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The Kilkenny Observer Friday 24 December 2021
Opinion
Are New Year resolutions a mission impossible? AS I SEE IT MARIANNE HERON
FOR several years now the only New Year resolution I have made is not to make one. It’s not that I can’t see the appeal of starting the year full of good intentions. It’s all to do with making a fresh start once the Christmas festivities are over and focussing on the things that need attention in your life, a bit like starting a clean, new copy book. The trouble is, though, that the shine on that newly minted promise to yourself wears off quickly when the resolution falls by the wayside as it generally does. So why does this happen? Before you start to beat yourself up for lack of will power, it’s good to recognise the difference between a goal and a resolution. A goal is something concrete with an aim that will benefit you, that has a measurable result, a time frame and definite steps that you need to take to achieve it. A resolution is much less defined and is often just a fluffy aspiration — like wanting to lose weight or get fit — likely to get lost in the jungle of life. There are some things that make it far more likely that
you will succeed in reaching your target. Trick number one is to make a plan of action for achieving your goal. It makes it easier to manage, too, if you chunk it down into different steps, especially if it’s a challenging goal. Writing your plan down is a surprisingly effective way
to make it stick. A survey carried out at Yale University came up with an interesting fact. Students where asked questions about various things like whether or not they set goals; only 10% had but they were 90% more successful than those who simply had aspirations. Among those who had goals
the three percent who wrote their goals down were 90% more successful than the rest. Why is writing your goal down so effective? It may be to do with having recorded a very definite destination and route like a map. As Yogi Berra observed: “If you don’t know where you are
going you end up someplace else.” Visualisation adds another dimension to making what you have in mind come true. Sports coaches and athletes now recognise the benefits of mental rehearsal. Thinking through the act without doing it physically helps both for skill learning
and sport where it has been found to help motivation and reduce anxiety. If you think you can do it you are more likely to do it. Could be why cookery programmes have such an appeal; if you see someone else doing whipping up a delicious dish successfully you are encouraged to believe you can do so, too, although my cakes never turn out quite like Mary Berry’s. Having a gym buddy, a running mate or joining a group not only makes some goals like fitness and weight loss more fun, adding an element of competition, but it makes you accountable to others. It can also help avoid excuses and giving up, say when you have made a mistake (rather than calling it a learning experience) or procrastinating, (putting stuff off can involve more mental stress than actually doing the thing! ) When starting out in pursuit of a goal I like to remember that bit in Alice In Wonderland where Alice asks the Cheshire Cat which way she should go and the cat says that it depends where she wants to go. Alice doesn’t know so the cat replies, then it doesn’t matter which way you go. If you know where you want to go with your goal there’s a much better chance of getting there. Good luck!
How hypnotherapy can benefit you! ANDREW MCDONALD HYPNOTHERAPIST
HYPNOTHERAPY is powerful. Don’t take my word for it, research it online for yourself. There is a huge amount of good scientific evidence to demonstrate the effectiveness of hypnosis as a treatment. Actually, perhaps a better way of putting it would be the subconscious mind is positively herculean compared to the conscious state. By communicating with the former, hypnotherapy uses your own incredible strength and willpower to bring positive changes which quite literally change your life. Maybe the strongest example is when someone is suffering an addiction. Addictive behaviour is habitual. Smoking tobacco, drinking, at least if you struggle with alcohol, overeating the wrong foods, very few of these involve conscious effort. If you’re a smoker, I guarantee you’ve experienced the phenomena of finding yourself sucking on a cigarette and not knowing how it found
its way to your mouth. The same with supping on a pint or gorging on chocolate. That’s because your subconscious mind takes over when performing habits and that is a major reason why it’s so hard to stop. Your conscious wants to quit but hasn’t communicated this desire to your subconscious. Hypnotherapy is arguably the most effective way of doing that, getting the two parts of your mind to talk to each other so what you consciously want to do becomes subconscious habit. From this idea we can easily understand why hypnotherapy is also hugely beneficial to people who want to lose weight, and perhaps most importantly keep those pounds off. Eating is habitual. Consuming poor quality, fattening foods is a habit. Your conscious mind might want you to be slimmer but if your subconscious doesn’t know this, you’re basically going to war with yourself. The same concept applies to exercise. Finding the motivation to start running, cycling, swimming or doing another vigorous activity and the commitment to keep going is tough. Particularly in this coun-
try where we’re blessed with some pretty miserable weather at times. Again, you need your subconscious fighting in your corner and, to do this, you need to talk to it. Other areas of life which people struggle with are also habitual. Stress, although often caused by external factors, is something we can learn to deal with more effectively. Typically, this involves developing more objective thinking patterns. The problem is we need to do this habitually, automatically, for it to have the best effect. Sleep is the same. The way we view bedtime, how we prepare ourselves for bed and our thought processes when our heads are on the pillow are deeply habitual. Hypnotherapy offers huge life benefits in a massive variety of ways. Far too many to list here. The most important thing to know is that it works by getting your conscious mind to communicate with your far more powerful subconscious. From there, desires become habits and change is then natural and infinitely easier. Your subconscious wants to help you, you just need to tell it what you want.
