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Planning Obama’s trip to Israel Obama to speak directly to Israelis on visit to Jewish state JERUSALEM (JTA)—President Obama is scheduled to deliver an address directly to the Israeli people during his two-day visit to Israel. The Obama administration has requested that Obama deliver his speech directly to at least 1,000 Israelis, Ynet reported. The address will either be at the Israel Museum or the International Convention Center in Jerusalem. Ynet reported that Obama will land at Ben Gurion International Airport at noon on March 20, according to the itinerary set by Jerusalem and Washington. He will be welcomed with a state reception, including speeches by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and President Shimon Peres, and then will speak himself. Obama will move on to Jerusalem and the president’s residence, where there will be another official welcoming ceremony. At the Yad Vashem Holocaust Museum, Obama is scheduled to lay a wreath in the Hall of Remembrance accompanied by Netanyahu and Peres. At Mount Herzl he will lay wreaths at the tomb of Zionism


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visionary Theodor Herzl and at the grave of the slain prime minister Yitzhak Rabin. Later that day, Netanyahu and Obama will meet for official discussions and have a joint news conference and dinner. The following day, Obama is scheduled to travel to Ramallah in the West Bank to meet with Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas. Following the meeting, Obama will view the Dead Sea Scrolls and visit an exhibit in the Israel Museum highlighting Israeli developments in technological fields and agriculture, according to Ynet. Following his speech, he will have dinner with Peres. On March 22, Obama will have breakfast with Netanyahu before visiting an Iron Dome battery and the soldiers who work on it. He then will travel to Jordan. Tel Aviv Mayor Ron Huldai is working to have Obama speak in Rabin Square in his city. An Israeli Facebook initiative called Speak for Peace, asking that Obama present an address in the square where Rabin was assassinated during a peace rally, has garnered more than 8,000 likes.

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Obama to receive presidential medal from Israel’s Peres President Obama will receive the Presidential Medal of Distinction from Israeli President Shimon Peres. The award will be presented to Obama during a state dinner hosted by Peres in Jerusalem during Obama’s visit this month to Israel. It is the first time that a serving U.S. president will receive an award of this kind from the president of Israel, according to Peres’ office. “Barack Obama is a true friend of the State of Israel, and has been since the beginning of his public life,” read the recommendation of the advisory committee for the Presidential Medal of Distinction that was released by Peres’ office after the decision was announced. “As President of the United States of America he has stood with Israel in times of crisis. During his time as president he has made a unique contribution to the security of the State of Israel, both through further strengthening the strategic cooperation between the countries and through the joint development of technology to defend against rockets and terrorism.” The National Jewish Democratic Council praised Israel’s decision to present the prestigious award to Obama.(JTA)


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briefs France saw 58 percent rise in antiSemitic attacks in ‘12, report says France saw an increase of 58 percent in anti-Semitic incidents in 2012 compared to the previous year, according to a report by the French Jewish community. The report released last month by the SPCJ, the security unit of France’s Jewish communities, showed that 614 anti-Semitic acts were documented in the republic last year compared to 389 in 2011. “2012 has been a year of unprecedented violence against Jews in France,” according to the report, which referenced the shooting murders of a rabbi and three Jewish children on March 19 by an Islamist radical at a Jewish school in Toulouse. Incidents in which the victims were accosted physically or verbally on the street witnessed an increase of 82 percent, to 315 last year from 177 cases in 2011, SPCJ said. A fourth of the 96 physical anti-Semitic assaults involved a weapon. The SPCJ report reflects a near doubling in physical anti-Semitic assaults, of which 57 were documented in 2011. SPCJ notes two peaks in anti-Semitic attacks in 2012: following the Toulouse shooting, when 90 acts were recorded within 10 days, and after the Oct. 6 bombing of a kosher supermarket in Sarcelles in which two people were lightly wounded, when 28 acts were recorded in the next eight days. (JTA) Claims Conference offers last chance for East Germany property heirs Jews who owned property seized by the Nazis in what became East Germany have a last chance to receive compensation for it. For the first time in a decade, the Claims Conference has agreed to review new claims by potential heirs to Jewish-owned properties in the former East Germany. Last month, the organization announced that it is establishing a $67 million fund for eligible heirs. The Late Applicants Fund will be open until Dec. 31, 2014. After German reunification in 1990, Jewish heirs had until 1993 to file their claims to properties in the former East Germany. All properties for which no heir could be established were handed over to the Claims Conference under a 1990 agreement that made the Claims Conference’s so-called Successor Organization the legal successor to those properties. The deal has netted the Claims Conference some $3 billion in recovered real estate assets, not including properties that went to heirs who could be found. The Claims Conference has sold most of the

properties it received from Germany and spent more than $1.6 billion of the proceeds on home care for elderly Holocaust survivors, grants for organizations that benefit survivors, and Holocaust education and documentation. Another $940 million went to a socalled Goodwill Fund set up for claimants who missed the Dec. 31, 1992 deadline to file their property claims. The fund enabled them to receive proceeds from the sale of the properties that Germany already had restituted to the Claims Conference and subsequently were sold. The Claims Conference has come under criticism in the past for not being responsive to claimants who missed filing deadlines, though the Goodwill Fund’s application process was extended several times. The final extension took place in 2004, with amendments made in 2009 and 2010 for certain heirs. Detailed rules and applications for the Late Applicants Fund are available on the Claims Conference’s website, The website also has a list of Jews who owned property in East Germany before the beginning of the Nazi era that contains thousands of entries. Since its Holocaust reparations programs began, Germany has paid out the equivalent of more than $70 billion to survivors and programs to help survivors. (JTA)

Livni’s Hatnua signs first coalition deal with Netanyahu Hatnua, led by Tzipi Livni, became the first party to sign a coalition deal with Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu. The deal comes nearly a month after national elections, following which President Shimon Peres tapped Netanyahu to form a new coalition government. Under the agreement, Livni will serve as justice minister, be a member of the security cabinet and head future peace talks with the Palestinians. The former opposition leader’s new party received six seats in the 19th Knesset. Hatnua reportedly also will receive the Environmental Protection Ministry in the new government. “Two-and-a-half months ago my colleagues and I formed Hatnua, and we vowed to fight for a diplomatic agreement, even if it doesn’t pay off politically,” Livni told reporters after signing the agreement. “This led to a partnership with the prime minister after I was permitted to negotiate with the aim of ending the conflict with the Palestinians.” Livni is a former Israeli foreign minister and a former head of the Kadima party. (JTA)

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Jewish Agency asks Obama to grant clemency to Pollard The Jewish Agency in a resolution called on President Obama to grant clemency to spy-for-Israel Jonathan Pollard. The agency’s Board of Governors passed the resolution unanimously during its annual meeting in Jerusalem calling for Pollard’s release on humanitarian grounds. It notes that Pollard is completing his 28th year of a life sentence in a U.S. federal prison and claims the sentence is “overly harsh.” The resolution also refers to Pollard’s “various illnesses and deteriorating health.” “Twenty eight years is more than enough,” said Natan Sharansky, chairman of the Executive of the Jewish Agency. “Today, when there is a growing consensus in favor of Pollard’s release amongst former Pentagon and CIA officials, American figures, legal authorities, the Israeli government, and American Jewish leaders, the time has come to vigorously and loudly demand his freedom. ” Yair Lapid, the head of the Yesh Atid party, spoke to Pollard during a meeting at the Knesset in Jerusalem with Pollard’s wife, Esther. Esther Pollard went to the Knesset to meet Lapid and ask him to speak with Obama about clemency. Jonathan Pollard called his wife in the middle of the meeting and she gave the phone to Lapid, The Jerusalem Post reported. The timing of the call was coincidental, Esther Pollard said, since her husband is restricted on his telephone usage. “I was in tears,” Lapid told reporters after the meeting. “He is in poor shape. He is desperate and broken. We will do everything we can to help him.” (JTA)

June related to the Women of the Wall’s monthly rosh chodesh service. In 2003, Israel’s Supreme Court upheld a government ban on women wearing tefillin or tallit, prayer shawls, or reading from a Torah scroll at the Wall. Earlier in February, 10 women were arrested for praying with prayer shawls at the Wall as they celebrated the new Jewish month of Adar. Haaretz reported that the arrests took place after the services had concluded, which police had been observing. (JTA)

Women of the Wall Megillah reading undisturbed by Israeli police A women’s Megillah reading at the Western Wall took place on Shushan Purim without incident or arrests. Approximately 80 women turned out, some donning prayer shawls, others dressed as police and haredi Orthodox worshipers, on Monday, Feb. 25 in Jerusalem, the Times of Israel reported. Hallel Silverman, the 17-year-old niece of American comedian Sarah Silverman, who was arrested two weeks ago during rosh chodesh morning services for the Hebrew month of Adar, participated in the Megillah reading dressed in striped prison garb with two of her younger siblings dressed as police officers leading her by handcuffs. Israeli police have made nearly monthly arrests related to dress code violations since

Adelson sues Wall Street Journal reporter for libel Sheldon Adelson sued a Wall Street Journal reporter for libel for calling him “foulmouthed.” The lawsuit filed on Feb. 22 seeks “damages, including aggravated, exemplary and special damages,” for a December article co-written by Kate O’Keeffe. Only O’Keefe is named in the suit, The Wall Street Journal reported. “We will vigorously defend Ms. O’Keeffe in this lawsuit,” said a spokeswoman, declining to comment further. Last August, Adelson sued the National Jewish Democratic Council for defamation after the organization quoted news reports alleging that he had approved of prostitution at his properties in Macau, China. The suit has not been settled. (JTA)

Detroit Jewish leader found on convicted killer’s hit list The FBI warned the head of the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit that his name was on the hit list of a convicted killer and neo-Nazi sympathizer. Scott Kaufman, CEO of the Detroit federation, was told last week that his name was on a list in a notebook kept by a Toledo man who was indicted last month on federal weapons charges. The notebook was found Dec. 21 in the raid on the home of Richard Schmidt, 47, who served jail time for voluntary manslaughter in the 1990 killing of a Toledo man. The list made reference to the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit and listed its leaders, the Toledo Blade reported. The Rev. Wendell Anthony, the head of the Detroit branch of the NAACP, and his group also were on the list. Federal agents who raided Schmidt’s house said they seized a video of a 2005 national meeting of the National Socialist Movement, a white supremacist neo-Nazi group, and a national list of Jewish-owned businesses, according to reports. (JTA)

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have a brother who spends an extraordinary amount of time at the Kotel Hamaaravi (the Western Wall). Before he was married he even brought each of his dates to the Kotel. Despite the presence of a Mechitza, my brother managed to make these dates meaningful by greeting each one of the beggars by name and introducing them to his date. One particular girl was particularly struck by this habit. She did not end up marrying my brother, but she recommended that my brother meet the only other person she knew who could greet the Kotel staff by name. They were engaged a few weeks later. I arrived in Israel on the day before my brother’s wedding with a strong desire to go to the Kotel and spend time with him. We arrived at the Kotel just before midnight and the soldiers on duty greeted my brother like an old friend. As they ushered us through the metal detector, an alarm went off. The soldier searched my brother and gave him a questioning look when he found and removed a case of cigars from his jacket pocket. “Those are for you guys,” Eliyahu explained, “I’m getting married tomorrow.” As the smiling soldiers lit up and the aroma of cigars filled the Kotel plaza, I couldn’t help but notice the number of beggars approaching my brother and I. They didn’t want money. They just wanted to talk to Eliyahu, who looked straight into the first man’s eyes and said “I’m getting married tomorrow, please come to the wedding.” The joy on the man’s face was

unmistakable, but I couldn’t tell if he was smiling for Eliyahu’s good fortune in getting married, or for his own good fortune in getting invited. Eliyahu extended his sincere invitation to each and every one of those downtrodden men and women at the Kotel. He asked about their spouses by name, gave some money for a taxi, and expressed genuine regret when one fellow said that he would be too busy to make it to the wedding. We made our way to the Kotel, prayed, and finally made our way home after midnight amidst calls of good wishes and through a cloud of cigar smoke. Needless to say, the wedding was beautiful and the couple began their married lives together with some of the most overlooked residents of Jerusalem. As Pesach approaches, we prepare by grating potatoes, cleaning our homes. Jewish Law tells us that this is not enough. We cannot be complete in our celebration without first making sure that others can also celebrate as well. In Biblical times we were commanded to eat an entire lamb on Seder night. Since one man cannot consume an entire lamb, he was forced to invite friends and strangers to join him in his meal. Today we remember this tradition by giving “Kimcha Depischa”—special gifts to the poor to help them buy matzah and wine. We invite many guests to our homes and begin our meal with the words “all who are hungry come and eat; all who are needy come celebrate the Pesach.” Don’t celebrate alone. Invite someone extra to seder this year, accept an invitation to share the holiday with friends, or just celebrate with your family – but appreciate their presence, recognize how much they add to your joy. It is only by including others in our celebration that we can truly enjoy our freedom. —Rabbi Sender Haber, B’nai Israel Congregation


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Oscars crossed a line into bigotry by Peter Dreier

LOS ANGELES (JTA)—It seems as though the Oscars writers think that Hollywood is so liberal that they can get away with making offensive comments because everyone knows they’re “just joking.” I don’t agree. The Academy Awards ceremony featured a not very subtle onslaught of sexist, racist, homophobic and anti-Semitic “jokes.” At a time when America is facing an epidemic of gun violence and debating how to limit the spread of assault weapons, host Seth MacFarlane thought it would be clever to make a joke about the assassination of Abe “Daniel Day-Lewis is not the first actor to be nominated for playing Lincoln,” MacFarlane said. “Raymond Massey portrayed him in the 1940s Abe Lincoln in Illinois. I would argue, though, the actor who really got inside Lincoln’s head was John Wilkes Booth.” Perhaps hoping to win an award for “most racially insensitive” comment,

MacFarlane joked about Lewis’ habit of staying in character during the filming of Lincoln, even when the cameras were off. “If you bumped into Don Cheadle in the studio lot,” MacFarlane said, looking at Lewis in the audience, “would you try and free him?” MacFarlane also made outrageous remarks about Adele’s weight, gays, women, Latinas and Jews. It would be difficult to pick a winner in the “most sexist comment” category. MacFarlane sang a juvenile song, We Saw Your Boobs, about movie scenes in which former Oscar nominees were topless. Referring to the decade-long quest to find Osama bin Laden by Jessica Chastain’s character in Zero Dark Thirty, MacFarlane said it was an example of women never being “able to let anything go.” To those women who lost weight before attending the Oscar ceremony, MacFarlane said, “For all those women who had the ‘flu,’ it paid off. Lookin’ good.” Referring to Latina actresses Penelope

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Cruz and Salma Hayek—both of whom speak impeccable English—MacFarlane said, “We have no idea what they’re saying, but we don’t care cause they’re so attractive.” After singing We Saw Your Boobs with the Los Angeles Gay Men’s Chorus, MacFarlane made a point of explaining that he wasn’t actually a member of the chorus, as if being gay was something to be ashamed of. MacFarlane also observed that the show’s producers had invited the cast of Chicago to perform on the telecast because “the [Oscars] show isn’t gay enough yet.” Perhaps the most offensive comments were made by “Ted,” the talking stuffed bear who bantered (through MacFarlane’s voice) with actor Mark Wahlberg about Hollywood’s domination by Jews. If putting those words in the mouth of a talking bear is supposed to make the remarks cute and cuddly, it didn’t work with me. The set-up was Ted’s desire to gain acceptance with the Hollywood “in” crowd, which he said were the Jews, so he could attend a post-Oscars orgy. Ted begged

Wahlberg to tell him where the orgy would be held. Wahlberg finally spilled the beans —it would be “at Jack Nicholson’s house.” It was a not very subtle—and not very funny—reference to a 1977 incident that occurred at Nicholson’s home, where director Roman Polanski raped a 13-year-old girl. Polanski pleaded guilty but fled to Paris before he was sentenced. Remarking on all the talent assembled at the ceremony, Ted said to Wahlberg, “You know what’s interesting? All those actors I just named are part Jewish,” referring to Joaquin Phoenix (who has a Jewish mother), Daniel Day-Lewis (ditto) and Alan Arkin (both parents were Jewish). “What about you?” Ted asked Wahlberg. “You’ve got a ‘berg’ on the end of your name. Are you Jewish?” Wahlberg explained that he is Catholic. Ted responded: “Wrong answer. Try again. Do you want to work in this town or don’t you?” To gain favor with the Hollywood crowd, Ted claimed that he was Jewish, that he “was born Theodore Shapiro,” and that

“I would like to donate money to Israel and continue to work in Hollywood forever.” When Wahlberg called Ted an idiot, Ted responded, “We’ll see who’s an idiot when they give me my private plane at the next secret synagogue meeting.” Ted’s (or, in reality, MacFarlane’s) remarks about the “secret” Jewish cabal that controls Hollywood, discriminates against non-Jews and is tied to Israel were not clever and witty. They were anti-Semitic. I’m certain that many film industry folks sitting in the audience were uncomfortable with the barrage of offensive comments throughout the evening. I’m not a prude and I believe it’s OK to make fun of one’s foibles. But the comments by MacFarlane and Ted

comments did not simply poke fun at specific individuals; they targeted entire groups. Sunday night’s Oscars show crossed the invisible line between satire and bigotry. It was ugly and unfunny. As a progressive and a Jew, I found the comments outrageous, and I’m confident that many of the millions of Americans watching the show on TV also were offended by the bigoted stereotypes about women, gays, Latinas and Jews. Of course, there were no hooded sheets, burning crosses, N words, or “fag” jokes. But bigotry comes in various shades. Peter Dreier teaches politics and chairs the Urban & Environmental Policy department at Occidental College.

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Seth MacFarlane: Not an anti-Semite by Rob Eshman

LOS ANGELES (Jewish Journal)—No one sends out press releases to announce that something is not anti-Semitic. That’s why Monday morning after Oscar’s, the media was full of reports that host Seth MacFarlane’s performance was just shy of Mahmoud Ahmadinejad’s U.N. speech. The Anti-Defamation League was first out of the gate, calling MacFarlane “offensive and not remotely funny”—which in and of itself is funny, the idea that the ADL is not just the arbiter of anti-Semitism but of humor. Then came a press release from the Simon Wiesenthal Center, seeing the ADL’s umbrage and raising it to world historical levels. “It is unfortunate that at a time when anti-Semitism is so prevalent throughout the world,” said the center, “that Seth MacFarlane used the pulpit of the Oscars, before an audience of more than a billion people. to contribute to the myth that Jews own Hollywood.” I found these reactions more annoying than MacFarlane’s comments, which varied from the very funny to the remotely funny, but never came close to anti-Semitism. Seth MacFarlane was joking. He was poking fun. He was mocking the widespread understanding that Jews are disproportionately represented in the entertainment business. This fact comes as a shock to exactly no one, and the idea that joking about it “feeds” anti-Semitism misunderstands both the nature of humor and of anti-Semitism. One thing humor does well, even better than press releases, is diffuse prejudice. It does that through mockery, exaggeration and sometimes by just bringing prejudice to light. MacFarlane doesn’t really believe you

have to change your name or give to Israel to make it in Hollywood, he was riffing on the simplistic belief that that’s all it takes. Billy Crystal could make a dozen Jewish references at the Oscars and no one would do anything but kvell. Granted, MacFarlane’s humor is more in-your-face— but it goes nowhere that Crystal, or Adam Sandler in his Chanukah Song, or Lenny Bruce in his Jewish/gentile rift, or a hundred other comedians, haven’t gone before. So why the outrage? Maybe because against the backdrop of increasing antiSemitism in Europe and elsewhere, Jews are extra sensitive. Maybe because an older generation of Jews is unfamiliar with a newer brand of Family Guy/South Park humor. Or maybe the outrage arises because Jews are still uncomfortable with the notion of being powerful. Deal with it. Jews are disproportionately represented in Hollywood. But wait, there’s more: The Jewish state has 200 nuclear weapons and a hegemony of power in the Middle East. Jews are disproportionately represented in government, finance, law, publishing and medicine. Only Jews can read these factual statements and think, Oy! The ADL and the Simon Wiesenthal Center not only miss the point, they are missing the opportunity. MacFarlane’s jokes, like all good humor, can get people thinking, can open a conversation: Why are Jews so prevalent in Hollywood? How does their Jewish identity inform their creative choices? How would Hollywood look if it were composed, disproportionately, of WASPs or Thais, or anti-Semites? Hollywood is one of America’s greatest gifts to the world. There is nothing to hide and plenty to joke about. —Rob Eshman is publisher and editor in chief of the Jewish Journal. You can follow him on Twitter @foodaism.



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The changing face of Pro-Israel activism in America highlighted at AIPAC brunch by Robin Mancoll


ore than 200 people gathered on Sunday, Feb. 10 for brunch at Ohef Sholom Temple and for an inspiring America Israel Public Affairs Committee (AIPAC) event. Following a delicious brunch prepared by the Men’s Club of Ohef Sholom, who joined with the Sisterhood, Young Adult Community, Adult Education Committee and Membership Committee to offer the free and open to the community event, three speakers addressed the changing face of pro-Israel activism in the United States. They included an African American elected official, Ashley Bell from Hall County, Ga., a Baptist Pastor, Isaac Mooneyham from Danville, Va., and local student Staci Eichelbaum from James Madison University. The speakers explained how they came to be activists for the pro-Israel community, each with a different motivating story. County Commissioner Bell’s story was especially enlightening and affirming. During his visit to Israel with the African American Leaders Mission, they met with leaders of the PLO. In a candid conversation without AIPAC staff in the room, Bell asked one of the PLO leaders, “Do you think Israel has a right to exist?” When the PLO leader answered “No,” Bell realized that all other statements were suspect and there was no further reason to continue the conversation. Attendees heard that while the Jewish state is facing a rapidly deteriorating security situation on all of its borders, what makes this moment in time different is the grow-

ing support for Israel across the diverse American spectrum. Hard work from not just the Jewish community, but through the work of the African American and Christian friends of Israel is making a difference. Many of the most important decisions affecting Israel’s basic security are being made in Washington, not Jerusalem. The relationship, which will need to be stronger in the future, is strong now for several reasons: supporters of Israel as a community are willing to stand up and be counted; as a community, supporters are willing to engage elected officials in exactly the way the Constitution prescribes, and because of that, supporters of Israel as a community have a real voice in Washington. “What was unique about this event is that it illustrated how anyone, regardless of their religion, race or age, can be educated and inspired to advocate for Israel’s security and survival,” says Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg. “We can join AIPAC, gaining access to constant updates and action alerts; attend the Annual AIPAC Policy Conference in Washington D.C., and hear exceptional briefings by Israel, Mid-East and world wide experts; and we can lobby our local and congressional representatives making them aware of issues affecting Israel and why their support is important not only for the Jewish State, but also for a strong United States.” To learn more about AIPAC, visit them at or call Kate Samuels, AIPAC’s Southern States Area director at 770-541-7610. (photography by Steve Budman)

Ashley Bell, Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg, Staci Eichelbaum, Robin Mancoll and Pastor Isaac Mooneyham.

overheard “I felt this was one of the better AIPAC events we have done at Ohef Sholom. During this brunch, the focus was completely on Israel, specifically targeting the optimism from young people and their energy when discussing Israel. People left in a good mood.” —Ted Kaufman “The most jarring statement that I heard was from Commissioner Bell who said, “I live in a town with two mosques and no synagogues...with no local Jewish community, how would I ever know about the plight of Israel?” —Karen Lombart “I missed the last couple of AIPAC brunches, but I thought this one was with a great format and a terrific panel. I thought the different perspectives added strength to the AIPAC message. Rabbi Roz was an excellent moderator as well.” —Sharon Nusbaum “I appreciated Ashley Bell pointing out that most young African Americans are not aware of the role the Jewish community played in the civil rights movement. As he stated, it is our responsibility to ensure that the younger generation of African Americans are aware of our contributions, which included Jewish lives lost fighting for civil rights.” —Rachelle Luna “A powerful moment for me was when Josh Karsh, AIPAC’s Southeast Region Synagogue Initiative director informed the audience that Israel had moved three of its five Iron Dome missile systems to Northern Israel. That is alarming and concerning. Also Staci’s statement that to today’s generation, Israel has always existed. Our generation needs to acknowledge this fact and accept that we need to continue to educate. The two above statements combined with Commissioner Bell’s powerful words were the three highlights of this program for me.” —Barbara Dudley

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Pope Benedict XVI—A Jewish Retrospective

his has been an eventful week in the life of our country and in the world. There are so many topics I could address today. Of those, I’ve decided to talk about the Pope. Maybe that’s because Pope Benedict has decided to become the first Pope Emeritus in more than 500 years. I’m thinking of sending him a text “Hey Ben, welcome to the club!” You say they’re not going to call him an emeritus? I don’t know why not. It is Latin, isn’t it? That way I will have two things in common with the pope, we both wear a kippah and we’re both emeritus. You think they’ll throw him a big retirement gala? I bet they could raise a lot of money for the Church that way. I hope you’ll forgive me my flippant beginning to serious talk. The truth is that when this pope first took office, we Jews had a lot of apprehension about him. For one, he was raised in Germany during the Nazi years. Goodness knows, as a teenager he was a member of the Hitler Youth. Then as a cardinal, he was known as a conservative leader who identified with those in the Church who want to roll back the tides of change. Besides, he followed John Paul II. His predecessor was an extravert, a charismatic leader who knew how to find common ground with all people, Christians and nonChristians alike. John Paul reached out to Jews by becoming the first pope to visit and to speak in the Great Synagogue of Rome. He broke ground when he went on record saying that the Jews are not to be held accountable for the death of Jesus. He acknowledged that the perpetuation of anti-Semitism has been a black mark on the Church going back 2,000 years. As a young parish priest, when Polish Catholics adopted Jewish children who survived the Holocaust and converted them to Christianity, John Paul told them in no uncertain terms to let those children return to their Jewish heritage. For hundreds of years, Catholic leaders maintained it was a “mitzvah” of sorts to convert Jewish children to Christianity regardless of the circumstances. But John Paul II believed that both Christianity and Judaism are both equal authentic paths to the service of the one God. John Paul II was a revolutionary in Church doctrine; a revolution that was good for Jewish-Catholic relations. In history revolutions are often followed by

counter-revolutions. And we had every If you look hard enough, you can find reason to be concerned that the new, rather some tensions that cropped up with the cold and dispassionate pope wouldn’t be, Jewish community during this pope’s tenas we say, “good for the Jews.” ure. As a traditionalist, he re-introduced I’m here this morning to say the Latin mass in churches that wish proudly that we were wrong, that to use it. It turns out that in the I think our fears were unfounded. The Latin mass there is still a prayer work of Pope Benedict has been for conversion of the Jews, one we can say praised by both the Ashkenazi that has been taken out of that this pope and Sephardic Chief Rabbis of the English mass. Some Jews has been very Israel, men not usually know jumped on that as a step for interfaith outreach. He backward. But when it was supportive of has been spoken of positively brought to the Pope’s attengood and warm by Abe Foxman of the ADL tion, he personally wrote an relations with the alternative Latin prayer that and Rabbi David Rosen of the American Jewish Committee, softens the controversial secJewish people organizations that are known to tion. And before we get too today. call out anti-Semitism when they worked up about one prayer see it, as well as by Rabbi Marvin in the Latin mass, I should tell Hier of the Simon Wiesenthal Center. you that there is a line in the Alenu The broad consensus in the Jewish commu- prayer that is still used in some traditional nity is that as different as their personalities synagogues that ridicules and puts down and backgrounds were, Pope Benedict not those who practice Christianity and other only continued, he consolidated and built religions. We have had our share of intoleron the interfaith progress started by John ance too. Paul II. Also, this pope continued the drive to How so? For example, Benedict XVI make Pope Pius XII a saint, the same Pius was the first pope to invite Jewish leaders to who many Jews feel missed many so opporhis own installation. In fact, it was reported tunities to save Jews during the Holocaust. that Benedict greeted the Jewish leaders But the truth is that the effort to confer before he met with the leaders of the other sainthood on Pius XII was already started Christian denominations. He then went to by John Paul, and while Benedict continued Israel; in a visit to Yad Vashem, he accepted the initiative, he didn’t exactly go out of his full responsibility for Church actions and way to “fast track it” either. inaction in saving Jews from the Nazis. In terms of attitudes towards the politHe even used the Hebrew word “Shoah” ical policies of Israel today, the popes when he referred to the Holocaust. As are never as supportive of Israel as the a Bible scholar, he wrote a book about Protestant Evangelicals. But on the whole, Jesus of Nazareth. In it he reaffirmed that I think we can say that this pope has been neither the Jews today or the Jews back very supportive of good and warm relathen should in any way be blamed for the death of Jesus. The fact that these positions were taken by a liberal pope like John Paul JELF application for interest-free might be expected in this day and age. That they were reaffirmed by a known conservative Catholic goes a long way toward Applications for interest-free loans for postestablishing the acceptance of the Jews and secondary education (college, graduate Judaism as Church doctrine, not as a liberal school and vocational programs) are availdeviation. They say that only Nixon could able to Jewish students for the 2013-2014 have made the outreach to China happen. school year from the Jewish Educational In Israel it took the hard-line Menachem Loan Fund. The loan application will be Begin to be able to give the Sinai back to available until April 30 on JELF’s website Egypt. I would argue that it took the tra- at JELF loans are need-based ditionalist Benedict to institutionalize the and offer “last-dollar” financing, meaning acceptance of Judaism as an equal partner that JELF provides the final dollars that bridge the gap between a student’s total to Christianity.

tions with the Jewish people today. And I think his record teaches us something important—the pursuit of good relations with the Jews is no longer just the goal of this pope or that pope. It is now an integral part of Church doctrine. Sometimes I wonder how grateful we should be for the kind of understanding and respect that should come without asking. It shouldn’t be such a big deal. On the other hand, these last popes have been willing to negate 2,000 years of Church ideology; and it’s never easy to change long standing teachings and traditions. But they’ve done it. The Catholic Church today, often so conservative in other areas of life, be it abortion or contraception, has been willing to break from its past to promote interfaith understanding; and I do appreciate their willingness to do so. Is there still anti-Semitism among Catholics? Of course there is. No one says that anti-Semitism among Catholics is gone for good. A few years ago it flared up in this community when students at a local Catholic high school used some anti-Semitic slurs at a basketball game. But at the highest levels of the Catholic Church, there is good will now. Over the years, I have found that some Jews have harbored stereotypes about Catholics even more than they have other Christian denominations. That is another sermon in itself. And like all stereotypes, they are inaccurate and unhelpful. For now, let me end with this. If anything, in many ways, the Catholics have become our best friends of all the Christian groups. This pope has earned our respect. And I’d like to think that no matter who the next pope will be, he will continue the pursuit of good relations with us.

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ongregation Beth El again opened its doors to the homeless of the community for a week in January. This marks the 19th year that Beth El has joined with other churches and synagogues in housing and feeding the homeless throughout the winter months as part of the efforts of N.E.S.T. (Norfolk Emergency Shelter Team). The congregation was host to approximately 60 people each night. The Torah teaches the importance of welcoming guests through the example of Abraham, and that is how the guests of N.E.S.T. are treated. Guests are greeted at the door, ushered into the dining room and given a tasty, hot dinner. Then they are given accommodations for sleeping. Participating in N.E.S.T. has always been a very important mitzvah for Beth El members. More than 130 volunteers gave their

time to help prepare the meals, make the lunches, set the tables, serve the meals, and welcome guests. Volunteers gain from the experience, as well, as Sharon Blumenthal says, “Participating in NEST was a humbling experience that reminded me of how fortunate I am to live in a safe place and to always have enough to eat.” Congregants also donated toothbrushes, toothpaste, socks, soap, bottled water and other items for the toiletry bags that are given to the guests. Religious School students had an opportunity to participate in this important mitzvah, too by helping prepare some of the meals and assemble the toiletry bags. “I love to cook and it was fun doing something I like and helping others,” Jamie Friedman, a Religious School student says. “It was really cool that we were cooking and having fun but at the same time providing meals for the less fortunate,” says Hallie Friedman, also a student.

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embers and guests of Congregation Beth El’s Sisterhood gathered to celebrate the annual Paid-Up Membership dinner, chaired by DeAnne Lindsey on Thursday, Jan. 31. Seventy people attended the successful event and covered a range of ages from 18 to 96. The dinner was cooked by Sisterhood volunteers, led by Nancy Kantor, in the newly renovated Barr Hall kitchen. The renovation and refurbishment of

Barr kitchen, led by Carol Ruettgers, took place this past summer. It was funded from proceeds from the Sisterhood’s catering service and the annual garage sale. The renovation gives the synagogue even more opportunities to host events and the Paid-Up membership event gave Sisterhood members an opportunity to sample the results of this project. Through the Kitchen Shower, members donated funds to help pay for the refurbishment, as well as small appliances, and other needed kitchen-wares. The Paid-Up Membership event also

showcased the creative talents of some Sisterhood members: Linda Marcus, Edie Schlain, Ethel Rae Greenspan, Yeda Strasser, Freida Goldstein, Barbara Rossen, and Jeannie Goodman. Attendees perused a variety of items from these talented women including jewelry, porcelain, aprons and pens, handmade scarves and hats, paintings, and kippot. Before and after the dinner, attendees were entertained by Leon Pukshansky, a noted pianist and Beth El member. “It was wonderful to see so many ladies come together in support of Sisterhood. We

had so many familiar faces reconnect with each other. This was a great night of song, food, and smiles,” says Barbara Rossen. During the event, Sisterhood members were also informed and updated about key initiatives of Sisterhood. Ina Liederman shared the club’s achievements with the Torah Fund. DeAnne Lindsey announced the creation of the Life Cycle Club, which offers the opportunity for Beth El members to acknowledge or celebrate a life cycle moment through the sponsorship of a Shabbat Kiddush Luncheon. | March 4, 2013 | Jewish News | 11

Federation groups mingle and learn about Israeli and Virginia businesses article and photos by Laine Mednick Rutherford


he growing collaboration between an Israeli entrepreneur, an American businessman and a Virginia agency seemed like a great topic for several of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s affinity groups to explore. The Business & Legal Society of the UJFT could benefit from hearing how the Virginia Israel Advisory Board has been instrumental in bringing partnerships such as this one, known as ClearFarma USA, to establish their businesses in Virginia. The Maimonides Society of the UJFT could learn about the new company’s concepts of functional foods, or nutraceuticals, which are proven to be medically beneficial through extensive clinical trials, are administered by a physician, and can perhaps be grown in Virginia. As it turned out, on Sunday, Feb. 10, the two groups joined together at Gary and

also to business,” said Dr. Michael Gross, Maimonides Society cochair. “We are all glad to be here to learn more.” The group of about 50 Jewish Tidewater physicians, dentists, researchers, attorneys, business people and entrepreneurs first heard from Robbins. He gave background on the evolution of ClearFarma Michael Spinelli explains the beneficial properties of chickpeas. USA—how he linked Spinelli, most recently the Jessica Kell’s home in Chesapeake to hear former CTO of Sabra Dipping Company— from Ralph Robbins, executive director of based in Chesterfield County, Va.—with VIAB and Michael Spinelli, chief technolo- Dr. Ascher Shmulewitz, an Israeli cardiology officer of ClearFarma USA. The evening’s gist, inventor and investor. program was called Israel and Virginia: “Can you imagine being in the room Where Food and Health Intersect. when Google was created?” Robbins “We found that many of the issues asked. “What you’re hearing about tonight involved in the discussion of VIAB and is something like that—I think you have ClearFarma pertain to medicine and an incredible opportunity to see this Israeli

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Virginia company from its beginning, and in another year you’ll say, I was there when it was first getting off the ground.” After Robbins’ introduction, Spinelli described how ClearFarma has set up a Research and Development hub in Virginia to explore ways to create memorable change within the food supply—with the chickpea. “The chickpea, we think, holds great promise as a medical food. All claims will be measurable, with scientific backing, or at least a clinical study or two,” said Spinelli. “If we can create a non-GMO, nonallergenic protein and have a scientific backing to validate our position, this is very promising.” Robbins explained that VIAB is working with ClearFarma and others to develop a chickpea that will grow in the state’s climate, eventually giving Virginia farmers new uses for fallow fields that once grew tobacco. Not only could those crops be used for companies like ClearFarma that could extract beneficial parts of the plant for food additives, but they could also be used to supply the Sabra plant in Chesterfield County with locally grown chickpeas for hummus, according to Robbins. After Spinelli concluded his briefing, he invited guests to join him in the Kells’ kitchen for samples of smoothies, shakes and desserts made with the notyet-on-the-market chickpea additive. The consensus from those sampling? Delicious. Visit and to find out more about membership in these societies. For more photos from this event, Like the JewishNewsVA on Facebook.

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or more than 15 years, the Holocaust Commission of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater has offered area schools a professional, multimedia show that culturally enriches, Earl DeMott, Tallwood High School English teacher, Valencyna Gooden, historically educates and actress Elizabeth Rainer, John Houchins, Bailee Kelley, Aubrey Medina. socially motivates students about the Holocaust and all prejudice. personally, and then paused before respondSome schools regularly book Through ing to a question about any misconceptions the Eyes of a Friend, an original production Americans may have about the Holocaust. from Seattle, Wash.-based Living Voices. “One huge misconception,” Rainer said, Others book intermittently, and some don’t after repeating the question so others could schedule at all. hear, “is that the Holocaust never existed.” A surprising and unexpected developHer answer was followed by a directive ment occurred while scheduling the 2013 from English teacher Earl DeMott to the performances; so many schools booked students that they carried the responsibilperformances that not all who expressed ity of continuing to tell the truth about interest could be accommodated. the Holocaust. Students Bailee Kelley and Feb. 4–15, almost 5,100 students saw Aubrey Medina, both 9th graders took Through the Eyes of a Friend. In 22 different DeMott’s message and the show seriously. public and private schools, from Gloucester “I got really emotional watching this—I to Virginia Beach and cities in between, the was tearing up,” says Bailee. “Getting the show was presented 25 times (some schools story from a different perspective, a friend’s had more than one showing). point of view, isn’t normally done, but it “The support and interest we received was so effective.” this year from local schools for Through “This performance was like watching the Eyes of a Friend is encouraging, and a movie and a play at the same time,” important,” says Elena Barr Baum, Holocaust adds Aubrey. “I learned things I didn’t know Commission director. “Educating students before—you never hear about what it was like about the Holocaust isn’t merely a history les- hiding all the time, and you hear about the son. It teaches empathy and understanding, Star of David, but I didn’t know other people ethics and morality, dignity and humanity. had to wear stars, too. More than anything, Our hope is these students grow up and take hearing about the concentration camps was to heart the lessons of the Holocaust—the the thing I’ll remember most about this perdangers of discrimination, peer pressure, formance. It was really a powerful message.” unthinking obedience to authority, and To hear Earl DeMott’s message to his stuindifference—and use them as they make dents, and to see more photos of the event, visit moral decisions in their own lives.” To find out more about A standing-room-only audience of 180 the mission and programs of the Holocaust students filled the auditorium at Tallwood Commission of the UJFT, visit www.holocaustHigh School on Feb. 14. Elizabeth Rainer filled the role of educator before and after the lights were dimmed, and on a darkened stage acted the part of Sarah, the fictional best friend of Holocaust diarist Anne Frank. Rainer’s scripted dialogue supplemented archival footage, music, and photographs that described the teens’ life during the Holocaust. In a question and answer period that followed her performance, Rainer confidently replied to inquiries about other Holocaust Actress Elizabeth Rainer shows a poster displaying the diarists, why Jews didn’t lie about their many different types of badges religious, ethnic and religion, shared how the job affected her minority groups had to wear during the Holocaust.

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fter years of repression eroded all Though public transportation exists, signs of Jewish life, one organiza- journeys are long and not always safe, tion stepped in after the collapse especially for the youngest students. Three of the Soviet Union in 1991 and bus routes are required to get all of the recreated a dynamic educational network students to school, and the children ride an that spans nine countries, includes 56 proj- average of 3.5 hours roundtrip. The school ects in 38 locations and serves more than does not own buses, so these transportation 25,000 people: World ORT. The United costs must be paid to a rental company. The Jewish Federation of Tidewater partners expense of the buses is outside of most parwith World ORT, the world’s largest Jewish ents’ means—even when they pool together. education and vocational training nonThanks to financial support from outgovernmental organization. side donors—including Tidewater donors ORT’s network of 17 inclusive Jewish to the UJFT annual campaign and those of day schools provides groundbreaking tech- other Jewish Federations—ORT is able to nology education and Jewish studies, in help these families continue to have access cooperation with local governments and to secular and Jewish education. Israel’s Ministry of Education. ORT has established Technology Centers in more than 20 vocational training schools and colleges in Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Moldova, Kyrgyzstan, Latvia, Lithuania and Estonia. World ORT’s programs in the former Soviet Union (FSU) aim to strengthen Jewish communities across the region through excellence in education. By creating successful Arina Kolosovskaya, Anna Korsunskaya, David Dickenshtein and attractive Jewish schools and Maria Poltavskaya. that deliver high quality education, ORT Ninth-grader, David Dickenshtein says, brings Jewish children together in an envi- “It’s not so easy to get to school for me. ronment where they can also learn about I live outside of the city, in the village of their common heritage and history. This Vysokogorsk. But to study in this good has become the model for not only revital- school and to have a better future I get up at izing fragmented communities, but also 6 o’clock in the morning to get to Zaporojie for providing this new generation with suburb, where I am picked up by school a real competitive advantage when seek- bus. If there were not such a school bus I ing higher education or opportunities for would not get to school and I, and 30 other employment. students who take the bus with me, would World ORT uses its science and technol- never be able to study at ORT Aleph.” ogy expertise to set up centers of excellence ORT’s education initiatives like the one in schools throughout the region that in Zaporojie have created a generation of attract Jewish children. Once there, they youngsters with the knowledge to go on benefit from the high quality science and to higher education and well-paid jobs, technology syllabus, as well as from the giving them the tools to create active, selfJewish education syllabus, run by the Israeli sufficient Jewish communities. Ministry for Education. The programs of World ORT, like the This model sometimes faces unexpected schools in the former Soviet Union, are funded obstacles. Providing the high-quality edu- in part by the generosity of the Tidewater cation is not enough if the students can’t Jewish community through gifts to the UJFT’s get to school. In Zaporojie, Ukraine, the annual campaign. Every dollar raised makes ORT Aleph Jewish Gymnasium has more a significant difference to real people like than 300 students, all of them Jewish. The ninth-grader David Dickenshtein—at home, majority of these children live a consider- in Israel, and in 70 countries around the world. able distance away from this, the only To make a gift, visit Jewish school in the city.

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Ron Wolfson motivates community with interactive presentations by Laine M. Rutherford


sational approach that invited audience commentary, by leading a participatory rendition and discussion of the song Mah Tovu, through movement during a breakaway parashat (Torah) study session, and in the sharing of personal, often funny, stories.

ntering the multi-purpose room at the Sandler Family Campus on the evening of Feb. 7, there was little indication that a lesson was being taught by the smiling man at the door who was extending his hand and offering a personal, “Welcome. It’s so good to see you.” The friendly greeter was Ron Wolfson, an expert on synagogue and Jewish community transformation, a professor at the Interspersing humorous stories and personal experiences, American Jewish University, and the author Ron Wolfson engages the audience. of many books, including The Spirituality of Welcoming. By taking a few seconds to meet the guests who had come to hear him speak at the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s presentation of Building Good Tents: Envisioning the Synagogues and Communities of the Future, Wolfson was actively Harry Fried of Temple Emanuel laughs demonstrating a key concept during a role play demonstration. he would emphasize repeatedly over the next hour. Wolfson had the audience participate in chavruta, or paired learning, For him, the small effort to discuss a torah portion detailing the welcoming of strangers. of a meaningful “hello” or a “Shabbat Shalom” is critical to the survival of a strong Jewish community. “It’s all about relationships,” Wolfson says. “And it starts with giving a warm welcome that’s genuine. It can’t be fake. Our synagogues and communities Miriam Brunn Ruberg, Ron Wolfson. of the future will thrive if Singing, torah study and movement were essential parts of Wolfson’s presentation. we can create communities of relationships…and instill a sense of “He’s so engaging that you can’t help Congregation Beth El, Ohef Sholom Temple belonging, a sense of community, a sense of but sit at the edge of your seat to hear and the Goldring/Woldenberg Institute of learning, a sense of blessing. what he has to say,” says Gary Tabakin, Southern Jewish Life. “We need to move from transactional a vice-president of Temple Emanuel who The following Friday night and Saturday Judaism to relational Judaism—and answer was instrumental in bringing Wolfson to morning, Wolfson was the featured guest at the questions of how to become more wel- Tidewater. “Some of what he talks about Temple Emanuel’s annual Rabbi Pincus coming to people who are not yet involved are just common sense things that either Forum in Virginia Beach. On Saturday and how to deepen the engagement of the we don’t realize are important or we don’t night, he spoke at Congregation Beth El people we already have. It’s a challenge, but know how to go about changing, and now in Norfolk as part of the Milton Kramer it can be done.” we have a place to start. It was great to Scholar-in-Residence. And on Sunday, Wolfson has built a strong reputation see representatives from every synagogue as part of the Synagogue-Federation as a dynamic speaker, effective teacher here, and it supports the idea of the greater Partnership, he spoke privately to the leadand insightful commentator, and his books Jewish community working together that ers of area synagogues at Ohef Sholom are used as guides by many in leadership Ron emphasizes.” Temple in Norfolk. positions. The presentation began a weekend of Visit to see a His legion of admirers grew that night. community Wolfson appearances, funded video of Ron Wolfson’s UJFT presentation. Go Wolfson held the audience’s attention and supported by the UJFT, the Synagogue- to to see more photos and fortified his message via a constantly Federation Partnership of the Tidewater from the event. changing means of delivery: with a conver- Jewish Community, Temple Emanuel, 16 | Jewish News | March 4, 2013 |

Beginnings Infant Care at Simon Family JCC eases one mother’s transition back to work


organ Morrison is a first-year academic advisor for students in the College of Arts & Letters at Old Dominion University. She gave birth to her first child, daughter Chloe, in April 2012. She remembers how tough it was when deciding what to do for childcare. “I was as nervous as one can get about going back to work,” says Morrison. “It was to the point of me just about quitting a job that I really like because I was in an absolute panic about leaving my baby for a full day at a time.” Her concerns about returning to work were alleviated when she first visited Beginnings Infant and Toddler Care Center at the Simon Family JCC. Morrison checked out Beginnings after a friend from her birthing class told her about it. “Immediately, I had a great vibe from the infant room lead teacher, Susan Rodgers. She was warm and nurturing, and the place was so homey.” When Rodgers explained how babies spend their days, complete with tummy time activities and music, Morrison was encouraged, and decided to give the center a try. The first day she left Chloe at Beginnings, she shed a few tears and went to work. Within hours, she was greeted by pictures and updates texted to her cell phone. “I saw with my own eyes how happy Chloe was, smiling and playing, getting hugs and looking so comfortable.” Morrison is so happy with the program that she turned down an opening for a spot in a daycare center closer to work and home when it became available. “Chloe has thrived at Beginnings, so why would I move her?” she says. “She just started walking

this week at 10 months! She is hitting all the milestones before schedule, and I attribute so much of that to being around other babies and getting all the attention she does from the wonderful staff at Beginnings.” Beginnings staff work hard to ensure that all children in their care receive that special attention that Morrison has found so helpful for Chloe. Every week, they expose the children to special, age-appropriate curriculum, including daily tummy time for their littlest charges, music with guitarplaying “Ms. Cindy,” baby sign-language and a focus on individual letters and colors. Beginnings has a few openings, but slots are filling fast. For more information about the center or to schedule a tour, visit Beginningsvb. org or contact Becky Feld, Beginnings director, at 321-2332.

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Throwing the sponge at Haman, finding pennies in flour and pinning the pimple on Vashti: what could this be? Nothing other than BINA High School’s annual Purim Carnival. Held at the Sandler Family Campus on Sunday, Feb. 3, the facility was packed with families and children of all ages. In addition to the much loved booths that have become a staple of fun, this year saw the addition of a magic show that drew a huge crowd and kept the children (and parents) at the edge of their seats. With 13 booths run entirely by the girls of BINA High School, children spent the afternoon making beautiful projects at

the Arts n’ Crafts table, discerning whether they were tasting Coke or Pepsi, or engaging in the bean race and basketball toss activities. Children also had an opportunity to get their faces painted by Carole Allan, and there were some amazing faces afterwards with huge grins to greet their parents. There was also the much sought after Balloon Guy, who never disappoints, and the hair stylists from AOC Salon, who created fabulous hair-dos for the girls. Of course a carnival is never complete without nosh, and everyone enjoyed the hot dogs, chicken nuggets, turkey sandwiches and freshly made popcorn that popped throughout the day. BINA is a beneficiary of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater.


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Jewish Family Service celebrates Social Work Month


arch is Social Work Month, a time sess many strengths that keep them fighting when Jewish Family Service of for a better future despite personal and sysTidewater recognizes and salutes temic barriers to success. Professional social its social workers and case managers. The workers help combine these client strengths profession of hope—fueled by resilience with effective personal and public advocacy. and advocacy, social workers daily help milIt is with these concepts in mind that lions of struggling people dream differently. NASW chose the theme for Social Work Betty Ann Levin, JFS executive director, Month 2013 as “Weaving Threads of says, “Our highly trained social workers Resilience and Advocacy: The Power of and case managers know how daunting Social Work.” and immobilizing life’s tragedies and obstacles can be. But they also witness the sheer determination of countless individuals and families to achieve different lives.” Sometimes, all it takes to help people get on the right path is guidance toward what is possible. Other times, social workers are an immediate lifeline in crisis— providing access to resources and new JFS social workers and case managers from the Personal Affairs Management (PAM), Clinical and Older Adult Services (OAS) departments: Front row: Carolyn Hofler, life options. Rachael Trussell, Emily Bettendorf, Michelle Walter, LCSW, and Sharon Rosenbaum. Those served by Back row: Hollie McLean, LaTanya Washington, Tim Craft, Abby Keen, and Cheryl Walton. social workers pos-

Seniors’ happenings at JCC


arbara Pributsky was drawn to the Simon Family JCC to take Silver Sneakers exercise classes several days a week last year. Now, between water aerobics, senior yoga, a quick lunch, her regular Mah Jongg game and a monthly book club, she spends most of her free time at the JCC. “If you wanted to, you could spend all day at the JCC as a senior,” says Bernice Greenberg, who with her husband, Norman, are at the JCC every weekday except Tuesday. On Thursdays, Greenberg attends a current events group moderated by Norman Greenberg at 10:30 am, followed by lunch and a weekly game of Rummikub at 1pm. As the club’s vice president, Bernice Greenberg spends any “free time” at the JCC planning trips and programs for its 60+ membership. Games for JCC’s seniors also include Mah

Mah Jongg at the Simon Family JCC.

Jongg, which meets Mondays at 1:30 pm, Bunco, which meets monthly on Mondays at 1 pm, and Rummikub, which meets Thursdays at 1 pm. A bridge group to meet several times a month is being considered. Programs are open to all seniors. Contact Sherry Lieberman Senior Adult program coordinator at 321-2309 or slieberman@ to sign up or learn more about Senior Adult programing at the Simon Family JCC.

Neil Lazarus champions concept of diplomacy in Israel Today Forum article and photos by Laine Mednick Rutherford


eil Lazarus barely uttered the word “diplomacy” during his whirlwind two-day visit to Tidewater on Feb. 13 and 14. Yet the prolific speaker demonstrated diplomacy in a variety of ways, through his informational discussions at area schools and a church, in his meetings with different groups at the Simon Family JCC and the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, and in his presentation to the general community at the Sandler Family Campus. As the second featured presenter in the popular Israel Today Forum, sponsored by the Community Relations Council of the UJFT and a variety of community partners, Lazarus was tasked with engaging his audiences on the topic of diplomacy. The subject, never far from his mind, or his computer, or smart phone, or notepad, was addressed in a variety of ways during Lazarus’ appearances. Kicking off his 2013 Tidewater visit, Lazarus spoke to about 30 students and professors at Old Dominion University. Hosted by the Institute for Jewish Studies and Interfaith Understanding, he talked about the challenges of reporting from the front line. At Tallwood High School, speaking to 120 students in the school’s Global Studies and World Languages Academy, Lazarus spoke about media manipulation and bias against Israel. He spoke about recent elections and Israeli politics with 50 members and guests of the Women’s Cabinet of the UJFT. Over a kosher pizza dinner, Lazarus met with teens from Ohef Sholom Temple’s youth group and BBYO, and discussed the problems Israelis face and the efforts toward peace many of them are making. Immediately after the dinner, Lazarus delved further into those subjects with the Israel Today Forum audience, and emphasized the need for attendees to learn and implement the effective advocacy tips he shared with them. “You have to empower people,” says Lazarus. “And you must speak up for Israel and call yourself a Jew—not Jewish. There should be no “ish” at the end of that word. You are a Jew. Period.” This is the second trip Lazarus has made to Tidewater. As part of last year’s Israel Today Forum, Lazarus’ messages of

becoming digital diplomats and advocates for Israel resonated with the CRC and its partners strongly enough to schedule him to return. “He can get his message across to young people—and not so young people—in a way that makes a lasting impression,” says Meredith Arndt, Greg Falls, Tallwood High Robin Mancoll, director of the CRC. “This international business year, he spoke to more than 450 people and global connections in eight different venues. Add that to the teacher, Rebecca Gurley, Academy director, Bella numbers he reached last year—and we’re Blackney, Brienne Kordis, building a community of more than a thouNeil Lazarus, Elizabeth sand motivated and educated advocates for Blackney, and Robin Mancoll, CRC director. Israel and Jews everywhere.” Lazarus is the director of an Israel advocacy website, AwesomeSeminars. com, which partners with the Israeli Foreign Ministry and the Jewish Agency for Israel to increase the ability of students to engage in hasbara—public relations efforts to disseminate information about Israel. Lazarus media, anecdotes and humor, Neil Lazarus had the audience’s attention says that “hasbara is Combining during his Israel Today presentation. not just the role of

Neil Lazarus engages high school and college students in discussion during a CRC sponsored dinner at the Sandler Family campus.

Rabbi Aron Margolin, Chabad of Tidewater director, Neil Lazarus, Rabbi Levi Brashevitsky, Chabad assistant director.

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government spokespeople. It’s the role of the Jewish people.” To learn more about the CRC, its upcoming events including the third and final Israel Today presentation, visit Like the CRC UJFT or Jewish News on Facebook to see these photos and more. Want more Neil? Download his free smartphone app, Neil Lazarus.

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n a night when hotel stays, flat screen TVs, restaurant coupons and a $500 final game prize are always a big lure, it was a 4.5-foot tall, pot-bellied teddy bear that stole the show at Congregation Beth El Men’s Club’s annual family bingo night on Saturday, Feb. 2. It was appropriate, since the stuffed bear—donated by Virginia Furniture— was dubbed Benji in honor of Ben Gordon, in whose memory the 14th annual event is now named. Gordon, a schmoozer from way back, was one of the board’s hardest workers for bingo, a fundraiser that depends on businesses to donate gift certificates and merchandise. And Gordon was a charmer, particularly in Ghent where he wooed shop owners with his gift of gab and quick wit. Even in failing health, he came through each year with multiple bingo prizes. In early October the men’s club board voted unanimously to name the annual family night in his honor. After that Sunday meeting, several board members

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Benji the Bear and Mark Kozak.

visited Gordon at his home to present him with the idea. He was touched and graciously accepted. Later that month—Oct. 27—he passed away at age 76. More than 35 individuals, families and businesses helped sponsor this year’s family bingo night, including the Gordon family, who also acquired his usual list of donated prizes. Ben’s wife, Brenda Gordon, along with many of his children and grandchildren, attended as some 350 bingo players packed the synagogue’s Myers’ Hall. For $15, participants were treated to hotdogs and fixins’, popcorn and brownies, bingo cards and daubers, and more than 100 game prizes and raffles. One lucky couple, Billi and John Parrus, went home with the blackout game’s $500 in cash. The Ben Gordon Family Bingo Night, co-chaired this year by Mark Kozak and Norman Soroko, is the only annual fundraiser for the Men’s Club, which designates all proceeds to the needs of the Beth El Sunday school and Jewish camp scholarships. With the help of many generous donors and sponsors, this year’s event was a record-breaker.

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While in the desert, they encountered bandits who took most of their valuables and mementos of home. The leader of the bandits could have sold the group out to the government, but decided not to. Not long after that, the travelers crossed the Sudanese border and resided in a refugee camp for three months. It took three weeks to get from Ethiopia to Sudan. They slept in tents on wooden boards. She remembers getting stung by a scorpion hiding in her clothes and having her face swell up before her uncle found her an antidote. Still, they could not openly practice Judaism, although Jackson's mother prayed often. After three months, the group traveled to Khartoum, where they waited even longer until the Israel Defense Forces arrived. Jackson remembers seeing the airplane and thinking, “Wow, that's a big bird.” They and other Jewish refugees were hurried into the airplane and flown to Israel. As soon as the plane got up in the air, all the refugees started praising God and rejoicing. In Israel, Jackson recalls the food the refugees were provided with was very different from what they were accustomed. After her family settled in, Jackson worked hard to learn English and support her family. In 1999, she met a soldier in Haifa who would later become her husband. She moved to the U.S. after getting married, and now has two children at Hebrew Academy and Strelitz Early Childhood Center. Jackson’s story is inspiring because it is indeed a “modern-day Exodus,” a group of refugees crossing the desert, flocking to Israel for safety, going to the Land of Milk and Honey for freedom.

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what’s happening Jersey Boys rings with themes familiar to Jewish audiences March 5-16 by Laine Mednick Rutherford


hen Rick Elice and Marshall Brickman started writing the book for the award-winning Broadway musical Jersey Boys, they didn’t think they had much in common with pop sensations and real-life, New Jersey natives Frankie Valli Sherry and the Four Seasons. “Marshall and I are both Jews—overanalyzed, overeducated, upper West Side, New York Jews—and as much as I hate to say it, at first we had a certain opinion about the people we were writing about,” says Elice. “We had snobby views, and thought people in New Jersey dressed oddly and that Jersey smelled funny. Over half of my relatives lived in New Jersey, but I was discouraged from ‘looking left.’ “As it turned out, Marshall and I were completely wrong,” Elice says. During pre-writing interviews and research about the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame group, Ellis and Brickman discovered the four boys who became the Four Seasons were from the wrong side of the tracks. They had mob connections. They had prison records. They came from blue collar working backgrounds, were high school dropouts, first generation Americans, and Roman Catholics. As disparate as their lives seemed at first with Frankie Valli, Bob Gaudio, Tommy DeVito and Nick Massi, Brickman and Ellis soon found striking similarities in themes that mirrored their own experiences as Jews. “Were they marginalized? Absolutely. Were they disenfranchised? Absolutely,” says Elice. “As a Jew, I have also felt marginalized. I’ve the coldness of a handshake and—even in New York, the most liberal city in the world—I’ve been barred from entering certain places,” he says. “So while I didn’t join the mob or go to prison, and my life was nothing like theirs, I’ve lived my own version of this story.” Playing at the August Wilson Theatre on Broadway since its opening in 2005, the production that is coming to Chrysler Hall is part of the second national tour of Jersey

Rick Elice and Marshall Brickman.

Boys. Songs featured in the show include Sherry, Big Girls Don’t Cry, Can’t Take My Eyes Off You, and My Eyes Adored You, among many others. More than 16 million people have seen the musical, and no matter where it plays, Elice says audiences overwhelmingly respond positively to the music and the themes explored in the show. “At some point of our lives, we’ve all been part of a group—whether that’s a bowling league or a synagogue congregation—that was like family to us (and probably sometimes a very dysfunctional family). Jersey Boys tells the story that even nice Jewish boys like us could understand— the feeling of wanting to belong, to achieve, to be respected. Of wanting to find ‘home.’ “Whether on Broadway or in Norfolk, or Singapore, or south of the Mason Dixon line, or Seattle, audiences come and they connect with this story,” Elice says. “Because while our differences are cosmetic, our similarities are profound.” For a sneak peek of Jersey Boys, visit At Chrysler Hall. Tickets begin at $33 and are available at, 1-800-745-3000, all Ticketmaster Outlets or at the Scope Arena Box Office.

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he Virginia Center for Inclusive Communities has selected two members of the local Jewish community to be among those receiving its prestigious Humanitarian Awards this year. Robert “Bob” Nusbaum and Marian Bear Ticatch will be honored at the annual Humanitarian Awards Dinner at the Norfolk Waterside Marriott. The Tide­ water chapter of VCIC will recognize Nusbaum Marian Bear Ticatch and Ticatch for their longstanding commitment to promoting respect and understanding among people of all racial, ethnic and religious backgrounds. Bob Nusbaum is an attorney and partner in the Business Section at Williams Mullen. Nusbaum has received numerous accolades for his skill and work ethic, including “Super Lawyer,” listings in seven categories in The Best Lawyers in America, and was recently named Best Lawyers’ 2013 Norfolk Eminent Domain and Condemnation Law “Lawyer of the Year.” A permanent member of the Judicial Conference of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit Nusbaum has held a variety of leadership positions with the Virginia State Bar and the Virginia Bar Association. Nusbaum’s civic activities include eight years on the board of directors and executive committee of Norfolk International Terminals; 11 years as a trustee of Virginia Wesleyan College; years of service on various boards of Sentara Health Systems and its predecessors; five years on the board of the Virginia State Library, now called the Library of Virginia, including one year as chairman; and as an officer and director of the Tidewater American Red Cross, the Norfolk Forum, and Virginia Symphony; and serving as president of the board of Ohef Sholom Temple, and more recently, the Foundation for the Howard and Georgeanna Jones Institute for Reproductive Medicine and the Diabetes Instituts Foundation. Marian Ticatch has almost 40 years of experience in the insurance and invest-

ment business and is president of Ticatch Financial Management. She was the first woman to serve as president of the Norfolk Life Underwriters Association. This was followed by serving as president of the Estate Planning Council. Along the way, Ticatch served on many boards, including Dress for Success, the YMCA, WHRO Planned Giving, and Beth El Temple. As a board member Robert “Bob” Nusbaum of the Tidewater Jewish Foun­ dation, Ticatch assisted in forming the Life Insurance Committee, which expanded into the Professional Advisory Council. She was a founding trustee of the United Way Foundation and the first chairman of their Professional Advisory Committee. For the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, Ticatch served on the Women’s Cabinet and on the Community Relations Council. Ticatch was president of Lee’s Friends, and was twice president of Hadassah, the Zionist Organization of America. She was president of both Beth Sholom Assisted Living and the entire Beth Sholom Village, a four year commitment. Her many honors include the YWCA Women in Transition Award, Entrepreneurial Woman of the Year Finalist for the National Association of Women Business Owners, Inside Business—Women in Business Achievement Award and, most recently, the Famous Former Girl Scout Award. The Virginia Center for Inclusive Communities was originally founded as the Virginia Region of the National Conference of Christians and Jews, and expanded its mission and vision in 2005. This year marks the 49th annual Humanitarian Awards dinner, which, in addition to honoring outstanding community members, acts as a platform and showcase for the VCIC’s mission and programs. Other Tidewater Humanitarian Award recipients this year are Carlos Clanton, Harold Cobb, Jr. and Barbara Hamm Lee. To attend the dinner or purchase a table for a business or organization, visit www., or call 804-515-7950.

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enjamin Netanyahu and many others have noted that most of the Arab world “does not hate the United States because of Israel, but rather hates Israel because of the United States.” Indeed, on the part of those who object to the mere existence of a Jewish state, there is a world outlook rooted in unresolved anger and resentment that sees Israel as representative of an “intrusion” of former Western colonial powers into the “heart” of the “indigenous Arab world,” rather than the Jewish nation having a 3,500-year-old solid history and connection to the land of Israel through borders, language, and culture. To the extent that the media does not clearly differentiate and clarify that underlying bias, true insight as to the underlying basic position of Israel’s enemies does not come to light. Thus, all discussions of territorial return, peace negotiations, and certainly all issues relating to Arab selfgovernance in the territories of Judah and Samaria become obfuscated by the underlying refusal on the part of the Palestinian representatives to clearly and unequivocally state their agreement and acknowledgment of the fundamental right of Israel to exist

as a free and independent Jewish nation—a nation which shares all of the key essential values most treasure in a free and democratic world. This program offers an opportunity to explore and discuss two short films of interest with respect to these important issues. The first, titled, Shared Values, is an extremely moving, informative, and passionate presentation citing leading legal scholars and diplomats demonstrating the fundamental convergence of shared values between Israel and the West. The second film, Israel and the Media is a brilliant and provocative expose of the extent to which media influences public opinion, and in particular discusses the disproportionate media coverage with respect to Israel, existent biases in coverage, and explores the root cause of this media imbalance. Be sure to come and participate in this very enlightening and stimulating event provided through the auspices of the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and local synagogues and temples. To RSVP or to learn about other CRC events and issues relevant to the Tidewater Jewish community and beyond, visit

Lawyers without Rights: Jewish Lawyers in Germany Under the Third Reich


Thursday, April 11, 5:30–8 pm

n exhibit and panel discussion at Old Dominion University will explore what happens when the rule of law is obliterated. The exhibit, Lawyers without Rights, was created by the German Federal Bar and has been shown in more than 80 cities worldwide. It depicts how Jewish lawyers and jurists were barred from German courts beginning in 1933, and how individual rights and the Rule of Law were obliterated during the Nazi era. The program begins at 6:30 pm with opening remarks by The Honorable G. William Whitehurst, Ph.D. former U.S.

Congressman and professor of History and Political Science at Old Dominion University. A panel discussion featuring The Honorable U.S. District Judge Mark S. Davis United States District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia, Norfolk Division Professor Frederick Lubich, Ph.D. professor of German, Old Dominion University with moderator Susan R. Blackman, Esq., Willcox & Savage, P.C. follows. This event is free and open to the public. R.S.V.P. by April 8 to Farideh Goldin: | March 4, 2013 | Jewish News | 23

what’s happening Local conference for people with disabilities and their families

A Spring Break camp Monday, April 1–Friday, April 5

Thursday, March 14, 7–9pm, and Friday, March 15, 8am–1pm



he Kids Connection at the Simon Family JCC, the Before and After School program, is offering a Spring Break Camp, featuring fun indoor and outdoor activities, art, free swim, sports, group games and much more. Full day camp is 6:30 am to 6 pm, and is open to kids of all faiths, grades K-5. Register at the JCC front desk, or call 3212338, or go to $30/day or $25/day for JCC members.

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Jewish Education Council presents a professional development workshop for Jewish community educators Monday, March 18, 6:30 pm


his is the time of year when the Jewish Education Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater presents one of its professional development workshops for all community Jewish educators—teachers and principals. The workshop will be held at the Simon Family JCC. Dr. Joel M. Hoffman will present “The Sound of Music Approach to Education.” A well-designed class offers enriching content for everyone who shows up, regardless of their background, or even age. This workshop will help participants learn

ith the goal of promoting awareness, providing support, and celebrating the gifts of people with disabilities in all faith communities, the conference, “That all May Worship-2013: Sharing Our Stories, Building Our Communities” targets advocates, service providers, religious leaders, educators, clergy, people with disabilities and their family members, special education teachers, and disability specialists. Presented by the Faith Inclusion Network of South Hampton Roads, an organization that supports people with disabilities within faith communities, the conference will kick off with author and speaker, Mark Pinsky. A Jewish man who has written several books and articles including, “Amazing Gifts: Stories of Faith, Disabilities, and Inclusion, The Gospel According to the

how to combine various kinds of material into a successful, broad-reaching class. This kind of approach works in the classroom for Day School, Hebrew school, Sunday school, and family education. Hoffman is a much sought after speaker who presents to dozens of popular and academic audiences each year. He holds a Ph.D. in linguistics and has served on the faculties of Brandeis University and Hebrew Union College. He is the author of both the critically acclaimed: In the Beginning: A Short History of the Hebrew Language and And God Said. Hoffman is appearing through the auspices of the Institute of Southern Jewish Life, which works to provide Judaic services and cultural programs to Jewish communities across the South. The Institute covers 13 states: Alabama, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and Virginia. The Simon Family JCC arranged the workshop. For more information, contact Miriam Brunn Ruberg at 321-2328 or An email can also be sent to ileiderman@ The Simon Family JCC is a constituent agency of United Jewish Federation of Tidewater.

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Simpsons, and A Jew Among the Evangelicals, Pinsky will be the keynote speaker on March 14, at Temple Israel in Norfolk. This program is cosponsored by Jewish Family Service of Tidewater, Inc. The program on March 15 will feature Dr. Jeff McNair, who will speak about issues of community and social integration through religious organizations. This program will take place at Tabernacle Church of Norfolk. Pre-registration is required for the conference, along with a small fee. Registration and a full conference brochure are available online at Contact Emily Bettendorf, special needs case manager, at Jewish Family Service at 757-459-4640 or for more information.

Holocaust Commission of the UJFT featured on JLTV for What We Carry Wednesday, March 6, 8 pm


hat We Carry, the documentary of Tidewater-based Holocaust survivors produced by the Holocaust Commission of the UJFT, was recently featured on Los Angeles-based Jewish Life Television’s (JLTV) J Report. The hourlong television show decided to feature the documentary, its filmmakers and UJFT Holocaust Commission member, Mickey Held, in two full-length episodes. The host of the show, Brad Pomerance, says of the What We Carry project, “I’m pitched tons of Holocaust stories. You know, everyone has a Holocaust story. This is truly unique. And, you know, it may be in Tidewater right now, but my hope and dream is that through our interview, God willing, that this project really is able to permeate throughout the nation, if not the world.” The first episode has already aired, and can be viewed online via a link at or at Direct TV subscribers can view JLTV at channel 366.

Pirates of Penzance performance by Virginia Opera at the Simon Family JCC Sunday, March 24, 2:30 pm

by Leslie Shroyer


he Virginia Opera will present its second show for families this season at the Simon Family JCC, a light and shortened version of Gilbert and Sullivan’s The Pirates of Penzance. The Pirates of Penzance is a comic opera with music by Arthur Sullivan and lyrics by W. S. Gilbert. The story concerns Frederic, who, having completed his 21st year, is released from his apprenticeship to a band of tender-hearted pirates. He meets Mabel, the daughter of Major-General Stanley, and the two young people fall instantly in love. Frederic finds out, however, that he was born on a leap year day, February 29, he must serve for another 63 years. Bound by his own sense of duty, Frederic’s only solace is that Mabel agrees to wait for him faithfully. At the end of the 45 minute performance, there will be a question and answer period, and curious members of the audience can ask the cast about the performance or about Opera in general. The Virginia Opera performed Hansel and Gretel at the JCC in November to an audience of more than 150. Cost is $7.50 for ages 11+, $5 for ages 10 and under, $25 for a family. For tickets visit the JCC front desk, call 321-2338 or visit The Simon Family JCC is a constituent agency of United Jewish Federation of Tidewater.

what’s happening Simpsons’ writer Mike Reiss performs at the JCC

Ninth Annual Grieving Children’s Art Show at the Leon Family Art Gallery

Saturday, March 16, 8 pm by Leslie Shroyer


former editor of The Harvard Lampoon and The National Lampoon, Mike Reiss wrote for The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson, The Garry Shandling Show and Alf, before he was hired in 1989 for a new animated show called The Simpsons. Four Emmys and a Peabody Award later, Reiss has written or produced more than 300 episodes of The Simpsons and is still involved with the Mike Reiss show as a producer. Reiss will present The Simpsons and Other Jewish Families at the Simon Family JCC as the second of three Performing Arts at the J, Presented by Leah Wohl* series this season. “Whether you love The Simpsons, hate the show, or have never seen it, you are guaranteed to enjoy this fun-filled presentation,” says Reiss. In this hilarious evening, highlighted by rare cartoon clips from his creations, Reiss will speak about Jewish themes that have appeared within the context of The Simpsons, as well as its Jewish writers, characters, and guest stars. He’ll fill the audience in on “secret trivia of the show, insane dealings with network censors, and lots of juicy gossip about celebrity guest stars.” Reiss has also created cult animal creations The Critic and Queer Duck, and his

stories and clips will include discussion of these and other characters from his cartoons. In his presentations, he delves into the current state of television programming, describing with his characteristic wit how TV has changed and where it’s going. Reiss’s presentations at JCCs and Jewish film festivals in San Francisco, Nashville, San Diego, Denver, Tucson, and Charlotte, have sold out, causing second performances to be scheduled to accommodate the demand for tickets. “He is engaging, funny and irreverent,” says Charlotte Jewish Film Festival chair Jeff Turk. “It was an engaging hour of anecdotes interspersed with jokes. It’s a great way to celebrate Jewish humor for anyone over age 13.” “This is a different kind of event, not just a comedy night,” says a lead volunteer in Charlotte, Rick Willenzic. “He tells stories with laughable characters. Everyone in the audience can relate to at least several of them. It’s a superb, polished show for adults of all ages.” The evening is $35 or $30 for JCC members or $15 for students. For more information, call 757-321-2338. The Simon Family JCC is a constituent agency of United Jewish Federation of Tidewater.

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hen a loved one dies, everyone in Now in its ninth year, JFS and Edmarc their family is touched by this loss. co-sponsor an annual art show that showChildren and teens are cases the drawings and especially affected by poetry of local grievAnyone who knows a schoollosses and other imporing children and teens. aged child or teen who has tant life changes. Jewish This show is open to experienced the death of a loved Family Service’s counany school-aged youth one who would like to contribseling staff, through in Tidewater who ute artwork for the Grieving the Dozoretz Center has experienced the Children’s Art Show, should confor Healing and Jessica death of a loved one. tact Debbie Mayer at JFS. For Glasser Therapeutic Hundreds of pictures more information about helping Pavilion, specializes in have been submitted grieving children and teens or helping individuals of over the years and it is about the free Peace by Piece all ages cope with loss a real healing opporsupport program, contact JFS and grieving. One comtunity for children and at 757-459-4640 or DMayer@ ponent of this program teens to see that they is a free support group are not alone. This for children, teens, and year, after the Grieving their families who have Children’s Art Show experienced the death of a loved one: Peace artwork is displayed in the Leon Family by Piece. Peace by Piece is operated by Art Gallery at the Simon Family JCC, the Edmarc Hospice for Children in collabora- pictures will return to either JFS or Edmarc tion with JFS. for display the rest of the year.

Free movie and discussion at Jewish Museum Sunday, March 17, 2 pm Crossing Delancey, a romantic comedy film starring Amy Irving and Peter Riegert was released in 1988. Directed by Joan Micklin Silverand, the film was based on a play by Susan Sandler, who also wrote the screenplay. Irving was nominated for a Golden Globe for the role.

A discussion with Rabbi Arthur Steinberg and Dr. Andrew Quicke will follow the screening. The event is free. The Jewish Museum & Cultural Center is located at 607 Effingham Street in Portsmouth. Go to for more information.

Sought-after Jewish speaker to visit Tidewater

Rabbi Gavriel Friedman, “Rav Gav” Saturday, March 9, 8 pm


riginally from New York, Rabbi Gavriel Friedman, aka Rav Gav, now splits his time between Jerusalem and his touring circuit. A regular lecturer at Aish HaTorah, Rav Gav has energized Jewish communities in cities all over the world, including Johannesburg, London, and Montreal, as well as many in the U.S. In a joint venture of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, Hebrew Academy of Tidewater Konikoff Center of Learning, and the Simon Family JCC, Rav Gav will bring his characteristic blend of charisma, charm and Torah learning to Tidewater for one very special interactive evening of learning and fun. Reform, Conservative, Orthodox, Reconstructionist or “just Jewish,” everyone will take something away from this event.

Rav Gav’s lecture is entitled, “Impressions: Like it or not, you’re a role model.” He promises that while entertaining for everyone, it will be particularly useful for parents. The event will take place in the Fleder Rabbi Gavriel Friedman Multi-Purpose Room on the Sandler Family Campus of the Tidewater Jewish Community. Tickets are $10 and are available at the JCC front desk or by visiting

Freedom and faith at the center of The Whipping Man at Virginia Stage through March 17 A gripping tale about the value of faith, the costs of freedom and the South at the close of the Civil War, Matthew Lopez’ The Whipping Man is now being performed at Virginia Stage Company. It is a co-production with Marin Theatre Company of Mill Valley, Calif. War-ruined Richmond, Passover, 1865—Soldier Caleb, raised a devout Jew, returns home disillusioned and faithless as the annual celebration of freedom from bondage is celebrated in Jewish homes across the country. While Caleb and his family’s former slaves work to rebuild their

lives and restore their shared faith, secrets threaten their new-found freedom. Tickets may be purchased through Ticketmaster by calling 800-982-2787, at any Ticketmaster outlet, at the VSC box office, or online at Group discounts for 10 or more are available by calling 757-6276988 ext. 358. Regular performances run Tuesdays at 7 pm, Wed./Thur./Fri. at 8 pm, Saturdays at 4 pm and 8 pm, and Sundays at 2 pm through March 17, 2013. Tickets range $25–$50. | March 4, 2013 | Jewish News | 25

mazel tov to Achievement David A. Kushner for his election as a partner with Willcox Savage. Kushner practices in the firm’s Labor and Employment group. He has recently been selected as a Virginia Legal David A. Kushner Elite Top Lawyer Under 40, Benchmark Litigation Future Star and Virginia Super Lawyers Rising Star. Kushner graduated from the University of Virginia School of Law in 2005. He received a B.A. from the University of Virginia in 2002. He is married to Nichole and is a member of Ohef Sholom Temple.

Birth Dr. Neil and Melissa Zemmel of Richmond on the birth of their daughter, Margot Elyse, on Oct. 11, 2012. Proud grandparents are Francine and Norman Morgan. Big sister is Vivienne Rose Zemmel.

Beth Sholom Village listed with the Best


he news from Beth Sholom Village keeps getting better and better. U.S. News & World Report released it fifth annual Best Nursing Homes ratings on Tuesday, Feb. 26 and was featured on’s Editor’s pick on their home page. The article was called “America’s top nursing homes in 2013.” The ratings cover more than 15,000 nursing homes nationwide and are available at http:// Click through and search for Beth Sholom

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Village by state or zip code. Beth Sholom Village is featured as one of America’s top nursing homes in 2013. About 20 percent of all nursing homes in Virginia earned an overall fivestar rating. According to David Abraham, executive vice president of Beth Sholom Village, “this news comes on the heels of having just received our five star rating from the state in December 2012. I am so proud of our staff in their efforts to meet and exceed expectations of our residents, family members and our community.”



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obituaries Evelyn Adelman Evelyn was born on May 21, 1928 and passed away on Sunday, Feb. 17, 2013. Evelyn was a resident of Portsmouth at the time of her passing. She is survived by her husband Gerald. Burial was private in Portsmouth. The family has asked that, in lieu of flowers, donations be made to Ohef Sholom Temple, the Kidney Foundation, a hospice of choice, or a charity of choice. Evelyn Freeman Berman Norfolk—Evelyn Freeman Berman, 94, of the 1300 block of Botetourt Gardens, died Sunday, Feb. 24, 2013 in Richmond, Va. She was a native of Lexington, Va. and was the daughter of the late Joseph and Dora Sachs Freeman. She was preceded in death by her husband Melvin Moses Berman. Mrs. Berman is survived by her daughter, Elaine H. Dieckman and her husband James of Richmond; her son Joseph Berman and his wife Laurie of Norfolk; her sister, Sarah Lee Segall of Alexandria, Va.; four grandchildren; and two great-grandchildren. Graveside services were held in Mikro Kodesh Cemetery, Norfolk with Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz and Cantor Gordon Piltch officiating. Memorial donations may be made to Congregation Beth El, 422 Shirley Ave., Norfolk, VA 23517. H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts. Online condolences may be sent to the family at Faye G. Bernstein Norfolk—Faye G. Bernstein, 83, of the 1300 block of Noble Street, died Wednesday, Feb. 20, 2013 in her residence with her loving family at her side. She was a native of Norfolk and was the daughter of the late Samuel and Ida Lubschutz Goldman. Mrs. Bernstein graduated from Maury High School, class of 1947 and was a founding member of Temple Israel and an active member of the Sisterhood. Mrs. Bernstein, along with her husband, owned and operated Atlantic Leather for over 47 years. Survivors include her husband of 65 years Jerry Bernstein of Norfolk and her daughter Ellen Bernstein (husband Daniel Miller) and her son Lewis Bernstein (wife Beth) of Norfolk, four grandchildren, Isaac, Sydney, Rachel (husband Daniel) and Jill. Graveside services were at Forest Lawn Cemetery with Rabbi Michael Panitz officiating. Memorial donations may be made to Temple Israel. H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts. Online condolences may be sent to the family at

Lawrence H. Cash Virginia Beach—Dr. Lawrence H. Cash of Cove Point, Virginia Beach passed away peacefully on Feb. 7, 2013. Son of Harry and Kate Graff Cash, he was born on May 21, 1923 in Brooklyn, N.Y. He graduated from Townsend Harris High School, a preparatory school for exceptional students, in Manhattan, at the age of 16. After attending City College of New York, he graduated with a dental degree from New York University College of Dentistry at the age of 22. Appointed to a commission in the U.S. Navy Dental Corps, he served for three years, part of which time he was loaned to the U.S. Army for service in occupied Germany. Dr. Cash practiced dentistry for 52 years in the Ward’s Corner area of Norfolk. He opened his practice in the “new” Midtown Building and later partnered with son-inlaw, Dr. Edward Weisberg. He was associate professor at VCU School of Dentistry and taught at ODU School of Dental Hygiene and the dental residency program at DePaul Hospital. He was a member of the American Dental Association, Virginia Dental Association and past president of the Tidewater Dental Association. He was a fellow of the American College of Dentists, the International College of Dentists and the Pierre Fauchard Academy, and was appointed dental mediator by the Supreme Court of Virginia. He was chairman and a volunteer of the Boys Club Dental Clinic, and volunteered his dental services at the Florence Crittenton Home and in Pardes Katz, Israel. Most recently, Dr. Cash was a volunteer and mentor to the VCU dental students at the Park Place Dental Clinic. Dr. Cash entered scouting at the age of nine and remained active in scouting, serving as scoutmaster throughout dental school. Scouting instilled core values of integrity, honor and respect - always doing the right thing. The Hampton Roads community was truly enhanced by Dr. Cash’s mission to serve others. He was a founding board member of Temple Israel, board member of the JCC and Tidewater Jewish Foundation, active in the Ward’s Corner Lions Club for 22 years and past president of the Cove Point Resident Association. He loved sports and was active in golf, tennis and racquetball. His happiest times were spent on the golf course with his son, Eric, and a host of friends. He was a beloved member of the Cavalier Golf and Yacht Club and Sewell’s Point Golf Club. Dr. Cash’s wisdom, grace and gentleness are cherished by his patients, staff, colleagues, friends and family.

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He was preceded in death by his wife, Anne Richter Cash, and his son, Eric R. Cash. He enjoyed 50 years of married happiness with Anne and was blessed to find love anew with Dottie-Jean Chenman Cash and lovingly embraced his expanded family. He is survived by his wife Dottie-Jean, daughter Janis Cash Weisberg and husband Dr. Edward Weisberg of Norfolk, stepsons Scott Goodman and wife Debbi of Charlottesville, Wayne Goodman of Norfolk and Lance Goodman and partner Richard Stern of Boca Raton, Fla. He is also survived by his sister Shirley Cash Cohen of Los Angeles, Calif. He played a very active role in the rearing and celebrating of his grandchildren and great grand children: Lisa Weisberg Cohn and Joel and their children Ayden and Brian; Amie Weisberg Blaschke and Barrett and their daughter Madison Jane; and Justin, Andrew, Alex, Daniel, Jean and Rose Goodman. Funeral services were held in the Norfolk Chapel of H. D. Oliver Funeral Apts. with Rabbi Michael Panitz officiating. Memorial donations may be made to Temple Israel, Virginia Beach Rescue Squad, or to the charity of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be sent to the family at Renee Fine Virginia Beach—Renee Fine of Virginia Beach passed away Friday, Feb. 22 at Virginia Beach General Hospital. She was born in Newark, N. J. and lived in Norfolk and Virginia Beach for 60 years. She was married for 50 years to Milton H. Fine, who proceeded her in death. She is survived by her daughter Bonni Fine Kaufman of Potomac, Md., and husband Robert; her daughter Sharon Fine of Bethesda, Md., and husband Michael Katz and five grandchildren, Noah, Benjamin and Lilah Katz and Charles and Candice Kaufman. Services were held at H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts. in Virginia Beach. Memorial donations to American Friends of Magen David Adom, www. or the Johns Hopkins Melanoma Program, in care of Dr. William Sharfman, Johns Hopkins Medicine, 19753 Falls Road, Pavillion II, Suite 415, Lutherville, MD 21093. Online condolences may be made to the family at George Freund Norfolk—George E. Freund, 87, of the 6300 block of Granby Street, died Wednesday, Feb. 13, in his residence. He was born in the Bronx, N. Y. on Feb. 7, 1926 and raised in Westchester

County, N.Y. He was the son of the late Charles and Lillian Glass Freund. He was preceded in death by his daughter Stacey Freund Marrero. Mr. Freund was a United States Marine Corp. veteran of World War II and Korea. He attended New York University and was retired from the Williamsburg Inn as an Assistant Sommelier. His passion in life beyond his family was golf, wine and wire haired fox terriers. Survivors include his loving wife of 62 years, Sandra Godin Freund of Norfolk, his daughters Andrea Dale Freund of Norfolk and Dianne Robin Jakubek and her husband William of Virginia Beach and three grandchildren, Lyndsay, Scott and Joseph and one great grandson Rowan and his cousins, Bill and Fay Wolff. A memorial service was held in the Norfolk chapel of H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts. by Rabbi Israel Zoberman. Memorial donations may be made to the Virginia Beach SPCA or a charity of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be sent to the family at Marian N. Gutterman Norfolk—Marian Nordin Gutterman, 97, passed away peacefully on Sunday, Feb. 24, 2013. She was born in Baltimore, Md., and was the daughter of Ellis and Sarah Nordin. Marian was predeceased by her husband, Judge Morris B. Gutterman, and her brother and sister Henry Nordin and Edith N. Cohen both of Baltimore. Marian was an accomplished pianist, a graduate of the Peabody Conseratory in Baltimore. During these years, she was also active in the arts salons and participated in political and literary discussion groups held at the Enoch Pratt Free Library in Baltimore with such notables as the historian Eric Goldman and the poet Karl Shapiro. Marian moved to Norfolk when she married her husband, then a young lawyer, in 1943. Together they crisscrossed the country during World War II before settling in Norfolk where Marian continued her music studies, performing piano duets with Clifford Herzer and later teaching piano privately and at the Bristow Hardin School of Music. As her children grew older, Marian turned to activities in the Norfolk community. After taking an art class at the Jewish Community Center in the mid-1950s, she discovered that she had a gift for drawing and painting; she further expanded her artistic aptitude by studying at Old Dominion University with Charles Sibley

obituaries and A.B. Jackson. Her work was exhibited at Old Dominion and on one occasion accepted into the Irene Leache exhibit at the Chrysler Museum. Marian loved the cultural arts. She was a life-long subscriber to the Virginia Symphony, a volunteer at the Chrysler Museum and also spent time volunteering at the Juvenile Courts and the Senior Center. In addition, Marian was a voracious reader and an ardent animal lover. She also loved to travel, and she and her husband were fortunate enough to visit many of the great cities of the world. Marian is survived by her three children, Judy Gutterman of Norfolk, Richard Gutterman of Virginia Beach, Phyllis (Elon) Pollack of Manhattan Beach, Calif., and her beloved dog, Peanut. Graveside services were held at Forest Lawn Cemetery with Cantor Wally Schachet-Briskin officiating. Memorial donations may be made to the charity of choice. H.D. Oliver Funeral Apts. Online condolences may be shared with the family at Lynn Rafal Kushner Chesapeake—Lynn Rafal Kushner, 63, passed away Wednesday, Feb. 13, 2013. Born in Norfolk, she was the daughter of the late Mischa and Bevalan Cohen Rafal. Lynn dedicated 27 years of her life to the Department of Rehabilitative Services, working to improve the life of others. She was selflessly devoted to her children, grandchildren and friends. Survivors include her husband, Bruce H. Kushner; her children, Robyn K. Mansfield and husband Raleigh, Karen K. Potter and husband Chris, David A. Kushner and wife Nichole; her grandchildren, Alexa, Madelyn and Sloane; her siblings, Jerry Rafal and wife Kathy, Marc Rafal and wife Anne, and Stephanie Levin

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and husband Ron. She also leaves numerous nieces, nephews, and cousins. A memorial service was conducted at Ohef Sholom Temple with Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg officiating. Contributions may be made to the Lynn Kushner Memorial Fund of Chesapeake Regional Medical Center, 736 Battlefield Blvd., North, Chesapeake, VA 23320. Send condolences and sign the online guest book at Laurence R. Goodman Norfolk—Laurence R. Goodman, June 26, 1922–February 13, 2013 Beloved husband of Iris (Berman), father of Jerilyn, Jeffrey (Jeannie), and Rebecca (Ron Stone), grandfather of Jared (Becky Seel) and Sarah, and great-grandfather of Lena; loving son and brother of Joel (Miriam) and Melvin (Ross). Born in Bayonne, N.J. to Sara and Salic, “Red” Goodman was a star high school basketball player before attending the University of Wisconsin and Rutgers. After naval service in the South Pacific during WW II, Larry joined the third generation of Goodmans in the family furniture business in Jersey City and managed the North Bergen store from its opening in the 1960s. Larry was an officer of the Furniture Association of N.J. and served as president of Twin Brooks Golf Club in Watchung. Actively committed to his Jewish communities in Springfield, N.J. and Bayonne, justifiably proud of his golf game, especially his putting; above all, devoted to his family and life-long friends; he was a mensch. May his memory be a blessing to all who loved him. Graveside services took place at B’nai Abraham Cemetery in Union, N.J. Online condolences may be sent to the family at

Shmulik Kraus, Israeli singer and composer JERUSALEM (JTA)—Israeli singer and composer Shmulik Kraus, who helped in the evolution of Israeli music, has died. Kraus, a recipient of the Minister of Education and Culture Award for Life Achievement, died Feb. 17 after being hospitalized 10 days earlier with swine flu. He was 77. The Jerusalem native helped advance Israeli music from its traditional form to modern Israeli pop and rock and roll. His song “Hatishma Koli” was chosen by astronaut Ilan Ramon to be played as the

ill-fated Columbia Space Shuttle orbited the earth in 2003. Kraus began his musical career in the 1950s, and in the late 1960s joined the iconic Israeli band Hahalonot Hagvohim, or The High Windows, with Arik Einstein. His wife, Josie Katz, also was a member of the band, but they later divorced. Kraus also joined the Lul group of singers and musicians. He was awarded the government’s life achievement award in 2006. Kraus had a history of violence and was hospitalized several times in a mental hospital.

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Joel Richard Nied: Going to the Hill by Karen Lombart

“Ice cream and cake, ice cream and cake...” are the words repeated throughout the video that Joel Nied put together as an invitation to his son’s fifth birthday party. The short, which is extremely entertaining, has clarity, energy, rhythm and packs a punch, much like Nied’s style when he wants to see a project succeed. His digital pursuits have become a hobby. His three children, Evan, 9, Simone, 6 and Rand, 2 remain his passion. And, his lifetime love for politics has revealed itself in his lobbying efforts for AIPAC, the American Israel Public Affairs Committee. In 1971, when Nied was three years old, his family moved from Pikesville, Md. to Jacksonville, Fla., which he describes much like Tidewater. The St. Johns River runs through the town located on the Atlantic Ocean. The city had two Conservative temples and two Reform synagogues, one where his family belonged. As a member of Congregation Ahavath Chesed, Nied attended Hebrew School on Mondays and Thursdays and Sunday school on the weekends through his Bar Mitzvah and Confirmation years. From the ages of six through 13, he participated in synagogue sponsored Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts, ultimately earning the rank of Eagle Scout. Although considered small compared to other national troops, his was known for its members’ high achieving performance. Nied laughs, “We crushed the other troops in orienteering and first aid competitions. We didn’t do so well in archery.” He continues humorously, describing the exploits of “merit badge acquisition business” and the troop’s “Olive Drab Revolution” organized to overwhelm the counselor bureaucracy. During his teen years, Nied joined the Jacksonville Area Federation Temple Youth (JAFTY), a local division of NFTY, the Reform youth movement. As a member of a small delegation, he attended regional conventions and met many participants from Miami and Atlanta. Nied says, “The conferences were my first exposure to the Jewish community on a national level. Having the opportunity to gather with hundreds of other Jewish kids was exhilarating.” Involved in extracurricular activities in high school, he lost weight to wrestle in the lowest weight class possible. “It was empowering to test my physical limits

despite being dehydrated and malnourished,” Nied quips. “I looked like a famine victim in my National Honor Society portrait.” Each week, the varsity team members took on challengers to keep their first-string positions. “If you were the best, you stayed on the varsity team that week. It was a simple Hobbesian system,” he says. Accepted to University of Pennsylvania early decision, Nied found that almost half of the school was Jewish. “For the first time in my life, I didn’t have to seek out Jewish activities. Just living on campus was enough. A member of the fraternity, TEP, he became president during his senior year. He also rowed for the school’s Crew team, practicing hours on the Schuylkill River by Boat House Row. After graduation, he lived for two years in New York City, working in the marketing department of Coopers and Lybrand’s national headquarters. His interview included writing a timed essay, which proved to be so impressive, he was able to secure the job without a marketing background. Finally ready for a new intellectual challenge, Nied became a law school student at Emory. While living in Atlanta, he volunteered for the Democratic Party of Georgia, taking on several profiles. In 1996, he acted as treasurer and general counsel for Ron Slotin’s U.S. Congressional campaign. Knowing many staffers on Al Gore’s advance team during the 1997 Presidential election, Nied became a volunteer and was tasked with preventing voter intimidation. His greatest thrill, however, was driving in the Vice President’s motorcade from the Atlanta airport to the Olympic stadium. His love for politics intensified during these years. In 1994, in his third year of law school, Nied met his wife, Emily Caplan, while he worked at the law school library reference desk. The couple dated in Atlanta for two years before he graduated and moved to Philadelphia. Employed with a multinational law firm, Nied volunteered as a Division Committeeman for the Philadelphia ward system. Appointed and then elected to represent a center city district, he was involved in “big city politics.” During the elections, the voting machines were stationed behind a curtain, a vote was cast by pulling a lever and a card was dispensed. One of Nied’s responsibilities was to drive a backup copy of the polling station results to the election board offices, while the police drove

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the original record. He was also tasked with observing the ballot counting. Married in September 1999, the couple moved to Virginia Beach in January 2002 to live close to family. Today as a partner at LeClairRyan, Nied finds his work as a transactional attorney exciting. He says, “It takes negotiation, diplomacy, intuition, financial expertise and game theory skills to add value to a collaborative effort so that all participants are happy.” He Joel and Emily Nied most enjoys the challenge of crafting the strategy. “I look for the win-win in every deal,” he emphasizes. As a volunteer serving on the Super Sunday Cabinet, Nied was inspired to visit Israel for the first time when he was 36 years old. The National Federation was putting on an event called Tel Aviv One. Travelling with 1,000 participants, he discovered, also on the trip, were friends from his childhood, college and law school years. Upon his return, he felt compelled to build a sense of Jewish community among his peers in Tidewater, so he worked with Jeff Stein to “lobby” the local Federation for a young adult program similar to one in Greensboro, N. C. Under Anna Goldenberg’s guidance, he and David Cardon became the first co-chairs of Hineni, the rebirth of YAD. Nied’s knowledge of Tidewater’s local community has developed by sitting on the boards of Beth Sholom Village, Jewish Family Service, Hebrew Academy of Tidewater and the Men’s campaign for Federation. In 2003, his first blush with AIPAC came from a meeting at Ann and Bobby Copeland’s home. Three years later while reading the Beth El Bulletin, he learned that Ed Miller, a college friend and fraternity brother was coming to the area as an AIPAC speaker. At the meeting’s conclusion, Nied turned to Miller and said, “Let me know how I can help you.” Two days later, he got a phone call from AIPAC staffer, Jeremy Becker. He divulges, “I decided to get actively involved because I wanted to be a voice that could make a difference instead of a just a person with a strong opinion, talking to friends.” He truly believes that by building per-

sonal relationships with elected officials, his conversations have been a source of truth for the congressional representatives. “I embarked on a huge learning curve to understand the nuances reflected in each of the issues that are paramount to the U.S.-Israel relationship. Because I am able to access the facts from AIPAC’s website, participate in conference calls and receive the well written materials, I can share information beyond media rhetoric. Nied has traveled to Israel twice since his first trip. He clearly articulates, “The State of Israel has changed the world’s perception of the Jews. It exists today as a sovereign nation built out of a people’s will to exist in the late 1880’s. It is the story of pioneers working the land to build lush green landscapes and cities out of sand dunes. To mischaracterize the nation’s reason for existence is to do a disservice to its people. Israel is not compensation to the Jews for the wrong done to them during the Holocaust in the 1940’s. It is the manifestation of the strength and determination of a people that have willed the country’s survival.” “Keep calm and carry on”—a British slogan from the beginning of World War Two, is dramatically displayed on Nied’s cell phone when it lights up. Carrying the historical quote of a time remembered, he has no reason to “wrestle” with his decision to be an active member of the Jewish community. As his own experiences have proven, the Jewish world remains small, and he is proud and humbled to continue to advocate for its presence.

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