Spiritual Somatics Coaching Techniques:
Establishing a Destination Vibration and Eliciting Soul Intentions
Many clients do not consciously know why they are coming to us. Their Souls, Guides, Ancestors are guiding them to us. Our job is to read between the lines and hear with our Hearts.
The initial intake form and session are places to collect data on what the client explicitly wants, and what might be sublimated Heart desires beneath these wants (i.e. “I want a partner,” means “I don’t want to feel lonely. I want to be connected to my Heart.” OR “I want to a job where I am valued and important,” means “I feel undervalued and I want to feel aligned with my Soul Purpose”)
Destination Vibration
The Destination Vibration allows us to begin really eliciting a client’s Soul Intentions. The “Destination Vibration Association” is what allows the client to begin bringing the Heart online, to magnetize and activate it so that it can begin to ignite a signal and frequency to call in what their Heart wants.
Practicing their associations allows them to begin emitting a frequency of joy, love, gratitude, optimism, contentment that brings the Heart out of retirement, as they remember moments when they felt in flow and were unconsciously dropping into their Heart space. It’s a little like a big machine being turned back on after years of being shut down. It can be a little slow and sluggish at first, and requires some maintenance to come back to a fully functioning state.
From this activated space of the Heart, clients begin to generate a list of desires and visualizations that activate the Sacral Chakra and get Sacral and Heart to begin talking with each other so that they can imagine, dream, and call in.
How Do We Know What is a True Heart Desire?
In my experience, there are three major categories clients fall into when working on their destination vibrations (painting in broad brush strokes):
• Some clients will begin with very material desires: a car, a raise, a new house, a move, etc.
• Some will seek out relationships: a partner, deep friendships, community, work friends, healed relationships with their family
• Some get right to the (literal) Heart of the matter: Flow, joy, presence, Gratitude, Deep connection with self, others, and Earth
Depending on the starting point, the work of the coach is different:
If a client begins with material desires, after having them list it all out, comb through and/or listen for patterns that show you any Chakra/Dosha imbalances, Limiting Belief Systems, Traumas. What you are looking for are ways in which they are projecting their inner desires into the outer realm to be met materially. You want to gently, gradually guide them to not be so attached to a form, but to understand the deeper desire that is materializing in that form.
Relationship driven lists communicate that what they want is a deeper relationship with themselves. This is an opportunity to ask them to envision placing themselves at the center of their life what self-care practices, hobbies, passions, look like for them. How they want to feel in their bodies, when they are alone with themselves. It can also suggest that they want to be more vulnerable and authentic in their relationship with others, and so you can do some work about how they want to feel in their relationships.
For clients who begin with Soul qualities, the work is to help them to ground them in solid, tangible forms. It can be helpful to remind them, “What flow or joy look and feel like to me will be different from what those qualities look like in your life.” You’re encouraging them to tap into the Sacral to imagine, visualize, and ground. Sometimes these clients also need to know it’s okay to have material desires! This is especially true for clients coming from impoverished backgrounds, religious trauma, or clients who are empaths tapped into World Pain. It takes gentle permission and coaxing that it’s okay to have desires and have their needs met.
Teaching Clients to Dance with their Destination Vibrations
We need to be clear enough in our intentions to send out a coherent signal. Otherwise we put out a wobbly signal that the Universe can’t register. At the same time, we don’t want to cling to or be overly attached to what we are calling in, as this can create resistance and create limits on what is possible, especially when we have Limiting Belief Systems.
We want to hold the vision but dance with it, allowing it to shift and morph. Allowing our imaginations to dream big! We want to help clients fire up the will chakra to call it in, but we also want to remain unattached and allow room for Universe to do its magic.
It’s helpful to have images to ground the vision in, but ultimately it’s not about these particular forms. It’s about the VIBRATIONS that these thought forms allow us to access. This is why our biggest job is to focus on how we want to feel, and to focus our intention on feeling that way so clearly, through whatever forms allow us to ground it, so that it jettisons out a clear signal to Universe that makes it inevitable.
Other pointers:
• As coaches we will need to continually remind students that it is not our job to focus on the how. That is up to Universe.
• In the session after a client has generated a list, you can do some work with them unpacking it. Gently, from a place of love.
• If a client is stuck, you can invite them to start with what they don’t want, and then have them flip the script (manifest in the affirmative)
• Often Ego and Soul desires are all mixed up together. Their lists will most likely include both, and often a single item can be a “mixed” desire.
• You can also offer guiding questions, including:
o If you could have one shift in your life, what would it be?
o What is your Soul longing for more than anything else?
o What do you ache for?
If they are still having difficulty, help them get started with what they don’t want:
o What really upsets you about your life right now?
o If you could change one thing, what would it be?
Test the Intentions:
There are steps to follow in working with the Destination Vibration:
1. Elicit Client Desires
2. Elicit Their Current Situation with Respect to Desires (Starting Point)
3. Identify the Reason for the Gap Between the Current and Desired states to begin forming Internal Intentions
4. Build Out Destination Vibration
You want to start by testing the External Intention:
o What do you want? Why? Why is that important?
o How would that look in your life? How would you feel?
Then begin identifying the Internal Intentions:
o What’s the worst part of not having your Destination Vibration?
o What if you can never have it?
o What’s missing from your life without the Destination Vibration?
o How would your life change fi you get your Destination Vibration?
Work with the Current Life Situation:
o What’s going on in life with respect to this desire?
o What’s not working? Why?
o What hasn’t worked in the past?
This is all helping you to get more information for your somatic work.
As you feel ready, guide your client into their Destination Vibration, using the vibrations and images from their list. While they are journeying with you, ask them?
o Does [each one] feel possible?
o Are you worthy of it?
o Does it feel easy?
o Do you Trust the Universe to deliver?
o Is there enough for you?
o Does it match your energetics?
It will take a few sessions to parse out what is a true Heart desire. That’s okay! Clients often start with a completely different list than what they end up with. The initial Destination Vibration practice is just giving us data about what their Soul is needing and teaching them how to consciously shift the energetics in their body to bring themselves back to their Heart.