Fifty is often described as the age of clarity—a point where experience sharpens purpose, and ambition meets legacy. For Dr. Samuel Ogbuku, Managing Director of the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC), that milestone arrives at a remarkable intersection: his golden jubilee coinciding with the Commission’s 25th anniversary. It’s a rare alignment that feels almost poetic—one man’s life journey mirroring the lifespan of the very institution he now leads.
have to say what you’re all always thinking: yes, being Nigerian can sometimes be stressful. Between long workdays, personal obligations, the constant churn of social media drama, government antics, security concerns, and of course traffic that tests both patience and sanity, stress is almost built into daily life. We joke about it, even normalising it, but beneath the humour is a harder reality: stress quietly steals more from us than we admit.
What makes it dangerous is its subtlety. It rarely announces itself loudly. It lingers in sleepless nights, the fatigue you can’t quite shake, the headaches you ignore, and the irritability you explain away. And when left unchecked, it can be catastrophic. Too many young, vibrant lives have been cut short in ways we file under “sudden illness” or “cardiac arrest.” In truth, those losses often tell the story of a body that had been asked to carry too much for too long.
The uncomfortable truth is that we still treat burnout as a badge of honour. We equate exhaustion with achievement and sleeplessness with ambition. But burnout is not strength; it is surrender. And unchecked stress is one of the most powerful killers of our time. We also don’t talk enough about how cultural this problem is. In Nigeria, we’ve built a society that equates constant motion with value. If you’re not visibly hustling, people assume you’re unserious. We applaud those who never rest and side-eye anyone who dares to step back. Rest is treated like laziness, when in fact it is the only way to sustain a meaningful life. Until we challenge that mindset, stress will keep robbing us in plain sight.
This week’s feature, “5 Simple Ways to Reset When Life Feels Like Too Much,” is a necessary reminder that you don’t need dramatic changes to reclaim your balance. Sometimes it’s about small, deliberate acts: putting the phone away, stepping outside, saying “no” without apology, allowing yourself the grace to pause. These are not indulgences; they are survival skills in a world that won’t slow down for you.
And when a pause isn’t enough, when you need a real shift in perspective, another feature in this issue offers something both practical and restorative: “Staycations Are the New Vacations — Here’s How to Do It Well.” Because let’s be honest, not everyone has the luxury of hopping on a plane when life feels overwhelming. But peace doesn’t always require distance. Sometimes a different environment—even a few miles from home— can be enough to restore you.
So here is your reminder: the world will not stop demanding, but you can stop giving it more than you have. Stress will always take more than you can afford. Protecting your health is not selfish; it is the smartest, most powerful investment you’ll ever make. Everything can wait—except you.
THE OUTFITS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL INSTANTLY SEXY
Some outfits are cute. Some are chic. But every now and then, there’s that rare kind of 1outfit that makes you feel like you could walk into a room and stop conversations without saying a word. And sexy? It’s not just about bare skin or body-hugging fabric—it’s a feeling. It’s the subtle shift in your posture, the extra sway in your step, the way you hold someone’s gaze just a second longer than usual. The right outfit can pull that feeling to the surface in an instant. We all have our personal “it” pieces, but there are certain silhouettes and styles that seem to have a universal pull. They don’t just make you look good—they make you feel magnetic. Here’s a curated edit of eight outfits worth keeping in rotation for the days you want to turn your confidence all the way up.
1. The Slip Dress Effortless. Feminine. Timeless. The slip dress has been a symbol of understated allure since the ‘90s, and for good reason. The way the fabric drapes—silk, satin, or a high-street lookalike— gives it movement and fluidity, while the bias cut works with your shape instead of against it. It’s the kind of piece that works for a rooftop date in Lagos, cocktails in Abuja, or even a destination wedding in Accra. You can style it with strappy heels and a bold lip for high impact or throw on a blazer and sneakers for a more relaxed vibe that still carries that “I just woke up looking like this” energy.
4. The Off-theShoulder Top
2. The Mini Dress
If the slip dress whispers, the mini dress speaks up—playfully, boldly, and unapologetically. A mini says you’re here to have a good time, and you’re not afraid to own the attention that comes with it. In a fitted silhouette, it’s sultry. In an A-line cut, it’s flirtatious. In leather or sequins, it’s full-on nightlife drama. Pair it with block heels for comfort on a night out or sleek stilettos when you want that extra edge. A mini is not about perfection—it’s about presence.
3. Perfectly Fitted Jeans
Never underestimate the sexy power of denim. The right pair of jeans—no waist gaping, no sagging—can be more flattering than a full evening gown. When teamed with a crisp white shirt tucked just so, or a fitted tank that skims the body, jeans hit that sweet spot between casual and irresistible. Think of it as the “cool girl” uniform: accessible, effortless, and versatile. Dress it up with metallic sandals and statement jewellery, or keep it minimal with slides and a fresh blowout. The beauty lies in the fit—once you’ve found the pair, hold onto it like treasure.
There’s something inherently intimate about a glimpse of bare shoulders. It’s suggestive without being overt, classic yet modern. An offthe-shoulder piece— whether it’s a blouse, knit top, or flowing maxi dress—draws the eye upward, framing your face and collarbone in a flattering way. For evening, go with a sleek off-shoulder jumpsuit or a fitted top paired with wide-leg trousers. In the daytime, a floaty blouse worn with jeans or a pencil skirt is enough to make you look pulled together while still radiating ease.
5. The Backless Piece
While low necklines get most of the attention, a plunging back can be even more captivating. It’s unexpected, elegant, and a little bit daring. A backless dress for evening events, a halterneck jumpsuit for date night, or even a casual sundress with a deep scoop at the back— each one carries that element of surprise. It’s the kind of look that makes people glance twice, often after you’ve walked past. That’s the power of a detail they didn’t see coming.
6. The Sheer Layer
Sheer is not about overexposure—it’s about suggestion. A sheer blouse over a bralette, a lace slip layered under a blazer, or a translucent maxi skirt over a fitted mini can turn even the simplest base outfit into something sultry. The trick is balance. Keep one element sheer while the rest stays grounded, so it feels intentional rather than overdone. Done right, sheer outfits feel playful and elegant at the same time, making them a perfect option for evening events or creative dress codes.
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Love Stories We Could Write a Book About – Lagos Edition
RENI ABINA HENRIETTA ITEPU EKI OGUNBOR
JOANNA OMOLARA
OLIVIA ARUKWE
MODEL FOR EMMY KASBIT
LOVE STORIES WE COULD WRITE A BOOK ABOUT – LAGOS EDITION
Dating in Lagos is not for the fainthearted. It’s a mix of charm, chaos, and contradictions—a place where the line between romance and reality is often blurred, and love can feel like both a blessing and a battlefield. This city has its own dating culture, shaped by ambition, social status, and the unspoken rules everyone seems to know but no one admits out loud. If you’ve dated here, you’ve probably lived through at least one of these chapters.
The Exclusive-But-NotExclusive Stage
In Lagos, exclusivity can be a slippery concept. You might think you’re building something serious—late-night calls, weekend hangouts, meeting close friends— only to discover the other person still refers to themselves as “single” at social gatherings. It’s not always malicious; sometimes it’s a fear of being tied down too soon, other times it’s the comfort of keeping options open. Either way, the conversations about commitment are often delayed… sometimes indefinitely.
The Social Status Pressure
Lagos is a city obsessed with appearances, and dating here can sometimes feel like a public performance. People are hyperaware of what their relationship looks like to outsiders: where you go together, what you wear, who sees you, and even the kind of restaurants you’re spotted in. Social media amplifies this— relationships are curated like brand campaigns, and the pressure to “look like couple goals” can sometimes overshadow building a healthy bond.
The Money Question
In a city where lifestyle branding is practically a love language, finances are often the quiet third party in any relationship. From who pays for what, to expectations around gifts, trips, and outings, money can create unspoken power dynamics. For some, it’s about security—wanting a partner who can “take care of things.” For others, it’s about independence— avoiding being financially beholden
Snake Plant (Sansevieria)
If plants had a “cool girl” category, the snake plant would own it. Tall, sleek, and unbothered, it thrives on neglect. Stick it in a
skin, and minor burns. Bright, indirect light is its love language, and watering every 3–4 weeks is all it needs. Just don’t let it sit in soggy soil—it hates that.
Pothos (Devil’s Ivy)
Pothos is the overachiever of the lazy plant world. It will trail beautifully from a hanging basket, climb a pole, or even grow in a jar of water on your kitchen counter. It’s forgiving if you
PLANTS FOR GIRLS WHO LOVE GREENERY… BUT HATE THE FUSS
to anyone. Either way, the conversation around money is one of the biggest silent make-or-break factors in Lagos dating.
The Ex Factor Lagos is small enough that you’re likely to run into your partner’s ex at an event—or discover that you share a mutual friend. While some people handle this with grace, for others, it’s a minefield. Old flames have a way of lingering— whether it’s an ex who still “checks in” a little too often or one who hovers around your social circle. Navigating that without drama requires maturity… and a very thick skin.
The “What Are We?” Limbo
The situationship isn’t just a buzzword—it’s practically a dating stage here. You talk daily, go out, share intimate moments, but there’s no formal label. Some people like it that way; others secretly hope it will evolve into something official. The risk? Investing time and emotions in something undefined can leave you stuck while the other person moves on without looking back.
Love in the Age of Soft Life
A growing number of Lagosians are prioritising comfort, luxury, and leisure in their dating lives— whether that means romantic trips, luxury gifting, or carefully staged Instagram posts. While this can make relationships feel exciting and aspirational, it can also create unrealistic standards. Real intimacy isn’t always picture-perfect, and relationships built only on “soft life” moments can sometimes crumble when reality knocks.
corner, water it every 2–3 weeks (less if you’re feeling particularly lazy), and it will still look like it’s been cared for by a professional. It’s also an air-purifying champ, quietly filtering your space while you go about your life.
ZZ Plant (Zamioculcas zamiifolia)
Shiny leaves, rich green colour, zero attitude. The ZZ plant is practically indestructible—perfect for anyone whose past plants have ended in tragedy. It tolerates low light, only needs water once the soil is bone dry (think every 3–4 weeks), and somehow still manages to look lush and expensive. It’s the plant equivalent of a low-
maintenance friend who always looks put together.
Aloe Vera
Aloe is that friend who’s useful and chill at the same time. Beyond looking pretty on your shelf, it’s a natural remedy for sunburns, dry
forget to water it, bounces back quickly if it droops, and grows so fast you’ll feel like you’re actually good at this plant-parent thing.
Peace Lily
A little more “talkative” than the others, but in a helpful way. The peace lily will tell you when it’s thirsty by dramatically drooping— give it a drink and it perks right back up, no grudges
held. It tolerates medium light, purifies the air, and produces elegant white blooms that make it look far fancier than it is.
Cactus
The ultimate no-fuss plant. As long as you give it sunlight and water it sparingly (every 4–6 weeks), it’s happy. In fact, you’re more likely to kill a cactus by over-loving it
Some people can talk about their monstera’s new leaf like it’s a newborn child. The rest of us are just trying to keep something alive that doesn’t bark, meow, or send us passive-aggressive “water me” vibes. We love the look of greenery—how it makes a room feel alive, polished, and a little bit expensive— but between work, social plans, and forgetting to drink our own water, plant care feels… ambitious. The good news? Not all plants are drama queens. Some will quietly get on with life, thriving in the background without demanding daily attention. They’ll forgive your irregular watering schedule, survive your over-enthusiastic “let me drown you with love” phase, and still look gorgeous in the corner of your living room. These are the real MVPs—the low-maintenance beauties that even the busiest, most forgetful girl can keep alive.
than neglecting it. Bonus: it adds a little edge to your space—quite literally.
Spider Plant
Spider plants are adaptable, forgiving, and perfect for beginners. They thrive in indirect light, need
Succulents
Small, stylish, and lowmaintenance, succulents are perfect for desks, windowsills, and coffee tables. They like bright light
and barely any water—once the soil is completely dry, give them a little drink. Overwatering is their only enemy, so err on the side of forgetting.
LAZY GIRL PLANT
CARE 101
watering about once a week, and reward you with “babies” (small plantlets) you can pot and give to friends. It’s like your plant is gifting you more plants— how thoughtful.
Drainage holes are everything: If your pot doesn’t have them, your plant is basically sitting in a puddle.
Check before you water: Stick your finger in the soil— dry means “yes,” damp means “wait.”
Group your plants: It creates a little microclimate so they all stay happier. Dust their leaves: A quick wipe every now and then helps them absorb light and look fresh.
DATING A FASHION GIRL –THE UNWRITTEN RULES
There’s a certain magic to dating a fashion girl. She’s the one who can make a coffee run look like a street-style shoot, who somehow always knows where to find the best vintage bag in the city, and who can turn a plain white shirt into an entire moment. But behind the Instagram-perfect outfits and the confident stride are a few unspoken truths that every partner quickly learns. These aren’t the rules you’ll find in a glossy style manual—they’re the ones you pick up from experience. Consider this your insider’s guide.
1. Compliments Are Currency
If you’re dating a fashion girl, you’ll quickly realise she has an eye for detail that most people don’t. She’ll notice when you’ve rolled your sleeves just right or when your sneakers perfectly match your belt. In return, she appreciates someone who notices her details too.
It’s not about empty flattery; it’s about recognising the effort. That structured blazer she paired with distressed jeans? She thought about that. That lipstick that changes depending on the light? She tested three before leaving the house. Tell her you see it. In her world, genuine compliments aren’t just sweet—they’re a love language.
Offer to pick her up after a late show. You don’t have to know the difference between jacquard and chiffon—but knowing she cares goes a long way.
2. Be Ready for Spontaneous Wardrobe Delays
You might think you’re leaving at 8 p.m. sharp. She might think she’s leaving at 8 p.m. sharp. But then, she’ll try on one last pair of shoes… and maybe swap the dress for “something with a bit more movement.”
This isn’t indecision—it’s dedication. Fashion girls dress for the moment, and sometimes the perfect moment requires a last-minute pivot. The best thing you can do? Be patient. She’s not making you late to annoy you— she’s making sure you both walk in looking like the main characters.
3. Understand the Sacredness of the Front Row (Even if It’s Just Dinner)
Whether it’s a runway show or a corner table at that buzzy new restaurant, positioning matters. She knows where the best light is. She knows which seat gives her the right backdrop. This isn’t vanity—it’s instinct. Years of scanning outfits, fabrics, and angles have trained her to find the most flattering spot in any room. If she asks to swap seats with you, it’s not a power play—it’s a lighting play. And trust me, you’ll thank her when your pictures look amazing.
4. Fashion Week Is Not a Negotiable Commitment
Think of Fashion Week the way sports fans think of the World Cup—it’s not optional. If she works in the industry, those days aren’t just about watching models walk; they’re about networking, trendspotting, and staying relevant. You might not see her much during that week, but she’s not ignoring you. She’s in her element. The best way to handle it? Be supportive. Send encouraging messages.
5. Your Style Will Evolve–Whether You Like It or Not It starts small—maybe she suggests a different jacket, or you “accidentally” start wearing the cologne she bought you. Then one day, you’ll realise your entire wardrobe has been subtly upgraded. Fashion girls have a way of elevating the people around them, and if you’re open to it, you’ll end up looking sharper than you ever imagined. This isn’t about control; it’s about alignment. She sees style as an extension of the people she loves. And trust me—when strangers start complimenting your outfits, you’ll thank her.
6. Photos Are Part of the Relationship Package
If you thought dating her meant you’d only be her partner, think again—you’re also unofficially on the photography team. She’ll hand you her phone at brunch and say, “Just one picture,” which will somehow turn into a mini editorial shoot.
The poses, the angles, the retakes—this is not vanity, it’s documentation. A fashion girl sees photos as part of her personal brand, even if she’s not an influencer. Learn her “good side” and nail that crisp, well-lit shot, and you’ll be in her good books forever.
7. She Speaks in References You Might Not Get (Yet)
She might casually say, “This look is very Phoebe Philo-era Céline,” and you’ll have no clue what she means. That’s okay. The world of fashion is full of designers, eras, fabrics, and obscure trends that might initially sound like another language.
You don’t need to be fluent, but showing curiosity earns major points. It’s not about the clothes— it’s about letting her share the stories she loves.
8. Expect Fashion to Sneak Into Everything
She’ll choose hotels based on the interiors. She’ll stop midconversation to admire someone’s coat. Your weekend plans might include “just popping into” a boutique that turns into an hourlong exploration of textures and
silhouettes.
It’s not distraction—it’s passion. Style isn’t a hat she wears only on certain days. It’s the lens through which she experiences the world.
9. She Values Individuality Over Trends
Yes, she knows what’s “in” this season. But she also knows when to ignore it. Fashion girls don’t just follow style—they interpret it. Sometimes she’ll show up in a look you don’t quite “get” at first, but two months later, you’ll see it on runways and realise she was ahead of the curve. The unspoken rule? Trust her taste—it’s part intuition, part research, and part pure confidence.
10. Confidence is Her Real Signature Piece
Yes, the clothes are beautiful. Yes, the accessories turn heads. But the thing that truly sets a fashion girl apart isn’t in her closet—it’s in her presence. Dating her means being with someone who owns her space, even in a room full of strangers.
If you can match her confidence without competing with it, you’ll not only keep up—you’ll stand out together.
5 CONVERSATIONS THAT MAKE SEX BETTER
Good sex isn’t magic—it’s communication. Sure, there’s chemistry, attraction, and maybe a touch of mystery, but without the right conversations, even the strongest spark can fizzle out. Talking about sex still feels awkward for many couples (even the ones who’ve been together for years), but here’s the truth: if you can’t talk about it, you can’t really improve it. The most satisfying sexual connections are built in the moments before and after the act— those honest, curious exchanges that make you feel seen, heard, and wanted.Here are five conversations worth having if you want your sex life to go from “fine” to “fantastic.”
1. “This is what I like.”
It sounds simple, but so many people never say it out loud. They hope their partner will just “know” or figure it out from body language, but sexual preferences aren’t always obvious. Talking about what turns you on, whether it’s a certain touch, position, or even the pace, removes the guesswork. This isn’t just about physical mechanics; it’s about intimacy. When you tell someone exactly what makes you feel good, you’re inviting them into your most private world.
Tip: Frame it positively. Instead of “I don’t like when you do X,” try “I love it when you do Y.” It keeps the conversation playful rather than critical, and your partner will feel encouraged to keep exploring with you.
2. “Here’s what I’ve been curious about…”
Desire changes over time, and curiosity is a big part of keeping things fresh. Maybe you’ve been thinking about trying a new position, introducing toys, or switching up the setting. These conversations don’t have to be awkward if you treat them like an invitation, not a demand.
The key is to create a safe space where no one feels judged for what they reveal. You don’t have to act on every fantasy, but knowing your partner’s desires can be a turn-on in itself. Sometimes, just talking about them can create a spark that carries into the bedroom.
3. “Can we slow down?” or “Can we speed up?”
Pace and rhythm aren’t talked about enough, yet they make all the difference. Sometimes one partner wants to linger and build tension, while the other is ready to go full speed. The disconnect can leave both feeling unsatisfied.
A quick check-in—whether in the moment or afterward—can solve this. It’s about syncing your tempo so you’re both on the same wavelength. This isn’t just about penetration, either. Foreplay, kissing, touch—everything benefits from a little pacing awareness. Think of it as dancing: the more you move in sync, the better it feels.
4. “This is how I’m feeling emotionally.”
We talk a lot about physical readiness, but not enough about
emotional readiness. Your mental and emotional state impacts how you experience sex more than most people admit. Stress, insecurity, or feeling disconnected from your partner can dampen desire, while emotional closeness can amplify it.
Sharing how you’re feeling—whether it’s vulnerable (“I’ve been feeling a bit insecure lately”) or celebratory (“I’m feeling so connected to you this week”)—helps your partner understand the context of your sexual energy. It’s also a reminder that sex isn’t just a physical act; it’s an emotional exchange.
5. “That was amazing because…”
Feedback after sex is underrated. Too many couples roll over and go to sleep without acknowledging what worked.
A post-sex conversation doesn’t have to be heavy; in fact, it should be light and affirming. Saying “I loved when you…” or “That kiss earlier really set the mood” not only boosts confidence but also reinforces what to repeat next time. This is also the perfect time to gently suggest changes. If you’ve already showered your partner with praise, they’ll be more open to hearing, “Next time, can we try…” without feeling criticised. It’s a constructive way to make your good sex even better.
Why These Conversations Matter
Sexual compatibility isn’t just about bodies fitting together— it’s about minds aligning. The more openly you can talk about your desires, boundaries, and feelings, the more satisfying your encounters become. These conversations build trust, and trust is the foundation for exploring deeper pleasure without fear of judgment.
If you’re new to sexual communication, start small. Maybe it’s a compliment during the act, a casual fantasy discussion over dinner, or even a playful text during the day. Over time, these moments add up to a sexual connection that’s not only physically fulfilling but emotionally rich.
And here’s the quiet truth: good sex isn’t just about what happens under the sheets—it’s about everything you’ve dared to say before you get there.
How do I make carrot oil?
Carrot oil has become the glow-up potion of choice, and for good reason. It’s packed with beta carotene, vitamins A and E—great for skin brightening and hair strength.
Quick method: Grate fresh carrots and dry them slightly (so there’s no excess water).
Heat a carrier oil like coconut or olive oil on low.
THE MOST GOOGLED BEAUTY QUESTIONS IN NIGERIA RIGHT NOW
– ANSWERED
If you’ve ever gone down a late-night beauty search rabbit hole, you’re not alone. Nigerians are constantly turning to Google for everything from quick skin fixes to DIY hair miracles. The fun part? Our searches say a lot about who we are: resourceful, beauty-obsessed, and always ready to try the next big thing.
So, we peeked into the country’s most popular beauty questions this season— and here’s the lowdown, with answers you can actually use.
Add carrots and let them infuse for 10–15 minutes, keeping the heat gentle. Strain, bottle, and store away from direct sunlight. Massage it into your scalp for hair growth, or smooth a few drops onto skin for that soft, nourished feel.
How do I grow my natural hair faster?
The natural hair movement in Nigeria isn’t slowing down, and neither is our obsession with length. The truth: There’s no magic overnight fix— but consistency works wonders. Keep your scalp clean and moisturised. Use protective styles (think knotless braids or cornrows) but avoid tight installs.
Trim split ends regularly—
yes, cutting can help it grow healthier. Feed your hair from the inside with a protein-rich
diet and plenty of water. And please, leave your edges alone sometimes. They deserve rest, too.
How do I get rid of stretch marks?
Stretch marks are natural— many people wear them like subtle, silvery tattoos. But if you want to fade them, you’ll need patience.
Quick fixes:
Cleanse gently twice a day—no harsh scrubbing.
What helps: Regular exfoliation to improve skin texture. Rich moisturisers or oils (shea butter, cocoa butter, almond oil).
For stubborn marks, look into dermatologist treatments like microneedling or laser therapy. Remember: creams can fade, not erase. And honestly? Confidence is the best ‘treatment’ you can wear.
How do I get rid of pimples fast?
Acne drama is universal, but Nigerian skin—often exposed to heat, humidity, and heavy products— needs targeted care.
Dab a bit of tea tree oil (diluted) or a benzoyl peroxide spot treatment. Skip oily hair products that run down your face and clog pores. For hormonal or cystic acne, Google won’t solve it—book that dermatologist appointment instead.
How do I use rice water for hair growth?
The hype is real. Rice water is rich in amino acids, vitamins, and minerals, believed to strengthen hair and reduce breakage. How to make it: Rinse a cup of rice to remove dirt. Soak it in 2–3 cups of water for at least 30 minutes, or ferment overnight for more potency. Strain and use the liquid as a hair rinse after shampooing. Leave for 10–20 minutes, then rinse out.
It can make hair shinier and stronger over time—but
don’t overdo it; once a week is plenty.
How do I exfoliate my skin?
Exfoliation is the glow key Nigerians are embracing in droves, especially in dusty, humid climates.
Two ways: Physical exfoliation: Using scrubs with fine granules or tools like soft brushes.
Chemical exfoliation: Products with
AHAs or BHAs that gently dissolve dead skin cells. Once or twice a week is
ideal—more can strip your skin barrier and cause irritation.
florence SAN ON THRIVING IN WORK AND IN LIFE
Florence, you’ve spent over a decade helping people and businesses find clarity, structure, and growth. But when you think back, what first drew you to this path?
Looking back now, realise it was not one “lightbulb” moment — it was a series of decisions, challenges, and observations that kept drawing me towards this path. In the early years, was simply trying to solve immediate problems for myself and the people around me. But over time, I began to notice something bigger: people and businesses rarely fail because the idea is bad. More often, they stall because there’s no clear structure, no rhythm, and no way of translating a vision into consistent action.
I was compelled— big organisations can hire many people to ensure they remain great, but often, individuals, and medium/small enterprises lack this - need to bridge the gap - the person who can take something abstract and make it tangible, who can see the big picture while building the small steps that make it happen. In those moments, I understood that my role wasn’t just about driving growth; it was about creating clarity and stability so others could build without constantly feeling like the ground was shifting under them. It started by chance, but now it’s an assignment driven by God and my duty to my people and nation, helping people move from uncertainty to momentum.
You wear many hats — COO, strategist, advisor, mentor. But at your core, how would you describe what you do and why you do it?
At my core, I design and align — create systems that make growth inevitable, and I align people and resources so they can function at their highest level. simply bring out the potential in people and systems, and ensure it reaches its maximum potential. Whether I’m acting as a COO inside an organisation or advising a founder one-on-one, my work is about creating an environment where clarity, execution, and results feed into each other. People often say, “You can not know Ren San and Florence and know clarity and results”.
Why do I do it? Everyone has potential. Everyone has something they can do that can add value.
I’ve seen what happens when the proper structure surrounds people,
If there’s one thing you quickly learn about Florence San, it’s that she’s not in the business of half measures. Whether she’s steering a multinational toward its next phase of growth, guiding an SME through a complex market shift, or quietly funding initiatives that change the lives of young women, Florence operates with the precision of a strategist and the heart of a mentor. With over a decade of entrepreneurial grit, nine years at the helm of a boutique strategy firm, and a seat on the advisory board of University College London, her career reads like a masterclass in purposeful impact. She’s navigated boardrooms in the UK and policy tables in Africa, shaped the futures of over 600 SME founders, and trained thousands to work smarter, lead better, and aim higher. But beyond the numbers, titles, and revenue wins, Florence is a builder of systems, of opportunities, and of people. Through her annual capacitybuilding platform, Thrive, she’s created a network where women don’t just talk about breaking barriers—they learn how to. It’s this mix of intellect, experience, and unflinching commitment to others that makes her story worth telling, and our conversation with her, worth every minute.
Interview by Konye Chelsea Nwabogor
accountability frameworks are provided, and when they undergo a mind reengineering — they thrive. And when they thrive, they can do the same for others. They reach their full potential, and in essence, they impact people who pass it on! believe in building legacies, not just businesses. It’s more than a job, it is one of my purposes to help others become more and fulfil their purpose and life assignment.
You’ve built your consulting practice across the UK, Nigeria, and Ghana. How did you make that leap across borders — and what challenges came with it?
Expanding across borders wasn’t about chasing markets — it was about following opportunity with intention. knew from the start that each region had its rhythm, and that success would come from understanding those rhythms before trying to influence them. In the UK, structure and regulation are strengths, but they also mean things move at a measured pace. In Nigeria and Ghana, innovation can move fast — but infrastructure, policy shifts, and unpredictability can test even the most resilient plans.
The challenge was building frameworks that could breathe in both worlds — one that respected the culture and realities of each market, but still carried the same standards of excellence. That meant spending time on the ground, building local relationships, and designing flexible systems that could adapt without losing their integrity. It’s not the easiest route, but it’s the only way to build something sustainable across very different landscapes. Agility has been key! would also say the favour of God! For truly, it’s not always by might or works.
You’ve advised over 600 SME founders and helped unlock over £20 million in revenue. That’s huge. What’s the one thing every business owner gets wrong about strategy?
Thank you! Too many founders treat strategy as a one-off planning exercise — a document you create, tick off, and then set aside while you “get on with business.” But real strategy is a living thing embedded in how you move and think. It’s not just about what you want to achieve, but about the decisions you’re willing to make — and stick to — even when it’s inconvenient.
In my experience, strategy is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. It’s about recognising that saying yes to everything dilutes your energy, your resources, and ultimately, your impact. The most successful leaders I’ve worked with understand that focus is a competitive advantage. They review, adapt, and recommit to their strategy regularly — not just when there’s a crisis.
As COO of Ren San & Co., how do you stay grounded in execution without losing sight of the bigger picture?
We deliberately keep our client base limited and our teams small because I believe in working closely with people, giving them the autonomy to deliver without micromanaging — but still following up so nothing slips through the cracks. set the standard by example; I would never ask my team to do something wouldn’t do myself. We work with an excellence mindset in everything — from the way we prepare to the way we deliver — because I believe that how we do things matters just as much as what we do. Who you do stuff with is also as important as what you are called to do.
On a practical level, every client has monthly tasks and deliverables mapped out in advance, so we’re clear on exactly what’s expected, when it’s due, and how it aligns with the bigger picture. This avoids overlap, keeps everyone accountable, and ensures our clients are in the loop at every stage. Alongside that, we have weekly operational reviews, monthly strategy touchpoints, and quarterly recalibrations. This structure allows us to deliver consistently high-quality results without losing sight of long-term goals. My role is to keep the path clear so execution naturally flows from strategy — never despite it.
You’re the only Nigerian-British woman on the advisory board of UCL. Did that milestone feel personal — or political?
It was both. Personally, it was a signal of what the future holds; it was a door that will lead to other doors. Politically, I’m aware of what it means for others to see someone who looks like me in that space. Representation matters because it signals possibility. was honoured because it shows other young black women that it is possible. But I also see it as a responsibility. Being in the room isn’t enough – you have to contribute in ways that shift thinking, open doors, and challenge assumptions. That’s the weight and the privilege of positions like these: you’re not just there for yourself, you’re there for everyone who hasn’t yet been invited in.
How important is it for African women in leadership to be at those global tables – and how do you carry that responsibility?
It’s critical because decisions made in those rooms shape industries, economies, and cultural narratives for decades. When African women are absent from those spaces, policies and strategies are shaped without our realities, our perspectives, and our innovations in mind. And when we are there, we’re not just representing ourselves – we’re carrying the weight of millions of voices that deserve to be heard.
For me, carrying that responsibility means showing up prepared, informed, and willing to speak when it’s uncomfortable. It means not letting fear dictate my presence, but also recognising that my role is to both contribute and connect — to feed insights back into the ecosystems come from, so the benefit is shared. Ultimately, it’s about making sure my seat at the table is not just occupied, but used to make a tangible impact.
You created Thrive – a community you’ve built quietly for nearly a decade. What pushed you to start that, and why did you keep it going?
Thrive exists to help women win at life and win at work. It has been nine years of helping women across England, Ghana and Nigeria to Thrive instead of surviving. Thrive was born out of what I was lacking. had so many challenges in my teens and early 20s, and amid my pain and setbacks, I knew there would be many who needed to know that despite the odds, one could still push through and Thrive, and that is why started this mission. I wanted to create a haven where we could exchange knowledge, hold each other accountable, and normalise conversations about money, leadership, and growth, despite whatever life throws our way.
In the early years, it was small and intimate by design. We weren’t trying to make noise; we were focused on building trust and genuine connection. Over time, I realised that the “quiet” was our strength — it allowed women to share openly, to be vulnerable, and to work through challenges without the pressure of public scrutiny. kept it going because the work has proven to help women move from survival to thriving. From isolation, depression, to community and a new lease on life. We also use proceeds to help single-parent families.
What kind of legacy are you building through Ren San, Thrive, and your advisory work?
For me, legacy is not just about the organisations I build — it’s about the ripple effects they create. With Ren San & Co., it’s about proving that disciplined strategy and execution can transform not only businesses but also the communities they serve. With Thrive, it’s about creating a generation of women who have both the confidence and the capability to thrive when life wants them to survive. And with my advisory work, it’s about influencing systems so that opportunities are more equitably distributed. want my legacy to be measured in ecosystems — thriving networks of leaders, businesses, and communities that continue to grow long after my direct involvement. If I’ve done my work well, my name won’t need to be in the room for my impact to be felt.
When you’re not working, who is Florence? What grounds you?
Away from the titles and the strategy decks, I’m deeply rooted in my faith, my family, and my close friendships. I protect my quiet time fiercely — whether that’s reading, journaling, or simply going for a walk without my phone. I’ve learned that the quality of my work is directly linked to the quality of my rest. I enjoy going to the theatre, cooking and reading.
I’m also a lifelong student — I’m constantly learning, whether it’s through formal study, travel, or conversations with people whose experiences are different from mine. Those moments remind me that life is bigger than the boardroom and that my worth isn’t tied to my output. That’s what keeps me grounded.
And finally, what would you say to the next generation of young women who look at your journey and wonder if they can do it too?
I’d tell them: yes, you can — but not because it will be easy. You can because you are capable of learning, adapting, and growing through challenges you can’t even imagine yet. The goal isn’t to have it all figured out before you start; it’s to start with what you have and keep moving forward with intention.
Build your skills, build your network, and most importantly, develop your character. The opportunities will come, but it’s who you are when they arrive that determines what you can do with them. And remember — you don’t have to look like anyone else’s definition of success. You get to define that for yourself.
DR. SAM OGBUKU RENEWING HOPE IN NDDC
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Fifty is often described as the age of clarity—a point where experience sharpens purpose, and ambition meets legacy.
For Dr. Samuel Ogbuku, Managing Director of the Niger Delta Development Commission (NDDC), that milestone arrives at a remarkable intersection: his golden jubilee coinciding with the Commission’s 25th anniversary. It’s a rare alignment that feels almost poetic—one man’s life journey mirroring the lifespan of the very institution he now leads. From his early days as a student activist and public relations officer of the Ijaw Youth Council to his current role steering one of Nigeria’s most scrutinised intervention agencies, Dr. Ogbuku’s career has been defined by persistence, strategic thinking, and a handson approach to development. Under his leadership, the NDDC has shifted focus toward completing long-abandoned legacy projects, championing agricultural self-reliance, driving digital education, and integrating youth into the heart of regional development rather than leaving them as bystanders. As he celebrates turning 50, Dr. Ogbuku is not simply looking back at the roads he’s travelled— he’s focused on building stronger bridges for others to cross. His tenure so far has been marked by a deliberate push to restore public trust in the Commission, prove that accountability and delivery can coexist, and leave behind an institution more respected and effective than he found it. In this candid conversation with Konye Chelsea Nwabogor, he reflects on the milestones that shaped him, the challenges that sharpened him, and the vision he’s determined to realise for the Niger Delta.
Dr. Ogbuku, this year is special for you—turning 50 while leading the NDDC into its 25th anniversary. How does it feel to hit these two milestones at once?
For me, it’s a joyful moment because remember when NDDC was established—I was in my final year at the university and never imagined would one day head the agency. Today, I’m 50, and NDDC is 25. From completing my youth service, searching for jobs, and serving as Public Secretary of the IYC central zone, I began interfacing with NDDC, then led by Timi Alibe as ED Finance, advocating for youth rights. Those early visions we had as youth leaders have now come full circle as celebrate NDDC’s 25th anniversary as its MD.
It’s a mix of pride and sober reflection—looking back at NDDC’s journey, assessing where it stands today, and imagining its future at 50. It’s also a personal challenge to leave behind a lasting legacy and footprints that the people of the Niger Delta will remember as part of the commission’s history.
Birthdays often inspire reflection. Looking back, what would you say are the key lessons life has taught you so far?
From 1 to 50 has been a long journey, and along the way, life has taught me valuable lessons. always tell people—not to dwell on the experience itself, whether bitter or sweet, but on the lessons it leaves behind. These lessons have shaped who am today. The bitter moments remind me that life should be better for others—that if once struggled to feed, no one else should go through the same. Growing up in a densely populated area of Port Harcourt, where few saw a future for children, I attended only public schools and never had the privilege of private education. These experiences inform my belief that things must improve for others. Today, the Lord has placed me in a position where my policies should not be targeted at the bourgeois, but at those on the lower rungs of society who need a bright future and a fair chance.
My policy is simple—focus on creating opportunities, improving access, and strengthening the systems that support the poor and underserved, particularly in education, infrastructure, and empowerment. If could survive and succeed, so can others. We must not cut the bridge after crossing; instead, we should strengthen and fortify it for others to follow. My life, therefore, should serve as hope to the hopeless, showing that they, too, can rise and do better.
You’ve worn many hats over the years—student activist, government aide, and entrepreneur. How have these roles shaped the way you lead today?
I’ve been a student union leader, a youth leader, a traditional ruler, and served in public service as Chief of Staff at the Government House from 2007 to 2012. I’ve also worked in the private sector, running my own agricultural firm before reaching this level. These roles have built the experience have today, allowing me to easily connect with youths and students because understand their challenges and feel their pains.
Without these experiences, that connection wouldn’t be possible. They’ve prepared me for this
role, which is why we’vewe’ve been able to manage NDDC without agitations or gate blockades—the youths know I was once one of them, and many remember our days in youth activism together. This shared history has built a bridge of trust, and overall, these experiences have given me empathy, understanding, and the capacity to lead effectively.
Which of the Commission’s past achievements stand out to you as the most transformative for the region?
In the past 25 years, one project that touches me most is the electricity project we commissioned last year in Okitipupa Ondo, which brought light to the entire Ondo South after 15 years without power. That’s 10 years after NDDC was established, yet these people had never seen light. Under this administration, and with the President’s directive to complete all abandoned projects—insisting this one must be done to touch lives—we went back, finished the work, and restored electricity.
The day we commissioned it, the governor was present, and the joy of the people was overwhelming. It felt like magic to them, something they thought impossible. So many states and areas have electricity, but here was an entire community—oil producers for Ondo State—left in darkness for years, almost as if being punished for what they contribute to Nigeria. For Mr President to make it a priority and ensure “let there be light” became a reality is, for me, one of the most impactful achievements in NDDC’s 25 years.
Since taking on this role, what has been your biggest priority for the Commission?
Well, our biggest priority is to carry out the President’s directive of completing all abandoned legacy projects. The Okitipupa electrification project I mentioned earlier is one of them. Another is the Ogbia-Nembe Road, commissioned last year—a 27km stretch with seven bridges and over 50 culverts—jointly constructed by NDDC and SPDC. We also commissioned the 600m bridge linking Ibuno to Eastern Ogulu in Akwa Ibom State, alongside other ongoing projects.
There’s the Kaa-Ataba Bridge, which we inspected recently with our Minister; at 1.2km, it’s the longest bridge in the region. The OkrikaBorokiri in Rivers State, connecting Okrika Island to Port Harcourt’s main town, is another legacy project. Many of these projects were abandoned for 12, 15, even 20 years. Mr President has directed that all must be completed for the benefit of the Niger Delta, because he has a passion for the region and its people, ensuring they get what they deserve. That is why he never turns his eyes away from what we do in NDDC, keeping a close watch through the Minister to supervise and keep us on our toes. Our goal is to complete as many of these legacy projects as possible, and we are working on them.
Agriculture and aquaculture are areas you have previously spoken passionately about—why do they matter so much for the Niger Delta’s future?
Agriculture is very important to our people because we must focus on food sufficiency and food independence. We cannot continue importing staples from outside the region when we have the land to grow them ourselves. This will also boost the GDP of the region across the various states. Every state has its own agricultural strengths— some in cassava, others in corn, and some in rice. And we have the perfect terrain for it. So why should we depend on imported rice when we have a natural terrain that doesn’t even need irrigation? Swampy areas are ideal for rice cultivation, and the Lord has blessed us with them, so we must take advantage of this.
Our plan is to create this consciousness and start by involving the various state governments. We will hold a mini agricultural retreat with all commissioners for agriculture from the nine states, then escalate it into a Niger Delta agricultural summit. From there, we will build a roadmap and a master plan for agriculture in the region. This has to be integrated—if Delta State is doing what works best for them, we should complement it with something else. The goal is to have an integrated agricultural system where everyone works together to ensure food sufficiency across the Niger Delta.
Are there any other particular projects you are excited about at the moment?
We are also excited about education because, beyond infrastructural projects, we must focus on training the minds of our future—the children in primary, secondary, and tertiary institutions. As an interventionist agency, we must support them, because no matter what we build, if the people’s minds are not developed, they may destroy what is on ground. That’s why we take education seriously.
Our foreign postgraduate scholarship program has been very successful, with high standards reflected in the many distinctions earned. A few weeks ago, I joined some of our scholars at the University of Coventry in the UK, where 32 out of 70 graduated with
distinctions. In other universities, we recorded similar outstanding results. Coventry even confirmed that our scholars are the best compared to those from other agencies within and outside Nigeria, proving we have a solid selection process.
However, a major challenge affecting some scholars is a lack of computer literacy. From next year, beneficiaries must be computer literate to avoid struggling abroad, as some university graduates have never even used a computer. To address this, we acquired 45,000 uLesson tablets for primary and secondary schools across the region. These pre-loaded devices follow the curriculum, work online and offline, and connect to uLesson’s database for real-time learning. They give children—especially those without access to private tutors— the same learning opportunities as those who can afford them. This prepares young minds for digital learning.
Education is not only about building schools. If teachers are not well-trained or updated, the quality suffers. Digital learning ensures children can compete globally. That’s why we plan to acquire more tablets, as 45,000 is only the first phase, done in partnership with the First Lady’sLady’s Renewed Hope Initiative. She shares our passion for children’schildren’s education and guided us to provide digital learning aids. COVID-19 taught us the value of virtual learning, and we want our children to reach that level.
In addition to the foreign postgraduate scholarship, which takes 200 beneficiaries annually, we have now introduced a local postgraduate scholarship for those studying within the country, targeting 600 people. The CBT tests began last Friday. These efforts are all part of our investment in training the minds of the Niger Delta’s future.
The Niger Delta is known for its resilience, but it also faces complex challenges like youth restiveness. How are you addressing that under your leadership?
Since we came on board, we have worked as a team to change the narrative, and that means doing things differently. If people say NDDC never used to complete projects, we are now completing and commissioning them. If there was no confidence in NDDC, today we are proud to say NDDC is one of the most performing agencies under this administration. These are the steps we are taking to build confidence and trust in the minds of Nigerians.
Youth restiveness in the Niger Delta, for now, seems to be a thing of the past. The region is currently one of the most peaceful areas in the country, especially under the present administration of Mr President. He was concerned about some of these challenges, particularly how to engage the youths of the region, and based on his directives, we went to work. Today, crude oil production is increasing, and there is a peaceful atmosphere. This peace is a result of our deliberate efforts to engage the youths—not just through training, skill acquisition programs, and entrepreneurship schemes, but by ensuring they are not spectators to development, rather active participants in it. We have integrated them into our developmental programs and projects. Many who once loitered around NDDC gates, causing protests, are now part of our programs, with some even engaged as contractors. Our aim is to provide sustainable solutions, not shortterm handouts. That’s why we discontinued certain past programs, like the water hyacinth scheme, where each youth got a slot worth N3 million but kept coming back for more. On assuming office, we made it clear we wouldn’t continue with such unsustainable practices, even though some youths initially rejected the idea because it was what they knew. We explained that it was exploitative and instead focused on initiatives with long-term benefits.
For example, some were given jobs under Operation Light Up the Niger Delta. They delivered on these jobs and earned better income. Our target is to see them grow—from constructing one kilometre of road to handling ten kilometres—because with the right will and encouragement, it is possible. One young man, once a leader in blocking NDDC gates, is now proud to have completed a one-kilometre road, along with two solar lighting projects. These are opportunities he never had before, and today, he feels more responsible, even in his appearance. Many have registered companies for the first time, learned how to update documents, and can now be seen at our procurement department actively working on contract requirements. This is how we are changing the youths’ mindset. We are not stopping there. For those unable to take on contracts, we are providing sustainable skills training, including in tech, so they can develop software and work for organisations anywhere in the world while based in Nigeria. This way, they can be self-employed. We have moved away from old, ineffective entrepreneurship schemes that offered one or two-day training followed by a starter pack that was often sold immediately.
As we speak, there is an ongoing fashion and tailoring training in Port Harcourt with about 200 trainees. This is a three to four-month program, with full accommodation and care provided. Most of them are doing very well, and we carry out periodic inspections to monitor progress. These are the kinds of skills we are focused on—sustainable, long-term, and impactful.
One reason we are achieving this is our use of data. Through Project Hope, we have compiled detailed records of youths in the Niger Delta, identifying their passions and skills. This allows us to select participants who are genuinely interested in the training offered. In the past, slots were often filled by friends and relatives with no interest in the skill, like bringing people with no interest in welding to fill welding program spaces. By using data, we have introduced accountability—everything we report can be verified in our database. This is how we have redefined youth engagement in the Niger Delta.
How do you ensure that remote and underserved communities are not left out of NDDC’s interventions?
The truth is that we are doing our very best to ensure every community in the Niger Delta is reached. With the Operation Light Up the Niger Delta, we came up with, many communities can already see its impact. I’m not saying every community has felt it, but I can assure you the majority have. Some of these places are very far with difficult terrain, so we created a process where most jobs are given to people from those areas, so they can take projects to their communities. In the past, contractors dictated where to go, choosing only easy, accessible terrains. We cannot leave out difficult terrains. We now force contractors to go to those areas, especially for those of us from the riverine areas. Inside all those areas, you see our projects not abandoned but start to finish, because we carry along people from those communities. That’s our policy: we don’t want our people to be spectators to development—let them be part of development. So, when we award projects, we consider where the contractor comes from and the contractor’s capability. If you just give contracts to friends, they won’t complete them, and they become abandoned.
Under us, we don’t want projects to be abandoned. You can go around and see that all the contracts we have awarded are ongoing; many have even been completed.
The NDDC has faced its share of public perception challenges. How are you working to rebuild trust in the Commission?
Since we came on board, we have worked as a team to change the narrative, and that means doing things differently. If people say NDDC never used to complete projects, we are now completing and commissioning them. If there was no confidence in NDDC, today we are proud to say NDDC is one of the most performing agencies under this administration. These are the steps we are taking to build confidence and trust in the minds of Nigerians.
Mr President has also stamped his feet to ensure NDDC performs well under his administration, and we are carrying out that directive. Above all, in changing perceptions, we are ensuring accountability and probity in all we do. That is why came up with the policy of moving from transaction to transformation, to make sure everything we do is transformative, not just transactional.
Being transformative means ensuring accountability, probity, equity, and fairness in everything we do. To sustain this, we engaged KPMG to design our corporate governance structure, including our SOPs and Code of Conduct.
Yes, I am unveiling two books. One is co-authored by me and some other scholars from my department, Political Science and Administration at Uniport. The other is a collection of my thoughts and my vision for the people of the Niger Delta, as well as the things we have done guided by Mr President’s directive. I always tell people it is important to document; it is important to write literature because the future can be shaped through it. Writing literature fosters mentoring and guides leaders. Because of the lack of literature, many of our youths today are not properly guided. We must put our thoughts in writing to guide them—to let them see what we have done, make criticisms where necessary, and find ways to correct and build a sustainable future. That is why I felt the best way to celebrate my birthday is to unveil these two books—for the benefit of society and for the younger generation coming behind, so they can understand my thoughts and vision.
Can you give us a peek into your vision for the Niger Delta in the next 10 to 20 years?
My vision for the Niger Delta in the next 10 to 20 years is to see a region that has undergone a revolution of development—a region where most of the challenges we complain about today are no longer issues. envision communities transformed by development, and a region that is industrialised, because industrialisation reduces poverty and creates job opportunities everywhere, engaging people in one way or another.
Unfortunately, most of the IOCs and many companies have left our region. The Niger Delta was once doing very well, but today, in Delta State, for example, Warri is like a shadow of itself because all the companies have gone. This decline was caused by the crisis we faced in the Niger Delta— youth restiveness and, in some cases, ethnic battles.
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By the time we are leaving, what I want people to see is that we were able to turn around an agency that was once condemned by almost everyone in Nigeria, and make it the envy of other agencies. Even Mr President has acknowledged that NDDC is doing well. This means the narrative has changed. Today, we have partnerships with various foreign agencies, something that was never the case before. In fact, some of them are now the ones soliciting partnerships with us, which shows the level of confidence they have in NDDC.
That document is ready, and anytime from now, NDDC will begin implementation. This will ensure compliance with donor agencies, development partners, corporations, and the public, who will be able to look into our rulebook and see that we adhere to it. These are the measures we are taking to change perception. I urge the public not to dwell on the past, but to look at what we are doing, what we have achieved, and what we intend to do. Join us in building a future for the people of the Niger Delta, rather than being discouraged by past experiences. Even if the past is discussed, we are not discouraged—we are determined to make that difference.
So how are you celebrating your 50th? You mentioned a book?
My vision is for the Niger Delta to bounce back. That is why we have been putting pressure on Chevron to partner with us to construct the Warri–Escravos road. We believe this road will link Warri to Escravos, the current oil hub in Delta State, boosting commerce and reviving Warri’s economy. These are the changes we want to see—industrialisation in the Niger Delta, food sufficiency in the Niger Delta, and a region that becomes a destination for every Nigerian.
Finally, at the end of your tenure, what would you want people to say about your impact on the Niger Delta?
By the time we are leaving, what I want people to see is that we were able to turn around an agency that was once condemned by almost everyone in Nigeria, and make it the envy of other agencies. Even Mr President has acknowledged that NDDC is doing well.
This means the narrative has changed. Today, we have partnerships with various foreign agencies, something that was never the case before. In fact, some of them are now the ones soliciting partnerships with us, which shows the level of confidence they have in NDDC. Our ability to change that narrative and build a solid foundation for those who will take over—ensuring we never go back to the failures of the past—is, for me, what consider our biggest achievement. The foundation we are building today will guarantee the future of the Commission.
We can talk to our friends about almost anything—relationships, family drama, career frustrations—but when the conversation shifts to money, things suddenly get awkward. We’ll talk about how much we spent on a new dress, but not about how much we owe on a credit card. We’ll plan trips together, but no one will say, “Actually, that’s out of my budget.” Part of it is cultural— money talk has long been considered private, even taboo. But avoiding these conversations doesn’t just keep things “comfortable,” it can also cause misunderstandings, silent resentments, and even strain friendships. If we want healthier, more transparent connections, it’s time to get a little braver. Here are the money conversations we should be having with the people closest to us.
1. The Real Cost of Group Plans
You know that moment in the group chat when someone says, “Let’s go on a girls’ trip!” and everyone responds with fire emojis? It’s all fun until the planning starts—and the cost balloons. The truth is, not everyone in a friend group earns the same or spends the same. Pretending otherwise can make some people quietly bow out or feel pressured into spending beyond their means. Instead of vague enthusiasm, talk numbers early. Be honest about your budget, and ask others to do the same. Suggest alternatives that still feel special without being financially stressful—like swapping that weekend in Dubai for a luxury Airbnb staycation. Real friends will understand.
2. Splitting Bills Without Awkwardness
There’s nothing like the tension of the “how are we splitting this?” moment after dinner. Some friends are happy to split evenly, others would rather pay for exactly what they ordered—especially if the table includes a couple of cocktail orders they didn’t share in. The key here is communication before the bill arrives. Suggest a clear plan from the start: “Should we each just pay for our
own orders?” or “Do you guys want to split evenly?” That way, no one feels short-changed or guilty. And if you’re the one with the higher bill, don’t insist on splitting evenly unless everyone’s comfortable— it’s a friendship, not a business transaction.
3. Lending Money—And Setting Boundaries
Few things can sour a friendship faster than lending money without clear expectations. If a friend asks for a loan, it’s natural to want to help— but you need to be honest about whether you can afford to, and what repayment looks like. If you say yes, treat it like any other agreement: specify how much, when you expect it back, and whether it’s okay to follow up if the repayment stalls. If you say no, be gentle but firm—your financial stability matters too. Remember: you can offer emotional support or help in other ways without putting yourself in a risky position.
4. Talking About Financial Goals
We share career dreams and life plans with friends all the time, so why not money goals? Whether it’s saving for a home, starting a business, or getting debt-free, opening up about your financial priorities
can strengthen friendships—and sometimes, you’ll find ways to support each other. If you’re both saving, you can hold each other accountable. If one person’s debt-free journey inspires another to tackle their own, even better. Money conversations don’t always have to be about problems— they can be about celebrating wins, too.
5. Being Honest About “I Can’t Afford That”
One of the hardest but healthiest sentences in friendship: “I’d love to, but it’s not in my budget right now.” It’s uncomfortable the first few times you say it, but it’s better than silently resenting the spending or avoiding plans altogether.
The more we normalise this phrase, the less shame there is around it. A good friend will take it in stride, and may even appreciate your honesty— because chances are, they’ve been in your shoes before.
6. Mixing Money and Business
Starting a business with a friend, investing in each other’s ventures, or collaborating on side hustles can be exciting—but it’s risky without clear money talks. Agree on roles, contributions, and how profits will be shared before any money changes hands. Put it in writing, even if it feels overly formal. Friendship can’t survive unspoken assumptions.
7. When Friends Earn More (or Less)
Income differences can create invisible divides—one person can easily afford certain things, while another feels stretched. Instead of letting it breed awkwardness, acknowledge the gap without making it a big deal. The higher earner shouldn’t always be expected to “cover” things, and the lower earner shouldn’t feel pressured to match spending. Finding middle ground—like alternating who chooses activities—can keep the friendship balanced.
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Abuja-based Jacqueline transforms humble ballpoint pen into monumental, emotionally charged pieces layered with ink, fabric, acrylic, and gold leaf. Her Afrourban portraits—some over eight feet tall—are jaw-droppingly intricate, bridging the personal and cultural with elegant depth. Her recent “Hair With Me” series was celebrated in July 2025 in Ikoyi, surrounded by keen art collectors Her works will make a dramatic yet meaningful statement in any home.
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Emerging from Lagos’s academic and art scene, Ayobola specialises in paper quilling—creating delicate, layered compositions that explore themes of femininity, mythology, and social power structures. Her solo show, Resilient Lines, at Rele Gallery in 2019 earned her critical acclaim, following her win of the 2018 Future Awards Africa Prize for Creativity. Since then, her pieces have travelled to gallery spaces in Johannesburg, with her tactile art bringing a refined yet intimate touch to any room.
Chuma
Anagbado
Chuma Anagbado’s art fuses heritage and innovation in a way that feels both timeless and forward-looking. Drawing from the Igbo Uli tradition, he combines handdrawn motifs with digital precision, creating bold, linear forms that carry layers of symbolism. His pieces are not only culturally rich but visually striking. Graphic lines, rhythmic patterns, and sculptural depth that make them stand out on a wall or even as design accents in a modern living space. Whether in a minimalist apartment or a more eclectic home, Chuma’s work adds a sense of identity and storytelling that goes far beyond decoration.
STAYCATIONS STAYCATIONS
ARE THE NEW VACATIONS –HERE’S HOW TO DO IT WELL
Once upon a time, vacations meant airport chaos, passport stamps, and that smug little “out of office” notification. These days, more and more people are trading boarding passes for bathrobes and discovering that you don’t have to leave your city—or even your neighbourhood—to feel like you’ve escaped real life. The staycation is having its moment, and when it’s done right, it can be every bit as satisfying as a trip abroad (minus the jet lag and currency conversion headaches).
The trick is this: a staycation isn’t just “staying home for the weekend.” It’s about creating the illusion of a getaway—leaning into rest, indulgence, and novelty without stepping too far from your front door. Here’s how to make it feel like the real deal so you return to “real life” refreshed instead of feeling like you just… sat at home.
Pick Your Destination (Even If It’s 20 Minutes Away)
Step one: decide where your staycation will happen. This could mean booking a hotel in a different part of town, renting a shortterm apartment with a killer view, or checking into that boutique guesthouse you’ve always passed but never entered. The point is to be out of your usual space—no piles of laundry, no familiar to-do lists staring at you.
If a hotel isn’t in your budget, you can still transform your home. Rearrange the furniture, put fresh sheets on the bed, light candles, and hide anything that screams “daily life.” Your space should feel different enough that your brain believes you’re somewhere new.
Plan an Itinerary – But Make It Luxurious
This is not the time to cram in errands or tackle that cupboard you’ve been meaning to organise. Instead, plan a loose schedule around things you never get to do.
Think:
A long, slow breakfast at that café you’ve been stalking on Instagram.
An afternoon wandering through a gallery, museum, or even a part of the city you’ve never explored. Booking a spa treatment—massage, facial, or even a DIY version at home. Catching a theatre show, outdoor concert, or film screening.
The key is to do things you’d normally “save” for a trip abroad. Treat your own city like you’re a tourist with only three days to see the best of it.
Go All-In on the Food
Part of what makes vacations memorable is the food, so your staycation menu matters. You could:
Book a table at a restaurant you’ve been meaning to try but keep putting off. Do a food crawl— breakfast in one spot, dessert in another, late-night cocktails somewhere unexpected.
If you’re staying home, order from a fancy restaurant you’ve never splurged on, or try making a dish from a country you’d love to visit.
And yes, champagne at breakfast is completely acceptable on a staycation.
Unplug – For Real
A real break means stepping away from the everyday noise.
If possible, put your phone on
“Do Not Disturb,” log out of your work email, and stop scrolling like you’re on autopilot. You wouldn’t spend your dream holiday glued to Instagram (at least, not the whole time), so give yourself permission to disconnect here, too.
If you’re worried about missing something urgent, set specific “check-in” times. But otherwise? Let the group chats, notifications, and breaking news wait.
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Add a Signature Experience
Every trip has that one standout moment—the rooftop dinner, the sunrise walk, the live band you stumbled on. Your staycation needs its own “highlight reel” moment. Maybe it’s: A themed movie marathon complete with matching snacks and drinks.
A candlelit dinner on your balcony or rooftop.
A night swim in a hotel pool. Booking a class in something random but fun—pottery or wine tasting.
That single “this was special” moment will anchor the whole experience in your memory.
Pack Light – But Pack
Even if you’re only going across town, pack a bag. Bring outfits you actually love wearing, your skincare favourites, and maybe even that dress you’ve been “saving” for something. There’s something about unzipping a suitcase—even a small one—that makes the whole thing feel more like a proper holiday.
Don’t Rush Back to Reality
The worst thing you can do is end your staycation abruptly—rushing home at night and throwing yourself back into chores. Give yourself a gentle landing. If possible, keep the last evening or morning free for slow coffee, a long shower, and easing back into normal life. That’s how you keep the post-holiday glow instead of crashing straight into Monday stress.
There are days when the world feels like it’s running on fast-forward and you’re stuck on the wrong speed. Your phone won’t stop buzzing, your inbox is multiplying like it has a personal vendetta, and even your coffee feels stressed. It’s not just “being busy”—it’s the allconsuming weight of being overwhelmed. And while your instinct might be to power through, sometimes the most productive thing you can do is stop, breathe, and recalibrate. Here’s how to hit your own reset button before life completely runs you over.
1. Step Away — Physically and Mentally Walking away from your desk when everything is screaming for your attention feels counterintuitive. But here’s the thing: a change in environment is a change in energy. Stand in the sun for five minutes. Take a walk around the block. Sit quietly without your phone. You’re not abandoning your responsibilities— you’re buying yourself the clarity to tackle them better.
2. Do a “Brain Dump”
Sometimes the problem isn’t the work—it’s the mental clutter. Write down everything on your mind: urgent emails, errands, ideas, even small worries. No editing, no organising, just pure unloading. When you see it all laid out, it’s easier to spot what matters, what can wait, and what doesn’t need to be on your plate at all.
3. Shrink the Day When everything feels like a mountain, you don’t need to climb all of it at once. Pick one or two key tasks and let the rest be bonus points. You’ll end the day feeling accomplished, not defeated. Progress over perfection—that’s the mantra.
4. Move Your Body (Even If You Don’t Feel Like It)
Overwhelm lives in your shoulders, your jaw, and your posture. Movement—whether it’s stretching, yoga, a quick workout, or dancing to your favourite playlist—literally shakes some of it loose. You’re not chasing fitness goals here; you’re chasing a shift in how you feel.
5. Create a Sensory Reset Your senses are powerful mood shifters. Open a window, play calming music, light a scented candle, and savour a cup of tea. When you intentionally engage your senses, you send a message to your nervous system that it’s safe to slow down.
