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FEATURE Wendy Miller and the Wonder Women of Erie
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TECH What’s Next Alexa?
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SELF DISCOVERY What’s the Deal with Anger?
W WENDY MILLER: ERIE’S WONDER WOMEN
Wendy Miller would like to honor all of the Mothers out there. “We are all Super Moms in our own right. I am very humbled and honored to be recognized.”
ELIFE: Tell us where you are from originally and a bit about your family.
Wendy: My family has lived in Erie for 13 years. I have been a Certified Wound/Ostomy Nurse at Good Samaritan Medical Center in Lafayette for over 10 years. My husband Bruce is from Cedar Rapids Iowa, he owns a manufacturer rep company. My daughter Makenna and I are both Colorado natives, she is 11; she’s a 6th grader at Soaring Heights PK-8. She loves it there, go Eagles! We have two fur babies, both are 5-year-old cream retrievers. We have had Bailey since he was a puppy, but Lily is a rescue and we just adopted her last summer. You don’t know the look of true gratitude until you look at the way a rescue dog looks at you when you show them love. We are also the proud family to a hedgehog named Squirt who joined us in November.
ELIFE: How do you spend your time? Wendy: As a family we love to camp, golf, ski, fly fish, and hang out with fun people. We have an amazing friend tribe in Erie. I have a strong women tribe; I play in the CNCG 9-hole Women’s league. I have women that I take girls trips with and that I adore and admire beyond belief. I try to stay active; I am a member at Raw Fitness. Makenna has a girl tribe of her own, she runs cross-country, track, plays volleyball, and loves to cook, loves performing in drama. My husband has amazing friends that he hunts and fishes with. We truly are blessed to live here and could not ask for more.
“We are all Super Moms in our own right. I am very humbled and honored to be recognized.”
ELIFE: What is your Mom Philosophy? Wendy: We are not here to compete with anyone. Being a Mom, just like any relationship is about our personal journeys with our children, our fur-babies, or whoever may refer to you as Mom. I am also a strong believer in that an attitude of gratitude is something important to instill in our children. I am grateful for the opportunities being a Mother has gifted me and I work to teach Makenna to appreciate everything.
ELIFE: What are your mom duties? Wendy: I’ve coached Makenna’s soccer teams and Odyssey of the Mind, helped at cross-country meets, been room Mom, was on the PTO, and am her biggest cheerleader at all of her events. But my favorite Mom duty is just spending time with her and checking in, seeing how her friendships are going, listening to every little thing she wants to tell me about her day. She truly is wise beyond her years.
ELIFE: How do you find balance being a working mom? Wendy: I am very involved in many councils at my hospital. The work that really speaks to who I am and helps bring everything together for me is my Caring Council work. This work allows me to really connect with my co-workers and patients on a level that truly speaks to my heart and soul. I was fortunate enough to become a Caritas Coach over a year ago (Dr. Jean Watson’s theory of human caring), which has helped me grow as a person, a clinician, and a Mom. I am a student of healing touch and utilize these techniques for energy balancing. I have been able to take these learnings and incorporate them into everything I do, including being a Mom. I love being able to teach Makenna the importance of doing everything from a place of love, the importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and most of all having fun and finding joy in all she does. I have to give props to my husband Bruce, he is such a good Father to our family, it makes this Mama’s journey so much better.
ERIE’S WONDER WOMEN LINDSEY MCMORRAN
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give back to others and to teach our children to do the same. She started the Here with Hope Foundation to help families affected by childhood cancer pay their mortgage but she doesn’t stop with just that. She and our kids really get involved and spend time playing with the children and have even created day camps to get them all together. She is truly leading by example and teaching our kids to be kind and generous and make a difference in the lives of others. We moved to Colorado a little less than a year ago and she not only works with her non-profit but she’s gotten very involved with our community here as well and is sitting on committees for numerous other large organizations and events. She is a great wife and is our SUPER mom. -Brandon McMorran
BRIE FOWLER is one of the most driven and passionate women I’ve ever met. She naturally fits the Wonder Woman role, always striving to be the upmost value to everyone of our clients, by being a board member of the Erie Economic Development Council, bringing Up with People to Erie, working hard to raise money for the Erie Community Food Bank, coordinating events for Erie Village, and raising 4 kids while still being “present in the moment”, and doing it all with a smile on her face. Brie’s passion is a true guiding light, as she is extremely invested in being a good person and lifting others up along the way. -Brandon Rearick
SAMANTHA NOVAK HOSMER This woman would literally give you the shirt off her back! Not only does she work at Skirt Sports in Boulder and has a leadership position with the Running Start non-profit program that helps women overcome barriers to get active again. She volunteers countless hours at Erie Elementary and Erie Middle school where her kids attend but also has been seen handing out bags and collecting goods for the Erie Food Bank! She does not let political and religious differences come between her and her neighbors - she shows love to all of them! As a new member of the community she came along side me and my family to make us feel welcome and offering a helping hand whenever it was needed! This woman is definitely a SUPERMOM in my eyes!!!! I could go on and on!!! Love you Sam!!! -Kristen Robinson Butler
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JESSICA MORRIS After the unexpected death of her husband 2 1/2 weeks after their son was born, Jessica had to learn how to not only be a mom but how to continue to move forward as a widow. She found strength in her son and the community and she will raise him to pay it forward as they are able. -Trisha Ventker
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What’s New Alexa? All right; I can hear the boos and the naysayers’ castigating banter already. Maybe, they, like the great generals of time, including Washington, Grant and Patton warned are the problem not the solution or as the old adage relates, “if they’re not with us they’re against us”! Sure, each generation develops technology to make the next generation’s lives easier, and therefore better we all believe. I’ve yet to understand that form of “better” for the past six decades. Let me go to my office, get my trusty Webster’s Dictionary and look it up along with the other puzzling contextually different words for the thousandth time; no wait, I don’t need to expend that much energy! I resign to call out, “Alexa, what does “better” mean”. “Let me see, do you want the definition of the word “better”, John?”, the little interactive computer responds. Poor Alexa; what I require is the meaning not a denotation of the word or comparative degree of another word, namely “good”. I need the “meaning” of an old adjective or its implicative value for our contemporary and future-tense worlds. Poorer me, I thought, for I, too have become the problem not the solution! Who’s the robot here? I then get a remote visual of the oversized “Robbie, the Robot” from the all but inane 60’s Sci-Fi episodic sitcom-drama, for a better term “Lost in Space” exalting, “Danger, Will Robinson - Danger!!!”.
Due to a late winter cold, which perennially morphs into bronchitis, knee, hand and shoulder arthritis and of course work-related stress, I couldn’t sleep one night recently, and decided to watch the late night inevitable myriad television infomercials just before dawn. Groggy but still somewhat alert, I was virtually shocked by one. It starts with a middle-aged woman showering with a broad smile while soaping up as a man’s voice interposes drawing the bather’s attention. Pulling back the curtain and still smiling while looking into the camera, the woman’s face changes to a lament when the voice asks, “How about that hard to reach place? How do you know if you’re truly clean there?” The woman then looks over her shoulder (as if one could or can really see one’s backside), as her face turns, exhibiting sadness to incredulity looking back at the camera. Then the voice returns stating that the young woman is in luck! “Now there’s “Shiny Hiney” to the rescue!”, it announces, assuaging the bather, while the strange and uninvited sales representative extends his arm and hands her an implement of about two feet in length, crooked about two thirds of the way down at a 30 degree angle.
Then the voice returns stating that the young woman is in luck! “Now there’s “Shiny Hiney” to the rescue!”, it announces, assuaging the bather, while the strange and uninvited sales representative extends his arm and hands her an implement of about two feet in length, crooked about two thirds of the way down at a 30 degree angle accompanied on one end by a small bristle brush about the size and shape of a very large acorn! The announcer also reminds the tub-bound as well as the viewing audience that “Shiny Hiney” comes with a variety of aromatically scented soaps, and if you order now, you’ll receive two “Shiny Heinies” for no extra charge except for nominal shipping and handling charges! Call now and save”! The ad ends with a fully sated young woman standing in a bathrobe smiling more broadly than before, proudly holding her “Shiny Hiney” (the implement, not her derrière, of course) high up in front of the camera. Good God, I thought; we’re worse now than the decadent Roman Empire just before the fall!! Sure, I’m very glad for such inventions as the telephone, television, dishwasher, microwave oven and who could forget the great computer and all it does for us when not robbing us of our dwindling work ethic these past few decades. Sure I’m all for major breakthroughs in the worlds of science and medicine with the ultimate intention of prolonging human life as it evolves from one century to the next. Sure I’m a great proponent of human upward mobility and advancement across the board. But (maybe I should’ve used “however” there) do we truly need half of these so-called “make my life easier” inventions we obsessively pursue? From the electric toothbrush to the “Thigh Master” or “Ab Cruncher” (which I confess my family purchased both back in the 80’s and rarely used both after they arrived via FedEx or UPS, I can’t remember), from the plethora of video game player consoles to the smart boards in the classroom, from the electric “Smart Cars” to the even “Smart(er) iPhone”, our civilization has certainly benefitted from the
great inventors trying to rival the DaVincis and the Edisons of the past. I’m just not “buying” the need to replace every old (and still functioning) commodity for the “new and improved” versions. There’s really nothing comparable to that satisfying sense of accomplishment when I choose the ax over the chain saw when the need to provide fire wood outweighs the option to turn up the thermostat supporting the everincreasing price of oil heat in our house. Even the stairs, especially downward in lieu of the elevator, despite my claustrophobia growing as I age is preferable these days. So, allow me to go put on some old Allman Brothers and Grateful Dead vinyl records on my turntable while I trim my hedges and bushes for the last time before winter sets in, with of course handheld, non electric clippers standing on my old worse for wear wooden ladder. I may even forgo the plastic bags the town provides us for yard waste and use the paper version one has the option to choose this time of year. When I’m done, I’ll shower like the attractive middleaged T.V. babe does in the odd commercial, and without a doubt leave the tub with a confidently clean, but regrettably non shiny hiney without the aromatically scented soap usage the ad urges. I think I’ll survive, as I have for the past 64 years, and who knows, with the exercise I engage in by not entirely depending on the electronic “thisses and thats” I may make it another 20 or so. Oh no, where did I put it? “Alexa, where do you think I left my arthritis medication”?
John J.K. Small has taught High School English and History courses for 36 years and College Education and English courses for the past 22. He has been the copy editor for ELIFE and NoCo magazines, contributing multiple articles for the past four and two years respectively. Constructing a myriad of business plans, marketing strategy overviews and power point presentations, John has assisted several entrepreneurs as well, during that span. John lives with his wife and son in New York.
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WHATâ€™S THE DEAL WITH ANGER? BY LISA NELSON
WHATâ€™S THE DEAL WITH ANGER?
Have you ever wondered why we get angry? Honestly, I would like to erase the word anger from our thoughts and dictionaries. It really gives us little more than a small window into another person’s feelings. The word itself has no depth. I’d much rather hear “I’m frustrated” or “I’m disappointed” than “I’m angry”. I don’t learn anything from hearing it. According to psychologist Daniel Goleman, “Emotions are, in essence, impulses to act, the instant plans for handling life that evolution has instilled in us.” In his book Emotional Intelligence, Goleman tells us that anger causes blood to flow to our hands, making it easier for us to strike an enemy or hold a weapon. Our heart rate speeds up and a rush of hormones – including adrenaline create a surge of energy strong enough to take “vigorous action.” In this way, anger has been ingrained into our brain to protect us. This is evolutionally important, for humans needed to run from the tiger or kill the food needed to survive 100,000 years ago. However, we no longer need this level of response, so we need to listen to our body cues to help us stay in a healthy response to our circumstance. Think of anger like an iceberg. Most of the iceberg is hidden below the surface of the water. Similarly, when we are angry, there are other deeper and more meaningful emotions hidden beneath the surface. It’s easy to see a person’s anger, but it can be difficult to see the underlying feelings the anger is protecting. For example, Joshua believed he had an anger problem. When his wife would make a request of him, he would criticize her. He didn’t like his reactions, but he felt he couldn’t help it. As he worked on mindfulness and started noticing the space between his anger and his actions, he “opened up the door” into a profound realization: he didn’t really have an anger problem. Instead, he felt like his wife was placing impossible demands on him. By seeking to understand and accept his true feelings, rather than using a single word to express his reaction, Joshua was able to learn something much deeper.
WHAT’S THE DEAL WITH ANGER? In doing so, he began to improve his marriage by recognizing his anger as a signal that he needed to set healthy boundaries for what he would and would not do. He learned to state that “I’m feeling overwhelmed by all of this. Can we prioritize some of these requests?” or even “You may feel that this is a priority, but I do not see it as valuable.” As Susan David, Ph.D., author of Emotional Agility says, “Our raw feelings can be the messengers we need to teach us things about ourselves and can prompt insights into important life directions.” Her point is that there is more below the surface of our anger. Therefore, it would be better to take the “anger” word out of our vocabulary and say how we really are feeling! Anger is often described as a “secondary emotion”, for people tend to use it to protect their own raw, vulnerable, overwhelming feelings. Underneath Joshua’s initial feelings of anger was pure exhaustion and feeling that he wasn’t good enough for his wife. Therefore, his anger was protecting him from the painful feelings of not being good enough. Learning to recognize this as a protector of our raw feelings can be incredibly powerful. It can lead to significantly healing conversations that allow all of us to understand each other better. When we are faced with the loud voice or red face of a child or partner, we become defensive. We want to fight back as our own anger boils to the surface. If this happens, we get in a heated battle of “who’s anger will win the day” - which only leaves everyone feeling unheard and hurt. Nothing is solved. Nothing is understood. The relationship is not enhanced, it is harmed.
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Here are a few ideas of how to be in this differently:
1. Step out of the way of this being about you. Your partner or child’s anger is usually not about you. It’s about their underlying primary feelings that are connected to their own perspectives and life experience. SO, not taking this personally takes a high level of emotional intelligence. Give yourself time to grow into seeing this differently. One of the ways I do this is by becoming curious of why they’re acting the way theyare. It’s much easier for me to become defensive, but I’ve found thinking, “Wow, this is avery heightened emotional state I am seeing…..why is that?” leads me to think moreabout what is really happening for them. My curiosity can actually bring us closer together.
2. Telling an angry person to “calm down” always backfires. When I work with couples and one of the partners get angry, often the other partner will say, “Calm down” or “You’re overreacting.” This tells the recipient that his/her feelings don’t matter and they are not acceptable. Try saying something like, “I understand that you are upset. What are you feeling exactly? What do you need?” The goal here is not to change or fix your partner’s emotions but rather to sit with him or her(and their anger icebergs). Communicate that you understand and accept their feelings.When you do this well, your partner’s anger will subside and the real emotion will rise tothe surface (not to mention they will feel heard by you, which builds trust over time).
3. What are you bringing to this anger dance? Maybe you grew up in a family where anger wasn’t allowed, so when your partner expresses it, it feels paralyzing and you freeze. Or maybe you try to solve their anger for them because their anger scares you. Open yourself up to experience you and your partner’s full spectrum of emotions without judgment. Try to simply notice them. The bottom line is that people feel a wide variety of emotions for a reason. It’s your job to try your best to understand and sit with them in it - NOT TO FIX IT! By doing so, you will not only help them to understand their anger, but you will become closer to them in the process.
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Raising 2 puppies at the same time can be challenging! Considering that she has little time and space to train, rehoming one of the dogs might be the best option to ensure that each dog’s needs for individualized attention are met.
Crate the puppies separately, in different rooms, to avoid togetherness addiction/ separation anxiety
Walk the puppies separately-to avoid leash reactivity
Train the puppies separately- to improve handler focus and obedience skills
Take the puppies out to socialize separately - so they can develop diverse socializing skills and can learn to be confident around new people and environments.
Sign them up for separate training classes - so they can learn to depend on their handler for guidance, instead of their littermate.
Its best to add each puppy to your family at least 6 months apart to avoid the pitfalls of “Littermate Syndrome.” When raising puppies together, its important they get individualized attention. Try not to treat them as a single unit, otherwise, they can bond strongly to each other, and not to the humans.
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The dogs can develop an unhealthy dependency to each other. This strong togetherness addiction leads to significant separation anxiety.
They can become aggressive to each other as they reach maturity
If not socialized individually, they can be fearful of new situations and people
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