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YOUR FAMILY z from the editor

The Village Family Magazine Now Owns Bragging Rights something I ate at Sarello’s the other Growing up in Fargo and living here my night. It wasn’t quite the same thing.” whole life, I learned early that modesty is Anytime you see this box, As editor of The Village Family the best policy, and taking you’ll know there’s more great Magazine, I receive many compliments ownership of bragging content to find online. about our articles, recipes, crafts, and rights is most definitely events calendar. In fact, we recently won taboo. Part generational, a Minnesota Magazine and Publications part regional, this Association gold award for Best Howreluctance to take pride in To article. It just got better for you, one’s work is something I too, because now you can go online to see frequently around here. villagefamilymag.org and interact with Bragging is not polite. You other families, receive daily events shouldn’t think you’re “the updates, and read all the great online-only best” at something, because there’s always content we don’t have room for in our room for improvement. print edition.

Most certainly, there are always ways we The crew that puts together The Village can enhance ourselves, our families, our careers, and improve the way we treat one Family Magazine and VFM online works tirelessly to bring you relevant, another. interesting family news, entertainment, advice, and profiles. It’s But is there ever a time when pride is an appropriate response truly a magazine and online experience like nothing else in the to a job well done? community.

For example, I love to cook. It makes me feel good when So I’m just going to get it over with and say it: The magazine I prepare a meal that makes my family and friends’ dining you’re reading right now is by far the best family magazine in the experience audibly satisfying. People compliment me: “Lonna, region. And we’re just getting started at villagefamilymag.org. that was the best trout,” or “Wow, I’ve never had such great Hey, that felt kind of good. Maybe bragging rights aren’t so off lasagna,” or my personal favorite, “That was vegetarian?” limits after all.

I never just say, “Thanks. It really was pretty darn good.”

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DEPARTMENTS z feature

12 Sign of the Times Babies signing at six months? One of the most recent and popular trends in parenting today is teaching infants sign language. Research shows that babies who sign are likely to have a higher I.Q. and better bonding experience with their parents. z consumer

16 Do-It-Together Garage Sales Dust off those old Jane Fonda workout records. Clean out that tool shed. Sticker shock, we think not. One person’s trash is another’s treasure, and garage sales are a great way for families to kill some clutter and collect some cash.

20 Firsthand Savings on Secondhand Goods Engage your family in the art of thrifting. Like a good scavenger hunt, hard work pays off––for the pocketbook, too. Find out which items are pre-owned prizes and which ones you’re better off buying new. z elder care

32 Elder Care Housing

There are a plethora of housing options available for seniors now. From memory care units to independent living facilities, where you and your elders live later in life is a critical decision. Read about common options in the Fargo-Moorhead area, costs, benefits, and alternatives. z wellness

37 Eye Health

When was the last time you had your eyes examined? Just like the dermatologist, skipping these seemingly unnecessary consultations can have dramatic health consequences. Learn about specific eye conditions you should be aware of before you book you next eye exam. z spirituality

40 Charity

Charity is so much more than giving financially to a cause. Learn about ways families in the community are giving. in every issue z gary’s opinion 7 z books & movies 8 z mom’s view 10 z dad’s view 11 z area events calendar 24 z food & fun 45 z words & wisdom 46

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YOUR FAMILY z gary’s opinion

When Should Kids Learn About Dangers of World?

W e recently learned Osama bin Laden was killed by US specialized military forces. He joined the ranks of other evil tyrants who have inhabited the planet, like Joseph Stalin, Pol Pot, Mao Tse-Tung … the list goes back literally to the beginning of time.

In a conversation I had the morning after the news broke, the question came up: What do we tell our children?

Well, that’s an interesting question, I thought.

First we have to figure out who’s a child. Not an easy task these days considering that for health care purposes, the age has been adjusted and now goes to age 26. I might suggest that a “child” of 26 can draw his own conclusions.

But for actual children, it’s a bit trickier, and the Wolsky discussion belongs in the realm of thoughtful parents. One of our counselors wrote a very useful piece about this topic, which you’ll find on The Village Family Magazine’s website, villagefamilymag.org.

At which point is it OK for a child to know the world can be a very dangerous place and there are truly evil people around us? We have a board member—a delightfully intelligent, insightful, retired PhD—who grew up in a suburb of London and was a little girl when London was being bombed regularly during WWII. Although she was quite young, I’ll bet she could have clearly articulated the evil personified by Hitler.

The damage, death, and destruction had to be stunning for a

10-year-old to comprehend.

It’s hard to imagine how anyone could grieve the passing of such an evil dictator as Hitler, much like it is hard to imagine anyone mourning Osama bin Laden. But kids are more insightful about things like this than we give them credit for.

I heard the former ambassador to Rome—who was visiting with Pope John Paul two days after 9/11—talk about how the pope bemoaned the fact so many people have been killed in wars fought in the name of “God.” Despite the obvious truth this represents, things such as this are huge challenges in helping children understand our world.

Evil has always been with us and Osama bin Laden’s departure won’t change that. It’s important that children, when they are old enough, learn the unvarnished facts about the world they live in. Kids benefit from clarity, definition, and rules. These are things not always found in a politicallycorrect world that chooses to rename the “War on Terror” the “Overseas Contingency Operation.” I would suggest our kids and our entire society deserve more clarity, definition, and honesty here, so they are better prepared to combat whatever evil their generation will be confronted with.

The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center president and CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the opinions of staff or boards of directors.

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YOUR FAMILY z movies

“Judy Moody and the NOT Bummer Summer”

Rated PG In theatres June 10 While Judy Moody is bound and determined to have the best summer of her life doing something outrageous that doesn’t include her brother, her parents put a stop to that. They tell her they are leaving for the summer, but she has to stay at home while her Aunt Opal, played by Heather Graham, takes care of her and her brother.

She assumes she will have the worst time of her life––until Aunt Opal turns out to be a fun, vibrant, older version of herself seeking just as much adventure as Judy. The three of them come up with a plan that has all the neighborhood kids joining in. With every adventure there is a thrill factor; to win it all they have to find Big Foot. Follow them on a fun, courageous journey that is “supermegatotallythrilladelic” in the words of Judy Moody. ––Jessica Truscinski

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“Cars 2”

Not yet rated In theatres June 24 Lightning McQueen and his best pal Mater set out on an exciting adventure that takes them across the world. They travel to Tokyo so McQueen can race for the World’s Fastest Car title. Along the way they encounter many road bumps and Mater gets caught up in some international spying. He is torn between helping McQueen win his big race or being a part of a top secret mission. Saving the world comes with a lot of explosions, fast street chases, and new villains. It will be unforgettable and a must-see of the summer.

––Jessica Truscinski

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“Mr. Popper’s Penguins”

Rated PG In theatres June 17 When Mr. Popper, played by Jim Carrey, inherits six penguins, his life as a professional businessman quickly begins to unravel. His apartment changes into a winter scene and he changes his life to fit theirs.

All of his peers wonder what is wrong with him. This film is a comedy that will keep everyone laughing the whole way through.

Watch Mr. Popper transform his life and the penguins as he teaches them how to live “normally.”

The film is based on a children’s book written by Richard and Florence Atwater, originally published in 1938.

––Jessica Truscinski

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YOUR FAMILY z books “The Kane Chronicles, Book Two: The Throne of Fire”

“The Story of Beautiful Girl”

By Rick Riordan Young Adult Fantasy Now available In this exciting second installment of the three-book series, Carter and Sadie, offspring of the brilliant Egyptologist Dr. Julius Kane, embark on a worldwide search for the Book of Ra, but the House of Life and the gods of chaos are determined to stop them. ––Amazon.com

By Rachel Simon Adult Nonfiction Now available It is 1968. Lynnie, a young white woman with a developmental disability, and Homan, an African American deaf man, are locked away in an institution, the School for the Incurable and Feebleminded, and have been left to languish, forgotten. Deeply in love, they escape, and find refuge in the farmhouse of Martha, a retired schoolteacher and widow. But the couple is not alone––Lynnie has just given birth to a baby girl. When the authorities catch up to them that same night, Homan escapes into the darkness, and Lynnie is caught. But before she is forced back into the institution, she whispers two words to Martha: “Hide her.” And so begins the 40-year epic journey of Lynnie, Homan, Martha, and baby Julia––lives divided by obstacles, yet drawn together by a secret pact and extraordinary love. ––Amazon.com

Editor’s Choice: “The Pale King”

By David Foster Wallace Adult Fiction Now available The agents at the IRS Regional Examination Center in Peoria, Ill., appear ordinary enough to newly arrived trainee David Foster Wallace. But as he immerses himself in a routine so tedious and repetitive that new employees receive boredom-survival training, he learns of the extraordinary variety of personalities drawn to this strange calling. And he has arrived at a moment when forces within the IRS are plotting to eliminate even what little humanity and dignity the work still has.

“The Pale King” remained unfinished at the time of David Foster Wallace’s death, but it is a deeply compelling and satisfying novel, hilarious and fearless and as original as anything Wallace ever undertook. It grapples directly with ultimate questions––questions of life’s meaning and of the value of work and society––through characters imagined with the interior force and generosity that were Wallace’s unique gifts. Along the way it suggests a new idea of heroism and commands infinite respect for one of the most daring writers of our time.

––Amazon.com

“Charlie the Ranch Dog” “Tornado!: The Story Behind These Twisting, Turning, Spinning, and Spiraling Storms” (National Geographic Kids)

By Judy and Dennis Fradin Early Reader Now available Through riveting narrative and eyewitness stories, young readers learn what it’s really like to be caught in a monster tornado.

Captivating first-person accounts and news reports detail survivors’ experiences of the most destructive tornadoes ever to occur in the United States. And thrill-seekers’ reports add to the drama and suspense. Historical perspectives on the human experience of tornadoes and scientific perspectives on why twisters happen and how to keep people safe add to the intrigue of this fascinating topic.

Ample appendices will help students find sources to write well-informed and compelling reports.

––Amazon.com

By Ree Drummond Picture Book Now available Meet Charlie.

He’s a ranch dog. Breakfast is his life, especially when bacon is involved.

Charlie has dangly ears, floppy skin, and big fat paws. And he loves living in the country. That’s because he works like a dog ... fixing fences, gardening, and helping his family out on the range.

Yep, it’s all work, all the time for Charlie the ranch dog. In fact, he’s probably working right now ...

Zzzzzzz ...

A ranch dog’s work is never done!

Come along as Ree Drummond, the pioneer woman, introduces us to her beloved short-legged pioneer dog named Charlie. ––Amazon.com

“Color My World” (The World of Eric Carle)

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YOUR FAMILY z mom’s view “Sometimes when a kid wants to go to a public restroom, it’s less about the call of Mother Nature and more about the desire to play with the automatic soap machine and the motion-activated paper towel dispenser.”

Quick Shopping Trip Surprisingly Fun

By Gwen Rockwood few days ago I did something I don’t normally do. I took two of our three kids out shopping. Typically I arrange to shop solo because little kids aren’t big on browsing and tend to suck the joy out of the whole experience. But I figured I could make the trip quick since all I needed was a new toaster.

We stopped at a department store, and I told the kids we were going in for one thing. I find that if I manage their expectations before stepping foot in the store, it cuts down on the amount of “Mom, can I have this?” activity.

We looked through the kitchen department, but I didn’t find the type of toaster I was looking for. I was just about to herd the kids toward the exit when six-year-old Jack said, “Mom, I gotta go to the bathroom.”

I was immediately suspicious about his request because I’ve been fooled before. Sometimes when a kid wants to go to a public restroom, it’s less about the call of Mother Nature and more about the desire to play with the automatic soap machine and the motion-activated paper towel dispenser.

“Really? We’re on our way home right now, Jack,” I said.

“Can you wait until we get home?”

He shook his head vigorously, which told me I’d better find the bathroom in a hurry. We power-walked across the store to the bathroom. Jack disappeared inside. While four-year-old Kate and I waited outside the door, she started doing the alltoo-familiar potty dance and said, “I gotta go potty, too!”

When Kate emerged from the bathroom, I doused all three of us with a generous amount of hand sanitizer and we headed toward the door. But on the way, I saw one of my favorite words out of the corner of my eye––SALE. And the word “sale” might as well be the word “stop” because it’s sure to halt any progress a bargain-loving woman was making toward the door.

“Kids, let’s stop here for just a minute while I look through these pajamas on sale,” I said.

The kids pounced on the opportunity to look for something on the sale rack that they liked, too. Jack quickly found a Super Mario Brothers sweat suit and rejoiced when I approved his choice. Kate asked for a paper-thin nightgown that was sure to shrink or disintegrate in the dryer, so I turned her down. I pointed her toward a rack of warm, zip-up pajamas with builtin feet. She found a pink one with polka-dots and a pig on it and held it up for my review. “Yes, that looks much warmer,” I said. “You can get that one.”

Kate danced down the aisle toward her brother, waving her pink, pig pajamas at him. “Look, Jack! I’m getting new pajamas! Kate-pot!”

Thinking I’d misheard her, I turned around to face her and said, “What did you say?”

“Katepot!” she said again in a singsong shout, smiling

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broadly as she held up her new pj’s.

“Jack, do you understand what she’s saying?” I asked, hoping he could translate for me.

Jack rolled his eyes and motioned for me to bend down so he could explain it. “She thinks it’s the same thing as jackpot.

Jackpot, Katepot!”

I laughed out loud when it all finally clicked. Kate had borrowed one of her brother’s favorite phrases and customized it for herself.

Suddenly “Katepot” made perfect sense.

As we walked through the parking lot with our shopping bag, I was glad I’d brought the kids along for the trip. We all found something we liked. We got a good deal. And Kate taught us a brand new word. I felt like I’d hit the “Mompot.”

Gwen Rockwood is a regular contributor to The Village Family Magazine. She lives in Arkansas with her husband and three kids.

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YOUR FAMILY z dad’s view “ ‘Unity of command’ is a basic principle of military science, and it’s even more crucial in parenting.”

‘Ask Your Mother’ Is Not The Answer

By Rick Epstein ere’s my Father’s Day gift to new dads: A warning about the phrase “Ask your mother.” It starts rolling out of the paternal mouth once kids are about three years old and it can be habit-forming.

It’s 4:30 on a Friday afternoon and I’m in the office bravely crawling toward the finish line. Usually full of questions for me, my 20-something staff is busily planning their Friday night festivities, and for that they need no input from their 54-year-old boss. In fact, on Monday when we compare weekends, some of them will avert their eyes as if I’m describing a painful and humiliating disease.

But there is one person whose plans for a wild weekend involve me, and it’s not my wife. I feel a vibration and for a moment I wonder if I’m wetting my pants. No, it’s my cell phone. My 14-year-old daughter Wendy says, “Hi Dad, can Kourtney, Bree, Heather, and Morgan sleep over tonight?”

“Morgan?” I ask. “Is that a girl?”

“Dad, the only Morgan who’s NOT a girl is Captain Morgan, the rum dude,” she says. “So, can they sleep over?”

“What do you know about the rum dude?” I ask, stalling for time to think.

“He’s on a billboard near the high school. He’s a pirate in a red coat. HE is not coming to sleep over. But can the girls?”

This is the time to say “Yes––on one condition,” and then slide in something that will advance the cause of righteousness. But nothing comes to mind. Like I said, it’s been a long week. So on the off-chance my lovely wife Betsy will do better, I say, “Ask your mother.” Besides, it would be unfair to approve the mayhem that will cause Betsy to spring angrily out of bed every couple hours to go downstairs and tell the revelers to quit shrieking, or come back inside the house, or put the furniture back where it was.

My wife is also at work. She is about to hear that half the cheerleaders in town are coming over for an all-night pep rally and that “It’s OK with Dad if it’s OK with you.”

If I were on my game, I would hit a speed-dial button and give Betsy a heads-up so she can be ready. But I haven’t really been “on my game” since the last birthday party in which Wendy wore a pointy hat.

“Unity of command” is a basic principle of military science, and it’s even more crucial in parenting. When Betsy and I are both at home, we confer privately and present our rulings with a united front. However, at work we are not only divided, but tired or sometimes distracted by the actual work we get paid to do.

Then Wendy can knock us off one at a time.

Obviously, I’m willing to pass the buck, but I’d like to pass it with nuanced precision. How about this for a plan?

When Betsy leaves for work, I hand her a sealed envelope containing the secret codes for the day. She hides it in her purse.

At 4:59 p.m. Wendy calls her and says, “Mom, can I have a sleepover?”

“Did you ask Dad?” asks Betsy, ripping open the envelope.

“Yes,” says Wendy. “He said to tell you ‘The poodle is blue.’ ” Betsy scans the code sheet. Down the left side are spy-type phrases, such as “Does this train go to Munich?” paired with

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precise messages like: “I’ve just said no 100 times; it’s your turn.” Other messages include, “It really IS alright with me,” and “I WANT to say no, but can’t think of a good reason, can you?”

Ah, here it is: “The poodle is blue.” Today it means: “I might not come home tonight.”

But this is whimsy. I don’t have the energy for all that. (Also, I have nowhere else to go.)

I don’t hear anything more about the sleepover until I’ve staggered up the front steps and fallen onto the couch, barely missing Betsy, who is already basking in the healing glow of the TV set. She says, “The girls will be arriving any minute, so you and Wendy better go out and pick up three large pizzas for dinner and some ice cream for later. You can’t expect your party to throw itself.” Apparently Wendy has exaggerated my lack of opposition into eager co-sponsorship.

“OK,” I say.

Wendy chimes in: “Dad, can we get M&Ms, too? They’re good on ice cream, plus we like to throw them at each other.”

“No!” I said. Sometimes a man has to take a stand.

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By Janelle Brandon ign language isn’t just for the hearing impaired anymore. More and more American parents are teaching their babies to sign. From books to videos to YouTube to podcasts, instructional materials about baby signing are everywhere. The end goal is to increase communication, heighten I.Q., and improve parent-child interactions.

The idea that you can teach a baby to open and close her hand as if she’s milking a cow to indicate her desire for milk, for example, certainly takes a lot of guesswork out of infantparent communication. No more wondering what her fussing is all about––she’ll show you what she wants using signs.

Researchers at the University of California–– Davis have studied the use of sign language in hearing children over the course of the past several decades. They’ve found that––on average––babies and children who learned

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“Signing forced me as a parent to look at

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him my full attention. I would like to believe that strengthened my relationship with my son beyond just communication, but on an emotional level, too.”

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~Kasey Lindstrom, Moorhead physical gesturing and signs showed an increased I.Q. of between eight and 13 points. The reports conclude that signing with babies decreases crying and tantrums, strengthens the parent/child bond, and enhances language development.

Baby signing isn’t without its critics. Some tout this as the “latest baby fad,” and believe it can have adverse effects if the infant is unable to learn the signs, thus creating unwanted stress and anxiety. Some also believe that the constant use of simple words, signs, and symbols could deter a child from developing verbal speech at a regular rate.

A 2005 report conducted by the universities of Ottawa and Waterloo examined the claims put forth by advocates for baby signing. Overall, they determined that baby signing isn’t harmful for infants, but it may not be as beneficial as parents believe. It could be that parents who interact closely by signing with their babies and talking to them are increasing the child’s verbal abilities simply through talking and nothing more.

No one refutes the value of interacting closely with your infant and encouraging language skills. The 2005 report concludes: “Our final recommendation for parents was that they should find activities that they enjoy with their child and spend one-on-one time sharing language with their baby.”

Kelli Ellenbaum, Certified Speech Language Pathologist and coowner of Red Door Pediatric Therapy in Bismarck uses American Sign Language (ASL) in her practice and therapy sessions, including most sessions with children under age three. Though many of her patients receive a multitude of diagnoses and therefore need tailor-made therapy programs, Ellenbaum naturally incorporates a great deal of sign language into speech therapy sessions because most children pick up on it so rapidly.

“Children with special needs often have delays with motor execution.

Sign language gives them a modality to express themselves when their ‘articulators’ may not quite be developed yet,” Ellenbaum says. “It is important to note that most children with disabilities will learn to talk, but sign language gives them a way to communicate so they do not feel

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Activities to Help Your Child Learn About Language Do these activities for as long as your child enjoys them.

Add new activities as your child grows older.

Newborn to 3 months

• Listen and talk to your baby throughout the day.

• Find out what your baby’s sounds and actions mean. Talk to your child about what he or she seems to be saying.

• While feeding, diapering, and bathing your baby, take time to sing songs, say nursery rhymes, and smile and coo in response to the baby’s smiles and coos.

• Smile and praise your baby for learning something new.

3 to 8 months

communicating with another person.

• Place a rattle in your baby’s hand. Hold out a squeeze toy for your baby to grab.

• Hand things to your baby and ask the baby to hand them back.

8 to 12 months

vinyl, and washable books are good for babies to handle.

• When you read to your baby, hold the baby on your lap and hold the book so that the baby can see the pictures.

• Use puppets, dolls, and other toys as story props.

• Talk and play with your baby.

• Use words and play actions when talking with your baby.

• Play games with your baby, such as peek-a-boo and pat-a-cake, that teach your child about taking turns when

• Read and tell stories with your baby every day.

• Make reading a shared experience. Point to pictures and name the objects.

• Provide books that are safe to touch and taste. Cloth,

12 to 18 months

• Provide play materials that match your baby’s skill and interest.

• Let your child play “telephone.” Have a pretend telephone conversation.

18 to 24 months

• Help your toddler talk about the present, the past, and the future.

• Help your toddler learn new words to talk about what he

24 to 36 months

• Read books and do activities that let toddlers join in.

• Play make-believe with your toddler. Provide props so that the toddler can play dress-up or doctor.

3 to 4 years

• Provide books in English and in your family’s home language.

• Let your child see him or herself in books. Choose some books about families like yours and people from your cultural and ethnic group.

• Have a special place for books, magazines, and other

• Let your child play with pots, pans, wooden spoons, plastic containers, and other safe household items.

• Arrange pillows and other objects on the floor for your child to crawl around or on and play with.

or she did in the past and will do in the future. “I think it’s going to be sunny tomorrow. What would you like to do?”

• Discuss the day’s events at bedtime. “Remember when we went to the park?”

• Arrange a special time for reading.

• Respond to your toddler’s request to be read to.

• Read some of the same books again and again, and encourage your toddler to join in with the words he or she knows. reading materials in the home. Your child should be able to reach books without help in a reading corner and in other places around the home.

• Help your child to create his or her own “This Is Me” album. Together with your child look at and talk about the family album, photographs, or special memorabilia.

4 to 5 years

relate to topics seen on TV. •L et your child see you enjoying a book or magazine often.

•E ncourage reading in different places. When you go out with your child, take books for the child to read in the car or on the bus.

5 to 6 years

shelf so the child can reach them easily.

• Talk with your child about his or her writing.

• If you cannot read the words your child has written, ask your child to read the writing to you. Over time, your child will learn how to write words others can read.

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• Show your child how reading and writing are important in daily life.

• Point out the print around you and show how it serves a purpose. Watch TV together and talk about books that

• Make sure your child has writing materials and places to write.

• Let your child see you write every day.

• Put writing materials for your child––paper, pencils, crayons, markers, and chalk––in an open box on a low

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Even though Lindstrom’s son didn’t start signing back to his frustrated when they are not understood verbally.” mother and father until he was about a year old, both parents According to Ellenbaum, children often develop the motor skills necessary to produce signs more rapidly than their and child enjoyed the communication exchange. oral motor skills. Movements with hands are larger motions, “I think he enjoyed the attention he got from signing. He got and although children may not be able to produce all signs quicker responses to his requests,” Lindstrom says. “Signing correctly, it’s still easier to understand their approximated hand forced me as a parent to look at my child with my face and my movements, body movements, and facial expressions than body and give him my full attention. I would like to believe trying to decode a whimper or whine. that strengthened my relationship with my “Sign language is such a rich son beyond just communication, but on an modality to communicate, even for emotional level, too.”

Watch a video of writer Janelle typically developing verbal language,” Lindstrom’s two children attend daycare Brandon’s 18-month old daughter says Ellenbaum. “One of the biggest signing. at Cobber Kids at Concordia College in benefits to sign language for typically Moorhead. Her son is in the preschool developing children is that kids are room and her 11-month-old daughter is able to communicate more vocabulary in the infant room. Luckily for Lindstom, words through sign.” the infant room assistant head teacher Ellenbaum, a mother to four Megan Blackburn begins signing with the daughters, encouraged her sister Kasey babies when they are six months old so Lindstrom of Moorhead to sign with Lindstrom’s daughter gets the opportunity her son when he was still a baby. to sign at home and in daycare.

Lindstrom, a financial analyst with Blackburn, a Fargo native, graduated RDO Equipment in Fargo, saw how from Minnesota State University Ellenbaum’s daughters flourished with Moorhead with a degree in early childhood the use of sign language and decided to education and is licensed to teach in incorporate signs into her son’s life when he was about seven Minnesota. Blackburn has been signing with the infants at months old.

Cobber Kids for the last four years.

“I saw the benefit in early communication with my sister’s “When the babies are around six months or when they start girls and wanted to be able to communicate with my son to wave, we start by signing milk when we are giving a child a as soon as I could,” says Lindstrom. “I can’t imagine how bottle,” shares Blackburn. “When they start eating solid food, frustrating it must be for children to not be able to articulate ‘more’ is signed to see if they want more food or we sign ‘all their needs.” done’ when they are eating. Also, ‘eat’ is signed when they are having a bottle or are handed their lunch plate in a high chair. We sign ‘eat’ and say ‘Are you ready to eat?’ while we are signing.”

Blackburn uses children’s sign language books with the babies as a teaching tool. She sits down with a baby or a few babies at a time and reads and signs the words on each page.

Then Blackburn asks the child to sign back to her to practice.

“It is amazing to see how many signs some children know.

Sometimes we don’t have to even say the word on the page and the child is signing the word based on the picture. We have a ‘Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star’ book made for infants.

Some of the children will take the book off the shelf and sit down with us and start signing before we do.”

Signing with the infants has helped Blackburn tremendously. Once the babies have mastered a few signs, they can tell her when they are hungry, want more to eat, are all done eating, need a diaper change, and even when they are tired and want to sleep.

“Signing at lunchtime is helpful for sure,” Blackburn says.

“The other teachers and I are able to understand whether the child wants more to eat or is all done. This helps the child not get upset and throw a plate to the floor.”

Blackburn stresses that for infants to learn and communicate with sign language it is important the parents also sign at home. She encourages parents to be patient with children and repeat the signs over and over.

“Start with one sign and build on it and don’t overload the child with many different signs,” says Blackburn.

Babies and children naturally gesture to communicate.

Teaching your infant baby signs can be a wonderful bonding experience and may have added cognitive and developmental benefits as well.

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YOUR FAMILY z do it together Garage sales are more than just a means of getting rid of old junk. Start to finish, planning and holding a garage sale provides plenty of teaching opportunities. Kids can learn about organization, reducing, reusing and recycling, handling currency, negotiating, and giving to those in need.

Everything Must Go! How to Plan, Organize, and Set Up the Perfect Yard Sale

By Meredith Holt Illustration by Dennis Krull Involving your children in the process of holding a garage sale pulls them away from the computer or TV and gets them doing something constructive and interactive with family members. Let them sell their own items and use the money to purchase something they’ve been asking (well, nagging) you for since Christmas.

Make an event of it. Where I grew up, my entire street had a “block sale” every year, complete with face-painting, baked goods for sale, and a puppet show put on by the neighborhood kids. End the day with a potluck dinner or barbecue, or use the day’s profits to throw a pizza party.

Get organized Start small. It’s easier to tackle one container, one drawer, one shelf at a time. Then make your way from room to room: kitchen, family room, playroom, bedrooms, basement, garage.

Ask yourself these questions: • How long has this been sitting in the cupboard?

• Will this continue to gather dust for the next 10 years?

• Do I no longer care about this?

• When was the last time I used this?

• Does this fit me? Will I ever wear it again?

Encourage your children to do the same. “Weeding out” can facilitate growth. Ask them when was the last time they played with that LEGO set or if they need all 30 Barbies or can get by with three. Try compromising.

Set out 10 stuffed animals and ask them to choose their five favorites.

Check for chips, cracks, and defects. Fix what’s fixable and label what isn’t so the buyer knows what they’re getting.

Set ground rules, such as no garage-sale sabotage.

That means your handbag collection is off-limits, and no sneaking your husband’s prized deer-head wall mount onto the 25-cent table.

When you’re finished, take inventory and create a list of items for sale to facilitate pricing. Group like items together: appliances, kitchenware, furniture, books, CDs, DVDs, video games, toys by age group, clothes by size.

TIP Donate whatever doesn’t sell to local thrift stores like Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch or The Arc, or organizations like YWCA Cass Clay or the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center of Fargo-Moorhead.

Get the word out Pick a date that won’t interfere with big community events. Consider spreading it out over two days. If the first day isn’t that successful, there’s hope for the second. You’re also likely to get more people to stop by, say, if they don’t have time on Saturday but resolve to visit Sunday. Choose start and end times and stick to them.

Create an event page on Facebook, place an ad in the paper, or post your sale on a free website like yardies.com, justgaragesales.com, or weekendtreasure.com.

Make signs, but make them right. Yard Sale Queen has a hilarious sign do’s and don’ts page at yardsalequeen.com/ yardsalesigns.htm (“Vard sale”).

Buy eye-catching, neon-colored card stock. Use simple, effective words (“Yard sale 8-4”) in big, bold text. Include arrows. Oh, and don’t forget to take down your signs afterward.

Make sure they’ll stay put. Use old Realtor sign frames, mount them on a box, post them on a telephone pole (check city ordinance first), and post them on grocery store bulletin boards. Place them so they’re visible and in high-traffic areas.

Create an event page on Facebook, place an ad in the paper, or post your sale on a free website like yardies.com, justgaragesales.com, or weekendtreasure.com.

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Be friendly and approachable. Don’t ignore customers, but don’t overcrowd them.

Get set up Situate your sale out in the open, in your yard or driveway, depending on the layout of your home in relation to the street.

Reconsider an actual “garage” sale. Some people are hesitant to enter a dark garage.

Place highly desirable items like electronics and furniture close to the road to catch drivers’ attention.

People are more likely to stop for a home entertainment center than a one-eyed Cabbage Patch Kids doll.

If a sale item consists of multiple parts, display them together. Include a printout of specifications when applicable.

Add interesting information to labels, like “Limited edition––500 made,” or “Signed by Mötley Crüe in 1994.”

Keep items off the ground, unless they’re tall, like a floor lamp. Stick to tables.

Hang clothes on hangers. If you don’t have a portable clothing rack, make one with a broomstick or shower rod and a couple of ladders. Make sure everything is clean and free of cat hair. Organize books, CDs, DVDs, and video games so the titles are easy to read.

Allow shoppers to test items. Unfold lawn chairs. Have batteries and an extension cord handy.

Good music keeps the mood light and fun. Background sound helps customers feel less awkward while you watch them look over your stuff. But––ahem––nothing offensive, please.

Have a fan or two going if it’s a scorcher. Let the kids sell cans of soda from a cooler for 50 cents.

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Get the buyer to buy A good rule of thumb for yard-sale pricing is one-half to one-third of retail price. Think like a customer. Would you pay $15 for a Garfield cookie jar? Generally, the lower the price, the faster it will sell. Be willing to bargain.

To simplify the process, use a color-coded system, i.e., items marked with red dots cost $1, yellow, 50 cents, blue, 25 cents.

Mark prices conspicuously and give larger items larger labels. String tickets can be attached to handles or knobs of furniture. Have a few “sold” signs ready to place on larger items people may have to leave for the time being and pick up later.

Save the antiques and collector’s items for Craigslist or eBay. Decide ahead of time whether you’ll accept checks and post a notice. It’s probably best only to accept checks from those you know fairly well. Don’t let the cashbox out of your sight. Better yet, keep your change in a carpenter’s apron. Get cash and rolls of quarters ahead of time.

Set up a station with plastic bags and boxes and newspaper to wrap breakables. Grocery stores usually have good, sturdy boxes available––just ask.

Don’t leave your sale unattended. Make sure someone will always be there. Designate shifts if you have to.

Be friendly and approachable. Don’t ignore customers, but don’t overcrowd them. Give them space, but don’t spend the entire time they’re browsing loudly talking on your phone.

And always thank people for coming whether they buy something or not!

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YOUR FAMILY z consumer

Firsthand Savings on Secondhand Goods

By Lara Krupicka

In recent years, the stigma of buying used has faded thanks to sites like eBay and Craigslist.

Economic necessity and the green movement may give thrift a chance to become trendy.

Want to get in on the savings?

Check out these possibilities before you pay full price!

Sporting Goods

With kids’ sizes and interests changing often, it makes sense to spend less by getting used equipment. Communities have long been holding athletic equipment resales and you can usually find outgrown gear at garage sales.

If you need a sports-related item right away, used sporting goods retailers, like Play It Again Sports in Fargo, have new and used stock available year-round.

Keith Walsh, manager of Fargo Play it Again Sports says there are a number of popular items families purchase at his store, including baseball gloves, golf accessories, and rollerblades. The No. 1 resale sport in his store is hockey.

“Hockey is really popular because of the number of pieces you need,” Walsh says.

Other items are popular because, when new, they can be quite expensive. “Ellipticals, treadmills, weight benches, and all of the weights and plates that may go with the dumbbells. They are such big ticket items and they sell for at least half here,” Walsh says.

Watch for: • Defects that would affect the function of the item. On leather goods (cleats, mitts, skates) make sure the seams are intact.

• Cracks in wood items and extensive rust on metal parts.

Better off new: • Personal items like mouth guards and jock shorts.

• Ski goggles, which usually only last a season or two before getting too scratched to see through.

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Clothing

As toddlers, your kids may have been fine with hand-me-downs, but most grade-schoolers like to make their own choices. You can still save on clothes by shopping at secondhand stores and clothing resale events.

Kinder Kloset in Fargo specializes in pre-owned children’s clothing, maternity wear, toys, and equipment.

Linda Smith, a mother of two fashionconscious girls appreciates the value of getting name-brand clothes at bargain prices through buying at resale shops like Kinder Kloset. One benefit she notes is that “they’re already shrunk. The clothing size and shape isn’t going to change.”

Her advice on shopping for secondhand clothes: “Be patient. You’ve got to dig to find what your kids will like.

They are going to try on a lot and just get one or two things.”

Watch for: • Worn spots on elbows and knees, broken zippers, and fatigued elastic.

Better off new: • Athletic shoes for daily use where quality affects physical comfort, and underwear (for obvious reasons).

“Spring is absolutely the best time to come in for furniture.

People are cleaning out and buying new.” ~Diane Rust of Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch Thrift Store in Fargo Furniture

One category where buying used costs less, but can also net better quality is furniture. Fun, unusual, and well-built desks, bunk beds, and bookcases don’t have to cost a fortune.

Secondhand furniture is desirable all year round, but thrift stores receive more donations in the spring. “Spring is absolutely the best time to come in for furniture. People are cleaning out and buying new,” says Diane Rust of Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch Thrift Store in Fargo.

According to Rust, the most popular furniture items are couches and dressers. If thrift-store scavenging isn’t your thing, check out neighborhood yard sale listings and estate sales to find that piece you’re looking for.

Watch for: • Signs of mold or deeper-than-surface water damage on wood, and upholstered pieces with funky smells.

Better off new: • Cribs, due to safety standards, and mattresses, particularly with the rise in bedbug infestations.

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Secondhand Stores in Cass and Clay Counties • 109 Consign: 109 Broadway N. #1, Fargo, 701-280-0998 • Arc Attic Treasures: 3201 43rd St. S., Fargo, 701-364-9762 • Arc Attic Treasures: 255 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-2326641

• Kinder Kloset Preowned Clothing: 745 A 45th St. S.W., Fargo, 701-277-1211 • Moorhead Thrift Shop: 501 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-2332995 • My Best Friend’s Closet: 11 9th Ave., Moorhead 218-2366937

• Clothes Mentor: 2551 45 St. S.W., Fargo, 701-356-8010 th

• Dakota Boys Ranch: 1001 4 Ave. N., Fargo, 701-280-2371 th

• New Life Center Thrift Store: 1902 3rd Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-4453

• Dakota Boys Ranch: 1601 32 Ave. S., Fargo, 701-297-4166

• Once Upon a Child: 2551 45th St. S., Fargo 701-282-5222

• Dakota Boys Ranch: 1500 Center Ave. W. HWY 10, Dilworth,

• Plato’s Closet: 2551 45th St. S., Fargo, 701-356-3800

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• Play it Again Sports: 2501 45th St. S.W., Fargo, 701-293-1721

• Family Life Thrift Store: 1000 45 St. S., Fargo, 701-373th

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• REACH Reusables Thrift Store: 208 6th St., Hawley, 218-483-4225

• Habitat ReStore, 210 N. 11th St., Moorhead, MN 56560, 218-284-5253

• Repeat Boutique: 2551 45th St. S., Fargo, 701-364-3888 • Revolver: 627 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701- 235-2883

• Heirlooms: 1617 32 Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-2670 nd

• Jazzy & Mumbo’s Animal Aid and Thrift Store: 817 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-3931

• Salvation Army Thrift Store: 4575 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7090 • Saver’s: 1623 38th St. S.W., Fargo, 701-277-1447

• Just for You Clothing: 855 45th S. S.W., Fargo, 701-277-0427 • Kids Biz: 123 Center Ave. E., Dilworth, 218-236-5439

• St. Vincent DePaul Society: 1425 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-235-5944

Instruments

Particularly when your child is just starting out learning an instrument, it’s a good idea to buy them a used instrument. In many cases, you can rent either through your child’s school or a local music shop. But once your child has decided to stick with an instrument, you can save 30 or 40 percent buying used. The key is buying a quality instrument.

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Glenn Miiller of Christian Eggert Violins in Fargo says a lot of families come in to rent violins at first. “Most kids are going to rent to start,” Miiller says. “A lot of the lower-cost instruments are rental outfits, and if they want to purchase we examine the instrument and offer upkeep services as well.”

Other stores in the Fargo-Moorhead area that offer pre-owned instrument rental and sales are Schmitt Music, Eckroth Music, and Marguerite’s.

Steve Grendahl of Marguerite’s Music in Moorhead says many families want to rent or purchase a “starter” instrument for their children, and the Internet has had a big impact on the way they go searching for one.

“A lot of people sell it on the Internet now because it’s easier, and people can get more on eBay,” Grendahl says.

“Even so, we sell a lot of used electric guitars, drums, and PAs.” Grendahl says used instruments from Marguerite’s are inspected and repaired before being sold. The store also offers a 30-day warranty on used equipment.

“Usually when someone asks for a used instrument, they mean cheap, but that doesn’t always go hand in hand,” Miiller says. “A lot of my favorite instruments are instruments that have sat under Granddad’s bed for years.

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and can now cost $600 to $6,000.”

Miiller enjoys refurbishing violins that look like they should just be tossed in the garbage. Violins, like fine antiques, often increase in value with age.

“I like when someone has a violin in the family and thinks it’s a piece of junk. The average cost is around $300 for fixing it, and you can end up with something that is more valuable than the cost of repairs. If someone has something like that you can end up with a great playing instrument we can resell for $900 to $1,500 depending on quality,” Miiller says.

condition. Remember that dents are generally cosmetic.

It also helps to have a music shop inspect the instrument and advise you of any work needed before buying from a

third party.

Better off new:

Instruments beyond student level.

The Village Family Magazine Editor Lonna Whiting contributed to this story

Watch for: • Brand names. Certain makers are known for their level of quality.

Miiller says a Stradivarius from 1700 is most certainly considered used, and the value of such an instrument is very high (and likely out of your price range).

• Make sure all moving parts work smoothly, pads aren’t worn down, and any corks are in good

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6.7 Tuesday

Registration and/or fees may apply.

• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Elephant Park, 100 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. 6-8 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-232-5856 • “ Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.1 Wednesday

6.8 Wednesday

To add your event to the calendar, call Shayna at 701-451-4936 or email her at shendricksen@ TheVillageFamily.org Calendar deadline for August/September 2011 is July 1, 2011.

JUNE EVENTS

• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com

• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com

• RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28 • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com

6.9 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3

6.2 Thursday • Cruisin’ Broadway. 5-9 p.m., cruisinbroadway.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Adoption Days. Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-281-8531

6.3 Friday • Bank of North Dakota 529 Day at Red River Zoo. Free admission all day. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

Fargo Parks

6.4 Saturday • Share a Story. 10:30 a.m.-4 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Car Seat Check. Certified car seat technicians will be available to assist parents and caregivers on using car seats correctly. 11 a.m.-3 p.m., Pout Baby Boutique, 4325 13th Ave. S., Fargo • RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

6.5 Sunday • RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • Classical Music Festival. 1-6 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • National Cancer Survivorship Day. Picnic dinner with free will offering, music, exhibits, vendor booths, and activities for kids. 4-7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead. Register by June 1 at 701-234-7463 or embrace@sanfordhealth.org • Music in the Park. Free family concert. 4:30 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org

6.6 Monday • Lil’ Fisherman Derby & Clinic. 5-7:30 p.m., Dike East, 100 2nd St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com

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p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28 • Red River Zoo Safety Safari. Free admission.

3-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.10 Friday • RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28 • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.11 Saturday • Teddy Bear Adventure Day. Free zoo admission for children with a teddy bear or stuffed animal. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • Riblet Fest. Outdoor activities for kids of all ages. 11 a.m.-2 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28 • RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com

6.12 Sunday • RibFest. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargoribfest.com See ad on page 28

6.13 Monday • WWII B-25 “Miss Mitchell” Tour & Rides.

Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Trout Fest. 5:30-8 p.m., North Woodhaven Pond, 4406 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • RedHawks vs. Gary South Shore RailCats.

7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com

6.14 Tuesday • WWII B-25 “Miss Mitchell” Tour & Rides.

Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Cares for Kids Thunder Road Event. All day, Thunder Road, 2902 Thunder Rd. S., Fargo, 701-282-5151 • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Clara Barton Park, 1451 6th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RiverArts. Music by Silverado, free pony rides.

5:30-8:30 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 See ad on page 26

• RedHawks vs. Gary South Shore RailCats.

7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

6.19 Sunday • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com • Father’s Day at Red River Zoo. Free admission for all dads. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • Fabulous Father’s Day. Dads are free. 1-5 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • BMX Jam. 4 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

6.15 Wednesday • WWII B-25 “Miss Mitchell” Tour & Rides.

Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • RedHawks vs. Gary South Shore RailCats.

12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Madison Park, 3010 11th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “ Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com

6.20 Monday • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com

6.21 Tuesday • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com • Tuesday Tunes. 11:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com

6.16 Thursday • Big Screen Movie Matinee. 1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Adoption Days. Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-281-8531 • RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.17 Friday • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com • Teddy Bear Parade. 10:30 a.m., Dike West Parking Lot, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Midwest Kid Fest. 11 a.m.-7 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “Nunsensations.” PG-rated musical presented

by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.18 Saturday • Libraries of America. Photo exhibit by Doug Ohman, 4 p.m., Moorhead Library, larl.org See ad on this page • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com

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• Park It. 1-4 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Skateboarding Day. 4 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “The 70s Show.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

6.22 Wednesday • USA Wrestling. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or fargodome.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Wild West Jamboree. Music, carriage rides, pony rides, and petting zoo.

5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701433-5360 or wfparks.org • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “Disney’s Aladdin Kids.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The 70s Show.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com

6.23 Thursday • “Disney’s Aladdin Kids.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The 70s Show.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

6.24 Friday • RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

• “Disney’s Aladdin Kids.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The 70s Show.” PG-rated musical presented by The Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

6.25 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • “Disney’s Aladdin Kids.” 2 & 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

6.26 Sunday • RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “Disney’s Aladdin Kids.” 2 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org

6.28 Tuesday • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Madison Park, 3010 11th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Soroptimist International of Fargo’s Annual Garden Tour. 1:30-7:30 p.m. Contact Carol Staiger, 701-235-5994 or Cindy Thrall, 701-361-6333 • Neighborhood Park Party. 6-8 p.m., Morningside Park, 455 Oakway, Moorhead, 218-299-5340 See ad below • “Zombie Prom.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

6.29 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Soroptimist International of Fargo’s Annual Garden Tour. 1:30-7:30 p.m. Contact Carol Staiger, 701-235-5994 or Cindy Thrall, 701-361-6333 • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Courts Plus Fitness Center, 3491 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “Zombie Prom.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com

6.30 Thursday • Trollwood Performing Arts School’s Sun Celebration. Barbecue picnic and talent showcase. Picnic at 5 p.m., talent showcase at 6 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or trollwood.org • “Zombie Prom.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

JULY EVENTS 7.1 Friday • “Zombie Prom.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players.

7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

7.2 Saturday • Happy Birthday USA. Red, white & blue tie-dye. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com

7.3 Sunday • Happy Birthday USA. Red, white & blue tie-dye. 1-5 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org

7.4 Monday • Happy Birthday USA. Red, white & blue tie-dye. 10 a.m.-5 p.m.,

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• RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

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7.10 Sunday

• Tie-dye Tuesday. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org

• Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

7.6 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Family Fun Concert. 7-8:30 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com See ad on page 24

7.7 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Cruisin’ Broadway. 5-9 p.m., cruisinbroadway.com • RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

7.8 Friday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

7.9 Saturday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Summer Grind. 3 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com

7.11 Monday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com

7.12 Tuesday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Island Park Pool, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • Tie-dye Tuesday. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Waterama. Noon-3:30 p.m., Island Park Pool, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Lewis & Clark Park, 1807 16th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RiverArts. Music by Penny & Pals, River Keepers fishing clinic. 5:30-8:30 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 See ad on page 26 • “The Complete Works of Shakespeare (Abridged).” PG-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

7.13 Wednesday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds,

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1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Family Fun Concert. 7-8:30 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com See ad on page 24 • “The Complete Works of Shakespeare (Abridged).” PG-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

7.14 Thursday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Pepsi Appreciation Day. All day, Madison Pool, 1040 29th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • Downtown Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., fmdowntown.com • Waterama. Noon-3:30 p.m., Madison Pool, 1040 29th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “The Complete Works of Shakespeare (Abridged).” PG-rated comedy presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

7.15 Friday • Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Downtown Street Fair. Downtown Fargo, 10 a.m.-9 p.m., fmdowntown.com • RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

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• Red River Valley Fair. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyfair.com • Downtown Street Fair. Downtown Fargo, 10 a.m.-5 p.m., fmdowntown.com • Midwest Viking Festival. Viking-era crafts, food, and demonstrations. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline.org See ad on page 29 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo,

701-281-1002 or bn.com • RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

7.17 Sunday • Midwest Viking Festival. Viking-era crafts, food, and demonstrations. Noon-4 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline.org See ad on page 29 • RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

7.18 Monday • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Adam Pascal Live in Concert. 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org

7.19 Tuesday • WWII B-17 “Aluminum Overcast” Tour & Rides. Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Tie-dye Tuesday. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Tuesday Tunes. 11:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Longfellow Park, 20 29th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks. com • “ Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org • RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com

7.20 Wednesday • WWII B-17 “Aluminum Overcast” Tour & Rides. Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Family Fun Night. Music, inflatable games, and more. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Elmwood Park, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org • Family Fun Concert. 7-8:30 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com See ad on page 24 • “Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org

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• RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • Red River Valley Speedway Racing. 7:30 p.m., RRV Speedway, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, redrivervalleyspeedway.com • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood. org

7.21 Thursday • RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or fmredhawks.com • Water Carnival. 2-4 p.m., Veterans Memorial Pool, 131 6th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-4335360 or wfparks.org • “Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.

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7.22 Friday • “Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood. org

7.23 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2811002 or bn.com • “ Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented

by Gooseberry Park Players. 1 & 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood. org

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7.24 Sunday • German Folk Festival. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or fargoparks.com • “Cinderella—The World’s Favorite Fairy Tale.” All ages pop musical presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 1 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or gooseberryparkplayers.org

7.26 Tuesday • Tie Dye Tuesday. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseumyunker.org • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Neighborhood Park Party. 6-8 p.m., Ridgewood Park, 1818 31st St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 See ad on page 26 • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

7.27 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2811002 or bn.com • Furball. Red River Zoo’s annual fundraiser.

6-11 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org

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• Community Playground Carnival. Noon-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by The Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

7.28 Thursday • “Rent,” by Jonathan Larson. 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

7.29 Friday • “Rent,” by Jonathan Larson. 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The Sound of Music.” PG-rated musical presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

7.30 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • “Rent,” by Jonathan Larson. 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch

701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “The Music Man.” Mainstage musical presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., IMAGINE Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6502 or trollwood.org

CLASSES

Call for information. Pre-registration may be required.

The Arthritis Foundation 701-388-1988, 800-333-1380 or arthritis.org • Aquatic Program Leader/Instructor Training • Arthritis: Restoring Your Mobility, Restoring Your Life

Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Yunkie Summer Science Camps • Kidcology Camp

Early Childhood Family Education Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S, Moorhead, 218-284-3400 or https://communityed.moorhead.k12.mn.us • Bears, Bears, Bears (24-60 mos) • Bugs and Butterflies (2 yrs-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Nursery Rhyme Time (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Ones and Twos (12-36 mos) • Rumble in the Jungle (2 ½ yrs-kindergarten entry) • Slither and Slime Snakes and Frogs (Birth-kindergarten entry)

Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or innovishealth.com. Call for class times and rooms.

• Basic Training for New Dads • Birthing Center Tour • Car Seat Safety • Developing the Art of Breastfeeding • Great Expectations • Lamaze • Refresher Lamaze • Tender Transitions • Weekend Lamaze

Fargo Air Museum

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1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Plane Camp

Fargo Park District

Save the date! The Pigs are movin’!

9th annual

Pigs ‘n a Blanket dinner and quilt auction * DATE: Saturday, Sept. 17 * VENUE: Fargo Davies High School 7150 25th St. S., Fargo.

Quilt preview: 2-4 p.m.

Dinner (buffet-style): 4-6 p.m.

Cost: $7/person/$15 families of 3+ Live auction: 5:30 p.m.

Proceeds from the event benefit the Ranch's children in residential treatment programs. Enjoy food, music and great company--all for a worthy cause! Deadline to donate quilts is Sept. 1. Call 701.364.0264, email c.isom@dakotaranch.org or visit www.dakotaranch.org for more info.

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701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com. Pre-registration required.

• Accelerated Artists • Artmania • Arts Sampler • BMX Clinic • Father’s Day Fun • Intro to Drawing • Intro to Mixed Media • Kayaking 101 • Me-n-My Shadow • Penny and Pals Workshop • RD for Youth Golf Lessons • Skateboarding Clinic

Fraser, Ltd. 2902 University Dr. S., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or fraserltd.org • CPR • First Aid

FirstLink 701-293-6462 or myfirstlink.org

Healing Arts Chiropractic 3240 15th St. S., Fargo, 701-451-9070 or info@healingartschiropractic.com • How to Stay Young the First 100 Years

Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or plainsart.org. Pre-registration required.

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• Summer Art Camps

Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or ag.ndsu.edu/casscountyextension • The Nurtured Heart Approach

Permanent Family Resource Center 218-998-3400 or permanentfamily.org

Red River Zoo 4220 21st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • ZOOniversity • Critter Camp

Sanford Health 1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-234-5570, 877234-4240 or Sanfordhealth.org • Baby Signs • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring For Your Newborn • Car Seat 101 • Heartsaver CPR Day Care Providers • Family and Friends––CPR • Infant Massage • Lamaze • Living Well Workshop • Our Family is Having a Baby!

• Safety Shoppe • Sanford Weight Loss Surgery Seminar • Your Labor Experience––What to Expect

Triumph Lutheran Brethren Church 218-233-4048 or TriumphLBC.org • PandaMania Vacation Bible School

The Village Financial Resource Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 or HelpWithMoney.org. Call or go online for class locations, dates, and other information • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education

PUBLIC LIBRARIES

Call or visit your local library for more information or to register.

Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1492, 701-241-1495 or fargolibrary.org • World of Fun with The Games Guy! Free summer reading program kick-off event for kids and families. June 3, 2-4 p.m.

• Teen Craft. June 7 & 21, 2 p.m.

• Story & Craft. June 9, 11 a.m. & 2 p.m., June 30 & July 13, 2 p.m.

• Free Friday Movies. June 10, 17, 24, July 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, Noon & 3 p.m.

• Pajama Jamboree Family Storytime. Feel free to wear your PJ’s. June 13 & July 11, 6:30 p.m.

• Teen Movie. July 5, 2 p.m.

• Teen Texting Competition. Teens will compete to see who is the area’s texting ace. Prizes will be awarded. July 12, 2 p.m.

• Kids’ & Teen Talent Show. Talented area teens and kids will compete in the library’s 2nd annual talent show. July 20, 7 p.m.

Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or fargolibrary.org • Story & Craft. June 7, 2 p.m. & July 12, 11 a.m.

• Teen Craft. June 9 & 23, 2 p.m.

• Pajama Jamboree Family Storytime. Feel free to wear your PJ’s. June 9 & July 14, 6:30 p.m.

• Free Friday Movies. June 10, 17, 24, July 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, 1 p.m.

• Teen Movie. July 7, 2 p.m.

swap your favorite gluten-free recipes. July 18, 7 p.m.

• African Mask Making. July 20, 2 p.m.

• Antarctic Iceberg Races. July 27, 2 p.m.

SUPPORT GROUPS Please visit villagefamilymag.org for support group listings.

Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or fargolibrary.org • Story & Craft. June 22, 2 p.m. & June 30, 11 a.m.

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS

West Fargo Public Library

Call for additional information.

109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or westfargolibrary.org • Children’s Storytime. Tuesdays, 1:30 p.m. & Thursdays, 6:30 p.m.

• Knitty Giddy. Adult group, bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.

• Friday Morning Movies. For preschoolers and younger children and caretakers. Fridays, 10:30 a.m.

• Movie Mania @ 2. Family-friendly movies.

Saturdays, 2 p.m.

• Summer Reading Program Opening Celebration. June 4, 2-4 p.m.

• Summer Reading Program Activities. Call or visit the library for information • Board Games & Legos. Open to all ages.

June 16 & July 21, 7-8 p.m.

• Video Gaming. Wii, Guitar Hero and Kinect.

Open to all ages. June 27 & July 25, 6-8 p.m.

• Summer Reading Program Closing Festival. July 30, 2-4 p.m.

• Technology Classes. Call for class descriptions, dates, and times

Concordia College Cyrus M. Running Gallery 901 8th St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-4623

Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org • Vietnam Memorial Exhibit. Ends June 15 • 100 Years of Naval Aviation. Begins June 15

Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline.org • Norwegian Footprints. Ends June 27 • My Journey, My Story • Coming to Clay County: 150 Years of Immigration • Georgetown: Transportation Crossroads • Red River Watercolor Society National Juried Watermedia Exhibition. Begins June 21. Opening reception on June 21, 6-8 p.m.

• Aftermath: Images from Ground Zero; Photographs of Joel Meyerowitz. Begins July 2

Moorhead Public Library 118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or larl. org • Scrabble Night. All ages and skill levels welcome. Mondays, 6:30 p.m.

• Chess Night. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.

• Storytime. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. & Wednesdays, 10:30 a.m.

• Family Craft Night. Tuesdays following Storytime • Wii Wednesdays. Wednesdays, 6:30 p.m.

• Baby Bounce Storytime. Parents and babies up to age 2. Thursdays, 10 a.m.

• Z Puppets Rosenschnoz’s “The Amazing Gnip Gnop Circus.” An entertaining, familyfriendly, glow-in-the-dark performance. June 7, 10:30 a.m.

• Pet Show. Youth can enter any one pet, real or imaginary. June 7, 6:30 p.m.

• Fiesta! Music, bilingual stories, treats, and more. June 9, 2 p.m.

• Saturday Kids’ Movies. June 11 & July 9, 2 p.m.

• Contact Juggling. June 15, 2 p.m.

• Circus Arts with Sean Emery. June 16, 2 p.m.

• Teen Events. June 18, 27, July 16, 25, 2 p.m. & June 23, July 21, 6:30 p.m.

• LEGO Club. June 23 & July 28, 6 p.m.

• “Cinderella.” Gooseberry Park Players present pieces from their upcoming show. July 6, 2 p.m.

• Ships, Shields, Swords, and more! July 13, 2 p.m.

• Gluten-Free Recipe Exchange. Join us to

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MSUM Art Gallery Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, 1104 7th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-2284 or mnstate.edu/art/Gallery.shtml

Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or plainsart.org • Collectors Humble and Extraordinaire: The Herbert and Dorothy Vogel Collection • Chris Walla: Wait and See • Thomas Rex Kemmer: Local Spots. Begins June 2 • Big Country: FMVA Scale the Plains. Begins June 24 • The Frederick B. Scheel Photography Collection

The Rourke Art Gallery & Museum Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-2368861 or rourkeart.org • “Drawn to the West: The Life & Art of William Perl” • George Pfeifer: Recent Paintings and Watercolors • The 52nd Midwestern Invitational Exhibition.

Begins June 18 • John Scott Postovit: Pastel Drawings.

Begins July 17

The Spirit Room Art Gallery 111 Broadway, Fargo, 701-237-0230 or spiritroom.net

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YOUR FAMILY z elder care

Senior Housing Basics Most elders would like to stay in their homes for as long as possible, but when the time comes, looking into senior housing options for yourself or an elder in your family can be a daunting task.

Where do you start? What level of care is needed? Will you or your loved one feel comfortable there? anxieties of keeping house or not having medical help on hand are relieved. She says seniors then can truly have a chance to thrive.

“Perhaps most importantly, they make new friends and have an abundance of activities to choose from,” Bursack says.

Teri Walter, case management coordinator at Rosewood on Broadway in Fargo, says it is usually a family member that looks into housing options, but it can also be a case manager with the county. The search depends on the situation and on the elder, but often it is precipitated by a crisis––a fall or a stroke, for example. In these cases, there isn’t much planning beforehand.

Approaching the topic How do you approach the topic with a loved one before a crisis happens? Conversations leading up to a decision differ, with some elders being more convinced they should consider senior housing if they feel their family caretakers are getting burned out, while others will feel they deserve to be taken care of in their home no matter what, Walter says. If the elder is open to it, it can help to visit and become familiar with the senior living community, or start by participating in a day program.

“It can also be helpful if a doctor

By Heidi Tetzman Today there are several options for seniors that fit different levels of care and income ranges. Luckily in the Fargo-Moorhead area, there are enough places to choose from that you are likely to find a good fit. It can start with a simple Google search or your phone book, and a list of questions you have when looking for a retirement community that might work for you, your spouse, or a family member.

When help is needed If an elder prefers to stay in his home, when does the time come to look into other options?

Carol Bradley Bursack, a local elder care expert and founder of Minding Our Elders, a popular blog about caring for seniors, says many older people are able to live on their own for some time with some in-home help and a personal alarm.

However, as time passes, especially after the loss of a spouse, safety and quality of life issues begin to surface for some seniors. They may fall and not be able to activate their alarm, for example, or they may become more isolated with fewer opportunities to socialize. Cooking may become a challenge, and then eating habits deteriorate.

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is on board, in broaching the subject with an elder about moving to a place where they can get the care they need,” Walter says. “Many elders put a lot of trust in what the doctor says.”

Ministers or priests weighing in can also be influential.

Bursack warns not to approach the subject as if you’ve already made the decision. She suggests bringing up the topic gently and being sensitive to their feelings.

“Leaving a home where he or she lived with a life partner, raised kids and once had friends among the neighbors is emotionally difficult. Whittling down a lifetime of possessions is hard. Be kind, be sensitive and try to make it be about your parent and not about you,” Bursack says.

Mention the benefits: no more work around the house to worry about or meals to make, more social things to do, etc. You can try offering a tour of an assisted living center, but don’t force the issue. Drop the subject if necessary.

“It’s hard to wait, but you may need to,” Bursack says. Wait for the right moment, and try again.

As much as you may emphasize safety as a concern, she says that unfortunately, there may need to be another fall or something similar before the elder will be more willing to consider moving. An intervention

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of sorts is another option, bringing the family together to express their concerns to the elder.

“It’s just easier if you can swing it, to let the parent make the decision,” Bursack says.

Eldercarelink.com offers a free conversation guide that could help break the ice.

Independent living versus assisted living Independent living can be a perfect fit for 55-plus active, healthy adults who do not yet require assistance with daily living. In-home care may be ordered, but it is not usually needed in an independent living setting.

In general, assisted living is a housing option for those who need help with some activities of daily living, including very basic help with medications. Bursack adds that assisted living centers don’t usually provide 24-hour medical care, but basic in-home services are available to provide help with medications and other health-related needs.

Most senior communities offer a combination of independent living, assisted living, and memory care. These combined services are sometimes called Continuing Care Retirement Communities, or CCRCs. Independent and assisted living communities in Fargo and Moorhead include River Pointe, Eventide Senior Living Communities, Bethany Retirement Living, Edgewood Vista, Evergreens, Golden Living Community, One Oak Place, Pioneer House, Riverview Place, and Waterford at Harwood Groves.

Preference Depends on Need, Personality What people look for in a retirement community varies.

Location can be important, with some wanting to live closer to family, or wanting to join a friend where they live at an assisted living center. Others might prefer a more residential, home setting. Bursack says rural areas often offer this type of assisted living, where the homeowners care for four to six seniors. Access to farm animals and pets can be another perk.

Bursack adds that small, family-style living centers can be found in the city as well.

Some prefer the amenities of a larger assisted living center.

Senior living communities, like River Pointe, for example, usually offer a wide variety of activities and social events.

River Pointe offers an action-packed calendar including fitness classes, arts and crafts, a singing group, movies, bridge, dominoes, coffee socials, lemonade socials “on the patio,” and many more. Residents can participate as little or as much as they want.

Bursack cautions to know what services are covered in the contract you sign. Assisted living centers have much more freedom to decide which services to provide since they are not regulated in the same way as nursing homes.

“Ask about added services such as personal care, transportation to doctor’s appointments, and special diets.

You’ll want to be clear on what is in the contract and what is going to cost extra,” she says.

Chad Boeddeker, housing director of River Pointe in Moorhead, says having three levels of care (independent, assisted, and memory) all in one place has its advantages.

“Our community offers the services that residents appreciate now, and the peace of mind knowing that assisted living and memory care are available if ever needed.”

Potential assisted living and memory care residents are assessed by the nursing director to help determine the level of care needed. River Pointe does not separate couples unless there is a safety concern and after they have consulted with a

family member.

Cost may also be a factor in choosing senior housing. It can be expensive, with costs into the thousands per month, based on the type of housing and the level of care. Some choose to pay privately by liquidating farms or homes, for example, to pay for care. Others have long-term care insurance. Depending on the level of care, when someone needs care but doesn’t have the money, Medicaid pays (if they qualify), which is funded by federal and state dollars.

Places like Fargo’s privately owned University Drive Manor can be an affordable option. Office Manager Sharon Larson says they offer one-bedroom apartments, and the rent is based on 30 percent of a resident’s income, who must be 62 years old or older, or disabled, or handicapped. For example, if your Social Security is $650, rent is likely to not be over $200, and the government subsidizes the rest.

Larson says she wouldn’t call University Drive Manor “independent living” necessarily, because people from Social Services do come in to help the residents—to clean their apartments or to help with showering, for example, but she also wouldn’t call it assisted living, because there are no medical people on staff. This doesn’t mean nobody is around for the residents, however.

“Sometimes I tie shoes, sometimes I turn clocks back, sometimes I give hugs. I have lots of interaction with the residents,” Larson says.

In University Drive Manor’s apartments, couples can live together. Only one spouse of a couple has to qualify to live there.

Residents do have to pare down what they bring, as space is limited.

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Housing Checklist: Atmosphere q As you arrive at the residence, do you like its location and outward appearance? q As you enter the lobby and tour the residence, is the decor attractive and homelike? q Do you receive a warm greeting from

staff? q Does the administrator/staff interact warmly with them? q Do residents socialize with each other and appear happy and comfortable? q Are you able to talk with residents about how they like the residence and staff? q Do the residents seem to be appropriate housemates? q Are staff members appropriately dressed, personable, and outgoing? q Do the staff members treat each other in a professional manner? q Are handrails available? q Are cupboards and shelves easy to reach? q Are floors of a non-skid material and carpets firm to ease walking? q Does the residence have good natural and artificial lighting? q Is the residence clean, free of odors, and appropriately heated/cooled? q Does the residence have sprinklers and clearly marked exits? q Does the residence have a means of security if a resident wanders?

Physical Features q Is the community well-designed for your needs? q Is the floor plan easy to follow? q Are doorways, hallways, and rooms

accommodating to wheelchairs and walkers? q Are elevators available for those unable to use stairways? q Are additional services available if the resident’s needs change? q Is there a procedure to pay for additional services like nursing care when the services are needed on a temporary basis? q Are there different costs for various levels or categories of services? q Do billing, payment, and credit policies seem fair and reasonable? q May residents handle their own finances with staff assistance if able, or should a family member or outside party be designated to do so? q Are residents required to purchase

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Use this checklist from the Assisted Living Federation of America when you tour senior housing facilities. renters’ insurance for personal property in their units? q Is there an appeals process for dissatisfied residents?

Medication & Health Care q Does the residence have specific policies regarding storage of medication, assistance with medications, training and supervision of staff, and record keeping? q Is self-administration of medication allowed? q Is there a staff person to coordinate home health care visits from a nurse, physical therapist, occupational therapist, etc. if needed? q Is staff available to assist residents who experience memory, orientation, or judgment losses? q Does the residence have a clearly stated procedure for responding to a resident’s medical emergency? q Are residents’ pets allowed in the residence? Who is responsible for their care? q Do volunteers, including family members, come into the residence to help with or to conduct programs? q Does the residence create a sense of community by encouraging residents to participate in activities?

Food Service q Do dining room menus vary from day to day and meal to meal? q Does the residence provide three nutritionally balanced meals a day? qAre snacks available? q May a resident request special foods, and can the residence accommodate special dietary needs? qAre common dining areas available? q May residents eat meals in their units? q May meals be provided at a time a resident would like, or are there set times for meals?

Services q Does a physician or nurse visit residents regularly? q To what extent are medical services available, and how are these services provided? q Is staff available to meet scheduled and unscheduled needs? q Can the residence provide a list of services available? q Is staff available to provide 24-hour assistance with activities of daily living (ADLs) if needed?ADLs include

dressing, eating, mobility, hygiene and grooming, bathing, toileting, using the telephone, shopping, and laundry. q Does the residence provide housekeeping services in residents’ units? q Can residents arrange for transportation on fairly short notice? q Are pharmacy, barber/beautician, and/or physical therapy services offered on-site? q Does the residence provide transportation to doctors’ offices, the hairdresser, shopping, and other activities desired by residents?

Individual Unit Features

q Are different sizes and types of units available? q Are units for single and double occupancy available? q Do residents have their own lockable doors? q Is a 24-hour emergency response system accessible from the unit? q Are bathrooms private and designed to accommodate wheelchairs and walkers? q Are residents able to bring their own furnishings for their unit? What may they bring? What is provided? q Do all units have a telephone and cable or satellite TV? q Is a kitchen area provided with a refrigerator, sink, and cooking element? q May residents keep food in their units? q May residents smoke in their units?

In public spaces? q May residents decorate their own units?

Activities q Is there evidence of organized activities, such as a posted daily schedule, events in progress, reading materials, visitors, etc.? q Do residents participate in activities outside of the residence in the neighboring community? q Does the residence have its own pets? q Are residents’ pets allowed in the residence? q Do volunteers, including family members, come into the residence to help with or to conduct programs? q Does the residence create a sense of community by encouraging residents to participate in activities?

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There are lots of opportunities for social interaction: “It has its own builtin community, without having to brave the weather,” Larson says––coffee in the morning, a community room, bigscreen TV, bingo, potlucks, and lunch served daily by Meals on Wheels, to name a few.

“It’s a nice life. Simple, fun. People say it’s clean here. Not a place to go to die, but a place to go to live,” Larson says.

Nursing homes The term “nursing home” is often misused, and can carry negative images for people, though Bursack believes much of this stigma has gone away.

“When people need skilled nursing services, they generally move to a nursing home. Today’s nursing homes, at least in this area, are really quite good,” she says.

A nursing home involves a 24-hour skilled nursing staff for those who require more care than an apartment living or assisted living situation.

A nursing home may not only serve seniors, but also those with disabilities or who are ventilator-dependent. It is still not as much care as a hospital would provide.

“North Dakota has great nursing homes, yet they all have their differences. Not right or wrong, just different,” Walter says. “Different things are important to different families. Some like a more clinical environment, some want it more laid back. Others prefer a Christian atmosphere.”

Rosewood on Broadway is one nursing home in the area that also provides memory care. They provide long-term care as well as short-term rehab and an adult day program.

Most nursing homes in the area offer some form of memory care and rehabilitation. The best way to find out is to call or look on the Internet.

There are many nursing homes in the area, and each one offers something a bit differently. For example, Riverview Place in Moorhead has a woodworking studio, and Eventide is known for its lush outdoor gardens.

Bethany on 42nd, a new branch of the Bethany family, is a state-of-theart facility and looks like an upscale apartment facility. Amenities are plenty here, and it’s not uncommon to find residents playing Wii in place of card games and knitting.

Walter says nursing homes are ever evolving. “We are seeing people who are sicker and sicker, and people living longer and longer. Some are sick, and some get better and go home. It’s really about adapting to individual needs and requests.”

Walter adds that when someone is leaving the hospital, the decision on which nursing home they will be sent to is often based on where there is an open room. She recommends though, when possible, to tour and get a feel for different places.

“The best thing is to talk to people who might know––the hospital, people who have been there. Gather your facts,” Walter says.

Bursack suggests the nursing home ranking tool at Medicare.gov as a place to start.

Memory care “Memory care staff have been trained in different approaches on dealing with people with memory issues,” Walter says of memory care units, which work with those who have dementia or Alzheimer’s.

Potential residents and their families are educated on what to expect in the memory care community, Walter says.

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There may be people seen wandering, for example. Walter says they try to make the environment as comfortable and as homelike as possible. Residents participate in activities they can accomplish, and adjustments are made to accommodate each individual resident.

Many memory care facilities offer similar amenities, including Eventide Senior Living and Bethany, both in Fargo.

Memory care units usually have specially trained staff that works with the memory care residents, as well as a secure, outdoor garden designed by memory care experts.

The thoughts offered here are just a beginning. The best way to find the right place for an elder you care about is to educate yourself on the options available, consult with people you trust, and visit so you can see for yourself.

“If something doesn’t feel right or sound right––question it, follow your gut––and take time to talk to current residents––they don’t hold back!”

Boeddeker advises. “There are no silly questions when it comes to seeking a new place to live. I approach things this way … would my parents like it? Would they be comfortable here? Always ask questions to be as educated as you can be about senior housing.”

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For Best Health, Keep An Eye on Those Eyes

By Janelle Brandon aura Sokolofsky was worried. Her son Jack, a first-grader, was struggling to read and started to reverse letters in his own name, which he had been writing correctly since he was three.

His teacher also noticed that Jack’s eyes drifted and looked fatigued when he was trying to read. “Jack had a tough time sounding out words, which affected his comprehension because of the amount of time it was taking him to get through the reading,” Sokolofsky says. “His handwriting suffered and he was having difficulty copying words from the board at school or even from one page to another.”

Sokolofsky took her son to get his eyes checked and was referred to optometrist Dr. Melissa McCulley for vision therapy.

Vision therapy is a non-surgical way to treat eye focusing and eye movement disorders.

Many vision disabilities may improve with vision therapy eye exercises and at-home practice sessions. Most parents see improvement in their children after six to nine months of therapy in which prescription lenses, prisms, eye patching, and other eye exercise equipment help improve visual ability.

“Some of the vision therapy homework activities assigned

by Dr. McCulley were fun and easy for Jack and some were hard and frustrating for him and there were tears,” Sokolofsky says. “But as he kept trying and tackled things that were hard for him, they became easier and easier with his efforts. It was a great life lesson for any child to learn.”

Early screenings Optometrists, like McCulley, believe vision evaluation should begin early, which is why the public health program, InfantSEE™ was created. InfantSEE™ is a program designed to ensure that infant wellness care includes vision and eye care.

Through the program, optometrists provide a comprehensive infant eye assessment within the first 12 months of life as a free, public health service. To find a local InfantSEE™ optometrist go to infantsee.org.

Amblyopia or “lazy eye” and strabismus (commonly known as “crossed eyes”) can begin in babies and toddlers. Amblyopia is the most common cause of vision problems in young children. If left untreated, the brain starts to ignore the vision in the lazy eye and can cause permanent vision loss.

It’s important for children to have yearly eye exams beginning at age five. “The childhood and teenage years are common times for nearsightedness (myopia) or farsightedness (hyperopia) to begin,” McCulley says. “This can be corrected with glasses or contact lenses. Often, children don’t know that their blurry vision isn’t normal, so they may not have any complaints. Headaches are a sign that the eyes are straining.”

Teens often want to skip getting glasses and go right to wearing contacts. “All of my vision patients should at least have a pair of glasses around even if they wear their contacts a majority of the time,” McCulley says. “An eye infection, a cold, or even being up late at night is good reason to have a pair of glasses to reach for.”

Once a prescription is needed, it’s important to continue to have regular eye exams to keep the prescription up-to-date.

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Wearing the wrong prescription lenses can make the eyes strain to focus, causing headaches, blurry vision, and uncomfortable eyes. The eyes may try to compensate for the improper prescription and one or both eyes could physically change, making eye function worse.

Eyes through the ages According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the most frequent eye problems in the United States are refractive errors including: myopia, hyperopia, astigmatism (distorted vision at all distances), and presbyopia (loss of the ability to focus up close, inability to read letters of the phone book, need to hold newspaper farther away to see clearly) that occurs between age 40-50 years. The aging of the eye causes near vision to deteriorate which leads to presbyopia. Refractive errors can be corrected by eyeglasses, contact lenses, or in some cases, surgery.

Another eye condition related to aging is cataracts. Dr. Casey Bartz with Moorhead Vision Associates explains that cataracts are a common eye condition and a normal part of aging. He

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Dr. Lance Bergstrom explains Lasik surgery in a Q and A.

says, “If we all live long enough, we develop cataracts to the lens inside our eyes.” Cataract is a clouding of the eye’s lens and is the leading cause of blindness worldwide, and the leading cause of vision loss in the United States. Cataract surgery is a very effective way to restore vision loss.

“The procedure has such instant gratification for improved vision, clarity, colors, decreased glare, and improved contrast in dim lighting,” says Bartz.

Macular degeneration and glaucoma are two eye diseases also associated with aging. Age-related macular degeneration (AMD) gradually destroys sharp, central vision and there are two forms: dry and wet. The dry form is more common and is less severe. The wet form occurs in about 20 percent of people with AMD and its association with vision loss is more severe. In some situations, AMD advances so slowly that people notice little change in their vision. In others, the disease progresses quickly and may lead to vision loss in both eyes.

Glaucoma refers to a group of eye diseases that can damage the optic nerve, the nerve that carries visual information from the eye to the brain. Damage to the optic nerve is due to increased pressure in the eye. Symptoms are slow to develop, which is why regular eye exams are important to test for glaucoma. With early treatment, progression of the disease can be delayed and remaining vision may be saved.

Healthy body, healthy eyes Regular eye exams are key to maintaining eye health. Eye professionals agree that a healthy lifestyle plays a role in reducing your risks of developing AMD and other age-related eye diseases. The National Eye Institute suggests eating a diet high in green leafy vegetables and fish, not smoking, maintaining normal blood pressure and weight, and including exercise in your daily routine.

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Jack Sokolofsky, left, participated in a special eye retraining program at McCulley Optix Gallery in Fargo. Also pictured are his mother Laura, dad Brian, sister Ellie, and Piper the dog.

What kind of eyewear can I use to protect my eyes?

From Rachel Bishop, M.D., Chief, Consult Services Section, National Eye Institute: Every home should have at least one pair of safety glasses or goggles made from lightweight polycarbonate plastic, says NEI ophthalmologist Dr. Rachel Bishop. Most hardware and home improvement stores sell this type of glasses.

To make sure yours meet the safety standards of the American National Standards Institute, look for “ANSI Z87.1” stamped on one of the arms.

Such high-quality eye protection will “stop a golf ball traveling at 90 miles per hour,” Bishop says.

She recommends that people wear eye protection not only in hazardous workplace environments, but also while working around the house with machines, chemicals, or tools. Nearly half of the more than 2.5 million eye injuries that occur in the U.S. every year happen at home, according to the American Academy of Ophthalmology’s 2009 Eye Injury Snapshot.

“I have seen many patients who have injured their eyes while mowing the lawn or weed-whacking,” she says.

In addition, Bishop urges every athlete to wear eye protection, as about 40,000 sports-related eye injuries occur each year. Eye protection for athletes will have “ASTM F803” stamped on the arm if it meets the sportsspecific safety standards.

She also recommends that everyone wear sunglasses, which block the sun’s harmful ultraviolet rays. Sunglasses are especially important in situations where glare is a problem, such as while water or snow skiing.

“Any time you feel the need to squint, you should have sunglasses on,” she advises.

And adults aren’t the only ones who need to protect their eyes from injury and ultraviolet light. “Your children should wear safety glasses and sunglasses too,” she adds.

––From the National Eye Institute

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neezing, runny nose, itchy eyes … It’s that time of year when spring allergies kick into high gear. And in our region, they can stretch all the way through July.

What can you do to help your kids? And what if your child has both allergies and asthma?

“Our goal is for kids to be kids–– playing, participating and having fun,” says Dr. Woei Eng, pediatric and adult allergist at Sanford Allergy & Asthma Clinic in Fargo. “Allergies or asthma should not be a limiting factor.”

Enemy #1 At this time of year, most outdoor allergies are caused by trees, grass and weeds. When they blossom, they pollinate.

The pollen enters the airway, causing allergic triggers.

“Parents notice their kids sniffling, sneezing and excessively rubbing their eyes to the point of redness,” says Dr. Eng. “It’s easy to confuse these symptoms with colds, but cold symptoms typically don’t last months.”

Another distinguishing characteristic of allergies: history repeats itself. Every year when spring comes around, parents notice the same long-lasting symptoms.

Take action!

Your awareness of spring allergies can lead to important decisions that will help keep your kids comfortable.

• Avoid outdoor play during the morning hours. Peak pollination time is 5 a.m. to 10 a.m.

• Pay attention to pollen counts for your area. Daily pollen counts and forecasts are easy to find online. “If you see the tree pollen is especially high on a certain day, and if you know your child has problems with that particular pollen, plan a fun indoor activity for that day,” says Dr. Eng. “This will really help your kids.”

• Avoid extended outdoor time on windy days. “Pollen blows everywhere and

you can’t avoid it,” says Dr. Eng. “Again plan something fun for indoors.”

Other ways to manage allergy symptoms What about symptom relief with medications?

“Today we have very good overthe-counter medications such as antihistamines. These help many people,” says Dr. Eng. “But if the medication causes sleepiness that keeps your kids from activity and playing, it’s time to try a different strategy.”

Prescription nasal sprays work well for nose and eye symptoms. “That’s usually the first line of prescription treatment and this is a very good option if your child can manage the technique,” says Dr. Eng. If nasal sprays aren’t an option, immunotherapy may work well, especially in people who also have asthma. In addition to managing the allergy, immunotherapy reduces the chances of becoming allergic to more substances.

If asthma interferes Although allergies and asthma are separate conditions, they can be closely related. Both need to be treated effectively so your child can enjoy an active life––indoors and out.

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“Many people have allergies only, others have asthma only, and some have both,” explains Dr. Eng. “When symptoms flare up for allergy, this can lead to a respiratory issue––even an acute asthma attack. This can close the airway, causing a very dangerous situation.”

Dr. Eng stresses the importance of optimal management in children with asthma, especially during spring allergy season.

Convenient help now available Sanford Allergy & Asthma Clinic now offers expanded services for you and your family: • Three allergists. Dr. Eng, Dr. Anand Kantak (for children) and Dr. John Jacobsen (for adults).

• Conveniently located! The Allergy & Asthma Clinic is located at Southpointe Clinic in Fargo, with pediatric services also available at Sanford Children’s Broadway Clinic.

• Accessible care. The clinic is open 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. weekdays, with same-day appointments available if needed.

• Easy to reach. To schedule an appointment, call: Southpointe Clinic: (701) 234-2660 Broadway Clinic: (701) 234-2929

YOUR FAMILY z spirituality People from our region have been counted among those who volunteer most frequently. In 2009, North Dakota ranked 12th in the nation for volunteerism. Here are the accounts of two local mothers who, through their children’s medical conditions and giving hearts, were inspired to foster a life of giving, not just during the holidays, but all year round.

CHARITY Fostering a Giving Heart

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t was through a dream, rather than a book or suggestion, that Judy Kubalak of Fargo chose to name her first daughter Charity.

“I’d never known anyone named Charity before, but I told my husband about this dream I’d had, and that her name was Charity in my dream,” she said.

“My mom’s middle name is Mae so she became Charity Mae. It was really a God thing.”

She couldn’t have known then how prophetic the name would be. “I didn’t really connect charity with Charity, but I could see her name was so very fitting for her as she grew into the wonderful person she was; always giving, always being kind to everybody, even to the person who didn’t have any friends,” Kubalak said.

Nor could she have known that her daughter’s life would be cut short due to a heart condition called cardiomyopathy.

From the moment the diagnosis came when she was only four years old, Charity seemed intent on living life to the fullest, doing the things most little girls want to do––biking, swimming, dancing. In time, it also became important to her to live life with joy and without drawing attention to herself.

In fact, nobody but family knew of the tenuous diagnosis that put Charity’s life at risk; not even her best friend.

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The giving and living continued until her last day. It was the night before her church Confirmation, and Charity, 16, had decided to stay up late to cuddle and rock her new baby sister, Summer, and chat with her mother about the events of the next day. When she did finally fall asleep that January evening in 1998, she never awoke.

Reflecting on her daughter’s life, Kubalak spoke with pride and awe over how her daughter moved through the world exhibiting selflessness. “When I had something wrong with my heart, they found out about it because of her heart condition. I had to be operated on, and even though her heart had gotten worse, she was much more concerned about me.”

The trip that helped jumpstart a heart Piecing through factors that had helped foster Charity’s giving spirit, Judy recalled a significant trip the two made when Charity was 10––an adventure to Disneyworld through the Make-AWish Foundation.

“As soon as we got back, she felt she needed to give back, too, not just to Make-A-Wish but to other kids,” Kubalak said. “She wanted to volunteer at the children’s hospital, to read to the kids, to play with them, to try to make their stay a little less scary and more fun.”

Though Charity was too young to volunteer on her own, the hospital staff told Kubalak that if she were to accompany her daughter, they could spend time with children dealing with terminal illness.

Kubalak remembers a moment during that time when Charity proved her willingness to look beyond her own discomfort to help another. One of the young cancer patients, feeling a sudden wave of nausea, asked Charity to grab a pan. “She hated to see anybody throwing up,” Kubalak said, “but Charity held the tub for her, and at that moment I realized just how selfless she was in doing that, knowing she would feel sick herself.”

She won’t take much credit for her daughter’s selflessness, believing instead that Charity came into the world exuding abundant charity. As she watched Charity consistently spreading love and light to all she knew, Kubalak recognized she was being taught by her daughter how to live life well as much as the other way around.

Though struggling to make ends meet as a single mother during much of Charity’s younger years, Kubalak said Charity always insisted they give to the United Way, so she’d always reserve part of her paycheck for that cause.

The two also helped serve the homeless and less fortunate at an annual Christmas Eve dinner.

“Charity would help even as a very young girl, even though she had trouble carrying the plates of food, and she helped clean the tables, too,” Kubalak said. “There was so much joy in doing those things together.”

As a teen dance student, Charity enjoyed bringing a few dance friends with her to a local

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The Kubalaks, from left: Isaac, Judy, Summer, and Gary. The family lost daughter Charity Mae in 1998.

nursing home to perform for the residents there, overlooking nerves and any trace of vanity to focus on the giving.

Following Charity’s death, Kubalak continued to give, first through raising money for cardiomyopathy research, which required stepping out of her comfort zone as a natural introvert to organize local benefit concerts and golf tournaments. She also helped establish a scholarship in Charity’s name through South High School, where Charity had attended school. “The person who receives the scholarship doesn’t have to have a 4.0 (grade-point average). They just have to have the same qualities that Charity did––a smile and a giving heart,” Kubalak said.

And she became involved in the Make-a-Wish Foundation, first as a volunteer, then on the board, where she has served for the past six years.

A Magical Encounter It was through her work with the local branch of the Make-A-Wish Foundation that Kubalak came into direct contact with Joe Keller, 11.

Joe’s parents, Fargo residents Joni and Gary Keller, learned their son has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, a type of genetic, degenerative muscular disease, when he was in kindergarten.

Though news of the disease was devastating, Joni said, they wanted Joe’s condition to be understood by his peers, so they brought his new leg braces into his classroom at Nativity Elementary to explain some of the changes they’d be witnessing in Joe. “I didn’t want it to be a big deal for them, or for them to be afraid,” she said.

The following year, Joe was offered a dream wish through Make-AWish Foundation. An avid fan of the Harry Potter books, he asked to visit The Wizarding World of Harry Potter theme park being constructed by Universal Studios.

“When we first talked to Joe about it, he didn’t really see that he needed a wish,” Joni said. But by the time the park was finished several years later, Joe was ready.

So in the summer of 2010, Joe, his parents and his sister Kayla flew to Orlando, where they were met by his aunt, Jane Bjornstad, who shares his affinity for the young wizard characters of J.K. Rowling’s popular series.

“He got to be there for the grand opening of the park, along with ten other ‘wish families,’ the day before it officially opened.”

A special surprise of the trip involved the children and their families

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Joe Keller, right, meets Daniel Radcliffe of the “Harry Potter” movie franchise. Joe’s parents, Fargo residents Joni and Gary Keller, learned their son has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, a type of genetic, degenerative muscular disease, when he was in kindergarten.

having the chance to meet nine of the actors from the Harry Potter movies, including the leading star, Daniel Radcliffe. “There was a lot of screaming going on when they found out, as you can imagine,” Joni recounted. “Joe was the last one to meet Daniel Radcliffe, so he got to spend the most time with him.”

Joni said the actors were extremely gracious and genuinely interested in the kids. The visit was followed by V.I.P. treatment at the park. “It was an unbelievable trip that will never be duplicated with the opening of the park and the cast being there.”

Before the trip, the Kellers already had been fundraising for the Muscular Dystrophy Association, during which time Aunt Jane had come up with “Joe’s Heroes” as a way to round up friends and family in a collaborative fundraising effort. She even designed T-shirts that participants could wear to show their support.

As a wish recipient, Joe quickly moved from being on the receiving end of a charitable act to wanting to help other children receive a similar gift, just as Charity had. So during the 2009-10 school year, the Kellers joined the “Walk for Wishes” fundraising event and began drumming up local support, including from Joe’s fourth-grade class at Nativity Elementary School.

The contagious nature of giving That first year, Joe’s Heroes raised $3,700 toward the cause. This year’s donations have garnered nearly $13,000––enough for two children to receive a wish.

Kubalak said it’s been inspiring for Make-A-Wish folks to witness how Joe’s friends have rallied behind him. “You don’t see this every day. It’s pretty unusual,” she remarked. A plan is now in the works to introduce Joe’s classmates to one of the recipients who will be benefiting from their generosity.

“That’s a story in itself,” Kubalak said of the support Joe has generated from his peers. “They’re learning at such a young age about generosity, and they’re going to meet others who will catch that energy. It’s going to just keep on going like a domino effect, spreading outward to even more people.”

Joni said that for Joe it’s all about inspiring others, but the family has been inspired in turn with the generous response of his classmates. “A parent told me the other day that the kids in his class are becoming great

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Conventional wisdom has held that when it comes to charitable giving, men have deeper pockets than women. But a recent study shows that on average, purses are opened up more often than wallets in the world of philanthropy.

The findings came from the study conducted through the Women’s Philanthropy Institute at the Indiana University Center on Philanthropy, which took into account data from 8,000 American households, revealing that women are the more generous gender at nearly every income level.

According to an article in the Chronicle of Philanthropy (“Most Women Give More Than Men, New Study Finds,” October 2010), previous studies on gender and charitable giving have included married couples, which made discerning specific giving patterns between the genders difficult. Instead, the new study examined only households headed by single men and women and found: Giving by men and women is closest at the lowest income level of $23,509 or less.

More than a third of women making below that were more likely to give to charity than men earning the same amount.

Gender differences in giving are more prominent among higher income earners. All but 4 percent of women who made more than $103,000 gave to charity, while only threefourths of men at the same income level did.

At almost every income level, the amount women gave rose above that of men in similar circumstances.

In a nod to the men, it was found that those in the $23,510 to $43,499 were larger givers than women by 32 percent.

The widowed gave more on average to charity than women whose husbands had died. But never-married, divorced or separated women gave more than their male counterparts.

Jennifer Thompson, Director of Development for the Dakota Medical Foundation, said that since women are more likely to outlive men, they’re often left with money so ultimately decide how an estate will be distributed.

She also noted that in general, those who have been the recipient of giving are often more likely to be inspired to give to others.

“When someone has been helped, in any form, whether monetarily or simply someone came over and helped rake their yard, there’s that feeling that they want to be able to pay back or give back what they’ve received,” Thompson said.

An example would be the many local families who have experienced medical crises and benefitted from an outpouring of community support. “Once they get through the difficult time, they want to turn around and help someone else,” Thompson said.

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“I look at her life and all the things she taught so many people, and I really think God sent her here for a special and unique reason.” ~Judy Kubalak, Charity’s mother people through their friendships with Joe. It’s so rewarding for Gary and me to see these kids and the way they treat him, the kindness and caring and compassion. It’s unbelievable for kids their age. They’ve really embraced what he wanted to do,” she said.

More than writing a check Like Charity Mae, one of the things people comment on after meeting Joe is his perpetual smile. Perhaps that’s in part because Joe knows what not all adults have discovered: that giving isn’t just about the money. Beyond reaching into a bank account––which is also necessary, of course––one eventually comes to see that reaching into one’s heart is just as important.

Kubalak learned this best through her daughter, both from her life and her death. It wasn’t until after she lost Charity that she was able to give of herself in a way that was impossible before.

Though it’s not attached to any charitable organization, Kubalak has taken it upon herself to watch for families in the area who lose a child, and when possible, to seek them out and share a comforting word or deed that only another mother who understands can offer.

It’s not the easiest kind of giving to do, she admitted, but in the end, it’s the most rewarding.

“Visiting someone who has lost a child is really difficult for me because it makes me reflect back on how I felt when I lost Charity, but it makes it more real to (the other parents). They can see that I’m still living and I’m still able to take care of my kids and go on even though at the time you feel you’re going to die from heartbreak. It helps them keep moving forward one minute at a time, to know there’s a life beyond this, and that it does get easier, even if the pain doesn’t ever completely go away.”

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Though not everybody has the chance to see the effects of a life of giving, because of her daughter’s example, Kubalak said she’s been able to witness it firsthand.

To this day, 14 years after Charity’s death, her friends are still reaching back to Kubalak in return for what Charity had given them in her young, brief life. Some make a point to visit her when they’re in town, and she’s received many wedding invitations through the years. Former classmates continue to visit Charity’s grave site, leaving messages of love and gratitude. One even left a dollar that he said he owed her and had never paid back.

“I look at her life and all the things she taught so many people, and I really think God sent her here for a special and unique reason,” she said. “Sometimes it takes us a lifetime to be able to do all that she did in that short period of time.”

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Ask the Expert

Mentoring

SENIOR LIVING

Susan Smith

Joyce Linnerud Fowler

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Q:

I hear a lot about mentoring, but can it really make a difference to a child?

National research has shown that positive relationships between youth and their Big Brothers and Big Sisters mentors have a direct and measurable impact on children’s lives. Local outcomes show similar impact, including increased self-confidence, ability to make better decisions, improved academics and relationships, and ability to avoid delinquency.

As one of our Little Brothers entered college this year, he stated “I never thought that a program like this could do so much for me. I thank you for this program because now I walk away with life lessons that I will need, and surely a friend for life.”

Mentoring not only makes a difference to the child, but can also benefit the adult mentor. Studies have also discussed benefits to mentors, including improved health and selfesteem. For more information on how to enroll your child, or to volunteer, call 701-451-4900.

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With all the living options available for seniors, how will I know when my family member is ready for Assisted Living?

Assisted Living is a great option for seniors for many different reasons. What many people may not realize is that Assisted Living can be a terrific choice for a senior who simply wants to benefit from the amenities a provider offers. Many seniors who choose Assisted Living remain very independent.

The notion of taking advantage of prepared meals, cleaning services and social events is appealing. Add to that the availability of personal care and nursing services, and Assisted Living is an option that provides a great peace of mind for the senior––and their family as well!

The best way to find out if you or your family member is ready for Assisted Living is to check out a few providers.

Make some calls, set up tours and see what you think.

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YOUR FAMILY z food & fun

Ladybug Toss 5 round, flat rocks Red, black, and white paint Paint brush Wash and dry rocks. Cover rocks with two coats of red paint and allow to dry. Paint a black head on one end of each stone

and a black line down the center of the back. Paint a different number of black spots on each ladybug’s back. Dip the opposite end of the paint brush in white paint and make two dots for eyes. Use a hula hoop or make a large ring with yarn in the grass. Each person can try to toss the ladybugs into the ring.

Add up the number of spots on the ladybugs’ backs for your score.

Panzanella Salad 1 bag salad greens 1 large cucumber, diced 1 carton cherry tomatoes, halved 1 yellow pepper, chopped 1 small red onion, chopped 1 package of fresh mozzarella, diced 2 Tbsp. capers (optional) Italian dressing, to taste Pieces of crusty baguette Combine all ingredients in large bowl and toss.

Chopstick Mobile Plastic frosting can lid Thin ribbon 8 bamboo chopsticks Large needle Scissors Glue Paint the eight chopsticks and let dry. Poke eight holes in the plastic lid with large needle. Cut eight 10-inch pieces of ribbon. Thread ribbon through the needle and pull each piece through a hole in the lid.

Secure the chopsticks to the ribbon by knotting each piece of ribbon around the end of a chopstick and gluing in place. Gather all eight ribbons above the lid and tie in a double knot. Hang your mobile indoors or outdoors as a colorful decoration.

Serves 6 Panzanella (pahn-zah-NEHL-lah) Salad is an Italian bread salad, and always includes crusty, often day-old bread and fresh garden vegetables.

According to “Cooking American,” Panzanella Salad was likely an invention of necessity.

Because Italian cooks are known to not waste a single clove of garlic or a sprig of parsley, Panzanella Salad is a great way to utilize stale bread and ripe garden greens.

The history of panzanella dates back to the Florentine 1500s, when a poem written by the famous painter and poet Agnolo di Cosimo Tori, better known as il Bronzino, described the merits of mixing onion and vinegar.

Many variations exist on the preparation and ingredients of panzanella. Traditionally, capers are used, for example, but some find this too astringent a flavor. A simple dressing of extra virgin olive oil and vinegar is a good––and healthier––substitute if you don’t have Italian-style dressing in the fridge.

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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom “Being a child at home alone in the summer is a high-risk occupation. If you call your mother at work thirteen times an hour, she can hurt you.”

––Erma Bombeck Memos From Your Child

Obstacle in Our Paths

Author Unknown In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway.

Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.

Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way.

Then came along a peasant carrying a load of vegetables.

On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway.

The peasant learned what many others never understand: Every obstacle presents an opportunity.

Maximize Your Luck

“Luck almost always plays some sort of role in an individual’s success. If you want to maximize your luck, follow these rules: Work hard. If you fail, find out why and act accordingly. Avoid negative thoughts and have positive, optimistic ones instead.

Take reasonable risks and experiment with new opportunities. It’s surprising how lucky you can be if you really try.”

––From “Bits and Pieces” magazine

Hope

By William M. Buchholz, M.D., “Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul” As I ate breakfast one morning, I overheard two oncologists conversing. One complained bitterly, “You know, Bob, I just don’t understand it. We used the same drugs, the same dosage, the same schedule, and the same entry criteria. Yet I got a 22 percent response rate and you got a 74 percent. That’s unheard of for metastatic cancer. How do you do it?”

His colleague replied, “We’re both using Etoposide, Platinum, Oncovin, and Hydroxyurea. You call yours EPOH. I tell my patients I’m giving them HOPE. As dismal as the statistics are, I emphasize that we have a chance.”

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Author Unknown Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for ... I’m only testing you.

Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it ... it makes me feel more secure.

Don’t correct me in front of people if you can help it.

I’ll take much more notice if you talk to me in private.

Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.

Don’t be too upset if I say “I hate you.” It isn’t that I hate you, but only that I need your attention.

Don’t protect me from consequences. I sometimes need to learn the hard way.

Don’t take too much notice of my small ailment.

Sometimes they get me the attention I want.

Don’t nag. If you do, I will have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

Don’t make rash promises. Remember, I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

Don’t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I’m not always accurate.

Don’t tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.

Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.

Don’t put me off when I ask you questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and will seek my information elsewhere.

Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much good by trying to understand.

Don’t ever suggest you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover you are neither.

Don’t ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you.

Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.

Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get along without it, so please put up with it.

Don’t forget that I can’t thrive without lots of love. But I don’t need to tell you all the time, do I?

Chuckle-worthy Pancakes

A mother was preparing pancakes for her sons, Kevin, 5, and Ryan, 3. The boys began to argue over who would get the first pancake. Their mother saw the opportunity for a moral lesson.

“If Jesus was sitting here, He would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake; I can wait.’ ” Kevin turned to his younger brother and said, “Ryan, you be Jesus.”

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