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Two health stories in our November/December issue get right to the point. Lydia Kremer tells us about the Mona Lisa Touch, a vaginal laser treatment that can perk up the sex life of post-menopausal women. It’s offered in the Valley by Dr. Jolyn Fergon. Bill Marchese’s article on Dr. Tamela Martin points out that you can expect a thicker waistline and possibly cataracts as you age. While he discusses the how’s and why’s of cataract surgery, along with regular checkups there are steps you can take to help avoid it, especially since we live in the desert. Too much sun can damage your eyes. Constant exposure to ultraviolet light can increase the risk of developing serious eye condition, including increased pigmentation in the eye that causes a discoloration know as “brown” or sunshine” cataracts and macular degeneration. Both of these conditions can lead to permanent vision loss. One best way to avoid either is a good pair of sunglasses, which in this case is more than a fashion accessory. Washing off eye makeup every night with the right products free of synthetic preservatives and other substances can help protect the eyes and prevent problems. Natural removers that contain gentle ingredients such as jojoba oil, olive oil or coconut oil are suggested – not only as removers but as ingredients in mascara, eye shadow and eye liner. Jamie Lee Pricer

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An all-woman team from the Hyatt Palm Springs took third place in the third annual Coachella Valley Housekeeping Olympics on Sept.13 in the Show at Agua Caliente Casino Resort Spa in Rancho Mirage. They are Carmen Zarate, Tina Reyes, Celia Garcia, Araceli Hernandez and Guadalupe Rodriquez. The team competed in bed making, table setting, towel folding and a toilet paper toss topped by a race to wrap their manager in paper from the roll.

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of the Kiwanis Club of Palm Springs. The second annual Ladybug Award for leadership and service in the Coachella Valley early childhood field was given to Marina Alvarez, lead teacher in Desert Sands Unified School District preschool, at the 2012 Stan and Carolyn Little Early Childhood Education Conference at the McCallum Theatre and College of the Desert.

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Coming up: Perez Road Art District By Jorie Parr There’s a cluster of art galleries, five with more to come, at 68-895 Perez Road that may emerge as Cathedral City’s sassy answer to the Backstreet Art District on the edge of Palm Springs. Not that art is new to that road; for example, the prestigious Colin Fisher Gallery is just a driveway away, but this band of newcomers bears watching. Rebecca Pikus was the first of this group to set up shop one year ago, with a stunning opening event enhanced with music, an open bar and a dance performance led by Simeon Den painted all-over silver including his smooth head. The huge back doors on the onetime auto service space were rolled up to keep the party cool.

welcoming another neighbor, Modern Home, In the process of moving in across the way. Unconcerned with rivalry, they maintain what Laura calls a collegiate attitude. “Everyone’s in on a joint effort,” Taylor adds. Later Angela Valente Romeo, nearby at Colliding Worlds Fine Art Gallery, would agree. “It’s not a competitive thing; everyone is working together.” And Roger Leighton of Trenz, who had dropped in, said “We’re like a big family here. All different, but we get along fine.”

A longtime arts advocate, Valente Romeo started as an intellectual property attorney. Under the banner of Colliding Worlds, she has had a TV program, and continues to air a Currently at Rebecca Fine Art Gallery radio series. Plus, like Rebecca Pikus, “is a major show, museum quality,” she writes art-oriented articles. And - she is also a model. Valente Romeo according to Pikus. Guest-curated always wanted to have a gallery, by Joe Novak, it aims to illustrate and the dream came true last May. the influence of older masters on She has a core group of artists like emerging talent. To prove Pikus’ point, there is a piece by James Turrell, ceramicist Kevin Nierman always on deck, while she mounts short-range one of the most important artists in Southern California, flanked by two by shows for others. Photographer Terry Hastings has the November exhibit his mentee, August Muth. with the provocative title, “Beyond Trenz Gallery, the newest venture, Hockney.” was kicked off just last month by At the end of 68895, the Simeon partners Vern Chamness and Roger Leighton. They formerly held forth in Den Gallery/Fine & Temple Arts, the Dallas design district. At 68-895, made its debut to much fanfare in September. Den also teaches yoga Leighton, the primary artist, has his workshop, kiln and all, in the back. A on the premises, which helps meet expenses and frees him “to show art multimedia artist/sculptor, Leighton even added hats to his repertoire. But that resonates with me.” that was in the heady society of Dallas. The proprietor and his husband, Photographer Peter Palladino, reside Chamness characterizes the Trenz oeuvre as on the contemporary side, in the onetime home of the beloved somewhat colorful. Their contributors artist Agnes Pelton (1881-1961) in the Cathedral City Cove. They own a include Wendy Wonder and Judy landscape by Pelton, “Smoketree in Hall Stapes. Bloom,” which hangs in the gallery. The Desert House, at the Perez “Oh no, not for sale,” Den says front entrance, boasts one-ofemphatically. a-kind artifacts and dramatic furniture, “totally complementary,” as spokesman Peter Taylor puts it. Their target consumer has a big contemporary or traditional home. Not for the underbudgeted, their featured artist is Jamali, whose large paintings go for about $84,000. A truly magnificent antique is a 20foot wooden canoe from Indonesia ($14,000). Taylor sees it as a poolside bar. “Just put a glass top over it.” Taylor and Laura Chamberlin, Desert House manager, are

Need a canoe at poolside? At the Desert House with Peter Taylor and Laura Chamberlin. Mario Kazak and Rebecca Pikus at the Rebecca Fine Art Gallery. Photo by Gordon Parr

across the lane. He’s referring to Frankie’s Old World Italian Bakery & Café, which often stays open on art

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Next up is an exhibit by Palladino, “Cathedral City, An American Town/ Community and Cultural Contrasts,” heralding the town’s 35th anniversary. Time frame: Nov. 15 (5- 9 pm) - Dec. 12. Opening night will include music and a dance performance by the College of the Desert Ballet Folklorico Club. A dancer himself since the age of 8, Den offers (dance) demonstrations at events instead of wine. After all, you can get refreshments at Frankie’s

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Take advantage of happy hour meal deals From street food to unusual choices

Mr. Lyon’s burger with bacon jam. Photo by Audrey Ma

By Pamela Bieri The trend of “happy hour” — lowered drink prices usually between the hours of 4 and 8 p.m. — began as a way for restaurants, pubs and bars to boost sales during slow times.

of prime rib medallion with baked potato, fresh ground beef burger with bacon jam aioli, and classic sides like iceberg wedge, onion rings and hand cut fries.

Today, the concept also means lower priced, smaller portion bar food menus. Many desert area restaurants offer early and late happy hours; some places even have happy hour all day long in the bar.

Happy hour food and drinks at Mr. Lyons’ The Lounge is from 4 to 7 p.m. 233 E. Palm Canyon, Palm Springs, (760) 327-1551,

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The Amigo Room, Ace Hotel

We’ve scouted out some great happy hour meal deals for plenty of food and drinks at reasonable prices: The new reimagined Mr. Lyons Steakhouse evokes both the old Hollywood glamour for which Palm Springs is famous as well as a more laid-back vibe in The Lounge.

The dark and gritty throwback bar, The Amigo Room at the Ace Hotel, is a cool place to chow down on charred shishito peppers, a mojo or pollo verde taco, crispy calamari with pickled vegetable and smoked chile aioli, a puffy, cheese-filled quesadilla with pico de gallo and pickled serrano chili, or a classic chips and salsa.

In this more casual setting, savor a classic cocktail or something new and seasonal, and enjoy a taste

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Talking Fashion That outfit again? Oh, no. Or – Oh, yes. By Jorie Parr OK, you put together an ensemble that was a big hit, its photo liked on social media. You’d spent some time and probably money assembling the look. Was it a one-shot wonder or would you trot it out again. Not everyone is in the newcostume-every-occasion hall of fame like artist Karen Barone, who selfdesigns constantly. So we asked some other well-dressed local ladies and a gentleman for their opinion. Would you wear it twice? Laurie Weitz, art activist. “No. It’s not a gray area for me. (Laughs.) Palm Springs is a little city with big city ideas. The fashion bar is high here. Always mindful of what’s appropriate to a given event…and not repeating the same outfit again. People look forward to seeing what we’re going to wear next.”

advocates updating with buzzy items from fast fashion outlets, mentioning Zara along with H&M and COS. Donna MacMillan, art philanthropist. “Wear things twice? It’s a crazy question. I can’t imagine not. I like what I have and I’m proud to wear it (frequently). That doesn’t bother me.” Babette Hansen, retired hair/makeup stylist. “I’d probably wear the same thing twice. Though we don’t go to that many functions. But I do believe (this situation) is why there are so many designer consignment – resale shops here.” William Dey, photographer. “Same exact outfit? No. But I do have a YSL white suit I vary….put with classic shirt and shoes…or with black shirt and chains to make edgy…or even

Susanna Schulten, artist. “Palm Springs is all about dressing up. Yes, I would wear the same clothes on different occasions, but I would combine them differently with accessories to look like a different style. I do have a few favorite pieces that I wear a lot.” Susan Stein, creative director/producer Fashion Week El Paseo and “Palm Springs Life” fashion/scene editor. “Because of today’s high-end to lowend fashion alternatives, you can wear something more than once. Take a basic black Valentino five years old and add something to make it trendy.” She



William Dey’s favorite white Yves Saint Laurent suit.

with a graphic T-shirt and gold hightop sneakers. Also I have a memorable Trina Turk jacket with wide red/gray vertical stripes… (teamed with) black leather jeans…or with white shirt and wide Gucci tie, slim-fit pant. This jacket I never wear back-to-back. I wait two-three months.”

most chic women in the desert repeat an amazing black gown reinterpreted with jewelry and accessories. Same thing applies to a favorite skirt or pair of boots I might wear to Pappy & Harriet’s. I simply don’t care if someone remembers it from a month prior. I collect unusual pieces that have a vintage vibe and hold onto them – and pull them out whenever the mood strikes.”

Molly Bondhus, co-owner Wil Stiles boutique. “I certainly see no shame in repeating key items. Some of the


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In the eyes of Tamela Martin, M.D.

With high tech scope she can insert lenses to help correct severe diseases By Bill Marchese Along with a thickening waistline, most of us will get cataracts in our later years. . The good news is that advances in cataract surgery and new and improved lenses can clear your vision faster than losing 10 pounds. A slow moving disease that dulls your vision, cataracts cloud the eye’s natural lens, which lies behind the iris and the pupil, says ophthalmologist Tamela Martin of Palm Desert. Along with degrees in medicine and a successful practice, Dr. Martin’s other claim to fame is the title of “California’s Pork Queen” earned as a youth raised on a farm in Orange County. More about that later. Will you have cataracts? The disease affects millions of people over age 50. As the U.S. population ages, more than 30 million people are expected to have cataracts by the year 2020. Here are some telltale signs to watch for: • Distance vision a bit blurred • Difficulty reading • Poor night driving because of glare or halos around oncoming headlights • Colors dull or muted. • Changing glasses no longer works.

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Dr. Tamela Martin is the only local eye surgeon who can use “Symfony” lenses that help people with diseases such as mild macular degeneration and glaucoma.

While it may take years for the cataract to grow into a serious problem, in less than a half hour a skilled surgeon can replace a foggy lens with new acrylic intraocular lens, somewhat like inserting a tiny permanent contact lens into your eye. No stitches are required in 98 percent of the cases, Martin said, as the incision is small and the eye heals quickly. Vision improves immediately. The main complaint, Martin said, “People tell me they can now see their wrinkles and they notice how dirty the house is.” Latest advances The good news in the world of cataracts is the wide range of lenses available to correct a variety of vision problems, Martin said. There are

multi-focal lens implants to allow both close-up and distant vision. Standard lenses only correct vision at one focal point, either near or far. Patients who choose far vision will still need reading glasses. A new standard “Toric” lens implant will allow for vision correction along

with regular astigmatism, Martin said, which a distorted or slanted image, caused when the cornea is shaped like a football or oval instead of a normal round shape. A “Symfony” lens will, for the first time, help people with mild macular degeneration, astigmatism and mild glaucoma by “creating an extended depth of vision,” she said. Martin is the only eye surgeon in the Valley currently authorized to use the Symfony lens, but others are expected to be approved after the first of the year.

Eisenhower Eye Surgery Center Martin, the medical director of the outpatient eye surgery center at Eisenhower Medical Center, coordinated and established the surgical eye care center at Eisenhower

in 2013. It had been closed for 10 years prior to her arrival. She oversaw the training of technicians and nurses and ordered state-of-the-art equipment and instruments. One new device, called “Zeiss Lumera” surgical scope, magnifies the eye 10 to 20 times, which allows the surgeon to accurately see fine details while doing the cataract procedure. . Martin does 11 of cataract procedures every Monday and another six on Thursday at Eisenhower, and has been an eye surgeon for nearly 20 years. She holds medical degrees from UC San Francisco and Stanford University and Medical Center, where she specialized in ophthalmology. Who is Dr. Martin? She grew up on a small farm in North Tustin, Orange County. “My mother wanted me to be the farmer’s

daughter,” she said. They raised 50 pigs, 20 sheep and another 20 cows. At a young age, her mother taught her how to castrate pigs, “something my father could not bear to do.” Her father, a true rocket scientist,

works as a nuclear engineer. Despite winning scores of blue ribbons in 4-H and being crowned California’s Pork Queen, Martin followed her father’s career path into the world of science and medicine.

FULL DISCLOSURE AND THE SURGERY I had cataract surgery this year by Martin. The thought of someone slicing into my eye freaked me out. Of the five senses, my eyesight is the one I fear losing the most-- no longer able to drive a car, work on the computer, or the see the sunrise in the morning…. the list goes on. I knew my vision was deteriorating, so I interviewed several eye surgeons in the Valley and decided on Martin. With steady hands, Martin prefers a surgical blade (not a laser, which can leave jagged edges) to make a tiny incision of about 2.4 mm, roughly as large as the capital letter “O” on this page. Using a “phaco emulsification” ultra sound machine, the foggy lens is broken down into small particles and vacuumed out and a new lens inserted, which takes about 15 minutes or less for each eye. I was given a sedative to calm my nerves and medication that locked my eyes in place so that they would not move or blink. I was awake the whole time. After the first eye, I had the second procedure six weeks later. I choose to have the left eye corrected to 20/20 for distance vision and the right eye at 20/40 for close up and mid-range vision. The brain somehow does the math and I have clear, continuous vision for reading a book, working on a computer and driving a car. After wearing glasses since the age of 10, my new visual acuity without glasses seems like nothing short of a miracle. Really. As I have gotten older, nothing has gotten better. Except this!

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Are you prepared for market volatility? By Lisa Beaty Periods of extreme stock market volatility can be emotionally and financially trying, especially with the “noise” that can come from the financial news media.  These times can lead investors to overreact to short term news and normal market movements in a way that may harm their long term objectives.     Volatility happens   There will be years when stocks go down 20 percent, 30 percent, or more.   It can be difficult to withstand such short-term pain.  Studies have shown that investors tend to panic and sell at

or near the bottom of market declines, causing them to miss the subsequent recovery.   For example, in 1973 and 1974 the S&P 500 was down about 15 percent and 27 percent respectively.  Investors who panicked and sold likely missed the subsequent recovery in 1975 and 1976 when the S&P 500 was up 37 percent and 24 percent, respectively.      A similar story unfolded after the market declines of 2000-2003 and 2008.  In each case the short-term pain and fear caused many investors to sell near the bottom and miss out on strong recoveries.   

 An investor needs to understand before investing any money in the stock market that such periods happen and can be expected during their investment lifetime.  Volatility should be planned on and planned for – it happens.   Stock market volatility checklist  So how should you react during periods of stock market volatility?   What should you do or should you do nothing at all?  That depends.  During volatile market periods we suggest reviewing the following five-step checklist: 

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1. Turn off the Noise: By “noise” we refer the often irrelevant and incessant financial news media. There seems to be endless internet, TV, newspaper, radio and magazine articles and ads that purport to “know” exactly what you should do. Turn it off.  Steve Forbes, the editor-in-chief of business magazine Forbes, is famously quoted as saying, “You make more money selling advice than following it. It’s one of the things we count on in the magazine business — along with the short term memory of our readers.”  The quote illustrates how different your own personal objectives are from the financial news media, especially in times of market turmoil.  Financial media thrive on fear and greed driven advertising to attract marketing dollars.  Be wary of putting too much faith in the recommendations of the moment by sources that don’t know or understand you.  By turning off the noise we aren’t suggesting that you ignore current financial events or relevant research, but that you follow prudent advice and sound strategies that are pertinent to your own personal financial situation and ignore the gamesmanship.   2. Review your investment plan: If you don’t have an investment plan, then you should work with a qualified professional to create one. A good investment plan should serve as a guide during volatile markets and provide clarity and direction for your own personal objectives.   Your investment plan should reflect you.  It should be tied to own personal goals, risk tolerance and time horizon for in a way that works for you. Looking at the whole picture can help you examine whether your strategy should be aggressive, conservative, or somewhere in between.   3. Assess your cash reserves: If you are still working and regularly saving money in your 401k or other savings plan, a market in decline may be an opportune moment to add money.        However, if you are retired and using your portfolio to provide for your income needs you should make sure you have adequate cash reserves - possibly one to two years of portfolio spending.  You should keep enough in cash or other short-term investments that you can draw upon so that you

aren’t forced to sell investments at a bad time.     4. Make sure you are well diversified: One of the most

important things you can do to help manage the risk of volatile markets is to diversify. While it won’t guarantee you won’t have losses, it may help limit them.   

How do you diversify? First, consider spreading your investments among at least three core asset classes - stocks, bonds and short-term investments. You may also want to include other assets, like real estate securities, which are not always closely correlated with the core asset classes.  Then to help offset risk even more, diversify the investments within each asset class.     5. Find a comfort level: No one feels comfortable when markets gyrate violently, but if you find yourself watching your balances too frequently, and especially if it is causing you undue stress or anxiety, you may need to reevaluate your investment mix.  However, you should be wary of being too conservative, especially if you have a long time horizon because conservative strategies may not provide the growth needed to accomplish your goals.    See present with clarity   No one can predict the future.  We believe the key, however, is to see the present with clarity.  During times of volatility an investor will more clearly see the present by following our fivestep checklist:  Turn off the noise,

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Mona Lisa Touch laser treatments Dr. Jolyn Fergon champions women’s health, vitality By Lydia Kremer As owner of Advanced Women’s Healthcare since 2003, Dr. Jolyn Fergon, is changing lives one woman at a time. Her medical practice has three offices – Palm Springs, La Quinta and Yucca Valley with a staff of five physicians and five nurse practitioners – all focusing on women’s health. “I wanted to be progressive in women’s health,” she says. Shortly after beginning her practice, Dr. Lillia Pacini became her partner. Together they have built the practice through their shared passion for women’s health. “She has been the best partner and friend in every way,” Fergon notes. For her mature patients who experience issues related to postmenopause, Fergon was the first practitioner in the desert to offer a life-changing laser therapy called Mona Lisa Touch. While erectile dysfunction in men is openly discussed

and the issue blankets television with ads, sexual dysfunction in women is still seemingly a taboo topic, despite the fact that 2 in 4 women experience these symptoms. The Mona Lisa Touch laser therapy was developed in Italy and has recently arrived in the U.S. At present Fergon’s office is the only office in the Coachella Valley that offers it. She has treated more than 100 post-menopausal women with the treatment, some of whom have not been able to have sexual intercourse for years. Many of her patients have told her it has changed their lives. But the power to manifest change and rise above challenges is evident in Jolyn Fergon’s personal inspirational life story. Growing up on a farm in Kelso, Wash., the small logging town could not contain Fergon’s big dreams. Her early aspirations were inspired by her father’s dedication, a carpet

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the Chart House restaurant waiting tables. “I fell in love with medicine and women’s health at one job and fell in love with my future husband at the other.” After COD, she attended UCLA and became a nurse practitioner, then went on to Philadelphia University where she received a master’s degree in nurse midwifery. She followed that with a doctorate of nursing practice from Duke University in 2013.

These challenges must have seemed daunting to a young woman living on her own at such an early age, but despite them, Fergon graduated from Palm Springs High School at the top of her class.

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by Deborah Liv Johnson home for much of the time, years she looks back on in awe. “I could never have done what I did without my husband, he did everything for us. He managed everything while I was in school -- he took care of me,

our children, and his parents who are 90 and 94 and have lived with us for the past 10 years, plus running his landscaping company,” she says. “He is the most amazing man.”

WHAT IS MONA LISA TOUCH? Mona Lisa Touch is a laser procedure, designed and produced by DEKA, a laser technology firm based in Florence, Italy, that delivers fractional CO2 laser energy to the vaginal wall tissue. It treats changes in vaginal health often caused by menopause, including painful intercourse, vaginal dryness, itching, burning, loss of vaginal tone and elasticity. “I heard about it actually, through a patient who had had it done and was thrilled. I contacted the rep for it and was sold after the first meeting, when I saw the many, many tutorials of how it was changing women’s lives in Europe where it had been out for a while,” says Fergon. Although symptoms related to menopause that prevent having healthy sex lives are not new, it’s taken a long time for women’s issues with sexual dysfunction to be openly addressed. “There are probably many reasons for this,” Fergon says. “I think culturally it has always been more open for men to discuss sexual issues than for women. I also think many women would not even know who to talk to about these issues and may be embarrassed to do so.” The response to Mona Lisa Touch has been overwhelming. “The majority of women treated, about 90%, have come back with amazing stories of how much it has improved their lives and many of them have shared their life changing stores,” Fergon says. “The most touching was from a woman who had not been able to have relations with her husband for nearly 20 years before he passed away. She had been dating a new gentleman for about 6 months, but was considering calling it off since she was certain they could never have a normal physical relationship. After her treatments with the Mona Lisa Touch, she was thrilled to discover that part of her life was returned, and so he came with her to the last visit to thank me and hug me!


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If it weren’t for my 25-year-old son, I would not have a photo of the Mona Lisa. At 6-foot-2 inches tall, and with an arm span the envy of an Olympic swimmer, he held my Android phone over the heads of more than 100 gazers at the Louvre, where the Paris museum’s most famous – and surprisingly small -- work hangs behind a protective clear box.

This trip was a match for both of us. He hadn’t been on a cruise since he helicoptered over glaciers in Alaska 15 years ago. Normandy’s World War II beaches were on his agenda. My thoughts ran to museums and classic sites on what could well be an oncein-a-lifetime trip. Conveniently located within walking distance of each other at one end of the Champs Elysees in Paris, we did ramble through Notre Dame Cathedral and the Army, Louvre, Orsay and Orangerie museums. Plus, the day before the cruise and the last day of the trip, we were docked a onequarter mile stroll from the Eiffel Tower, where it’s easy to catch a bus, boat or Metro to other parts of the city. Can’t beat that.

Our visit was during a two-day extension following a week-long Viking River Cruise on the Seine from Paris to Normandy. We went in the fall, on the second-tothe-last Viking cruise on the Seine until the spring. (Hint: Great time to look for cruise bargains.) The weather was changeable, as the crew of the “Neptune” briefed us. Some nights a stroll on the deck was too bracing for some. Early mornings, the mist on the river could be so thick you couldn’t see the shore. Day time temperatures were mild, calling for no more than a light jacket.

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I confess taking a young man on a small boat with 130 passengers -mostly married couples aged 60-plus -has its advantages. You get noticed as the odd couple, and passengers think you are a great mom for taking a kid on a trip like this.

Highlights You’d need a week to see everything in the Louvre. We had one afternoon. I picked up Rick Steves’ 2016 guide to Paris the day before we left. He outlines a meticulous path through the museum to see the most popular items. I went from gallery to gallery following his map. Didn’t get lost once.

It’s also different for the crew, many of who were near his age. Always gracious and meticulous to all Viking passengers, the crew paid him special attention – slipped him a free drink, told him when the cookie stock was refreshed on the 24/7 coffee bar, gave him hints about what to see ashore.

Fresh baguettes. The “Neptune” docked at small towns along the Seine. We’d go into town at dawn to be greeted by the irresistible smell of bread and pastries baking.

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Ongoing Art Walk: 6 p.m. First Wednesday of month. Backstreet Art District, Palm Springs. Galleries, working studios, refreshments, live music. 2688 Cherokee Way, Palm Springs. Certified Farmers Market: 8 a.m.12:30 p.m. Palm Springs, Saturday, adjacent to Camelot Theatres, 2300 E. Baristo Road; Sunday, Old Town La Quinta, 78-100 Main St.; Wednesday, Palm Desert Chamber of Commerce, 72-559 Highway 111., (760) 898-5250 COD Street Fair: 7 a.m.-2 p.m. Saturday, Sunday. College of the Desert, 43-500 Monterey Ave., Palm Desert., (760) 630-7957 Desert Oasis Market: 4-8 p.m. Tuesday. Vendors for produce, food, jewelry, art, accessories, apparel. Live music, free admission & parking. Welk Resort, 34-567 Cathedral Canyon Drive, Cathedral City. (760) 534-7968 Fabulous Bingo: With caller Shirley Claire. 7 p.m. Monday. King’s Highway Diner, Ace Hotel & Swim Club, 701 E. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs. Free. (760) 325-9900, Indio Open Air Market: 4-10 p.m. Wednesday, Saturday. Riverside


County Fairgrounds parking lot, 46350 Arabia St., Indio. (800) 222-7457 Palm Springs VillageFest: 6-10 p.m. Thursday. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs,, (760) 320-1781 November Through 13 “Agatha Christie’s A Murder is Announced”: 7 p.m. Fri., 2 & 7 p.m. Sat., 2 p.m. Sun. Arthur Newman Theatre, 73-750 Catalina Way, Palm Desert. $16-$28., (760) 980-1455 Through 13 ‘Casa Valentina”: By Dezart Performs. 7:30 pm. Fri., Sat.; 2 p.m. Sat., Sun. Palm Springs Woman’s Club, 314 S. Cahuilla Road, Palm Springs. $25-$30., (760) 322-0179 5 Palm Springs Vintage Market: 8 a.m.-2 p.m. Spa Resort Casino, Indian Canyon Drive. $5., (760) 534-7968 11 Veterans Day Parade: Downtown Palm Springs, 3:30 p.m. Concert, fireworks finale follows at Amado Road, North Palm Canyon Drive., (760) 323-8265 14 Bites and Sips for Scholarships: 5-8 pm., foodie fundraiser by Les

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Wildlights, one of the alley’s traditional holiday events, will be held from 6 to 9 p.m. Friday and Saturday Nov. 25-Dec. 24 at the Living Desert Zoo and Gardens. Admission is $8-$10. 47900 Portola Ave., Palm Desert., (760) 346-5694

Dames d’ Escoffier International Palm Springs Chapter. $50 advance, $60 at door. Pirch, 71-905 Highway 111, Rancho Mirage., (760) 895-9899 14 Indio California State BBQ Championship & Festival: Also classic car show, live music, craft beer. Indio Golf Course, 83-040 Ave. 42, Indio., (760) 347-0676 15 Broken Glass Awards: By Palm Springs Women in Film and Television, 11 a.m.-2:30 p.m. Agua Caliente Casino Resort Spa, 32-250 Bob Hope Drive, Rancho Mirage. $100. http://, (760) 238-0306 15 National League of American Pen Women: Speaker Sofia Enriquez. 11:45 a.m.-1:30 p.m. Desert Falls Country Club 1111 Desert Falls Parkway, Palm Desert. $26-$28., (760) 578-8198 17 Gilda’s Girls Night Out: Wine, appetizers, live flamenco guitar, benefits Gilda’s Desert Cities’ free program of emotional support for all touched by cancer. $25 advance, $35 at door. Hyatt Regency Indian Wells Resort & Spa, 44-600 Indian Wells Lane, Indian Wells., (760) 770-5678 18-20 Cathedral City Hot Air Balloon Festival & 35th Anniversary: Live music, parade, hot air balloon race, nighttime glows on Fri., Sat. Festival Lawn, 68-600 Avenida Lalo Guerrero, Cathedral City. Discovercathedralcity. com, (760) 770-0396 25 Desert Art Festival: 10 a.m.4 p.m., Frances Stevens Park, 538 N. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs. Free., (818) 813-4478 25-27 35th annual Indio Pow Wow: Dance, bird singing, drum contests, Native American food, vendors, arts and crafts. Fantasy Springs Resort Casino, 84-245 Indio Springs Drive, Indio., (760) 342-5000 26 Holiday Arts & Crafts Fair: 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Cathedral City Senior Center, 37-171 W. Buddy Rogers Ave. Free., (760) 321-1548 December 3 23rd annual Palm Springs Festival of Lights Parade: 5:457:30 p.m. from Ramon Road north up Palm Canyon Drive to Tamarisk Road. Free., (760) 323-8276 3-4 Indio International Tamale Festival: 300-plus vendors, five stages of entertainment, wine and beer gardens. Miles Avenue, Towne Street, Requa Avenue, Smurr Street in downtown Indio., (760) 832-8620, Ext. 43 4 7th annual Men of the Desert Fashion Show & Charity Luncheon: Features dudes & dogs. Benefits Animal Samaritans. 11 a.m.-2 p.m. Aqua Caliente Casino Resort Spa, Bob Hope Drive, Rancho Mirage., (760) 601-3754 8 Walking Tour of the Inns: Through Palm Springs’ historic inn district. Self-guided tour, 5-8 p.m., light refreshments, starts at Palm Springs Art Museum, 101 Museum Drive., (760) 322-4800 10 Library book sales: DVDs, CDs, audio books, 10 a.m.-1 p.m., Palm Springs Public Library, 300 S. Sunrise Way. (760) 322-7323. Cook book sale, holiday boutique, 9 a.m.3 p.m., Cravens Student Services Center, College of the Desert, 43-500 Monterey Ave., Palm Desert. (760) 333-0733 11 “Singing in the Holidays”: By the Coachella Valley Symphony, Shelly Yoelin, Rancho Mirage High School Chamber singers. 7 p.m. The Helene Galen Performing Arts Center, Rancho Mirage High School, 31-001 Rattler Road, Rancho Mirage. $25-$65., (760) 360-2222

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November/December 2016 Valley Woman  
November/December 2016 Valley Woman