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ithin three short months, a nagging cough turned into breathing problems. From July through September 2012, Kathy Stigler’s energy and drive as a wife, mother, grandmother, and career woman, drained from her body. Following a series of grueling tests and hospital stays, she was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. This could’ve been a death sentence physically and emotionally for Kathy, but she thanks the Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) that she’s enjoying her life, two years after the ordeal began.

Today, the 56-year-old Kathy vigorously lives at the forefront of cutting-edge cancer treatments. Within a few weeks as a patient at CTCA at Midwestern Regional Medical Center in Zion, Ill., her medical oncologist discovered she had a mutation in the cancer cells that made her a candidate for targeted medicine, which offered a huge advantage for an effective, life-saving treatment plan.

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her treatments.

Although breast cancer is the most common cancer for women, lung cancer ranks second and causes the most cancer deaths for females. Fortunately for thousands of advanced cancer patients in recent years, scientists have learned that the engine component – what drives the abnormal division of cells causing cancers – can be targeted with specific medications that kill the “bad cells.”

While it’s standard practice at CTCA for doctors treating Stage 4 lung cancer to test for mutations from patients’ biopsies, Kathy recalls her doctor’s excitement personally for her when he shared the news: She had an ALK mutation in which a Food and Drug Administration (FDA)-approved medication for it could help save her life.

State-of-the-art cancer care

Only in the past few years has there been an explosion of new targeted medications to treat cancers. Kathy knows she’s one of the fortunate few, and she’s grateful for CTCA and the center’s Dr. Bruce Gershenhorn, the lead oncologist

for lung cancer. Only 2 to 5 percent of Stage 4 lung cancer patients have the ALK mutation. The aggressive, modern cancer treatment has made a drastic difference in her quality of life, as well as her potential life span, says Dr. Bruce Gershenhorn, who Kathy likes to refer to as “Dr. G.” It’s no wonder the discovery marked a positive turning point in Kathy’s cancer journey. “It’s extremely gratifying when I can help make a major impact on a patient’s treatment,” says Dr. Gershenhorn.

When it’s possible for patients like Kathy, targeted medicine surpasses the more traditional chemotherapy treatments, which kill both good and bad cells. What this means is far fewer side effects – such as extreme loss of hair and weight and other complications commonly associated with chemo-like nausea and vomiting.

Targeted medicine is far more effective and faster, and it saves time, and time is essential to treating cancer.

Kathy’s treatment includes taking her daily pill at home, rather than continually traveling to a hospital for hours of chemo through an IV. When Kathy started working with Dr. Gershenhorn, she had two rounds of chemotherapy, until she was quickly switched to the targeted medicine. Within a few days, her symptoms, such as her cough, had diminished, says Dr. Gershenhorn. “The improvement from painful cancer symptoms and treatments can be very dramatic with targeted medicine,” he says. “Kathy is living a quality of life, just like anyone else.”

In other words, if you saw Kathy walking down the street today, you would never know she’s living her life with Stage 4 lung cancer.

Kathy’s cancer journey

Despite popular preconception, lung cancer occurs in both smokers and non-smokers. Kathy tells people who ask her that she never smoked; but since her own diagnosis, she avoids asking that question when she meets other lung cancer patients. ”It’s such a stigma that if you’re diagnosed with lung cancer, people automatically think you smoke,” Kathy says. “It doesn’t matter if you smoke or not. You still deserve to get treated for lung cancer either way. So there is no point to ask someone that question.”

Kathy and her husband, Ken, learned of her serious illness when they lived in Lindenhurst, Ill. Married for 35 years, they have three grown sons and four grandsons in their close-knit family. She worked in a stressful job, but she loved it as a product program manager for Girl Scout Council of Greater Chicago and Northwest Indiana. She frequently traveled, covering a two-state area with 69,000 members.

She pushed herself through that irritating cough, which unknown to her, was a symptom of her lung cancer. She wanted to believe it was a lingering cold or allergy, until she started to have breathing problems. Family urged her to make time for herself and go to the doctor.

“I remember thinking, as so many of us women do, ‘I don’t have time to be sick,’” Kathy says. “Girl Scout cookie sales were coming up.”

To appease worried loved ones, she went to the clinic, where she had a chest X-ray. She was surprised to learn it showed fluid around one of her lungs, another sign of cancer. That Friday in September, after hearing the news, she didn’t know it would be the last time to be in her office as she left for the day. She worked for the Girl Scouts for 12 years.

Kathy met with a pulmonary specialist, who asked a variety of questions, including whether she smoked. Next, a biopsy was done at her then home hospital and the first of three chest tubes were inserted to drain fluid from around the lung, which helped with breathing. However, as she was recuperating, a doctor informed her matter-of-factly that she had Stage 4 lung cancer. He told her that there was no cure but it was treatable. She felt shocked with so many unanswered questions.

She found comfort from her regular pulmonary doctor, who took her hands and looked in her eyes, saying, “You can do this. You’re young, you’re healthy, and you have everything going for you.”

When a nurse arrived to go over treatment options, Kathy recalls her husband saying, “With all due respect, we’re taking Kathy to CTCA.” Ken, himself, had successfully experienced skin cancer treatment at CTCA. They were so impressed with his excellent care that they agreed if the unfortunate circumstance ever occurred that Kathy would be diagnosed with cancer, she would go to CTCA as well.

Without further delay, her records were sent to CTCA in Zion, just one hour from downtown Milwaukee. Life changed quickly. Kathy retired from her career, and she and Ken sold their home and they moved to Hartford.

Personalized, compassionate care

What makes CTCA the top choice for the Stiglers, one that they would recommend for any cancer patient, is the way they’re treated on a personal level. “Because our lives have been touched by cancer, we can say what we find so different from other places is the personalized treatment,” Kathy says. “I don’t feel like a ‘cancer patient’ because there is no one treatment for anyone. They formulate the treatment for me personally. They walk the journey with me.”

Kathy loves to talk with people, and she openly shares her love for CTCA. “If it’s not your first choice, it should be your second option,” she says. Compassion is another key to her passion for sharing her CTCA experiences. “Every doctor I meet with is very compassionate. They’re always willing to listen,” Kathy says. “I’ve never seen my primary doctor, Dr. G, look at his watch, ever.”

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when you’re stressed and seriously ill. “Thankfully, I didn’t have to think about what questions to ask; they answer all of my questions for me,” she says. “You will know you have options, and you will be empowered to make your own decisions.”

Now Kathy travels to the clinic every six weeks. First, she receives a quality, 30-minute appointment with Dr. Gershenhorn each visit. The entire focus is on Kathy, as CTCA is patient-focused. “It allows for a lot of conversation; we have the time for whatever needs to be discussed,” says Dr. Gershenhorn, noting new patients have an entire hour with him for an opportunity for asking questions, addressing concerns, and getting acquainted.

Unlike other clinical settings, where the patient travels from floor to floor and room to room, Kathy stays in one comfortable space, on a single floor, and medical professionals come to serve her. It takes a team to treat cancer and to provide patients with a high quality of care that extends into their everyday living, Dr. Gershenhorn says. As a testament to the extremely comprehensive, patient-centered care, Dr. Gershenhorn updates an entire team on Kathy’s condition.

“This way of communication, professional to professional, is more accurate, it’s faster, and it’s a relief to the patient to know their information is being taken care of,”

he says. Other family members may attend appointments with her in person or by telephone or computer, whatever Kathy desires. It’s yet another back-up, as Kathy says her husband takes notes during appointments and asks questions, too.

The team is CTCA’s Patient Empowered Care (PEC) in action. In the center is the patient, surrounded by her medical oncologist, naturopathic oncology provider, registered dietitian, nurse care manager, and clinic nurse. Forming a larger circle of patient care, these doctors and nurses are supported by other medical professionals, including pastoral/spiritual care, radiation oncology, acupuncture/acupressure, surgical oncology, chiropractic care, mind-body medicine, internal medicine, oncology rehabilitation, and pain management and scheduling.

The options seem endless, and, for example, Kathy says she’s worked to improve her diet with a dietitian, who gives her many ideas, and she’s never suffered from any pain symptoms that couldn’t be totally alleviated or reduced with someone from her PEC team. The team addresses not just the disease, but also the pain, fatigue and depression that comes with it. PEC team members know that managing the side effects of cancer is half the battle.

Kathy’s health is closely monitored with CT scans, laboratory studies, and physical exams. Kathy is personally amazed that she receives a blood test each visit – it eases her mind, as does the speed of test results. Like all cancer patients, Kathy wants to have a treatment plan and to know that it’s working. Indeed, time is of the essence when it comes to treating aggressive and advanced stages of cancer and the PEC team and other support staff make it all possible.

Kathy will continue to visit the clinic every six weeks and take her medication daily. She will continue to live with her cancer, a chronic disease, and treatment is for life.

And yet her future and the future for cancer treatments are as bright as her positive attitude toward her condition.

Dr. Gershenhorn says he’s worked with many lung cancer patients like Kathy who have excellent outcomes taking targeted medication. Other great news is the FDA recently approved another medication for the ALK mutation; so if ever Kathy’s medication is no longer effective, there’s another option. And science continues to move forward researching and discovering more innovative cancer treatments. Kathy will continue moving forward as well with CTCA. One of her visits was coincidentally scheduled when the five-year celebration for cancer survivors was being held. “I don’t know of any other hospital that celebrates five years for surviving cancer,” says Kathy, her voice cracking with emotion. “To see the crowd of people that was marking five years of so many blessings. It was amazing. It gave me so much hope. I want to be at that celebration on my five-year anniversary and God willing, I will be. CTCA, my doctor, the PEC team and targeted medicine continue to give me hope.”

Kim Seidel is a freelance writer based in Wisconsin. She specializes in writing about parenting, health and family life topics.

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LIVING WELL | Sue Ann Says

Take a Healthy Breath!

The Smoking and Mental Health Connection Individuals with a serious mental illness die younger with an average loss in years between 13 and 32 years.

Which Mental Illnesses Are Associated With Smoking?

Mental illnesses linked to tobacco use are:

• Depression • Generalized anxiety disorder • Alcohol abuse and dependence • Drug abuse • Bipolar mood disorder • Schizophrenia • Post-traumatic stress disorder • Attention deficit • Panic disorder • Delusional disorder • Psychosis • Social phobia

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he National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI) stresses that every year smoking kills about 200,000 people who live with a mental illness. As you know, smoking is the primary cause of cancer and cancer related deaths. Additionally, smoking increases your risk of lung disease, heart disease, stroke and is linked to a myriad of other life threatening diseases. Women with a mental health illness can stop smoking with the help of their health providers. I want to provide you with some figures on smoking and mental illness in hopes that if you smoke, you will take the first step and discuss smoking cessation with your health provider.

Facts and Statistics on Smoking and Mental Illness Approximately 1 in 4 Americans suffer from a mental illness each year.

Adults who have a mental illness are more likely to be smokers. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reported that roughly 36% percent of adults with a mental illness are current smokers, compared to the national average of 21% of adults (71% higher relative rate). Here’s a close up look into smoking and mental illness.

Smoking is more prevalent in individuals with almost any mental illness.

The highest rate of cigarette smoking is usually found among those with a substance abuse disorder.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is the only mental health condition which correlates with a lower rate of tobacco use than the national average.

Individuals with a mental illness are more often heavier smokers (smoking on average 331 cigarettes per month vs 310) than those without mental health issues.

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Why Do Women With Mental Illness Smoke?

According to NAMI, “There is no one single, certain reason why so many people who live with mental illness smoke. It may be a combination of brain effects, psychological effects and the social world in which we live.”

Women with a mental illness are highly vulnerable to the powerful drug in cigarettes, nicotine, resulting in a co-morbid addiction. Nicotine, along with other toxic chemicals in cigarettes, affects the biochemistry of the body.

Tobacco use might relieve feelings of anxiety or stress for some women.

These women go on to form a daily habit of smoking. For example, women with depression tend to light up a cigarette within five minutes of waking up in the morning compared to women without depression. Cigarettes have been a way for some women to help pacify their mental illness symptoms.

Another reason that women with a mental illness may smoke is that smoking may be associated with social activi-

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ties allowing a woman with a mental illness to feel more “in” with her social group.

There Is Hope!

The good news is that it is possible to quit smoking when you have a mental illness. Your psychiatric provider will address smoking habits or addiction. The apprehension that smoking cessation will aggravate the symptoms of your mental health illness is a myth. In many cases it can actually improve them!

You could have the same treatment options just like women without a mental illness. You cessation program will be based on your own individual needs. It’s probable that your mental health provider will prescribe a treatment that combines medication and anti-smoking therapy at the same time to improve your success rate.

Discussions With Your Mental Health Provider Are The Keys To Success!

Making the decision to stop smoking is a wise and healthy choice. Set up an appointment with your doctor to talk about the smoking cessations plans that are available, especially if you are being treated for a mental illness. Nicotine is a powerful stimulant and can change the rate at which many medications are metabolized by your body, therefore it is of utmost importance that you work with your health care provider. The dosage of any medications you take may need to be modified after you quit smoking.

More information on smoking and mental illness can be found at the following websites: • WWHF - http://www.wwhf.org/health-information/

tobacco/ • NAMI - http://www.nami.org/ • CDC - http://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/campaign/tips/ quit-smoking/ I urge you to be courageous and seek out a smoking cessation program that works for you by contacting your mental health provider today.

Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.

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any of us want to keep our skin looking younger than its chronological age. My mother, at age 90, had a face with deep wrinkles, which to me were a measure of her wisdom, grace and years of experience. Even in bed with a serious illness and weeks before her death, she complained about wrinkles and asked if she would benefit from a facelift. “Oh, to be young again,� she said. It is so sad that we measure our age by the nature of our skin and believe that reducing wrinkles keeps us young. It turns out that you can reduce skin wrinkling, but, unfortunately, your skin continues to age.

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My mother’s wrinkles are a combination of age, lifelong sun exposure, cigarette smoking and not using the correct approach to skin care. These days we are more concerned about skin protection. I am always impressed by my wife’s beautiful, wrinkle-free skin. She is compulsive about sunscreen, always wears a hat and has never smoked. I thought her skin was the most beautiful I had ever seen (I am biased) until I met a female dermatologist, whose skin, even more perfect than my wife’s, is blemish- and wrinkle-free. I asked her how she does it and what advice she would give all those women and, these days, men who wish to have perfect skin.

Her recommendations were:

—Avoid the sun and do not smoke. Sun exposure leads to wrinkles, blemishes and

a high risk of skin cancer. Of particular concern is the explosion in the incidence of melanoma, a skin cancer that is frequently fatal. Similarly, the more you smoke, the worse your skin becomes. The combination of sun and smoking thickens the skin, promotes wrinkles and blemishes, and worst of all, increases the risk of cancer.

—Every morning you should wash your face with a gentle cleanser. If your skin is oily, products containing glycolic or salicylic acid are recommended. The dermatologist’s favorites include Neu-

trogena for oily skin or M.D. Forte cleansing lotion. For dry skin, Dove, Cetaphil, Oil of Olay or Neutrogena gentle cleanser is preferred. Under no circumstance should you scrub, pick or pop your skin.

—Whether it is summer or winter, or sunny or raining, always apply a moisturizer containing a sunscreen. Avoid water-

proof products, those with more than 10 ingredients or those that are out-of-date. Her favorite moisturizers are Olay Complete, Neutrogena Healthy Skin Face Lotion or Clinique Super City Block. Whatever you use should contain either titanium dioxide or zinc oxide.

—Every evening you should wash with a gentle cleanser and apply a skin rejuvenation product such as M.D. Forte with glycolic acid, Oil of Olay Total Effects 7x with VitaNiacin or Neutrogena Healthy Skin. It is remarkable to me that all of her recommendations are readily available and inexpensive. Apparently, it’s not too costly to maintain healthy skin.

Much research has been done on the prevention of wrinkling. Despite new anti-wrinkle creams with tremendous claims and ever-higher price tags, only the retinoids that contain vitamin A have been shown without doubt to reduce wrinkling. Retinoids encourage skin growth, smooth out fine lines (the precursor of wrinkles) and repair sun damage. These are available in the over-the-counter retinol creams but also in prescription form. If you have sun damage or want to prevent more wrinkles, discuss the use of prescription-strength retinols (Retin-A or Renova) with your physician. They can be irritating and must be applied sparingly at first. With time, they should be possible to apply to the skin more frequently.

While we can do much to maintain healthy skin, no matter how hard we try, changes will invariably occur. If you have, like most of us, abused your skin as a youngster or spent too much time outdoors and are concerned about your appearance, Botox may be a consideration for you. It certainly is the current rage and may make you look and feel younger. Injections into the face and scalp paralyze muscles, leaving wrinkles less noticeable. If you are concerned about wrinkles, see an expert; the simple, least costly advice may be the ticket for you.

How to find the right doctor for your Cosmetic Procedure Whether you’re investigating a tummy tuck or laser fat removal, don’t rush to the first doctor in the phone book. For better results, do your research;

• ASK YOUR FRIENDS • WHEN CONSIDERING COST Remember LESS IS NOT ALWAYS MORE • READ REVIEWS • SCHEDULE A CONSULTATION • A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS • INVESTIGATE MULTIPLE PROCEDURES By doing appropriate leg work in advance, you can walk into your procedure with confidence that you’ve made a good decision.

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What Women can do to look and feel younger.

More women are doing things to look and feel younger. One of the reasons for the increase in popularity of noninvasive cosmetic enhancements are due to the increase effectiveness and safety of these treatments.

Whether these treatments are performed to reduce wrinkles and folds, or improve skin texture and appearance, facial enhancements lead the way in these procedures. Because these treatments are so common, it can be difficult to determine who to trust and where to go if you are interested in these enhancements. A unique relationship at Alex Colque Plastic Surgery and Skiin antiaging lounge allows a more comprehensive cosmetic environment to achieve maximum results with today’s technologies.

Alex Colque Plastic Surgery and Skiin antiaging lounge combined together to provide the synergy of a one-stop location to meet all of your cosmetic needs. The luxe feel upon entry of this 4,000 square foot antiaging lounge is anything but stuffy. The level of concierge service is impeccable from the appointment reservation to the service to check out. The treatments offered cater to today’s consumers who demand value and results. The Skiin menu hosts a variety of advanced skin care services with this in mind that include laser hair removal, Viora skin tightening, Oxygen Facials, Facial Peels, microdermabrasions, Coolsculpting, botox, fillers and more.

You may be spending hundreds of dollars every year on creams, lotions, therapies and facials but not seeing any results. “At Skiin, this is a common concern among our first time clients, which is why we are so committed to providing treatments with value that work, and produce results,” says Alex Colque, M.D. the plastic surgeon director of Skiin. This is also one of the reasons Skiin offers the SkiInsider membership. “Our point of difference from a service level is not only the experience and on going education of our aesthetics team, but the value we bring to guests,” says Krysa Skaramagos lead Aesthetician of Skiin.

“Our goal is to provide customized long term skin health programs for every skin type in any age group with value.

With our Skiin Signature Oxygen Facial we combine a diamond tip technology microdermabrasion treatment along with an oxygen infusion of 87 vitamins and nutrients that build and repair the barrier function of the skin.”

“Building a trusting relationship with a seasoned skin care professional is essential in result driven treatment programs,” says Chris Zajdel co-owner and director of Skiin anti-aging lounge in Waukesha. “The facial treatments we provide are not just the cleansing face wash that you may receive at other spas, but are treatment facials that are designed to give you results you can see and feel with12 | WISCONSIN WOMAN September 2014

out any down time.” Zajdel, who has nineteen years of experience in the advanced skin care industry, says she is “often amazed that we do not bat an eye to the time and money we put into our hair or nail care services, but question the time or money that may be spent on healthy youthful looking skin. Our face will show the signs of aging far sooner than our hair ever will, but we will coif, color, and cut as our hair designer suggest and panic when we can’t get in when we need to, but think twice about establishing a regular routine with our skin care specialist.”

Dr. Alex Colque, a board-certified plastic surgeon who specializes in cosmetic surgery for facial rejuvenation and body enhancements, serves as the director of Skiin. Dr. Colque does not just lend his name as medical director of Skiin, his practice is integrated into all of the anti-aging lounge treatments and enhancements. His office and practice are on site to complete the synergy of expert level cosmetic results. In addition to the non-invasive treatments offered at Skiin, he has a unique approach to cosmetic procedures of the face such as facelift, eyelid lifts, brow lift, and rhinoplasty. In Wisconsin, the most popular body enhancement surgeries are breast augmentation with implants, tummy tucks, and liposuction. Dr. Alex Colque performs these procedures with exceptional attention to detail and long-term results. He was trained by members of the group of plastic surgeons who invented the silicone breast implant and he has published research articles as well as book chapters on cosmetic breast surgery and breast implants. He combines his education, training, and experience with the most advanced technologies and techniques to give his patients outstanding, natural results.

The synergy of expertly trained, board-certified plastic surgeon Dr. Alex Colque and the experience and commitment of the aestheticians at Skiin antiaging lounge make this relationship one you will definitely want to join.

“We want to give you results that help you meet your goals of looking and feeling younger,” says Alex Colque M.D. Alex Colque Plastic Surgery and Skiin antiaging lounge are located at 21675 E. Moreland Blvd. Waukesha, WI 53186. 262-781-9000 www.lovemyskiin.com www.ACplasticsurgery.com

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This allows the dentin, which naturally yellows over time, to show through. All these changes may make you feel self-conscious, and give many a reason to hide your smile.

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ith unemployment at an all-time high, it is becoming a necessity for Americans to put their best face forward.

More of us are turning to less costly, non-invasive cosmetic “touch ups” to look competent and feel confident, whether in the workplace, or pounding the pavement.

Recession-driven job losses have put more baby boomers and workers in their 50s back into the job market, and they are competing with people in their 20s and 30s. Many are looking at improving their appearance as an investment they need to make. Fortunately, a number of safe, effective and non-invasive anti-aging treatments, offered by trained and board-certified facial plastic surgeons, are now available at competitive costs.

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for more than five decades, the FDA approved Botox in 2002 for the temporary improvement of glabellar lines, the vertical lines between eyebrows. Since its approval, millions have been treated with Botox, and to date, it is still the most requested non-invasive procedure.

2. Cosmetic Fillers: Wrinkles not only make you look older, but they can cause others to misread your emotions, especially if the wrinkles are in areas of the face normally associated with frowning or other negative expressions. Cosmetic fillers like collagen, hyaluronic acid, Restylane, Juvederm, Radiesse, Sculptra, Evolence and others add volume to the skin to soften or eliminate the appearance of wrinkles and provide a more youthful, rejuvenated appearance.

3. Laser Treatments: Non-invasive laser procedures can help reduce wrinkles around the eyes and lips, even the surface of the face, and remove blemishes like birthmarks, skin growths, acne, spider veins, warts and even some tattoos.

4. Skin Resurfacing/Rejuvenation: Chemical peeling and dermabrasion both remove aged, damaged skin cells to create a smoother, younger-looking surface.

5. Minimally Invasive Surgery: Facial plastic surgeons have developed methods for minimizing the invasiveness of some of the most popular facial surgeries, including face lifts, blepharoplasty (eyelid surgery) and rhinoplasty, reducing pain and recovery times for many patients.

6. Lip Augmentation: Several procedures are available to give lips a plumper, and youthful look while reducing fine lines around the lips.

Americans undergo more than 2 million facial plastic surgery procedures each year. If you, or a loved one, is considering enhancing your competitive edge in the workplace by improving your appearance, it’s important to find a compassionate, knowledgeable facial plastic surgeon you trust.

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MAGIC Words

CAREERS | Building Stronger Women

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hen you think of three little words that work magic, “I love you” comes to mind.

Here are four little words that work a different kind of magic and can be used in virtually any setting: “I see it differently.”

Why are these words magic? Because they change the complexion of potentially contentious discussions. Because they do away with the idea that someone must be wrong in what they see in order for you to be right. Because they allow you to add to what you already know by considering another point of view.

Let’s use a traffic accident as an example. Sometimes it is almost unbelievable to hear witness reports that bear no relation to one another. From across the street, it looked like the driver was proceeding normally through an intersection. From behind the vehicle, it was obvious that the driver was paying no attention to the traffic lights and clearly violated a red light. As a result of these different eyewitness accounts, the cause of a tragic outcome—a fatality in the vehicle struck by the driver—is in question. Who was at fault? Lawyers make a lot of money defending a specific set of facts from one point of view.

The example of blind men describing an elephant is another classic demonstration of how we know with certainty what we see and believe that anyone who disagrees with us is either wrong or woefully misinformed. The man holding the tail describes something narrow and hard. The man stroking the ear describes something flat, pliable and soft.

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The same is true for you and me when we get entangled in an argument about which we have one specific and educated point of view. When we insist that others give up what they hold to be true in order to validate what we know, we are like the blind man with the elephant part. Our stubbornness to relinquish what we know in order to learn would be funny if it weren’t so destructive. Think of a recent disagreement you had. Which person involved was willing to set aside his or her knowledge in order to truly listen and understand a different point of view? When everyone remains stiff-necked, mutual respect and collaboration are hard to come by.

Most people don’t like to admit they are wrong. Interestingly, if you can adopt the mindset of learning a bigger picture, you can move away from right and wrong. When someone has the courage to say, “I see it differently,” then explain his or her viewpoint, everyone can leave a spirited discussion smarter. What you ultimately decide may be different than what you expected. That’s fun for everyone.

It is true that we live and work in very competitive times. You may feel that if you don’t get the proper credit for your knowledge you will suffer some consequence such as losing out on a promotion or looking silly in an important meeting. These feelings are common and tough to overcome. But if you can learn to set aside your insistence on being heard and draw out other people’s perspectives, you can add significant value to every meeting you attend. The key to helping everyone get smarter is to summarize your discussion, noting the various points of view presented, and acknowledge that as a group you now have a broader understanding of the issue at hand. With this broader understanding, what is possible?

I know this sounds idealistic. I know it is difficult to work with big egos and the underlying fear that paralyzes many organizations. But the words “I see it differently” threaten no one while giving others permission to share what they see, too. How other perspectives are received has a lot to do with whether they will ever be offered again.

That’s another subject for another time.

For now, be the brave one on your team. Use the magic words.

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t seems like hacks, data breaches, stolen passwords and all around lapses in privacy protection are more prevalent more now than ever before.

Some people may feel helpless to protect themselves, especially when a retailer experiences a security breach, such as those of Target, Neiman Marcus and PF Changs in the last year.

Your Better Business Bureau® (BBB) wants you to know what to do to protect your privacy. And, no, it doesn’t mean giving up on the use of credit or debit cards.

Some of the most pervasive forms of identity theft and security breaches involve financial information obtained from your home, your insecure computers or careless use of credit or debit cards in public places.

Here are 10 steps you can take to protect your identity:

Don’t create obvious passwords. Avoid using your birth date, child’s name or birth date, mother’s maiden name or the last four digits of your Social Security number.

If you conduct business online, use your own computer. A public computer is less secure.

Never use email to communicate sensitive personal information. Don’t respond to emails asking to verify your personal information and identifiers. Neither your bank, credit card company, online payment system nor the IRS will call or email asking you for confidential information.

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Cut up expired credit and debit cards. Make sure you cut through the numbers.

Protect your Social Security number, all account numbers and passwords. Don’t carry these numbers in your wallet. Give out personal identifiers only when absolutely necessary. Beware of unsolicited e-mails and phone calls if someone asks for the numbers.

Secure personal documents at home. If you have roommates, employ outside help or have contractors in your home, make sure personal documents are in a safe place and not lying out in plain sight.

Minimize personal information printed on checks. You don’t need to include your Social Security number, driver’s license or phone number.

Monitor bank and credit card transactions for unauthorized transactions. Crooks may start with small transactions to see if you notice.

Pay attention to billing cycles. If bills don’t arrive on time, follow up with your creditors.

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GENERATIONS | parent care

CARETAKER

Preparation BY: DOUG MAYBERRY

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: It's nearing decision time. Both mom's and dad's health are failing, and we are anticipating their need for full-time hands-on care. We have three small children, but we do live locally and will be able to visit our parents often.

We have heard several different horror stories about what has happened in convalescent facilities in which family members have fallen, lost their valuables or other serious incidents. Can you recommend some guidelines to help us prepare for their future and safety?

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: Take time now to do your research and homework. Activating your decision to move your parents from their home causes all kinds of family emotional impact. Sadness, guilt, anger, regret and other misgivings can surface. Parents are possibly in pain, taking strong medications, which affect their actions, and possibly do not understand what is happening to them.

At some point, families realize it is time for them to take over their parents' responsibilities. You will find in the process you will face many challenges and stressful situations.

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You may be shocked at the high prices for full-time care. Yearly expenses range from $30,000 to $50,000 or more, which can deplete an estate quickly, if there is one.

Financial capability may determine which facility you can afford. Medicare and Medicaid eligibility for reimbursements does not pay much of the cost of long-term care, unless you are broke.

To determine the best facility for your parents, your primary considerations are based on what their needs are.

With both parents, it is even more complicated, as they probably have different problems. Your doctor can best define what they require. Heading the list of needs can include intermediate, custodial and/or skilled nursing requirements.

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You will learn attendants, who are not highly paid, are dealing with patients who are impatient and are rebelling at the lack of attention they are receiving, and are confused, fearful and lonely. When you visit, carry with you good news, not negatives. Visit and monitor them as often as possible, vary your visiting hours, and thank individual staff for their efforts in keeping your loved ones comfortable. Caretakers appreciate a box of candy and your support when you acknowledge their efforts to their supervisors.

Encourage visitors at the designated times, ask friends to send cards, make calls at appropriate hours and chat about your lifetime of fun and good times together. Sharing old photos is wonderful. If they are not on a restricted diet, share your favorite recipes with them.

When you visit, ask the supervisor if you can take your loved ones for a short walk. This can be the highlight of their day. Some facilities even allow pet visitors. Any diversion becomes a picker-upper.

Before you leave, assure your parents you will be returning soon. It is important, as they will look forward to your next visit.

Do not procrastinate now. Caretaking is an eye-opener and not an easy job. However, now it is your turn to take care of your parents and payback time for raising you.

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: My 95-year-old mother-in-law refuses to move to a safe and protective environment of assisted living. How do we get her placed when she is so stubborn? She also refuses help in the home. I need help as soon as possible. We have taken her to several places, but she still says no. : Unless you have her declared incompetent (difficult and expensive), you can’t force her to move. It sounds as if you could use some professional help. For free counseling agencies, check with your local area’s Agency on Aging. Some mediation agencies help families for no cost.

The truth is, sometimes you have to use some tough love: I love you, Mom, but I can no longer visit you when I’m so worried about you being unsafe alone in your home.

And sometimes you need to go a step further: Mom, I’m going to have to call Adult Protective Services or the district attorney, because you’re unsafe in your house and need protection.

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Then, you could try fudging: Mom, if anything happens to you, I’m afraid I might be charged with neglect. The way I figure it, we all do what we have to do to keep our parents safe. : Dad has the beginnings of dementia/Alzheimer’s. Mom very recently passed away, and Dad agreed to try an independent/assisted-living home. At first, he was somewhat happy (three days). But for the last three weeks, he is obsessed with “going home” and insists that he has his head on straight and will be OK.

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We can’t afford a full-time in-home caregiver, and want him to stay in the home. He calls 20 to 30 times a day pleading to go home. Visits have become so stressful that I no longer want to go see him. How can I convince him that the assisted-living apartment is his best option? : It takes some people a full year to adjust.

Then, most of them really like it. My own mom took that long and, unfortunately, Daddy never did get used to it.

I suggest you contact your local Alzheimer’s Association for ideas.

Also, if the folks at the facility could get him out of the room and to some activities, he’d have more fun, meet some buddies and forget to call you. Why don’t you call the activities director and ask if there’s another man willing to befriend your dad, to volunteer to pick him up for meals and activities.

For now, I’d tell Dad the doctor says he’s not ready to return home yet, that you’ll revisit the possibility in a few months. By then, he could start to like the place.

Again, his feelings are not uncommon and I know they make you feel guilty. But we dutiful children need to do what’s right for our parents, even if they don’t agree.

By the way, this sounds like a contradiction to my first answer. But if Dad has dementia and he’s already in a home, you’re in a better position than if he were still home and refusing to go.

I’d suggest you not give up and take him home then have to start the whole process again later. And if you have the energy, you could show him a few other facilities now and ask him if he’d prefer to move from his new place to another one. It’s always good to give parents choices.

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SOCIAL SECURITY MYTH DEBUNKED

Suspending belief over the ‘suspense file’

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ecently, several readers sent me yet another in the long line of damnable lies that are being spread in cyberspace about Social Security.

The salacious email reads, in part: “Once again the government has shown it can’t do anything right.

The Social Security Administration reports that it has hundreds of billions of dollars in unspent funds sitting around in something called the ‘suspense file.’ This is further proof that we can’t let the b------in Washington raise our taxes by one nickel until they get rid of all the waste, fraud and mismanagement of the tax money they already collect from us!”

The email goes on to accuse President Barack Obama of “instituting the corrupt policies that led to all this waste.”

I will use this column to give you the facts about the so-called suspense file that the Social Security Administration maintains.

The suspense file, which has been around since the 1930s (before President Obama was even born), doesn’t contain even one nickel in funds. It simply contains paper and electronic records of unreportable income. Let me explain.

When people work at a job, their employer withholds Social Security taxes (and matches that tax payment with an equal amount of money). Those withheld funds are sent directly to the U.S. Department of the Treasury -- about $2.5 billion deposited to the Treasury every day in Social Security tax collections. The government instantly spends that money for whatever the federal government spends money on -- everything from veterans hospitals to National Park SUSPENSE FILE CONT. ON PAGE 24

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Service employee salaries to NASA rockets to air traffic control computers. At the same time, the Treasury Department deposits a Treasury note into the Social Security trust funds for the money received. (Social Security currently has more than $1 trillion in Treasury notes in its funds.) Social Security checks are paid three times a month. So three times each month, SSA redeems enough Treasury bonds to cover the billions of dollars’ worth of Social Security checks it is sending out that day. The Treasury Department credits the Social Security funds for those bonds -- with interest. Social Security has been working this way for about 80 years now.

But none of this has anything to do with the suspense file. So why did I bring it up? Well, you have to go back to

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that employer sending the tax collections to the Treasury.

At the same time it sends the money to the Treasury Department, it sends a paper or electronic report to SSA listing the names of all its employees, their Social Security numbers and the total earnings reported to that person. So it is simply a report that goes to SSA. The agency takes these reports and posts earnings to the Social Security record for everyone listed on the employer’s report. That is a big part of its job -- to maintain earnings records for all Americans while they are working and to pay benefits based on those records when they retire. More than 95 percent of the time, there is no problem. These earnings are posted to the proper record, and all is right with the world.

But occasionally, there is a glitch. The name and/or SSN reported by the employer does not match the name and/or SSN in Social Security records. SSA makes some attempts to resolve the problem. It first applies tolerances to fix the issue. For example, if it sees wages reported for “Tom Margenau” and Social Security records show “Thomas Margenau” -- assuming all other information matches -- it will make the logical assumption that “Tom Margenau” and “Thomas Margenau” are the same person.

Or if it sees wages reported for Steve Jackson with SSN 123-45-6789 but Social Security records show his SSN as being 123-45-6798, it will simply presume (again, assuming all other information matches) that the last digits were transposed in processing, and it will post the income to Steve’s Social Security record.

If these tolerances don’t work, it will contact the employer to attempt to resolve the discrepancy. Or it will attempt to contact individual employees.

If these and other procedures don’t work, then SSA doesn’t know whose record should be posted with the proper earnings, so then these reports go into the suspense file. (Think of it as the reports being “suspended” until the discrepancy can be resolved.) Again, there is no money in that file. The tax collections long ago were deposited into the Treasury. It’s just the earnings report that is in suspense.

Many of these discrepant reports are eventually straightened out, properly posted to the correct SSN record and removed from the suspense file.

However, because we are talking about millions of paper reports coming in every day -- over the nearly 80-year history of the Social Security system -- unresolved reports have built up to the tune of tens of millions of records representing hundreds of billions of dollars in unreportable wages. (I can’t emphasize enough: not billions of dollars in money but billions of dollars in reports of unreportable wages.)

Obviously, there are certain classes of workers who contribute most to the suspense file. The biggest are kids -- teenagers getting their first jobs at McDonald’s, for whom Social Security means almost nothing. They frequently give their employer faulty data. Other big contributors to the suspense file are new brides who change their names and report those new names to their employers but forget to tell the government; Social Security still has the old name. Seasonal and migrant workers -- for example, those doing agricultural, landscaping or construction jobs -- are big contributors to the file, too.

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KEEP DOING WHAT YOU LOVE AS YOU GET OLDER

Advice for artists with arthritis

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tiff joints, aches, swelling and pain, this is life for many of the more than 50 million Americans, or 1 in 5 adults, who have arthritis. And they’re not necessarily old. According to the Arthritis Foundation, two-thirds of people with arthritis are younger than 65, and annually 21 million people with arthritis are affected by activity limitations.

The most common forms of arthritis are osteoarthritis, known as OA, which is a degenerative joint disease that’s known for breaking down joint cartilage, and rheumatoid arthritis, known as RA, which causes inflammation all over the body. Juvenile arthritis is any arthritis diagnosed when a patient is younger than 18.

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“It is important to do what you love when you have arthritis, because one of the greatest factors involved with improving the quality of living is motivation,” says Dr. Artemio Del Real, a primary care physician in Chicago who specializes in musculoskeletal and nervous systems. “Doing what you love will motivate you every day to get moving and be active.”

Dr. Del Real, who suggests people with arthritis should be evaluated by a doctor, also suggests stretches and exercises “that move the joint repeatedly while decreasing pain, increasing range of motion and improving the quality of moving.”

He explains that staying active is important “because the sedentary lifestyle promotes increased amounts of stiffness, decreased amounts of laxity and shortening of tissues leading to contracted joints and muscles.”

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*Get Moving

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, many people with diagnosed arthritis report “significant limitations,” such as difficulty walking a quarter-mile; stooping, bending and kneeling; or climbing stairs and engaging in social activities.

Frequent stretching and exercises like walking, swimming and biking can keep muscles and joints from getting stiff. The Arthritis Foundation, for example, offers warm-water aquatics classes on various skill levels, as well as tai chi classes for balance and flexibility.

While exercise is essential for arthritis patients, they should start slow and build up their stretching and fitness routines.

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*Making Accommodations

Just because you have arthritis doesn’t mean you have to give up your favorite activities, such as painting, sewing and crafting or others.

“If you stop doing the activities you love because of the arthritis, you let the disease control you,” says Jennifer Meyers, who was diagnosed with arthritis at age 2. “Arthritis is not a disease that you must suffer from. It is a disease you can live with daily, while making accommodations to continue to engage in activities that bring you pleasure.”

Now 28 and an office manager at Autumn Meadows senior assisted living facility, Meyers uses her firsthand experience to help others with the disease.

Many Autumn Meadows residents who have arthritis and other conditions stay active in creative ways.

“Bowling is a popular activity, yet it’s difficult for people with arthritis to grip the ball.”

Susan Masters, director and owner of Autumn Meadows, adds that the staff “introduced a Wii in (the) facilities, and the residents love to virtually participate in sports such as bowling.”

Another resident who “loves to crochet” uses bamboo needles, which are lighter and easier to handle than traditional aluminum or wood crochet needles.

Instead of giving up on a favorite activity, look for ways to ease your aches and keep enjoying what you love.

Take breaks during your activities, too, so you can rest certain muscles while engaging others. Use hand, wrist and elbow braces as needed for relief from pressure on those joints.

*Arthritis Stretching and Exercise Tips SOURCE: DR. ARTEMIO DEL REAL

1) Focus on stretching frequently throughout the day, including 10-15 repetitions every few hours “to continuously provide movement in the joints throughout the day.”

2) Stretch and move major joints like the lower back, hips, neck, shoulders and mid-back, which can significantly improve “quality of moving.”

3) Before starting any rehabilitative exercise program, discuss the program with your doctor.

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LIFESTYLE | A Man’s Perspective

Let’s Talk

this Through

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BY GRANT JOHNSON

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inner time and conversation seem to go together naturally. One of the things I enjoy most in life is having dinner with family or friends and just conversing. It seems to be harder to do these days.

With the advent of social media, my thinking is that it is making our society less and less social. Instead of talking and looking someone in the eyes, it seems easier to post in a social media outlet, text, email or, if you absolutely have to, a phone call. What a scary thought this is!

I laugh whenever I am out and see how many people are glued to and “communicating” via their smart phones. It’s not limited to just children; in fact, many adults may be even worse than the kids with this new style of non-verbal conversation.

Things get lost in translation when you don’t talk to each other. How many times has an email infuriated you, only to find out that your interpretation was misconstrued?

In business, nothing beats a face-to-face meeting. Nothing.

The same can be said for our communication with loved ones and family. I am very proud that each of our children are good, pro-active conversationalists. They are not afraid to reach out and talk to people when they meet them. You would be surprised how many people ask us how our kids became so personable. We talk to them!

In our living room there is no TV. When we moved in, people found that very odd. However, our kids would come in and sit down and talk with us, read a book or even play games together. The communication was not forced, it just happened because of the setting.

Other than church (most of the time), it seems as if everyone today is plugged in and cannot go five minutes without checking their phones, email, or social media outlets. I have even had priest’s phones go off during mass, a funeral and a wedding. They, too, have to stay connected!

One day a week we should all turn off our smart phones, unplug the cable box and shut down our outside influences, and just talk. Over a nice dinner, or even a sandwich will do. Make some lemonade or iced tea and have a little talking party. You may be surprised the things that your kids will share and the things you will learn about them and their lives.

So what day do you pick to try this? You will learn a lot by talking and listening.

•••• Grant A. Johnson is the founder and CEO of Brookfield-based Johnson Direct, a full service, measurable marketing firm. He has four children from 14 to 21 and has been married to his wife, Maria, for over 23 years.

FINANCE | with Terry Savage

Growing Older,

NOT ALONE

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BY TERRY SAVAGE

f you’re growing older, you’re not alone. Some sobering statistics from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services highlight the explosive growth of the elderly population in America. For a start, those over 65 numbered 41.4 million in 2011, an increase of 6.3 million, or 18 percent, since 2000.

Of course, young adults just “imagine” there are a lot of we “older” people — or perhaps they don’t notice them at all. But there are huge implications for those just entering the workforce. The aging of the population will bring them not only cost burdens, but tremendous opportunities for creating wealth (mostly in caring for their parents and grandparents). That may not sound very sexy, but surely technologies as yet unimagined will play a role.

But first, a closer look at the demographic facts from the survey: The Sobering Facts of Aging in America

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The older population (65+) numbered 41.4 million in 2011, an increase of 6.3 million, or 18 percent, since 2000.

And that number is projected to increase to 79.7 million in 2040.

+ The number of Americans aged 45-64 — who will reach 65 over the next two decades — increased by 33 percent during this period.

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The 85+ population is projected to increase from 5.7 million in 2011 to 14.1 million in 2040.

+ Persons reaching age 65 have an average life expectancy of an additional 19.2 years (20.4 years for females and 17.8 years for males).

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+ Older men were much more likely to be married than older women — 72 percent of men versus 45 percent of women (37 percent of older women in 2012 were widows).

+ Almost half of older women (46 percent) age 75+ live alone.

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How to Thrive: A Wise Greek Speaks the Truth About Success

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BY MARILYN PRESTON

n 2007, by any definition of success, Arianna Huffington of HuffPost fame was sitting on top of the world.

Time magazine named her one of the 100 Most Influential People on the planet. She had money, stature and extraordinary power. And she had a Greek way of pronouncing truths that still make her insights about media and politics sound like they’re coming straight from Delphi.

Huffington was flying high.

And then, in her Icarus phase, she took a big fall. She experienced a painful crack, and then, all the light poured in. She writes about it in shameless detail in her new book “Thrive,” which I read twice this summer and now want to give to every work-obsessed, stressed-out, over-connected and burned out person I know. There are so many of us.

On the morning of April 6, 2007, Huffington collapsed in her home office, mentally and physically exhausted. She hit the desk, cut her eye, broke her collarbone, and ended up in a pool of blood. In some circles, this is called doing a “Hillary.”

Looking back — as in the classic, life only makes sense in retrospect — Huffington tells us it was her aha moment, the start of a profound journey that finally woke her up to the out-of-control mess her life had become.

“I was working 18 hours a day, seven days a week,” Huffington writes. She was overstressed, over-connected and sleep-deprived, trying to keep up in a sterile corporate world of men in suits and women in fear.

“Was this what success looked like?” she asked herself.

“Is this the life I wanted?”

That’s when Huffington realized she had to change ...

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+ Social Security constituted 90 percent or more of the income received by 36 percent of beneficiaries in 2010 (23 percent of married couples and 46 percent of non-married beneficiaries).

+ Almost 3.6 million elderly persons (8.7 percent) were below the poverty level in 2011. But measured by the Census Bureau’s new Supplemental Poverty Measure, which better measures medical expenses of the elderly, the poverty level for older persons would be 15.1 percent (more than 6 percentage points higher than the official rate of 8.7 percent).

The Impact on the Generations

For those in “middle age,” the impact of these statistics is simple. You must save more for retirement. Those in their 40s and 50s will follow the huge baby boom generation through the health care system. By then we will have new technologies and hopefully a more cost-effective delivery system. But by then the government will be far less able to extend benefits to all (Medicare).

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change her life, change her habits, and change the workplace to help others thrive, too. Most notably, she had to change her definition of success.

Our current definition is “toxic and unsustainable,” she writes. It comes from a male-dominated workplace culture that is “fueled by stress, sleep deprivation and burnout.”

In that culture, success is all about money and power and long nights at the office, and nothing about living the good life, slowing down, finding joy in the moment, wonder in the world.

“To live the lives we truly want and deserve, and not just the lives we settle for,” writes Arianna, “we need a Third Metric, a third measure that goes beyond the two metrics of money and power, and consists of four pillars: well being, wisdom, wonder and giving.”

You go, girl. Those four pillars are the backbone of her book, and increasingly, her own life. In “Thrive,” she details what her life looks like now, compared to then, when she sacrificed her well-being and forgot that the purpose of life is to be happy, and help make others happy, too.

Now Huffington makes time in her crazy busy life for meditation, deep breathing, long walks, exercise and yoga — all ways she recharges and revitalizes on a regular basis.

She now calls herself a shameless “sleep evangelist,” who gets at least eight hours of sleep a night and pleads with her readers to figure out what they need ... or else.

“Cheating your body of the R & R it needs can make you more prone to illness, stress, traffic accidents and weight gain,” she writes, backing up this and dozens of other health claims with lots of studies and statistics.

Put bedtime on your schedule! Set a clock at night, not to wake up, but to remind you to go to sleep and take naps. vide fertile opportunities for growing your wealth — if government does not get in the way. The same generation for whom video games were designed will now be turning those talents into businesses serving the aging population.

We haven’t seen anything yet when it comes to diagnostic imaging, or even physical therapies.

It’s truly a “glass half full or half empty” scenario. Yes, the elderly will drain the Social Security “trust funds” before millennials have a chance to benefit. But those younger workers may have a chance to buy the seniors’ homes at bargain prices, as they must raise cash to pay for their elder years. And even as millennials benefit from investments in technology, nanotechnology, health care and energy self-sufficiency, America may find jobs for the less skilled in taking physical care of the elderly.

America has always figured out a way to survive and prosper. But first we must face the facts of our economy — and our demographics. Only a realistic assessment of our needs and skills will equip us to grow into a positive future.

And that’s The Savage Truth.

TERRY SAVAGE IS A REGISTERED INVESTMENT ADVISER AND IS ON THE BOARD OF THE CHICAGO MERCANTILE EXCHANGE. SHE APPEARS WEEKLY ON WMAQ-CHANNEL 5’S 4:30 P.M. NEWSCAST, AND CAN BE REACHED AT WWW.TERRYSAVAGE.COM.

LIFESTYLE | In Fashion

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THE NEW ORDER

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K, we’re not brokering World Peace. But, having a simple approach to your wardrobe can go a long way to creating some peace in your world.

Taking the time to be realistic about your lifestyle is the first step to fashion freedom. What are the absolute, non-negotiable necessities you need for your core wardrobe? What are the pieces that will work for any eventuality? A sample list might include:

• Black pants (at least 2 pair) • White shirt or other layering piece • Blazer/Jacket • A “Go To” dress – one that works for a funeral or a cocktail party • Cardigan sweater • A great pair of jeans • A dress suitable for a black tie occasion (short or long) Take another look at this list: a mere eight pieces that would take you around the world (or around town).

A few pieces of jewelry, scarves, and a couple pairs of really good shoes (flats, pumps) will add variety.

Statistics show that we wear only 20% of what we have in our closets! Do the math: 100 pieces in your closet? You are only wearing 20! The rest is clutter and fills our days with fashion angst.

This month’s column is short and simple – good bye-words for your closet.

Remember: You Don’t Need A Lot of Clothes. You Just Need The Right Clothes.

Oh, and never wear anything you don’t love.

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AT HOME | Recipes

Bring Out the Best of Fruits and Vegetables

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e all want to eat more vegetables — and in the summer and fall, when farmers markets and grocery stores are filled with fresh, colorful produce, it’s easier than ever. From juicy red tomatoes and yellow sweet corn to vibrant green broccoli, seasonal produce can be even more enjoy­able with the addition of spices and herbs.

“I’m always thinking about ways to make vegetables taste great and be more healthful and exciting — other than just adding butter and salt,” said registered dietitian Wendy Bazilian. “Adding spices and herbs is easy to do, and they only cost pennies per serving. Plus, they’re already in your kitchen.”

To add flavor to everyday vegetable favorites like zucchini and carrots, Bazilian recommends an easy rule of thumb: start with 1/4 teaspoon of spices and herbs, such as basil and oregano, per cup of veggies, along with a splash of citrus juice or olive oil.

“You can also dial up the flavor depending on the cooking method,” Bazilian said. “Roasting vegetables like broccoli and tomatoes creates a caramelized flavor that pairs deliciously with garlic, basil, oregano, honey and white vinegar. Grilling vegetables gives a smoky, charred flavor. Or, let the natural flavor of green beans shine by steaming them with rosemary and thyme.”

Try these simple flavor tips to season your favorite vegetables.

ROASTED BROCCOLI & TOMATOES Servings: 4 1 tablespoon olive oil

1 teaspoon McCormick Garlic Powder 1/4 teaspoon McCormick Coarse Ground Black Pepper 12 ounces broccoli florets

1 cup cherry or grape tomatoes

1 tablespoon white wine vinegar

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Preheat oven to 425°F. Mix oil, garlic powder and pepper in large bowl.

Add broccoli and tomatoes; toss to coat well. Spread in single layer on foil-lined 15-by-10-by-1-inch baking pan.

Roast in oven 13–15 minutes or until broccoli is lightly browned.

Meanwhile, mix vinegar, honey, basil and oregano in small bowl. Drizzle over roasted vegetables after removing from oven; toss to coat well. Serve immediately.

GLAZED CINNAMON APPLES Servings: 7 Cooking Time: 3 hours

6 large tart apples 2 Tbsp. lemon juice 1/2 cup packed brown sugar 1/2 cup sugar 2 Tbsp. all-purpose flour 1 tsp. ground cinnamon 1/4 tsp. ground nutmeg 6 Tbsp. butter, melted Vanilla ice cream

Peel, core and cut each apple into eight wedges; transfer to a 3-qt. slow cooker. Drizzle with lemon juice.

Combine the sugars, flour, cinnamon and nutmeg; sprinkle over apples.

Drizzle with butter.

Cover and cook on low for three to four hours or until apples are tender.

Serve in dessert dishes with ice cream.

MIXED VEGETABLE GRILL Servings: 6 1 tablespoon light brown sugar

1 1/2 teaspoons McCormick Basil Leaves 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon McCormick Garlic Powder 1/8 teaspoon McCormick Ground Black Pepper

2 tablespoons olive oil

6 cups assorted cut-up vegetables, such as asparagus, bell peppers, zucchini, yellow squash, red onion and small sweet potato Mix brown sugar, basil, salt, garlic powder, and pepper in small bowl.

In large bowl, drizzle oil over vegetables; toss to coat well. Add seasoning mixture; toss to coat well.

Place vegetables in grill basket or rack, or thread onto skewers.

Grill over medium heat 10–12 minutes or until vegetables are tender, turning occasionally.

Kitchen tip: If using sweet potatoes, pierce them with fork and microwave two to three minutes on high or until tender.

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How Can You Set a Good FINANCIAL EXAMPLE for Your Kids?

BY CARRIE SCHWAB-POMERANTZ

Dear Carrie: My dad was a great provider when we were growing up. He worked at the same company for more than 35 years and even has a pension.

It’s such a different world today. How can I be the best example and provide for my kids when the job market is so uncertain?

— A Reader Dear Reader: I love questions like this because they give me the chance to restate some old-fashioned values that most likely our fathers shared — and that still hold true. Yes, the economy is more uncertain, the job market has changed, and traditional pensions have pretty much disappeared.

But the foundation upon which both your father and mine built their financial lives has more or less stayed the same.

That foundation put hard work and wise money management front and center.

And to me, if you can pass those principles on to your children — and lead by example — you’ll prepare your kids for whatever the future holds. Because, just as our world is different from our fathers’, our kids’ world is bound to be different from ours.

Here are some tried and true ways to help you create more financial stability for you and your children in spite of these uncertain times.

LIVE BELOW YOUR MEANS

Simple as it sounds, this is hard for most people to do. We’re bombarded with the idea that we must have the next new thing. But do we? This harkens back to the basic concept of “needs” versus “wants.”

Some things are essential, like housing, food, insurance and transportation.

Others are “nice-to-haves,” like travel, the latest technology or the most recent fashion fad. Look at your own life and see if you have established clear priorities.

Start by making sure you have a workable budget, clearly outlining your needs and wants and how much money you have to put toward each. Then make a commitment to stick to it. Review it periodically; even share it with your kids as appropriate.

I’m not saying you always have to deny yourself. I’m just suggesting that you carefully consider each expenditure and make a conscious choice about it. If it’s something your kids want, involve them in the decision-making. And if it will push you beyond your means, be honest about that.

MAKE SAVING MONEY A PART OF EVERYDAY LIFE

By making a conscious decision about every purchase, you’ll also be able to see where you can save. And saving is an old-fashioned value that never goes out of favor. It’s essential, especially for retirement. Your dad is one of the lucky ones with a pension. Today, we have to create our own retirement security.

Set some savings goals and talk to your kids about them. When they can’t have something they want, tell them where that money is going instead. It may be toward your retirement, their education or a family vacation. Whatever your goals, help your kids see the importance of working toward them. You might even have them contribute in some way.

AVOID BAD DEBT

This goes hand in hand with living below your means. By bad debt I mean highcost consumer debt, such as credit cards. If the only way to buy something is on credit — and you can’t pay off the balance when you get the bill — you should proceed with caution.

That doesn’t mean avoid all debt. A debt such as a mortgage or student loan can actually work in your favor by providing opportunity in a low-cost, tax-deductible way. On the other hand, credit card debt is costly, especially over time, and can derail your other financial plans if it gets out of control.

Sure, credit cards make life easier. But teach your kids how to use them wisely — and make sure you always do the same.

GET YOUR KIDS INVOLVED EARLY

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PETS | Dog Talk

BENJI and the Bickersons I recently had the pleasure of meeting Benji, a 1-year-old German shepherd pup.

Rarely do I meet a dog I don’t like, but shepherds hold a special place in my heart. We have two in the family right now.

The German Shepherd is smart, sensitive and strong, equal parts soldier and sidekick, as comfortable in a police car as he is in a nursery. The American Kennel Club describes this marvelous breed as follows: “Energetic and fun-loving, the breed is very fond of children once a relationship is established. It is a loyal family pet and a good guard dog, the ideal choice for many families.”

Loyal and protective — desirable qualities in any family dog. But what happens when family members disagree on how to nurture these attributes?

Meet the Bickersons

Mama Bickerson wants a family dog, a fun, friendly companion she can walk through their neighborhood, sit with at a cafe and play with in the park.

Papa Bickerson wants a guard dog who will intimidate potential intruders and take down those who persist.

While these two wants are not mutually exclusive, attitude, as Winston Churchill said, “is a little thing that makes a big difference.”

Mama Bickerson’s attitude is loose and loving — and utterly lacking in boundaries. While it’s neither appropriate or effective to lay down the law too soon with a pup, Benji is now 1, which is plenty old enough to have a solid foundational education under his collar.

Papa Bickerson’s approach, on the other hand, is rigid and self-righteous and flat-out wrong. In his efforts to evoke the protective nature of his pup, he confuses protection with aggression and encourages the latter. He refuses to neuter Benji and takes games of tugof-war to an extreme, pushing Benji to a growling, snarling state no dog should ever reach.

The proof is in the pudding. Benji now lunges at other dogs at the vet’s office, and Mama no longer feels comfortable walking him in their neighborhood. In short, Benji is aggressive.

Thankfully, Benji is also young and smart, and it’s not too late to turn things around. But the first thing to turn has got to be the ‘tude — the ‘tude about training and the ‘tude about the neut. This little shep needs to be neutered — yesterday.

Once that’s taken care of, he needs to be professionally trained — and you can’t train for protection without first training for obedience. Obedience training is the foundation for good canine citizenship and a stepingstone to advanced learning. Police dogs, therapy dogs, bomb-sniffing dogs, searchand-rescue dogs, agility masters, competitive show dogs, hunting dogs — they all got their start in basic obedience.

The good news for Benji and the Bickersons: The path to fostering an exceptional family dog is exactly the same.

Woof!

Dog trainer Matthew “Uncle Matty” Margolis is co-author of 18 books about dogs, a behaviorist, a popular radio and television guest, and host of the PBS series “WOOF! It’s a Dog’s Life!” Read all of Uncle Matty’s columns at www.creators.com, and visit him at www.unclematty.com.

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LIFESTYLE | Entertainment

September ACTIVITIES FOR ALL

Apple Harvest Festival September 20 Retzer Nature Center S14 W28167 Madison St., Waukesha Family festival with activities for children, concert, artist/exhibitors, food, pies and much more. 9 a.m. – 5 p.m., 262-8968007.

WHERE TO GO

INDOOR ACTIVITIES Artist & Display Classes 9015 W Burleigh St., Milwaukee Adult and children’s classes ongoing through the seasons. Visit artistanddisplayonline.com for more information.

Sherlock Holmes – The Baker Street Irregulars October 17 – November 15 First Stage Children’s Theater Todd Wehr Theater, 929 N Water St. Sherlock Holmes is missing, crime everywhere, who will help the people of London? The gang of street kids hired by Sherlock himself help solve the case. Visit firststage.org or call 414-267-2961.

The Lion King November 11 – December 7 Marcus Center for the Performing Arts 929 N Water St. Milwaukee’s best-loved musical makes a triumphant return. Be sure to get your tickets to this spectacular experience. Visit marcuscenter.org or call 414-273-7206.

The Milwaukee Art Museum 700 N. Art Museum Dr., Milwaukee. Visit www.mam.org or call 414-224-3200 for hours. Visit during Target free first Thursdays from 10 a.m. – 8 p.m. New Exhibit opening October 2 – January 4, http://mam.org/exhibitions/details/ of-heaven-and-earth.php” Of Heaven and Earth: 500 Years of Italian Painting from Glasgow Museums.

OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES Harvest of Arts & Crafts Festival September 6 & 7 Trimborn Farm, 8881 West Grange Ave., Greendale Open from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m., shuttle bus for parking, visit milwaukeehistory.net or call 414-273-8288.

5K Run/Walks/Golf Children’s Hospital Tee Up Fore Kids September 8 Milwaukee Country Club 8000 N. Range Line Rd., River Hills Call for information at 414-266-6100.

Cedarburg’s Wine & Harvest Festival September 20-21 Historic Cedarburg Visit the Cedar Creek Winery; enjoy the food, marketplace, scarecrow contest and much more. Cedarburgfestivals.org

40th Annual Holy Hill Arts & Craft Fair September 20 Holy Hill, 1525 Carmel Rd., Hubertus Enjoy shuttle bus service from and to parking, food, parish pantry booth, entertainment, refreshments, door prizes and much more. Open from 10 a.m. – 5 p.m., admission $5, Children 12 and under free. Visit: holyhillartsand craftsfair.com for details.

Cheery Cherry Fall Fair September 28 Village Park, Appleton Ave and Garfield Dr, Menomonee Falls Proceeds will benefit the Emergency Dept., at Community Memorial Hospital.

Crafters, artists, cherry booth, food, and much more, 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. Visit cheerycherryfallfair.com.

Walk to End Alzheimer’s October 4 Mount Mary University 2900 N Menomonee River Parkway, Milwaukee Route length includes 2, 3 and 4 mile routes. Visit www.alz.org

Move Your Mutt for Haws 5K/10K Run & Walk October 19 Genesee Lake Road Park 37505 Genesee Lake Rd., Oconomowoc Take your pet out for a 5K timed race or consider running the 10 k without Fido.

Visit www.haswpets.org.

SHOPPING Bayshore Town Mall Located at 5800 N. Bayshore Dr., Glendale. Make sure you plan ahead and make reservations at any one of their fine restaurants. Call guest services for more information 414-963-8780.

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Take the kids to one of Milwaukee County Parks, visit county.milwaukee.gov/Parks for all the parks in your area.

RELAXATION The Sundara Inn & Spa 920 Canyon Road, Wisconsin Dells. Call 1-888-735-8181 or visit www. sundaraspa.com to learn all about the special offerings..

Retzer Nature Center S14 W28167 Madison St. Waukesha Call for program registration at 262-970-6680 or visit waukeshacountyparks.com. In Waukesha visit www.waukeshacounty.gov/parks and get the kids outdoors.

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with. As early as age 5 or 6, kids can start to handle a small amount of money and make decisions.

Consider giving your kids an allowance and make them responsible for certain things, even if it’s just a treat or a movie. Open a savings account and have them put part of their allowance or money gifts toward a future goal. You might offer to match their savings as an incentive.

Once your kids are old enough to have earned income, you could open a custodial IRA and get them sav-

ing for retirement early. And when they’re young teens, you can start to explain the basics of investing, focusing on the need to diversify and the importance of thinking long term.

These aren’t new ideas.

You probably heard some of them from your father. I certainly did! And I’m grateful to my dad for always being a good example, as yours is.

Now it’s our turn to teach our kids that while times change, certain values remain the same. That’s not old-fashioned; it’s just smart.

Join us for the 2014 Women in Science Lecture Series!

Showcasing the achievements of local female physicians and scientists.

Dr. Diane Book Female physicians and scientists at the Medical College of Wisconsin are making discoveries that save lives and improve treatments for patients with complex injuries and diseases. Women in Science membership gives you access to these distinguished women and their exciting and innovative medical research. Come to network and be inspired!

Modern Stroke Care: What Should You Expect?

Diane S. Book, MD

Associate Professor of Neurology, Medical College of Wisconsin Co-Director of the Stroke & Nuerovascular Program, Froedert & MCW Wednesday, September 17, 2014 Registration and social time - 11:30 a.m. • Luncheon and presentation - noon – 1:30 p.m.

Woman’s Club of Wisconsin • 813 East Kilbourn Avenue, Milwaukee Free valet parking

Incidence of stroke has increased in the last decade and is now the leading cause of disability in the United States. Thankfully, great progress has been made in diagnosis and treatment of stroke. Dr. Book will share breakthroughs in aggressive stroke therapies being used today, and reveal findings of current stroke research.

Come to learn how proper initial care can minimize the negative effects of a stroke.

Call 414-955-4717 for registration information or visit www.mcwedu/womeninscience

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