight against them with all the confidence I have.” I turn the recorder on, and listen intently as she narrates her story…
Excerpts… “I wanted to become a teacher as a child…”
Born in Sindhupalchowk as the youngest among four siblings, Charimaya reminisces her childhood in fond light even as she is unsure about her exact date of birth. “I am around 34-35 years old now,” she guesses. Her oldest brother being already married by the time she was born, it was her sister-in-law who brought her up. A poor family, they depended on agriculture and their father’s wage as a labourer for livelihood. However, much to the credit of her brother whose own longing for a formal education remained unmet, he had made arrangements for a teacher who would come in the mornings and evenings to tutor Charimaya. “I was the first girl-child in my VDC to receive formal education. I couldn’t make it to the school because I had to look after my nephew and niece while my family toiled in the field, but I would take exams and continue learning,” she recalls, but soon after she’d passed her primary level education, her hope for further studies took backseat because there was no secondary level school in her village. “The villagers already called me uttauli as I was the only girl to go to school, so if I went all the way to another village for further education, it would really be difficult for me and my family. Plus, my family couldn’t afford the school expenses anyways,” Charimaya says. But that didn’t stop her from learning further… she would borrow books from friends who could make it to the secondary level school and study all by herself. “I could very well understand all subjects but Maths and English was tough,” she exclaims. Eager to learn new things and extremely in love with r e a d i n g a n d w r i t i n g, C h a r i m a y a
tells me she wanted to become a teacher someday, until her father passed away and their family sank deeper into poverty, and things worsened.
“I was sold at the age of 16!”
Things weren’t any better when she and her group of friends were being frequently eve-teased by a gang of boys (one from her own VDC and others from the neighbouring villages). Fearless by nature, Charimaya never backed out from expressing her aversion towards such remarks. “One day, I was on the way alone… it was in the middle of a jungle. The boys were there but I was least scared. First they tried to coax me into trusting them with enticing job offers in the city. When nothing convinced me, they even threatened to kill me, but when that didn’t work either, they forcibly made me eat something after which I totally b l a n ke d o u t , ” s h e r e c a l l s . W h e n Charimaya opened her eyes, she was on a train. After reading signboards here and there, she figured it was Gorakhpur. The men were there, and she was very weak. She remembers pleading with them to take her back home until she blacked out again. “When I regained consciousness, I was already in Andheri, Mumbai. I was crying and begging them to take me home. They told me that we would have to stay the night there and then return home the next morning. Then they sent me with a woman saying that it was unsafe for men and women to travel together. The woman took me in a cab, and I could see those men in another cab behind us. I could sense something, but I was forcing myself to hope against hope. After sometime, I didn’t see the cab behind us… the woman with me was a Gharwali and once into the brothel,
she told me that the men had already sold me,” she recollects, with a sudden gloom taking over her otherwise bright face. I didn’t ask her what happened inside the brothel. Perhaps the intense despair on her face and her shaky voice while narrating her story said it all. She did tell me how her suicide attempt the very next day failed when the noose of her shawl couldn’t bear the weight of her body. “I guess when I fell down on the floor, still alive, I realised that I was meant to live. Life in the brothel was worse than hell, but somewhere inside, I knew that I would be free and ‘alive’ one day,” Charimaya asserts as she scribbles vague lines on her little notebook and stares back into her past, defiantly.
Free at last…
22 months later, on 6 February, 1996, the Mumbai police raided the brothels and rescued girls under 18. Over 500 girls were rescued out of which 200 were Nepalis. Charimaya was one of them. “Within three months, the rest of the rescued girls except us Nepalis, were restored to their respective countries. We were left in despair because Nepal government refused to recognise us… we didn’t have citizenship certificates, and we were labeled bigreko aaimai, AIDSko poko, etc… we had no option but to stay back in the Indian government’s shelter homes – some of us in Mumbai and others in Pune – which was more like prison,” she bitterly recollects. Finally, seven women organisations of Nepal lobbied to bring them back and in July 1996, Charimaya along with the rest of the rescued girls were back in Nepal. But soon, they found themselves outcast from their own community! subscribe online: www.vownepal.com | VOW | 31
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“It was impossible for us to go back to our families because society would not accept us. We would be treated like untouchables. My family was happy to see me but I didn’t want to add problems to their already problematic life by living with them. Plus, I had a bigger aim in life – I wanted to work against trafficking, tell my story to the people and do something for the common welfare of thousands of women trafficked like me. That could never be done by staying back in my village. I had to come to Kathmandu to reach out to a wider group of people,” she explains. In the meantime, six months after returning to Nepal, Charimaya reported her case to the police in her village and recognised the men who abducted and then sold her. She says she boldly answered the queries made to her by the police in the public; right to privacy was a thing totally unknown to her then. “They would ask me questions which would be too embarrassing to answer. I requested them to only ask me questions to which I could answer without once again having to mentally go through the torture I faced for 22 months in my teenage,” she says. However, Charimaya applauds the work of the policemen, who despite getting many warnings from the criminal gangs to dismiss the case, searched for them incessantly and finally arrested them. The case was taken to the court, and almost a year later, they were sentenced to 10 years of imprisonment. "The punishment isn't anything compared to what we trafficked women have to go through in the brothels. I can only hope that they will realise their sins while serving their sentence and won't indulge in crime ever again," she sighs.
Establishment of Shakti Samuha
Charimaya's vision of raising her voice against trafficking and raising awareness amongst women by involving trafficked victims themselves came to materialise with the formation of an informal group named Shakti Samuha in late 1996. Later, they decided to give it an organisational form, and overcoming many hurdles, finally registered it in 2000. It is the first organisation in Nepal to be established and run by survivors of trafficking. The mission of the organisation, as stated on its website, reads, "Trafficking survivors and women and children at risk of trafficking will be organised, empowered and aware, which will enable them to contribute to campaigns against human trafficking, protecting women and girls living in vulnerable conditions." Charimaya says she would like to see the work of Shakti Samuha expand to remote districts of Nepal and play a key role 32 | VOW | February 2012
in eradicating trafficking, as well as to help restore confidence in the survivors. "Not all of us are experts in Shakti Samuha. We learn by doing," she says.
Life is beautiful…
In the same year that Shakti Samuha was established, Charimaya also found a man who not only accepted her wholeheartedly, but also promised to stand by her through life. Despite many doubts in her mind, she decided to give trust a chance and married him. Today, they fight the battle of life together with two daughters, the safety of whom constantly worries her. "I remain busy and can’t give them enough time, so I have put them in their school hostel," she says. About the award that earned her so much recognition, she says, "I was overwhelmed when I was handed over the certificate by Hillary Clinton. She told me I was a wonderful woman and that brought tears to my eyes. But of course, it doesn't belong to just one Charimaya… it belongs all of us Charimayas who've been sold… ripped, humiliated and sabotaged of our dignity and self esteem. I now have added zeal to work ahead." She also claims that she is proud of herself. "I was not scared of anything when I was alone, fighting against the society and government who refused to recognise us. Today I have friends and family and all of you who look up to me with respect. Almost two thirds of people in the society understand what we have gone through. I have a loving family and a supportive husband… what more could I ask from life?"
Future plans
Extremely thankful to Dr Renu Rajbhandari, Dr Meena Poudyal, Sandhya Shrestha, Bhagawati Nepal, Sita Ghimire and everyone who helped her and Shakti Samuha in their initial days, Charimaya wants to continue working with Shakti Samuha as long as she can. She has also been studying Education at the intermediate level at Pashupati Campus. "I am already about 35 years old, and there are so many things yet to learn. But I guess no matter how old you are, some dreams never die," she concludes, saying she still sees herself as a teacher someday. "If not in a proper school, I would love to teach illiterate trafficked victims," she smiles. By» Poonam Maharjan Photos» Sanu Raja Maharjan Photo» Nibendra Pradhananga
child care
END your child’s homework hassle!
No child would want to do homework after spending almost seven to eight hours a day in the classroom.They would rather play with their friends or simply unwind in front of the TV. Because, let's face it: Homework may help your child learn, but it's still a major chore. For many kids, doing homework is their 56th favourite thing to do. In other words, given the choice, they'll avoid it at all costs. Your job, then, is to convince them that, regardless of their personal feelings, homework is important, required, and not a topic open for negotiation.
Here are five tricks to happier homeworking… Foster a "We're-in-this-together" vibe
Do your homework as your child does his. If you have cheques to write or e-mails to respond to, you're role-modeling by just sitting and doing it. Plus, if he needs help, you'll be there.
Let him take the lead
Sometimes, asking your child to explain what he does know about a subject or problem can help him figure it out. Praise your children for doing well. Make praise a habit. When he comes up with something, remark on it, so that your child feels encouraged.
Dangle the carrot
When your child is this close to the answer but it's just not clicking, don’t do your child's work for them. Help them learn how to do it themselves. Or, ideally, you won't give him the answer, but you'll help him reach for it.
Remember your goal
It's not only to help but also to let your kid know that you're there for her. So while you generally want her to work things out for herself, parents should not withhold the answer if frustration is making her hate you and hate the subject and hate the world. Your relationship is much more important.
Consult with their teacher
Don't be afraid to get in touch with the teacher if you and your child don't understand an assignment or if your child is having a great deal of trouble. Almost all parents run into these problems, and teachers are glad to help. Remember, you and their teachers want the same thing – to help your children learn.
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relationship
Soothing that "To become acquainted with oneself is a terrible shock." ~ Carl Jung
Let's take a look at Demi Moore for instance; she filed for her divorce papers in November 2011 and in January 2012, she was admitted in hospital for exhaustion and overall health issues. It's not only her, everyone in a given relationship are bound to face heartache one way or the other. There's divorce, break-ups, a mother loses her child, a sister loses her brother, husband loses his wife… and when any relationship ends, heartbreak and heartache go hand in hand – you will have your confidence shattered, your pride broken and the light at the end of the tunnel too distant to even try to reach… However, the good news is that all eventually gets better. It may take days, weeks, months or years. But all of us handle break-ups or loss of a dear one differently – some of us seemingly pick up and move on very quickly while others tend to wallow in self pity and depression for a very long time. "I was in a live-in relationship with my girlfriend for the past six years. I knew she was the one for me and I was greatly in love with her. I gave her a good life and even accepted her five-year-old son. I never knew she would dump me because she swore to God that she was in love with me too. But she ditched me for another guy who lives abroad. I am physically and mentally devastated. I cannot express how heart-broken I am. And I still love her." Name withheld, 33 "When I was 12 years old, my father died in a car accident. My mother raised me –
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looked after my education and my needs. She meant a world to me but I did not have enough time to convey my gratitude to her. Because of peer pressure I fought with her to send me to the States for my higher studies. During my eight years of stay in the US, I only came back home thrice to see her. She never asked me for anything. She was happy for me and my accomplishments. We didn't communicate much and I didn't have a clue about her illness. When she was in her last stages of cancer, my relatives informed me. I regret for not having spent enough time with her and get to know her. The pain is still there and now I terribly miss her everyday." Name withheld, 28 "We were married for 17 years with two children – a daughter and a son, when my husband passed away all of a sudden. He had been struggling with a heart ailment for more than four years, but his health had witnessed amazing progress since a couple of months before his death. As usual, I left for work and our children left for their schools that day, and when we returned home in the evening (the three of us were together), we found him lying still in the living room. We were crying, rubbing his hands and feet in despair. I knew he had gone, but somewhere inside I felt he would come back to me… he could never see my cry. I couldn't believe he wouldn't be with me then on to share my daily stories with, our children would never be able to enjoy the delicacies he was so good at preparing… I was a widow, and our children wouldn’t have anyone to call 'daddy'. More than anything else, I was really disheartened because of the fact that he didn't have a chance to tell me or
our children anything he might have wanted to tell us before his soul departed. I keep thinking what if I had stayed home that day, what if he had called me if he was not feeling well, what if… I continue to miss him, but I have learned to move on in life. I have two most beautiful gifts from him – our children… and I will live for them." Name withheld, 38 Paradoxically, the quickest way to lessen the heartache is to accept the pain and allow yourself to grieve. Don't try to bury it and act as if the heartache isn't there. It eventually needs to be released. Here are few suggestions that will help: • Write a heartbreak poem/diary and let your feelings go. • Accept the things that you cannot change. • Stop negative thinking. • Nobody is perfect, and try to learn from mistakes that you may have made in your relationships. • While self-soothing yourself, do not involve substance abuse, the abuse of food, or emotional regression.
You can self-sooth
yourself by: • • • • •
Listening to soft music Looking at beautiful art Touching soft fabrics Lighting scented candles Cooking your favourite food Text» Evelyn Moktan
Internship, volunteering & community participation… Your way to personality development! ‘Isn’t volunteering and interning the same?’ some wonder. A few researches on the web world define interns as ‘usually school or university students who work temporarily for an employer or an industry they are interested in working with, in the future’. Some students do an internship as a compulsory part of their curriculum while others choose to do one to gain experience in their respective fields. On the other hand, internships provide employers with cheap or free service, depending on
whether the intern is paid or unpaid. Some interns eventually get employed. While volunteerism, is generally considered an altruistic activity, intended to promote good or improve human quality of life, but people also volunteer for their own skill development, to meet others, to make contacts for possible employment, to have fun, and a variety of other reasons that could be considered self-serving. Now if you have heard of Voluntary Service Overseas (VSO) which is an
Simone Galimberti,
volunteerism expert and senior programme development advisor, CCS Italia
Internship is basically a platform to boost your career, to start putting your feet in the job market, so it is nothing to do with real volunteering. When internships are not paid, people usually call these experiences volunteering. If it is just for your career enhancement and making your CV stronger, then we should call these kinds of experiences internships that could be paid or unpaid, but not volunteering. Volunteering means simply deciding to help that particular cause you believe in. A volunteering experience could be part time, full time or whatever you like, provided that your little help is going to somehow be beneficial to the cause or the target group. Example, you decide to volunteer for a not-for-profit agency asking if you can do something to help that cause. Doing something could mean many different things – organise a fund raising campaign, a mobilisation/awareness group in your community or neighbourhood or go to their office on a weekly basis to pick up calls from supporters or do any other work that could help the cause. The nature and level of work could depend on your skills, time available and capacity of the not-for-profit to engage volunteers. And obviously volunteerism also offers you a platform, an exposure to learn something that could also boost your professional skill or career. One should volunteer simply because it makes you feel good, that’s it! It is not really about the 36 | VOW | February 2012
independent international development organisation that works around the globe, you will know that this organisation works through volunteers to fight poverty in developing countries. One of the VSO websites states, “If every person you train overseas trains 10 more local professionals, just imagine the difference you could make.” So what would you choose to do next? Here, Simone who is very passionate about the idea of volunteering clarifies more about volunteering and internships.
volunteer changing the world but rather “receiving” something back from this experience. I love volunteerism.
andu on volunteerism ‘Kathm Last year the first course ed by nch lau s wa ’ rism tee un of Vol zens Declaration for Promotion citi of tion create a new genera s CCS Italia with an aim to ilie fam ir the , ies nit e their commu who are ready to improv ocating adv is ly Ita S CC rk. wo social through volunteerism and iety. volunteering based soc a of nt me ish abl est for the About community participation, ask any young Nepali woman who has applied in the past for the most coveted annual event, the VOW Top Ten College Women’s Competition, and they will tell you if community participation is encouraged or taken into significant consideration. Our data says that many of these women do participate in the community simply by committing their time and energy for the benefit of the community which in turn helps them in the overall development of their own personality. This is what Kanika Agrawal, a former VOW Top 10 Winner has to say:
Kanika Agrawal (Basawatia), Consultant,
IFC, World Group Bank I have many a times participated in community activities, both formally and informally, because I believe that
a life lived only for oneself is not worth living. Even though my contribution to the community may only be in small measures, I have been regularly involved in activities like blood donations, visiting orphanages and oldage homes so that I can be one reason for the children and elderly to smile, voluntary participation in my local area as well as Marwadi community activities like hosting cultural events, counselling children from my neighbourhood about their career and personality development, as well as helping the underpriviledged people of the society by spending one tenth of my earnings on them every month in some way or the other. Community participation reciprocates because I strongly believe that what goes around, comes around. It has helped me mould myself into a better person each passing day, not only making me more focused and flexible, but also by increasing my understanding of the society and my responsibilities towards its members. By» Samridhi Rana
Q&A CAREER I have been working in a private organisation for a year. While I was interviewed, I was told I would be on probation for six months and was given a designation one step below than what I had applied for. But it’s been a year and I have still not been promoted. I love my workplace and my colleagues too. But I feel demotivated and want to quit my job now. Do you think I will be doing the right thing? – Pun Lama Quitting will not solve your problem because running away is never the answer! If something is bothering you, you should certainly seek clarification. You are only one year old in this organisation and you claim to love your workplace and colleagues. So things couldn’t be that bad right? I suggest you discuss matters regarding your probation and promotion with your boss or management and try to understand their point of view. You are also well aware of the pathetic situation our country is in at the moment. Nothing seems to be working and organisations are currently facing all kinds of problems making it difficult for them to fulfil their goals or stick to all their commitments. I guess you should exercise a bit of patience like the rest of us, remain positive and energetic and I am sure things will get better for you. Do not lose hope just yet!
Dr Niti Rana, professional
trainer and motivator and director of The New Era Career Development Institute, will answer all your career queries. Email your questions to editorial@vow.com.np Contact her at 4471957.
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Love Thyself!!
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Gautam Buddha Everyone needs a little “me” time. Women, especially, need that time to pamper themselves a little after a busy day. Men may work from sun to sun, but a woman’s work is never done. This saying certainly stands true but a little time set aside for yourself isn’t too much to ask. It doesn’t matter if it is late evening, night time, or early morning, take a little time to pamper yourself. In this season of love, fall in love with your self…just a little at a time.
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The art of
pampering the self Few women tell us why it is important to love oneself, and how they pamper themselves‌
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managing director, Oracare Periodontal Cli nic In my opinion, a person in love with oneself will have a healthier life as she would exercise, eat healthy, stay away fro m alcohol and smoking. The more you love yourse lf, the more you will be able to love others, as it is the ultimate key to happiness. When I fee l overworked, I pamper myself with a nice relaxin g massage. It helps to ease both physical and me ntal stress. I do go on a shopping spree at times for a self treat! Buying myself gifts gives me a pow erful feel good factor.
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be accepted by others It is simply not possible to ts him/herself. One of my until and unless one respec take inspiration, but n’t friends always told me ‘Do ’t lf’. I still follow that. I don be the inspiration yourse d too ers und e hav I e becaus want to be someone else e else, then pretty soon I eon som be to nt wa I if that It’s my belief that every will be losing my identity. to be d, it’s almost impossible individual is one of a kin me be to py hap am I but fect alike. I might not be per by self my n way. I pamper and I am perfect in my ow es to shoes I cannot resist com it en wh shopping, and er e across a pair I love, I nev it. If I ever happen to com compromise.
Monika Dhakhwa,
homemaker It is important because wh en you really love yourself, you will be hap py from deep within, which then enables you to bring out the best that is there in you. Medit ation and massage are ways through which I pam per myself.
Prabha Gautam,
hydropower engineer
In this world full of respon sibilities, we tend to forget our res ponsibility to the self. Am I doing what I lov e to do? Am I at peace? Am I being respon sible to myself and my needs? Every chance I get I crank up my stereo, get lost in Abida Parveen’s melodies and sing. When I sing, I feel alive. I feel like I am reborn. Singing for myself is the best way I pamper myself. I also enjoy being out under the warm Kathmand u sun and just read a book. Also, after a long tiring day there is nothing like dippin g in a hot bath and getting some privacy. I find the process very meditative.
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If you have 15 minutes... Make yourself a cup of tea and watch funny clips on YouTube or flip through your favourite photo album. Or Put on your favourite Alicia Keys or John Mayer CD, dim the lights, and pour yourself a glass of wine.
If you have 30 minutes... Hole up in your bedroom with a cosy throw and a bowl of ice cream to watch the most mindnumbing show you can find.
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media communication ChangeFusion Nepal love rself because if you do not It is important to love you nce, He . you e lov someone else to to love yourself you cannot expect ers oth ect exp and to love others de, the love yourself if you want ma e life I have or I seem to hav . So, you. The irony is, with the me for ury lux things have become a res asu most basic and simplest ple lty gui ple sim to treating myself rs pampering myself means hou py ng to places which has hap like sleeping like a log, goi ing in the sun, sitt t jus or ge ssa ma a g tin (makes me happier), get rain or sun with den or just a walk in the enjoying coffee in the gar of course weather and my mood) and friends (depending on the eating great food!
Or Call that old friend you recently found on Facebook and talk for 30 minutes about the old days without once mentioning the words “work” and “career”.
If you have an hour... Go to the gym. Spend 20 minutes walking on the treadmill and 40 reading magazines in the steam room. Or Take a car ride, music blasting, along pretty roads near your home. Stop somewhere scenic and just sit for awhile before heading back.
If you have three hours...
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Pack some food and go to a grassy spot with a friend. Enjoy each other’s company and relax. Or ©VOW photofile/Nibendra Pradhananga
It is extremely important to love oneself because onl y then can you love others. I am con fident of what I am and what I wa nt to be and hence, I love myself because it makes me feel comple te. Loving oneself also gives confide nce to the personality. For instan ce, I love to workout and the se days I am addicted to Zumba. Exe rcising is a way to pamper myself as I am not a very beauty-salon kind of a person. On Saturdays, I go for long hikes and afterwards visit a spa to rejuvenate myself.
Find the cosiest corner at a coffee shop, order a latte, and read half a novel without interruption.
HEALTH of the brain and the central nervous system is dependent on a non-disturbance and tension free mechanism of the craniosacral system. If the cranial bones cannot adapt to the permanently changing movement from the membranes or the membrane itself is contracted, it could be that you will find different kinds of physical and psychological symptoms like migraine, chronic head and back pain, sinusitis, depression, autism and restlessness, to name a few.
Alternative and complementary therapies
Why visit a craniosacral healer?
Why would you stop living, looking or feeling your best? ‘Life is a journey’
A CS session will relax you because it releases the blockages inside you. So if you feel relaxed from deep within, you are more enthusiastic, more energetic and you look and feel younger. And though relaxing a client’s mind and body is not the main part of craniosacral therapy, it is still a significant part. The core of the work is to be more connected with yourself, with your own energy and access your maximum capacity. And you know you will shine. If you feel well with you, you will easily feel well with others.
someone said and at any stage of life it is not worth thinking that you have
How long is a session?
to make you feel beautiful from the inside out Your body is your own. So if you do not feel your best and do nothing about it, there is no one to blame. The only change you will see will be the result of the biological or psychological disorder you are letting to grow within your body. Take care of your body, mind and spirit because the only way out is within.
reached the end of the road. We introduce you to a craniosacral healer and a rebirthing therapist. Read on... Discovered in the 1920s by WG Sutherland, Craniosacral therapy or CST is an alternative medicine therapy used mainly by osteopaths. Stefan, however, likes to address it as a complementary therapy and not tag it as an alternative treatment. German born Stefan, stereotypically, first arrived in this culturally rich country over seven months ago, on his way to Buddhist studies. And now his Chhauni located centre, seems to welcome every guest into a green, peaceful and stimulating atmosphere through its wide open gates. He has been working in this field since 1992, and if you want lectures or a session on CST in Nepal, you know whom to contact. We gather this warm experienced man would be passionate to pass the knowledge on, for all its positive holistic benefits. With four to eight clients visiting him on a daily basis, craniosacral technique looks promising for the future.
How would you explain craniosacral therapy?
Stefan Reiter,
life coach and craniosacral practitioner
It is a hands-on-therapy, where I am in tune with the inner rhythm of the client’s body and I amplify it to a well balancing state. I don’t call it therapy actually, I call it ‘impulse regulation’. By placing my hands on the client’s head and with my impulse, my contact, they come in contact with themselves. In other words, a healthy function
The session is always for an hour, because it is more like meditation. Even I myself require high concentration. In other words, I say in a session of CST you simply visit yourself. For me it is a kind of a definition of how to love yourself, to understand what you want from your heart.
What makes you do this work in Nepal?
In Nepal it is not very well known whereas it is well recognised in other countries. So I am teaching and training a lot of Nepali students here. And it is a part of my work as a coach and a trainer.
Why is it important to love your own self?
Well, let’s say ‘loving yourself’ on one hand is the potential power to be a lover. And if you are able to love yourself, it is the first step to love the whole creation – animals and environment – which is very important. If you cannot feel what goes on, you don’t change anything. For me it is important to be like a lover, not only in a sexual way but loving life as it comes… to feel what is nice and what beauty is.
What do you do for some ‘me time’?
I like to take a walk in the forest because it gives me energy, a sense of relaxation… or to be on a beach, swimming among the waves. But there is no beach in Nepal, but you do have forests and mountains.
(Know more about craniosacral healing on www.craniosacralnp.com or call 4271541.)
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HEALTH Rojina Manandhar, rebirthing therapist; clinical hypnotherapist and psychologist Right after Rojina completed her course in rebirthing around three years ago, she successfully treated a client who suffered from severe panic attacks. After 15 sessions with her, he went back to the US once he felt ‘born anew!’ Rebirthing is a therapeutic technique used in various types
now, and people will know the power of being here and now from this therapy.
person’s thoughts and vision about self and life are completely new.
Why should one visit a rebirthing therapist in this ‘modern world’?
Why would you say it is important to love yourself?
The first mission of our therapy is to love and respect yourself, so that you will be loved and respected accordingly. In most cases I ask my clients to close their eyes and give me a genuine answer. I ask them, “Do you love yourself?” They close their eyes and say, “Yes, I do love myself.” And they express loving themselves by taking care of their body, like going to a beauty parlour or visiting a spa, etc. Then I advise them to go home and do an affirmation activity. And when they come in for the following session, some of them say, “Rojina ji, for the first time in my life I feel that I do not love myself… I was lost.” While some also say that they love themselves but do not respect themselves. We carry so many issues in our subconscious mind from the day we are born, and yeah, some of these issues are from our past life as well. This unhealed past knocks on our door in the form of negative emotions and physical pain. Rebirthing not only solves these issues but it ends them by giving us the insight, making us aware and teaching us to see that unhealed past, with positive learning in our life. When we look back at our past with a positive outlook, we are born again. A reborn
There is nothing selfish or narcissistic about putting yourself first… about making yourself happy. Loving self means: • Accepting yourself • Believing in yourself, your talents and potentials • Honouring and respecting yourself • Being kind and patient to yourself • Praising yourself • Forgiving yourself • Supporting yourself • Having fun and maintaining a high spirit If we love, respect, honour and accept ourselves, we can give the same things to others attracting the same from our surroundings as well. When we start loving ourselves, we will truly enjoy life.
How many people have been reborn through you? Around 10.
(For a therapeutic chat with a pinch of passion and care, visit Rojina Manandhar at Norvic Hospital.) By» Samridhi Rana
BEAUTY of alternative medicine and psychotherapy. It generally refers to a technique used to treat a patient who has suffered some traumatic event. The idea is to simulate a second birth, thus creating a fresh start, a fresh consciousness in the life and mind of the patient. The name rebirthing has stuck, but the founder, Leonard Orr in the USA, has always called it Conscious Connected Breathing. Here, Rojina talks passionately about the beauty of rebirthing therapy…
What is the beauty of an alternative therapy like rebirthing?
The beauty lies in knowing and loving yourself. In this modern world, we are lost, we tend to forget ourselves, and we forget our life assignment. If we close our eyes even for a few seconds, our mind tends to go either in the past or in the future. Rebirthing therapy helps us to be here and 44 | VOW | February 2012
A beautiful you!
Skin, hair and body care tips The demand for beautiful skin and hair is ageless – since time immemorial, women have devoted their time in seeking the right beauty recipe to help them look gorgeous. Beauty knows no age, and hence, young women and matured alike take utmost care of themselves. Nonetheless, beauty is not all about the right makeup or ensembles; it is more about having healthy skin, beautiful hair toned body and above all a beautiful mind!
BEAUTY Below are a few tips to assist you in pampering yourself beautiful!
SKIN CARE Constant exposure to weather and technology-induced rays and faulty skin care regimen can cause your skin to age fast. It will lose its natural young brilliance and develop patches, finelines and wrinkles. A proper skin
• Oatmeal makes a very good natural scrubber. This can be used as a natural mild face scrub on all types of skins with no side effects. • Cucumber juice is a great toner. Apply cold cucumber juice on your face after cleansing it to close open pores and leave the skin tight and fresh. • You can use a mixture of lemon juice and honey for radiant skin. Honey is really good for moisturising skin. • You can use a face pack of fuller earth, honey and milk twice a week for youthful and radiant skin. But avoid fuller earth if you have dry skin. • Sandalwood powder can be used on pimples. It will not only help reduce the inflammation, but also soothe the skin. For mature skin, bananas can work wonders since it has great anti-oxidant properties.
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care therefore should be followed from an early age itself. For soft, supple and younger looking skin, one must follow a proper beauty regimen of cleansing, scrubbing, toning and moisturising. The first step towards taking care of your skin is to know your skin type. The skin types are broadly categorised as dry, oily, normal, combination and sensitive skin. If you yet don’t know your skin type, you may perform a simple test: wash your skin with a mild soap and water, and leave it for an hour. Then wipe it with tissue papers on different areas – press a tissue on your forehead, then nose, and lastly chin. If there is little or no oil in the tissue, then you probably have a normal skin. If your skin feels greasy and there is oil on the tissue, then you have an oily skin. If your skin feels stretched after the wash, then you might have a dry skin, and if there is oil in the T-zone but the cheeks are dry, then you have a combination skin. Sensitive skin may appear dry, itchy or red after wash. Now, depending upon your skin type, you must then choose skin care products. Avoid oil based skin care items if you have oily skin. For sensitive skin you must specially ask for skin products that are made for this skin type. Below are a few beauty recipes, the ingredients for which can be found right at your kitchen! • Make a paste with gram flour and water and cleanse your face with it. Leave the paste on your face for 15 to 20 minutes until it’s completely dry. Then wash off with cold water.
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coconut oil with Vitamin E to your hair twice a week for health and shine. Follow oiling your hair with turban therapy. This will also prevent dandruff. Oil your hair about an hour before shampooing for a tangle free smooth hair. This will also prevent your hair from drying. Mix almond oil, castor oil and olive oil and massage it onto your scalp to promote hair growth. Hibiscus flowers are also great for promoting hair growth. If you are suffering from thin hair, crush the petals of hibiscus flower and apply it on your scalp. For thick, healthy and flowing hair make a pack of henna, amla and shikakai and use it once a week. Henna can also be used as natural hair colour for graying hair. It doesn’t contain the harmful chemicals of synthetic hair colours. Add few drops of jojoba oil with your conditioner to prevent dryness. Apply lemon juice on your scalp to get rid of dandruff. Trim your hair regularly to prevent split ends. This will also prevent your hair style from going messy.
HANDS AND FEET CARE
You simply can’t ignore the importance of taking care of your hands and feet to complete your beauty routine. Flaky and dry skin in your hand is a big no. You need to take regular care of your hands and feet just as you do for body parts.
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HAIR CARE
When it comes to beauty, you can’t ignore the importance of beautiful thick hair. Hair gets damaged from constant exposure to environment and pollution along with the chemicals used in the various hair styling options – colouring, blow drying, ironing, curling, etc. It is therefore important to take regular care of your hair. Here are a few tips: • Oiling your hair will keep it soft and prevent it from becoming dry. Apply
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hands and feet smooth, but will also help you in maintaining hygiene. Soak your hands and feet in lukewarm water, then brush off the dead cells. Cut and file your nails to maintain desired shape and length. Clean your nails for dirt and stains. Use a pumice stone for a smooth heel. It is a good solution against cracked heels. Push the cuticles back from your nail and also remove the hard skin around nail for a clean manicured look. Apply preventive nail coats before applying nail polish. While applying nail polish, apply it to both the inner and outer surface of your nails and lock the ends. This will let the polish stay on your nail longer. Remove the nail polish with remover. Don’t scrape it off since it can damage your nails. Also, don’t use polish stored over a long period. It can leave stains on your nails. Wash your hands with a mild hand wash if you have used your fingers for eating. Clean them to remove all food particles as well as stains. Use foot and hand cream to keep them moisturised.
BODY CARE
Who wouldn’t love to have a smooth and firm body? Along with your face and hair, you need to take proper care of your body for that complete gorgeous look. Following are some body care tips:
In a survey conducted by an international women’s magazine in 2011, young women of various shapes and sizes reported having average negative thoughts about their body each day. But we say, fall in love with yourself and leave the negative image behind as it’s time to get physical and emotionally fit. Strong, confident women, who are comfortable in their skin, exude attractiveness. 46 | VOW | February 2012
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Here are super seven fitness trends released by The American College of Sports Medicine in 2012. The annual forecast is based on a survey of fitness professionals from around the world. Check out which workouts made it to the list… 1. Zumba: This Latin dance fitness class is so steamy, you won’t be able to resist. Join the party and get toned while you shake your rump Zumba style. Ay caramba! 2. Spinning: Spinning is soaring in popularity all over the world as participants get addicted to this intense, high calorieburning, core strengthening workout. 3. Outdoor activities: Get out of the gym and bring your fitness routine to life. Exercising outdoors is the latest craze in fitness. Do you know why? There’s nothing better than feeling the wind in your hair while you get your workout on. Try cycling, running, tennis, basketball, outdoor yoga, kayaking or your own outdoor sport and transform your workouts forever!
oil (or essential oil) with sugar and use the mixture as a body scrub. Add some bath salts to a bucketful of water while bathing to prevent body odour. Use only mild soap with moisturiser which will leave your skin smooth and supple. Don’t rub but pat dry your skin with a soft towel after bath. Rubbing can damage your skin tissues. Moisturise your skin regularly. Invest in a good body moisturiser. Exercise regularly. Even a brisk walk for half an hour everyday can improve blood circulation in your body and improve heart function. Cut back on your daily cigarette and alcohol quota. Smoking and drinking can cause your skin to appear dull and lifeless. Cut back on junk and spicy food. Adopt a healthy diet. Include plenty of green vegetables and seasonal fruits in your daily diet. Drink enough water to keep your system hydrated. Go for iron and vitamin supplements whenever necessary. However, take a doctor’s suggestion before taking any supplement. Go for a massage or a spa once a month to rejuvenate your skin.
4. Boot camp: Challenge yourself while you torch tons of calories with the latest fitness trend that is sweeping worldwide. Boot camp fitness will keep you motivated with rigorous whole body workouts that build strength and endurance. 5. Yoga: Discover the ancient practice of yoga where mind, spirit and body become one. Enhance your strength, gain flexibility, improve your posture, reduce stress and improve your overall health with this lifechanging fitness routine. 6. Group personal training: Personal training is a great way to optimise your workout and get the maximum benefit with a fitness programme tailored just for you. But personal trainers can be expensive. If you pair up with a friend or two, you can lower the overall cost for everyone, while still getting all the benefits of a personalised approach to fitness. 7. Strength training: Incorporating strength training into your workout is a great way to add definition to your muscles and burn extra calories all day long. Strength training is also recommended for protecting bone health, decreasing pain, boosting energy, promoting better sleep habits and improving overall quality of life.
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woman to watch
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Yo mann ta mero
Nepali ho!
Sujita Basnet, Miss Nepal USA 2011
18 years old, student of Biochemical Engineering
How did Miss Nepal USA happen? How did it feel when you actually had the winner's crown? Miss Nepal USA took place in New York on August 20, 2011. It was a pageant where young Nepali women living in the USA got a platform to showcase their talent and express love for their country, Nepal. I was not that confident about winning at first because I was never a beauty-pageant-type-of-a-girl and had no experience whatsoever. But when I was crowned with the winning title, I was shocked… I literally fell to the ground and could not hold the tears from rolling down my cheeks.
So what do you think made you win? Has winning changed things?
I think my poise, humble personality, and optimistic attitude of "even if I don’t win, I will at least leave the competition with much experience," made me win. Post the title, I think I have become more confident than ever. Also my own desire to do something for Nepal found shape as this platform gave me the opportunity to show people my capabilities.
Tell us about your visit to Nepal. Being a Nepali born and raised in the States, how does it feel to be here?
Although I was born and raised in the USA, I have always considered Nepal my motherland, and every time I visit Nepal, I feel at home. This time around it made me feel good from deep within that I could come to my hometown and give back something to my people here. With the 5,000 dollars that I won from the pageant, I donated a computer to Ratna Memorial School in Aahale, Dhankuta where I am sponsoring a student, Sushila Limbu to complete her school. I also donated 15 blankets to 15 families in Lahan, donated school supplies to 15 children at Sagarmatha Orphanage Centre in Lahan, and donated NRs 25,000 to an elderly home in Thankot. I also had the opportunity of meeting President Dr Ram Baran Yadav, Vice President Parmanand Jha, and the US Ambassador Scott H Delisi. I have always been interested in social service and I was really happy to have the opportunity to win this amount so I could jumpstart my services.
Your business card reads, 'Empowering youth, preserving culture'… how does this go together? Well, living in the USA, I want the Nepali youth to understand that there is nothing more important than preserving our culture, because at the end of the day our culture is what is going to make us stand out. Leaving our age old culture behind and following the Western culture blindly won’t empower us… rather it will create a scenario in which we will have an identity crisis. Therefore, I believe that in order to empower the youth, it is really essential to make them understand the importance of preserving one’s culture.
Why do you think Nepali youth should be proud of our country? The love that is there in every nook of our country whether it be in the nature, the people, or the language of our country, you will not find anywhere else in the world. Our country is so uniquely beautiful and we should all be proud to be Nepali.
What is the best thing about being a woman?
How do you pamper yourself? Or what is your idea of 'me time'?
To tell you the truth I don’t really pamper myself like I should –I am not a typical girlygirl. But I do love to shop, and my idea of 'me-time' includes playing slow jams with a bowl of ice-cream!
What do you love to do in your free time?
I love to dance, shop, and just spend time with my family doing little things like candle lit dinners, movie nights, or just watch TV.
What are your future plans?
Professionally in the future, I hope to gain a Master’s degree in Engineering so I can have an established career. Personally I hope to come back to Nepal and work for the USAID, the PeaceCorp, or just travel personally so I can continue my service to fellow Nepalis.
There are so many good things about being a woman but the best has to be that we have the option of getting the best of both worlds that guys sometimes don’t.
How do you like to dress up generally?
What motivates you?
Heels vs flats.
My motivation to succeed comes from my rocky past. My mom, grandmother, sister and I have always been there for each other no matter what… and without doubt, they are my role models.
What are your strengths? Any weakness?
My strength, I would say, is my personality. I am kind, humble and understanding, and I am very curious to explore situations I am not used to on an everyday basis. My weakness that I have improved on immensely in the past few months is public speaking.
What is the best advice you have ever received in your life? How has it impacted your life? The best advice I have received in my life is to always be humble and put yourself in others’ shoes before judging them. I think I am where I am today because of this advice that my grandmother gave to me.
Skinny's with a cute casual top and a scarf.
What would you never be caught dead in?
One of Lady Gaga's crazy outfits. Flats… it’s very important to be comfy.
Favourite accessories
Scarf, scarf, scarf!
Favourite hand-me-down
My grandmother’s zebra print shirt
Your fashion mantra
Blacks, whites, and reds never go old.
One style tip you have inherited Earrings are a must!
The best fashion advice you've ever received Simple is always classy!
FAVOURITES
Book: Firefly Lane by Kristin Hannah Movies: The Notebook, Forrest Gump Colour: Purple Music: Hip hop/ R&B Singer: Drake, Rihanna, Adele Actor: Angelina Jolie By» Poonam Maharjan
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tête-à-tête
It’s time for indoor cycling.
Let us rage on!
Now that spinning is being introduced here in Nepal, what are your views on it? Paul: I am sure that when I come
back in a few years, it will be here. If they bring professionalism it will be a success. And I am absolutely sure they will, because the love for profession and the enthusiasm I have seen here towards spinning is great. Hanneke: Interesting, I will have to say, I see that fitness is booming now in Nepal.
Talking about spinning, tell us what the best part about it is.
Group dynamics! Spinning is very much about group dynamics. The fun is, beginners can join the old spinners in the same class. The age group for spinners can start from 15 years, and our oldest participant is 60.
How would you define spinning? Hanneke: It is indoor cycling, a total
Hanneke Wamsteeker fitness and aerobics instructor
Paul Wamsteeker indoor cycling instructor
De Gaard is the gym this couple owns back in the Netherlands. Paul and Hanneke are known to have revolutionised Zumba in Nepal, directly or indirectly, a workout much loved, more by women here. And now, a few years down the road, they are back to introduce a workout based on group indoor cycling called spinning. They meet us this afternoon on the fifth floor of the Naxal located Rage Fitness, the sunlight seeping through the glass making it a nice day for an interview on a January afternoon. Without wasting any time we get started
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but all the while admiring how this couple still look so fit and good.
Tell us about your relationship with Nepal. Paul: In my former profession, I
met someone from Nepal and about four years ago, I visited this place with him for the first time. Two years later, I came back and my friend introduced me to Doma, a fitness instructor in Kathmandu, who was into aerobics then. We eventually became friends and talked about our professions. She was interested to train under me so we invited her to join De Gaard and she did, coming out as a certified Zumba trainer later. And that is how our relationship with Nepal started.
It is said that you both revolutionised Zumba in Nepal and now it seems to have become popular amongst Nepalis of all ages. Any comments?
Zumba is here to stay. It is very energetic, lots of fun and not too complex. People keep on liking it. It is more than just a workout. In De Gaard we have had Zumba in our gym for three years now and it is still going strong.
workout I would say. It is for endurance, and while we spin we are burning calories. And music is a very important part of it. You enjoy the music, the flow of the workout and you go from the first minute to the last minute, in one big flow. It is very exciting. Paul: Group cycling together makes it fun and energetic. The music is your road. So you go cycling through the crowd, you climb hills, come way down.
Do you have favourite tracks for this energetic workout? Paul: (Guffaws) I do not know. It is
very difficult because that is what we were discussing this afternoon. When you are a good instructor, you follow the pace of the group. For spinning, I like to use trance music but not everybody likes it, so I don’t do it all the time. Any track is good but the rhythm must be according to the exercise you do.
Spinning trains many parts of your body for a total body workout. It is a great cardiovascular exercise and serves as a fun and challenging exercise for both beginners and fitness professionals. Group sessions are key! They tend to motivate you to train harder and keep up. Not only will the instructor motivate and cheer you on to work harder, the combination of working in a group and great music is inspiring.
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Preventing Prolapse…
Keeping your
uterus in place
Uterine prolapse, raging as one of the most common conditions in rural Nepali women, occurs when pelvic floor muscles and ligaments stretch and weaken, providing inadequate support for the uterus. The uterus then descends into the vaginal canal. Uterine prolapse often affects postmenopausal women who've had one or more vaginal deliveries. Damage to supportive tissues during pregnancy and childbirth, effects of gravity, loss of oestrogen, and repeated straining over the years all can weaken your pelvic floor and lead to uterine prolapse. The uterus may slip enough that it drops partway into the vagina, creating a lump or bulge. This is called incomplete prolapse. In a more severe case, called complete prolapse, the uterus slips so far out of place that some of the tissues drop out of the vagina. The uterus is held in place within the pelvis by a group of muscles and ligaments. Left untreated, uterine prolapse can interfere with bowel, bladder and sexual functions. As these structures weaken, they become unable to hold the uterus in position, and it begins to sag. There are several factors that may contribute to the weakening of the pelvic muscles, including: • Loss of muscle tone as the result of ageing • Injury during childbirth, especially if the woman has had many babies or large babies weighing more than 4.1 kilos. • Other factors, obesity, chronic coughing or straining, chronic constipation all place added tension on the pelvic muscles, and may contribute to the development of uterine prolapse.
KNOW THE SYMPTOMS
Women with mild cases of uterine prolapse may have no obvious symptoms. However, as the uterus slips further out of position, it can place pressure on other pelvic organs, such as the bladder or bowel, causing a variety of symptoms, including: • A feeling of heaviness or pressure in the pelvis • Pain in the pelvis, abdomen or lower back • Pain during intercourse • A protrusion of tissue from the opening of the vagina 52 | VOW | February 2012
• Recurrent bladder infections • Unusual or excessive discharge from the vagina • Constipation • Difficulty with urination, including involuntary loss of urine (incontinence), or urinary frequency or urgency Symptoms may be worsened by prolonged standing or walking. This is due to the added pressure placed on the pelvic muscles by gravity.
WHAT CAN BE DONE?
There are surgical and non-surgical options for treating uterine prolapse. The treatment chosen will depend on the severity of the condition, as well as the woman's general health, age and desire to have children. Treatment generally is effective for most women. Non surgical treatment options include the following: • Exercise: Special exercises, called Kegel exercises, can help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. This may be the only treatment needed in mild cases of uterine prolapse. To do Kegel exercises, tighten your pelvic muscles as if you are trying to hold back urine. Hold the muscles tight for a few seconds and then release. Repeat 10 times. You may do these exercises anywhere and at any time (up to four times a day). Visit your physiotherapist for knowing how to do this the right way. • Vaginal pessary: A pessary is a rubber or plastic doughnut-shaped device that fits around or under the lower part of the uterus (cervix), helping to prop up the uterus and hold it in place. A health care provider will fit and insert the pessary, which must be cleaned frequently and removed before sex. • Oestrogen replacement therapy (ERT): Taking oestrogen may help to limit further weakness of the muscles and other connective tissues that support the uterus. However, there are some drawbacks to taking oestrogen, such as an increased risk of blood clots,
Proper techniques for lifting
• Do not try to lift objects that are awkward or too heavy for you to lift alone. Also, avoid lifting heavy objects above waist level. • Before you lift an object, make sure you have firm footing. • To pick up an object that is lower than the level of your waist, keep your back straight, and bend at your knees and hips. Do not bend forward at the waist with your knees straight. • Stand with a wide stance close to the object you are trying to pick up, and keep your feet firm on the ground. Tighten your stomach muscles and lift the object using your leg muscles. Straighten your knees in a steady motion. Do not jerk the object up to your body. • Stand completely upright without twisting. Always move your feet forward when lifting an object. • If you are lifting an object from a table, slide it to the edge of the table so that you can hold it close to your body. Bend your knees so that you are close to the object. Use your legs to lift the object and come to a standing position. • Hold packages close to your body with your arms bent. Keep your stomach muscles tight. Take small steps and go slowly. • To lower the object, place your feet as you did to lift, tighten stomach muscles and bend your hips and knees.
gallbladder disease and breast cancer. The decision to use ERT must be made with your doctor after carefully weighing all of the risks and benefits.
CAN UTERINE PROLAPSE BE PREVENTED?
It may not be possible to prevent all cases of uterine prolapse, but there are steps that can be taken to help reduce the risk: • Maintain a healthy body weight. • Exercise regularly for 20 to 30 minutes, three to five times per week, including Kegel exercises, which may be done up to four times a day. Be sure to check with your health care provider before starting any new exercise programme. • Eat a healthy diet balanced in protein, fat and carbohydrates. Also, eat food that is high in fibre, and minimise your daily fat intake. • Stop smoking. This reduces the risk of developing a chronic cough, which can put extra strain on the pelvic muscles. • Consider oestrogen replacement therapy after menopause. • Use correct lifting techniques.
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Q&A
Q&A MENTAL HEALTH
Q&A EXERCISE
My 15-year-old son has not been attending school since the last three months. No amount of cajoling, threatening, or even reasonable conversations work with him. I have enquired in his school but his teachers, classmates and even his best friends have not been able to come up with any explanation. He has always been a quiet boy but he never had a morose personality. For the past eight months he has become rude, is angry all the time and seems to do nothing but sleep all day. He is our only child and my wife and I are increasingly alarmed by his condition. Please help. – Niraj Paudel
I am 17 years old, 5’3” tall and weigh 59kgs. I am very active and play a lot of sports especially basketball and tennis. I eat in moderation and do not indulge in too much junk food, although I do have a sweet tooth and simply can’t resist chocolates, mithai and ice creams. At home we have a strong food culture… my mother is always in the kitchen and ready to feed people and for dad doing something together means eating out. My elder sister and both my parents are very over weight. I am constantly teased for being the odd one out. Nobody understands when I curb my eating habits and pass remarks like I want to be a model or that I am on a diet. At school friends think I am a bit over weight. These days I feel guilty after having eaten and have gone into a strange pattern… either I starve myself and later gorge on food or I eat a lot and try to sweat it out. I recently read an article that suggested that I may have a food disorder. Please help me. The stories I read about the girls was scary and I don’t want to end up like that. What is my ideal weight, how much should I be eating, and what can I do to stay fit? - Pavitra
Haven’t you seen a mental health professional yet? Please do so before it gets too late. His behaviour certainly seems out of acceptable limits at all places including home and school and the symptoms are alarming from a psychiatric point of view. More than a disturbance to you, the boy is in real distress and needs help. At such age, teenagers do not have a fund of vocabulary nor do they have the ability to express thoughts, feelings, emotions, worries and opinions like adults. His inner mental state has to be explored and analysed by a professional to come to some formulation and work out ways to help him. Some diagnoses that have to be ruled out in his case are: oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder, adolescence crisis, social anxiety of childhood, school phobia, problems in scholastic skills, agitated depression and early onset bipolar affective disorder. Parents’ behaviours have nothing to do with causation of such severe symptoms, as there is more genetic under pinning, however they may act as triggering and maintaining factors if not properly executed. A lot can be done to help your son and as a matter of fact, rather than being a problem to the family he is the one in distress and in need of dire help. This is a teenagers’ way of expressing his need for psychological help. Very rarely such syndromes are related with some hormonal abnormalities for which I would advice screening of Thyroid hormones (T3, T4, TSH) and HVA (Homovanillic Acid) in blood and VMA (Vanillyl Mandelic Acid) in urine.
Dear Pavitra, food is a huge part of our lives and culturally every occasion and celebration calls for more and more food in our societies. However, it is very important to understand that food needs to satisfy your energy requirements maintaining energy balance. I understand your dilemma, but you need to stay focused on the fact that your health and well being is your priority. Your cuurent eating patterns are of concern and the faster you break out of this, the better it is. I would suggest that you maintain a food journal for at least 15 days – writing down every morsel or sip that you take and also the associated emotion. I would be happy to evaluate this for you. However, you will yourself be able to gauge certain patters as you go through this process. Your ideal body weight is important but not necessarily the sole factor that determines your health status. The other factors to take into consideration are body composition, fitness level, mental and physical well being, etc. Continue to stay active, focus on what you are putting inside your body – an occasional indulgence is definitely not a crime or something to feel guilty about, and work on your mental and emotional wellbeing as well. Read, research and learn more about your body. It is easy to get de-motivated or side tracked by other people’s comments, but understand that the only person you should be comparing yourself with is the positive YOU.
Dr Sharad Man Tamrakar,
Neuro-Psychiatrist at Norvic International Hospital, will answer all your mental health queries. Send your queries to him at editorial@vow.com.np Contact him at 4258554/9851007474.
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Sandesh Palungwa Limbu
a certified professional fitness instructor, founder of RAGE Fitness, also specialises in mixed martial arts. He will answer all your fitness queries. Send your queries to him at ragefitness@live.com
Q&A TEETH
Q&A HEART
I am in my late 20s and I would like to know if regular ‘washing’ damages the teeth. My cousin gets it done a couple of times a year. I am also interested in it, but I heard that it is actually not good for the teeth. Can you tell me what alternative I could go for and whether ‘washing’ is harmful or not? – Meena KC
My uncle is in his late 40s and consumes alcohol daily but moderately and time-to-time complains of irregular heartbeat. All of us have suggested that he quit drinking but he persists that drinking alcohol has no link with heart problems. Is it true? – Sarun Shakya
‘Washing’, better known as professional cleaning or scaling, is a process where the space between teeth and gums are cleaned to remove the stony hard substance known as tartar. The main reason for doing this is to maintain good gum health which is extremely important. Poor gum health has been associated with heart disease, difficulty in controlling Diabetes and even pre-term babies. The best way to avoid or minimise tartar formation is to brush twice daily in the correct way making sure that the teeth surfaces are clean without the remains of any food or plaque. Correct flossing in between the teeth is equally important. You can learn the correct method from your dentist. The gap between professional cleaning varies from person to person depending on the tartar accumulation. Your dentist will be the best person to tell if you need cleaning or not. One has to be very careful while choosing a dentist, as there are many fake ones in Nepal. One must ensure that s/he is registered by the Nepal Medical Council (NMC). If in doubt, always ask for the registration number verification on NMC’s phone number 4371566 or 4371954.
The relationship between alcohol and heart health has always been a matter of debate. There are many studies to suggest that people who take alcohol in moderation may have lesser risk of heart attacks. However this does not justify drinking to prevent heart disease. Alcohol intake has been linked to several kinds of disorders like behavioural abnormalities, stomach ulcers, liver damage, heart failure, abnormal rhythm of the heart, and accidents of course.
Dr Neil Pande,
If your uncle has irregular heart beats he should be cautious. This may be caused by alcohol. He should try to record an ECG at the time of palpitation and see a cardiologist. One should not forget that even if small amount of alcohol is protective to heart, very few can limit themselves to one or two small pegs. Even three small pegs of alcohol taken occasionally (say on weekends or parties) may be dangerous. Moreover, alcohol often comes with a package of oily, fatty and salty food, and one might get inclined to smoke. Subsequently, dinner gets late, family time is lost, sleeping time is disturbed and chances are that the next morning’s workout might be skipped. There are other safer methods to keep heart healthy, like eating healthy and exercising regularly.
Dr Bharat Rawat,
Dental Surgeon at Healthy Smiles, will answer all your teeth queries. Send your queries to him at neil@smilenepal.com
Executive Director and Consultant Cardiologist at the Norvic International Hospital, will answer all your heart queries. Send your queries to him at drrawat@norvic.wlink.com.np
Q&A
HOMOEOPATHY I want to get rid of my skin marks and freckles. Does homeopathy have any remedy? – Minna Manadhar Some skins are sensitive and every injury heals with a mark. Thus, to treat the marks, overall health of the skin also needs to be treated to prevent recurrence of these marks. There are some good homoeopathic remedies such as Berberis Aquafolia to treat the marks left after pimples. Freckles, on the other hand, are often genetic and often warn one to watch out for occurrence of skin cancers. Wearing a sunscreen should be compulsory when out in the sun. Also wearing a hat or walking under an umbrella can help. There are some very good remedies, but cannot be prescribed randomly. An overall assessment of the nature of the spots and the health of the skin along with your physical and mental constitution are required to prevent freckles from forming and also treating skin for tendencies towards diseases of sun sensitivity.
Dr Ruchi Saxena DhakaL,
Consultant Homoeopath at Karuna Healthcare, will answer all your homoeopathic queries. Send your queries to her at drruchi@holisticswasthya.com Contact her at 4017511.
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animal anecdotes
Pet a cat! Today, people have become more and more inventive about keeping various kinds of pets, throughout the world, cats are almost as equally popular as dogs. In our context too, many people keep cat as a pet. In my own experience too, I have seen lots of feline patients and owners willing to know more about cats. If you are a cat lover, or if you want to acquire a kitten as a pet, or you already are a proud owner of one, I assure you that this article will be very helpful for you. Many pet owners have a misconception that both dogs and cats can be raised in similar fashion. In fact, they are very different and their requirements vary greatly. And it might fascinate you to learn that there are over hundred popular cat breeds around the world, just like the variation in the dog breeds. Also, scores of pet owners think that cats can be given dog food and that it’s sufficient for them.
Dr Saroj Yadav,
senior veterinarian at Animal Hospital and Research Centre, Koteshwor, will answer all your pet queries. Email your questions to sarojyadav641@hotmail.com
Cats are very fascinating, beautiful creatures and may prove to be adorable pets. However, you have to know about their behaviour and needs that are quite different from dogs and eventually you will be able to appreciate the love they show towards you.
However, for the long-term health of a cat, giving them dog food is not a good idea because cats have a slightly higher protein requirement than dogs. In addition to this, vitamin requirements also vary. You must know that cats are strict carnivores and require food of animal origin to survive. They especially need regular supply of Vitamin A, taurine and certain fatty acids. They need a higher level of protein and fat and lower level of carbohydrate and this is quite different from a dog’s diet. Therefore, it is quite essential that you use only recommended cat food. However, it is important to remember that nutritional requirements of a cat vary according to their age, activity-level, reproductive status and health. So always seek professional advice. Like dogs, cats also need vaccination for rabies and other anti-viral vaccination. Keep in mind that cats are very sensitive to poorly stored vaccines. They can be fatal for them, so always make sure that the vet uses properly stored vaccines. In many instances, cats also need deworming tablets. Make sure that the tablets prescribed are suitable for cats, otherwise, possible sideeffects can be detrimental to its health.
Cat is naturally a very clean animal, and a discriminate eater – they don’t eat spoiled, dirty, unpalatable food. They always want to be kept cleaned. You may see they groom themselves by licking, but they still need regular bath and brushing. It helps to get rid of loose hair. But use appropriate soap and shampoo that say ‘safe for cats’. Cats also mark their territory like dogs and they scratch objects to mark the territory. Many outdoor cats prefer scratching on trees or fences, sometimes on walls. Indoor cats need some toys to play with otherwise they may damage sofas or chairs by scratching. Cat is an awesome pet if raised properly. The most important thing to remember is that they are very sensitive to many medicines, so beware of using these. Disease pattern in cat is very similar to human beings. For example, asthma in a cat is similar to asthma in human beings. Many medical problems typically vary with age and can be curable if diagnosed in time. Therefore, when cats become sick, it is almost always an emergency and you need to seek proper diagnosis and treatment as soon as possible. Have a hurdle-free cat rearing.
Q&A PET I have a male and a female dog at home, and we wanted them to mate. But the female did not agree. Last week they fought with each other during this process. Now the problem is my female dog gets irritated by the presence of our male dog. What shall I do to make them friendly with each other as they were before? – Prasanna Chemjong
It is essential to know that if you have both male and female dog at home, during the mating season you may see some kind of behavioural changes. This behavioural change is attributed to hormonal changes when female comes into heat or cycle. For the breeding purpose, females are ready for mating only after the ninth day of the cycle. The male dogs are provoked by the elevated hormone level of female dogs and hence come forward for mating, and if the female dogs are not ready for mating, there will be disastrous fight which is pretty difficult to control. Even owners can’t easily separate the fight. This aggressiveness of male dogs gradually decreases when the cycle of female dogs comes to an end. Probably there won’t be any fight afterwards. Sometimes fighting tendency can also be reduced by neutering your dogs. If you have kept your dog for breeding purposes, then you need some professional advice and proper housing requirements. It is better to consult your vet personally. 56 | VOW | February 2012
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quiz and polls
How HOT is your
relationship?
To find out if your relationship is hot or cold, take this quiz honestly. Instructions: Couples please take this quiz separately. Answer YES or NO to the following statements. Compatibility
Passion
Communication
I consider my partner very attractive.
We make passion our priority.
I know that my partner is on my side.
Yes No
When we are apart I often think fondly of my partner. Yes No
I routinely share what’s most important in my life with my partner. Yes No
I generally know what stresses my partner is facing. Yes No
I feel this relationship is worth fighting for. Yes No
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Yes No
I ask for what I really want sexually. Yes No
I am happy to experiment with my partner. Yes No
This is the best sex I’ve ever had in a long term relationship. Yes No
I feel closer to my partner after sex. Yes No
Yes No
In a month we fight less than we have sex. Yes No
We resolve problems quickly and easily and learn from them. Yes No
I have no problem saying sorry, and meaning it. Yes No
We know how to prevent arguments escalating. Yes No
SCORE Give two points each to every ‘Yes’ and zero to ‘No’. Add up and find out what your score means.
0-14: You call that a relationship?
Ok, all comedy aside, this score is not good and we bet you already knew that. We’re sorry for whatever pain you’re feeling about your relationship right now but having done this couple’s quiz, something has to change. It’s possible that you’ve been taught that this score is normal and ‘you can’t have everything!’ Let us tell you, you need a whole lot more than you’ve got or one of you is going to stray one day.
15-27: Well, that’s not soooo bad!
The great news is, you clearly have a good connection with your loved one and that’s a strong foundation for your partnership. You demonstrate an ability and interest in understanding each other’s point of view. Hopefully your love affair will continue to deepen as your relationship continues. Just be careful that you don’t let the demands of life dominate your partnership as it’s all too easy to get stuck in a rut. Continue to try and discover new and exciting ways communicating your love for each other.
28-30: Be proud, you made it!
You’ve got a relationship so many people can only dream of. You’ve got someone who feels like your best friend and lover all in the same package. Keep this up and who knows just how close you could become over the years together. You’ve clearly got very high standards and that’s a really good thing, a healthy relationship is one that exists between you, your partner and the truth. Just keep being this honest with each other and you’ll do fine.
Would you forgive your partner if s/he had a sexual affair with someone else?
c) 13%
a) 7%
a. Yes b. No c. May be
b) 80%
QUESTION “If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?” What’s your take on this? 1. 2. 3. 4.
I am not afraid to make a mistake. I don’t know. Hmm. Maybe we don’t want to learn! Never thought of it (but from now I will not be afraid to make mistakes).
Voice your opinion in our poll and make your choice count. Send your answers to editorial@vow.com.np or simply log on to website www.vownepal.com
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spices Deepak Ghimire launches debut album
IT Consultant and Engineer by profession, Deepak Ghimire released his debut album on 27 December at Annapurna Hotel. The album, Poise, has a compilation of nine slow rock and pop songs composed by Nhyoo Bajracharya and written by Nishprabh Saji, Durga Lal Shrestha and Karun Thapa. His voice has been compared to that of Danny Denzongpa and Nhyoo Bajracharya.
Book launch
Launched on 2 February at Hotel Annapurna, MonicaPieces of Perfect has already been receiving good reviews. The book launch saw many supporters in the audience present to encourage the young writer, Shiwani Neupane. Published by Kathalaya, veteran actor duo Madan Krishna Shrestha and Hari Bangsha Acharya attended as chief guests at the launching ceremony.
Rage Fitness introduces spinning
Paul Wamsteeker, a leading indoor cycling and spinning instructor and expert from Netherlands held a training of trainers workshop at the newly opened Rage Fitness (Naxal). Spinning is fast gaining popularity across the globe and will be introduced in Nepal for the first time at Rage Fitness in March.
aAction presents with Baraha Jewellery "I Am a Poet in Love"
"I am a poet in love" was an initiative of sharing and expressing love poems from personalities of different walks of life. They wrote, recited and shared their precious pieces of emotions on the particular event. The poems later will be compiled into a book. There were around 22 participants – Manjul, Neer Shah, Prakash Sayami, Siddhant Raj Pande, Dr Prakash Raj Regmi, Vidushi Rana, Pampha Bhushal, Sushma Rana, Bikash Rana and Shrijana Singh Yonjan to name a few. The event took place at Station BBQ on 14 February.
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Samsung Cook it up with Tarla Dalal
On 9 February, Everest Hotel's hall was full with two kinds of people – one, who take cooking into significant consideration, and the other who wanted to see and learn from the renowned master chef Tarla Dalal. Tarla Dalal from Mumbai travelled to Nepal and presented a demonstration of some of her famous recipes to the women of Nepal like paalak paneer and biryani. There was an interaction session with the charming lady and her books were on display for sale. The proceeds of the sale were given to Children and Youth First and The Ladies Circle of Nepal.
Belkin India enters Nepal
Belkin India, a leading provider of interconnectivity solutions across computing and consumer electronic devices, announced that the company has extended its operations and established presence in Nepal. Neoteric Nepal will be its distributor for the market here. It is among the biggest distributors for information technology, communications and entertainment products in Nepal. Commenting on this partnership, Sanjay Golchha, managing director of Neoteric, said, "Together we are confident that Belkin and Neoteric will collaborate to earn retailer and consumer confidence and market leadership."
Walking for peace
Tewa held its annual fund raising event Walk-a-thon on 28 January. The theme of the 13th annual event was ‘Peace’, and leading the walk was superstar Rajesh Hamal. The event was inaugurated with the release of balloons and music played by traditional Dhime musical troupe. Volunteers, donors and staff along with representatives from different NGOs and INGOs were present to support the event. The walk-a-thon started from Jawalakhel and proceeded to Tewa premises at Dhapakhel.
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What’s New
What’s Hot
What’s Selling
Your guide to happening movies, music and books
movie
The Iron Lady
Genre: drama, biography Cast: Meryl Streep, Jim Broadbent, Anthony Head Director: Phyllida Llyod She has mesmerised many people with her performances in films like Sophie’s Choice, Julie and Julia and The Bridges of Madison County, and with The Iron Lady Meryl Streep has come back to wow us again. The film is the story of ambition and power, and a woman’s drive that matches her ambition. It is the story of Margaret Thatcher and shows us convincingly her entry and rise in politics and her vital influence in British politics. It also covers her personal life, her insecurities and the strong indomitable will that earned her the nickname “the iron lady”. The film is poignant, beautiful and funny as we learn how Thatcher was in office, home and during her dementia. Streep, in her portrayal of Thatcher, has been lauded as absolutely brilliant. Well, and if the subject of Margaret Thatcher does not interest you, you should watch the film for Streep alone.
music
Milan-Music meets soul Artist: Milan Amatya
Milan Amatya may not be a familiar name in Nepal but back in Assam she is an established singer. She has released albums in many languages such as Assamese, Bodo, Mishing and Rajasthani but this is her first album in Nepali. The album has seven songs and is essentially a melodious compilation of love songs. Released in December, Milan-Music meets soul will suit the taste of music lovers who enjoy a beautiful voice singing romantic songs.
White Teeth Author: Zadie Smith
Published in 2000, Zadie Smith’s first novel tells the story of three families in multicultural London. The novel is humorous yet sad at the same time and as we go deeper into the lives of Archie Jones and his Jamaican wife, Clara, the Bangladeshi couple, Samad and Alsana Iqbal, and the Jewish-Catholic couple, Marcus and Joyce Chalfen, the story about immigrants, multiculturalism, and the struggle to fit in as well as trying to preserve their own culture is brought to life vibrantly. Archie and Samad, have their own problems, but remain close friends. The interesting title is a unifying term to show that whatever the cultures, religion, identity or prejudices, the characters are essentially the same-bound together by their white teeth. The Jones’ daughter, Irie, later becomes a dentist.
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For
theoflove
music... By Pramila Rai
In this edition of Musical Conversation,
we talked to Samyog Rana,
a band member of an upcoming
band, The Writers Band –
essentially an instrumental
hip hop band based in Madrid,
Spain. Also known as Thajville/
Sammy, Samyog tells us about
his band and his love for music.
Meanwhile, you can also go
check their page on facebook.
The Writers Band
In this edition of Musical Conversation, we talked to Samyog Rana, a band member of an upcoming band, The Writers Band – essentially an instrumental hip hop band based in Madrid, Spain. Also known as Thajville/ Sammy, Samyog tells us about his band and his love for music. Meanwhile, you can also check them out on facebook.
Excerpts… Tell us about your band.
The Writers Band consists of five members and it got its name because our vocalist writes his songs in a very ‘poetic’ way. We are passionate about music and involved in making music purely out of love for it. I would like to believe that we are different from other bands because we are not here simply for the purpose of being famous and raking in an obscene amount of money. We are guided by our love for music and the satisfaction and peace of mind we invariably get as a result of the work we do. Our goal is that we get to entertain our listeners and give life to our creativity and talent. Since we are involved in different other fields as well, we do not get as much time as we would like. So we meet thrice a week to work t o g e t h e r. We do live concerts a n d we
have 13 concerts to our credit till date since our band’s inception in July 2011. We have not recorded or sold any album, though we did record an EP album which we distributed amongst friends. Now that we have a new manager we are planning to bring out an album soon as well as do a few concerts abroad.
be at great peace when I have music to accompany me. We can express ourselves through music and share our experiences, good and bad, through the music we make. And there will always be someone who will connect to it.
Could you tell us a little more about yourself?
Life would be monotonous. Actually it is an inconceivable thing for me.
I have been living in Spain for the past 12 years. At present, I am in my third year of Sound Engineering studies from SAE (School of Audio Engineering). I have completed a one-year practical course from SGAE (Sociedad General de Autores y Editores). I am a producer and composer with The Writers Band. I compose, arrange, mix and master the songs. We share a studio, 7 o’clock, with two other groups, Los Crios and Carlos Shega, for whom I sometimes produce songs. I am also a trained professional DJ. I play the guitar, the drum and piano.
What genre of music do you like listening to?
Though I am involved in hip hop, I have a varied interest in music. I started out by listening to hard rock and then when I moved to Spain, I was introduced to music from America, France, Germany and Spain. I am really into Westcoast G-Funk music. But the genre of music that keeps pulling me is definitely classical. I love Mozart, Bach and Beethoven. Their music is always lovely and inspiring. If I have to talk about Nepali music, I would have to admit that I have not really listened to much of it. During my school days, I remember listening to Narayan Gopal, Om Bikram Bista and Nima Rumba, who was a sensation at that time. I have not listened to any contemporary singers or musicians, so my favourite is still Narayan Gopal. His creativity and his ability to articulate his feelings into his music were no doubt what touched legions of his fans.
How would you define music?
For me, I believe, music exists for a sole reason. I will always experience peace of mind and
What would your life be like without music?
From where do you get the inspiration to create music?
Anytime I sit down to compose music, I take inspiration from the past incidents and happenings in my life. My family is how I initially got interested in music. My maternal uncle, Maharaja Thapa, is also involved in the music business and my maternal grandfather, Bhairav Bahadur Thapa, who was the first Nepali folk dance director have been great sources of inspiration for me.
Popular songs by The Writers Band Writers 1.1 Writers 1.4
Favourites…
• Donna Summer – I love her album, Four Seasons of Love, but ‘Summer Fever’ is my favourite. • Shirley Bassey – Something consists of great songs but my favourites are ‘Yesterday I heard the rain’ and ‘My way’ are my favourites.
Hip Hop numbers on my play list…
day Ice Cube: Today was a good l rea Vontell: Keep it on a at Rass Kass: Nature of the thre y mm Shi ODB (Ol´Dirty Bastard): shimmy ya DJ Battlecat: Blue 64 and Naturally fine Snoop Dogg: Vapours rs WC (Westside Connection): Tea a kill of a s DJ Quik: Ghetto rendezvou
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new spark
Bagaicha Restro & Bar
Are you a total Chinese food lover? If you are, you will be more than pleased to taste the delicacies offered by this new restro and bar – Bagaicha, a perfect place to hang out for lunch, dinner and in-betweens. Bagaicha’s special soup and Namtokai might just be what your taste buds have been longing for. Served in a warm, fun and vivacious atmosphere, the restro guarantees to spice up your palate. Jawalakhel Open: 7:00am to 11:00pm, seven days a week Tel: 5548148
Sparsh spa
Enjoy treating your body and senses to a luxurious time at Sparsh Spa. The beautiful ambience and the trained staff will work together to pamper you and your loved ones to provide you with the utmost satisfaction. Sparsh also hosts a unisex salon with well trained staff and Sparsh Academy where various courses on spa and salon are available. Naxal Open: 8:00am to 7:00pm, seven days a week Tel: 2298091
Caffe Chai
SR Computer International Your search could end right here if you are thinking of buying the latest electronic goods. New in town, the SR Computer International has it all – from branded computers to laptops, CCTV camera to inverters. If you encounter any problem with the merchandise you have bought, the in-house trained staffs are there to repair them. Now, that’s what makes them so good! E-Block, Kathmandu Business Park, Teku Open: 8:00am to 7:00pm, seven days a week Tel: 4104561 66 | VOW | February 2012
Himalayan Beanz has introduced exciting winter beverage called Caffe Chai which comes in the flavours of ginger, cinnamon, cardamom and honey. To fulfil the demand of quality tea lovers in Nepal, Himalayan Beanz is all set to offer the most personalised service in a friendly and lively atmosphere to the esteemed patrons of K-town. Civil Mall, Sundhara Open: 8:00am to 10:00pm, seven days a week By» Malvika Biswas Photos» Mukesh
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Love
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Aries (21 Mar – 19 Apr)
Do-it-yourself Aries doesn’t want to rule the world. Being in control, right or wrong, is enough. If your partner knows that you really cherish his independent spirit, then you’re home free.
Taurus (20 Apr – 20 May)
Leo (23 Jul – 22 Aug)
If your partner is an ambitious, forceful Leo, then you have someone who will move heaven and earth for you. Make sure your mate understands that he means the world to you and that you will always be 200 percent loyal.
Virgo (23 Aug – 22 Sep)
Sagittarius (22 Nov – 21 Dec)
Although Sagittarius is the grand host at the banquet of life, he can still be a wreck of nervous energy. Make sure your partner knows you’re always there, especially in public, and watching out for him.
Capricorn (22 Dec – 19 Jan)
When it comes to stubbornness and persistence, Taurus comes out on top, and that has its good side. Let your partner know how much you totally love how he never, ever gives up on something when it’s important (including you).
The clear, discriminating Virgo mind can make for a difficult partner, but don’t be put off by the cool logic. Let your partner know that you trust his judgment, practicality, and grounding in reality.
Gemini (21 May – 20 Jun)
Libra (23 Sep – 22 Oct)
The Libra partner can be a shameless, hopeless romantic. Treasure his idealism and dreams for the perfect relationship. The shared dream all by itself can ensure that your partner will never want to let you go.
The Aquarius partner takes pride in an analytical mind and organised, critical thinking. Encourage the inventiveness and the desire to do fresh new things that benefit everyone. Be unselfish together and he will love you no end.
Cancer (21 Jun – 22 Jul)
Scorpio (23 Oct – 21 Nov)
Pisces (19 Feb – 20 Mar)
Life with a Gemini is life with a person who’s a bundle of nerves. This means constant excitement, stimulation, curiosity, and novelty. Let your partner know that life would be terminally boring without him.
The Cancer partner is the champion of sensitivity and protection. Be amused that your mate seasons your cooking behind your back, and loves all the work that goes into taking care of you. This means everything to him.
If your partner is a Scorpio, you’re dealing with not just a person but also a creative force of nature. Whether art, music, money, business, sex, he can make it all materialise. Make it known that you love how outrageously amazing your partner is.
Note to all Signs
The Capricorn partner is wise in all the ways of the world and no stranger to power. Love how successful he is and encourage all future plans, because that’s what keeps you two going.
Aquarius (20 Jan – 18 Feb)
The Pisces partner can be the most introspective and emotional of all the signs, with odd interests as well. Be the calm, curious, and appreciative bedrock in this person’s watery life and he will want to share eternity with you.
Say “I love you” a lot. If your partner replies with the same and means it, he is a keeper. You don’t get more breakup-proof than that. 68 | VOW | February 2012
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