AsIlongIwillbealive,myfatherwouldstayinmyheartandthoughts.EverytimeIseemyface,I canseesomeofhisphysicalfeaturesthroughthemirror.Henotonlyismybiologicfather,butalso myinspirationinmylifeHeconstantlyinspiresmetoputeffortsinmyimpossibledreamsIn return,IwanttoprovehimmyselfandhowcapableIcanbe.Withhispersonality,hisrole,andhis unquestionablegenerosity,myfatherisamanwhoinfluencesmethemost.Myfather'spersonality isnotextraordinaryoramazing,ontheotherhand,oneofthesimplestoneIeverknow.Youdon't havetobefantasticlikeasuperherotoberecognizedbytheonesyoulove.Withmydad'soutgoing attitude,youwouldbesurprisethatamiddleshowmorecontent
However,myfatherwouldstaystrongduringcrucialtimesatworkforhisfamilyandhimself.My fatherisamanofrespect.Iadmirehimashisfirstandoldestdaughter.Nomatterhowmadorsilly mysistersandIwouldget,hewouldbethepeacemakerinthefamilyLet'ssaythatmysistersandI liketohavefunathome.Wehavesomuchfunthatweenduptobeincrediblyloud.Anyway,my dadcan'tstanduslaughingoutloudandactinglikesavagesatall.Hewouldjustbreakusapartto stopournoisysilliness.SometimesIthinkmydadisover–protective.Ithinkthiswaybecausewhen mygrand–fatherdied.Hecouldn'ttellmestraightintheface.Hedidn'tknowhowIwouldreact withthebadnewsSo,mymothertoldmethehorriblenewsMaybehedidn'twanttotellmesince hewouldadmitthatmygrand–padied.
WhatItrulybelieveisthathisdesiretowardhischildrenistoappreciatesomebodyforwhatthey areandnottheirpossessionsorstatus.Justtothinkabouttheidea,itisunimaginabletome.Idon't knowhowpeoplecansupporteachotheriftheydon'tenjoythemselvestogether.Thetruthisthat myparentsmarriedeachotherduetotheirlovenotforanything'elseIdon'tthinkmysisterscan concludethisfrommyparentssincethey'reyoungerthanme.ItfeelslikeIamtheonlyonewhocan comprehendmyfather'sintention.Iwishmysisters
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MyFather'sLife
"Thetruthisthatthelifeofanindividualisnotmoreinterestingthanthelifeofawholenation.And anothertruthisthatnoteveryoneisabletodescribehis/herlifethewaygreatwritersdo."Thiswas myfather'sfirstresponsetomyrequestofknowingmoreabouthispastlife
Myfather,RubenAslanian,wasbornonApril12theyear1951inasmallvillageofAbkhazia calledMteesoubaneeAbkhaziawaspartoftheGeorgiarepublicduringthemidnineteenthcentury andGeorgiawasoneofthefourteenrepublicsoftheoutdatedSovietUnion.Thevillagemyfather livedindoesnothaveanythingincommonwiththevillagesofthepresenttime.Oneofthemain differencesisthatthosevillageswereextremelyshowmorecontent Hedidnotfollowthecanonofweakandpowerfulandhetreatedallpeopleequally.Oncewhenhe wasaboutfiveyearsold,hewasplayingintheyardofhisgrandfatherwiththethree–year–old cousinofhis.
Suddenlytheneighbor'skid,sameageasmyfather,cameoverwithastickandstartedhittingthe littleone.Myfathergotanotherstickandbeganhittingtheneighbor'ssonuntiltheleftwithtearsin hiseyes.Hecamebackwithhisgrandma,whowasyellingatmyfatherandexceptthat,myfather's grandfatherpunishedhimandaskedhimtoleave Myfatherwenttothebushesandstartedcryingoutofoffence."Asalittlekidbackthen,Iwas thinkingthattheyweresounfairandexceptthattheydidnotletmebefaireither."Afterawhile,his grandpacameandadmittedthathesaweverythingandthatmyfatherwasrightbuthehadtopunish himsotheywouldnotgetintoaconflictwiththeneighbors.Fromhisgrandfather'swords,my fatherwasfinallyrelived.
Petroswashisgrandfather'snameandhedidnotlovemyfatherasmuch,ashelovedmyfather's youngerbrothernamedRafikPetrosthoughtRafiklookedmorelikehimselfandmyfatherlooked morelikeAikKakulian,thegrandfatherfromthemother'sside.PetrosusedtocallmyfatherKakul toinsulthim,somethingthatbotheredmyfatheralot."Afterthesituationwiththeneighborkid,I was
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TheOneWeekThatWillLastaLifetimeIsn'titfunnyhowfastlifecanseemtopassby?Oftenwe aresocaughtupinthedailyactionsoftheworldthatwemisscertainthingsinthemeantime.Asif weallhaveinfinitetimetodoinfinitethingswiththepeoplethatwecarrydearlyinourheartsevery singleday.Lifeasweknowhowever,isnotalwaysthisbeautiful.Ifoundthisoutthehardwayby losingmyfather,andfallingintoadepressionIstrugglewitheverydayIhadaveryinterestingand inwhatmostcasesIconsidermyselftobea"modern"typeofrelationshipwithmyfather.My parentshaddivorcedwhenIwasachild,Iwouldgowithmymomonweekdays,andmydadon weekendsMostofthetimeIntheyear2013mydad,becauseofthehealthofmygrandmotherwas forcedtomovetoGrandJunction.While16atthetime,Iknewthatthiswasindeedsomethinghe neededtodo.Thisonlymadeourtimetogetherlessfrequentthanitwasalreadywas.Iwasavery peculiarsonhowever,Ilovedmyparentstherewasneveranyquestionofthatfact.Duetothelittle timeIgottospendwithmyfatherhowever,Ialwaysfeltasifourrelationshipneverevolvedtothe biggestitcouldbeAftergraduatinghighschoollastyear,therewasanewsenseofcommitmentin myselfhowever.IwasabouttogetacarandsoonwouldbeabletotraveltoandfromGrand Junctionatmyowndiscretionandthatcouldn'thaveexcitedmemore.Finally,achancetogetthat relationship
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