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Obituaries Woman sets the bar high DEAR ABBY: I’m a single woman who has had a string of unsuccessful relationships. When a man is into me, I’m not into him and vice versa. I know the problem is mostly mine. I’m very independent. I don’t want a man to consume my life — just be a part of it. It seems like the men I date want to smother me. My friends tell me that most women enjoy this. I hate it. I need a certain amount of time alone. I am attracted to manly men, but the ones who are attracted to me are either emotionally needy or they take longer to get ready to go anywhere than I do. It’s frustrating. I have met some men who would have been wonderful catches, but I felt nothing. I know friendship is the basis of all relationships, but physical attraction is important DEAR to me. A relationship won’t work if I can’t bring myself to be intimate with the person. In all my years of dating, I have JEANNE PHILLIPS been in love only twice. Any help would be appreciated. — LOST IN WASHINGTON STATE DEAR LOST: I wish I had a magic lamp that would give you what you’re looking for in a puff of smoke, but I don’t. What I can offer is that you need to continue looking for someone who is as independent as you are, so you can find an attractive man whose needs are similar to yours. Some couples find the process of dating a smooth and easy one. For others it’s complicated, but not impossible. I agree that the basis of strong relationships is friendship and compatibility. DEAR ABBY: How does one stop family and old friends from going on and on about their aches, pains, symptoms, conditions, doctor visits and medications in excruciating detail? Aside from my mother (who is 85), I don’t care to hear about this from others. It has taught me a lesson I wish people would follow: While I do have back issues, I speak of them only to my doctor. I try to be patient, but some folks seem to need someone to vent to. I don’t want to be the one they “tell all” to. I try to tune it out, but I wish there was an easy way to let them know enough is enough. Any ideas on the best way to handle these people? Or am I stuck being a good listener forever? — NOBODY’S THERAPIST IN CROFTON, MD. DEAR NOBODY’S THERAPIST: Try this: Say, “Really, I’m sorry to hear that.” Then change the subject to something you read in the newspaper, saw on television or that’s happening in your community. DEAR ABBY: Tell me what you would have done in this situation. While dining at an expensive restaurant on a rare night out, we were seated directly across from a nice-looking family. As I was eating my meal, I had a nauseating view of their child’s butt crease. The boy was about 12 or 14, and I didn’t want to embarrass him in a public place, but it put a damper on my enjoyment of the meal. Would it have been appropriate to approach his mother and quietly tell her? Obviously, the kid didn’t know or care that he was exposed. The restaurant was full, so I couldn’t request another table. — LOST MY APPETITE IN MYRTLE BEACH, S.C. DEAR LOST YOUR APPETITE: The first thing I would have done was resist the urge to walk over and plant a stalk of celery in the great divide. And then, because moving to another table wasn’t possible, I would have moved my chair so that the view of the young man’s cleavage wouldn’t have been “head on.”
ABBY
Wenceslaus “Jim” Joseph Dibala Aug. 23, 1924 - Oct. 29, 2013
A memorial Mass will be held for Wenceslaus “Jim” Joseph Dibala, 89, of Reedsport at 10 a.m. Saturday, Nov. 19 at St. Johns Rectory, 12 St. John’s Way in Reedsport. Private cremation rites have been held. Graveside services will be held at 1 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 23, at Holy Rosary Cemetery in Scott’s Mills with military honors. Wenceslaus “Jim” Joseph Dibala, the son of John and Mary (Drexler) Dibala, cherished husband of Ethel Francis (Pollard) Dibala, brother, father, grandfather, greatgrandfather, friend, much respected and loved resident of Reedsport, Scottsburg and the central Oregon coast, passed away Oct. 29, 2013. Jim, the eighth of 17 children, was born Aug. 18, 1924, in Sulfur, Okla. He briefly lived in Texas before his family relocated to the Woodburn/Scott’s Mills/Crooked Finger area of Oregon when he was only 4 years old. Jim was conscripted into
Martha Magdalene Burke April 23, 1936 - Nov. 4, 2013
Martha Magdalene Burke, 77, of Springfield, passed away Nov. 4, 2013, due to a rare form of brain cancer. She was born April 23, 1936, in Marshfield, the daughter of George Jaehnig and Ella Gamble. Martha attended Marshfield High School. On Feb. 21, 1951, she married Clifford
Donna May Sturdivan Sept. 29, 1927 – Oct. 7, 2013
A private family urnside service for Donna May Sturdivan, 86, of Coos Bay will be held at Myrtle Crest Memorial Gardens in Coquille with Laura A. Beville of First United Methodist Church officiating. Donna was born Sept. 29, 1927, in Marshfield, to Clarence F. and Sophie E. (Taylor) Chapin. She resided in Oregon her entire life, primarily in Coos County. She graduated from Coquille High School in 1945 and was employed as a bookkeeper for several automotive dealerships, including Church Pontiac, Bay Motors and Lounsbury Ford. Donna was married to Richard N. Carmichael, but they later divorced. She then married Donald W. Sturdivan in 1956, joining their
James Allen Peart Aug. 24, 1926 – Nov. 2, 2013
At his request, there will be no services for James Allen Peart, 87, of Myrtle Point. James was born in Coquille Aug. 24, 1926, to William and Londy (Church) Peart. He died Nov. 2, 2013, in Coos Bay. He graduated from Coquille High School in 1944 and served his country during World War II in the U.S. Army Air Force. He received an associates
the U.S. Army, April 19, 1943. He served in the European Theatre during World War II. He was a transport driver, serving in the 3rd Army with the 119th AAA Gun Battalion under the command of General George S. Patton. Jim was at the Battle of the Bulge and helped liberate the Auschwitz p r i s o n camps. He reached the rank of corporal ultimately ending up a private first class and was disJim Dibala charged in 1945. After Jim’s stint in the Army, he met and married the love of his life, Ethel Pollard of Colton, Sept. 18, 1948, at St. William’s Catholic Church in Molalla. Their union produced five children in quick succession. First arrival was Darlene, Sept. 1, 1949; then Eugene, Dec. 7, 1950; Daniel, Dec. 18, 1951; Wence, Feb. 27, 1953; and last, but not least, the baby Patrick, Sept. 13, 1954. After they were married
Jim and Ethel lived in Scott’s Mills, Silverton, Molalla, Portland, Taft and back to Colton. Jim loved the woods. He became an accomplished woodsman and excelled as a logger, specifically a cutter. In 1962, they moved to Reedsport and acquired Echo Resort on state Highway 38, up the Umpqua River. Here Jim practiced his favorite pastimes of fishing, fishing, fishing and golf. In 1972, after the final member of the brood had left the nest, Jim and Ethel sold Echo Resort and moved up Lutsigner Creek, near Scottsburg on the south side of the Umpqua River. While here, four grandchildren were added to the family. It was the mid-1970s when Jim and his sons, Wence and Pat, established Dibala’s Country Smokehouse producing Jim’s Jerky. As decade of the 1980s unfolded four more grandchildren entered the family. The jerky business was successful, but as retirement approached the business was sold. In the 1990s Jim and Ethel found a comfortable little cottage in a quiet cul de sac on
Ridgeway Court overlooking Forest Hills Country Club green No. 7 in Reedsport. Ethel sold real estate and Jim had the time to indulge in his favorite activities of fishing, fishing, fishing and golf. Here Jim and Ethel enjoyed the fruits of their labors and as the millennia turned and continued they watched their family grow with the addition of seven great-grandchildren. Bringing much joy and love into their lives. Jim loved his family, fishing and gold, in that order. Jim is survived by his wife of 65 years, Ethel; children, Darlene and Russ of North Bend, Eugene of Orlando, Daniel and Jana of Amarillo, Wence and Ruth of Reedsport and Patrick and Nancy of Blue River; grandchildren, Justin Hills of Orlando (son of Darlene), Lisa Hillis of Reedsport (daughter of Darlene), Dustin Dibala of Reedsport (son of Wence and Ruth), Emily and Ray of North Bend (daughter of Wence and Ruth), twins, Bryan and Steven Wood, Mark Wood and Jimmy Dibala of Klamath Falls (sons of Pat and Nancy) and Jan, pronounced Jon of Amarillo, (son of Dan
and Jana); great-grandchildren, Corbin and Jessie (children of Lisa Hillis),and Chase, Haley, Maya, Charlee, Faith, Braelyn Lillian (children of Emily and Ray); siblings,Anne Maure of Mt. Angel, Robert and wife, Johnie of Scottsburg, Dorothy and husband, Wayne Pollard of Arlington, Wash., Leo and wife, and Nova of La Pine; sister-inlaw, Gena Dibala; many nieces, nephews, cousins; and friends, especially Steve and Joan Godin of Lutsinger Creek in Scottsburg. Jim was preceded in death by his parents, John and Mary Dibala; brothers, John, Otto and Hubert; twin sisters, Henrietta and Edith of Houston; brother, Frank of Scott’s Mills; sister, Freddie “Betty” Reed of Cottage Grove; infant brother, Henry George; and brothers and sisters-in-law, Peter and Eleanor of Roseburg, Paul and Gena of Scott’s Mills, Ladiaslaus “Lauddie” of Molalla and William “Billy” of Salem. Arrangements are under the direction of Dunes Memorial Chapel, 541-2712822. Sign the guestbook at
Nading. They lived in Coos Bay for many years where they raised their four children. On June 21, 2004, Martha married Charles Nelson, who died in February 2013. She married Charlie Burke of Azalea, Aug. 10, 2013. Martha worked in the nursing field and made friends and family very proud when she graduated from college as a registered nurse in 1978. She worked in
geriatrics and was dearly loved by her coworkers and patients. She loved her family Martha Burke with all her heart and loved to spend time with her kids and grandkids. She is survived by her husband, Charlie Burke; her
four children, Gail and Dennis Sinclair of Eugene, Mike and Penny Nading of Albany, Robin and Larry Walton of Eugene, and Laurie and Matt Noriega of Eugene and their father, Clifford Nading of Roseburg; many grandchildren and great-grandchildren; and “family” she adopted or who adopted her through the years. Her smile, laugh and expressions of love will be greatly missed. She was preceded in death
by her parents, George and Ella Jaehnig; and by her siblings, Fred Jaehnig, Charles Jaehnig, William Jaehnig, Dan Jaehnig, John Jaehnig and Ellen Kerr. Per Marty’s request, there will be no services held. Memorials may be made to Campaign Maddie at h t t p : // c a m p a i g n maddie.me/. Sign the guestbook at www.theworldlink.com.
families and enjoying their life together until his death in 1986. Donna returned to the Coos Bay-North Bend area so that she could share in her grandson’s activities. Her last residence was Almost Home Adult Foster Care where she received loving care and kindness from the staff and her friends there. She is survived by Donna her daughSturdivan ter, Susan and Stephen Cox of Coos Bay and grandsons, Taylor and Kristen Cox of San Jose, Calif., and Travis and Christina Cox of Springfield; Don’s children, Sally Bray of Sparks, Nev., and Dennis and wife, Connie Sturdivan of
Toledo, Wash.; and his five grandchildren. Donna also leaves three precious greatgrandchildren whom she never knew due to the devastation of Alzheimer’s disease. She was preceded in death by her sister and brother-inlaw, Harriet E. and Robert L. Anderson; and Don’s son, William J. Sturdivan. Memorial contributions may be made to the South Coast Hospice, 1620 Thompson Road, Coos Bay, OR 97420; or OSC P.E.O., Sisterhood Charitable Trust, c/o Cathie Davis, 2035 Grey Eagle Drive, Medford, OR 97501. Arrangements are under the care of Coos Bay Chapel, 541-267-3131. Friends and family are encouraged to sign the online guestbook at www.coosbayareafunerals.com and www.theworldlink.com.
Everett W. Jenkins
Everett is survived by one son, Mitchell Jenkins of Idaho; three brothers, two sisters, nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by his father, Earl R. Jenkins and mother, Kathleen Reeve Jenkins Perry. Sign the guestbook at www.theworldlink.com.
degree from Southwestern Oregon Community College. James married Janet Johnson Aug. 18, 1951, in Reno, Nev. He worked for GeorgiaPacific for many years as a timber cutter. Jim loved his family very much. He enjoyed building gun stocks, going to gun shows and hunting. He was a life member of the Coquille Valley Elks Lodge No. 1935. He is survived by his wife of 62 years, Janet of Myrtle
Point; sons, James and his wife, Gilda of Myrtle Point and Michael and his wife, Wendy of Bandon; brother, Joseph Clinton Peart and his wife, Lorene of Coquille; grandson, Jeremy Peart; granddaughter, Jessica Mead; and four great-grandchildren. Arrangements are under the direction of Saturday, Nov. 9 Amling/Schroeder Funeral Joseph Griffi s, celebration of life, 11 a.m., Gloria Dei Service-Myrtle Point Lutheran Church, 1290 Thompson Road, Coos Bay. Chapel, 541-572-2524. Buster Clemens, celebration of life, 11 a.m., First Baptist Sign the guestbook at Church, 1140 S. 10th St., Coos Bay. www.theworldlink.com. Dennis Rice, celebration of life, noon to 3 p.m., North Bayside Grange, 67566 North Bay Road, North Bend. Natalie “Nat” Glenn Hill, celebration of life, 1 p.m., Marshfield High School gym, S. 10th and Ingersoll St., Coos Bay. Saturday, Nov. 23 veterans. He is a member of Dale H. Mauchley, celebration of life memorial service, 2 the local group Band of Brothers, which has outfitted p.m., Bay Area Church of the Nazarene, 1850 Clark St., North a van to provide medical care Bend. to homeless vets, and a director of Honor Flight, Burial, Cremation & which helps World War II Funeral Services vets visit the World War II memorial in Washington.
May 18, 1955 - Oct. 30, 2013
Graveside services will be held for Everett Jenkins, 58, of Vancouver, Wash., formerly of Coos Bay, at 1 p.m. Friday, Nov. 15, at the Willamette National Cemetery.
Death Notices E m m et t “ J i m ” C l a y p o o l —80, of Coos Bay, died Nov. 5, 2013, in Coos Bay. Arrangements are pending with Nelson’s Bay Area Mortuary, 541-267-4216. S a l l y J o r g e n s e n — 78, Reedsport, died Nov. 5, 2013, at the home of her daughter after a lengthy illness. Private cremation rites have been held. Arrangements are pending with Dunes Memorial Chapel, 541-2712822. Iris Irene Young — 85, Reedsport, died Nov. 8, 2013, at her home surrounded by her family. Private cremation rites will be held. Arrangements are pending with Dunes Memorial Chapel, 541-271-2822. Dorothy P. Smith — 73, of Coos Bay, died Nov. 8, 2013, in Coos Bay. Arrangements
are pending with Coos Bay Chapel, 541-267-3131. Gayland E. Coil Jr. — 65, of North Bend, died Nov. 5, 2013, in North Bend. Arrangments are pending with Nelson’s Bay Area Mortuary, 541-267-4216. Robert L. Emmons — 89, of Coos Bay, died Nov. 6, 2013, in Coos Bay. Arrangments are pending with Nelson’s Bay Area Mortuary, 541-267-4216. J o n F . C a p p s — 52, of Lakeside, died Nov. 5, 2013, in Lakeside. Arrangements are pending with North Bend Chapel, 541-756-0440. Ione E. Winkel — 95, of Genoa, Ohio, died Nov. 7, 2013, in Toledo, Ohio. Arrangements are pending with Robin-Walker Funeral Homes and Crematory, 419898-3011.
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Medal winner honored on stamp GRANTS PASS (AP) — Bob Maxwell was an infantryman in France in 1944 helping set up a command post when it was attacked by German soldiers. During the fighting, he instinctively dropped on a grenade in the dark, protecting his fellow soldiers. The blast cost him much of his right foot, and the selfless act of bravery earned him the Medal of Honor. At 93, he is the nation’s oldest living recipient of the highest military honor. On Friday in Bend, where he lives, Maxwell was presented a special commemorative set of postage stamps honoring the few surviving Medal of Honor recipients from World War II. The stamp folio includes images of the Army and Navy versions of the medal, and photos of 12 of the 464 who received the honor for fighting in World War II. Maxwell is one of eight people who are still living. The stamps are to be formally
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