January 2007 A Section of Anglican Journal
Boundaries: A Workshop on Setting and Applying Relationship Boundaries Between Clergy and Parishioners cese or conference to deal with sexual misconduct by clergy. Qu’Appelle Diocese, for example, has a sexual misconduct policy and protocol in place. The clergy left All Saints Church at the end of day with a better knowledge of boundary violation issues and, hopefully, a stronger desire to prevent such violations from damaging the Christian community in this province. And perhaps the next time Anglican, Lutheran, Orthodox, Roman Catholic and United Church clergy gather it will be to give thanks for a church that has the courage to tackle difficult issues for the good of us all.
50th Anniversary for Reverend Brewer by Katherine Draude photo Cheryl Toth
left to right the Reverend Susan Johnston and the Reverend Doug Rebel by the Reverend Cheryl Toth REGINA - On November 7 the hall at All Saints Church was crowded with 160 participants of all kinds of clergy, Anglican, Lutheran, Orthodox, Roman Catholic and United Church, gathered for one purpose. Their common goal was to consider a “framework of understanding boundaries in a ministerial setting.” Not just any boundaries but the appropriate boundaries in relationships between priest and parishioners. To put it negatively, to look at issues of clergy misconduct and sexual abuse in the ministerial relationship. Given the headlines about clergy misconduct that occasionally splash across the front pages of our newspapers, it is no doubt an important topic to consider together. Initiated by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Canada, the workshop allowed clergy working in a variety of ministerial settings to meet and learn together. The day began with worship, reminding everyone that we gathered in God’s name and for God’s purpose. The Scripture reading, however, was an uncomfortable one. Daniel 13. 1-64 tellsthe story of an abuse of power by two elders in pursuit of a beautiful woman. It too was a reminder, a reminder that the problem of sexual misconduct was one as old as the faith community and one about which we continually need to be educated. After worship the workshop leaders, the Reverend Susan Johnston and the Reverend Doug Rebel of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Canada, led the participants in an examination of the role and power that ministers have in a ministerial setting. They stressed that effective ministerial service happens when clergy serve their parishioners as professionals without engaging in dual relationships. A dual relationship is when a clergy person seeks to be both priest and close friend with a parishioner. Johnston stated that “a dual
relationships almost always results in the loss of a professional relationship.” In other words it is hard to be the priest to someone on whom you rely to have your personal needs met. (That’s why clergy cannot be effective priests for their spouses or children!) Clergy were asked to consider what power they have because of their role and how that power could be used wisely to serve those to whom they minister. How clergy are to effectively work with parishioners without becoming personal friends, especially in small towns or rural settings where people meet each other daily and know each other well, was not addressed. What was addressed was what happens when a priest or minister abuses the power he or she has as a pastor to meet his or her own needs for intimacy. The film Not in My Church, produced by Faith Trust Institute, was shown to illustrate this point. It told the fictionalized story of a pastor who had multiple sexual relationships with parishioners and ministry interns and how that person was brought to account. The process shown in the film demonstrated a failed and inadequate process; while frustrating to watch it did point out how far the church has come in dealing with such cases and how far it has yet to go. Following small group discussion, Johnston and Rebel outlined the characteristics of sexual abusers and the traits that make clergy at risk for boundary violation. This was a very helpful discussion as it enabled participants to do some selfassessment about their degree of risk. It is in the interest of all the denominations to minimize the danger of boundary violations to parishioners by helping clergy become more aware of the danger signals that might lead to sexual misconduct. The day ended with denominational groups looking at what policies and processes are in place in their synod, dio
ASSINIBOIA (QuA) - At the church of St. Boniface and St. Lawrence 150 guests, family and friends, gathered on September 20 to celebrate the fiftieth anniversary of the Reverend D. C. Brewer’s ordination to the diaconate. Mr. Brewer is incumbent of the parish of Notukeu. At the celebration Holy Eucharist was presided over by Archdeacon Robert Hardwick. The Reverend David Nevett preached at the service and Delmar Pettem read the lessons. Douglas Brewer from Melville, Mr. Brewer's son, was crucifer and the torchbearers were Janet Neubauer from Swift Current and Lukas Glaeske from Messiah Lutheran Church. Also from Swift Current came Lionel Neubauer who acted as thurifer. The Reverend Brewer assisted Archdeacon Hardwick during the service. Guests sat down to a delicious supper served by the ladies of St. George Roman Catholic Church. The head table was piped in by the Reverend Duncan McClean and Master of Ceremonies, Raymond Mynett, ably carried out his duties. Chuck Keppler entertained during the supper and Christopher Draude, the Reverend Brewer’s grandson, presided over the guest book. Congratulations were offered from Kelowna, Kamloops and from various congregations throughout the Diocese of Qu’Appelle. The evening concluded with a dance with music supplied by Three for the Show.
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the Reverend D.C. Brewer
Restorative Justice in Action by the Reverend John Gardner REGINA - The annual Regina area Ecumenical Restorative Justice Conference was held on Saturday, November 25th, at Miller High School. This year the focus was Restorative Justice in Action in Regina. Leaders of Rainbow Youth, Healing Hearts, Cornwall Alternative School, Aboriginal Services/Circle Project, Regina Alternative Measures Program, Early Learning Centre, RCMP, Regina City Police, Saskatchewan Justice, Circles of Support and Accountability, Federal Parole Service, Provincial Justice, and Court Services each made presentations of their work with special reference to the principles of Restorative Justice. Justice was long imaged as a blindfolded woman holding a sword and scales. The blindfold implied impartiality, the sword implied punishment and the scales implied punishment that exactly fitted the crime. Restorative Justice says this image is false. The woman should take off her blindfold and try to figure out what really went wrong in order that the social damage done by crime may as far as possible be put right. There must be real concern for victims as well as providing realistic consequences for the offender aimed at restoring the social relationships which were damaged by the crime. The conference showed how far these principles are being put into action in Regina by both government and non-governmental agencies. Spokespersons of the latter gave many anecdotes of their work including, in some cases, how they came to volunteer with their agency. The various groups were able to touch base with each other, compare their approaches and inform the members of the general public who attended. There was much sharing, and many questions were raised and discussed. Fifty-four people attended. The workshop cost $10.00 including lunch. One retired cleric commented that this was the best $10.00 he had ever spent and this was met with applause.
Condo to Emmanuel and St. Chad REGINA - Tanya Condo will be leaving the Diocese of Qu’Appelle to join the College of Emmanuel and St. Chad, Saskatoon, as the Director of Development. While in Qu’Appelle she served as Diocesan Financial Stewardship Officer and developed and helped congregations implement annual stewardship programs. She was active in youth ministries as a Director at Camp Harding for ages 6-9 and served on the ICQ Youth Event committee. She begins her new activities effective December 4.