Glory doesn’t always arrive with fireworks. Sometimes, it shows up in grit, quiet consistency, and unapologetic excellence. And that’s precisely how Nigeria’s women have kept winning for years. But this year, there was no missing them. With back-to-back triumphs on the continental stage, D’Tigress and the Super Falcons took centre stage—from the roar of the crowd in Abidjan to the final whistle in Rabat. They raised trophies, elevated the national mood, reminded us of our potential, and reignited conversations we’ve too often ignored.
Let’s talk about what it really means for women to win in Nigeria. Not just on a scoreboard, not just in a press release, but to actually win. To push through layers of dismissal, invisibility, underfunding, and still come out with your head high, your work done, and your excellence intact.
When D’Tigress won their fifth consecutive AfroBasket title, and the Super Falcons secured their tenth WAFCON trophy, it wasn’t just exciting, it was deeply satisfying. Not because it was unexpected, but because we all knew what it cost. These weren’t lucky breaks. These were women who showed up, prepared, focused, and unbothered by the noise. There was no doubt in their body language. No room for apology. It was: We came here to win. And they did.
And maybe that’s what struck me most, not just the celebration, but the way they held the moment. Like women who knew exactly who they were and didn’t need anyone’s permission to take up space. We don’t get to see that enough. Not in headlines. Not in the workplace. Not in leadership. Not even in everyday conversations.
It made me think about how often Nigerian women are made to believe that recognition is a reward for exceptionalism, rather than a given for competence. That to be seen, you must be the best by far. That you must carry everyone, fix everything, never complain, and do it all with grace. And then, maybe, you’ll get a clap. That needs to change.
These recent wins matter because they demand we confront that imbalance. They bring women into national consciousness not through struggle, but through visible, undeniable success. They force us to reckon with the question: if this is what women can achieve with minimal support, imagine what’s possible with full backing.
Of course, this is bigger than sport. The dynamics are the same in media, business, tech, and politics. Women are often the backbone and the afterthought. They are expected to carry weight but rarely handed power. They are expected to succeed quietly and punished when they succeed too loudly.
That’s why visibility matters. Because somewhere, a 12-year-old girl watched those matches and didn’t just see athletes—she saw women who belong. Women who aren’t waiting to be invited. Women who demand their space and fill it without shrinking.
We need more of that. Not just on game days. Not just when a trophy is in sight. But every day, in every room.
So, while we celebrate these brilliant wins, let’s also stay alert. Let’s remember that true progress isn’t in the moment; it’s in the momentum. And that winning is not the exception for Nigerian women. It’s the standard. It always has been.
Love,
THE RETURN OF TAILORING: HOW
BESPOKE IS HOLDING ITS OWN IN
NIGERIA’S FAST FASHION ERA
Once upon a time, tailoring in Nigeria was a survival tactic. You’d find a picture on Instagram, show it to your tailor, and pray they understood the assignment. More often than not, it was a gamble. Sometimes it worked, often it didn’t. Tailoring wasn’t about aesthetics; it was about necessity. But somewhere between the rise of fashion influencers, a renewed love for cultural identity, and a growing demand for individuality, the humble tailor has found their way back into the heart of Nigerian fashion — not just as a backup plan, but as a main character.
Of course, the Nigerian fashion landscape has shifted. Fast fashion is no longer something we only import. It lives here now — on Instagram pages, in sleek boutiques, at pop-up shops and ready-to-wear showrooms. Nigerian brands are now producing stylish, affordable, and wearable collections at speed, with turnaround times that rival ternational retailers. For the everyday Nigerian, this has been a welcome evolution. The days of waiting weeks for a UK delivery that may or may not arrive looking like the picture are slowly fading. Now, you can order a co-ord
today from a homegrown label and have it delivered tomorrow — and it’ll likely be made with fabrics that breathe better, cuts that flatter our bodies, and sizing that acknowledges that we don’t all come in XS to L. But in the midst of all that instant gratification, tailoring has refused to sit quietly in the past. In fact, it has adapted and is thriving in a different lane entirely. Today’s tailors are no longer the stereotypical backroom artisans sewing under a fluorescent bulb. They’re stylists, designers, creators, and problem solvers. Many now have brand names, mood boards, Instagram portfolios, and fullblown client lists. Some trained in fashion schools, others learned by apprenticeship, and some just figured it out through years of trial, error, and passion. And what they’re offering isn’t just clothing. It’s an experience. It’s collaboration. It’s co-creation. Because when you walk into your tailor’s space with a vision in your head or a piece of fabric you love, you’re not just buying fashion, you’re building something. You’re adjusting the neckline, changing the sleeve, deciding where the slit goes and how long the hem should be. It’s yours from beginning to end. There’s also something to be said for the fit. Nigerian bodies are diverse — curvy, full, tall, short, busty, broad-shouldered, slimhipped. Most fast fashion brands, no matter how Nigerian their ownership, still work within limited sizing grids. But tailors? They measure you in real time, tweak things in real time, and design for the body you have — not the one that fits a brand’s sample size. A well-tailored piece flatters you in ways no generic XS-M-L tag ever could. It celebrates you. And in this age of body awareness and self-expression, that matters more than ever.
What’s interesting is that it’s no longer a case of fast fashion versus bespoke. It’s both. The modern Nigerian wardrobe is hybrid. We shop from fast fashion brands for the convenience, the trendiness, and the ease. And we still run to our tailors when we want something to truly stand out for weddings, birthdays, events, or even just for those days when we want to feel like ourselves, elevated. Tailoring is no longer a last resort; it’s a style choice. And it’s personal. That trusted tailor who knows your measurements without asking, who tells you when a fabric won’t “cooperate,” who suggests a better neckline or adds a cheeky extra pocket , they’re part of your style story.
EXECUTIVE EDITOR
Why Matching Sets Will Never Let You Down
Funke Babs-Kufeji
WHEN ART DISPLACED YAP IN OWERRI
A bold thought-provoking journey that blended social activism, advocacy, artvocacy and editorial satire
By Chuks Onwudinjo
One of the National Association of Seadogs (NAS) philosophies is Act Ova Yap, which enjoins members to rise beyond mere rhetoric and provide solutions to ameliorate the human condition. This call was recently interpreted through the arts in three and two dimensional renditions in an exhibition titled; Art Ova Yap, held at Full Moon Hotel, Owerri, the capital of the eastern heartland of Imo State, from Thursday July 31 2025 to August 3 2025, as part of activities marking the 49th International Convention, Annual General Meeting, AGM of the organization and celebration of the life of their member, an internationally acclaimed artist, Dr Olu Ajayi, who passed on recently after a brief illness. The association, also known as Pyrates Confraternity, spoke eloquently in marrying form with action through the brush, chisel and objet trouvé. The show was a bold thoughtprovoking journey that blended social activism, advocacy, artvocacy and editorial satire to deliver an intellectually stimulating visual experience.
The exhibition, aptly titled, discouraged empty rhetoric and precipitated extremely tangible creative resistance over cant. The show, which deployed art as a substitute for action, adopted art as a creative weapon to fight societal complacency.
Part of the exhibits included a priceless sculpture in the round, composed of wood and metal by internationally acclaimed sculptor, Professor Pius Wairtimi, themed after the devastating effects of climate change in the Niger Delta Region of Nigeria orchestrated by Shell Petroleum Development Company’s flaring of gas. The enigmatic piece titled (s)HELL combines static and kinetic art forms with real gas flaring from the apogee of the sculptural piece.
Also on cue was Ebun Aleshinloye, legendary Nigerian editorial cartoonist and painter who employed sagacious satire as commentary on a failing Nigerian political class that is little attuned to the needs of the citizens who voted them into office. His works and those of another veteran Nigerian Cartoonist and painter, Chuks Onwudinjo, were an adventure into a compelling no-holds-barred creative rebellion against the status quo. Chuma Anagbado’s contemporary mastery of the Uli Art form, pioneered by the likes of Professors Uche Okeke and Obiora Udechukwu, electrified the exhibition hall with piercing hues on plexiglass. The works of Emeka Ihejirika, an exceptional collage artist, spoke volumes, complemented by the oil-on-canvas of upcoming artist Chikezie Obilor. The exhibition was put together by NAS Chief Archivist, Dr Dolapo Sikuade, assisted by Professor Adesoji Adesugba, Henri Semenitari, Olorugun Bart Akelemor, with the support of the NAS Cap’n, Dr Joseph Oteri, who declared the exhibition open. The exhibition was curated by Anagbado and Ihejirika.
WHY MATCHING SETS WILL NEVER LET YOU DOWN
There was a time not too long ago when co-ords, aka matching sets, felt like a fleeting Instagram trend — something we thought would vanish as quickly as it appeared. But here we are, years later, still reaching for our favourite two-piece sets like our lives depend on them. And honestly? They’ve earned their permanent place in the wardrobe hall of fame.
From brunches in Lekki to work meetings in Victoria Island, matching sets have proven to be the Swiss army knife of fashion. They’re chic without trying too hard, structured yet comfortable, and they make you look like you’ve got your life together even when you barely managed to roll out of bed. It’s no surprise that Nigerian designers and high-street retailers alike have continued to churn out their own takes on the trend. Whether it’s an Ankara print set by a local brand or a luxe linen co-ord from your favourite fast fashion label, one thing’s clear: matching sets are not going anywhere.
Why we ean’t quit matching sets
Part of the magic lies in their simplicity. There’s a loweffort, high-reward equation at play here. You don’t need to overthink your outfit because the set already does the work. It’s the kind of wardrobe solution that feels like a cheat code. And it’s not just about convenience. Matching sets are also incredibly versatile. Wear them together for maximum impact or split them up and style each piece separately — it’s the gift that keeps on giving.
Matching sets also cater to that part of us that craves symmetry and aesthetic harmony. We love a puttogether look, and in the age of content and aesthetics, there’s something deeply satisfying about an outfit that looks intentional. You know, that “I woke up like this” vibe Beyoncé was talking about — only better, because you actually didn’t have to try that hard.
Plus, let’s not forget how inclusive they are. There’s a set for everyone — tall, petite, curvy, minimalist, maximalist. And whether
you’re team monochrome or print-on-print, co-ords meet you exactly where you are.
TIPS TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR MATCHING SETS
So, how do you keep your matching sets looking fresh instead of feeling like a fashion uniform on rinse and repeat? Here are a few tips to elevate the co-ord game:
1. Mix and Remix
The easiest way to double the value of your matching set is to separate the pieces. Pair the top with denim or a plain midi skirt. Match the bottoms with a crisp shirt or a slinky camisole. You’ll be surprised how many looks you can get out of a single set.
2. Accessorise With Intention
Accessories can make or break a co-ord look. If your set is bold or printed, go for minimal jewellery and clean accessories. If your set is plain or neutral, go wild — statement earrings, layered necklaces, a bright bag, or even a fun gele for that cultural twist. Your accessories tell the story, so let them speak.
3. Fit is Everything
This cannot be overstated. A co-ord that fits well will make you look tailored and polished. Too loose, and it gives off pyjama energy. Too tight, and it loses that effortless vibe. Don’t be afraid to get a good tailor involved, especially with Ankara or native fabric sets. The right nip and tuck will make all the difference.
4. Try Different Fabrics
Matching sets aren’t just for casual days. Go for silk or satin for weddings and events. Linen and cotton work great for brunch or errands. Tweed or crepe can take you straight into a boardroom. Fabric choice changes the energy of your outfit — use it to your advantage.
5. Layer Smart
A well-placed blazer or a dramatic kimono can elevate a basic matching set instantly. Think of layering as the spice in your fashion soup. It’s what makes the look go from “oh cute” to “oh wow.”
Dating in Nigeria isn’t for the faint-hearted. Between four “good morning” texts from four different men and waiting three weeks for someone to finally define the relationship, it can feel like navigating a minefield. We often roll our eyes at the men and their commitment issues, and to be fair, some of them deserve it. But sometimes, sis, the call is coming from inside the house. What if you are part of the problem? Here are seven dating habits Nigerian women seriously need to unlearn:
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Expecting Him to Read Your Mind
If you’re upset because he didn’t call and you’re hoping he just “figures it out,” you’re setting yourself up. Men are not mind-readers. If you want consistency, ask for it. If something bothers you, say so.
A lot of conflict in relationships doesn’t come from disagreement — it comes from silence. Your feelings are valid, but they need words to land. Communicating your needs isn’t nagging. It’s emotional maturity.
Dating for Potential, Not Reality
“He has vision... he just needs time.” Translation? You’re dating his potential while ignoring who he is right now. If you’ve been in the same emotional loop for three years, maybe it’s time to exit stage left. You can support someone’s growth, but you are not his business plan. Pay attention to how he treats you now — not the dream he’s selling. Love should be a connection, not a construction site.
Confusing Attention with Intention
He sends sweet texts, buys suya at midnight, takes you to RSVP... but has no plan beyond next weekend. Nigerian men have mastered the art of being present without being intentional.
So ask the hard questions. Define things early. Don’t let vibes fool you into wasting your time. Attention is easy. Intention is deliberate.
Over-Performing in the Talking Stage
Cooking. Cleaning. Giving him money. Submitting before there’s even a title. Sis, you’re doing wife duties while your name is still saved as “Funke Lekki Phase 1.”
There’s a cultural obsession with the woman who seems to have it all together — early mornings, glowing skin, a curated routine, and a lifestyle that looks as good as it feels. She’s That Girl — aspirational, self-disciplined, always evolving. But beneath the surface of this polished narrative is a quieter truth: the pressure to become her is leaving many women exhausted, disconnected, and quietly questioning whether their own version of growth is enough. Social media has turned personal development into performance. Self-improvement is no longer just a private journey; it’s something to document, package, and present. If your life doesn’t look like a pastelfiltered reel of green juice, gym sessions, skincare, and soft life serenity, it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing it right.
The talking stage is for observing, not performing. You’re not auditioning. Don’t carry the relationship on your head alone. If he hasn’t earned exclusivity, don’t hand him the perks.
Using Relationships as a Status Symbol
Not every man deserves an Instagram post. Stop announcing situationships just to prove you’re “not single at 38” or make your ex jealous. Real relationships are built offline — with boundaries, respect, and real effort. Love isn’t PR. And validation from strangers won’t save something that’s broken behind closed doors.
Believing You Can
Fix Him
You’re not his therapist. You’re not his rehab center. If he’s emotionally unavailable, still texting his ex, or blaming his trauma for bad behaviour — you can’t fix that. Healing is personal work, not a couples’ project. No amount of love will change someone who doesn’t want to grow. Don’t mistake suffering for loyalty. It’s not romantic — it’s exhausting.
Treating Singleness Like a Disease
You are not on hold until a man chooses you. You are not incomplete. Build your life — travel, start a business, get therapy, love yourself deeply.
Singleness isn’t a problem. It’s a gift — a season for self-discovery and freedom. The right relationship should meet you in wholeness, not in desperation. Your life is already valid. With or without a plus one.
One more thing? Being self-aware is not self-blame. Unlearning bad habits is how we grow, evolve, and make room for the kind of love we truly want — the healthy, reciprocal, joyful kind.
But here’s what we often forget: That Girl was never meant to be a universal prototype. She’s not one thing. She’s not one aesthetic. She doesn’t belong to the algorithm. Becoming her is not a checklist — it’s a personal evolution. And it will look different for every woman bold enough to define herself on her own terms.
As everything becomes more visual, curated, and comparative, the real challenge isn’t becoming That Girl. It’s becoming your girl—and doing so unapologetically.
So what does it actually look like to become That Girl on your own terms? Here are seven powerful shifts that change the way you show up — not for the world, but for yourself:
1. Choose intention over image.
It’s tempting to let aesthetics lead the way — to curate your growth so it looks appealing to others. But real growth starts with intention. Ask: Am doing this because it serves me? Or because it looks good from the outside? When you begin to prioritise how something feels over how it looks, your journey becomes yours again.
2. Stop waiting to be “ready.” You don’t have to be perfectly healed, perfectly prepared, or perfectly styled to show up. Growth is rarely linear, and confidence is often built in motion. Begin before you feel finished. Step into rooms before you feel fully qualified. You’re allowed to be evolving and still be deserving.
3. Give yourself permission to change your mind.
Being That Girl today may look different from who you were a year ago or even a month ago. Don’t tie yourself to a fixed identity. Growth involves shifts, pivots, and new perspectives. Your evolution doesn’t need to make sense to everyone. It just needs to be honest.
BECOMING “THAT GIRL” LOOKS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE
4. Redefine discipline. Discipline isn’t just about waking up early and ticking off goals. Sometimes, it’s about resting. Saying no. Leaving the room. Making decisions that protect your energy, even if they don’t earn applause. Discipline means honouring your values even when no one’s watching.
5. Honour your own timing. There’s pressure to “arrive” by a certain age, in a certain way. But your timeline is not late, it’s yours. Some women bloom early. Others grow in quiet, steady ways. Both are valid. Don’t let a season of pause make you question your progress.
6. Make space for softness. That Girl doesn’t have to be constantly productive. She doesn’t have to optimise every hour or prove her worth through efficiency. Sometimes, being That Girl means giving yourself permission to be soft. To feel deeply. To slow down. To let the day be ordinary.
7. Trust that your presence is enough. You don’t have to perform wellness. Or over-explain your boundaries. Or show every step of your becoming. You can simply exist — thoughtfully, fully, honestly. And that can be enough.
AYODEJI AWONUGA & TOBI HAMILTON
CLOSET CLEANOUT
101: HOW TO LET GO
Cleaning out your closet always sounds easier than it is. You start with the best intentions, only to find yourself sitting on the floor, surrounded by piles of clothes and wondering how you ended up with so many things you never wear. Some still have tags. Others are tied to memories. A few were impulsive purchases. And then there are the ones you just feel guilty about letting go of. But here’s the truth: fashion isn’t about consistency for the sake of branding. It’s about self-expression. If you’re evolving—as you should be—then your wardrobe should evolve too. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to wear contradictions. That’s not confusion—it’s range. Here’s how to clean out your closet with confidence, and without regret:
By Aliyah Olowolayemo
1. Dress for the present.
Don’t hold onto clothes that only fit your “maybe someday” body. Dress for your current shape, lifestyle, and rhythm. If it doesn’t fit comfortably now, or just doesn’t feel like you anymore, it’s time to let it go. Your wardrobe should work with you, not against you.
2. Say goodbye to the “just in case” pieces.
We all have them. That blazer you bought for a job that never materialised. The dress you swore you’d wear to an event that’s long passed. If it hasn’t been worn in over a year, chances are you won’t miss it. Let it go. Someone else could be wearing—and loving—it right now.
3. Sentiment vs Usefulness.
It’s okay to keep pieces that hold memories. But if it’s only serving nostalgia and never leaves the hanger, take a photo and move on. You don’t have to keep everything to remember the moment. Hold on to one or two meaningful items, not an entire drawer.
4. Keep what excites you, not what guilts you.
Veronica Ebie –Founder, Vane Style
VFROM FASHION GIRL TO FASHION BRAND: 5 NIGERIAN INFLUENCERS TURNING
THEIR STYLE INTO BUSINESS
OdugbesanThomas – Founder, Isaleeko by Derin
5. Review what’s left before restocking. After the purge, don’t rush to refill the space. Sit with your newly cleared-out wardrobe. Notice what you actually wear. What pieces make you feel your best? What fits your life right now? Build slowly and intentionally. This isn’t about replacing items—it’s about upgrading quality and function.
6. Let your wardrobe evolve with you.
A clean closet isn’t just about tidiness—it’s about alignment. Your clothes should reflect the life you’re living now. If your job, habits, or environment has changed, your wardrobe should reflect that shift. Let go of pieces that no longer fit the current version of you.
N.B.
The goal of a closet cleanout isn’t to strip everything down to the bare minimum. It’s to create clarity. A space that makes getting dressed easier, faster, and more enjoyable.
If you’re only holding onto an item because it was expensive or because you “should” wear it, it’s not serving you. Money already spent is not a reason to keep something that makes you feel meh. If it doesn’t spark joy, confidence, or excitement, release the guilt—and the item.
eronica Odeka has long held her place as one of the most influential women in Nigerian fashion. A seasoned stylist and beauty entrepreneur, she launched Vane Style as a styling agency, which has since evolved into a fashion consultancy and e-commerce platform. Known for crafting iconic looks for A-list celebrities and public figures, Veronica’s background in international fashion and runway modelling brings a refined global touch to the local market. From red carpets to boardrooms, she bridges fashion and corporate styling — making her a true pioneer in fashion entrepreneurship.
TOzinna Anumudu – Founder, Ozinna. com
hrough Ozinna.com, Ozinna Anumudu has created a curated online platform that champions Nigerian and African designers. Known for her clean, elevated aesthetic and impeccable visual storytelling, Ozinna’s brand is less about trends and more about thoughtful style. Her eponymous platform offers fashion, accessories, and lifestyle items – seamlessly blending heritage with contemporary cool. With a background in communications and a sharp eye for detail, she’s built a lifestyle brand that’s as influential offline as it is online.
Being stylish in Nigeria is practically a full-time job — but for some, it’s also a serious business model. Today’s most influential fashion girls aren’t just slaying for the gram; they’re designing, curating, and selling the style too. With Instagram feeds that double as mood boards and wardrobes that spark shopping sprees, these women are flipping fashion content into commerce – building loyal communities and fashion-forward brands in the process. Gone are the days when being well-dressed earned you a few compliments in the comments. Now, it’s launching careers, driving sales, and birthing creative ventures that meet the real style needs of Nigerian women. Whether it’s ready-to-wear collections, styling services, curated thrift stores, or personal brands partnering with global names, these influencers are turning personal taste into a profitable enterprise.
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Fisayo Longe – Founder, Kai Collective
Fisayo Longe is nothing short of a global fashion force. What started as a travel and fashion blog has blossomed into Kai Collective, a cult brand celebrated for its vibrant prints and inclusive ethos. Best known for the iconic Gaia print, Fisayo has created a label that celebrates women of all shapes, sizes, and skin tones. Based in the UK but deeply connected to her Nigerian roots, she brings bold colours, fluid fabrics, and confident silhouettes to life with every collection. Beyond clothes, Fisayo’s mission is one of empowerment — reminding women everywhere to take up space stylishly and unapologetically.
Popularly known as Derin from Isale Eko, Derin Odugbesan-Thomas has long been admired for her chic, ultra-feminine style. Her transition from influencer to entrepreneur feels like a natural next step. Her brand Isaleeko by Derin draws inspiration from her Lagos Island roots, fusing tradition with modern minimalism. Her ready-to-wear line features clean lines, lush fabrics, and a celebration of cultural identity — made for women who want to look polished yet grounded. Through her brand and social presence, Derin is redefining what Nigerian luxury can look like: modern, wearable, and unapologetically homegrown.
HHafsah Mohammed – Creative Director, Chenemi
afsah Mohammed, better known as Hafymo, has built a loyal following through her distinctive sense of style and creative approach to fashion. After launching her first brand, Elora Collection, in 2016, she took a short break during the pandemic. In 2023, she returned stronger with Chenemi – a refined womenswear label that reflects her personal evolution and sharper design focus. With bold colours, structured silhouettes, and accessible pricing, Chenemi is all about wearable confidence. Hafymo’s journey from fashion blogger to creative director shows how influence, when nurtured with intent and vision, can evolve into a dynamic fashion business.
EZINNE CHINKATA
Derin
tolulope TUNDE-AJIBOYE ON SISTERHOOD AND PURPOSE
With over 17 years in Nigeria’s banking sector, Tolulope Tunde-Ajiboye has carved out a powerful space for herself as a strategic relationship manager, building institutional partnerships with a mix of professionalism, wisdom, and grace. But her story doesn’t end at career milestones. It stretches into the heart of women’s empowerment through her movement Blooming Amazons (BLAM), and into the world of luxury through her event brand, The 2705 Events Company. At the core of it all is her voice—anchored in faith, conviction, and deep prophetic insight. Her latest book, The Full Bloom, is a reflection of her life’s work. Part memoir, part manual, it speaks to every woman who has ever felt called to more. In this conversation, we speak with Tolulope about what it means to bloom in the face of resistance, to lead with both fire and tenderness, and why wholeness—not perfection—is the true goal.
Let’s go back a bit—when did you first realise you were made for more than just one path? Was there a defining moment, or did purpose unfold slowly for you?
Purpose did not arrive in one dramatic moment. It unfolded gradually, like petals opening. Even in my early banking years, sensed my life was not meant for one lane. At a women’s gathering years ago, I felt God whisper, “You are meant to lead spaces like this.” That seed never left me. Over time, small steps of obedience revealed layers of my calling. I have learned that purpose is not one fixed destination. It is God weaving every season into a bigger picture. Every role I carry today is not a detour; it is an assignment.
You’ve spent over 17 years in Nigeria’s banking sector. What has kept you grounded and motivated in an industry that’s constantly evolving
and, at times, unforgiving?
Seventeen years in Nigerian banking will either break you or build you. I am grateful for how it has built me. What keeps me grounded is knowing my career is a platform, not just a paycheck. am here to represent God’s excellence in the marketplace. My mum’s advice, “Let your name go ahead of you,” shapes how work. I guard my integrity, keep learning, and create time to rest. My motivation is no longer just climbing ladders but leaving a legacy. I want to show up in ways that leave people better than I met them.
You wear so many hats—strategic relationship manager, founder, mentor, author, minister. How do you switch between these roles without losing your core?
I do not switch hats; I carry them. Whether in banking, ministry, or
mentoring, I am still Tolu, a nurturer, communicator, and builder. Alignment keeps me sane. I say no to good opportunities if they are not God’s plan for this season. I flow with the seasons. Some require more of one role than another, and that is fine. My anchor is solitude, prayer, and a strong support system. Above all, am a daughter of God. That truth is my core, so the titles change, but the essence stays the same.
Let’s talk about the 2705 Events Company. What inspired you to venture into luxury event planning, and how does creativity feed into your structured corporate life?
The 2705 Events Company was born from my love for beauty, excellence, and storytelling. believe every event should feel like an experience, not just a gathering. My banking career gave me structure. Event planning allows me to dream and create. They are not opposites, they complement each other. My corporate discipline keeps the business sharp, while my creative side adds warmth to client relationships in banking. The name “2705” is my birthday, a nod to legacy. For me, it is not just décor. It is about creating atmospheres that leave people with lasting memories.
BLAM—Blooming Amazons—has become a movement for women. What was the seed that birthed it, and did you ever imagine it would grow into what it is now?
BLAM began as a whisper from God to gather women and create safe, faithfilled spaces for growth. The seed was my own journey of being poured into by mentors and wanting to multiply that. never imagined it becoming a movement. But God’s dreams are always bigger. Today, BLAM is more than an event or a platform. It is a sisterhood. Women have found healing, confidence, and clarity through it. It reminds me that when you plant seeds in obedience, you do not just grow a garden. You may grow a forest.
You’ve mentored hundreds of women through BLAM. What’s one recurring struggle you’ve seen among women today, and how do you help them rise above it?
A recurring struggle is the silent battle between who women are and who they think they should be. Social media, comparison, and pressure can make women feel behind. In BLAM, I remind them they are not late. God’s timing is perfect. We start with identity because when you know who you are, you stop competing and start creating. encourage small, consistent steps toward goals. Purpose is built daily, not in one grand leap. My role is to hold up the mirror until they see the woman God sees.
Your latest book, The Full Bloom, speaks deeply to healing and purpose. What’s the key message takeaway you want women to take from it?
The Full Bloom is my heart in words. If there is one takeaway, it is this: you can bloom where you are. You do not need perfect conditions or complete healing before living purposefully. Healing and blooming can happen together. Life may not always be kind, but you can stand tall, rooted in faith and truth. Every story in the book is proof that even in dry seasons, God waters us. Full bloom is not about having it all. It is about becoming all you are meant to be.
Mentorship clearly matters to you. Who has mentored you, and what’s a piece of wisdom you still carry from that relationship?
I cannot talk about mentorship without talking about my mum. She has been my first and most consistent mentor. She taught me that faith is my foundation and excellence is my standard. Watching her live with integrity, discipline, and compassion shaped the woman am today. One of her constant reminders is, “Tolu, your name must go ahead of you.” Those words have stayed with me in every season. She did not just tell me what to do; she showed me how to live it. My mum’s life is the blueprint for how I lead and love today.
What’s the biggest misconception people have about purpose, especially among women trying to balance dreams with daily realities?
The biggest misconception is that purpose is a one-time discovery. In reality, it evolves. Many women also think purpose must be grand and public, like quitting your job or launching a big business. But purpose can be as simple as being faithful in your current assignment. Purpose does not compete with responsibility. It moves through it. Balancing dreams and daily realities is not choosing one over the other. It is embracing both as part of God’s plan. You can nurture your vision without abandoning the role you play today.
If you could go back and whisper something to 25-year-old Tolu, what would you say to her about the woman she was becoming?
I would say, “Breathe. You are not behind. You are becoming more than you can see right now.” Do not rush the seasons. Each one is preparing you for the next. Trust God’s timing even when it feels slow. That job you sometimes question is shaping your discipline and resilience. Those hidden years are building your character. You will wear many hats, but remember you are more than the titles. Protect your joy, keep your faith alive, and never shrink
The biggest misconception is that purpose is a one-time discovery. In reality, it evolves. Many women also think purpose must be grand and public, like quitting your job or launching a big business. But purpose can be as simple as being faithful in your current assignment.
to make others comfortable. The woman you are becoming is worth the wait.
Finally, what does blooming in every season mean to you right now— in this exact moment of your life and legacy?
Blooming in every season means refusing to let life’s conditions determine my growth. Right now, it is about embracing my 40s with gratitude, courage, and clarity. Some seasons have been sunny, others stormy, but all have made me stronger. In this moment, blooming is pouring into others while tending my own garden. It is saying yes to God even when it stretches me. It is celebrating the petals and the thorns. My legacy will not just be in what I had, but in the lives I helped water. Every season can bear fruit if you stay rooted.
BUILT TO WIN NIGERIA’S GLOBAL CHAMPIONS
BY KONYE NWABOGOR
Glory doesn’t always arrive with fireworks. Sometimes, it shows up in grit, quiet consistency, and unapologetic excellence. And that’s precisely how Nigeria’s women have kept winning for years. But this year, there was no missing them.
With back-to-back triumphs on the continental stage, D’Tigress and the Super Falcons took centre stage—from the roar of the crowd in Abidjan to the final whistle in Rabat.
They raised trophies, elevated the national mood, reminded us of our potential, and reignited conversations we’ve too often ignored.
A Legacy Written in Wins
In July 2025, the Super Falcons clinched their record-breaking 10th Women’s Africa Cup of Nations (WAFCON) title in Morocco after defeating hosts Morocco in the final. It was another glittering milestone in a legacy that has spanned decades.
The Super Falcons aren’t just one of Nigeria’s most successful teams—they are Africa’s most successful international women’s football team. With ten WAFCON titles to their name, they have long been the team to beat on the continent. But their excellence isn’t limited to Africa. The Falcons are the only women’s national team from the Confederation of African Football (CAF) to reach the quarterfinals in both the FIFA Women’s World Cup and the Summer Olympics. Their consistency on the global stage is unmatched and, frankly, underappreciated.
Following closely, attention turned to the basketball court. D’Tigress walked into the Palais des Sports de Treichville in Abidjan, Côte d’Ivoire, with the pressure of expectation heavy on their shoulders, and they rose to the moment.
Their victory over Mali marked their fifth consecutive FIBA Women’s AfroBasket title, led by coach Rena Wakama, whose calm precision on the sidelines was mirrored by her players on the court. The win also extended D’Tigress’ stunning unbeaten run in the tournament, a streak that now spans an entire decade. This wasn’t a team discovering its brilliance—it was one defending its crown.
Since 2017, D’Tigress have won the AfroBasket Championship in Bamako (2017), Dakar (2019), Yaoundé (2021), Kigali (2023), and now Abidjan (2025). With six titles in total, they’ve become the benchmark for African women’s basketball. And with their recent qualification for the 2026 FIBA Women’s World Cup Pre-Qualifying Tournament, the story is only getting better.
These weren’t just sporting events but national moments. Nigerians on social media threw their full support behind the teams. Memes, chants, hashtags, and emotional tributes flooded timelines. For once, it felt like we all agreed on something. These women were the heroes we needed.
A Salute, At Last
The official response came swiftly and generously. President Bola Tinubu hosted both teams at separate receptions and awarded
D’TIGRESS PLAYERS POSE FOR THE CHAMPIONSHIP PHOTO AFTER WINNING THE FIBA WOMEN’S AFROBASKET IN ABIDJAN
every player and technical team member the national honour of Officer of the Order of the Niger (OON). The Super Falcons were gifted three-bedroom apartments and a $100,000 cash reward (in naira equivalent) per player, while the coaching staff received $50,000 each. D’Tigress received identical honours and awards, and were praised by Vice President Kashim Shettima, who represented the President.
“You have inspired millions, especially young girls who now see proof that their dreams are valid and achievable,” President Tinubu said. “You have inspired me, too. And it’s a great for a nation to have assets that are the hope of today, tomorrow, and the day they offer. You represent that hope.”
Winning in Spite of the System
That hope, however, hasn’t come cheap.
Behind the medals is a long and uncomfortable reality: Nigeria’s female athletes have always had to work twice as hard for half as much. From poor training facilities and late payments to lack of media visibility and public engagement, their victories often feel like miracles carved out of struggle.
In 2019, Super Falcons goalkeeper Toochukwu Oluehi shared her frustration in an interview with VOA News:
“We’re the people bringing glory to the land. So, they should look into the females and try and concentrate more on the females and leave the boys. The boys are earning more than the girls.”
Her words still ring true today. While the men’s national team, the Super Eagles, enjoys abundant corporate sponsorships, packed stadiums, and a loyal media following, the Super Falcons often play to sparse crowds and underwhelming coverage. It’s not just a funding gap. It’s a visibility gap. A value gap. A belief gap.
Girls in Nigeria are still rarely encouraged to pursue sports as a viable path. Many are told it’s unladylike, unsustainable, or not “serious enough.” Yet here are our national heroes, not only proving those ideas wrong, but building legacy in spite of them.
Add to this the global disparity in media coverage. Only 4% of sports media attention goes to women’s sports worldwide. In Nigeria, that percentage is likely lower. Matches aren’t broadcast. Highlights are hard to find. There are no documentaries. No legacy footage. No weekly shows breaking down women’s games. And yet, they win.
Carving Out Legacy Anyway
What makes this moment stand out is the context in which these women continue to succeed.
Coach Rena Wakama became the first female coach to lead D’Tigress to an AfroBasket title. Her leadership has not only brought results but redefined what female coaching can look like on the continent.
“We have a long way to go as a country, but the future looks bright for Nigeria,” Wakama said post-victory.
Then there are the veterans and pioneers who laid the groundwork: Florence Omagbemi, who captained the Super Falcons as a player and later returned to coach them. Asisat Oshoala, arguably Africa’s most visible female footballer, who continues to inspire young girls across the continent. Chiamaka Nnadozie, the fearless goalkeeper who’s captured international headlines. Amy Okonkwo and Ify Ibekwe, core D’Tigress players with the skill and discipline to match any global competitor.
These women have not just excelled in their fields. They have shaped culture, challenged norms, and become the blueprint for what Nigerian sport can look like when talent is nurtured, not overlooked.
More Than A Moment
So where do we go from here?
The applause was loud. The honours were welcome. But the true test will be what happens after the spotlight fades. Will these victories usher in a structural shift, or will they become another short-lived celebration filed away until the next big win?
It’s time for the sports ministry, private sector, and media to make strategic decisions that prioritise women’s sports at every level.
That means:
Investing in grassroots development
Establishing broadcast deals for female leagues
Creating equal pay frameworks for national team players
Signing endorsement deals that centre women
Developing leadership pipelines for female coaches and officials
Nigeria has the talent. What’s missing is the infrastructure and belief system to match.
The Real Champions of the Game
The past few weeks reminded us of what’s possible when women lead the way on the pitch, on the court, and in the headlines. But they also reminded us of how much further we have to go.
This isn’t just about celebrating a winning season. It’s about resetting the way we see, support, and sustain women in sport.
These athletes are not anomalies. They’re not lucky. They are products of extraordinary talent, relentless discipline, and undiluted patriotism.
And they are carrying us—still.
So let’s not wait for the next trophy to clap. Let’s fund the programs, amplify the stories, show up for the games, and make sure that every girl in Nigeria knows she doesn’t need permission to be great. Because if the Super Falcons and D’Tigress have taught us anything, it’s that glory follows those who show up, even when no one’s watching. And finally, the world is watching.
NIGERIA PRESIDENT TINUBU WITH HOLDS WAFCON TROPHY WITH AJIBADE
MICHELLE-ALOZIE-
TRAVEL IS NOT ALWAYS A FLEX –SOMETIMES, IT’S A LIFELINE
In an era where travel often doubles as performance — a highlight reel of curated aesthetics, designer luggage, and luxury escapes, it’s easy to reduce movement to mere spectacle. But beyond the passport stamps and filtered photos lies a more complex truth: not all travel is celebratory. Sometimes, it’s necessar y. Sometimes, it’s the only way to reclaim your breath.
For many Nigerians today, particularly young professionals navigating the layered chaos of urban life, stepping away is less about indulgence and more about preservation. The need to leave — even temporarily — is often less a desire to explore and more a quiet act of survival.
Ada, a 34-year-old communications executive, didn’t post a single image from her five-day trip to Accra earlier this year. “I wasn’t travelling for leisure,” she said. “I was on the verge of burnout. I needed silence, space, and a few days to feel human again.” She described those days mostly spent walking aimlessly, sleeping without alarms, and journaling as the most emotionally restorative experience she’d had in years. Her experience isn’t isolated. Across Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt, and beyond, Nigerians are quietly escaping their realities, not to flaunt, but to regroup. And not all escapes involve international flights or plush resorts. Sometimes, it’s a quiet lodge in Epe. Sometimes, it’s a weekend in a cousin’s spare room in Enugu. What matters isn’t the distance, it’s the detachment. From pressure. From expectations. From the constant noise. The pressures are real. Rising costs of living, societal obligations, unreliable infrastructure, career anxiety, and a general climate of uncertainty have created a psychological weight many are forced to carry daily. For those without access to regular therapy or reliable mental health support, retreating literally becomes the alternative. And it works. There’s something profoundly recalibrating about being in a new space, away from your usual roles and responsibilities. It’s not
about luxury; it’s about clarity. About seeing yourself without the constant backdrop of crisis. About remembering who you are when no one is watching or needing something from you.
However, because travel is so often positioned as a status symbol, it’s difficult for people to articulate this other version of the story. Instead of saying, “I needed to leave before crumbled,” many simply say, “soft life.” Not because they’re being dishonest, but because vulnerability is rarely rewarded especially in a culture that prizes endurance. But this narrative deserves more nuance. It’s possible for travel to be both restorative and aspirational. It can be beautiful, and also born from necessity. For some, it’s an escape. For others, it’s the only form of rest they can access. Either way, it shouldn’t require justification.
In truth, movement has always been a lifeline. Our parents left their villages in search of better opportunities. Students relocated for education and a shot at reinvention. Today, creatives travel for clarity. Entrepreneurs travel to think. Mothers travel to breathe. The reasons are layered, and the act is deeply human.
Perhaps the most powerful thing about travel, especially when it’s not rooted in performance, is that it gives you a rare opportunity to come back to yourself. Away from your timeline. Away from the pressure to be productive. Away from the gaze of others.
So if you feel that familiar pull, that longing to get away, not for pleasure, but for preservation, honour it. Even if it’s modest. Even if it’s unplanned. Even if no one ever sees a photo. You don’t need to explain it. You don’t need to turn it into content.
Some trips won’t be documented. Some won’t come with new outfits or applause. Some won’t even feel joyful. But they will be necessary. Because not every departure is a celebration.
Sometimes, it’s the pause that keeps you from falling apart. And sometimes, choosing to leave to rest, to recover, to reset is not an act of luxury at all. It’s one of the most courageous things you can do.
WHAT YOUR GO-TO ORDER SAYS ABOUT YOU
You can tell a lot about a person by what they order — especially when they’re hungry. Not the “I’m on a diet” kind of hungry, but the real kind. The “long day, don’t stress me” kind. The “this place better not mess up my mood” kind. That’s when people revert to their truest selves. And whether it’s egusi or enchiladas, what you crave when no one’s watching says more about your soul than your star sign ever could.
Let’s decode the menu, shall we?
Jollof Rice and Plantain (Don’t forget the beef, please) You are a purist. A traditionalist. You believe there’s beauty in the basics — but that doesn’t mean you’re boring. You’re the type who believes good jollof should never be tampered with — no carrots, no funny business. And don’t even try to serve it with coleslaw. You’re loyal to your roots and, frankly, not very forgiving when things go wrong. If the rice is soggy or the plantain is burnt? You will not suffer in silence.
Spaghetti and Big Turkey (with pepper stew that slaps) You’re bold. Loud. A bit dramatic – in the best way. You don’t do anything halfway. If you’re ordering spaghetti, it better be peppery, oily, and served with a turkey leg the size of a newborn baby. You’re the life of the party and the first to say “Let’s just order something quick” before spending ₦9,000 on one plate. Also, your gist is always the juiciest, and you never eat quietly.
Amala with Gbegiri, Ewedu, and Assorted
You’re built differently. Resilient. Unshakable. You’ve been through things and you have stories — real stories. You don’t believe in soft life; you believe in substance. You’re likely to have strong political opinions and a playlist that goes from Fuji to Fela in seconds. If your amala is served lukewarm, it’s a personal insult. You have standards, and you do not compromise.
Sushi (But only from that place on the Island)
You are the friend who says, “I’m not really hungry”, then proceeds
to order the most expensive thing on the menu. You like soft life, curated content, and will never be caught dead in a buka (unless it’s for aesthetic irony). You have almond milk in your fridge and strong opinions about oat milk vs. soy. You don’t actually know what half the rolls are, but you order confidently –and that’s what counts.
Shawarma with Extra Everything
You’re chaotic good. You crave excitement, but still want to be able to eat it in traffic. You like your food messy, your garlic sauce strong, and your evenings unplanned.
You’re the type to text your ex on your way to pick up the order, then eat it dramatically while watching
romantic YouTube vlogs. You believe in second chances — both in love and in shawarma vendors.
Pepper Soup (Goat Meat or Catfish only)
You’re a bit of a loner. You’re introspective. You probably say things like “I need to clear my head” or “I’m not in the mood for noise.” Pepper soup is your therapy — the hotter, the better. You like your meat tender and your peace undisturbed. You eat it slowly, deliberately, and never with a group. If pepper soup is your go-to, you’re not looking for food. You’re looking for answers.
Pasta Alfredo or Pesto (with Chicken, obviously)
You’ve been to Dubai once, and it changed you. You are now an Italian food lover — as long as it comes with chicken. You say things like “I just want something light”, then proceed to eat a creamy, cheesy bowl of carbs like you’re training for a marathon. You are elegance meets delusion, and you are deeply loved for it.
Indomie and Egg (and Sausage, and Corned Beef, and...)
You’re not okay, and that’s okay. You like drama — on your plate and in your life. You’re resourceful, creative, and probably always late. Indomie is your comfort zone, and you make it with the kind of flair that says, “I might not know where my life is going, but this noodle is going somewhere.” You’re lovable, a little unserious, and you make every room warmer.
Small Chops Platter
You are indecisive, unserious, and absolutely delightful. You want puff-puff, but also samosa, but also maybe just a bite of spring roll. You’re a walking red flag with gold foil packaging. You flirt with danger, RSVP late to every event, and always end up being the most fun person in the room. You don’t need a full meal. You need vibes — and possibly a nap.
Avocado Toast or Smoothie Bowl
You are not from here. You’re the voice of wellness in a country that thrives on stew. You believe in boundaries, journaling, and herbal teas. You own a yoga mat but don’t always use it. Your Instagram bio has the word “intentional,” and your daily goal is to drink water, mind your business, and survive Nigeria. We see you. We respect you. We’re also slightly afraid of you.
Shawarma
Jollof Rice
Spaghetti
Amala with Gbegiri Sushi
Avocado Toast
Small Chops
Indomie and Egg
Pasta Alfredo Pepper Soup
SKINCARE SCAMS WE’RE STILL FALLING FOR
Let’s call it what it is: skincare in Nigeria has become a full-on hustle. From Instagram vendors selling “organic” miracle serums to influencers peddling 10-step routines from sketchy brands, the average Nigerian woman (and more recently, man) is navigating a skincare minefield. You’d think by now we’d know better. But somehow, even the person with a N50K serum budget still finds themselves getting played. So, what are we still getting wrong?
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
1. The ‘Glow Oil’ That’s Just Bleach in a Pretty Bottle
We’ve all seen them: glittery, pinkhued oils promising “3 shades lighter in 7 days.” The packaging screams luxury, but the ingredients? Mostly harsh chemicals dressed up as glow enhancers. Many of these are just bleaching creams in disguise – no lab testing, no NAFDAC approval, no transparency.
Bottom line: If it burns, tingles, or gives you ghostly knuckles – that’s not glow. That’s damage.
2. Doing the Most – But Skipping Sunscreen
You double-cleanse, tone, exfoliate, layer serums and essences –then step into the blazing Lagos sun with no SPF. Sunscreen is not optional.
It’s essential. Melanin is magic, yes, but it still needs protection. All your skincare effort means nothing if you’re roasting your face daily.
Bottom line: Get a sunscreen that suits your skin tone – and use it religiously, rain or shine.
3. Buying Products Based on Aesthetics, Not Ingredients
Just because it looks cute on your shelf doesn’t mean it works. Too many people are swayed by pastel packaging and influencer hype without knowing their skin’s needs. What works for someone with dry skin in London might wreak havoc on your oily Lagos face.
Bottom line: Know your skin type.
Stop shopping with your eyes and
start reading labels.
4. Switching Products Like It’s a Wardrobe
We lack patience. If a product doesn’t show magic in two weeks, we move on. But skincare requires time. Constantly switching confuses your skin and disrupts progress. Give your routine at least 6–8 weeks before you start judging.
Bottom line: Your skin doesn’t need your panic — it needs your consistency.
5. Believing Influencers Who Never Show Their Bare Face
Some of your faves have never posted a filter-free, makeup-free photo — but swear their new glow is thanks to Product X. No visible results. No real before-and-after. Just vibes. Don’t fall for it.
Bottom line: If you can’t see their skin clearly, you shouldn’t trust their skincare claims.
6. Diagnosing Skin Issues with TikTok Instead of a Dermatologist
Skincare is personal – sometimes even medical. That stubborn acne, recurring redness, or uneven texture might need a professional diagnosis, not a DIY mask from someone in Lekki doing reviews in bad lighting.
Bottom line: If you can drop N25K on a serum, you can also invest in a one-time dermatology visit.
7. Thinking Expensive Means Effective
That 30K cream might be glorified petroleum jelly with fragrance. High price tags don’t always mean high performance – especially in a market flooded with rebranded “foreign” and “organic” products. Some of the best products are under N10K – if you do your research.
Bottom line: Read the ingredients. Ask questions. Don’t be fooled by the price or the accent.
Dear Reader,
SURVIV R
BY DR. KEMI DASILVA-IBRU AND GLORIA JOACQUIM
WARIF SURVIVOR STORIES
Welcome to the WARIF Survivor Stories Series, a monthly feature where stories of survivors of rape and sexual violence are shared to motivate and encourage survivors to speak their truth without the fear of judgment or stigmatisation and to educate the public on the sheer magnitude of this problem in our society.
The Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-profit organisation set up in response to the extremely high incidence of rape, sexual violence, and human trafficking of young girls and women in our society. WARIF is tackling this issue through a holistic approach that covers health, education, and community service initiatives.
WARIF aids survivors of rape and sexual violence through the WARIF Centre - a haven where trained professionals are present full time, 6 days a week, including public holidays, to offer immediate medical care, forensic medical examinations, psycho-social counselling, and welfare services which include shelter, legal aid, and vocational skills training. These services are provided FREE of charge to any survivor who walks into the Centre.
IN THE WAKE OF DARKNESS, I CHOSE LIGHT
Earlier this year, in January 2025, my life took a turn I could never have imagined. was working and living with a woman who also happened to be my guardian. We both worked at a fashion company, but one day, after a disagreement, she told me to leave and stay at her aunt’s house until the matter could be resolved. In the rush, I left behind my phone, which had been charging. When I got to my sister’s house, the door was locked. With no way to reach her, borrowed a passerby’s phone to call, but she didn’t answer. After several tries, figured she had gone to work or was possibly on a night shift, so I sat nearby at a security post to wait.
While I was there, a man had never seen before walked up to me. He introduced himself as Theophilus. He told me that there would be ritual activities in the area that night, and it was dangerous for any woman to be found outside after dark. He said I could stay at his place until morning, when it would be safe to return. didn’t know what else to do, so agreed. At his house, he offered me food and insisted that I take a shower before going to sleep. I didn’t see a reason to refuse. But later that night, while I was asleep, everything changed. He came into the room, removed my clothes, and raped me. I cried and begged, but he didn’t stop. He raped me again. Afterwards, he threatened me — said I had to swear an oath using a piece of cloth, warning that if ever spoke about what happened, would either go mad or die.
led her and the officers back to Theophilus’ house, but he had already left for work, and the security guard refused us entry. The next day, we returned with the police. He was arrested on the spot. In his statement, he confessed—but tried to blame the devil for what he had done.
The police then referred me to WARIF for medical assessment, treatment, and counselling.
At WARIF, I was not just treated, I was seen. was heard. I was believed. The counsellor helped me put words to emotions didn’t even realise was holding: fear, anxiety, flashbacks, and deep anger. She reminded me, repeatedly, that what happened was not my fault. That the blame belonged only to the perpetrator. She gave me techniques to cope with the pain, to breathe through the panic, and to find small moments of peace again. also joined WARIF’s monthly group therapy sessions—a safe, private space where I met other women who had also survived. Sitting in that room, surrounded by people who understood, something shifted. I no longer felt alone. And slowly, began to heal.
I started practising gratitude—even for the smallest things. I found myself smiling again, hoping again.
That morning, Theophilus told me to lie. He said should tell my sister I had stayed at a neighbour’s house. What didn’t know was that while all of this was happening, my boss had already called my sister, concerned that hadn’t shown up or been in touch. My sister had been searching for me all night— she even traced me back to my boss’s house and checked with neighbours and the security post. But no one knew where I was. My phone was still at my boss’s house, so I couldn’t be reached.
Some neighbours advised her to go home and try again in the morning. And so, at first light, she set out again—and that’s when she saw me. When she asked where I had been, I panicked and lied, just as Theophilus had told me to. She was furious and hit me, not knowing what I had gone through, only that something was wrong.
She marched me straight to the police station, threatening to have me detained unless told the truth. And there—right there in the station—I broke down. told her everything. I
Today, 18 months later, am emotionally, mentally, and psychologically stable. The case is in court, and we are making progress. believe justice will be served. I believe Theophilus will be held accountable.
To the amazing team at WARIF—thank you. For your kindness. For your guidance. For standing beside survivors like me. You are doing sacred work. Please don’t stop. You helped me find my voice again. And now, use it to say: healing is possible.
* Real name of the Survivor changed for confidentiality Dear Survivor, please know that you are not alone, and it is not your fault. Help is available. If you have been raped or know someone who has, please visit us at:
The WARIF Centre 6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba, or call our 24-hour confidential helpline on 0800-9210-0009.
LAGOS UNFILTERED: A TRAVEL GUIDE TO
10 MUST-VISIT
ATTRACTIONS IN LAGOS STATE
By Funke Babs-Kufeji
Welcome to Lagos—where the hustle is loud, the fashion is louder, and the energy?
Unmatched. Lagos doesn’t wait for you to warm up; it grabs you by the hand and throws you into its beautiful chaos. It’s a city of contrast and culture, where skyscrapers kiss the clouds just a few minutes away from bubbling street markets, where traffic is therapy and the rhythm of Afrobeat fills the air like perfume. But beyond the Lagos you hear about—the crowded roads, the 24/7 grind, the infamous Danfo buses—lies a city pulsing with creativity, soul, and stories waiting to be discovered. Whether you’re in town for a quick visit or settling in for a longer adventure, these ten attractions offer a fast track into the heart of Eko.
So wear your comfiest shoes, bring your curiosity, charge that phone, and keep an open mind.
Here’s your Lagos starter pack:
1. Nike Art Gallery (Lekki)
Best for: Art lovers, culture chasers, and anyone who believes in the power of colour. Step into five floors of pure visual magic. Nike Art Gallery is one of the largest of its kind in West Africa, boasting over 20,000 pieces— everything from Adire textiles to sprawling oil paintings, beadwork, sculpture, and traditional crafts. It’s a love letter to Nigerian art, housed in a white building that feels sacred and alive at the same time.
Don’t miss: Chief Nike herself. If you’re lucky, she might be around—dressed in her signature Ankara, welcoming guests and sharing stories about her journey, Yoruba art, and womanhood.
3. Tarkwa Bay Beach (Accessible by boat)
Best for: Beach bums, water babies, surfers, and lovers of calm. Getting to Tarkwa Bay is an experience in itself. You’ll need to take a boat—either from CMS or Victoria Island—and once you step on the shore, it feels like you’ve left Lagos behind. Clean waters, soft sand, and an almost surreal calmness. Don’t miss: A sunrise swim, beachside coconut sipping, and chatting with local artisans who sell handmade jewellery and art.
5. JK Randle Centre for Yoruba Culture & History (Onikan) Best for: Heritage enthusiasts and lovers of modern storytelling. This new cultural hub is the perfect blend of past and future. With sleek architecture, digital exhibitions, and curated talks, it brings Yoruba history to life in a way that’s both Instagrammable and intellectually rich. Don’t miss: Their immersive Yoruba cosmology exhibitions. And if you can catch a film screening or panel, even better.
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Once a colonial prison, now a garden of expression. Freedom Park is a tranquil space with a powerful past. It’s where concerts meet protests, and art meets memory. A haven for Lagos creatives, this park has seen everything from music festivals to spoken word battles. Don’t miss: The food court and live music events. There’s something deeply poetic about sipping palm wine where prisoners once stood.
4. National Museum Lagos (Onikan)
2. Lekki Conservation Centre (Lekki)
Best for: Nature lovers, bird watchers, and those in desperate need of a breather.
Best for: History buffs, curious minds, and lovers of the past. The building may not be flashy, but the treasures inside are priceless. From Benin Bronzes to Yoruba ceremonial relics, this museum holds a significant chunk of Nigeria’s story. It’s not perfect, but it’s important. Don’t miss: A guided tour. Seriously. The guides here are full of knowledge and unfiltered truths.
Best
you can catch thoughtprovoking Nigerian plays, explore a contemporary art gallery, and feast on rich, spicy jollof—without ever leaving the building.
Don’t miss: Sunday brunch and a stage play. Bonus points if it’s a Bolanle Austen-Peters production.
Who says Lagos is only concrete and chaos? LCC is a rare slice of greenery tucked into the urban jungle. Home to peacocks, monkeys, exotic birds, and the longest canopy walkway in Africa, it’s a place to literally rise above it all. Don’t miss: The treehouse climb and the canopy walk—if you’re afraid of heights, now’s the time to conquer it. And yes, bring insect repellent.
8. The Upside Down House (Lekki) Best for: Families, photo-lovers, and anyone who loves a quirky twist. Ever walked into a room where the furniture is stuck to the ceiling? The Upside Down House is one giant illusion designed for fun, disorientation, and the perfect photo op. It’s part attraction, part visual trickery, and entirely fun. Don’t miss: Dressing in solid colours for bold contrast in your photos. And yes, go with friends—it’s more fun that way.
Balogun Market
Island) Best for: Bargain hunters, fashionistas, and adventure seekers. This market is not for the faint of heart. Balogun is Lagos in its rawest form—loud, energetic, and alive. It stretches across several streets, packed with stalls selling everything. From lace fabrics and Aso-Ebi to kitchenware and street snacks. Don’t miss: Lace and Ankara fabric stalls. Go early, go with a local, and don’t wear your Sunday best.
Best for: Music lovers, Afrobeat purists, and night owls. No Lagos experience is complete without a pilgrimage to the New Afrika Shrine. Built in honour of Fela Kuti, it’s a cultural institution where music meets activism, and everything from police brutality to Pan-Africanism gets tackled over live saxophone. Don’t miss: Femi Kuti’s legendary Sunday night shows. Don’t bother dressing up—come as you are. Just be ready to sweat, shout, and feel.
7. Terra Kulture (Victoria Island)
for: Theatre lovers, foodies, and culture connoisseurs. Think Broadway meets buka. Terra Kulture is one of Lagos’ most iconic cultural centres. Here,
