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Bridal Planner 2012

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Little Keepsakes Photography Your Budget

Money Matters

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Timeline Checklist Confection Connection on sweet terms

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a letter from The Southern Illinoisan Dearest Southern Illinois Brides-to-Be, Congratulations on your wonderful news! Only the best of wishes to you and your fiancé on your upcoming wedding and future together. Planning a wedding is arguably one of the most time-consuming responsibilities one can take on. At the core, a wedding is simply a really big party. But, most brides- and grooms-to-be have never had to put together an event budget, locate and hire vendors, track down color coordinated party gear, and wrangle guest lists from all directions while also trying to stay on top of work and spend time with friends, family, and future spouses. The process can be anything but simple. Don’t be overwhelmed as planning begins. The Southern Illinoisan Bridal Guide is here to help you navigate your journey to the big day. Vital wedding information is spread throughout the guide. You will find a convenient timeline checklist to keep you on task, expense worksheets to keep you on budget, and a list of questions to ensure you’ve thought of everything.

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your timeline checklist Your wedding is one of the most complex events you and your spouse-to-be may ever arrange. A solid plan can keep the process on time. This dual timeline and check list helps alleviate the frenzy and organize the happiest day of your lives. 9-12 months before  Select a date and time for your wedding  Arrange for parents to get together, possibly at an engagement party  Interview wedding planners  Discuss budget with everyone contributing financially; establish priorities, including honeymoon expenses  Select your officiant and visit with him or her to discuss wedding preparation and procedures  Narrow down ceremony and reception sites and book them  Select a catering service, if not provided by the reception site  Choose members of wedding party  Begin compiling guest list  Announce engagement in The Southern Illinoisan by visiting

6-9 mONths before  Book photographer and videographer  Book ceremony musicians and reception band or DJ  Select florist  Consider items for gift registry  Select bridesmaids’ dresses  Shop for, order bridal gown and accessories  Arrange wedding cake tastings, then order  Start researching honeymoon spots and select travel agent  Mail save-the-date cards, especially for destination or holiday wedding  Choose ceremony music and musicians

4-6 months before  Attend pre-wedding counseling, if required  Order wedding invitations, thank-you notes and personal stationery  Reserve location of rehearsal dinner  Arrange accommodations for out-of-town guests 4 | The Southern Illinoisan Bridal Guide

 Meet with travel agent to plan your honeymoon and make reservations; secure necessary travel documentation  Select and order formal wear for men; schedule fittings  Reserve wedding-day transportation (including to the church, from church to the reception, and from the reception to where you’ll spend your wedding night)  Put finishing touches on the guest list  Renew or get passports  Complete registry

2-4 months before  Finish addressing invitations  Meet with caterer to discuss the plans for your reception meal  Complete honeymoon plans  Research marriage license requirements, earlier if a destination wedding  Make appointment with photographer for bridal portrait  Select and order wedding rings  Make appointments with hairstylist/makeup consultant for portrait sitting, rehearsal dinner and wedding day  Select gifts for attendants  Choose favors and guest book  Order the cake  Book a room for your wedding night

4-8 weeks before  Pick up wedding rings and arrange for engraving  Have final fitting of wedding gown  Make initial alteration appointment  Have a run-through of bridal hair (with headpiece, if applicable) and makeup  Make sure bridesmaids have arranged fittings for dresses and groomsmen for tuxedos and shoes  Plan menus for rehearsal dinner (Continued on page 6)

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Timeline Checklist (continued)  Select gifts for parents, attendants and each other  Draw up seating plan for ceremony and reception  Submit song lists to reception band or DJ  Finalize plans with all wedding vendors, including photographer  Mail invitations, preferably six weeks before the wedding  Decide on insurance policies, name-change documents  Attend bridal shower  Double-check with all vendors

2-4 weeks before  Final gown alteration appointment with maid of honor along to learn how to bustle your dress  Have bridal portrait taken  Announce wedding in The Southern Illinoisan  Make sure the name on your photo ID and/or passport will match your honeymoon plane tickets, etc; start packing  Review guest list and provide caterer with final count  Finalize seating arrangements and finish place cards for the reception  Provide wedding party with rehearsal/ wedding-day schedule

 Make arrangements for gift transport from reception  Order ceremony programs  Bride has last pre-wedding haircut and color

One week before  Send out as many final payments as possible  Delegate wedding-day responsibilities to reliable individuals  Finalize rehearsal and rehearsal dinner arrangements; confirm attendance numbers  Confirm honeymoon details and pack  Double-check details with all wedding vendors  Groom: hair trim  Attend bachelor/bachelorette parties

1-2 days before  Get a massage, manicure and pedicure (purchase a bottle of nail polish in the shade you’re wearing for possible touch-up)  Attend rehearsal and review all the details with your participants  Enjoy rehearsal dinner with family and friends and present wedding party and parents with thank-you gifts  Place fees due on the wedding day in envelopes  Get a good night’s sleep

the big day

 Eat a healthy breakfast; drink water so you don’t become dehydrated  Try to take at least a little walk, play music or meditate to reduce some stress  Double-check that you have all the items needed; prepare backups, just in case  Give the groom’s wedding band to the maid of honor and the bride’s to the best man  Make a schedule and share it, allowing extra time for the unexpected  Allow plenty of time to get dressed  Have hair and makeup done; resist trying anything new or experimental  Make sure best man and maid/matron of honor sign wedding certificate  Make contingency plans 6 | The Southern Illinoisan Bridal Guide

 Schedule about 50 percent extra time than thought needed for travel between destinations  Have dry snacks and bottled water available in dressing area  Greet guests with a personal greeting and by name  Make sure that everyone who doesn’t know someone at the party is introduced to at least one other person  Remember to say goodbye to your parents before you leave the reception  Remain calm; don’t allow things which go differently than planned ruin your day  Remember, this is going to be fun  Cherish each moment of this special day

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your money worksheet Decide your total budget first. Wedding details must add up to this amount. Unexpected expenses occur, so lower percentages on other items should vary to accommodate them. CEREMONY 2 - 3%

MUSIC 5 - 10%

Marriage license/ name change fees _______ Ceremony site/officiant fees _______ Aisle runner _______ Canopy, candelabras, unity candle _______ TOTAL _______

Ceremony _______ Reception _______ TOTAL _______


GIFTS 2 - 3% TOTAL _______


Engagement photo _______ Wedding day photography _______ Videography _______ Wedding album package _______ TOTAL _______

FLOWERS 6 - 8%

Ceremony site flowers _______ Bridal bouquet, groom’s boutonniere _______ Bouquets, boutonnieres, corsages for mothers, grandmothers, readers, guest book attendants, etc. _______ Reception centerpieces _______ TOTAL _______


Announcements _______ Invitations, envelopes _______ Postage _______ Programs _______ Place cards for reception _______ Thank-you notes _______ TOTAL _______

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RECEPTION 45 - 50% Site fee _______ Catering costs _______ Bar cost (bartender & libations) _______ Wedding cake _______ Valet parking _______ Groom’s cake _______ Favors, napkins, cake cutter, topper, etc. _______ TOTAL _______

TRANSPORTATION 2 - 3% To ceremony _______ From ceremony to take pictures _______ To reception _______ From reception to hotel _______ TOTAL _______

WEDDING RINGS 2 - 6% TOTAL _______

WEDDING ATTIRE 7 - 12% Wedding gown/headpiece/veil _______ Lingerie _______ Jewelry _______ Shoes/bag/accessories _______ Hair and makeup _______ Tuxedo _______ TOTAL _______

EXTRAS 1 - 2% Accommodations, gifts for out-of-towners _______ Wedding night accommodations _______ TOTAL _______



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the wedding party choose those standing up for you with love and care

On your wedding day – one of the happiest and most hectic ever in your life – it is important to surround yourself with people you care about and trust. The bridal attendants and groomsmen help serve that purpose. You choose them to join you and your future spouse in celebrating your new life as a married couple, because these men and women are your closest friends and confidants. Conventional wisdom says that for a smaller, more intimate wedding, choose one to three attendants. For a large and lavish affair, you can have up to 12. Most weddings range between five and eight attendants. Traditionally, there is one groomsman per bridesmaid to keep symmetry at the altar and in photographs. However, there is no rule. Some wedding parties ask ushers to assist in seating family and friends, particularly mothers of the bride and groom. To include younger family members, you may want to have a flower girl, a ring bearer or train bearer. Keep in mind that in your memories and wedding photographs, these individuals always will be your wedding attendants. Be sure to ask people with whom you want to spend time, not only on your wedding day, but also in your future.

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Whether she’s been down the aisle herself (matron) or not (maid), your honor attendant should be someone who is dear to your heart. She should also be someone you can depend upon while planning the event and, just as important, especially on your wedding day. Often, a bride asks a sister or best friend to fill this important role.

Traditionally, one or two flower girls, between the ages of 4 and 8, walk down the aisle alone or with the ring bearer. If your flower girls are shy, pair them with an older escort. Flower girls can carry pomanders (balls of flowers that match the bridesmaids’ or bride’s bouquet, held by a ribbon), a basket of rose petals to scatter or baby roses to pass out as they walk down the aisle.

Best man The best man should be someone whom the groom trusts – not only to help him with wedding details, but also to offer moral support during this wonderful and stressful time in his life. Often the groom asks a brother, close relative or best friend to stand with him.

Bridesmaids Bridesmaids are usually sisters, family members or close friends of the bride or groom. They help with wedding errands, help throw a bridal shower and are key guests at all pre-wedding parties.

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Ring bearer Have a ring bearer – a young boy, age 4 or 5 – walk down the aisle with the rings, tied by ribbon on a decorative pillow or carried within a decorative treasure box. To avoid misplacement, metal or plastic rings often are attached to the pillow, while the best man holds the actual rings. The ring bearer may walk alone or escort the flower girl(s).

Train bearer A young child, about 4 or 5 years old, can also act as a train bearer, following the bride down the aisle and carrying her train.

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finding the dress choose a gown that’s a reflection of your personality.

Most women have dreamed about their wedding dress since they were little girls. Picture yourself making a grand entrance down the center aisle. At that unique moment, the ensemble you wear – the gown, the veil, the shoes and accessories – will tell your guests who you are and how you feel on this very special day. Your bridal gown may be the biggest clothing purchase you will ever make. As you begin the process, take a moment to analyze your everyday attitude and appearance. Your personal style and taste will drive your choice in a wedding gown. The look and feel of the gown you select should reflect your personality. If you are laid-back and casual, your wedding dress will reflect those attitudes. If you dress conservatively at most times, then a formal gown may be your choice. Whether casual or formal, romantic or modern, the gown you select should reflect your personality and flatter your best attributes. A trained wedding consultant at your bridal shop can help you choose the dress that’s right for you. Keep looking, the perfect dress is out there. There are many styles of gowns to choose from that will flatter your physical attributes, including A-line gowns, mermaid gowns, ball gowns and sheaths. Whatever your shape, there’s something out there for you. Bridal shops vary with the services and products they offer, and there are many choices. Not only will you need standard bridal accessories like veils and jewelry, but also undergarments, shoes and bridesmaids and flower girl dresses. Your trained bridal consultant will know just what you need for the look that you desire. Another important benefit to using a full-service bridal shop is an alteration department. Every soon-tobe bride should receive individual attention from an in-house seamstress to ensure a flawless look on her big day. Don’t forget the details. Now that you’ve chosen your bridal gown, it’s time to put the icing on the cake! Any good bridal shop can make shopping for a headpiece, veil and other accessories a breeze. Keep in mind that your personality can shine through with accessories that complement your gown. Here’s a very important tip. Although you may want to invite your family and friends along to your wedding gown appointments, try to limit your shopping mates to just your mother. She knows what you like and what fits you best. And your mother has your best interests in mind.

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all about stationery With the guest list READY, invite your loved ones to share the happy occasion. Enclosures Reception card: Lists time, location of reception. Response card: Guests can RSVp – accept or decline – for your wedding. These are vital. They provide an approximate guest count for seating and the reception. Don’t forget to list a “respond by” date approximately two weeks before the final head count is due to the reception facility and/or caterer.

Save-the-date cards and invitations immediately connect you to your wedding. Selecting them is an important step leading into the planning process.

Save-the-date cards First in line: In these times of destination weddings and planning more than a year in advance to grab that perfect reception site, save-the-dates are very popular. Couples often choose non-traditional cards that reflect a theme, such as sandal cards for a beach wedding, key them to their personalities or provide a lighthearted approach for a one-of-a-kind introduction. They let future guests mark their calendars for the wedding and contact travel agents for reservations. You can mail these cards up to six months before the wedding date.

Invitations The details: The invitation itself invites guests to attend your wedding by listing date, time and location. Whoever pays for the wedding usually is listed as host. Whether the wedding is formal or informal, invitations should reflect the tone. Ask your stationer to help determine wording styles to see what is right for you.

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Response envelope: Make it easy for guests. Stamp and pre-print them with the name and address of the individual(s) receiving responses. Maps: It is helpful to have maps with directions to the ceremony location and reception site. Make sure they are clear and easy to understand. Keep extras for those who forget them. Envelopes: All components of the wedding invitation should fit in inner envelopes, with outer envelopes addressed and stamped for mailing.

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questions to ask your photographer Will you personally be the photographer for our wedding? Will there be more than one?

When is the final payment due?

What do all of the costs include?

Can we see the work of the actual person who will photograph our wedding?

do you charge for overtime or certain destinations?

How long have you photographed weddings? How many weddings have you photographed?

When will you arrive to set up? How many hours are included?

Do you have a list of certain poses that you take? Can we make up our own list?

What are your refund/ cancellation terms?

How much is the deposit? due?

What are your policies regarding proofs, negatives, delivery times?

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how to select a tuxedo grooming the groom – The groom’s choice of formal wear is as much a once-in-a-lifetime experience as the bride’s search for the perfect wedding gown. After all, a tuxedo is not your basic everyday outfit. When it’s time to “dress up” for the wedding, most grooms are at a loss. The process, however, does not have to be a difficult one. Grooms have a wider selection than ever and include a more relaxed cut that is more forgiving and complements almost everyone’s shape. Many tuxedo shops offer a free groom’s try-on, which allows you to see what looks good on the groom before you place your order. Shopping local can help you avoid problems When selecting your formal wear specialist, it’s important that you choose one that stocks the tuxedos locally. With a local inventory, the specialist can quickly fix any problems without having to ship something in from out of town. It’s common for the men in a wedding party to delay trying on their tuxedo until the very last minute. If a replacement coat or a pair of pants is needed and the replacement must be shipped in from out of town, it’s too late. By using a formalwear specialist with a locally-stocked inventory, the specialist can provide a replacement garment within hours rather than days. Encourage all of the men in your wedding party to try on their tuxedo early and make sure everything fits great – that way you can relax and enjoy the festivities! Take your fashion ques from the bride The level of formality, color and styling of the men’s tuxedos should follow the stylistic lead set by the bridal gown. For ultra-formal evening weddings (after 6 p.m.), the classic choice is a white tie tuxedo, also known as a formal full-dress ensemble. The ensemble consists of a black tail coat and pants, also known as full-dress, a white pique wing collar shirt and white pique vest and tie. For ultra-formal daytime weddings (before 6 p.m.), the groom should wear a cutaway morning coat. Accessories include a wing collar shirt with an ascot and coordinating vest. For formal weddings, a single-breasted tuxedo with matching formal trousers is appropriate. These tuxedos are available in a variety of fabrics and colors. Accessories may include a formal pleated shirt with cuff links and studs, a bow tie or four-in-the-hand tie, and a vest or cummerbund. The traditional formal shirt is usually pleated and there are three basic shirt collar styles: band, laydown, or wing. A band collar is the most contemporary styling, while the wing collar is the most formal style of all. And don’t skimp on the shoes. Many wedding photos are marred by one of the men in the wedding party wearing old beat-up shoes. Formal shoes are a must. Black patent leather looks best. You can rent a pair with your tuxedo and ensure that the entire wedding party matches.

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your officiant Your officiant is the person who can help bring your ceremony dreams and ideas to life when you say, ‘I do’ — the most important words of the day. He or she should share requirements or restrictions with you.

On the phone Whether you are working with someone you do or do not know well, be sure to ask detailed questions to determine if you and your potential officiant are a match made in heaven. Before you meet in person, find out the following: • Is the officiant available on the date and time you have chosen? The two sides must match, so can one of them bend or will a replacement be necessary? • What, if any, documentation is required for the first meeting? Some religions require certificates of baptism or other printed documents, particularly if there was a previous marriage. • Is he or she open to personalizing vows, readings or music? Some settings restrict use of secular music or readings and require traditional vows. • Is pre-wedding counseling or are classes required? Some religions require couples to attend retreats or “marriage class(es)” before they can tie the knot. This may affect the timeline for the wedding date. • What are the fees? An officiant’s fee may range roughly between $250 and $450 or a specified donation may be expected. In other cases, a fee for the officiant, as well as an on-site planner, is included with the facility. Some locations require you to provide an officiant. Musicians and other services will have extras fees.

Face to face If you feel comfortable with the officiant on the phone and can accommodate his or her requirements and qualifications, you should schedule a meeting before sealing the deal. Go over details of the site and the ceremony: • Tour the site, envisioning capacity, general layout and accessibility. Be sure to note wheelchair accessibility or convenience for walkers, if necessary. • What the site provides versus what you must arrange, such as runner, flowers (on a holiday, something seasonal may be there), candles, etc. • Your ideas for music, readings and vows, so the officiant can explain any restrictions, particularly if your choice is not traditional.

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• Your thoughts on the sermon the officiant plans to deliver. He or she may offer to let you hear it in advance, if he will meet you later for pre-nuptial counseling. • Dress code for your site. Some religious locations require a covered head, sleeved clothes or other wardrobe restrictions. • Any documentation issues, including the marriage certificate and marriage license. • Accessibility for the photographer and videographer, so you can let them know where they will and won’t be allowed to be at the ceremony site, plus time allowed for photos. • Officiant and site availability for the rehearsal. If the calendar does not extend that far, ask when it can be set up and whom to contact.

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questions to ask the reception entertainment What is included in the price?

Will you do more than play music?

Check if the wedding package includes professional sound equipment, wireless microphone, early equipment setup, a reception-planning meeting and any extras you may desire, such as a light show or emceeing of the event. How much experience does your company or band have?

Many DJs or band leaders can do a lot more than just play songs. Some can entertain guests and help coordinate your reception with other vendors in attendance to ensure your evening goes smoothly. Check to see if he or she will coordinate with the photographer to make certain he or she is ready for special moments you want documented, like cutting the cake or tossing the bouquet.

Look for entertainment experienced in both coordinating and performing at wedding receptions.

Can I see you play live or get a demo of past performances?

Do I get to choose the DJ style I want?

Knowing what to expect ahead of time can ease your fears and avoid potential disaster.

Make sure that if you prefer a quiet, outgoing or in-between DJ, you are guaranteed to receive that personality.

Will you have backup equipment in case something goes wrong?

Do I get to choose the music selection? Some couples donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mind the DJ or band selecting the songs to be played during the reception. Others want full control to make sure their favorite songs are played and the order of playing them. Make three lists: must-plays, hope-to-play songs and not-at-my-wedding tunes. When will you set up and test your equipment? Find out how early the entertainment will arrive and check with your reception site to confirm times and electrical issues. Will you need to take a break?

Many DJs or bands carry backup equipment with them to every event. Check to see if managers will also be on duty during your wedding, in case other assistance is needed. What happens if THERE SHOULD BE a personal emergency? Find out what the backup plan is, should an emergency require the entertainer to leave. WHAT IS MISSING IN WRITING FROM THE CONTRACT? DOUBLE-CHECK! What music is on the song list? What will the entertainment wear? Will he/they steer the night along, adhering to the event schedule, without stealing the spotlight? Make sure hours, overtime fees and cancellation fees are discussed ahead of time.

Find out when and how long entertainment will be off-duty. Include this in the contract, if necessary. Company 1:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 1:_____________________

Company 3:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 3:_____________________

Company 2:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 2:_____________________

Company 4:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 4:_____________________

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how to hire a florist If your big day will burst with sweet blooms, a florist can creatively arrange it. Know your floral budget before meeting A florist can make suggestions in your price range and brainstorm ideas. A florist who helps get the most for your money really wants your business. If there is a flower you love, know it. Still, be open to suggestions for seasonal blooms that can give you a similar look for less money. Hands-on care costs more.

Check sources If you have been to a wedding with flowers you adore, ask the couple about their florist. They will be flattered. Get referrals from people whose wedding flowers have pleased them. Do a little research You don’t need to know flower names by genus, but bridal and gardening magazines help you get a feel or create a look. Cut out images of arrangements you like.

Ask questions You should feel comfortable asking anything, because you will rely on the florist’s competence. If the florist has been to the ceremony and reception sites, ask to see samples of what was done and how it worked in the space. Can you see work samples to give a realistic view? Photos of real brides with their flowers let you see the florist’s “eye.” Find out what extras the venue does not provide and whether the florist provides them. Aisle runners, trellises, centerpieces, potted plants may be extra expenses. If the date is near a holiday, single out what already may decorate the spaces. Compare prices and ideas Reserve a florist three to six months before the ceremony, allowing longer time for a popular florist or an in-season wedding of June through September.

Bring lists and photos Come prepared to meet a florist. List all wedding participants who need flowers. Photograph the ceremony and reception locations from different angles. Photos or color swatches of gowns and dresses give a sense of what colors and details that will complement your wedding.

Get everything in writing The contract should include standard items with date, time and location of both ceremony and reception; an itemized list of what the florist will supply, including color, type and cost; alternate blooms, if first choices are not available; arrival times for setup at both the ceremony and reception; total cost and payment terms, plus tax, delivery and other fees; cancellation and refund policy.

Company 1:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 1:_____________________

Company 3:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 3:_____________________

Company 2:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 2:_____________________

Company 4:____________________________ Deposit/Due on: _______________________ Cost of Package 4:_____________________

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confection connection WANT A traditional sweet or a custom fit to serve at the party? this handy glossary covers a slice of baker’s language.

Whipped Cream Freshly whipped cream is delicious, but it must be refrigerated. The bakery should tell if a fruit, cream or flavored filling requires the cake be kept cool and how he accommodates safe delivery.

Decorations FLOWERs May be real or artificial or formed with gum paste, marizipan or spun sugar. Gum Paste A sugar, cornstarch and gelatin paste. Used to form flowers, fruits and edible decorations. Like modeling clay, it lasts a long time for good mementos. Marzipan Almonds, sugar and egg white paste to be rolled onto the cake as icing (like fondant) or used for sculpting edible decorations.

Icings/Fillings ButterCream Popular off-white or ivory-colored icing made from butter, confectioner’s sugar and milk. Inexpensive and easy to cut through, but may melt in warm temperature. Some bakers offer a signature variety. Fondant Icing made of sugar, corn syrup and gelatin. Rolled to uniform thickness with a rolling pin and draped over the cake. Not as tasty as other icings, but forms an ideal base for decorations, designs and beading. Ganache Made of chocolate and heavy cream, this concoction can be used as icing or filling. Royal Icing Sugar and egg white mixture piped through a bag to create decoration. Once dry, it becomes hard and brittle. 32 | The Southern Illinoisan Bridal Guide

Piping Decoration created with a pastry bag and assorted metal tips. Techniques include basket weave (interwoven vertical and horizontal lines), cornelli (lace-like), dotted swiss (tiny dots in a random pattern), latticework (crisscross) and shells.

Cakes BY SPECIALTY Tiered Cake Layers of shapes, now often square as well as round, and various sizes. Simple or elaborate. Groom’s Cake This lighthearted confection, smaller in size, reflects the groom’s interests. Often chosen by the bride, it may be themed with sports or his alma mater or be in a favorite, often decadent, flavor. CUPCAKES Individual cake portions, usually displayed like a tiered wedding cake on decorated trays, come ready to eat or wrap as favors. The top layer of cake may be big enough to hold a topper and saved to celebrate the couple’s first anniversary.

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sign on the dotted line legal requirements top ‘to-do’ list

Before you run off into matrimonial bliss with your soon-to-be spouse, remember you must apply for a marriage license before your ceremony. Rules for being wed vary state to state. If the ceremony will not occur in Illinois, the website directs you to any state that will be your destination. NUPTIALS IN THE LAND OF LINCOLN Getting married in Illinois is a bit different. The couple still needs to be single, not related and at least 18 years old. 16- and 17-year-olds must have parental consent. No one under the age of 16 can be married. A valid form of identification is required and both parties need to be present at the time of application in the county where they will be married. A one-day waiting period is required after the date of application. The license, however, is valid for 60 days. A certified decree or certificate of divorce may be required by the clerk issuing the license. The cost of applying for a marriage license varies by county. In Williamson County, for example, the fee is $25. This non-refundable, cash-only fee is due at the time of application.



In order for the marriage to be legal, each state allows certain officiants to perform the ceremony.

There are obvious places where a bride should register her new name:

In Illinois, the exchanging of vows must be presided over by one of the following:

• Social Security card.

• A judge of a court of record or a retired judge of a court of record. • The county clerk in a county with 2 million or more inhabitants. • A public official whose powers include solemnizing marriages. • An officiant performing the marriage in accordance with the prescriptions of any religious denomination. • An Indian nation, tribe or native group. The officiant completes the marriage certificate form and forwards it to the appropriate county clerk within 10 days after the ceremony.

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your reception worksheet Option #1

Option #2

Reception hall:________________________

Reception hall:_______________________

Address:_ ____________________________



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Contact person:_______________________ Phone: (Office)________________________ (Alternate)____________________________

Contact person:______________________ Phone: (Office)_______________________ (Alternate)___________________________

Reception Details Date:________________ Time:____________ Number of guests:____________________ Adequate space for band/DJ/dancing?_ ___________________ Music begins:__________ Ends:_________ Deliveries (flowers, equip., etc.) when, where?_________________________ _____________________________________ _____________________________________ Number of bartenders:_________________ Hours:_ ______________________________ Bar closed during meal?_______________ Hors d’oeuvres:_______________________ Hors d’oeuvres served from: _ __________ to____________ Number of tables:_____________________ Chairs per table:_ _____________________ Linens provided:______________________ Centerpieces provided:________________ Dinner menu:_________________________ _____________________________________ _____________________________________ Serving time:_ ________________________ Number of servers:____________________ Cake details: _________________________ Miscellaneous:________________________ Ample photography settings:___________ _____________________________________ Parking: Self or valet?_ ________________ Cost per person:______________________ Total cost:____________________________ Deposit:______________________________ Balance:______________________________

Reception Details Date:_______________ Time:____________ Number of guests:_ __________________ Adequate space for band/DJ/dancing?_ __________________ Music begins:_________ Ends:__________ Deliveries (flowers, equip., etc.) when, where?________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ Number of bartenders:________________ Hours:_ _____________________________ Bar closed during meal?______________ Hors d’oeuvres:______________________ Hors d’oeuvres served from: __________ to____________ Number of tables:____________________ Chairs per table:_____________________ Linens provided:_____________________ Centerpieces provided:_______________ Dinner menu:________________________ _ ___________________________________ _ ___________________________________ Serving time:_ _______________________ Number of servers:___________________ Cake details: ________________________ Miscellaneous:_______________________ Ample photography settings:__________ _ ___________________________________ Parking: Self or valet?_ _______________ Cost per person:_____________________ Total cost:___________________________ Deposit:_____________________________ Balance:_ ___________________________

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