Aisha Babangida is more than a national icon; she is a passionate advocate for Nigeria’s cultural heritage, women’s empowerment, and sustainable development. As the Convener-in-Chief of the Ibrahim and Maryam Babangida Presidential Library and Foundation, her work spans across education, community upliftment, and continental development through her organization, APA—Accountable Partners for Africa. Her journey is one of dedication, resilience, and unwavering hope for a better Nigeria.
he older I get, the less interested I become in grand gestures. Don’t get me wrong— flowers are lovely, and a surprise dinner never goes unappreciated. But these days, I’m more drawn to the little things. The check-in texts. The steady presence. And I feel like most of you will find this relatable.
It’s why Funke Babs-Kufeji’s deeply insightful piece, Chivalry Through the Eyes of a Woman in Her 40s, resonates with me. She explores how the currency of romance shifts with age—not towards cynicism, but towards clarity. We’re no longer romanticising perfection. We’re choosing partnership. We understand now that love is rarely cinematic. It’s quiet, consistent, and often found in the in-between moments. If you’ve ever paused to reflect on what love looks like for you now—what you accept, what you no longer do—her article will feel like both a mirror and balm. You should read it. And because we know life isn’t all serious introspection, we’ve also packed this issue with a bit of fashion joy. Our feature on Easy Style Tricks to Steal from Influencers is for anyone who’s double-tapped a look on Instagram and thought, “Could I pull that off?” The answer is yes—and more elegantly than you think. We’re not prescribing trends but decoding the quiet strategy behind what makes some of these digital tastemakers look so effortlessly put together. Because sometimes, borrowing a little inspo is just what you need to refresh your style and step a little taller. This part is a bit random, but somewhere between the soul and the silhouette is the body—and it deserves your attention, too. This is your unsolicited but loving nudge to prioritise your health. Not in the performative “new year, new me” kind of way, but in the simple, sustained rituals that add up: the annual checkup, the water you forget to drink, the symptoms you ignore. If nothing else, let this be the week you put yourself back on your to-do list. On a national note, we’d like to extend our congratulations to President Bola Ahmed Tinubu as he marks his second year in office, along with the state governors who are also celebrating their second anniversaries in service. It’s no secret that we are navigating difficult terrain as a country— economically, socially, and emotionally. But progress, when it comes, is rarely loud. Sometimes, it’s the cumulative effect of small, difficult decisions made with the right intent.
So, wherever this note finds you—in love, in search, in good health, or trying to reclaim it—I hope you give yourself grace. And more than that, I hope you’re surrounded by people who offer you the same.
How are you feeling today?
It’s a simple question but an important one. Wishing you a week that’s equal parts thoughtful, stylish, and kind.
Love,
INSTA-FABULOUS: EASY STYLE TRICKS TO STEAL FROM INFLUENCERS
If there’s one place that never fails to serve outfit inspiration, it’s Instagram. From mirror selfies to street style snaps, fashion influencers AkA the Instagram fashion girls know how to make even the simplest outfit look chic. But what’s their secret? After scrolling, saving, and screenshotting my way through countless posts, here are few easy tips picked up on, that everyone should know about to instantly upgraded their style game. The best part? They’re super easy to try, no stylist needed.
Sneakers Go With Everything
Add a Pop of Color Neutrals are safe, but one bold pop—like a red bag, bright heels, or a colorful scarf can elevate an entire outfit. It’s a trick that shows up on so many feeds, and it always works. Even the most minimal outfit comes alive with just one standout accessory.
Confidence Is the
Accessory
ANGEL OBASI
NONYE UDEGO
OZINNA ANUMUDU
KIKA OSUNDE
DERIN ODUGBESAN
In the Beginning, There Was Elegance
Long before fashion influencers and hashtags, the Iro and Buba was already commanding attention. It was there in the Sunday morning rush—mothers smoothing lace, tying gele with a patience only tradition can teach. It was the regal uniform of weddings, naming ceremonies, and farewells. It wasn’t trendy. It was timeless. Our grandmothers wore it not to impress, but to express: dignity, modesty, culture, pride. They walked into rooms with the poise of queens, their wrappers whispering stories as they moved. For many of us, the memory of that image—the rustle of Aso Oke, the scent of powder and prayer—is etched into our earliest understanding of beauty.
Wearing a Legacy
There’s something unspeakably powerful about slipping your arms into a Buba that looks like the one in those old family photographs. Something spiritual about tying the Iro your aunt wore to her traditional wedding. It’s more than fabric—it’s a form of ancestral dialogue, a quiet communion across time. You don’t just wear
IRO & BUBA:
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Some outfits tell you where someone’s going, but the Iro and Buba tells you where she’s coming from. This ensemble is not just fashion, it’s a feeling. A sacred rhythm of heritage, a quiet rebellion against forgetting where you come from. To wear Iro and Buba is to wrap yourself in your grandmother’s laughter. It’s to stand taller because your mother did. It’s to remember that you come from strength, from softness, from a sense of style that predates runways, and that affirms: you are a Nigerian woman.
Iro and Buba, you inherit it and in doing so, you become the keeper of a legacy. The latest link in a chain of women who’ve always known that culture can be both elegant and unshakably strong.
The Modern Renaissance What makes this story even more beautiful is how today’s generation has reclaimed the Iro and Buba—not just to preserve it, but to reimagine it.
Fashion designers and stylists are breathing new life into the ensemble: from off-shoulder Bubas paired with high-slit Iros, to minimalist versions for the workplace, to bold reinterpretations on red carpets and at Lagos Fashion Week. The Iro and Buba is no longer just for mummy or aunty. It’s for every woman who wants to be seen, heard, and remembered.
A TIMELESS STATEMENT IN MODERN FASHION
A Mirror of Identity
In an era that constantly tells African women to “tone it down” or “blend in,” wearing Iro and Buba is an act of joyful defiance. It says: “I don’t need to borrow identity—I come from one.” It’s how we hold onto who we are while still evolving. It’s how we remind the world that elegance didn’t begin in Paris or Milan— it walked proudly through the streets of Lagos, Ibadan, IjebuOde and beyond, long before the rest of the world took notice.
From Owambe to
Instagram
Whether worn to a traditional wedding, a Sunday service, or styled creatively for an Instagram reel, the Iro and Buba lives on. It thrives. It adapts.
Young women today wear it with heels. They wear it with sneakers and sunglasses. And yet, something sacred remains unchanged: the posture, the pride, the poetry of fabric that says, “This is who I am. This is where I come from.”
Final Threads: Why It Matters
We live in an age of digital distractions and fast fashion. But the Iro and Buba remains steady, grounded—unmoved by time.
In its folds, we find the soft power of memory.
In its drape, we find the shape of our grandmothers’ prayers. And when we wear it, we don’t just look beautiful—we become part of a living tradition.
So, the next time you step into an Iro and Buba, know this: You’re not just getting dressed. You’re stepping into your story. And someone, somewhere— maybe a little girl watching you— will remember you the way you remember the women who came before.
FORMER FIRST LADY VICTORIA GOWON (2ND LEFT)WITH QUEEN ELIZABETH
FASHION RULES MEN CAN (AND SHOULD) BREAK
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
When it comes to men’s fashion, there is one thing we can all agree on: too many men are still dressing by rules that should have been buried with floppy disks, fax machines, pagers and cassette tapes. From colour codes to collar expectations, we have been conditioned to believe that men’s style is a game of rigid dos and don’ts. But guess what? In 2025, those old rules are not just outdated. They are holding you back from real style.
Real men don’t wear pink
You must wear a suit to look professional
There is still a place for suits. Well-cut, tailored suits have their moments. But in 30°C heat with more than 70 per cent humidity, that is not fashion. It is punishment. The modern man in a hot climate knows how to look polished without overheating. Think crisp cotton shirts, tailored short-sleeved tops, chino or lightweight trousers that let your legs breathe, paired with loafers. A professional look is about how you carry yourself, not how many layers you can pile on. Trust me, you can close deals without a blazer melting off your back.
Dress your age
What does that even mean anymore? Fashion has never been more fluid, and men over 40 are rewriting the rules on what it means to age with style. A bomber or leather jacket is not just for twenty-somethings on motorcycles. Trainers are not exclusive to Gen Z influencers. If it fits you well, suits your lifestyle, and feels authentic, then by all means, wear it. A great pair of jeans, a bomber jacket, a clean white T-shirt. These are timeless pieces, not generational statements.
At over 40, I’ve reached a place of calm clarity. A place where I no longer bend over backward to be understood or to be chosen. I no longer lose sleep over unanswered texts or second-guess myself after a date that felt more like a performance than a conversation. I’ve lived long enough to learn that the energy you invest in someone should never be more than the energy they’re willing to return.
And with that perspective comes the familiar question: Is chivalry dead? It’s a question I’ve heard tossed around in different ways by girlfriends, colleagues, and even in passing conversations with strangers. It usually comes with a heavy sigh, a shrug, or a story that starts with, “So I went on this date…” The sentiment is always the same. Something’s missing. Something that once felt foundational has become rare.
expectations around starting a family. We’re dating for partnership, for companionship, for a connection that adds value to our already full lives. We are not looking to be rescued or completed. We are looking to be respected and met as equals.
This makes modern chivalry even more important. It’s no longer about proving strength or dominance. It’s about showing empathy, emotional intelligence, and the maturity to value a connection for what it is—not for what it looks like on the surface.
I’ve been on dates where the conversation flowed effortlessly, but the follow-up was nonexistent. I’ve met men who say all the right things, only to disappear the moment vulnerability enters the chat. What I’ve come to appreciate are the small things that most wouldn’t notice. The man who asks about my day and actually listens. The one who remembers what I said last week because he was present, not distracted. The one who values depth over drama.
To which we say: real men wear whatever they damn well please and look incredible doing it. Pink, blush, salmon, rose, coral. These shades are flattering, fresh, and yes, masculine. A pink button-down shirt says you are comfortable in your skin. A coral polo is effortlessly cool. These colours are not “girly”. They are grown-up, modern, and criminally underused in most men’s wardrobes. And let us not forget: women notice. Every time.
Fashion is for women
No. Fashion is for everyone. Taking pride in your appearance does not make you less masculine. It makes you more powerful. When you dress with intention, people take notice. It does not require a full wardrobe overhaul or designer price tags. It requires awareness. Of fit, colour, texture, and yes, confidence. Whether it is how you roll your sleeves, how your trousers fall at the ankle, or the quiet elegance of a well-maintained pair of shoes or trainers, it all tells a story. Yours.
The new rule
There is not one. Style today is about fluidity, identity and self-respect. Break the rules that never served you. Lean into choices that reflect who you are now, not who society told you to be in 1995. Confidence will always outshine conformity. Wear the pink shirt. Mix your browns and blacks. Age with intention, not apology. Own your individuality. And if anyone questions your fashion choices, let them know. Real style was never meant to follow rules anyway.
Your shoes must match your belt
In theory, this sounds tidy. In practice, it makes you look like you are trying too hard. Forget the matchy-matchy thinking. Mix white sneakers with a woven belt. Pair white trainers with a brown leather strap. You are aiming for relaxed sophistication, not a strict colour code. If it looks balanced and feels good, it works.
But the truth is, chivalry isn’t dead. It’s just quieter. It’s grown more subtle and, in some cases, more confusing. The romantic gestures we once associated with courtship like holding a door, walking us to the car, calling instead of texting, have been replaced with emojis, last-minute plans, and the idea that effort somehow equals weakness. And yet, many of us still long for the softness of being considered. We crave the kind of attention that isn’t loud or showy but is sincere.
NOT DEAD, JUST DIFFERENT: CHIVALRY THROUGH THE EYES OF A WOMAN IN HER 40’S
When I think about chivalry today, I don’t think of old-fashioned rules or gender roles. I think about presence. think about care. think about effort that isn’t performative but natural. For me, chivalry is showing up when you say you will. It’s following through on what you promise. It’s the little things that often say more than grand gestures ever could. In my twenties, equated romance with drama. If it didn’t come with butterflies or uncertainty, assumed it wasn’t real. Back then, I thought the thrill of not knowing what someone would do next was excitement. thought unpredictability meant passion. What I’ve learned is that those feelings often mask inconsistency. They are not the hallmarks of love; they are symptoms of emotional confusion.
In my forties, I’ve learned to value peace. Consistency is attractive. Accountability is attractive. A man who listens, who makes space for me in his life, who doesn’t need to be reminded how to be kind—that is what chivalry looks like now. It’s not a performance. It’s a presence. I’ve also come to understand that many men feel unsure of what chivalry even means anymore. Especially at a time where women are rightfully asserting independence, some men hesitate, afraid that kindness will be misinterpreted or unwanted. I understand that. We’re all trying to navigate a new social dynamic where the rules aren’t as clear. But the truth is, thoughtful actions are never outdated. Being considerate never goes out of style.
Chivalry is not about assuming I can’t do something for myself. It’s about choosing to do something because you care. Opening a door is a kind gesture, not a commentary on my capability. Offering to walk me to my car isn’t patronizing—it’s protective in a way that feels thoughtful. The key is in the delivery. The why behind the what. Is it being done out of respect, or obligation? Is it about control, or connection?
The world has changed, and with it, so have our expectations. We no longer look for perfection. We look for real. don’t expect someone to read my mind or sweep me off my feet. expect communication, honesty, and a willingness to grow. expect someone who understands that intimacy is built slowly, through trust and shared experience. For many women over 40, dating comes with a unique set of challenges. We are no longer dating with the pressure of timelines or
Chivalry today is emotional. It’s not flowers and chocolates, it’s consistency and care. It’s showing up with integrity and treating the people around you with dignity. It’s being self-aware, emotionally honest, and willing to communicate with intention. It’s not something that can be faked or rehearsed. It’s who someone chooses to be, over and over again. We also can’t ignore the role technology plays in this shift. Online dating has made access to people easier, but connection harder. Conversations are shorter, attention spans are thinner, and the illusion of endless options has made people less likely to invest. Chivalry, in this landscape, is even more radical. It’s the person who still calls instead of only texting. The one who shows up when it would be easier to cancel. The one who chooses depth in a world that often encourages detachment.
I don’t think chivalry is something we need to bring back. I think we need to recognize where it still exists, even if it looks different now. It’s the man who values kindness without expecting credit. The one who holds space for your voice, your opinions, your presence. The one who doesn’t try to impress with flash but chooses to be consistent with substance.
And yes, I still notice style. Not in the sense of fashion trends, but in how a man carries himself. How he presents to the world. Is there effort? Pride in his appearance? A sense of self-worth that’s evident, not arrogant? These are all subtle forms of chivalry too. They tell me he values himself—and by extension, will likely value me. At this stage in life, I know what I want. know what I can offer. And I know that would rather be single with peace than partnered with chaos. I’ve done the emotional heavy lifting. I’ve navigated the false starts and dead ends. What I desire now is alignment, not entertainment. So no, chivalry isn’t dead. It’s just harder to recognize in a world that moves quickly and often rewards convenience over connection. But for those of us who still believe in the power of presence, who still value genuine care, who still find beauty in the quiet acts of thoughtfulness, it is very much alive.
It may not look like it used to, and that’s okay. We’ve evolved, and so has it. What matters now is not whether someone opens the door for you. What matters is whether they show up, stay open, and treat you like you matter—not just in moments that are easy, but especially in the ones that aren’t.
That’s the kind of chivalry I believe in. The kind that grows with you. The kind that meets you where you are, as you are. And if it takes time to find, so be it. At this point in life, I’m not in a rush. I know what I bring to the table—and I’m perfectly fine eating alone until someone arrives who respects the meal, the seat, and the woman sitting in it.
KOREDE ROBERT AKIN FAMINU
RICHARD MOFE-DAMIJO
When it comes to skincare, there’s a quiet powerhouse many overlook: Oils. From the luxurious argan oil to the humble bottle of baby oil sitting in your bathroom cabinet, oils offer a treasure trove of benefits. And whether your goal is soft, glowing skin or simply locking in moisture, incorporating oils into your routine might just be the glow-up you didn’t know you needed.
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Why Oils Deserve a Spot on Your Vanity
First things first: oils aren’t just for dry skin. They serve as moisture sealants, protect the skin barrier, and leave behind a soft, supple finish that moisturizers alone sometimes can’t match. Baby oil, for example, is a lightweight mineral oil that acts as an occlusive, meaning it forms a protective barrier over your skin, preventing water loss and locking in hydration for hours.
Body oils also support the skin barrier, helping soothe irritation and calm inflammation. Whether your skin is dry, flaky, or just needs a little love after sun exposure or a cold snap, oils work overtime to replenish and repair. But that’s not all—they also help boost skin’s elasticity. Regular use can improve the tone and texture of your skin, helping reduce the appearance of stretch marks, scars, and rough patches.
And let’s not forget the sensual, spalike glow they leave behind. Many oils contain naturally nourishing ingredients like jojoba, almond, or marula, packed with vitamins and antioxidants that enhance skin health while giving you that lit-fromwithin radiance.
More Than Moisture: The Many Uses of Oil in Skincare
Oils are incredibly flexible and can be tailored to suit your routine. Use a few drops as the final step in your nighttime regimen to lock in moisture. Add oil to your moisturizer for a dewy finish, or press it gently onto your cheekbones after makeup to create a natural highlight. As a makeup remover, oils effortlessly break down foundation, sunscreen, and even waterproof mascara without stripping your skin’s natural oils. For shaving, oils can replace cream for a smooth, glide-friendly experience that helps reduce irritation.
Massage oils into your cuticles, elbows, or heels to soften dry, rough areas. Or use them to soothe inflamed or sun-exposed skin natural oils like calendula or chamomile offer powerful antiinflammatory properties.
The Oil Rules You Should Know
Using oils correctly can make all the difference. As a general rule, oils should be the final step in your
LIQUID GOLD:
WHY YOU NEED TO INCLUDE OILS IN YOUR DAILY BEAUTY ROUTINE
skincare routine, applied after serums and moisturizers to seal everything in. Less is more—a few drops are usually enough, especially if you have oily or acne-prone skin. For first-time users or those with sensitive skin, it’s best to patch test, particularly if the oil is fragranced. And while baby oil works beautifully on the body, it’s wise to choose non-comedogenic options like jojoba or rosehip oil for facial use to avoid clogged pores.
Best Oils for Each Skin Type
For those with dry skin, rich, nourishing oils are essential. Avocado oil is deeply hydrating and loaded with vitamins A, D, and E, making it ideal for rough, thirsty skin. Sweet almond oil, though lightweight, delivers a powerful moisture boost and helps soften flakiness. Argan oil is another favorite, known for restoring elasticity while replenishing moisture with its high vitamin E content. Marula oil, loved for its luxurious texture, deeply hydrates and calms dry, irritated skin.
If you have oily or acne-prone skin, you’ll want to avoid heavy, pore-clogging oils and instead reach for balancing options.
Jojoba oil is a go-to, as it closely mimics your skin’s natural sebum and helps regulate oil production. Rosehip seed oil is light and rich in linoleic acid, which acne-prone skin often lacks. It also helps fade scars and hyperpigmentation. Hemp seed oil is another excellent choice—it’s non-comedogenic, antiinflammatory, and contains a perfect balance of omega fatty acids. For a lightweight, antioxidant-rich option, grapeseed oil delivers hydration without a greasy finish.
Those with combination skin need oils that can hydrate dry areas while not overwhelming oilier zones. Squalane is a top performer—ultra-light, non-greasy, and suitable for all areas of the face. Camellia oil nourishes the skin with antioxidants and absorbs easily, leaving no residue. Rosehip oil is also beneficial here, offering hydration, brightening benefits, and balance for uneven skin textures.
For sensitive skin, calming and gentle oils are essential. Calendula oil is a soothing remedy for redness and inflammation, making it ideal for eczema or rosacea-prone complexions. Chamomile oil has naturally antiinflammatory properties and provides a soft, comforting effect on irritated skin. Marula oil, known for its rich antioxidant profile, is also incredibly gentle and ideal for reactive skin. Borage seed oil, rich in gamma-linolenic acid (GLA), helps heal and strengthen the skin’s natural barrier. If you’re navigating the world of mature or aging skin, look for oils that offer both moisture and restorative benefits. Argan oil is a staple for improving elasticity and softening fine lines. Pomegranate seed oil promotes cell regeneration and is packed with antioxidants that target signs of aging. Sea buckthorn oil, rich in vitamins C and E, helps boost collagen and brighten the complexion. Rosehip oil remains a favorite for fading age spots and improving overall tone and texture.
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When a man reaches his 40s, his style should no longer shout, it should speak.
At this stage, fashion should be less about following trends and more about refining personal taste.
The mature man knows that while clothes matter, it’s the accessories that complete the story.
Accessories are more than finishing touches—they’re quiet indicators of taste, success, and identity.
Whether you’re stepping into the boardroom, attending an owambe, or heading out for dinnerhere are the timeless accessories every man in his 40s should own—and why they matter.
A Timepiece That Tells More Than Time
Every refined man needs a wristwatch that doesn’t scream luxury but quietly commands respect. Choose one with weight, presence, and a story. It should feel like legacy on your wrist. Whether leather-strapped or metal-banded, make sure it reflects your values and lifestyle.
A great watch doesn’t just tell time, it signals precision and purpose.
Sunglasses That Shield and Speak Style
With our harsh sunlight, sunglasses serve both fashion and function. Find a timeless pair—like aviators or classic frames that flatter your face.
Stay away from loud, gimmicky trends; opt for clean lines and subtle luxury.
A Leather Belt That Anchors Every Look
One black. One brown. Real leather. Polished but not flashy.
Your belt should match your shoes and feel like it was made just for you. It does more than hold your trousers up—it completes your silhouette.
Consider it your wardrobe’s quiet backbone: subtle but essential.
Pocket Squares That Whisper Elegance
You may not speak much, but your pocket square should.
Folded just right, it tells people you care about the little things. Pick colours and patterns that blend, not battle, with your outfit.
It’s a flourish of finesse, not a shout for attention.
Shoes That Speak Before You Do
At 40, you’ve outgrown bad shoes literally and metaphorically.
Invest in leather loafers or brogues that match your style and stature.
Pair them with a senator outfit or a well-cut suit for quiet authority.
Remember: when people look down—make it worth their while.
A Fragrance That Leaves a Legacy
A signature scent is your invisible trademark. Make it unforgettable. Go for bold but balanced: woody, spicy, musky notes.
You’ve earned your presence; now fill and scent the room with it.
This is not just perfume. It’s memory in a bottle.
Cufflinks That Finish the Story
Wearing native or formal attire?
Don’t skip the cufflinks.
They’re small, but they say everything about attention to detail. Choose materials that echo sophistication—metal, enamel,
stone.
It’s not about being flashy. It’s about being finished.
Wallet That Finish the Story
At this age, your wallet should be as mature as you are.
Go for slim leather, minimalist design, and a rich finish.
No torn edges, overstuffed pockets, or juvenile patterns.
When you pull it out, let it show that you mean business.
Jewellery That’s Subtle, Strong, and StoryDriven
A statement ring, bracelet, or chain isn’t vanity—it’s personal expression.
Opt for pieces with meaning: cultural, spiritual, or sentimental. Think minimalism with soul—less bling, more identity. Be bold without being boastful.
Headwear That Commands the Room
Whether it’s a classic fedora, a sharp fila, or a northern-style cap, own it.
These aren’t just hats—they’re crowns, deeply rooted in identity.
A well-made cap or hat adds character and cultural pride to your look.
Step into any room like you inherited the land.
TIMELESS ACCESSORIES
EVERY MATURE MAN SHOULD OWN
For the Nigerian man in his 40s who understands that elegance is in the details.
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
RICHARD MOFE-DAMIJO SHOES THAT SPEAK BEFORE YOU DO
HEADWEAR THAT COMMANDS THE ROOM
AISHA BABANGIDA
GREAT PAST, PROMISING FUTURE
BY FUNKE BABS-KUFEJI
Aisha Babangida is more than a national icon; she is a passionate advocate for Nigeria’s cultural heritage, women’s empowerment, and sustainable development. As the Convener-inChief of the Ibrahim and Maryam Babangida Presidential Library and Foundation, her work spans across education, community upliftment, and continental development through her organization, APA—Accountable Partners for Africa. Her journey is one of dedication, resilience, and unwavering hope for a better Nigeria. Beyond her philanthropic leadership, Aisha actively champions gender equality, providing platforms for women to access education, leadership training, and entrepreneurial resources. Her initiatives target grassroots communities, aiming to uplift the most marginalized through inclusive programs and strategic partnerships. She believes in the transformative power of storytelling, history, and dialogue, often using cultural platforms to inspire unity and national pride. Aisha’s holistic vision for Nigeria intertwines legacy and innovation, as she works to bridge generational divides and foster a future driven by integrity, collaboration, and social justice. Aisha Babangida’s multifaceted work continues to inspire countless Nigerians. Her unwavering dedication to education, women’s empowerment, and national development underscores her belief in Nigeria’s vast potential. As she looks to the future, her vision remains rooted in creating a Nigeria where culture, innovation, and inclusivity thrive. Through her initiatives, she exemplifies what it means to serve with purpose and passion, paving the way for a better, brighter Nigeria. In this exclusive interview with Funke Babs-Kufeji, she shares her personal insights, her motivations, and her vision for the future.
As the Convener-in-Chief of the Ibrahim and Maryam Babangida Presidential Library and Foundation, what is your vision for the library’s role in shaping Nigeria’s cultural and intellectual future?
For me, this library isn’t just about books; it’s about igniting a love for learning and history among our people. I see it as a space where Nigerians, especially the youth can reconnect with their roots, be inspired by our stories, and imagine a brighter future. It’s a place to celebrate our rich heritage and foster new ideas that will shape Nigeria’s destiny.
In your leadership of the Better Life Program for the African Rural Woman, what are the key achievements you are most proud of, and how do you see it impacting generations of Nigerian women?
Honestly, what touches me most is hearing stories of women who, through the program, found confidence and a new purpose. Seeing women transform from dependents to leaders in their communities is deeply rewarding. I believe we’ve planted seeds of resilience, self-reliance, and hope. Gifts that will be passed down from generation to generation for many generations to come. The program has uplifted countless women and will continue to do so.
Can you tell us about the mission of Women Enterprise Alliance (WENA) and how it is transforming opportunities for women in both rural and urban areas?
Wena sets out to create a platform that provides not only financial support but essential training, mentorship, and advocacy for policies that foster a conducive environment for women-led enterprises. WENA is close to my heart because I believe women are the backbone of Nigeria’s progress. We want every woman, whether in a village or city, to realize her potential to start a business, lead a community, or simply have access to opportunities. When women succeed, entire communities thrive. That’s the true power of WENA.
You are the founder of APA—Accountable Partners for Africa. Could you elaborate on the organization’s goals and its significance in delivering development projects across the continent?
founded APA because I saw a need for trustworthy, transparent partners in Africa’s development journey. It is about making sure that resources are used wisely and that projects truly benefit the people. So, our goal is to serve as a trusted partner that ensures resources are used efficiently, and projects deliver tangible benefits, whether in health, education, or infrastructure. It is about making development work better and more sustainable. Personally, it is about building a continent where development is sustainable, inclusive, and accountable. Where every project leaves a lasting impact.
How does APA differ from other development agencies, and what is its unique approach to ensuring accountability and sustainable impact?
What makes APA different is our unwavering commitment to integrity. We work closely with local communities, governments, and partners to ensure transparency at every step. We don’t just deliver projects; we build trust, measure impact, and make sure the benefits last. It’s about doing development the right way—responsibly and responsibly.
Across your various initiatives; cultural, social, and economic, what has been the most rewarding moment or success story that has reinforced your commitment?
Goodness there are many, but one that stands out is a young woman met through our programs who started a small business with a loan and now runs a thriving enterprise. Seeing her confidence grow and her story become a source of hope for others reminds me why I am passionate about this work. It is personal to me because these are lives being transformed.
What are the most critical challenges Nigeria faces today, and how do your programs aim to address issues such as inequality, youth empowerment, and national unity?
First let us accept that Nigeria is a land of incredible potential, but we are faced with multifaceted challenges like, unemployment, inequality, and social divisions. My approach is to empower our youth and women, equip them with skills, opportunities, and a sense of ownership. Promote inclusive developments and foster a sense of national unity. When people have a stake in Nigeria’s future, unity and progress naturally follow.
In your view, what is the essential role of women in Nigeria’s development, and what strategies do you believe are necessary to accelerate gender equality?
Women are the heartbeat of Nigeria. They nurture, lead, and innovate. My belief is that when women are empowered through education, finance, and leadership, they become catalysts for positive change. We must challenge stereotypes, create supportive policies, and celebrate women’s successes to accelerate gender equality.
What are the key lessons you’ve learned from your extensive work in community development and nation-building, and how do they shape your future plans?
Patience and listening are the most important lessons. Change does not happen overnight, it’s about building trust, understanding local needs, and working together. These lessons guide me to focus on sustainable, community-driven projects that truly make a difference. These will ensure our initiatives are inclusive, impactful and lasting.
What is your personal vision for a better Nigeria, and how do your various roles and organizations align to realize this vision?
My vision or rather hope is for Nigeria to be a nation where every citizen, regardless of background, has the opportunity to thrive. My roles, cultural preservation, women’s empowerment, development are all pieces of this puzzle. Together, they aim to create a Nigeria that is inclusive, innovative, and proud of its heritage. I think this is what I stand for.
How do you foster collaboration among government agencies, civil society, and private sector entities to ensure the success and sustainability of your initiatives?
First, I believe in building genuine relationships—listening, sharing visions,
Women are the heartbeat of Nigeria. They nurture, lead, and innovate. My belief is that when women are empowered through education, finance, and leadership, they become catalysts for positive change
and creating shared goals. When stakeholders see the tangible benefits and are involved from the start, collaboration becomes natural. It’s about partnership rooted in trust and a common purpose.
What policies or societal changes do you believe are essential for Nigeria’s long-term sustainable development, especially in empowering women and youth?
We must ensure policies that prioritize education, access to finance, and social protection. But beyond policies, societal mindset shifts are vital—changing perceptions about gender roles and youth potential, promoting an environment which can innovate and lead. We must invest in our people— because this is Nigeria’s greatest resource. As they say “Investment in human capital is the foundation of sustainable development”t.
Looking ahead, what are your strategic priorities for expanding your influence and impact in Nigeria and Africa at large?
I will deepen our existing our work. reach more communities, leverage technology, and foster regional partnerships. Building a network of
accountable, transparent organizations across Africa will amplify my influence and impact in Africa. Growth should be inclusive, ensuring more Nigerians benefit from development. Africa’s potential is enormous, and am committed to playing my part in unlocking it.
What message would you like to share with young Nigerians aspiring to be leaders, innovators, and change-makers in their communities?
Most importantly is to believe in your power to make a difference. Nigeria is a land of endless opportunity—your ideas, passion, and resilience can shape its future. Stay committed, stay humble, and never underestimate the impact you can have. The future is yours to create.
When you’re not immersed in your work or community projects, what’s one simple activity or hobby that helps you unwind and bring you joy?
Honestly, when I’m not caught up in work, you’ll probably find me hanging out with my cousins—my favorite crew. A few days ago, we had my birthday brunch just for us, and swear, no matter how busy life gets, family time is the best way. Plus, they keep me grounded and remind me that laughter really is the best medicine.
PAUL WILLIAMS’
“IDENTITY & CULTURE”:
A STORY WOVEN
IN FABRIC
Paul Williams’ latest collection, Identity & Culture, is a striking exploration of fashion as a medium for storytelling. More than just a lineup of beautiful garments, this body of work is a thoughtful reflection on heritage, memory, and the evolving nature of cultural identity. Through intentional design, subtle symbolism, and emotional depth, Williams transforms clothing into a narrative tool.
Each piece in the collection is meticulously crafted, striking a careful balance between structure and softness. Williams avoids extremes—nothing is overly sharp or too fluid. Instead, silhouettes feel powerful yet poetic, suggesting strength without rigidity. Textures and patterns are used with purpose, guiding the eye gently rather than demanding attention. There’s a quiet confidence in the restraint, allowing the deeper themes of the collection to resonate.
A standout from the collection, “Memory in Gold,” encapsulates Williams’ vision. The gold-toned piece feels both regal and grounded, evoking a connection to ancestry while imagining future possibilities. It’s elegant and emotional, symbolic and wearable—a perfect example of how this collection speaks without shouting.
What truly sets Identity & Culture apart is its respect for the cultures it references. Williams doesn’t use cultural motifs as decoration; instead, he builds garments that honor the shape, space, and spirit of lived experience. His work reflects the complexity of migration and identity without turning it into spectacle. This is clothing made with care—for the craft, and for the stories it carries.
The collaboration with art director and photographer Indre Balnaite brings an additional layer of richness to the collection. Her visuals enhance the storytelling, capturing not just the garments but the mood and intention behind them. “Paul thinks not just like a designer, but like a storyteller,” Balnaite noted—and it shows. From fabric choices to how the models move, every detail supports the narrative.
Ultimately, Identity & Culture is fashion that feels both timely and timeless. It engages with current conversations about representation and heritage while remaining grounded in expert craftsmanship. Paul Williams has created more than a collection—he’s offered a response to a deeply human question: How do we wear who we are? In doing so, he reminds us that the clothes we choose can be a powerful expression of identity, memory, and belonging.
THE EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE
ARE OUT THERE,HERE’S HOW TO SPOT THEM
In dating and relationships, we often hear about emotional unavailability—partners who pull away, shut down, or simply can’t meet us where we are. But what about its healthier opposite?
Emotional availability is one of the most important traits in a lasting relationship, yet it can be hard to define—and even harder to recognize early on. So what does emotional availability actually look like? And how can you tell if someone has it before you get too deep?
WHAT DOES EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY LOOK LIKE?
At its core, emotional availability means someone is capable of connecting with their own feelings—and yours. They’re open to intimacy, able to express emotions honestly, and willing to engage in the vulnerability that love requires. It doesn’t mean they’re emotionally perfect. It means they’re emotionally present. They can sit with discomfort, talk though conflict, and stay connected when things aren’t easy.
TELL TALE SIGNS OF AN EMOTIONAL AVAILABLE PERSON
They’re transparent about what they think and feel
They don’t leave you guessing. They talk about what they’re feeling, ask thoughtful questions, and respond to yours without defensiveness or dismissal.
They Take Responsibility for Their Emotions Instead of blaming others or shutting down, emotionally available people acknowledge when they’re upset or wrong. They own their role in misunderstandings and want to grow from it.
They’re Comfortable with Emotional Intimacy
This doesn’t mean trauma-dumping on the first date. It means they’re willing to share personal insights and listen to yours without deflecting or changing the subject.
They’re sensitive to your needs and feelings. When you express vulnerability, they don’t make it about them. They hold space for your experience and respond with care, not discomfort or avoidance.
Their Actions Match Their Words
They don’t just talk about being “ready for a relationship”—they show it through consistency, reliability, and follow-through. Emotionally available people aren’t perfect, but they show up. They make space for real connection, even when it’s hard or messy. If you find yourself feeling safe, seen, and able to be yourself without walking on eggshells, that’s a good sign you’re not just dating someone—you’re building something real.
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Fashion is an essential part of Nigerian culture, and for Nigerian women, it goes beyond mere clothing—it’s a reflection of individuality, cultural heritage, and personality. From traditional attire worn during ceremonies to contemporary pieces that reflect global fashion trends, a well-curated wardrobe is essential for every Nigerian woman. The right wardrobe staples allow for easy styling, versatility, and confidence for every occasion, whether it’s a cultural celebration, a business meeting, or a casual outing.Here are the essential wardrobe staples every Nigerian woman should have, representing a beautiful fusion of tradition, culture, and modern elegance.
Ankara or Adire
Fabric Outfit
Ankara and Adire fabrics are integral to Nigerian fashion. Known for their vibrant, colourful prints and cultural significance, these fabrics are a symbol of identity. Ankara
fabric is loved for its bold, eye-catching patterns, while Adire, a tie-dye technique native to Nigeria, offers intricate designs that celebrate the country’s creativity and craftsmanship. Ankara or Adire fabrics can be made into
dresses, skirts sets,trouser sets, and even jackets. They are perfect for weddings, parties, cultural events, and religious ceremonies. Additionally, when tailored smartly, these outfits can be worn to work or a day out in the city.
Wrapper and blouse
(Traditional Nigerian Attire)
The wrapper and blouse traditional referred to in Yoruba as Iro and Buba and in Igbo as Isi agu and George is a timeless traditional attire that embodies Nigerian culture and elegance. The Iro, a large wrap cloth, paired with the Buba, a loose-fitting blouse, is a go-to look for many Nigerian women during traditional celebrations. It is often made from luxurious fabrics like Aso Oke, George fabric, lace fabrics, Silk, or Ankara. This outfit is
perfect for weddings, religious events, cultural ceremonies, and other formal gatherings. It’s a staple for any woman attending traditional or family celebrations, where respect for culture and tradition is paramount. Temilade
Boubou/Kaftan
The Boubou is a classic garment known for its elegance and comfort. This loose-fitting, floor-length dress comes in various fabrics like Silk, organza, Aso Oke, and more and is often adorned with embroidery or beadwork for a more luxurious look. Boubous are ideal for formal events, weddings, and cultural ceremonies. They are also perfect for religious services or family gatherings, offering both style and comfort. This outfit is versatile enough to be worn to both formal and
semi-formal events.
Gele, Turbans, and Silk Scarves
Accessories like gele (traditional headwraps), turbans, and silk scarves are key components of the Nigerian woman’s fashion. These accessories not only complement outfits but also elevate your look, adding personality and flair. gele is especially worn for traditional and formal events, while turbans and silk scarves offer a modern and chic alternative. Gele is typically worn for weddings, religious events, and other formal occasions. Turbans are great for casual outings, dinner parties, or even everyday wear. Silk scarves are versatile, working for both casual and formal events, whether wrapped around your head, neck, or even as a handbag accessory.
Statement Jewelry & Beads
No Nigerian ensemble is truly complete without standout accessories—and statement jewelry plays a powerful role in elevating any look. From the regal coral beads of the South-South and Igbo regions to gold-toned chokers and bold earrings worn with aso-ebi, these pieces do more than dazzle—they tell stories of heritage, status, and celebration. Coral beads, in particular, symbolize royalty and are often worn during traditional weddings and high-society ceremonies. Today, Nigerian women mix traditional pieces with contemporary fashion, pairing beaded necklaces with Ankara, lace, or even power suits for a fusion of culture and modern style.
TEMILADE
SKINCARE OVERLOAD: WHAT THEY WON’T TELL YOU ABOUT OVERUSING SKINCARE PRODUCTS
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Sometimes, more is not better, especially when it comes to piling on skincare products that promise the world but may quietly harm your skin. In today’s beauty culture, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of trying every serum, essence, and cream on the shelf, hoping for flawless skin. But there’s a hidden truth that few people talk about: using too many skincare ingredients at once can actually damage your skin’s natural balance.
Our skin is a living organ that needs care, but it also needs respect and patience. When you overload it with powerful actives like retinol, acids, vitamin C, peptides, and exfoliants all at once, you risk causing irritation, redness, dryness, or even long-term sensitivity. The skin barrier — which protects you from pollutants, bacteria, and moisture loss — can become compromised. This leads to problems like inflammation, breakouts, and premature ageing, ironically the very issues many of us are trying to fix.
One common mistake is thinking that if a little product works well, doubling or tripling the amount will work better. But skin doesn’t operate like that. Each ingredient has its own strength and requires careful layering or spacing. For example, combining strong exfoliants like AHAs and BHAs with retinol every day is a recipe for irritation. Instead, skin experts recommend alternating these products and listening closely to how your skin reacts. If your face feels tight, itchy, or looks blotchy, it’s a clear sign you need to simplify your routine.
Another point often overlooked is that some products need time to build results. Instant gratification isn’t always possible or healthy when it comes to skincare. Patience and consistency trump frantic layering. It’s far better to use a few well-chosen ingredients regularly than to bombard your skin with a cocktail of unknown combinations that can undo your progress.
Many people also underestimate the importance of moisturising and sun protection in a high-performance skincare routine. Moisturisers help restore and maintain the skin barrier, acting as a shield against irritation caused by active ingredients. Sunscreen, meanwhile, is essential every day, especially if you use ingredients like retinol or vitamin C that make your skin more sensitive to UV damage. Skipping SPF can undo all your hard work and lead to pigmentation, redness, and faster ageing.
Lastly, it’s worth remembering that skincare isn’t onesize-fits-all. What works wonders for a friend might not suit your skin type, lifestyle, or concerns. Consulting a dermatologist or skincare professional can help you create a personalised routine that delivers results without overwhelming your skin. They can guide you in introducing new ingredients slowly and correctly, avoiding the common pitfalls of overuse.
In a world saturated with skincare trends and influencer recommendations, the best advice is often the simplest: less is more. Honour your skin’s limits, focus on quality over quantity, and treat your face with gentle care. Your skin will thank you with better health, clarity, and a natural glow that no amount of layering can fake.
MEN,
THIS IS WHAT YOUR SKINCARE ROUTINE SAYS ABOUT YOU.
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
You can tell a lot about a man by his handshake, his shoes, but believe it or not his skincare routine. Or lack of one. It’s not just about how many steps he follows or whether he owns an eye cream. It’s about the habits, the mindset, and the quiet messages that come through in how he takes care of his face. Because let’s be honest: a man’s approach to skincare often mirrors his approach to life. Here’s what his bathroom shelf is telling us.
1. The Bar Soap and Nothing Else Man
This is the man who believes one bar of soap can clean everything; face, body, hair, car engine, probably even the dishes. He might call skincare “fussy” or “unnecessary.” Translation? He likely values simplicity, tradition, and practicality. He’s not here for trends. He’s loyal (maybe to a fault), and he’s resistant to change. But with a little education and maybe some gentle persuasion he’s also the guy who could surprise you by going all in once he sees the difference. What it tells us: The man is lowmaintenance, straightforward, and possibly stuck in his ways. If he changes his routine, he probably does it for someone he trusts.
2. The Drugstore Essentials Guy
He’s got a facial cleanser, maybe a moisturiser, possibly even sunscreen. He’s not trying to make a statement, he’s just trying
good skin. What it tells you: He’s intentional, confident, and emotionally evolved. He’s the type who plans dates in advance and sends calendar invites for fun. He may also take longer in the bathroom than you.
4.
The All-Natural, DIY Guy
He swears by shea butter, coconut oil, and maybe a turmeric mask he found on a blog. He avoids anything with “too many chemicals” and probably has strong opinions about sunscreen. He might be into plant-based eating, essential oils, and grounding with bare feet. His skin might glow, or it might suffer from under-care, depending on his level of expertise.
What it tells you: He’s mindful, values wellness, and marches to the beat of his own drum. He’s probably curious, open to ideas, but doesn’t follow the crowd. He’s a deep thinker, and that often extends beyond skincare.
not to look tired. He’s tuned in, but not obsessed. He wants to look presentable and put together, especially if he works in a setting where appearance matters. His routine is short, functional, and gets the job done.
What it tells us: This man is responsible, self-aware, and likely values consistency. He may not know the difference between AHAs and BHAs, but he knows that dry skin isn’t a personality trait.
3. The 5-Step Routine Guy
This is one interesting man. He cleanses, tones, moisturises, applies eye cream, and wears SPF daily—and he probably can introduce you to a new serum. This man is detail-oriented, possibly a perfectionist, and takes pride in self-care. He also likely follows a healthy lifestyle overall and keeps a mental list of his favourite grooming brands. This is the man who does his research, reads ingredients, and doesn’t mind spending a little extra on
5. The “Borrowed from My Girlfriend” Guy
This man hasn’t bought his own face wash in years but uses yours religiously. He likes how your stuff feels but doesn’t always admit it. He may sneak a pump of your serum when you’re not looking or ask questions like, “What does this one do again?” He’s skincare-curious but hasn’t quite committed.
What it tells you: He’s comfortable leaning on someone else’s expertise. He may not be fully invested in his own grooming yet, but he’s open-minded. With the right encouragement, he could evolve into a solid skincare partner—and possibly share the cost of those pricey creams.
At the end of the day, skincare isn’t about vanity—it’s about awareness, effort, and respect. A man who cares for his skin is showing he pays attention, values himself, and wants to show up in the world with intention. Whether he’s a minimalist or a serum stacker, how he treats his skin can offer a glimpse into how he treats everything else.So next time you peek at his bathroom shelf, don’t just look for products. Look for clues.
